I've barely socialised since 2021 due to my hatred for the general public 😂 still confident when dealing with people when I have to for work or whatever else
Hey, that's great, atleast you doing that..many people even don't bother about that. Try to talk to people wherever you go if you go out of your house, say for coffee, groceries, etc
@@ImReadyD151 Yup, just came back from a long walk and greeted people as they made eye contact. I definitely need a third space for sports in my area but haven't found anything yet. I think ill get into soccer or pickle-ball that's popular in my area. I've been looking for a niche sport called "ecuavoley" for over a year but the closest court i know of is an hour drive.
It helped me during Covid lockdowns to have conversations with cashiers. People rarely do that and they also want someone to speak to for a min or two.
Music has changed my life. Creating and listening. I recommend every man picks up an instrument. Pioneer dj controller, guitar, keyboard, anything to keep the mind from spiraling It gives you purpose when you're not working or surrounded by people. Fills you with the spirit. Gives you more confidence. Give it a try.
It's not for everyone. The main thing is having some kind of passion/hobby (or job if you're lucky) that is meaningful to you that you can pour your creativity into and provide a kind of path to mastery. Doesn't neccesarily have to be music (although for me as a singer and drummer it certainly is).
True. If not for drawing I would’ve punched my ticket years ago. This world is more isolating than I could’ve ever imagined when I was growing up. I thought the world would open up in my 20s or 30s. It did the opposite and it did it hard. Art saved me, but for what? Anyways yeah pick up a creative passion, or build something. it might save your life.
100%. There's absolutely nothing in my suburbia. I can walk to the park, but hardly anyone utilises it outside of families or sporting groups. And no one ever talks, and it's rare to see someone around my age there. We need bars on every corner, chess games, table tennis, run club meets.. anything to get people to meet and engage. But there's nothing. And it makes life in suburbia so awfully dull,lonely and depressing.
Getting a retail job has made it painfully clear just how socially awkward years of being constantly alone and in my head has made me 😹 luckily nothing lasts forever and i'm finding it easier and easier to break out of that weird shell of social conventions i never even agreed to, just being myself. Also finding hobbies like archery and martial arts seems like it'll be helpful to make some friends out here
Bro, for a social awkward guy retail can be strong medicine. Worked for me. Just have to make sure it's the type of retail where you work with a team, and do sales, that environment gives you a shit ton of social interaction.
Yeah this felt isolated working from home but when I came workout to my favorite gym I've always met some friend to talk to and workout together even 🤌
That's how I feel. I'm turning 32 this coming week. Completely and utterly alone. I live in suburbia with my parents and am constantly out and about walking, running, hiking. But people are not interested in connecting with strangers these days. All too absorbed with their phones or existing friends. And I am lucky if I see one person my own age on my walks. I work a solitary manual labour job and most of the people I talk to are well over 60+ and it's just small talk. I hate what this world has become and the low energy which is so pervasive nowadays. People just seem weird and completely disconnected, myself included. We desperately need to build some third places and do something to fix the drudgery of suburbia, if you are single or lonely then living this way is doing untold damage to mind and body, I am convinced of that but have just become numb to it all and accepted it for what it is. I even have a neighbour my own age who I never see. Just seems to work, sometimes travelling overseas, and then home most of the time. I spend time in the yard thinking maybe people will come out for a chat, but no. Nothing I try to improve this situation ever seems to work so why bother. I will just rot here till I die.
Wow I thought I was the only one. You are me. I went out biking for a good few months thinking I’d be able to meet people or maybe see people out. Yeah, no. That feeling you said.. that people seem weird and disconnected is exactly how i perceive it. I feel like I’m living on an alien planet or the Truman show. I feel like I’m going crazy, or that the world/timeline shifted at some point when I wasn’t looking and replaced everyone with mindless npcs. Why is it so hard to find a conversation? Why can’t I make friends who want to hang out? Why is dating virtually impossible? I wouldn’t have said this a few years ago but now that I’m 34, I feel more and more like dying alone is going to be the norm. And the crazy thing is, to me anyway, it seems totally avoidable! Why are people choosing this? Or is it just me? Am I the odd one out? Am I the weird guy who will die alone while everyone else has a happy family life, wife and kids? Is that it? Am I the ‘Michael Scott’? Is there something wrong with me? Yeah well, that’s where I am. I’ve felt like life itself has been gaslighting me for the past ten years and I don’t know what to think anymore but I’m lonely and desperately wish somebody would tell me I’m not out of my mind here. Is the world insane or am I? What the hell is going on?
People don’t normally go on a walk to be pestered by some lonely weirdo, just saying. I think it’s completely normal for people to be doing their own thing.
I'm not socially inept but man there's no opportunities for community where I'm at. I'm a 26 frickin year old dude I should be hanging out with friends right now instead of watching TH-cam on a Friday night. My city is like 15,000 strong next to an even bigger city (granted that city sucks) and there's just no space for young adults anymore. Never mind frickin girls my age. I don't see how we fix this
I'm about to turn 32 and feel the same way. Come Friday night my suburb is dead. Hordes of teenagers gather at the greenspace by the shops, but they don't really have much to do except talk nonsense, do graffiti and smoke vapes. Where are the people my age?? Probably all locked up in their parents houses like me, feeling miserable and lonely. We desperately need some proper 3rd spaces in suburbia.
I wfh. Never go outside unless to the gym. But at the gym talks to no one. I can talk but I just don't feel to talk. Back in my hometown, every location is a walking distance. I always went to the beach 5am in the morning, doing exercises, meeting the boys then went swimming for a little. Then grabbed some breakfast. On weekends we had a sports center that we can played basketball or skating. Now here in the US you have to drive for everything, every house is so apart from each other. Just the thought of going outside making me lazy. But of course I need to adapt. Just saying. I missed that community feeling.
This is the problem with suburbia and it's the same here in Australia. It is a hellscape and designed to keep everyone isolated and reliant on cars, constantly spending money. Your life in your hometown sounds much more satisfying.
Happening to me too, I used to be very good at socializing woth tons of close friends and now Im mostly isolated and feel so stupid all the time, I just can't think straight in the moment when trying to speak to people
I almost miss working the cash register at the gas station because me and my coworker would say insane things to customers and get away with it and then it emboldened you when talking to folks outside of work. But desk work on the other hand... no beuno.
I hear ya buddy. So easy for time to get away from you living adult life. Realize months have gone by since you've been actively social. Good thing you noticed that's the first step.
@@merisskenderovic3600 I was doing blogs/copywriting for years and then chatgpt came along and ruined it all. Clients ghosted me overnight. Don't get to reliant on it because it is only going to get harder to make money from writing.
Instant sub. Very insightful conversation. I'm a few months from graduating as an OTA and this is a huge reason why I will be pushing for community involvement in people I work with. It's so much more important than people give it credit for.
I used to be pretty introverted but became a bartender 6 years ago and it made me an expert at socializing! But I still do gym and video games like you said lol
I’ve been overseas, talking broken English everyday, and I feel like not only is my grasp of the English language degrading, but I can also feel like I’m getting dumber in general, because I’m not able to have any intelligent, meaningful, or deep conversations.
Thank you Paul Town, had no idea it’d feel good to hear this. My BJJ coach mostly paired me with other girls, but I too saw and felt the “brotherhood” and it made feel alive! God bless you Elisha Long.
Fuck bro nail on the head. I was just talking to my girl about this, how i feel retarded and she knows im not introverted, i had to work nights for two years and just had the same routine, work, gym, girl, video games. I started school and finished since i had so much time in night. And its tru I DO feel retarded in the “socializing” aspect, have a few friends here and there but just acquaintances really.
Going through this, work sucks and have no friends, wanted better and feel helpless.. Get those leaves up big boy kills the grass, lawncare is a great hobby btw.
Definitely feel this, working from home most of the time and going to the gym regularly but outside of that barely any socializing. Missing a brotherhood or a good group of friends near me. How times have changed....
Banger of a video. Been thinking about this recently and have been actively trying to either find or create more opportunities for socialization - disc golf games on weekends, going to gym with bros, hosting folks, getting more involved with church, etc. Socialization is a muscle that can atrophy or be strengthened with reps.
perfect timing some dude liked my car and stuck up a convo with me and i was like DERRRR DEEERPPP DERRRR UHHHHHHHHHHH i wasnt even nervous. i just couldnt talk
New to this town for about 10 months now. I met one dude through a friend of a friend, my wife was friends with this girl in college and her uncle is the guy. He texted me yesterday - hey me and my friends are going to get beers, want to come? So it was me and like 6 other guys hanging out, for the first time in a year almost. Or more. Went great. Kicker is that I’m 31 years old, and these guys were like 65 through 80 years old lol, didn’t matter.
there is some unique sense of comfort and security that comes from hanging out with older dudes. I don't really if it is just me or there is really something about being around more mature souls. it is just so refreshing
I enjoy having a beer with some of my older customers. They understand the struggles of being a 30 something man in the world today. But I don't really feel like discussing it or going to deep. I can't even really find the words to accurately describe it all. So I mostly just stay quiet or keep to small talk. But i enjoy the company and listening to what they have to say.
I feel guys like this. I used to be in that state, then it got better as I moved to another city for university. Now I'm doing a PhD in that same university, but my work's increasingly becoming more lonely. I do have here, though, several colleagues, with whom I talk and meet almost daily, but there isn't that connection that I feel I need, that brothers in arms feeling... I love to read and especially epic poetry. Those men back then, in the ancient times, they did die young, they did go through troubles, but they always seemed so alive, so connected, so spiritually evolved, or maybe that's just fantasising... I feel like I need good physical activity. Soccer is pretty popular here in Europe, but I stopped playing because of health conditions when I was about 16... 8 years ago... I really miss that effort, movement and almost quasi battle sensation... I think to actually be fully happy I need that back. Anyway, cool video dude
I was on the college dorm for 3 years and talked to people all day everyday and never felt awkward. A few years out of college and ive been struggling with social anxiety for the last 3 years, it’s awful. Trying to push through and get more social but its still a very slow process. Thanks for the video man, gives me motivation to get out there still
Bro this is spot on. I’m working out, great job, married without kids, wife is pretty hot, etc… I’m fucking bored dude. Bored out of my mind. What I’ve been doing to cope? I recently got a parcel in a mountain state and I try to go up there and hunt once a month, work on the land, read books on farming and just practice practice practice. We are warriors bro. Our minds must be as sharp as our swords! Edit: Here’s another one for the younger dudes. Talk to your dad. Ask him shit. Take him with you on quests. Dude is a wealth of knowledge if you get to know him past football.
For me video games are good enough pretty much. My third place is my workshop. The true nature of man has opened my eyes to the reality that friends are something you can’t force and they only come rarely in life. The third space is dead for a good reason in society. And it’s only gonna take a good reason to bring it back. Right now people don’t have it in them (their hearts) to come together. This happens most often in history. And it speaks a lot about the true nature of humanity as a whole. It’s only in brief periods in time do we get major progress and development, community and a unified purpose.
Nice KSU hat! Ohio here! PS I force myself to get together with friends to avoid retardation. Also, day 33 of no PMO and SR - the test is great and the morning wood is fierce but working out daily has been good for keeping my energy levels and nuts under control.
I havent spoken to people other than my immediate family for so long that the other day some guy shook my hand and introduced himself and I just said "oh, nice" instead of telling him mine too 😂😂 he literally had to ask.
Doesn’t help living in a blue state where people gotta act either: 1) the Hollywood - 2) the stoner or 3) the wannabe thug just to communicate…. “Nigguh this nigguh” that , that ain’t me bruh … where are the normal people at ?
5:10 already I’m seeing social media posts from people saying some version of: they want to meet people in person, they aren’t checking their messages as frequently, and if people want to meet up and talk, they would rather do that.
Or maybe I was always retarded and that is why I never really had any relationships or close friends anyway. Anyway, I'm just deconstructing that need slowly, since I cannot force others to like me.
I really like what you said about talking with fellow men is sharing and discussing ideas. Do you have any other suggestions for a guy trying to build a local tribe in his area?
My name is David, Im 15 years old from NJ, and i really enjoy watching your videos. As a man can you tell me how to be more social and how not to be scared of talking because every second I try to speak to a girl i say something and the next second I cant think of anything to say. Also ask some advice on life I should know growing up. And what mindset should I have.
Dude I'm 17 rn, i also started watching Elisha when i was 15. It's very easy to end up watching millions of videos and getting stressed out about everything in the world. I'd advise you to get a job in retail or somewhere else where you're forced to talk to people, it helped me immensely. Also be yourself, as corny as it might sound. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't just because you heard or read on the internet that you have to be a certain way, it all works out in the end, hit the gym, make an effort to socialize wherever you are and don't be in your head too much. hope this helped bro
Crazy when you make a video relating to my life. The timing is always crazy. I went through a period of the isolation the last month or so and same thing happened. And it's not like before I was an incel video game player. I have a son and a social job. But besides that just isolated and disconnected. It creeps up on you easy. Use it or lose it
TH-cam keeps censoring my comment where I say that I am waiting for you join the survival/self reliance community (because I know you are the type) and I recommend two youtube channels - one which is «on three» the other is «dirty civillian». Why??? Anyways, soon after you have food, water and security in place, you understand that you need community to take it to the next level, which is great.
Eli I want to talk to u so bad man. Not just you but the whole community. I have so many great ideas and thoughts that I want to share with u guys so we can banter and learn all together more about life, living and also just throw shit at each other 🤣 Soon man, I'm saving up so I can enter the group, and soon we shall meet. Have a blessed day brothers, high thumos 🔥
wow interesting i have a completly diffrent view i feel like a new man and feel clarity in my mind when i am izolated for long time and dont have do go into mortal meddling
Facts. Im a female, work from home, single and barely socialize anymore. I cant do the mindless shit anymore, and it all feels awkard. I feel ive hit the point of no return and my best bet is to attract a partner through my channel. Im too weird and disconnected now 😂
This might be a reach but I’ve been looking for someone to talk to on a regular basis. A lot of people are lonely but it seems still so difficult to find someone who actually for real wants to connect on a human level and… you know, converse! So idk, maybe I’m deluding myself again but I thought I’d reach out to a fellow lost traveler. Wanna talk? Oh yea, bit about me, I’m 34, male, and spend my days doing art.
@@ArthurM1863 never said I was looking for anyone, all I said was I hope to attract a partner through my channel, not my comment. Your attitude is your issue, no one owes you something just because you asked for it.
@@ArthurM1863 yep I know, but I figured I’d give it a chance. kicking myself for even bothering haha. It dawned on me after I’d commented that she probably intended the comment for the guy in the video , oops haha. Anyways, cheers man hope your days going well!
Lots of us have some form of spectrum disorder. Modern living exacerbates this issue. Like how alcohol or weed can trigger episodes. Modern life does this to a low level.
Even though I'd like to join and it would be good to my mental health and socializing I don't have money on credit card and my parents won't allow me get a credit card and they won't pay for it I can't join the alternative is watching you make these videos and chat in text thanks for making these videos.
Lol true. There's still tons of old great games you can play though. I am currently playing the OG God of War and Ratchet and Clank, both of which I never played despite having a PS2 as a kid.
@stephenhughes5156 I'm with ya there bud the old GoW games go so fckin hard too, try the Berserk PS2 game, if your on an emulator theres a translated version on CDRomance.
Anyone rewding have experience training muay thai in thailand? Thats my plan for 3-4ish months early 2025. Would appreciate any reccomendations for locations and gyms❤
What’s going on Elisha. I want to hear your take on the 4B Movement going around after Trump being elected. I am curious to see what you think & your perspective on it if you want. Cheers 🤙
What if when you try to socialise, you need to be behind a screen to meet anyone. Or when you try to talk to someone, they grunt a couple of phrases and go back to their phone screen. When you go to family events and everyone is one screen doing instagram shit? You know maybe society needs a fix. Doesn't matter if your fit or not rich or not, people are tribal either you belong to the group or not. Books help me kept more sane...
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I have barely socialised this year and I definitely feel retarded. It actually scares me
I've barely socialised since 2021 due to my hatred for the general public 😂 still confident when dealing with people when I have to for work or whatever else
You're fine. Just drink coffee with sugar on empty stomach and get into random conversations
I havent for almost a decade
@@mjay8055narcissist?
I work remotely from home, and feel like it’s taken a toll on my socialization skills, always try to say hello to people.
Hey, that's great, atleast you doing that..many people even don't bother about that. Try to talk to people wherever you go if you go out of your house, say for coffee, groceries, etc
For real man. Even going to the park and seeing people walk around helps when working jobs like that
@@ImReadyD151 Yup, just came back from a long walk and greeted people as they made eye contact. I definitely need a third space for sports in my area but haven't found anything yet. I think ill get into soccer or pickle-ball that's popular in my area. I've been looking for a niche sport called "ecuavoley" for over a year but the closest court i know of is an hour drive.
I work from home and feel the same way at times
It helped me during Covid lockdowns to have conversations with cashiers. People rarely do that and they also want someone to speak to for a min or two.
Music has changed my life. Creating and listening.
I recommend every man picks up an instrument. Pioneer dj controller, guitar, keyboard, anything to keep the mind from spiraling It gives you purpose when you're not working or surrounded by people. Fills you with the spirit. Gives you more confidence. Give it a try.
It's not for everyone. The main thing is having some kind of passion/hobby (or job if you're lucky) that is meaningful to you that you can pour your creativity into and provide a kind of path to mastery. Doesn't neccesarily have to be music (although for me as a singer and drummer it certainly is).
Yeah that has its benefits but it’s not the answer in the context of this vid.
Not to mention going to shows, very much recommend going to shows especially if you have a local diy scene
True. If not for drawing I would’ve punched my ticket years ago. This world is more isolating than I could’ve ever imagined when I was growing up. I thought the world would open up in my 20s or 30s. It did the opposite and it did it hard. Art saved me, but for what? Anyways yeah pick up a creative passion, or build something. it might save your life.
@ amen to this brother.
Having a creative outlet is a must. The gym just isn’t enough
The lack of 3rd spaces is whats causing most of this. Especially in the west
What's a 3rd space ?
@@fistfull1 not work or home
100%. There's absolutely nothing in my suburbia. I can walk to the park, but hardly anyone utilises it outside of families or sporting groups. And no one ever talks, and it's rare to see someone around my age there. We need bars on every corner, chess games, table tennis, run club meets.. anything to get people to meet and engage. But there's nothing. And it makes life in suburbia so awfully dull,lonely and depressing.
Why aren't video game cafes popular in USA like in Japan or Korea?
@@bigchief2331The west is geriatric, there just aren’t many young people.
Getting a retail job has made it painfully clear just how socially awkward years of being constantly alone and in my head has made me 😹 luckily nothing lasts forever and i'm finding it easier and easier to break out of that weird shell of social conventions i never even agreed to, just being myself. Also finding hobbies like archery and martial arts seems like it'll be helpful to make some friends out here
"If you create the vision, people will follow you" Great video as always, much appreciated 🙏🏼🙌🏼
Glad you made it out of that like how you said nothing last forever 👍💪
@@PERIDOTPIMP 😂
Bro, for a social awkward guy retail can be strong medicine. Worked for me. Just have to make sure it's the type of retail where you work with a team, and do sales, that environment gives you a shit ton of social interaction.
@@ryangarrison5203 gettin better day by day 💪🏼
Finding a gym with enjoyable workout brothers is a goldmine
Yeah this felt isolated working from home but when I came workout to my favorite gym I've always met some friend to talk to and workout together even 🤌
Video title called me out
That's how I feel. I'm turning 32 this coming week. Completely and utterly alone. I live in suburbia with my parents and am constantly out and about walking, running, hiking. But people are not interested in connecting with strangers these days. All too absorbed with their phones or existing friends. And I am lucky if I see one person my own age on my walks. I work a solitary manual labour job and most of the people I talk to are well over 60+ and it's just small talk. I hate what this world has become and the low energy which is so pervasive nowadays. People just seem weird and completely disconnected, myself included. We desperately need to build some third places and do something to fix the drudgery of suburbia, if you are single or lonely then living this way is doing untold damage to mind and body, I am convinced of that but have just become numb to it all and accepted it for what it is. I even have a neighbour my own age who I never see. Just seems to work, sometimes travelling overseas, and then home most of the time. I spend time in the yard thinking maybe people will come out for a chat, but no. Nothing I try to improve this situation ever seems to work so why bother. I will just rot here till I die.
Wow I thought I was the only one. You are me. I went out biking for a good few months thinking I’d be able to meet people or maybe see people out. Yeah, no. That feeling you said.. that people seem weird and disconnected is exactly how i perceive it. I feel like I’m living on an alien planet or the Truman show. I feel like I’m going crazy, or that the world/timeline shifted at some point when I wasn’t looking and replaced everyone with mindless npcs. Why is it so hard to find a conversation? Why can’t I make friends who want to hang out? Why is dating virtually impossible? I wouldn’t have said this a few years ago but now that I’m 34, I feel more and more like dying alone is going to be the norm. And the crazy thing is, to me anyway, it seems totally avoidable! Why are people choosing this? Or is it just me? Am I the odd one out? Am I the weird guy who will die alone while everyone else has a happy family life, wife and kids? Is that it? Am I the ‘Michael Scott’? Is there something wrong with me? Yeah well, that’s where I am. I’ve felt like life itself has been gaslighting me for the past ten years and I don’t know what to think anymore but I’m lonely and desperately wish somebody would tell me I’m not out of my mind here. Is the world insane or am I? What the hell is going on?
@@LiteralMcWho just become numb to it all and accepted it for what it is
People don’t normally go on a walk to be pestered by some lonely weirdo, just saying. I think it’s completely normal for people to be doing their own thing.
@ and this here is the sentiment of the generations alive today and why there is a loneliness epidemic.
This is a really important topic. Talking to people, connections, builds your social muscles.
I'm not socially inept but man there's no opportunities for community where I'm at. I'm a 26 frickin year old dude I should be hanging out with friends right now instead of watching TH-cam on a Friday night. My city is like 15,000 strong next to an even bigger city (granted that city sucks) and there's just no space for young adults anymore. Never mind frickin girls my age. I don't see how we fix this
I'm about to turn 32 and feel the same way. Come Friday night my suburb is dead. Hordes of teenagers gather at the greenspace by the shops, but they don't really have much to do except talk nonsense, do graffiti and smoke vapes. Where are the people my age?? Probably all locked up in their parents houses like me, feeling miserable and lonely. We desperately need some proper 3rd spaces in suburbia.
What would you like to do?
@@bigchief2331let’s start one, we got 3 deep right here
I wfh. Never go outside unless to the gym. But at the gym talks to no one. I can talk but I just don't feel to talk.
Back in my hometown, every location is a walking distance. I always went to the beach 5am in the morning, doing exercises, meeting the boys then went swimming for a little. Then grabbed some breakfast. On weekends we had a sports center that we can played basketball or skating.
Now here in the US you have to drive for everything, every house is so apart from each other. Just the thought of going outside making me lazy. But of course I need to adapt. Just saying. I missed that community feeling.
This is the problem with suburbia and it's the same here in Australia. It is a hellscape and designed to keep everyone isolated and reliant on cars, constantly spending money. Your life in your hometown sounds much more satisfying.
@@bigchief2331 In the USA if you can't afford a car your social life is toast unless you figure something else out.
Holy fawk I thought this slowness about me was just me
What do you mean by slowness?
Happening to me too, I used to be very good at socializing woth tons of close friends and now Im mostly isolated and feel so stupid all the time, I just can't think straight in the moment when trying to speak to people
"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, I am there among them”
I almost miss working the cash register at the gas station because me and my coworker would say insane things to customers and get away with it and then it emboldened you when talking to folks outside of work. But desk work on the other hand... no beuno.
This might be me, made it with my online business for a while now and I haven't been going out of my house for MONTHS.
What online business did you start
@@Garrettwalk ecom + copywriting
I hear ya buddy. So easy for time to get away from you living adult life. Realize months have gone by since you've been actively social. Good thing you noticed that's the first step.
There’s a reason isolation is punishment in prison
@@merisskenderovic3600 I was doing blogs/copywriting for years and then chatgpt came along and ruined it all. Clients ghosted me overnight. Don't get to reliant on it because it is only going to get harder to make money from writing.
Instant sub. Very insightful conversation. I'm a few months from graduating as an OTA and this is a huge reason why I will be pushing for community involvement in people I work with. It's so much more important than people give it credit for.
OTA as in Occupational Therapist Assistant?
@andersspencer that is correct!
Churd agrees with everything said, especially use of the funny R-word
I used to be pretty introverted but became a bartender 6 years ago and it made me an expert at socializing! But I still do gym and video games like you said lol
Some idiots destroyed my social life, the fact this ended up recommended says something.
What happened I'm curious
@@Ricardo2-dsm some game that broke a rule of the website it’s on
@@jimmythedoll9820 wut? Just go outside and socialize LOL
Eli's been hitting home with these vids. Keep them up brother. It's just what I needed. ❤
Take a look at your passions and curiosities... then lean into that. What invigorates your soul? What hobbies excite you? Lean in to that.
I’ve been overseas, talking broken English everyday, and I feel like not only is my grasp of the English language degrading, but I can also feel like I’m getting dumber in general, because I’m not able to have any intelligent, meaningful, or deep conversations.
Grab some books man. This will stimulate the mind.
Thank you Paul Town, had no idea it’d feel good to hear this.
My BJJ coach mostly paired me with other girls, but I too saw and felt the “brotherhood” and it made feel alive!
God bless you Elisha Long.
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Long live Elisha
What's up brother. Did Paul Town recommend this to you?
@@ElishaLong not to me specifically, but he did encourage us to check you out.
Good stuff, thank you.
@@ashoka4327That's awesome man. Where can I find his stuff? In Twitter?
Love seeing you think in the moment bro. The barbecue thought was golden 😂 sending you great vibes from Houston
Fuck bro nail on the head. I was just talking to my girl about this, how i feel retarded and she knows im not introverted, i had to work nights for two years and just had the same routine, work, gym, girl, video games. I started school and finished since i had so much time in night. And its tru I DO feel retarded in the “socializing” aspect, have a few friends here and there but just acquaintances really.
Going through this, work sucks and have no friends, wanted better and feel helpless..
Get those leaves up big boy kills the grass, lawncare is a great hobby btw.
Definitely feel this, working from home most of the time and going to the gym regularly but outside of that barely any socializing. Missing a brotherhood or a good group of friends near me. How times have changed....
Make a video about the difference between lifting weights and practicing some form of martial art. Just go at it. The boys and I are here for it.
If you create the vision you get rid of division.
Banger of a video. Been thinking about this recently and have been actively trying to either find or create more opportunities for socialization - disc golf games on weekends, going to gym with bros, hosting folks, getting more involved with church, etc. Socialization is a muscle that can atrophy or be strengthened with reps.
I work from home and I’m a stoner, you do the math. Not a good combo.
Look up paws and quit while you can
Sounds like a pretty good combo to me, as long as you don't have to do zoom calls while stoned out of your mind 😂
Great combo, I wish I could work from home.
I started playing tennis and found a community to socialize with. Best thing I`ve done this year. High Thumos brother!
perfect timing some dude liked my car and stuck up a convo with me and i was like DERRRR DEEERPPP DERRRR UHHHHHHHHHHH i wasnt even nervous. i just couldnt talk
We gotta just talk to everyone give advice give encouragement give something
Maybe not everyone lol.
Music communities (go to shows/meet like-minded people). Rock gyms. Running groups.
New to this town for about 10 months now. I met one dude through a friend of a friend, my wife was friends with this girl in college and her uncle is the guy. He texted me yesterday - hey me and my friends are going to get beers, want to come? So it was me and like 6 other guys hanging out, for the first time in a year almost. Or more. Went great. Kicker is that I’m 31 years old, and these guys were like 65 through 80 years old lol, didn’t matter.
there is some unique sense of comfort and security that comes from hanging out with older dudes. I don't really if it is just me or there is really something about being around more mature souls. it is just so refreshing
I enjoy having a beer with some of my older customers. They understand the struggles of being a 30 something man in the world today. But I don't really feel like discussing it or going to deep. I can't even really find the words to accurately describe it all. So I mostly just stay quiet or keep to small talk. But i enjoy the company and listening to what they have to say.
@ generally in life I prefer to talk about interests or events and rarely talk about struggles.
I feel guys like this. I used to be in that state, then it got better as I moved to another city for university. Now I'm doing a PhD in that same university, but my work's increasingly becoming more lonely. I do have here, though, several colleagues, with whom I talk and meet almost daily, but there isn't that connection that I feel I need, that brothers in arms feeling... I love to read and especially epic poetry. Those men back then, in the ancient times, they did die young, they did go through troubles, but they always seemed so alive, so connected, so spiritually evolved, or maybe that's just fantasising... I feel like I need good physical activity. Soccer is pretty popular here in Europe, but I stopped playing because of health conditions when I was about 16... 8 years ago... I really miss that effort, movement and almost quasi battle sensation... I think to actually be fully happy I need that back. Anyway, cool video dude
This is the video I needed right now
I was on the college dorm for 3 years and talked to people all day everyday and never felt awkward. A few years out of college and ive been struggling with social anxiety for the last 3 years, it’s awful. Trying to push through and get more social but its still a very slow process. Thanks for the video man, gives me motivation to get out there still
Good luck brother, social anxiety destroyed what should have been a very promising future for me, take control and be proactive before its too late
Bro this is spot on. I’m working out, great job, married without kids, wife is pretty hot, etc… I’m fucking bored dude. Bored out of my mind. What I’ve been doing to cope? I recently got a parcel in a mountain state and I try to go up there and hunt once a month, work on the land, read books on farming and just practice practice practice. We are warriors bro. Our minds must be as sharp as our swords! Edit: Here’s another one for the younger dudes. Talk to your dad. Ask him shit. Take him with you on quests. Dude is a wealth of knowledge if you get to know him past football.
For me video games are good enough pretty much. My third place is my workshop. The true nature of man has opened my eyes to the reality that friends are something you can’t force and they only come rarely in life. The third space is dead for a good reason in society. And it’s only gonna take a good reason to bring it back.
Right now people don’t have it in them (their hearts) to come together. This happens most often in history. And it speaks a lot about the true nature of humanity as a whole. It’s only in brief periods in time do we get major progress and development, community and a unified purpose.
Started working from home a year ago and I feel like it’s harder to understand people and hold a conversation
Nice KSU hat! Ohio here!
PS I force myself to get together with friends to avoid retardation. Also, day 33 of no PMO and SR - the test is great and the morning wood is fierce but working out daily has been good for keeping my energy levels and nuts under control.
Love this channel lil bro
It can happen to the best of us. It just goes to show how important socializing is.
Mr. Long with the wisdom
Rock climbing gyms. Lots of people go. Easy to strike up convos. Work on wall puzzles
This
I havent spoken to people other than my immediate family for so long that the other day some guy shook my hand and introduced himself and I just said "oh, nice" instead of telling him mine too 😂😂 he literally had to ask.
Doesn’t help living in a blue state where people gotta act either: 1) the Hollywood - 2) the stoner or 3) the wannabe thug just to communicate…. “Nigguh this nigguh” that , that ain’t me bruh … where are the normal people at ?
36 no social skills it’s horrible . When I try talk to new people it feels like I’m just asking questions as an interview .
You won't lose any social skills if you live alone and without social media.
I think I’m suffering from this too.
We have all this technology and can't even find our true friends.
Yeah ive been noticing this the last 5 or so years personally.
Its definitely real.
I'm around people but don't feel connected to most
You're right about the VR though, it'll be the fricking matrix lol, people will willingly enter the matrix
Idk man I like being alone a lot.
I think it’s different strokes for different folks.
Solitude sometimes brings out the best in someone.
For anyone going through this, get into sales or customer facing job.
In person.
Social media smart phone's n 2020 f.ed everyone's up
this guy hit the target, i hit the thumb up
Disc golf you can go any town play the course and meet people.
Why is the title so funny
"I think all of us are looking for better ways to connect"
*airballs*
5:10 already I’m seeing social media posts from people saying some version of: they want to meet people in person, they aren’t checking their messages as frequently, and if people want to meet up and talk, they would rather do that.
I only talk to people if I absolutely have to.
Join a volunteer fire department. Learn life skills, do cool shit and be around good people
Or maybe I was always retarded and that is why I never really had any relationships or close friends anyway. Anyway, I'm just deconstructing that need slowly, since I cannot force others to like me.
I laughed my ass of when you missed every shot😂good video tho brother
Ok I’m subbing the cigar lounge sounds interesting . 🧐
I really like what you said about talking with fellow men is sharing and discussing ideas. Do you have any other suggestions for a guy trying to build a local tribe in his area?
My name is David, Im 15 years old from NJ, and i really enjoy watching your videos. As a man can you tell me how to be more social and how not to be scared of talking because every second I try to speak to a girl i say something and the next second I cant think of anything to say. Also ask some advice on life I should know growing up. And what mindset should I have.
Sadly, the answer is almost always gaining experience. The way to get good at talking is to talk a lot.
Read the book How to Win Friends and Influence People 😊
Dude I'm 17 rn, i also started watching Elisha when i was 15. It's very easy to end up watching millions of videos and getting stressed out about everything in the world. I'd advise you to get a job in retail or somewhere else where you're forced to talk to people, it helped me immensely. Also be yourself, as corny as it might sound. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't just because you heard or read on the internet that you have to be a certain way, it all works out in the end, hit the gym, make an effort to socialize wherever you are and don't be in your head too much.
hope this helped bro
Crazy when you make a video relating to my life. The timing is always crazy. I went through a period of the isolation the last month or so and same thing happened. And it's not like before I was an incel video game player.
I have a son and a social job. But besides that just isolated and disconnected. It creeps up on you easy. Use it or lose it
Spot on bro I’m full sped atm
I need to get back in the group but man I just dont care about social media anymore. Barely even reply to texts now. No wonder im lonely lol
TH-cam keeps censoring my comment where I say that I am waiting for you join the survival/self reliance community (because I know you are the type) and I recommend two youtube channels - one which is «on three» the other is «dirty civillian». Why???
Anyways, soon after you have food, water and security in place, you understand that you need community to take it to the next level, which is great.
Eli I want to talk to u so bad man. Not just you but the whole community. I have so many great ideas and thoughts that I want to share with u guys so we can banter and learn all together more about life, living and also just throw shit at each other 🤣
Soon man, I'm saving up so I can enter the group, and soon we shall meet. Have a blessed day brothers, high thumos 🔥
wow interesting i have a completly diffrent view i feel like a new man and feel clarity in my mind when i am izolated for long time and dont have do go into mortal meddling
#BringBackTheThirdSpace
Brother that pfp lmao
Facts. Im a female, work from home, single and barely socialize anymore. I cant do the mindless shit anymore, and it all feels awkard. I feel ive hit the point of no return and my best bet is to attract a partner through my channel. Im too weird and disconnected now 😂
This might be a reach but I’ve been looking for someone to talk to on a regular basis. A lot of people are lonely but it seems still so difficult to find someone who actually for real wants to connect on a human level and… you know, converse! So idk, maybe I’m deluding myself again but I thought I’d reach out to a fellow lost traveler. Wanna talk? Oh yea, bit about me, I’m 34, male, and spend my days doing art.
@@LiteralMcWho You see how hard it is? Even if they say they are looking for someone, when you approach them you get no answer.
You sound like a female version of me.
@@ArthurM1863 never said I was looking for anyone, all I said was I hope to attract a partner through my channel, not my comment. Your attitude is your issue, no one owes you something just because you asked for it.
@@ArthurM1863 yep I know, but I figured I’d give it a chance. kicking myself for even bothering haha. It dawned on me after I’d commented that she probably intended the comment for the guy in the video , oops haha. Anyways, cheers man hope your days going well!
2024 got me down so bad that i went out and bought a fishing license lol 🎣
Nah, that sweat thing, in context, is not at all cringy.
Lots of us have some form of spectrum disorder. Modern living exacerbates this issue. Like how alcohol or weed can trigger episodes. Modern life does this to a low level.
Make the 3rd space your home.
The walls are closing in 😂😂😂
Good stuff 😂 funny JJ stories. Jiu-Jitsu is the best!
How long have you been training brother
Even though I'd like to join and it would be good to my mental health and socializing I don't have money on credit card and my parents won't allow me get a credit card and they won't pay for it I can't join the alternative is watching you make these videos and chat in text thanks for making these videos.
The golf course man. You can get paired up with some very successful or interesting men.
I agree man I've been thinking about this lately
I wouldn't worry about VR and video games, both have been sucking for years now.
Lol true. There's still tons of old great games you can play though. I am currently playing the OG God of War and Ratchet and Clank, both of which I never played despite having a PS2 as a kid.
@stephenhughes5156 I'm with ya there bud the old GoW games go so fckin hard too, try the Berserk PS2 game, if your on an emulator theres a translated version on CDRomance.
Visit Arab Shisha bars or coffee shops. believe me, you won't regret it.
There is an I in Tribe for a reason.
Anyone rewding have experience training muay thai in thailand? Thats my plan for 3-4ish months early 2025. Would appreciate any reccomendations for locations and gyms❤
I'm alone 24/7.
What’s going on Elisha. I want to hear your take on the 4B Movement going around after Trump being elected. I am curious to see what you think & your perspective on it if you want. Cheers 🤙
What if when you try to socialise, you need to be behind a screen to meet anyone. Or when you try to talk to someone, they grunt a couple of phrases and go back to their phone screen. When you go to family events and everyone is one screen doing instagram shit? You know maybe society needs a fix. Doesn't matter if your fit or not rich or not, people are tribal either you belong to the group or not. Books help me kept more sane...
yup the problem with being in gen z,
Dude you are so funny I love you
Much love brother
relatable title
Most ppl are annoying. Hopefully I make it to heaven after losing my mind.