My mom left & my dad stayed to raise us. He raised 6 girls alone. He gave up his life for us. He started dating after the last 1 left. We give him cards on Mother's & Father's Day. We love you, dad. Thank you
@queent3343 Yes, they do & your Grandma sounds like an incredible woman. I'm sure she has such wisdom for us . We need to sit at the knees of our elders & learn, but sadly, today people cry, we don't have time.
@@jst2708 Unfortunately I didn't get to know her because my family traveled as my dad was in the military. She lived on through my mom and my aunts after my mom died. And I was lucky enough to get 10 of my aunts and uncles in a room together and hear the stories. And the picture of her playing piano with a cigarette in her mouth with a long ash pretty much summed up her whole personality. She was incredible.
I'm a new father. I have a two week old little girl. I see you're a family man, and also a veteran. I respect the hell out of you. So thanks for making this. I'll take whatever advice on upbringing you have. You're a rare sort of dude. It isn't everybody I would listen to on this subject.
Please heed this advice. He is spot on correct. Develop a relationship with your little girl. Tell her you love her….early and often. You won’t be a perfect father, but you will be her perfect daddy.
Congratulations! Listen to your gut as a parent. You have every right to pull rank as a parent to anyone that is not interacting with your child the way you deem best. Old lady at the grocery store reaching out for a cheek grab? Slap hand. Not today, champ.
I'm almost 36 with an almost 5 year old. I couldn't imagine the pain my daughter would feel if I was gone. I'm sorry you had to experience life without your dad. I'll give my daughter an extra big hug tonight
@@margeryojije7862No. I'm sorry, that's an incredibly odd question to ask. But the Bible is an excellent blueprint that only grows clearer with years of study and experience (as I walk out my salvation) if you were looking for answers in that regard. The Lord is a Father to the fatherless, and He's kept me in His mercy and grace through many trials and tribulations... despite the loss of my earthly father. Hope that helps 💝
This is also what son's need to see and hear so they can grow up to be like their father and treat their daughters and wives this way. Really wonderful Nick! Keep it coming! ❤
My father was 45 when I was born. He taught me so much! I learned carpentry, fishing, gardening and never giving up. He listened to me with no judgment. I have raised to wonderful children using him as an example and now I have the privelege of bringing that knowledge to 5 wonderful grandchildren. Nothing beats a great dad for any girl!
I have made so many comments on how much daughters NEED their dad's & I have gotten so many complaints & comments from men who say I don't know what I'm talking about & that's the mother's job. Thank you for saying this.
I think Nick would make an great President. He's strong, composed, compassionate, and understanding... All qualities this country is in desperate need of.
I'm married to a man very much like you, and I have heard him say the very same things you have said. I thank God there are still men like you two. I had no Dad growing up and can only imagine what a blessing it would have been if I had had a Dad like you.
I am so thankful I have a daughter. As a hard charging Marine veteran some people thought I couldn’t handle a daughter. I am so thankful we have her. She brought out a tenderness in me I didn’t know I had. I told her in my graduation letter to her in May that I love her like no other human being on the planet. It made her cry…….we cried together.
That was me too. When I was young, I remember praying to God that I wanted a husband who would be a great father to our children. I wanted them to be close with their dad and have that love that was denied me. God is good. He sent me such a man. Our kids are now grown, and they are both very close to their dad. It is a joy to my heart. You can break the cycle, don't let it pass down to another generation. Let's heal our land. God Bless.
Nick, this brought me to tears. Im the woman who always longed for this relationship with her dad. At 62, I've never had this, and all I can say is your daughters are so very lucky,and I hope they realize it. They are very blessed.
Thank you, im 56 and never had a father, well until i went through dark times, made it through to realize in my 40's I have always had a father that loved me and thats God.❤❤
I cared for my Dad in the last stages of dementia. It was a joy to be able to return some of the love he gave to me. He was the man you here encourage others to be. My prayer now is that my son will be this man also. ❤
My Daddy died when I was 13. I'm now 65 and still miss him. He was a WWII veteran and today would have been diagnosed with PTSD. Though he wasn't the greatest husband or father he was my father. Your monologue brough tears to my eyes. Thank you for caring, it takes a strong man to do that,
Thank you for sharing. I didn't have a biological father but my grandfather raised me and i understand the sentiment. I will forever be greatful he choose to he my father when he didn't have to
Thank you Nick, as a father of only girls, I have gotten some of this right and I’ve missed on a couple of points. My father didn’t want anything to do with me, and I have struggled with who and what I’m supposed to be all of my life and I really didn’t want children. I waited until I was in my 40s before starting a family. I resolved to do everything the opposite of what my father did in raising my girls and relied heavily on my wife. Society has destroyed the men in this country constantly portraying men as useless unnecessary idiots, and I’ve even noticed comments from my daughters regarding men that reinforce this thought process. I really appreciate what your doing here. It’s important to reaffirm that men and women are different, and created that way for a purpose. And people need to hear more of your wisdom. Thank you again.
I just want you to know Nick that this really struck a cord with me. I’m about to adopt the 11-year-old daughter of my wife and we have been having similar conversations as of late. Her actual father left before she was even born so before four years ago, she never had a dad. Because they come from a different culture it has been a challenge for me to make sure I was going to be the dad that she needed. But I’ve come to the realization that parenthood has nothing to do with where you live in the world or how you were raised, it has everything to do with love and trust. All the words you’ve said today are incredibly true and poignant, and I’ve sent a link to this to her so she can watch it and we can discuss it. And you are right, I have now found what I was looking for all my life, and that’s the love and trust of this little girl that’s going to become my daughter. Thanks again for your words of wisdom.
I am 63 and have never met my father. It is truly the one giant hole in my life. Father's, if you can't live with your family, please don't cut your daughters out of your life.
My ex wife has turned my daughters against me, they have blocked me and don’t want to see me anymore. It’s called parental alienation, it’s evil and I don’t wish it upon anyone. It’s a daily pain that I deal with, I now understand why fathers who have been kicked to the curb throw in the towel and end themselves. I am praying that when my girls grow up and become more aware that they allow me back into their lives, it’s the hope for the future which keeps me going, otherwise there is no point going on.
As a veteran father of two little girls younger than yours, bless you for giving me a foreshadow of what is to come, so that I may raise them the best I possibly can.
Nick, you made me cry listening to this. You describe the very father that my husband is to our three daughters. We are blessed to have him as your family is blessed to have you. A good dad is so damned important to his family and I'm grateful to know there are so many men that ARE those good dads. The one who will be goofy, who will be tender, and who will be Hell on earth for any who would harm those he loves. God bless!
I constantly question my own abilities and methods for being a good husband and good father. All that said and with my own self examination, I truly appreciate your words, I can be a goof ball, I can be tough, I can be tender, and I will very assuredly be hell on earth if someone tries to harm my family, or any other innocent for that matter. In short, your post was affirmation that maybe I’m not doing as poorly as I keep telling myself I am. I appreciate you. Tell your husband I said thank you for being one of the good guys. I appreciate him.
@@MAB3776sbeing openly critical of your abilities is always a good sign. Don't take that to the side that you must be doing everything wrong but being willing to examine yourself is one of thr most important characteristics as is. Keep it up and go bless your family
My father abused struggled me in unspeakable ways - but I survived the abuse. However, I never experienced the healthy love and struggled to have relationships where I felt safe and cared for. I know what I missed. I have such huge respect for you as a man, husband, and father. Thank you for sharing these important messages with us.
I had a girl bring up something I hadn't thought about before. She told me that her mother taught her that the girl's role was to please her man no matter what the cost. And I told her straight up that that was unhealthy and even dangerous -- that's how women get abused and killed. She agreed and said it was a huge point of contention between her and her mother. I asked if her mother had a Dad and she said yes, but all he did was beat his wife and kids. The girl I was speaking with said her father left when she was little, and never came back. Goes to show the power that the father wields, both for good and bad. This girl was trying to find a different approach to guys and stumbling through it because she knew her Mom's method was dangerous. I never met her Mom, but I can only surmise that the Mom's method came from this idea that she'll never be good enough and women have to fight for table scraps of approval and positive emotion. And now she felt she had to push that on her daughter because she didn't know anything else. Again, goes to show the power of good fatherhood versus bad fatherhood. It doesn't just affect the next generation. It affects multiple generations.
Thank you so much Mr Freitas for this video. My Dad was the most amazing person. He wore the makeup, played with me in the evening, and put me to bed at night. Sadly, he passed away when I was fourteen years old and I was left seeing my whole world fall apart. Luckily, as time went on, my mom found another amazing man to share her life with and my siblings and I gained an additional five family members. I am turning eighteen this year and there are so many new thing to learn and decisions to make. Thank you for helping me realize how important it is to take council from my parents and to listen to their advice. ❤
@@gsquared2394 You forgot to put a period at the end of your sentence. 😂😂😂Feel the literature of the message. It’s the message that’s important, not the composition.
@@loyalx1737 Thank you Loyal. I used to be a pedantic Copy Editor but several brain surgeries later my eyes, brain, and hands don't work like they used to. People like that are my karmic payback for all my fascist grammarian years. 🤣
@@lulumoon6942 GenX here, I made a living with my body all my life. aka hard work. Nothing works the same these days! One day at a time. I try to be positive , some days are harder than others. It felt good to read your words. 💪❤️
This was the sweetest video I have ever seen. I, unfortunately came from a broken home at 11 and never heard these words. This actually brought tears (a lot of them) to my eyes. Your girls (all 3 if them) are very lucky and very blessed. We sure could use more men like you.
I was just crying to my husband last night about this. I’ve been a mom for two months now. And, after knowing this love for my baby, I can’t stop wondering why I didn’t matter enough for my dad to love me like this. Despite living under the same roof, he was completely emotionally absent during my teenage years, and has been mostly absent in my adulthood. As a older teen and new adult, I sought that attention from boys, leading to many awful decisions and broken hearts. At the time, I thought it was fun, now looking back I see that little girl was just trying to fix something I didn’t break. When my husband and I were talking about getting married, I remember him asking about talking to my dad. I was confused about my husband wanting my dad’s blessing because I didn’t see my dad as someone with wise counsel who wanted the best for me. At my wedding, I ended our dad/daughter dance before the song was over because I knew what that moment should have meant, but it was just awkward and painful. Seeing my baby boy, I cannot imagine what could possibly stop me from loving him to the ends of the earth. By God’s grace, I married an amazing, Godly man. His true, selfless, devoted love to me helps at least patch up some of the hurt. But how I long to be loved by my dad the way Nick loves his daughters. Dads, love your daughters fiercely. Don’t be afraid to show them and to tell them. It matters a whole lot.
I am so sorry to hear about that happening to you. I married my wife last year and she went through something similar to you. We ended up getting eloped because of it. And as a man who married a woman similar to you and I trust that your husband would agree with this. I would choose my wife over any other. I love my wife like no other and no other will know that level of love. Scars and all. I want to remind you of how much God loves you. Not that I doubt you don't know but because it's such an important thing that can bring peace no matter the situation. God loves you so much that He died on a cross so that He can adopt you as His own daughter. A perfect and Loving Father who is always there to hear your pain and sorrow. I remind my wife of that often and it brings her peace and I hope it does the same for you. God bless you and your family.
Good for you. I had an absent dad but he provided well for the family.....then I married on the rebound.....left after 27 years..... forgive and trust God
There could be so many reasons for a parent to not show love for their child. My grandfather was like this towards his four daughters(one of which was my mon). After learning about his life I understand a bit. He was an alcoholic and had trauma from being in a gang as a kid.
This message was just as helpful as the one about what sons need. I have an 8 year old daughter and a 1 year old daughter as well as an 11yo son. She is an amazing girl, takes after her mother, superstar and very responsible and seeks approval. I always hear that daughters are easy at first but are harder when they come of age, so this advice will be carefully stowed away for when it’s needed, and for what is needed now will be taken very seriously and appreciatively. Thanks for helping fathers, who sometimes feel out of their depth but ultimately don’t have a choice but to be better, for their future families sake.
I wish I knew you when I was a child. None of what you said did i ever hear and Yes having heard these things would have VASTLY changed my world view as a child and young lady. Thank you for showing an old 55 yr old that there -are- quality fathers in this world.
Our first child (girl) was born 2 days after this video was released. There’s a lot of us who want to be good fathers, just like you lay it out in the video, because it instinctively ties into our masculinity. But you have no idea how much you help us by verbalizing all these concepts and being an example. God bless you man 🙏
Along with telling them I love you, I would add give them hugs even if they claim they don't care for hugs. There will be a day they need a hug, and they know where to get it. A year or so ago, our pastor stepped own for health, later diagnosed with leukemia, reasons, and the associate Pastor stepped up. Our pastor passed away last night, so today I had a daughter that needed a hug.
Very strong and awesome message! My wife and I just had our first kid, a little girl, 5 months ago, this video somehow made it to my TH-cam recommendation and I'm very glad it did!
I was in John Wayne's last movie called The Shootist. He made the movie in Carson City Nevada. It was his last movie. Mr. Wayne was so kind and gave me an autographed picture. He made the movie in 1976! I was 16!
I just watched this with my 10 year old daughter. She loved it. I very rarely feel like a good dad but at least she has heard that I love her “one hundred trillion “ times. Thanks!
1. This should be required in all pre-marital counseling! 2. My dad abandoned us when I was an infant, and I needed his love. I became a walking signpost which read, "Abuse Victim." Now as a Mom and gram, I work hard to make the "children" in my life feel loved and accepted. But the dads', grandpas', and maybe even uncles' words and actions migt make a greater impact.
Amazing talk sir, thanks so much for taking the time to share this. This is wisdom that can't be bought with any amount of money. Dads, y'all need to save this video and rewatch it at least once a year!
This really touched me because I never was close to my father. When I was about eleven years old, he told me he didn't love me and neither would anyone else because I wasn't smart or pretty. His favorite "dig" was " I'd rather be dead, than red on the head!" I hated being a redhead because of that. He had his own demons but projected his pain onto his children. I have forgiven him but the damage a bad father can do is immense! I'm sixty-three and to this date, I have never felt I was loved. All fathers need to realize they wield a great deal of power over how their children perceive themselves and should guard their tongues when speaking to their children.
My step father, who came into my life at age 13. He told me I was a fat b*tch and no one would ever love. When my husband asked me to marry him, at age 20, I was shocked. We were married 30 years until death parted us. Even though my husband told me he loved me every day, I didn’t believe him because of the lies my step father told me and continued throughout my entire life. My step father was verbally and physically abusive. Praise God, not only did my husband tell our daughters he loved them every day and they were beautiful; HE BROKE THE CYCLE OF ABUSE!
Just letting you know … redheads are lovely. I’m sorry you weren’t hearing that, and that you were loved-especially from your father-sixty-three years ago and on.
I'm very sorry to hear that. I can relate to your experience. Parents can be so cruel! I've had a similar experience with my father even though maybe not quite to that extent. My father never said I wasn't smart but he called me ugly and hideous and made fun of my nose when he already knew I was being bullied in school because of my looks. He said it's actually better and safer to be ugly so he wouldn't have to deal with the risk of "teenage pregnancies". I always loved him though despite all that and still do because my mom was even worse. But you're absolutely right, the impact that a father or a mother can have on their children's well being and mental health is huge! No child should be treated like that! It makes me so mad. My mom on the otherhand was an alcoholic and she didn't stop drinking despite being pregnant with me so I ended up with FASD because of her, but it could've been worse if my father hadn't punched her at one point during that time. Somehow she was able to snap out of it but even if I don't condone violence, my father has still been the one who saved me from her abuse in many situations. I'm trying my best to forgive them both but it definitely isn't an easy process. I understand where you're coming from. I'll pray for your healing ❤🙏🏻🥺
My friend suggested you to me and he is 19 and I am 13 and I think that this was one of the best videos I’ve seen of how to teach someone to grow up obviously that doesn’t mean that much from a 13-year-old, but I have been watching you and I really like what you stand for And how you do things and I will be watching this hopefully whenever I have my daughter and I watched your son one too and that one meant a lot because I am a boy I feel like how you make memories are so amazing and after watching your videos, I’ve realized how important memories are to kids and to me so thank you
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m sitting here at my kitchen table crying over the three girls I raised by myself who have rejected me for various reasons which I don’t know. I hope you have healing and God will help you reconcile the pain. Whether your father is alive or not, and whether or not you saw him apologize. You have a loving father in God, who is all of those things and fill in the gaps and provides ultimate healing and love when there are crappy fathers like me. Bless you.
@@HB-Nation My father was not abusive. He was just weak and distant. Part of my ongoing issues is that I struggle with the image of God as loving and personal. I’m a believer, but that analogy doesn’t resonate with me.
@@marthacalkins8054 this is going to sound harsh, but there is so much grace & freedom on the other side if you’re willing to submit to truth. I’m coming from a similar background and am now out the other side - you need to (out loud) repent of judging God to be like your father, weak and distant. Uncaring, unloving. Repent for believing lies about who God is and for ultimately calling God a liar. Then ask Him for mercy, to show you who He is and give you a revelation of His love. Then confess the truth at every opportunity about who God says He is - and LEAD your heart out of the lies it fell into. It’s not easy but you will break free if you do this ❤ and, I’m so sorry the enemy stole such a precious thing from your life - the strong and unrelenting, unending love of God ❤
I have two little girls and one young son; raising them so far, albeit only 7+ years so far, has been the most challenging, most rewarding, best honor of my life. Thank you for sharing your insight. It reinforces that I’m doing many things right and reminds me I can always do better.
Wise words. Love it. Every day I strive to be this man / father. Fellow me, it is well worth it. I am lucky every day with my not so little girl and looking forward to many more days before I leave this earth. It is pretty cool to see them grown and become strong and confident.
Mr Freitas…thank you for your input, you have a great outlook on life, with great advice and you’re also pretty damn funny in your short reels…we need more men like you
Good work. Smart. Honest. I was gratified when my daughter told me I was always there for her, (no doubt someone was sowing the seeds of discontent), and I will as long as I am able. She's coming over tonight for dinner.
I'm a girl dad, my little mouse is 20 months old, Nick, all of the girl dad advise that you have given to us over the last few years has been so spot on!! I really want to thanks you for being open and willing to share your experience and insight with those of us who are trying to feel our way forward in this wonderful and crazy time!!
Very well said man. My girls are 15 and 13 now.. seeing them grow has been amazing to say the least, truly incredible how fast time goes by. I always tell new dads enjoy every minute. Cheers
Great video for dads of all ages. One additional point to reiterate is that you absolutely must tell your daughter that she is beautiful. I would frequently tell my daughter that I love her and she wouldn’t react much but when I told her that she was beautiful, it stopped her in her tracks. It was at that instant that I realized how important it was for her to hear that from me.
As a father of 3 girls I can absolutely confirm what Nick is talking about. I can't say I'm perfect, but this conversation/video does help me realize I'm doing more right than wrong as a girl dad. It's also a good reminder to listen to your inner self instead of fight against yourself when it comes to how to approach situations with your kids. For example, I like to rile up the girls with sillyness before bedtime, but sometimes I fight against that desire in favor of keeping the house quiet and calm. My Wife and I didn't have kids so we can make a calm and quiet world, we had kids so we can have a joy filled world.' Also, Nick run for president already!
As a bachelor who is currently intrested in dating a woman I've met, I am saving this vid for a future time when I am already married and about to become a father. As the only brother among three sisters, I saw as a teenager my late father having to step in to save one of my older sisters from physical abuse at the hands of her thug boyfriend from a criminal gang. My late father wasn't perfect by any means, but that was one of the qualities I admired in him as a teenage son. Thank you being so candid Nick.
Thank you as of right now I have been a single dad of 3 for 2 years and my daughter is my oldest. I’m plan on marrying my fiancée next year. I plan on continuing to show my daughter how she should be treated and the love she deserves. Thank you for the insight.
Oh my GOD, how I wish that you had been my Dad. My father never, ever thought like this. (His theory of parenting was as follows: "It's my way - or the highway". This led me to marry (wrongly as it turned out) (duh!) the first man who asked me to marry him. All I wanted was out of his house!! I thought my now ex-husband was going to fill in all those empty places. I was so darn wrong. Thank You, for giving me this. I hope that through your church somehow or some other way, you can spread this message of love and strength and compassion to the young men that might someday marry the women of their dreams, not just an Escape route. GOD BLESS YOU SIR!!!
My daughter was born just a bit over 2 months ago and I've had an amazing journey with her and my wife. Thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear it from a father figure I respect such as yourself. I wish my dad was alive but I'm happy that the world gives me options to choose from who to listen to and take to heart!
You are making me miss my Dad even more today! He was and is my hero. I never doubted his love for me because he told me every day! My husband is very like my Dad. They had a great love and respect for each other that filled my heart with joy! My husband misses my Dad as much as I do and we refer to him often. Thank you!
Man I gotta say... what an amazing video. I see your shorts all the time but have never seen a long form content until this. You have earned my respect and a sub. Listen to everything this guy is telling you if you have a girl or girls... because he is 100% dead on correct. Make more videos like this... we need more dads out there like us... thank you.
Thank you very much for this video Nick. I listened to it as i was trying to help my daughter fall asleep in her stroller after crying for hours. I was losing my patience, but this reminded me how precious my little girl is, no matter how exhausting it may be.
I have never in my 42 years commented on any social media. As a dad of a 9 year daughter 7 year old son I can say you not only knocked this out of the park and confirmed what I was doing right but you also added to things I need to be aware of in the future. Thank you Nick, for the genuine,honest, and thoughtfulness of this post. It is clear your daughter's do not only respect you, but love you too! With much respect and gratitude, Ryan Landry.. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Sad fact: i did these things for my daughters, but in the midst of covid, they canceled me for not getting the jab along with many other parents around the world. My girls got woke and started canceling. Sad but true. I hope they will change someday. A dads love never ends
By chance i found your channel. I have 2 boys and 1 girl. My wife and i have raised them in the old school ways in todays different life. They are 25 to 16 now. Raised to respect themselves and others. My 16 year old daughter is taught and told what you speak. No dating for the same reason. I thank you for being a back up to my mindset and also to allow my kids to see there are others who raise kids the same as we do in these trying times. Thank you. Cheers.
Nick, I'm 27 years old, my wife is 33, and we have one incredibly intelligent and exuberant almost 2 year old little ball of joy that i have the privilege of hearing her little voice fill the halls with 'dada' all hours of the day. I had my dad in my life, though he wasn't much of a good one as far as emotions and proper life prep goes, he did the best he could. I THOROUGHLY take to heart and appreciate the advice you give, and i gotta say, i find it strengthens not only myself daily, but the relationships with my wife and my daughter, and i'm even teaching my dad a thing or 2, courtesy of you. Please continue to do what you do, and give the advice you give, because so many of us men nowadays were never properly prepared by our parents in one way or another, and not everyone had the benefit of a strong and positive masculine force in their life
Had to blow my nose multiples times while watching this, as it just reminded me of all the things my dad has done for me. The Lord blessed me with a father like Nick, and I’m so overwhelmingly grateful for it. I love him so much.
My oldest daughter was born on Veterans Day , she was due two weeks earlier but life has it's own timing. She was born four days AFTER her Daddy left for Army boot camp. The Red Cross couldn't find him for days and then his choice was, come home and start over or stick it out and be done sooner. He first saw his daughter at over a month old. A baby girl was a veteran, just like her Daddy.
Thank you sir, you helped me ! You are same sort of guy as Dewayne Noel. Its nice to see more and more channels with people that are trying to teach how to respect traditional values and make the world better. Thanks again !
I am on a healing journey with my dad and today I am so chocked up. Thank you Nick for being willing to let me know that I deserved to hear those things. Thanks for being that man. I share all your stuff with my husband for our daughter now getting ready to get married... and for my boys who are raising girls as well. 😢
What great service you are doing for fathers, daughters and families! God has put you in a position to help! Thank You from a daughter that wished her dad would have been there for her!
I find this extremely helpful, and even though our circumstances are very different , her mother and I don't and won't live together, the advice is priceless. I can only hope that I can be the she needs. I have told her mother that I intend to be the best father I can. Your words here reinforce that I am trying and some advice for me as she grows up. Please know even being much older than you, I learned a lot today that will help.
This is probably the best podcast you've ever done...My wish is that every father on earth could hear this.....I think one of the biggest problem we face today is a lack of real fathers....Any man can be a Daddy, but can you be a father!
Awesome advice Nick . My youngest daughter just turned 21 , and she has been and continues to be a real blessing for us , as does her older sister and brother . I remember as a 5 yr old she used to practice painting my toenails . One night I forgot to clean the nail polish off and went off to work early next morning . My boots had got wet so I took them and my socks off back at base and wondered why all my work mates were laughing . Then there was the time she jumped off her motor cross bike to chase after a wild cat with kittens . Smuggled a kitten into the house in her jacket and the rest is history haha . Fathers , spend time with your children because time goes quickly and you will lock back either regretting lost opportunities , or glad to have enjoyed the most formative part of their life .
My Father was born in 1919, first generation immigrant. Went through the depression, working from age 11 on, and was a pilot in WWII. He was an amazing dad. Hard working, ethical, warm and loving. He also knew the location of every Baskin Robbins in southern California. My favorite bit of his wisdom? "Spanking never did you any good, but it sure as hell made me feel better."
😂 My mother found shouting and spanking a great outlet for her inability to handle children effectively. She felt so much better. I laugh because I figured her out early on. I thought , by age nine or so, that she was clueless. At twelve I told her to never raise a hand to me again because she should find a way to manage her anger. This was in the early 1950’s.
My grandfather was born in 1919 and a WWII army air corps veteran. North Africa and Italy in the 15th. He was 1 of 14 children, 5 boys went over, they all came home. Different I’m sure, but very very good christian men and very good fathers. The last of the 5 veterans just passed last month. Just sharing my family story, God bless.
It’s so sweet, I’ve grown and known that the father’s role in the counsel of who her daughter should be with is priceless. I’ve had to learn how to do it myself and it’s hard when feelings so easily cloud judgement. I wish I’ll be able to find a good man as a husband and father of my future children, your daughters are so blessed ❤
Nick, so glad that you talked about this. My wife passed away due to cancer. My daughter was devastated. I have had a tough road with her in trying to maintain our relationship. Gives me ideas to make our relationship better. Thank you.
I ended up going through a divorce (my ex announced this when our infant son was 3 weeks old) and raised my son essentially alone. I have learned SO much about males watching my son raise his children. I don’t know how he learned it, but I can’t take credit, AND I am so glad he did learn it. I am proud of him and my daughter in love, and my grandson and his bride who are about to become parents.
I have three daughters all born in the 1980s. We didn't have access to internet and no TH-cam for tutorials, etc.. i worked most of the time and wish i had spent better quality time with them. Too much to discuss on all this. They all are wonderful women and assets to their communities. Praise GOD! So glad i watched this.
@ETC_Rohaly_USCG Being able to produce a child is not what makes you a dad. It's the love you have for the child & how you parent them. All kids want is a dad who will love them & be there for them So yes, you can be a dad.
For the past decade I’ve struggled with the idea of having children, largely due to the fact that I didn’t have a father who told me these things when I was growing up. Thank you for stating them so clearly and sincerely in this video. I’m definitely saving this (and its counterpart about raising sons) to share with my future husband. There is a season and a time for all things, and I believe God sent me this video to prepare me for motherhood. Thanks to Him, thanks to you, and God bless you and your family.
I never had a daughter, although I have three sons. From what I’ve observed, everyone needs a good dad, I find myself saying things that my dad taught me, and a much older gentleman than I states that the things I repeat from own father, he wished he could have heard from his own dad. Just goes to show, society in general needs good dads. And some days I even get nicknamed “dad” from a couple of our apprentices.
My father was raised by a terrible man and as a result my father failed me in numerous ways that affected me adversely for the majority of my life. Good fathers and male role models are vital to a healthy society. It's incredible how many people undervalue the importance of good men for the good of us all. Thank you for taking your role to heart.
I appreciate this video. My daughters only 4, but they have told me i won't be around to watch her live these moments. Im working on writing letters for her to be given at different points in her life, and this really helped me put into prospective what she would need to hear from me when im gone. Im not scared to die but thinking about her having to go through life without her dad terrifies me.
They may not remember everything about their Dad doing things with them but photos help too. My Dad died when I was 3 he was a Marine. My mom later married a man who literally puts the word Dad to shame the little bit of joy I get are the photos of my Dad (who was only 19 or 20 in most of the few photos I have. He read to me every night even though I didn’t understand the story, he sang songs to me (he was a massive Beatles fan and I am too) he changed diapers, fed me, bathed me helped me learn to walk. My mom’s second husband was never a dad to me or his son with my mom and it showed in my growing up. But at least I have the 6 photos of my dad and I.
My Dad didn’t have the time of day for my sister and I, and it has affected us both greatly throughout our lives. I’m grateful to have a wonderful stepfather that is Godly and treats my Mother with love and respect, but nothing will ever fill that gaping hole.
My mom left & my dad stayed to raise us. He raised 6 girls alone. He gave up his life for us.
He started dating after the last 1 left.
We give him cards on Mother's & Father's Day.
We love you, dad. Thank you
Nick, I am an 83 year old woman who never heard most of these words from my father. Thank you. ❤
Perfect! You are so blessed❤️🩹🎈
That's great. Mothers do it every day. My grandmother raised 12 after she was widowed young.
@queent3343 Yes, they do & your Grandma sounds like an incredible woman. I'm sure she has such wisdom for us . We need to sit at the knees of our elders & learn, but sadly, today people cry, we don't have time.
@@jst2708 Unfortunately I didn't get to know her because my family traveled as my dad was in the military. She lived on through my mom and my aunts after my mom died. And I was lucky enough to get 10 of my aunts and uncles in a room together and hear the stories. And the picture of her playing piano with a cigarette in her mouth with a long ash pretty much summed up her whole personality. She was incredible.
I'm a new father. I have a two week old little girl. I see you're a family man, and also a veteran. I respect the hell out of you. So thanks for making this. I'll take whatever advice on upbringing you have. You're a rare sort of dude. It isn't everybody I would listen to on this subject.
Please heed this advice. He is spot on correct. Develop a relationship with your little girl. Tell her you love her….early and often. You won’t be a perfect father, but you will be her perfect daddy.
@@chooch61 ☝️☝️☝️
Congratulations!
Listen to your gut as a parent. You have every right to pull rank as a parent to anyone that is not interacting with your child the way you deem best.
Old lady at the grocery store reaching out for a cheek grab? Slap hand. Not today, champ.
Well stated Altrag, Nick is one of the best !
I'm listening to everything he says in hindsight. He's a great role model for all young men.
I'm 36 years old... my daddy passed when I was 5. I still remember his silliness... and I still miss his hugs. Yes, we remember 💝
I'm almost 36 with an almost 5 year old. I couldn't imagine the pain my daughter would feel if I was gone. I'm sorry you had to experience life without your dad. I'll give my daughter an extra big hug tonight
@@Aristophocles 🥲🤗🙏 thank you. God bless you 💝
@@margeryojije7862No. I'm sorry, that's an incredibly odd question to ask. But the Bible is an excellent blueprint that only grows clearer with years of study and experience (as I walk out my salvation) if you were looking for answers in that regard. The Lord is a Father to the fatherless, and He's kept me in His mercy and grace through many trials and tribulations... despite the loss of my earthly father. Hope that helps 💝
As a girl dad going through a divorce; your words are a strong reminder to be there for my daughter no matter what. Thank you!
The best thing you can do for your daughter is to love her mother. The damage from divorced parents on children is profound.
This is also what son's need to see and hear so they can grow up to be like their father and treat their daughters and wives this way. Really wonderful Nick! Keep it coming! ❤
My father was 45 when I was born. He taught me so much! I learned carpentry, fishing, gardening and never giving up. He listened to me with no judgment. I have raised to wonderful children using him as an example and now I have the privelege of bringing that knowledge to 5 wonderful grandchildren. Nothing beats a great dad for any girl!
I have made so many comments on how much daughters NEED their dad's & I have gotten so many complaints & comments from men who say I don't know what I'm talking about & that's the mother's job.
Thank you for saying this.
Those men aren't real men maybe no one showed them such a shame. Good for you
Those "men" must not be fathers of daughters.
Those men prey on daughters with absentee fathers….
Ask these men, "Do you want a girl with an OF account? Cause that's the first step in getting one."
Those “men” must didn’t have mothers growing up. Such a stupid and immature thing for them to say.
Having a daughter is an incredible privilege and honor that requires us dads to become better human beings.
Hell yes!
My daughter saved my life. Literally.
@@chuckschwaab That is fantastic to hear! Daughters are such special people.
Daughters for the win yes!
I think Nick would make an great President.
He's strong, composed, compassionate, and understanding...
All qualities this country is in desperate need of.
We need him at the team level.
I had the same thought the other day!!
I would never wish that on him. He’s a good man.
Absolutely YES! ❤
Very much agreed.
I'm married to a man very much like you, and I have heard him say the very same things you have said. I thank God there are still men like you two. I had no Dad growing up and can only imagine what a blessing it would have been if I had had a Dad like you.
I am so thankful I have a daughter. As a hard charging Marine veteran some people thought I couldn’t handle a daughter. I am so thankful we have her. She brought out a tenderness in me I didn’t know I had. I told her in my graduation letter to her in May that I love her like no other human being on the planet. It made her cry…….we cried together.
As someone without a close relationship with their dad. I always get teary-eyed whenever i see stuff like this😢.
So sorry to hear that. Hugs from a Daddy to a 30 y/o who will always be my little girl. She is my everything.❤
@Just.A.Little.Gem. - I wasn't. My adoptive dad was antithetical, and it cuts like a knife
Me too...❤
You're not alone..
Me too!
That was me too. When I was young, I remember praying to God that I wanted a husband who would be a great father to our children. I wanted them to be close with their dad and have that love that was denied me. God is good. He sent me such a man. Our kids are now grown, and they are both very close to their dad. It is a joy to my heart. You can break the cycle, don't let it pass down to another generation. Let's heal our land. God Bless.
Nick, this brought me to tears. Im the woman who always longed for this relationship with her dad. At 62, I've never had this, and all I can say is your daughters are so very lucky,and I hope they realize it. They are very blessed.
Love these. Real men talking about real men things.
Thank you, im 56 and never had a father, well until i went through dark times, made it through to realize in my 40's I have always had a father that loved me and thats God.❤❤
I cared for my Dad in the last stages of dementia. It was a joy to be able to return some of the love he gave to me. He was the man you here encourage others to be. My prayer now is that my son will be this man also. ❤
My Daddy died when I was 13. I'm now 65 and still miss him. He was a WWII veteran and today would have been diagnosed with PTSD. Though he wasn't the greatest husband or father he was my father.
Your monologue brough tears to my eyes. Thank you for caring, it takes a strong man to do that,
Thank you for sharing. I didn't have a biological father but my grandfather raised me and i understand the sentiment. I will forever be greatful he choose to he my father when he didn't have to
Thank you Nick, as a father of only girls, I have gotten some of this right and I’ve missed on a couple of points. My father didn’t want anything to do with me, and I have struggled with who and what I’m supposed to be all of my life and I really didn’t want children. I waited until I was in my 40s before starting a family. I resolved to do everything the opposite of what my father did in raising my girls and relied heavily on my wife. Society has destroyed the men in this country constantly portraying men as useless unnecessary idiots, and I’ve even noticed comments from my daughters regarding men that reinforce this thought process. I really appreciate what your doing here. It’s important to reaffirm that men and women are different, and created that way for a purpose. And people need to hear more of your wisdom. Thank you again.
A father showing softness and love is a sign of true strength.
I just want you to know Nick that this really struck a cord with me. I’m about to adopt the 11-year-old daughter of my wife and we have been having similar conversations as of late. Her actual father left before she was even born so before four years ago, she never had a dad. Because they come from a different culture it has been a challenge for me to make sure I was going to be the dad that she needed. But I’ve come to the realization that parenthood has nothing to do with where you live in the world or how you were raised, it has everything to do with love and trust. All the words you’ve said today are incredibly true and poignant, and I’ve sent a link to this to her so she can watch it and we can discuss it. And you are right, I have now found what I was looking for all my life, and that’s the love and trust of this little girl that’s going to become my daughter. Thanks again for your words of wisdom.
I am 63 and have never met my father. It is truly the one giant hole in my life. Father's, if you can't live with your family, please don't cut your daughters out of your life.
Look up " Parental Nullification."
A very good chance this is why your Father stayed away. Perhaps he was given No Choice.
Best Wishes! M.H
And daughters should not cut their fathers out of their lives…
@@Maynardd yeah but they’re the child, not the parent. The responsibility is on the one who made them
My ex wife has turned my daughters against me, they have blocked me and don’t want to see me anymore. It’s called parental alienation, it’s evil and I don’t wish it upon anyone. It’s a daily pain that I deal with, I now understand why fathers who have been kicked to the curb throw in the towel and end themselves. I am praying that when my girls grow up and become more aware that they allow me back into their lives, it’s the hope for the future which keeps me going, otherwise there is no point going on.
I am 70 and never heard my father say anything on your list. I loved him but never had much of a relationship with him. Thank you for doing this.
As a veteran father of two little girls younger than yours, bless you for giving me a foreshadow of what is to come, so that I may raise them the best I possibly can.
Nick, you made me cry listening to this. You describe the very father that my husband is to our three daughters. We are blessed to have him as your family is blessed to have you. A good dad is so damned important to his family and I'm grateful to know there are so many men that ARE those good dads. The one who will be goofy, who will be tender, and who will be Hell on earth for any who would harm those he loves. God bless!
I constantly question my own abilities and methods for being a good husband and good father. All that said and with my own self examination, I truly appreciate your words, I can be a goof ball, I can be tough, I can be tender, and I will very assuredly be hell on earth if someone tries to harm my family, or any other innocent for that matter.
In short, your post was affirmation that maybe I’m not doing as poorly as I keep telling myself I am. I appreciate you. Tell your husband I said thank you for being one of the good guys. I appreciate him.
@@MAB3776sbeing openly critical of your abilities is always a good sign. Don't take that to the side that you must be doing everything wrong but being willing to examine yourself is one of thr most important characteristics as is. Keep it up and go bless your family
My father abused struggled me in unspeakable ways - but I survived the abuse. However, I never experienced the healthy love and struggled to have relationships where I felt safe and cared for. I know what I missed. I have such huge respect for you as a man, husband, and father. Thank you for sharing these important messages with us.
I had a girl bring up something I hadn't thought about before. She told me that her mother taught her that the girl's role was to please her man no matter what the cost. And I told her straight up that that was unhealthy and even dangerous -- that's how women get abused and killed. She agreed and said it was a huge point of contention between her and her mother. I asked if her mother had a Dad and she said yes, but all he did was beat his wife and kids. The girl I was speaking with said her father left when she was little, and never came back.
Goes to show the power that the father wields, both for good and bad.
This girl was trying to find a different approach to guys and stumbling through it because she knew her Mom's method was dangerous. I never met her Mom, but I can only surmise that the Mom's method came from this idea that she'll never be good enough and women have to fight for table scraps of approval and positive emotion. And now she felt she had to push that on her daughter because she didn't know anything else.
Again, goes to show the power of good fatherhood versus bad fatherhood. It doesn't just affect the next generation. It affects multiple generations.
Absolutely true. 💯 One generation's screwups affects all that follows.
Thank you so much Mr Freitas for this video. My Dad was the most amazing person. He wore the makeup, played with me in the evening, and put me to bed at night. Sadly, he passed away when I was fourteen years old and I was left seeing my whole world fall apart. Luckily, as time went on, my mom found another amazing man to share her life with and my siblings and I gained an additional five family members. I am turning eighteen this year and there are so many new thing to learn and decisions to make. Thank you for helping me realize how important it is to take council from my parents and to listen to their advice. ❤
Strong Father's make Strong Daughter's! 👍💪🙏🕊️
You don’t need an apostrophe in either of those words. They are plural, not possessive
@@gsquared2394 You forgot to put a period at the end of your sentence. 😂😂😂Feel the literature of the message. It’s the message that’s important, not the composition.
@@loyalx1737 Thank you Loyal. I used to be a pedantic Copy Editor but several brain surgeries later my eyes, brain, and hands don't work like they used to. People like that are my karmic payback for all my fascist grammarian years. 🤣
@@lulumoon6942 GenX here, I made a living with my body all my life. aka hard work. Nothing works the same these days! One day at a time. I try to be positive , some days are harder than others. It felt good to read your words. 💪❤️
This was the sweetest video I have ever seen. I, unfortunately came from a broken home at 11 and never heard these words. This actually brought tears (a lot of them) to my eyes. Your girls (all 3 if them) are very lucky and very blessed. We sure could use more men like you.
I have a teenage daughter 14, and a 6 yr old daughter. Life gets so stressful and busy. It is good to be reminded of things like this.
I was just crying to my husband last night about this. I’ve been a mom for two months now. And, after knowing this love for my baby, I can’t stop wondering why I didn’t matter enough for my dad to love me like this. Despite living under the same roof, he was completely emotionally absent during my teenage years, and has been mostly absent in my adulthood. As a older teen and new adult, I sought that attention from boys, leading to many awful decisions and broken hearts. At the time, I thought it was fun, now looking back I see that little girl was just trying to fix something I didn’t break.
When my husband and I were talking about getting married, I remember him asking about talking to my dad. I was confused about my husband wanting my dad’s blessing because I didn’t see my dad as someone with wise counsel who wanted the best for me. At my wedding, I ended our dad/daughter dance before the song was over because I knew what that moment should have meant, but it was just awkward and painful.
Seeing my baby boy, I cannot imagine what could possibly stop me from loving him to the ends of the earth.
By God’s grace, I married an amazing, Godly man. His true, selfless, devoted love to me helps at least patch up some of the hurt. But how I long to be loved by my dad the way Nick loves his daughters.
Dads, love your daughters fiercely. Don’t be afraid to show them and to tell them. It matters a whole lot.
I am so sorry to hear about that happening to you. I married my wife last year and she went through something similar to you. We ended up getting eloped because of it. And as a man who married a woman similar to you and I trust that your husband would agree with this. I would choose my wife over any other. I love my wife like no other and no other will know that level of love. Scars and all.
I want to remind you of how much God loves you. Not that I doubt you don't know but because it's such an important thing that can bring peace no matter the situation. God loves you so much that He died on a cross so that He can adopt you as His own daughter. A perfect and Loving Father who is always there to hear your pain and sorrow. I remind my wife of that often and it brings her peace and I hope it does the same for you. God bless you and your family.
Good for you.
I had an absent dad but he provided well for the family.....then I married on the rebound.....left after 27 years..... forgive and trust God
There could be so many reasons for a parent to not show love for their child. My grandfather was like this towards his four daughters(one of which was my mon). After learning about his life I understand a bit. He was an alcoholic and had trauma from being in a gang as a kid.
I'm 68 yrs. old and would've loved to have a Father like you. I would have just loved to have known someone like you.
This message was just as helpful as the one about what sons need.
I have an 8 year old daughter and a 1 year old daughter as well as an 11yo son.
She is an amazing girl, takes after her mother, superstar and very responsible and seeks approval.
I always hear that daughters are easy at first but are harder when they come of age, so this advice will be carefully stowed away for when it’s needed, and for what is needed now will be taken very seriously and appreciatively.
Thanks for helping fathers, who sometimes feel out of their depth but ultimately don’t have a choice but to be better, for their future families sake.
I wish I knew you when I was a child. None of what you said did i ever hear and Yes having heard these things would have VASTLY changed my world view as a child and young lady. Thank you for showing an old 55 yr old that there -are- quality fathers in this world.
Our first child (girl) was born 2 days after this video was released. There’s a lot of us who want to be good fathers, just like you lay it out in the video, because it instinctively ties into our masculinity. But you have no idea how much you help us by verbalizing all these concepts and being an example. God bless you man 🙏
Along with telling them I love you, I would add give them hugs even if they claim they don't care for hugs. There will be a day they need a hug, and they know where to get it.
A year or so ago, our pastor stepped own for health, later diagnosed with leukemia, reasons, and the associate Pastor stepped up. Our pastor passed away last night, so today I had a daughter that needed a hug.
Amen. Good on you keep it up brother.
Very strong and awesome message! My wife and I just had our first kid, a little girl, 5 months ago, this video somehow made it to my TH-cam recommendation and I'm very glad it did!
I was in John Wayne's last movie called The Shootist. He made the movie in Carson City Nevada. It was his last movie. Mr. Wayne was so kind and gave me an autographed picture. He made the movie in 1976! I was 16!
That’s so cool
Yep. I lived in Washoe Valley when that movie was shot. 💪👏👌
I just watched this with my 10 year old daughter. She loved it. I very rarely feel like a good dad but at least she has heard that I love her “one hundred trillion “ times. Thanks!
1. This should be required in all pre-marital counseling!
2. My dad abandoned us when I was an infant, and I needed his love. I became a walking signpost which read, "Abuse Victim." Now as a Mom and gram, I work hard to make the "children" in my life feel loved and accepted. But the dads', grandpas', and maybe even uncles' words and actions migt make a greater impact.
Thank you for the reminders.
Amazing talk sir, thanks so much for taking the time to share this. This is wisdom that can't be bought with any amount of money. Dads, y'all need to save this video and rewatch it at least once a year!
Agreed
This really touched me because I never was close to my father. When I was about eleven years old, he told me he didn't love me and neither would anyone else because I wasn't smart or pretty. His favorite "dig" was " I'd rather be dead, than red on the head!" I hated being a redhead because of that. He had his own demons but projected his pain onto his children. I have forgiven him but the damage a bad father can do is immense! I'm sixty-three and to this date, I have never felt I was loved. All fathers need to realize they wield a great deal of power over how their children perceive themselves and should guard their tongues when speaking to their children.
My step father, who came into my life at age 13. He told me I was a fat b*tch and no one would ever love. When my husband asked me to marry him, at age 20, I was shocked. We were married 30 years until death parted us. Even though my husband told me he loved me every day, I didn’t believe him because of the lies my step father told me and continued throughout my entire life. My step father was verbally and physically abusive. Praise God, not only did my husband tell our daughters he loved them every day and they were beautiful; HE BROKE THE CYCLE OF ABUSE!
😢😭 oh my, how heartbreaking, so sorry that was said to you.
Just letting you know … redheads are lovely. I’m sorry you weren’t hearing that, and that you were loved-especially from your father-sixty-three years ago and on.
Weird when a father picks just one kid out of three to be nice to
I'm very sorry to hear that. I can relate to your experience. Parents can be so cruel! I've had a similar experience with my father even though maybe not quite to that extent. My father never said I wasn't smart but he called me ugly and hideous and made fun of my nose when he already knew I was being bullied in school because of my looks. He said it's actually better and safer to be ugly so he wouldn't have to deal with the risk of "teenage pregnancies".
I always loved him though despite all that and still do because my mom was even worse. But you're absolutely right, the impact that a father or a mother can have on their children's well being and mental health is huge! No child should be treated like that! It makes me so mad.
My mom on the otherhand was an alcoholic and she didn't stop drinking despite being pregnant with me so I ended up with FASD because of her, but it could've been worse if my father hadn't punched her at one point during that time. Somehow she was able to snap out of it but even if I don't condone violence, my father has still been the one who saved me from her abuse in many situations. I'm trying my best to forgive them both but it definitely isn't an easy process.
I understand where you're coming from.
I'll pray for your healing ❤🙏🏻🥺
So many daughter's lives would be helped so much if Fathers would say "I love You" ..
My friend suggested you to me and he is 19 and I am 13 and I think that this was one of the best videos I’ve seen of how to teach someone to grow up obviously that doesn’t mean that much from a 13-year-old, but I have been watching you and I really like what you stand for And how you do things and I will be watching this hopefully whenever I have my daughter and I watched your son one too and that one meant a lot because I am a boy I feel like how you make memories are so amazing and after watching your videos, I’ve realized how important memories are to kids and to me so thank you
Nick, I’m in my 70s, and I’m still working through the consequences of having a father who was almost none of these things.
Deep sigh 😢
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m sitting here at my kitchen table crying over the three girls I raised by myself who have rejected me for various reasons which I don’t know. I hope you have healing and God will help you reconcile the pain. Whether your father is alive or not, and whether or not you saw him apologize. You have a loving father in God, who is all of those things and fill in the gaps and provides ultimate healing and love when there are crappy fathers like me. Bless you.
@@HB-Nation My father was not abusive. He was just weak and distant. Part of my ongoing issues is that I struggle with the image of God as loving and personal. I’m a believer, but that analogy doesn’t resonate with me.
@@marthacalkins8054 this is going to sound harsh, but there is so much grace & freedom on the other side if you’re willing to submit to truth.
I’m coming from a similar background and am now out the other side - you need to (out loud) repent of judging God to be like your father, weak and distant. Uncaring, unloving. Repent for believing lies about who God is and for ultimately calling God a liar. Then ask Him for mercy, to show you who He is and give you a revelation of His love. Then confess the truth at every opportunity about who God says He is - and LEAD your heart out of the lies it fell into. It’s not easy but you will break free if you do this ❤ and, I’m so sorry the enemy stole such a precious thing from your life - the strong and unrelenting, unending love of God ❤
I have two little girls and one young son; raising them so far, albeit only 7+ years so far, has been the most challenging, most rewarding, best honor of my life.
Thank you for sharing your insight. It reinforces that I’m doing many things right and reminds me I can always do better.
This video is desperately needed to today's young men. Thank you for the father and husband advice that you give.
Wise words. Love it. Every day I strive to be this man / father. Fellow me, it is well worth it. I am lucky every day with my not so little girl and looking forward to many more days before I leave this earth. It is pretty cool to see them grown and become strong and confident.
Mr Freitas…thank you for your input, you have a great outlook on life, with great advice and you’re also pretty damn funny in your short reels…we need more men like you
Good work. Smart. Honest. I was gratified when my daughter told me I was always there for her, (no doubt someone was sowing the seeds of discontent), and I will as long as I am able. She's coming over tonight for dinner.
You're a good man. Thank you for your wisdom.
My daughter will be here next month. I’m glad I’m watching this.
Sir, you are an amazing human being, and very eloquent at that. Thank you for sharing.
I'm a girl dad, my little mouse is 20 months old, Nick, all of the girl dad advise that you have given to us over the last few years has been so spot on!! I really want to thanks you for being open and willing to share your experience and insight with those of us who are trying to feel our way forward in this wonderful and crazy time!!
Very well said man. My girls are 15 and 13 now.. seeing them grow has been amazing to say the least, truly incredible how fast time goes by. I always tell new dads enjoy every minute. Cheers
Great video for dads of all ages. One additional point to reiterate is that you absolutely must tell your daughter that she is beautiful. I would frequently tell my daughter that I love her and she wouldn’t react much but when I told her that she was beautiful, it stopped her in her tracks. It was at that instant that I realized how important it was for her to hear that from me.
As a dad of two little girls, this is a video that I'll like to come back to in future to remind myself again and again. Such good advice.
As a father of 3 girls I can absolutely confirm what Nick is talking about. I can't say I'm perfect, but this conversation/video does help me realize I'm doing more right than wrong as a girl dad. It's also a good reminder to listen to your inner self instead of fight against yourself when it comes to how to approach situations with your kids. For example, I like to rile up the girls with sillyness before bedtime, but sometimes I fight against that desire in favor of keeping the house quiet and calm. My Wife and I didn't have kids so we can make a calm and quiet world, we had kids so we can have a joy filled world.'
Also, Nick run for president already!
As a bachelor who is currently intrested in dating a woman I've met, I am saving this vid for a future time when I am already married and about to become a father. As the only brother among three sisters, I saw as a teenager my late father having to step in to save one of my older sisters from physical abuse at the hands of her thug boyfriend from a criminal gang. My late father wasn't perfect by any means, but that was one of the qualities I admired in him as a teenage son. Thank you being so candid Nick.
Amazing 🤩 I’m a father of 3 little girls and this is great info
Thank you as of right now I have been a single dad of 3 for 2 years and my daughter is my oldest. I’m plan on marrying my fiancée next year. I plan on continuing to show my daughter how she should be treated and the love she deserves. Thank you for the insight.
My daughter turned 18 yesterday and I'm amazed at how fast it all goes by!
Mine turns 4 in a couple weeks. Time goes so damn fast!😢
@@ericwiese7479What a great age! Kids are so fun between 4 and 10 😁
@@adampindell it’s really a great age range. I’m dreading the teenage years
Mine too. My husband was a great dad to both my kids. They are both very close to him today.
Oh my GOD, how I wish that you had been my Dad. My father never, ever thought like this. (His theory of parenting was as follows: "It's my way - or the highway". This led me to marry (wrongly as it turned out) (duh!) the first man who asked me to marry him. All I wanted was out of his house!! I thought my now ex-husband was going to fill in all those empty places. I was so darn wrong.
Thank You, for giving me this. I hope that through your church somehow or some other way, you can spread this message of love and strength and compassion to the young men that might someday marry the women of their dreams, not just an Escape route. GOD BLESS YOU SIR!!!
My daughter was born just a bit over 2 months ago and I've had an amazing journey with her and my wife.
Thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear it from a father figure I respect such as yourself.
I wish my dad was alive but I'm happy that the world gives me options to choose from who to listen to and take to heart!
This was wonderful. My daughter is 24 and I am blessed with us having a incredible relationship. That reduces every other problem to small things.
You are making me miss my Dad even more today! He was and is my hero. I never doubted his love for me because he told me every day! My husband is very like my Dad. They had a great love and respect for each other that filled my heart with joy! My husband misses my Dad as much as I do and we refer to him often. Thank you!
Man I gotta say... what an amazing video. I see your shorts all the time but have never seen a long form content until this. You have earned my respect and a sub.
Listen to everything this guy is telling you if you have a girl or girls... because he is 100% dead on correct. Make more videos like this... we need more dads out there like us... thank you.
Thank you very much for this video Nick. I listened to it as i was trying to help my daughter fall asleep in her stroller after crying for hours. I was losing my patience, but this reminded me how precious my little girl is, no matter how exhausting it may be.
I have never in my 42 years commented on any social media. As a dad of a 9 year daughter 7 year old son I can say you not only knocked this out of the park and confirmed what I was doing right but you also added to things I need to be aware of in the future. Thank you Nick, for the genuine,honest, and thoughtfulness of this post.
It is clear your daughter's do not only respect you, but love you too! With much respect and gratitude, Ryan Landry.. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Sad fact: i did these things for my daughters, but in the midst of covid, they canceled me for not getting the jab along with many other parents around the world. My girls got woke and started canceling. Sad but true. I hope they will change someday. A dads love never ends
Sorry, that happened to you.
They will see one day... But then u have to step up.
Im do very sorry.
From one who did not have a father...
Thank you for being theirs...
Hope they come around someday and soon! Pray about it and if you are... continue to.
By chance i found your channel.
I have 2 boys and 1 girl.
My wife and i have raised them in the old school ways in todays different life. They are 25 to 16 now. Raised to respect themselves and others.
My 16 year old daughter is taught and told what you speak.
No dating for the same reason.
I thank you for being a back up to my mindset and also to allow my kids to see there are others who raise kids the same as we do in these trying times.
Thank you. Cheers.
Nick, I'm 27 years old, my wife is 33, and we have one incredibly intelligent and exuberant almost 2 year old little ball of joy that i have the privilege of hearing her little voice fill the halls with 'dada' all hours of the day. I had my dad in my life, though he wasn't much of a good one as far as emotions and proper life prep goes, he did the best he could. I THOROUGHLY take to heart and appreciate the advice you give, and i gotta say, i find it strengthens not only myself daily, but the relationships with my wife and my daughter, and i'm even teaching my dad a thing or 2, courtesy of you. Please continue to do what you do, and give the advice you give, because so many of us men nowadays were never properly prepared by our parents in one way or another, and not everyone had the benefit of a strong and positive masculine force in their life
Beautifully said
Had to blow my nose multiples times while watching this, as it just reminded me of all the things my dad has done for me. The Lord blessed me with a father like Nick, and I’m so overwhelmingly grateful for it. I love him so much.
My oldest daughter was born on Veterans Day , she was due two weeks earlier but life has it's own timing. She was born four days AFTER her Daddy left for Army boot camp. The Red Cross couldn't find him for days and then his choice was, come home and start over or stick it out and be done sooner. He first saw his daughter at over a month old. A baby girl was a veteran, just like her Daddy.
Thank you sir, you helped me ! You are same sort of guy as Dewayne Noel. Its nice to see more and more channels with people that are trying to teach how to respect traditional values and make the world better. Thanks again !
I am on a healing journey with my dad and today I am so chocked up. Thank you Nick for being willing to let me know that I deserved to hear those things. Thanks for being that man. I share all your stuff with my husband for our daughter now getting ready to get married... and for my boys who are raising girls as well. 😢
Wise words sir! Thank you for sharing.
Honest, straight forward and spoken with true love and conviction. You are a girl Dad.
Thank you.
Girl dad here. This was the episode that I didn’t know I needed and very glad to hear it.
What great service you are doing for fathers, daughters and families! God has put you in a position to help! Thank You from a daughter that wished her dad would have been there for her!
I find this extremely helpful, and even though our circumstances are very different , her mother and I don't and won't live together, the advice is priceless. I can only hope that I can be the she needs. I have told her mother that I intend to be the best father I can. Your words here reinforce that I am trying and some advice for me as she grows up. Please know even being much older than you, I learned a lot today that will help.
This is probably the best podcast you've ever done...My wish is that every father on earth could hear this.....I think one of the biggest problem we face today is a lack of real fathers....Any man can be a Daddy, but can you be a father!
I believe you have the saying reversed:
"Anyone can be a father ( aka sperm donors to some people ) but it takes someone special to be a"Dad(dy )."
@suesanders1169 No...I dont!
Awesome advice Nick . My youngest daughter just turned 21 , and she has been and continues to be a real blessing for us , as does her older sister and brother .
I remember as a 5 yr old she used to practice painting my toenails . One night I forgot to clean the nail polish off and went off to work early next morning . My boots had got wet so I took them and my socks off back at base and wondered why all my work mates were laughing . Then there was the time she jumped off her motor cross bike to chase after a wild cat with kittens . Smuggled a kitten into the house in her jacket and the rest is history haha . Fathers , spend time with your children because time goes quickly and you will lock back either regretting lost opportunities , or glad to have enjoyed the most formative part of their life .
My Father was born in 1919, first generation immigrant. Went through the depression, working from age 11 on, and was a pilot in WWII. He was an amazing dad. Hard working, ethical, warm and loving. He also knew the location of every Baskin Robbins in southern California. My favorite bit of his wisdom? "Spanking never did you any good, but it sure as hell made me feel better."
😂 My mother found shouting and spanking a great outlet for her inability to handle children effectively. She felt so much better. I laugh because I figured her out early on. I thought , by age nine or so, that she was clueless. At twelve I told her to never raise a hand to me again because she should find a way to manage her anger. This was in the early 1950’s.
My grandfather was born in 1919 and a WWII army air corps veteran. North Africa and Italy in the 15th. He was 1 of 14 children, 5 boys went over, they all came home. Different I’m sure, but very very good christian men and very good fathers. The last of the 5 veterans just passed last month. Just sharing my family story, God bless.
It’s so sweet, I’ve grown and known that the father’s role in the counsel of who her daughter should be with is priceless. I’ve had to learn how to do it myself and it’s hard when feelings so easily cloud judgement. I wish I’ll be able to find a good man as a husband and father of my future children, your daughters are so blessed ❤
Nick, so glad that you talked about this. My wife passed away due to cancer. My daughter was devastated. I have had a tough road with her in trying to maintain our relationship. Gives me ideas to make our relationship better. Thank you.
Wow thank you⭐ really needed to hear this🌿❤🌿
I ended up going through a divorce (my ex announced this when our infant son was 3 weeks old) and raised my son essentially alone. I have learned SO much about males watching my son raise his children. I don’t know how he learned it, but I can’t take credit, AND I am so glad he did learn it. I am proud of him and my daughter in love, and my grandson and his bride who are about to become parents.
I have three daughters all born in the 1980s. We didn't have access to internet and no TH-cam for tutorials, etc.. i worked most of the time and wish i had spent better quality time with them. Too much to discuss on all this. They all are wonderful women and assets to their communities. Praise GOD!
So glad i watched this.
Not a Father, nor can I be (snipped); but have cats.
These words and lessons hit in the heart-strings.
Thank you Sir.
@ETC_Rohaly_USCG Being able to produce a child is not what makes you a dad. It's the love you have for the child & how you parent them.
All kids want is a dad who will love them & be there for them
So yes, you can be a dad.
For the past decade I’ve struggled with the idea of having children, largely due to the fact that I didn’t have a father who told me these things when I was growing up. Thank you for stating them so clearly and sincerely in this video. I’m definitely saving this (and its counterpart about raising sons) to share with my future husband. There is a season and a time for all things, and I believe God sent me this video to prepare me for motherhood. Thanks to Him, thanks to you, and God bless you and your family.
I never had a daughter, although I have three sons. From what I’ve observed, everyone needs a good dad, I find myself saying things that my dad taught me, and a much older gentleman than I states that the things I repeat from own father, he wished he could have heard from his own dad. Just goes to show, society in general needs good dads. And some days I even get nicknamed “dad” from a couple of our apprentices.
My father was raised by a terrible man and as a result my father failed me in numerous ways that affected me adversely for the majority of my life. Good fathers and male role models are vital to a healthy society. It's incredible how many people undervalue the importance of good men for the good of us all. Thank you for taking your role to heart.
You will have daughters in law!! ❤
I appreciate this video. My daughters only 4, but they have told me i won't be around to watch her live these moments. Im working on writing letters for her to be given at different points in her life, and this really helped me put into prospective what she would need to hear from me when im gone. Im not scared to die but thinking about her having to go through life without her dad terrifies me.
Why is this making me cry?
Same
Because you're smart. : )
Because it's a truly beautiful testimony from a good father.
Nick love your words of wisdom very day. You are kind, thoughtful , loving and one tough hombre.
This may be the most genuine and healing speech i have ever heard😢
They may not remember everything about their Dad doing things with them but photos help too. My Dad died when I was 3 he was a Marine. My mom later married a man who literally puts the word Dad to shame the little bit of joy I get are the photos of my Dad (who was only 19 or 20 in most of the few photos I have. He read to me every night even though I didn’t understand the story, he sang songs to me (he was a massive Beatles fan and I am too) he changed diapers, fed me, bathed me helped me learn to walk. My mom’s second husband was never a dad to me or his son with my mom and it showed in my growing up. But at least I have the 6 photos of my dad and I.
That was beautiful man...Lots of love and respect -- from India.
My Dad didn’t have the time of day for my sister and I, and it has affected us both greatly throughout our lives. I’m grateful to have a wonderful stepfather that is Godly and treats my Mother with love and respect, but nothing will ever fill that gaping hole.
I'm a little farther down the road as a girl dad and as a Papa, but I can tell you that he is 100% correct! And it's a blessing from above!
Thank you. I have a Lil girl who will be turning 3 here soon. I'll take all the extra advice and heads up I can get.