it's crazy how many missed opportunities fly away because of social anxiety (and depression in my case). "you're just lazy and quiet and shy". not at all fam im just anxious af
I have to agree. My parents do be telling me "join this" "join that". "Enter this contest" "Don't be lazy" "What are there to be shy and scared of?" And each time idk how to respond and keep telling them i did not want to join .But also regretting the decision I made later on. 😔
I agree with you, I already missed many opportunities due to low self-esteem and anxiety. And when I think about the future, I end up having anxiety! I am still comparing myself with other people, with thoughts "omg look she knows how to speak several languages", "wow she is so good in sports", "because she is so beautiful". And it disturbs me so much, because of these thoughts I end up missing opportunities to learn new things and discover new talents😓😢
Totally related... the worst thing is how they think that YOU don't want friends, but they don't understand that you actually tried EVERYTHING to have them and yet, it didn't work
if it helps, my therapist has told me when you have thoughts like being lonely but not wanting to be around people, it is ok to have thoughts that are seemingly very different. You can accept both of those thoughts and allow yourself to feel however you feel. your feelings are valid. you are valid.
@@miraloshinisivaneswaran2905 omg its just a saying please why is everyone so sensitive it is perfectly normal for a friend want to try and protect there friend if anyone hurts them
I had a roommate in college who had social anxiety, she ended up having a deep depression and took her own life. It is heartbreaking when someone has so much potential and unique-ness inside of them yet they’ve been made to feel misunderstood, weird, and incompetent. I wish I was more aware of social anxiety- I had no idea the tremendous burden it created for her. I wish we could all have more compassion and patience for one another. We lose too many people to depression, anxiety, and other illnesses and disorders, when we could all do our part to make someone feel worthy, understood, and special. ❤️
Emily White I’m so sorry that you feel that way. It can be hard to understand something if you may not experience it or know about it. Honestly I feel the same about friends I’ve had who had depression and a singer I deeply loved who also took his life because of depression. So don’t feel guilty.
My social anxiety makes making and maintaining friends so difficult. Most people don’t understand that not seeing them everyday or not talking for hours does not mean I don’t want to be friends; it just means it takes so much for me to do something that is so easy for everyone else.
Yes i lost a friend because she told me that i was just trying to ignore her because I never wanted to hang out. She never understood that it wasn’t her it was me. She didn’t get that i was scared to be around or talk to (not necessarily her) anyone.
same, i'm 18 and i can't buy something, i always send my mom because i paralized and i can't literally get inside the store, i just run away, and if i get inside it's very difficult to talk and wait with everyone watching
hey big mood but there's lots of people like you and we're all in this together man-- I really hope you're feeling a little better by the time I write this comment and know that there's def at least one person (even if I live across the world from you) who's thinking of you
8:00 i can relate SO HARD to feeling like people don't think you have anything interesting to say or you don't have anything to offer when it's just the simple fact that expressing yourself and showing who you are is so hard when for most people it's second nature, sometimes i wanna just say to people "no no i swear i'm not boring, i have a personality! i just can't show you" the worst part about social anxiety for me is feeling like people don't see an accurate version of you and not being able to do anything about it
EXACTLY its such a heavy burden to feel like i have the responsibility to be interesting and fun and talkative towards others or theyll think im boring or quiet, it makes me feel so inferior and like a lesser version of myself when i feel that im unable to entertain others
oH mAn hOly sHit it is great that you found something that calms you down and helps you when you are not feeling at your best, but I really recommend that you do not lose hope on looking for professional help! The combination of both of them will help you so much. I am saying this from experience. It really helped me and I hope it helps you!!
To those who struggle with Social Anxiety: The most important thing to remember is that Social Anxiety is a mind game. Even if you feel worthless and negative about yourself you have to remember that that it is not true. Even if people try to make you feel bad that has nothing on you and say more about them as a person. Remember you are worthy and no one can take that away from you, it might take some time but you can heal from this ❤️
It's a mind game - why did I imagined poker players when one of them am I and the other ones is social anxiety in a wide variety of forms 😂😂. But thanx for your kind words 💛💛💛
when i met you at kcon, i was so so happy to meet you and you were so warm, loving, and kind to me, and i would've never thought you had social anxiety because you seemed so extroverted. im so proud of you for how far you've come. i'm so proud of you for learning to love yourself and taking things day by day. you've made me So happy, and your existence is such a gift. i love and believe in you always angel
When she was describing her social anxiety during 3:40 I was imagining Little Nina suffering and i almost cried cuz i really wanted to go hug her and calm her down
i don't think or know i have social anxiety but being called boring, shy in such an insulting way or quiet in secondary school was hurtful, it made me feel very insecure. I'm still working on it and learning to love myself :)
Oh my gosh same. I have been so insecure about my shyness and introversion to the point I don't want to be around other people because I just don't want to hear them telling me I am too quiet or shy. But I am working on loving myself more as well. I really don't have to change myself to fit into society's standards
Yes it really does hurt, one of my “friends” told me that when they first saw me, they thought that I would “shoot up” the whole school because I was...quiet. It made me cry and hurt me very much, and it was such as stupid thing to think about me..
I'm 21 and I've lived with social anxiety since I was maybe 8? In high school, I would hide in an empty classroom and read because I was terrified of just being around people. It didn't change when I went to university. I felt and to an extent, still feel defected and alone. I'm in my third year and still terrified of introducing myself to my professors (I haven't said hi to a single one before) or the person who sits next to me (for the first time I managed to make two lecture "friends" this semester!), but I did sign up for a one-time counseling session and when the counselor asked me how I managed to handle everything on my own for so long, I only managed to say BTS before breaking down crying. Having social anxiety is brutal. I hate it so much. I've put in a lot of work to improve, but there's always more to be done. Thank you for this video, it really helps to know people have the same feelings and thoughts toward themselves as I've dealt with. I hope things get better for you
During my 20 years of existence, the people who underestimate and mock me the most are my closest people, my family and my relatives . The thing that made me lose my confidence completely. I wish I could trust myself and people again. It's hard but it's worth the try. I felt every word you said. I just want you to know that they are a lot of people who appreciate you💜
Nina just opened a chapter of her book that is written relatable to something almost each of us has felt and dealt with thank you for opening up and assure us we aren’t alone in this. 💜
I’ve struggled with social anxiety since elementary school (I’m 20 now) and it’s honestly been one of the most dreadful things to deal with. It’s prevented me from making friends especially now that I am in college. In cases when I’m having a conversation with a new person I begin to overthink and feel as if they’re getting bored of me or just think I’m weird. It gets exhausting when a part of me wants a group of friends but it’s almost impossible to make friends with my social anxiety
The honesty is so palpable here! And the fact that you're so articulate shows that we all - as a society - need to proactively pay more attention to people who might not be as vocal or talkative as others. It really touched me when you started talking about how there were people who said things to you knowing you couldn't stand up for yourself (choking back tears now)... I hope you realize that you're speaking volumes by sharing your story and through all your videos. You're touching people by the 100s, 1000s, 100,000s, and your voice is RESONANT, STRONG AND INFLUENTIAL!
I really struggle with social anxiety and depression but I physically and mentally cannot make myself go and get help and I really wish I could. But I also find BTS while struggling with this and they have truly helped me so much through the hardest times and I’m so grateful for them. I hope everyone gets to live happily and truly love themselves :)
Here are some tips to calm down your anxiety thoughts 1. Listening to music 2. Distract yourself with whatever you like/helps you feel better for example, I like to draw and that calms down my anxiety. 3. Do some outside activity ( I know how hard it can get seriously but you are the only one that can help yourself trust me) These are by far the most effective for me (Except for the activity one because I'm NOT about to get coronavirus right now, no ma'm.
I have really severe social anxiety too, to the point that I can't even go out to the supermarket or for a walk around my neighbourhood without feeling uncomfortable. My heart goes out to anyone else struggling, as I understand how much it can impact your every day life. Working on trying to manage it though! Good luck to everyone else who is struggling
i didn't even know what i was going through was social anxiety in middle school... i would always be so so energetic around people i love but when faced with any big social situation i would do the same stuff as u! i always overthink EVERYTHING and i relate to almost everything u mentioned in this video and i'm still dealing w it but i'm getting sm better because of my friends and ppl like u!
Me being introvert I know extroverts often(not all) think that we are quiet and dont really have anything to say. But really us introverts have really loud heads.
I have social anxiety and I can't go out alone or go shopping and when I finish school I go straight home even if I wanted to buy something on my way I can't buy because I feel weak when I talk with people I can't express myself I don't find the words to say but I noticed when I'm around my friends it's not that bad ....I can't even find someone to talk and who understands me .
this is so incredibly late hehe but hi jocie! your channel is such a positive place to be and has helped me a lot, hope you’re having a lovely day/night :)
"I kind of learned to be a better friend to myself" - nina "myself who's inside me is also my friend. this friend has been inside myself for 23 years, but i might not know this friend perfectly. so it's important to take time to get to know this friend." - kim namjoon .....your bias chose you well. just saying
I can't believe how much I related to what you went through Nina. When I was in middle school I felt so alone and to avoid socialization I would just stick my head in a book. Now looking back, I can see how these ways of thinking would just hold me back more.
this video helped me so much. i always ask myself, why am i like this, why cant i just socialise like a normal person. i'd put the entire blame on myself. but now that i think about it, i was always been told negative things about myself by my closest friends when i was a kid, and was treated badly. maybe that's where my insecurities come from. i hope i can heal now that i've realised this. thank you so much
thank you so much, nina. i've gone to therapy before but i don't think i'd ever felt as seen/understood as i did with this video. i really needed to hear some of the things you said and i'll do my best to store them in my heart and not to forget.
if somebody ever hurts Nina again, believe me when I say that you are goona be over by so many people like me that loves and appreciate Nina with all of our heart. Neen you are bautiful and strong! a lot of people loves you and really care about you and do not ever forget that okay? take care
I also have social anxiety and I have learned this now. Actually, I thought I was getting rid of this situation but I had a lot of difficulty this year. This year my level of stress and anxiety also increased.
I feel you so much. Sometimes I think it’s gone or almost gone, but then it comes out of nowhere stronger than ever But it always calms down a little after some time. Time and being patient with yourself is your best friend !
i was diagnosed with severe and social anxiety. this video made me feel a lot better, i always forget i'm not the only one dealing with anxiety. thank you so much for talking about it!
This girl I kind of like in my class lightly complemented me and I legit panicked and have been avoiding her cuz my heart starts beating fast when I see her cuz I keep overthinking
Paddy O'Door i do that too :( someone complimented me once and i thought there was no way they could genuinely mean that so my SA made me think they were doing it to mess with me
presentations and going out of your room is the hardest thing for me, i swear even going to school is such a mentally exhausting thing and i still can’t look at people eyes while talking.
I can relate to this so much. I’ve had social anxiety since I was young, and I feel the same way as you do in social situations: shaking hands, red face, shaky voice, especially when speaking around those who aren’t my friends. BTS also helped comfort me, and made me feel heard. Thank you for making this video Nina I loved it 🥺💜💜💜
I thought I was just this shy girl, but as the years go by... I realize that I'm really afraid of people. I panicked everytime I'm surrounded by people. And it gets worse when one of my classmates in college told me that I'm dumb just because I can't communicate very well.
I had social anxiety since childhood. And what made it worse was people around telling me that I was too shy and I need to fix it, like go to a psychologist. When my parents were attending school meetings they were recommended different tips on how I can fix it, they were given phone numbers of psychologists that could cure me. They would discuss me publicly like I was a problematic student, although I had very good grades and was studying all the time. And each time after such meetings we had an unpleasant talk with my parents. I felt like I wasn’t normal when people around were constantly telling me that i needed to change. They would give me those pity looks and tell me “how will you be supposed to live life if you’re like this”. And when I wasn’t criticized all the time I just started to forget about my problem and would act more normally. Then my teachers would tell my parents that I’m improving, so I was reminded again that I wasn’t normal and I would shut myself again. Don’t ever tell quiet people that they are too quiet and that they need to fix it. It will make things worse. Please be careful with your words. What helped me with my anxiety was mostly the absence of criticism, it happened gradually when I started living on my own. And also it gets better as you age and get new experience, you will just get used to things that are scary for you doing them regularly.
I can relate so much. You know the feeling when you lean back in a chair and almost fall. I used to feel like that any time someone would say my name. Thank you I feel less alone in this.
Nunca mejor dicho! I dont know how you say that expresion in english, but thats the best example that i've ver heard. Thats exactly how i feel, its so frustating 😞
Me too! Or when I’m at work and the phone would start to ring, I would literally almost black out for a second cause it terrified me so much, even though I know it’s just another human on the other side, and that I actually know how to do my job so I shouldn’t worry.... I’ve been like this since high school like 8 years ago, but it’s just so hard to change that mindset. I’m really trying to work on it though. I hope we can all get through this 💕
wow even just watching a couple seconds takes me back to when id have to force myself to sleep to stop overthinking lol. To those struggling still yall got this. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or changing ones thoughts to positive thinking has helped me heal my mind. instead of saying “Omgosh they PROBABLY think im stupid im so stupid for saying that would they think of me that way? ugh idk idk idk idk” you use affirmations like “you know what? i did my best today. and i think that is something to be appreciated. it’ll take some time but i am making progress. and its totally okay because i tried my best and i can always talk to them later again. i will be okay.” there is some weird negative thinking when we do negative think. as in like... its almost like its not you saying it?? its like a dang diggity demon trying to make u negative think. because i wouldnt be thinking of stuff like that about myself in the first place if i was in my normal state. anxiety is weird bruh. almost all my anxiety has gone away now luckily. took a while and theres still times that i break down because of triggers from the past. but if u persevere to look at the positive, the negative will almost be gone.... yall got this okay!! focus on the positive. it may seem like positivity doesnt exist when ur in your own head that is negative but if u choose to focus to see the light, u will find it. (also idk if any of u guys here are religious but going back to my faith in God helPED SO MUCH. was the biggest part that helped me in the end. there were so many times i shouted at Him... i would be crying during a panic attack and asking Why this has happened to me.. but He has allowed pain to happen in order for healing and other things to be shown to me. without all this i wouldnt have found drawing and painting and so many other things about the world. through social anxiety u learn more about the people around you and how despite how negativity fosters in this world, u can be the light that helps those who are still struggling in the dark. the world doesnt tend to help us who are left out. u guys got this. Jeremiah 29:13 “You will Find me and seek me when you search for me with all your heart.” And out of all the people who choose to see us and judge us based on our appearance, he looks at our heart “ 1 Samuel 16:7 New International Version (NIV) 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” God Bless & Shalom
me:today i am going to be PRODUCTIVE weather: sucks also me: procrastinates my work due monday and watches nina on loop Also, an amazing video! Self-love is amazingly important these days and we are so glad you shared everything with us!!💗💗💗💗 Be safe noodles yall😥🥺💜
you perfectly verbalized everything i feel and have experienced...the thing is, over the past 8 years, my social anxiety has steadily been getting worse and worse... reflecting back, things definitely started when i was about 4 years old. loud happy carefree child. now im 21 and im the quietest person ive ever been and it frustrates a lot of my family members especially. the thing is, when youre told to shut up so many times and youve been put down so many times for speaking your mind, you learn the habit of just not expressing yourself anymore for fear of disapproval and backlash...
This video made me talk with my friend about that metaphor “u can lead a horse to water but u can’t make it drink” and it ended up becoming a super deep novel about life and how you think
we have gone through some similar situations, i used to think that i could never get over my social anxiety but recently i have been working on it alot, watching this video gave me more hope and more positivity within myself, i’m also glad i can relate to someone in a way and not feel alone🥺 thank you so much for making this video Nina & i love you! 💜
in the words of bts, "you've shown me i have reasons i should love myself " you really are so so amazing nina, and words can't describe how proud i am~ thank you so much for helping me and thousands of others
This video made me cry. I also have a social anxiety disorder and I didn't know I already have it since I was a kid. I thought I was just this shy girl but it's getting worse years after years.
excuse me for this long message. I just wanted to thank you Nina for sharing this with us, I related to so many things you said but I'm not here to talk only about myself. Honestly, you deserve so much love and appreciation, you're precious:))) I'm a Chinese adoptee living in Iceland and my self-esteem was pushed down around the age of 7+ because of my appearance, bullying etc. so seeing how you're overcoming your insecurities and fears really gives me hope of being able to change as well and love myself. You really are an amazing person (even if I don't know you in real life) I can just say by the contents of your videos and on social media and your perseverance through hard times. Thank you again and I purple you💜
I can relate to everything she said... Like Not lying... I cried so much cause I thought I was the only one going through this... Whenever I tell people about these things they would get mad at me for overreacting... Everyday, I feel so left out but again I would try my best:laughing and trying my best to be in their conversation... But no matter how hard I try,I just can't do it... For some people school might be the place where they are like less bored since they meet lots of friends there but for me it's the place where I am *loneliest* ... Sometimes I think even if I die,They won't shed a single drop of tears for me... They just don't understand a single thing about *Social Anxiety* and they are like: "You are always overreacting and it's your fault for being like that" ... I've never ever got a friend who actually appreciates me and make me feel comfortable... They all gives up on me when they are with other friends like I don't even blame them,I blame myself for being like this.... I just wish that it would have been a lot better if they tried to understand how i actually feel inside... Thankyou so much nina...You made me realise that I'm not the only one who's dealing with these kinds of things in life and thankyou for educating me about *Social Anxiety* ... I would try my best to appreciate myself for who I am and I won't change myself for others... ✨... *I am who I am* ...✨ Btw I didn't skip a single part and I watched till the end... It was worth watching
I started crying sooo bad at the middle of the video, you just said everything that I'm feeling, and hear that from my favorite TH-camr just made me realize that I'm not alone. Your words described what's in my mind and heart in such a specific way, i don't know what to say, I'm so grateful that I'm still fighting my social phobia and didn't just give up like i thought i would hundreds of times before. I really love you so much Nina, and i wish i can hug you and hug everyone in need as much as i need it right now.
12:18 samee, my parents told me i used to be so talkative as a child that people had to tell me to stop talking. i don't even know what made me become super shy as i grew up..
sending a virtual hug to you nina 💕 i’m a very nervous/anxious person. when i’m in public, i always think whatever i’m doing is gonna fail and everyone around me (complete strangers) will laugh. and it sucks bc i start getting really hot and begin physically expressing my nervous energy ://
gosh, i let out a few tears watching this video because of how much i relate to past nina :(( honestly bts is such a big part of my life too, and their message of loving yourself also make me feel so damn happy, i also have some friends that genuinely make me feel good and heard, and i just relate to what your saying and it made me feel like i wasn’t alone in this as i’m still going through this. thanks for this video nina 🥺 *hug*
So relatable when you mentioned about bts and how their songs helped you to love yourself! I'm also someone who has social anxiety and always so thankful that I found you, you inspire me to be who I am and most importantly to love myself. Lots of love and power to you:,) ❤
Can I feel more related? All these years going through the same shit, thinking that it was just me. Everybody else seemed to know what to do and say and I just didn't understand how they did it... but watching this feels like a hug really. I think I finally got a friend :)
I agree, filming on a camera for me is like being able to express myself. I have OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder, but Im not neat and my room looks like a mess. Im a introvert, I only have 1 or 2 friends and when we have to do a group project, I ALWAYS stick w my friends. I almost never talk in class, like during a lesson with the teacher, because I'm afraid to be judged or I might be offending someone. I might social anxiety disorder (SAD) but sometimes when I'm in a small group of people, I talk just like anyone would and I feel like I'm hiding myself.
hi there! I was re-watching Nina's video and saw your comment and just wanted to share that you're not alone. I also have OCD, but not in the ways that people usually stereotype it like being super neat (as you mentioned). I'm incredibly introverted and likely have undiagnosed social anxiety disorder, so I completely understand what you are struggling with. People don't share about the struggles of OCD enough, so I always find it comforting when I stumble across someone else who can relate. Sending a virtual hug your way!
i think youtube is easier for people with social anxiety because there's no pressure if you mess up since you can always edit things out and re-record. so there's a lot less pressure of doing things right the first time. love the video, neen. you're very strong. like a wonderful friend to all of us ♥ ♥
The fact that she referred to “you” instead of “I” when she talked about her unique personal experiences with social anxiety made me feel more sad 🥺 I sadly went through kind of the same issues tho... thanks for this vid Nina 😭
thank you for this Nina.. i feel like you explained and put into words exactly how i feel.. it brought me to tears. i always felt weak bc I’m that way but i now can see how that can change if i just try
honestly having social anxiety sucks so much.. i used to be so social and never caring about what other people thought but then all of a sudden all of this stuff happened and i just changed... now i go through the same things when my face turns red and i can’t breath... my self esteem is so low and i’m trying to get it back up and to where i like myself. it’s hard to have friends and it’s hard to do things that a lot of other people easily do... i feel like i missed out on a lot because of social anxiety. i’ve got help and now i’m getting better... thank you nina for this video, it honestly made me feel a lot better 💕
i used to struggle with really bad social anxiety (now its a lot better, but still bad around most people). recently I've been doing this thing where i'll feel fully like myself for ~4 days and be extroverted and interested in everything, and then go dormant for 2 weeks (this dormant feeling is like when you don't feel like listening to music, but like x10). I don't feel like hanging out with friends when i feel like this, i'd rather just be alone. and of course that extroverted energetic me kept making plans with people, only to have me cancel last minute because I felt "dormant". my friends kept getting annoyed/upset with me, only i wasn't informed of it all until yesterday. and i realized and i know it is my fault, i shouldn't have committed to plans only to cancel last minute. but what they don't know, and what i'm too scared to explain, is that im an extrovert at heart, and in those couple days that i feel like myself, i need to hang out with people because that's where i get my energy. so it's like this battle between my true self vs social anxiety and this weird lack of motivation/feeling of having no spirit/on low power mode. right now i'm overthinking everything and feel really bad for canceling on my friends. I'm also a people pleaser. one of them that i kept canceling on, i get really socially anxious around him, mainly because i tried to make a good impression of myself him months ago and ended up acting cocky without realizing (I realized because he told me i was cocky, and it was like a bomb dropped on me, and i once again hid into my shell of social anxiety. it was really bad and for the next couple months i just avoided him.. he didn't have bad intent or anything, he was merely telling the truth (which i appreciate but it came with a great deal of stress)... and i feel so stupid for writing this because this is sooo dumb yet it still affects me). There's a lot more to this whole thing but i really don't feel like sorting through it all right now. whoever manages to read through my nonsense, thank you, from the bottom of my heart it really means a lot.
i just feel like i embarrassed myself earlier when i was trying to recite, my mind just blank out because i'm so so afraid to embarrass myself but i just ended up embarrassing myself haha now I can't stop thinking abt it, probably won't stop thinking 'bout it for weeks
I know how you feel. It seems like no one understands how bad social anxiety can be. It becomes so bad where it's hard for me to order my food and people laugh at me for it. I have many insecurities and when people focused on those it hurt and I felt extremely lonely. Nina, you have been a huge help in my life weather is making me smile or making me feel productive. You've made me a better person without me even knowing it. Thank you Nina, I love you, I truly do.
me too!! and when i order food i always stutter or order it too fast in a way where i just tell my friends what i want and they’ll say it for me. i’ve gotten to the point where as long as my friend(s) say my order, i’ll pay for them too. but then they always end up making fun of me!! idk if i have social anxiety :( i know i’m an introvert, and i’m shy, and i would always avoid any social contact. but the more i watch these videos, i’m scared to face the fact that i do have it...
everything that you said in this video, i can relate. i struggle with social anxiety and depression, and i’m a really quiet and non talkative person. and i freak out when i see people, or people that i know when i’m talking to them, i’m not a really good conversation starter, whenever this kind of shit happens and my heart rapidly beats fast, and i start fidgeting, i think to myself “what the hell should i do” and i keep getting flashbacks to things that i DONT want to remember about some embarrassing social situations. i fucking hate myself, i don’t look in the mirror often anymore, i just call it a day. right now i’m trying to recover in some psychology treatments, it’s really hard for me to open up to people. you’re one of the wholesome you tubers i’ve subscribed too. here’s ur delivery bb ☟︎ ☟︎ ☟︎ 📦 endless love and happiness 📦 and don’t cry, when people i cry :(( with love, -jobi edit: all of these people in the comment section are so nice omg 🥺
Not me crying at work watching this. *takes deep breath* wow. I just got into watching your videos and realized how similar we are. In some way I see a lot of me in you and for you to literally share a story like this really resonates with me. I’m also 24 (going on 25) and have been dealing with undiagnosed social anxiety. At first I didn’t notice it because i didn’t know really what it was or that it was a legit thing until recently actually. I was bullied up until HS and that really depleted my self esteem/self worth. I have also been introverted (INFJ life) and had trouble finding myself and friends that I could trust. To this day I find myself overextending myself to ppl that don’t deserve it and it hurts because it’s a cycle I struggle with. I’m growing everyday and finding ways to truly love who I am and am grateful for amazing friends that pour into me. Thank you for sharing your journey. As someone that struggles with being vulnerable, it’s refreshing to see transparency in something that can be taboo in alot of communities. You’re amazing 💜
nina truly is that one friend everyone needs.
Yesssss!!
I wish I could meet her and tell her how truly inspirational she is and how we all have her back and then give a big hug 😁😘😥
i wish i meet a friend someone like nina uwu... i'm wheezing! I badly need one
:((Welp!
Nathaniel drew is also another friend everyone needs.
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the worst thing when talking in class is when you feel your heart beating so fast, that it hurts.
Yes 😔 and breathing becomes the hardest thing
moony cries ikrrr
I put my hand up in class to speak and my heartbeat goes BAM
Its not fun😖
Yeah, and sometimes I can feel my body move because my heart is beating so fast and strong that it shakes me
Yeah, my chest feels so heavy i can't breath properly.
it's crazy how many missed opportunities fly away because of social anxiety (and depression in my case). "you're just lazy and quiet and shy". not at all fam im just anxious af
I have to agree. My parents do be telling me "join this" "join that". "Enter this contest" "Don't be lazy" "What are there to be shy and scared of?" And each time idk how to respond and keep telling them i did not want to join .But also regretting the decision I made later on. 😔
I agree with you, I already missed many opportunities due to low self-esteem and anxiety. And when I think about the future, I end up having anxiety! I am still comparing myself with other people, with thoughts "omg look she knows how to speak several languages", "wow she is so good in sports", "because she is so beautiful". And it disturbs me so much, because of these thoughts I end up missing opportunities to learn new things and discover new talents😓😢
Totally related... the worst thing is how they think that YOU don't want friends, but they don't understand that you actually tried EVERYTHING to have them and yet, it didn't work
:')
Agree 🥲🥲
Is it just me, or do you ever feel like hanging out with people when you are alone. But when you are with people, you just want to be alone.
if it helps, my therapist has told me when you have thoughts like being lonely but not wanting to be around people, it is ok to have thoughts that are seemingly very different. You can accept both of those thoughts and allow yourself to feel however you feel. your feelings are valid. you are valid.
I feel the same🤧
same
THIS.
oh god this is most thing i ever wanted someone to talk to but at the same time i dont want to!
only just started watching BUT I’M JUST GONNA GIVE NINA AND EVERYONE A VIRTUAL HUG 🥺
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thanks bb
ysabelay thank you ! ✨
Sending virtual hugs to everyone! 💖💖💖
pls i just wanna give u a big hug rn 🥺 (and also fight whoever gave u a hard time) 😡
amanda, ilysm!.. uwu
𝚄𝚠𝚞
Hey
amandaaaaaa. and yes i do too🥺💜
@@miraloshinisivaneswaran2905 omg its just a saying please why is everyone so sensitive it is perfectly normal for a friend want to try and protect there friend if anyone hurts them
I had a roommate in college who had social anxiety, she ended up having a deep depression and took her own life. It is heartbreaking when someone has so much potential and unique-ness inside of them yet they’ve been made to feel misunderstood, weird, and incompetent. I wish I was more aware of social anxiety- I had no idea the tremendous burden it created for her. I wish we could all have more compassion and patience for one another. We lose too many people to depression, anxiety, and other illnesses and disorders, when we could all do our part to make someone feel worthy, understood, and special. ❤️
Emily White I’m so sorry that you feel that way. It can be hard to understand something if you may not experience it or know about it. Honestly I feel the same about friends I’ve had who had depression and a singer I deeply loved who also took his life because of depression. So don’t feel guilty.
🥺🥺🥺🥺
My social anxiety makes making and maintaining friends so difficult. Most people don’t understand that not seeing them everyday or not talking for hours does not mean I don’t want to be friends; it just means it takes so much for me to do something that is so easy for everyone else.
It is sooooo true 🥺
i can ONLY maintain friendships if we talk most days. otherwise i’ll become scared to talk to them lol
@@angelface333 yup it become awkward to chat as usual 🥺 then we hv to start all over again by finding some courage.
thank you. it's so tiring I can't take it.
Yes i lost a friend because she told me that i was just trying to ignore her because I never wanted to hang out. She never understood that it wasn’t her it was me. She didn’t get that i was scared to be around or talk to (not necessarily her) anyone.
I feel like I’m the only one whos scared of answering the phone and is scared to order in McDonald’s or something
same, i'm 18 and i can't buy something, i always send my mom because i paralized and i can't literally get inside the store, i just run away, and if i get inside it's very difficult to talk and wait with everyone watching
purple you, army 💜 you're strong
serendipity likewise💜
Alma Perez-Gonzalez finally🤧
Same, I do it but I start stuttering a lot and talking to teachers and other students is even harder
nina: *speaking*
me: *shaking my head in agreement with teary eyes*
Meee😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
nina: and if you don’t feel like someone is on your side..
me: no don’t do it
nina: i am on your side
me, bursting into tears: omg
alysiaa well hope you don't cry but also I'm here on your side as well, precious stranger ♡ so never let yourself believe you are all alone
Im on your side🖤
I cried too! *virtual hugs w/ some tears*
Me too
“You don’t have to be anyone for anyone” thank you for that
What a coincidence, I was just crying about my depression and anxiety and this popped up
Stay strong honey I hope u r Okey
I hope you feel better soon
hope you are feeling better :(( don't forget you are loved and you matter! 💗
hey big mood but there's lots of people like you and we're all in this together man-- I really hope you're feeling a little better by the time I write this comment and know that there's def at least one person (even if I live across the world from you) who's thinking of you
same.. its getting worse due to the current situation but hopefully we’ll get better✊🏼
8:00 i can relate SO HARD to feeling like people don't think you have anything interesting to say or you don't have anything to offer when it's just the simple fact that expressing yourself and showing who you are is so hard when for most people it's second nature, sometimes i wanna just say to people "no no i swear i'm not boring, i have a personality! i just can't show you"
the worst part about social anxiety for me is feeling like people don't see an accurate version of you and not being able to do anything about it
EXACTLY its such a heavy burden to feel like i have the responsibility to be interesting and fun and talkative towards others or theyll think im boring or quiet, it makes me feel so inferior and like a lesser version of myself when i feel that im unable to entertain others
I really struggle with social anxiety and depression, I tried to get professional help but it just gets worse. Music has really helped to calm me down
oH mAn hOly sHit hey, try again please! Sometimes you must look so many times for good doctor but You will find him!
s ame !!
oH mAn hOly sHit it is great that you found something that calms you down and helps you when you are not feeling at your best, but I really recommend that you do not lose hope on looking for professional help! The combination of both of them will help you so much. I am saying this from experience. It really helped me and I hope it helps you!!
I agree with @Tomasz Major, finding a therapist or a doctor that really makes you feel comfortable is so important. Don't stop trying!
I got worst too but he's literally the only therapist in my country...
To those who struggle with Social Anxiety: The most important thing to remember is that Social Anxiety is a mind game. Even if you feel worthless and negative about yourself you have to remember that that it is not true. Even if people try to make you feel bad that has nothing on you and say more about them as a person. Remember you are worthy and no one can take that away from you, it might take some time but you can heal from this ❤️
It's a mind game - why did I imagined poker players when one of them am I and the other ones is social anxiety in a wide variety of forms 😂😂.
But thanx for your kind words 💛💛💛
Thank you ❤️❤️
*"It made me start to believe that I was just my insecurities and that's all I could be"* that was spot on.
when i met you at kcon, i was so so happy to meet you and you were so warm, loving, and kind to me, and i would've never thought you had social anxiety because you seemed so extroverted. im so proud of you for how far you've come. i'm so proud of you for learning to love yourself and taking things day by day. you've made me So happy, and your existence is such a gift. i love and believe in you always angel
When she was describing her social anxiety during 3:40
I was imagining Little Nina suffering and i almost cried cuz i really wanted to go hug her and calm her down
Same🥺
"You live with yourself the longest"
*Nina, 2020*
i don't think or know i have social anxiety but being called boring, shy in such an insulting way or quiet in secondary school was hurtful, it made me feel very insecure. I'm still working on it and learning to love myself :)
Glad your growing ✊🏾❤️
Oh my gosh same. I have been so insecure about my shyness and introversion to the point I don't want to be around other people because I just don't want to hear them telling me I am too quiet or shy. But I am working on loving myself more as well. I really don't have to change myself to fit into society's standards
Yes it really does hurt, one of my “friends” told me that when they first saw me, they thought that I would “shoot up” the whole school because I was...quiet. It made me cry and hurt me very much, and it was such as stupid thing to think about me..
Yeii, glad you are growing
I'm 21 and I've lived with social anxiety since I was maybe 8? In high school, I would hide in an empty classroom and read because I was terrified of just being around people. It didn't change when I went to university. I felt and to an extent, still feel defected and alone. I'm in my third year and still terrified of introducing myself to my professors (I haven't said hi to a single one before) or the person who sits next to me (for the first time I managed to make two lecture "friends" this semester!), but I did sign up for a one-time counseling session and when the counselor asked me how I managed to handle everything on my own for so long, I only managed to say BTS before breaking down crying. Having social anxiety is brutal. I hate it so much. I've put in a lot of work to improve, but there's always more to be done. Thank you for this video, it really helps to know people have the same feelings and thoughts toward themselves as I've dealt with. I hope things get better for you
I truely wish you the best 💜
During my 20 years of existence, the people who underestimate and mock me the most are my closest people, my family and my relatives . The thing that made me lose my confidence completely. I wish I could trust myself and people again. It's hard but it's worth the try. I felt every word you said. I just want you to know that they are a lot of people who appreciate you💜
you are so strong, keep going! it is always worth a try. ❤
i literally cried the whole video because i've been dealing with this for 12 years and it gets so hard sometimes...
Nina just opened a chapter of her book that is written relatable to something almost each of us has felt and dealt with thank you for opening up and assure us we aren’t alone in this. 💜
I’ve struggled with social anxiety since elementary school (I’m 20 now) and it’s honestly been one of the most dreadful things to deal with. It’s prevented me from making friends especially now that I am in college. In cases when I’m having a conversation with a new person I begin to overthink and feel as if they’re getting bored of me or just think I’m weird. It gets exhausting when a part of me wants a group of friends but it’s almost impossible to make friends with my social anxiety
You are not alone friend, I am 21 and I’m exactly this way... currently in a strenuous program and am really struggling
'i was just so exhausted from trying to find a place to belong.'
this is my whole life..you're so precious🥺
Me: an introvert who has a fear of standing/speaking in front of a crowd
Also me: a teacher
Lol
I could never
Can I ask how you cope/deal with that? I'm about to start my student teaching and I'm super nervous about how I'm gonna be able to do that
youre doing good, I’m proud of you
here im scared of teachers and my classmates 👩🏻🦯
The honesty is so palpable here! And the fact that you're so articulate shows that we all - as a society - need to proactively pay more attention to people who might not be as vocal or talkative as others. It really touched me when you started talking about how there were people who said things to you knowing you couldn't stand up for yourself (choking back tears now)... I hope you realize that you're speaking volumes by sharing your story and through all your videos. You're touching people by the 100s, 1000s, 100,000s, and your voice is RESONANT, STRONG AND INFLUENTIAL!
I really struggle with social anxiety and depression but I physically and mentally cannot make myself go and get help and I really wish I could. But I also find BTS while struggling with this and they have truly helped me so much through the hardest times and I’m so grateful for them. I hope everyone gets to live happily and truly love themselves :)
As someone who also dealt with social anxiety, I’m so excited to watch this. It’s just so interesting to hear how other people cope with it
How do you personally cope with it?
Here are some tips to calm down your anxiety thoughts
1. Listening to music
2. Distract yourself with whatever you like/helps you feel better for example, I like to draw and that calms down my anxiety.
3. Do some outside activity ( I know how hard it can get seriously but you are the only one that can help yourself trust me)
These are by far the most effective for me (Except for the activity one because I'm NOT about to get coronavirus right now, no ma'm.
“they deserve to love themself simply because they exist” I loved that a lot 🥺
I have really severe social anxiety too, to the point that I can't even go out to the supermarket or for a walk around my neighbourhood without feeling uncomfortable. My heart goes out to anyone else struggling, as I understand how much it can impact your every day life.
Working on trying to manage it though! Good luck to everyone else who is struggling
i didn't even know what i was going through was social anxiety in middle school... i would always be so so energetic around people i love but when faced with any big social situation i would do the same stuff as u! i always overthink EVERYTHING and i relate to almost everything u mentioned in this video and i'm still dealing w it but i'm getting sm better because of my friends and ppl like u!
Me being introvert I know extroverts often(not all) think that we are quiet and dont really have anything to say. But really us introverts have really loud heads.
YES
also just wanted to say that being introvert doesnt mean you have social anxiety
@@salbonico3571 Yeah I know I'm just saying that normally extroverts think that we are not really talkative when really we have lots to talk about.
@@chameleon1902 yup totally agree with you, just wanted to add something ^^
@@salbonico3571 👍I totally agree with you as well😊
I have social anxiety and I can't go out alone or go shopping and when I finish school I go straight home even if I wanted to buy something on my way I can't buy because I feel weak when I talk with people I can't express myself I don't find the words to say but I noticed when I'm around my friends it's not that bad ....I can't even find someone to talk and who understands me .
exactly same here :((
Same here😔
Awrr girl Yee I understand your feelings totally. I'm 27 now I still working on anxiety I still get pretty anxouis doing uni was big step.
nina is the best friend we all want 🥺🥺
Thank you for sharing this ♡ I hear a lot of my own story in yours. Much love to you, stay safe & rest up if you can ☺
this is so incredibly late hehe but hi jocie! your channel is such a positive place to be and has helped me a lot, hope you’re having a lovely day/night :)
me: ugh im so bored and i really want to watch something more emotional
nina:
Love your profile pic ♥
"I kind of learned to be a better friend to myself" - nina
"myself who's inside me is also my friend. this friend has been inside myself for 23 years, but i might not know this friend perfectly. so it's important to take time to get to know this friend." - kim namjoon
.....your bias chose you well. just saying
I can't believe how much I related to what you went through Nina. When I was in middle school I felt so alone and to avoid socialization I would just stick my head in a book. Now looking back, I can see how these ways of thinking would just hold me back more.
this video helped me so much. i always ask myself, why am i like this, why cant i just socialise like a normal person. i'd put the entire blame on myself. but now that i think about it, i was always been told negative things about myself by my closest friends when i was a kid, and was treated badly. maybe that's where my insecurities come from. i hope i can heal now that i've realised this. thank you so much
neen i think i can speak for all of us when i say that we’re so unbelievably proud of you. we’ll be by your side for a long time
thank you so much, nina. i've gone to therapy before but i don't think i'd ever felt as seen/understood as i did with this video. i really needed to hear some of the things you said and i'll do my best to store them in my heart and not to forget.
It’s okay, we all go through different things, and we can all try hard to get through them.
'I feel like I dont belong anywhere' :')))) still dealing with this, stay strong nina lets overcome this together.
Same !
I hope everyone is doing well or trying to stay calm in this chaotic time. We will go through this together ❤️
if somebody ever hurts Nina again, believe me when I say that you are goona be over by so many people like me that loves and appreciate Nina with all of our heart.
Neen you are bautiful and strong! a lot of people loves you and really care about you and do not ever forget that okay? take care
tbh I really needed this rn my anxiety levels are higher than rm's IQ bro
"eats up a lot of your life"
I feel that through my fragile soul :'(
I also have social anxiety and I have learned this now. Actually, I thought I was getting rid of this situation but I had a lot of difficulty this year. This year my level of stress and anxiety also increased.
rm good luck! We believe in u!!
@@Chloe-by3cc thank you 😢💙💙💙
I feel you so much. Sometimes I think it’s gone or almost gone, but then it comes out of nowhere stronger than ever
But it always calms down a little after some time. Time and being patient with yourself is your best friend !
Damn I’m sorry, hopefully it will get better again. I hope you have all of the resources you need to improve your anxiety and decrease it.
@@Aeliixt oh thank you for your beautiful heart.
i was diagnosed with severe and social anxiety. this video made me feel a lot better, i always forget i'm not the only one dealing with anxiety. thank you so much for talking about it!
This girl I kind of like in my class lightly complemented me and I legit panicked and have been avoiding her cuz my heart starts beating fast when I see her cuz I keep overthinking
Paddy O'Door i do that too :( someone complimented me once and i thought there was no way they could genuinely mean that so my SA made me think they were doing it to mess with me
@@chickenwing5519 nah it was obvious i panicked so its like awkward, i had a panic attack on a school trip once so like she knows i panicked
presentations and going out of your room is the hardest thing for me, i swear even going to school is such a mentally exhausting thing and i still can’t look at people eyes while talking.
thank you for this, nina. you're helping a lot of us who have social anxiety. you're a brave one to share this with us. much love 💖
i realized that when i started to fond of kpop, i also started to love myself and be more happy (a note: i luv u so much nina)
I can relate to this so much. I’ve had social anxiety since I was young, and I feel the same way as you do in social situations: shaking hands, red face, shaky voice, especially when speaking around those who aren’t my friends. BTS also helped comfort me, and made me feel heard. Thank you for making this video Nina I loved it 🥺💜💜💜
I’ll come back whenever I need someone to tell me I’m worthy. Whenever I’m in some sort of existential crisis. Thanks so much Nina!
I have nothing to say... Nina is just a queen
PERIODT!!
I thought I was just this shy girl, but as the years go by... I realize that I'm really afraid of people. I panicked everytime I'm surrounded by people. And it gets worse when one of my classmates in college told me that I'm dumb just because I can't communicate very well.
nina: WHY AM I CRYING SO MUCH IN THIS VIDEO?
me: *crying with her* haha i don't know you tell me
I had social anxiety since childhood. And what made it worse was people around telling me that I was too shy and I need to fix it, like go to a psychologist. When my parents were attending school meetings they were recommended different tips on how I can fix it, they were given phone numbers of psychologists that could cure me. They would discuss me publicly like I was a problematic student, although I had very good grades and was studying all the time. And each time after such meetings we had an unpleasant talk with my parents. I felt like I wasn’t normal when people around were constantly telling me that i needed to change. They would give me those pity looks and tell me “how will you be supposed to live life if you’re like this”. And when I wasn’t criticized all the time I just started to forget about my problem and would act more normally. Then my teachers would tell my parents that I’m improving, so I was reminded again that I wasn’t normal and I would shut myself again. Don’t ever tell quiet people that they are too quiet and that they need to fix it. It will make things worse. Please be careful with your words. What helped me with my anxiety was mostly the absence of criticism, it happened gradually when I started living on my own. And also it gets better as you age and get new experience, you will just get used to things that are scary for you doing them regularly.
I can relate so much. You know the feeling when you lean back in a chair and almost fall. I used to feel like that any time someone would say my name. Thank you I feel less alone in this.
Nunca mejor dicho! I dont know how you say that expresion in english, but thats the best example that i've ver heard. Thats exactly how i feel, its so frustating 😞
Me too! Or when I’m at work and the phone would start to ring, I would literally almost black out for a second cause it terrified me so much, even though I know it’s just another human on the other side, and that I actually know how to do my job so I shouldn’t worry.... I’ve been like this since high school like 8 years ago, but it’s just so hard to change that mindset. I’m really trying to work on it though. I hope we can all get through this 💕
wow even just watching a couple seconds takes me back to when id have to force myself to sleep to stop overthinking lol. To those struggling still yall got this. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or changing ones thoughts to positive thinking has helped me heal my mind. instead of saying “Omgosh they PROBABLY think im stupid im so stupid for saying that would they think of me that way? ugh idk idk idk idk” you use affirmations like “you know what? i did my best today. and i think that is something to be appreciated. it’ll take some time but i am making progress. and its totally okay because i tried my best and i can always talk to them later again. i will be okay.” there is some weird negative thinking when we do negative think. as in like... its almost like its not you saying it?? its like a dang diggity demon trying to make u negative think. because i wouldnt be thinking of stuff like that about myself in the first place if i was in my normal state. anxiety is weird bruh. almost all my anxiety has gone away now luckily. took a while and theres still times that i break down because of triggers from the past. but if u persevere to look at the positive, the negative will almost be gone.... yall got this okay!! focus on the positive. it may seem like positivity doesnt exist when ur in your own head that is negative but if u choose to focus to see the light, u will find it. (also idk if any of u guys here are religious but going back to my faith in God helPED SO MUCH. was the biggest part that helped me in the end. there were so many times i shouted at Him... i would be crying during a panic attack and asking Why this has happened to me.. but He has allowed pain to happen in order for healing and other things to be shown to me. without all this i wouldnt have found drawing and painting and so many other things about the world. through social anxiety u learn more about the people around you and how despite how negativity fosters in this world, u can be the light that helps those who are still struggling in the dark. the world doesnt tend to help us who are left out. u guys got this. Jeremiah 29:13 “You will Find me and seek me when you search for me with all your heart.” And out of all the people who choose to see us and judge us based on our appearance, he looks at our heart “
1 Samuel 16:7 New International Version (NIV)
7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” God Bless & Shalom
me:today i am going to be PRODUCTIVE
weather: sucks
also me: procrastinates my work due monday and watches nina on loop
Also, an amazing video! Self-love is amazingly important these days and we are so glad you shared everything with us!!💗💗💗💗
Be safe noodles yall😥🥺💜
Are you Romanian?🇹🇩🇹🇩🇹🇩
you perfectly verbalized everything i feel and have experienced...the thing is, over the past 8 years, my social anxiety has steadily been getting worse and worse... reflecting back, things definitely started when i was about 4 years old. loud happy carefree child. now im 21 and im the quietest person ive ever been and it frustrates a lot of my family members especially. the thing is, when youre told to shut up so many times and youve been put down so many times for speaking your mind, you learn the habit of just not expressing yourself anymore for fear of disapproval and backlash...
omg those are the exact things I’ve been struggling with skfndk I needed this
nina knows me better than I do❤️❤️
This video made me talk with my friend about that metaphor “u can lead a horse to water but u can’t make it drink” and it ended up becoming a super deep novel about life and how you think
we have gone through some similar situations, i used to think that i could never get over my social anxiety but recently i have been working on it alot, watching this video gave me more hope and more positivity within myself, i’m also glad i can relate to someone in a way and not feel alone🥺 thank you so much for making this video Nina & i love you! 💜
in the words of bts, "you've shown me i have reasons i should love myself "
you really are so so amazing nina, and words can't describe how proud i am~
thank you so much for helping me and thousands of others
"I have the power of Tata" the loving yourself power is with you Nina :) Thank you for sharing how you feel
This video made me cry. I also have a social anxiety disorder and I didn't know I already have it since I was a kid. I thought I was just this shy girl but it's getting worse years after years.
excuse me for this long message.
I just wanted to thank you Nina for sharing this with us, I related to so many things you said but I'm not here to talk only about myself. Honestly, you deserve so much love and appreciation, you're precious:))) I'm a Chinese adoptee living in Iceland and my self-esteem was pushed down around the age of 7+ because of my appearance, bullying etc. so seeing how you're overcoming your insecurities and fears really gives me hope of being able to change as well and love myself. You really are an amazing person (even if I don't know you in real life) I can just say by the contents of your videos and on social media and your perseverance through hard times. Thank you again and I purple you💜
As someone who has social anxiety, I really appreciate this video.
i acctually just needed something like this ngl :,)
I can relate to everything she said...
Like Not lying... I cried so much cause I thought I was the only one going through this...
Whenever I tell people about these things they would get mad at me for overreacting...
Everyday, I feel so left out but again I would try my best:laughing and trying my best to be in their conversation...
But no matter how hard I try,I just can't do it...
For some people school might be the place where they are like less bored since they meet lots of friends there but for me it's the place where I am *loneliest* ...
Sometimes I think even if I die,They won't shed a single drop of tears for me...
They just don't understand a single thing about *Social Anxiety* and they are like: "You are always overreacting and it's your fault for being like that" ...
I've never ever got a friend who actually appreciates me and make me feel comfortable...
They all gives up on me when they are with other friends like I don't even blame them,I blame myself for being like this....
I just wish that it would have been a lot better if they tried to understand how i actually feel inside...
Thankyou so much nina...You made me realise that I'm not the only one who's dealing with these kinds of things in life and thankyou for educating me about *Social Anxiety* ...
I would try my best to appreciate myself for who I am and I won't change myself for others...
✨... *I am who I am* ...✨
Btw I didn't skip a single part and I watched till the end...
It was worth watching
I started crying sooo bad at the middle of the video, you just said everything that I'm feeling, and hear that from my favorite TH-camr just made me realize that I'm not alone. Your words described what's in my mind and heart in such a specific way, i don't know what to say, I'm so grateful that I'm still fighting my social phobia and didn't just give up like i thought i would hundreds of times before. I really love you so much Nina, and i wish i can hug you and hug everyone in need as much as i need it right now.
12:18 samee, my parents told me i used to be so talkative as a child that people had to tell me to stop talking. i don't even know what made me become super shy as i grew up..
sending a virtual hug to you nina 💕
i’m a very nervous/anxious person. when i’m in public, i always think whatever i’m doing is gonna fail and everyone around me (complete strangers) will laugh. and it sucks bc i start getting really hot and begin physically expressing my nervous energy ://
gosh, i let out a few tears watching this video because of how much i relate to past nina :(( honestly bts is such a big part of my life too, and their message of loving yourself also make me feel so damn happy, i also have some friends that genuinely make me feel good and heard, and i just relate to what your saying and it made me feel like i wasn’t alone in this as i’m still going through this. thanks for this video nina 🥺 *hug*
So relatable when you mentioned about bts and how their songs helped you to love yourself! I'm also someone who has social anxiety and always so thankful that I found you, you inspire me to be who I am and most importantly to love myself. Lots of love and power to you:,) ❤
Can I feel more related? All these years going through the same shit, thinking that it was just me. Everybody else seemed to know what to do and say and I just didn't understand how they did it... but watching this feels like a hug really. I think I finally got a friend :)
I agree, filming on a camera for me is like being able to express myself. I have OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder, but Im not neat and my room looks like a mess. Im a introvert, I only have 1 or 2 friends and when we have to do a group project, I ALWAYS stick w my friends. I almost never talk in class, like during a lesson with the teacher, because I'm afraid to be judged or I might be offending someone. I might social anxiety disorder (SAD) but sometimes when I'm in a small group of people, I talk just like anyone would and I feel like I'm hiding myself.
hi there! I was re-watching Nina's video and saw your comment and just wanted to share that you're not alone. I also have OCD, but not in the ways that people usually stereotype it like being super neat (as you mentioned). I'm incredibly introverted and likely have undiagnosed social anxiety disorder, so I completely understand what you are struggling with. People don't share about the struggles of OCD enough, so I always find it comforting when I stumble across someone else who can relate. Sending a virtual hug your way!
i think youtube is easier for people with social anxiety because there's no pressure if you mess up since you can always edit things out and re-record. so there's a lot less pressure of doing things right the first time.
love the video, neen. you're very strong. like a wonderful friend to all of us ♥ ♥
When Nina starts crying, I START CRYING. 🥺
The fact that she referred to “you” instead of “I” when she talked about her unique personal experiences with social anxiety made me feel more sad 🥺 I sadly went through kind of the same issues tho... thanks for this vid Nina 😭
thank you for this Nina.. i feel like you explained and put into words exactly how i feel.. it brought me to tears. i always felt weak bc I’m that way but i now can see how that can change if i just try
honestly having social anxiety sucks so much.. i used to be so social and never caring about what other people thought but then all of a sudden all of this stuff happened and i just changed... now i go through the same things when my face turns red and i can’t breath... my self esteem is so low and i’m trying to get it back up and to where i like myself. it’s hard to have friends and it’s hard to do things that a lot of other people easily do... i feel like i missed out on a lot because of social anxiety. i’ve got help and now i’m getting better... thank you nina for this video, it honestly made me feel a lot better 💕
She uploaded it 1 minute ago but already 110 likes? 🤯😢😢
i used to struggle with really bad social anxiety (now its a lot better, but still bad around most people). recently I've been doing this thing where i'll feel fully like myself for ~4 days and be extroverted and interested in everything, and then go dormant for 2 weeks (this dormant feeling is like when you don't feel like listening to music, but like x10). I don't feel like hanging out with friends when i feel like this, i'd rather just be alone.
and of course that extroverted energetic me kept making plans with people, only to have me cancel last minute because I felt "dormant". my friends kept getting annoyed/upset with me, only i wasn't informed of it all until yesterday. and i realized and i know it is my fault, i shouldn't have committed to plans only to cancel last minute. but what they don't know, and what i'm too scared to explain, is that im an extrovert at heart, and in those couple days that i feel like myself, i need to hang out with people because that's where i get my energy. so it's like this battle between my true self vs social anxiety and this weird lack of motivation/feeling of having no spirit/on low power mode.
right now i'm overthinking everything and feel really bad for canceling on my friends. I'm also a people pleaser. one of them that i kept canceling on, i get really socially anxious around him, mainly because i tried to make a good impression of myself him months ago and ended up acting cocky without realizing (I realized because he told me i was cocky, and it was like a bomb dropped on me, and i once again hid into my shell of social anxiety. it was really bad and for the next couple months i just avoided him.. he didn't have bad intent or anything, he was merely telling the truth (which i appreciate but it came with a great deal of stress)... and i feel so stupid for writing this because this is sooo dumb yet it still affects me). There's a lot more to this whole thing but i really don't feel like sorting through it all right now.
whoever manages to read through my nonsense, thank you, from the bottom of my heart it really means a lot.
hi, i hope you’re doing well
HEY YOU!!!
everything's going to be ok ♡ just continue to believe
i just feel like i embarrassed myself earlier when i was trying to recite, my mind just blank out because i'm so so afraid to embarrass myself but i just ended up embarrassing myself haha now I can't stop thinking abt it, probably won't stop thinking 'bout it for weeks
just realized i've also had social anxiety :( to anyone also dealing with it we're going through it together *virtual hug*
I know how you feel. It seems like no one understands how bad social anxiety can be. It becomes so bad where it's hard for me to order my food and people laugh at me for it. I have many insecurities and when people focused on those it hurt and I felt extremely lonely. Nina, you have been a huge help in my life weather is making me smile or making me feel productive. You've made me a better person without me even knowing it. Thank you Nina, I love you, I truly do.
me too!! and when i order food i always stutter or order it too fast in a way where i just tell my friends what i want and they’ll say it for me. i’ve gotten to the point where as long as my friend(s) say my order, i’ll pay for them too. but then they always end up making fun of me!! idk if i have social anxiety :( i know i’m an introvert, and i’m shy, and i would always avoid any social contact. but the more i watch these videos, i’m scared to face the fact that i do have it...
I love she talks like we’re genuinely her friends, love u 💕
stumbled upon here because I'm struggling with social anxiety and now I found my new favorite youtubers 💕
everything that you said in this video, i can relate. i struggle with social anxiety and depression, and i’m a really quiet and non talkative person. and i freak out when i see people, or people that i know when i’m talking to them, i’m not a really good conversation starter, whenever this kind of shit happens and my heart rapidly beats fast, and i start fidgeting, i think to myself “what the hell should i do” and i keep getting flashbacks to things that i DONT want to remember about some embarrassing social situations. i fucking hate myself, i don’t look in the mirror often anymore, i just call it a day. right now i’m trying to recover in some psychology treatments, it’s really hard for me to open up to people. you’re one of the wholesome you tubers i’ve subscribed too.
here’s ur delivery bb
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📦 endless love and happiness 📦
and don’t cry, when people i cry :((
with love,
-jobi
edit: all of these people in the comment section are so nice omg 🥺
i'm sending you a hug for opening up here uhh
🥺 we're in the same situation. Let's keep trying and be a better version of ourselves ❤
You're saving my quarantine.
Not me crying at work watching this. *takes deep breath* wow. I just got into watching your videos and realized how similar we are. In some way I see a lot of me in you and for you to literally share a story like this really resonates with me. I’m also 24 (going on 25) and have been dealing with undiagnosed social anxiety. At first I didn’t notice it because i didn’t know really what it was or that it was a legit thing until recently actually. I was bullied up until HS and that really depleted my self esteem/self worth. I have also been introverted (INFJ life) and had trouble finding myself and friends that I could trust. To this day I find myself overextending myself to ppl that don’t deserve it and it hurts because it’s a cycle I struggle with. I’m growing everyday and finding ways to truly love who I am and am grateful for amazing friends that pour into me. Thank you for sharing your journey. As someone that struggles with being vulnerable, it’s refreshing to see transparency in something that can be taboo in alot of communities. You’re amazing 💜