3:57 This is why it could be helpful to take time between relationships to let the dust settle, clear the lines, and reconnect to yourself in a grounded way before involving another person in your unresolved struggles. Clean slate = better fate
Young man you are genuinely a wonderful person to look out for your nieces. There are many voices they're going to hear, but to know uncle is there for you and got your back from the heart is more serious than the whole wide world can offer. As a matter of fact think about what you do is like a ministry. God bless you Young man. 🙏🏽
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Standards are internal, expectations are external. You put it in a way i comprehend. I've been putting a lot of expectations on my man and judging him for it...smh and calling it standards.
My problem used to be "affection bombing" but not for any reason but to uplift and encourage others, both men and women, and people would always take that kindness the wrong way, for granted, for weakness, desperation, or were too blind to value it. That's a reflection of how screwed up the world is. Its depressing cuz I wanted to make the world a better place, but only got crap back... so now I just stay away from people. 😔 It would have to be an absolute miracle of God to match me with a worthy man... a 1 in a billion. I'll be shocked if I find a fellow original authentic man of God who loves out of the love of Christ.
You sound kind of bitter & cynical & that exactly what Satan wants. Not all people are this way. It depends on where you live. I'm from NY and people are pretty closed off. I moved to S. Carolina & the people are very warm. Maybe change your environment? I pray you stay loving & kind. Just be wise and know that we are in a spiritual battle. Ephesians 6:12.
You actually spoke a sermon sir when you were talking about the factors of external and inside of your home! WHEW! Anyway, you really hit the head on the nail with this one. Many struggle with this. Especially, I can't rock with you relationship wise if you violate what I believe in. We can just be different - just not in a relationship. Thanks for the message.
Men cant ask for a Proverbs 31 woman without being a Ephesians 5 man. If your approach is different, if you play your part as a man on what you want out of the situation, you'll get that. For all we know, the woman is just as informed to follow your lead & still end it bc they didn't like the direction it was going. Men be wise on how you approach a woman & your intentions. It will end just as quick, if not, the exact same way it started. Was it your fault, or hers? We all have freewill, but we need more truthful, honest, and honorable men to lead this next generation. Communication is important, but actions show ones true intentions. To be a wolf or a sheep is the real question here.
Thank you so much for stressing the definition of STANDARDS!!! I refuse to sacrifice myself, who I am, my moral code, for anyone...relationships are all about compromise, but if you have to compromise who you are deep down inside, then something is not right. ❤
A realistic expectation is respect. Another is kindness. If your in a relationship, communication is imperative & people often struggle with that one. What helped me was to do as the Bible suggests. Speak the truth with love.
Theese are serious and precise lessons my dear SEALZ We creep before we walk and with everything there is a process Healing is key in order to attempt entering a new relationship and never Overlook balance and authenticy Thanks Sealz ,blessings everyone
❤❤Sealz love your videos I'm a repeat 68 yrs old your wonderful hoping you can find me that special man, Im a firm believer the inside says it all its who you are
Amazing video again! Your content is so helpful in navigating the dating world and not settling, keeping my value & standards high. Your nieces are super lucky to have an uncle who cares so much. God bless you.
Attraction is not important you say but men fall in love with their eyes therefore if you’re not pleasing to his eyes he won’t give you a chance to get to know the rest of you
I feel like expectations are a reflection of standards, morals, and values, and if you cannot meet those expectations that reflect you also have standards, morals, and values, then I want nothing to do with it. But if your expectations are a man to meet you with worldly goods, and sufacey things only, I can definitely see where expectations could be unrealistic and out of touch with reality and what to truly value. For instance, I expect a man to show up respectful and as a gentleman, and if he doesn't meet those expectations imma say buh bye real quick. Which in 2024 may mean I stay single, but I'm not missing out if he's not a real man of God. And I got to be honest, these guys today act like demons more often than not cuz they're godless, even many who say they're Christian are just wearing a mask, but their heart is far from God, and they don't even know God through a personal relationship with Jesus. And after years of doing all the work and healing and devotion with God, then coming back on the dating scene, realizing it's mostly games and manipulations, dark hearts, lost people, men who haven't put the work, healing, and maturing with God into themselves, oh and all the witchcraft these days too... JUST HECK NO! But on a positive note, it's scared me so straight, onto the straight and narrow, that i don't want anything to do with sin and this sinful world, which has only pushed me to Jesus, and Jesus is the absolute greatest! In a sane world, in a good world, or even just the world back in the 90s, this advice would be great. But this is 2024, and wickedness and lawlessness abound. Its painful to even say, cuz I used to be one of the most optimistic people ever.
Real question. If someone has experienced abuse, how/ when do they present this information? I have done the work. I know what I need to feel safe. How do I share this information without “bringing my history with men” into the current situation.? I have heard keep it 💯 yet it is a vulnerable topic. Don’t want to be TMI or put them in a position where they feel like they have to “rescue “ me. Or worse hide their true feelings for fear of triggering me. CPTSD is a lifelong journey that requires management and tender care. I really wonder if I am capable of having a loving relationship again. And that is heartbreaking ❤️🩹
Being an abuse survivor, idk if I’ll tell a new guy for a very long time. I have in the past & it’s made me feel damaged or I’m afraid a man will use that to their advantage or to hurt me. That’s probably me being unhealed in that area but I don’t want to share that info for a very long time. If I’m triggered, that’s more about me needing additional healing & up to me than something they need to do since our healing is ultimately our responsibility.
You don't share intimate things until you are in a committed relationship. People these days share too much too SOON. Men get bored quickly. Hold back a bit! He's not your fiance! As far as PTSD your not alone. Jesus can & will heal that. I suffered abuse ALL my life! I can love again because Jesus healed my soul.
Your past is your history, and no one you don't want to give access to that vulnerability is entitled to that part of your life. Set healthy boundaries, and do not allow those boundaries to be moved, until you are sure YaHaWaH G_d..if you have the relationship..🤔, has sanctioned that man to come closer. He will respect those boundaries, sense pain, but will give you the space you need, while showing you real affection, becoming that safe place to steward peace. None of this has anything to do with sex. Genuine affection is not sexual, it's about helping each other grow in a healthy way, toward a lasting bond of reciprocity.
3:57 This is why it could be helpful to take time between relationships to let the dust settle, clear the lines, and reconnect to yourself in a grounded way before involving another person in your unresolved struggles. Clean slate = better fate
Young man you are genuinely a wonderful person to look out for your nieces. There are many voices they're going to hear, but to know uncle is there for you and got your back from the heart is more serious than the whole wide world can offer. As a matter of fact think about what you do is like a ministry. God bless you Young man. 🙏🏽
Best part of him❤❤
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Thank you for keeping your language clean on your channel! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Standards are internal, expectations are external. You put it in a way i comprehend. I've been putting a lot of expectations on my man and judging him for it...smh and calling it standards.
Me too
Can you make a video on realistic and unrealistic expectations please?
My problem used to be "affection bombing" but not for any reason but to uplift and encourage others, both men and women, and people would always take that kindness the wrong way, for granted, for weakness, desperation, or were too blind to value it. That's a reflection of how screwed up the world is. Its depressing cuz I wanted to make the world a better place, but only got crap back... so now I just stay away from people. 😔 It would have to be an absolute miracle of God to match me with a worthy man... a 1 in a billion. I'll be shocked if I find a fellow original authentic man of God who loves out of the love of Christ.
You sound kind of bitter & cynical & that exactly what Satan wants. Not all people are this way. It depends on where you live. I'm from NY and people are pretty closed off. I moved to S. Carolina & the people are very warm. Maybe change your environment? I pray you stay loving & kind. Just be wise and know that we are in a spiritual battle. Ephesians 6:12.
You actually spoke a sermon sir when you were talking about the factors of external and inside of your home! WHEW! Anyway, you really hit the head on the nail with this one. Many struggle with this. Especially, I can't rock with you relationship wise if you violate what I believe in. We can just be different - just not in a relationship. Thanks for the message.
Your channel is so refreshing. I appreciate your posts.
Men cant ask for a Proverbs 31 woman without being a Ephesians 5 man. If your approach is different, if you play your part as a man on what you want out of the situation, you'll get that.
For all we know, the woman is just as informed to follow your lead & still end it bc they didn't like the direction it was going.
Men be wise on how you approach a woman & your intentions. It will end just as quick, if not, the exact same way it started. Was it your fault, or hers? We all have freewill, but we need more truthful, honest, and honorable men to lead this next generation. Communication is important, but actions show ones true intentions. To be a wolf or a sheep is the real question here.
Thank you so much for stressing the definition of STANDARDS!!! I refuse to sacrifice myself, who I am, my moral code, for anyone...relationships are all about compromise, but if you have to compromise who you are deep down inside, then something is not right. ❤
A realistic expectation is respect. Another is kindness. If your in a relationship, communication is imperative & people often struggle with that one. What helped me was to do as the Bible suggests. Speak the truth with love.
You're... no words... In a good way.
Thank you for breaking down the like before love and to be patient with love
Amen Sealz!! Excellent content... I pray by the time your nieces grows up they appreciate you tremendously... peace and blessings to you az well...🤎🤍💜
Theese are serious and precise lessons my dear SEALZ
We creep before we walk and with everything there is a process
Healing is key in order to attempt entering a new relationship and never
Overlook balance and authenticy
Thanks Sealz ,blessings everyone
❤❤Sealz love your videos I'm a repeat 68 yrs old your wonderful hoping you can find me that special man, Im a firm believer the inside says it all its who you are
Yessss!!!👏🏽🙏🏽
Trueeee!!!🙏🏽👏🏽
I love your videos and am always amazed at how big and healthy your money tree is.
I love the house analogy. That is really, really cool, and thank you for putting in perspective
Amazing video again! Your content is so helpful in navigating the dating world and not settling, keeping my value & standards high. Your nieces are super lucky to have an uncle who cares so much. God bless you.
Very good information 😊
👏🏼❤ well done. Thank you.
I love your channel!
Spoken well 👏
Thank you 🙏🏾 ❤
This was good! Thank you for sharing and thank you for thinking it out future generations
Be patient with your love❤
Amazing video thank you!
Attraction is not important you say but men fall in love with their eyes therefore if you’re not pleasing to his eyes he won’t give you a chance to get to know the rest of you
He didn't say that. He said in the long run looks don't matter. Yes men are visual but your good looks won't keep him in the relationship.
@ and when he’s in the relationship with a average looking woman he will step out on her with what he is really visually attracted to
Your cynical.
@@danilaroche1156 but I’m right 😛
That's true. They know damn well attraction is important to them!!!
How do I stop crushing on a guy😩😩
Good question. Please we need answer
Love yourself more and more everyday
Ask the Lord about it. The more you turn to Jesus, the more understanding you get.
@@danilaroche1156 thank you
@@lisaemery6572 Thank you❤️
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I feel like expectations are a reflection of standards, morals, and values, and if you cannot meet those expectations that reflect you also have standards, morals, and values, then I want nothing to do with it. But if your expectations are a man to meet you with worldly goods, and sufacey things only, I can definitely see where expectations could be unrealistic and out of touch with reality and what to truly value.
For instance, I expect a man to show up respectful and as a gentleman, and if he doesn't meet those expectations imma say buh bye real quick. Which in 2024 may mean I stay single, but I'm not missing out if he's not a real man of God. And I got to be honest, these guys today act like demons more often than not cuz they're godless, even many who say they're Christian are just wearing a mask, but their heart is far from God, and they don't even know God through a personal relationship with Jesus. And after years of doing all the work and healing and devotion with God, then coming back on the dating scene, realizing it's mostly games and manipulations, dark hearts, lost people, men who haven't put the work, healing, and maturing with God into themselves, oh and all the witchcraft these days too... JUST HECK NO! But on a positive note, it's scared me so straight, onto the straight and narrow, that i don't want anything to do with sin and this sinful world, which has only pushed me to Jesus, and Jesus is the absolute greatest! In a sane world, in a good world, or even just the world back in the 90s, this advice would be great. But this is 2024, and wickedness and lawlessness abound. Its painful to even say, cuz I used to be one of the most optimistic people ever.
Is a kiss on a chick after a second date too much? I wanted to say thank you for a good time, but maybe it was too much too fast?
It's fine.
Real question. If someone has experienced abuse, how/ when do they present this information? I have done the work. I know what I need to feel safe. How do I share this information without “bringing my history with men” into the current situation.?
I have heard keep it 💯 yet it is a vulnerable topic. Don’t want to be TMI or put them in a position where they feel like they have to “rescue “ me. Or worse hide their true feelings for fear of triggering me.
CPTSD is a lifelong journey that requires management and tender care.
I really wonder if I am capable of having a loving relationship again. And that is heartbreaking ❤️🩹
Being an abuse survivor, idk if I’ll tell a new guy for a very long time. I have in the past & it’s made me feel damaged or I’m afraid a man will use that to their advantage or to hurt me. That’s probably me being unhealed in that area but I don’t want to share that info for a very long time. If I’m triggered, that’s more about me needing additional healing & up to me than something they need to do since our healing is ultimately our responsibility.
You don't share intimate things until you are in a committed relationship. People these days share too much too SOON. Men get bored quickly. Hold back a bit! He's not your fiance! As far as PTSD your not alone. Jesus can & will heal that. I suffered abuse ALL my life! I can love again because Jesus healed my soul.
Your past is your history, and no one you don't want to give access to that vulnerability is entitled to that part of your life. Set healthy boundaries, and do not allow those boundaries to be moved, until you are sure YaHaWaH G_d..if you have the relationship..🤔, has sanctioned that man to come closer. He will respect those boundaries, sense pain, but will give you the space you need, while showing you real affection, becoming that safe place to steward peace.
None of this has anything to do with sex. Genuine affection is not sexual, it's about helping each other grow in a healthy way, toward a lasting bond of reciprocity.