Thank you for watching today, I hope you found this advice helpful the next time you receive constructive criticism. If you want to develop other good habits in addition to positively accepting feedback, click the link above to download my free resource "The Power of Habit" >> utm.io/ub0TP
Hi, i appreciate your ideas so much, and i have a constructive criticism for you in form of a question since i have subscribed to your channel and seen nearly most of your videos; Can you try a new way to direct your videos instead of taking a video while you stand or sit? such as taking a video while you walk in a garden (for example) or taking a video while you sit on the beach or collecting a piece of puzzle and saying that the puzzle game is like developing personal skills and you can say that each skill is important because if the picture misses one piece of the puzzle, then the picture will still need it. I think that doing so may attract more views to your videos. I will wait your feedback to know if you will accept the idea or will not.
Owing to workplace politics, I have been subjected to useless criticism several times. I recognise this is something to be taken in its stride, since I understand the underlying agenda of this kind of criticism. I would smile and take it on the chin but at the same time, somewhere at the back of my mind, I fear this would damage my confidence and impede my performance.Could you please offer more content on dealing with useless criticism and mental hacks to overcome this feel of being stuck on the hamster wheel? I would have otherwise looked for a positive and encouraging work environment if it was not for my 2 yr old baby since my current position does offer me the time for the work life balance i currently need to tend to the baby
At first criticism hurts, especially if someone is a perfectionist, but with an open mind it is possible to skip the bad feeling and see the advantage of constructive criticism. The tip of asking the same person for their opinion again after making some changes is very good. Thanks for sharing your experience!
I look up this video because something my coach said earlier today. I received my audition results yesterday and I made the varsity team for winter guard in my HS. I was very excited, and I went to practice today. Consider that I am fairly new with only one season under the belt, I had some difficulty with the dance. My coach noticed me and talk to me privately about they are taking a risk on putting me in varsity. From the past season they had see my hard work and determination, but I am definitely lacking on skills. He want me work on my dance technique. I was very shocked when he talk to me but I said ok I do understand. Later on I went on Facebook and post a thank you messages. I felt the weight on my shoulder are lighter and I am more willing to fight for becoming a good dancer. I had always have problems with construction criticism, and I am hoping his message will motivate me and bring me to a new place. Pearl (the wonder girl) 12/03/2018
I am learning how to drive and my teacher criticises me whenever I am wrong. I just take criticism silently but I just keep on thinking about that all day, which is just affecting my life in a major way. But after listening to you, I feel much better now. Thank you!!☺️
It is important to consider the feedback as coming from a place of helpfulness. Most of the time, that is the motivation and not to tear us down. I prefer the word “feedback” and I consider it information that I can use to grow and be better.
I just accept it even though it really hurts but i really try my best to use it to improve myself. Then later on i thank them after i heal myself of all the words they said about me. Im a soft hearted person, i cry but later on i will just need time to think about what they said realize all the things I’ve done and its really helps me.
I went to an art class. Every time I got feedback or criticism I cried. I didn’t want to, I tried hiding it but I still did. I looked this video up because I didn’t get better. I exploded and shouted whenever people gave criticism but I think I’m getting better.
I focused more on the negative than on the positive side of criticism. It consumed most of my time hating the person. But now I have realized the value of it. And I will focus on continuously improving myself.
Nobody likes to be criticised, and it does hurt a bit. But I’ve come to the conclusion that I should take it on the chin and that it could help me improve.
I like your advice on asking questions about how I can improve. If the criticism is genuinely constructive they should be able to give genuine constructive advice. I also like you advice about standing back and not getting emotionally involved. Difficult, but worthwhile.
I’m a stay at home mom. But still I like your videos and it’s making me prepare for the bright future that I will have soon when my toddler goes to school and I’ll be ready to work. I really like this video but I cannot comprehend it when it comes to my mother-in-law criticism.
mr Tracy i work like a beast. non stop. i thought that was enough. but you taught me that was wrong. the 23 key points has changed my life. i now have cortana editing lists non stop. and i am going to buy a guinea pig because its appearing in the lists. thankyou for existing. and teaching many of us a more productive way to progress. much love sir. much love.
I tend to lose my confidence after I get criticsism, I just stop and never do what ever thing I do when I get criticsism. I try my best to not doing so and it's hard. It geting worse when some one who I'm not close with give me the criticsism. I'm ok with people privetly giving me criticsism but when they do it in front of other people I really need to get my self together to accept it. I remember I never want to read for our english class after someone correct my pronounciation. I have this bad habit after two incident involving teacher in elementary school, first one was the fifth grade teacher who literally laugh at my drawing, I consindered good at drawing by my other teacher so I just can't accept it when he laugh at how I draw a tree. I stop drawing in front of people after that. The second one was when I lose in badminton competition, my teacher and some of myclassmate keep talking about it month after that, I know he was joking about it but it annoy me after two years he kept talking about it, I never join badminton competition after that.
You're my favourite person who I always admire and love reading your books especially No Excuses. Always respect and appreciate for your advice. Wishing you all the best.
Today I received some bad feedbacks about the fact that I don't want to get more responsibilities at work because it looks like I get anxious when I have a new responsibility. The truth is that I have never wanted to receive new responsibilities from this job because that is my part time job to pay my university, and my plan has always been to leave it asap in order to dedicate to my freelance activity. I consider myself a person that is not feared of new responsibilities and leadership, but today's feedback taught to me that my interest in avoiding responsibilities only because I do not want to get stressed with too many stuff to do (as I have always had 2 job) has been interpreted as an impossibility to grow because I have been judged as a person that is too anxious to have a career. It hurts me, because I am a perferctionist, and even if this is not the job of my life I was convinced I was doing it quite well, but now I know I don't want to cheat on my nature as leader anymore. I don't know if this makes sense LOL
Thank you for this video. I do get defensive when I feel that some1 is trying to put me in the middle of thier mess. So i give short answers. But i have a meeting tomorrow with my smr and a staff member and i dont know exactly what will be said. Yes im a little nervous. But i pray that God place favor upon me and to use my positive feed back on my staff. Thankyou for your feed back.
‘Yes’ I have received criticism from a work colleague on a Belbin feedback form 6 years ago! I came across it today whilst scanning paperwork and it still stung! I think it depends on the person giving the feedback.... if I feel they have an ulterior motive or don’t understand my role in the organisation then I am not very good at receiving it as it doesn’t feel constructive . I would be happy to receive it from someone like you though😊👌
I cannot handle constructive criticism without crying which is embarrassing since I’m already at that age where it shouldn’t get to me. Earlier someone said I repeat certain things and that my story gets boring by that and they didn’t mean to come off as rude but some of the words they used made me feel like my story was terrible even though they said other than that it’s great. But guess what I did? I cried and it’s embarrassing because they didn’t mean to be mean I’m sure but it’s not easy to hear constructive criticism when your self-esteem is low
I am so bad at this. With certain people, the initial hurt usually overwhelms me before I can even catch myself. Then I get stuck on beating myself up over it.
Wow! This presentation was amazing! Thank you, Mr. Tracy. My nursing program had this video listed as required viewing for our orientation. I'm so glad I took the time to watch it and I took notes as well. In response to your question, yes I've received criticism several times in the past in my career as a nurse supervisor / manager, but to be completely honest, I don't even remember it because either it was too critical, too vague, or it was because I took it the wrong way and got defensive. Now that I've watched your video, I realize that criticism can be very beneficial to me and to being successful, and I will make an extra effort to take it well, or at least to listen to it with an open mind, in addition to asking questions on improving, thanking the person and also asking for time to address their concerns. I wish I'd learned this years ago, but better late than never. Thanks again!
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽 Just listen to what others have to say and think about it. Actually quite easy task 😃 I love feedback. As long if it’s honest and comes from a conscious mind, I welcome every criticism! It’s a fucking free coaching. I appreciate that a lot. Unfortunately most of us don’t have such a mindset. I know that I know nothing.
Good topic. It can definitely be hard to hear constructive criticism, but as you’ve pointed out, it can be a real gift. I’ve never thought of such a mindful and linear approach as you’ve described. Thank you!
I find that it helps to be the hurt, screaming and rolling in the dirt until I'm exhausted. Then I get up and say, "I don't care if A-holes like my work."
0:54 #1 Look past your initial reaction - it's okay to feel discomfort 1:40 #2 Ask questions about how you can improve 2:25 #3 Thank the for their feedback 3:36 #4 Distinguish between useful criticism and useless criticism - don't fall into the temptation to see all criticism as unfounded 4:56 #5 Ask for time to address their concerns - revisit conversation
#4 is really tricky because we all have blindspots and get defensive/dismissive quickly...here is a good related video on the science behind this: th-cam.com/video/FQNbaKkYk_Q/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for this excellent video. Oftentimes, it may be the most (or second most) difficult to distinguish between constructive and destructive critics. From my experience, identifying the degree to which the criticism targets to improve you, or the experience, quality or value delivered by your activity, can help a lot in concluding the categorization with accuracy. I always asking myself when being in the focus of criticism: is it aiming at making me or my actions better, getting me delivering more value or better quality to the recipients? It has helped me many times, looking at critics from this perspective.
Ur video helped me so much Brian. I felt much much better with the criticism I just received from a constantly critical person....(destructive criticism)
I work in science and when we write grants or papers, part of the process is to receive critical feedback from colleagues. While the process can trigger negative responses, it does help to make the scientific research better in the long run. Many of the comments often turn out to be about clarity of writing. Sometimes I am so involved in a project, I forget to explain aspects that are obvious to me. Comments from reviewers have provided valuable feedback to improve my contribution to the scientific literature.
Well, boxing helped me a lot when i received some harsh feedback some years ago. You know, it was a familiar feeling, just like when someone hits your jaw with a jab (not too solid hit, i mean). So, i was prepared psychologically and was not discouraged as i would have been without that experience of a jab to a jaw. Btw, it was a great feedback, definitely changed my life for the better.
Awesome. Nicely explained. Good Eye opener to face criticism boly in my life. I learned it in a simple way criticism = Feedback. Thanks a ton Mr. Briyan. Stay Blessed
Well, I guess this is as good a time as any to give you a bit of constructive critisicm. I understand that you have been very successful and might not care what a simple person such as myself thinks. Either way, I will give you my five cents. You have been of great help to me ever since 2013 where I bought: "No excuses" and I was very succesful in high school thanks to the tools you gave me in that book. Daily goals and planning were without a doubt the most helpful resources in helping me through my high school career. These rituals entirely changed my life, and I'm certain that if I had incorporated them even more disciplined into my life, I would have been more succesful in the other areas of my life. I will say that I am quite sceptical that positive affirmations work. They never worked for me anyways. It seemed like affirmations were lies, that I was telling myself. My subconscious mind did not accept the "orders" that I gave myself as you phrased it in "Maximum Achievement". Instead, my subconscious mind retaliated against these positive affirmations, and I lost all motivation. I think this leads us to a deeper flaw in your philosophy. I believe it was in "Maximum Achievement that you claimed that the goal is to "eliminate all negative emotions". I liked the statement at the time but I have since come to find that anger, fear and shame are all actually crucial emotions that are good for us. Anger and retaliation is the appropriate response when people treat you disrespectfully. Without the emotion of anger and the accompanying action of retaliation as a response to disrespect, people will walk all over you. Fear is obviously there to keep you from taking unnecessary risks. I do agree that fear must sometimes be overcome but often, fear and worry should be treated as trusted advisors that will keep you from making stupid actions that could hurt you or others around you. Shame and guilt are also crucial, as they are sanctions against people who are not constructive to broader society. If there is no shame in being destructive, there can also be no honour in being constructive. Social sanctioning can be quite necessary, and it only works because people have a sense of shame. Those are the most important points I can think of. Thank you for helping a lot of people out, Mr. Tracy.
Am a design student and find sometimes detaching from critism tricky as it can be really just personal opinion that tutor wants to impose thier own wishes on students wanting to be treated as clients when in reality it can turn into submissive a excercise with little personal design learning and development especialy at the begining when everything is new one can feel intimidated, but I also see that sometimes there is good that can be extracted as valuable feedback 20% but it is coated with lots of useless perplex feedback so I found your vedio very useful in standing back and detaching, got to practice that lots, can you please do vedio on strategies of emotional detachment (for sensitive people)in stressful situations to maintain productive focus. Thank you Brian
Hello Brian thank you, I have received both negative and constructive feed back before, a few times I did not react pleasantly lol. Any more tips that you can share, I have gotten better but would like to master this skill.
Hi Brian, I am new to a certain industry, and I'm being trained by people who have a lot of experience in this industry, but I am realizing that I have some push back with my ego, as I'm in my 40's and they are in their 20's. How can I get past this? I am finding it hard to accept their feedback when I know I should.
Maybe its hard to take because its hard to understand where its coming from. If and when I have not liked it or did not want to hear it, I have not dealt with it, mostly from not knowing how to improve and not asking why... But as criticism can improve, other people might have the distance to see what is not possible to see from within... Anyway keeps the mind healthier! Almost as a way of life.
In reality, nobody likes the so called constructive criticism. As Marshal Goldsmith, one we'll know coach once said, people loves praise not criticism, mostly when unsolicited, since it is difficult to find the borders between positive and negative feedback.
My father always has something negative to say about anything my mom (his wife) and I do. I could do exactly what he wants and he always has something negative to say about it. I dont know what to do. I have an almost 4 month old and I try to be so positive around her and I just got diagnosed with ppd and he just makes it worse
In my six months probation for my job it had been raised that I do not listen my boss seemed confused by what a colleague or colleagues had said my boss did not seem concerned but I am not getting why their saying I do not listen. That just does not come a cross, as me.
Viewers may find something of interest in my book - Correction without Criticism [Etta Ganter]. It provides an approach for having emotionally tough conversations. Strategies are made explicit and examples are provided. 🙏
Thank you for watching today, I hope you found this advice helpful the next time you receive constructive criticism. If you want to develop other good habits in addition to positively accepting feedback, click the link above to download my free resource "The Power of Habit" >> utm.io/ub0TP
Hi, i appreciate your ideas so much, and i have a constructive criticism for you in form of a question since i have subscribed to your channel and seen nearly most of your videos; Can you try a new way to direct your videos instead of taking a video while you stand or sit? such as taking a video while you walk in a garden (for example) or taking a video while you sit on the beach or collecting a piece of puzzle and saying that the puzzle game is like developing personal skills and you can say that each skill is important because if the picture misses one piece of the puzzle, then the picture will still need it.
I think that doing so may attract more views to your videos.
I will wait your feedback to know if you will accept the idea or will not.
Thank you much Brian. You have a wonderful spirit. You are an excellent speaker.
Thanks for this video! I am working on this issue and this video was extremely helpful.
Owing to workplace politics, I have been subjected to useless criticism several times. I recognise this is something to be taken in its stride, since I understand the underlying agenda of this kind of criticism. I would smile and take it on the chin but at the same time, somewhere at the back of my mind, I fear this would damage my confidence and impede my performance.Could you please offer more content on dealing with useless criticism and mental hacks to overcome this feel of being stuck on the hamster wheel? I would have otherwise looked for a positive and encouraging work environment if it was not for my 2 yr old baby since my current position does offer me the time for the work life balance i currently need to tend to the baby
instablaster...
I'm 19 years old and I wish I have this man as my grandpa.
Me to even though im black lolll.
@@missjlg07 Me too even though I'm a brown lmao
At first criticism hurts, especially if someone is a perfectionist, but with an open mind it is possible to skip the bad feeling and see the advantage of constructive criticism. The tip of asking the same person for their opinion again after making some changes is very good. Thanks for sharing your experience!
in my new job I was criticized for being too tough and abrupt I have now toned down and become more compliant .. if not it could cost me my job.
I look up this video because something my coach said earlier today. I received my audition results yesterday and I made the varsity team for winter guard in my HS. I was very excited, and I went to practice today. Consider that I am fairly new with only one season under the belt, I had some difficulty with the dance. My coach noticed me and talk to me privately about they are taking a risk on putting me in varsity. From the past season they had see my hard work and determination, but I am definitely lacking on skills. He want me work on my dance technique. I was very shocked when he talk to me but I said ok I do understand. Later on I went on Facebook and post a thank you messages. I felt the weight on my shoulder are lighter and I am more willing to fight for becoming a good dancer. I had always have problems with construction criticism, and I am hoping his message will motivate me and bring me to a new place.
Pearl (the wonder girl) 12/03/2018
I am learning how to drive and my teacher criticises me whenever I am wrong. I just take criticism silently but I just keep on thinking about that all day, which is just affecting my life in a major way. But after listening to you, I feel much better now. Thank you!!☺️
Working on ego is also important for accepting constructive criticism. Thank You Mr.Tracy
It is important to consider the feedback as coming from a place of helpfulness. Most of the time, that is the motivation and not to tear us down. I prefer the word “feedback” and I consider it information that I can use to grow and be better.
I just accept it even though it really hurts but i really try my best to use it to improve myself. Then later on i thank them after i heal myself of all the words they said about me. Im a soft hearted person, i cry but later on i will just need time to think about what they said realize all the things I’ve done and its really helps me.
Is your horoscope sign a libra
usually I feel down for a little while then I move on...and life goes on :)
I went to an art class. Every time I got feedback or criticism I cried. I didn’t want to, I tried hiding it but I still did.
I looked this video up because I didn’t get better. I exploded and shouted whenever people gave criticism but I think I’m getting better.
I focused more on the negative than on the positive side of criticism. It consumed most of my time hating the person. But now I have realized the value of it. And I will focus on continuously improving myself.
Nobody likes to be criticised, and it does hurt a bit. But I’ve come to the conclusion that I should take it on the chin and that it could help me improve.
I like your advice on asking questions about how I can improve. If the criticism is genuinely constructive they should be able to give genuine constructive advice. I also like you advice about standing back and not getting emotionally involved. Difficult, but worthwhile.
I’m a stay at home mom. But still I like your videos and it’s making me prepare for the bright future that I will have soon when my toddler goes to school and I’ll be ready to work.
I really like this video but I cannot comprehend it when it comes to my mother-in-law criticism.
yes, but I went to a silence mode, was very hurt but I did get over it.
mr Tracy i work like a beast. non stop. i thought that was enough. but you taught me that was wrong. the 23 key points has changed my life. i now have cortana editing lists non stop. and i am going to buy a guinea pig because its appearing in the lists. thankyou for existing. and teaching many of us a more productive way to progress. much love sir. much love.
I tend to lose my confidence after I get criticsism, I just stop and never do what ever thing I do when I get criticsism. I try my best to not doing so and it's hard. It geting worse when some one who I'm not close with give me the criticsism. I'm ok with people privetly giving me criticsism but when they do it in front of other people I really need to get my self together to accept it. I remember I never want to read for our english class after someone correct my pronounciation.
I have this bad habit after two incident involving teacher in elementary school, first one was the fifth grade teacher who literally laugh at my drawing, I consindered good at drawing by my other teacher so I just can't accept it when he laugh at how I draw a tree. I stop drawing in front of people after that. The second one was when I lose in badminton competition, my teacher and some of myclassmate keep talking about it month after that, I know he was joking about it but it annoy me after two years he kept talking about it, I never join badminton competition after that.
You're my favourite person who I always admire and love reading your books especially No Excuses. Always respect and appreciate for your advice. Wishing you all the best.
Today I received some bad feedbacks about the fact that I don't want to get more responsibilities at work because it looks like I get anxious when I have a new responsibility. The truth is that I have never wanted to receive new responsibilities from this job because that is my part time job to pay my university, and my plan has always been to leave it asap in order to dedicate to my freelance activity. I consider myself a person that is not feared of new responsibilities and leadership, but today's feedback taught to me that my interest in avoiding responsibilities only because I do not want to get stressed with too many stuff to do (as I have always had 2 job) has been interpreted as an impossibility to grow because I have been judged as a person that is too anxious to have a career. It hurts me, because I am a perferctionist, and even if this is not the job of my life I was convinced I was doing it quite well, but now I know I don't want to cheat on my nature as leader anymore. I don't know if this makes sense LOL
Thank you for this video. I do get defensive when I feel that some1 is trying to put me in the middle of thier mess. So i give short answers.
But i have a meeting tomorrow with my smr and a staff member and i dont know exactly what will be said. Yes im a little nervous. But i pray that God place favor upon me and to use my positive feed back on my staff. Thankyou for your feed back.
‘Yes’ I have received criticism from a work colleague on a Belbin feedback form 6 years ago! I came across it today whilst scanning paperwork and it still stung! I think it depends on the person giving the feedback.... if I feel they have an ulterior motive or don’t understand my role in the organisation then I am not very good at receiving it as it doesn’t feel constructive . I would be happy to receive it from someone like you though😊👌
Thank you very much sir!
All i been getting lately and I am scheduled to get another 1 on 1 today. So this really helps.
I cannot handle constructive criticism without crying which is embarrassing since I’m already at that age where it shouldn’t get to me. Earlier someone said I repeat certain things and that my story gets boring by that and they didn’t mean to come off as rude but some of the words they used made me feel like my story was terrible even though they said other than that it’s great. But guess what I did? I cried and it’s embarrassing because they didn’t mean to be mean I’m sure but it’s not easy to hear constructive criticism when your self-esteem is low
Thanks Brian. I need this. Easily explained.
This is the video that Filipinos should watch.
Thank you Mr Tracy for your advice and calmness!
A excellent explanation Brian. Greatly appreciated and thank you
Very wise man!!👴🏽I wish he was my friend!!
Enedina guzman I wish the same
I am so bad at this. With certain people, the initial hurt usually overwhelms me before I can even catch myself. Then I get stuck on beating myself up over it.
Wow! This presentation was amazing! Thank you, Mr. Tracy. My nursing program had this video listed as required viewing for our orientation. I'm so glad I took the time to watch it and I took notes as well. In response to your question, yes I've received criticism several times in the past in my career as a nurse supervisor / manager, but to be completely honest, I don't even remember it because either it was too critical, too vague, or it was because I took it the wrong way and got defensive. Now that I've watched your video, I realize that criticism can be very beneficial to me and to being successful, and I will make an extra effort to take it well, or at least to listen to it with an open mind, in addition to asking questions on improving, thanking the person and also asking for time to address their concerns. I wish I'd learned this years ago, but better late than never. Thanks again!
This very Good. Thank you Brian . Some time i have problems with
but this will help me for sure.
This guy has such a positive energy!
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
Just listen to what others have to say and think about it. Actually quite easy task 😃
I love feedback. As long if it’s honest and comes from a conscious mind, I welcome every criticism! It’s a fucking free coaching. I appreciate that a lot.
Unfortunately most of us don’t have such a mindset.
I know that I know nothing.
Thank you for your suggestions for genuinely dealing with criticisms.
Thank you very much Sir. Please make a video about dealing with guilt.
Good topic. It can definitely be hard to hear constructive criticism, but as you’ve pointed out, it can be a real gift. I’ve never thought of such a mindful and linear approach as you’ve described. Thank you!
Lively and meaningful presentation on this topic--precious for us
I find that it helps to be the hurt, screaming and rolling in the dirt until I'm exhausted. Then I get up and say, "I don't care if A-holes like my work."
0:54 #1 Look past your initial reaction - it's okay to feel discomfort
1:40 #2 Ask questions about how you can improve
2:25 #3 Thank the for their feedback
3:36 #4 Distinguish between useful criticism and useless criticism - don't fall into the temptation to see all criticism as unfounded
4:56 #5 Ask for time to address their concerns - revisit conversation
#4 is really tricky because we all have blindspots and get defensive/dismissive quickly...here is a good related video on the science behind this: th-cam.com/video/FQNbaKkYk_Q/w-d-xo.html
Thank you very much Brian, this video was extremely helpful. I appreciate you sharing this.
Thank you for this excellent video.
Oftentimes, it may be the most (or second most) difficult to distinguish between constructive and destructive critics.
From my experience, identifying the degree to which the criticism targets to improve you, or the experience, quality or value delivered by your activity, can help a lot in concluding the categorization with accuracy.
I always asking myself when being in the focus of criticism: is it aiming at making me or my actions better, getting me delivering more value or better quality to the recipients?
It has helped me many times, looking at critics from this perspective.
Ur video helped me so much Brian. I felt much much better with the criticism I just received from a constantly critical person....(destructive criticism)
Thank you for taking to us
I'm a new English learner
Thankyou sir..you are great mentor
Thank you. This is really helpful
this video really was super helpful, thanks a lot :)
Thanks for all your help.
What a great video! Thank you for showing us how important constructive criticism can be in improving our lives for the better.
I work in science and when we write grants or papers, part of the process is to receive critical feedback from colleagues. While the process can trigger negative responses, it does help to make the scientific research better in the long run. Many of the comments often turn out to be about clarity of writing. Sometimes I am so involved in a project, I forget to explain aspects that are obvious to me. Comments from reviewers have provided valuable feedback to improve my contribution to the scientific literature.
Thank you Brian for your wisdom.
Brian,
Please make video on Why we set big dream. &
How to achieve our big goal...
Wow that was spot on. Thank you.
Thanks you Sir! You inspire me at all time!
I always learn with yours videos. Thank you. I'm Brazil, Amazonas.
I received a feed back which I didn’t like, I decided to keep quite not to spoil my relation with my manager
Thanks I needed this
Thanks for the video!
Well, boxing helped me a lot when i received some harsh feedback some years ago. You know, it was a familiar feeling, just like when someone hits your jaw with a jab (not too solid hit, i mean). So, i was prepared psychologically and was not discouraged as i would have been without that experience of a jab to a jaw. Btw, it was a great feedback, definitely changed my life for the better.
Awesome. Nicely explained. Good Eye opener to face criticism boly in my life. I learned it in a simple way criticism = Feedback. Thanks a ton Mr. Briyan. Stay Blessed
The criticism I'm feel I need to work on is when it comes as a 'you always' or 'you never'
Thank you very much and it is valuable!!!
I almost never thank for that criticism. I could talk with person, explaine, ask. Really I need to say thank you and move on
Well, I guess this is as good a time as any to give you a bit of constructive critisicm. I understand that you have been very successful and might not care what a simple person such as myself thinks. Either way, I will give you my five cents.
You have been of great help to me ever since 2013 where I bought: "No excuses" and I was very succesful in high school thanks to the tools you gave me in that book. Daily goals and planning were without a doubt the most helpful resources in helping me through my high school career. These rituals entirely changed my life, and I'm certain that if I had incorporated them even more disciplined into my life, I would have been more succesful in the other areas of my life.
I will say that I am quite sceptical that positive affirmations work. They never worked for me anyways. It seemed like affirmations were lies, that I was telling myself. My subconscious mind did not accept the "orders" that I gave myself as you phrased it in "Maximum Achievement". Instead, my subconscious mind retaliated against these positive affirmations, and I lost all motivation. I think this leads us to a deeper flaw in your philosophy. I believe it was in "Maximum Achievement that you claimed that the goal is to "eliminate all negative emotions". I liked the statement at the time but I have since come to find that anger, fear and shame are all actually crucial emotions that are good for us.
Anger and retaliation is the appropriate response when people treat you disrespectfully. Without the emotion of anger and the accompanying action of retaliation as a response to disrespect, people will walk all over you. Fear is obviously there to keep you from taking unnecessary risks. I do agree that fear must sometimes be overcome but often, fear and worry should be treated as trusted advisors that will keep you from making stupid actions that could hurt you or others around you. Shame and guilt are also crucial, as they are sanctions against people who are not constructive to broader society. If there is no shame in being destructive, there can also be no honour in being constructive. Social sanctioning can be quite necessary, and it only works because people have a sense of shame.
Those are the most important points I can think of. Thank you for helping a lot of people out, Mr. Tracy.
Usually with a negative feedback I give justifications and/or excuses to defend my point of view.
you are great brian
Thank you very much for your wonderful video. However, i could not find your transcript either in this video or your website. please advice.
Great video dude!
Great insights. Loved it.
Thanks for this
Am a design student and find sometimes detaching from critism tricky as it can be really just personal opinion that tutor wants to impose thier own wishes on students wanting to be treated as clients when in reality it can turn into submissive a excercise with little personal design learning and development especialy at the begining when everything is new one can feel intimidated, but I also see that sometimes there is good that can be extracted as valuable feedback 20% but it is coated with lots of useless perplex feedback so I found your vedio very useful in standing back and detaching, got to practice that lots, can you please do vedio on strategies of emotional detachment (for sensitive people)in stressful situations to maintain productive focus. Thank you Brian
Thank you. How do we deal with demoralizing feedback?
Great tips indeed ,,Thank you :)
u r very great sir..i had downloaded your e book....thanks a lot....sir one more request can u plz make a video on GRATEFULNESS
Hello Brian thank you, I have received both negative and constructive feed back before, a few times I did not react pleasantly lol. Any more tips that you can share, I have gotten better but would like to master this skill.
Hi Brian, I am new to a certain industry, and I'm being trained by people who have a lot of experience in this industry, but I am realizing that I have some push back with my ego, as I'm in my 40's and they are in their 20's. How can I get past this? I am finding it hard to accept their feedback when I know I should.
thank you sir
I take it hard. I'll turn it to fuel and fire my engine. I'll prove them wrong!
great ideas!
Maybe its hard to take because its hard to understand where its coming from. If and when I have not liked it or did not want to hear it, I have not dealt with it, mostly from not knowing how to improve and not asking why... But as criticism can improve, other people might have the distance to see what is not possible to see from within... Anyway keeps the mind healthier! Almost as a way of life.
Thank you for wor
Hello brian.if it's not constructive! . How to make consider the necessary for yourselfZ?
In reality, nobody likes the so called constructive criticism. As Marshal Goldsmith, one we'll know coach once said, people loves praise not criticism, mostly when unsolicited, since it is difficult to find the borders between positive and negative feedback.
My father always has something negative to say about anything my mom (his wife) and I do. I could do exactly what he wants and he always has something negative to say about it. I dont know what to do. I have an almost 4 month old and I try to be so positive around her and I just got diagnosed with ppd and he just makes it worse
I'm going take criticism more I know it will change well so lot smoother
good video
It was difficult, and I guess I didn't handle it well
Yes
The art of not giving a fuck
In my six months probation for my job it had been raised that I do not listen my boss seemed confused by what a colleague or colleagues had said my boss did not seem concerned but I am not getting why their saying I do not listen. That just does not come a cross, as me.
Viewers may find something of interest in my book - Correction without Criticism [Etta Ganter]. It provides an approach for having emotionally tough conversations. Strategies are made explicit and examples are provided. 🙏
I love to be criticized for anything
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Trolling isn't constructive.
Oops! Thank you for your kind words. I have to learn how to deal with criticism.
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