And why the judge was so harsh with her. She’s been given chance after chance & kept running off. The judge handed out tough love & is what was needed after she’s been given so many opportunities, yet squanders them as people keep being nice.
@davidgray1515 You BELIEVE YOUR OWN COMMENT???? So you think a child having a child should know how to parent a child when she's never been loved or shown how to mother. I learned from watching my mother, grandmother & Aunt's people who loved and cared for me. This child had No one to teach her the basics. Hopefully, she takes this opportunity to change her life around. BTW, I don't argue with anyone, I state my opinion nothing more nothing less.
@@davidgray1515 absolutely! I wasn't mothered but I had three wonderful boys I mothered just fine with a loving husband. You either look to do better or allow yourself to be the same. Many people as kids have to decide at an early age what rad they are going to take.
@@amandadavis2981 do you know any 15 year old who isn't selfish? She was probably very scared and had no idea what to do. Imagine yourself in that situation.
@@Awesomeosaurus91.........People like You are just like this selfish teen! Thats why these kids are the way the are .....spoiled and refuse to follow rules!!
@@amandadavis2981well then you haven’t been there. You don’t know what he is doing, I DO. You don’t deserve to have an opinion here and ppl like you is why our world is in trouble!
@@amandadavis2981you can't be serious. The judge asked her if she had anything to say, and she said "I understand." And the judge literally replied with "I don't care about you." Please tell me how the girl was in ANY way saying it was about her. This judge is an absolute pos
EXACTLY 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯. THANK. YOU. I'm not a parent of a child with this diagnosis, but I know of many pants who are... from high standards of living, top care, etc. The 15 year old did NOT CAUSE this diagnosis. To imply it is both wrong and cruel.
From everything I have learned about CP it is usually caused by something during the labor and birthing process. Prayers for ALL the minors and also their parents…the ones whom are trying to better themselves and their children’s lives!!! May they find they help, peace and healing they need to find peace and progress in their lives!!
She primarily cares about Raven, not you. How can a judge say that? 15-year-old especially this girl has been through so much. She just needs someone to love her
So this 15 year old child has lived a pretty terrible life herself, becomes pregnant, scared to death about it, and he’s blaming her for the child being born with issues. She is a 15-year-old child who had nobody to help her, I don’t really know the whole story, but if she hasn’t been in school since six grade, she obviously didn’t have someone at school to turn to. I understand sometimes children need tough love, but she doesn’t need tough love. She just needs LOVE!!!! I think it’s incredible that the foster family is taking both the mother and the child. So many thoughts about that, but not knowing the whole story, I don’t want to be talking about what I don’t know about!! 🙂
I don't think the Judge doesn't realize that, but he is upset because Melissa didn't stop running away, and not getting prenatal care and unfortunately she's paying the price for her, Mom's mistakes and she had someone that cared and put a roof over her head.
@tracyreed1219, well, we all heard what the judge said to her. You don't need the whole story to know the judge is clearly out of his depth. He should be dealing with adult criminals, not kids who have been neglected, cast aside by her parents and left to raise herself. The things he said to her prove he is not fit.
Saw another foster mother take the first foster childs Baby after 'helping' her with early yrs. Tragic, just waiting for them to put a foot wrong. State sanctioned child trafficking ( for profit) 'Business"
This judge has written this 15yr old off!!! This girl needs someone to show her what normal life is and to show her how to love her baby!! Because she did not learn this from her parents! She also needs love so she’s able to give love!!
@@sheribrougham4863 actually at such a young age these things can be improved on. He has no idea what will happen with her, he's simply written her cause she's a ward of the state as if she's some kind of criminal. Institutionalising these kids at its finest
No duhhh and thats what foster parent Was doing🙄 But spoiled teen wanted no rules, needed money to go have some fun. She had Love......unconditional and yet gave NO chits!!
Not only that, but blaming a girl who had to raise herself and became pregnant at 13 for her baby's cerebral palsy? That's a brain damage that is caused by the lack of oxygen to the brain during birth, not the age, education or social status of the mother. Mothers-to-be don't choose to have complicated births, and blaming them for that is just cruel! 🤬
I agree, I think he just worded it poorly. That hearing was focused on her daughter, so that was his point. I did see her face fall when he said the foster parent “mostly” cared about her baby . . . that hurt to see. When she returned, and the hearing was focused on her . . . despite her recent bad choices, he locked in on her positive achievements. Him asking how her grades were, and correcting her, “Not good! They are great!” was very heart warming. I understand this video is dated, and I do think more professionals who work with troubled children these days understand that the harsh/shaming route is extremely ineffective. So I chose to give this judge some grace because during this time period the primary though was to “scare kids straight”
Wow! Horrendous! She's a child herself.. She needs someone to care about her too! She's not been parented and he wants to shame her into parenting? Nuts!
Yeas, but I do understand where he is coming from. I have seen children affected to alcohold and drugs during mother’s pregnancy. It is so sad to see how parents havedistriidcc
That 15 year old with a child that the judge is so down on never addressed the fact that she has a child because she was raped, not because she decided to lay down with a man and neglect her unborn child. What a disgrace!
what is wrong with this judge? He’s tearing this young mom who is still a baby herself down. Telling her nobody cares about her? he’s adding to her pain and suffering and trauma. what a horrible man.
he’s setting her up for a lifetime of depression and relationship problems. further cementing the traumas from her own childhood with drug addicted parents
Dewayne's mom needs to understand the severity of his mental state. The fact he's behaving like this so young is deep and disturbing. And the fact she wants him to come home just so he may repeat the acts again... not only does he need counseling, but so does she
Mary knows sexual predators and she is comfortable with them. She doesn't see sexual deviancy as abnormal. If the kid went home to her, she would be one of those Mothers you will read about in the future. Her son will always be a sociopath. Her depending that in front of her son only gives him the urge. I think she needs to be evaluated, she's not of safe sound of mind. 😮
I think the mother needs help and look into the other children she is not a good role model Dwaine has gentle health issues and needs to be away from this mom and moniterd over the next few yrs if not more
So many sad stories, so many stuck in cycles, so many lost children. I wish i was younger and in a healthy place to be able to help foster kiddos in a meaningful way.
It's literally the energy of rabid 'pro-life' people. There is SO little concern for the welfare of the parents who are trying to raise children under extremely difficult circumstances. I am WHOLE life. Without compassion, parents will find themselves in the same situation over and over.
@@tarynb.3691…I’m literally pro life, and sickened by what this judge did! You have absolutely zero understanding about what it means to be pro life! For all you know, this judge is not pro-life, because clearly, he doesn’t value the life of the mother. He doesn’t sound pro-life to me. God values all life; both in the womb, and outside of it! I am horrified by this judge!! I am a Christian pro-lifer, and I can promise you that this judge is neither Christian, Nor pro life.
@@karen.tolleson68… Exactly! She has zero understanding of what it means to be pro life! God cares about both mother and baby! There is no picking and choosing one over the other.
@@siericalandis7303 yes thank you for saying that we all should say it in our comments so that we may get them if everyone asks for them to share updates
@@Angela-ix2ff sorry I didn’t see this until I already sent my comment but I didn’t watch it until the end obviously and I am bad about sending my comment before I watch it all but I text slow and I have been cutoff if I start texting at the end
So the nine year old boy's testimony isn't reliable enough to punish an adult who sexually abused him, but it is reliable enough to punish him for allegedly abusing his one year old and two year old siblings? Remember the only evidence is this boys own statements about what has happened 🤔
That judge I's heartless. That's a 15 year old child who has be failed by her family and the system. She's known nothing but abuse and neglect and then she has a judge telling her that no one cares about her. She should have a loving home and lots of therapy and support.
My oldest has mild cerebral palsy, and I had prenatal care. I believe she had a stroke at 7 months, but I'm not sure. I had some complications around 5 and 6 months along, and the medical system where we were is not great. She is doing great as a teen, and no one can tell. But judging a kid who just didn't get help because she was scared like the worst mom is sick. The cause for cerebral palsy is not known. There are some suggestions that it could have genetic factors, and I do have family members with cerebral palsy.
@@river8760sure you do when the soft talk hasn’t worked for 3 years and she keeps running away & then took off with an infant with special needs. He did exactly what so many other adults should have told her.
Get over it! He did what many other people should have done & said. She keeps running off & took off with the baby. She has no business doing so when she won’t even take the help she’s been offered time and time again.
The case of 10 yrs old Chelsey breaks my heart. Her mother has made the right choice with Chelsea even though it's breaking her heart. 😢 I pray that Chelsey does well at Daymar. God bless the people that help these children. ❤❤❤❤😊
The title doesn't match the content here. This video is about vulnerable babies and young kids being placed into foster care because their parent's can't care for them. In the case of the disabled child. Raven, in the very beginning, her mother was only 15 at the time of filming, and was also a ward of the state. Most of the rest of the film is about young kids with severe mental and physical disorders and their parent's asking for help.
The 9 yr old girl case breaks my heart. How could you leave your child in a facility and shows up with a man that's not her father? She choose a man over her child and just abandon her child in a facility
RE: The boy who may have abused his siblings. He can be both an abuser and also a victim. The mom doesn’t seem to get that it is possible he was abused and also possible he is abusing kids. Also I don’t think she gets that kids that are so young they can’t talk yet are still traumatized by abuse that happened to them- adults have reported having flashbacks and memories popping up and also discovering later behavior stemming from abuse. What happens to a child before they are two greatly impacts their mental health and well being. She needs to get it through her head that he could be abusing her littler ones and if she takes him back she better keep them separated.
Crazy that she admits that each of the 3 fathers were child molesters and went to jail for it .SHE NEEDS TO PICK HER BOYFRIENDS BETTER. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS LADY
I wish i had this kind of intervention when i was a young teen would have saved me a world of torture and pain i still suffer to this day at almost 40 years old...im glad systems like this exist.🙏
@@wednesday9623how do you know? We’re you the same and we’re in these places?? Sounds like you were one of these places yourself. Many of these kids need the tough love like the 1st young girl who has been given home after home and runs off to the streets & was doing drugs with also sneaking off with an infant with medical needs.
This judge needs to go. He's a POS. That teen needs love and care too. Sometimes "tough love" isn't the answer. What does this judge think happened back when prenatal care wasn't around? Just because she didn't have prenatal care has NOTHING to do with the health of that baby. That baby was going to have the issues she has whether she had prenatal care or not.
I didn’t have prenatal care with my first born and he is smart and he is intelligent. He got a Qantas award in elementary school and he could’ve done a lot if I would’ve had enough money to put him through college but he’s very smart and that’s not true.😂😂😂😂😂😂
@jenniferbullock7124 just because it's true FOR YOU does not mean it's true for everyone else. The world doesn't revolve around you. Do some research before you make such statements 🙄
@@moonchildluvsbobcrane Yes they can, but looking after yourself during pregnancy gives the best outcomes for babies as well. Taking prenatals, eating well, getting regular medical care is so important.
What kind of criminal foster home parents let a 20 year old man sleep in bed with their 14 year old foster daughter??? They should lose their license to be foster parents and be put in jail for child neglect and child abuse!!!
Dwayne’s mother doesn’t have the cognitive ability to care for her children and be responsible for their behavior. She doesn’t need any of her children.
The first judge didn’t have to be so nasty to this poor girl. I was in foster care for most of my childhood. This hurts my heart. The judge blames this young girl for not getting prenatal care when she was probably 14 when she was pregnant She has a sixth grade education and lived with drug addicts . Yes, Raven needs quite a bit of help. So does this young girl and most of all she needs compassion.
Wow the situation with dwayne is heartbreaking. Returned home at 16 after all those years first to graduate in his family and then dies tragically in a car accident at 23... that's incredibly sad, after all the trauma he went through and overcame just for his life to be cut so short. Cruel.
It doesn't, but if she had been getting prenatal care, they would've known what to expect and could've began treatment immediately. Instead she took off with her baby and the foster mother said that when she took her into her care that there was no guarantee Raven was going to progress.
She’s literally a child herself. This judge is awful. He doesn’t know anything about foster care foster system. This girl has been through disgraceful.
That judge is horrible, telling her he doesn't care about her and pointing out the foster mum really just cares about raven. She's 15,she's just a kid, and she's had the worst life. Jesus judge, have some compassion.
This judge is so disrespectful towards Melissa. She didn’t have support during her pregnancy and that’s not her fault.. He is wrong to be so condescending and to state that she will fail before she even starts. Prove him wrong Melissa!
This poor kid! She needs love and compassion. The judge should not tell her he does care about her. Please everyone, keep this young girl in your prayers
Why did the judge find it necessary to tell this 15 year old child that he didn't care about her? She has had enough rejection in her short life, as it is.
Its truly sad. Melissa is 15 & barely able to take care of herself. She no doubt, suffers from Baby blues, confusion & etc., bc her hormones are all over the place. Being a teen Mom since the 70's, has been overlooked as to their true state of mind & being. Then there is the culture of ethnicity that is such a fact. There are 2 children that suffers, not just the baby. Social services SHOULD require teens to receive counciling, continued education & on hands training in taking care of newborns with Supervision. Just giving these teens $ assistance & medical care, is NOT enough & counter productive. Statistically, most teens remain on welfare for years at the taxpayers' expense. Just saying. Paz be with us all 🙏. "Isa"
Judge! She's the mother but is a child. Melissa needs someone to care about her, too. The mother didn't have good parents like you Judge. She didn't know anything.
My Cousin was born with CP, lived a great life. No reason or rhyme caused her to be born with this diagnosis, to blame a 15 yr old with that, no prenatal or not… such bs. Shame on all you.
I want to say thank you to the lady that took two children in the mother and the baby ❤❤❤ she has a pure ❤️💜💜 heart 💜💜💜 of gold thank you, thank you thank you may God continue to give you the strength,health, LOVE and support to continue being a mom to many. Shouting all the way from Texas
Talking to this fifteen year old in such an agressive and thoughtless manner in the middle of the court room infront of all those court officials and media is throughly embarrassing . It does not solve the situation at all and is a recipe for a repeat performance later on in her life . This should be handled with sensitive and tactful manner . Not in a media circus fashion . Smh
Great fckn judge why would I accept your decision regarding my child when you just said you don’t care about ME. At least the foster mom has enough sense to understand the baby won’t survive without helping and yes CARING FOR the mother. That’s why I don’t respect a lot of these ppl. They think they’re so smart but in reality they’re NOT.
He did exactly what he needed to do and was the same judge for the majority of these kids. You don’t know her full story so stop making judgements when she literally ran off with a newborn who has special needs. The girl has been running from foster home to foster home, & on the streets, they would find her, help her, and she would run within a day. The judge put her in her place & made the decision to chose the baby over the teen, she’s been given more chances than most children.
@@PamelaMorris-fy5mb you sound like you know her personally. I still don’t respect the way that grown man spoke to a young woman and if you’ve never been in her shoes you should hush. This is why judgement is coming to America because you ppl think too highly of yourselves. Have some humble pie lady
I can’t stand Dwayne’s mom! How in just 4 weeks time you allow your child to be put into a situation where he has access to be alone with younger children?!? She sat there and said there were safety plans put into place?? She is sabotaging his already very thin chances of recovering AND subjecting her other two children to the same fate by not actually having very strict safety measures in place!! Then to sit there and say she is giving her kids the life she never had . . . please, when talking about how bad her childhood was, it sounded exactly the same as the life she provided to her son/children, miss me with that noise!
Her saying all of the things she’s been through, and then saying he hasn’t been through the same things kinda threw me off…. We all just heard the judge, and caseworker, describe the exact same things concerning her son! What a damn shame!
You’re ridiculous . Look up what Oppositional Defiant Disorder first, then come back . Which is only ONE of the mental diagnoses she has of several . Often times they are aggressive, where they have threatened & even attempted to kill their own family ! & she has 2 other kids , she needs to do what’s best for everyone .
If you haven’t lived it, I’m not surprised you don’t understand it! My sister had to give up her daughter when she was 12. By then, she and her son had been forced to sleep with padlocks on solid wood doors for years. By the time she turned her over to the courts her daughter had destroyed two school classrooms, nearly bit the ear off one police officer and the tip of a finger off of another. When sent to a juvenile facility after the second bite, she disrupted the place so badly they asked the court to remove her! She eventually had 5 children by 5 men, losing custody of all of them. I’ve lost track of her, but 4 of her 5 children are drug addicted and all five of them have children who are wards of the courts.
Vanessa has such a beautiful spirit ✨💖✨. I hope she gets Asia back as I watch this. Her kiddos clearly were raised well by herself and her parents. Them crying for their baby sister and the little ten year old girl being dropped off at treatment center crying for her Mom gutted me. I don't judge. My brother had ODD and ADHD and manic depressive bipolar. I'm glad she got help for her daughter and I hope they're both doing well..
It would absolute tear me apart, if i had to make the difficult decision, of signing away my child to the state. I know that mom has to be hurting to her core 💔.
It sort of makes me want to throw up to hear the prosecutor nearly lament that he can't prosecute and imprison a 9 y/o for child molestation. It's ironic the prosecutor recognizes there's something wrong with the kid yet fails to recognize there's something wrong with himself for wanting to prosecute a very young child offender! Seems to me they both need therapy. It's unbelievable the state can remove a child from his mother, not because the mother is unfit, but because the child has committed an offense due to emotional and learning challenges. Then, after the kid is out of the home for 22 months because the state has detained him for that length of time, now the state can file to terminate the mom's parental rights. I ask you, who is the *real* perpetrator here? The child with emotional problems or the state child stealers? What a racket!!
That judge that chastised the 15 yr old is probably against abortion too. Shame on him for not caring about her and thank goodness the foster mom stepped in to take her. I hope it works out for her and Raven.
So sad that Dwayne has to go through all that and the system to get better and be able to have a better life, he spent 7 years getting the attention he needed finish high school and then 7 yrs later he dies 😢
God bless the foster mother for wanting to help the young mother. I am upset though with this judge! Twice he has told this 15 year old damaged child that he does not care about her!!! He needs some classes on Empathy!!! Prayers for them all 🙏
Did that “mother” hear herself?! “I have 3 children by 3 different men, and all of them have gone to jail for CSA, but my son gets 6 months for molestation?” 😳😨 Lady, and I use that term loosely, given the environment you had that little boy in and the men you had coming in and out of your house, he either saw way too much, or was harmed himself. He needs help, and while you may want him home, it doesn’t seem like you make good choices about who to have around or how to protect him. I worry about the other children still in your home!
That judge should have been taken off the bench for saying things like that. Melissa needed Love before Raven. It’s like who do you give the mask to on a plane you or your child? You need to nourish her for her to be able to nourish Raven. The system failed her, and now they need to pay for their mistake and help her.
Interesting .... Where are the laws that say a father who has been out of the home and never visited a child will automatically have his rights terminated ? We will deny a child their rights before we deny a parent their rights. Children are not property there must be done reciprocity for adults bad behaviour. When a man does not exercise his parental rights or his court ordered visitation there should be consequences for the adult.
I cant believe he said he didnt care about her. As a mom myself, all that girl needed was someone who cared for her. Someone to love her and support her and tell her she was going to be ok. A complete disgrace. She needed a role model, someone to teach her and support her. She didnt get any of that. The judge doesnt even believe in her. Why would she believe in herself and want to make good choices? Thats going to make her think she is unworthy and not worth the love time and support she deserves. We all make mistakes. She is still young and she can turn her life around. Not saying she hasnt done bad things, I am sure she has. But what does anyone expect? Broken, toxic, chaotic homes make broken, toxic, chaotic kids. I know from experience. Ugh, my heart
Calling a 9 year old a perpetrator like he's a criminal! How absolutely heart breaking! That poor little boy! All of these kids, this judge doesn't need to be dealing with kids and families, he needs to be a criminal judge!
Since this was filmed around 20 years ago does anyone know are these residential facilities still open ? Or are children with disorders in their family homes where parents are struggling ?
Melissa has not been to school since the 6th Grade! WTF!!!!!!! That's a PARENTAL, Court, social services, public school fail.
Good observation. Right on
If she's been on the street for 3 years, she ran away in 6th grade.
And why the judge was so harsh with her. She’s been given chance after chance & kept running off. The judge handed out tough love & is what was needed after she’s been given so many opportunities, yet squanders them as people keep being nice.
@@kathymunsee6468 The parents should be arrested! Being a teen mom should be illegal!
How can she mother a child when NO ONE MOTHERED HER!!! Thank you, Melissa, for giving this 15 yr old child a chance. Hopefully she takes it❤
How can someone learn a foreign language when they have never heard it? Your argument is highly flawed.
Not just cruel but ABUSIVE and neglectful as well!! Non the less telling her she doesn’t matter to him or the courts!!! I’m sickened!!
@davidgray1515 You BELIEVE YOUR OWN COMMENT???? So you think a child having a child should know how to parent a child when she's never been loved or shown how to mother. I learned from watching my mother, grandmother & Aunt's people who loved and cared for me. This child had No one to teach her the basics. Hopefully, she takes this opportunity to change her life around.
BTW, I don't argue with anyone, I state my opinion nothing more nothing less.
@KrissyRoseAnimallover 🌹
@@davidgray1515 absolutely! I wasn't mothered but I had three wonderful boys I mothered just fine with a loving husband. You either look to do better or allow yourself to be the same. Many people as kids have to decide at an early age what rad they are going to take.
The judge traumatized her even further by telling this child that he didn't care about her
No, I believe he was telling her this isn’t about her, this is about that sweet innocent baby. Her selfishness has already caused her baby harm.
@@amandadavis2981 do you know any 15 year old who isn't selfish? She was probably very scared and had no idea what to do. Imagine yourself in that situation.
@@Awesomeosaurus91.........People like You are just like this selfish teen! Thats why these kids are the way the are .....spoiled and refuse to follow rules!!
@@amandadavis2981well then you haven’t been there. You don’t know what he is doing, I DO. You don’t deserve to have an opinion here and ppl like you is why our world is in trouble!
@@amandadavis2981you can't be serious. The judge asked her if she had anything to say, and she said "I understand." And the judge literally replied with "I don't care about you." Please tell me how the girl was in ANY way saying it was about her. This judge is an absolute pos
Cerebral Palsy could have happened even in all the right environment. Not necessarily this 15 year old child's fault. I wish her the best!
EXACTLY 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯. THANK. YOU. I'm not a parent of a child with this diagnosis, but I know of many pants who are... from high standards of living, top care, etc.
The 15 year old did NOT CAUSE this diagnosis. To imply it is both wrong and cruel.
Thank you! I have cerebral palsy and have a great life!
My brother has cp it was caused from the birth.
From everything I have learned about CP it is usually caused by something during the labor and birthing process.
Prayers for ALL the minors and also their parents…the ones whom are trying to better themselves and their children’s lives!!!
May they find they help, peace and healing they need to find peace and progress in their lives!!
@@sharonbiggin my brother got it when he had a traumatic birth the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck.
She primarily cares about Raven, not you. How can a judge say that? 15-year-old especially this girl has been through so much. She just needs someone to love her
Ya that was unnecessarily cruel.
@@catherinethembaAgree!
Shame on that Judge! Telling such a negative prediction as to what HE believes she will do.
Yes, that was a crappy thing to say. This child has had no love in her life. She needs to know someone loves her too
Exactly. Like make her feel more unloved/uncared for than she already does.
So this 15 year old child has lived a pretty terrible life herself, becomes pregnant, scared to death about it, and he’s blaming her for the child being born with issues.
She is a 15-year-old child who had nobody to help her, I don’t really know the whole story, but if she hasn’t been in school since six grade, she obviously didn’t have someone at school to turn to.
I understand sometimes children need tough love, but she doesn’t need tough love. She just needs LOVE!!!! I think it’s incredible that the foster family is taking both the mother and the child.
So many thoughts about that, but not knowing the whole story, I don’t want to be talking about what I don’t know about!! 🙂
I don't think the Judge doesn't realize that, but he is upset because Melissa didn't stop running away, and not getting prenatal care and unfortunately she's paying the price for her, Mom's mistakes and she had someone that cared and put a roof over her head.
Horrible horrible judge
It's such a horrible situation
@tracyreed1219, well, we all heard what the judge said to her. You don't need the whole story to know the judge is clearly out of his depth. He should be dealing with adult criminals, not kids who have been neglected, cast aside by her parents and left to raise herself. The things he said to her prove he is not fit.
Saw another foster mother take the first foster childs Baby after 'helping' her with early yrs. Tragic, just waiting for them to put a foot wrong. State sanctioned child trafficking ( for profit) 'Business"
This judge has written this 15yr old off!!! This girl needs someone to show her what normal life is and to show her how to love her baby!! Because she did not learn this from her parents! She also needs love so she’s able to give love!!
EXACTLY and im so infuriated at this man right now!! He should NOT BE A JUDGE!!
He knows exactly what happens with these kids. She isn't going to get better. Brain damaged from drugs doesn't get fixed.
@@sheribrougham4863 actually at such a young age these things can be improved on. He has no idea what will happen with her, he's simply written her cause she's a ward of the state as if she's some kind of criminal. Institutionalising these kids at its finest
@@sheribrougham4863cerebral palsy is t caused by drugs
No duhhh and thats what foster parent Was doing🙄 But spoiled teen wanted no rules, needed money to go have some fun. She had Love......unconditional and yet gave NO chits!!
No she's 15 she matters too this judge is so wrong 😢😢😢
Exactly 💯. I want to give this young mother hugs and support. She MATTERS
I agree. I'm SO devastated for the 15 year old who just wants love, acknowledgement, and support.
Exactly 💯
Not only that, but blaming a girl who had to raise herself and became pregnant at 13 for her baby's cerebral palsy? That's a brain damage that is caused by the lack of oxygen to the brain during birth, not the age, education or social status of the mother. Mothers-to-be don't choose to have complicated births, and blaming them for that is just cruel! 🤬
I agree, I think he just worded it poorly. That hearing was focused on her daughter, so that was his point. I did see her face fall when he said the foster parent “mostly” cared about her baby . . . that hurt to see. When she returned, and the hearing was focused on her . . . despite her recent bad choices, he locked in on her positive achievements. Him asking how her grades were, and correcting her, “Not good! They are great!” was very heart warming. I understand this video is dated, and I do think more professionals who work with troubled children these days understand that the harsh/shaming route is extremely ineffective. So I chose to give this judge some grace because during this time period the primary though was to “scare kids straight”
The system is sick. This 15 year old is a child, too, from a broken home. The judge needs to deal with criminals, not children.
how can that lady with all those kids take care of another medical child
This foster mom is amazing!
What should he have done?
A judge who says to a 15 year old child who has been neglected and rejected all her life, that he doesn’t care about her???
@@annecollins1043 not saying it’s right or wrong. The question is what should he have done?
This judge is disgraceful, blaming a 15 year old girl for her baby being brain damaged is sick and cruel
The baby was brain damaged and sick because she drank and did drugs while on the streets pregnant with the baby.
Did she even understand what he said ?? Not having any schooling she might know.. but yes this Judge went to far..
Wow! Horrendous! She's a child herself.. She needs someone to care about her too! She's not been parented and he wants to shame her into parenting? Nuts!
Yeas, but I do understand where he is coming from. I have seen children affected to alcohold and drugs during mother’s pregnancy. It is so sad to see how parents havedistriidcc
Isn't it her fault though? It is HER child
That 15 year old with a child that the judge is so down on never addressed the fact that she has a child because she was raped, not because she decided to lay down with a man and neglect her unborn child. What a disgrace!
How exactly do you know that she was raped?
what is wrong with this judge? He’s tearing this young mom who is still a baby herself down. Telling her nobody cares about her? he’s adding to her pain and suffering and trauma. what a horrible man.
he’s setting her up for a lifetime of depression and relationship problems. further cementing the traumas from her own childhood with drug addicted parents
He gets a high on traumatizing girls I think. He probably had mommy issues himself. What a horrible person!
TRUTH HURTS
This judge is what all people that go in front of him need. He doesn't plays games at all and that's a great quality.
@davidgray1515 that's not true though
Dewayne's mom needs to understand the severity of his mental state. The fact he's behaving like this so young is deep and disturbing. And the fact she wants him to come home just so he may repeat the acts again... not only does he need counseling, but so does she
Agree….look what happens? And she says I guess he needs more counseling! Well duh!!!!😂
Mary knows sexual predators and she is comfortable with them. She doesn't see sexual deviancy as abnormal. If the kid went home to her, she would be one of those
Mothers you will read about in the future. Her son will always be a sociopath. Her depending that in front of her son only gives him the urge. I think she needs to be evaluated, she's not of safe sound of mind. 😮
I think the mother needs help and look into the other children she is not a good role model Dwaine has gentle health issues and needs to be away from this mom and moniterd over the next few yrs if not more
She should have been charged too
So many sad stories, so many stuck in cycles, so many lost children. I wish i was younger and in a healthy place to be able to help foster kiddos in a meaningful way.
Same ❤
You can be a mentor. Foster kids desperately need a mentor
How on earth can a judge say i dont care about you! Focusing on the infant is one thing! Helping and just being kind to a teen in trouble is anouther.
It's literally the energy of rabid 'pro-life' people. There is SO little concern for the welfare of the parents who are trying to raise children under extremely difficult circumstances. I am WHOLE life. Without compassion, parents will find themselves in the same situation over and over.
I'm pro life and I care for her also.@tarynb.3691
@@tarynb.3691…I’m literally pro life, and sickened by what this judge did! You have absolutely zero understanding about what it means to be pro life! For all you know, this judge is not pro-life, because clearly, he doesn’t value the life of the mother. He doesn’t sound pro-life to me. God values all life; both in the womb, and outside of it! I am horrified by this judge!! I am a Christian pro-lifer, and I can promise you that this judge is neither Christian, Nor pro life.
@@karen.tolleson68… Exactly! She has zero understanding of what it means to be pro life! God cares about both mother and baby! There is no picking and choosing one over the other.
Updates on these cases would be nice!
What do you mean updates ? At the end they literally tell you how they turned out and are
Doing today. Dwayne died in car accident in 2012 at 23
@@siericalandis7303 yes thank you for saying that we all should say it in our comments so that we may get them if everyone asks for them to share updates
@@Angela-ix2ff sorry I didn’t see this until I already sent my comment but I didn’t watch it until the end obviously and I am bad about sending my comment before I watch it all but I text slow and I have been cutoff if I start texting at the end
So the nine year old boy's testimony isn't reliable enough to punish an adult who sexually abused him, but it is reliable enough to punish him for allegedly abusing his one year old and two year old siblings? Remember the only evidence is this boys own statements about what has happened 🤔
How ridiculous is that right?
YUP
Because most judges are sexual predators themselves.
Whst a nasty judge in the first case he should be dis barred. Poor little kid he makes sure she knows that nobody cares about her.
45:21 I’m sorry but don’t EVER TELL YOUR CHILD DON’T CRY. 😢😢
😭😢🥺
That judge I's heartless. That's a 15 year old child who has be failed by her family and the system. She's known nothing but abuse and neglect and then she has a judge telling her that no one cares about her. She should have a loving home and lots of therapy and support.
I no how this all feels. 😢
My oldest has mild cerebral palsy, and I had prenatal care. I believe she had a stroke at 7 months, but I'm not sure. I had some complications around 5 and 6 months along, and the medical system where we were is not great. She is doing great as a teen, and no one can tell. But judging a kid who just didn't get help because she was scared like the worst mom is sick. The cause for cerebral palsy is not known. There are some suggestions that it could have genetic factors, and I do have family members with cerebral palsy.
Cerebral palsy is caused by lack of oxygen to the baby's brain during birth. The reason Dr's don't tell you that is bc they are afraid of a lawsuit.
This was in the 90s
@bethgramkow5225 it's still ignorant for that time. One of my great aunts had cerebral palsy, and no one blamed her mother. We were in the deep south.
The judge is talking down to a girl who needs someone gentle. Telling her nobody else cares about. I wish her a good like.
This is OLD. It's from 2000.
@@monicascott2354 So what?!
@@monicascott2354 That doesn’t make any difference! You don’t talk to people like that.
@@river8760sure you do when the soft talk hasn’t worked for 3 years and she keeps running away & then took off with an infant with special needs. He did exactly what so many other adults should have told her.
@@PamelaMorris-fy5mb Wrong. I’ve worked with kids like her.
What an awful judge. Melissa is still a child too. She needs help. It sounds like that foster mom could be overwhelmed with 7 children!
😂😂😂 she’s not a child. She in her 40s now
This was 21 years ago
The judge said , I don’t care about you, to hear this is so sad.
Get over it! He did what many other people should have done & said. She keeps running off & took off with the baby. She has no business doing so when she won’t even take the help she’s been offered time and time again.
The mother with 3 kids with 3 different fathers and all child molesters. That kid stood no chance and I' m afraid for the kids who still live there.
The case of 10 yrs old Chelsey breaks my heart. Her mother has made the right choice with Chelsea even though it's breaking her heart. 😢 I pray that Chelsey does well at Daymar. God bless the people that help these children. ❤❤❤❤😊
The title doesn't match the content here. This video is about vulnerable babies and young kids being placed into foster care because their parent's can't care for them. In the case of the disabled child. Raven, in the very beginning, her mother was only 15 at the time of filming, and was also a ward of the state. Most of the rest of the film is about young kids with severe mental and physical disorders and their parent's asking for help.
The title doesn't match the content here. dah
The 9 yr old girl case breaks my heart. How could you leave your child in a facility and shows up with a man that's not her father? She choose a man over her child and just abandon her child in a facility
I agree
RE: The boy who may have abused his siblings. He can be both an abuser and also a victim. The mom doesn’t seem to get that it is possible he was abused and also possible he is abusing kids. Also I don’t think she gets that kids that are so young they can’t talk yet are still traumatized by abuse that happened to them- adults have reported having flashbacks and memories popping up and also discovering later behavior stemming from abuse. What happens to a child before they are two greatly impacts their mental health and well being. She needs to get it through her head that he could be abusing her littler ones and if she takes him back she better keep them separated.
Crazy that she admits that each of the 3 fathers were child molesters and went to jail for it .SHE NEEDS TO PICK HER BOYFRIENDS BETTER. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS LADY
@vickythefist7062 she more than likely was abused herself the fact she picked not 1 but 3 abusers so unfortunately the vicious cycle continues
He doesn't need to be around his siblings at the moment.
She wont be able to keep them separated.
@@vickythefist7062fkn 3 of them.
I wish i had this kind of intervention when i was a young teen would have saved me a world of torture and pain i still suffer to this day at almost 40 years old...im glad systems like this exist.🙏
Are you joking? More sexual abuse occurs in these places than in homes
@@wednesday9623how do you know? We’re you the same and we’re in these places?? Sounds like you were one of these places yourself. Many of these kids need the tough love like the 1st young girl who has been given home after home and runs off to the streets & was doing drugs with also sneaking off with an infant with medical needs.
This judge needs to go. He's a POS. That teen needs love and care too. Sometimes "tough love" isn't the answer. What does this judge think happened back when prenatal care wasn't around? Just because she didn't have prenatal care has NOTHING to do with the health of that baby. That baby was going to have the issues she has whether she had prenatal care or not.
uhmmm this is from the 90s...im sure hes dead or retired now...
Vanessa is a gorgeous person inside and out. I pray she keeps her sobriety
Pre-natal care doesn't prevent disabilities
@@moonchildluvsbobcrane It definitely can.
I didn’t have prenatal care with my first born and he is smart and he is intelligent. He got a Qantas award in elementary school and he could’ve done a lot if I would’ve had enough money to put him through college but he’s very smart and that’s not true.😂😂😂😂😂😂
@jenniferbullock7124 just because it's true FOR YOU does not mean it's true for everyone else. The world doesn't revolve around you. Do some research before you make such statements 🙄
@@river8760 even with the best care your kids can have disabilities
@@moonchildluvsbobcrane Yes they can, but looking after yourself during pregnancy gives the best outcomes for babies as well. Taking prenatals, eating well, getting regular medical care is so important.
What kind of criminal foster home parents let a 20 year old man sleep in bed with their 14 year old foster daughter??? They should lose their license to be foster parents and be put in jail for child neglect and child abuse!!!
This judge is abusive. He could say what he needs to say without further traumatizing her. He is not "firm" he is abusive.
Dwayne’s mother doesn’t have the cognitive ability to care for her children and be responsible for their behavior. She doesn’t need any of her children.
The first judge didn’t have to be so nasty to this poor girl. I was in foster care for most of my childhood. This hurts my heart. The judge blames this young girl for not getting prenatal care when she was probably 14 when she was pregnant She has a sixth grade education and lived with drug addicts . Yes, Raven needs quite a bit of help. So does this young girl and most of all she needs compassion.
Dwayne died in 2012... so this was filmed around 1998. He died when he was 23. Im curious where the others are now.
Wow the situation with dwayne is heartbreaking. Returned home at 16 after all those years first to graduate in his family and then dies tragically in a car accident at 23... that's incredibly sad, after all the trauma he went through and overcame just for his life to be cut so short. Cruel.
That is very sad. Although they were telling he has learning disability to start with, the way he was doing math seemed otherwise.
CP does NOT come from "not receiving prenatal care." Dumb.
Also, when did this originally air?
2000 I think
It doesn't, but if she had been getting prenatal care, they would've known what to expect and could've began treatment immediately. Instead she took off with her baby and the foster mother said that when she took her into her care that there was no guarantee Raven was going to progress.
Dwanye's mother doesn't get it, pretty sad. The father is not any help. I hope Dwayne gets the help he needs.
She’s literally a child herself. This judge is awful. He doesn’t know anything about foster care foster system. This girl has been through disgraceful.
So sad! Dwayne graduated high school then died in a car accident in 2012 😢
What was his last name?
That judge is horrible, telling her he doesn't care about her and pointing out the foster mum really just cares about raven. She's 15,she's just a kid, and she's had the worst life. Jesus judge, have some compassion.
For the judge to say " I don't care about you " I think was very harsh, nobody has ever cared about her,I feel so sorry for her!
No we like No nonsense judges remember !
What‘s with this documentary? Those are kids, some of them wards of the State, and they are showing their faces for everyone to see???
I couldn't agree more! Absolutely terrible!
And full names.
This was 21 years ago
This little girl with parents is on drugs has Noone. The judge should not speak to her or any one that way
Saying he doesn't care about the mother says A LOT.
Hope Delina and her son are having an amazing life. So much heartbreak these children live with. Children are precious
What ever Happened to them all!?
these are old videos. however, that judge is a bully and cruel to this 15-year-old.
Chelsea’s mother did not seem right. I understand she would be emotionally exhausted but I can’t imagine that coldness. What did Chelsea do?
This judge is so disrespectful towards Melissa. She didn’t have support during her pregnancy and that’s not her fault.. He is wrong to be so condescending and to state that she will fail before she even starts. Prove him wrong Melissa!
This poor kid! She needs love and compassion. The judge should not tell her he does care about her. Please everyone, keep this young girl in your prayers
Why did the judge find it necessary to tell this 15 year old child that he didn't care about her? She has had enough rejection in her short life, as it is.
Its truly sad. Melissa is 15 & barely able to take care of herself. She no doubt, suffers from Baby blues, confusion & etc., bc her hormones are all over the place. Being a teen Mom since the 70's, has been overlooked as to their true state of mind & being. Then there is the culture of ethnicity that is such a fact. There are 2 children that suffers, not just the baby. Social services SHOULD require teens to receive counciling, continued education & on hands training in taking care of newborns with Supervision. Just giving these teens $ assistance & medical care, is NOT enough & counter productive. Statistically, most teens remain on welfare for years at the taxpayers' expense. Just saying. Paz be with us all 🙏. "Isa"
Judge! She's the mother but is a child. Melissa needs someone to care about her, too. The mother didn't have good parents like you Judge. She didn't know anything.
She is a child , and the judge is belittling her left and right yes she has a child but she's obviously had a rough go
Dwayne's Mother is a big problem.
My Cousin was born with CP, lived a great life. No reason or rhyme caused her to be born with this diagnosis, to blame a 15 yr old with that, no prenatal or not… such bs. Shame on all you.
Duanes' mother seems negligent. I hope she is checked out and supervised.
I want to say thank you to the lady that took two children in the mother and the baby ❤❤❤ she has a pure ❤️💜💜 heart 💜💜💜 of gold thank you, thank you thank you may God continue to give you the strength,health, LOVE and support to continue being a mom to many. Shouting all the way from Texas
Talking to this fifteen year old in such an agressive and thoughtless manner in the middle of the court room infront of all those court officials and media is throughly embarrassing . It does not solve the situation at all and is a recipe for a repeat performance later on in her life . This should be handled with sensitive and tactful manner . Not in a media circus fashion . Smh
Great fckn judge why would I accept your decision regarding my child when you just said you don’t care about ME.
At least the foster mom has enough sense to understand the baby won’t survive without helping and yes CARING FOR the mother.
That’s why I don’t respect a lot of these ppl. They think they’re so smart but in reality they’re NOT.
He did exactly what he needed to do and was the same judge for the majority of these kids. You don’t know her full story so stop making judgements when she literally ran off with a newborn who has special needs. The girl has been running from foster home to foster home, & on the streets, they would find her, help her, and she would run within a day. The judge put her in her place & made the decision to chose the baby over the teen, she’s been given more chances than most children.
@@PamelaMorris-fy5mb you sound like you know her personally. I still don’t respect the way that grown man spoke to a young woman and if you’ve never been in her shoes you should hush. This is why judgement is coming to America because you ppl think too highly of yourselves. Have some humble pie lady
45:06 this was such a heartbreaking moment to watch.
I know this just absolutely crushed the mother. 😢
I can’t stand Dwayne’s mom! How in just 4 weeks time you allow your child to be put into a situation where he has access to be alone with younger children?!? She sat there and said there were safety plans put into place?? She is sabotaging his already very thin chances of recovering AND subjecting her other two children to the same fate by not actually having very strict safety measures in place!!
Then to sit there and say she is giving her kids the life she never had . . . please, when talking about how bad her childhood was, it sounded exactly the same as the life she provided to her son/children, miss me with that noise!
Her saying all of the things she’s been through, and then saying he hasn’t been through the same things kinda threw me off…. We all just heard the judge, and caseworker, describe the exact same things concerning her son! What a damn shame!
How can you give up on a 9 year old girl. How can thdy be out of control so young ???
It'd ridiculous.
Don’t judge until you have walked in their shoes.
You’re ridiculous . Look up what Oppositional Defiant Disorder first, then come back . Which is only ONE of the mental diagnoses she has of several . Often times they are aggressive, where they have threatened & even attempted to kill their own family ! & she has 2 other kids , she needs to do what’s best for everyone .
Read "Tsk-tsk The Story of a Child at Large". by Suzan Hackney and you'll have your answer.
If you haven’t lived it, I’m not surprised you don’t understand it! My sister had to give up her daughter when she was 12. By then, she and her son had been forced to sleep with padlocks on solid wood doors for years. By the time she turned her over to the courts her daughter had destroyed two school classrooms, nearly bit the ear off one police officer and the tip of a finger off of another. When sent to a juvenile facility after the second bite, she disrupted the place so badly they asked the court to remove her! She eventually had 5 children by 5 men, losing custody of all of them. I’ve lost track of her, but 4 of her 5 children are drug addicted and all five of them have children who are wards of the courts.
I commend the mom for recognizing her own limitations and seeking a situation for her child that has a chance of actually helping the girl.
Where is the father of this baby? Is he going to pay child support? Why isn't he in court being held responsible for making this baby also?
The judge is a creep tearing this kid down. How can a child know the right thing to do? Shame on him. Shame.
Wayne’s father is in jail for molesting a 13 year old girl and says “ I don’t know why he’s like that “
Vanessa has such a beautiful spirit ✨💖✨. I hope she gets Asia back as I watch this. Her kiddos clearly were raised well by herself and her parents. Them crying for their baby sister and the little ten year old girl being dropped off at treatment center crying for her Mom gutted me. I don't judge. My brother had ODD and ADHD and manic depressive bipolar. I'm glad she got help for her daughter and I hope they're both doing well..
Makes me very sad that the child is in court and has to hear everything that they are actually too young to understand….
It would absolute tear me apart, if i had to make the difficult decision, of signing away my child to the state. I know that mom has to be hurting to her core 💔.
It sort of makes me want to throw up to hear the prosecutor nearly lament that he can't prosecute and imprison a 9 y/o for child molestation. It's ironic the prosecutor recognizes there's something wrong with the kid yet fails to recognize there's something wrong with himself for wanting to prosecute a very young child offender! Seems to me they both need therapy.
It's unbelievable the state can remove a child from his mother, not because the mother is unfit, but because the child has committed an offense due to emotional and learning challenges. Then, after the kid is out of the home for 22 months because the state has detained him for that length of time, now the state can file to terminate the mom's parental rights. I ask you, who is the *real* perpetrator here? The child with emotional problems or the state child stealers? What a racket!!
That judge that chastised the 15 yr old is probably against abortion too. Shame on him for not caring about her and thank goodness the foster mom stepped in to take her. I hope it works out for her and Raven.
So sad that Dwayne has to go through all that and the system to get better and be able to have a better life, he spent 7 years getting the attention he needed finish high school and then 7 yrs later he dies 😢
God bless the foster mother for wanting to help the young mother. I am upset though with this judge! Twice he has told this 15 year old damaged child that he does not care about her!!! He needs some classes on Empathy!!! Prayers for them all 🙏
This judge is so unfair, she is only 15 and knows no better 😢
How come nobody asks about the fathers?? Where are they??
Dwayne's mom seems mentally slow. Is that just me?
No you're completely correct
Did that “mother” hear herself?! “I have 3 children by 3 different men, and all of them have gone to jail for CSA, but my son gets 6 months for molestation?” 😳😨 Lady, and I use that term loosely, given the environment you had that little boy in and the men you had coming in and out of your house, he either saw way too much, or was harmed himself. He needs help, and while you may want him home, it doesn’t seem like you make good choices about who to have around or how to protect him. I worry about the other children still in your home!
I think she's low IQ and probably didn't have a great upbringing herself.
These poor kids..this is sad
Delinna cares so much for her son what amazing story n her Forster mum amazing
That judge should have been taken off the bench for saying things like that. Melissa needed Love before Raven. It’s like who do you give the mask to on a plane you or your child? You need to nourish her for her to be able to nourish Raven. The system failed her, and now they need to pay for their mistake and help her.
Her parents, community, schools, teachers, cps and judge showed her they don't care about her. Where was she supposed to turn?
I dont like this judge.
I don’t like him either.
How could her own mother think she deserves that baby?
Need a lot more judges like Payne all across the country.
Interesting .... Where are the laws that say a father who has been out of the home and never visited a child will automatically have his rights terminated ? We will deny a child their rights before we deny a parent their rights. Children are not property there must be done reciprocity for adults bad behaviour. When a man does not exercise his parental rights or his court ordered visitation there should be consequences for the adult.
That judge is a piece of work!!
Yes threaten a young girl thats a product of her parents drug use. Sh e needs as much care and attention as the baby
I cant believe he said he didnt care about her. As a mom myself, all that girl needed was someone who cared for her. Someone to love her and support her and tell her she was going to be ok. A complete disgrace. She needed a role model, someone to teach her and support her. She didnt get any of that. The judge doesnt even believe in her. Why would she believe in herself and want to make good choices? Thats going to make her think she is unworthy and not worth the love time and support she deserves. We all make mistakes. She is still young and she can turn her life around. Not saying she hasnt done bad things, I am sure she has. But what does anyone expect? Broken, toxic, chaotic homes make broken, toxic, chaotic kids. I know from experience. Ugh, my heart
That judge shouldn’t be a judge. You don’t say that to someone to someone who’s been unloved their whole life.
That is mean that the judge doesn’t care about her.
Some of the foster are such prizes but unfortunately not all placements are what they should be.
That baby eyes are bright as the moon n star
I cant stand dwaynes mom. Excuses excuses no accountability
Calling a 9 year old a perpetrator like he's a criminal! How absolutely heart breaking! That poor little boy! All of these kids, this judge doesn't need to be dealing with kids and families, he needs to be a criminal judge!
Since this was filmed around 20 years ago does anyone know are these residential facilities still open ?
Or are children with disorders in their family homes where parents are struggling ?
I would love to see an update too!
Damar is still open. It's an amazing facility.
His choice of language is deplorable and disturbing.
'Not while I have control of her' He showed himself in that statement.