No One Notices Your Weight Loss
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 พ.ค. 2023
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On my 80-pound weight loss journey, I got discouraged when no one was congratulating me on my progress. This is a common scenario, and in this video I explain why it happens and what you can do about it.
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People notice fat or slim. It took 65lbs down for people to even notice because then I was finally not overweight. And yet every 10 pounds felt like a big difference to me.
It’s best to proceed in silence. No need for validation and be noticed. Better yourself for you.
100% agree
I prefer that people don’t notice or comment. I hate attention being drawn to me so I feel uncomfortable with someone looking at my body and making a comment about it. My reason for taking control of my weight/health is for me and is a personal commitment to myself. 🤷🏽♀
We don't need others "aproval" recognition, personal health benefit is forefront of our minds
I lost a lot of weight and people kept telling I looked so good which was nice at first but then I felt sad because I started to wonder how bad did I look before? The human mind can be tough on us.
Just ask yourself, “why did I lose weight in the first place”? I will guess, to be healthy, be comfortable, live life, and because you were overweight. So when someone notices your weight loss, you achieved what you were going for.❤ More power to you💪🏻
lol.... we crazy
I’m actually running into people that noticed I lost weight, but it’s not always a positive thing. Some people tell me I lost TOO much weight and make me feel horrible when I should really be congratulated 😢 I did lose a lot of weight since Covid hit. It was a 3 year journey and went down 10 sizes. I’m thin and toned now and I’m in maintenance mode, but it’s discouraging when you’re told you need to gain weight. I’m a very healthy person and I eat good food, and exercise regularly. It’s frustrating. They wouldn’t tell me I needed to LOSE weight if I was overweight would they? 😠
Think “crabs in a barrel”…when one crab tries to get out there’s always at least one that’s trying to pull it back down into the barrel with the others. Don’t worry about them…if you’re feeling good and healthy and honest with yourself, don’t worry about the haters…just keep your eyes on the prize. You know misery loves company !
Congratulations!
Ignore them. It's called jealousy.
Thank you all so much that really means a lot ☺️ I’ll try to just ignore it and keep doing me. I appreciate everyone’s kindness and support! 💗
Tell them your doctor wants you to be at this weight for your health.
It seems to happen all at once for me, weeks with nothing noticeable then suddenly clothes are baggy face looks thinner etc. Some people don't mention anything if they feel threatened /jealous by your success, when I lost loads of weight people were very negative about it telling me I was too thin or looked ill etc.
If there is one thing that stops my progress, it is comments, both good and bad! I wish people could just say, “nice to see you” and not attach any comment about how I look.
ABSOLUTELY, YES YES YES AND YES
@@chrissyforanimals thank you for agreeing!
I thought it was just me-- oddly its the positive comments that get me off track which is weird!
@@ThingsILove2266 it’s when people go ON AND ON about how great you look as if you looked terrible before and now your so much better. They look you up and down as if they are shocked that you look this way, like in there mind they just can’t believe you actually did something to improve yourself. Nothing about health, or to feel better but that it’s all about looks.
Yesssss!!!! It's called shut your pie hole n mind your own damn business!!!
Why would you care? Live for yourself not for other people’s validations. At the end of the day, no other peoples opinions really matter
When I lost 30lbs no one noticed but when I got to 45-50lb lost people were asking me how I did it
38 pounds lost so far, and its the same here. I'll be honest though, some genuinely want to know, but i don't know how to answer it without sound 'preachy', it's just awkward for me
It’s the people you’ve not seen in awhile that will notice, but people sometimes don’t know if it’s okay to comment or not
I had lost 5 pounds and was so happy about it. I Went to visit my parents. As soon as I got to their house my mother started in on me saying I needed to lose weight, and that I looked like I had gained ten pounds...a long lecture about dieting etc. I was upset when I got home I binge ate for the rest of the evening. I admit it, I’m an emotional eater. So no most people really don’t notice. Sometimes it would be nice if they didn’t comment at all when they think they do.
I have a mother like that too. And I know I got overweight in the first place because of her. Sending you a hug 🥰
Was she jealous? Who notices five lbs.? Most people are so involved in their own lives, they wouldn't notice until it was around 20 lbs.
I lost 40 lbs and hardly got comments from people- from to 260 to 220 I was frustrated that I couldn’t fit in more than 2 size smaller pants 🤷♀️I gained some back and now back on track I don’t way myself everyday - I take pictures ever week trying on a pair of jeans I wore last September and now can’t close up 😝my goal now is to fit those pants by July and then hope for a smaller size by this September- thanks for the Video and sharing- it helps
As someone who has battled weight most of my adult life, I understand how hard it is to lose weight, so I do want to acknowledge the person's efforts but not hurt their feelings. So what I sometimes say (if applicable), "You must be working out, you're looking really fit."
I’ve been following you for years and you had mentioned this years ago on a Vlog and it stuck with me because it resonated. I had lost 35 pounds because I’m morbidly obese and I was preparing for my brother’s wedding and I still had another 55 to lose and my father didn’t notice that I lost the weight. I’m a grown woman. That is so silly but it affected me so deeply that I gained all of it back. People will not notice and that is OK. Don’t expect them to or it may very well undermine you. I saw the first video mentioning this after the regain but ever since my mind has shifted and I don’t focus at all on peoples awareness of my progress. Fantastic. Fantastic advice and extremely accurate and valuable.
"It may very well undermine you." That's exactly what happened to me. I got over confident from all the compliments about how good I was looking, and lost sight of my goal weight. I lost 93 pounds but I'm still 35 pounds from my goal. Watching these videos lately has gotten me motivated again.
you should be doing it for yourself, not for others. You'll always be rebounding if you get easily discouraged because of what others say or don't say.
Start off my trying to hit fitness goals to bring some positivity before trying to shred. Tape measure is better than scales to track progress
This is so true. Only when I lost about 30lbs did the whole world notice. My Starbucks servers, my lunch place staff, my coworkers, my doctor, my family. One thing is get a whole new wardrobe that shows off the weight loss. I got a whole new set of slim fit pants and shirts and it really emphasized the thinner me.
I lost weight after high school (was obese throughout middle and high school) and got to a normal size. I have maintained for the past 10 years. My mother and I were looking at photos from high school, and she had completely forgotten that I had been so big and was able to lose the weight--she had seen me slimmer for so long that it completely wiped out her memory of having an overweight child. I was offended because I'm still really proud of my hard work and determination, but it made me realize that people don't remember my life like I do, and they don't think about my body much at all.
Yes, most people are so self obsessed they hardly notice.
I’ve been on a weight loss journey since October and have lost 75 pounds (I still have 50 till my goal weight). I’ve noticed that all my co-workers who are of “normal” weight have noticed and commented but those who should consider a weight loss/exercise plan have not said a thing. But this weight loss is for me and my health and not anyone else so it all doesn’t matter if it gets noticed or not. Great video…thank you.
Whenever I first started losing weight in years past it showed in my face first so that brought comments from folks. But this keto journey started during covid shutdowns so once things started reopening (people could start attending my church again) I had already dropped a substantial amount of weight. I lost 140 and have kept it off since starting May of 2020 and every once in a while I run into someone I haven’t seen since the pandemic and they do a double-take because I am just over 1/2 weight I was in 2019.
First of all congratulations for your weight loss🎉 That’s HUGE! This same thing has happened to me either people I hadn’t seen since pre Covid & pre weight loss. Once I started going around the people I had regularly been around before, they were utterly shocked to say the least! I dropped 10 sizes ! Went from a size 12 to a size 2. Granted this was a 3 year journey but yeah it was pretty dramatic 😮😄
@@healthhollow7218 did you do keto & intermittent fasting? Congrats on the weight loss!
Way to go! And you didn't gain it back 😊🎉
@@Tatertot274 thank you! I started with keto at first, no fasting, and did that for 2 years until I got bored of the no carb routine. That’s when I discovered fasting last year and fell in love with the freedom (and the carbs 😆) I actually lost weight quicker fasting then I ever did on keto and I’m so much happier this way! I still eat healthy foods but I also eat pizza and doughnuts when I want it. I definitely don’t derive myself and it feels so freeing 😄🎉
Congratulations 🎉
Thank you for sharing this. It's actually very encouraging.
Great video- love the various perspectives. We live in our own heads so much, that we need to hear that not everyone is focused on what we are thinking and doing. When I lost weight , there was a tipping point where people started noticing. I was never insulted that they noticed because I knew I had gotten pudgy. I just would agree with them and thank them for noticing.
I love your comment " be your own encourager"
Good idea about taking progress pictures.
I actually have a very different experience… I started seeing people’s reaction after I lost about 30 lbs. Almost nobody would comment directly, but I could see it in their nonverbal. The greatest compliment is seeing people close to me starting to make changes and applying the method (or a version of it) that I’m using (intermittent fasting, then alternate-day fasting 2 days full fast per week). They kind of waited to see if it would stick first though, which is quite normal. They probably expected me to stop or regain, and since it didn’t happen and I’m still losing without pain, they are now looking closely. I don’t really need the direct encouragement, I know why I’m doing this and that’s enough.
Hi Kayla, I appreciate your videos so much. Thank you! 🥰
Uh! Thank you for this!!! ..
legit needed to hear this 🥰
It's worse than not noticing, it's when they undermine you. I've had the experience at work, of women chatting about our weight problems, and I said "I'm a stone overweight now". And they looked me up and down and laughed. They didn't believe it. This is very frustrating and could make some people give up trying.
LOL, I've always been heavier than I look, I can fool the weight-guessing booths at the fair every time and they don't like giving up their "prizes." People laugh about the term "big boned," but it actually exists, I have large, heavy bones, but stand 5'3" and weigh in at 140, they never guess my weight, usually guessing around 125 or so, I can fool them every time.
Hello Kayla, this is so tru. People that haven’t seen me in a long time notice the weight gain. The people that see me a lot didn’t notice. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓. Very wise video.
I’ve lost 30# doing IF, exercise and calorie restriction. Had someone say, “you look different, you’re wearing your hair differently”. I told them, “no, I’ve lost 30#”
Brilliant! My good friends say "you're looking so much fitter". Then I can mention the weight loss. Weight loss makes you stand up straighter, walk better, better skin, better attitude. People will notice these changes.
Thanks so much!!! Exactly what i needed to hear.
It really depends on how heavy you were when starting your weight loss. I was 154 lbs and now I’m 113 lbs. very few people mentioned the loss because I carried the fat very evenly throughout my body. I noticed though. Thin is so much better! Everything I wear looks better and I’m healthier than ever! I don’t care what anyone says. Never have.
Everything you said so spot on.
I remember that double-edged sword when my yoga teacher celebrated some weight loss. She was very fit and 20+ years older than me. I was happy that she appreciated my change but my other thought was "I wanted her to just ignore the weight loss and act like this is what I was always like." I really wanted to be as good as her and she just seemed like she always had everything together.
That's my feeling too, I don't want to discuss my weight with people, it makes me feel uncomfortable.
Each situation is different, however, sometimes people don't comment because they're jealous. Once I started losing weight, no one said anything, but I did notice that they started eating healthier foods and getting more exercise, so they were definitely aware that my body was changing.
I feel the exact opposite of this. Ever since I started gaining weight in my teens, I wish I could disappear and reappear with the extra weight completely gone. I wish no one would notice me or comment on how I look. It’s so impeding to my progress. It’s quite weird I guess lol
Everybody notices the ups & the downs, but some people just don't say anything. They could be being sensitive to your feelings, minding their own business, or jealousy because they couldn't do it or hadn't started. Just stay positive and keep going.
Great content 🤗
Soooooo many people now are saying they don't think other people should talk about their bodies so I think a lot of people are afraid to say anything anymore
I think a lot of people don’t want to say anything because you’ll think they thought you were fat in the first place. You have to think of it from their standpoint. While I might not take offense, others might. It’s a tough situation to be in. And… some people are just oblivious like my son. So take it with a grain of salt and congratulate yourself.
People started calling me anorexic even though I had gotten to the weight that i had all my life and after each of my five kids. Their idea of a healthy weight had morphed so much with the American diet that big was the new normal
Yes! I think bc I had been overweight for so long and bc everyone is so overweight they forgot what a healthy person looked like! I keep telling them, I used to look like this! (You know, have just one chin and a waist line!) 😂
What have I just watched! I didn't realise I was losing weight for everyone's approval
It just shows you that a lot of us care what other people think which is wrong, to not care is the greatest freedom
Lost 27 lbs no one really noticed, and this video was exactly what I needed.
True. Take photos.
But 5 lbs is what my weight variate in a week 😂 It took about 50 lbs, before I started getting comments. But usually people just don't notice until it's such a big change, they don't recognise you in the street 😂
I'm now down aprox 100 lbs and people stop me in the street! I'm more or less maintaining my weight now, while my body is still changing 😊
This video is true. My family also noticed the weight loss when I dressed differently.
Your Awesome..!!
It doesn't bother me at all when no one notices my weight loss because I am the worst for noticing it on others. 😊
Love all the beautiful Catholic art in your home!
I lost 35 lbs and 14 inches from hip waist bust. I went from 16 or 18 in pants to 12 lbs. I've informed my sisters they just don't comment. Odd
I found once I got out of the black clothes I felt safe in that’s when they started to notice brighter colours made the difference
Sometimes--especially at work--people don't know whether even a positive comment about obvious weight loss would be welcome by the other person. Making any comment about someone's body could get you in trouble.
Same thing happened to me. For the first 3 months, nobody said anything although it was apparent to me.
Actually I am the one who usually do not notice other weight loss or gain, but I am always surprised some people notice my weight loss LOL
If they see you frequently, the don’t notice your gradual changes. People who haven’t seen you in awhile are the ones who notice.
Ive lost 30kg and no one has ever noticed, all I can think the reason is is because they always see me. But some relatives I have didnt say anything either, it can be really disheartening Thats why I continue my journey for how healthy Im feeling and that reason only now.
Oh don’t I know !!! I think it’s jealousy …
Years ago when I lost 30 pounds (and it was noticeable because I was barely 5 feet tall), it took my co-workers so long to catch on and compliment me that I had already put 10 pounds back on before they even mentioned the weight loss! 🙄
You have to do it for yourself. It's your journey.
I lost a lot of weight before and people would tell me I was "too skinny" when in actual fact I was in a normal weight range. I gain a heap of weight and once again had the "You're a big girl" comments which didn't make me feel good at all, especially when I broke a chair whilst visiting! I've been on a weight loss journey again and have so far lost 7kg and about 6 inches of body fat since the middle of February this year. People are just starting to notice I'm smaller now. When I say things willingly early on then I get discouraging people. I like the "Have you lost weight You're looking fantastic!" kind of comments.
I seldom notice and try not to comment on people’s weight, unless they ask me. It’s also quite stressful for me when I am asked, I am not an observant person.
I lost the first 25 of the 35 I needed to lose ever so slowly with by intuitive eating. That was difficult and it took me a year. Of course nobody noticed! The rest of it I lost intermittent fasting mostly one meal a day and never looked back. That was the beginning of 2020
A few years, ago I lost 30 pounds. That was hard but felt great and was certainly noticeable. And overtime I gained 17 pounds back which I never thought I would do. I have now lost 4 pounds, and frankly, I barely notice! But I know that I will once I get another 10 pounds off, it will be noticed. And maybe someone will comment and maybe not. it comes down to how I feel when I look at myself in the mirror.
When I was a kid and a teen I was this sporty girl type and very active . When I got 19 or 20 I have gained a good 30 lbs even more within 2 years. Around 25 I came back doing sports like rollerblade, running, walking, biking, hiking etc etc and oh boy people didn't stop to tell me that I lost so much weight. Trust me people notice it maybe not your partner since he sees you everyday and all the time I say that because my ex did not tell me once that I lost weight or look different and when he was asked about it he used say "I don't know, I didn't notice it". However I was not expecting him to say anything since I was doing it for myself and feeling good in my body again. 😉
Oh he noticed. He just wanted to keep you down.
@@sundown6748 maybe or probably but I can tell you that I was not expecting him to say anything about it anyway 🙂
I can see more light between your waist and your arm at the lower weight.
do people comment when you GAIN weight? Honestly, I think people are learning to mind their own business and not comment about others looks.
Sometimes people don’t mention it because they think you’re losing because of health problems
I am a 69 year young women been doing 16/8 for 6mos andhaven’t lost anything black coffee or tea in the morning i dont eat atfer 5pm till 10.00am i am so frustrated. Thank you and have a nice day.
I’m 69 also and had the same situation. I have always had a difficult time losing weight.
I now ( i know this sounds crazy) eat 0nly 2 big meals a week on Wednesdays and Saturdays and the other days I have 2 big lattes in the morning plus vitamins, drink lots of water and tea and am finally dropping weight. I have a lot to lose, but after a lifetime of dieting, I have to shake things up and go a bit extreme to lose without my body going into starvation survival mode.
500 cals a day, 3000 steps a day. Lattes because I realized it was the one thing I couldn’t live without.
Finally releasing weight and I feel great.
16:8 doesn't do it for me either. How about 19:5? A meal and a snack or desert... Just a thought 🤔
I'm a 74 year young woman and I've been doing 16/8 for 4 years. I do the same as you, coffee (with cream) and tea (with lemon) in the morning, breakfast between 10:30am and noon, and another meal around 5pm or 6pm. I lost 93 pounds the first year trying to stay under 20 carbs a day and drinking the apple cider drink all day. But, I've been stuck here, 35 pounds from my goal, for 3 years, gaining and losing the same 10 pounds. I'm thinking about trying the carnivore diet to get motivated again.
I'm 59 and have struggled for years. IF doesn't do anything for me, but ADF works for me. I have also done 3 days fasting weekly. I find both methods equally effective, but ADF is easier. I find the key is having low calorie days between regular eating days. I just can't eat everyday and see weight loss, period. In the end you need to have a weekly calorie deficit.
@@debclair822 I’m the same way. 😟
Hi I’m new to your channel . I’m so frustrated I did the 36 hour fast for a month and no results . Help me please ! Any suggestions?
I dropped from 260 to 220 in my senior year of high school. Suffice to say, a lot of people noticed.
Most people don’t notice much of anything.
💯❗️
People usually notice wl after 15lbs typically a dress size.
I totally disagree. People notice these thing really fast - and don't like it. Think like you have been working with person who has tried to loose weight a long time. They say things like, I don't believe you- you don't have that in you-i buy you a cup of tea, coffee, lunch-etc (to get you to eat more). That is really the thing that makes you to get the weight back. You should really change your friends and environment to keep the weight you want. But maybe it is not your goal to leave everything and everyone you love. So, keep up the good work and don't mind them. My friend said I don't believe you when I started running and I was rather good already at the moment. I stopped. It took me 3 years and total change in life to find the love to running again. So don't give up!
AU Contraire. I went from 245 to 150. People complained that I was too skinny.
Most people don't notice. Other people are ignorant
It probably took me losing 40# to get complements. I started at 194#
I lost a ton of weight, and nobody hardly says anything. It’s ok though, because I’m happy with it. People definitely do notice when I gain weight and are quick to say something about that.😂
Just take care of your health. People are fickle. If they do or don't notice it doesn't matter. What matters is that yiu are getting healthier. Most women are nasty about you losing, because they aren't. A lot of jealoys women are out there.
Nobody needs to notice. Your health is what really matters 😉
And well meaning people giving us treat food we can't shun for fear of being rude.
Daughter in law noticed mine and wanted to make sure it wasn’t cancer. Lol.
I lost 40lbs and no one notice
I'm not losing weight for other people!
I takes at least 50-70 lbs lost for people to notice it on me. But if I gain only 5 lbs, someone is quick to tell me I've gained weight 😅😂😂
I think people notice the inches you lose
I’ve lost 28 lbs recently and no one has said a word 😂
I celebrate every five pounds with a gift to myself small things like buy an outfit in a shop were I would not even go 200lbs gone now just ten more pounds to go
Personally I keep it secret because I failed so much time
The reward isn't about the "weight loss"". Its about becoming healthier.
BEEF, BACON, BUTTER & EGGS!! 👍
I dont give a rats a*s if ppl notice or not! Do it for you and don’t need validation from anyone else. Stop asking for attention from others. Thats what ppl get caught up in. Thats crazy to me.
The important part is making sure your weight loss is an emotional journey and not a simple math problem. :-/ Everyone over complicates it lol 😂
So you shouldn't do it for others
In 7 months from 127.5 kg to 107.1 kg no one noticed anything 😂😂
'A lot of ... rambling. IMO. (All the "religious paraphernalia" in the background is (at a minimum) unneeded. Some people will just automatically dismiss what you're saying. Others will find if actually offensive. "Geez," they'll be thinking, "Yet another creation myth." Best to say what you want to say without religion, politics, etc. in the picture. Literally) (Again, IMO.)