As someone who is very connected with my culture, it's awful to me that Paul said Chioma dancing and cooking was liking coming home to a "village." What??? "We're in London" LONDON IS HEAVILY AFRICAN. It really is disrespectful. Especially to say your girlfriend enjoying cooking cultural food is like coming home to a "village." That disgusted me.
Poor thing.... He's ashamed of being African and she reminds him that he is every minute of each and every day.... He's so pathetic it's not even funny!
@@daijapeters I'm not trying to say he couldn't have been depressed... what I'm saying is that he uses everything to gaslight and bludgeon her. Like waiting to share stories until a time when he thinks it will make her look bad? Come on. Everything he does down to trying to make conversation about the therapist is manipulative. Who would keep a secret story about depression and food when a huge issue is wanting her to make your food??? Someone who is a narcissist playing games with you.
@@karathomas03 he could have been depressed but it's very manipulative to hold that story and use it when he felt it for the most leverage for himself instead of communicating it. The man clearly communicates what he wants and why. Omission on his part is clearly intentional
Let's makes this clear. I'm Nigerian. And these dishes they're talking about i eat them every week. Im also an athlete. I am considered very skinny. Im 5'4 and weight abt 130 lbs. My mom went through a major weight loss journey like Paul and she cooks abd eats some of the dishes they're talking abt: fufu and soup, beans, yam porridge, etc. She's also in the gym at 4 am every day bc its part of her routine. So what Paul is saying abt the cultural food and losing weight doesn't even make sense. Someone doesn't necessarily need to track their calorie intake to lose weight or "get fit". Someone doesn't need to denounce their culture to eat healthy. I eat healthy all the time.. my mom is on a Keto Diet.. Simple things like portion control, those 1 minute workouts for an extended time period, or even adding certain things to your diet will give you results. also Palm Oil is not bad for you. It actually aids in losing weight by boosting your metabolism. It aids in preventing vitamin deficiencies, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, aging, brain disease, etc. Mchtew..he's such an embarrassment.. lying to these ppl🙄
Thanks for the info. Not knowing about the things that are being mentioned puts people that don’t know at a disadvantage. Cause I was thinking that there could be a compromise in this area, but having it explained, as you have done, it truly shows Paul as just being a true jerk, to say the least; and how his issues with food are his issues and he’s just pushing them off on her instead of just communicating with Chiamo about what he needs to stay fit. A mess!!
Girlll me too. I’m a signed model and still eat all these food this rubbish man complains about. And I’m still able to maintain my weight. If he says he’s the trainer he claims to be, eating anything shouldn’t be a problem. He can just workout to stay in shape.
I agree. Something else is going on that's not being told. I believe Paul is hiding something that might become evident as these sessions continue. Seems like he's projecting a little self-hate onto Chioma
The reason he did not bring up his depression is because IT NEVER MATTERED, he’s just trying to play the victim. He did a very good job of completely going off topic.
They are no longer together there’s a guy that paid for the subscription to watch the blue therapy aftermath it’s even more juicy than the therapy itself And you guys are only on episode four
I actually disagree with Josh when he said if she left dude wouldn’t care, he treats it like a business deal. I think he would care because he feels he has ownership over her. He sees life through the eyes of social media and all of its fakeness. This man is a manipulator and he’s calling her out on things that is clearly a reflection of himself. Last episode he told her she needed healing this one she doesn’t love herself. From what I get from it is that this was a insecure fat man that pulled a girl he probably didn’t think he could, now that he has her, lost weight and created this fairytale of a career he’s feeling himself with false confidence when in truth he’s still that fat BOY on the inside. He’s right when he says she doesn’t love her self but he’s saying it for the wrong reason. She doesn’t love herself because she wouldn’t tolerate this treatment and express marriage to a man like this as if it’s a goal or prize. There’s so much more but lord I can’t even 😩
I think we've all established at this point that Paul is absolute trash 🙄 but for her mental wellbeing and sanity Chioma needs to leave him like ASAP😩😭
@@zannahmartell9813 wtaf! That's ridiculous 60% of the bills yet he was the one gloating about how much money he earns🤦🏽♀️ either way I'm glad she left him, she deserves better
@@marnz2359 yup hes in debt too. And talks about her wanting her to be a housewife and cannot maintain. He doesn't even want to have sex with her. I think in the month of Pride. Perhaps Paul needs to realise his truth..He has no redeeming feature for a young attractive upwardly mobile woman.
the part about the food was NOT about her not compromising on the food they eat nor him coming around to eat the traditional food. her underlying issue is him denouncing the culture. and it literally ties into ALL facets of his personality. and it was evident when he said...why would I eat african food in a 2k suit. or 'put that African stuff to the side'. I think he feels in order to fit in with the clients he caters too (panders is more fitting lol) , he needs to subscribe to 'european' culture bc African culture is 'backward' and no longer fits into the environment/class he aspires to be. Its so sad. bc that 'unique' aspect of you is what can take you further. And there are many black people (esp men) that do this every time they are trying to come up/reach. and I think that irks her so much, bc now he is making her feel 'backward'/'ghetto (based on past episodes) and he is embarrassed by her and lashes out at her bc he feels he cannot 'bring' her around the ppl he is pandering too. funny...i think its prob black men who similarly think like him are some of his clients.
I agree. But damn! Him denouncing his own culture is hurting me & im not a true “African” if that makes sense. I would never understand how someone can truly be so disrespectful to THEIR OWN culture. If anything you’d think he’d want to introduce that to his clients so they could get a feel for who he is, where he comes from, & how that plays into who he is today. But he’s a bitch so I “let’s look at it this way” (his fav line) I guess we’re asking a bit much from someone so immature.
Exactly!! I was so confused when Denise, Josh, and Isi said she should compromise on the food. 1. It was her only boundary that she wasn’t willing to go back on. 2. It wasn’t about the food, he ate “acceptable” unhealthy food all the time. Only the Nigerian food was inedible. That was obvious when he complained about coming home from being with his expensive clients to her, cooking Nigerian food in the kitchen blasting Wizkid like they’re in some kind of village. Paul seems to feel that as his status has grown, he has outgrown his Nigerianess
exactlyyy...and at a certain point it is her fault because she’s enabling his behaviour by giving him those widely duties and also letting him treat her and talk to her the way he does. i wish someone would try me the way he does cause it wouldn’t last
He give more details about his clients than he does the relationship and that’s saying something for a man that hasn’t even truly said what he does for a living. Why do your therapist care what your clients do for a living or where they live.
Foreal... now that you mention it. It’s crazy where his priorities are. His “business” seems to take precedence over his relationship. It’s unfortunate😕
It's part of his persona, the need to establish how important, successful and superior he is... By proxy🙄 like I'm not a millionaire but I'm so valuable to them I'm in the inner circle blah blah
No for real. This deffo is a relationship with a narsisistic man and its just going to be even more clear if they get married because that will put choma in a place where she'll feel she can't get out. Honestly fvck this therapist because there's so many clear issues that she's not even acknowledging, literally choma has had to say I love Paul more times then Paul even expressws love 2 her
To be fair, I don’t think Paul and Choma are BOTH being brick walls. Based off of the entire therapy session, Paul is the issue here. Choma isn’t perfect but Paul is a misogynistic, self-absorbed irrational person that cannot be compromised with, talked to nor self-reflect or take any criticism. He doesn’t want to change or be better because he truly believes he is the victim.
I see Josh’s love for Isi is strongly displayed verbally, and Isi love for Josh is all in her eyes and her smile, she looks grateful, content, enhanced 💕 the love I may with someone in my future may not be like yours just like for anyone else, but I have learned more than a few thoughtful reminders and important habits a committed couple should possess just by watching you. Thank you for sharing a bit of your love with us ✌🏾
Remember I episode 1 he complained that she made Pasta bake for Christmas in a Nigerian household. At the same time he doesn't even like Nigerian food??
He likes when he is with family because would be embarrassing to admit he doesn't like his culture. But at home he like his "healthy food" because nobody is watching. Wth this we also remember in the beginning when she said he gives more importance to his image he gives to other people to actually be real. This means he actually plays pretend to be xx in front of xx to fit that person or group of people.
I’m confused because there are a lot of healthy Nigerian dishes, there are even dishes you can change to make healthier or make vegetarian, it’s still the same dish, just altered a little. I guess quite a lot contain a lot of oil but if we look at what our parents and grandparents are eating, it always contains a lot of greens, not too much salt, boiled yams. Like egusi and ogbono soup aren’t the only Nigerian dishes to exist (since he keeps on bringing up palm oil), there are many other dishes you can do and alter. Also if she’s not making the food the way you like it, why don’t you just do it yourself? That’s what my dad does with his red stew because he likes to add spinach and other vegetables to to it
even the palm oil he's talking about is actually quite healthy. The palm oil that dietitians recommend against is highly refined, not the red oil that we're used to
@@OpinionisnotFact exactly, like the palm oil we use is sustainable also as we don’t cut down the trees like these big corporations that cut down large masses of trees causing deforestation and permanently damaging whole habitats
@@kseke25 yeah, she can cook how she wants to and he can monitor his own portions or he can name which Nigerian dishes he would like her to cook. He was basically saying he doesn't want to eat Nigerian food bc it's unhealthy as a whole which is not true.
This the episode I took personal. I understand trying to eat healthy but like Chioma said at least try to eat it once a week or whatever (but healthier). I’m African American I wish I knew where I was originally from so I can eat and celebrate what was taken from me. Truthfully, trying to be more European/American just rub me off wrong. #MyOpinion✨
I think Paul was actually trying to manipulate her every time he asked her to cook "healthy" and every time he said that Nigerian food was greasy (which I don't know, but I doubt as most African cuisine is healthy) he was trying to have her on a diet without telling her!! What do you think? He's sneaky and this would make sense considering the clear tendency of treating her as cold business.
@@huldah1605 He lives off appearances. Last episode he did like the pasta dish Chioma made for dinner with his family, but his sister had an issue with the dish and then all of sudden he said she should've made an African meal🤦🏽♀️. So I am sure his family would not appreciate him saying he doesn't like Nigerian food, so to please them he would even make Chioma look bad for making a "non-african dish" like pasta.
I’m nervous about watching this one. The toxicity is astounding whether this is real or not. What’s even more astounding is that I KNOW there are relationships like this that really exist. It’s honestly heartbreaking
I’m ngl I feel like Paul’s is lowkey ashamed of being African because why is listening to wiz kid while cooking bad?? He wants to fit it with his white clients 🤮
Seems like Paul wants measurements to be used when cooking so he knows how much of each ingredient is in the food. However, eating traditional dishes once a week (without measurements) wont make him gain 20 lbs over night
Exactly! He can literally just eat less of the traditional food. He wont cook, criticizes and doesn’t want what she cooks, on a diet but wants a personal chef. He doesn’t have time to spend quality time with his woman preparing food he himself needs. He’s trash!
The funny things is he prepared his meals before but since she moved in he suddenly is too busy and doesn't have time... Sir... What you talking about.
He disrespects her food, gives her no sexual attention and now come to find she was paying 60% of the bills...and he is in debt. My guy is all bug, no feature.
I think Paul was actually trying to manipulate her every time he asked her to cook "healthy" and every time he said that Nigerian food was greasy (which I don't know, but I doubt as most African cuisine is healthy) he was trying to have her on a diet without telling her! What do you think? He's sneaky and this would make sense considering the clear tendency of treating her as cold business.
@@huldah1605 lmao does he want any food? He got a problem w/ any & everything she cooks. So I’m like Chioma atp why doesn’t he just cook the damn food himself. Y’all know what they say “if you want something done right (or in this case, the way you want) do it yourself”. His hands aren’t broken. He’s just a lazy f^*&$.
I don't want to waste my energy and continue to berate Paul, but rather I want to commend this beautiful healthy black couple's analysis of this whole situation. I loved how both of you gave such amazing advice and solutions for that BT couple. Keep up the content guys, I love you guyssss
Quality Q. As a Nigerian American person, I feel for the comment Chioma,said about traditional food is very accurate. All the older Nigerian people were offended with what Paul said about changing the recipes because I lived Nigeria in High school all the dishes he mentioned, they eat in the country and all extremely still fit and healthy. Also they are couple because he did another therapy session on Instagram. I just think this relationship reached its expiration date. I love watching you guys!!! Josh and Isi you guys are an amazing couple keep doing you!!!
i am from the caribbean and live in the netherlands, i have realized that these countries don't have our ingredients either at all or to the strength we are used to.
I definitely felt like he was cheating or something too because when she brought up sex, he covered his lap with the pillow. I may be thinking too deep but I took that as a sign that he's ashamed about something
Lol I never knew that was even a thing for us. Maybe you are overthinking it, of course the women would agree with you, they already dont like paul lol
@@jahleoni1043 Lol, well i won't say it's a thing for everyone but you know how some people who don't like their smile or teeth will cover their mouth when they laugh. It's kinda the same difference to me but like you said we already dont like him so i'm sure that plays a part in it lol
Like Josh said, "RELEASE YOURSELF!!!". He had nothing to offer mentally, physically, emotionally, financially ( you'll find out later 😉) and even spiritually. 😂😂🤷🤷 So why stay there. 🤦🤦
It’s the micro aggressions and gaslighting for me. Basically he said this whole video,”How dare you call me out on my bs and try to make me hold accountability.”
This is my problem with black men like him. They denounce their culture, when it’s the same culture and system that they get their power from. It fit right in with the rest of his personality. Reeks of anti-blackness and self-hate. He is essentially saying that more healthy, is more European/less Nigerian. Snitched on himself when the topic was health and he brought Afrobeat music into it.
I'm actually done, like a few episodes or even just an episode back he was defending his sister for her pettiness towards Chioma for baking a casserole or the likes. Paul NEEDS to check himself!!
At this point it’s set in stone that Paul belongs to the streets 😀 like cmon treat your lady with more respect and the fact he had the audacity to walk out?! I’m speechless. 🤢 also it irks me that she acts with wifely pleasures to Paul, but Paul doesn’t return it back.
@@blueismylove3128 yes Im came to the conclusion that after watching the full video all things Chioma talked about show Wifely things and Paul on the other hand will not make time for her and say he’s “busy”. Even if he is busy he should be able to cater to his wife. If he doesn’t have time and is busy, why can he go to the club with all the girls who he says and I quote “are attractive”. It’s not adding up Paul!
@@Paigesummer Exactly. I haven't finished the video yet and just got to the part where Isi and Josh came to that conclusion as well. He said he was a what sexual? Whatever he said it's total BS.
This is the perfect example of why I say I’m not wifey until you wife me. This is how some people get stuck in certain phases of their relationship wondering why they aren’t getting the commitment they desire
Look at it for what it is...Paul wants Choima for "presentation" purposes. He has no respect, appreciation or desire for her. He prefers the other sex. They need to have a talk cause the secret is out!
But he was having sex with her before so I don't think he....uh ...likes a different kinda person...... Personally I think he getting his needs met somewhere else 👀 if you know what I mean
@@blueismylove3128 Exactly my point...was having sex with her. His needs are now being met elsewhere and I don't think it is from another woman or he would just drop Chioma. He uses their relationship to cover his man-bae relationship.
@@mbranche4234 That's not how cheating works, because "getting your needs met" isn't what it's about. It's about the power and control. Plenty of straight men cheat on their women without dropping them and visa versa, him not dropping her is a weak point and it's kinda wrong to suspect he might be gay. A better point is, if he likes the opposite of what Choima is, then why would he have had sex with her like they were "wild animals" in the beginning? Clearly he was attracted to her, so clearly he likes women. Sexuality doesn't switch back and forth and it was mentioned he was around girls at the club....girls that are his type. This is the classic cheater story. It's more likely he just fall out of love with her but wanted her as a prize piece. Whether it is coming from a man or woman, it's not coming from Choima and that's the issue.
Paul is indeed trash and I’m not defending him at all. But this stereotype that ALL men are ALWAYS hyper sexual regardless is getting kind of old. Women expect men to respect their changes in sex drive- but if a man’s drive is lower, he’s gay or cheating. In this case I think Paul is just so incredibly entitled and thinks he’s so intelligent. He may bot be attracted to her because he feels he is beneath her. Hence his claiming to be a sapiosexual.
this couple is real however Paul took to the internet saying it was fake due to the backlash he was receiving however Chioma confirmed he was lying and that it is real and they have both broken up
@@siennas862 Yh it says that in her bio but when Paul came out that it was fake she posted an insta pic saying nice try then went on her story to clarify that it wasn’t,what he did was called damaged control trying to manipulate the situation as he is being called out for it
@@phebeosei-hwedie8097 That's not true. There is a video on TH-cam of them literally rehearsing the scenes. This is all scripted and Paul has been getting hate for no reason
Whether this couple are actors or not, No woman/man should ever be in a relationship with someone that doesn't know what they want, doesn't uplift the other and going around the bush that they don't intend to settle. No one is worth the headache and stress for that, you were ok before they were present in your life and you can be after they're absence. Paul is so toxic he needs divine intervention.
it's crazy. he started off being like "I don't want to do this with cameras" and then proceeds to be a disrespectful egg the entire time....like, if this is what you're doing on camera, what are you doing OFF camera?! can't do it...
Paul made her cry on purpose. He knew it would trigger that reaction. He wasn’t happy with the points Chioma was making & he decided to be petty. He hates being wrong and chose violence.
This was heartbreaking. Paul has a communication issue, that's why he acts erratically and childishly. Choma looks like she wants this relationship because he seems to be improving himself and she has been there through it all. However, He does not value her experience or feelings. Seems to me that he values his clients more than he does her. She probably doesn't want to leave because of all the work they already put in. Honestly, I think that they will break up if they don't fix these issues of communication and receptiveness. The goal is the build the relationship. If it hurts your partner, it hurts you. The relationship looks real, and it makes me sad that they started on the same page and found each other in different books.
I genuinely got heated for her…like Paul gon get every thing he deserves. All he’s doing is breaking this woman down to be insecure & feel like she can’t get nobody else but him so she stay…I been there but I go-e that she is strong enough to leave & find her a deserving God fearing man that will hype her up instead of hurting her to feed his own ego.
When the therapist said there is value in what they have, I was like, “ we all know that’s a damn lie.” I thought at that point the whole thing might have been an act.
Am from the region where Chioma is from in Nigeria, actuatlly everyone is saying her name with an accent but @19:38 where Isi said CHiomas name thats exactly how to say it and funny enough Josh corrected her and I lol.
You guys have literally made me rewatch this entire series through your eyes! Paul’s name dropping is just Hilarious!!! ‘ Mayfair…Huge mansion’, ‘Abu Dhabi…’ this and that. It’s honestly sad that he is not happy with what he is and is capitulating himself for strangers.
Paul seems insecure and I think he's hiding something. Chioma is giving way to much to a man who's merely her boyfriend in hopes of becoming a wife. If they were to actually get married, she would be miserable
Everyone....don’t be confused by him saying Nigerian food is culturally unhealthy. Don’t bother yourself with trying to figure this out...do that to yourself. This also goes for his “sensitive depression subject”, feeling like he’s about to be manipulated or Chioma being selfish/sensitive. Guys, this is what you call GASLIGHTING. He is creating a false reality to evade accountability and project blame onto Chioma while victimizing himself. That’s why nothing he’s saying makes any sense. He’s extremely toxic and manipulative. All of it is to make Chioma snap and say something mean so he can say “look see”. Also keep in mind how his antics have made you guys forget that she has a job and also “provides”.
To me personally this is why I believe a lot of people in society today never get married. A lot of people in bf/gf relationships are overextending their role as a gf or bf and are being wives and husbands without them even knowing. Which is why a lot of people feel like there’s no reason to get married or don’t believe there’s a difference but there is a huge difference. They moved in with each other, she cooks for him all the time and he expects things from her that a husband should expect from his wife… like submitting . Even choma accidentally said she has no problem submitting to her husband but then corrected herself because she realized that she’s not a wife she is a gf.
The whole Nigerian food issue, I eat only Nigerian food and I have weighed the same for years. Nigerian food is actually quite healthy. Lots of tomatoes and vegetables. He's on something else.
One of the biggest reasons Blue Therapy was so popular is because there is no real confirmation/ denial whether the relationships are real. Even the cast and crew spread mixed messages e.g. the therapist is an actor but the couples aren't, it's partly scripted since it's reality tv but to what extent, we don't know. Paul said it was fake and he was painted in a bad light (shock) whereas Chioma said it was real and he's in denial etc. Honestly, I prefer it like this. To me, Blue Therapy is as real as my hatred for Paul and his bald ass head🤣 On another note, Chioma's possible 'acting' is genuinely amazing
Paul may be Bi-sexual, because of His heritage and culture He has found a Woman to hide behind. He seems to reference His clients to often and tries to compensate His masculinity with His work ethic. His misogyny speaks loud, Men wake up ready to perform and often doesn't take much time, She is attractive and He is aware of that but doesn't seem to find Her sexually attractive, I think She may need to walk away from this situation, even if He was cheating with another Woman, He would still be active with Her. usually this kind of behavior is telling of a person hiding behind their sexual identity.
Even as she expresses about how she feels about them not having sex he deflects and turns her expressing her self into “not loving her self” her wanting sex is not loving herself ? Ok .usually it’s the men that complain about sex not being had
Nope. Paul is uninterested in Chioma, and unfortunately for her, he’s in love with the false public image he is trying to cultivate. He has no emotional attraction to ANYBODY at this time, and absolutely no emotional intelligence or desire to be interested in anything but appearing rich. Nothing to do with his sexuality.
If you Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins then Resurrected three days later and is our Lord and Savior you will be saved ! He who is sinless died on the cross for our sins just so we could be here. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords from generation to generation! Read your bible daily and Repent!! God bless you and your family!💜 (Not trying to force upon anyone who does not agree ) Have a blessed. day!
Isi first of all the hair the outfit you look GOODT GIRL! AND IM LITERALLY GLAD I FOUND YALL CHANNEL BECAUSE I BINJED WATCH ALL 4 EPISODES. AND I JUST BLOCKED A PAUL! LMFAOOOOOO I was screaming at my computer whole time!!!!!
I love you guys soooo much. I really appreciate you reacting to things like this. It also just shows how much your relationship shines. Ya'll are a walking example of what a healthy relationship looks like. I look up to you both so much so thank you for being a good example. I love your insight. Also both of y'all are gorgeous. Period.
She sounds so sad sometimes I almost expected her to start crying. Especially when she kept asking him if he's attracted to her. :( edit: I had paused the video when I commented before. She ended up crying :(
Ok, *first of all* , I thank y'all for this series. Like, this is so therapeutic. To see how y'all think on certain topics really makes me proud to be a subscriber. Y'all are mature, healthy, funny, and down-to-earth. Thank you for all that y'all are! 💯 Second of all, the looks y'all are serving in this episode is Black Excellence! The healthy hair on Issi 😍. Ma'am!!! These curls and the bodysuit is giving me "Sandy" from Grease vibes. Just intelligent vixen vibes. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 And Josh's hair cut with those poppin curls is 🔥🔥🔥. Also, I want to add that I love watching these videos on my tv, so I can get the full experience 🤣😂...but open it on phone, too, so I can comment. 🤣 I knew it, I KNEW IT! I think Paul is giving 🍆 to someone else. That's why he's "spent" when he gets home. When she brought it up, it bruised his ego. So, he brought up her weight to get her back. I think she looks great. Her body is 🔥🔥🔥. He knows it. Thats why he watches her social media like a hawk; hoping no one else is flirting with her. It wasn't until he saw he got the best of her, brought her to tears, that he tried holding her hand and showing emotion. Other than that, it's been a battle of ego with him. Textbook narcissistic / psychopathic behavior. She can't fix him. Smh. I'd drag him to the curb like the trash he is! To the bin, I tell ya. *To the BIN!* 🗑🗑🗑
I watched a peek of the other could and let me say....PLEASE WATCH THEM TOO CS BABY IT'S GOOD ! And I love to hear Isi on that one with popcorn and wine ready!!
“Lemme give you a case scenario, right?” “Picture this...” What is this?...the Golden Girls??? Paul kills me looking at Denise for approval as if she’s going to gang up on Chioma with him AFTER he disrespects AND devalues her opinion and professional vantage point. THE NERVE!!!
C’mon Black on Black 😍 “Two brick walls fighting for space” ‼️ I don’t necessarily agree that we should shy away from the weight conversation in relationships, especially if it’s unhealthy. How we communicate it, is what makes the difference. I understand Chioma met Paul when he was fat but he was also depressed and using food in an unhealthy way as an outlet. She didn’t know that due to their lack of communication. He was clearly able to move on from that space and all that weight is now in his over inflated, egotistical head. The same curtesy and respect she extended to him is the least he owes her.
Even knowing that they’re acting this still hits home cause I’ve come across men that act like this. Paul just seems like a person you can’t speak to. Just has no accountability and doesn’t know how to address situations that are affecting the relationship. How can you not want to open up and be vulnerable with someone you’ve been with for years. That lives with you. He’s got some maturing to do.
Lol I’m thoroughly enjoying this “watch with us” video style, the commentary from you two make it worth the watch bc previously I was avoiding the “hype” surrounding blue therapy and the toxicity
I read a tweet that said the only thing that's holding their relationship together is 'babe'
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& “you know I love you right?”
@@yaniqueduke7149😂😂😂yess
I screamed when I read this lol
As someone who is very connected with my culture, it's awful to me that Paul said Chioma dancing and cooking was liking coming home to a "village." What??? "We're in London" LONDON IS HEAVILY AFRICAN. It really is disrespectful. Especially to say your girlfriend enjoying cooking cultural food is like coming home to a "village." That disgusted me.
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he’s actively the most pompous person I’ve ever come across. Chioma needs to pack her bags and drop him asap
Boo I didn’t even catch that one 🤦🏽♀️
Poor thing.... He's ashamed of being African and she reminds him that he is every minute of each and every day.... He's so pathetic it's not even funny!
What part was this sweetie?
It made me really sad that Paul made her feel insecure about her body and her weight when she is absolutely beautiful. Her body, her shape is goals😭
facts!
Big facts, he's pitiful.
He did it because his ego was still bruised from her pointing out that he use to be fat 🤣🤣🤣
@@sharieannpryce9127 exactly
Agreed
Paul's backstory is just manipulating. He has a backstory every time he doesn't have an excuse
Right?! Dude wanna pull the depression card 🙄
Exactly!!
for real like i didn’t believe that depression part i’m sorry. every thing that comes out of his mouth is him gaslighting chioma
@@daijapeters I'm not trying to say he couldn't have been depressed... what I'm saying is that he uses everything to gaslight and bludgeon her. Like waiting to share stories until a time when he thinks it will make her look bad? Come on. Everything he does down to trying to make conversation about the therapist is manipulative. Who would keep a secret story about depression and food when a huge issue is wanting her to make your food??? Someone who is a narcissist playing games with you.
@@karathomas03 he could have been depressed but it's very manipulative to hold that story and use it when he felt it for the most leverage for himself instead of communicating it. The man clearly communicates what he wants and why. Omission on his part is clearly intentional
She’s honestly looking for reasons to leave. And their all right there. LEAVE HIM!!! This dude is so freaking manipulative and ridiculous
She is too good for him
Right!!!! These are sooooooo many reasons to leave
It's like they only disagree to disagree. Ughhh...is there anything they can agree on!
And the sad thing is it gets worse 🤦🏾
@@huldah1605 oh Jesus is there more episodes?
So let me guess. He was “chubby” he met her, but now that he has lost weight, he feels entitled to tell her to lose weight too! The NERVE!!!
I was coming to say this.
That girl isn't fat! Her body is goals
@@jewlzn7130 She’s at best a size 6-8 US. No where near fat. 🤦🏽♀️
yes
@@jaeshasway she is a GOOD 8/10 US, but she's STILL body goals
Let's makes this clear. I'm Nigerian. And these dishes they're talking about i eat them every week. Im also an athlete. I am considered very skinny. Im 5'4 and weight abt 130 lbs. My mom went through a major weight loss journey like Paul and she cooks abd eats some of the dishes they're talking abt: fufu and soup, beans, yam porridge, etc. She's also in the gym at 4 am every day bc its part of her routine. So what Paul is saying abt the cultural food and losing weight doesn't even make sense. Someone doesn't necessarily need to track their calorie intake to lose weight or "get fit". Someone doesn't need to denounce their culture to eat healthy. I eat healthy all the time.. my mom is on a Keto Diet.. Simple things like portion control, those 1 minute workouts for an extended time period, or even adding certain things to your diet will give you results. also Palm Oil is not bad for you. It actually aids in losing weight by boosting your metabolism. It aids in preventing vitamin deficiencies, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, aging, brain disease, etc. Mchtew..he's such an embarrassment.. lying to these ppl🙄
Thanks for the info. Not knowing about the things that are being mentioned puts people that don’t know at a disadvantage. Cause I was thinking that there could be a compromise in this area, but having it explained, as you have done, it truly shows Paul as just being a true jerk, to say the least; and how his issues with food are his issues and he’s just pushing them off on her instead of just communicating with Chiamo about what he needs to stay fit. A mess!!
Tell them! Abi? Such a liar 😒
Girlll me too. I’m a signed model and still eat all these food this rubbish man complains about. And I’m still able to maintain my weight. If he says he’s the trainer he claims to be, eating anything shouldn’t be a problem. He can just workout to stay in shape.
whats Mchtew?
I agree. Something else is going on that's not being told. I believe Paul is hiding something that might become evident as these sessions continue. Seems like he's projecting a little self-hate onto Chioma
The reason he did not bring up his depression is because IT NEVER MATTERED, he’s just trying to play the victim. He did a very good job of completely going off topic.
Exactly.
damn that's so true. he just manipulated & controlled the whole room
shes with a little fkn boy
I agree. Smh.
I'm just now realizing that all of this happened in ONE SESSION. Whew, chile.
A session of stresssss
The next session is the worst ! Like paul is straight shit
@@SharonDaieziey I don't know what about this comment made me cackle 😂😂😂. But, thanks for the Hearty laugh
Baybee😭😭🤞
Chioma’s no longer with Paul
We love to see it 😍
Noooooo don’t spoil it😩
@@mrzg33 it’s not mentioned on the show 😭
@@mrzg33 Don't worry, there's WAY more coming!! 😊
@@ea7109 ahhh shietttt
@@TheCRYSTALLURE 😏
Can we talk about how good Isi looks. The hair, the outfit, the glow. it’s giving ❤️
YUPPP
RIGHT! She did a live and i love the look so much
YES 😩😭❤
They are no longer together there’s a guy that paid for the subscription to watch the blue therapy aftermath it’s even more juicy than the therapy itself And you guys are only on episode four
Honestllyyyyy
I actually disagree with Josh when he said if she left dude wouldn’t care, he treats it like a business deal. I think he would care because he feels he has ownership over her. He sees life through the eyes of social media and all of its fakeness. This man is a manipulator and he’s calling her out on things that is clearly a reflection of himself. Last episode he told her she needed healing this one she doesn’t love herself. From what I get from it is that this was a insecure fat man that pulled a girl he probably didn’t think he could, now that he has her, lost weight and created this fairytale of a career he’s feeling himself with false confidence when in truth he’s still that fat BOY on the inside. He’s right when he says she doesn’t love her self but he’s saying it for the wrong reason. She doesn’t love herself because she wouldn’t tolerate this treatment and express marriage to a man like this as if it’s a goal or prize. There’s so much more but lord I can’t even 😩
This!👏👏👏
He's a classic narcisist
Well said my sister👏🏽
You digressed this to the tea. 💫
@Jac G 90%...don't do Black guys in the UK soh! Also pretty sure you don't know 90% of them!
I think we've all established at this point that Paul is absolute trash 🙄 but for her mental wellbeing and sanity Chioma needs to leave him like ASAP😩😭
ASAP!!!!!!!
@@rachelfraser350 Like she should have left him by now. She should have left him after the first episode man.
Shes left him. She was paying 60% of the bills.
@@zannahmartell9813 wtaf! That's ridiculous 60% of the bills yet he was the one gloating about how much money he earns🤦🏽♀️ either way I'm glad she left him, she deserves better
@@marnz2359 yup hes in debt too. And talks about her wanting her to be a housewife and cannot maintain. He doesn't even want to have sex with her. I think in the month of Pride. Perhaps Paul needs to realise his truth..He has no redeeming feature for a young attractive upwardly mobile woman.
the part about the food was NOT about her not compromising on the food they eat nor him coming around to eat the traditional food. her underlying issue is him denouncing the culture. and it literally ties into ALL facets of his personality. and it was evident when he said...why would I eat african food in a 2k suit. or 'put that African stuff to the side'. I think he feels in order to fit in with the clients he caters too (panders is more fitting lol) , he needs to subscribe to 'european' culture bc African culture is 'backward' and no longer fits into the environment/class he aspires to be. Its so sad. bc that 'unique' aspect of you is what can take you further.
And there are many black people (esp men) that do this every time they are trying to come up/reach. and I think that irks her so much, bc now he is making her feel 'backward'/'ghetto (based on past episodes) and he is embarrassed by her and lashes out at her bc he feels he cannot 'bring' her around the ppl he is pandering too. funny...i think its prob black men who similarly think like him are some of his clients.
you hit the nail on the head! I really hope they see this
Eggzackly!! U read that down 🤌🏽
I agree. But damn! Him denouncing his own culture is hurting me & im not a true “African” if that makes sense. I would never understand how someone can truly be so disrespectful to THEIR OWN culture. If anything you’d think he’d want to introduce that to his clients so they could get a feel for who he is, where he comes from, & how that plays into who he is today. But he’s a bitch so I “let’s look at it this way” (his fav line) I guess we’re asking a bit much from someone so immature.
Exactly!! I was so confused when Denise, Josh, and Isi said she should compromise on the food. 1. It was her only boundary that she wasn’t willing to go back on. 2. It wasn’t about the food, he ate “acceptable” unhealthy food all the time. Only the Nigerian food was inedible. That was obvious when he complained about coming home from being with his expensive clients to her, cooking Nigerian food in the kitchen blasting Wizkid like they’re in some kind of village. Paul seems to feel that as his status has grown, he has outgrown his Nigerianess
exactlyyy...and at a certain point it is her fault because she’s enabling his behaviour by giving him those widely duties and also letting him treat her and talk to her the way he does. i wish someone would try me the way he does cause it wouldn’t last
He give more details about his clients than he does the relationship and that’s saying something for a man that hasn’t even truly said what he does for a living. Why do your therapist care what your clients do for a living or where they live.
I didn't even realize how true this was until you said it.
Foreal... now that you mention it. It’s crazy where his priorities are. His “business” seems to take precedence over his relationship. It’s unfortunate😕
Plus they are all accomplished and he EMPHASIZES it, “mansion”, “model for fashion week”, “he doesn’t live in the country”, “going on vacation” ????
It's part of his persona, the need to establish how important, successful and superior he is... By proxy🙄 like I'm not a millionaire but I'm so valuable to them I'm in the inner circle blah blah
No for real. This deffo is a relationship with a narsisistic man and its just going to be even more clear if they get married because that will put choma in a place where she'll feel she can't get out. Honestly fvck this therapist because there's so many clear issues that she's not even acknowledging, literally choma has had to say I love Paul more times then Paul even expressws love 2 her
12:33 she said no to the gentrification of her cultural foods and I'm here for it
To be fair, I don’t think Paul and Choma are BOTH being brick walls. Based off of the entire therapy session, Paul is the issue here. Choma isn’t perfect but Paul is a misogynistic, self-absorbed irrational person that cannot be compromised with, talked to nor self-reflect or take any criticism. He doesn’t want to change or be better because he truly believes he is the victim.
Chioma
facts, i don't see her being the problem here
I see Josh’s love for Isi is strongly displayed verbally, and Isi love for Josh is all in her eyes and her smile, she looks grateful, content, enhanced 💕 the love I may with someone in my future may not be like yours just like for anyone else, but I have learned more than a few thoughtful reminders and important habits a committed couple should possess just by watching you. Thank you for sharing a bit of your love with us ✌🏾
He made up the depression on the spot. He don’t even like the therapist or want to share anything with her so why share that?
Paul was giving very much "you live in America, speak English" vibes when he was talking about the food.
It appears that Paul doesn't like nor love his girlfriend. He is the selfish ones
Drinking game: take a shot every time Paul says “clients”
And everytime he tries to flip something on her, but makes no sense or point.
Hell we drunk now
I kno like broo he flipping so much I actually got dizzy
Or everytime he says “to make a long story short”
Yohhhhh your liver would not survive
Remember I episode 1 he complained that she made Pasta bake for Christmas in a Nigerian household. At the same time he doesn't even like Nigerian food??
He likes when he is with family because would be embarrassing to admit he doesn't like his culture. But at home he like his "healthy food" because nobody is watching. Wth this we also remember in the beginning when she said he gives more importance to his image he gives to other people to actually be real. This means he actually plays pretend to be xx in front of xx to fit that person or group of people.
I’m confused because there are a lot of healthy Nigerian dishes, there are even dishes you can change to make healthier or make vegetarian, it’s still the same dish, just altered a little. I guess quite a lot contain a lot of oil but if we look at what our parents and grandparents are eating, it always contains a lot of greens, not too much salt, boiled yams. Like egusi and ogbono soup aren’t the only Nigerian dishes to exist (since he keeps on bringing up palm oil), there are many other dishes you can do and alter. Also if she’s not making the food the way you like it, why don’t you just do it yourself? That’s what my dad does with his red stew because he likes to add spinach and other vegetables to to it
even the palm oil he's talking about is actually quite healthy. The palm oil that dietitians recommend against is highly refined, not the red oil that we're used to
at this point he's saying anything and everything 😒
@@OpinionisnotFact exactly, like the palm oil we use is sustainable also as we don’t cut down the trees like these big corporations that cut down large masses of trees causing deforestation and permanently damaging whole habitats
Chioma said she's not changing the dishes.
@@kseke25 yeah, she can cook how she wants to and he can monitor his own portions or he can name which Nigerian dishes he would like her to cook. He was basically saying he doesn't want to eat Nigerian food bc it's unhealthy as a whole which is not true.
The amount of times I heard Paul say, “ ok, long story short”🙄 like bruh… I literally CANT with this freakin bag of trash🤢🤮🤮
Paul said: "wait it's gonna make sense now"... I'm still waiting. In fact, he makes even less sense than before (if that is even humanly possible)
Half the time I'm listening to him my mind just goes "tf is he talking about?"
Lmfaaaooo gurl istgggggg. WE'RE STILL WAITING, PAUL.
This the episode I took personal. I understand trying to eat healthy but like Chioma said at least try to eat it once a week or whatever (but healthier). I’m African American I wish I knew where I was originally from so I can eat and celebrate what was taken from me. Truthfully, trying to be more European/American just rub me off wrong. #MyOpinion✨
I think Paul was actually trying to manipulate her every time he asked her to cook "healthy" and every time he said that Nigerian food was greasy (which I don't know, but I doubt as most African cuisine is healthy) he was trying to have her on a diet without telling her!! What do you think? He's sneaky and this would make sense considering the clear tendency of treating her as cold business.
Yes! It’s giving “you’re in America, speak English” with how he was saying they’re in London so she needs to dial back the Africa/Nigeria pride
@@ovananda2I see your perspective on it and that would make sense. Good eye! Ik we can agree on one thing: they need to part ways!
I feel like Paul will never be happy with whatever Chioma does because was he not complaining about her making European food on the last episode?
@@huldah1605 He lives off appearances. Last episode he did like the pasta dish Chioma made for dinner with his family, but his sister had an issue with the dish and then all of sudden he said she should've made an African meal🤦🏽♀️. So I am sure his family would not appreciate him saying he doesn't like Nigerian food, so to please them he would even make Chioma look bad for making a "non-african dish" like pasta.
I’m nervous about watching this one. The toxicity is astounding whether this is real or not. What’s even more astounding is that I KNOW there are relationships like this that really exist. It’s honestly heartbreaking
I’m ngl I feel like Paul’s is lowkey ashamed of being African because why is listening to wiz kid while cooking bad?? He wants to fit it with his white clients 🤮
That part!!
Seems like Paul wants measurements to be used when cooking so he knows how much of each ingredient is in the food. However, eating traditional dishes once a week (without measurements) wont make him gain 20 lbs over night
My thing is, if he wants to know what's exactly in his food why don't he make it himself? He'll know then.
@@blueismylove3128 Louder for those in the back😂😂
@@blueismylove3128 IM SAYING!!! I was w/ Chioma when she brought that up. If it’s such an issue WHY CANT HIS HANDS PREPARE THE MEALS!?
Exactly! He can literally just eat less of the traditional food. He wont cook, criticizes and doesn’t want what she cooks, on a diet but wants a personal chef. He doesn’t have time to spend quality time with his woman preparing food he himself needs. He’s trash!
The funny things is he prepared his meals before but since she moved in he suddenly is too busy and doesn't have time... Sir... What you talking about.
He disrespects her food, gives her no sexual attention and now come to find she was paying 60% of the bills...and he is in debt.
My guy is all bug, no feature.
Nooooo way! Where'd you find this info girl?? That's crazy!!! But honestly, as crazy as it is.. why am I not surprised?
Whatttt??! Ah hell nah she better leave that relationship asap
@@yeahnah4303 search : The After, Chioma and Paul she tells all.
It's how I burst into tears when she started crying. I feel so bad for her
I think Paul was actually trying to manipulate her every time he asked her to cook "healthy" and every time he said that Nigerian food was greasy (which I don't know, but I doubt as most African cuisine is healthy) he was trying to have her on a diet without telling her! What do you think? He's sneaky and this would make sense considering the clear tendency of treating her as cold business.
Good theory👀
And you're absolutely correct! Last episode Paul criticised Chioma for cooking European food 🤦🏾
@@huldah1605 what exactly did the man want🤦🏿♀️
@@huldah1605 lmao does he want any food? He got a problem w/ any & everything she cooks. So I’m like Chioma atp why doesn’t he just cook the damn food himself. Y’all know what they say “if you want something done right (or in this case, the way you want) do it yourself”. His hands aren’t broken. He’s just a lazy f^*&$.
African dishes are extreme healthy (some aren’t but 90% are)
I don't want to waste my energy and continue to berate Paul, but rather I want to commend this beautiful healthy black couple's analysis of this whole situation. I loved how both of you gave such amazing advice and solutions for that BT couple. Keep up the content guys, I love you guyssss
Quality Q.
As a Nigerian American person, I feel for the comment Chioma,said about traditional food is very accurate. All the older Nigerian people were offended with what Paul said about changing the recipes because I lived Nigeria in High school all the dishes he mentioned, they eat in the country and all extremely still fit and healthy. Also they are couple because he did another therapy session on Instagram. I just think this relationship reached its expiration date. I love watching you guys!!! Josh and Isi you guys are an amazing couple keep doing you!!!
i am from the caribbean and live in the netherlands, i have realized that these countries don't have our ingredients either at all or to the strength we are used to.
"lose a paul, gain a josh" -hydrated hero
i felt so bad when she started crying omg
I definitely felt like he was cheating or something too because when she brought up sex, he covered his lap with the pillow. I may be thinking too deep but I took that as a sign that he's ashamed about something
Woooow great observation
Nope. You're spot on. My thoughts exactly.
Lol I never knew that was even a thing for us. Maybe you are overthinking it, of course the women would agree with you, they already dont like paul lol
@@jahleoni1043 Lol, well i won't say it's a thing for everyone but you know how some people who don't like their smile or teeth will cover their mouth when they laugh. It's kinda the same difference to me but like you said we already dont like him so i'm sure that plays a part in it lol
@@zeandramanley9709 lol can't lie that was me but I use to just put my head down, so I get it from that point of view lol
Like Josh said, "RELEASE YOURSELF!!!". He had nothing to offer mentally, physically, emotionally, financially ( you'll find out later 😉) and even spiritually. 😂😂🤷🤷
So why stay there. 🤦🤦
Omg I'm living for Isi's hair, oh myyyyyy
It’s the micro aggressions and gaslighting for me. Basically he said this whole video,”How dare you call me out on my bs and try to make me hold accountability.”
I can’t even watch the episodes ahead of time bc it’s just not the same being able to react without you two ❤️
Exactly!! 😭❤️
Same here!!
Yes!! And I just wanna know what happens right. neow.
This is my problem with black men like him. They denounce their culture, when it’s the same culture and system that they get their power from. It fit right in with the rest of his personality. Reeks of anti-blackness and self-hate. He is essentially saying that more healthy, is more European/less Nigerian. Snitched on himself when the topic was health and he brought Afrobeat music into it.
Yup !
Exactly
I'm actually done, like a few episodes or even just an episode back he was defending his sister for her pettiness towards Chioma for baking a casserole or the likes. Paul NEEDS to check himself!!
At this point it’s set in stone that Paul belongs to the streets 😀 like cmon treat your lady with more respect and the fact he had the audacity to walk out?! I’m speechless. 🤢 also it irks me that she acts with wifely pleasures to Paul, but Paul doesn’t return it back.
Is it too much to think he might be cheating on her? I found it hard to believe he is this saint that is above sex.
@@blueismylove3128 yes Im came to the conclusion that after watching the full video all things Chioma talked about show Wifely things and Paul on the other hand will not make time for her and say he’s “busy”. Even if he is busy he should be able to cater to his wife. If he doesn’t have time and is busy, why can he go to the club with all the girls who he says and I quote “are attractive”. It’s not adding up Paul!
@@Paigesummer Exactly. I haven't finished the video yet and just got to the part where Isi and Josh came to that conclusion as well. He said he was a what sexual? Whatever he said it's total BS.
This is the perfect example of why I say I’m not wifey until you wife me. This is how some people get stuck in certain phases of their relationship wondering why they aren’t getting the commitment they desire
@@lockednkeey1985 preach 👏🏾
“Two plus two, definitely equals four… the streets”- Josh 😂😂😂😂😂
Saying "Denise, can we leave?" like he wasn't the one who made her cry 🙄
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve rolled my eyes at Paul, I’d be a millionaire 😭
You still wouldn’t be as rich as his “high net worth clients” 🤣🤣🤣
Look at it for what it is...Paul wants Choima for "presentation" purposes. He has no respect, appreciation or desire for her. He prefers the other sex. They need to have a talk cause the secret is out!
But he was having sex with her before so I don't think he....uh ...likes a different kinda person...... Personally I think he getting his needs met somewhere else 👀 if you know what I mean
@@blueismylove3128 Exactly my point...was having sex with her. His needs are now being met elsewhere and I don't think it is from another woman or he would just drop Chioma. He uses their relationship to cover his man-bae relationship.
@@mbranche4234 That's not how cheating works, because "getting your needs met" isn't what it's about. It's about the power and control. Plenty of straight men cheat on their women without dropping them and visa versa, him not dropping her is a weak point and it's kinda wrong to suspect he might be gay. A better point is, if he likes the opposite of what Choima is, then why would he have had sex with her like they were "wild animals" in the beginning? Clearly he was attracted to her, so clearly he likes women. Sexuality doesn't switch back and forth and it was mentioned he was around girls at the club....girls that are his type. This is the classic cheater story. It's more likely he just fall out of love with her but wanted her as a prize piece. Whether it is coming from a man or woman, it's not coming from Choima and that's the issue.
What do you mean ‘the secret is out’?
Paul is indeed trash and I’m not defending him at all.
But this stereotype that ALL men are ALWAYS hyper sexual regardless is getting kind of old. Women expect men to respect their changes in sex drive- but if a man’s drive is lower, he’s gay or cheating. In this case I think Paul is just so incredibly entitled and thinks he’s so intelligent. He may bot be attracted to her because he feels he is beneath her. Hence his claiming to be a sapiosexual.
Isi just gotta say ur hair fire, u look stunning sis.
this couple is real however Paul took to the internet saying it was fake due to the backlash he was receiving however Chioma confirmed he was lying and that it is real and they have both broken up
Whoa good for her. I'm glad she got outta there
I needed to know they broke up, thank you. He's mean. She deserves better.
@@siennas862 Yh it says that in her bio but when Paul came out that it was fake she posted an insta pic saying nice try then went on her story to clarify that it wasn’t,what he did was called damaged control trying to manipulate the situation as he is being called out for it
just wow
@@phebeosei-hwedie8097 That's not true. There is a video on TH-cam of them literally rehearsing the scenes. This is all scripted and Paul has been getting hate for no reason
Whether this couple are actors or not, No woman/man should ever be in a relationship with someone that doesn't know what they want, doesn't uplift the other and going around the bush that they don't intend to settle. No one is worth the headache and stress for that, you were ok before they were present in your life and you can be after they're absence. Paul is so toxic he needs divine intervention.
They are a real couple
"Don't let me suspect you" The Naija came out 🤣
it's crazy. he started off being like "I don't want to do this with cameras" and then proceeds to be a disrespectful egg the entire time....like, if this is what you're doing on camera, what are you doing OFF camera?! can't do it...
They are a real couple that decided to do this social experiment.
Paul made her cry on purpose. He knew it would trigger that reaction. He wasn’t happy with the points Chioma was making & he decided to be petty. He hates being wrong and chose violence.
This was heartbreaking. Paul has a communication issue, that's why he acts erratically and childishly. Choma looks like she wants this relationship because he seems to be improving himself and she has been there through it all.
However, He does not value her experience or feelings. Seems to me that he values his clients more than he does her. She probably doesn't want to leave because of all the work they already put in.
Honestly, I think that they will break up if they don't fix these issues of communication and receptiveness. The goal is the build the relationship. If it hurts your partner, it hurts you.
The relationship looks real, and it makes me sad that they started on the same page and found each other in different books.
Their relationship is real and, I’m so happy to say this, they actually broke up
This whole time he was trying his best not to admit his faults, but every time he runs his mouth the more he made himself worst.
I genuinely got heated for her…like Paul gon get every thing he deserves. All he’s doing is breaking this woman down to be insecure & feel like she can’t get nobody else but him so she stay…I been there but I go-e that she is strong enough to leave & find her a deserving God fearing man that will hype her up instead of hurting her to feed his own ego.
When the therapist said there is value in what they have, I was like, “ we all know that’s a damn lie.”
I thought at that point the whole thing might have been an act.
The last episode is heartbreaking honestly. When yall watch it yall will understand. But loved yall reaction.
This man must be making millions per minute the way he keeps talking about his job 🥴
🤭🤭🤭🤭👀
Have u ever just stopped the video and realized how finnnnnne Isi and Josh look today . Like hair ,skin, and vibes are all POPPPIN!
You guys never disappoint! Thanks for this and remember to get you a Josh and leave you a Paul lol
The outfits are giving Grease and I’m HERE for it
i just finished watching part 3 with you today and part 4 is out already - YESSS
Am from the region where Chioma is from in Nigeria, actuatlly everyone is saying her name with an accent but @19:38 where Isi said CHiomas name thats exactly how to say it and funny enough Josh corrected her and I lol.
Posted right as I’m about to eat perfect timing as always
so yeah ima need y’all to go back to the next couple when this is done 😭
I've already watched it but I love your guys viewpoints and comments on the whole thing! Love from the UK
Me too, but I'm watching it again just for the reactions and the comments👀👀👀👀
Love from London
You guys have literally made me rewatch this entire series through your eyes!
Paul’s name dropping is just Hilarious!!! ‘ Mayfair…Huge mansion’, ‘Abu Dhabi…’ this and that. It’s honestly sad that he is not happy with what he is and is capitulating himself for strangers.
there are so many men who would appreciate ALL of her. she is settling for him!
Paul seems insecure and I think he's hiding something. Chioma is giving way to much to a man who's merely her boyfriend in hopes of becoming a wife. If they were to actually get married, she would be miserable
the curls, the melanin, and the matching black 1000/10😍😍😍
Everyone....don’t be confused by him saying Nigerian food is culturally unhealthy. Don’t bother yourself with trying to figure this out...do that to yourself. This also goes for his “sensitive depression subject”, feeling like he’s about to be manipulated or Chioma being selfish/sensitive. Guys, this is what you call GASLIGHTING. He is creating a false reality to evade accountability and project blame onto Chioma while victimizing himself. That’s why nothing he’s saying makes any sense. He’s extremely toxic and manipulative. All of it is to make Chioma snap and say something mean so he can say “look see”. Also keep in mind how his antics have made you guys forget that she has a job and also “provides”.
Yessss
Yup. He’s a whole mess.
To me personally this is why I believe a lot of people in society today never get married. A lot of people in bf/gf relationships are overextending their role as a gf or bf and are being wives and husbands without them even knowing. Which is why a lot of people feel like there’s no reason to get married or don’t believe there’s a difference but there is a huge difference. They moved in with each other, she cooks for him all the time and he expects things from her that a husband should expect from his wife… like submitting . Even choma accidentally said she has no problem submitting to her husband but then corrected herself because she realized that she’s not a wife she is a gf.
Yall make matching outfits soo classy, GORGEOUS COUPLE
The whole Nigerian food issue, I eat only Nigerian food and I have weighed the same for years. Nigerian food is actually quite healthy. Lots of tomatoes and vegetables. He's on something else.
One of the biggest reasons Blue Therapy was so popular is because there is no real confirmation/ denial whether the relationships are real. Even the cast and crew spread mixed messages e.g. the therapist is an actor but the couples aren't, it's partly scripted since it's reality tv but to what extent, we don't know. Paul said it was fake and he was painted in a bad light (shock) whereas Chioma said it was real and he's in denial etc. Honestly, I prefer it like this. To me, Blue Therapy is as real as my hatred for Paul and his bald ass head🤣 On another note, Chioma's possible 'acting' is genuinely amazing
Paul may be Bi-sexual, because of His heritage and culture He has found a Woman to hide behind. He seems to reference His clients to often and tries to compensate His masculinity with His work ethic. His misogyny speaks loud, Men wake up ready to perform and often doesn't take much time, She is attractive and He is aware of that but doesn't seem to find Her sexually attractive, I think She may need to walk away from this situation, even if He was cheating with another Woman, He would still be active with Her. usually this kind of behavior is telling of a person hiding behind their sexual identity.
I agree with this very much
Even as she expresses about how she feels about them not having sex he deflects and turns her expressing her self into “not loving her self” her wanting sex is not loving herself ? Ok .usually it’s the men that complain about sex not being had
Yeeeeees, exactly what I was thinking
Nope. Paul is uninterested in Chioma, and unfortunately for her, he’s in love with the false public image he is trying to cultivate. He has no emotional attraction to ANYBODY at this time, and absolutely no emotional intelligence or desire to be interested in anything but appearing rich. Nothing to do with his sexuality.
If you Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins then Resurrected three days later and is our Lord and Savior you will be saved ! He who is sinless died on the cross for our sins just so we could be here. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords from generation to generation! Read your bible daily and Repent!! God bless you and your family!💜 (Not trying to force upon anyone who does not agree ) Have a blessed. day!
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Amen sis!!
Amen 🙏🏿
Come thru, ISI with the hairdo!
You look amazing💕
Isi first of all the hair the outfit you look GOODT GIRL! AND IM LITERALLY GLAD I FOUND YALL CHANNEL BECAUSE I BINJED WATCH ALL 4 EPISODES. AND I JUST BLOCKED A PAUL! LMFAOOOOOO I was screaming at my computer whole time!!!!!
Paul doesn't make her feel attractive? Her body shape is absolutely goals. She is so beautiful and confident like wtf
“ I love you when you’re happy with you “ AWHHH MY HEART I LOVE YOU GUYSSSS
Moral of the story: Get you a Josh and run the hell away from Pauls!!! ISI you look tf goodt btw❤️
Why am I just finding this channel?! I absolutely love yall Isi is stunning. Josh is a great man, y’all got good sense, & aren’t boring👏🏽🙌🏽❤️
These two people are unequally yoked. This relationship is over!!! Ya'll at this point Im like "Tommy you aint got no job." Period!!!
I love you guys soooo much. I really appreciate you reacting to things like this. It also just shows how much your relationship shines. Ya'll are a walking example of what a healthy relationship looks like. I look up to you both so much so thank you for being a good example. I love your insight. Also both of y'all are gorgeous. Period.
Isi I'm gonna quote Josh 😂
"Money is the tool, not the goal" - Love itttttttt 😂😂😂😂😂
It's the coordinated outfits fa me! Every time I'm like oooooooooooo. Yall just pop on the screen looking radiant
She sounds so sad sometimes I almost expected her to start crying. Especially when she kept asking him if he's attracted to her. :(
edit: I had paused the video when I commented before. She ended up crying :(
Ok, *first of all* , I thank y'all for this series. Like, this is so therapeutic. To see how y'all think on certain topics really makes me proud to be a subscriber. Y'all are mature, healthy, funny, and down-to-earth. Thank you for all that y'all are! 💯
Second of all, the looks y'all are serving in this episode is Black Excellence! The healthy hair on Issi 😍. Ma'am!!! These curls and the bodysuit is giving me "Sandy" from Grease vibes. Just intelligent vixen vibes. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 And Josh's hair cut with those poppin curls is 🔥🔥🔥.
Also, I want to add that I love watching these videos on my tv, so I can get the full experience 🤣😂...but open it on phone, too, so I can comment. 🤣
I knew it, I KNEW IT! I think Paul is giving 🍆 to someone else. That's why he's "spent" when he gets home. When she brought it up, it bruised his ego. So, he brought up her weight to get her back. I think she looks great. Her body is 🔥🔥🔥. He knows it. Thats why he watches her social media like a hawk; hoping no one else is flirting with her. It wasn't until he saw he got the best of her, brought her to tears, that he tried holding her hand and showing emotion. Other than that, it's been a battle of ego with him. Textbook narcissistic / psychopathic behavior. She can't fix him. Smh. I'd drag him to the curb like the trash he is! To the bin, I tell ya. *To the BIN!* 🗑🗑🗑
I watched a peek of the other could and let me say....PLEASE WATCH THEM TOO CS BABY IT'S GOOD ! And I love to hear Isi on that one with popcorn and wine ready!!
“Lemme give you a case scenario, right?” “Picture this...”
What is this?...the Golden Girls???
Paul kills me looking at Denise for approval as if she’s going to gang up on Chioma with him AFTER he disrespects AND devalues her opinion and professional vantage point. THE NERVE!!!
C’mon Black on Black 😍
“Two brick walls fighting for space” ‼️
I don’t necessarily agree that we should shy away from the weight conversation in relationships, especially if it’s unhealthy. How we communicate it, is what makes the difference. I understand Chioma met Paul when he was fat but he was also depressed and using food in an unhealthy way as an outlet. She didn’t know that due to their lack of communication. He was clearly able to move on from that space and all that weight is now in his over inflated, egotistical head. The same curtesy and respect she extended to him is the least he owes her.
the fact that Josh held back his tongue before he said Chioma was a good looking woman killed me, lol.
“When I met him he was fat” 🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely LOVE that Chioma said that. Bring him down to Earth.
First can I say I love that yall have been matching in these videos lol & Isi, you look so pretty!!! The hair, is EVERYTHING!!!
Even knowing that they’re acting this still hits home cause I’ve come across men that act like this. Paul just seems like a person you can’t speak to. Just has no accountability and doesn’t know how to address situations that are affecting the relationship. How can you not want to open up and be vulnerable with someone you’ve been with for years. That lives with you. He’s got some maturing to do.
Lol I’m thoroughly enjoying this “watch with us” video style, the commentary from you two make it worth the watch bc previously I was avoiding the “hype” surrounding blue therapy and the toxicity