i guess im randomly asking but does someone know a trick to log back into an Instagram account..? I stupidly lost my password. I would appreciate any tips you can offer me!
This is what I give..I think it's working cos when he said it's not open to dating now...I didn't back out, instead I stayed back and kept showing 2 and 3.
Shonta you said a WORD! It all starts with "you." If a person doesn't love or respect themselves, they can never love or respect you properly. A person can't give what they don't have and THAT was the demise of my first love and mine's magical relationship...that went straight to the pits of hell in the end. LOL
A real man wants to be a woman's hero. He wants to provide for her. Instead of being resistant, open your heart and mind and receive his love. It means everything to him.
You can't make them Fall in love...but you can stop them from falling Out of love. If you chase them, are to NEEDY, have no respect for yourself. Even a Man in love with leave you.
Yes. Sounds like so much planning and oppressing and measuring your emotions and desires - feels like more trouble than its worth unless you magically meet the man who is right for you. At what point can you just let it hang with a man and let him know how you feel.
What makes a man fall in love: 4:15 1. Accept what he offers and let him take care of you 4:42 2. The ability to inspire & encourage him 6:27 3. Patience + Selectivity + Wisdom _____________________________________________________ When a woman accepts the love actions of their men openly and enthusiastically, it makes them to keep caring for you, doing you favors and fixing your problems. It grows their love cause of your allowance of this behavior, makes them feel more masculine. When you become more enthusiastic to show and act their love, it makes him seek out more ways to make you happy and put a smile on your face. Making you smile and feeling that appreciation, that you give him becomes his goal. The ambitious seek motivation, inspiration, and encouragement from their spouses. Knowing you believe in him, is a battery in his back!
@@CrystalDatingCoach I would agree with you but men chase all the time and still end up being trifling. Many of these men will chase a woman who keeps turning them down and then when she finally relents they will end up doing her wrong anyway. So a man chasing you these days doesn’t mean much. For a lot of men the chase is the fun part. Once the conquest is over they couldn’t care less.
I am a guarded woman. I am that way because of my disability. I have had guys make fun of me and there's nothing that hurts more than being treated like a joke in a relationship. I was very broken when I met my husband. If he had not been my brothers best friend I never would have opened up to him. He was the friend that I turned to when I was sad. He helped me to laugh again. He is my " safe" place. If a guy can't or won't provide that for me I can't fall in love with him. In fact in the past my partners always only echoed my insecurities and my piss poor self image was sabotaging my relationships. I had to stay single for a long time before I could even get a handle on those issues.
Yes~agree 💯… having a head injury in the military, my last bf used that information to make fun/try to make me doubt myself… when I’ve adapted to the struggle of dealing w my poor working memory so far as self love… and am always doing my best to work techniques to function better. The silver lining to having health challenges is being with me requires real love~always had~even before brain injury. It’s a good way to know how to eliminate people in dating because I know I’d never weaponize disability… these challenges can be assets to grow character and other good adaptations to limitations!!! 💖🌸
What about empowering your woman? There needs to be balance we can’t always exhaust ourselves being that we are the nurturers. We need reciprocated energy as well.
The title says it all. You have all the power. The video itself broke down exactly how the man empowers the woman. If you listen closer, you’d hear that the woman needn’t do much at all. It’s easier and way more fulfilling than we think.
Right now I'm in the healing process after a long term relationship ending so I'm not even thinking of attracting anyone ...but I love all your videos and this is another really great one that can help so many women out there. I'm sharing the shit out of this.
Congratulations!!! Word of caution, don't take these relationship video's to heart. Actually you don't need them. Enjoy your marriage and continue to grow where you are planted. Now, where is my invitation????😁😁😁
I’ve been happily married for decades but I enjoy these videos for their wisdom. It doesn’t hurt to be reminded how to MAINTAIN a good relationship even if you have one.
I love your videos. I lost my husband of 32yrs due to cancer. He told me he loved me but his character was a mess. All your videos help me, I refuse to be treated as an option. I want better than what I had.
I wish my husband was my soulmate. He gave me his worse. I'm going to need a couple hours today and they are times that I do feel guilty because I brought up 32 years of pain and I brought it right back in his face when he was in pain and I know that is something that I have to pray over discussed with God so he can forgive me nonetheless he needed to hear it.
@@adriennesmith2133 women who have reached hard goals before. Many professionally but some in different areas. I’ve found that those women take and apply advice at a higher percentage because of their willingness to commit to a task and follow through on my coaching. It can be disheartening to talk to tons of people who don’t take your advice and then come back with the same issue call after call. They also have different issues than women who may not identify that way. Issues I haven’t addressed on this channel. They have been underserved.
This video is so good I came back to watch it again. Your storytime really got me. ...."she no longer believed in me....and that's a deal breaker". I felt that.
Can confirm the hardest relationships are the ones where they literally are not capable of accepting love bcuz they’ll push u away in the process of rejecting it
#3Patience, Selectivity and Wisdom. Men observe a woman process. Men like to feel special; like they are the chosen one, and only one(period). Patient and Selective woman appear more wise❤🙏🏽
This is very amazingly wise advice ... really incredible. So what you’re saying is .. men want to feel valued. Truly and Properly valued and appreciated... just like a woman wants right?
Kev , once again you hit it out of the ballpark. Your videos are concise and to the point but filled with nuggets of wisdom. You’re a real blessing to women AND their future husbands.
Thank you so much for this video kev! Everything you’ve mentioned in this video is pretty much what I’ve already done in most of my relationships with all the wrong men. You should change your title to the 3 traits real men fall in love with.
Yeah, you Cant do that to the wrong men sis. Gotta pick and choose a lil better sis. That's why he said what he said at the end...so maybe all or most of them wouldnt be the wrong men...because they wouldnt even be worthy of you and all of that. Because they should be wooing you and trying to get to know you and all that. IJS. But anyway...
My mistake is that I pick up men who are wrong for me and no matter how much he tries to show me love, I reject him and push him away. Yet when he finally leaves I'm left sad and lonely wishing he was back in my life while still knowing he wrong for me. AM SO CONFUSED 😭😭😭
Kevin I would like to say personally as a mom of three Nubian Queens and two times grandma I am so proud of YOU AND YOUR QUEEN! I love your geniune intention that is reflected on this platform...and I have learned soooo much from you and your sharing valuable information that I wish I would have been brought up with...and because of your valuable information it has contributed to a good part of my transformation. Its quite refreshing to see a healthy king and queen and how you both honor that...Im so happy for YOU YOUR QUEEN AND NEW BORN!!! ASE!
Agree or disagree? These lyrics tell it all: When a man loves a woman, Can't keep his mind on nothin' else, He'd change the world for the good thing he's found. If she is bad, he can't see it, She can do no wrong, Turn his back on his best friend if he put her down. When a man loves a woman, He'll spend his very last dime Tryin' to hold on to what he needs. He'd give up all his comforts And sleep out in the rain, If she said that's the way It ought to be. Well, this man loves you, woman. I gave you everything I have, Tryin' to hold on to your heartless love. Baby, please don't treat me bad. When a man loves a woman, Down deep in his soul, She can bring him such misery. If she is playin' him for a fool, He's the last one to know. Lovin' eyes can never see. When a man loves a woman He can do her no wrong, He can never want Some other girl. Yes,When a man loves a woman I know exactly how he feels, 'Cause baby, baby, you're my world When a man loves a woman....
You are out here saving relationships 😩🥰 I know I’m crazy sometimes and I watch these to do better. I’ve already basically done most of these things but I’m always so hesitant. He reciprocates though so he’s making effort
I'm subscribed to this channel & I LOVE IT. Kev is so straight forward, without all the exposition so many other channels have. I also watch other dating coach channels. I'm a lesbian 🤣 but truly, a lot of Kev's advice applies across the board, or helps one improve oneself. I send these vids to my straight friends a LOT & I've been told they are very helpful. Thanks Kev 💕
Great video, Kev! Both genders love to be appreciated and respected. You are so right, a man wants a woman who believes in him, no matter what. Thank you for all the helpful advice you give.
I didn't even know I needed to hear this! It makes so much more sense now! I wish I had realized or had been told this I high school and college. This would have made dating so much easier and more fulfilling! At least now it will help me be more aware of who is actually interested in me instead of me constantly chasing men that aren't interested in me seriously at all.
The whole guarded thing I have an issue with. Of course a woman should be somewhat guarded - at first - if only for safety reasons. No man should expect a woman to be open to anything and everything, right off the bat. If a man is looking for a selective woman, then he has to respect her for being guarded from the jump. That’s just a smart woman, in my opinion. Like the video said, he has to want to “peel back the layers”. If a man calls you guarded on the first date, that should be the last date with him, ladies. No woman should feel pressured or bullied to let down her guard right away.
That was AWESOME! Especially the last and final reason. I'm not good with taking compliments but I do thank him. I told him that I believe in him and that he is very smart. But he has trouble with accepting this. He always ignores me whenever I say this to him. And I let him know up front that I'm a Christian and I'm not having sex until marriage. If I get married. I have been single for 14 years and I can take it or leave it. This guy knows that I don't play and don't have to have a relationship.I You know I find him staring at me a lot. He told me that he's never had to work so hard for it. He wants to be affectionate in public all the time. We've been flirting for about a year.
I like and admire Kev's knowledge and his willingness to share. But I missed the days when a man would just tell u what's on his mind. In the late 90's til early 2000, everything was going well for me and my friends in the relationship area! Most men would go above and beyond just to get ur phone number and or take you out on a date!! When did the tables turn?!
My mom use to brag about her independence and never had the relationship she desired. Anyway, too independent can cause problems and push him away. Did my homework. I know my God sent man will be drawn to me.🌹
You definitely can't make a man fall in love with you, he values the qualities you possess and things move forward or not from there. This was great topic. Check out Straight Talk with The Phoenix Jewels. Appreciate it
I actually checked out the video for successful single women. You made one crucial point that really stood out to me. You talked about how committed successful women are to actually putting in the work. This could not be more true. I have single friends that think I waste money on self development seminars and coaching. I think they are simply not serious about being the best version of themselves which is what separates us as friends. I also purchased the book offered to grow my business because as you know, us entrepreneurs love learning new information that will help us meet our goals 😉. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
I think you are right. My clients like you are driven and more willing to be uncomfortable and apply advice. I like the book because even though it’s to prep a person for click funnels they teach strategies that can be applied independently. Click funnels is also amazing at maximizing potential purchases and creating sales funnels that anyone can build. Now I don’t need a tech person to set up my sales funnels. It’s all drag and drop. 🤗.
1. I already do always 2. I already do always 3. Being selective: My new policy is: Either he's doing the work or I'm not around. Now I'm working on point 3 with this new guy... we're at 6 months dating and I've never been selective before so... hoping this will work out. Basically I grew so confident in my own skin and my own life that I don't need a man anymore and I am independent, so either I'm getting the good shit or I want none of it.
This is a great vid. Much needed. As a guarded woman I have an issue even meeting men. I’m not gonna lie dating is hard. Although I don’t want to be alone I’m on the fence. The thought of being alone is way more appealing than wasting my time or being hurt. Unfortunately in my mind men and dating are a negative experience for me. I’m trying but not as optimistic as I was
Thank you for your candor and allowing women into the hearts and minds of men. All, can be so confusing and certainly, there are plenty of game out here. I'm going to trust God in my selection going forth, I'm going to honor God in my actions and reactions, I'm going to respect myself and Him and I'm going to refuse to compromise. I've tried it my way, at times, I have yielded my body and my soul and I've been nothing, but hurt. I am worth having and I know my worth and I believe there is a brother praying for me. I will not look for Him, I will not stop living, but I do believe I will encounter Him, in the meantime, ... I'm enough, I matter and I trust God.
one day, we were on the phone and he said something like, "you won't let me do anything for you!" he was frustrated. ...i didn't say this to him, but i read that like a weakness of sorts; like he needed me to reduce myself in order for him to feel like a man. and i found it unattractive. but i get it now. and, now, i can even see his heart in some of his other actions (favors, awareness of me). thanks.
I agree with not needing help but accepting it. I always try to get a man I am dealing with to invest something he values in me, whether that is time or money or effort, because from what I've observed, most men do not like to walk away from their investments...
I've lost contact with my daughter's father 9 years later neither of us moved on with the same emotions of not being able to move forward because, we truly loved each other. I'm sure he tried to move on just as much as I did. Nothing ever felt right though. Within the 9 years I've learned that my typical jealousy and insecure behavior is what killed what we had. Unnecessary, behavior never gets you any where in relationships or life itself. The best thing you can do as a woman is KNOW YOUR SELFWORTH. That alone will kill off jealousy and insecurity all on its own. Because you know your worth it.
Really. I had no idea. Seriously. Wow thanks. I have failed. I won't anymore though. My heart is not guarded anymore. I'm so glad I'm teachable. How loving of a Man to want to do all these things u have mentioned. So Masculine. I can appreciate, truly love n accept such a one of a kind Man. How blessed I would be in my relationship when it happens! YAAAAAAAAY!
I am strong minded, but I think of being in a relationship like being a good strong boss - no one likes a whiny micro manager. A good boss clearly explains expectations, believes in others, is enthusiastic about their ideas, gives credit on results, if something goes wrong they take responsibility. A good boss encourages, pushes through hard things when needed, and gives time for rest. They are ready to let others lead too, and lead by values and virtues, not by force. They give space for every person to grow. By being a good strong boss in our team of two bosses, I am also a good wife.
@Jasmyne Haywood I wouldn’t put up with such foolery- not worth it . Once you heal and learned a lesson- you become repellant to that nonsense. People will do as they please- the question is are you planning to entertain it. Best remedy of all when knowing is walking away- swiftly as possible. Toning it down is not about dumbing down to stay in some bs. Leaving a bad situation is the best remedy to heal and heighten your discernment.
Hi Kev, Thank you for sharing so honestly, this helps me to see the traits of a good, honest guy. Sadly, some of us have not grown up with good role models. You are great and offering a great service. Thank you.🧡
@lavidavi Facts. Preach. Every man from my spouse to the dates I go all out for and "fix" shit. Take care of every need as well as my own. Thinking they'd feel proud, blessed,apprective and of course loving and loyal because of my actions. NOT!!!! They all used me. Husband ran off with a 15 year old. Next man took everything I had and gave to other women. The next used me for a place to live as to not be at his parents and lastly the hidden drug addict stole from me. I'm a good professional woman always has been independent but that's not what gets a good man. I'm at this point where I have reconciled with the thought I may never have a man's love or a relationship also I don't date not that anyone's interested. I don't have the energy to put anymore into a man for it to be me giving and getting nothing. I'm 51 years old so how long does that leave me?
What if he doesn't give gifts, favors or compliments? Then when he does.. the woman doesn't know how to receive it bc it's unusual behavior... My husband told me in his own words that he "doesn't give me compliments bc he doesn't want it to go to my head.." then the same week asked me "why are you so insecure? You need to be more confident.."
Ladies, I am a new fan of this Mr. Kev. The video he mentions here was worthwhile. He gets at an intimidation factor, and he reminds to stay gentle with men as we fiercely fight for our survival in the workplace. Kev. I believe it may have cleared up some miscommunication, I have been working through. Thank you.
This guy's videos made me jumping left and right not knowing should I move on or stay with my man... Because my boyfriend is doing a moderate amount of both red flags and genuine love... 🙄🙄
Thank you so much for the clear and value information you share. Only let you know is not possible to access to the link with the videos you offer because there is a banner that doesn't allow to see them, just in case you don't know.
One of my Husband’s favorite thing about me is that I Love and understand most sports… He doesn’t appreciate my Lakers team but that’s ok 😎 he loves the Vikings because of me though 💜
Kev Hicks, thank you for your videos and your time. Anytime I need guy advice I listen to your channel and it never steers me wrong. God always provides a way to give clarity and become wiser.
1. Your ability to receive his love
2. Your abilitity to inspire and support him
3. Patience, selectivity and wisdom
THANK YOU
i guess im randomly asking but does someone know a trick to log back into an Instagram account..?
I stupidly lost my password. I would appreciate any tips you can offer me!
@Samson Will instablaster =)
Ability to encourage different than support honey
This is what I give..I think it's working cos when he said it's not open to dating now...I didn't back out, instead I stayed back and kept showing 2 and 3.
Some men Don’t love themselves so expecting them to love me is exhausting
Yes, if they don't love themselves, they can't love you.
That's When You Show Him Love By Loving Yourself First! (Be His Example Of Love)
Amen sister
Shonta you said a WORD! It all starts with "you." If a person doesn't love or respect themselves, they can never love or respect you properly. A person can't give what they don't have and THAT was the demise of my first love and mine's magical relationship...that went straight to the pits of hell in the end. LOL
Fact
A real man wants to be a woman's hero. He wants to provide for her. Instead of being resistant, open your heart and mind and receive his love. It means everything to him.
This tho
I'm waiting for that guy who doesn't mind taking care of a woman🙏
Most guys are selfish, no, most ppl are selfish, no one just wants to take care of someone forever, unless you can return him something he wants
👏🏻👌🏻
I love your video
When a man loves a woman it is a choice by the man. Anything else to "make" him love you is manipulation if it's not part of your character.
Truth & manipulation is the spirit of witchcraft
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
True!!!
You can't make them Fall in love...but you can stop them from falling Out of love. If you chase them, are to NEEDY, have no respect for yourself. Even a Man in love with leave you.
@@richardrivas3294 Native Newyorker living in Milan for the last 25 years. 😉
After 3 and a half yrs of self-partnership, I've met someone and building something real. Thank you❤
I like that self-partnership
Loving a guy nowadays are full time job you don’t get pay for 😖
I suggest you look up Michaela pink 😘 y’all won’t regret it
The reward is to be reciprocated in the same respect if he's not he doesn't value your efforts! Move onto the next. The pain will cease eventually
Successful Ladies Live
I know right
Yes. Sounds like so much planning and oppressing and measuring your emotions and desires - feels like more trouble than its worth unless you magically meet the man who is right for you. At what point can you just let it hang with a man and let him know how you feel.
Whoever is reading this may God bless you abundantly in the name of JESUS Amen 🙌🙌🙌☝️🙏😊
Aww thank you so much sis. May God richly bless you in Jesus name 🙂🙌🏽
God bless you too ❤
God bless you too ☺.
Amen 🙏
Yahuah Baruk you in abundance. Much love
A man doesn't want you if he doesn't try to better your life and gets distant if something bad happens to you.
What makes a man fall in love:
4:15 1. Accept what he offers and let him take
care of you
4:42 2. The ability to inspire & encourage him
6:27 3. Patience + Selectivity + Wisdom
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When a woman accepts the love actions of their men openly and enthusiastically, it makes them to keep caring for you, doing you favors and fixing your problems. It grows their love cause of your allowance of this behavior, makes them feel more masculine.
When you become more enthusiastic to show and act their love, it makes him seek out more ways to make you happy and put a smile on your face. Making you smile and feeling that appreciation, that you give him becomes his goal.
The ambitious seek motivation, inspiration, and encouragement from their spouses. Knowing you believe in him, is a battery in his back!
Thank you!!
@@carlyhenton3195 Yw!!
"She no longer believes in me."
WOW! I'm sure that hit hard, but how incredibly wise to be able to dig down and find that!
Ok, but none of this will work if the dude doesnt actually like or want u
Or if he doesn’t WANT to do right by you!
Exactly. So stop chasing MEN. If he's not chasing you...there's nothing you can do to make him like you.
Obviously. Who wants someone that doesn't want you??
@@CrystalDatingCoach I would agree with you but men chase all the time and still end up being trifling. Many of these men will chase a woman who keeps turning them down and then when she finally relents they will end up doing her wrong anyway. So a man chasing you these days doesn’t mean much. For a lot of men the chase is the fun part. Once the conquest is over they couldn’t care less.
@@africanbeauty7 YES. Just keep the cookie in the JAR. Until you're in a Relationship. If he keeps chasing...with no sex. It's real. 😉
I am a guarded woman. I am that way because of my disability. I have had guys make fun of me and there's nothing that hurts more than being treated like a joke in a relationship. I was very broken when I met my husband. If he had not been my brothers best friend I never would have opened up to him. He was the friend that I turned to when I was sad. He helped me to laugh again. He is my " safe" place. If a guy can't or won't provide that for me I can't fall in love with him. In fact in the past my partners always only echoed my insecurities and my piss poor self image was sabotaging my relationships. I had to stay single for a long time before I could even get a handle on those issues.
Yes~agree 💯… having a head injury in the military, my last bf used that information to make fun/try to make me doubt myself… when I’ve adapted to the struggle of dealing w my poor working memory so far as self love… and am always doing my best to work techniques to function better. The silver lining to having health challenges is being with me requires real love~always had~even before brain injury. It’s a good way to know how to eliminate people in dating because I know I’d never weaponize disability… these challenges can be assets to grow character and other good adaptations to limitations!!! 💖🌸
What about empowering your woman? There needs to be balance we can’t always exhaust ourselves being that we are the nurturers. We need reciprocated energy as well.
You just said a mouthful 🙌🏼
Completely agree!
That goes without say. Listen to what he’s saying again, intently. ❤️
Yes!
The title says it all. You have all the power. The video itself broke down exactly how the man empowers the woman. If you listen closer, you’d hear that the woman needn’t do much at all. It’s easier and way more fulfilling than we think.
Right now I'm in the healing process after a long term relationship ending so I'm not even thinking of attracting anyone ...but I love all your videos and this is another really great one that can help so many women out there. I'm sharing the shit out of this.
👌👍 Bless!!!
Truth!!
Got you a 💯 like honey!
Me too! May God bless your future. . .your journey!
Had a good man
I AM GETTING MARRIED NEXT MONTH BUT STILL LOVE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS ,,THANK YOU! :) ;)
I thought I was the only married one watching his videos! Lol Congratulations 🍾🥰
Happy for you, I hope I get married someday too
Congratulations!!! Word of caution, don't take these relationship video's to heart. Actually you don't need them. Enjoy your marriage and continue to grow where you are planted. Now, where is my invitation????😁😁😁
I’ve been happily married for decades but I enjoy these videos for their wisdom. It doesn’t hurt to be reminded how to MAINTAIN a good relationship even if you have one.
Thank you, everyone for your kind words. Much love and blessings!!
P.s in behalf of Erika Erika!
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Great video. You nailed it! "Let him know you believe in him" Deep down Men are quite insecure. 😉
Thats right ladies keep them legs locked 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
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Yesss
Yep 👍🏽
I have been celibate for awhile now
its so hard 😬
These are big ole facts! My nana told me this! Hits different coming from a man!
I love your videos. I lost my husband of 32yrs due to cancer. He told me he loved me but his character was a mess. All your videos help me, I refuse to be treated as an option. I want better than what I had.
My husband passed away to of 30 years from cancer to, it broke my heart he was my soulmate. But I’m still and I do want to fall in love to
I wish my husband was my soulmate. He gave me his worse. I'm going to need a couple hours today and they are times that I do feel guilty because I brought up 32 years of pain and I brought it right back in his face when he was in pain and I know that is something that I have to pray over discussed with God so he can forgive me nonetheless he needed to hear it.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
@@richardrivas3294 Thank you Richard.
@@ranee4993 it’s ok miss.Are you single?
Single successful women go to the description box for your free video link. It’s at the top. TH-cam keeps deleting my pined comment🙄
Done! ✅
Looking forward to this!
How do you define success?
I didn't see the comment..I want the series.
@@adriennesmith2133 women who have reached hard goals before. Many professionally but some in different areas. I’ve found that those women take and apply advice at a higher percentage because of their willingness to commit to a task and follow through on my coaching. It can be disheartening to talk to tons of people who don’t take your advice and then come back with the same issue call after call. They also have different issues than women who may not identify that way. Issues I haven’t addressed on this channel. They have been underserved.
“This is the male equivalent of feeling like the only girl in the world.”
Hilarious and powerful. Very well done.
Kev Hicks, Tony Gaskin and Derrick Jaxn are my lil brother mentors of knowing our worth as women. I love you guys. 🙌🏽🙏🏾❤️
This video is so good I came back to watch it again. Your storytime really got me.
...."she no longer believed in me....and that's a deal breaker".
I felt that.
My guy is so on point, it's scary.
He,s a wise in his year's. I do have Jesus but he has a point.
Can confirm the hardest relationships are the ones where they literally are not capable of accepting love bcuz they’ll push u away in the process of rejecting it
You’re so thorough! There’s a wealth of knowledge in just a few minutes, Kev! Appreciate it!
Thank you for the free videos. Lord knows I’m in need. I’m so confused 🥴
#3Patience, Selectivity and Wisdom. Men observe a woman process. Men like to feel special; like they are the chosen one, and only one(period). Patient and Selective woman appear more wise❤🙏🏽
Wow...
This is very amazingly wise advice ... really incredible. So what you’re saying is .. men want to feel valued. Truly and Properly valued and appreciated... just like a woman wants right?
Accepting what he offers, just learned something, but I'm so independent.
This made me realize I was in love with a boy not a man.
*listening to this intensely so I can be an awesome girlfriend*
👍 Bless!!!
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when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Be an awesome wife. If you walk in the spirit of girlfriend boys will play with you.
Kev , once again you hit it out of the ballpark. Your videos are concise and to the point but filled with nuggets of wisdom. You’re a real blessing to women AND their future husbands.
Facts!
Thank you!
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I love compliments.I always say thank you when a man compliments me.I appreciate complements and accept them.They boost my morale.
Thank you so much for this video kev! Everything you’ve mentioned in this video is pretty much what I’ve already done in most of my relationships with all the wrong men.
You should change your title to the 3 traits real men fall in love with.
Yeah, you Cant do that to the wrong men sis. Gotta pick and choose a lil better sis. That's why he said what he said at the end...so maybe all or most of them wouldnt be the wrong men...because they wouldnt even be worthy of you and all of that. Because they should be wooing you and trying to get to know you and all that. IJS. But anyway...
@@jayc.7135 You’re right, I know better now , lesson learned!!!
@@angeleyes9212 👍
My mistake is that I pick up men who are wrong for me and no matter how much he tries to show me love, I reject him and push him away. Yet when he finally leaves I'm left sad and lonely wishing he was back in my life while still knowing he wrong for me. AM SO CONFUSED 😭😭😭
I thought I was only one
SAME WTH IS GOOD W US
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
@@richardrivas3294 I wish it's was that easy....we keep hoping and hoping
@@abermercy8370 you can give it a try where are you from miss?!
Kevin I would like to say personally as a mom of three Nubian Queens and two times grandma I am so proud of YOU AND YOUR QUEEN! I love your geniune intention that is reflected on this platform...and I have learned soooo much from you and your sharing valuable information that I wish I would have been brought up with...and because of your valuable information it has contributed to a good part of my transformation. Its quite refreshing to see a healthy king and queen and how you both honor that...Im so happy for YOU YOUR QUEEN AND NEW BORN!!! ASE!
This has to be the clearest explanation on this subject that I have ever heard. I feel empowered in this area for once
I feel it goes both ways most men want these things but aren’t willing to reciprocate it.
Agree or disagree? These lyrics tell it all:
When a man loves a woman,
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else,
He'd change the world for the good thing he's found.
If she is bad, he can't see it,
She can do no wrong,
Turn his back on his best friend if he put her down.
When a man loves a woman,
He'll spend his very last dime
Tryin' to hold on to what he needs.
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain,
If she said that's the way
It ought to be.
Well, this man loves you, woman.
I gave you everything I have,
Tryin' to hold on to your heartless love.
Baby, please don't treat me bad.
When a man loves a woman,
Down deep in his soul,
She can bring him such misery.
If she is playin' him for a fool,
He's the last one to know.
Lovin' eyes can never see.
When a man loves a woman
He can do her no wrong,
He can never want
Some other girl.
Yes,When a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels,
'Cause baby, baby, you're my world
When a man loves a woman....
You didn't ramble Kev, this was much-needed and very beautiful to hear 🙏🏽
You are out here saving relationships 😩🥰 I know I’m crazy sometimes and I watch these to do better. I’ve already basically done most of these things but I’m always so hesitant. He reciprocates though so he’s making effort
Great to hear this from the male point of view
Only a man knows how men think. When you hear that men and women are different believe it.
@@constancereynolds3110 For realz... im realizing
This man so nonchalant 😂😂 like it’s so funny he’s like “I’m saying this and I’m not apologizing.”
God I love this guy!! His advice is so clear and concise. No bullshit just straight relatable facts. Love love love
I'm subscribed to this channel & I LOVE IT. Kev is so straight forward, without all the exposition so many other channels have. I also watch other dating coach channels. I'm a lesbian 🤣 but truly, a lot of Kev's advice applies across the board, or helps one improve oneself. I send these vids to my straight friends a LOT & I've been told they are very helpful. Thanks Kev 💕
Great video, Kev! Both genders love to be appreciated and respected. You are so right, a man wants a woman who believes in him, no matter what. Thank you for all the helpful advice you give.
Me with relationships looks like we are parallel to each other. Patience, selective but self love first.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I didn't even know I needed to hear this! It makes so much more sense now! I wish I had realized or had been told this I high school and college. This would have made dating so much easier and more fulfilling! At least now it will help me be more aware of who is actually interested in me instead of me constantly chasing men that aren't interested in me seriously at all.
We appreciate your content and advice thank you 🙏🏽
The whole guarded thing I have an issue with. Of course a woman should be somewhat guarded - at first - if only for safety reasons. No man should expect a woman to be open to anything and everything, right off the bat. If a man is looking for a selective woman, then he has to respect her for being guarded from the jump. That’s just a smart woman, in my opinion. Like the video said, he has to want to “peel back the layers”. If a man calls you guarded on the first date, that should be the last date with him, ladies. No woman should feel pressured or bullied to let down her guard right away.
Your point doesn’t oppose what I said. I agree.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Guess I never had a Man in love with me just a bunch of Jerks
Yes
They are the jerks not you. You winning(:
You most likely had men that was very interested in you though.
Don't settle for less keep working on you. Evetually the right one will see your worth.
@@thebullwhisperer916 yes thanks 😊
That was AWESOME! Especially the last and final reason. I'm not good with taking compliments but I do thank him. I told him that I believe in him and that he is very smart. But he has trouble with accepting this. He always ignores me whenever I say this to him. And I let him know up front that I'm a Christian and I'm not having sex until marriage. If I get married. I have been single for 14 years and I can take it or leave it. This guy knows that I don't play and don't have to have a relationship.I You know I find him staring at me a lot. He told me that he's never had to work so hard for it. He wants to be affectionate in public all the time. We've been flirting for about a year.
This man is a genius. I pray that I will meet someone as articulate and wise as this guy.🙏🏽
I like and admire Kev's knowledge and his willingness to share. But I missed the days when a man would just tell u what's on his mind. In the late 90's til early 2000, everything was going well for me and my friends in the relationship area! Most men would go above and beyond just to get ur phone number and or take you out on a date!! When did the tables turn?!
My mom use to brag about her independence and never had the relationship she desired. Anyway, too independent can cause problems and push him away. Did my homework. I know my God sent man will be drawn to me.🌹
And to think about all the times i acted reserved when i received compliments...🤦🏽♀️🤣
Lol 😂
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This dude is truly a guru. He never spoke one lie
You definitely can't make a man fall in love with you, he values the qualities you possess and things move forward or not from there. This was great topic. Check out Straight Talk with The Phoenix Jewels. Appreciate it
You didn't ramble at all. That was a very insightful video. Thanks @Kev Hicks!
The right MAN will love you naturally real men are naturally attracted to confidence and strength because they are strong and confident
I actually checked out the video for successful single women. You made one crucial point that really stood out to me. You talked about how committed successful women are to actually putting in the work. This could not be more true. I have single friends that think I waste money on self development seminars and coaching. I think they are simply not serious about being the best version of themselves which is what separates us as friends. I also purchased the book offered to grow my business because as you know, us entrepreneurs love learning new information that will help us meet our goals 😉. Thank you so much 🙏🏽
I think you are right. My clients like you are driven and more willing to be uncomfortable and apply advice. I like the book because even though it’s to prep a person for click funnels they teach strategies that can be applied independently. Click funnels is also amazing at maximizing potential purchases and creating sales funnels that anyone can build. Now I don’t need a tech person to set up my sales funnels. It’s all drag and drop. 🤗.
So to sum it up validate them and stroke their ego.
Yes, but u have to balance this with hurting his ego
@lavidavi Are you sure about that, ‘no pay’? 😰😬🤣
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yes, girl! Exactly!
1. I already do always
2. I already do always
3. Being selective: My new policy is: Either he's doing the work or I'm not around.
Now I'm working on point 3 with this new guy... we're at 6 months dating and I've never been selective before so... hoping this will work out. Basically I grew so confident in my own skin and my own life that I don't need a man anymore and I am independent, so either I'm getting the good shit or I want none of it.
This is a great vid. Much needed. As a guarded woman I have an issue even meeting men. I’m not gonna lie dating is hard. Although I don’t want to be alone I’m on the fence. The thought of being alone is way more appealing than wasting my time or being hurt. Unfortunately in my mind men and dating are a negative experience for me. I’m trying but not as optimistic as I was
Thank you for your candor and allowing women into the hearts and minds of men. All, can be so confusing and certainly, there are plenty of game out here. I'm going to trust God in my selection going forth, I'm going to honor God in my actions and reactions, I'm going to respect myself and Him and I'm going to refuse to compromise. I've tried it my way, at times, I have yielded my body and my soul and I've been nothing, but hurt. I am worth having and I know my worth and I believe there is a brother praying for me. I will not look for Him, I will not stop living, but I do believe I will encounter Him, in the meantime, ... I'm enough, I matter and I trust God.
😘💁🏽♀️ Amen sistah Pat
one day, we were on the phone and he said something like, "you won't let me do anything for you!" he was frustrated. ...i didn't say this to him, but i read that like a weakness of sorts; like he needed me to reduce myself in order for him to feel like a man. and i found it unattractive. but i get it now. and, now, i can even see his heart in some of his other actions (favors, awareness of me).
thanks.
I agree with not needing help but accepting it. I always try to get a man I am dealing with to invest something he values in me, whether that is time or money or effort, because from what I've observed, most men do not like to walk away from their investments...
I've lost contact with my daughter's father 9 years later neither of us moved on with the same emotions of not being able to move forward because, we truly loved each other. I'm sure he tried to move on just as much as I did. Nothing ever felt right though. Within the 9 years I've learned that my typical jealousy and insecure behavior is what killed what we had. Unnecessary, behavior never gets you any where in relationships or life itself. The best thing you can do as a woman is KNOW YOUR SELFWORTH. That alone will kill off jealousy and insecurity all on its own. Because you know your worth it.
God bless you! Literally, I hope HE blesses you. I loved that your delivery was clear, concise and sincere at the same time.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Kev,
You are so clear, true and direct. I could not be more proud of you for these on-point vids if I was your own Mom ❤❤❤
I appreciate that
Really. I had no idea. Seriously. Wow thanks. I have failed. I won't anymore though. My heart is not guarded anymore. I'm so glad I'm teachable. How loving of a Man to want to do all these things u have mentioned. So Masculine. I can appreciate, truly love n accept such a one of a kind Man. How blessed I would be in my relationship when it happens! YAAAAAAAAY!
Yes I need to tone it down- I’m very strong minded and was told it runs an average man away. When I see different- change will come.
I am strong minded, but I think of being in a relationship like being a good strong boss - no one likes a whiny micro manager.
A good boss clearly explains expectations, believes in others, is enthusiastic about their ideas, gives credit on results, if something goes wrong they take responsibility. A good boss encourages, pushes through hard things when needed, and gives time for rest. They are ready to let others lead too, and lead by values and virtues, not by force. They give space for every person to grow.
By being a good strong boss in our team of two bosses, I am also a good wife.
@Jasmyne Haywood I will “tone”it down once I see change. Strong minded women are very strategic, well respected and very unapologetic.
@Jasmyne Haywood I wouldn’t put up with such foolery- not worth it . Once you heal and learned a lesson- you become repellant to that nonsense. People will do as they please- the question is are you planning to entertain it. Best remedy of all when knowing is walking away- swiftly as possible. Toning it down is not about dumbing down to stay in some bs. Leaving a bad situation is the best remedy to heal and heighten your discernment.
You can not blieve in him if hes giving you every reason not to,we not here to heal a broken men ,we need a man who is ready!
WOW WOW WOW! #3 HIT ME HARRRRRDDDD!!!! THANK U KEV!!! GOD BLESS U!
Hi Kev,
Thank you for sharing so honestly, this helps me to see the traits of a good, honest guy. Sadly, some of us have not grown up with good role models. You are great and offering a great service. Thank you.🧡
Damn, I've stopped believing in my ex-bf's before, didn't realize it was so painful to them.
Then why do rappers leave the woman who inspired them in the beginning? Especially when they still believe in them years later?
Men are only as faithful as their options, that’s why you should never be the come up woman.
because they are upgraded and wanna upgrade the woman thazs why dont be a bob the builder 🤷
If they are the kind of rappers who refer to women as bitches and hoes....
@lavidavi Facts. Preach. Every man from my spouse to the dates I go all out for and "fix" shit. Take care of every need as well as my own. Thinking they'd feel proud, blessed,apprective and of course loving and loyal because of my actions. NOT!!!! They all used me. Husband ran off with a 15 year old. Next man took everything I had and gave to other women. The next used me for a place to live as to not be at his parents and lastly the hidden drug addict stole from me. I'm a good professional woman always has been independent but that's not what gets a good man. I'm at this point where I have reconciled with the thought I may never have a man's love or a relationship also I don't date not that anyone's interested. I don't have the energy to put anymore into a man for it to be me giving and getting nothing. I'm 51 years old so how long does that leave me?
@@201stars I say that all the time, a man is as faithful as his options💯
Facts!!! So Right. So On Point with this bro. Respect! Bless!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you!
Much thx to this grown man for imparting his wisdom!! Sooo appreciated. God bless you.
You are the best. Kev. Thank you for making black men look good and for being a good person. The best !!!
What if he doesn't give gifts, favors or compliments? Then when he does.. the woman doesn't know how to receive it bc it's unusual behavior... My husband told me in his own words that he "doesn't give me compliments bc he doesn't want it to go to my head.." then the same week asked me "why are you so insecure? You need to be more confident.."
Good info. I can see how these qualities can have an affect on men.
True a woman needs to know this is how a man loves you need to accept the love
:") I'm just watching this because I love Kevin's "big bro" vibe
You’re literally amazing. You’re speaking hard facts but in such a kind way. Thank you.
To summarize what you saying a man needs to feel that he is needed.
Thank you. I love your very clear, understandable explanation and 3 easy to follow guidelines.
I cry every single time watching your video
Ladies, I am a new fan of this Mr. Kev. The video he mentions here was worthwhile. He gets at an intimidation factor, and he reminds to stay gentle with men as we fiercely fight for our survival in the workplace. Kev. I believe it may have cleared up some miscommunication, I have been working through. Thank you.
Trait #2~the ability to inspire or encourage a man.
Trait # 3~~patience, selectivity & wisdom.
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You are a friend and brother to many ladies. God bless you dear✨🕉Sending positive vibes from India 💫❣️
Kev you dropping gems. I'm picking them up....I hear you.
This guy's videos made me jumping left and right not knowing should I move on or stay with my man... Because my boyfriend is doing a moderate amount of both red flags and genuine love... 🙄🙄
This channel is worth the watch...really good advices, no bs
+2;3:4;9;0;5;6;5;3;9;0;0;1;whatsup her for any kind of help she can help you because I was once like that to and she help me out ,,,,
You didn’t ramble this was perfect very very valuable information thank you
God bless you young man! You are very perceptive, insightful, caring, and wise beyond your years!
Thank you so much for the clear and value information you share.
Only let you know is not possible to access to the link with the videos you offer because there is a banner that doesn't allow to see them, just in case you don't know.
One of my Husband’s favorite thing about me is that I Love and understand most sports… He doesn’t appreciate my Lakers team but that’s ok 😎 he loves the Vikings because of me though 💜
Thank you for videos and creating single successful videos. May you and your family continue to be blessed! Have a great week!
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Kev Hicks, thank you for your videos and your time. Anytime I need guy advice I listen to your channel and it never steers me wrong. God always provides a way to give clarity and become wiser.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash