I am a white, middle-aged Christian-raised American who might not be expected to praise this video but I am deeply enthused by its message that can better all men. I heard encouragement for a strong work ethic and dedication to family which leads, of course, to a stronger community. That bravery is missing in so many young men today who are weakened by negative cultural influences. Thank you this video and its transcendent message.
I was in an unfair marriage with any kind of support... Subhanna Allah, why Muslims are like that and they call themselves Mumin!! I'm reverted and almost lost my deen in that situation but alhamdulillah I held to Al-Adl and I'm going ahead again with new goals and my faith get stronger than before.
you belong to Allah only, thats why u r supposed to look at what Allah Almighty wants from u and tells u to do (in Quran and Hadiths), not to other people
Askm sis , Muslims do not know Islam,they are Muslims only because they are born into a Muslim household and hence their behavior is opposite to what Qur'an says a Muslim should be. Islam is divine religion,I have found peace in the Qur'an, the answers are in there, you plz hold on to the rope of Allah and move ahead. In'shaa'allah you will find peace and gain success. Aameen.
13 years he always took what he gave. And also my earnings. Had Access to my personal account to manage financial responsibility of the family. He made sure I didn't see statements. After leaving and doing online banking I saw he put in and made bills go out of my account and made sure there was never enough money for me to spend on myself. I'm glad I left that marriage. I feel I been robbed for 13 years.
That sucks you went through that. I was married to a woman who demanded a very high dowry, very expensive wedding and after we got married she told me she doesn't want to learn about Islam and she wanted to work and not take care of the house needs. I am glad I left that marriage quickly! Now trying to get married and a lot of muslim women keep making high demands, but they don't want to compromise or fulfill their roles.
6:22 my grandmother did with my mother, she took my mother's mehr jewellary without free will and married off her another daughter...and to this day they haven't given it back, she went to hajj though. Financial abuse is too common in desi families and nobody even talks abt it, bcz it's likely the imam doing it himself. I hope to follow everything that you said one day inshallah. May allah have grant everyone the sabr and wisdom to follow his commands.
I completely agree with this. A man should take care of this wife financially and I wish they would realize this and not get married it they don’t understand such basic principles. It is not their wife responsibility to take care of her husband’s family financially when they can’t do anything for their wife’s family or their wife. Thank you for sharing this.
I can relate so much. I have to work and earn while my husband sits idle at home, he's having a small rental income. I have to take almost every other financial, maintenance etc responsibility of house n kids..and really I want to be a saabir wife and respect him but many times I fail..I was religious even before marriage and I always prayed for a good religious husband, but I know this is my azmaish and please pray for me to be successful in this
MashaAllah how lovely and well explained using the Holy Quran.. Men of today dnt fear Allah and wat the Quran says... This why there are alot of problems... May Allah guide us all Ameen
Am so happy to hear that. Am a pharmacist and my dad is a doctor and left me quite a lot. But my hubby is a spends all his money and asks mine And I pay for all household food, kids, school ect. And he tells me am a disobedient unfaithful wife
Would love to have subtitles in the lecture for the people who is hard of hearing. So, they learn about islam too. Excellent lecture and very much needed topic for the men to hear and understand inshaAllah. Jazakallah khairan.
Love this topic. I’m in a situation I inherited money and my husband keep asking about it. I keep telling him no habibi it’s my money. He works but makes little money. The problem ismost Muslim men especially the african and black Muslim men make all kinds of excuses lame 😒 excuses as to why they cannot afford to provide for the wife and children. It quite obvious that the man need to provide to clam manhood
z z don’t u have some integrity? Why are you generalizing people ? If your husband is asshole ,that’s up to him . Blacks and Africans are more than a billion. You must be no better than the one that you’re accusing!
I'm in the same situation..suffering with disgust all the ehsaan of all family ..still I have to earn look after my family and still striving hard to make both ends meet...grave situation ..please Allah have mercy on us ll
Brother Nouman Ali Khan is usually on point in all of his lectures. What he is emphasizing in this one is that men are the maintainers and providers of their households, NOT the women. He never said that women cannot work and earn their own money in the marriage. If they do and choose to help their husbands and contribute to the households, it is considered a charity, NOT an obligation on their part. This is very much Islamic. It makes no sense for men to become offended or insulted with this. Problems come in when un-Islamic cultural practices override Islam. As Muslims, we can come up with all the "what if's" we want, but no matter. ISLAM ALWAYS OVERRIDE UNISLAMIC CULTURAL PRACTICES, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND! We must always keep in mind that Allah is Always Most Fair and Most Just! He knows best, NOT us!
Culture is what is destroying our ummah. Solely because I’m a physician I had a family last month request $100,000 US dollars for mahr. Along with $100,000 wedding and $65,000 diamond ring. I walked away.
In todays real world finances are very hard and almost every couple works to pay rent because bills today are ridiculous as prices raise especially in the UK.
My mother in law never allow her sons to give money to daughter in laws and when daughter in law is earning they take everything from her. They don't even provide basic needs it is still responsibility of girls parents and will tell daughter in law that husband is majazi khuda...no need to ask anything..😐
I am a Desi American and it is true what brother Nouman Ali Khan said. There are many desi families both in the west and back home where women are forced to work and all their money goes to their husband's family. I have experienced this with my family growing up and always thought that Islam was to blame for this, but no it is not Islam but this culture that has come into this beautiful religion. Never let the culture come to dictate what the Quran and Sunnah have brought for us. Desi culture has to become more Islamic. This lecture needs to be promoted for ALL Muslim men in the Desi culture. Islam teaches men how to be men. I am a proud Muslim and am glad that I as a man have to fulfill my responsibilities for my wife and children.
Yes thanks to your speech my wife has taken her irresponsibility with money to a criminal level I give her half my wage and she spends more and expects me to pay her debt uses your sermon and the Quran to justify irresponsible behavior thank you
this video is complete non sense in some aspects - if you have this literal view on men’s responsibilities and role then they also spill over into marital rape and abuse .. completely extreme view to endear the speaker to women
He’s not telling u to give her money if she’s irresponsible. He is saying that u r responsible for the necessities; spend in the necessities yourself. There’s is a 2nd part of the khutbah which explains the woman’s duties/responsibilities.
Half your wage? She probably paying for the roof over your head, the food that u eat and the electricity to cook your meals. Ur full of shit. Men have the upper hand if you had proof of what u say u would have divorced her without fearing the consequences of what she might say about u
I have a friend that her husband send most of his wage back home. Even though his parents and siblings are living lavishly. He is building his sister a house even though she has a husband providing . His wife works looks after 4 kidaand pays for most the bills, as he gets mad if she asks for any money from him.
I’m a husband who provide everything to my wife and kids alx it’s my duty and I believe no woman should stay such husband like that. If he don’t provide for you the wife and childreen then what is he doing.
I’m paying half of everything and being abused .. Part of that abuse is he won’t pay his half of the bills if he decides he is mad at me. I have no issue paying half. I would love to spilt half of everything, domestic work included. I would love more if I could go to school but I can’t depend on him financially, even if I could drop down to part time with my job, it wouldn’t be enough money to cover my half, and he would own me if he helped me in that way. At the bare minimum, I would love to be able to depend on bills being paid on time because I always do my part financially and in the home, whether I am upset or not. I really want to believe this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. But no one is showing me any different. Family is backing him up and bailing him out. We’re not actually married, just engaged, for 5 years because he said I don’t deserve marriage unless I become his doormat (direct quote). I don’t see a way out. I am terrified and feel like I’ve been taken advantage of because I have no rights in my situation at all. I’m not Muslim, I’m Christian. I don’t know if I’m allowed to ask a sheikh for advice or not. I really wish I had more Muslim friends or someone to come to for advice. Part of that advice I feel like would be to “not air dirty laundry” as I’ve been told before but that’s how abuse continues and goes unnoticed because they convince you it’s not bad and it’s your fault it happened.
Just as a pastor/priest wouldn't turn a non-believer if they came to him for advice, a sheikh won't either Go to your local mosque or church Sounds like you've made up your mind already I think you just need a confirmation to leave All is left now is acting on it All the best to you
You can go to local mosque and tell the shiekh about your situation even you are not muslim They will listen for you and would give you an according advice
Speech is really true nd good. This scholar told the responsibilities of women , quite true. But he didn't tell the responsibilities of women for her husband..
My husband refuse to support me financially he keeps telling me to go and get a job but when I do work I get accused of cheating with my co workers I am also not allowed to go places by myself or make a decision for myself 😢I also get insulted and told I’m a b he swears me infront of our kids he always call me names and when I talk and stand up for myself he say I only think of myself and start blaming me for everything that happens in our marriage
I've met potential spouses that wore hijab and fully covered up in terms of clothing below her neck and the first thing out of their mouths was high demands of financial expectations from a man. They take the parts of the religion that benefits them but ignore the rest. For example I've met highly educated Muslim women with hijab and love to repeat how the man is financially responsible for his family and his wife. They always mention any salaries they earn is for them and they specifically mention that they will not help out the husband. Although they are correct they convientely leave out the part where they are responsible to maintain the home such as cooking, cleaning and raising the children. If they can't do their duties they shouldn't work! Don't get me wrong I will help out my wife with those duties and never will I tell my potential wife "hey you will stay home, cook and clean" the same way these women I met have told me "your are responsible for the finances and don't expect me to help". If your going to apply something from the religion make sure you apply all of it! I have met musilm women who wear the hijab but not the full outfit or met with no hijab and those I've met were very righteous women!
Which teaching in islam says cooking, cleaning & raising children is the obligation of a muslim wife ya akhi??? Please check the prophet's teachings that even if a wife requested payment for breastfeeding her child, he should pay her. I'm a financially stable educated woman who asked my future husband this same question just to assess his knowledge & how much he'd step up in case needed in the future, he said sure. Guess what? I'm raising our kid with my savings, working part time while he's making excuse after excuse!! So please all muslim men out there, do educate your selves on your responsibilities & fear Allah about your women. That's our prophet's final advice to each & every one of you.... fear Allah about your women!!!!
@pearla6987 you should really provide sources of your information for you may be misleading people who aren't doing their own research to take what you are writing as is. Can the mother ask the father for payment in return for breastfeeding her children from him? I got the following from the site "islamqa" in regards to this the view is that if the wife is married to the husband, it's not permissible for her to ask for payment in return for breastfeeding their children, this is a duty on her and in that case she is not entitled to anything more than maintenance, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis” [al-Baqarah 2:233]. You gave good advice for men to educate themselves but you should also educate yourself as well as well as everyone should.
NO, it's not like "his money is also hers" the husband is only responsible to fulfill her basic needs like food shelter bills and groceries and clothing nothing more than that......
@@TheMrpalid oh! What a lie to use in the modern world now! If i lived back to 300 years sure but It’s not the same now. No one is forcing you to spend a lot of money in Mahr but it’s our right to say how much we want since Alah didn’t say it’s haram don’t bother responding again with BS.
My situation here and am stressed,he stopped providing since I got a job and he would even take advantage of my money,used my loan I took to self develope and forcing me to take another, I swear I won't if it's continues like this I pray that I will leave this marriage
Sir i want to ask something .my husband isn't working from last three years he lives in my parents home. We have two daughters. Earlier he worked for 6 years in abudhabi .but after leaving his job from there he is not working since then. 18 years of my married life he worked for only these 6 years. He doesn't have any social security like to give any thing to her daughters. Im working in a school but that doesn't fulfil even basic needs of my kids. What does islam says in such cas. Do guide . Jazak Allah
Am shocked to hear that he is not working though Allah has given the inature to work & earn for Men, & u should not take the responsibility of earning.. U should stop going to work & start to become full-time home-maker then the responsibility of arrijalu qawaam will automatically is transferred to your husband.
You need to talk to him, his parents and yours. You need to take a stand and tell him get up and get a job. Because if you don’t do it, trust me your daughters will never have anything
aragsan uj subxanallah😳🤦🏿♀️ never seen or heard!!!!!!!! True every population have their good and negative sides but MOST Somali men they respect ✊ and die for their women forget about neglecting their women
Men come up with an argument that we live in the USA. I heard a lot of men are withholding their wife's stimulus check and tax return money because they say that since we take care of the household it's ours even if she has a job and the tax return money had been withholding from her paycheck
Unfortunately some husband's are financially dependent on their wife and still abuses and disrespect the wife wife earns and husband spends and after that still wife is abused
I personally think women should work, in order to provide for herself and achieve financial independence. Women should not go ask the husband for money to buy something .A women should not be dependent on her husband. That’s why men always come more stronger than women. I encourage all the women’s to work and not jus rely on the husband. ❤️
Womens work is the greatest of all! Women born and raise children and childre are the future of every society! So a group of good mothers can create a good socieaty! Women take care of house cleaning cooking ironing washing etc.... you want more? What can be greater job than this? Allah (swt) knows how he designed usand what our roles in a family should be! If a man cannot understand the importance of womans job then hes not a real muslim! Hes just muslim by name not by faith! And Allah knows best!
well women do work... and they occupy more of the workforce than men in the uk. they also earn the same if not more than men and possess qualified jobs so why a man still has to give a dowry to such women i cannot understand. for e.g. a man earns 15k after tax, and his wife or ex wife earns 20k after tax then why does he need to give a dowry? if we apply common sense then maybe she needs to pay him some dowry
My father abandoned my family when I was 8yrs old, and came back after 5 years when he came to know my brother just finished his graduation and he left after 2months right after my brother joined post graduation.. Now he is again trying to comeback to us after 12 yrs.. And I can't recall him being nice to me or paying a penny for my education. Now I know in islam we have obligation to our parents.. Do I have any obligation to my father whome I never saw in 7 yrs while he staying not far than 100km? Ustad do I have any obligation towards a father like this?
Firstly you must ask his reason to do so. Then Just pray for him. And if he needs a help just help him as a human being not as a father. I know how hard it is to be abandoned by their own fam. I my self started to feed my self since i was 13 too while all fam members and parents stop financial support.
Yes my dear If even did not come back for you,what He did or doing is between Him and ALLAH but you have to Horner your Mother and Father if you are if dose with pacent and Knowledge.
My husband is a lazy financial abuser. My patents refuse I leave him as we have kids. Am well off but he basically takes most of my income everymonth and I do all household expenses with the rest. I hate him and really hate him and he treats me like am shit and owe him stuff. Any help for divorce
I noticed the women complaining their husbands don't give them their rights is cause they married someone not on Quran and Sunnah. So enjoy the hell life you chose. Or both of you start learning ur deen so the marriage is enjoyable and peaceful. Sadly the parents are just muslim by name but don't practise so they abuse them by using the parent card. Ridiculous. Money / kids won't bring happiness if the individuals don't know their roles by learning what Allah want's us to do.
In one of the Mufti Menk videos I heard that you can bargain the Mehr if you can't afford and here Nouman Ali Khan says the otherwise. I'm confused now ):
I am a white, middle-aged Christian-raised American who might not be expected to praise this video but I am deeply enthused by its message that can better all men.
I heard encouragement for a strong work ethic and dedication to family which leads, of course, to a stronger community. That bravery is missing in so many young men today who are weakened by negative cultural influences. Thank you this video and its transcendent message.
Keep looking, maybe you're promoting for the better.
It's never too late
Don’t be fooled by the razzle dazzle!
No matter what the Quran says, for some ppl culture is above all.
Thats why they suffer from many problems in marriage SubhanAllah
Culture, upbringing, character also played a part.
Than u have to do tawba
unfortunately so true
True sis 💔
I was in an unfair marriage with any kind of support... Subhanna Allah, why Muslims are like that and they call themselves Mumin!! I'm reverted and almost lost my deen in that situation but alhamdulillah I held to Al-Adl and I'm going ahead again with new goals and my faith get stronger than before.
you belong to Allah only, thats why u r supposed to look at what Allah Almighty wants from u and tells u to do (in Quran and Hadiths), not to other people
Askm sis , Muslims do not know Islam,they are Muslims only because they are born into a Muslim household and hence their behavior is opposite to what Qur'an says a Muslim should be. Islam is divine religion,I have found peace in the Qur'an, the answers are in there, you plz hold on to the rope of Allah and move ahead. In'shaa'allah you will find peace and gain success. Aameen.
May Allah bless you with strength, gd health, prosperity and more iman, sis.. verily with every hardship, Allah will provide ease..
Alhamduli allah you find your way out from that relationship
May Allah keep you on Deen.
13 years he always took what he gave. And also my earnings. Had Access to my personal account to manage financial responsibility of the family. He made sure I didn't see statements. After leaving and doing online banking I saw he put in and made bills go out of my account and made sure there was never enough money for me to spend on myself.
I'm glad I left that marriage. I feel I been robbed for 13 years.
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
That Is Very Sad.I m sorry for you.No Man must take Any Money from The Women they marry😬😬😬😬.
That sucks you went through that. I was married to a woman who demanded a very high dowry, very expensive wedding and after we got married she told me she doesn't want to learn about Islam and she wanted to work and not take care of the house needs. I am glad I left that marriage quickly! Now trying to get married and a lot of muslim women keep making high demands, but they don't want to compromise or fulfill their roles.
6:22 my grandmother did with my mother, she took my mother's mehr jewellary without free will and married off her another daughter...and to this day they haven't given it back, she went to hajj though.
Financial abuse is too common in desi families and nobody even talks abt it, bcz it's likely the imam doing it himself.
I hope to follow everything that you said one day inshallah. May allah have grant everyone the sabr and wisdom to follow his commands.
I completely agree with this. A man should take care of this wife financially and I wish they would realize this and not get married it they don’t understand such basic principles. It is not their wife responsibility to take care of her husband’s family financially when they can’t do anything for their wife’s family or their wife. Thank you for sharing this.
I am not Muslim but I love his teachings. I wish I could understand the other language he spoke. Please put a translation in the subtitles.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He’s speaking Arabic as the Quran was written in Arabic so it is recited in Arabic
This is all so true and relevant to current issues today
I am not a Muslim but I really liked what he said.
I can relate so much. I have to work and earn while my husband sits idle at home, he's having a small rental income. I have to take almost every other financial, maintenance etc responsibility of house n kids..and really I want to be a saabir wife and respect him but many times I fail..I was religious even before marriage and I always prayed for a good religious husband, but I know this is my azmaish and please pray for me to be successful in this
He'll have to pay back when he'll die
MaasyaAllah ... I'm speechless! ... I don't know what to say!
Alhamdulillah ... I'm a Muslim and I believe in Islam ... SubhanAllah 💞
Great speech. May we implement Islam as we are meant to do it.
Masha Allah, on point....May Allah guide us all, to fulfill our duties towards our spouses 🧡
Mashaallah so beautifully explained .....
May Allah swt reward the ustadh immensly
MashaAllah how lovely and well explained using the Holy Quran..
Men of today dnt fear Allah and wat the Quran says... This why there are alot of problems...
May Allah guide us all
Ameen
Finest of the lectures!! Jazakumullah hu khair !!
Muslim speakers are very excited always!!!!!!
Am so happy to hear that.
Am a pharmacist and my dad is a doctor and left me quite a lot.
But my hubby is a spends all his money and asks mine
And I pay for all household food, kids, school ect.
And he tells me am a disobedient unfaithful wife
He's even not hallowed to stay with you and touch you...
Hadith, Prophet said : divoce the men who don't spend for they wives!
He is a disobedient unfaithful husband
Absolutely right, may god raise the awareness of people to the gates of Islam.
Would love to have subtitles in the lecture for the people who is hard of hearing. So, they learn about islam too. Excellent lecture and very much needed topic for the men to hear and understand inshaAllah. Jazakallah khairan.
Wowowow MashaAlllaah he is soo amazing to hear..i can just feel every bit of word said♥️♥️
Finally a true man / brother stood up for women. Thanks 🙏
Not a true man at all. This is a man who’s balls have dropped and is allowing his wife to be a freeloader
Mashaa Allah
I loved this for so long thanks
Allah makes easy for us Everything but we make it too hard
SubhanAllah, Allah Show us The Right Path.
Love this topic. I’m in a situation I inherited money and my husband keep asking about it. I keep telling him no habibi it’s my money. He works but makes little money. The problem ismost Muslim men especially the african and black Muslim men make all kinds of excuses lame 😒 excuses as to why they cannot afford to provide for the wife and children. It quite obvious that the man need to provide to clam manhood
z z don’t u have some integrity? Why are you generalizing people ? If your husband is asshole ,that’s up to him . Blacks and Africans are more than a billion. You must be no better than the one that you’re accusing!
Well said...M a Christian...I m impressed...Thankz for sharing
I'm in the same situation..suffering with disgust all the ehsaan of all family ..still I have to earn look after my family and still striving hard to make both ends meet...grave situation ..please Allah have mercy on us ll
That is a text from ALLAH if u are a Muslim and pray to ALLAH to make thing easy for you
Same here sister
Mr noman this is very nice speach this is happning in us .every home problem and children are destory thanks 💞💞💞💞💞
Brother Nouman Ali Khan is usually on point in all of his lectures. What he is emphasizing in this one is that men are the maintainers and providers of their households, NOT the women. He never said that women cannot work and earn their own money in the marriage. If they do and choose to help their husbands and contribute to the households, it is considered a charity, NOT an obligation on their part. This is very much Islamic. It makes no sense for men to become offended or insulted with this. Problems come in when un-Islamic cultural practices override Islam. As Muslims, we can come up with all the "what if's" we want, but no matter. ISLAM ALWAYS OVERRIDE UNISLAMIC CULTURAL PRACTICES, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!
We must always keep in mind that Allah is Always Most Fair and Most Just! He knows best, NOT us!
My heart watching this video!🥰💗
Yeah I hope u have the heart when it comes to a mans right
Mashallah well explained JazakhAllah khair brother !!
Culture is what is destroying our ummah. Solely because I’m a physician I had a family last month request $100,000 US dollars for mahr. Along with $100,000 wedding and $65,000 diamond ring. I walked away.
Ok Brother let me tell you. MAHR Is Something Important For Marriage. Do MAHR that in which you can be Capable of Giving.
Why can’t anyone listen instead of getting offensive? It’s like we can’t even make an improvement in our own deen. Smh
So true especially in the black community American black community
In todays real world finances are very hard and almost every couple works to pay rent because bills today are ridiculous as prices raise especially in the UK.
My mother in law never allow her sons to give money to daughter in laws and when daughter in law is earning they take everything from her. They don't even provide basic needs it is still responsibility of girls parents and will tell daughter in law that husband is majazi khuda...no need to ask anything..😐
No marriage , no problems in life
Gazanfer Shaikh second you brother
supreme said the king of 40 wives!
@@popcornto6032 ur right bro
I am a Desi American and it is true what brother Nouman Ali Khan said. There are many desi families both in the west and back home where women are forced to work and all their money goes to their husband's family. I have experienced this with my family growing up and always thought that Islam was to blame for this, but no it is not Islam but this culture that has come into this beautiful religion. Never let the culture come to dictate what the Quran and Sunnah have brought for us. Desi culture has to become more Islamic. This lecture needs to be promoted for ALL Muslim men in the Desi culture. Islam teaches men how to be men. I am a proud Muslim and am glad that I as a man have to fulfill my responsibilities for my wife and children.
May Allah always bless you for standing firm for Islam, dear brother!
thank you than you thank you thank you thank you for making a video on financial abuse! it's too prevalent in our culture unfortunately!
Yes thanks to your speech my wife has taken her irresponsibility with money to a criminal level I give her half my wage and she spends more and expects me to pay her debt uses your sermon and the Quran to justify irresponsible behavior thank you
this video is complete non sense in some aspects - if you have this literal view on men’s responsibilities and role then they also spill over into marital rape and abuse .. completely extreme view to endear the speaker to women
if she is stealing and ungrateful divorce her
He’s not telling u to give her money if she’s irresponsible. He is saying that u r responsible for the necessities; spend in the necessities yourself. There’s is a 2nd part of the khutbah which explains the woman’s duties/responsibilities.
@@teddee9938 marital rape? Proof?
Half your wage? She probably paying for the roof over your head, the food that u eat and the electricity to cook your meals.
Ur full of shit. Men have the upper hand if you had proof of what u say u would have divorced her without fearing the consequences of what she might say about u
I have a friend that her husband send most of his wage back home. Even though his parents and siblings are living lavishly. He is building his sister a house even though she has a husband providing . His wife works looks after 4 kidaand pays for most the bills, as he gets mad if she asks for any money from him.
Same as my husband
I’m a husband who provide everything to my wife and kids alx it’s my duty and I believe no woman should stay such husband like that. If he don’t provide for you the wife and childreen then what is he doing.
Masha Allah ❤️
I’m paying half of everything and being abused .. Part of that abuse is he won’t pay his half of the bills if he decides he is mad at me.
I have no issue paying half. I would love to spilt half of everything, domestic work included. I would love more if I could go to school but I can’t depend on him financially, even if I could drop down to part time with my job, it wouldn’t be enough money to cover my half, and he would own me if he helped me in that way. At the bare minimum, I would love to be able to depend on bills being paid on time because I always do my part financially and in the home, whether I am upset or not.
I really want to believe this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. But no one is showing me any different. Family is backing him up and bailing him out.
We’re not actually married, just engaged, for 5 years because he said I don’t deserve marriage unless I become his doormat (direct quote). I don’t see a way out. I am terrified and feel like I’ve been taken advantage of because I have no rights in my situation at all. I’m not Muslim, I’m Christian. I don’t know if I’m allowed to ask a sheikh for advice or not. I really wish I had more Muslim friends or someone to come to for advice.
Part of that advice I feel like would be to “not air dirty laundry” as I’ve been told before but that’s how abuse continues and goes unnoticed because they convince you it’s not bad and it’s your fault it happened.
Just as a pastor/priest wouldn't turn a non-believer if they came to him for advice, a sheikh won't either Go to your local mosque or church Sounds like you've made up your mind already I think you just need a confirmation to leave All is left now is acting on it All the best to you
@@SandraStachowiczLtd thank you
You can go to local mosque and tell the shiekh about your situation even you are not muslim
They will listen for you and would give you an according advice
@@yevheniiaalbin1934 thank you
I would've liked to hear the entire lecture.
Empress Dubai may be try at the bayyina institute channel for the entire video.
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@@aurathai1510 Thanks for the info. 🙂
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Speech is really true nd good. This scholar told the responsibilities of women , quite true.
But he didn't tell the responsibilities of women for her husband..
Every muslim men knows this.. But nobody follows the religion.. All follows the culture
My husband refuse to support me financially he keeps telling me to go and get a job but when I do work I get accused of cheating with my co workers I am also not allowed to go places by myself or make a decision for myself 😢I also get insulted and told I’m a b he swears me infront of our kids he always call me names and when I talk and stand up for myself he say I only think of myself and start blaming me for everything that happens in our marriage
Just when the khutbah gets to the good bit the video ends haha. Where's the rest of this lecture?
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Subhan’Allah
Please upload the second part of this khutba
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Thank you
Video: "What do the women owe then?"
Me: 👀
Video: -cuts off
Me: 😭
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They owe nothing 😜
@@aliaa1926 they owe us respect and obedience 😏
@@humzanafees9348 and so do you
@@hebarahman9082 No Women does not owe anything to Men and Men only Owe to Women😌😌.
Asslamualaekum brother , just pray for me I am also facing issues in my marriage
I've met potential spouses that wore hijab and fully covered up in terms of clothing below her neck and the first thing out of their mouths was high demands of financial expectations from a man. They take the parts of the religion that benefits them but ignore the rest. For example I've met highly educated Muslim women with hijab and love to repeat how the man is financially responsible for his family and his wife. They always mention any salaries they earn is for them and they specifically mention that they will not help out the husband. Although they are correct they convientely leave out the part where they are responsible to maintain the home such as cooking, cleaning and raising the children. If they can't do their duties they shouldn't work! Don't get me wrong I will help out my wife with those duties and never will I tell my potential wife "hey you will stay home, cook and clean" the same way these women I met have told me "your are responsible for the finances and don't expect me to help". If your going to apply something from the religion make sure you apply all of it!
I have met musilm women who wear the hijab but not the full outfit or met with no hijab and those I've met were very righteous women!
Which teaching in islam says cooking, cleaning & raising children is the obligation of a muslim wife ya akhi??? Please check the prophet's teachings that even if a wife requested payment for breastfeeding her child, he should pay her. I'm a financially stable educated woman who asked my future husband this same question just to assess his knowledge & how much he'd step up in case needed in the future, he said sure. Guess what? I'm raising our kid with my savings, working part time while he's making excuse after excuse!! So please all muslim men out there, do educate your selves on your responsibilities & fear Allah about your women. That's our prophet's final advice to each & every one of you.... fear Allah about your women!!!!
@pearla6987 you should really provide sources of your information for you may be misleading people who aren't doing their own research to take what you are writing as is.
Can the mother ask the father for payment in return for breastfeeding her children from him? I got the following from the site "islamqa" in regards to this the view is that if the wife is married to the husband, it's not permissible for her to ask for payment in return for breastfeeding their children, this is a duty on her and in that case she is not entitled to anything more than maintenance, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis” [al-Baqarah 2:233].
You gave good advice for men to educate themselves but you should also educate yourself as well as well as everyone should.
For so long I wanted someone to talk about this matter...." financial abuse"
May allah guide us
Wow really l like your this beard
Where can i get the Bangla dubbed of this video
NO, it's not like "his money is also hers" the husband is only responsible to fulfill her basic needs like food shelter bills and groceries and clothing nothing more than that......
Who should budget the money, like sorting out the bills etc? Wife or husband?
Men should be men..........
Where can i find rest of the khutba?
Where can I find the original video?
My mahr will always stay high my dad provided for me and my family in everything.
Lol
@@slayer2608 share what was funny hun?
Lol. Good luck. The Sunnah is what is easy and humble.
@@TheMrpalid oh! What a lie to use in the modern world now! If i lived back to 300 years sure but It’s not the same now. No one is forcing you to spend a lot of money in Mahr but it’s our right to say how much we want since Alah didn’t say it’s haram don’t bother responding again with BS.
@@venusiangirl good luck. The man is already responsible for your living. What do you need extra money for sitting in a bank account?
Anybody has the link of the other side of the khutbah?
I am this financial abuse, 😭 got 3 daughters dont know where to go
A husband told his wife, your mohor is for everything!!
SUBHAN ALLAH ALHUMDULILLAH ALLAH AKBAR.
the video ends as soon as the woman’s obligations 😂
I will not pay a fine. I'd rather stay single and die alone
Get a good revert Muslim woman. If you live in Western countries
Hii where is the full video pleaaaaee??
My situation here and am stressed,he stopped providing since I got a job and he would even take advantage of my money,used my loan I took to self develope and forcing me to take another, I swear I won't if it's continues like this I pray that I will leave this marriage
Sir i want to ask something .my husband isn't working from last three years he lives in my parents home. We have two daughters. Earlier he worked for 6 years in abudhabi .but after leaving his job from there he is not working since then. 18 years of my married life he worked for only these 6 years. He doesn't have any social security like to give any thing to her daughters. Im working in a school but that doesn't fulfil even basic needs of my kids. What does islam says in such cas. Do guide . Jazak Allah
Am shocked to hear that he is not working though Allah has given the inature to work & earn for Men, & u should not take the responsibility of earning.. U should stop going to work & start to become full-time home-maker then the responsibility of arrijalu qawaam will automatically is transferred to your husband.
You need to talk to him, his parents and yours. You need to take a stand and tell him get up and get a job. Because if you don’t do it, trust me your daughters will never have anything
True
where is the rest of the video
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where can we find the rest of this lecture please?
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Where is the second part of this talk?
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Where’s the next part of this video?
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Somali man in the west likes to stay house when wife is working for living.Not all them but most.
Typical somali girls talking bad about the men, go marry a ajnabi revert and keep it stepping.
aragsan uj subxanallah😳🤦🏿♀️ never seen or heard!!!!!!!! True every population have their good and negative sides but MOST Somali men they respect ✊ and die for their women forget about neglecting their women
The team men khutbah got cropped out. 😭
Where is the other part to this video?
Men come up with an argument that we live in the USA. I heard a lot of men are withholding their wife's stimulus check and tax return money because they say that since we take care of the household it's ours even if she has a job and the tax return money had been withholding from her paycheck
Unfortunately some husband's are financially dependent on their wife and still abuses and disrespect the wife wife earns and husband spends and after that still wife is abused
Can someone please share the link to the whole khutbah? Thanks in advance ♥️
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I personally think women should work, in order to provide for herself and achieve financial independence. Women should not go ask the husband for money to buy something .A women should not be dependent on her husband. That’s why men always come more stronger than women. I encourage all the women’s to work and not jus rely on the husband. ❤️
Womens work is the greatest of all! Women born and raise children and childre are the future of every society! So a group of good mothers can create a good socieaty! Women take care of house cleaning cooking ironing washing etc.... you want more? What can be greater job than this? Allah (swt) knows how he designed usand what our roles in a family should be! If a man cannot understand the importance of womans job then hes not a real muslim! Hes just muslim by name not by faith! And Allah knows best!
A man should help with the children and house cleaning too, both need to take a responsibility not jus the women job to do all that.
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Ayu Anggraini it’s jus my opinion
(I’m a girl )
well women do work... and they occupy more of the workforce than men in the uk. they also earn the same if not more than men and possess qualified jobs so why a man still has to give a dowry to such women i cannot understand. for e.g. a man earns 15k after tax, and his wife or ex wife earns 20k after tax then why does he need to give a dowry? if we apply common sense then maybe she needs to pay him some dowry
And the monthly written in the nikah namma other than dowry? Men say they are providing shelter so why would I need money?
This situation is worse in India.
My father abandoned my family when I was 8yrs old, and came back after 5 years when he came to know my brother just finished his graduation and he left after 2months right after my brother joined post graduation..
Now he is again trying to comeback to us after 12 yrs..
And I can't recall him being nice to me or paying a penny for my education.
Now I know in islam we have obligation to our parents..
Do I have any obligation to my father whome I never saw in 7 yrs while he staying not far than 100km?
Ustad do I have any obligation towards a father like this?
Firstly you must ask his reason to do so. Then Just pray for him. And if he needs a help just help him as a human being not as a father. I know how hard it is to be abandoned by their own fam. I my self started to feed my self since i was 13 too while all fam members and parents stop financial support.
Yes my dear
If even did not come back for you,what He did or doing is between Him and ALLAH but you have to Horner your Mother and Father if you are if dose with pacent and Knowledge.
My husband is a lazy financial abuser.
My patents refuse I leave him as we have kids.
Am well off but he basically takes most of my income everymonth and I do all household expenses with the rest.
I hate him and really hate him and he treats me like am shit and owe him stuff.
Any help for divorce
What is. Said is 💯.. but what do we do when the husband doesn't give a damn...
This is very similar to Asian culture.
could u plz Translate in urdu ...write urdu on video coz easy to understand for who can't understand English
I noticed the women complaining their husbands don't give them their rights is cause they married someone not on Quran and Sunnah. So enjoy the hell life you chose.
Or both of you start learning ur deen so the marriage is enjoyable and peaceful. Sadly the parents are just muslim by name but don't practise so they abuse them by using the parent card. Ridiculous.
Money / kids won't bring happiness if the individuals don't know their roles by learning what Allah want's us to do.
Where is the second part of this khutba
Her money is hers .
His money is his.
Just a small percent to fill her living needs its her (eat,etc..)
Your money is hers and her money is hers 😂😂😂😂ma shaa allah such a beautiful religion.. hope every man hu doesn’t go for work hear this
Whaat??
Are you saying Men who go for work Must Not hear this??
Why did you say like that Sister??🤔🤔
In one of the Mufti Menk videos I heard that you can bargain the Mehr if you can't afford and here Nouman Ali Khan says the otherwise. I'm confused now ):
I'm pretty sure NAK is talking about after you accepted, and that u can bargain before u sign the agreement
because this guy is no Mufti Menk
@@manontheearth9095 so??
Leave alone paying a dowry, husbands rather demand ransom for keeping their wives without divorcing
Now adays zina is easy getting married became difficult because high maher for bride. people not obeying Islamic rules.
Thats the difference between haram and halal. Like truth is not alwayss easy, halal isnt too, but both are rewarding in lomg term.
Saby sweetu halal shouldn’t be hard like the prophet said it’s easy
NAK, did you mention to what extent is the husband supposed to provide for the family? Basic necessities yes. Luxuries, no and its a bonus.