I just moved to South Korea as an english teacher and have been panicking, grieving, all while being excited to be here. I’m SO glad to have found this video as a sense of comfort as to my experience. I’ve only been here for one week and its been maddening. I resonated with, “i was longing and excited for change, but now that’s its actually happening, it’s so difficult.” God gives us strength.
You have been blessed with the opportunity of not only living the adventure of experiencing a new country and culture but to add value to the lives of others while teaching a second language . South Korea is a beautiful and interesting country, take full advantage of that adventure. I got the feeling you will be fine and little by little everything will get into place. I wish all the best. God bless you. 🦋
I moved to S Korea to teach as well. Years ago. I panicked once I arrived but I eventually chose to embrace it. And once I did, fell in love with it. Give yourself time and the opportunity to learn a new place. It’s been a year since your post, so prayerfully you’re better! I lived in traditional Korea my 1st year, Jeongeup, and my second year , Jeonju.
@@grateful1929 Thank you for asking! I am better now, suited into my place, but I think that is natural. We become so familiar with our surroundings, we absorb ourselves in them and then our anxieties decrease. I think once you get a better grasp on the nature of transition and moving forward and keeping a positive mindset, the woes of a new location won't be so overbearing.
@@fluentinsilence I'm so glad you're better. I sincerely mean that. I suffer with anxiety and I have taking medicine for it for 22 years. I'm an older woman (64) and I'm praying about moving by two of my kids. 5 hours away but still in the state of Georgia. I grew up in this small Georgia town. I did leave when I was 11 but I moved back when I was 20. I know so many people and I'm very fearful of leaving what I've known for almost all of my life. All of my children used to live in this town but they've all moved. Although I have friends and I still work I miss my kids. They want me to move up there by them. It is beautiful where they live. North Georgia mountains everywhere. I just cannot imagine waking up and going into town for my coffee and not seeing so many people I know. I am very friendly and I make friends very easily. I am just afraid I will get so homesick and here I have uprooted and moved away. It is only 5 hours away and I could always move back home but that would be a chore. I don't get to see them very much even though it's 5 hours away. I do work Monday through Friday and by the time I drive 5 hours there and 5 hours back home I've spent 10 hours just on the road. Actually it takes me five and a half to 6 hours to get there because I stopped several times. I take my dogs and they have to potty. Also I raised a granddaughter she is now 20 and she goes with me. She has Asperger's and she is a blessing. I did not mean to tell you my whole life story lol!!! 😊🤷
@@grateful1929 I can understand how anxious it can be to be in unfamiliar surroundings around people you don't recognize or know but on the whole, most people are pretty decent. Give them a chance and allow yourself a chance and people are politely welcoming. Keep in touch with those that are close to you as friendships requiring nurturing (on both parts, don't do all the 'work').
I just moved to Canada days ago from a small town in Oklahoma and it has been a lot tougher than I honestly thought this was going to be. Every single time I go grocery shopping I don’t know where anything is at, I don’t recognize any brands, not to mention just all the people everywhere. The lack of sleep due to the high anxiety. I needed to hear this before I snapped. 😅 Best wishes to everyone going through change.
Grocery shopping has been a trigger for me. I’ve decided to order my groceries through Wal-Mart pickup, helped so much with being overwhelmed by all of the people.
Make it your Dream place. Create the life you live. New is growth. A more you. Post to help others as you learn. Go on line plan special meals. Write on a journal. A Great cook book cook.😊 Love the Life you live. Word now is Happy. Put things out sayings a picture walk through your growth. Enjoy the journey.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I just moved from a big city to a small city and it has been so difficult adjusting to everything. I am learning everyday to let go, focus on what is before me and to fully embrace it the experience.
I recently moved from Seattle area to WI to be closer to family. The feelings I’d loss recently hit me like a truck full of bricks about a week ago. I’m sure changing seasons from summer to fall and slowly going into winter…longer, colder, and darker days haven’t helped. You posted this two months ago. How are you feeling now? I moved from WA in July. Just now started to feel this way.
I needed this Video more than anything I have just moved and I thought I was going mad the only one feeling like I’m grieving panic attacks the feeling of dread and wtf have I done I’ve lost sight of what I even did the move for this has given me hope it is a phase I am going to get professional help this week also , thank you x
Same here. Sold my appartment and moved to another part of the country all alone. Feeling like I lost my shiny energetic cheerful me. Waves of depression. Sudden feelings of doubts and regrets. Torturing myself that my appartment was perfect in a wanted location in an international city. Now living in a smaller town with much water and green. The profit of the sold appt is now spent on renovation in the new house. Bigger house. Big bedroom. I wake up sad and feeling alone. I know I will be okay bc I went through bigger things like violence in my old appartment. Working from home, I always enjoyed it. I love freedom and being on my own but lately... I lost all of that. I cry and I keep getting thoughts like: the new kitchen would look so great in my appartment kitchen... I could have done this or that. Also I was pretty ok being single but after moving I registered on a dating site bc I don't want to live alone anymore and it started after the change of location.... I try to run, cycle and walk but last month I even didn't want to go outside and I am normally really attached to fresh air and physical exercise. I also coach myself by telling me that there are no wrong choices. It's not the end of the world. Paid off my debts Etc. Negative voice telling me: why did I do this unnecessarily change, what did I do to myself? I have moved enough in my life from childhood till I bought my safe appartment. It feels like my old appartment is a person that I have given away to a stranger, the buyer 😔 The city I lived in has very high prices so its almost impossible to go back. Time will heal but I also tell myself that if I remain feeling unhappy after one full year I will see this house as a project. Life is short and its mine. I do feel encouraged by the words that it makes us stronger. Often formed life long friendships? Not for me, I guess. I live here six months, I've met one lady that I thought could become a friendly connection but she started to harrass me by knocking on my window (she knew my address bc she's a post package deliverer) That's when I again missed my appartment on third floor with privacy.. I try to look at the positive sides to but I do feel more negative emotions than before.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 hi hun that’s exactly how I felt I gave away all my furniture in my bedroom bought new stuff then when I got to the new house I didn’t recognise my bedroom anymore it really freeked me out , I felt totally the same that I gave my home away and someone else had it now , but I wasn’t happy there i was sick with ptsd but didn’t care when I moved here I just wanted it back I would cry even throw up . I forgot why I moved I lost sight of it all ...the 50 miles I moved away felt like I moved to the moon. Honestly time does heal the unfortunate side to time is it takes time 🤦🏼♀️. Try focus on the reason you moved write a list of all the good things even to the tiniest detail put it on your fridge and play music you love while reading it out loud that will reinforce the negative emotions about the home . Don’t take one crazy lady as all it has you offer you will meet new people , go online and look for local groups see if there a local facebook group etc . I’m in the uk and we are in lockdown so I havnt been able to meet anyone either. I can’t go bank either and my god I pined so much for my old life , it wasn’t even a life but we are humans and humans like familiarity and over time it will be your familiarity! And the pining and comparing negatively will pass , also you could frost your windows half way or one way film to allow you adjust ive just done that to my kitchen as like you I had a apartment now I have a house with windows the world can look in it’s really helped to have that privacy back , I wish you all the best ...drop me a message if your ever struggling and watch this video every day with earphones at night that’s also what I did to reinforce by decision and remember wtf I did it for xx
A update I posted 2 months ago I was in a bad way waking up with dread about why I had moved I forgot everything I did it for as anxiety had taken over ...2 months later everything she said was right the cracks joined again and what felt unfamiliar became familiar and less painful humans are creatures of habit and comfort and moving out of that can as with me totally turn you upside down ..keep persevering don’t be hard on yourself it’s very real how you feel so don’t feel a failure ...as you become familiar with the surroundings , smells etc and all the things that are new and now may scare you it will stop and settle and you look back and think god what was that all about ! Be kind to yourself take it easy as the mind adjusts so will you xx
Mrs Foss you have spoken into my soul. It has been the most challenging and painful past few days for me. I have moved to Scotland from my home in Florida, U.S. to pursue my dreams in acting school. Every piece you touched on I could relate to, and through hearing your words I have felt healing enter my heart. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and truth and experience. I copied down your final points word for word. You speak with such intention, thoughtfulness, and love. Thank you for this gift. Thank you.
Sending greatings and best wishes from Florida. Don't be discouraged, keep pressing on. I have relocated several times in my life and all what Mrs Foss says is true, it will get better. I will be moving from Florida in the near future to another state so I'm so glad I found this encouraging video. God Bless you and keep looking forward.
Thank you so much. I can’t say how helpful this is ❤️ We have just moved (only across town) 2 weeks ago & the children have to move schools in the new year. We built a beautiful new home & we are even still close enough for family to visit on weekends... But I was feeling an intangible irritation, exhaustion & sadness. My daughters are feeling it too & my husband not so much. There isn’t the same nice restaurants etc around but the beach is nearby. Time for creating new memories - I don’t quite have the energy to do a lot yet ; but I will try to build upon each day.
@@june9775 Im grateful, some days are still hard but I wouldn't trade my freedom for it. Ive learned to love my alone time and connect more with myself. Thanks for asking!:)
I really needed to listen to this. I moved to Sydney 2 months ago. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions. I've felt incredibly anxious at points about money and a place to stay...things are slowly starting to look up, but it has been unbearably challenging at times.
Thank you so much. All the confusion I felt before watching your presentation and submitting my resignation letter vanished! I am so glad I found you, the content of your presentation planted a seed in my mind and heart. I am no longer afraid about moving.
Can't describe how much i need this today! Thank you!! praying that all those who move find peace and happiness, and can transition smoothly during the tough phase :)
Moved to London , 20 years ago , alone and not knowing language at age 18z slept in parks ate from left overs in the bins but now I bought my own flat in London. Haven’t seen my family for 20 years, I promised to help them to see my mum but it was abit late when I had money to do so they were all gone. Don’t know how to cope with the pain of not seeing my family and friends for 20years. I still call my mum sometimes as I forget they are dead. All these you said are true, the feelings the moments you want to give up and a lot of other mix emotions, not easy at all, I like how you expressed the pains and the way to deal with them even though it is very very difficult to cope but not impossible.
I needed this! I have felt so weak and disgusted with myself for constantly cry and feeling intense guilt over leaving my parents, sister and friends behind to move to Canada. I haven't left yet but I am second guessing my decision, fighting demotivation and moving towards depression as my move date draws near. The initial excitement and hope I had as I applied to leave has completely left me and I struggle to remember why i wanted to leave. Any reason I come up with doesn't seem valid enough to leave everything and everyone behind. But this helps. Its good to know that these feelings are not unique to me and I am not alone.
@Michael we are together in this Michael. Where are you moving to if you don't mind me asking. Update: I'm actually dealing with the move a little better - some days. I have found that it is better to think of it as an adventure. Every adventure had twists and turns. This move for you will be exciting, filled with new experiences and people and lots of fun. You'd wonder why you hadn't moved earlier as you take a nervous step closer to who you want to be and the life you want. Wishing you the very best. If you never try, you'll never know.
So glad i found this. Ive been very sad and depressed to move out of state. I have no option to stay as my new hubbys job is taking us to new state. My kids are grown and on their own. I will miss them bad. I will embrace the new as i get on plane to new destination. May we all move forward in our own pace and be happy as ever despite new changes.
I have relocated between countries a few times. It's always scary, but when looking back after a while, it's not. It was all worth it. I am preparing for my most remote relocation yet. Once again, I am scared and anxious.
I went online looking for help after doing a big moving and feeling unexpected relocation anxiety. I initially blamed it on my roommates disorganized home life but I now see I would still have felt disastrously out of place even if I had gotten my own place. This has helped a lot to put things in perspective.
Relocating from Fort Collins to Denver, CO. Moving to Denver for work opportunities and adventure. I’m very excited, but the depression set in today that I am leaving my home for the last 6 years. I’m heartbroken… this literally hurts worse than a break up. I had no idea it would feel like this. Thank you for this video. It makes me feel so much better to know I’m not alone
I’ve been living here for 3 years. I feel like a plant being ripped out of a pot i just got used to. It’s deteriorating my already worsening mental health. It feels like my life is ending.
I always love the dutch directness style of honesty holding nothing back. I appreciate the sharing of potential reasonable experiences. I am only halfway through so far. I have to say as a person in the serious stages of starting over this video has given me something to consider more deeply. I may offer my brother a great incentive to join and support me. My goals involve pursuing a new wonderful career in a beautiful location and making fullfilling relationships with people etc....still isolation...lonliness..unhappiness...discontent...are some of the reasons I need to relocate so I will consider everything without doubt in end.
I moved about a year and a half ago and while I tried to stick it out I’ve decided to move back home. I just miss friends and family too much. I’m grateful for learning what’s really important to me. I can see the argument this speaker is making on staying the course but I also think it’s about what’s important to you.
I regret selling my house..I can’t go back. Houses have gone up too much and I can’t afford the are any more..if I only knew then what I know now. I had 15 years left to pay off my house
I moved to a new country. The first three months are the hardest. You experience feelings that you can’t even understand and are so uncomfortable you want to hide under the covers. All people I have spoken to who moved told me it would pass and I didn’t believe them but they were right. Clench your teeth and get through the first three months. See a therapist if possible. It DOES pass and quickly. You will emerge a stronger person, if that is any consolation. But it isn’t just you. You aren’t crazy or weak. It’s incredibly common. Just don’t make major decisions during this time. Stay in it.
I just moved from Boston MA to Houston TX .. leaving everything behind moving here with my pregnant girlfriend. It’s been a month now and the depression is really hitting till now. A pot of mixed emotions and overwhelming feelings
@@nicolebermudez4855 You must be a Texan. Only a Texan would call Texas pretty. Houston, Beaumont, Port Arthur, Bay City, Brownsville, etc. are some of the ugliest, most "life-demotivating" places in the Western world.
This is so helpful. There’s so much information in this presentation of which I can definitely relate to. There’s so much to say, but one thing that resonates is the need to move is due to the need to feel contorted with a new idea of self.
Same here.. I left my peace of mind and basic contentment in my old place. Bless you hope your feeling better already. I declare we will grow out of this phase and rise above with helicopter view!
I recently moved to a new city, where i don't know the local launguage. I feel so much anxiety and stress that i could not even sleep. I couldn't even focus on my work and i keep thinking about what a mistake i have made... I really needed to watch this, i hope everything changes soon...
This resonates with me. I am moving to Metro Manila from Mindanao. I am so sad because I will be leaving my dogs temporarily until I save up for their relocation too. Thanks for this, I am continuing this adventure 🥹
I love and long for change. I get tired of the same old same old streets, downtown, and places. I been here in the NOLA area far from the downtown for nearly 5 years and I was ready to leave before 1 year was up.
When you move to a new city and you're in your new apt. or house, it feels so strange that you will probably cry. I've relocated several times - each place was not exactly what I wanted. Now I've been wanting to relocate for 3-4 years and I find myself scared to death - scared I'll run out of money and go homeless. Scared I won't be able to find a apt to rent. I'm on the voucher program and it's 1 big pain in the rear to move on the voucher program. You're stuck with no place to go back to if something goes wrong. And motel costs have gone up a lot. I'm in the NOLA area - I'm not sure where to try to move to.
We sold our house in Fl because my husband wanted to move to North Carolina, was tired of his current job, missed his friends and family…. Its been 5 months and i still can’t adjust. We used to live in NC years ago and moved to Fl because that is where I felt at home but my husband did not. Since he is the main provider, I followed his decision to move our family to NC. It was a struggle staying with family members because the initial job offer he got was not legit and did not work out. Now he found a stable but the school system is different and the cold weather is getting to me. I still cant adjust…I dont want my kids to suffer because we keep moving…
I loved moving to Florida, felt safe knowing I had family to count on if I needed it, but I don't, moving back home was horrible, zero support from a family at one point in my life I thought was the greatest, even my daughter could careless, but no pitty parties here, as soon as I can I'm out of here. This time will be different though because I will know my family really sucks.
This is so beautiful. I lost my sleep and have no idea how I made it through the 1st months! I also had no idea it was gonna happen! Otherwise, I wouldn't have left! I still sometimes think I should go back, but I am having fun now and it would be a shame to leave and not trust the women I know was unhappy who left
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It would be great to know how this turned out for you 5 years later. I am about to move to Cape Town, voluntarily after a divorce. I feel terrified. I love the 'looking in the mirror and recognizing that you are there with yourself.'
Im moving to Cardiff from Manchester in September to persuit a masters degree - im incredibly nervous but also excited as its a city never even visited before. Not sure now to perceive these emotions 😢
I just moved out of my moms house and I feel terrible. I know what I’m doing is good for me but my heart is broken that I can’t be with her everyday now. I love her so much. Funny fact is that I’m only 20 min away and my roommate is a friend of mine but it doesn’t make it any more easy.
I'm moving out of my dream state/home end of month. Feeling all kinds of emotions about, moving alone out of home I thought would be forever home but divorce has changed things for me. I'm really scared at the moment as I'm moving to another state alone.
I just moved home and I was so excited before but now I'm grieving and I feel strange like I'm in the wrong home taking the wrong bus going in the wrong direction.
I feel you, I lived in Germany for 2.5 years ,moved there all by myself and had the best experience of my life being completely independent. I decided to go back home to study but ever since I moved back I gradually got more and more depressed and demotivated to the point im second guessing my decision to even stay here and I'm seriously considering moving back to Germany as I feel isolated and out of place in the place I grew up in and once called home
Thank you for sharing, its been hard relocating to new city but your advice is helpful. As you like to swim as one of the activities, I like to train and go for a run it helps a lot. Stay strong all it will get better 🙂. Cheers Naqi Changezi
Good video, I have lived in my new home since April now and I have really struggled. I had a 2 month stress breakdown where I couldn’t stop crying because I moved in whilst still on furlough and my partner worked night shift at the time so he was always sleeping during the day and I was alone at night. It got a bit better after a shift change and I started going back to work but I still don’t feel like this place is my home because all my family and friends and the places I know are further away. I had yet another breakdown at simply getting lost whilst driving the other night because the only junction I know to drive was closed. Am I being silly or is this normal. My partner has been completely fine with everything, he moved in by himself 2 years before he met me and every time I ask him how he found it he says he was fine
Hey how are you now? It sounds relatable and normal to me. My partner is also very practical and resilient and didn’t have any trouble with our move. Which makes it feel harder when you do. But it’s normal! And it’s very tough if you’re there alone when your partner is on a different schedule.
@@MsEvaonAir hi Eva, I'm doing a lot better now. Really settled in and enjoying where I live now. I have a couple of exercise clubs that I go to which I really missed during covid due to the close of everything. My head is finally sorted out thankfully. Hope you are feeling better as well and doing good?
@@sarahstewart4693 Hi Sarah, I have also had anxiety attacks while driving in our new place which has led me to not going out very much. I fear getting lost, can't deal with all the traffic here. It is good to know that you are doing better. Hopefully I will feel that at some point also.
I feel alone and scared in my new house. Even though I’m not because I moved her with my partner. And it’s so close to my previous house, I moved just outside of my city and it’s so close to visit. Which makes it all harder because I’m unconsciously so hard on myself for feeling this way.
im dreading having to move,,i have a mood disorder and anxiety and im already catastrophising about where im going to live,how to move all my stuff,as well as financial fears, mostly im worried about my mood going through the floor
Blocks are gone there are no blocks it's you they have been removed. Stop the mind set your doing get up live dream create your new life. Life is picture you create you live. What your life look like create this time in life new picture.
Im moving to Cardiff from Manchester in September to persuit a masters degree - im incredibly nervous but also excited as its a city never even visited before. Not sure now to perceive these emotions 😢
Who else is watching who is relocated to a new place? Wish you all a smooth journey
Did you hit gym and get shreds?
Just moved to a bigger city and I thought I'd feel excitement but I just keep panicking and crying. Hope that changes soon!! 😳
How are you feeling now? I hope you feel better!
try calming things, like tea and/or ashwaghanda
Hoping you've adjusted.
Mee too
Just saw this. It now says a year ago. It will be lovely to know how are things 1 year later. Do share
I just moved to South Korea as an english teacher and have been panicking, grieving, all while being excited to be here. I’m SO glad to have found this video as a sense of comfort as to my experience. I’ve only been here for one week and its been maddening. I resonated with, “i was longing and excited for change, but now that’s its actually happening, it’s so difficult.” God gives us strength.
You have been blessed with the opportunity of not only living the adventure of experiencing a new country and culture but to add value to the lives of others while teaching a second language . South Korea is a beautiful and interesting country, take full advantage of that
adventure. I got the feeling you will be fine and little by little everything will get into place. I wish all the best. God bless you. 🦋
How are you now Brittany?
I moved to S Korea to teach as well. Years ago. I panicked once I arrived but I eventually chose to embrace it. And once I did, fell in love with it. Give yourself time and the opportunity to learn a new place. It’s been a year since your post, so prayerfully you’re better!
I lived in traditional Korea my 1st year, Jeongeup, and my second year , Jeonju.
I just moved today into a new place and my night ended being tremendously sad.
Thank God we have our phones, no matter where we are. I hope you're feeling better today!
How are you now?
@@grateful1929 Thank you for asking! I am better now, suited into my place, but I think that is natural. We become so familiar with our surroundings, we absorb ourselves in them and then our anxieties decrease. I think once you get a better grasp on the nature of transition and moving forward and keeping a positive mindset, the woes of a new location won't be so overbearing.
@@fluentinsilence I'm so glad you're better. I sincerely mean that. I suffer with anxiety and I have taking medicine for it for 22 years. I'm an older woman (64) and I'm praying about moving by two of my kids. 5 hours away but still in the state of Georgia. I grew up in this small Georgia town. I did leave when I was 11 but I moved back when I was 20. I know so many people and I'm very fearful of leaving what I've known for almost all of my life. All of my children used to live in this town but they've all moved. Although I have friends and I still work I miss my kids. They want me to move up there by them. It is beautiful where they live. North Georgia mountains everywhere. I just cannot imagine waking up and going into town for my coffee and not seeing so many people I know. I am very friendly and I make friends very easily. I am just afraid I will get so homesick and here I have uprooted and moved away. It is only 5 hours away and I could always move back home but that would be a chore. I don't get to see them very much even though it's 5 hours away. I do work Monday through Friday and by the time I drive 5 hours there and 5 hours back home I've spent 10 hours just on the road. Actually it takes me five and a half to 6 hours to get there because I stopped several times. I take my dogs and they have to potty. Also I raised a granddaughter she is now 20 and she goes with me. She has Asperger's and she is a blessing. I did not mean to tell you my whole life story lol!!! 😊🤷
@@grateful1929 I can understand how anxious it can be to be in unfamiliar surroundings around people you don't recognize or know but on the whole, most people are pretty decent. Give them a chance and allow yourself a chance and people are politely welcoming. Keep in touch with those that are close to you as friendships requiring nurturing (on both parts, don't do all the 'work').
I just moved to Canada days ago from a small town in Oklahoma and it has been a lot tougher than I honestly thought this was going to be. Every single time I go grocery shopping I don’t know where anything is at, I don’t recognize any brands, not to mention just all the people everywhere. The lack of sleep due to the high anxiety.
I needed to hear this before I snapped. 😅
Best wishes to everyone going through change.
Sorry to hear this. Hang in there, Nina. You will be a pro in no time!
About to move to a smaller city from Oklahoma as well. I hope it gets better for you ♥️
It says 7 months ago. When you wrote this, you may have just moved. And now it is 7 months behind you. Do share how are you now
Grocery shopping has been a trigger for me. I’ve decided to order my groceries through Wal-Mart pickup, helped so much with being overwhelmed by all of the people.
Make it your Dream place. Create the life you live. New is growth. A more you. Post to help others as you learn. Go on line plan special meals. Write on a journal. A Great cook book cook.😊 Love the Life you live. Word now is Happy. Put things out sayings a picture walk through your growth. Enjoy the journey.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I just moved from a big city to a small city and it has been so difficult adjusting to everything. I am learning everyday to let go, focus on what is before me and to fully embrace it the experience.
How are you feeling now?
moved to college today from Oregon to Iowa. i’ve never felt such loss. i’m grateful this experience is at least a shared one❤️
I recently moved from Seattle area to WI to be closer to family. The feelings I’d loss recently hit me like a truck full of bricks about a week ago. I’m sure changing seasons from summer to fall and slowly going into winter…longer, colder, and darker days haven’t helped.
You posted this two months ago. How are you feeling now? I moved from WA in July. Just now started to feel this way.
The speaker has such an elegant and gentle way about her. I really really appreciated this talk
I'm about to move 3 hours from home. I'm exhausted and so stressed I've been crying for weeks. Thank you for this video
I needed this Video more than anything I have just moved and I thought I was going mad the only one feeling like I’m grieving panic attacks the feeling of dread and wtf have I done I’ve lost sight of what I even did the move for this has given me hope it is a phase I am going to get professional help this week also , thank you x
Same here. Sold my appartment and moved to another part of the country all alone.
Feeling like I lost my shiny energetic cheerful me.
Waves of depression.
Sudden feelings of doubts and regrets.
Torturing myself that my appartment was perfect in a wanted location in an international city.
Now living in a smaller town with much water and green.
The profit of the sold appt is now spent on renovation in the new house. Bigger house. Big bedroom. I wake up sad and feeling alone.
I know I will be okay bc I went through bigger things like violence in my old appartment.
Working from home, I always enjoyed it. I love freedom and being on my own but lately... I lost all of that. I cry and I keep getting thoughts like: the new kitchen would look so great in my appartment kitchen... I could have done this or that.
Also I was pretty ok being single but after moving I registered on a dating site bc I don't want to live alone anymore and it started after the change of location....
I try to run, cycle and walk but last month I even didn't want to go outside and I am normally really attached to fresh air and physical exercise.
I also coach myself by telling me that there are no wrong choices. It's not the end of the world. Paid off my debts Etc.
Negative voice telling me: why did I do this unnecessarily change, what did I do to myself? I have moved enough in my life from childhood till I bought my safe appartment.
It feels like my old appartment is a person that I have given away to a stranger, the buyer 😔
The city I lived in has very high prices so its almost impossible to go back.
Time will heal but I also tell myself that if I remain feeling unhappy after one full year I will see this house as a project. Life is short and its mine.
I do feel encouraged by the words that it makes us stronger.
Often formed life long friendships?
Not for me, I guess.
I live here six months, I've met one lady that I thought could become a friendly connection but she started to harrass me by knocking on my window (she knew my address bc she's a post package deliverer)
That's when I again missed my appartment on third floor with privacy..
I try to look at the positive sides to but I do feel more negative emotions than before.
you are not alone! I feel the exact same after moving!
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 hi hun that’s exactly how I felt I gave away all my furniture in my bedroom bought new stuff then when I got to the new house I didn’t recognise my bedroom anymore it really freeked me out , I felt totally the same that I gave my home away and someone else had it now , but I wasn’t happy there i was sick with ptsd but didn’t care when I moved here I just wanted it back I would cry even throw up . I forgot why I moved I lost sight of it all ...the 50 miles I moved away felt like I moved to the moon. Honestly time does heal the unfortunate side to time is it takes time 🤦🏼♀️. Try focus on the reason you moved write a list of all the good things even to the tiniest detail put it on your fridge and play music you love while reading it out loud that will reinforce the negative emotions about the home . Don’t take one crazy lady as all it has you offer you will meet new people , go online and look for local groups see if there a local facebook group etc . I’m in the uk and we are in lockdown so I havnt been able to meet anyone either. I can’t go bank either and my god I pined so much for my old life , it wasn’t even a life but we are humans and humans like familiarity and over time it will be your familiarity! And the pining and comparing negatively will pass , also you could frost your windows half way or one way film to allow you adjust ive just done that to my kitchen as like you I had a apartment now I have a house with windows the world can look in it’s really helped to have that privacy back , I wish you all the best ...drop me a message if your ever struggling and watch this video every day with earphones at night that’s also what I did to reinforce by decision and remember wtf I did it for xx
@@victoriaz3125 hun read my comment below I forgot to tag you xx
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 how are things two years later? Would love to know ☺️
A update I posted 2 months ago I was in a bad way waking up with dread about why I had moved I forgot everything I did it for as anxiety had taken over ...2 months later everything she said was right the cracks joined again and what felt unfamiliar became familiar and less painful humans are creatures of habit and comfort and moving out of that can as with me totally turn you upside down ..keep persevering don’t be hard on yourself it’s very real how you feel so don’t feel a failure ...as you become familiar with the surroundings , smells etc and all the things that are new and now may scare you it will stop and settle and you look back and think god what was that all about ! Be kind to yourself take it easy as the mind adjusts so will you xx
Thanks!
Aw , you are right
Thank you so much for posting your comment. You’ve reassured me. 🙏🏼
Thank you so much. It’s good to know I’m not alone 🙌
@@damarismartinez8824 how are you doing Damaris?
I am often homesick, even after living in my new country for 11 years. Thank you for your lecture, it is really helpful.
Mrs Foss you have spoken into my soul. It has been the most challenging and painful past few days for me. I have moved to Scotland from my home in Florida, U.S. to pursue my dreams in acting school. Every piece you touched on I could relate to, and through hearing your words I have felt healing enter my heart. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and truth and experience. I copied down your final points word for word. You speak with such intention, thoughtfulness, and love. Thank you for this gift. Thank you.
Sending greatings and best wishes from Florida. Don't be discouraged, keep pressing on. I have relocated several times in my life and all what Mrs Foss says is true, it will get better. I will be moving from Florida in the near future to another state so I'm so glad I found this encouraging video. God Bless you and keep looking forward.
Thank you so much. I can’t say how helpful this is ❤️
We have just moved (only across town) 2 weeks ago & the children have to move schools in the new year. We built a beautiful new home & we are even still close enough for family to visit on weekends...
But I was feeling an intangible irritation, exhaustion & sadness. My daughters are feeling it too & my husband not so much.
There isn’t the same nice restaurants etc around but the beach is nearby. Time for creating new memories - I don’t quite have the energy to do a lot yet ; but I will try to build upon each day.
This resonated deeply and was so spot on. It’s helpful to know what we feel after moving is common with others. Thanks for sharing your reflections!
Very true! I thought it was just me and I was exaggerating:/
I just cried. Ive been having such a difficult time alone in the new city I've been living in. It just helps to not feel so alone. There's hope!
How are you doing now?
@@june9775 Im grateful, some days are still hard but I wouldn't trade my freedom for it. Ive learned to love my alone time and connect more with myself. Thanks for asking!:)
@@sunjadye3090 thank you for replying and giving me hope.
I really needed to listen to this. I moved to Sydney 2 months ago. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions. I've felt incredibly anxious at points about money and a place to stay...things are slowly starting to look up, but it has been unbearably challenging at times.
I am also in it right now. Moved from small mountain town to captial city in US. I go from excited one day to terrified for the whole week after.
Thank you so much. All the confusion I felt before watching your presentation and submitting my resignation letter vanished! I am so glad I found you, the content of your presentation planted a seed in my mind and heart. I am no longer afraid about moving.
Can't describe how much i need this today! Thank you!! praying that all those who move find peace and happiness, and can transition smoothly during the tough phase :)
Moved to London , 20 years ago , alone and not knowing language at age 18z slept in parks ate from left overs in the bins but now I bought my own flat in London. Haven’t seen my family for 20 years, I promised to help them to see my mum but it was abit late when I had money to do so they were all gone. Don’t know how to cope with the pain of not seeing my family and friends for 20years. I still call my mum sometimes as I forget they are dead. All these you said are true, the feelings the moments you want to give up and a lot of other mix emotions, not easy at all, I like how you expressed the pains and the way to deal with them even though it is very very difficult to cope but not impossible.
Needed this, almost 3 weeks in and I’ve cried twice. Thank you.
2 weeks into my new place and had 2 mental breakdowns and cry spells. You’re not alone!
I love her material but I think her personality and personal reactions is the icing on the cake. EXCELLENT SPEECH!👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏
I’m going through the same thing! Be strong eventually we will feel empowered after all the chaos
I just moved , i feel low , i love my new house , spent 6 months getting it , now its like now what ? Thankyou , thought i was going mad
I needed this! I have felt so weak and disgusted with myself for constantly cry and feeling intense guilt over leaving my parents, sister and friends behind to move to Canada.
I haven't left yet but I am second guessing my decision, fighting demotivation and moving towards depression as my move date draws near. The initial excitement and hope I had as I applied to leave has completely left me and I struggle to remember why i wanted to leave. Any reason I come up with doesn't seem valid enough to leave everything and everyone behind.
But this helps. Its good to know that these feelings are not unique to me and I am not alone.
I’m going through the same thing. Hope you’re doing okay. ❤️
@@nervouslaugh9301 you will be okay too! ❤️
I’m going through the exact same emotions with a pending move to NZ, it’s awful isn’t it. I wish you all the best with your move.
I’m going to go through the same thing in a few months and I’m terrified
@Michael we are together in this Michael. Where are you moving to if you don't mind me asking.
Update: I'm actually dealing with the move a little better - some days. I have found that it is better to think of it as an adventure. Every adventure had twists and turns. This move for you will be exciting, filled with new experiences and people and lots of fun. You'd wonder why you hadn't moved earlier as you take a nervous step closer to who you want to be and the life you want.
Wishing you the very best. If you never try, you'll never know.
So glad i found this. Ive been very sad and depressed to move out of state. I have no option to stay as my new hubbys job is taking us to new state. My kids are grown and on their own. I will miss them bad. I will embrace the new as i get on plane to new destination. May we all move forward in our own pace and be happy as ever despite new changes.
How are you now?
How you doing now…my depression is so bad from selling my home and moving back to my hometown after 32 years and away from my kids
I have relocated between countries a few times. It's always scary, but when looking back after a while, it's not. It was all worth it. I am preparing for my most remote relocation yet. Once again, I am scared and anxious.
I so needed to hear this. I just moved from a big city to a rural country.
How are you doing now? Just moved cross country and depressed and missing my family
Very inspiring and interesting, I am going through this right now and I found the lecture to be helpful and at the least fascinating. Thank you.
“You’re not alone, there you are” ❤️
I recently moved and its been much harder than i anticipated
I just moved out and feeling it. Thank you for this video!!
I went online looking for help after doing a big moving and feeling unexpected relocation anxiety. I initially blamed it on my roommates disorganized home life but I now see I would still have felt disastrously out of place even if I had gotten my own place. This has helped a lot to put things in perspective.
I’ll be moving from the United States to Canada and although there will be some family on my wife’s side there, I am TERRIFIED.
Relocating from Fort Collins to Denver, CO. Moving to Denver for work opportunities and adventure. I’m very excited, but the depression set in today that I am leaving my home for the last 6 years. I’m heartbroken… this literally hurts worse than a break up. I had no idea it would feel like this. Thank you for this video. It makes me feel so much better to know I’m not alone
What a lovely voice. I really, truly appreciate this ♥️
I’ve been living here for 3 years. I feel like a plant being ripped out of a pot i just got used to. It’s deteriorating my already worsening mental health. It feels like my life is ending.
I always love the dutch directness style of honesty holding nothing back.
I appreciate the sharing of potential reasonable experiences.
I am only halfway through so far.
I have to say as a person in the serious stages of starting over this video has given me something to consider more deeply.
I may offer my brother a great incentive to join and support me.
My goals involve pursuing a new wonderful career in a beautiful location and making fullfilling relationships with people etc....still isolation...lonliness..unhappiness...discontent...are some of the reasons I need to relocate so I will consider everything without doubt in end.
Dutch? Lisl is South African...
This was simply amazing! She captured my thoughts and feelings oh so well!
I needed to hear this 💚 Thank you so much for your insight and advice.
I needed to hear these words. More importantly, I needed to hear that things do get better eventually. Thanks for the honest and inspiring speach.
Crucial details regarding the loss of funds and the steps for recovery.
I moved about a year and a half ago and while I tried to stick it out I’ve decided to move back home. I just miss friends and family too much. I’m grateful for learning what’s really important to me. I can see the argument this speaker is making on staying the course but I also think it’s about what’s important to you.
I regret selling my house..I can’t go back. Houses have gone up too much and I can’t afford the are any more..if I only knew then what I know now. I had 15 years left to pay off my house
This video was a big hug and a warm cup of tea. Thank you, Mrs. Foss.
Thank you so much for this, I've just moved to Japan and experiencing bliss but still adapting, I really needed to hear this.
I resonant with everything this woman said, so true.
Very grateful.
I absolutely needed to hear this. Thank you so much!
Just came across this video as if it was meant for me as i am relocating to a new continent where I know no one!
I moved to a new country. The first three months are the hardest. You experience feelings that you can’t even understand and are so uncomfortable you want to hide under the covers. All people I have spoken to who moved told me it would pass and I didn’t believe them but they were right. Clench your teeth and get through the first three months. See a therapist if possible. It DOES pass and quickly. You will emerge a stronger person, if that is any consolation. But it isn’t just you. You aren’t crazy or weak. It’s incredibly common. Just don’t make major decisions during this time. Stay in it.
I am moving and disabled. This is unreal I can't find a new place to move to. I just want to cry that's all.
Hope youre ok now robin
Hope you are doing better ❤️
Have you moved? Are you ok?
I just moved from Boston MA to Houston TX .. leaving everything behind moving here with my pregnant girlfriend. It’s been a month now and the depression is really hitting till now. A pot of mixed emotions and overwhelming feelings
It's hard to move away and just leave everything behind but hopefully as time passes it gets better for you.
Houston is a big city. Get out there and socialize. Lots of beauty in Texas too. At least it wasn’t buttfck nowhere Alabama lol
Same I’m from Boston and my family moved to Atlanta, I miss Boston sm☹️but I try to make the best out of it
@@nicolebermudez4855 You must be a Texan. Only a Texan would call Texas pretty. Houston, Beaumont, Port Arthur, Bay City, Brownsville, etc. are some of the ugliest, most "life-demotivating" places in the Western world.
This is so helpful. There’s so much information in this presentation of which I can definitely relate to. There’s so much to say, but one thing that resonates is the need to move is due to the need to feel contorted with a new idea of self.
This resonates so deeply. Thank you
Love her sweet and comforting voice. Lots of good ideas to try!
Its so memorable i thought this is where i am gonna achieved my dreams 😭😭
Same here.. I left my peace of mind and basic contentment in my old place.
Bless you hope your feeling better already.
I declare we will grow out of this phase and rise above with helicopter view!
I recently moved to a new city, where i don't know the local launguage. I feel so much anxiety and stress that i could not even sleep. I couldn't even focus on my work and i keep thinking about what a mistake i have made...
I really needed to watch this, i hope everything changes soon...
This resonates with me. I am moving to Metro Manila from Mindanao. I am so sad because I will be leaving my dogs temporarily until I save up for their relocation too. Thanks for this, I am continuing this adventure 🥹
I love and long for change. I get tired of the same old same old streets, downtown, and places. I been here in the NOLA area far from the downtown for nearly 5 years and I was ready to leave before 1 year was up.
I so needed this
THANK YOU for this. I cannot express how much I need to hear all you have said. 😊
When you move to a new city and you're in your new apt. or house, it feels so strange that you will probably cry. I've relocated several times - each place was not exactly what I wanted. Now I've been wanting to relocate for 3-4 years and I find myself scared to death - scared I'll run out of money and go homeless. Scared I won't be able to find a apt to rent. I'm on the voucher program and it's 1 big pain in the rear to move on the voucher program. You're stuck with no place to go back to if something goes wrong. And motel costs have gone up a lot. I'm in the NOLA area - I'm not sure where to try to move to.
We sold our house in Fl because my husband wanted to move to North Carolina, was tired of his current job, missed his friends and family…. Its been 5 months and i still can’t adjust. We used to live in NC years ago and moved to Fl because that is where I felt at home but my husband did not. Since he is the main provider, I followed his decision to move our family to NC. It was a struggle staying with family members because the initial job offer he got was not legit and did not work out. Now he found a stable but the school system is different and the cold weather is getting to me. I still cant adjust…I dont want my kids to suffer because we keep moving…
I loved moving to Florida, felt safe knowing I had family to count on if I needed it, but I don't, moving back home was horrible, zero support from a family at one point in my life I thought was the greatest, even my daughter could careless, but no pitty parties here, as soon as I can I'm out of here. This time will be different though because I will know my family really sucks.
I went through that when I moved back to Memphis in 2008 and I left in 2016.
This is so beautiful. I lost my sleep and have no idea how I made it through the 1st months! I also had no idea it was gonna happen! Otherwise, I wouldn't have left! I still sometimes think I should go back, but I am having fun now and it would be a shame to leave and not trust the women I know was unhappy who left
I love you for the whole speech. You gave me hope with this video 🙏 ❤
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It would be great to know how this turned out for you 5 years later. I am about to move to Cape Town, voluntarily after a divorce. I feel terrified. I love the 'looking in the mirror and recognizing that you are there with yourself.'
How tf did this algorithm know I wanted to move?
If you searched anything related to moving in Google... they know.
Thank u so much. I am selling my beautiful house in the mtns for full time motorhome. I needed this talk.
Im moving to Cardiff from Manchester in September to persuit a masters degree - im incredibly nervous but also excited as its a city never even visited before. Not sure now to perceive these emotions 😢
Thank you for sharing, this was such a good presentation ❤
She has a cute & lovely personality - thank you for the advice :) Needed to hear this
This was lovely and made me realize I want to be her friend.
I just moved out of my moms house and I feel terrible. I know what I’m doing is good for me but my heart is broken that I can’t be with her everyday now. I love her so much. Funny fact is that I’m only 20 min away and my roommate is a friend of mine but it doesn’t make it any more easy.
Thank you for sharing your story about moving to a new place .
I'm moving out of my dream state/home end of month. Feeling all kinds of emotions about, moving alone out of home I thought would be forever home but divorce has changed things for me. I'm really scared at the moment as I'm moving to another state alone.
I just moved home and I was so excited before but now I'm grieving and I feel strange like I'm in the wrong home taking the wrong bus going in the wrong direction.
I feel you, I lived in Germany for 2.5 years ,moved there all by myself and had the best experience of my life being completely independent. I decided to go back home to study but ever since I moved back I gradually got more and more depressed and demotivated to the point im second guessing my decision to even stay here and I'm seriously considering moving back to Germany as I feel isolated and out of place in the place I grew up in and once called home
Thank you for sharing, its been hard relocating to new city but your advice is helpful. As you like to swim as one of the activities, I like to train and go for a run it helps a lot. Stay strong all it will get better 🙂.
Cheers
Naqi Changezi
what a brilliant lady,
This is so helpful. Thank you.
Thank you very much,
I was going to commit suicide but now I have changed my mind
francesco resinelli 💜
Hope you’re doing well
@@tiffanyayseyaseminsungur1600 Laughing? Sick!
Hope you’re doing well
Brother
Thank you for this ❤️❤️❤️❤️
moved from the netherlands to egypt 3-4 months agooo
Wonderful!!!
Good video, I have lived in my new home since April now and I have really struggled. I had a 2 month stress breakdown where I couldn’t stop crying because I moved in whilst still on furlough and my partner worked night shift at the time so he was always sleeping during the day and I was alone at night. It got a bit better after a shift change and I started going back to work but I still don’t feel like this place is my home because all my family and friends and the places I know are further away. I had yet another breakdown at simply getting lost whilst driving the other night because the only junction I know to drive was closed. Am I being silly or is this normal. My partner has been completely fine with everything, he moved in by himself 2 years before he met me and every time I ask him how he found it he says he was fine
Hey how are you now?
It sounds relatable and normal to me. My partner is also very practical and resilient and didn’t have any trouble with our move. Which makes it feel harder when you do. But it’s normal!
And it’s very tough if you’re there alone when your partner is on a different schedule.
@@MsEvaonAir hi Eva, I'm doing a lot better now. Really settled in and enjoying where I live now. I have a couple of exercise clubs that I go to which I really missed during covid due to the close of everything. My head is finally sorted out thankfully. Hope you are feeling better as well and doing good?
@@sarahstewart4693 Hi Sarah, I have also had anxiety attacks while driving in our new place which has led me to not going out very much. I fear getting lost, can't deal with all the traffic here. It is good to know that you are doing better. Hopefully I will feel that at some point also.
I feel alone and scared in my new house. Even though I’m not because I moved her with my partner. And it’s so close to my previous house, I moved just outside of my city and it’s so close to visit. Which makes it all harder because I’m unconsciously so hard on myself for feeling this way.
you rock. thank you for this.
thank you
Joe Shilling cried and he's one of the toughest people alive so.... I'll be alright.
im dreading having to move,,i have a mood disorder and anxiety and im already catastrophising about where im going to live,how to move all my stuff,as well as financial fears, mostly im worried about my mood going through the floor
how are you now?, going through the same thing here
Blocks are gone there are no blocks it's you they have been removed. Stop the mind set your doing get up live dream create your new life. Life is picture you create you live. What your life look like create this time in life new picture.
ΠΟΙΟΣ ΕΙΝΑΙ ΕΔΩ ΑΠΟ ΤΗΝ ΕΥΡΩΓΝΩΣΗ?
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Just share your notes, I will read them instead of see you reading it.
Wow, this makes it sound godawful
Her voice is so depressing! Cmoon, woman, wake up!
Good question. 🫣
Im moving to Cardiff from Manchester in September to persuit a masters degree - im incredibly nervous but also excited as its a city never even visited before. Not sure now to perceive these emotions 😢