The boyfriend shouldn't be judged on what his friends did without his knowledge. However, he should be judged what he does now that he knows. Cut ties from those friends. Even though the one friend didn't intend to let it get that far, it did get that far. So, it shows bad judgement and he shouldn't be associated with that.
@@ShadowTaipan Sadly peer pressure is a thing. He may have been afraid to actually do anything out of fear they'd assault him too. Doesn't make what she went through any better, obviously, but it does make a difference if the driver should ever be allowed in polite society again.
Tbh the boyfriend immidiately after learning about the prank and having his girlfriend in the shower should take a gun (unloaded of course, not that they have to know) and point it at the "friends" and just act angrily, tell them to laugh now because its a funny prank. Yeah I know that would be bad but fuck would it not be right.
If the ‘friend’ who was driving felt so bad, why didn’t he pull over and tell her what was happening? Why did he continue to let her be terrorized and sexually assaulted?
I think he might have been scared to say something , But still It’s not an excuse and it was really messed up what happened. Op was severely traumatized. He could’ve done more to prevent this. He should still go to jail to face the consequences, even if he is remorseful he still took part of it. It still doesn’t make sense because he had the chance to stop the situation but he didn’t
Story 1: I don't care if it's just a prank, these "friends" needs to be arrested. They seriously think just because it isn't "real" kidnapping, they shouldn't be held accountable? No, that's BS. Real or not, these guys kidnapped and traumatized OP, and the boyfriend needs to cut contact with these guys, they are psychopaths.
My great grandfathers "friends" tried that kidnaping thing since it was a "tradition", despite him saying if they tried it, they might not get a chance to regret it. Those freinds spent two months in the hospital. He was a hard man, but he was the definition of a loving dad.
Geist Grace, your great grandfather's "friends" were lucky they didn't end up taking a dirt nap instead of spending a couple of months in hospital. If the young lady who was "pranked" ( literally kidnapped) had been armed, things could have taken an even more tragic turn. As is, she is now traumatized for life and hopefully the kidnappers get to reflect on their misdeed while spending a goodly amount of time behind bars. The driver also deserves some form of punishment although perhaps not as severe as the two sadistic bastards who put this young lady through hell. As for the boyfriend, it seems as though his intent was to innocently surprise his girlfriend with a proposal but his intent went very sideways. I won't say that he deserves jail time but I'd say IF he has any conscience whatsoever, he'll spend the rest of his days regretting what he put his then girlfriend through even though doing so wasn't his intent. As for the poor, unfortunate young lady, I hope she can manage to recover from this traumatic experience but I suspect she's doomed to relive it from now on.
I am guessing your ancestors are from Central Asia, cause unfortunately, there is a tradition of kidnapping brides there, notably in Kazakhstan and Kyrgyzstan.
When I was in EMS back in the 1980s, whenever we did backboard training, the guys liked to strap down the girls, including their hands, and put them in the dumpster. They tried that with me, too. Once.
Story one: she absolutely was assaulted in multiple ways. They are all culpable. The drivinf friend should have pulled over immediately and identified them and if the 2 psychos persisted in assaulting her, he should have called the police and tried to intervene. This was not a joke, it was a legit kidnapping and assault.
The Driver tried to stop them, by the OP's own admission, but couldn't get them to stop, so rushed to the byofreinds house as the two commiting the crime were muscular, athletic men saying some really fucked up stuff. Calling the police would take longer than just getting to the boyfriends place, as it was only 7 to 10 minutes away, and that was the end goal anyway, and would get the back-up needed to make them stop if they didn't. Stressful situations and panic make it hard to think logically like to stop and make them stop.
Maybe you know of an update? On this one OP just said he wasn't OK with it and that he said something to them. He should have pulled over, and told them that it was over, and this wasn't what Fiance wanted.
These people always seem to think that because it's a prank, they shouldn't face consequences or get arrested because "It's just a prank bro!". Sure, you can prank people, but keep within the confines of the law! Jesus Christ.
Years and years of "It's just a joke!" and "It's just a prank bro" being allowed to slide has created this toxic societal hellscape where boundaries, basic decency and even the law doesn't matter so long as you say you're just joking. This is why if you ever hear those words, don't let up, set a clear boundary that you will not humor disgusting views, words or actions and will not allow yourself to be gaslit into thinking you're taking a "joke" too seriously. If more people hold guys like this accountable, it'll help in rectifying this bs.
Okay so I’ve kidnapped friends to take them to surprises before, but it went like this: I went to their house, knocked on the door, let the friend see me and then said “hey! I’m kidnapping you for a surprise day trip with me!” And then put a blindfold on her so she couldn’t tell where we were going, and then put her in my passenger seat to go there. I did NOT actually stage a legitimate kidnapping with groping and fake threats of assault and violence. What is wrong with these guys?!
Yeah I know like for bachelor/bachelorette parties it sometimes starts with friends showing up to their house and saying hey we are going to blindfold you and tie you up you have no choice you are coming with us. This is of course with them showing their face the whole time. Those would be examples of fake kidnapping. what happened to OP was real kidnapping.
I've done things like this too! That's how you ACTUALLY go about a 'kidnapping' for a surprise, not whatever the frick was going on in these lunatics' heads. I hope that one guy gets convicted of SA because that is absolutely what he was doing. What a piece of crap human being, who even DOES that during what's supposed to be a surprise? Was he going for 'realism'? Well he's getting realism, alright - and I hope it's served with jail time
@@pikabolt5196 exactly this. I was thinking the same thing. This seems like it was a 'fantasy' he got to 'acceptably' try out. To be honest it sounds like a R@;*$t in training.
Those "friends" are real kidnappers for sure. They'll probably plan on ACTUALLY kidnapping someone in the very near future. They need to go to prison immediately.
I can only hope the boyfriend is telling the truth on the story (seems to be). Regardless on whether or not she decides to stay with him, he needs to cut these guys out of his life. Childhood friend or not, he let it happen.
Compliment/cheater story: That story gets MUCH worse... The lady starts trying to get "evidence" on the husband. She kinda goes off the rails and the friendship ends
I was never kidnapped, but held hostage by a boyfriend. If I'm cornered or followed I instantly go into fight, flight or freeze. That fear doesn't go away even with therapy or who it happens with
I’m a child abuse survivor (early childhood to young adulthood) and my brother was horribly violent and my mother enabled and encouraged his abuse, he’d corner me, grab my hair and smash my head into walls or strangle me to knock me out. Same as you, even with therapy I will go into flight or fight if I feel cornered, my flatmate has to make sure I have an “exit” always available as they realised I literally can’t control that feeling.
I just.. I just have absolutely no words for what OP went through.. The fact that ALL of them thought this was a good idea is just disgusting and vile... To terrify someone like this, make them feel they were going/could be killed, raped, I just cannot even fathom how someone would think yes, let's make her think she's about to get raped and killed ALL for a marriage proposal.. As someone who is a SURVIVOR of SA with attempted murder, I just cannot explain the absolute FEAR that took over me.. I had to keep thinking of my children to keep up the fight but my body was wearing down and I knew I couldn't fight anymore. I am so thankful that a man saw and tackled him off of me... I am in tears right now thinking of the sheer terror she went through...
I am so sorry you had to endure that horrific struggle. I hope you’re making strides to get back to some sense of normalcy in the future. ❤ As for this story, it should have never happened. For them to even have anything even remotely related to this idea is so beyond sickening. Beyond horrifying.
Yup :-/ been there. Spent over 8/9 years mentally getting over what my ex put me through every day. I'm still, nearly 11 years later, trying to fix the physical damage he caused. I have ptsd from what I suffered, genuine honest to god piss myself if I smell the tobacco he smoked ptsd and I still have people, medical professionals included, telling me I cant have ptsd because I'm still alive and I've never served. I hope op manages to find a healthy, new way of living cause as we know, nothing will ever be the same again and that's one of the biggest mistakes I made at first, trying to get back to my old life. Wishing you health and healing hun ❤
@Rachel Martin it isnt a case of getting new drs for me, my primary care dr is great (I'm in the uk so it's my gp) my therapist.....I'm on my 17th so yeah lol the uk is notoriously bad and just outright awful when it comes to mental health (sorry idk the right word, English is not my native language) there is a lot of stigma in the uk for mental health still. I had my charge nurse when I was admitted to hospital via the emergency department tell me I wasnt autistic because I'm a 32 year old woman (true story) and that anxiety and ptsd only happen to vets 🤦🏼♀️ I've had other non regular medical professionals say similar or be surprised I have ptsd and autism, I've even had one dr from the emergency department tell me my pain was in my head and I only believe it's real because I have bipolar disorder and bpd.......I had a dislocated AND broken ankle with a grade 3 tear of the ligaments........he was also the dr who told me it was just a sprain and it only looked like that because I'm fat so now, 5 years later, I'm doing physio and having surgery to rebreak and pin my ankle cause I'm wheelchair bound due to his neglect and I cant sue because they never filed my paperwork at the hospital because I wasnt admitted (it's a long story about nhs, how crappy the uk is etc) I'm a retired nurse too, I worked at one of the best hospitals in Scandinavia for over 10+ years and I still get crap like this, at this point I'm used to it and when people tell me about my own health I simply say "I'll be sure to remind my body of that next time" and if that doesnt work, I go into detail about what my ex did to me and ask them simply, and what would you say your mental health would be like after?
All of them didn’t think it was a good idea, the driver was a close and the bf both never knew the other 2 would do something like that, op says that the original plan was supposed to be jump out with masks hand a letter saying she’s summoned to bfs place and drive off
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Well, if you were dead, you wouldn't have PTSD... IIRC way back when people were shocked that vets were coming back acting like women, because that was such a common thing for women to have. (Also like, there was a study showing that sex workers had twice the rates of PTSD as Vietnam vets?) So yeah, it's not exactly unheard of for women who have been through sexual assault to have trauma about it. I thought we knew this. But, I'm not in the UK. (That's also not taking into account people who grew up or live in areas where they see constant violence, what would they say about someone who LIVED in an area where the vets had served in?) This is all to say, I'm incredibly sorry that you've been through all this bullshit from the medical profession and I hope you have better luck in the future. You shouldn't have to be constantly fighting and vigilant. You deserve a rest. I wish they would give you one.
Story 1: no I refuse to call that a prank, they kidnapped you just because they plan on letting you go doesn't make it any less of a kidnapping. And the one touching you was committing sexual assault, OP most definitely should press charges on all of them. Even if he was driving and didn't intend for it to go that far he didn't do a damn thing while the other one with touching you.
Yhh I don’t feel bad for the childhood friend at all he is as responsible as the 2 little friends he decided to do this with. The boyfriend needs to cut him off with speed if he still wants to be with OP
my mother was kidnapped and the people make of her a sexual slave for a month, i find this story gave me rage, it seems like the word "prank" is becoming (for some insane people) an excuse for making damage and try to get away with it....those guys wanted her to be scared , bunch of monsters, absolutely disgusting
@@redbunny22 someone helped her escape and they actually didn't hurt her physically since they wanted her to keep being pretty...it was people traffic, there were many kidnaped womens and they were forced to sleep with a bunch of miners....it was an illegal business or something
As a person who has PTSD, all I can say is that rherapy did greatly help me in sorting through things and develop coping skills. I hope OP keeps having good support and that she is able to go to a therapist to help her further. The trauma she went through is no laughing matter. 💙
Dude, I feel like if the childhood friend wasn’t there those other two “friends” might have actually sexually assaulted her. Maybe I’m crazy, but with the way they were feeling her up the whole ride it’s not impossible.
Yeah, I'm sure the kidnappers cried when they were giving statements. Consequences. Do criminal things, win criminal prizes. They're lucky she wasn't armed. The next guys who try this might not be so lucky.
I guarantee it. I was R@ped in my teens and when the dude was committing the act he was all bravado and gross but the second the police arrested him, he apparently (according to his sister who was my friend) cried like a baby. Unfortunately he got away with it cause the uk police sucks :-/ but I hope to the gods these assholes get locked up
@@GrimMelvin yeah I think the driver deserves jail time, but less jail time. He's remorseful, AND he actually committed less crimes than the other two
People have actually died from “prank” kidnappings. Either the victim dies from heart attack or other means. Or the kidnappers get killed when the victim fights back.
The first story.... woah. Assault, sexual assault, kidnapping, and false imprisonment. Everyone involved needs to be arrested. If the cops try to dismiss the SA, I'm going to be PISSED. If anyone finds an update or more info please share. I hope OP can heal from this.
@@absolutelynot6546 no I mean her and bf are still together bf wasn't part of this plan his "friend" came up with it and were inspired by prank videos on TH-cam
1st story: I guess the ex boyfriend didn't know that his new friends kidnapped his girlfriend. And what's worse is he thought that they were picking her up like a normal people not traumatized her.
honestly i feel a little bad for him (not as much as i feel for op, mind you), he really was just expecting a funny and silly little way to start things before what was supposed to be such a sweet moment and then those psychopaths just took it as their chance to do whatever sick thing they wanted
Yeah, but I also don't blame her for leaving him. This level of trauma can kill relationships, even if the partner had nothing to do with it. He's not really to blame, but he's doing the right thing by respecting her new boundaries.
In my culture one of the ways people get married was bridal capture but it's mostly consensual. The girl and the boy usually plan it out, then the boy's relatives help kidnap her. Of course sometimes it's not consensual at all. The fact that these people probably live in a 1st world country or at least more western one and wanted to terrify their friend's girlfriend is disgusting. It is one of my worst fears to be kidnapped and for it to be done by people you know is horrifying. I hope that she'll get better one day and the boyfriend dumps his friends.
As long as it's consensual and all parties are aware of the boundaries, that sounds like a fun tradition lol. But to not know and something like this happen... That is genuinely terrifying.
I said this in a reply to another comment but I just realized: in the divorce story…it was so close to the daughter having almost caught her dad cheating too. How gutting that could’ve been what happened and OPS first reaction was to try to keep that from happening. The husband couldn’t even consider it a possibility while he slept with another woman in his CHILDRENS home???
Divorce story: Yo, he "thought she was fine" when for TEN YEARS she changes the sheets every night, wouldn't say "I Love You" nor barely had sex with him and never without a condom? 😂😂 Talk about not taking a hint.
Oh there's another update to the Compliment story. Basically the "friend" tried to make it seem like OP's husband was pursuing her and bated him with sexual acts and flirting. Needless to stay they have cut her out and are no longer friends.
@LadyShay No, she did get cheated on. She tried and failed to manipulate the situation to prove herself right. OP and her husband told her to seek help before cutting her off. If being cheated on damaged her that badly, she needs to get herself together before going into another relationship.
Having almost been kidnapped once and followed another time, that stuff is absolutely terrifying. I can't begin to imagine what OP is feeling. I hope she can heal and move forward.
When I was a young child (maybe 5 - 7) I used to hang out in our front yard a lot, and I would say hi to any people walking down the street. My mother didn’t like this, and instead of talking to me about stranger danger, she hired my uncle and his friend to dress in masks, pull up in a van while I was outside, yank me in, and pretend to kidnap me. I only remembered being pulled into the van before I blacked out. Next thing I knew, I woke up on my living room couch surrounded by my parents and uncle and they were laughing. Not my mother, though, she was just screaming and scolding me about how stupid it was for me to talk to strangers. I now suffer from severe agoraphobia and social anxiety, and it has only worsened my PTSD. I would’ve thought this whole thing was a fever dream if my uncle hadn’t confirmed my suspicions over a decade later by bringing it up in a joking manner. I don’t think it was very funny, but whatever I guess 😅
The scary thing is though in the heat of the moment it might not matter. Many victims have said they had self-defense training or mace or whatever but when it actually happens to you sometimes you can't fight the flight response. There was a video rslash did about a woman with a psycho ex where did everything right, got a gun and self-defense and security in her house, and even wanted to get a guard dog ... but they were too expensive so she ended up just getting some big, lovable cuddle-brute from the shelter. Well her ex broke in planning on kidnapping and murdering her and she panicked, all her training just out the window, but her dopey lovebug of a dog basically ripped the guy's throat out for her (the story about her brother and SIL wanting her to put the dog down cause now they didn't feel safe around it even though it saved her life).
I remember when my sister's friends tried to do this prank on her and she nearly stabbed someone's eye out with the house key The friends were luck that op didn't try to anything to free herself that would cause harm to everyone
@@Gabriel-lh7gy that sounds horrible. I don't understand those pranks. i was once mistaken for someone else's girlfriend so the boyfriend came up behind me and grabbed me from behind. It was to surprise her i suppose. For me it was a random dude grabbing me and i just point blank elbowed him in the head.
My "friends"in high school tried kidnapping me and my younger sister and it ended with 2 of them speeding off and one laying in the road with my knife in his neck. That was when i was 16 im 34 now and spent from ages 17-27 in prison serving ⅔ of a 15 year sentence for defending myself and my sister while the 2 that took off did 2 years of juvie. Gotta love Canadian laws that make self defense a worse crime than kidnapping.
Wait, you were sentenced to jail time for trying to make sure you didn't get murdered?! Whether or not they actually intended to cause you major physical harm is irrelevant at this point. The trauma of thinking you're about to die is just as awful as if you actually were going to. I'm sorry the courts failed you so badly and I hope you're doing better now.
For the last story, what other channel was readding it was get much worse. I wanted to copy newer updates from reddit but account was suspended. In long way short, op friend was getting more unhinged toward op husband. She was doing everything to prove that her husband is a cheater, even sending him money on venmo, latest update was op contacted her friend to never speak to her again or she will get restraining order.
There is a bavarian “tradition“ of bride-knapping, but the best men just lead the bride to a hidden room and she knows in advance and its a litte party. The groom has to find her via scavenger hunt and exchange her for beer/wine etc. It is fun and games and the bride knows what happens. But that 1st story is just horrible
That comment about PTSD occurring brought me back to high school. In ninth grade, there was a bomb threat (the first of many, which turned out to be kids trying to get out of class) but the first time, we never had any drills outside of fire drills, our teacher never explained what was going on. I kept looking outside for smoke. My teacher set up games of “quackadilly oma” (this was 2005) and everyone was chill, laughing, talking. However I *still* didn’t know what was going on. I know now, I’m autistic, but we were outside for 90 minutes, and I was so confused, and scared, on the verge of tears. I must have said the Lord’s Prayer 60 times, because that was the only coping I knew. (I was a lot more religious then.) when we finally went back inside, I was hesitant, and still didn’t know what happened for hours. The next time we had a bomb threat I was more relaxed, but I can still remember that first time almost 20 years later.
Yeah it made me think of some experiences that happened high school for me to one was we actually had an active shooter at one point I remember being terrified in the room during the lockdown other kids however we're kind of laughing and giggling and then I remember there was a bomb threat but we didn't know what was going on at the time so we were basically evacuated into a field and told we had to go home still unsure what was going on I couldn't get ahold of any family members couldn't get ahold of my mom no one and I don't think the best thing to do was walk to walk 2 miles I did have a friend take me home but it was terrifying. And of course the last hidden anything cuz was my r-word and how do I remember going into the bathroom and trying to get the door closed before he got there but he was faster and I was trapped I remember being pinned screaming crying begging them to stop that begging them to let me go I remember almost throwing up I felt like I was truly in danger. OP definitely is going to therapy.
Story 3: If you're not confident in your relationship that your SO compliments another person of your gender, you need help. Making other people feel good about what they do is some of the least we can do for each other.
In the proposal story, it sounds like the boyfriend didnt think his friends would do this. From his his actions of taking her upstairs to help her, him actually being shocked and angry at his friends and him even giving her some space afterwards. What i think might have happened was that he asked his friends to just pick her up like normal people. Not to scare her half to death.
@@lorilancaster5917 you're right. Just a note but one of the guys thought it would be funny to scare her and think her life is on the line. And eww to that one guy that was stroking her legs. If the note said the boyfriend was missing, then the bf might be a jerk. But still no where near what the friends put her through. Hopefully the ex friends. Something romantic would be a savager hunt.
I still hear the sad stories getting to you. You know we'll listen to the wholesome content too, right? The success stories, how people knew they were in love, the embarrassing but not significant...
"One thing is clear from this story" How incredibly healthy her and her husbands relationship is? "Your friend is NOT rwady for a relationship" That too
Laughing so hard! Yes, Dabney, I at 64 am sure that because I complemented your videos in the past you will hunt me down in my small Ohio town and run away with me. Thank you for the best laugh I have had in a month! I will be grinning all day over that one.
I know that kidnapping the future wife thing is an "old tradition" in various countries and they (bf friends) did it knowing that, "with good intentions" , but this is one of the traditions we need to get rid off
Absolutely, but it seems the boyfriend had no idea they were going this far. (His friends I mean) he seemed genuinely shocked and upset at his “friends”. Who wouldn’t? Since they literally traumatised and took advantage of that poor girl on purpose!
it is, but the bride is informed in most countries and not bound, or gagged... most of the times they just go done to the next pub, but this was insane
the kidnapping tradition is supposed to be done in a fun and harmless way, where the bride is instantly made aware that it is a joke. These dudes who did that are just horrible. If someone can look at a crying woman begging for her life and not think "hm, this is wrong" , they're just a monster...
Last story: What the hell happened to being nice? I throw compliments out all the time too regardless of their gender. If she looks gorgeous to me I'll tell her that, it doesn't make me a lesbian, or a creep, or a flirt, we need more compliments thrown out in this dark and grey world of ours. Lifts people's spirits up. Need more colour.
Word. It's not like he was being lewd or creepy, he just said he liked her dress. I compliment people's outfits all the time regardless of gender because i legit like their outfit and i want them to feel good. I even do it with the kids i work with (light-up shoes, awesome! Cool dinosaur shirt, dude!) At worst he just likes her dress, at best he's trying to give her some confidence before her date.
You do realize that if your fiance wants a future with you he's going to have to cut these people out of his life no amount of I'm sorry is going to cut it they kidnapped you and pseudo assaulted you
Yeah, I'm with the others. The moment you forcefully take someone into a location they don't want to, while putting them into some kind of restrain, is assault and kidnapping. There's no "context" that could save that.
@@kaykay8855 Everyones constantly trying to outdo the last guy. A big jump was when some older prankster admitted/got outed as faking his pranks. So the next person wanted to be 'better' by NOT faking his pranks. From there it just became a dick measuring contest.
First story: as a person with a deep rooted fear of restraint, this makes me feel really uncomfortable. I can't imagine how she felt in that situation. For me it'd be an immediate cut off for all of them.
Story 1 : This is beyond effed up.. Even if the BF wanted to propose this aint the way to do it.. This is the kinda case op needs to start carrying heat on her... Story 2 : " i cheated on you and broke your heart but HoW DaRe YoU LeAvE Me NoW yOu Deceiver ".. F that hypocrite.. Story 3 :That "Friend " is a turd..
To my understanding the plan was to comedically hand her a note and have her step in willingly. The best friend seemed ready to follow the plan to the letter,it was the douchebag jocks that recently joined the friend group that took shit WAY too far. I try not to generalize but from what I've seen, what is it with meatheads having no impulse control and acting like a pack of rabid dogs instead of decent human beings?! Causing trauma and touching people like that without consent is never okay. I hope OP presses charges against those 2 for false imprisonment/kidnapping and sexual assault [they groped her and purposefully kept falling onto her boobs,gross!]
@@WyntheRogue Honestly, the jocks need to be put on a watchlist or something. (Hopefully) to BF and his old friend, this was gonna be a funny story with the 'kidnapping' just being then ote. To the jocks, this was a fucking test run of what they're gonna be doing to other women.
"This is the kinda case op needs to start carrying heat on her..." Why? It's not like there's a reason to suspect it'd happen again, so that is literally not a reason to start carrying a gun.
i just want to say: i've been a target of kidnappers before, i was very lucky and that shit was terrifying. after the attempted kidnappers missed me, they went after other kids, younger each time until they were arrested. normal people do not attempt to kidnap others. even if OP's kidnappers say "it was just a prank," it was a REAL kidnapping. further, this screams "PRACTICE RUN" to me. like how serial killers often start with small animals before they target people. those dudes are a fucking menace.
I’ve read an article about a TH-camr “prankster” ( I don’t know or watch their channel) once who did a shooting prank in a mall in the upper part of my home state, long story short: he wound up getting shot by a security guard and arrested, craziest part is that his family said that he was good kid and wouldn’t do anything like that. ( his family should be lucky their kid wasn’t going home in a body bag in my opinion)
those "friends" saw the opportunity for live out their kidnapper fantasies and ran with it. rubbing her thighs, "falling" into her chest, saying vile things to her. That's exactly who they are.
So for the prank story, I found on Reddit that she posted an update and she is still with her boyfriend, now fiance, and she was able to see that he had no idea about what they were going to do. He was very upset as well and that is not at all what he wanted.
Remember, kidnapping pranks will never be okay! In the Philippines, recently a local "vlogger" did this one, with the biggest escalation yet: an actual off-duty police officer who has no idea this is a "prank" is just less than 3 meters from them with his gun pointed at them. That "vlogger" is facing charges, specifically alarm and scandal. "Vlogger" is a generic term here for content creators, and I despise that word.
Rslash: I'm sorry, but I'm happily married and straight! D.S.- 487/C: So's spaghetti until it's wet. This woman in Story Three really though a self-esteem reinforcer was supposed to be an attempt to get in her pants!? That's a special kind of special
The proposal story the boyfriend should 100% cut ties with those guys and is also a victim but as r slash said op is a bigger victim but one thing to make a proposal was turned around by them and now he might sadly loose his girlfriend of 2 years because of these guys who decided to take a moment that could unite 2 people and make it the worst day ever
My grandparent's friends pulled a prank on my grandfather before their wedding, where they pretended to 'kidnap' my grandma. It irritated my grandpa, and my grandmother knew what was going on because the friends told her. And it was all fun because no one got hurt, and everyone knew what was going on. All they did was drive around town letting my grandpa chase after them. And then my grandparents were united and got married. the first story was just too much and criminal, they should be charged
It’s very very creepy that those two men wanted to enact a kidnapping that “feels real” 😳 the boyfriend and even the driver were just being weak followers, not an excuse but a valid explanation. But the two friends who pressed the horrible idea in the first place, then did extra creepy things throughout? Very creepy, red flags abound, they sound like a serial killing duo down to the leader and follower dynamic.
I think the Boyfriend is less a week follower since he wasn't in the car at the time. The Best friend yes, definitely. But as far as the Boyfriend knew while he was setting up his home for a romantic proposal was his girlfriend being maybe a little startled when someone got out of the car before being handed a letter from her Boyfriend to come see him and his friends were giving her a ride. Not this absolute vial actions.
You know I was starting to wonder since he doesn't know the two that well and the best friend was the driver was it possible that one of the two had a weapon and physically threatened him as he was driving maybe. I feel bad for the the boyfriend he set up a cute little proposal and it turned out to be a traumatizing event for the woman he loves.
As a married woman who isnt looking for anything and isnt interested, I enjoy your content. Its the first thing I listen to as I start my day. Keep up the amazing work!
Story 1. Some people only avoid doing bad things to people because they don't want to face the consequences, not because they are morally opposed to them. If they can get away with doing horrible things to people, they will. These friend strike me as those kinds of people. They saw this as an opportunity to do something horrible to OP and get away with it because "it's just a prank."
There is no "technically" about, op WAS kidnapped. Regardless of intent, she was taken against her will from the street corner. Send those awful people to jail.
For the last story: I respect his practices. I'm with OP, that's an attractive quality. When it comes to men, I don't just look for what he does for me but also what he does for other people. For example, going out with the man in my life, I noticed how he not only held the door open for me but also people who came in after. I'm not going to think he wants to get in another girl's pants just because he holds the door open for her or compliments her. If he did and never did any of that for me, then yeah, I can understand that suspicion. I'm sure OP's husband compliments her all the time, though! Sounds like that's just the kind of person he is!
I would have had every single one of those guys arrested if somebody did that to me. What the fuck? Also if I were friendly with any of them we wouldn't be friends anymore. Also, I think it goes without saying that the relationship would have been over too.
Damn i feel bad for the boyfriend because he innocent in that situation. The friends are horrible. They caused it. But sadly, due to ptsd, he will forever be a reminder to her of the day she got kidnapped. This is probably one of the biggest reason why you shouldn’t involve others in your relationship
That last story. Their are certain cultures that when people meet/introduce each other, they do a peck on each cheek regardless if someone is in a relationship or not. It’s like their version of a handshake. Can’t imagine how the friend would react to that as opposed to a compliment.
Man that first story, I feel horrible for op and for the boyfriend and the driver, op got LITERALLY kidnapped. I also feel bad for the driver and boyfriend it seemed like they had genuine intentions to just jump out hand her a letter telling her to go to bfs place and drive off but those other 2 “friends” did something so horrible, im they absolutely deserve jail time because they not only hurt OP but also sabotaged OPs relationship
The boyfriends idea was cute and funny enough, I think it'd be charming. The friend, I don't know what punishment he should get legally, but it should be less than the 2 guys who escalated the plan.
He still kept driving while she was being touched and tormented in the back. He had the power to pulled over and put an end to it at any time. That makes him an accessory to a crime. Now, I wouldn't be mad if he DID get less time -- I can see why he might -- but I certainly wouldn't feel bad if he didn't 🙃
@@THEDubbleHelixx- I mean, he was driving, he was unlikely to know that she was being touched and tormented in the back. I imagine if anything, he was trying to get this over with as fast as possible.
The last story... the friend has problems and needs to work on it because someone complimenting you doesn't mean they are going to cheat on their S/O. Also OP should tell her friends date about this (if she can) from that night because that's rather fucked up to walk into a relationship with someone like that.
As someone with C-PTSD and multiple other mental illnesses, I can confidently say that PTSD is the worst of them. You can get better and have a good prognosis with depression, ED, Agoraphobia and so on. But PTSD is engraved into your bones. No therapy in the world will make you feel safe the way you did before it happened. That story makes me feel so disgusted, mad and especially sad for the OP. I hope she gets the justice she deserves and those people (all 3 of them) go behind bars.
I have PTSD, specifically complex-PTSD from long term abuse as a child, teen and young adult from my family, and regular PTSD from very specific events where my brother was incredibly violent. It doesn’t matter that I wasn’t killed, his violence was so bad I thought I was going to die, he’d grab my hair and would smash my head into a wall, or he’d strangle me, it got to the point where as an young adult I couldn’t be anywhere near him if he’d drank any amount of alcohol because I’d vividly remember his violent outbursts when he drank, this led to the specific alcohol he drinks being a trigger, where even today if I smell it I get put back in those very moment, reliving that abuse. Doesn’t matter that I didn’t die, that sense of terror is horribly unique and unforgettable, it’s sadly not something you just get over and forget, it’s something that haunts you forever. Doesn’t matter that it was “just a prank”, if only one person is laughing then that’s not a prank, that’s assault and kidnapping. I would like to recommend trauma therapy, it’s helped me a great deal, and if possible OP cutting all contact with the individuals involved. For me cutting all contact with my mother and brother massively helped me, being in their presence set off my flight or fight so I put myself first, I put my well-being and mental health first, I made sure I felt safe and happy in life. It takes time to heal, but therapy massively helped me, I still have triggers and trigger dates (cPTSD has a lot of trigger dates), but therapy has helped me massively with those trigger dates where I cope a LOT better than years ago. I wish you the very best, your sister has your back and loves you, don’t be afraid to lean on her for support as it sounds like she’ll go to the ends of the earth for you.
I feel the worst about the boyfriend in the first story 💀. Bro was about to do one of the most people emotionally intensive things in his life and it turned into a night mare
Damn it, Rslash has caught us everyone. He's learned we're only sticking around in hopes he joins our enormous harem. Time for everyone to stop complimenting him.
As a sa survivor I'm getting panicky and emotional just listening to this story. I hope she presses charges and the whole lot of em get the book thrown at em.
The Last story: OP's friend sounds like a major shit starter. She's beyond bitter and definitely needs therapy. She's projecting her insecurities over being betrayed by her long-term boyfriend on to everyone else. You know what they say: misery loves company. In my opinion, it would also be in OP's best interest to distance herself from this “friend” because it will only lead further complications down the road.
Regarding the first story, the driver could at any point have stoped the car and de-escalated the situation but he didn't. He isn't remorseful for what he did, only for the way she reacted and the eventual aftermath
Story 1 is so horrible! The driver should have stopped the car as soon as he realised what was going on. But he didn't therefore he's culpable. It's the same if your friend asks you to pick them up and they've just committed a crime. If you drive off with them you're considered in on it, even if you didn't know about it beforehand.
What is a prank: - a joke that harms NO ONE and that EVERYONE can laugh at What a prank isnt: -ANYTHING that can hurt/kill/maim/emotionally scar someone you may or MAY NOT know. Like any concept that YOU WOULD NOT WANT TO GO THROUGH IN REALTY? Not a prank. Scrap it. Go to jail just for thinking about it. Edit: wrong word
What is a prank: whoppie cushion and whip cream on the bottom of a mug so the person spills their drink on the floor when they lift the mug up. What is NOT a prank: The entirety of the first story.
for the first story, I also feel really bad for the boyfriend, he obviously didnt want that to happen to OP and was also rightfully distraught. It sucks he might lose out on his future SO over that.
Me too. It was supposed to be a goofy proposal, and an OBVIOUS faux kidnapping, not an actual kidnapping. I do think they'll need to take time, but I hope they can make it work in the long run.
Story 3: there's another update: the friend went and tried to friend OPs AH a couple of times and messaged him trying to get him into "cheating" on OP so that the CF wouldn't be alone. Twice. They blocked her and ended the friendship.
Story 1: now we have OP with a traumatic experience, her (probably ex-)boyfriend losing a childhood friendship, and his friend very likely going to jail, all because two idiots thought was a good idea to turn from the planned funny gimmick prank to a literal crime; Hopefully OP gets better, and these two assholes get a pretty harsh sentence. OP's boyfriend childhood friend also deserve some time in jail, even if not as harsh as those two, and I also feel bad for her boyfriend, because he probably lost his relationship with her over two idiots he only knew over a few months thinking they were being funny.
First story: That's a traumatizing experience. Poor op i think so far maybe he didn't expect them to go this far but the fact that they literally assaulted her on the ride,was caressing her,purposely "fell" into op breast, and threatened her. I think this was a dark fantasy of the certain friends. Also the gf of one of the guys should break up with him.
OP in the second story with the cheating husband. Tell your daughters that just because you chose to stick it out doesn't mean she has to if her man ever cheats.
Second story: If OP was unhappy she should have left him,I can see how the husband feel decieved having his daughter move out then his wife of minimum 10 years the day after. He seems like he genuinely regretted it. I understand op leaving good for her actually but the way she did it absolutely felt like it had some deception and was vindictive
He regretted the fact that he got caught. Plus did you forget that he did this in their home. You feeling sorry for him means that you’ve cheated on someone or several someone’s yourself. She stay with him for her children. Him thinking that he had been given a second chance to fuck her over was his stupidity. She chose herself over her lying and cheating husband. Now he’s free to passionately screw any woman he wants because she doesn’t give two fucks. Plus revenge is always best when served cold.
You’re absolutely right, good analysis. I’m surprised this isn’t evident to more people as hardly anyone is commenting about this story. What a user piece of work. Marriage partners make mistakes, they either spilt right then or try and put things back together. That’s what he tried to do for ten years, meanwhile she’s just using him and making his life hell for the damn income. You can do that when you split, it’s called alimony and child support. Instead she lied and pretended to at least partially forgive so she wouldn’t have to give up anything. What a piece of work.
@@MsTemptationWhat BS and what projection! “Stayed with him for the children?” Yeah, that’s what child support covers after the divorce! But that wasn’t enough for Miss Queen Shit of Turd Mountain who had every opportunity to leave after the utter _horror_ of her husband being attracted to another woman. Instead she pretended to stay to work on the marriage just like he did. No wonder he cheated on her in the first place! “She chose herself,” exactly. How completely dishonest. She lied and manipulated and deceived him for TEN years! He screwed up, regretted it, kept telling her he loved her, and put up with NO SEX for a decade because he knew he blew it and was trying to make it up as best he could, NOT “try for a second chance to screw her over!” Who thinks like that? Just some bent hateful female. And she just continued to use him. She should have broken up right then but she stayed for the paycheck and the lifestyle. How disgustingly dishonest. And the changing of the sheets daily is simply pathological. Talk about needing mental health treatment! Instead of doing that you get separate beds, in separate homes. But oh no, not for this one, she’s special! I love how you try and justify her incredibly selfish behavior. You’re saying that anyone who feels empathy for him is a cheater just shows that your character is as deceptive and corrupt as the wife, and you are just as much a user as she was! By your logic no cheating partner should EVER be forgiven. And before you project on me, my fiancé cheated on me, and I forgave her and we’ve had 25 years together. I would never be so no class as to stay with her for another decade just to dump her. If you’re going to dump someone you do it right then, not continue to milk them like a user b$t$&! What a hateful person you must be, on multiple levels, as manifested by this post alone. If you can label someone so unfairly for having empathy for the guy, then that goes both ways.
@@MsTemptation It was 10 year ago. Imagine making a mistake in a relationship and you do every you can to fix it and be patient and loving and think that everything’s ok or will be okay because you guys don’t fight and you still have sex just for her to move out the day after your youngest leaves and gives you divorce papers. That extremely vindictive and horrible. She should’ve just divorced him and treated him like a roommate but no, she pulled him along for TEN YEARS and expected everything to be fine. You being on her side is bitchy of you anyway. If I did something shitty 10 years ago and someone plotted and waited to seek their chance to fuck me over because they feel like it, that makes them just as much as an ass as I was. Grow up.
Damn, it seems my plan to compliment Rslash in order to break his family apart was discovered ! At least he didn't realize the end goal was to kidnap Yugo amidst the chaos that would ensue
UPDATE on the KIDNAPPED STORY: Op couldn't explain a whole lot due to legality, but her and her fiancé (yes fiancé!) talked it out and he had NO IDEA about this plan. He proposed to her in a private place. At first she didnt want to press charges on the guys (due to the friendship with the former bf) but backtracked because it was necessary and unavoidable. One of the gym dudes was influenced by YT pranksters, etc. and is on the spectrum and apologized to her - but that's NO EXCUSE!
Please give an update ASAP on the first story. I'm sure everyone here wants to know how the young lady is doing after suffering such a traumatic event (and I'm sure we all wish her the very best). Would also like to know the fate of what I suspect is now ex boyfriend as well as his probably now ex best friend AND the two sadistic bastards who traumatized this totally innocent young lady. May they rot in prison.
Story 2: main character syndrome at its finest, he was so caught up in the idea forgetting it ever happened that you didn't realize his marriage was over ten years ago. You have to be in your own little world to not be concerned that your wife has never said I love you in 10 years, won't let you touch her without protection and even then only three times a year. He just doesn't pay attention, the only thing I think Opie did wrong was not be a 100% up front, if she was only sticking around for the kids I would have said that so there's no confusion. But again you have to be pretty in your own head to not see these obvious signs for ten whole years.
I don't think she realized she was only sticking around for the kids until their youngest was ready to move out. At least that's how it reads. When her youngest was saying she was ready to move out, she began her plans to move out too. Maybe she should've told him when she came to that realization, but honestly, he didn't deserve it. A cheater deserves all that comes to them because they threw away their relationship. Maybe they'll think about it in their next relationship and be better, but once a cheater always a cheater.
I don't think she was wrong in that, if she had it could/would have changed how things were with raising the kids and could have made things way worse on them than it was. It seems it just kept the fracture in the marriage to the bedroom and not the Freudian slip of 'Your mom is going to leave when you leave'. Plus @Toothless No, I think it was in that first 3 years after he cheated that OP came to that decision, as she said raising the 3 kids thinking of him as a roommate not a partner.
I imagine that OP was afraid that if she were to straight up say that she's only staying in the marriage just for the kids until they grow up and move out, he'll try to do everything he can to make OP stay in the marriage like black mail, threating to harm her or hold her hostage, just like with the mustard guy, the pizza guy and the milk guy, except no food is involved here, basically, trying to control her to make sure she stays with him forever.
I think for me the worst part about this kidnap story is the fact that he was rubbing up her thighs and putting his face in her boobs that is just completely unacceptable
I had seen the proposal story awhile ago, I didn’t see the update where the boyfriend was just making it a silly goofy thing, and they decided to go overboard. I hope OP can heal, and I feel really bad for the boyfriend because he’s probably going to have to lose her (which I don’t blame her for at all) because of something is “friends” did. I understand the one friend wasn’t in on it in that capacity, but I feel like he could have ended it at any point. I do feel just a drop of remorse for him as well. It must have been awful and strange to be in that situation, not knowing what to do or how to stop them. Edit to add: before anyone jumps down my throat about being a man feeling bad for one of the friends, this is my partners account. We share it for TH-cam premium.
7:05 Sarah Boon thought she could use that excuse. "It wasn't my intention/I didn't plan for it to happen". Girl, you put your bf in a suitcase and he died.
Story One: tbh I think the kidnappers are getting off easy. I heard of this story where someone tried to kidnap this woman as a prank (I think friends arranged it?) and she knew self defense and killed him.
The cheater story makes me think of a story where a 5 year old did something terrible and could not understand why the person he hurt was so upset and everything could not be solved with hugs and "sowwy". The husband sounds just like this child.
story 2 OP's husband: *cheats* OP: *leaves him after their youngest leaves home* OP's husband: what how could you do this to me I'm obviously a victim I have no pity for that cheater he deserves to be abandoned
As teens we kidnapped our friend and it was sooo obvious and bungling and we kept laughing and saying in a deep voice "we kidnapped you heeee hee hee". So clumsy and silly, no actual threats. I cannot effing believe these guys did something like this. Looking back I think even a clumsy silly kidnapping was wrong to do. It's just not something you do even as a joke.
Those two friends would be out on the street waiting for the cops. And if they tried to leave the cops would be on the way to their house. Best friend had total control as the driver. He gets seriously reprimanded too but it seems like the 2 "athletic class" friends need jail time and assaulted themselves
that first story, i'd go to the cops and write up a report of a kidnapping. And try to sue them all for kidnapping, sexual harassment, emotional trauma and assault.
Honestly, if my husband's friends did that, I likely would not be his wife anymore. This guy did expect the friends to bring her, so he isn't totally innocent. Let's say he is innocent and planned out something more calm - OP only knew one of the men, and why would the boyfriend expect her to be ok with getting in a car with 2 strange men?
Did you watch the video? The boyfriend IS totally innocent. The only thing he expected was for them to pick her up like normal people. What those other guys did was absolutely horrible but assigning blame to the blameless one in this situation makes no sense.
The boyfriend shouldn't be judged on what his friends did without his knowledge. However, he should be judged what he does now that he knows. Cut ties from those friends. Even though the one friend didn't intend to let it get that far, it did get that far. So, it shows bad judgement and he shouldn't be associated with that.
Might not matter, OP might have a trauma response to him as well and they may need to break up for her mental health regardless.
He didn't mean it to get that far - that's why he did nothing to stop it.
@@ShadowTaipan Sadly peer pressure is a thing. He may have been afraid to actually do anything out of fear they'd assault him too.
Doesn't make what she went through any better, obviously, but it does make a difference if the driver should ever be allowed in polite society again.
Tbh the boyfriend immidiately after learning about the prank and having his girlfriend in the shower should take a gun (unloaded of course, not that they have to know) and point it at the "friends" and just act angrily, tell them to laugh now because its a funny prank. Yeah I know that would be bad but fuck would it not be right.
If he was driving, he could have pulled over and told her the truth. He didn’t.
If the ‘friend’ who was driving felt so bad, why didn’t he pull over and tell her what was happening? Why did he continue to let her be terrorized and sexually assaulted?
Or I don’t know tell the friends before they put the bag on her, preferably sooner, that he will drive them to the police station.
To further your point, why pull over and allow them the chance to approach OP in the first place?
I think he might have been scared to say something ,
But still
It’s not an excuse and it was really messed up what happened. Op was severely traumatized.
He could’ve done more to prevent this. He should still go to jail to face the consequences, even if he is remorseful he still took part of it. It still doesn’t make sense because he had the chance to stop the situation but he didn’t
What about the friend that was caressing her leg? Like gross 🤢
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Sexual assault.
Story 1: I don't care if it's just a prank, these "friends" needs to be arrested. They seriously think just because it isn't "real" kidnapping, they shouldn't be held accountable? No, that's BS. Real or not, these guys kidnapped and traumatized OP, and the boyfriend needs to cut contact with these guys, they are psychopaths.
Imagine going for a run like everything is normal to get PTSD. Best prank ever 🎉🎉🎉
And they sexually assaulted her.
All 3 of them deserve jail time, but that shouldn’t stop OP from dumping the bf. Their whole relationship is tainted now.
Those were criminal actions and those psychopaths need to be charged for it.
I really hope they become his ex friends too.
My great grandfathers "friends" tried that kidnaping thing since it was a "tradition", despite him saying if they tried it, they might not get a chance to regret it.
Those freinds spent two months in the hospital.
He was a hard man, but he was the definition of a loving dad.
Well, at least they had the ability to regret that, instead of being instant worm food.
Geist Grace, your great grandfather's "friends" were lucky they didn't end up taking a dirt nap instead of spending a couple of months in hospital.
If the young lady who was "pranked" ( literally kidnapped) had been armed, things could have taken an even more tragic turn. As is, she is now traumatized for life and hopefully the kidnappers get to reflect on their misdeed while spending a goodly amount of time behind bars. The driver also deserves some form of punishment although perhaps not as severe as the two sadistic bastards who put this young lady through hell. As for the boyfriend, it seems as though his intent was to innocently surprise his girlfriend with a proposal but his intent went very sideways. I won't say that he deserves jail time but I'd say IF he has any conscience whatsoever, he'll spend the rest of his days regretting what he put his then girlfriend through even though doing so wasn't his intent.
As for the poor, unfortunate young lady, I hope she can manage to recover from this traumatic experience but I suspect she's doomed to relive it from now on.
I am guessing your ancestors are from Central Asia, cause unfortunately, there is a tradition of kidnapping brides there, notably in Kazakhstan and Kyrgyzstan.
When I was in EMS back in the 1980s, whenever we did backboard training, the guys liked to strap down the girls, including their hands, and put them in the dumpster.
They tried that with me, too. Once.
@@ItsMeBarnabyWhoa dude. That was incisive AF. Also hilarious. It's like a short form drunk comment. You know, the ones that seem to go on and on 😂
Story one: she absolutely was assaulted in multiple ways. They are all culpable. The drivinf friend should have pulled over immediately and identified them and if the 2 psychos persisted in assaulting her, he should have called the police and tried to intervene. This was not a joke, it was a legit kidnapping and assault.
Kidnapping, assault, and sexual assault
@@breezy3392 false imprisonment too. You cannot hold someone against their will. Also, property damage. They broke her phone.
The Driver tried to stop them, by the OP's own admission, but couldn't get them to stop, so rushed to the byofreinds house as the two commiting the crime were muscular, athletic men saying some really fucked up stuff. Calling the police would take longer than just getting to the boyfriends place, as it was only 7 to 10 minutes away, and that was the end goal anyway, and would get the back-up needed to make them stop if they didn't.
Stressful situations and panic make it hard to think logically like to stop and make them stop.
Maybe you know of an update? On this one OP just said he wasn't OK with it and that he said something to them. He should have pulled over, and told them that it was over, and this wasn't what Fiance wanted.
If it breaks the law, it's more than just a prank.
Too many people don't seem to understand that ಠ_ಠ
Honestly I think this relationship is nuked, I’m not blaming the bf but his friends kidnapped op for the bf’s proposal. They’re both victims.
These people always seem to think that because it's a prank, they shouldn't face consequences or get arrested because "It's just a prank bro!". Sure, you can prank people, but keep within the confines of the law! Jesus Christ.
@@dracko158 Keep it within the confines of human decency
Years and years of "It's just a joke!" and "It's just a prank bro" being allowed to slide has created this toxic societal hellscape where boundaries, basic decency and even the law doesn't matter so long as you say you're just joking. This is why if you ever hear those words, don't let up, set a clear boundary that you will not humor disgusting views, words or actions and will not allow yourself to be gaslit into thinking you're taking a "joke" too seriously. If more people hold guys like this accountable, it'll help in rectifying this bs.
Okay so I’ve kidnapped friends to take them to surprises before, but it went like this: I went to their house, knocked on the door, let the friend see me and then said “hey! I’m kidnapping you for a surprise day trip with me!” And then put a blindfold on her so she couldn’t tell where we were going, and then put her in my passenger seat to go there. I did NOT actually stage a legitimate kidnapping with groping and fake threats of assault and violence. What is wrong with these guys?!
Yeah I know like for bachelor/bachelorette parties it sometimes starts with friends showing up to their house and saying hey we are going to blindfold you and tie you up you have no choice you are coming with us. This is of course with them showing their face the whole time. Those would be examples of fake kidnapping. what happened to OP was real kidnapping.
That's actually so cute
Yeah your way is how normal people do that the boyfriends friends were fucking idiots
I've done things like this too! That's how you ACTUALLY go about a 'kidnapping' for a surprise, not whatever the frick was going on in these lunatics' heads. I hope that one guy gets convicted of SA because that is absolutely what he was doing. What a piece of crap human being, who even DOES that during what's supposed to be a surprise? Was he going for 'realism'? Well he's getting realism, alright - and I hope it's served with jail time
@@pikabolt5196 exactly this. I was thinking the same thing. This seems like it was a 'fantasy' he got to 'acceptably' try out. To be honest it sounds like a R@;*$t in training.
Those "friends" are real kidnappers for sure. They'll probably plan on ACTUALLY kidnapping someone in the very near future. They need to go to prison immediately.
I think you’re right. Kidnapping OP was a practice run of sorts
Yeah, they're 100% a danger to the public. They kidnapped and sexually assaulted her.
Yeah, this was practice for them. Then if they get caught in thr future they can say it was a prank like this one.
As far as I'm concerned they ARE real kidnappers already. They DID kidnap op.
that proposal story is horrible :(( i hope she’s doing a lot better now
Holy crap, OP needs to destroy all of them with police charges... that is beyond screwed up.
She deserves better.
True, on that they are psycho
@quack9000 it doesnt seem like he knew based on the reaction, yeah bf didnt know so and intended for it to be more innocent, I feel bad for him.
I can only hope the boyfriend is telling the truth on the story (seems to be). Regardless on whether or not she decides to stay with him, he needs to cut these guys out of his life. Childhood friend or not, he let it happen.
Compliment/cheater story: That story gets MUCH worse... The lady starts trying to get "evidence" on the husband. She kinda goes off the rails and the friendship ends
Sounds to me like she was into the husband~
@@lillylovegood2300 she was having a mental health crisis and ended up on a mental health hold.
@@Mewse1203 oh, damn. 😭
Do you know the name?
OMG this story. It took me a moment to remember it but oh boy when I did, and remembered the sheer chaos...
I was never kidnapped, but held hostage by a boyfriend. If I'm cornered or followed I instantly go into fight, flight or freeze. That fear doesn't go away even with therapy or who it happens with
I’m a child abuse survivor (early childhood to young adulthood) and my brother was horribly violent and my mother enabled and encouraged his abuse, he’d corner me, grab my hair and smash my head into walls or strangle me to knock me out. Same as you, even with therapy I will go into flight or fight if I feel cornered, my flatmate has to make sure I have an “exit” always available as they realised I literally can’t control that feeling.
@@ZombieSazza glad your flatmate is mindful of your needs. Sorry about your upbringing
I just.. I just have absolutely no words for what OP went through.. The fact that ALL of them thought this was a good idea is just disgusting and vile... To terrify someone like this, make them feel they were going/could be killed, raped, I just cannot even fathom how someone would think yes, let's make her think she's about to get raped and killed ALL for a marriage proposal.. As someone who is a SURVIVOR of SA with attempted murder, I just cannot explain the absolute FEAR that took over me.. I had to keep thinking of my children to keep up the fight but my body was wearing down and I knew I couldn't fight anymore. I am so thankful that a man saw and tackled him off of me... I am in tears right now thinking of the sheer terror she went through...
I am so sorry you had to endure that horrific struggle. I hope you’re making strides to get back to some sense of normalcy in the future. ❤
As for this story, it should have never happened. For them to even have anything even remotely related to this idea is so beyond sickening. Beyond horrifying.
Yup :-/ been there. Spent over 8/9 years mentally getting over what my ex put me through every day. I'm still, nearly 11 years later, trying to fix the physical damage he caused. I have ptsd from what I suffered, genuine honest to god piss myself if I smell the tobacco he smoked ptsd and I still have people, medical professionals included, telling me I cant have ptsd because I'm still alive and I've never served. I hope op manages to find a healthy, new way of living cause as we know, nothing will ever be the same again and that's one of the biggest mistakes I made at first, trying to get back to my old life. Wishing you health and healing hun ❤
@Rachel Martin it isnt a case of getting new drs for me, my primary care dr is great (I'm in the uk so it's my gp) my therapist.....I'm on my 17th so yeah lol the uk is notoriously bad and just outright awful when it comes to mental health (sorry idk the right word, English is not my native language) there is a lot of stigma in the uk for mental health still. I had my charge nurse when I was admitted to hospital via the emergency department tell me I wasnt autistic because I'm a 32 year old woman (true story) and that anxiety and ptsd only happen to vets 🤦🏼♀️ I've had other non regular medical professionals say similar or be surprised I have ptsd and autism, I've even had one dr from the emergency department tell me my pain was in my head and I only believe it's real because I have bipolar disorder and bpd.......I had a dislocated AND broken ankle with a grade 3 tear of the ligaments........he was also the dr who told me it was just a sprain and it only looked like that because I'm fat so now, 5 years later, I'm doing physio and having surgery to rebreak and pin my ankle cause I'm wheelchair bound due to his neglect and I cant sue because they never filed my paperwork at the hospital because I wasnt admitted (it's a long story about nhs, how crappy the uk is etc) I'm a retired nurse too, I worked at one of the best hospitals in Scandinavia for over 10+ years and I still get crap like this, at this point I'm used to it and when people tell me about my own health I simply say "I'll be sure to remind my body of that next time" and if that doesnt work, I go into detail about what my ex did to me and ask them simply, and what would you say your mental health would be like after?
All of them didn’t think it was a good idea, the driver was a close and the bf both never knew the other 2 would do something like that, op says that the original plan was supposed to be jump out with masks hand a letter saying she’s summoned to bfs place and drive off
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Well, if you were dead, you wouldn't have PTSD...
IIRC way back when people were shocked that vets were coming back acting like women, because that was such a common thing for women to have. (Also like, there was a study showing that sex workers had twice the rates of PTSD as Vietnam vets?) So yeah, it's not exactly unheard of for women who have been through sexual assault to have trauma about it. I thought we knew this. But, I'm not in the UK. (That's also not taking into account people who grew up or live in areas where they see constant violence, what would they say about someone who LIVED in an area where the vets had served in?)
This is all to say, I'm incredibly sorry that you've been through all this bullshit from the medical profession and I hope you have better luck in the future. You shouldn't have to be constantly fighting and vigilant. You deserve a rest. I wish they would give you one.
Story 1: no I refuse to call that a prank, they kidnapped you just because they plan on letting you go doesn't make it any less of a kidnapping. And the one touching you was committing sexual assault, OP most definitely should press charges on all of them. Even if he was driving and didn't intend for it to go that far he didn't do a damn thing while the other one with touching you.
Yhh I don’t feel bad for the childhood friend at all he is as responsible as the 2 little friends he decided to do this with. The boyfriend needs to cut him off with speed if he still wants to be with OP
my mother was kidnapped and the people make of her a sexual slave for a month, i find this story gave me rage, it seems like the word "prank" is becoming (for some insane people) an excuse for making damage and try to get away with it....those guys wanted her to be scared , bunch of monsters, absolutely disgusting
@@dinlupus3196 I'm very sory your mother went through that. People who do this kind of thing are disgusting freaks.
@@redbunny22 someone helped her escape and they actually didn't hurt her physically since they wanted her to keep being pretty...it was people traffic, there were many kidnaped womens and they were forced to sleep with a bunch of miners....it was an illegal business or something
@@dinlupus3196 holly hell that must have been so scary. It's disgusting that people could do that to other humans.
As a person who has PTSD, all I can say is that rherapy did greatly help me in sorting through things and develop coping skills. I hope OP keeps having good support and that she is able to go to a therapist to help her further. The trauma she went through is no laughing matter. 💙
Every time I see or hear "Prank" in regards to something on Reddit, my brain autocorrects it to "Felony." It's depressing how often that's correct.
It's not a prank if it leaves the receiver of said prank traumatized beyond belief. Hope OP presses charges and gets those psychopaths locked up.
It's also not a prank when you know for a fact a person would NOT like it at all.
Dude, I feel like if the childhood friend wasn’t there those other two “friends” might have actually sexually assaulted her. Maybe I’m crazy, but with the way they were feeling her up the whole ride it’s not impossible.
True
Very likely poor girl poor boyfriend
I thought this as well.
Feeling up without consent is already sexual assault ..
@@MurrayDagostino You’re absolutely right. Guess I’m just too used to the term being used as a way of censoring on TH-cam.
Yeah, I'm sure the kidnappers cried when they were giving statements. Consequences. Do criminal things, win criminal prizes. They're lucky she wasn't armed. The next guys who try this might not be so lucky.
I guarantee it. I was R@ped in my teens and when the dude was committing the act he was all bravado and gross but the second the police arrested him, he apparently (according to his sister who was my friend) cried like a baby. Unfortunately he got away with it cause the uk police sucks :-/ but I hope to the gods these assholes get locked up
An important skill to have is to tell if someone is really guilty or upset they were caught
@@GrimMelvin yeah I think the driver deserves jail time, but less jail time. He's remorseful, AND he actually committed less crimes than the other two
People have actually died from “prank” kidnappings. Either the victim dies from heart attack or other means. Or the kidnappers get killed when the victim fights back.
“The next guys who try this might not be so lucky”
We can only hope and pray that the bullet soars true or the knife digs deep
The first story.... woah. Assault, sexual assault, kidnapping, and false imprisonment. Everyone involved needs to be arrested. If the cops try to dismiss the SA, I'm going to be PISSED. If anyone finds an update or more info please share. I hope OP can heal from this.
She did a small update shes contemplating legal action the creeps are making excuses and the bf did not ask for this plan
@Chibichun27 I don't think the boyfriend deserves any charges, but I can't say the same for the driver. I'm hoping to see updates outside this video.
@@absolutelynot6546 no I mean her and bf are still together bf wasn't part of this plan his "friend" came up with it and were inspired by prank videos on TH-cam
@Chibichun27 OH! Lol sorry. Thanks for the update!
1st story: I guess the ex boyfriend didn't know that his new friends kidnapped his girlfriend. And what's worse is he thought that they were picking her up like a normal people not traumatized her.
Right he thought they were doing the original plan but they decided to be psychotic
honestly i feel a little bad for him (not as much as i feel for op, mind you), he really was just expecting a funny and silly little way to start things before what was supposed to be such a sweet moment and then those psychopaths just took it as their chance to do whatever sick thing they wanted
Fae so true
Yeah, but I also don't blame her for leaving him. This level of trauma can kill relationships, even if the partner had nothing to do with it. He's not really to blame, but he's doing the right thing by respecting her new boundaries.
@@transsnack yup. I can't blame him, but i can't blame her if she decides to leave him.
In my culture one of the ways people get married was bridal capture but it's mostly consensual. The girl and the boy usually plan it out, then the boy's relatives help kidnap her. Of course sometimes it's not consensual at all. The fact that these people probably live in a 1st world country or at least more western one and wanted to terrify their friend's girlfriend is disgusting. It is one of my worst fears to be kidnapped and for it to be done by people you know is horrifying. I hope that she'll get better one day and the boyfriend dumps his friends.
As long as it's consensual and all parties are aware of the boundaries, that sounds like a fun tradition lol. But to not know and something like this happen... That is genuinely terrifying.
Hmong? 😅
@@iluvhoney710 Aws, kuv yog Hmoob
“It was just a prank, your honor,” is typically NEVER a good acquittal strategy…
I said this in a reply to another comment but I just realized: in the divorce story…it was so close to the daughter having almost caught her dad cheating too. How gutting that could’ve been what happened and OPS first reaction was to try to keep that from happening. The husband couldn’t even consider it a possibility while he slept with another woman in his CHILDRENS home???
Divorce story: Yo, he "thought she was fine" when for TEN YEARS she changes the sheets every night, wouldn't say "I Love You" nor barely had sex with him and never without a condom? 😂😂
Talk about not taking a hint.
He felt guilty yet kept cheating? Didn’t see anyone point this out
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 she doesn't know he kept cheating. She just assumed so
Oh there's another update to the Compliment story. Basically the "friend" tried to make it seem like OP's husband was pursuing her and bated him with sexual acts and flirting. Needless to stay they have cut her out and are no longer friends.
Soooo...was SHE the cheater the entire time???
@LadyShay No, she did get cheated on. She tried and failed to manipulate the situation to prove herself right. OP and her husband told her to seek help before cutting her off. If being cheated on damaged her that badly, she needs to get herself together before going into another relationship.
Having almost been kidnapped once and followed another time, that stuff is absolutely terrifying. I can't begin to imagine what OP is feeling. I hope she can heal and move forward.
When I was a young child (maybe 5 - 7) I used to hang out in our front yard a lot, and I would say hi to any people walking down the street. My mother didn’t like this, and instead of talking to me about stranger danger, she hired my uncle and his friend to dress in masks, pull up in a van while I was outside, yank me in, and pretend to kidnap me. I only remembered being pulled into the van before I blacked out. Next thing I knew, I woke up on my living room couch surrounded by my parents and uncle and they were laughing. Not my mother, though, she was just screaming and scolding me about how stupid it was for me to talk to strangers.
I now suffer from severe agoraphobia and social anxiety, and it has only worsened my PTSD.
I would’ve thought this whole thing was a fever dream if my uncle hadn’t confirmed my suspicions over a decade later by bringing it up in a joking manner. I don’t think it was very funny, but whatever I guess 😅
So your mom had you kidnapped as a way to teach you a lesson. I would have cut contact with family the minute I turned 18. That's fucked up
I wonder if they all would think it was funny if they had to explain that story to the cops.
I am so sorry that you family thinks that was in anyway helpful, harmless or funny.
@@fullspectrumnerd4577 for real, idk what they were thinking tbh. Drugs were probably involved
@@zSpirall thank you, it’s been a long healing journey and a lot of gaslighting but I’m coming to terms :)
Damn the "kidnappers" where lucky i never go out without self defense. This poor lady i hope she recovered fully
The scary thing is though in the heat of the moment it might not matter. Many victims have said they had self-defense training or mace or whatever but when it actually happens to you sometimes you can't fight the flight response.
There was a video rslash did about a woman with a psycho ex where did everything right, got a gun and self-defense and security in her house, and even wanted to get a guard dog ... but they were too expensive so she ended up just getting some big, lovable cuddle-brute from the shelter. Well her ex broke in planning on kidnapping and murdering her and she panicked, all her training just out the window, but her dopey lovebug of a dog basically ripped the guy's throat out for her (the story about her brother and SIL wanting her to put the dog down cause now they didn't feel safe around it even though it saved her life).
I remember when my sister's friends tried to do this prank on her and she nearly stabbed someone's eye out with the house key
The friends were luck that op didn't try to anything to free herself that would cause harm to everyone
the fact that those men thought kidnapping a woman on a run is funny is absolutely terrifying.
@@darkmask5933 I remember that story! Give that dog a medal!
@@Gabriel-lh7gy that sounds horrible. I don't understand those pranks. i was once mistaken for someone else's girlfriend so the boyfriend came up behind me and grabbed me from behind. It was to surprise her i suppose. For me it was a random dude grabbing me and i just point blank elbowed him in the head.
R slash is expanding his ways of saying “passionate hugging” and I frickin love it lol
"You are cold, calculated and vindictive"
I'd had responded with "thanks"
My "friends"in high school tried kidnapping me and my younger sister and it ended with 2 of them speeding off and one laying in the road with my knife in his neck. That was when i was 16 im 34 now and spent from ages 17-27 in prison serving ⅔ of a 15 year sentence for defending myself and my sister while the 2 that took off did 2 years of juvie. Gotta love Canadian laws that make self defense a worse crime than kidnapping.
Wait, you were sentenced to jail time for trying to make sure you didn't get murdered?! Whether or not they actually intended to cause you major physical harm is irrelevant at this point. The trauma of thinking you're about to die is just as awful as if you actually were going to. I'm sorry the courts failed you so badly and I hope you're doing better now.
What the ever loving fuck is wrong with canadian law??? I say that as an american, so you know it’s bad.
Bro that’s not fair at all. Are you okay??!
I feel bad for the BF. His friends turned a cute comedic proposal into a traumatic event that ruined his relationship.
The first story: How disgusting!! From someone who suffers from anxiety and PTSD, I really feel for you OP. Big comforting hug from me
For the last story, what other channel was readding it was get much worse. I wanted to copy newer updates from reddit but account was suspended. In long way short, op friend was getting more unhinged toward op husband. She was doing everything to prove that her husband is a cheater, even sending him money on venmo, latest update was op contacted her friend to never speak to her again or she will get restraining order.
I think either Mark or Lost Genre did. They're the only other ones I listen to regularly now.
I think Mark did this one but I can't be positive. I listen to far too many reddit stories on TH-cam😅
@@impishrebel5969 I listen to them too! Reddit Brew is also great, but she went on hiatus recently because she has a newborn 😊
There is a bavarian “tradition“ of bride-knapping, but the best men just lead the bride to a hidden room and she knows in advance and its a litte party. The groom has to find her via scavenger hunt and exchange her for beer/wine etc. It is fun and games and the bride knows what happens. But that 1st story is just horrible
That comment about PTSD occurring brought me back to high school. In ninth grade, there was a bomb threat (the first of many, which turned out to be kids trying to get out of class) but the first time, we never had any drills outside of fire drills, our teacher never explained what was going on. I kept looking outside for smoke. My teacher set up games of “quackadilly oma” (this was 2005) and everyone was chill, laughing, talking.
However I *still* didn’t know what was going on. I know now, I’m autistic, but we were outside for 90 minutes, and I was so confused, and scared, on the verge of tears. I must have said the Lord’s Prayer 60 times, because that was the only coping I knew. (I was a lot more religious then.) when we finally went back inside, I was hesitant, and still didn’t know what happened for hours. The next time we had a bomb threat I was more relaxed, but I can still remember that first time almost 20 years later.
Yeah it made me think of some experiences that happened high school for me to one was we actually had an active shooter at one point I remember being terrified in the room during the lockdown other kids however we're kind of laughing and giggling and then I remember there was a bomb threat but we didn't know what was going on at the time so we were basically evacuated into a field and told we had to go home still unsure what was going on I couldn't get ahold of any family members couldn't get ahold of my mom no one and I don't think the best thing to do was walk to walk 2 miles I did have a friend take me home but it was terrifying. And of course the last hidden anything cuz was my r-word and how do I remember going into the bathroom and trying to get the door closed before he got there but he was faster and I was trapped I remember being pinned screaming crying begging them to stop that begging them to let me go I remember almost throwing up I felt like I was truly in danger. OP definitely is going to therapy.
Story 3: If you're not confident in your relationship that your SO compliments another person of your gender, you need help. Making other people feel good about what they do is some of the least we can do for each other.
In the proposal story, it sounds like the boyfriend didnt think his friends would do this. From his his actions of taking her upstairs to help her, him actually being shocked and angry at his friends and him even giving her some space afterwards. What i think might have happened was that he asked his friends to just pick her up like normal people. Not to scare her half to death.
I think the plan was for them to hand her a letter. They weren’t even supposed to pick her up
@@lorilancaster5917 you're right. Just a note but one of the guys thought it would be funny to scare her and think her life is on the line. And eww to that one guy that was stroking her legs. If the note said the boyfriend was missing, then the bf might be a jerk. But still no where near what the friends put her through. Hopefully the ex friends. Something romantic would be a savager hunt.
I still hear the sad stories getting to you. You know we'll listen to the wholesome content too, right? The success stories, how people knew they were in love, the embarrassing but not significant...
Sometimes he brings those up. I think it just happens these revolting stories get more upvotes on Reddit.
"One thing is clear from this story"
How incredibly healthy her and her husbands relationship is?
"Your friend is NOT rwady for a relationship"
That too
Laughing so hard! Yes, Dabney, I at 64 am sure that because I complemented your videos in the past you will hunt me down in my small Ohio town and run away with me. Thank you for the best laugh I have had in a month! I will be grinning all day over that one.
I know that kidnapping the future wife thing is an "old tradition" in various countries and they (bf friends) did it knowing that, "with good intentions" , but this is one of the traditions we need to get rid off
Absolutely, but it seems the boyfriend had no idea they were going this far. (His friends I mean) he seemed genuinely shocked and upset at his “friends”. Who wouldn’t? Since they literally traumatised and took advantage of that poor girl on purpose!
it is, but the bride is informed in most countries and not bound, or gagged... most of the times they just go done to the next pub, but this was insane
@@darkychen1223 good point.
just because you have good intentions doesn't make it okay
the kidnapping tradition is supposed to be done in a fun and harmless way, where the bride is instantly made aware that it is a joke. These dudes who did that are just horrible. If someone can look at a crying woman begging for her life and not think "hm, this is wrong" , they're just a monster...
Last story: What the hell happened to being nice? I throw compliments out all the time too regardless of their gender. If she looks gorgeous to me I'll tell her that, it doesn't make me a lesbian, or a creep, or a flirt, we need more compliments thrown out in this dark and grey world of ours. Lifts people's spirits up. Need more colour.
Word. It's not like he was being lewd or creepy, he just said he liked her dress. I compliment people's outfits all the time regardless of gender because i legit like their outfit and i want them to feel good. I even do it with the kids i work with (light-up shoes, awesome! Cool dinosaur shirt, dude!) At worst he just likes her dress, at best he's trying to give her some confidence before her date.
You do realize that if your fiance wants a future with you he's going to have to cut these people out of his life no amount of I'm sorry is going to cut it they kidnapped you and pseudo assaulted you
Not even pseudo. Thigh guy needs booted into the depths of the Grand Canyon.
It wasn’t pseudo assault, it was assault. What they did was kidnapping, not a prank, it was full on kidnapping!
Yeah, I'm with the others. The moment you forcefully take someone into a location they don't want to, while putting them into some kind of restrain, is assault and kidnapping. There's no "context" that could save that.
@@Juju2927 my question is why is there a rise in these cruel pranks? Like I don't recall this being such an epidemic.
@@kaykay8855 Everyones constantly trying to outdo the last guy. A big jump was when some older prankster admitted/got outed as faking his pranks. So the next person wanted to be 'better' by NOT faking his pranks. From there it just became a dick measuring contest.
First story: as a person with a deep rooted fear of restraint, this makes me feel really uncomfortable. I can't imagine how she felt in that situation. For me it'd be an immediate cut off for all of them.
Story 1 : This is beyond effed up.. Even if the BF wanted to propose this aint the way to do it.. This is the kinda case op needs to start carrying heat on her...
Story 2 : " i cheated on you and broke your heart but HoW DaRe YoU LeAvE Me NoW yOu Deceiver ".. F that hypocrite..
Story 3 :That "Friend " is a turd..
It was pretty freaking clear the BF had NO idea the idiots would pull that.
To my understanding the plan was to comedically hand her a note and have her step in willingly. The best friend seemed ready to follow the plan to the letter,it was the douchebag jocks that recently joined the friend group that took shit WAY too far. I try not to generalize but from what I've seen, what is it with meatheads having no impulse control and acting like a pack of rabid dogs instead of decent human beings?! Causing trauma and touching people like that without consent is never okay. I hope OP presses charges against those 2 for false imprisonment/kidnapping and sexual assault [they groped her and purposefully kept falling onto her boobs,gross!]
@@WyntheRogue Honestly, the jocks need to be put on a watchlist or something.
(Hopefully) to BF and his old friend, this was gonna be a funny story with the 'kidnapping' just being then ote.
To the jocks, this was a fucking test run of what they're gonna be doing to other women.
"This is the kinda case op needs to start carrying heat on her..."
Why? It's not like there's a reason to suspect it'd happen again, so that is literally not a reason to start carrying a gun.
Maybe not a gun but definitely pepper spray. Maybe some defence classes.
i just want to say: i've been a target of kidnappers before, i was very lucky and that shit was terrifying. after the attempted kidnappers missed me, they went after other kids, younger each time until they were arrested.
normal people do not attempt to kidnap others. even if OP's kidnappers say "it was just a prank," it was a REAL kidnapping. further, this screams "PRACTICE RUN" to me. like how serial killers often start with small animals before they target people. those dudes are a fucking menace.
I remember hearing about a guy trying to do a kidnapping as a prank but ended up dying when he was stabbed in self-defense.
I’ve read an article about a TH-camr “prankster” ( I don’t know or watch their channel) once who did a shooting prank in a mall in the upper part of my home state, long story short: he wound up getting shot by a security guard and arrested, craziest part is that his family said that he was good kid and wouldn’t do anything like that. ( his family should be lucky their kid wasn’t going home in a body bag in my opinion)
those "friends" saw the opportunity for live out their kidnapper fantasies and ran with it. rubbing her thighs, "falling" into her chest, saying vile things to her. That's exactly who they are.
Fr.
So for the prank story, I found on Reddit that she posted an update and she is still with her boyfriend, now fiance, and she was able to see that he had no idea about what they were going to do. He was very upset as well and that is not at all what he wanted.
Remember, kidnapping pranks will never be okay!
In the Philippines, recently a local "vlogger" did this one, with the biggest escalation yet: an actual off-duty police officer who has no idea this is a "prank" is just less than 3 meters from them with his gun pointed at them.
That "vlogger" is facing charges, specifically alarm and scandal.
"Vlogger" is a generic term here for content creators, and I despise that word.
Vlogger should be happy, in most other country's he would have been sh0t.
RATS! I can't believe Rslash saw through my attempts of complementing his videos so that he leaves his family and be with me
Time for plan B
Does Plan B involve shoving him into a SUV? That might sound cute but it does sound very unhinged.
Rslash: I'm sorry, but I'm happily married and straight!
D.S.- 487/C: So's spaghetti until it's wet.
This woman in Story Three really though a self-esteem reinforcer was supposed to be an attempt to get in her pants!? That's a special kind of special
@@EndellionQT
*Sweating profusely*
The proposal story the boyfriend should 100% cut ties with those guys and is also a victim but as r slash said op is a bigger victim but one thing to make a proposal was turned around by them and now he might sadly loose his girlfriend of 2 years because of these guys who decided to take a moment that could unite 2 people and make it the worst day ever
My grandparent's friends pulled a prank on my grandfather before their wedding, where they pretended to 'kidnap' my grandma. It irritated my grandpa, and my grandmother knew what was going on because the friends told her. And it was all fun because no one got hurt, and everyone knew what was going on. All they did was drive around town letting my grandpa chase after them. And then my grandparents were united and got married. the first story was just too much and criminal, they should be charged
It’s very very creepy that those two men wanted to enact a kidnapping that “feels real” 😳 the boyfriend and even the driver were just being weak followers, not an excuse but a valid explanation. But the two friends who pressed the horrible idea in the first place, then did extra creepy things throughout? Very creepy, red flags abound, they sound like a serial killing duo down to the leader and follower dynamic.
I think the Boyfriend is less a week follower since he wasn't in the car at the time. The Best friend yes, definitely. But as far as the Boyfriend knew while he was setting up his home for a romantic proposal was his girlfriend being maybe a little startled when someone got out of the car before being handed a letter from her Boyfriend to come see him and his friends were giving her a ride. Not this absolute vial actions.
You know I was starting to wonder since he doesn't know the two that well and the best friend was the driver was it possible that one of the two had a weapon and physically threatened him as he was driving maybe. I feel bad for the the boyfriend he set up a cute little proposal and it turned out to be a traumatizing event for the woman he loves.
As a married woman who isnt looking for anything and isnt interested, I enjoy your content. Its the first thing I listen to as I start my day. Keep up the amazing work!
Story 1. Some people only avoid doing bad things to people because they don't want to face the consequences, not because they are morally opposed to them. If they can get away with doing horrible things to people, they will. These friend strike me as those kinds of people. They saw this as an opportunity to do something horrible to OP and get away with it because "it's just a prank."
Particularly that one guy .... he needs to be on some kind of watch list
There is no "technically" about, op WAS kidnapped. Regardless of intent, she was taken against her will from the street corner. Send those awful people to jail.
For the last story: I respect his practices. I'm with OP, that's an attractive quality. When it comes to men, I don't just look for what he does for me but also what he does for other people. For example, going out with the man in my life, I noticed how he not only held the door open for me but also people who came in after. I'm not going to think he wants to get in another girl's pants just because he holds the door open for her or compliments her. If he did and never did any of that for me, then yeah, I can understand that suspicion. I'm sure OP's husband compliments her all the time, though! Sounds like that's just the kind of person he is!
Plus he probably hoped the compliment would help her confidence since he knows she’s trying to move forward from a broken heart
I would have had every single one of those guys arrested if somebody did that to me. What the fuck? Also if I were friendly with any of them we wouldn't be friends anymore. Also, I think it goes without saying that the relationship would have been over too.
Damn i feel bad for the boyfriend because he innocent in that situation. The friends are horrible. They caused it. But sadly, due to ptsd, he will forever be a reminder to her of the day she got kidnapped. This is probably one of the biggest reason why you shouldn’t involve others in your relationship
That last story. Their are certain cultures that when people meet/introduce each other, they do a peck on each cheek regardless if someone is in a relationship or not. It’s like their version of a handshake. Can’t imagine how the friend would react to that as opposed to a compliment.
This is mostly in Europe. But we do it mostly with people we know and like.
Man that first story, I feel horrible for op and for the boyfriend and the driver, op got LITERALLY kidnapped. I also feel bad for the driver and boyfriend it seemed like they had genuine intentions to just jump out hand her a letter telling her to go to bfs place and drive off but those other 2 “friends” did something so horrible, im they absolutely deserve jail time because they not only hurt OP but also sabotaged OPs relationship
The boyfriends idea was cute and funny enough, I think it'd be charming. The friend, I don't know what punishment he should get legally, but it should be less than the 2 guys who escalated the plan.
He still kept driving while she was being touched and tormented in the back. He had the power to pulled over and put an end to it at any time. That makes him an accessory to a crime. Now, I wouldn't be mad if he DID get less time -- I can see why he might -- but I certainly wouldn't feel bad if he didn't 🙃
@@THEDubbleHelixx- I mean, he was driving, he was unlikely to know that she was being touched and tormented in the back. I imagine if anything, he was trying to get this over with as fast as possible.
The last story... the friend has problems and needs to work on it because someone complimenting you doesn't mean they are going to cheat on their S/O. Also OP should tell her friends date about this (if she can) from that night because that's rather fucked up to walk into a relationship with someone like that.
The BF better leave his friends and tell them that is not acceptable, also I hope they faced charges!
As someone with C-PTSD and multiple other mental illnesses, I can confidently say that PTSD is the worst of them. You can get better and have a good prognosis with depression, ED, Agoraphobia and so on. But PTSD is engraved into your bones. No therapy in the world will make you feel safe the way you did before it happened. That story makes me feel so disgusted, mad and especially sad for the OP. I hope she gets the justice she deserves and those people (all 3 of them) go behind bars.
I have PTSD, specifically complex-PTSD from long term abuse as a child, teen and young adult from my family, and regular PTSD from very specific events where my brother was incredibly violent. It doesn’t matter that I wasn’t killed, his violence was so bad I thought I was going to die, he’d grab my hair and would smash my head into a wall, or he’d strangle me, it got to the point where as an young adult I couldn’t be anywhere near him if he’d drank any amount of alcohol because I’d vividly remember his violent outbursts when he drank, this led to the specific alcohol he drinks being a trigger, where even today if I smell it I get put back in those very moment, reliving that abuse.
Doesn’t matter that I didn’t die, that sense of terror is horribly unique and unforgettable, it’s sadly not something you just get over and forget, it’s something that haunts you forever. Doesn’t matter that it was “just a prank”, if only one person is laughing then that’s not a prank, that’s assault and kidnapping.
I would like to recommend trauma therapy, it’s helped me a great deal, and if possible OP cutting all contact with the individuals involved. For me cutting all contact with my mother and brother massively helped me, being in their presence set off my flight or fight so I put myself first, I put my well-being and mental health first, I made sure I felt safe and happy in life. It takes time to heal, but therapy massively helped me, I still have triggers and trigger dates (cPTSD has a lot of trigger dates), but therapy has helped me massively with those trigger dates where I cope a LOT better than years ago.
I wish you the very best, your sister has your back and loves you, don’t be afraid to lean on her for support as it sounds like she’ll go to the ends of the earth for you.
I feel the worst about the boyfriend in the first story 💀. Bro was about to do one of the most people emotionally intensive things in his life and it turned into a night mare
“…well, THINK AGAIN, Buster!!” Lol
Damn it, Rslash has caught us everyone. He's learned we're only sticking around in hopes he joins our enormous harem. Time for everyone to stop complimenting him.
As a sa survivor I'm getting panicky and emotional just listening to this story. I hope she presses charges and the whole lot of em get the book thrown at em.
The Last story: OP's friend sounds like a major shit starter. She's beyond bitter and definitely needs therapy. She's projecting her insecurities over being betrayed by her long-term boyfriend on to everyone else. You know what they say: misery loves company. In my opinion, it would also be in OP's best interest to distance herself from this “friend” because it will only lead further complications down the road.
In the first story the childhood friend could have pulled over at any time and stopped it,but he kept going so he is also guilty
Regarding the first story, the driver could at any point have stoped the car and de-escalated the situation but he didn't. He isn't remorseful for what he did, only for the way she reacted and the eventual aftermath
Exactly. My guess is they always hated her and were expecting her to just dump their "friend" and run off. Not to actually pursue charges.
Story 1 is so horrible! The driver should have stopped the car as soon as he realised what was going on. But he didn't therefore he's culpable.
It's the same if your friend asks you to pick them up and they've just committed a crime. If you drive off with them you're considered in on it, even if you didn't know about it beforehand.
What is a prank:
- a joke that harms NO ONE and that EVERYONE can laugh at
What a prank isnt:
-ANYTHING that can hurt/kill/maim/emotionally scar someone you may or MAY NOT know. Like any concept that YOU WOULD NOT WANT TO GO THROUGH IN REALTY? Not a prank. Scrap it. Go to jail just for thinking about it.
Edit: wrong word
What is a prank:
whoppie cushion and whip cream on the bottom of a mug so the person spills their drink on the floor when they lift the mug up.
What is NOT a prank:
The entirety of the first story.
for the first story, I also feel really bad for the boyfriend, he obviously didnt want that to happen to OP and was also rightfully distraught. It sucks he might lose out on his future SO over that.
Me too. It was supposed to be a goofy proposal, and an OBVIOUS faux kidnapping, not an actual kidnapping. I do think they'll need to take time, but I hope they can make it work in the long run.
Story 3: there's another update: the friend went and tried to friend OPs AH a couple of times and messaged him trying to get him into "cheating" on OP so that the CF wouldn't be alone. Twice. They blocked her and ended the friendship.
Story 1: now we have OP with a traumatic experience, her (probably ex-)boyfriend losing a childhood friendship, and his friend very likely going to jail, all because two idiots thought was a good idea to turn from the planned funny gimmick prank to a literal crime;
Hopefully OP gets better, and these two assholes get a pretty harsh sentence. OP's boyfriend childhood friend also deserve some time in jail, even if not as harsh as those two, and I also feel bad for her boyfriend, because he probably lost his relationship with her over two idiots he only knew over a few months thinking they were being funny.
First story: That's a traumatizing experience. Poor op i think so far maybe he didn't expect them to go this far but the fact that they literally assaulted her on the ride,was caressing her,purposely "fell" into op breast, and threatened her. I think this was a dark fantasy of the certain friends. Also the gf of one of the guys should break up with him.
OP in the second story with the cheating husband. Tell your daughters that just because you chose to stick it out doesn't mean she has to if her man ever cheats.
Second story: If OP was unhappy she should have left him,I can see how the husband feel decieved having his daughter move out then his wife of minimum 10 years the day after. He seems like he genuinely regretted it. I understand op leaving good for her actually but the way she did it absolutely felt like it had some deception and was vindictive
He regretted the fact that he got caught.
Plus did you forget that he did this in their home.
You feeling sorry for him means that you’ve cheated on someone or several someone’s yourself.
She stay with him for her children.
Him thinking that he had been given a second chance to fuck her over was his stupidity.
She chose herself over her lying and cheating husband.
Now he’s free to passionately screw any woman he wants because she doesn’t give two fucks.
Plus revenge is always best when served cold.
You’re absolutely right, good analysis. I’m surprised this isn’t evident to more people as hardly anyone is commenting about this story. What a user piece of work. Marriage partners make mistakes, they either spilt right then or try and put things back together. That’s what he tried to do for ten years, meanwhile she’s just using him and making his life hell for the damn income. You can do that when you split, it’s called alimony and child support. Instead she lied and pretended to at least partially forgive so she wouldn’t have to give up anything. What a piece of work.
@@MsTemptationWhat BS and what projection! “Stayed with him for the children?” Yeah, that’s what child support covers after the divorce! But that wasn’t enough for Miss Queen Shit of Turd Mountain who had every opportunity to leave after the utter _horror_ of her husband being attracted to another woman. Instead she pretended to stay to work on the marriage just like he did. No wonder he cheated on her in the first place! “She chose herself,” exactly. How completely dishonest.
She lied and manipulated and deceived him for TEN years! He screwed up, regretted it, kept telling her he loved her, and put up with NO SEX for a decade because he knew he blew it and was trying to make it up as best he could, NOT “try for a second chance to screw her over!” Who thinks like that? Just some bent hateful female.
And she just continued to use him. She should have broken up right then but she stayed for the paycheck and the lifestyle. How disgustingly dishonest. And the changing of the sheets daily is simply pathological. Talk about needing mental health treatment! Instead of doing that you get separate beds, in separate homes. But oh no, not for this one, she’s special! I love how you try and justify her incredibly selfish behavior.
You’re saying that anyone who feels empathy for him is a cheater just shows that your character is as deceptive and corrupt as the wife, and you are just as much a user as she was! By your logic no cheating partner should EVER be forgiven. And before you project on me, my fiancé cheated on me, and I forgave her and we’ve had 25 years together. I would never be so no class as to stay with her for another decade just to dump her. If you’re going to dump someone you do it right then, not continue to milk them like a user b$t$&!
What a hateful person you must be, on multiple levels, as manifested by this post alone. If you can label someone so unfairly for having empathy for the guy, then that goes both ways.
@@MsTemptation It was 10 year ago. Imagine making a mistake in a relationship and you do every you can to fix it and be patient and loving and think that everything’s ok or will be okay because you guys don’t fight and you still have sex just for her to move out the day after your youngest leaves and gives you divorce papers. That extremely vindictive and horrible. She should’ve just divorced him and treated him like a roommate but no, she pulled him along for TEN YEARS and expected everything to be fine. You being on her side is bitchy of you anyway. If I did something shitty 10 years ago and someone plotted and waited to seek their chance to fuck me over because they feel like it, that makes them just as much as an ass as I was. Grow up.
Damn, it seems my plan to compliment Rslash in order to break his family apart was discovered !
At least he didn't realize the end goal was to kidnap Yugo amidst the chaos that would ensue
UPDATE on the KIDNAPPED STORY: Op couldn't explain a whole lot due to legality, but her and her fiancé (yes fiancé!) talked it out and he had NO IDEA about this plan. He proposed to her in a private place. At first she didnt want to press charges on the guys (due to the friendship with the former bf) but backtracked because it was necessary and unavoidable. One of the gym dudes was influenced by YT pranksters, etc. and is on the spectrum and apologized to her - but that's NO EXCUSE!
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Please give an update ASAP on the first story. I'm sure everyone here wants to know how the young lady is doing after suffering such a traumatic event (and I'm sure we all wish her the very best). Would also like to know the fate of what I suspect is now ex boyfriend as well as his probably now ex best friend AND the two sadistic bastards who traumatized this totally innocent young lady. May they rot in prison.
Story 2: main character syndrome at its finest, he was so caught up in the idea forgetting it ever happened that you didn't realize his marriage was over ten years ago. You have to be in your own little world to not be concerned that your wife has never said I love you in 10 years, won't let you touch her without protection and even then only three times a year. He just doesn't pay attention, the only thing I think Opie did wrong was not be a 100% up front, if she was only sticking around for the kids I would have said that so there's no confusion. But again you have to be pretty in your own head to not see these obvious signs for ten whole years.
I don't think she realized she was only sticking around for the kids until their youngest was ready to move out. At least that's how it reads. When her youngest was saying she was ready to move out, she began her plans to move out too. Maybe she should've told him when she came to that realization, but honestly, he didn't deserve it. A cheater deserves all that comes to them because they threw away their relationship. Maybe they'll think about it in their next relationship and be better, but once a cheater always a cheater.
I don't think she was wrong in that, if she had it could/would have changed how things were with raising the kids and could have made things way worse on them than it was. It seems it just kept the fracture in the marriage to the bedroom and not the Freudian slip of 'Your mom is going to leave when you leave'.
Plus @Toothless No, I think it was in that first 3 years after he cheated that OP came to that decision, as she said raising the 3 kids thinking of him as a roommate not a partner.
I imagine that OP was afraid that if she were to straight up say that she's only staying in the marriage just for the kids until they grow up and move out, he'll try to do everything he can to make OP stay in the marriage like black mail, threating to harm her or hold her hostage, just like with the mustard guy, the pizza guy and the milk guy, except no food is involved here, basically, trying to control her to make sure she stays with him forever.
I think for me the worst part about this kidnap story is the fact that he was rubbing up her thighs and putting his face in her boobs that is just completely unacceptable
I had seen the proposal story awhile ago, I didn’t see the update where the boyfriend was just making it a silly goofy thing, and they decided to go overboard. I hope OP can heal, and I feel really bad for the boyfriend because he’s probably going to have to lose her (which I don’t blame her for at all) because of something is “friends” did. I understand the one friend wasn’t in on it in that capacity, but I feel like he could have ended it at any point. I do feel just a drop of remorse for him as well. It must have been awful and strange to be in that situation, not knowing what to do or how to stop them.
Edit to add: before anyone jumps down my throat about being a man feeling bad for one of the friends, this is my partners account. We share it for TH-cam premium.
Anyone who thinks badly of someone for having feelings, regardless of gender, is a moronic asshole and needs to get their priorities straight anyway.
7:05 Sarah Boon thought she could use that excuse. "It wasn't my intention/I didn't plan for it to happen". Girl, you put your bf in a suitcase and he died.
Story One: tbh I think the kidnappers are getting off easy. I heard of this story where someone tried to kidnap this woman as a prank (I think friends arranged it?) and she knew self defense and killed him.
karma. play asshole games, win deadly prizes.
the sarcasm at the end was amazing
The cheater story makes me think of a story where a 5 year old did something terrible and could not understand why the person he hurt was so upset and everything could not be solved with hugs and "sowwy".
The husband sounds just like this child.
The fact that op changed the sheets every night, never said I love you back and their sex life was nonexistent didn’t make him think ‘I f-ed up.’
yeah then imagine the other person just silently resenting that child for ten years. OP did deceive the man. wake up
Taking "It's just a prank bro" to a whole new level.
story 2
OP's husband: *cheats*
OP: *leaves him after their youngest leaves home*
OP's husband: what how could you do this to me I'm obviously a victim
I have no pity for that cheater he deserves to be abandoned
As teens we kidnapped our friend and it was sooo obvious and bungling and we kept laughing and saying in a deep voice "we kidnapped you heeee hee hee". So clumsy and silly, no actual threats. I cannot effing believe these guys did something like this. Looking back I think even a clumsy silly kidnapping was wrong to do. It's just not something you do even as a joke.
Those two friends would be out on the street waiting for the cops. And if they tried to leave the cops would be on the way to their house. Best friend had total control as the driver. He gets seriously reprimanded too but it seems like the 2 "athletic class" friends need jail time and assaulted themselves
that first story, i'd go to the cops and write up a report of a kidnapping. And try to sue them all for kidnapping, sexual harassment, emotional trauma and assault.
Honestly, if my husband's friends did that, I likely would not be his wife anymore. This guy did expect the friends to bring her, so he isn't totally innocent. Let's say he is innocent and planned out something more calm - OP only knew one of the men, and why would the boyfriend expect her to be ok with getting in a car with 2 strange men?
Did you watch the video? The boyfriend IS totally innocent. The only thing he expected was for them to pick her up like normal people. What those other guys did was absolutely horrible but assigning blame to the blameless one in this situation makes no sense.
7:00 Final update: OP stayed with the bf and eventually they got engaged.