I'm 55 and haven't found anyone. In the past, I did have them, but it was because I forced the issue and just "settled". Instead of asking God to handle it, I insisted on handling it myself. I'm learning to accept things for now and be in service to God and other people. I don't have the gift of singleness, but I'm not willing to put things in my own hands. I don't always trust my own judgment. I want to keep it in God's hands and let him handle it. I do have some good friends and family.
Go get a massage at a day spa or a hair treatment at the salon, that's what I did when I hadn't had any physical contact in months. Lack of physical contact when single is completely underrated.
I think God is no longer hearing our human emotions. I'm single 34 and I have no hope in future, despite spending my entire life by resisting evil and thinking always about the teachings of Christ but everything is ruined in my life
@@jollyrobert7897 please don't lose hope in Him. Keep on praying, read the word, fast, surround yourself with people that love God. Relationship with our good perfect loving Father is the best relationship we will ever have. May you know Jesus and walk with Him. It may not be easy but it is worth it. All things work together for good to those who love God. ❤️
@@joa2764 I've spent all my life serving from childhood and then 6 years detaching from family being in seminary and now I am out and lonely without a person to share my life. I've prayed to God and yet nothing is happening and I am 34, single, constantly struggling
The church has been steering people away from getting married for many years now. This video is no different. It’s well meaning but it is an attempt to convince you that you can give up wanting something that God created us to want but not all of us will receive for various reasons. I wish these pastors would be honest and say that some people will never marry and the church won’t help you if you don’t.
And good luck finding a singles ministry for anyone over say 30 years old, even in the mega churches. That fact alone speaks volumes of how little the majority of churches care about older singles. So that leaves us to fend for ourselves. So many pastors and churches are simply out of touch with the reality of older singles in their congregations. It's as if they have no clue how to serve them bc "they should be married by now."
I think it’s easy for married people to preach about how singles should be in there walk with God. Everything John just said applies to individuals in a relationship walk with God whether married or single, not just to singles. I challenge you John to give a real answer as to why God withholds marriage from some, but I don’t believe you can-I believe only God knows the answer-apart from this, I think your answer is good intention pacifying pious gibberish. Just say you do not know.
I don't know why, but these answers annoy me. Maybe it's because I know that most happily married people didn't have this attitude of "I want to get married to glorify Christ" at the forefront of their minds when they were gifted their marriages. Sure, that might have been a part of it or become a part of it, but many people end up happily married and Christians without this super mega highly virtuous mindset; they found someone, fell in love and got married. Why do some of the rest of people have to jump through spiritual hoops?
And many Christians end up unhappily married, whatever high or low motivations they have. We are not entitled or promised marriage. There is no marriage in heaven. And it sounds like there is no answer that's going to satisfy you unless God gave you a marriage partner tomorrow.
Makes me somehow believe that people who already know how to glorify God alone tend to no longer been given a spouse (because they could get holy enough as a single person), while people need to get married with another person for them to learn to be holy enough to glorify God (on the same degree as singles do). I do hope that I am wrong with my conclusion, because for me, if it is as predictable as this one, then it isn't the maximum love that God always provides.
@@unicronprimus7450 It's funny- I wrote this 8 months ago. Still love God, still myself but I met somebody and I'm probably going to get married to him. I didn't have to *do* anything; it was not something in my control. God is good and whatever His timing is must truly just be HIS timing and it's hard for us because we don't have a formula, plan, trick, etc. to move that needle in any direction one way or another.
Wow I opened this comment and was about to say “I was thinking the same” under your comment then see your update! I’m really happy for you even though I’m also waiting as a 34 year old single Christian woman who sometimes lost faith to Him. But I’m so happy that you are going to get married! Please share your testimony if it does work out cause I’m so love to hear that! 💕
Why is it when you’re 20 and you want to be married they tell you to pray that God will bring you a husband but when you’re 60 they tell you that you’re single because you made an idol out of wanting to be married I guess the same rules don’t apply It’s not making an idol it’s 40 years of disappointment 40 years of being told no by God
I was single for almost a decade which didn't bother me because I was still young. But now I see an older woman in the mirror and feel left behind by God. I never asked Him for a husband in all those years, but when has it ever stopped God from interrupting my plans? Adam didn't have to ask for a wife; God deemed it was not good for him to be alone and that he should have a wife.
Unfortunately this is in part due to the teaching of young women that they can *and should* in a lot of cases, not marry young, which leaves them in a crappy situation when they hit 30 and their youthfulness starts to fade, and they are now trying to compete with younger women for the remaining single men. This isn't the way of God, and you don't see that pattern or behavior modeled in scripture. We have strayed from father's giving their daughters away to a good man, when you put the sole choosing of a husband into the hands of young women, women who have left their father's house and are on their own in the wind, you end up with their emotions and feelings driving the decision to marry vs it being a pragmatic decision (is this man a good provider/leader/servant of God?) which a good father would make. I don't know that we can ever return to fathers truly choosing their daughters husbands, but we certainly as Christians should be teaching the principles as to why that way makes sense. So that young women understand what they should be looking for, and when they should be looking for it, and so they stop passing over those opportunities for emotional reasons and learn to be more pragmatic and reasonable in their approach. I would bet there are many women who have passed right over the man God had for them, because they weren't thinking in a Godly (mission oriented big picture) manner, but an emotionally driven one.
Can start to feel like we’re not enough, ugly, or any number of things we’ve picked up in life. It can often get depressing. I know the answer is “Christ is enough”, but that doesn’t help when I’m really feeling down. God cherishes us, and I think He is saving our hearts from a wretched world. How many good people are there actually today? Bible says, “Not one”. That is of course without Christ. I was married once, and was involved in a major accident that left me recovering for 10 years. She divorced me at the beginning of all that. There have been times I thought I was robbed of my marriage. Does that mean that was my one experience, and now I have to endure singleness? Our son just turned 18, well about to be 19, but my point is I raised him without her. I always thought he was my only purpose because of the accident, and being brought back after dying. Now, my raising is done, and my life seems like it has no purpose now. I do desire a wife, but I’m starting to think I’m getting too old. I’ll be 40 in June. Granted, that’s not old, but I’m not about the games being played today. Let the Lord’s Will be done in our lives, and throughout the Earth! He is good, even in singleness! He is good in every situation! ❤️❤️
Praise the Lord, i was struggling today with this as the evil one got into my head with my ex and failed engagement. I needed this. Praise God in Christ Yeshua
The 2 conclusions I’ve come up with is 1, it’s a heart issue and that’s why you can’t find someone. And 2, if you don’t talk to the opposite sex it won’t happen. I cry all the time about not being married and it’s like “Zack I brought you to a church with 100 single girls and you haven’t spoke to a single one, what am I supposed to do?”. That’s what I’ve come up with. If you don’t ask they aren’t going to show up on your doorstep wanting to marry you.
The church needs to stop hyper-spiritualizing this topic. Start a matchmaking service or just straight up arrange the marriages. It's can't be this complicated.
There are a lot of problems with getting hitched young people face now that were different a few decades ago. But no one bothers to examine these or come up with practical solutions.
Still nothing. I’ve prayed every day and tried being righteous. I’m over it. At this point I believe He does not care about me or my constant battle with lonliness.
Being holy or living right is never by man's strength but only by the grace of God. Trust in God (Jesus) to live holy, if you trust in your strength....you will be easily tired. His aware of what you are going through, He cares for you and all that concerns you. Don't allow the devil to deceive you or take away your joy, which is in Christ Jesus 👑.
I was told that God never allowed me to get married because he wanted me for himself- how can he want someone who had and has been his from the beginning? Couldn't he have given me the gift of celibacy so that the loneliness would be more tolerable? Make your answers honest, if you don't have a legitimate answer, then don't answer at all.
I’m sorry you dealt with that, 1 Timothy 4 tells of people who will be teaching doctrines of demons such as prohibiting marriage, if God wanted you single, He would have given you the gift of celibacy, I say this because I’ve also dealt with such comments and it has pushed me to study God’s Word more, that if He put that desire in you, He will fulfill it, unfortunately there are teachers who will speak things God never told them, hope you find a great spouse.
@@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere don't give up on GOD..I know the hurt and discouragement! I was literally almost depressed but continued to trust God. I am now married and we just had a baby after getting married. God CAN do a SUDDENLY..trust HIM 😊💕
Don’t worry about getting married. I am 31 and single. In singleness we have a incredible opportunity to focus entirely on Jesus. When I was younger and in my early twenties I worries about finding a woman to marry. Now I don’t worry anymore. I realize that marriage cannot bring my soul joy like the presence of God. Furthermore marriage just seems like much work. Any dating relationship I have been in has been emotionally exhausting and painful.
You don’t worry because you’re a MAN. You can have children whenEVER. You are in your thirties but will happily and EASILY marry a woman MUCH younger. Don’t compare yourself to single women. Easy for you to say ‘don’t worry’. You wouldn’t say that to married people about their worries and problems, so why are you not taking it seriously from single people?
@@missNCW reading your replies, I have seen your sensitivity on this matter and you're right at some points. It's very clear that most of christians (both women and men) desires to get married considering what might be different factors. We are supposed and it came to us naturally to desire good things like marriage. My point here, what I wanted to stress, is to find joy, delight and rejoice in God whatever the situation you're in. If you need to talk to someone, talk to them. Be willing to change your perspectives or any other thing that might be hindering your marriage or negatively affecting your relationships. Do what you can and believe in God for His will in your life. Be thankful to God in every situation.
@@missNCWYou have too much anger and bitterness in your heart. God can’t bless you with what you desire with that type of blockage. I know this comment is a year old, but I hope he’s healed you.
@@goldengirl7625I don't sense any anger or bitterness in her comment. Her use of caps is to add emphasis, it doesn't mean she's angry or bitter. You can be heartbroken and longing for a desire that God placed within you while not being angry or bitter. God bless
I think MANY people have LITERALLY no idea how difficult marriage is... even a good one where both are level headed Christians whose top priorities are to have a good marriage... it hurts a lot and is hard many days bc of personalities and personal struggles with selfishness, past hurts affecting your current life and so much more... my marriage is a great one and i am blessed but it is often difficult... THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE (and pain/struggles) IS TO MAKE YOU MORE LIKE CHRIST!!! not everyone can handle that .... some are emotionally unstable or unable to put others before themselves for whatever reasons... many are quick to divorce over stupid stuff... or due to unforgiveness... so yeah, idk. MARRIAGE IS ABOUT SELF DENIAL, NOT SELF INDULGENCE (time and place for mutuality) Also I will say I had zero prospects at all... men never did flock around me... and i accepted that i may never get married and that hurt but it was ok with me. I LITERALLY surrendered all my hope and cares for marriage at the feet of God... I ALSO screamed at the devil that neither he nor I would ever get to decide who i was to marry, even if it was something undesirable, i will follow God in choosing a mate... i was married literally a year later, and God lead me halfway around the world to see him, he is the man of my dreams in every single way and in every detail (save a few things that are the focus of our marital sanctification), and through his mannerisms and other things i am constantly reminded that God picked him from the tree just for me... which means I for him also. My marriage has healed my battered heart like nothing else, but it has been very painful and a LOT of relying on God... MARRIAGE IS NOT EASY AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING FOR THE FAINT OF HEART TO DESIRE! Just saying! This is MY experience, take or leave it. God bless!
Moody Radio Southeast 🙏🏼 Thanks for your question... if you want to skip the long answer, you can scroll down and read the last 2 paragraphs. :) honestly, this depends on a month by month, sometimes a week by week basis (chapters or seasons). It also would depend on each individuals goals in life and how they plan to achieve them. Obviously, what makes life easy or hard for each person can be extremely different from person to person. You asked me to line up my time of marriage with my time of singleness... so since I have only been married for 7 years, I will only compare the 7 years PRIOR to the time I met/dated my husband (and we can call that a happy, inbetween time lol). That would put us around September of 2004... I will say this- we COULD compare the happiness or difficulty in % of the wholes of my single period vs the married period. And of course the happiness AND the difficulty would be higher in the marriage period, but this data would be misleading because if you breakdown each period into monthly or seasonal chapters, how each chapter compares would contrast differently to the wholes. There are times of my marriage that were much more difficult than times in my singleness and it is difficult to compare them. Some of that reason is because I was a different person at that time also, and as we evolve over time, what is difficult or pleasant to us changes. So should we look at how we felt at the time or how we see it now? This is a very complicated question you have asked, if we are looking for an accurate answer... I will do my best. But this doesn’t suggest that outcomes would be the same for others. Many people are happy and get married and are miserable after because they can’t communicate well with their spouse or perhaps they are selfish or maybe their spouse doesn’t want to try. In my case I have a very supportive husband who does want to try and both of our goals is to have a good marriage as a foundation to our life. Divorce is not in our vocabulary and isn’t even something we make jokes about. It is literally not an option for us (and neither is adultery). So my example is coming from a more typically good storyline. The heartbroken hopeless romantic finally clings to God alone and the Good Father leads her on a journey and she finds her identity and her husband. A very much arranged marriage by the divine. My story makes Elizabeth Gilbert’s EatPrayLove seem mundane and cliche. But to God be 100% of the glory alone. In 2004-2008 I had many relationship issues with heart break and abuse. I wasn’t making a big effort to live for God until 2008, so for that 4 years I had my heart ripped out many times, living with my parents was difficult also as my mother was very controlling and has some undiagnosed mental illness, but living on my own only brought me to make choices that weren’t best for me and had lasting consequences. I was bisexual, yet I only ever dated men. I had a lot of fun and a great social life but it was laced with emptiness and heart break. Nothing was long lasting or fulfilling and in the end I was numb and felt as if I couldn’t love anyone ever again, even though I still wanted it the same as anyone else. I felt nothing in my heart toward this idea of love. 2008-2011- I completed my associate degree in nursing during that time and met my husband shortly after landing my first nursing job (later enabling me to pay for plane tickets to visit him in Egypt). I had an encounter with evil spirits after a bad relationship and this lead me into trying to get free and to the occult and paranormal investigation (although I believed I was doing Gods will and was at least trying to follow Him, He is able to teach us truth as long as were seeking it, and He brought me out of it). I started going to a good church and grew in Gods word and had a beautiful intimate and sweet time with God and He lead me out of all the lies and taught me truths from my experiences. He delivered me from evil spirits and taught me who I was and lead me into abstinence. I struggled this entire time with longing for a husband because I still had much sexual temptation. I would always wonder about my male friends etc if they could ever be more but never said anything. I cried every night praying for a husband so that my sexuality could become a non-issue, so that I could serve Him. This was a beautiful and sweet time with God and I cherish those memories and moments with Him, I felt as if I went into the garden with Him. Once I was married there was amazing happiness, but many challenges in immigration and being separated during the first 2 years. Immediately after I married all sexual desires that were unholy were gone. It was like a switch flipped in my brain and heart. I also however, started having these past traumas in my sexuality surface in ways that tormented me. My husband didn’t deserve any of that. It took about 2 years to weed through tall those PTSD memories from my past in various ways (how to not carry things on him and how to realize he didn’t view me how I was thinking he did but that it was bc of trauma) and to be honest I am still working through healing in this and we actually have made huge progress this week... God has been revealing to me since October ‘18 through dreams that I still have some problems in my sexuality that is blocking a clear view of my marriage and the best fulfillment of our union (a lot of scars from past abuse). There have been times where my husband or I were selfish and weren’t communicating well and it can blow out of proportion bc of our perceptions. When he first came to America he hated it and didn’t tell me, and it came out and was a big issue (also bc of how I was treating him and I didn’t see it). There were times that I wished I had never gotten married, and immediately had to repent, bc I can’t deny the unique journey God has lead me to and I KNOW my husband was picked by God for me. But the pain of being hurt by our partner doesn’t stop when we get married (hopefully the pain of adultery and other major issues does stop) because we are all selfish and self centered sometimes, but GOOD OPEN HONEST COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY to that, and making the choice to love and care for what each other has to say. Love truly is a verb! The difficulty in untangling the knots and roots of my own darkness (marriage) is far greater than the difficulty of the falling and twisting that tangled them in the first place (singleness). But so is the happiness. I hope this answers your questions. Another persons story may be different. After writing this I don’t think we can make good comparisons to a single life that will be true for every person. But in singleness you are free and in marriage you are bound... so it depends on if the person finds more difficulty in being bound or free ;)
@@Hopeof7suns Thank you for taking the time and effort to unpack and answer Moody Radio Southeast's question and thank you for being open to sharing your experiences, insights and journey.
BARofLUNCH I believe in vulnerability and honesty bc it is our strongest testimony and weapon against the enemy and against shame. I do it for those like you who appreciate it. May God’s blessings shine upon you, and give you the desires of your heart as you seek Him above All things, from one lover to another. Xoxo
1 Corinthians 7: 8,9 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Amen! 🗡 Romans 14:22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth. 🗡1 Kings 10:8 Happy are thy men, happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and that hear thy wisdom. 🗡2 Chronicles 9:7 Happy are thy men, and happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and hear thy wisdom. Amen. Thank u for this clear explanation, may God bless u & yours in the name of Christ Jesus!
Yeah whatever we can STILL have faith and want marriage. Who said we don’t have faith. Married people aren’t accused of having less faith because they got married, why are single people accused because they want marriage.
I’m 29 years old single female and still waiting for marriage. I have someone I like and so I am over the moon about it. I do hope we all realize that God’s plans are ultimately the best! I’m Still looking up! 😊 Also hoping everyone looking for a godly spouse may find it.
i have a friend who turned his back on God because of this exact issue... unfortunately, this video wouldn't be an encouragement to help restore his faith or heal his wounds...
I'm sorry about that. I'm actually also barely holding on to my faith because of the same situation. I don't know how much longer I can endure. Especially when there are Christian people who make us single people seem like bad Christians because of our single loneliness which is as adding salt to injury.
I feel for your friend. I'm in this same spot as well not just for marriage but I feel God is withholding friendship from me as well and keeping my lonely.
Hey just a thought, but why dont all the people in this comment section try to meet? I mean, just read these comments. So much pain, why not try to connect with people in the same situation and mindset?
My struggle with pornography has likely been what's kept God from blessing me with marriage, but there are a lot more sinful people who God has blessed far more. I don't understand. Besides that, even when I had repented, God still did not bless me with a relationship.
This hope for marriage that is not being fulfilled is very prevalent in the American church. Since we can rule out some kind of error on Gods part then it has to be on us. We must be the ones with an unbiblical view of marriage. Myself included. 1 Corinthians 7:8 is such a foreign and scary verse as a 21st century American Christian. But I believe it is the one that God is calling many of us to. Let’s consider this: would you rather have the faith, joy and peace that Paul had as a single man, or be married and receive those joys and troubles as they come? I believe the biblical answer would obviously be to have the mindset of the Apostle Paul who never married, but I don’t think many of us would choose that in our hearts, including myself. Therefore, this is a stumbling block set up by the enemy to frustrate, confuse, and weaken the the faith of many Christians. Nothing wrong with marriage and god bless you if you’re married, but when you simply read the New Testament and see all these celibate men that received ample joy from God, that seems to be what God would prefer us to do. But as a 19 year old guy, I’m honestly saddened by this conclusion. I don’t know if God has marriage in his plan for me, but I do hope so. Either way, God is faithful and good all the time and blesses me more than I can imagine.
Be at peace Kyle. Im 51 never married. I was a very popular girl and very marriageable. Very devout Christian the past 30 years. I am so happy in so many ways and am grateful I didnt marry just to marry. No baggage. No divorces. No broken kids. I love marriage in Christ and think marriage is wonderful but just know God can bring you a very happy life of joy being single. Godspeed whatever His will is for you my dear!
And as an aside I think realism is important. She’s 26 so she’s till young. There are women in there 50’s saying this. Though the fact is most churches are predominantly female (between 60-70%). Unless you want to legalise polygamy, there realistically is not enough Men to go around. And so one should be flexible without compromising.
So much harder when over 50 to work ft and run a house and all responsibility. To be I'll alone Also one wage v hard. Growing old alone with no family v tough.
Pastor John thank you for your ministry and Its a dangerous thing to invoke criticism on Jesus up in heaven. I have been set straight many times at the young age of 32 that I'm at by my Dad in heaven. Each time scared the mess out of me so much so that one time thru me into a bad panic attack.
I try not to be envious of my brother but I also feel that I am being punished for some reason. I am 28 single and he is 26; married and has a son. Why can’t I have that?
My friend I'm 40 and still not married. You are still so young and worried about marriage. My sister got married at 38 and happy. Be patient, be a strong confident man and above all a faithful man to God.
But do you honestly believe that marriage will make you any more happy than you are now? I'm sorry to break this to you but it won't. Your brother doesn't have something that you dont have. All I'm saying is open your eyes, look around you and really see the truth about the people who have what you think will bring you happiness. They themselves will tell you that marriage won't bring you happiness, not marriage not children. Appreciate what you have which is freedom. Trust me there are many married people who would trade places with you in a heart beat. See the gift of freedom that you have as exactly that, a gift. And use your time to thank God for that gift
Strive for holiness and to be God's kind of man. Bring your desires to the Lord in humility, with open hands. Seek accountibility with older, wiser men because walking the single life as a Christian is a battle for purity especially in this sex idolized culture. Don't seek out ungodly women in apps. Trust in the Lord. He is your true hope.
Ok...after scanning the comments I think I won't watch the video....coz I may get discouraged...coz I'm 39...turning 40 in a few months...and not married...🙄
Gregory Rousseau God goes before us, beside us and behind us. He knows and sees everything, our past, present and future. Remember Joseph, what seemed bad and was, was for his best in the long run. That’s why we should give thanks in all things, good and bad. God knows what he’s doing. Glory to God. God is Great.
I'm 41 years old and not married yet. That's the test of my life and struggle. Because when I was younger, many wanted to marry me but I was afraid of committing. But now I want to settle down. I live it to God now.
Because God wants an undivided..Singular Relatonship with you. I listened to people too much in my life..and got very mislead and had to suffer much before I realized..Jesus IS the Only One for me to Listen to. No One else!
Doesn't make sense. I would rather recommend someone to read " Just do something" by Kelvin DeYoung. You're find the book giving a satisfying answer that this. God's will over our lives is not that complicated only that it is over spiritualized by Christians at times. Some unbelievers are living a life of making decisions without consulting a voice from somewhere or something and I am afraid to say they get some things right than Christians.
I believed God had put three ladies before me in life so far. I was completely certain of it, I was disastrously wrong on all counts. None resulted in a wedding all resulted in pain. I completely give up in believing that I know that God has put a wife before me by my own discernment but I don’t give up that marriage may be part of my journey before I depart this fallen planet, not that I need a wife to complete me but because I believe it’s just part of Gods bigger plan for many of us. It gets pretty complicated at times eh .
Where in the Bible does it say that. Married people have plenty things and aren’t spoiled. Why should that be withheld from single people. No logic is what you said
Our society pushes the idea that being single is a curse and there must he something wrong with people who are single. This is a common misconception. Of course there are some single people that need to work on improving themselves to be more desireable as a relationship or marriage partner. However, I've noticed that being single allows people more freedom to serve God and pursue their personal and professional goals. Being single allows more time for spiritual and personal growth. Many people in today’s society jump from one relationship to the next and seek comfort and dependency in their partner for their happiness in life. They seek complete fulfillment from their partner instead of seeking God and His purpose. God uses singleness to draw people closer to Him. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable especially if you have been single for a long time and desire to be married. But it is better to be alone and seeking God then pursuing relationships that are unhealthy. I've personally pursued and stayed in relationships that I knew were toxic because I didn't want to be alone. As difficult as it is to be single sometimes, its important to wait on God's timing. So how do we know God's timing? From my experience, the times in my life where I've surrendered my life to Him and allowed Him to guide me without getting caught up in sin and self pity is the times where I've experienced the most joy and met some wonderful women. Serving God in your singleness doesn't guarantee you will meet your life partner but it does guarantee you will be living God's purpose in your life which will ultimately bring you the most joy and fulfillment.
I’ve been waiting on His timing, I am not expecting a man to “complete” me, but what about growing spiritually TOGETHER? Is that not possible? Your spiritual growth does not stop when you have a partner
I have been praying since age 20 and I am 55. Was v attractive but losing looks now. I know nominal Christian's and all other Christian's God marrys off fast divorced or widowed or young. Hard for me as I have no other family.
I'm so sorry 😔 I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but I also struggle with this. Except for the fact that I'm only 30 compared to you.
@@Nothingbutdust_ bless. Wait until you pray for 25 years and nil. Just no Christian men in my path match. Is the same for a lot of Christian women I know 30 upwards so few decent Christian men in the church unmarried and in the world men quickly dump me if no sex before marriage. One has less time single to serve God as have one wage to pay Bill's and to run a house do everything. My advice do not leave too long as at my age 55 men often bitten with divorce and unlikely to share or want to marry. Blessings.
Then again most women back in the past were nothing at all like the kind of very horrible and evil women that God created these days either. Love in the old days really did come very easy for our family members since women never cared about looks and wealth in those days like they do now.
I hear what you're saying but let me ask question this way why would God be so cruel to give us a desire for something when that something isn't in his in his will for that person's life it is cruel
Is it a sin to not even want to entertain the idea of marriage coming my way? I'm 27 and I'm afraid even my resistance isn't glorifying the Lord but I honestly prefer being single
Lemme give ya the nut shell. Marriage doesn't mean anything, stop worrying about it, it's not in heaven, and go to church. A holy convenient doesn't mean anything if there is no parameters to the covenant, you basically said marriage is nothing, so why should I care to get married. I don't believe this pastor explained his position well. Marriage is not the key to happiness, but it is the key to gaining many defense against one's own sinful nature. You can't desire a woman, who is not your wife, but when married desire your wife, and carry on serving the lord. You are to dwell on the things that are just and right and lovely, and life partner can be there when you are down, and you can be there when they are down. In a marriage you are no longer a soldier, alone on the battle field, you have back up, and sometimes your backup runs out of ammo, and you'll need to sacrifice a magazine, but the battle will end, and that person will be there with you. I don't bring marriage up to the level of God or Jesus, because God's the firearm manufacturer, the body armor maker, and trench builder. Jesus is the ammo, and the training is the holy spirit teaching us through the word of God. But that partnership, that helps you fight back, that's is ordained by God, not to be diminished as just another life thing. th-cam.com/video/XM7rVmMnysA/w-d-xo.html
I haven’t/wouldn’t lose my faith in God but I have lost faith that marriage is in His will for me. I’ve traveled the world, I work in ministry full-time, everyone’s always saying how pretty I am (rolls eyes) and I’m 36 and single. I don’t even the see point now. 35 is considered advanced maternal age. I guess it’s just me and God from here on out 🤷🏽♀️. I wish more pastors preached on singleness and how it’s likely many will never marry but that’s a hard truth most don’t want to hear. *You might benefit from listening to Tiffany Buckner on YT. Her channel is called Anointed Fire; she speaks a lot about women waiting for husbands.
Simply read the Bible. Look at the old testament and how God delivered the children of Israel countless times after they've spat on His name multiple times. At the same time, look at the profits and how God used them because they saw God's promises being fulfilled. That will lead you to Jesus and the New Testament. Pray and talk to God. If you are sincere, God will answer in His perfect timing. Ask for Him to help you realize that no matter what you feel, God's prophecies have come true and are still coming true and you ultimately want to be a part of the positive aspect. Ask for an open ear, mind, and heart to help you hear what the spirit is saying to the churches and that the truth sparks the fire BUT that belief carries over even if the fire goes out, all because you know the truth! 😀
so simple and so true... i also think MANY people have LITERALLY no idea how difficult marriage is... even a good one where both are level headed Christians whose goals are to have a good marriage... it hurts and is hard many days bc of personalities and personal struggles with selfishness... my marriage is a great one and i am blessed but it is NO LESS difficult... not everyone can handle that .... many are quick to divorce over stupid stuff... so yeah Also I will say I had zero prospects at all... men never did flock around me... and i accepted that i may never get married and that it was ok with me. I LITERALLY surrendered all my hope and cares for marriage at the feet of God... i was married literally a year later, and God lead me half way around the world to see him.
I think that the reason why God may withhold marriage back is that we might be breaking the tenth commandment. So me must not be obsessing over it by coveting after it. That and the fact Jesus’ second coming is really soon.
I think you're onto something in the first part, the second part, we can't possibly know that, and I think it's bad advice to give to people to expect that... Yes, the way we look at marriage or the spouse in our very Romanized culture is very idol-worship-esq ... the marriage itself is an idol, the wife is an idol, the husband is an idol, when God is supposed to be the focus. For a man: what is your mission for God? "Do you know? Have you asked Him? If you don't have one, you don't need a woman to help with it and you're probably not ready for a Godly woman to cover. For woman: are you prepared to be a submissive/obedient helpmeet and show reverence to a man with a mission from God and make your 1st priority serving and helping him in that? If not, start reading the word and making yourself ready for that mission.
I prayed before finding a video I know to go to God's , for whatever reason I prayed to see something about the situation I am in .I'm 39 years old and I understand that I can serve the Lord without being married but also I hope this doesn't sound strange but I feel like I was meant to be someone's helper in a way of being a wife so this is been conflicting for me for some time. Either way I very much enjoyed listening to truth and appreciated it highly is there is so much garbage out there these days I always have to pray before I watch anything on TH-cam pertaining to this subject so on so forth in Christian mannerism. God bless🌅
But some good people i know are married. The woman that cut up a corpse on drugs..she's married..also I know a church woman that is contemplating divorce..
Brothers and sisters, Men and Women the scriptures say 1 Corinthians 7 King James Version 7 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? 17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. 18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. 22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant. 23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. 24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God. 25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. 36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better. 39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God. Matthew 5:32 King James Version 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
@@jasonwilliams8321 if you're depending on God you just don't go and make things happen. There has to be wisdom. But I guess were coming from two different perspectives
Dam. It's astonishing how I cannot find any videos related to the fact that it's written that the unmarried are the only ones worthy of the resurrection as they are the children of the resurrection and the virgins are given the first fruits of the Lord. Well I guess heaven really is hidden in a field where if you find it you gotta hide it well good then 😂
@@purplerose155 there's also a verse hopeth beareth believeth and endureth all things. And the wise and strong shall be confounded by the weak and foolish. So you say you are wise yet you only interpret a verse one way when it is possible to view a verse in multiple ways and if all things possible with God then maybe even a crackhead sees something in a verse that no one else sees. If I'm wrong then I guess you are right but I bow to no man or bot account regardless of how high they're IQ is. No one tells me how to interpret Jesus for the kingdom is within not in a bot or a pastor outside of my body. You got your way of looking at things and I got my way of looking at things
I'm married. Gosh, it's the hardest thing ever. And not always a good hard. A very, very hard thing. And I am a strong Christian- apparently my husband is too. You may not be ready for marriage or the Lord wants to keep you from the suffering. :/ Honestly...
What doesn’t help is that there are Christians that look for a spouse exactly like women do on the dating apps, gotta be the perfect Chad, even though she’s a 4 in looks, and vice versa with guys. It’s just a disaster of delusion. I’ve learned to just be happy if it never happens for me, a man has way more to lose anyway if the marriage doesn’t work out.
God is real. The problem is that a lot of people on this thread are religious like the Pharisees and accuse you of doing wrong things because their own lives are being lived in misdirections. Remember, the Pharisees accused Jesus of healing someone during Sabbath and condemned Him to death (not the only reason though). They were also very religious about sex like these people are; truth is that God created sex and commanded that each man has his own wife; it is written in the Bible. These people do not know the Bible, they know religion and are highly adept at it!
Can you blame God? A woman here placed an order with God for a husband. Her order wasn't fulfilled as she specified, so she stopped believing in God. My reaction was that God had to look after the husband as well, and I wouldn't wish her on anybody. She is even worse than the woman who wanted to train her husband in the same way that she trained horses!
@@Hopeof7suns I believe it is God because when its not his plan that we do a certain thing it never works. We can bang our heads against the wall or accept his plan.
I love when married people teach on singleness😅 First of all I'm not idolizing marriage, I know it has many challanges, too. I'm just simply tired of singleness, that I can't share my life (good and bad with someone). The second thing is, that I lost so many friends once they got married. Don't blaming them, probably I would behave similarly. Married people have their own life, children etc. They won't go with you anymore to worship concerts, conferences etc....because of this I feel alone. I have a good church and friends, but mostly married couples or way more younger single people. I'm soon 39😢
Isn't it great how all assume we don't have a realistic view of marriage? Like in my 20s I didn't. But Im 32, Im not naive anymore. It's so hard to be in your 30s and single. It's like being invisible
I'm 55 and haven't found anyone. In the past, I did have them, but it was because I forced the issue and just "settled". Instead of asking God to handle it, I insisted on handling it myself. I'm learning to accept things for now and be in service to God and other people. I don't have the gift of singleness, but I'm not willing to put things in my own hands. I don't always trust my own judgment. I want to keep it in God's hands and let him handle it. I do have some good friends and family.
Why are married people always preaching to singles about this. I wanna hear from a single person on this subject. Over it
True I'm so angry
@Hamilton I'm trying to accept it , don't believe anything anymore even though it hurts so bad
@@nipaussiemetzspence6255 Do you belong to a church or house of worship? They can help to a degree.
Literally Paul in the Bible…
Cool statement ❤
This loneliness is messing with my psyche.. .i haven’t had at least a hug in so long.
Go get a massage at a day spa or a hair treatment at the salon, that's what I did when I hadn't had any physical contact in months. Lack of physical contact when single is completely underrated.
@@butterfly.8860 you’re so right.. that’s a great idea
I think God is no longer hearing our human emotions. I'm single 34 and I have no hope in future, despite spending my entire life by resisting evil and thinking always about the teachings of Christ but everything is ruined in my life
@@jollyrobert7897 please don't lose hope in Him. Keep on praying, read the word, fast, surround yourself with people that love God. Relationship with our good perfect loving Father is the best relationship we will ever have. May you know Jesus and walk with Him. It may not be easy but it is worth it. All things work together for good to those who love God. ❤️
@@joa2764 I've spent all my life serving from childhood and then 6 years detaching from family being in seminary and now I am out and lonely without a person to share my life.
I've prayed to God and yet nothing is happening and I am 34, single, constantly struggling
The church has been steering people away from getting married for many years now. This video is no different. It’s well meaning but it is an attempt to convince you that you can give up wanting something that God created us to want but not all of us will receive for various reasons. I wish these pastors would be honest and say that some people will never marry and the church won’t help you if you don’t.
I totally agree
True. Some people really wont marry even if they desire it.
And the pastors are always married.
@@missNCW Almost always
And good luck finding a singles ministry for anyone over say 30 years old, even in the mega churches. That fact alone speaks volumes of how little the majority of churches care about older singles.
So that leaves us to fend for ourselves. So many pastors and churches are simply out of touch with the reality of older singles in their congregations. It's as if they have no clue how to serve them bc "they should be married by now."
I think it’s easy for married people to preach about how singles should be in there walk with God. Everything John just said applies to individuals in a relationship walk with God whether married or single, not just to singles. I challenge you John to give a real answer as to why God withholds marriage from some, but I don’t believe you can-I believe only God knows the answer-apart from this, I think your answer is good intention pacifying pious gibberish. Just say you do not know.
This isn't an answer to "Why is God Withholding Marriage from Me?" This is "How to Keep your Desires for Marriage in Perspective."
True but perhaps it's the information most people need more? He does clarify he answers this fairly early so that's nice.
Good info, but YES, SPOT ON 🎯💜🫂
I don't know why, but these answers annoy me. Maybe it's because I know that most happily married people didn't have this attitude of "I want to get married to glorify Christ" at the forefront of their minds when they were gifted their marriages. Sure, that might have been a part of it or become a part of it, but many people end up happily married and Christians without this super mega highly virtuous mindset; they found someone, fell in love and got married. Why do some of the rest of people have to jump through spiritual hoops?
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And many Christians end up unhappily married, whatever high or low motivations they have. We are not entitled or promised marriage. There is no marriage in heaven. And it sounds like there is no answer that's going to satisfy you unless God gave you a marriage partner tomorrow.
Makes me somehow believe that people who already know how to glorify God alone tend to no longer been given a spouse (because they could get holy enough as a single person), while people need to get married with another person for them to learn to be holy enough to glorify God (on the same degree as singles do). I do hope that I am wrong with my conclusion, because for me, if it is as predictable as this one, then it isn't the maximum love that God always provides.
@@unicronprimus7450 It's funny- I wrote this 8 months ago. Still love God, still myself but I met somebody and I'm probably going to get married to him. I didn't have to *do* anything; it was not something in my control. God is good and whatever His timing is must truly just be HIS timing and it's hard for us because we don't have a formula, plan, trick, etc. to move that needle in any direction one way or another.
Wow I opened this comment and was about to say “I was thinking the same” under your comment then see your update! I’m really happy for you even though I’m also waiting as a 34 year old single Christian woman who sometimes lost faith to Him. But I’m so happy that you are going to get married! Please share your testimony if it does work out cause I’m so love to hear that! 💕
I really needed this because I’ve been struggling and this really just gave me a different perspective God bless you Pastor 😇
I hear you Tia. Singleness is agonizing
@@Solrac1424 i know
Why is it when you’re 20 and you want to be married they tell you to pray that God will bring you a husband but when you’re 60 they tell you that you’re single because you made an idol out of wanting to be married I guess the same rules don’t apply
It’s not making an idol it’s 40 years of disappointment 40 years of being told no by God
I was single for almost a decade which didn't bother me because I was still young. But now I see an older woman in the mirror and feel left behind by God. I never asked Him for a husband in all those years, but when has it ever stopped God from interrupting my plans? Adam didn't have to ask for a wife; God deemed it was not good for him to be alone and that he should have a wife.
Unfortunately this is in part due to the teaching of young women that they can *and should* in a lot of cases, not marry young, which leaves them in a crappy situation when they hit 30 and their youthfulness starts to fade, and they are now trying to compete with younger women for the remaining single men.
This isn't the way of God, and you don't see that pattern or behavior modeled in scripture. We have strayed from father's giving their daughters away to a good man, when you put the sole choosing of a husband into the hands of young women, women who have left their father's house and are on their own in the wind, you end up with their emotions and feelings driving the decision to marry vs it being a pragmatic decision (is this man a good provider/leader/servant of God?) which a good father would make.
I don't know that we can ever return to fathers truly choosing their daughters husbands, but we certainly as Christians should be teaching the principles as to why that way makes sense. So that young women understand what they should be looking for, and when they should be looking for it, and so they stop passing over those opportunities for emotional reasons and learn to be more pragmatic and reasonable in their approach. I would bet there are many women who have passed right over the man God had for them, because they weren't thinking in a Godly (mission oriented big picture) manner, but an emotionally driven one.
Can start to feel like we’re not enough, ugly, or any number of things we’ve picked up in life. It can often get depressing. I know the answer is “Christ is enough”, but that doesn’t help when I’m really feeling down. God cherishes us, and I think He is saving our hearts from a wretched world. How many good people are there actually today? Bible says, “Not one”. That is of course without Christ. I was married once, and was involved in a major accident that left me recovering for 10 years. She divorced me at the beginning of all that. There have been times I thought I was robbed of my marriage. Does that mean that was my one experience, and now I have to endure singleness? Our son just turned 18, well about to be 19, but my point is I raised him without her. I always thought he was my only purpose because of the accident, and being brought back after dying. Now, my raising is done, and my life seems like it has no purpose now. I do desire a wife, but I’m starting to think I’m getting too old. I’ll be 40 in June. Granted, that’s not old, but I’m not about the games being played today. Let the Lord’s Will be done in our lives, and throughout the Earth! He is good, even in singleness! He is good in every situation! ❤️❤️
I'm really feeling what you wrote i hope you are having a good day and find someone too.
@@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 thank you 🙏
If I’m single any longer I will explode. I’m so sick of this shit
Same 😩
Sorry dude…
Same.
My sentiments exactly
Well guys, it’s been over 2 years. And I’m still in the same boat. Looks like my constant prayers were unheard.
Praise the Lord, i was struggling today with this as the evil one got into my head with my ex and failed engagement. I needed this. Praise God in Christ Yeshua
The 2 conclusions I’ve come up with is 1, it’s a heart issue and that’s why you can’t find someone. And 2, if you don’t talk to the opposite sex it won’t happen. I cry all the time about not being married and it’s like “Zack I brought you to a church with 100 single girls and you haven’t spoke to a single one, what am I supposed to do?”. That’s what I’ve come up with. If you don’t ask they aren’t going to show up on your doorstep wanting to marry you.
I am scared bcoz all the women i approached were fickle minded
Which church are you going to? Just about every church or any social function I go to, women already have a man
All of the men in church are taken though!!
The church needs to stop hyper-spiritualizing this topic. Start a matchmaking service or just straight up arrange the marriages. It's can't be this complicated.
There are a lot of problems with getting hitched young people face now that were different a few decades ago. But no one bothers to examine these or come up with practical solutions.
I’m loving the pure honesty in these comments. Honestly, I pick videos to see the ‘real deal’ from the people in the comments. We are not alone.
Still nothing. I’ve prayed every day and tried being righteous. I’m over it. At this point I believe He does not care about me or my constant battle with lonliness.
I know it feels like that but don’t give up
Being holy or living right is never by man's strength but only by the grace of God. Trust in God (Jesus) to live holy, if you trust in your strength....you will be easily tired.
His aware of what you are going through, He cares for you and all that concerns you. Don't allow the devil to deceive you or take away your joy, which is in Christ Jesus 👑.
I was told that God never allowed me to get married because he wanted me for himself- how can he want someone who had and has been his from the beginning? Couldn't he have given me the gift of celibacy so that the loneliness would be more tolerable? Make your answers honest, if you don't have a legitimate answer, then don't answer at all.
I’m sorry you dealt with that, 1 Timothy 4 tells of people who will be teaching doctrines of demons such as prohibiting marriage, if God wanted you single, He would have given you the gift of celibacy, I say this because I’ve also dealt with such comments and it has pushed me to study God’s Word more, that if He put that desire in you, He will fulfill it, unfortunately there are teachers who will speak things God never told them, hope you find a great spouse.
I too am 26, saved for 9 years and waiting to be married. This is so refreshing to know I'm not alone!
After 2 years from now, i am here reading your old comment, are you married by now?
@@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere don't give up on GOD..I know the hurt and discouragement! I was literally almost depressed but continued to trust God. I am now married and we just had a baby after getting married. God CAN do a SUDDENLY..trust HIM 😊💕
@@hassanabdullahi3366 I am! God is faithful!
@@laraemonet wow, thank you and congratulations and God bless you!
@@laraemonet Congratulations to you. Glory be to God alone.
Don’t worry about getting married. I am 31 and single. In singleness we have a incredible opportunity to focus entirely on Jesus. When I was younger and in my early twenties I worries about finding a woman to marry. Now I don’t worry anymore. I realize that marriage cannot bring my soul joy like the presence of God. Furthermore marriage just seems like much work. Any dating relationship I have been in has been emotionally exhausting and painful.
You don’t worry because you’re a MAN. You can have children whenEVER.
You are in your thirties but will happily and EASILY marry a woman MUCH younger.
Don’t compare yourself to single women. Easy for you to say ‘don’t worry’.
You wouldn’t say that to married people about their worries and problems, so why are you not taking it seriously from single people?
You are young. If you waited 25 years and then mid 50s alone all friends married will you feel the same?
@@missNCW reading your replies, I have seen your sensitivity on this matter and you're right at some points. It's very clear that most of christians (both women and men) desires to get married considering what might be different factors. We are supposed and it came to us naturally to desire good things like marriage.
My point here, what I wanted to stress, is to find joy, delight and rejoice in God whatever the situation you're in. If you need to talk to someone, talk to them. Be willing to change your perspectives or any other thing that might be hindering your marriage or negatively affecting your relationships. Do what you can and believe in God for His will in your life.
Be thankful to God in every situation.
@@missNCWYou have too much anger and bitterness in your heart. God can’t bless you with what you desire with that type of blockage. I know this comment is a year old, but I hope he’s healed you.
@@goldengirl7625I don't sense any anger or bitterness in her comment. Her use of caps is to add emphasis, it doesn't mean she's angry or bitter. You can be heartbroken and longing for a desire that God placed within you while not being angry or bitter. God bless
I think MANY people have LITERALLY no idea how difficult marriage is...
even a good one where both are level headed Christians whose top priorities are to have a good marriage... it hurts a lot and is hard many days bc of personalities and personal struggles with selfishness, past hurts affecting your current life and so much more...
my marriage is a great one and i am blessed but it is often difficult... THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE (and pain/struggles) IS TO MAKE YOU MORE LIKE CHRIST!!!
not everyone can handle that .... some are emotionally unstable or unable to put others before themselves for whatever reasons...
many are quick to divorce over stupid stuff... or due to unforgiveness... so yeah, idk. MARRIAGE IS ABOUT SELF DENIAL, NOT SELF INDULGENCE (time and place for mutuality)
Also I will say I had zero prospects at all... men never did flock around me... and i accepted that i may never get married and that hurt but it was ok with me. I LITERALLY surrendered all my hope and cares for marriage at the feet of God... I ALSO screamed at the devil that neither he nor I would ever get to decide who i was to marry, even if it was something undesirable, i will follow God in choosing a mate... i was married literally a year later, and God lead me halfway around the world to see him, he is the man of my dreams in every single way and in every detail (save a few things that are the focus of our marital sanctification), and through his mannerisms and other things i am constantly reminded that God picked him from the tree just for me... which means I for him also. My marriage has healed my battered heart like nothing else, but it has been very painful and a LOT of relying on God...
MARRIAGE IS NOT EASY AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING FOR THE FAINT OF HEART TO DESIRE! Just saying! This is MY experience, take or leave it. God bless!
I really like your comments. Just a quick question. Lining up your time of singleness and your time of marriage, which is the most difficult?
Please reply to that other question (Moody Radio) to me...thanks.
Moody Radio Southeast 🙏🏼 Thanks for your question...
if you want to skip the long answer, you can scroll down and read the last 2 paragraphs. :)
honestly, this depends on a month by month, sometimes a week by week basis (chapters or seasons). It also would depend on each individuals goals in life and how they plan to achieve them. Obviously, what makes life easy or hard for each person can be extremely different from person to person.
You asked me to line up my time of marriage with my time of singleness... so since I have only been married for 7 years, I will only compare the 7 years PRIOR to the time I met/dated my husband (and we can call that a happy, inbetween time lol).
That would put us around September of 2004...
I will say this- we COULD compare the happiness or difficulty in % of the wholes of my single period vs the married period. And of course the happiness AND the difficulty would be higher in the marriage period, but this data would be misleading because if you breakdown each period into monthly or seasonal chapters, how each chapter compares would contrast differently to the wholes. There are times of my marriage that were much more difficult than times in my singleness and it is difficult to compare them. Some of that reason is because I was a different person at that time also, and as we evolve over time, what is difficult or pleasant to us changes. So should we look at how we felt at the time or how we see it now?
This is a very complicated question you have asked, if we are looking for an accurate answer...
I will do my best. But this doesn’t suggest that outcomes would be the same for others. Many people are happy and get married and are miserable after because they can’t communicate well with their spouse or perhaps they are selfish or maybe their spouse doesn’t want to try.
In my case I have a very supportive husband who does want to try and both of our goals is to have a good marriage as a foundation to our life. Divorce is not in our vocabulary and isn’t even something we make jokes about. It is literally not an option for us (and neither is adultery). So my example is coming from a more typically good storyline. The heartbroken hopeless romantic finally clings to God alone and the Good Father leads her on a journey and she finds her identity and her husband. A very much arranged marriage by the divine. My story makes Elizabeth Gilbert’s EatPrayLove seem mundane and cliche. But to God be 100% of the glory alone.
In 2004-2008
I had many relationship issues with heart break and abuse. I wasn’t making a big effort to live for God until 2008, so for that 4 years I had my heart ripped out many times, living with my parents was difficult also as my mother was very controlling and has some undiagnosed mental illness, but living on my own only brought me to make choices that weren’t best for me and had lasting consequences. I was bisexual, yet I only ever dated men. I had a lot of fun and a great social life but it was laced with emptiness and heart break. Nothing was long lasting or fulfilling and in the end I was numb and felt as if I couldn’t love anyone ever again, even though I still wanted it the same as anyone else. I felt nothing in my heart toward this idea of love.
2008-2011-
I completed my associate degree in nursing during that time and met my husband shortly after landing my first nursing job (later enabling me to pay for plane tickets to visit him in Egypt). I had an encounter with evil spirits after a bad relationship and this lead me into trying to get free and to the occult and paranormal investigation (although I believed I was doing Gods will and was at least trying to follow Him, He is able to teach us truth as long as were seeking it, and He brought me out of it). I started going to a good church and grew in Gods word and had a beautiful intimate and sweet time with God and He lead me out of all the lies and taught me truths from my experiences. He delivered me from evil spirits and taught me who I was and lead me into abstinence. I struggled this entire time with longing for a husband because I still had much sexual temptation. I would always wonder about my male friends etc if they could ever be more but never said anything. I cried every night praying for a husband so that my sexuality could become a non-issue, so that I could serve Him. This was a beautiful and sweet time with God and I cherish those memories and moments with Him, I felt as if I went into the garden with Him.
Once I was married there was amazing happiness, but many challenges in immigration and being separated during the first 2 years. Immediately after I married all sexual desires that were unholy were gone. It was like a switch flipped in my brain and heart. I also however, started having these past traumas in my sexuality surface in ways that tormented me. My husband didn’t deserve any of that. It took about 2 years to weed through tall those PTSD memories from my past in various ways (how to not carry things on him and how to realize he didn’t view me how I was thinking he did but that it was bc of trauma) and to be honest I am still working through healing in this and we actually have made huge progress this week...
God has been revealing to me since October ‘18 through dreams that I still have some problems in my sexuality that is blocking a clear view of my marriage and the best fulfillment of our union (a lot of scars from past abuse).
There have been times where my husband or I were selfish and weren’t communicating well and it can blow out of proportion bc of our perceptions. When he first came to America he hated it and didn’t tell me, and it came out and was a big issue (also bc of how I was treating him and I didn’t see it). There were times that I wished I had never gotten married, and immediately had to repent, bc I can’t deny the unique journey God has lead me to and I KNOW my husband was picked by God for me. But the pain of being hurt by our partner doesn’t stop when we get married (hopefully the pain of adultery and other major issues does stop) because we are all selfish and self centered sometimes, but GOOD OPEN HONEST COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY to that, and making the choice to love and care for what each other has to say. Love truly is a verb!
The difficulty in untangling the knots and roots of my own darkness (marriage) is far greater than the difficulty of the falling and twisting that tangled them in the first place (singleness). But so is the happiness.
I hope this answers your questions.
Another persons story may be different.
After writing this I don’t think we can make good comparisons to a single life that will be true for every person. But in singleness you are free and in marriage you are bound... so it depends on if the person finds more difficulty in being bound or free ;)
@@Hopeof7suns Thank you for taking the time and effort to unpack and answer Moody Radio Southeast's question and thank you for being open to sharing your experiences, insights and journey.
BARofLUNCH I believe in vulnerability and honesty bc it is our strongest testimony and weapon against the enemy and against shame. I do it for those like you who appreciate it. May God’s blessings shine upon you, and give you the desires of your heart as you seek Him above All things, from one lover to another. Xoxo
1 Corinthians 7: 8,9
But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Amen!
🗡 Romans 14:22
Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth.
🗡1 Kings 10:8
Happy are thy men, happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and that hear thy wisdom.
🗡2 Chronicles 9:7
Happy are thy men, and happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and hear thy wisdom. Amen.
Thank u for this clear explanation, may God bless u & yours in the name of Christ Jesus!
Thanks for that !
Yeah whatever we can STILL have faith and want marriage. Who said we don’t have faith.
Married people aren’t accused of having less faith because they got married, why are single people accused because they want marriage.
@@missNCW ¿
I wish i was in an arranged marriage. That'd be easier.
Not necessarily. God bless you.
Thank you. I am struggling at 30
Sorry life is hard sometimes 😕
I’m 29 years old single female and still waiting for marriage. I have someone I like and so I am over the moon about it. I do hope we all realize that God’s plans are ultimately the best! I’m Still looking up! 😊 Also hoping everyone looking for a godly spouse may find it.
Ty, Sis, youre a hearty soul, hugs to you and blessings for your journey 🫂💜🎯
Am single good godly woman 50 still waiting patiently for good godly man it all depends on God's time faith 🙏 ❤😂😢😮😅😊
i have a friend who turned his back on God because of this exact issue... unfortunately, this video wouldn't be an encouragement to help restore his faith or heal his wounds...
A tuff place to be that’s for sure
I'm sorry about that. I'm actually also barely holding on to my faith because of the same situation. I don't know how much longer I can endure. Especially when there are Christian people who make us single people seem like bad Christians because of our single loneliness which is as adding salt to injury.
I feel for your friend. I'm in this same spot as well not just for marriage but I feel God is withholding friendship from me as well and keeping my lonely.
Hey just a thought, but why dont all the people in this comment section try to meet? I mean, just read these comments. So much pain, why not try to connect with people in the same situation and mindset?
I want to be married. I'm sick and tired of waiting on God
Please be careful, pray and fast about it. The Lord God will surely answer you... He said He will never leave you nor forsake you.
My struggle with pornography has likely been what's kept God from blessing me with marriage, but there are a lot more sinful people who God has blessed far more. I don't understand. Besides that, even when I had repented, God still did not bless me with a relationship.
Pray against and be delivered from the spirit of lust. Lust cannot enter a marriage.
This hope for marriage that is not being fulfilled is very prevalent in the American church. Since we can rule out some kind of error on Gods part then it has to be on us. We must be the ones with an unbiblical view of marriage. Myself included. 1 Corinthians 7:8 is such a foreign and scary verse as a 21st century American Christian. But I believe it is the one that God is calling many of us to. Let’s consider this: would you rather have the faith, joy and peace that Paul had as a single man, or be married and receive those joys and troubles as they come? I believe the biblical answer would obviously be to have the mindset of the Apostle Paul who never married, but I don’t think many of us would choose that in our hearts, including myself. Therefore, this is a stumbling block set up by the enemy to frustrate, confuse, and weaken the the faith of many Christians. Nothing wrong with marriage and god bless you if you’re married, but when you simply read the New Testament and see all these celibate men that received ample joy from God, that seems to be what God would prefer us to do. But as a 19 year old guy, I’m honestly saddened by this conclusion. I don’t know if God has marriage in his plan for me, but I do hope so. Either way, God is faithful and good all the time and blesses me more than I can imagine.
Be at peace Kyle. Im 51 never married. I was a very popular girl and very marriageable. Very devout Christian the past 30 years. I am so happy in so many ways and am grateful I didnt marry just to marry. No baggage. No divorces. No broken kids. I love marriage in Christ and think marriage is wonderful but just know God can bring you a very happy life of joy being single. Godspeed whatever His will is for you my dear!
Your too young you have plenty of time. I'm a 30 year old women waiting for marriage.
No one is saying they want to give up the peace and joy of Christ for marriage but loneliness is still hard!
Also many of the apostles were married…
All i wanted is to get Married and to be with someone who will love me forever. But why it is too diffecult to achieve and guys always to hurt me.
Please be careful what you watch on tv, 90% of it is fake.. Put your trust in Jesus and He will never forsake you.. Isaiah 41:10
And as an aside I think realism is important. She’s 26 so she’s till young. There are women in there 50’s saying this. Though the fact is most churches are predominantly female (between 60-70%). Unless you want to legalise polygamy, there realistically is not enough Men to go around. And so one should be flexible without compromising.
So much harder when over 50 to work ft and run a house and all responsibility. To be I'll alone
Also one wage v hard.
Growing old alone with no family v tough.
Pastor John thank you for your ministry and Its a dangerous thing to invoke criticism on Jesus up in heaven. I have been set straight many times at the young age of 32 that I'm at by my Dad in heaven. Each time scared the mess out of me so much so that one time thru me into a bad panic attack.
I try not to be envious of my brother but I also feel that I am being punished for some reason. I am 28 single and he is 26; married and has a son. Why can’t I have that?
U could
My friend I'm 40 and still not married. You are still so young and worried about marriage. My sister got married at 38 and happy. Be patient, be a strong confident man and above all a faithful man to God.
You can! Pray to God about a personal matchmaker. If He allows you to get one then do it. And receive your dreams!
But do you honestly believe that marriage will make you any more happy than you are now? I'm sorry to break this to you but it won't. Your brother doesn't have something that you dont have. All I'm saying is open your eyes, look around you and really see the truth about the people who have what you think will bring you happiness. They themselves will tell you that marriage won't bring you happiness, not marriage not children. Appreciate what you have which is freedom. Trust me there are many married people who would trade places with you in a heart beat. See the gift of freedom that you have as exactly that, a gift. And use your time to thank God for that gift
Strive for holiness and to be God's kind of man. Bring your desires to the Lord in humility, with open hands. Seek accountibility with older, wiser men because walking the single life as a Christian is a battle for purity especially in this sex idolized culture. Don't seek out ungodly women in apps. Trust in the Lord. He is your true hope.
She's under 30! She should be glad. She's not over 40
9 years is still a long time to wait for anything..
Interesting listening to this on National Single Day 2020.
What do you mean for Christs sake? The Bible doesn't say that. The Bible permits marriage.
Ok...after scanning the comments I think I won't watch the video....coz I may get discouraged...coz I'm 39...turning 40 in a few months...and not married...🙄
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@@maryambashir4193 thanx for offering to help..but no I don't need it...I like my single life though....
Yes, God is first his will be done ✅
100% agree... took me some time to accept this, but now I do. May His (not our) will be done in our lives!
Gregory Rousseau
God goes before us, beside us and behind us. He knows and sees everything, our past, present and future. Remember Joseph, what seemed bad and was, was for his best in the long run. That’s why we should give thanks in all things, good and bad. God knows what he’s doing.
Glory to God. God is Great.
I'm 41 years old and not married yet. That's the test of my life and struggle. Because when I was younger, many wanted to marry me but I was afraid of committing. But now I want to settle down. I live it to God now.
Are you a man or woman? If you don't mind me asking...
You said some wanted to marry you but you refused because you were afraid to commit. There are consequences for choices we make.
@@mrmonay Of course she's a woman. That's never a man's story. A mans story is being ignored. A woman's story is throwing it away. Every f.cking time.
Sounds like God gave you opportunities and you didn't take them because of fear. Hopefully you find someone.
Yesica.You sound rather interesting, Im 58,just turned,haha.The Lord is my only PRIORITY.
Also we are the bride of Christ and Jesus is the bridegroom! We get married to Jesus in heaven woop woop!
What if your a man? 🧐
Because God wants an undivided..Singular Relatonship with you. I listened to people too much in my life..and got very mislead and had to suffer much before I realized..Jesus IS the Only One for me to Listen to. No One else!
Doesn't make sense. I would rather recommend someone to read " Just do something" by Kelvin DeYoung. You're find the book giving a satisfying answer that this. God's will over our lives is not that complicated only that it is over spiritualized by Christians at times. Some unbelievers are living a life of making decisions without consulting a voice from somewhere or something and I am afraid to say they get some things right than Christians.
WHY DEYOUNG? FALLEN ANGEL
I just give up. I'm in my 40s, been praying for years. I don't care anymore.
Me to
I believed God had put three ladies before me in life so far. I was completely certain of it, I was disastrously wrong on all counts. None resulted in a wedding all resulted in pain. I completely give up in believing that I know that God has put a wife before me by my own discernment but I don’t give up that marriage may be part of my journey before I depart this fallen planet, not that I need a wife to complete me but because I believe it’s just part of Gods bigger plan for many of us. It gets pretty complicated at times eh .
I feel your pain. I’m sorry but not all hope is lost. Jesus can do anything at anytime.
hm i've been by myself for 40 years. drives me crazy.
God is a merciful god!
Wow this is deep..how do y'all feel?
Idk 🤷 tuff waiting as I age that’s for sure I hope & pray God brings someone to you cheers
Idk hard to keep the hope, I’ll be 40.
@@Christina_320Where are you from? I'm in northern ca
Great video, if God Withholds anything than it might just be for are own Good and a good father doesn't spoil his children.
Withholding too much from something is what makes them want to spoil their kids later in life.
Where in the Bible does it say that.
Married people have plenty things and aren’t spoiled. Why should that be withheld from single people. No logic is what you said
Our society pushes the idea that being single is a curse and there must he something wrong with people who are single. This is a common misconception. Of course there are some single people that need to work on improving themselves to be more desireable as a relationship or marriage partner. However, I've noticed that being single allows people more freedom to serve God and pursue their personal and professional goals. Being single allows more time for spiritual and personal growth. Many people in today’s society jump from one relationship to the next and seek comfort and dependency in their partner for their happiness in life. They seek complete fulfillment from their partner instead of seeking God and His purpose. God uses singleness to draw people closer to Him. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable especially if you have been single for a long time and desire to be married. But it is better to be alone and seeking God then pursuing relationships that are unhealthy. I've personally pursued and stayed in relationships that I knew were toxic because I didn't want to be alone. As difficult as it is to be single sometimes, its important to wait on God's timing. So how do we know God's timing? From my experience, the times in my life where I've surrendered my life to Him and allowed Him to guide me without getting caught up in sin and self pity is the times where I've experienced the most joy and met some wonderful women. Serving God in your singleness doesn't guarantee you will meet your life partner but it does guarantee you will be living God's purpose in your life which will ultimately bring you the most joy and fulfillment.
I’ve been waiting on His timing, I am not expecting a man to “complete” me, but what about growing spiritually TOGETHER? Is that not possible? Your spiritual growth does not stop when you have a partner
I have been praying since age 20 and I am 55. Was v attractive but losing looks now. I know nominal Christian's and all other Christian's God marrys off fast divorced or widowed or young. Hard for me as I have no other family.
I'm so sorry 😔 I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but I also struggle with this. Except for the fact that I'm only 30 compared to you.
@@Nothingbutdust_ bless. Wait until you pray for 25 years and nil. Just no Christian men in my path match. Is the same for a lot of Christian women I know 30 upwards so few decent Christian men in the church unmarried and in the world men quickly dump me if no sex before marriage. One has less time single to serve God as have one wage to pay Bill's and to run a house do everything. My advice do not leave too long as at my age 55 men often bitten with divorce and unlikely to share or want to marry. Blessings.
The Lord is your strength, don't give up on God...God will never give up on you. Please read Isaiah 41:10
It hurts
I am fifty in your situation. I console myself that I'll be in Heaven soon.
This is so good! 🙏🏾👏🏾
Then again most women back in the past were nothing at all like the kind of very horrible and evil women that God created these days either. Love in the old days really did come very easy for our family members since women never cared about looks and wealth in those days like they do now.
Well I waited now 60 no more being obdient
These answers can go for any desires. Great reasons thank you. I thank our God for you all.
God select Rich people married
I hear what you're saying but let me ask question this way why would God be so cruel to give us a desire for something when that something isn't in his in his will for that person's life it is cruel
I served God since i was 28 and now i am 42 and stil waiting for His time.. or i should ready my prayer didn't answered..
Is it a sin to not even want to entertain the idea of marriage coming my way? I'm 27 and I'm afraid even my resistance isn't glorifying the Lord but I honestly prefer being single
Lemme give ya the nut shell.
Marriage doesn't mean anything, stop worrying about it, it's not in heaven, and go to church.
A holy convenient doesn't mean anything if there is no parameters to the covenant, you basically said marriage is nothing, so why should I care to get married.
I don't believe this pastor explained his position well.
Marriage is not the key to happiness, but it is the key to gaining many defense against one's own sinful nature.
You can't desire a woman, who is not your wife, but when married desire your wife, and carry on serving the lord.
You are to dwell on the things that are just and right and lovely, and life partner can be there when you are down, and you can be there when they are down.
In a marriage you are no longer a soldier, alone on the battle field, you have back up, and sometimes your backup runs out of ammo, and you'll need to sacrifice a magazine, but the battle will end, and that person will be there with you.
I don't bring marriage up to the level of God or Jesus, because God's the firearm manufacturer, the body armor maker, and trench builder.
Jesus is the ammo, and the training is the holy spirit teaching us through the word of God.
But that partnership, that helps you fight back, that's is ordained by God, not to be diminished as just another life thing.
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I do go to church and seek God mightily but I’m still lonely
I Lost. Faith & I Dont no how to get my. Fairg Back
I haven’t/wouldn’t lose my faith in God but I have lost faith that marriage is in His will for me. I’ve traveled the world, I work in ministry full-time, everyone’s always saying how pretty I am (rolls eyes) and I’m 36 and single. I don’t even the see point now. 35 is considered advanced maternal age. I guess it’s just me and God from here on out 🤷🏽♀️. I wish more pastors preached on singleness and how it’s likely many will never marry but that’s a hard truth most don’t want to hear. *You might benefit from listening to Tiffany Buckner on YT. Her channel is called Anointed Fire; she speaks a lot about women waiting for husbands.
Simply read the Bible. Look at the old testament and how God delivered the children of Israel countless times after they've spat on His name multiple times. At the same time, look at the profits and how God used them because they saw God's promises being fulfilled. That will lead you to Jesus and the New Testament. Pray and talk to God. If you are sincere, God will answer in His perfect timing. Ask for Him to help you realize that no matter what you feel, God's prophecies have come true and are still coming true and you ultimately want to be a part of the positive aspect. Ask for an open ear, mind, and heart to help you hear what the spirit is saying to the churches and that the truth sparks the fire BUT that belief carries over even if the fire goes out, all because you know the truth! 😀
God is always with me but obviously never wants me to marry as I am 56 and still single!
That question could best be answered by looking at yourself in the mirror and turning slightly to one side...
So God puts us in sorrow leading to sin.
Not really an answer. I mean to summarize this episode: Q: why am I not married? A: Jesus is your groom!
26 and waiting for marriage how pathetic. I'm 58 and still waiting for God to give me a Christian marriage.
Nice but he doesn't actually answer the question 😆
Most of the time he doesn't and the questions. His advice here isn't realistic.
Same here, age 37. ❤ Blessings
Because he wants more followers like the apostle paul thats why.
so simple and so true... i also think MANY people have LITERALLY no idea how difficult marriage is... even a good one where both are level headed Christians whose goals are to have a good marriage... it hurts and is hard many days bc of personalities and personal struggles with selfishness... my marriage is a great one and i am blessed but it is NO LESS difficult... not everyone can handle that .... many are quick to divorce over stupid stuff... so yeah
Also I will say I had zero prospects at all... men never did flock around me... and i accepted that i may never get married and that it was ok with me. I LITERALLY surrendered all my hope and cares for marriage at the feet of God... i was married literally a year later, and God lead me half way around the world to see him.
@@Hopeof7suns thanks for sharing so o should just give it to God & stop looking daily ? I can’t lie takes so much energy ugh 🤦🏼♂️
Amen thank you God
Amen.
better be getting married to someone in heaven if i aint married on this earth.
Sadly marriage is not a thing mentioned in heaven but our married friends will not be married anymore
@@carolinemilburn7128 ouch
I think that the reason why God may withhold marriage back is that we might be breaking the tenth commandment. So me must not be obsessing over it by coveting after it. That and the fact Jesus’ second coming is really soon.
I think you're onto something in the first part, the second part, we can't possibly know that, and I think it's bad advice to give to people to expect that...
Yes, the way we look at marriage or the spouse in our very Romanized culture is very idol-worship-esq ... the marriage itself is an idol, the wife is an idol, the husband is an idol, when God is supposed to be the focus.
For a man: what is your mission for God? "Do you know? Have you asked Him? If you don't have one, you don't need a woman to help with it and you're probably not ready for a Godly woman to cover.
For woman: are you prepared to be a submissive/obedient helpmeet and show reverence to a man with a mission from God and make your 1st priority serving and helping him in that? If not, start reading the word and making yourself ready for that mission.
I prayed before finding a video I know to go to God's , for whatever reason I prayed to see something about the situation I am in .I'm 39 years old and I understand that I can serve the Lord without being married but also I hope this doesn't sound strange but I feel like I was meant to be someone's helper in a way of being a wife so this is been conflicting for me for some time. Either way I very much enjoyed listening to truth and appreciated it highly is there is so much garbage out there these days I always have to pray before I watch anything on TH-cam pertaining to this subject so on so forth in Christian mannerism. God bless🌅
are you married now?
Some of those sound like they were made up by the so-called pastor, John, and not by God
some of those what?
@@guzlemuzle Ideas that pastor gives
@@Jacare1973 which ones?
But some good people i know are married. The woman that cut up a corpse on drugs..she's married..also I know a church woman that is contemplating divorce..
Amen 🙏🏻
Brothers and sisters, Men and Women the scriptures say
1 Corinthians 7
King James Version
7 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant.
23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.
24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.
25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
Matthew 5:32
King James Version
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Why is God withholding from me? Because it's not about "me", it's about "He".
This.
I'm 17 and i don't wanna get married i don't like relationships
It's not for everyone the apostle paul recommended
The single life
being married
To Jesus is more beneficial!
Maybe because you are sitting around waiting for something to happen when you should get out and make it happen.
Did that and it ended up being a huge mistake.
@@SuckerPunch92 To have tried and failed is better than never having tried at all.
@@jasonwilliams8321 I disagree. Especially in my case
@@SuckerPunch92 Well then your options are to just accept things the way they are. Not much room for complaining.
@@jasonwilliams8321 if you're depending on God you just don't go and make things happen. There has to be wisdom. But I guess were coming from two different perspectives
I hope she is married now
Dam. It's astonishing how I cannot find any videos related to the fact that it's written that the unmarried are the only ones worthy of the resurrection as they are the children of the resurrection and the virgins are given the first fruits of the Lord. Well I guess heaven really is hidden in a field where if you find it you gotta hide it well good then 😂
That isn’t what that verse means
@@purplerose155 tell me o great Jesus! what that verse means as if you are the final judge
@@purplerose155 there's also a verse hopeth beareth believeth and endureth all things. And the wise and strong shall be confounded by the weak and foolish. So you say you are wise yet you only interpret a verse one way when it is possible to view a verse in multiple ways and if all things possible with God then maybe even a crackhead sees something in a verse that no one else sees. If I'm wrong then I guess you are right but I bow to no man or bot account regardless of how high they're IQ is. No one tells me how to interpret Jesus for the kingdom is within not in a bot or a pastor outside of my body. You got your way of looking at things and I got my way of looking at things
Find your spouse in the comments lol
I'm married. Gosh, it's the hardest thing ever. And not always a good hard. A very, very hard thing. And I am a strong Christian- apparently my husband is too. You may not be ready for marriage or the Lord wants to keep you from the suffering. :/ Honestly...
whats hard about it if you don't mind sharing
I want to know what's hard about it too.
Marriage is according to the will of GOD there is no way he will withhold marriage from a person.
God is not withholding marriage. Look at how many people get married for no reason at all.
What doesn’t help is that there are Christians that look for a spouse exactly like women do on the dating apps, gotta be the perfect Chad, even though she’s a 4 in looks, and vice versa with guys. It’s just a disaster of delusion. I’ve learned to just be happy if it never happens for me, a man has way more to lose anyway if the marriage doesn’t work out.
Who cares why? Just be glad that he is...
God doesn’t withhold marriage. Marriage is an idol. It’s not all peaches and cream idyllic expectations really.
Yeah no kidding but loneliness is still real.
I know that. Even the best marriages have their issues, but I feel really called to be married and have children one day.
Has absolutely nothing to do with the lie called god.
@Matt H it's spelled out in plain English. Apparently you have issues with that?
@Just a woman From Pasadena JF perhaps it's a wake up call?
God is real. The problem is that a lot of people on this thread are religious like the Pharisees and accuse you of doing wrong things because their own lives are being lived in misdirections. Remember, the Pharisees accused Jesus of healing someone during Sabbath and condemned Him to death (not the only reason though). They were also very religious about sex like these people are; truth is that God created sex and commanded that each man has his own wife; it is written in the Bible. These people do not know the Bible, they know religion and are highly adept at it!
Then why are you on this video then?
Can you blame God? A woman here placed an order with God for a husband. Her order wasn't fulfilled as she specified, so she stopped believing in God. My reaction was that God had to look after the husband as well, and I wouldn't wish her on anybody. She is even worse than the woman who wanted to train her husband in the same way that she trained horses!
I wasnt meant to have a wife i understand that now. After all these yrs.
why? are you sure? IS that the enemy telling you that or God???
@@Hopeof7suns I believe it is God because when its not his plan that we do a certain thing it never works. We can bang our heads against the wall or accept his plan.
@@Hotboytrue Right. This is the simplest answer. We havre to die to our own desires. When we follow God we dont always get what we want.
Lmmfao!
I love when married people teach on singleness😅
First of all I'm not idolizing marriage, I know it has many challanges, too. I'm just simply tired of singleness, that I can't share my life (good and bad with someone).
The second thing is, that I lost so many friends once they got married. Don't blaming them, probably I would behave similarly. Married people have their own life, children etc. They won't go with you anymore to worship concerts, conferences etc....because of this I feel alone. I have a good church and friends, but mostly married couples or way more younger single people. I'm soon 39😢
Isn't it great how all assume we don't have a realistic view of marriage? Like in my 20s I didn't. But Im 32, Im not naive anymore. It's so hard to be in your 30s and single. It's like being invisible
I'm 17 and i don't wanna get married i don't like relationships