I started deliberately listening to songs about sexual power, and "getting money", and "being the best", and that was just a couple years ago when I was becoming more integrated/individuation after a really dark and mentally-unstable part of my life! I started seeing myself as a happy person! Prior to that, I was very disenchanted with "materialism" and really just a miserable and judgmental person until I eased up a bit on that.
Nailed it again! Another problem in my relationships. I totally expected my ex to be my SE, I depended on him for it. Wow! I keep watching the exact video I need to hear for self growth! Thanks for your wisdom and guidance! 💜💟☮️
Wow this really spoke to me! It's like you know me :) I definitely get my SE from my SO and sister when we used to live in the same city as each other.. I've definitely had unhealthy friendships before too where I just allowed myself to be a background character in their life so I could be in the wake of their SE. I knew I did this when I was younger but I never really understood why! You opened my eyes to this and you're right, I can produce some more excitement for my life by myself. I want to work on this so I can make sure I'm not just an SE vampire for others, I want to create fun and excitement for others, too, in my own way.
This helped me a great lot to understand what bothers me about my INFP SO! He would always say that I am projecting something and should look deeper into it, and he was right... I was afraid that if I took charge of my life I would not need such a kind and "soft" person anymore and would look for "cool" guys to suit my new "cool" self, but your words made me realize that if I let myself become that "cool" self there will be no need to look for that on the outside anymore, and so these worries are invalid :) I suppose if we integrate our Se, we will gain more wisdom to recognize the strength of other, non-Se types for what it is, with its differences. So by oppressing our Se and projecting it we not only make ourselves weak, but make those types weak as well because they struggle with our expectations and cannot become their unique self. Thank you for this insight! Let me know if you agree with what I wrote at all.
+Nyanrielle Your interpretation and sort of personal summary of her video made me get more of a "gist" of what she was saying, too. Thank you for processing your response out loud!
For the Unhealthy INFJ, the sensory becomes overbearing. I literally have to isolate to the extreme to turn it off. It also leads to very unhealthy indulgences. (Food, alcohol, sex and similar depending on the preferred vice) I have trouble understanding your version of SE. It’s not a power play, which is abstract. It’s not about risk. SE is literal, in the physical world. Measurable. Observable. Objective. This is the first video I’ve seen, so maybe I’m missing some information.
Suppose you were in a room where two peoples Fe was denied and trickster, ... , the truth is nothing can really be done as long as they are arguing. I make it vague for the people in mind but also to state it is so very easy to have an Se outburst in that scenario.
I have a male coworker. I noticed that he likes phsyical contact like putting his hand on my shoulder or my leg etc. Could he be craving Se? The length of the contact sometimes becomes uncomfortable for me.
Just realised that people use my SE to feel brave.
Helpful when you're on top, everyone scatters when you're sad.
I started deliberately listening to songs about sexual power, and "getting money", and "being the best", and that was just a couple years ago when I was becoming more integrated/individuation after a really dark and mentally-unstable part of my life!
I started seeing myself as a happy person!
Prior to that, I was very disenchanted with "materialism" and really just a miserable and judgmental person until I eased up a bit on that.
竜虎風森 I think I need to do the same. I'm not sure I want to though...
Nailed it again! Another problem in my relationships. I totally expected my ex to be my SE, I depended on him for it. Wow! I keep watching the exact video I need to hear for self growth! Thanks for your wisdom and guidance! 💜💟☮️
Jenni Smeltzer That _can_ work, if you're careful, and your partner is willing. It's not easy though
Wow this really spoke to me! It's like you know me :) I definitely get my SE from my SO and sister when we used to live in the same city as each other..
I've definitely had unhealthy friendships before too where I just allowed myself to be a background character in their life so I could be in the wake of their SE. I knew I did this when I was younger but I never really understood why! You opened my eyes to this and you're right, I can produce some more excitement for my life by myself.
I want to work on this so I can make sure I'm not just an SE vampire for others, I want to create fun and excitement for others, too, in my own way.
👍....and thank you for your feedback!
This helped me a great lot to understand what bothers me about my INFP SO! He would always say that I am projecting something and should look deeper into it, and he was right... I was afraid that if I took charge of my life I would not need such a kind and "soft" person anymore and would look for "cool" guys to suit my new "cool" self, but your words made me realize that if I let myself become that "cool" self there will be no need to look for that on the outside anymore, and so these worries are invalid :) I suppose if we integrate our Se, we will gain more wisdom to recognize the strength of other, non-Se types for what it is, with its differences. So by oppressing our Se and projecting it we not only make ourselves weak, but make those types weak as well because they struggle with our expectations and cannot become their unique self.
Thank you for this insight! Let me know if you agree with what I wrote at all.
+Nyanrielle Your interpretation and sort of personal summary of her video made me get more of a "gist" of what she was saying, too. Thank you for processing your response out loud!
竜虎風森 Oh, glad to hear! You are welcome!
Found this channel, and I've got to say Wenzes, you remind me how assertive I can be, when taking disrespect!
Thank you for this! x
For the Unhealthy INFJ, the sensory becomes overbearing. I literally have to isolate to the extreme to turn it off. It also leads to very unhealthy indulgences. (Food, alcohol, sex and similar depending on the preferred vice) I have trouble understanding your version of SE. It’s not a power play, which is abstract. It’s not about risk. SE is literal, in the physical world. Measurable. Observable. Objective. This is the first video I’ve seen, so maybe I’m missing some information.
Beauty!
Suppose you were in a room where two peoples Fe was denied and trickster, ... , the truth is nothing can really be done as long as they are arguing. I make it vague for the people in mind but also to state it is so very easy to have an Se outburst in that scenario.
Wenzes A great contribution, and may it be that others will be able to better equip themselves and you fulfill more of your on goals as well.
I have a male coworker. I noticed that he likes phsyical contact like putting his hand on my shoulder or my leg etc. Could he be craving Se? The length of the contact sometimes becomes uncomfortable for me.
@@g.i.r.l. I think that's how he might be expressing friendship.