This gives so much perspective. Thats why shes so upset about being the sisters babysitter. Not only is it unfair for her time but its emotionally unfair.
@@CeceLove08 In addition that could be also why Paul was getting hot when he heard Chioma talking about the Aunt kids in a bad light. Because he prorbably thought may not able to have them again so why are taking them for granted.
She had an abortion then he had her watching his sister's kids saying how much he loved them (as he should) and that if she loved him she would love them too. Where was the love from him in this case? It's good he expressed that he struggled with it too but that probably had everything to do with why she didn't want to watch the kids. Telling her how much he loved his sister's kids while pretending like their abortion never happened just seems like rubbing it in her face man that had to be hard...
Choma had an abortion, then taking care of Paul kids as "training", being called a "bad mom" AND Paul saying she doesn't w a n t to be a mom ... That stings just listening to it.
I feel sorry for chioma on the abortion issue because yes she walked in the clinic but imagine being so alone during a time when you need your man and all he pushes you to do is to get rid of your kid.
@@uncomfortabletruths5219 they both in the end did it. So I guess they both need to repent? If they didn’t want the burden of their actions they shouldn’t have been having s*x
Wow, didnt think of that! I mean that's a common human instinct of dealing with trauma. We tend to avoid the areas, the people are actions that led to that trauma. Maybe on his end the abortion was traumatic as well and as a remedy he thought if he avoids that altogether than they are safer that way
Throwback to paul saying how much he loves his sisters kids blah blah blah. But made Chioma get rid of her baby. It’s sad that it takes two to make a baby but majority of the time it’s the man that has the option to not be a father
Whether Chioma went to the clinic or not, there was clear coercion into that decision. Feeling trapped into a decision does not allow someone to make a decision freely. This was the realest episode in my opinion, it hasn’t changed my feelings towards Paul but it gave insight. And whether it is acting or not, this is REAL LIFE; people go through this every day.
It is not impossible for a woman to make her own decision in situations like this. Some women are strong enough even when feeling pressured. It's depending on the person's strength.
I think Chioma did everything to appease Paul, and when she realized that she was not getting anything from it she took it to therapy. She gave him her heart he could barely give her emotions she gave him her body and he called her fat she gave him a child and he deemed it an inconvenience so she got an abortion and now she feels guilt. not saying that paul doesn't feel guilt but her appeasing him seems to be a driving force in her life
I'm going to adress your stupidity, 1° as men we are by nature not emotionals but we do are best( compromise), 2° you had no problem dodging her comments towards him, embaressing him, shamimg him, calling his sister the B word..... but as soon as he called her fat, ooooooh what a bad person. Like what? 3° she said it herself there were young and not ready but she wanted anyway (selfish). And now she feel guilt? Girl by.
@@davilsonpinhel4168 first off going is spelt with a g at the end not a t. When you were editing, why did you not edit your bad spelling? Secondly, he told her to get help and fix herself, and he decided to bring his sister to a COUPLE'S therapy session. He's obviously not 'trying his best' infant he's doing his worst. And that wasn't even the worst he said. He even lied to her, saying he never told his sister to come. By nature he is a narcissist and a liar. It's society that decided you lot aren't naturally emotional, and it's you who decided to believe that's true.
@@brb2000 1° it is spell not spelt and I only edited the last part, I didn't notice the T part. 2nd ok, no one has decided it's true, men are emotionless creatures by nature. you are, so we have to act for you, when in reality we don't care. Yeah, he brought his sister so....to solve a problem you need both sides of the story when he just found out she had a problem with his sister in therapy. he probably told his sister about it and she wanted to share her part so Denise could get a better understanding of the situation. but she is a manipulator and realized that the truth is about to be revealed, so she went crazy and started blaming him.
Men do everything to make their children happy. It doesn't matter if he's a murderer, rapist, narcissist etc... then all this crap I'm reading is just simply stupid. You're not a man, so don't talk about it.
I hate when men think that showing emotion will make them seem weak or less of a man🙁 I understand it’s often engrained in boys from such a young age (like my brother for example), but I think it’s really “manly”to be able to show your emotions and be vulnerable. Bottling up that energy creates a cycle of rage, they end up channeling that emotion into rage, etc. Men should be able to be vulnerable and not worry about how it makes them look.
@@candi1904 oh, I didn’t think that deeply into the word. I just used it because that’s what men use to describe being, idk, a true “man”. I definitely see your point and agree
I just spoke on this too!!!!! Yesssss! It’s engrained to how males are ‘supposed’ to be by societies standards and the standard is unfortunately still being upheld so the cycle continues (won’t w/ me when I have kids in the future tho) but change has to start somewhere. And tbh males thinking that showing emotion makes them weak INFACT makes them weak. Thinking like that shows weakness & the lack of emotional maturity as part of being a PERSON! Notice they never do this w/ women as much. We gotta stop giving slaps on the wrist & football passes. It has to stop.
I think Chioma stayed after the abortion for two reasons 1)She may felt like only Paul would want her after that procedure especially if she can't get pregnant again because of it 2) She was trying to be closer to him to grieve over the child but he was shut off emotionally then having her take care of his sister's kids. And no sexual Intimacy either probably as a manifestation of HIS fears of getting her pregnant again. Yikes.
I also think that reason #3 as to why she stayed is because she may think that no other man besides Paul will want to be with her because some men might be put off the fact that she was pregnant at one point.
It def not just his fault bout the abortion but she prob agreed out of pressure. I grew up around men like this unfortunately and I know how manipulative they can be. And being a single mum, especially in a Nigerian family, its stigmatizing, i've seen and heard all terrible things targeted at them. personally never gone through nothing like that but I completely understand her fear and pain.
I agree she definitely played a part but she was very vulnerable, emotional, confused and probably in shock and he took advantage of that. Him adding that pressure was a lot for her to take on
Yeah being a single mom is demonized. But even apart from stigma, it's a difficult life. Its a lot of work and a lot of money and disrespect from everyone saying you're destroying society somehow
@@Sincerelydajah she she said it was 8 months ago. How much has he really changed in 8 months that he can make that promise that he’ll be an active father if she got pregnant again? Because like she said, she could be pregnant today.
@@Bbysadist honestly I feel as though the only person that can change Paul is Paul. Paul sees no wrong in himself so therefore I don’t think he’s made any progress. I was just saying that yes she also made the decision but the added pressure Paul applied made things worse.
There os 33 ways to prevent the pregnancy and even if you ignore all the which by itself is stupidity, you still have the pan B which it can be taken in 48h. No excuse. after all that, and you still got pregnant it is definitely your fault.
this episode helped explained the change in their sexual and emotional intimacy for sure. makes me wonder if his critique of physique, her sexuality, her public brand(which he was attracted to) and the avoiding her sexually and not trusting her pursuits - is rooting in thinking she'll get pregnant again or would try to get pregnant again. (which isn't an uncommon thing when couples don't discuss miscarriages and abortions in healthy ways)... it was hard to watch but that decision might've been the catalyst for more toxic behavior from both of them. there was a root/seed of resentment that was festering... outside of this - the disrespect still isn't cool from Paul. I feel like they both have some unhealthy expectations and struggle with boundaries individually and it may be the best to separate and engage in their own therapy to figure out why they both stayed in this for so long. :/
8 months ago she was pregnant so it was like 2 months before she moved in with him. And they didn't discuss it AT ALL? My goodness. I hate to say it, but it's a good thing she doesn't have a child with him. He has so much growing up to do and a child deserves parents that are emotionally unavailable.
For those who never had to go through what chioma went through ( im not sure if they are actors or not) But I in real life went through that myself. I understand it takes two to tango and the option of taking plan B is out there, but I know for me I NEVER thought in a million years my partner at the time would ask me to abort a baby rather we planned for it or not. So I 100% understand the pain of having your back up against the wall and feeling like you have no other option. Its sort of a betrayal of trust especially when the person you are with previously expressed wanting kids. Now the only difference with me is when we made that choice, I in turn made the choice to end the relationship. I just dont think ppl who have never been in that situation can truly understand all that goes with that. At the end of the day I respect all choices!
100% it was me too. And we did end also they got caught cause paul aint friggin sorry he's a narcisist and all it may seem like he was emotional it was just the greatest opportunity for him to say the right things to win herr bsck AT HER LOWEST 6 years think i got enough experience lmao
Talking about having kids doesn't he wanted at the moment. That takes 5 to 10 years. You did it to yourself. You could've just open your mouth and say "give me an estimation, like when do you expect having kids"? He will give an estimation like in 3 to 5 years or more. And with that you have something to go with. Instead of just he oh talk about having kids iso i my aswell give it to him.
I think Paul got so into impressing his "clients" that he lost himself and is now trying to protray this false glam image of who he wants to be : just like his clients. Chioma does have problems with trying to get what she wants in a relationship with all this lack of communication/ disrespect because she might have choose the wrong person and is trying hard not to quick because she would have to start over with someone new. She just might have to learn to let go of love if neither of them change for the better.
Paul is a narcissist. he is incapable of loving anyone else because deep down inside he is very insecure and does not love himself. Narcissists are not born they are made....he either was babied as a child or emotionally neglected. He is a textbook narcissist hence why he lacks empathy and refuses to take responsibility for any of his mistakes. Men like Paul cannot be "fixed" by a woman, instead, they will break a woman down and damage her so much she is going to need years worth of therapy or work on herself to heal from the emotional and sometimes physical abuse narcissists inflict. Run away from Pauls!
I hate that she was ever in that situation. I personally had a similar situation but I chose(Im ProChoice) to keep my child & be a single parent. I however also made the decision to not be with the father after that. I get that in the end it’s on them both but in all honesty as someone who has been through it and chose a different route than her I still place blame on him because if this is how he’s acting on camera Im more than positive the conversations about her getting abortion were a lot more heated on his end & she truly felt like she had no other option.
I absolutely HATE when men do this to women. And for the freaking therapist to say "you walked in the clinic" as if she's never heard of COERCION. TO CREATE A CHILD INSIDE ANOTHER PERSONS BODY AND THEN SAY YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF RAISING IT is not only cruel, manipulative, and abusive, but is also cowardly. And then the onus always falls on the woman, and we call her child murderer but if a parent just walks away, thats no different than killing it yourself. But we let men f off all these babies or force women to get abortions, put their bodies on the line so they can keep living their carefree lives and chase money but expect women to give up their whole lives to raise a child they didn't make on their own. Like no, hold Paul and men like him accountable for coercing women into abortions with the threat of financial withdrawal or abandonment. It's not right.
I praise you strength for leaving him. You are a boss and that child is lucky to have you. Girl you are like a someone to look up to. To know your worth and act upon it is not easy. Soo I am proud of you sis keep shining ❤️👑
Exactly I’m sure she felt pressured and even abortions can cause postpartum Depression ... why she felt paid about her body and overly trying to be sexy for sex
@@monamariin750 awwe thank you!! This means a lot. It was definitely hard, I ended up having to move back home & pretty much start over & I suffered with depression throughout my pregnancy but I don’t regret my decisions to both keep my son & leave his father at all.
@@alt4374 listen!!! Everything always falls back on the women, even down to the “ well you walked into the clinic” or “you should have picked a better daddy” etc. It’s always on the woman & it’s not fair at all
My grandaddy died from cancer 3 days ago. When my mom called to tell me the news I immediately started crying and I told my boyfriend what happened. For the very first time in almost 4 years of us being together, I saw him cry. We sat there crying and it meant so much to me to see tears in his eyes. I appreciated him being vulnerable with me in such a devastating moment. Men, sometimes your partner just wants you to cry and mourn with them, and there is strength in that too.
What's so sad is that I'm starting to realize I have a "Paul" for a father. Though I'm still young, finally leaving home and hearing about other family dynamics I've come to realize me being a "Daddy's Girl" feed or rather enabled such tendencies. How does one address this in a healthy way but isn't "questioning" their authority or being disrespectful?
Just adress it tbh the problem would be how its perceived. Just don't be confrontational ab it, it's a conversation. If he sees it as disrespectful then so be it if he levels with you and hears you then great. And know what exactly you want to address. ik it's not that easy but there's nothing to be afraid of hope this helps.
@@izza5577 thank you for the advice. Reason I was even asking is because yesterday he called me about my sister which then twisted to me. My sister tried to share her emotions and this was a sign of disrespect. She's only in the 8th grade and I was shown those texts, I was proud of how she articulated herself but all in all we are not supposed to question him as he is the father and we are the children. I tried to explain where we were coming from and I triggered one of his episode. Mind you I was being respectful and using clear straightforward English as our native language can sometimes have a double meaning.
They’ll always think you’re questioning their authority. I’m 26yo and I’ve been trying to explain this to my parents for the past five years. They’ll never admit they’re wrong and will tell you to be grateful. The best thing you could do for your mental health is to accept them for who they are. Learn from your parents and Teach your siblings. we need to end the traumatic childhood experience for the next generation ✌🏽
The problem is she's loves him more than she loves herself. Her self esteem is shot. She couldn't bare being alone with a baby. He knew all of this and said what he said to get his way.
I disagree. Raising a child alone isn't an easy thing, especially if you'd never seen yourself as being in that type of situation. Clearly she was scared. IMHO 😊
What? Umm choosing yourself and your own well being is self esteem. Choosing to be saddled with the child of a man who doesn't want it and barely wants you is low self esteem.
We need to remember, Denise is an actress, as explained by production. She is entirely unqualified to handle the abortion conversation. *Coercive choices are not real choices.* Paul threatened Chioma with abandoning her if she followed through with the pregnancy. To frame the "choice" she made as a free choice is incredibly harmful. I'm glad Chioma had the clarity and grounding to reject Denise's misinformed framing of choice. Again, choices produced by coercion are, by definition, not choices.
The pain in Chioma’s eyes and voice when she speaks about this shows me at least that she wanted that baby.. this man Paul is just.. first let me say I haven’t been watching yall for a while but I started watching when you guys did the first episode and I’ve been attached to you guys as a couple since. Back to Paul .. this man has been so manipulative and I really feel bad for her. I’ve been through this feeling before.. I’m a single mom of two boys.. one is now 3 months and the other is 2 and a half. The dad with the 2 and a half year old left without hesitation .. blocked me and I just haven’t heard from him .. my 3 month olds dad highly suggested abortion to me 3 times in the first 3 months of my pregnancy. (My 3 month olds dad told me we would be getting married and figure things out) I was in love with him but he went and got married to another female from his past that he had known a year longer than me.. while I was 6 months pregnant he got married to her. He put me through hell and still does and I’m still having to deal with him. Again, that was my decision.. and I hold myself accountable and that’s why I’ve had to be the best mom I can be due to the circumstances. I dont judge anyone else’s story or decisions. Everyone has their own reasons, hurt, lives. I chose to keep both of them and honestly it is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and IT IS very hard so I can understand why people wouldn’t want to put a child through certain stuff or themselves through certain stressors. But at the end of the day I get where Chioma is coming from and why she’s so hurt and she has every right to be and I’ve dealt with men like that as well .. I just want to say for any female or man going through a toxic relationship .. if you ever have bad thoughts reach out to people and resources! You might be surprised how many people care about your story ❤️
@@breadbutter4221 condom its not 100% safe people did get using it. 2° birt controll is a bad idea majority of girls can't handle it, preaty much makes them bipolar and hard to be around.
Not going to lie, I wasn't into the series at first.So many people I am subscribed to did reaction videos aswell and this show was all over my suggestions.I do not like cheap/reality tv type shows.But your take on this show make it so much better that I find myself looking forward to this finale
I think some people are confused about Chioma's reaction to her abortion. Their culture is different when it comes to abortions. Also, I think the shock of realizing their relationship wasn't as solid as she thought it was kind of clouding her decision. It's not fair to say she should've been smarter or more understanding of Paul's decision. That's seriously insulting. Paul had a prior relationship with her. Neither of them wanted to seriously end things while they were on the break. She got pregnant. He should've manned up. Period. He put her in that situation. Not fair
I wanted to cry cause Paul wasn't taught to show his emotions. He thought if he showed anything beside numbness he would be less than. That's upsetting cause , Chioma needs communicating and for Paul to express his emotions but he doesn't know how cause he doesn't want to look or feel less than. I didn't like Paul but I feel bad for how he feels about himself.
Anyone else feel like the only form of agreement they ever have is mutually calling each other “babe”! Found ZERO reasons why she should stay with him after all this. I hope she leaves for good!
I genuinely think this is the first time she felt like she has even the space to have a voice in the relationship. She explained in the other session that he usually talks over her, snaps, then walks out. He’s really good at taking control of a conversation. The ENTIRETY of every therapy session he ignored what was asked of him and demanded her and the therapist to answer HIS questions. Even if he ddid respond to a question that was asked, instead of answering the question he would relate it to something HE wanted to talk about. Even if it had no relation to the question. Being pregnant makes you feel vulnerable and scared especially if she doesn’t even know if she can have kids. He probably took control of the conversation while she was vulnerable and scared and TOLD her that they both wanted an abortion and didn’t ask her...this poor girl is being manipulated and controlled and I wish the therapist didn’t let him control a lot of the conversations that happened. And I also feel like it’s her job to let a couple know if they’re not fit for marriage. She’s trying to put together a broken couple for life when it’s clearly a toxic situation.
Y'all, this was deep... I felt sorry for both of them. If they really are actors, they really are pretty good. Like damn... I felt the hurt. Thanks for your insights and takeaways!
that’s a tough situation they were in. i’m so glad that paul really took a step off the pedestal he sits himself on. my heart goes out to chioma for going through that. i definitely agree that while she may have felt there was no other option, she ultimately made the decision to go through with it. outside of paul and chioma, i love how josh is always so attentive. when isi talks, he’s fully invested in hearing what she has to say. that’s amazing.
One thing I genuinely enjoy about y’all’s reaction to this series, is in fact you guys’ emotional awareness. Whenever a heavy conversation is discussed between Paul and Chioma, you two seem to lighten the load with your commentary on the topic or a simple gesture of affection towards one another. 🥰 I almost did not want to have any sympathy for Paul at all especially after everything that’s occurred but this was an extremely emotional episode and as someone who’s had friends in both positions (emotionally), in that moment I chose understanding. After watching these episodes and reactions several times, if this is in fact real, I’m not sure if I see a future for them but I do hope they continue individual therapy. 🙏🏽 PS: Last I checked, the reunion was uploaded on the same channel as these episodes, I’m hoping it’s still here so y’all don’t have to pay for it. 🤞🏽
I understand Josh' takeaway at the end, but Chioma said that she was under the impression Paul did want kids and that they've talked about having kids since the beginning of their relationship. I feel like she was very shocked when Paul shared that he was not ready to be a father, and then having to make a decision of that calibre so quickly, I can understand why she felt backed up against a wall.
True true. I do think it's wrong to put that all on Paul, because at the end of the day Chioma walked into the clinic like Denise said, but I still feel total sympathy for the both of them.
@@blueismylove3128 Well towards the end Chioma said that she has to own her part in the decision. It is difficult though because single mothers are so demonized and it's a very difficult life, at the same time getting an abortion is also very demonized. Don't drink with your partner I guess.
I was coerced/forced into an abortion in a similar situation. The day of the appointment I rang the clinic and told them I've changed my mind. I raised my baby on my own. It's been tough, but I love my bubba so much and don't regret it one bit. Being a solo Mama has made me strong. No judgement here. This episode made me cry a lot ❤️😭💪🏽
Just finished part 5 and just got this notification for part 6 y'all are the best it's been a blast and can't wait for the upcoming other couples reaction
In his defense, he didn’t tell his sister to come. She brought her little instigating self down there. He just told her about the situation. Now he shouldn’t have gave details like that to her. But he did tell her to leave...
@@_allisonogun You are right I did hear that, but I wonder if he asked or if she just came. From the way Chioma is describing her, the sister tells them what she’s going to do. Now he should have told her not to come before the session, but she sounds like she does what she wants. Maybe that just me.
I feel that this being brought out, I started to see that this may be an underlying reason to many of their problems. Maybe Paul's fixation with his clients now stems from him feeling inadequate to take care of a child. I also see that with Chioma how Paul doesnt listen and sets what she wants to say aside, it hurts her because she might see it as a the same thing that happened. I don't know but I hope and pray Chioma heals and Paul can better himself.
Nope yall got caught! 🤣🤣 He's a fricken narcisist with no emotion. That was just a vurnerable time so he took the chance to say the right things to keep her where he wants her. To make her feel like he understands. Look at his eyes... the way he said those words were so rehesrsed like "THIS WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR TO SHUT UP HERE YOU GO" Lmao im gone 🤣🤣 Why did these people act out 6 years of my life lmao!!!! This was entertaining on to the next couple!
@@blueismylove3128 Yes she did! And it turns out that Chioma was doing 60% and Mr the provider himself was only doing 40% in the relationship 😂 and he’s in a lot of debt she exposed him🤭
I just turned 43, and I have 5. It's heartbreaking because we've been there or know somebody that has. And we go through hell and high water to make sure our kids don't go through it, it's sad.
I think the reason why they didn’t think of birth control as because Chioma said they were both on the same page with starting a family but once she found out about the pregnancy they were in a bad place and he said that thing about not being there for them
Wow, I was not expecting that! I’m glad they had that moment to talk, even happy that Paul spoke up and talked about his feelings. We really need to normalize Black Men expressing their feelings and thoughts. We are human at the end of the day, doesn’t matter what gender. We all have the ability to cry for a reason! It’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Life isn’t easy at all, we need to learn to mourn, cope, and heal. It’s important for our well-being, no matter what gender.
@@jaylanjay2494 sometimes some woman do believe that men shouldn’t show emotion or cry. Ofc men have to normalize it for themselves, but us woman need to support as well. it’s not every woman that does this, but some do.
The way that Josh Looks at you and pays attention to you while your talking is making me feel a type of way. That man LOVVEEESSS you and values what you say and it’s a vibe sis❤️❤️❤️
it’s so sad that Choima held in those emotions for so long. A shared experience between the two of them shouldn’t have been labeled as taboo; and on top of the fact that she most likely would’ve had that baby at the time of those session is probably making it even more emotional for her. Holding in emotions is never healthy for anyone and Choima really needed that time to be vulnerable and express how she’s been feeling since it’s evident that she can’t do that with Paul. I thought about this after watching this episode and thinking about the episode about them not having sex-could it be that paul doesn’t want to have sex because he’s afraid that Choima might become pregnant again?? I just hope that Paul isn’t making promises he knows that he won’t keep.
I felt like rewatching Blue Therapy and that's how I found this channel. Subscribed to all 3!!!! Love your energy, you seem like you have such a beautiful relationship. Both of you looking fine as hell every single video too🔥🔥 I'm gonna watch the second couple too. Just wanted to give you your flowers👏🏾 Amazing content
Josh!! That face, when she began to speak on the “situation” (12:00). Priceless! By the way, the 2 of you give me life! To ee you guys, in action together, Beautiful! All the Blessings and all the love to you both. You guys show the world what deep and abiding love and affection looks like! I love it! 💜
Thank you for the quick content creations. It’s definitely challenging capturing so much on camera. Your efforts are seen and very much appreciated. I have really enjoyed the QUALITY y’all have been posting. 🤎
I found y’all through this series and have watched a couple other videos of y’all since including the proposal one! Anybody can see the true love you guys have for each other by how y’all look at each other, how y’all talk to each other and just by y’all whole demeanor period! God really did His thang having y’all meet each other. I hope y’all stay happy and blessed through everything life may throw at you. Because not only do y’all have each other but y’all also have God and as long as He’s in the center y’all can never lose. I’m rooting for yall! Now let me finish this final episode…. 😭😭
To Josh’s point : “why didn’t she take the proper precautions after” …… she said with her family history it was hard to get pregnant. She probably didn’t think she could get pregnant.
I love your take on these episodes, please continue doing the series. Can I also point out it's really refreshing to see black african Americans reacting to our black African British shows... just love your take on the episodes so much xxx
He could've been the best BF but the pain she has would still make her resent him forever for this. She does have to heal from him. Since he is such a horrible boyfriend I think she needs to heal alone 😪😔
I KNEW Paul was emotionally unstable! African/Black households have a toxic stance on boys and emotions. Who knew how Paul was raised? Upbringings play a big part in how we love and show love. It's sad but it's true. He's so cold and dismissive bc maybe his own emotions were met with the same energy when he was living at home. He needs to be able to balance between provider and nurturer. They should be able to talk about a matter *that* serious. They’ve been angry and hurt with no resolution for 8 months. Opening up to your partner can be a scary thing if you’re used to bottling up your feelings. I have a hard time doing it as well. Couples therapy is important, but so is individual therapy. I cant properly love someone, if i haven’t confronted my own issues.
The most important man in my life cries at the drop of a hat, but that doesn't make him any less of a manly figure to look up too. The fact that he cries shows that he not only feels our pain but he can understand it, and that we aren't just expressing our emotions to a brick wall. So to all the men that feel as if they can't express feelings because they fear the image of looking weak. In my opinion it makes u look stronger. whether you cry alone or around your loved ones, let it out because you're still human at the end of the day.
The abortion may also be a reason why Chioma has such a problem with Paul’s sister since Chioma says she criticizes her ability to take care of children.
"I fell in love with a perception and didn't realize he was breaking me down"....FACTS😭 Almost my exact words..." I had to let go of the illusion of what I thought we had and the person I initially thought he was.".. It is hard to do after an extended period of toxic highs and lows. The end may have seemed genuine coming from him, but that was a part of the manipulation...ask me how I know...it becomes a neverending cycle of toxicity. It led me to having severe seizures bc that emotional trauma is REAL and takes a toll on your body. Chioma I wish you the best life has to offer. Love yourself to the core and allow your Intuition to be your voice of Clarity You are worthy of healthy love. God Bless😘
I don’t even know what to say. This episode was heavy. I think we finally got to see a part of Paul I think a lot of us weren’t sure even existed; his humanity. A lot of their issues mirror a common theme in a lot of couples...vulnerability is so important.
Wow, this brought their relationship brokenness... to a whole new level‼️😢💔 Paul shared more emotions. Good their in Therapy, hid apology seemed sincere‼️ The Importance Of Communication‼️📌💯🎯☮️🙌🏼
Wowwwwww this one was deep deep. I truly believe they should do therapy separately you can see that Paul he gotten a little vulnerable. They both need to heal and seek clarity separately or else they will keep projecting the hurt on to each other
Paul reminds me of men who gleefully and willfully gaslight women and feel proud of it because it's them being strong and proud and true to themselves. But instead it's them being truly disgusting. They're dressed for a funeral, truly. This is a funeral.
This gives so much perspective. Thats why shes so upset about being the sisters babysitter. Not only is it unfair for her time but its emotionally unfair.
Let’s not forget about the sisters rude comment about her making a bad mother
Where is the man to these kids🤔
wow i did not even make that connection like you did, now im even more sad for chioma. :(((
And why she felt some type of way about the lack of sex!
@@CeceLove08 In addition that could be also why Paul was getting hot when he heard Chioma talking about the Aunt kids in a bad light. Because he prorbably thought may not able to have them again so why are taking them for granted.
Josh: it can't possibly get any worse...
Paul: hold my clients
🤣🤣🤣🤣 not the clients
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lollllll best comment!!
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She had an abortion then he had her watching his sister's kids saying how much he loved them (as he should) and that if she loved him she would love them too. Where was the love from him in this case? It's good he expressed that he struggled with it too but that probably had everything to do with why she didn't want to watch the kids. Telling her how much he loved his sister's kids while pretending like their abortion never happened just seems like rubbing it in her face man that had to be hard...
Evil he is evil😭😭
Thank you well said
@@monamariin750 seriously
Omg yes. That makes so much sense. I didn’t even think about that. 😭 this is sad fr
The man is dumb
Choma had an abortion, then taking care of Paul kids as "training", being called a "bad mom" AND Paul saying she doesn't w a n t to be a mom ... That stings just listening to it.
I feel sorry for chioma on the abortion issue because yes she walked in the clinic but imagine being so alone during a time when you need your man and all he pushes you to do is to get rid of your kid.
Paul needs to repent for everything especially for killing his own child.
Imagine being desperate enough to then stay with him...smh
@@uncomfortabletruths5219 they both in the end did it. So I guess they both need to repent? If they didn’t want the burden of their actions they shouldn’t have been having s*x
@@uncomfortabletruths5219 eish
It’s fake an act Paul is an actor
This is probably why he avoided having "beep beep" with her despite all her advances...
Yooo
Oooooh never thought of it that way !!!
Wow, didnt think of that! I mean that's a common human instinct of dealing with trauma. We tend to avoid the areas, the people are actions that led to that trauma. Maybe on his end the abortion was traumatic as well and as a remedy he thought if he avoids that altogether than they are safer that way
I actually think there is another reason that becomes more obvious after you watch the aftermath..to do with his 'provider' status lmaooo
Exactly!!
Choma: takes tissue from the box
Josh: takes Twizzler from the bag
The way I laughed at that part😂
I noticed 🤣🤣🤣
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LMAOO
And Paul takes a tissue for himself, even though his lady is bawling 😭 eyewater and snot 🤧
Throwback to paul saying how much he loves his sisters kids blah blah blah. But made Chioma get rid of her baby.
It’s sad that it takes two to make a baby but majority of the time it’s the man that has the option to not be a father
Wow so true
She said it herself they were young unable to take care of it. Like are you listenning or just take whatever fit your ego.
Whether Chioma went to the clinic or not, there was clear coercion into that decision. Feeling trapped into a decision does not allow someone to make a decision freely. This was the realest episode in my opinion, it hasn’t changed my feelings towards Paul but it gave insight. And whether it is acting or not, this is REAL LIFE; people go through this every day.
Yeah agreed. I feel like she was pressured and that influenced her decision however I still wouldn't fully blame Paul.
It kind of upsets me that Josh and Isi didn't see it this way but no one is perfect and I hope they come across this comment.
It is not impossible for a woman to make her own decision in situations like this. Some women are strong enough even when feeling pressured. It's depending on the person's strength.
This!!!!
@@kylaallen8673 Even the strongest person can be manipulated by the people they love
I think Chioma did everything to appease Paul, and when she realized that she was not getting anything from it she took it to therapy.
She gave him her heart he could barely give her emotions
she gave him her body and he called her fat
she gave him a child and he deemed it an inconvenience
so she got an abortion and now she feels guilt.
not saying that paul doesn't feel guilt but her appeasing him seems to be a driving force in her life
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I'm going to adress your stupidity, 1° as men we are by nature not emotionals but we do are best( compromise), 2° you had no problem dodging her comments towards him, embaressing him, shamimg him, calling his sister the B word..... but as soon as he called her fat, ooooooh what a bad person. Like what? 3° she said it herself there were young and not ready but she wanted anyway (selfish). And now she feel guilt? Girl by.
@@davilsonpinhel4168 first off going is spelt with a g at the end not a t. When you were editing, why did you not edit your bad spelling? Secondly, he told her to get help and fix herself, and he decided to bring his sister to a COUPLE'S therapy session. He's obviously not 'trying his best' infant he's doing his worst. And that wasn't even the worst he said. He even lied to her, saying he never told his sister to come. By nature he is a narcissist and a liar.
It's society that decided you lot aren't naturally emotional, and it's you who decided to believe that's true.
@@brb2000 1° it is spell not spelt and I only edited the last part, I didn't notice the T part. 2nd ok, no one has decided it's true, men are emotionless creatures by nature. you are, so we have to act for you, when in reality we don't care. Yeah, he brought his sister so....to solve a problem you need both sides of the story when he just found out she had a problem with his sister in therapy. he probably told his sister about it and she wanted to share her part so Denise could get a better understanding of the situation. but she is a manipulator and realized that the truth is about to be revealed, so she went crazy and started blaming him.
I don't think Paul sees a future with Chioma. The way he says 'I will be an active father for my child no matter what'... dodgy vibes
He is lucky she took that promise. I don't think I would have based on the patterns in behavior.
Hihi,, that's what she asked him to promise though... so I guess They both don't see a future together.
Men do everything to make their children happy. It doesn't matter if he's a murderer, rapist, narcissist etc... then all this crap I'm reading is just simply stupid. You're not a man, so don't talk about it.
If it was mutual she would not have broken down like that.
Yeeees come through. On point, girl you good😘
I hate when men think that showing emotion will make them seem weak or less of a man🙁 I understand it’s often engrained in boys from such a young age (like my brother for example), but I think it’s really “manly”to be able to show your emotions and be vulnerable. Bottling up that energy creates a cycle of rage, they end up channeling that emotion into rage, etc. Men should be able to be vulnerable and not worry about how it makes them look.
@@candi1904 oh, I didn’t think that deeply into the word. I just used it because that’s what men use to describe being, idk, a true “man”. I definitely see your point and agree
There's a term for it, in feminist theory its called toxic masculinity. Things that are defined as masculine that are just harmful to men and women
@@ad2094 yup! It’s most definitely toxic masculinity
@@candi1904 Thank you so much! And I really appreciate your input!
I just spoke on this too!!!!! Yesssss! It’s engrained to how males are ‘supposed’ to be by societies standards and the standard is unfortunately still being upheld so the cycle continues (won’t w/ me when I have kids in the future tho) but change has to start somewhere. And tbh males thinking that showing emotion makes them weak INFACT makes them weak. Thinking like that shows weakness & the lack of emotional maturity as part of being a PERSON!
Notice they never do this w/ women as much. We gotta stop giving slaps on the wrist & football passes. It has to stop.
I think Chioma stayed after the abortion for two reasons 1)She may felt like only Paul would want her after that procedure especially if she can't get pregnant again because of it 2) She was trying to be closer to him to grieve over the child but he was shut off emotionally then having her take care of his sister's kids. And no sexual Intimacy either probably as a manifestation of HIS fears of getting her pregnant again.
Yikes.
Very well analyzed in my opinion 👌
Exactly 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I also think that reason #3 as to why she stayed is because she may think that no other man besides Paul will want to be with her because some men might be put off the fact that she was pregnant at one point.
Mmm. Omg!
The sex part a don't agree, having sex with a big women is exhausting. Not fun.
This man said and I quote, “Without going into too much detail…” and then said in the same breath, “seven or eight rounds” IM GASSED IM GONEEE 😂😂😂😂
LMAOOO
That was a lot of detail
Deadass like TMI bro ain't nobody need to know
Ikr. What an ego!!! All he had to say was ‘ the pregnancy was not planned. Alcohol was involved’
he really didn’t even have to mention any of that 🤷🏾♀️
It def not just his fault bout the abortion but she prob agreed out of pressure. I grew up around men like this unfortunately and I know how manipulative they can be. And being a single mum, especially in a Nigerian family, its stigmatizing, i've seen and heard all terrible things targeted at them. personally never gone through nothing like that but I completely understand her fear and pain.
I agree she definitely played a part but she was very vulnerable, emotional, confused and probably in shock and he took advantage of that. Him adding that pressure was a lot for her to take on
Yeah being a single mom is demonized. But even apart from stigma, it's a difficult life. Its a lot of work and a lot of money and disrespect from everyone saying you're destroying society somehow
@@Sincerelydajah she she said it was 8 months ago. How much has he really changed in 8 months that he can make that promise that he’ll be an active father if she got pregnant again? Because like she said, she could be pregnant today.
@@Bbysadist honestly I feel as though the only person that can change Paul is Paul. Paul sees no wrong in himself so therefore I don’t think he’s made any progress. I was just saying that yes she also made the decision but the added pressure Paul applied made things worse.
There os 33 ways to prevent the pregnancy and even if you ignore all the which by itself is stupidity, you still have the pan B which it can be taken in 48h. No excuse. after all that, and you still got pregnant it is definitely your fault.
this episode helped explained the change in their sexual and emotional intimacy for sure. makes me wonder if his critique of physique, her sexuality, her public brand(which he was attracted to) and the avoiding her sexually and not trusting her pursuits - is rooting in thinking she'll get pregnant again or would try to get pregnant again. (which isn't an uncommon thing when couples don't discuss miscarriages and abortions in healthy ways)... it was hard to watch but that decision might've been the catalyst for more toxic behavior from both of them. there was a root/seed of resentment that was festering... outside of this - the disrespect still isn't cool from Paul. I feel like they both have some unhealthy expectations and struggle with boundaries individually and it may be the best to separate and engage in their own therapy to figure out why they both stayed in this for so long. :/
I could have not agree with you more Neena. With that resentment still lingering it makes you question alot. Is this the best route going forward
Yooooo! Yalls face when he said "i forgot i told my sister to come"... had me rollinnnnnnn 😂
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8 months ago she was pregnant so it was like 2 months before she moved in with him. And they didn't discuss it AT ALL? My goodness. I hate to say it, but it's a good thing she doesn't have a child with him. He has so much growing up to do and a child deserves parents that are emotionally unavailable.
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For the first time, Paul hasn't brought up his "high net worth" clients.
For those who never had to go through what chioma went through ( im not sure if they are actors or not) But I in real life went through that myself. I understand it takes two to tango and the option of taking plan B is out there, but I know for me I NEVER thought in a million years my partner at the time would ask me to abort a baby rather we planned for it or not. So I 100% understand the pain of having your back up against the wall and feeling like you have no other option. Its sort of a betrayal of trust especially when the person you are with previously expressed wanting kids. Now the only difference with me is when we made that choice, I in turn made the choice to end the relationship. I just dont think ppl who have never been in that situation can truly understand all that goes with that. At the end of the day I respect all choices!
100% it was me too. And we did end also they got caught cause paul aint friggin sorry he's a narcisist and all it may seem like he was emotional it was just the greatest opportunity for him to say the right things to win herr bsck AT HER LOWEST 6 years think i got enough experience lmao
I've been there, it's not even explainable to have somebody make you feel cornered in such a delicate situation. I feel you.
Talking about having kids doesn't he wanted at the moment. That takes 5 to 10 years. You did it to yourself. You could've just open your mouth and say "give me an estimation, like when do you expect having kids"? He will give an estimation like in 3 to 5 years or more. And with that you have something to go with. Instead of just he oh talk about having kids iso i my aswell give it to him.
I think Paul got so into impressing his "clients" that he lost himself and is now trying to protray this false glam image of who he wants to be : just like his clients. Chioma does have problems with trying to get what she wants in a relationship with all this lack of communication/ disrespect because she might have choose the wrong person and is trying hard not to quick because she would have to start over with someone new. She just might have to learn to let go of love if neither of them change for the better.
Paul is a narcissist. he is incapable of loving anyone else because deep down inside he is very insecure and does not love himself. Narcissists are not born they are made....he either was babied as a child or emotionally neglected. He is a textbook narcissist hence why he lacks empathy and refuses to take responsibility for any of his mistakes. Men like Paul cannot be "fixed" by a woman, instead, they will break a woman down and damage her so much she is going to need years worth of therapy or work on herself to heal from the emotional and sometimes physical abuse narcissists inflict. Run away from Pauls!
He definitely got a persona going on and it reeks of bs
I hate that she was ever in that situation. I personally had a similar situation but I chose(Im ProChoice) to keep my child & be a single parent. I however also made the decision to not be with the father after that. I get that in the end it’s on them both but in all honesty as someone who has been through it and chose a different route than her I still place blame on him because if this is how he’s acting on camera Im more than positive the conversations about her getting abortion were a lot more heated on his end & she truly felt like she had no other option.
I absolutely HATE when men do this to women. And for the freaking therapist to say "you walked in the clinic" as if she's never heard of COERCION. TO CREATE A CHILD INSIDE ANOTHER PERSONS BODY AND THEN SAY YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF RAISING IT is not only cruel, manipulative, and abusive, but is also cowardly. And then the onus always falls on the woman, and we call her child murderer but if a parent just walks away, thats no different than killing it yourself. But we let men f off all these babies or force women to get abortions, put their bodies on the line so they can keep living their carefree lives and chase money but expect women to give up their whole lives to raise a child they didn't make on their own. Like no, hold Paul and men like him accountable for coercing women into abortions with the threat of financial withdrawal or abandonment. It's not right.
I praise you strength for leaving him. You are a boss and that child is lucky to have you. Girl you are like a someone to look up to. To know your worth and act upon it is not easy. Soo I am proud of you sis keep shining ❤️👑
Exactly I’m sure she felt pressured and even abortions can cause postpartum Depression ... why she felt paid about her body and overly trying to be sexy for sex
@@monamariin750 awwe thank you!! This means a lot. It was definitely hard, I ended up having to move back home & pretty much start over & I suffered with depression throughout my pregnancy but I don’t regret my decisions to both keep my son & leave his father at all.
@@alt4374 listen!!! Everything always falls back on the women, even down to the “ well you walked into the clinic” or “you should have picked a better daddy” etc. It’s always on the woman & it’s not fair at all
My grandaddy died from cancer 3 days ago. When my mom called to tell me the news I immediately started crying and I told my boyfriend what happened. For the very first time in almost 4 years of us being together, I saw him cry. We sat there crying and it meant so much to me to see tears in his eyes. I appreciated him being vulnerable with me in such a devastating moment. Men, sometimes your partner just wants you to cry and mourn with them, and there is strength in that too.
What's so sad is that I'm starting to realize I have a "Paul" for a father. Though I'm still young, finally leaving home and hearing about other family dynamics I've come to realize me being a "Daddy's Girl" feed or rather enabled such tendencies. How does one address this in a healthy way but isn't "questioning" their authority or being disrespectful?
Just adress it tbh the problem would be how its perceived. Just don't be confrontational ab it, it's a conversation. If he sees it as disrespectful then so be it if he levels with you and hears you then great. And know what exactly you want to address.
ik it's not that easy but there's nothing to be afraid of hope this helps.
@@izza5577 thank you for the advice. Reason I was even asking is because yesterday he called me about my sister which then twisted to me. My sister tried to share her emotions and this was a sign of disrespect. She's only in the 8th grade and I was shown those texts, I was proud of how she articulated herself but all in all we are not supposed to question him as he is the father and we are the children. I tried to explain where we were coming from and I triggered one of his episode. Mind you I was being respectful and using clear straightforward English as our native language can sometimes have a double meaning.
They’ll always think you’re questioning their authority. I’m 26yo and I’ve been trying to explain this to my parents for the past five years. They’ll never admit they’re wrong and will tell you to be grateful. The best thing you could do for your mental health is to accept them for who they are. Learn from your parents and Teach your siblings. we need to end the traumatic childhood experience for the next generation ✌🏽
@@dawit9496 thank you so much. I will try this
The problem is she's loves him more than she loves herself. Her self esteem is shot. She couldn't bare being alone with a baby. He knew all of this and said what he said to get his way.
I disagree. Raising a child alone isn't an easy thing, especially if you'd never seen yourself as being in that type of situation. Clearly she was scared. IMHO 😊
What? Umm choosing yourself and your own well being is self esteem. Choosing to be saddled with the child of a man who doesn't want it and barely wants you is low self esteem.
We need to remember, Denise is an actress, as explained by production. She is entirely unqualified to handle the abortion conversation.
*Coercive choices are not real choices.*
Paul threatened Chioma with abandoning her if she followed through with the pregnancy. To frame the "choice" she made as a free choice is incredibly harmful. I'm glad Chioma had the clarity and grounding to reject Denise's misinformed framing of choice. Again, choices produced by coercion are, by definition, not choices.
The pain in Chioma’s eyes and voice when she speaks about this shows me at least that she wanted that baby.. this man Paul is just.. first let me say I haven’t been watching yall for a while but I started watching when you guys did the first episode and I’ve been attached to you guys as a couple since. Back to Paul .. this man has been so manipulative and I really feel bad for her. I’ve been through this feeling before.. I’m a single mom of two boys.. one is now 3 months and the other is 2 and a half. The dad with the 2 and a half year old left without hesitation .. blocked me and I just haven’t heard from him .. my 3 month olds dad highly suggested abortion to me 3 times in the first 3 months of my pregnancy. (My 3 month olds dad told me we would be getting married and figure things out) I was in love with him but he went and got married to another female from his past that he had known a year longer than me.. while I was 6 months pregnant he got married to her. He put me through hell and still does and I’m still having to deal with him. Again, that was my decision.. and I hold myself accountable and that’s why I’ve had to be the best mom I can be due to the circumstances. I dont judge anyone else’s story or decisions. Everyone has their own reasons, hurt, lives. I chose to keep both of them and honestly it is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and IT IS very hard so I can understand why people wouldn’t want to put a child through certain stuff or themselves through certain stressors. But at the end of the day I get where Chioma is coming from and why she’s so hurt and she has every right to be and I’ve dealt with men like that as well .. I just want to say for any female or man going through a toxic relationship .. if you ever have bad thoughts reach out to people and resources! You might be surprised how many people care about your story ❤️
Maybe that’s why Paul doesn’t want to have sex afterall 🤔
Girl that was my first thought
Right!!🤔
Kmt ...what happens to condoms/birth control?
@@breadbutter4221 condom its not 100% safe people did get using it. 2° birt controll is a bad idea majority of girls can't handle it, preaty much makes them bipolar and hard to be around.
@@davilsonpinhel4168 But it does highly reduces the chances of pregnancy. So that's no excuse.
This man has caused her immense pain, and she needs to leave him. Continuing this relationship means sacrificing her happiness.
Not going to lie, I wasn't into the series at first.So many people I am subscribed to did reaction videos aswell and this show was all over my suggestions.I do not like cheap/reality tv type shows.But your take on this show make it so much better that I find myself looking forward to this finale
Josh puts a lot of wisdom concerning men into their take, Isi and Josh have such a balanced relationship.
Yesss Isi!!! Girl!!!! You look so good. That green with your chocolate skin and those HOOPS?! Yes. This is a look.
I don't believe anything Paul says regarding the promises he's making Chioma. It's difficult to believe his apologies
I clicked in the notification SO FASTTTTT😭😭 even though I already watched the series, I LOVE y’all’s takes on stuff😂 makes it so much better
same kkk
I think some people are confused about Chioma's reaction to her abortion. Their culture is different when it comes to abortions. Also, I think the shock of realizing their relationship wasn't as solid as she thought it was kind of clouding her decision. It's not fair to say she should've been smarter or more understanding of Paul's decision. That's seriously insulting. Paul had a prior relationship with her. Neither of them wanted to seriously end things while they were on the break. She got pregnant. He should've manned up. Period. He put her in that situation. Not fair
I know this is off topic but i admire how they look at each other with so much love and respect! Wishing the very best life brings to you guys!!!!🥰
I wanted to cry cause Paul wasn't taught to show his emotions. He thought if he showed anything beside numbness he would be less than. That's upsetting cause , Chioma needs communicating and for Paul to express his emotions but he doesn't know how cause he doesn't want to look or feel less than. I didn't like Paul but I feel bad for how he feels about himself.
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Chioma stayed at her sisters, that didn’t entitle her to bring HER sister choooo Paul is crazyyyy
Anyone else feel like the only form of agreement they ever have is mutually calling each other “babe”! Found ZERO reasons why she should stay with him after all this. I hope she leaves for good!
To! I was thinking the same thing,like they could flat out insult each other and end with ”babe "
7-8 rounds of what? -ISI CRACKS ME UP
I genuinely think this is the first time she felt like she has even the space to have a voice in the relationship. She explained in the other session that he usually talks over her, snaps, then walks out. He’s really good at taking control of a conversation. The ENTIRETY of every therapy session he ignored what was asked of him and demanded her and the therapist to answer HIS questions. Even if he ddid respond to a question that was asked, instead of answering the question he would relate it to something HE wanted to talk about. Even if it had no relation to the question. Being pregnant makes you feel vulnerable and scared especially if she doesn’t even know if she can have kids. He probably took control of the conversation while she was vulnerable and scared and TOLD her that they both wanted an abortion and didn’t ask her...this poor girl is being manipulated and controlled and I wish the therapist didn’t let him control a lot of the conversations that happened. And I also feel like it’s her job to let a couple know if they’re not fit for marriage. She’s trying to put together a broken couple for life when it’s clearly a toxic situation.
Y'all, this was deep... I felt sorry for both of them. If they really are actors, they really are pretty good. Like damn... I felt the hurt.
Thanks for your insights and takeaways!
that’s a tough situation they were in. i’m so glad that paul really took a step off the pedestal he sits himself on. my heart goes out to chioma for going through that. i definitely agree that while she may have felt there was no other option, she ultimately made the decision to go through with it. outside of paul and chioma, i love how josh is always so attentive. when isi talks, he’s fully invested in hearing what she has to say. that’s amazing.
One thing I genuinely enjoy about y’all’s reaction to this series, is in fact you guys’ emotional awareness. Whenever a heavy conversation is discussed between Paul and Chioma, you two seem to lighten the load with your commentary on the topic or a simple gesture of affection towards one another. 🥰
I almost did not want to have any sympathy for Paul at all especially after everything that’s occurred but this was an extremely emotional episode and as someone who’s had friends in both positions (emotionally), in that moment I chose understanding. After watching these episodes and reactions several times, if this is in fact real, I’m not sure if I see a future for them but I do hope they continue individual therapy. 🙏🏽
PS: Last I checked, the reunion was uploaded on the same channel as these episodes, I’m hoping it’s still here so y’all don’t have to pay for it. 🤞🏽
I understand Josh' takeaway at the end, but Chioma said that she was under the impression Paul did want kids and that they've talked about having kids since the beginning of their relationship. I feel like she was very shocked when Paul shared that he was not ready to be a father, and then having to make a decision of that calibre so quickly, I can understand why she felt backed up against a wall.
True true. I do think it's wrong to put that all on Paul, because at the end of the day Chioma walked into the clinic like Denise said, but I still feel total sympathy for the both of them.
Then before he said she was fat n that's probably y she was so hurt
@@blueismylove3128 Well towards the end Chioma said that she has to own her part in the decision. It is difficult though because single mothers are so demonized and it's a very difficult life, at the same time getting an abortion is also very demonized. Don't drink with your partner I guess.
@@ad2094 I saw and I don't think that's should be the take away from this 😂😂
I was coerced/forced into an abortion in a similar situation. The day of the appointment I rang the clinic and told them I've changed my mind. I raised my baby on my own. It's been tough, but I love my bubba so much and don't regret it one bit. Being a solo Mama has made me strong. No judgement here. This episode made me cry a lot ❤️😭💪🏽
Just finished part 5 and just got this notification for part 6 y'all are the best it's been a blast and can't wait for the upcoming other couples reaction
In his defense, he didn’t tell his sister to come. She brought her little instigating self down there. He just told her about the situation. Now he shouldn’t have gave details like that to her. But he did tell her to leave...
omfg i wish i didnt spoil this bit for myself but damnn
@@lilkeyla5769 yeah don’t read the comments first lol it will spoil it every time.
i think he did tell his sister to come bc in the beginning he said “i forgot my sister was coming” lmfaooo this man is something else😂😂
@@_allisonogun You are right I did hear that, but I wonder if he asked or if she just came. From the way Chioma is describing her, the sister tells them what she’s going to do. Now he should have told her not to come before the session, but she sounds like she does what she wants. Maybe that just me.
Didn't he tell his sister to come? I think he said he just forgot.
I feel that this being brought out, I started to see that this may be an underlying reason to many of their problems. Maybe Paul's fixation with his clients now stems from him feeling inadequate to take care of a child. I also see that with Chioma how Paul doesnt listen and sets what she wants to say aside, it hurts her because she might see it as a the same thing that happened. I don't know but I hope and pray Chioma heals and Paul can better himself.
Honestly, I completely agree.
Its clear to say tho, that at the end, she broke up with Paul, cause IDK who that other woman is sitting next to her.
I already know there is gonna be some crazy stuff with Paul
Nope yall got caught! 🤣🤣 He's a fricken narcisist with no emotion. That was just a vurnerable time so he took the chance to say the right things to keep her where he wants her. To make her feel like he understands. Look at his eyes... the way he said those words were so rehesrsed like "THIS WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR TO SHUT UP HERE YOU GO" Lmao im gone 🤣🤣 Why did these people act out 6 years of my life lmao!!!! This was entertaining on to the next couple!
I agree. He totally took advantage of the situation. I don't think he was being sincere at all.
Agreed!
Y'all need to react to Aftermath
Where is it located?
@@Makayla2.0tv It's right on youtube
God there's MORE
Did she break up with this man?
@@blueismylove3128 Yes she did! And it turns out that Chioma was doing 60% and Mr the provider himself was only doing 40% in the relationship 😂 and he’s in a lot of debt she exposed him🤭
I’m a 43 year old woman with 3 children, and I’m actually about to cry.
I just turned 43, and I have 5. It's heartbreaking because we've been there or know somebody that has. And we go through hell and high water to make sure our kids don't go through it, it's sad.
I cried 😢
I think the reason why they didn’t think of birth control as because Chioma said they were both on the same page with starting a family but once she found out about the pregnancy they were in a bad place and he said that thing about not being there for them
Wow, I was not expecting that! I’m glad they had that moment to talk, even happy that Paul spoke up and talked about his feelings. We really need to normalize Black Men expressing their feelings and thoughts. We are human at the end of the day, doesn’t matter what gender. We all have the ability to cry for a reason! It’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Life isn’t easy at all, we need to learn to mourn, cope, and heal. It’s important for our well-being, no matter what gender.
Who’s we?
*Men have to normalize
@@jaylanjay2494 sometimes some woman do believe that men shouldn’t show emotion or cry. Ofc men have to normalize it for themselves, but us woman need to support as well. it’s not every woman that does this, but some do.
The way that Josh Looks at you and pays attention to you while your talking is making me feel a type of way. That man LOVVEEESSS you and values what you say and it’s a vibe sis❤️❤️❤️
it’s so sad that Choima held in those emotions for so long. A shared experience between the two of them shouldn’t have been labeled as taboo; and on top of the fact that she most likely would’ve had that baby at the time of those session is probably making it even more emotional for her. Holding in emotions is never healthy for anyone and Choima really needed that time to be vulnerable and express how she’s been feeling since it’s evident that she can’t do that with Paul.
I thought about this after watching this episode and thinking about the episode about them not having sex-could it be that paul doesn’t want to have sex because he’s afraid that Choima might become pregnant again?? I just hope that Paul isn’t making promises he knows that he won’t keep.
I felt like rewatching Blue Therapy and that's how I found this channel. Subscribed to all 3!!!! Love your energy, you seem like you have such a beautiful relationship. Both of you looking fine as hell every single video too🔥🔥
I'm gonna watch the second couple too. Just wanted to give you your flowers👏🏾 Amazing content
I clicked so fast love ya'll soo much #qualitycrew
Josh!! That face, when she began to speak on the “situation” (12:00). Priceless! By the way, the 2 of you give me life! To ee you guys, in action together, Beautiful! All the Blessings and all the love to you both. You guys show the world what deep and abiding love and affection looks like! I love it! 💜
Thank you for the quick content creations. It’s definitely challenging capturing so much on camera. Your efforts are seen and very much appreciated. I have really enjoyed the QUALITY y’all have been posting. 🤎
I found y’all through this series and have watched a couple other videos of y’all since including the proposal one! Anybody can see the true love you guys have for each other by how y’all look at each other, how y’all talk to each other and just by y’all whole demeanor period! God really did His thang having y’all meet each other. I hope y’all stay happy and blessed through everything life may throw at you. Because not only do y’all have each other but y’all also have God and as long as He’s in the center y’all can never lose. I’m rooting for yall! Now let me finish this final episode…. 😭😭
To Josh’s point : “why didn’t she take the proper precautions after” …… she said with her family history it was hard to get pregnant. She probably didn’t think she could get pregnant.
I love your take on these episodes, please continue doing the series. Can I also point out it's really refreshing to see black african Americans reacting to our black African British shows... just love your take on the episodes so much xxx
Sis you are looking prettier every season..🥰🥰🥰💋
mannnn y’all are right on time with these videos 😂
BIG FACTS
As a woman...I actually have the issue of not being able to express myself effectively and am working on it.
Same it’s so dangerous to hold things in, that type of mentality broke me so I fear for men that are socialised that way.
Sooo when you watch the aftermath... it’s real!! The relationships are real! And there is more tea with the aftermath episodes
He could've been the best BF but the pain she has would still make her resent him forever for this. She does have to heal from him. Since he is such a horrible boyfriend I think she needs to heal alone 😪😔
I just finished all the other vid haha, this is great. Thanks guysss, btw the comments both of you have been giving are great as always
Once again the thumbnail captures the emotion from this episode. Grabs popcorn *bring on this commentary Isi& Josh 😭
Proud of you guys for the consistency! Please don’t forget to make time for yourselves and for rest. #RestIsProductive Love y’all 🥰💜
I KNEW Paul was emotionally unstable! African/Black households have a toxic stance on boys and emotions. Who knew how Paul was raised? Upbringings play a big part in how we love and show love. It's sad but it's true. He's so cold and dismissive bc maybe his own emotions were met with the same energy when he was living at home. He needs to be able to balance between provider and nurturer. They should be able to talk about a matter *that* serious. They’ve been angry and hurt with no resolution for 8 months. Opening up to your partner can be a scary thing if you’re used to bottling up your feelings. I have a hard time doing it as well. Couples therapy is important, but so is individual therapy. I cant properly love someone, if i haven’t confronted my own issues.
Coming through quickly with the vid! Loving the quality grind!
LETSS GOOO! i'm so emotionally drained from watching this with y'all lol. cant wait for the #secondcouple
Was finishing up the last video when I got this notification. Thought I was gonna have to wait a little while longer!
Y’all don’t have to pay for the Aftermath it’s on YT
Y'all are so consistent with the episodes... loving it!
I recommend for y'all to get an ad blocker on your computer, it saves a lot of time with these youtube ads lol. love you guys!
I'm loving this green bandana on this hair Isi!!!
I think Paul though she wouldn't show up, so he decided to invite his sister to discuss the issues of the last episode.
Thank you!!!!!! i was bored and ya'll help me while doing my homework
The most important man in my life cries at the drop of a hat, but that doesn't make him any less of a manly figure to look up too. The fact that he cries shows that he not only feels our pain but he can understand it, and that we aren't just expressing our emotions to a brick wall. So to all the men that feel as if they can't express feelings because they fear the image of looking weak. In my opinion it makes u look stronger. whether you cry alone or around your loved ones, let it out because you're still human at the end of the day.
Definitely had to subscribe after watching this last video! You guys are too cute together!!!
Part 5 and 6 BACK TO BACK!!!!!
The final we have been waiting for and oh my- you both look amazing Isi is giving me life so beautiful🙌💚💙
Y’all should watch the aftermath, episode 2 is chioma and Paul’s episode.
Yes! Watch the other couple first!!!
I can't wait!
I don't believe it's acting. Choma looks too hurt 😔😭
It’s real
This is why I say godly relationship with fellow believers is the way to go. A lot of trauma could have been easily avoided.
The abortion may also be a reason why Chioma has such a problem with Paul’s sister since Chioma says she criticizes her ability to take care of children.
"I fell in love with a perception and didn't realize he was breaking me down"....FACTS😭
Almost my exact words..." I had to let go of the illusion of what I thought we had and the person I initially thought he was."..
It is hard to do after an extended period of toxic highs and lows.
The end may have seemed genuine coming from him, but that was a part of the manipulation...ask me how I know...it becomes a neverending cycle of toxicity. It led me to having severe seizures bc that emotional trauma is REAL and takes a toll on your body.
Chioma I wish you the best life has to offer. Love yourself to the core and allow your Intuition to be your voice of Clarity You are worthy of healthy love. God Bless😘
I don’t even know what to say. This episode was heavy. I think we finally got to see a part of Paul I think a lot of us weren’t sure even existed; his humanity. A lot of their issues mirror a common theme in a lot of couples...vulnerability is so important.
Wow, this brought their relationship brokenness... to a whole new level‼️😢💔 Paul shared more emotions. Good their in Therapy, hid apology seemed sincere‼️ The Importance Of Communication‼️📌💯🎯☮️🙌🏼
Wowwwwww this one was deep deep. I truly believe they should do therapy separately you can see that Paul he gotten a little vulnerable. They both need to heal and seek clarity separately or else they will keep projecting the hurt on to each other
I’m really early for this!! Thank you for the back to back uploads!!♥️🥰✨
Paul reminds me of men who gleefully and willfully gaslight women and feel proud of it because it's them being strong and proud and true to themselves. But instead it's them being truly disgusting. They're dressed for a funeral, truly. This is a funeral.
Well that was quick! Thank you for your continuous videos. Appreciate your work.
Loving this consistency ‼️❤️
I absolutely LOVE your bodysuit & head scarf ✨🤍🖤 They both look gorgeous on you 💜