I really needed to hear this, thank you. Im 22 and the thought of being on my own fills me with existential dread, I've lived with family my whole life and worry constantly about if I'll be able to make it, I'm terrified at the idea of having to support myself when the day comes. I've dedicated myself to art and have little life skill. Taking it slow and feeling it out is a great idea, I always imagined it was a one-and-done deal where you're out and that's it. But you're right, it's a HUGE lifestyle change and can be overwhelming for anxious people in its unpredictability. Still keeps me up at night, I feel like I'm running out of time to be young lol, the months pass by. I think I'll be fine, but even the idea of living alone in an apartment scares the hell out of me.
I'm 36 and the thought makes me teary eyed right now. I will be moving out with my long time gf to a unit 1-2hrs away from home to be near our offices. We'll move in 2 weeks and I still feel so sad, crying inside but a little bit excited. Sadness is overtaking my excitement at the moment. Add to the fact that I can never or we can never stay in our parents house forever because we aren't rich and can't support them forever. All 36 years of my life I've been here and will go out in a matter of weeks.
Hey there! Felt like reaching out; I’m 25 and just moved out of my family’s house for the first time… in a city 6 hours away from my old home. Today’s my first day. I was absolutely flooded with anxiety the moment I stepped through the door and realized how much more difficult it would be for me mentally. One of the biggest things that really helped me was having people supporting me / helping me with the move, massive difference obviously; another that helped eased the anxiety was starting to get my stuff settled in (bed, paintings / photos, kitchen stuff, etc.). It really helps offload the anxiety bit by bit. Hope this helped!
I'm crying so much now and I'm only half way through your video. I'm moving out soon, and I have soooo much anxiety. And the part where you talk about going back to your parents house and staying as long as you like just helped me a lot. I thought it was wrong maybe that I was the only one thinking that whilst renting. Just have me some space in my head! Thanks ❤️
Lmao i just did the crying and imma grown ass 22 year old man. Its the attachment to my parents and siblings even though my relationship with my parents was toxic they still are my parents. This shit is crazy
KNOBL I feel you ! I haven’t moved out yet. And I wrote that comment a year ago. I feel I’ll break into thousands pieces if I do. But one day we will both move out. I believe in you 🙏🏼😁
@@rejham2304 I'm 20 and I moved out five days ago. I woke up the first three days with pretty bad anxiety, but on the fourth day, I barely had any anxiety, and having just woken up on the fifth day, I only had a little bit of anxiety. But I keep reminding myself why I moved out. I need to grow up, and evolve myself. I know deep down that I can't stay in my boy room for the rest of my life. How would that look like when I'm 30? I would have no skills in life, and I would be a massive train wreck of a person then. And I also remind myself that while I have moved out (about 10-15 min car drive from old home), it's not like I won't ever see my parents again. My mom lives in the city, and my dad a couple of kilometers away with his new partner, and so I know that I can go there anytime I want. But I try to stay strong, and remind myself that this is for the best. I really think you should take the leap forward. It will be hard at first, and you will have anxiety no matter what you do. But as you get settled in to your new home, as I feel I'm gradually doing, and as you have your family over to your new place, it makes it feel more homely, knowing they've been in your home, and perhaps helped you unpack, and that makes you feel safer. In the end, this is all for your own personal development. You need to face this challenge at some point in your life, and while I think you shouldn't move out when you're too young, say 17-18, but around the 20 mark is a good start, even if you're not completely mature, which I certainly am not, but it will help you grow as a person and make you strong. Sorry for rambling but it also felt good for me to get this off my chest.
Kejsarn av Portugallien I like your username. It sounds Norwegian or Sweden 😁 But wow you are so brave ! You should be so proud of yourself. I’m very happy for you. I am 31 lol. Still living at home. At the moment I’m looking for a place. I found a place a few months ago but things unfortunately didn’t go as they should. I know I have to move out. I feel motivated and scared as shit (sorry for my language). Thank you very much for your motivating reply! Means a lot to me. And I wish you all the best 🙏🏼💜
This is what I’m scared of. I do want to be independent and able to progress in life on my own but at the same time I’m so scared of leaving my humble abode where I have been brought up since 2003!!! I’m scared I’m not going to like where I move or what my neighbours are like all that jazz. I feel nauseous about it sometimes but this video really really helps to overcome those barriers 🥰🥰. Thank you so much.
Thank you for this video.i am 31 and today just got the keys to a flat to a new city. I literally had a panic attack once the agent left - this empty Building, new city and strangers. Knowing this is normal is so helpful.
I am 32 and moving out. I think what makes it harder for me is that I've lived with them for way longer than most people (most move out in their early 20s or mid 20s at the latest). We are too close now. If that makes sense at all.
@@Kya-Kitsune963 hey same feeling Im ready to move once i have my degree but feel that I took so long and its effected my progress. Good luck and vibes!
Im absoulotly terrifed of moving out. I have social anxiety and living alone seems bizzare and very uncomfortable for me.time to be an adult makes we want to cry (im almost 25)
Take it slow, save some money, make a close friend or get a pet, try renting out a hotel room for a day or two and stay alone so you get the feel, then just do it
i’m young and i’ve been living in this house since i was about 4 all of my memories are in this house. my grandpa passed away not to long ago and we might be moving into his house. his house is really nice and i would love to live there. but at the same time i don’t want to let go of the house we’re in now. please leave comments if you have anything that came to your mind reading this. :) thank you. and i hope you all have a wonderful morning, afternoon, or night. remember your beautiful. in and out 💜
Well, you've probably visited your grandpa many times, so you most likely have memories there, no? And you will be with your family. Everything comes to an end at some point. It will be hard, but you will get through it.
I'm moving out this week and in with my boyfriend who I've been with for 7 years but I have so much anxiety about the move to the point I nearly got sick.
At least u have a bf...im single foreverrr and with my social anxiety?! There isnt even an option for me to be with someone.also im gay.and moving with someone u know is easier rather than moving alone.
I wish I saw this sooner. I made the mistake of making the decision to move out out of anger, frustration and annoyance when I got into a fight with my mom. Also from the pressure of society saying I should be moved out by now (I’m 26). I’ve only been in my new place for almost a week and I’m basically crying every single day. I miss home. I feel like I’ve made a giant mistake.
How do you feel now? I am in the same situation right now and people keep telling me that it needs time and that most of the people are crying and things like that in the first weeks... I wanted to keep on since it had been my wish to move out, but since I am here I just want to go back and keep getting anxious and start crying
@@iloveyeshua8096 I definitely feel a lot better now, and am happy with the decision that was made. Signed another year lease to be where I’m at again. Definitely make the place your own if you haven’t yet, put things up on the walls, decorate in things that make you happy. I was putting off doing that in the beginning and once I started I feel like it started easing some. Talk to those you can trust and be open with, support from friends or close coworkers can really be helpful as well. I ended up getting a cat at the end of the first month I was here. She helped A LOT. I was use to having pets at my family’s so I think coming home to an empty space was also negatively effecting me. She was giving me a reason to come home to my place every night. She’d run up and greet me every time I came home, still does🥺 I’m sorry you’re going through it, it’s mentally and physically draining. I felt like I was mourning the loss of a chapter in my life if that makes sense? Adjusting to a new norm can be really hard, but It will be okay, things do get better🤍 I hope this helps in some way, if even a little.
This video is so valuable! I have anxiety and it brings me to tears seeing that there are other poeple out there and know and understand what its like! I cant tell if in not ready or its just my anxiety holding me back :/
I want to cry everytime I go to my boyfriends for a sleepover as I am terrified of something happening to my parents and sister, I’m staying over my boyfriends tomorrow night and the night after and want to cry, I’m an INCREDIBLY anxious person, I have severe social anxiety, and my home is my only safe place, my boyfriend is like “come on, you have to get used to it” “you can’t stay here forever” I’m COMPLETELY overwhelmed at the thought of being away from my family and my ONLY safe space
I'm moving out and going to live with my best friend. I'm not going to he alone, but I'm leaving my mum, cat and brother behind and that hurts immensely. I feel anxious and stressed, it almost even feels depressed. But your video helps me, so thank you ❤
this video is so perfect and authentic. i've been struggling with this (just turned 24 and thinking of moving out) and this video has helped me so much more than anything. love your content and love you please keep posting about living and functioning with anxiety. When you said "making dinner on your own" it seems like a regular thing but it's such a thing when you have anxiety to imagine yourself in different situations in your new hypothetical living environment. This video made me feel really seen. Thank you so much Emily
the second point is really good advice. now i'm paying a mortgage i've probably been pressuring myself to stay at my house and make the most of my money etc. I need to realise its okay for me to leave open the possibility of going back to my parents for a day or two, especially if i end up in a mental state where i'm not capable of looking after myself. thank you
I Appreciate This Video So Much. It’s My First Night At My Own Place And Theres Been None Stop Tears Of Anxiety. Which Is Weird Because When I Moved Out At 18 With My Bf I Didn’t Feel Like This.. Thank You!
Thank you so much for this. I am determined to move out in a few months once I’ve saved a little. I have anxiety as well. I know it’s time for me to move because I cannot stop thinking about it. I’m ready to move to the next stage of life. Thanks for the air b n b tip I know that will help a bunch. I’m so glad I ran across your channel.
Thank you for this! You put it so simple and frankly... It is exactly how I'm feeling. I'm at my new place now but only for the day and I have started to feel a bit anxious as the sun went down and I find myself all alone... Your video kept me company :)
I'm moving out soon and I'm so nervous and scared cause I don't know how I'll cope. I also normally feel so anxious and kinda depressed when the sun sets and I fear that I'm going to struggle a lot with this situation. How did you get used to it?
I am moving out tomorrow morning and i am scared because alot needs to be done in the new flat i am coming out of support living and going into my own flat not good at moving out of places i been in foster care from a young age and moved all my life
A very comfy video. :) I'm an 18-year-old student moving out tomorrow and I definitely feel like I'm not exactly ready for it yet. Sadly I don't have a choice, and although I'm pretty introverted the first weeks will probably feel lonely and almost depressive. As long as all the financial stuff gets done I'm sure I'll survive. I just need to start making the house more homey month by month!
I love 4 minutes away, and it’s mine & my boyfriends second night in our apartment… I’m absolutely SOBBING because I miss my mom, who I just saw today and she’s coming over tomorrow.
I am 32 and moving out. I think what makes it harder for me is that I've lived with them for way longer than most people (most move out in their early 20s or mid 20s at the latest). We are too close now. If that makes sense at all.
testing it out is actually a great idea! i stayed in an airbnb alone and i noticed that i loved it during the day, but it could get a little scary at night. and it helped me realize that i’d probably feel more secure in a one bedroom rather than a studio so i can i have a locked door at night separate from the rest of the place.
So glad to see you back and thanks so much for making this video. I’m graduating from uni this summer and sadly because of the way my career path goes I am having to move three hours away from home :( Sadly I don’t really have a choice to move back home but I will be trying your tips out xxx
I hate living in my country. the culture is not my own, the salaries are not up to my skills, and I just don't connect to people as often as I would someplace else. I actually had a few trips where I visited places, the first time I ever traveled by airplane was to Amsterdam and I have stayed there alone for 10 days. I did catch myself call home a lot. I think this is the most scary part for me. My family. I want to move to Europe for school and me being 20 I need my own space. I had a home test for my current Uni and I could hear my parents downstairs. it's very annoying, but I fear i'll miss them and or miss out from happy moments with them, like birthdays and holidays. they all are not in love with our country, like I don't, but they won't move with me even though as far as visa's go we are legitable.
Im in a situation where im 21 & I know I won’t be welcomed back because im apparently to old to be living with my mom even though I supply myself with all my needs. But im still stressed because this has to be my last time moving out because I don’t want to be a failure & for it to be predicted that I’ll have to come back to my hometown 🥺😓but I know me leaving is the right thing so I can get out of my depression and start living my life
I've been living with my mother for 24 years and I finally moved out and I am absolutely terrified. Being away from her for long periods of time feels strange and uncomfortable and the uncertainty of whether or not I'm going to make it on my own. If you know me personally, you'd know that I eat A LOT. My anxiety has been so bad since I've moved out that I can barely eat. My mother and I love each other but we have a complicated relationship so it was healthier for me to move out because of better boundaries , but its so scary
please dont make fun of me, I have Aspergers and my Anxitey is threw the roof and have been crying just because im kinda scared to move out and be MYSELF and im 31 but knowing that all the stuff i have to deal with living alone FREAKS me out and beeing lonely, I got my own appartment buuut my stuff is still at my parents apparentment because everytime i thinking about move my stuff over there my anxiety kick is and want to cry, it feels wrong to live at home at 31 just because almost everyone moves out when they are 20-30, plus i found out that someone have died in the appartment im renting, i feel so uncomfortable knowing that and I have no idea what to do... and please dont make fun of me
i really hope you have managed to progress to being ok in your own place..it can be horrifying..my anxiety and depression is ramping up bcos i may have to move flat..i love this place and im catastrophising all the time
Right now I’m struggling with agoraphobia, and I’m scared about being on my own, and it’s manifested into a really bad anxiety disorder. And I know I need to move out soon because I graduate next year and I really want to be independent.
@@brittanyjones8488 aww omg it’s so nice of you to reply. I’m come such a long way since that comment. Before I could barely leave the house from panic attacks and I would have tons of panic attacks I was in a bad place and super scared all the time. Now I can leave the house and only get a bit anxious, I rarely have panic attacks now. I was able to go on a trip that involved 6 hours of driving when before I could barely go across town. I’m in a much better place and I’m happier now
Welcome back! I'm thinking about renting a dorm for next year at university, but I'm not sure because of anxiety, expecially for living with roommates. I don't know if I will be able to do that.
Thank you Emily :) ...taking each day as it comes at the moment! Just watched your next video, and it seems that this next step you took (moving out etc), really agrees with you :)
I was so excited to see a new video from you! You should do a tour of your flat since you’re all settled in now! Would love to see how you decorated, I’m sure it’s super cute!
Hellooo, so good to have you back. I discovered your videos when I first discovered The Blurt Foundation and was looking into subscribing to the monthly Buddy Box (which I have and LOVE) I watched your video of you opening yours. I really loved it and have been watching since. I suffer with Anxiety and can relate so much to what you say. I am 46 and it's taken years to realise and understand it. I was worried about you when you disappeared after your moving out video and so glad to see you back and doing so well. Thank you for what you do, keep doing it xxxx
When I moved out at 19 I was fine but after a while of realizing of being not financially secure I moved back but now at 24 almost 25 I’m a mess :’( I wanna go back to them because it’s what’s familiar but I want to try again on my own. And I’d didn’t move too far away. But I haven’t eaten in a day and ive been having a hard time sleeping unless my friend who I’m now living with was in the room too.
Im 32, I moved on my own for about a year, but decided to come back to my family. At first it was fine, but both of my brother and sister moved out on their own and now Im left with my parents. I have been thinking quite a lot about this, I used to be the one who is vocal about moving out, now I feel anxious thinking about it.
I have a question that's been troubling me for a while and I'm hoping you can help me :) I don't know if i'm shy or have anxiety. I'm overthinking about all the things all the time (about what could be, what was, what that person could have thought ...) I'm scared sometimes for no reason, when I'm just lying or i don't do anything, but i'm scared everytime I go to work or my phone rings because it's a possibility that somebody from work is calling me (but i like it there). I'm there for almost 1 year and I'm still not that close with my coworkers i just don't fit in... But i'm not scared of stranger if i know i won't see them again. I have only problems if i know i will see them again or that person knows somebody i know. It's much moreto say but it's allready too long. Sorry for my english.. i hope you will reply soon.:)
Hi While i cant diagnose anything it does sounds like it might be anxiety! I understand what you mean about getting worried around people you know, its very normal and sounds like it could be social anxiety! have a google search theres lots out there. I will make a video soon about social anxiety! You are brave and im sorry youre finding it hard at the moment! lots of peace and love
@@ananyamandal4252 Hey. After 4 years I can say that i have still same kind of worries. Still the same me. About the working place at that time, I quitted not long after a panic attack at work. But now I found a great job, where i don’t have to talk to so many people. I am doing good, accepting that thats just the way I am.. And i don’t feel the need to fit in anymore…I have still days or weeks where i am depressed but i think they will be almost completely gone in the near future, when i complete school, become independent and i am closer to accomplishing my life goals. Btw I am now 25 and working on a master degree and working an engineering job. My mother always says, that life is hard but you have to fight. I hope you are doing ok.
@@derpyhooves5603 thanks for sharing. I'm doing fine but sometimes I have some panic attacks which I have to deal by myself. I'm sure I will survive this. I'm 21 and working from last 3 years. I used to be outgoing I don't know how it changed. I'm proud to hear your story. Keep going🌼
I'm moving out alone from a roomate. But my parents are dead. I have no choice but ti be alone and its terrifyjng. Having no family. I'm as alone as you can be. I cannot just go back home. Its maddening.
Hey I know this video is pretty old like posted a few years ago but any help would be Appreciated… it’s not really the being by myself that’s the problem I love being on my own it’s all the bills and taking to the agency n all that ,that scares the living life out of me..I don’t know how to talk to people and that kinda stuff that I’m struggling with…
I am 22 and got a job at University as an assistant professor. So now I have to leave parent's house. I am scared and paranoid. Feeling terrible. I don't know how everything will turn out. My mom will come with me for a few days until I settle down and then she will go back. It's a far away place. So neither my parents nor me can travel to each other easily.
I know how you feel. I am staying in my apartment the first night today. It is so weird and feels so sad. I had to move because of university and my parents are living two hours away…
I'm 21 and I moved out from home a week ago. I've been living with my mom in a house all my life, and I have moved into an apartment.. I suffer from anxiety too, and every single time I hear a noise, I think it's someone trying to break in to rob me, rape me and kill me... It's just the neighbors, but my head doesn't realize that in the moment - sending me into a small panic attack every time. Some of my furniture hasn't arrived yet, and some is here but hadn't been assembled, so there's just a lot of big empty, cold space that doesn't feel like home. I feel like I don't have a home anymore. I'm hoping that things will get better soon since my anxiety has never been this active before... I'm just,,, exhausted
@tylersnead7639 It's been quite a while since I moved out now, almost two years actually.. a lot of things has gotten better, and it's started to feel more like home but still not quite.. I still get spooked easily whenever I hear rare or new sounds, but all the usual sounds I've gotten used to and those won't trigger my anxiety anymore luckily.. it's a long process but it's slowly getting better..
I really needed to hear this, thank you. Im 22 and the thought of being on my own fills me with existential dread, I've lived with family my whole life and worry constantly about if I'll be able to make it, I'm terrified at the idea of having to support myself when the day comes. I've dedicated myself to art and have little life skill.
Taking it slow and feeling it out is a great idea, I always imagined it was a one-and-done deal where you're out and that's it.
But you're right, it's a HUGE lifestyle change and can be overwhelming for anxious people in its unpredictability.
Still keeps me up at night, I feel like I'm running out of time to be young lol, the months pass by.
I think I'll be fine, but even the idea of living alone in an apartment scares the hell out of me.
I'm 36 and the thought makes me teary eyed right now. I will be moving out with my long time gf to a unit 1-2hrs away from home to be near our offices. We'll move in 2 weeks and I still feel so sad, crying inside but a little bit excited. Sadness is overtaking my excitement at the moment. Add to the fact that I can never or we can never stay in our parents house forever because we aren't rich and can't support them forever. All 36 years of my life I've been here and will go out in a matter of weeks.
Hey there! Felt like reaching out; I’m 25 and just moved out of my family’s house for the first time… in a city 6 hours away from my old home. Today’s my first day. I was absolutely flooded with anxiety the moment I stepped through the door and realized how much more difficult it would be for me mentally. One of the biggest things that really helped me was having people supporting me / helping me with the move, massive difference obviously; another that helped eased the anxiety was starting to get my stuff settled in (bed, paintings / photos, kitchen stuff, etc.). It really helps offload the anxiety bit by bit. Hope this helped!
I'm crying so much now and I'm only half way through your video. I'm moving out soon, and I have soooo much anxiety. And the part where you talk about going back to your parents house and staying as long as you like just helped me a lot. I thought it was wrong maybe that I was the only one thinking that whilst renting. Just have me some space in my head! Thanks ❤️
Lmao i just did the crying and imma grown ass 22 year old man. Its the attachment to my parents and siblings even though my relationship with my parents was toxic they still are my parents. This shit is crazy
KNOBL I feel you ! I haven’t moved out yet. And I wrote that comment a year ago. I feel I’ll break into thousands pieces if I do. But one day we will both move out. I believe in you 🙏🏼😁
@@rejham2304 I'm 20 and I moved out five days ago. I woke up the first three days with pretty bad anxiety, but on the fourth day, I barely had any anxiety, and having just woken up on the fifth day, I only had a little bit of anxiety. But I keep reminding myself why I moved out. I need to grow up, and evolve myself. I know deep down that I can't stay in my boy room for the rest of my life. How would that look like when I'm 30? I would have no skills in life, and I would be a massive train wreck of a person then.
And I also remind myself that while I have moved out (about 10-15 min car drive from old home), it's not like I won't ever see my parents again. My mom lives in the city, and my dad a couple of kilometers away with his new partner, and so I know that I can go there anytime I want. But I try to stay strong, and remind myself that this is for the best.
I really think you should take the leap forward. It will be hard at first, and you will have anxiety no matter what you do. But as you get settled in to your new home, as I feel I'm gradually doing, and as you have your family over to your new place, it makes it feel more homely, knowing they've been in your home, and perhaps helped you unpack, and that makes you feel safer.
In the end, this is all for your own personal development. You need to face this challenge at some point in your life, and while I think you shouldn't move out when you're too young, say 17-18, but around the 20 mark is a good start, even if you're not completely mature, which I certainly am not, but it will help you grow as a person and make you strong.
Sorry for rambling but it also felt good for me to get this off my chest.
Kejsarn av Portugallien I like your username. It sounds Norwegian or Sweden 😁 But wow you are so brave ! You should be so proud of yourself. I’m very happy for you. I am 31 lol. Still living at home. At the moment I’m looking for a place. I found a place a few months ago but things unfortunately didn’t go as they should. I know I have to move out. I feel motivated and scared as shit (sorry for my language). Thank you very much for your motivating reply! Means a lot to me. And I wish you all the best 🙏🏼💜
Omg me too.
This is what I’m scared of. I do want to be independent and able to progress in life on my own but at the same time I’m so scared of leaving my humble abode where I have been brought up since 2003!!! I’m scared I’m not going to like where I move or what my neighbours are like all that jazz. I feel nauseous about it sometimes but this video really really helps to overcome those barriers 🥰🥰. Thank you so much.
Have you moved out and are you doing ok?
Thank you for this video.i am 31 and today just got the keys to a flat to a new city. I literally had a panic attack once the agent left - this empty Building, new city and strangers. Knowing this is normal is so helpful.
I hope you have gotten settled and are enjoying the space.
How you doing now
@@handsomesquidward5160 better, thank you
I am 32 and moving out. I think what makes it harder for me is that I've lived with them for way longer than most people (most move out in their early 20s or mid 20s at the latest). We are too close now. If that makes sense at all.
@@Kya-Kitsune963 hey same feeling Im ready to move once i have my degree but feel that I took so long and its effected my progress. Good luck and vibes!
This is 2 years old but thank you for this.
Have you just moved out?
Im absoulotly terrifed of moving out. I have social anxiety and living alone seems bizzare and very uncomfortable for me.time to be an adult makes we want to cry (im almost 25)
Just do it
I'm 36 😹 tbh.... Wish I'd watched this mths ago. I put an offer on a condo.... And I need to decide in 2 days. Fml
Take it slow, save some money, make a close friend or get a pet, try renting out a hotel room for a day or two and stay alone so you get the feel, then just do it
Omg I’m so scared to move out for uni, I’m 21 now but I’ll be 22 in two months lol
my younger brother moved out at 18
i’m young and i’ve been living in this house since i was about 4 all of my memories are in this house. my grandpa passed away not to long ago and we might be moving into his house. his house is really nice and i would love to live there. but at the same time i don’t want to let go of the house we’re in now. please leave comments if you have anything that came to your mind reading this. :) thank you. and i hope you all have a wonderful morning, afternoon, or night. remember your beautiful. in and out 💜
Well, you've probably visited your grandpa many times, so you most likely have memories there, no? And you will be with your family. Everything comes to an end at some point. It will be hard, but you will get through it.
I’m so sorry for your loss lovely xxx
I'm moving out this week and in with my boyfriend who I've been with for 7 years but I have so much anxiety about the move to the point I nearly got sick.
At least u have a bf...im single foreverrr and with my social anxiety?! There isnt even an option for me to be with someone.also im gay.and moving with someone u know is easier rather than moving alone.
@@whynot7802 I have anxiety, autism, and a bunch of other problems plus I'm asexual. If I can find love then I'm sure you can too ❤
@@bezelleblanc2580 how did it go!!! Me n bf are also 7 years and I need to move out!
I wish I saw this sooner. I made the mistake of making the decision to move out out of anger, frustration and annoyance when I got into a fight with my mom. Also from the pressure of society saying I should be moved out by now (I’m 26). I’ve only been in my new place for almost a week and I’m basically crying every single day. I miss home. I feel like I’ve made a giant mistake.
Stay strong. You made the right decision. It will work out at the end.
Sounds very scary 😟. Hope you are doing well
I’m 39 years old going on 40
How do you feel now? I am in the same situation right now and people keep telling me that it needs time and that most of the people are crying and things like that in the first weeks... I wanted to keep on since it had been my wish to move out, but since I am here I just want to go back and keep getting anxious and start crying
@@iloveyeshua8096 I definitely feel a lot better now, and am happy with the decision that was made. Signed another year lease to be where I’m at again. Definitely make the place your own if you haven’t yet, put things up on the walls, decorate in things that make you happy. I was putting off doing that in the beginning and once I started I feel like it started easing some. Talk to those you can trust and be open with, support from friends or close coworkers can really be helpful as well. I ended up getting a cat at the end of the first month I was here. She helped A LOT. I was use to having pets at my family’s so I think coming home to an empty space was also negatively effecting me. She was giving me a reason to come home to my place every night. She’d run up and greet me every time I came home, still does🥺 I’m sorry you’re going through it, it’s mentally and physically draining. I felt like I was mourning the loss of a chapter in my life if that makes sense? Adjusting to a new norm can be really hard, but It will be okay, things do get better🤍 I hope this helps in some way, if even a little.
This video is so valuable! I have anxiety and it brings me to tears seeing that there are other poeple out there and know and understand what its like! I cant tell if in not ready or its just my anxiety holding me back :/
You’re ready. It’s just normal
I want to cry everytime I go to my boyfriends for a sleepover as I am terrified of something happening to my parents and sister, I’m staying over my boyfriends tomorrow night and the night after and want to cry, I’m an INCREDIBLY anxious person, I have severe social anxiety, and my home is my only safe place, my boyfriend is like “come on, you have to get used to it” “you can’t stay here forever” I’m COMPLETELY overwhelmed at the thought of being away from my family and my ONLY safe space
Hi, I probably have to move out soon because of university and I am so overwhelmed. Are you over this anxiety by now?
Thanks in advance
very good advice....i did lots of those things when i moved.....now im having to move again and im dreading it,having depression doesnt help
I'm moving out and going to live with my best friend. I'm not going to he alone, but I'm leaving my mum, cat and brother behind and that hurts immensely. I feel anxious and stressed, it almost even feels depressed. But your video helps me, so thank you ❤
Me too, try meditating about it when you’re feeling anxious. That helps me
How is it going 2 full years later
this video is so perfect and authentic. i've been struggling with this (just turned 24 and thinking of moving out) and this video has helped me so much more than anything. love your content and love you please keep posting about living and functioning with anxiety. When you said "making dinner on your own" it seems like a regular thing but it's such a thing when you have anxiety to imagine yourself in different situations in your new hypothetical living environment. This video made me feel really seen. Thank you so much Emily
the second point is really good advice. now i'm paying a mortgage i've probably been pressuring myself to stay at my house and make the most of my money etc. I need to realise its okay for me to leave open the possibility of going back to my parents for a day or two, especially if i end up in a mental state where i'm not capable of looking after myself. thank you
I Appreciate This Video So Much. It’s My First Night At My Own Place And Theres Been None Stop Tears Of Anxiety. Which Is Weird Because When I Moved Out At 18 With My Bf I Didn’t Feel Like This.. Thank You!
Thank you so much for this. I am determined to move out in a few months once I’ve saved a little. I have anxiety as well. I know it’s time for me to move because I cannot stop thinking about it. I’m ready to move to the next stage of life. Thanks for the air b n b tip I know that will help a bunch. I’m so glad I ran across your channel.
Saved 100k and I’m still too scared and anxious
That impressive. All I know it will be worth it in the end to be away from toxic parents and family
Thank you for this! You put it so simple and frankly... It is exactly how I'm feeling. I'm at my new place now but only for the day and I have started to feel a bit anxious as the sun went down and I find myself all alone... Your video kept me company :)
I'm moving out soon and I'm so nervous and scared cause I don't know how I'll cope. I also normally feel so anxious and kinda depressed when the sun sets and I fear that I'm going to struggle a lot with this situation. How did you get used to it?
I suffer from panick attacks for years
I am moving out I'm having huge anxiety I'm so used to coming home to my parents feel comfortable there with them
I am moving out tomorrow morning and i am scared because alot needs to be done in the new flat i am coming out of support living and going into my own flat not good at moving out of places i been in foster care from a young age and moved all my life
A very comfy video. :)
I'm an 18-year-old student moving out tomorrow and I definitely feel like I'm not exactly ready for it yet. Sadly I don't have a choice, and although I'm pretty introverted the first weeks will probably feel lonely and almost depressive. As long as all the financial stuff gets done I'm sure I'll survive. I just need to start making the house more homey month by month!
I love 4 minutes away, and it’s mine & my boyfriends second night in our apartment… I’m absolutely SOBBING because I miss my mom, who I just saw today and she’s coming over tomorrow.
That makes me scared to move out of my parents house 🏡 at age 39 going on 40
I am 32 and moving out. I think what makes it harder for me is that I've lived with them for way longer than most people (most move out in their early 20s or mid 20s at the latest). We are too close now. If that makes sense at all.
So glad to see you back! Your videos really help me navigate the whole anxiety thing, thank you!
thanks, thats really great to hear
testing it out is actually a great idea! i stayed in an airbnb alone and i noticed that i loved it during the day, but it could get a little scary at night. and it helped me realize that i’d probably feel more secure in a one bedroom rather than a studio so i can i have a locked door at night separate from the rest of the place.
So glad to see you back and thanks so much for making this video. I’m graduating from uni this summer and sadly because of the way my career path goes I am having to move three hours away from home :(
Sadly I don’t really have a choice to move back home but I will be trying your tips out xxx
i have a good feeling, the things is you can only try your best
lots of love
Emily Rose Thanks love! Hope I transition to life as an independent woman 😂 Glad you’re settling well x
Hafsah Kumbay how are you fairing so far?
I hate living in my country. the culture is not my own, the salaries are not up to my skills, and I just don't connect to people as often as I would someplace else. I actually had a few trips where I visited places, the first time I ever traveled by airplane was to Amsterdam and I have stayed there alone for 10 days. I did catch myself call home a lot. I think this is the most scary part for me. My family. I want to move to Europe for school and me being 20 I need my own space. I had a home test for my current Uni and I could hear my parents downstairs. it's very annoying, but I fear i'll miss them and or miss out from happy moments with them, like birthdays and holidays. they all are not in love with our country, like I don't, but they won't move with me even though as far as visa's go we are legitable.
Im in a situation where im 21 & I know I won’t be welcomed back because im apparently to old to be living with my mom even though I supply myself with all my needs. But im still stressed because this has to be my last time moving out because I don’t want to be a failure & for it to be predicted that I’ll have to come back to my hometown 🥺😓but I know me leaving is the right thing so I can get out of my depression and start living my life
I've been living with my mother for 24 years and I finally moved out and I am absolutely terrified. Being away from her for long periods of time feels strange and uncomfortable and the uncertainty of whether or not I'm going to make it on my own. If you know me personally, you'd know that I eat A LOT. My anxiety has been so bad since I've moved out that I can barely eat. My mother and I love each other but we have a complicated relationship so it was healthier for me to move out because of better boundaries , but its so scary
please dont make fun of me, I have Aspergers and my Anxitey is threw the roof and have been crying just because im kinda scared to move out and be MYSELF and im 31 but knowing that all the stuff i have to deal with living alone FREAKS me out and beeing lonely, I got my own appartment buuut my stuff is still at my parents apparentment because everytime i thinking about move my stuff over there my anxiety kick is and want to cry, it feels wrong to live at home at 31 just because almost everyone moves out when they are 20-30, plus i found out that someone have died in the appartment im renting, i feel so uncomfortable knowing that and I have no idea what to do... and please dont make fun of me
i really hope you have managed to progress to being ok in your own place..it can be horrifying..my anxiety and depression is ramping up bcos i may have to move flat..i love this place and im catastrophising all the time
Defo going too try the staying in a Airbnb thing first so I can get a feel of how it will be this is so great x
thank you! you gave me more confidence about moving out by myselfe!
Right now I’m struggling with agoraphobia, and I’m scared about being on my own, and it’s manifested into a really bad anxiety disorder. And I know I need to move out soon because I graduate next year and I really want to be independent.
How are you doing now ?
@@brittanyjones8488 aww omg it’s so nice of you to reply. I’m come such a long way since that comment. Before I could barely leave the house from panic attacks and I would have tons of panic attacks I was in a bad place and super scared all the time. Now I can leave the house and only get a bit anxious, I rarely have panic attacks now. I was able to go on a trip that involved 6 hours of driving when before I could barely go across town. I’m in a much better place and I’m happier now
YAY I’M GLAD YOU’RE BACK EMILY
Welcome back! I'm thinking about renting a dorm for next year at university, but I'm not sure because of anxiety, expecially for living with roommates. I don't know if I will be able to do that.
all you can do is give it a try! i really think you can do it!
lots of peace
Great to see you again Emily - I've been thinking of you and wondering how the move into your flat, and this next part of your life, was going! :)
awwwww how sweet :)!!! I hope youre doing well
Thank you Emily :) ...taking each day as it comes at the moment! Just watched your next video, and it seems that this next step you took (moving out etc), really agrees with you :)
I was so excited to see a new video from you! You should do a tour of your flat since you’re all settled in now! Would love to see how you decorated, I’m sure it’s super cute!
ill need to keep it tidy for more than five minutes hahaha
Emily Rose I feel you girl, lol.
Catlain Marie YES what a cracking idea, a flat tour would be great xx
This is the most helpful video I’ve seen so far omg
Hellooo, so good to have you back. I discovered your videos when I first discovered The Blurt Foundation and was looking into subscribing to the monthly Buddy Box (which I have and LOVE) I watched your video of you opening yours. I really loved it and have been watching since. I suffer with Anxiety and can relate so much to what you say. I am 46 and it's taken years to realise and understand it. I was worried about you when you disappeared after your moving out video and so glad to see you back and doing so well. Thank you for what you do, keep doing it xxxx
When I moved out at 19 I was fine but after a while of realizing of being not financially secure I moved back but now at 24 almost 25 I’m a mess :’( I wanna go back to them because it’s what’s familiar but I want to try again on my own. And I’d didn’t move too far away. But I haven’t eaten in a day and ive been having a hard time sleeping unless my friend who I’m now living with was in the room too.
I’m moving out in a year or 2 so I’ll be 35 or 36 by the time I move out feel so old moving out at that age
Im 32, I moved on my own for about a year, but decided to come back to my family. At first it was fine, but both of my brother and sister moved out on their own and now Im left with my parents. I have been thinking quite a lot about this, I used to be the one who is vocal about moving out, now I feel anxious thinking about it.
I'm 24 with a lot Anxiety and my parents are kicking me out of the house
I have a question that's been troubling me for a while and I'm hoping you can help me :) I don't know if i'm shy or have anxiety. I'm overthinking about all the things all the time (about what could be, what was, what that person could have thought ...) I'm scared sometimes for no reason, when I'm just lying or i don't do anything, but i'm scared everytime I go to work or my phone rings because it's a possibility that somebody from work is calling me (but i like it there). I'm there for almost 1 year and I'm still not that close with my coworkers i just don't fit in... But i'm not scared of stranger if i know i won't see them again. I have only problems if i know i will see them again or that person knows somebody i know. It's much moreto say but it's allready too long.
Sorry for my english.. i hope you will reply soon.:)
Hi
While i cant diagnose anything it does sounds like it might be anxiety!
I understand what you mean about getting worried around people you know, its very normal and sounds like it could be social anxiety! have a google search theres lots out there. I will make a video soon about social anxiety! You are brave and im sorry youre finding it hard at the moment!
lots of peace and love
Hey Derpy! I'm feeling the same. Please let me know how you made it work.
@@ananyamandal4252 Hey. After 4 years I can say that i have still same kind of worries. Still the same me. About the working place at that time, I quitted not long after a panic attack at work. But now I found a great job, where i don’t have to talk to so many people. I am doing good, accepting that thats just the way I am.. And i don’t feel the need to fit in anymore…I have still days or weeks where i am depressed but i think they will be almost completely gone in the near future, when i complete school, become independent and i am closer to accomplishing my life goals. Btw I am now 25 and working on a master degree and working an engineering job.
My mother always says, that life is hard but you have to fight. I hope you are doing ok.
@@derpyhooves5603 thanks for sharing. I'm doing fine but sometimes I have some panic attacks which I have to deal by myself. I'm sure I will survive this. I'm 21 and working from last 3 years. I used to be outgoing I don't know how it changed. I'm proud to hear your story. Keep going🌼
I'm moving out alone from a roomate. But my parents are dead. I have no choice but ti be alone and its terrifyjng. Having no family. I'm as alone as you can be. I cannot just go back home. Its maddening.
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I just found this video by accident and it was helpful I'm buying my first condo soon so I will be moving out soon.
You are so pretty, and I love your accent 🥰😍🥰😍
You're giving good tips here. Thank you for this.
I just moved from Glasgow to Cumbria on my own today and I absolutely hate it 😩 I couldn’t afford to keep my flat so I had no choice ☹️
This came at the perfect time xx
I'm moving out with my fiance in 2 months or so and even right now I'm having fits of anxiety
So excited to see a new vid! =-D Another goodun Emily! xxx
thanks alison!!!
Hey I know this video is pretty old like posted a few years ago but any help would be Appreciated… it’s not really the being by myself that’s the problem I love being on my own it’s all the bills and taking to the agency n all that ,that scares the living life out of me..I don’t know how to talk to people and that kinda stuff that I’m struggling with…
love this! looking super fit btw
oh you!!!
I’m moving out of my parents tomorrow I know it’s what I want but IM SO NERVOUS 😬 IM AFRAID OF EVERYTHING GOING WRONG 😑
thank you for this
I am 22 and got a job at University as an assistant professor. So now I have to leave parent's house. I am scared and paranoid. Feeling terrible.
I don't know how everything will turn out. My mom will come with me for a few days until I settle down and then she will go back. It's a far away place. So neither my parents nor me can travel to each other easily.
I know how you feel. I am staying in my apartment the first night today. It is so weird and feels so sad. I had to move because of university and my parents are living two hours away…
thumbs up hun nice too see u back 🤗 xx
thanks :) xxx
🤗 xx
funny im putting so much pressure on myself im having a fucking heart attack its awful
Thanks Emily tomorrow is my flight I am missing my mom now only it's a big step
You look happy
love that u test it ahead but u cant always come back
I’m going to be moving out soon I’m buying my first place I’m scared
I’m also moving town
Emily!! Hello my dear, nice to see you x
nice to see you lizzie!
Are you the one with the bbc article up about anxiety
Thnx!
Hi. I missed you.
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I'm 21 and I moved out from home a week ago. I've been living with my mom in a house all my life, and I have moved into an apartment.. I suffer from anxiety too, and every single time I hear a noise, I think it's someone trying to break in to rob me, rape me and kill me... It's just the neighbors, but my head doesn't realize that in the moment - sending me into a small panic attack every time.
Some of my furniture hasn't arrived yet, and some is here but hadn't been assembled, so there's just a lot of big empty, cold space that doesn't feel like home. I feel like I don't have a home anymore.
I'm hoping that things will get better soon since my anxiety has never been this active before... I'm just,,, exhausted
It will subside in due time. I know exacly how you feel! esp the breaking in part. How are you doing now ?
@tylersnead7639 It's been quite a while since I moved out now, almost two years actually.. a lot of things has gotten better, and it's started to feel more like home but still not quite.. I still get spooked easily whenever I hear rare or new sounds, but all the usual sounds I've gotten used to and those won't trigger my anxiety anymore luckily.. it's a long process but it's slowly getting better..