dealing with social anxiety (& learning to love myself)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ย. 2024
- just a loooong but hopefully wholesome and useful chat about me dealing with social anxiety, reflecting on life, and learning to love myself :)
hello my friends it’s nina i’m writing this at 4:30am and i’m talking about social anxiety. i’ve dealt with social anxiety since middle school and i’ve been meaning to make a video on this topic for YEARS but i never got around to doing it, but on this day i finally turned on my camera and just talked about it. no matter how many times i tried to organize my thoughts about this topic and plan out what i was gonna say without following a script, going with my heart and just letting my brain and mouth speak was always just the best way to go. there will always be more things i wanted to talk about, but hopefully this 33 minute video does some justice!
as i mentioned, i’m not a professional on this topic whatsoever nor do i intend for my words to replace those of a professional. this video is merely just words from one young adult trying to navigate through life to another. i just thought a personal experience from someone living a normal simple life would be nice. my only sources on this topic are my prior knowledge of social anxiety, my own life, lots of years of googling and reading medical websites and blogs, and two years of college level psychology classes.
i hope y’all enjoy this video and that this helped you get to know me better too. i realized i don’t make as many chatty videos as i thought, so i hope this was a nice little change! okay i am very sleepy now so i think that is all i have for this video. i shall see you next time my friends!! stay healthy, stay safe, stay loving yourselves.
love, neen.
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nina truly is that one friend everyone needs.
Yesssss!!
I wish I could meet her and tell her how truly inspirational she is and how we all have her back and then give a big hug 😁😘😥
i wish i meet a friend someone like nina uwu... i'm wheezing! I badly need one
:((Welp!
Nathaniel drew is also another friend everyone needs.
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I can't believe how much I related to what you went through Nina. When I was in middle school I felt so alone and to avoid socialization I would just stick my head in a book. Now looking back, I can see how these ways of thinking would just hold me back more.
wow even just watching a couple seconds takes me back to when id have to force myself to sleep to stop overthinking lol. To those struggling still yall got this. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or changing ones thoughts to positive thinking has helped me heal my mind. instead of saying “Omgosh they PROBABLY think im stupid im so stupid for saying that would they think of me that way? ugh idk idk idk idk” you use affirmations like “you know what? i did my best today. and i think that is something to be appreciated. it’ll take some time but i am making progress. and its totally okay because i tried my best and i can always talk to them later again. i will be okay.” there is some weird negative thinking when we do negative think. as in like... its almost like its not you saying it?? its like a dang diggity demon trying to make u negative think. because i wouldnt be thinking of stuff like that about myself in the first place if i was in my normal state. anxiety is weird bruh. almost all my anxiety has gone away now luckily. took a while and theres still times that i break down because of triggers from the past. but if u persevere to look at the positive, the negative will almost be gone.... yall got this okay!! focus on the positive. it may seem like positivity doesnt exist when ur in your own head that is negative but if u choose to focus to see the light, u will find it. (also idk if any of u guys here are religious but going back to my faith in God helPED SO MUCH. was the biggest part that helped me in the end. there were so many times i shouted at Him... i would be crying during a panic attack and asking Why this has happened to me.. but He has allowed pain to happen in order for healing and other things to be shown to me. without all this i wouldnt have found drawing and painting and so many other things about the world. through social anxiety u learn more about the people around you and how despite how negativity fosters in this world, u can be the light that helps those who are still struggling in the dark. the world doesnt tend to help us who are left out. u guys got this. Jeremiah 29:13 “You will Find me and seek me when you search for me with all your heart.” And out of all the people who choose to see us and judge us based on our appearance, he looks at our heart “
1 Samuel 16:7 New International Version (NIV)
7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” God Bless & Shalom
i used to had a social anxiety when i was high school but luckily i met a friend who treated me in a better way so i felt special (like there’s others who needed you) , i believe that everyone could deal with this situation evetho it takes time. thanku for sharing nina💜
we have gone through some similar situations, i used to think that i could never get over my social anxiety but recently i have been working on it alot, watching this video gave me more hope and more positivity within myself, i’m also glad i can relate to someone in a way and not feel alone🥺 thank you so much for making this video Nina & i love you! 💜
thanks for opening up and sharing about this. it’s great to see someone share their perspective on here. you’re doing great and i hope you give yourself some grace with dealing with your anxiety.
Thank you Nina for this video. I’m diagnosed with social anxiety, but after 4 sessions, we couldn’t afford for more. My parents don’t believe that I have this condition, and I felt so lonely and scared for a long time. I started to stop trusting people. But after watching this video, I felt so good, I feel hope, I feel like there’s someone like me. Thank you for make me remember the feeling of love and trust, even though you don’t know me. Love from Chile 🇨🇱 💜 take care.
im literally crying while watching this 😩😭😭😭
I can totally relate to everything you said, I have my high school graduation coming up soon and I am seriously thinking about not attending it as I really don't feel good around the people there, I feel like I'm unseen, even when I attempt to a conversation my words end up unheard and sometimes I wonder for myself did I say anything really or not because my words end up not being hear. I really hate this feeling. I feel like this whole thing made me lose so many thing including my performance in school. It just makes me feel anxious not being able to be the person I am. It kind of made me forget my identity sadly. And now I am so afraid of attending my own graduation! Nina really all the love to you, this is the second time I play your video because I wanted to hear you again, somehow it makes me feel at comfort. Thank you so much for the video.
You are the sweetest!!!! I’ve agreed with everything you’ve said in this video, thank you for talking about this. I really appreciate when people make genuine videos on TH-cam because a lot of viewers can relate
so proud of you for uploading this video :( HUGS FOR NINA 💘💘💘
thanks nina. i really feel seen and understood through this video, everything that you talked about
Can I just hug you forever? 🥺
You're honestly the sweetest human being, you've no idea how much I'd love to be friends with you, like honestly, you're indeed that friend that is like a lighthouse you know? You're the light that everyone needs as a guide.
I'm glad I found your channel long ago, even tho you don't personally know me, you've helped me a lot in so many ways, thank you so much Nina ~ 🥺💜
My gawd, even thinking about social anxiety and social situations make me hyperventilate. All the overthinking and fear is so overwhelming
I felt so close to you and finally someone talks about this so naturally, you are a really nice person💜
Thank you so much for making this video! It really helps! luv ya
Awww Nina! We love you!! If I could hug you I would ♥️
For me, when I feel extremely anxious I tend to say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing or react in ways that will lead me to beat myself up later on. Sometimes I shoke up and sometimes I wouldn't. It really depends on how I feel in the moment, but it always ends up with me replaying a conversation, mimicking mannerism or reactions of others so I don't do anything wrong or shutting off. It's hard.
Nina I’m a person with DID(Dissociative Identity Disorder)or how it was called before (Multiple personality disorder)A disorder with so many stigmas , I was always scared of making friends or even talk to people because I would believe that when I “switch “to one of my alters (personality’s)they would think that I am crazy or worse so I start isolating myself until one of my alters a young lady of 17 years old named Maratha leave me a note with your TH-cam channel saying “maybe we should try to be friends with her first “ I didn’t understand what she meant until I start watching your videos ,IT REALLY WORK , For first time in my life I felt comfortable lovable and happy to be with someone even if it was only a video, I use to play yours “Study with Nina” videos and just start my homework or simple write on my journal and not to fell alone , until in one of yours videos you said “it’s ok to be by yourself sometimes but it’s also ok to go out with friends “ thanks to you I went to my job and talk to my partners for first time in 5 months , now I have friends to study with me or to go out to have some lunch , Nina you just being the beautiful and kind person you are inspired others like me to start a positive change in their life ,You are amazing Nina my system and I love you so much and we are very happy that a lovely girl like you is on TH-cam leaving a positive message for this and next generations 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
LOL participation marks made me anxious too. I was in a French speaking class with a participation grade and somedays, I was just not up to putting myself out there for 50 minutes in a different language.
Nina explained my whole life so much easier:,)
this was a year ago, but i can relate so much to this
I'm early and i don't know what to say 😂😂
it's crazy how many missed opportunities fly away because of social anxiety (and depression in my case). "you're just lazy and quiet and shy". not at all fam im just anxious af
I have to agree. My parents do be telling me "join this" "join that". "Enter this contest" "Don't be lazy" "What are there to be shy and scared of?" And each time idk how to respond and keep telling them i did not want to join .But also regretting the decision I made later on. 😔
I agree with you, I already missed many opportunities due to low self-esteem and anxiety. And when I think about the future, I end up having anxiety! I am still comparing myself with other people, with thoughts "omg look she knows how to speak several languages", "wow she is so good in sports", "because she is so beautiful". And it disturbs me so much, because of these thoughts I end up missing opportunities to learn new things and discover new talents😓😢
Totally related... the worst thing is how they think that YOU don't want friends, but they don't understand that you actually tried EVERYTHING to have them and yet, it didn't work
:')
Agree 🥲🥲
only just started watching BUT I’M JUST GONNA GIVE NINA AND EVERYONE A VIRTUAL HUG 🥺
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thanks bb
ysabelay thank you ! ✨
Sending virtual hugs to everyone! 💖💖💖
Is it just me, or do you ever feel like hanging out with people when you are alone. But when you are with people, you just want to be alone.
if it helps, my therapist has told me when you have thoughts like being lonely but not wanting to be around people, it is ok to have thoughts that are seemingly very different. You can accept both of those thoughts and allow yourself to feel however you feel. your feelings are valid. you are valid.
I feel the same🤧
same
THIS.
oh god this is most thing i ever wanted someone to talk to but at the same time i dont want to!
the worst thing when talking in class is when you feel your heart beating so fast, that it hurts.
Yes 😔 and breathing becomes the hardest thing
moony cries ikrrr
I put my hand up in class to speak and my heartbeat goes BAM
Its not fun😖
Yeah, and sometimes I can feel my body move because my heart is beating so fast and strong that it shakes me
Yeah, my chest feels so heavy i can't breath properly.
pls i just wanna give u a big hug rn 🥺 (and also fight whoever gave u a hard time) 😡
amanda, ilysm!.. uwu
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Hey
amandaaaaaa. and yes i do too🥺💜
@@miraloshinisivaneswaran2905 omg its just a saying please why is everyone so sensitive it is perfectly normal for a friend want to try and protect there friend if anyone hurts them
I feel like I’m the only one whos scared of answering the phone and is scared to order in McDonald’s or something
same, i'm 18 and i can't buy something, i always send my mom because i paralized and i can't literally get inside the store, i just run away, and if i get inside it's very difficult to talk and wait with everyone watching
purple you, army 💜 you're strong
serendipity likewise💜
Alma Perez-Gonzalez finally🤧
Same, I do it but I start stuttering a lot and talking to teachers and other students is even harder
I had a roommate in college who had social anxiety, she ended up having a deep depression and took her own life. It is heartbreaking when someone has so much potential and unique-ness inside of them yet they’ve been made to feel misunderstood, weird, and incompetent. I wish I was more aware of social anxiety- I had no idea the tremendous burden it created for her. I wish we could all have more compassion and patience for one another. We lose too many people to depression, anxiety, and other illnesses and disorders, when we could all do our part to make someone feel worthy, understood, and special. ❤️
Emily White I’m so sorry that you feel that way. It can be hard to understand something if you may not experience it or know about it. Honestly I feel the same about friends I’ve had who had depression and a singer I deeply loved who also took his life because of depression. So don’t feel guilty.
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nina: and if you don’t feel like someone is on your side..
me: no don’t do it
nina: i am on your side
me, bursting into tears: omg
alysiaa well hope you don't cry but also I'm here on your side as well, precious stranger ♡ so never let yourself believe you are all alone
Im on your side🖤
I cried too! *virtual hugs w/ some tears*
Me too
My social anxiety makes making and maintaining friends so difficult. Most people don’t understand that not seeing them everyday or not talking for hours does not mean I don’t want to be friends; it just means it takes so much for me to do something that is so easy for everyone else.
It is sooooo true 🥺
i can ONLY maintain friendships if we talk most days. otherwise i’ll become scared to talk to them lol
@@angelface333 yup it become awkward to chat as usual 🥺 then we hv to start all over again by finding some courage.
thank you. it's so tiring I can't take it.
Yes i lost a friend because she told me that i was just trying to ignore her because I never wanted to hang out. She never understood that it wasn’t her it was me. She didn’t get that i was scared to be around or talk to (not necessarily her) anyone.
nina: *speaking*
me: *shaking my head in agreement with teary eyes*
Meee😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
when i met you at kcon, i was so so happy to meet you and you were so warm, loving, and kind to me, and i would've never thought you had social anxiety because you seemed so extroverted. im so proud of you for how far you've come. i'm so proud of you for learning to love yourself and taking things day by day. you've made me So happy, and your existence is such a gift. i love and believe in you always angel
I really struggle with social anxiety and depression, I tried to get professional help but it just gets worse. Music has really helped to calm me down
oH mAn hOly sHit hey, try again please! Sometimes you must look so many times for good doctor but You will find him!
s ame !!
oH mAn hOly sHit it is great that you found something that calms you down and helps you when you are not feeling at your best, but I really recommend that you do not lose hope on looking for professional help! The combination of both of them will help you so much. I am saying this from experience. It really helped me and I hope it helps you!!
I agree with @Tomasz Major, finding a therapist or a doctor that really makes you feel comfortable is so important. Don't stop trying!
I got worst too but he's literally the only therapist in my country...
8:00 i can relate SO HARD to feeling like people don't think you have anything interesting to say or you don't have anything to offer when it's just the simple fact that expressing yourself and showing who you are is so hard when for most people it's second nature, sometimes i wanna just say to people "no no i swear i'm not boring, i have a personality! i just can't show you"
the worst part about social anxiety for me is feeling like people don't see an accurate version of you and not being able to do anything about it
EXACTLY its such a heavy burden to feel like i have the responsibility to be interesting and fun and talkative towards others or theyll think im boring or quiet, it makes me feel so inferior and like a lesser version of myself when i feel that im unable to entertain others
What a coincidence, I was just crying about my depression and anxiety and this popped up
Stay strong honey I hope u r Okey
I hope you feel better soon
hope you are feeling better :(( don't forget you are loved and you matter! 💗
hey big mood but there's lots of people like you and we're all in this together man-- I really hope you're feeling a little better by the time I write this comment and know that there's def at least one person (even if I live across the world from you) who's thinking of you
same.. its getting worse due to the current situation but hopefully we’ll get better✊🏼
To those who struggle with Social Anxiety: The most important thing to remember is that Social Anxiety is a mind game. Even if you feel worthless and negative about yourself you have to remember that that it is not true. Even if people try to make you feel bad that has nothing on you and say more about them as a person. Remember you are worthy and no one can take that away from you, it might take some time but you can heal from this ❤️
It's a mind game - why did I imagined poker players when one of them am I and the other ones is social anxiety in a wide variety of forms 😂😂.
But thanx for your kind words 💛💛💛
Thank you ❤️❤️
i don't think or know i have social anxiety but being called boring, shy in such an insulting way or quiet in secondary school was hurtful, it made me feel very insecure. I'm still working on it and learning to love myself :)
Glad your growing ✊🏾❤️
Oh my gosh same. I have been so insecure about my shyness and introversion to the point I don't want to be around other people because I just don't want to hear them telling me I am too quiet or shy. But I am working on loving myself more as well. I really don't have to change myself to fit into society's standards
Yes it really does hurt, one of my “friends” told me that when they first saw me, they thought that I would “shoot up” the whole school because I was...quiet. It made me cry and hurt me very much, and it was such as stupid thing to think about me..
Yeii, glad you are growing
I'm 21 and I've lived with social anxiety since I was maybe 8? In high school, I would hide in an empty classroom and read because I was terrified of just being around people. It didn't change when I went to university. I felt and to an extent, still feel defected and alone. I'm in my third year and still terrified of introducing myself to my professors (I haven't said hi to a single one before) or the person who sits next to me (for the first time I managed to make two lecture "friends" this semester!), but I did sign up for a one-time counseling session and when the counselor asked me how I managed to handle everything on my own for so long, I only managed to say BTS before breaking down crying. Having social anxiety is brutal. I hate it so much. I've put in a lot of work to improve, but there's always more to be done. Thank you for this video, it really helps to know people have the same feelings and thoughts toward themselves as I've dealt with. I hope things get better for you
I truely wish you the best 💜
Nina just opened a chapter of her book that is written relatable to something almost each of us has felt and dealt with thank you for opening up and assure us we aren’t alone in this. 💜
“You don’t have to be anyone for anyone” thank you for that
During my 20 years of existence, the people who underestimate and mock me the most are my closest people, my family and my relatives . The thing that made me lose my confidence completely. I wish I could trust myself and people again. It's hard but it's worth the try. I felt every word you said. I just want you to know that they are a lot of people who appreciate you💜
you are so strong, keep going! it is always worth a try. ❤
i literally cried the whole video because i've been dealing with this for 12 years and it gets so hard sometimes...
When she was describing her social anxiety during 3:40
I was imagining Little Nina suffering and i almost cried cuz i really wanted to go hug her and calm her down
Same🥺
"You live with yourself the longest"
*Nina, 2020*
Me: an introvert who has a fear of standing/speaking in front of a crowd
Also me: a teacher
Lol
I could never
Can I ask how you cope/deal with that? I'm about to start my student teaching and I'm super nervous about how I'm gonna be able to do that
youre doing good, I’m proud of you
here im scared of teachers and my classmates 👩🏻🦯
The honesty is so palpable here! And the fact that you're so articulate shows that we all - as a society - need to proactively pay more attention to people who might not be as vocal or talkative as others. It really touched me when you started talking about how there were people who said things to you knowing you couldn't stand up for yourself (choking back tears now)... I hope you realize that you're speaking volumes by sharing your story and through all your videos. You're touching people by the 100s, 1000s, 100,000s, and your voice is RESONANT, STRONG AND INFLUENTIAL!
I’ve struggled with social anxiety since elementary school (I’m 20 now) and it’s honestly been one of the most dreadful things to deal with. It’s prevented me from making friends especially now that I am in college. In cases when I’m having a conversation with a new person I begin to overthink and feel as if they’re getting bored of me or just think I’m weird. It gets exhausting when a part of me wants a group of friends but it’s almost impossible to make friends with my social anxiety
You are not alone friend, I am 21 and I’m exactly this way... currently in a strenuous program and am really struggling
*"It made me start to believe that I was just my insecurities and that's all I could be"* that was spot on.
Thank you for sharing this ♡ I hear a lot of my own story in yours. Much love to you, stay safe & rest up if you can ☺
this is so incredibly late hehe but hi jocie! your channel is such a positive place to be and has helped me a lot, hope you’re having a lovely day/night :)
As someone who also dealt with social anxiety, I’m so excited to watch this. It’s just so interesting to hear how other people cope with it
How do you personally cope with it?
'i was just so exhausted from trying to find a place to belong.'
this is my whole life..you're so precious🥺
I really struggle with social anxiety and depression but I physically and mentally cannot make myself go and get help and I really wish I could. But I also find BTS while struggling with this and they have truly helped me so much through the hardest times and I’m so grateful for them. I hope everyone gets to live happily and truly love themselves :)
Here are some tips to calm down your anxiety thoughts
1. Listening to music
2. Distract yourself with whatever you like/helps you feel better for example, I like to draw and that calms down my anxiety.
3. Do some outside activity ( I know how hard it can get seriously but you are the only one that can help yourself trust me)
These are by far the most effective for me (Except for the activity one because I'm NOT about to get coronavirus right now, no ma'm.
neen i think i can speak for all of us when i say that we’re so unbelievably proud of you. we’ll be by your side for a long time
me: ugh im so bored and i really want to watch something more emotional
nina:
Love your profile pic ♥
Me being introvert I know extroverts often(not all) think that we are quiet and dont really have anything to say. But really us introverts have really loud heads.
YES
also just wanted to say that being introvert doesnt mean you have social anxiety
@@salbonico3571 Yeah I know I'm just saying that normally extroverts think that we are not really talkative when really we have lots to talk about.
@@chameleon1902 yup totally agree with you, just wanted to add something ^^
@@salbonico3571 👍I totally agree with you as well😊
i didn't even know what i was going through was social anxiety in middle school... i would always be so so energetic around people i love but when faced with any big social situation i would do the same stuff as u! i always overthink EVERYTHING and i relate to almost everything u mentioned in this video and i'm still dealing w it but i'm getting sm better because of my friends and ppl like u!
nina: WHY AM I CRYING SO MUCH IN THIS VIDEO?
me: *crying with her* haha i don't know you tell me
"I kind of learned to be a better friend to myself" - nina
"myself who's inside me is also my friend. this friend has been inside myself for 23 years, but i might not know this friend perfectly. so it's important to take time to get to know this friend." - kim namjoon
.....your bias chose you well. just saying
It’s okay, we all go through different things, and we can all try hard to get through them.
to the 17 people who disliked this video: I just want to talk
nina is the best friend we all want 🥺🥺
tbh I really needed this rn my anxiety levels are higher than rm's IQ bro
She uploaded it 1 minute ago but already 110 likes? 🤯😢😢
I hope everyone is doing well or trying to stay calm in this chaotic time. We will go through this together ❤️
This girl I kind of like in my class lightly complemented me and I legit panicked and have been avoiding her cuz my heart starts beating fast when I see her cuz I keep overthinking
Paddy O'Door i do that too :( someone complimented me once and i thought there was no way they could genuinely mean that so my SA made me think they were doing it to mess with me
@@chickenwing5519 nah it was obvious i panicked so its like awkward, i had a panic attack on a school trip once so like she knows i panicked
I also have social anxiety and I have learned this now. Actually, I thought I was getting rid of this situation but I had a lot of difficulty this year. This year my level of stress and anxiety also increased.
rm good luck! We believe in u!!
@@Chloe-by3cc thank you 😢💙💙💙
I feel you so much. Sometimes I think it’s gone or almost gone, but then it comes out of nowhere stronger than ever
But it always calms down a little after some time. Time and being patient with yourself is your best friend !
Damn I’m sorry, hopefully it will get better again. I hope you have all of the resources you need to improve your anxiety and decrease it.
@@Aeliixt oh thank you for your beautiful heart.
“they deserve to love themself simply because they exist” I loved that a lot 🥺
I have social anxiety and I can't go out alone or go shopping and when I finish school I go straight home even if I wanted to buy something on my way I can't buy because I feel weak when I talk with people I can't express myself I don't find the words to say but I noticed when I'm around my friends it's not that bad ....I can't even find someone to talk and who understands me .
exactly same here :((
Same here😔
Awrr girl Yee I understand your feelings totally. I'm 27 now I still working on anxiety I still get pretty anxouis doing uni was big step.
thank you for this, nina. you're helping a lot of us who have social anxiety. you're a brave one to share this with us. much love 💖
omg those are the exact things I’ve been struggling with skfndk I needed this
nina knows me better than I do❤️❤️
I have really severe social anxiety too, to the point that I can't even go out to the supermarket or for a walk around my neighbourhood without feeling uncomfortable. My heart goes out to anyone else struggling, as I understand how much it can impact your every day life.
Working on trying to manage it though! Good luck to everyone else who is struggling
me:today i am going to be PRODUCTIVE
weather: sucks
also me: procrastinates my work due monday and watches nina on loop
Also, an amazing video! Self-love is amazingly important these days and we are so glad you shared everything with us!!💗💗💗💗
Be safe noodles yall😥🥺💜
Are you Romanian?🇹🇩🇹🇩🇹🇩
I thought I was just this shy girl, but as the years go by... I realize that I'm really afraid of people. I panicked everytime I'm surrounded by people. And it gets worse when one of my classmates in college told me that I'm dumb just because I can't communicate very well.
me and the other social anxiety gang thanking the lord for the corona lockdown
I couldn't be more grateful than that
@@littlesana9075 yes it's the gift from god indeed
'I feel like I dont belong anywhere' :')))) still dealing with this, stay strong nina lets overcome this together.
Same !
Idk if I have social anxiety but I'm extremelyyyyy shy. And it sucks
Mom took me to see someone about this and she ended up wasting like 100 dollars on this one appointment bcs I felt like I couldn't speak and mom ended up doing most of the talking. I also ended up pretty much telling the therapist I was fine and was denying everything..........
Idk what's up with me. I'm "scared" to start conversations with people, sometimes people I regularly talk to. I don't even really talk to my dad and I see him every other day. I feel like shit every time it happens bcs it feels so stupid and it makes the other people uncomfortable or think I don't like them. I just feel like I have nothing to say or everything I say is awkward. One time at the grocery store the woman asked me, "How's your day?" and I said "im good, howabouuuu.....". It's odd bcs I'm confident in my appearence, personality, and talents and I love myself but I still can't bring myself to talk to others.
I get you I’m proud of who I am but I struggle to speak to others and I used to not see my Dad a lot when I was younger bc he’d be working a lot so I was really shy around him although he brought me up when I was younger.
i acctually just needed something like this ngl :,)
Dear me : iam sorry that you tried so desperately to fix others, when your own hand were saking, iam sorry that i didnt give ur enough time to heal, iam sorry that there were days when smilling hurt but your forced yourself to laugh so that no one had to worry aboutyou, and iam so sorry that i didnt love u, like u deserved to be loved
I have nothing to say... Nina is just a queen
PERIODT!!
if somebody ever hurts Nina again, believe me when I say that you are goona be over by so many people like me that loves and appreciate Nina with all of our heart.
Neen you are bautiful and strong! a lot of people loves you and really care about you and do not ever forget that okay? take care
excuse me for this long message.
I just wanted to thank you Nina for sharing this with us, I related to so many things you said but I'm not here to talk only about myself. Honestly, you deserve so much love and appreciation, you're precious:))) I'm a Chinese adoptee living in Iceland and my self-esteem was pushed down around the age of 7+ because of my appearance, bullying etc. so seeing how you're overcoming your insecurities and fears really gives me hope of being able to change as well and love myself. You really are an amazing person (even if I don't know you in real life) I can just say by the contents of your videos and on social media and your perseverance through hard times. Thank you again and I purple you💜
thank you so much, nina. i've gone to therapy before but i don't think i'd ever felt as seen/understood as i did with this video. i really needed to hear some of the things you said and i'll do my best to store them in my heart and not to forget.
"I have the power of Tata" the loving yourself power is with you Nina :) Thank you for sharing how you feel
who tf was mean to her im ready to throw hands
HEY YOU!!!
everything's going to be ok ♡ just continue to believe
i realized that when i started to fond of kpop, i also started to love myself and be more happy (a note: i luv u so much nina)
sending a virtual hug to you nina 💕
i’m a very nervous/anxious person. when i’m in public, i always think whatever i’m doing is gonna fail and everyone around me (complete strangers) will laugh. and it sucks bc i start getting really hot and begin physically expressing my nervous energy ://
I’ll come back whenever I need someone to tell me I’m worthy. Whenever I’m in some sort of existential crisis. Thanks so much Nina!
me: :((
nina: *posts a new video*
me: :))
12:18 samee, my parents told me i used to be so talkative as a child that people had to tell me to stop talking. i don't even know what made me become super shy as i grew up..
thank you for this Nina.. i feel like you explained and put into words exactly how i feel.. it brought me to tears. i always felt weak bc I’m that way but i now can see how that can change if i just try
in the words of bts, "you've shown me i have reasons i should love myself "
you really are so so amazing nina, and words can't describe how proud i am~
thank you so much for helping me and thousands of others
everything that you said in this video, i can relate. i struggle with social anxiety and depression, and i’m a really quiet and non talkative person. and i freak out when i see people, or people that i know when i’m talking to them, i’m not a really good conversation starter, whenever this kind of shit happens and my heart rapidly beats fast, and i start fidgeting, i think to myself “what the hell should i do” and i keep getting flashbacks to things that i DONT want to remember about some embarrassing social situations. i fucking hate myself, i don’t look in the mirror often anymore, i just call it a day. right now i’m trying to recover in some psychology treatments, it’s really hard for me to open up to people. you’re one of the wholesome you tubers i’ve subscribed too.
here’s ur delivery bb
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📦 endless love and happiness 📦
and don’t cry, when people i cry :((
with love,
-jobi
edit: all of these people in the comment section are so nice omg 🥺
i'm sending you a hug for opening up here uhh
🥺 we're in the same situation. Let's keep trying and be a better version of ourselves ❤
i was diagnosed with severe and social anxiety. this video made me feel a lot better, i always forget i'm not the only one dealing with anxiety. thank you so much for talking about it!
You're saving my quarantine.
thank you nina. this was a really encouraging video