MOST IMPORTANT Thing Your Husband NEEDS From You! Marriage Advice I Nouman Ali Khan I 2019

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    MOST IMPORTANT Thing Your Husband NEEDS From You! Marriage Advice I Nouman Ali Khan I 2019. Great marriage advice for muslim couples by Nouman Ali Khan. Discusses marriage advice in islam, marriage tips for muslims and relationship advice for muslims.
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    Speaker : Nouman Ali Khan - A bit about him
    Nouman Ali Khan is the founder and CEO of Bayyinah. His first exposure to Arabic study was in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia where he completed his elementary education. He continued Arabic grammar study in Pakistan, where he received a scholarship for ranking among the top 10 scores in the national Arabic studies board examinations in 1993. But his serious training in Arabic began in the United States in 1999 under Dr. Abdus-Samie, founder and formal principal of Quran College, Faisalabad, Pakistan who happened to be touring the US for intensive lectures in Tafsir and Arabic studies. Under Dr. Abdus-Samie, Nouman developed a keen methodical understanding of Arabic grammar. He further benefited from Dr. Abdus-Samie by internalizing his unique teaching methods and later translating his work into English for the benefit of his own students. Nouman served as professor of Arabic at Nassau Community College until ’06 and has taught Modern Standard and Classical Arabic at various venues for nearly 7 years with over 10,000 students nationwide. Currently he has dedicated himself to a seven-year-long project, of conducting a linguistic & literary focus Qur’anic Tafseer series in English. Recordings of sessions conducted so far can be downloaded at www.bayyinah.com/dream.
    Biography Source above from : Bayinnah.com
    Please check out his amazing channel called Bayyinah Institute. - / bayyinahinstitute
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  • @saharalgharaibeh5602
    @saharalgharaibeh5602 4 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    I loved the line " if you are happy with your partner right now.... marry them" but don't make the assumption they will change after marriage, they won't change

    • @ahmedabdullah8700
      @ahmedabdullah8700 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thats not true. I changed a tonne in 12 years and still working in myself

  • @fabulousprincess603
    @fabulousprincess603 4 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    A person can only change who they are for Allah (swt). Once a person does that then all will fall into place including marriage.

  • @hawihawa2467
    @hawihawa2467 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    This background music is so irritating and almost drowning his voice. I have no problem with background music but this is way to loud couldn't listen to it for more than a few minutes. Please I really love your videos 😭

  • @shamypiper
    @shamypiper 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    People need to work on themselves first and not expect the other to “complete” them. Love is fantastic but use your head and assess whether your partner is the person with the qualities, spirituality , goals, habits and understanding, etc. that you honestly want as they are ✨now ✨very few people take on the challenge to grow themselves.

  • @goodwords1696
    @goodwords1696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Indeed, Allah will admit those who believe and do righteous deeds to gardens beneath which rivers flow. They will be adorned therein with bracelets of gold and pearl, and their garments therein will be silk.Surat Al- Hajj 22:23

  • @siyah4436
    @siyah4436 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My parents are trying to force me into settling but I don't want to settle. In the end I'll be the one who suffers if I settle

  • @shantiofficial6210
    @shantiofficial6210 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Allah knows everything but Alhamdulilah 🤲🤲

  • @hriditymajumder7459
    @hriditymajumder7459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    The caption doesn’t go very exact to this lecture.

    • @kofiali1
      @kofiali1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Right. But it's good insight

  • @81818alia
    @81818alia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    People don't change, they are who they are, the only difference is how much of the good behaviour they are willing to share with their loved ones and not let them get hurt by their negative emotions and responses ......that is all
    We are all unique entities like colour pallete, with unique combinations of qualities, every individual has a different shade, no one shade is the same ......let everyone be, and enourage the good they have

    • @ghafranhaque7161
      @ghafranhaque7161 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is not true. Haven't you seen how reverts changed so much? I am a revert my self and Islam has changed me and I have seen it in many people. I realise that thinking that people can not change is actually a satanic thought...that's exactly what Shaytan wants you to believe so you give up on people, give up on your self and ultimately so you give up on Allah.

    • @81818alia
      @81818alia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ghafranhaque7161 yes people can change their way of living and philosophy, but people do not change when it comes to their personality.......if someone has dominant personality, u cannot mellow it down.......like hazrat umar (May Allah be pleased with him), he had rigid fierce persona which was carried on even after becoming a muslim

    • @voiceofhena4013
      @voiceofhena4013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I just hate negativity, it literally consumes a person away from the actual issues at hand.

    • @opetkd
      @opetkd ปีที่แล้ว

      People change. I changed a lot because of my husband. Just to make him happy

    • @YaseminAlperen
      @YaseminAlperen 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ghafranhaque7161i want TP believe this Subhallah

  • @Tahir9987
    @Tahir9987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Men want chai from women.

  • @turtletoons1016
    @turtletoons1016 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The video didn't match the title but it was still a good video.

  • @sadiaomar8602
    @sadiaomar8602 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    “Your spouse NEEDS from you”

  • @emank8137
    @emank8137 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    this video doesn't talk about the Most Important thing your Husband needs from you

    • @aliatejani5404
      @aliatejani5404 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Respect towards your spouse is everything. !! Both ways

  • @aimeka4111
    @aimeka4111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Masya Allah, Alhamdulillah. thank you for the pointers.

  • @leilasiedd3707
    @leilasiedd3707 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was really in need of this.Alhamdullilah

  • @nightrider6830
    @nightrider6830 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    People understood wrong. He didn't mean to say ppl won't change, he meant to say don't think you can change someone. A person can only change himself if he wants, not because you married him and trying to change him. You cannot change anyone, so don't marry someone by thinking Im going to change this man/ woman.

  • @margauxtepartage
    @margauxtepartage 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    As salamu a'laykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, who is the second speaker please?
    I just want to point out that the title doesn't match the content. You rather should title this video something like '' advice for the youth before getting married''. But maybe it is a trick to attract male listeners to hear advice while they thought they were going to listen to some conforter... 😏 If this is the intention, that' s smart 😎

    • @aaliyasalimpathan
      @aaliyasalimpathan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      th-cam.com/video/Xg0eFlnCQBY/w-d-xo.html

    • @margauxtepartage
      @margauxtepartage 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@aaliyasalimpathan BaarakAllahufiki

  • @bismillahapp3341
    @bismillahapp3341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was an Awesome video! Amazing Tips! Thank You!

  • @sintaibramokha5797
    @sintaibramokha5797 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I read about husband and wife in al quran.. Did u knw tht husband hidden secret to take u go to jannah if u always prayed for ur hubb to care and being loving everything good for hubb its guarantee place in jannah.. A husband is ur diamond 🤗💞💟💚💛🧡

  • @IslamicVideosForAll
    @IslamicVideosForAll 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I so 100% agree with the respected speaker at the end of this video, about discussing hypothetical issues that may ruin all the good past relatinship things you have built. great point. jazakAllah
    pls name the speaker as I think he was not Sir nouman.

  • @treshaislam9579
    @treshaislam9579 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Masahallah ......
    Subhanallah.....
    Allahuakbar Allah..............
    Alhumdulilah..

  • @forever-learnerhawabuube2198
    @forever-learnerhawabuube2198 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I laughed hard for hypothetical issues 😂

    • @bbb-jn8dv
      @bbb-jn8dv 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What haha

  • @elenipapadopoulou827
    @elenipapadopoulou827 ปีที่แล้ว

    Others look at others greed and tentations and copy them u need to follow urself for the right person

  • @cagatayocal7049
    @cagatayocal7049 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Alhamdullilah may Allah protect us all

  • @historynerd7549
    @historynerd7549 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jazaka Allahu kheyran sheikhana

  • @shifakathija5970
    @shifakathija5970 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Make a dua for me to make my marriage life hapy and my husband lives me alot

  • @sintaibramokha5797
    @sintaibramokha5797 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This very important for every woman.. 💕💖 for husband 💛💚🧡💙

  • @khnrzk7102
    @khnrzk7102 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Don't spend your whole life waiting for that one day that they gonna change !!! It probably happens only in the climax of Disney cartoons !!

  • @drammarah95
    @drammarah95 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Which other talk was taken for this?
    One was Nouman Ali Khan and the second?

    • @aaliyasalimpathan
      @aaliyasalimpathan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      th-cam.com/video/Xg0eFlnCQBY/w-d-xo.html

    • @drammarah95
      @drammarah95 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@aaliyasalimpathan jazakAllah sister

  • @MimiAndM1niMe2184
    @MimiAndM1niMe2184 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The opposite can happen, people can change for the worst once married and make your life a living hell and you didnt see who they are and they hid it very well. And you thought you were marrying the good side of that person, who actually has beyond a bad side but evil side and not really following Allah. How do you deal with that kinda marriage, even if a test from Allah??

    • @melih1528
      @melih1528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      sabr friend, sabr. insallah allah helps with your struggles.

  • @TheKingofdans
    @TheKingofdans 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Lol change the title of the video my guy

  • @saimaakrammughal1974
    @saimaakrammughal1974 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Back sound must b silent

  • @aoinokeshiki
    @aoinokeshiki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Selamun aleykum,
    can you please tell me the sources of these bits of speeches? Especially of the man talking after Nouman Ali Khan, who is he?

    • @Insurgentlemancunian
      @Insurgentlemancunian 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It sounds like Saad Tasleem He is an instructor with Al- Maghrib Institute.

    • @irammushtaq5401
      @irammushtaq5401 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/users/bayyinah

  • @abeerahfadhl8499
    @abeerahfadhl8499 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great lessons and tips thank you!

  • @hiraali1329
    @hiraali1329 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The background music
    Ughh!

  • @wajdahamad5290
    @wajdahamad5290 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That helped me a lot

  • @abcd-tat
    @abcd-tat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wrong title.

  • @lifesymphony2024
    @lifesymphony2024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Let him say it personally. Don't wish to know what men need in general.

  • @piqueny8872
    @piqueny8872 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Be noumans right about desi parents
    Babying their sons
    Sadly a lot of males married still live with their parents excepting them to feed and take care of them and their spouse and kids for everything
    Bank of mom and dad the parents can never relax or Retire bcuz the have a grown male son to provide and cater too.

  • @asmakhan6531
    @asmakhan6531 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What if some people are together for long time and they have issues.

    • @asmajarrar86
      @asmajarrar86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They should seek couples therapy sessions if it keeps persisting , honestly am only engaged now but I already choose my dr before I even have any , this way I will never have to turn to family members who could make it worse or let out my house secrets ,or even start looking down at my husband which I will never accept even if I was mad at him,this modern times issues needs a real psychologist that solves problems out of religious background and knowledge in deen ,both mixed together.

  • @tyoneflamer6300
    @tyoneflamer6300 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great

  • @treshaislam9579
    @treshaislam9579 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Allah.....
    Allah.......
    Allah......

  • @sharminchapter
    @sharminchapter 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So true my thoughts 🥲

  • @alis4460
    @alis4460 ปีที่แล้ว

    Someone totally messed up the title for this video!

  • @faryatabassum4037
    @faryatabassum4037 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Assalamualaikum WRWB
    What if we are already married and struggling to be compatible? Why at this situation we have only one option left is to part ways? Why can't the man think of atleast give some space or try atleast not to hurt the spouse?

    • @mehmetsaimalbayrak3006
      @mehmetsaimalbayrak3006 ปีที่แล้ว

      He will give you all the space you want when you give him all he needs and see him as your husband. Just be straight up with him he doesn't want any harm for you if he fears Allah.

  • @zaynab4991
    @zaynab4991 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why does his voice changes at 2:10 ? That does not sound like Noman Ali Khan at all. Also the title of the video is not what the content is about.

  • @amabarry6580
    @amabarry6580 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    MachaAllah thank you so much for this video may Allah grant you blessings in this Duniya and the hereafter 🙏 amina. My name is Amatoulaye I’ve been married for three years now. And i leaved with him for three months then I I had to go back to USA only because of immigration purposes. I applied his petition now and I’m on the final please make Dua for me and my husband to together . I talk to him on the phone everyday but now it’s getting really boring any suggestions?

    • @Stratford_Dawah
      @Stratford_Dawah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Your giving up already? A Muslim doesn't give up!. and cherish every moment you had with him until you are united! And if you dont?
      ...You are weak. Be patience!, determined! And never lose hope in Allah!

    • @hafashafsa9232
      @hafashafsa9232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      In my marriage life I faced a lot of issues, I had to apply divorce, my case is going on, but I faced a big tragedy after I applied divorce, I couldn't bear that, I learnt that issues between me and my husband is simple when comparing to the tragedy I met. We joined hands again, Alhamdhulilla we are fine now.

    • @hafashafsa9232
      @hafashafsa9232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      After marriage we have to face a lot of new, old, big and small issues and problems. I know itz not that easy to say, but only with Allah's help we can win our life in this world and hereafter. May Allah bless you in your marriage life, Inshaallah I will include u in my duas. Say hasbunnaahu wanighmal wakeel, 104 times daily starting with salawath 11 times and ending in salawath 11 times. Inshaallah everything will be fine soon.

    • @amabarry6580
      @amabarry6580 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hafas Hafsa thank you so much for consideration may Allah bless your Union.

    • @amabarry6580
      @amabarry6580 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ben Hosenbocus thank you so much I’m not giving up. But InchaAllah I will be patient sabr

  • @treshaislam9579
    @treshaislam9579 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Allah......

  • @faisal.comilla.98
    @faisal.comilla.98 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The title is wrong. Too bad. Total wastage of time.

  • @toufiqhossain5533
    @toufiqhossain5533 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hypothetical question 😅 ...

  • @treshaislam9579
    @treshaislam9579 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Allah bless you.....

  • @ShadesofViolet8
    @ShadesofViolet8 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video has absolutely nothing to so with the title...

  • @mahnoormahmood4243
    @mahnoormahmood4243 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who is the other speaker besides ustad Noman Ali Khan 🤔

    • @FV-rl5lv
      @FV-rl5lv 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yasir Qadhi

    • @katim1976
      @katim1976 ปีที่แล้ว

      Saad Tasleem from Al Magrib Institute

  • @piqueny8872
    @piqueny8872 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    The end sheik means sex is important

  • @maryamsidrah4194
    @maryamsidrah4194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where can I find the first Speaker's whole video?? Please share the link if anyone knows

    • @abcd-tat
      @abcd-tat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nouman Ali Khan

    • @maryamsidrah4194
      @maryamsidrah4194 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah I know who he is..... But I want to know that video of him... Need title of the video

  • @malihaazure145
    @malihaazure145 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Marriage has NOTHING to do with love. Its for reproduction and for legal sex...especially arranged marriage...so don't try to glorify something which is based on ulterior motives. Love can be between a man and a woman not related. If you haven't experienced it, it doesn't mean it isn't there.

    • @awaishssn
      @awaishssn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      There are many kinds of love. Love between a parent and a child, or love between siblings, and many more. The kind of love talked about in the video is of the love between man and woman who found each other comforting and thus come together in life to cherish and support each other through the trials of this life. And Islamic belief suggests the best way to nourish this kind of love without seeking despair in both your lives is to officially announce your love through marriage under the council of both your families.
      Marriage is about patience and controlling the ego. And sure, many marriages don't turn out well, but every couple has their issues. But if in the end the two are not even announcing to the world of your love with an official declaration called marriage, then is the love between them even official according to themselves even?
      Most of the prophets also had a 'love marriage' by technical definition, so there's hardly any wrong in it given that one must act with wisdom and conduct things in accordance so as to see you don't end up bringing more harm to your life than the tranquility you seek.

    • @repo2937
      @repo2937 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@awaishssn
      Masha Allah.. very well explained!
      Keep doing.

    • @malihaazure145
      @malihaazure145 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@awaishssn Nope marriage and love are two entirely different things. You can love an already married person and he/ she can love you back.
      The official ceremony is when both parties met at the right time..usually arranged marriages have right timing for declaration of a contract of mutual interest...there is no lovein it...woman gives legal sex and kids and man looks after maintenance. For love is free from officialdom and perfuntories of the sort.
      Marriage has nothing to do with love. Love is an emotion that one experiences on ones own. The other party may not be available to marry but love is there. Thats why Islam allows four wives...because sex needs of a man exceed those of the woman.

    • @awaishssn
      @awaishssn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@malihaazure145 Ah, I am confused where you get the idea that marriage = love, because I never mentioned so. And if you want to describe what love is, you can infact reduce it to the dopamine and serotonin releases in the brain, but in my opinion that is just stupid because the beings as we are, us humans are more than just the chemical compositions resulting from the reactions occurring in and around us. This argument is useless if you are coming with the philosophy that the soul does not exist and we are mere material beings.
      And the four wives argument? Really? I humbly apologize if I appear rude but it feels like I'm conversing with a materialistic teenager who fails to see the spiritual side of reality. Four wives simply do not come for free without any responsibilities, and the challenges to work in harmony with them all are over bearing. (compare this to the modern western standard of having multiple girlfriends who you sleep around with no responsibilities attached; the west where many kids are born and grow up not knowing who their father is). Also, scientifically speaking, the womenkind have higher sexual 'needs' than a man. But in the end women are also highly attuned to their emotions and thus also better at conducting their sexual desires.
      It seems you are confusing the socio-cultural impacts of marriage with the religious understanding of the concept. You are naive if you think sexual intimacy is only limited to physicality and is nothing more than mere materialistic reproduction. It actually consists of many more factors than just getting your hormones and other chemicals up and down. Emotional and psychological investments are essential if one wishes to maintain a healthy sexual relationship that does not end with either of the two getting severely hurt. You cannot call it love without having a deeper understanding of that person.
      There are many kinds of love. A man can have a mother, a sister, a wife, and a daughter and all those different relationships foster different kinds of love. And the love with his wife (or lets say girlfriend) is the one where his sexual desires rest. So Love /= Marriage /= Sex (not equal). Yes they are entirely different things. But talking about young love between two different individuals who find each other satisfying emotionally as well as psychologically and physically, then for the sake of their own happiness it is advised that their love results in marriage which can then result in a harmonious sexual relationship. These should go hand in hand if you wish to lead a peaceful and happy life. This is the wisdom of the islamic belief at its very simplest and there are many more things to learn and understand but this is the simplest way one can begin to grasp it I think.
      In the end - Love is a great responsibility of the higher sort and not a frivolous emotion to be played around with, lest it result in emotional devastation of yourself and the people around you. These are just the advice of the people who have lived long and seen and experienced and gone through the material, emotional and spiritual trials of this life. Please, if you think it is wise enough to engage in love with a man/woman who is already married then proceed at your own peril.
      May Allah grant us all the patience and the willpower to endure and understand the harshness of reality that we live in so that we may strive to come above it and deserve to be rewarded with His blessings.

    • @malihaazure145
      @malihaazure145 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@awaishssn We are not a result of chemical actions. You are a Muslim yet quoting theorisations of the atheists to keep people away from Allah. Love is a feeling which is as abstract as a soul..since scientists can't explain it they resort to confusing the masses with absurdities of colloquealism, terminologies of inbound bodily processes, blaming function of chemical receptors and other farcical nonsense.
      Please come out of the jargon age and look around u...Allah says he loves u ...does He experience these processes na'aoozobillah!
      The lecture was glorifying marital relation as love between husband and wife, to be the only kind that exists rest is lust.
      Let me tell u...lust is for man. Woman doesn't experience lust unless possessed by demonic forces due to incessant exposure to porn.
      Who talked about engaging in love with a married man...Allah says in Quran (4:3)
      "And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]."
      Obviously in West, men keep girlfriends, they discourage marriage. Man is by nature polygamous. Marriage has only one purpose...legal sex maintenane and offsprings...Allah allowed divorce for underfulfillment of/due to either. Arranged marriage can NOT convert into love ..because it was founded on mutual, symbiotic arrangement. Love is a superior emotion. Please don't tie the knot (pun intended) of philosophy with God given sentiment. Love is a divine test, marriage is for carnal pleasure.