Verbally abuse is a huge red flag. I have 7 sisters and many girlfriends and I would be appalled if their exes said the words you mentioned. I too have ended contact with guys who speak derogatorily about women as I know I will be the next victim, no thanks. Great video Heather 💙
You look so beautiful with the denim blue near your face! Definitely a good color for you. Thanks for your videos, I appreciate the fashion advice you give. Also, you're wise to never tolerate any type of abuse.
Verbal abuse of an ex is an intolerable red flag, but so is blocking without warning. That guy would be left confused as to why he was blocked with zero explanation after a 45 minute phone call. This is why men dislike women. It takes guts to explain why you don’t want further contact. Random unexplained blocking is gutless and leaves the guy none the wiser.
We all learn and grow from feedback and the opposite is also true. We are doing a service to our fellow women by telling a guy where he's falling short before cutting him free and who knows, giving him constructive feedback may cause him to reflect and change his life, saving the next woman who doesn't ask that amazing question from wasting weeks, months or years of her life on him. It takes guts to be honest and ghosting is the most hurtful trend in dating and why we all hate it so much. Do unto others... It may take 30 seconds of discomfort to make a positive change in another person's life.
I agree, Not to mention, you dont know his ex wife. She could be much as he described. Now if he has that opinion of all his exes, that would be disturbing.
💯 block him. There’s never a reason to call an ex a bad name. Even if they were horrible. There’s always something to learn and we always have some part in the relationship not working, even if it’s a small part. Thank you, for sharing your insight.
Off topic but I really love the olive cardigan paired with the washed black jeans. I have a pair of jeans same color and now I want an olive cardigan to pair with it. Thanks for the color combo inspiration!
Great tips. I like classy yet edgy clothes depending on where I'm going and the mood I'm in. I like comfortable clothes also. I agree you did right thing with blocking him.
Yes Heather, I agree about your decision to block him. He is probably abusive physically also. I like this video and at the end you talk about the dating scene. I am also looking for someone special. I've not dated in a few years now but still love to be asked out on a date, until then my friends and family keep me busy. I don't like to text as my main communication source either. Best of dating to you. He is out there for us he need to find us or we find him soon as possible. Lol
Hi! My name is Amanda and I’m a brand new subscriber. Love the 3 words that you advised and I gave it some thought. Mine are confident, classy, comfortable. I’m 42 and I’m exhausted by wearing clothes that look great and I spent a lot of money… but the whole day wearing them… I feel literally trapped! 😂 I’m sure you have tons of videos that I will need to explore when I have time but I would personally look forward to one specifically for your suggestions on office casual (aka sitting in a desk all day on the computer doing HR like me!) that doesn’t wrinkle!!! All my trousers are so wrinkly when I stand up. Help! ❤
PS. I’m single too! Great question and good job noticing the red flag. My mom got burned bad!!! He robbed her of everything. She lost her business, luckily had enough to retire and then he took his own life. She was so in love with him. Please be careful. 🙏🏻 love your channel!
I remember, one time, reading that when a woman talks over the phone with any man/potential-date - whom she has never met in-person - she should keep the conversation at only about 15 minutes long. Made a lot of sense, to me.
Any man who describes his ex as crazy I have found that they are the crazy ones. I talked to my friends ex's ex who he described as awful ad crazy and she was a wonderful person. I always knew something was off with that guy. Happy ending my friend remarried a wonderful man.
I think a course on self discovery and development would be very useful. Please continue to share your dating experiences. I am in my 50’s and want to start dating again. I hope that you find true love!💕
I think my three words are comfortable, chic, and feminine. I’m so sorry you went through this experience. I think that relationships especially once we grow up are really difficult. I would say though in defense of the guy that there are loads of women out there who WANT to hear that the ex was “cray cray” and WANT a lot of drama. Sadly I see this a lot in my psychiatric practice. While I think it’s a great question I do wonder if it shouldn’t wait until the two people get to know each other a bit.
I agree with you, being unwilling to accept responsibility for your part of being in a marriage that ended means they have not grown as a person. Good job, close the door, seal it up and move on. Blocking is the right thing to do.
I am 67 years young, and when I get dressed I still want to feel stylish, attractive and classy. I prioritize those three words. And OMG yes he needs blocked, when dealing with someone who runs down an ex that is a sure narcissistic sign. I am single because my late husband took his life and trying to date really sucks. You would think older guys would have learned from past mistakes but many have not. Good luck Heather, never stop believing in love.
Yes I think that was so wise! What happened to Mr. Austin? Guess I missed that. My #1 thing would be they you have to be Christian and have a personal relationship with Jesus. Love you thank you for the tips. Helped me get ready this morning!
Hi Heather ! I really like your channel and all the tips you have shared about how to improve the way we can match our clothing, what can suit us better , I've learned a lot. Thank you ! Wait, what happened to Mister Huston ?? What did I miss ? Last time I remembered, you still were dating him, and now it seems you are opening your horizons again. AND no, I will no waste my precious time with a man that talks that way about his Ex wife . Respect, regardless Tell me what happened with Mister Houston? I kind of always wanted to comment because I had a long-distance R'-ship for 5 years plus 1 year engagement, so I know it feels. .. God always gives us strength, and if it is meant to be, it will be So I thought it the case with you and Mister Houston
Hi Heather, I love you & your channel! I can’t tuck my shirt in because I have a “apron”, a roll of skin left from a large loss of weight. The rest of my body looks good, except my underarms, which I can cover or camouflage. It’s that roll around my lower abdomen that is very difficult to conceal. I wear great undergarments but the roll is still evident. Any ideas, besides surgery? 😘🤗
I can wear a peplum top if it is long enough, & can sometimes wear a belt on top of it. Otherwise, I can’t wear belts as they make the bulge more pronounced.
I just don’t understand wanting another man. I literally have 0 desire to date or have a relationship. I have 5 amazing grown children and more grandchildren and couldn’t imagine making room for a guy. My life is so great as it is. It’s just not something I’d desire at all.
A lot of women in mid-life desire to have another relationship. I met the love of my life at 56 & can’t imagine my life without him. I have two grown kids but I love companionship. Everyone is different. 🤷♀️
That was definitely a red flag, I am so glad you blocked him! This speaks of self-love. (By the way, I love your dating stories! I 'found' the love of my life at age 55...and I wasn't looking. He wasn't either! I believe we 'work' because we were both happy alone, we knew what we valued in a partner and also our non-negotiables, and we are committed. We are happily living our best lives!)
IMO, you come across a bit desperate. You might consider letting your soul mate meet you organically instead of these phony dating websites. Also, you speak as if you just got out of your therapist appointment before you made this part of the video. Otherwise, great styling tips.
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I’m glad you are getting out there & taking your time.
Hi Heather I totally agree with you. He needs to be respectful no matter what happened.
So glad you held your dignity and stepped out of that bad situation❤❤❤
Good for you, Heather! I stopped dating a guy years ago when he told me his ex-girlfriend was a b!tch. We've made the right decision.
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Verbally abuse is a huge red flag. I have 7 sisters and many girlfriends and I would be appalled if their exes said the words you mentioned. I too have ended contact with guys who speak derogatorily about women as I know I will be the next victim, no thanks. Great video Heather 💙
You look so beautiful with the denim blue near your face! Definitely a good color for you. Thanks for your videos, I appreciate the fashion advice you give. Also, you're wise to never tolerate any type of abuse.
Great advice all the way around! Love your life stories and styling tips❤
Stay. Strong Heather!!!
Absolutely agree with your views on speaking to someone and they come across like that.
I love your videos. You’ve really helped me with my styling. I love clothes and shoes! I also love your dating stories. It helps me in my single life.
Verbal abuse of an ex is an intolerable red flag, but so is blocking without warning. That guy would be left confused as to why he was blocked with zero explanation after a 45 minute phone call. This is why men dislike women. It takes guts to explain why you don’t want further contact. Random unexplained blocking is gutless and leaves the guy none the wiser.
@@jphillips8545 I disagree. She doesn’t owe him an explanation. Abusive men/women won’t hear it anyway.
We all learn and grow from feedback and the opposite is also true. We are doing a service to our fellow women by telling a guy where he's falling short before cutting him free and who knows, giving him constructive feedback may cause him to reflect and change his life, saving the next woman who doesn't ask that amazing question from wasting weeks, months or years of her life on him. It takes guts to be honest and ghosting is the most hurtful trend in dating and why we all hate it so much. Do unto others... It may take 30 seconds of discomfort to make a positive change in another person's life.
@@barbstice again I disagree. If I ghost someone, that is an answer. If someone does it to me, I don’t take it personally. It’s just part of dating.
I agree, Not to mention, you dont know his ex wife. She could be much as he described. Now if he has that opinion of all his exes, that would be disturbing.
Keep up the good work..in all areas..🎉
You were very wise in the way that you handled him Heather, that was excellent words on your part.
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Strong, lovely and courageous are descriptions I like to feel in my clothing. Good for you ending that conversation before it went further.
💯 block him. There’s never a reason to call an ex a bad name. Even if they were horrible. There’s always something to learn and we always have some part in the relationship not working, even if it’s a small part. Thank you, for sharing your insight.
Happy Saturday Heather! ❤
Off topic but I really love the olive cardigan paired with the washed black jeans. I have a pair of jeans same color and now I want an olive cardigan to pair with it. Thanks for the color combo inspiration!
Great tips. I like classy yet edgy clothes depending on where I'm going and the mood I'm in. I like comfortable clothes also. I agree you did right thing with blocking him.
You did the right thing.😊 thanks for sharing this.😊 you’re amazing and beautiful too.❤❤❤❤❤
Yes Heather, I agree about your decision to block him. He is probably abusive physically also. I like this video and at the end you talk about the dating scene. I am also looking for someone special. I've not dated in a few years now but still love to be asked out on a date, until then my friends and family keep me busy. I don't like to text as my main communication source either. Best of dating to you. He is out there for us he need to find us or we find him soon as possible. Lol
Let's give credit to Allison Bornstein for teaching women about the three words.... You can buy her book which helps you organize your closet!!!
@@pace777 yes I’ve actually heard the 3 word thing from several people. I love Allison!!
Hi! My name is Amanda and I’m a brand new subscriber. Love the 3 words that you advised and I gave it some thought. Mine are confident, classy, comfortable. I’m 42 and I’m exhausted by wearing clothes that look great and I spent a lot of money… but the whole day wearing them… I feel literally trapped! 😂
I’m sure you have tons of videos that I will need to explore when I have time but I would personally look forward to one specifically for your suggestions on office casual (aka sitting in a desk all day on the computer doing HR like me!) that doesn’t wrinkle!!! All my trousers are so wrinkly when I stand up. Help! ❤
PS. I’m single too! Great question and good job noticing the red flag. My mom got burned bad!!! He robbed her of everything. She lost her business, luckily had enough to retire and then he took his own life. She was so in love with him. Please be careful. 🙏🏻 love your channel!
This is your best dressing advice yet…
@@AnnetteSaylor-mx6pu amazing thank you so much!!
En el momento en que vi el bolso kislux , supe que tenía que tenerlo.
I remember, one time, reading that when a woman talks over the phone with any man/potential-date - whom she has never met in-person - she should keep the conversation at only about 15 minutes long.
Made a lot of sense, to me.
Any man who describes his ex as crazy I have found that they are the crazy ones. I talked to my friends ex's ex who he described as awful ad crazy and she was a wonderful person. I always knew something was off with that guy. Happy ending my friend remarried a wonderful man.
This!!
I was about to get judgy 🤣I thought you said confident curvaceous and classy🤭
I think a course on self discovery and development would be very useful. Please continue to share your dating experiences. I am in my 50’s and want to start dating again. I hope that you find true love!💕
I think my three words are comfortable, chic, and feminine. I’m so sorry you went through this experience. I think that relationships especially once we grow up are really difficult. I would say though in defense of the guy that there are loads of women out there who WANT to hear that the ex was “cray cray” and WANT a lot of drama. Sadly I see this a lot in my psychiatric practice. While I think it’s a great question I do wonder if it shouldn’t wait until the two people get to know each other a bit.
I agree with you, being unwilling to accept responsibility for your part of being in a marriage that ended means they have not grown as a person. Good job, close the door, seal it up and move on. Blocking is the right thing to do.
I am 67 years young, and when I get dressed I still want to feel stylish, attractive and classy. I prioritize those three words. And OMG yes he needs blocked, when dealing with someone who runs down an ex that is a sure narcissistic sign. I am single because my late husband took his life and trying to date really sucks. You would think older guys would have learned from past mistakes but many have not. Good luck Heather, never stop believing in love.
@@jodenabeale4355 oh no I’m so sorry! Thank you for sharing! Sending lots of love your way ❤️❤️🖤
More dresses please
No to neck stack- everything else is great!
Yes I think that was so wise! What happened to Mr. Austin? Guess I missed that. My #1 thing would be they you have to be Christian and have a personal relationship with Jesus. Love you thank you for the tips. Helped me get ready this morning!
Hi Heather ! I really like your channel and all the tips you have shared about how to improve the way we can match our clothing, what can suit us better , I've learned a lot. Thank you !
Wait, what happened to Mister Huston ?? What did I miss ? Last time I remembered, you still were dating him, and now it seems you are opening your horizons again. AND no, I will no waste my precious time with a man that talks that way about his Ex wife . Respect, regardless
Tell me what happened with Mister Houston?
I kind of always wanted to comment because I had a long-distance R'-ship for 5 years plus 1 year engagement, so I know it feels. .. God always gives us strength, and if it is meant to be, it will be
So I thought it the case with you and Mister Houston
@@851rayo I broke up with Mr. Austin guy because of the long distance thing….too hard. ❤️❤️
Yea I get it . Best wishes and blessings. @HeatherAndersonFashionOver40
Hi Heather, I love you & your channel! I can’t tuck my shirt in because I have a “apron”, a roll of skin left from a large loss of weight. The rest of my body looks good, except my underarms, which I can cover or camouflage. It’s that roll around my lower abdomen that is very difficult to conceal. I wear great undergarments but the roll is still evident. Any ideas, besides surgery? 😘🤗
Strengthen the core, might help
Elegant, classy and sexy
I can wear a peplum top if it is long enough, & can sometimes wear a belt on top of it. Otherwise, I can’t wear belts as they make the bulge more pronounced.
Yes you were right about blocking that guy.
Unfortunately guys are getting wise to these verbal cues and you need other ways to vette them.
an apron
Smart, sexy, fun
I just don’t understand wanting another man. I literally have 0 desire to date or have a relationship. I have 5 amazing grown children and more grandchildren and couldn’t imagine making room for a guy. My life is so great as it is. It’s just not something I’d desire at all.
A lot of women in mid-life desire to have another relationship. I met the love of my life at 56 & can’t imagine my life without him. I have two grown kids but I love companionship. Everyone is different. 🤷♀️
I think your last tip was your best- reject men who talk abusively about other women.
That was definitely a red flag, I am so glad you blocked him! This speaks of self-love. (By the way, I love your dating stories! I 'found' the love of my life at age 55...and I wasn't looking. He wasn't either! I believe we 'work' because we were both happy alone, we knew what we valued in a partner and also our non-negotiables, and we are committed. We are happily living our best lives!)
@@angelapruisman536 - oh I love that story!! Yay!!! If it can happen to your it can happen to me:)) ❤️❤️
@@HeatherAndersonFashionOver40 It sure can! ♥
I missed a part. Weren't you dating a man in Houston?
@@MsRight-sb5ds I broke up with the Austin guy because the long distance thing was too hard
IMO, you come across a bit desperate. You might consider letting your soul mate meet you organically instead of these phony dating websites. Also, you speak as if you just got out of your therapist appointment before you made this part of the video. Otherwise, great styling tips.