Exactly, it’ll also help them gain confidence when they DO learn to/start to learn on how talk and then eventually talking like a little kid would once that happens.
I can't do baby talk, except for a little bit when I feel like a smush cuddle. My son has a great vocabulary now and asks us all the time to explain new words and loves using them
The whole "We're the elders" thing was used by one of my aunts ALL the time - she's only 7 yrs older than me. But it backfired on her after I got married. She tried ordering my husband to make and serve her tea - in her house - because she's "the elder". He put his feet up and laughed "I'm 3 yrs OLDER than you. I'll take some cookies with that tea." My uncle choked on his coffee, even having it coming out of his nose, while Aunt sat there sputtering all red-faced. She seems to occasionally forget and will pull it again, but my husband is always willing to remind her that he's actually "the elder" and makes the same demand of her.
And the family was shocked that nobody stood up to them? Look around, OP's family! They are so entitled because everyone not only constantly babies them if they ever feel slighted, but turns actively hostile to whoever tells them they're being out of line, demanding that person baby them too "for the sake of peace in the family." THEN they have the gall to come to OP and say they're glad someone finally put them in their place?!!!
I always thought all parents talk to their babies. And sing to them. Every parent I've ever known makes up silly words to familiar songs and sings them to their babies... no matter how badly they sing, or songwrite.
@@Mitu918 the babies in the womb know your voice and hear the music etc. many times at births when the baby is upset, they tell the mother to talk to the baby and that comfort them
A random lady tells you shouldn't talk to someone who doesn't respond. So when you ignore her, she's becomes the crazy person talking to someone that won't respond. Checkmate, Karen
ironic how she accused op of being crazy while was the one acting like she was one fry short of a happy meal. The store clerks probably have seen her do that so often now they just ignore her too
Story 2 - I agree and it is so refreshing to hear a story where parent actually punish their kids when they do something wrong instead of using the ‘kids will be kids’ or ‘my child would never do that, you must be mistaken’ excuses. That always makes me angry
I think that these kids live life in an army barracks with their Sargent father & maybe that's why they picked on OP's brother😢! Kids abused at home usually find an outlet at school in a smaller kid that they can win the fight over😢!
If I was OP, when the Grandparents said Op was being Disrespectful, I'd have simply asked them "You accuse ME of being Disrespectful yet YOU are complaining about the accommodations you're being given on an ALL EXPENSES PAID VACATION YOU ARE BEING GIFTED!!! How is THAT being Respectful? Just because you're older than I am doesn't mean you're automatically better than I am. If you want Respect, you need to EARN Respect and part of earning it is giving Respect to the people around you!"...
The grandparents were used to getting their way, which has warped their minds into believing “respect” means “groveling at their feet for their favor”. They’ve never had someone call them out on their BS. Glad OP stood up and literally sent those entitled jerks packing.
@@JustinMcBride21x I read this comment from another video that has the perfect quote, something like this: "If they are being an asshole as a senior. Then they must be one in their youth."
Story 3: Not only unable to handle rejection, but is VERY unstable. He threw a lawsuit to stalk OP (based on SassyReader86's comment) and threatened to shoot someone when he couldn't get near her, that is a bullet OP dodged by bailing
First story: there was this commercial circling (probably still is for all I know) that talked about how the first five years of life are crucial to the development of a baby's brain. That mom was doing the right thing for her daughter.
will confirm this works, my family is a bit diverse with my niece being exposed to English, Spanish, German, Welsh and Latin from infancy and as a result while she stumbles with some of the pronunciation (I maintain Cymraig is meant to be spoken with a literally forked tongue) she's at least able to follow conversations in any of the languages she grew up listening to.
People don't talk about this, but the first year is so crucial to developing the personality of a person, and there are so many minor things that can affect how person acts for the rest of their life that a parent could, or couldn't, do during that time. I'd personally take a year off work and never leave the baby alone during that time if I could.
My mother went ape when she learned that my granddaughter was learning Makaton at nursery. Gestures for "Please", "Thank you", "Food", "Drink", "Toilet", "Bed/sleepy". For some strange reason, she (and my wife!) were convinced that this would impair her speech? After unsuccessfully trying to point out that baby couldn't speak anyway, but she was learning COMMUNICATION, myself and my daughter just ignored the pair of them. Granddaughter is now 3, nearly 4, and the brightest amongst her peers, even though I say it myself. Granddaughter is also a very effective talker, communicating her needs very effectively even when she does not know the words she wants; and daughter and I carefully do not point this out to my mother and my wife.
Story 1 - I’ve seen parents talk to their babies all the time and don’t think anything of it, in fact I think it’s cute, also I talk to my animals all the time. No doubt that old bag Karen just wanted to be a nuisance.
I do too! I know most every dog in my neighborhood. And many cats. Because of this I have rescued a handful of 'loose' pups to their home. 🤷♀️ Parents are happy! I was just thinking about keeping our neighborhood happy. Next. Kudos to Dad enforcement of push ups! Huh Ahh! 🐾🐺🐾
That is exactly how you should talk to a baby or toddler in a store. I do it with my grandsons. I had a gentleman come up to me and compliment me on doing that. He thought it was great.
Story 1 - I've talked to my dog like this while walking him and I've had people yell at me for it too. What gets me is how they all act like the most unhinged lunatic possible trying to convince me that I am the weird one.
Just say to them “well I’d rather talk to my dog then talk to some deranged lunatic at park who thinks it’s okay to shout at people minding their own business”
There is no problem with talking to your pets. It is when you think they talk back (talking birds excluded) that there is trouble. Isn't that right, Miss fluffikins?
@@cxmachu I’m older myself and if I saw that happening I would read those two oldies the riot act- what gets me is these are the same kind of oldies that moan about kids being brought up on screens and how it’s all going to be disaster in future but yet look at the rise of the Karens! These awful older people didn’t have tablets and smart phones and all crap on about how great it was in the day and how they got spanked as kids-yeah right-obviously it did nothing to make them better and less entitled than their grandkids! And yeah I can say that coz I’m old too!
Story 2 - I’ll be honest I was expecting the dad to be a jerk and go off on OP for accusing his son of egging her car but I’m glad that that wasn’t the case and that the dad punished his kid and the other boys too. We need more parents like that.
I CONSTANTLY spoke to my son when he was an infant. Full on conversations. As he began to speak, and asked questions, i wouldn't just answer him, but I would full on explain every detail I could. ("i.e. "mom how does a tree grow... how do lights work...") By the time he was only 3, he regularly used words such as tediously, incessantly, transitioning, automobile... (I am a writer and use a LOT of big words. And because I used them, HE DID TOO! lol
Story 5: Ah yes, nothing like trying to prematurely claim inheritance of the person she criticized for not wanting kids. Like, if OP wants the stuff given to charities instead of Step-SIL's family, that's her right.
Now the big question is, did sil actually have the brain cells to think of that herself, or did a friend point out that childfree people usually have more money to spare lol
I didn't "baby talk" to my kids, I talked to them the way OP was talking to her daughter. It helps them learn to speak earlier and more properly. Granted, now that they're older I occasionally wish they'd shush but still...
Oh I know the feeling 😂. Mine is now 40 with kids of his own and he did the same when speaking with his kids he recently asked me how to make them stop! I couldn't help but laugh like crazy.
@@Kayenne54 yeah...I'm well aware that my kids are headstrong and ask "why" about 100 times a day. Guess what I've always done...I answer their questions.
Story 2: he didn’t even have to see video evidence or anything. He knew his kids did it and made sure to punish them. It is sad to see more parents like this anymore.
Date Story: OP needs to CounterSue this Entitled Moron for her Legal Costs and $2,500.00 in Damages... Then get a Restraining Order (No Contact, Stay Away From He Home/Work & Stay A Minimum Of 100 Yards Away From Her At All Times) against his person... Hopefully, not only did he get Jail Time for waving the gun at the Guard when he refused to let him in OP's building, I hope he also gets a Court Ordered Mental Health Evaluation followed by the Psychiatric Help he so desperately needs...
Tbh, she could probably get more in damages considering shes now in therapy and will probably be in it for a while ("mental anguish") and also the need to find a new place to live where he doesn't know the address
@@gorilladisco9108 I'd more distrust people whose last names are common first names than people whose last names end with a vowel (super common in Japan).
Story one.... Karen: "Why do you talk to her like that?" Me: "None of YOUR effing business, B!" 😡 Story two.... Raw egg will damage car paint, don't ask how I know. 😮 Story three..... Hope that AH gets some jailtime. He is beyond toxic, he is a major crime waiting to happen. 😮
I'm an old man of 70 and I have NEVER talked baby talk to babies, always full words and sentences. Babies learn by imitation, so what are you teaching them?
story one, after old woman goes crazy: "Oh, are you okay, ma'am? Can you remember the phone number of your caretakers, so we can let them know to where you've wandered off...?"
It’s not the story he told the lawyer, but rather the $$$$$$ he paid upfront that convinced him to take the case. Also, I totally agree that he sued for access to OP’s personal information, home address etc. it shows me that he has done this before which is terrifying. If he had gained access to OP’s apartment with his gun, what was he going to do? If he has done this before, I sincerely hope that he hasn’t hurt anyone.
Story 1: Maybe OP should have said "Are you having a 'senior moment' right now? Do we need to get you some help back to the old folks home?" Then walk away :) Story 3: OP should counter-sue for the costs of changing her number, having find a new place to live (including the current lease) plus therapy & lawyer fees. Story 5: Even if OP were to leave it to SIL's kids she would probably put it in a trust that nobody but the kids could touch...like until they are 25 or something.
And people wonder why I insist that if my husband dies before I do, I will swear a vow of permanent celibacy and _never_ date again! “Dating pool,” my butt-these days it’s an alligator-infested septic lagoon, and it gets worse as you get older!
@@dragondancer1814 I'm dying pure celibate never having a relationship cuz men these days b scaryyy 🙀 I don't think I can ever trust someone that deeply I'm prolly aroace
You can still meet nice people volunteering and at community events. You have fun and do something nice for your area so it's not a loss if you don't meet anyone at first. Those library based book clubs are good too. There's groups for all age adults and special groups that are strictly seniors, young adults, parents or whatever your demographic in bigger cities. If you can afford it, art/calligraphy/Taichi/cultural art classes can be a fun option. Plus it's usually daylight, everyone is sober and those are generally safer than meeting random folk online. There's still lots of decent people around. The reddit fodder people are just the loudest.
34 year old man and I stay away because of crazies and I know it’s way worse for women too, at this point I’ll meet someone organically or never, I’m not going down the tinder route ever again it’s too much grief 😂
Love the outcome on the second story. Sounds like an awesome father that takes no sh*t from his kids. The third story the lady should have counter sued the guy for the harassment and the emotional distress he put her through.
Had a grocery Karen, who I've never seen before as far as I know spot me loading up a gallon of distilled water so she had to weigh in. She gave me a long monologue about how babies don't really need distilled water and I must be stupid for believing the crap I read on facebook. How dare I go all "woke" and yada-yada. I waited until she stopped and was standing there looking at me expectantly. I asked if she was finished and when she said she was I told her, "First, I don't have a facebook account and never have had one and even if I did, I sure as hell wouldn't be taking advice in parenting from there. Second, the water is for my cat because her drinking fountain recommends distilled water to prevent mineral build up. Third, I have neither children or grandchildren so please enjoy the rest of your afternoon". I don't know what she did after that because I turned away from her and went about my shopping. Some people need a life of their own so they can stop worrying about others' lives.
Talking to baby story: I wonder what invisible demons were whispering in her ears? Egging car story: At least their father wasn't going to put up with his kids actively vandalizing other peoples property. Fluff, many kids of service members/veterans of all services have been told to drop and give me X number of pushups for their "crimes". Date story: That guy is nucking futs! And apparently dangerous as well. I'm glad you've locked down your social media and changed your phone number. But at this point a restraining order is definitely in order as well. Maybe even moving could be warranted if at all possible. Honeymoon/family vacation story: Extremely well played, OP! They want to play insulted and we're gonna leave? Kindly help them leave. It's great no one was sad to see them go, either. This is definitely the way to continue to handle their entitlement. Keep it up, don't allow them to pull any more BS in the future. Childfree vs inheritance story: Is SIL greedy much or what? She expects to be in control of anything OP would have left her kids, so I wonder how much would have been left for her kids had OP gone along with it? Yeah, any relationship going forward is going to be very strained.
Story two: The dad in question is such an excellent parent! The push ups are a tactic I used myself when my kids misbehaved, and the instant consequences including redress of the injury teach the lesson indelibly. With all the stories of bad parenting we hear it is nice to know that there are still effective dads who know how to produce better adults.
Story 3: he probably is friends with lawyer. Because other than the obvious lie about how much he spent on the date, apparently, the letter was straightforward about why he was suing. And even then, that friend even owed him a huge favor, or is just as terrible as he is. Because why on earth would you risk your reputation on something so stupid. And like that comments, say it probably would jet to get her personal information, which would actually make it worse.
I imagine he might have claimed that she led him on by telling him various things in their on-line discussion prior to meeting in person (i.e. bringing up how she'd always wanted to go on a trip to South America, and then argue "Why would she even bring up stuff like that unless she was getting serious with me?"). Obviously he must have thought that she was going to be serious enough with him to have gone ahead and already ordered dinner for her before she even arrived.
@@JamesDavy2009 of course it is !!! I am a fully fledged Victorian coffee snob. And well spotted!! I’m impressed AND!! I’m sitting here drinking a caramel latte. This Melbourne girl is proudly taking the L 😊 EDIT I am a self aware Victorian barista that actually drinks black coffee with coffee mate at home 😂
Good on the dad in the second story for being a good dad and disciplining those brats. I thought it was going to be an entitled parent story too. Story 3: poor girl having to deal with that nutcase 😢 it’s sad that there are people like that
The second story: Woe. A parent that actually parents their spoiled children and holds them accountable for their crap behavior? They exist? This is how ALL parents should respond to their children's utter lack of respect for boundaries and make them face the consequences of their actions.
Story #1: In fact, it's recommended that parents talk to their children in a normal way, not with affected baby talk. We always had normal conversations with our kids, even using "big words" to normalize complex conversation. I remember one parent at our preschool who always spoke to her child and the other children in cutesy baby-talk. It became such a habit that she (the parent) would accidentally lapse into it when talking to adults, either with the other parents or the teachers, and I can only imagine how it affected her daily life. But worse, her child ended up speaking this way as an affectation, and it wasn't cute as she grew older. Going to school eventually cured her of most of it, but my child, who shared a class with her often, always asked me why she spoke that way. Children learn by mimicking people around them. Everything. We only once had to learn the hard way to not swear in front of even a baby. 🤦🏻♀ Story #3: This kind of crap happens to far too many women (and some men, too, though the statistics are lower). Worse is having to pay for therapy for long periods of time, which is expensive but necessary, and the onus always falls on the victim. I'd like to see therapy costs be included as part of the damages, but knowing how the system works, the courts would require too much with respect to the medical privacy of the victim, and that will be going down another slippery slope. The fact that court systems are already weaponized against the victim in cases like this makes me wary that justice will be served. I know far too many people, family and friends, who were victims of people who weaponized the legal system to further attack victims. It's insane. Story #4: Omg, I hate the weaponized filial piety. That's not what it should be about. I'm Asian, and from what I see of Asian culture, it's often the extreme in one direction or the other. The OP's story is the extreme in one direction. I've seen the other extreme where the grandparents and parents give up all for ungrateful, abusive children, and both cases weaponize family sacrifice of one form or another. I'm grateful for my family for not taking things to the extreme, even if we aren't really perfect (seriously, no one is), we are decent and normal.
2nd story: reminds me of a story I heard. OP was a bus driver that picked up poor kids and better off kids. one better off kids was a total brat, obnoxious, bully, etc. One day the kid used his infinite wisdom to light a fire while on the bus. luckily it was put out before anyone get hurt or any damage to the bus. The kid was banned from the bus for the rest of the year or something. shortly after, OP arrives at the parking lot where his bus is to do his morning cleaning before picking up the kids and to his surprise who was there...the kid and his dad. The dad told OP "everyday for rest of school year, before school he is going to bring his son to the bus and he will be cleaning the bus. when it was time, he'd drive him to school" father kept his word, son came everyday to clean the bus. OP said this actually worked as it taught the kid a lesson and became a better person as a result of it. I also heard a story where a kid was a bully. his dad signed him up for everything including karate. kid used skills for pure evil especially picking on a disabled boy. one day the bully went for a punch and the kid did right thing and ducked. hurting (maybe breaking) bully's hand. father found out and dropped his son out of all those fun stuff
About the second story, good on the dad for punishing the boys. When we were kids we had neighbors who thought their kids were angels. One day when my family was gone ALL day to an amusement park the neighbor kids were behind another neighbors garage and used stick to put tar all over the back of it, of course they blamed my brother and the guy came over to talk to my dad who told him that it was impossible because we left really early and came home really late. He suggested going back over and talking to them because they were the only other kids in the neighborhood. They tried to say well maybe he did it before you went to the amusement park, even the neighbor didn't believe them.
1) Speaking to children all the time about everything going on and around them is the most excellent way to teach language. That other person is ignorant and awful, too bad she never learned MYOB. OMG, what an entirely intrusive and wacko person. I think OP should have called for the manager and asked that something be done to remove the person who was harassing them. 2) Good for that dad for making his kids take responsibility for their bad behavior. 3) OP did the right thing to say she was not interested and excuse herself right away and go to the manager to be escorted to her car after the guy got hostile and aggressive. What an AH, trying to sue because she didn't stay for a date with a guy who lied about his age. Yikes, that guy was nuts, it's good he got arrested. So sorry this happened to OP. 4) How nice to plan and pay for this holiday for all the in laws. How absolutely disgusting to be so entitled as to demand more. If they are going to leave, all to the good ... sometimes the trash takes itself out, but since they didn't, I'm glad OP did not give into their entitled BS. Kudos for how this was handled. 5) Wow, so much entitlement OMG, how could someone be this crass. I'm glad OP responded the way they did, told her father about it, and got an apology from the brother who was not aware of this before.
"You have to stay because I already ordered your meal." Who told you to do that? Are you sure what you ordered for her was something she would even like? What if she had allergies or religious restrictions?
Story 1: Karen really needs to mind her own business. She was a complete nutjob. Story 2: Good on the dad who disciplined his boys. I wish more parents were like that. Story 3: Kevin was a psycho. He lied about his age. OP should've blocked him as soon as she got home from the aborted date. This probably would've prevented the shitstorm that ensued. He only threatened OP with a lawsuit to find information about her so he could stalk her and do who-knows-what. It is lucky OP's apartment block had security. She could've ended up dead. I hope OP has put a restraining order on Kevin. Story 4: OP's grandparents are ungrateful bastards who didn't appreciate the free holiday. OP and her hubby paid for all the accomodation so they should get the villa. Age be damned along with that "respect your elders" BS. Story 5: OP was right to be suspicious. SIL really needs to mind her own business. They should've gone NC with her straight away.
Story 4: I don't understand why ANYONE would take their whole family on their honeymoon. I love my family, but no one would be coming on MY honeymoon; that's just weird.
Story 3: The guy's lawyer should be disbarred. The initial charge of the suit is beyond stupid. Yes, age discrimination is a violation of civil rights... _IN EMPLOYMENT!!_ It isn't any sort of violation with regards to dating. Anyone can make distinctions and draw lines based on age in personal relationships. Actually taking on a lawsuit predicated on the "illegality of age discrimination" in DATING is delusional and needs to go back to law school. Ordering stuff for someone else like dinner items, alcohol, or expensive trips to foreign countries, those were unwelcome unsolicited gifts. It's the heights of presumption to order for someone you've NEVER EVEN MET at a restaurant, and to SUE them for not sitting down and eating that meal? That is total clown shoes. And if your vehicle took $150 of gasoline for a round trip to a single restaurant, you should take it to your mechanic -- it's broken! My big Ford Econoline van, converted to a camper-ish wheelchair van with a hydraulic lift, has a 33-gallon gas tank. If I fill it full, it can take MONTHS to empty, given that I don't drive it much. Not the distance of a single date. But the trip to Africa? That's just ridiculous insanity. The man needs to be committed to an institution for delusional behavior, and his lawyer should probably be in the next bed!
Back in the 60s the neighborhood bully threw eggs through the window screens at my house, the whites and yolks went through the screens the shells stayed on the outside, my Mother had just cleaned, she went and told the bullie’s Mom what happened and the boy showed up with his Mom in tow to clean up the mess, we need more parents to do what these parents did.
Final Story - The SIL over stepped the line. She has absolutely NO right to tell OP how she should spend her money or what to do with it. What OP does with her money is up to her and her alone.
Story 2 - I was constantly expecting a Karen mother appearing while OP's car was being washed and accuse OP of abusing her little angels who have done nothing wrong their entire life. So I was pleasantly surprised when the story just suddelny ended
Story #1- I talk to my dog as if she can answer me back that even my mother checks on me and questions me with who I was talking? When I tell her and talking with my dog, she moves her head and calls me crazy. I have done this (talking to my pets) for years and strangely, I don't need to train them, cause they learn when I talk to them.
Story 2: I am thoroughly astonished, I was expecting the dad to deny or defend his gremlins actions, but I guess if the behavior went unpunished, he'd probably get taken to court for the incident, would probably taint his honorable discharge, I'm not fully sure but your status as an ex military stands out after you're discharged
Story 2 dad taught his kids a lesson, but the behavior may not stop. If dad is like that a lot, the kids are taking out their anger with dad on everyone else. Dad may order his children to apologize and also order the victim to accept the apology. Happened with a woman I know, her child, and bully's USMC dad.
#2 - Guessing dad of kids sees a person's car as sacrosanct and decided now was as good a time as any to really drive the point home; you don't mess with someone's vehicle! Good on him.
It's normal to talk to your baby. That dad was right to have his kids clean their mess. More parents need to realize that either you discipline their kids early on or it's the parents who will be responsible for the damages later. The op in the first date story could have countersued for fraud. He lied about his age. How gross to be that entitled on someone else's honeymoon. Wow. Good on op.
Story 1 talking to your child even when they cant talk yet in clear properly pronounced real works dramatically improves their speech development Story 2 i have had success using windex on egged car paint
Story 1 : To Karen, you don't have a cat do you ? Story 2 : egg and such can leave nasty damages on cars..... Trust me the dad was mentaly calculating what their little prank could possibly cost them and panicking the hell out. Story 3 : it's not delusional.... it's predatory.....And people say we don't need feminism anymore. Shout out to the manager and the bartender for protecting OP. Without them she WOULD have been a stat and a newspaper line....
Story 1: Lady would have met the sailor in me. S2: My parents had good friend and his sons egged the back door to our house. His dad made them come clean it. No idea why they egged it. S3: I would file a complaint with the bar on scummy attorney, hoping he'd be dis-barred. S4: Respect is earned not given. Don't care how old you are. Glad she had a shiny spine.
This is what kids need. Old school punishments. My dad was a marine, he'll my whole family was in either the marines army or navy and my sister joined the air force. I myself did nit. I didn't want to have all the mental anguish they suffered through. The drinking etc. I was a spoiled child. How ever I did nit dare to hurt. Pick on bulky steal, or lie. I did. It get away with bad grade either. Any thing under a c was unexceptable. Idpf i got a d or lower holl he'll was brought down around me. It meant that I did nit study hard enough. Math was my worst subject and I Haye dishes. I will now at 53 avoid dishes at aĺ cost if I can. If there is more then a normal few dishes I become iver when ed and depressed. THE reason is whem I was 8 or 9. I was helping my mom. I didn't get 1 dish clean. I then had to by my dad's other was every dish in the house had to be rehashed even the holiday dishes. Thank go's I didn't have to do the pots or silver ware. I understand now why but at that young age I didn't. I still feel it was over the top. 1 hours I stood on a stool and washed all the dishes. I even dried them to a shine. I was so scared. It was in a school night too. I got to bed around 10 pm.needless to say I was super tired amd washed dishes to the point they shine. Now in current times this would be considered abuse. I don't I consider it iver the top but it abusive. It was explained to my why. Germs! Old food on a dish can get some one seriously sick and or kill some one. My parents were very aware of allergies to. They knew that even an allergy can put someone in the hospital. My home was always clean growing up. I stole a Winnie the pooh ring once. Omg. Let me explain, back in the day, around the register was items for free, little rings, lol pops snacks small toys. It was for kids when they behaved in the store, and of course marketing. Unfortunately things were changing. The Winnie the pooh ring was there, I never knew it was to be paid for. I thought it was there for little girls to take one. Never saw the sign. I tried to explain to. Boy did I get I to trouble, I was 5 yrs old. I got a spa king I will never forget and I was brought back to the store to apologize amd I was grounded. No tv. That meant no Saturday cartoons or after school cartoons. I wasn't even allowed to watch the news with my parents. If i came out of my bedroom to play with my dogs or match it cars they turned off they tv. Kids these days need this kind of discipline and punishments. I don't agree with some of the parenting when I grew up. How ever, it made gen z smarter, we were made to use our imagination, learned how to resolve conflicts among each other, family god and jobs we most important and don't waste food. There is a reason for every thing, from havimg a clean bedroom to studying hard and if you dint understand ask questions. Even if the question sounds dumb to one it's not dumb to another. Respect was earned how ever you had have common respect and CURTESY when out in public and at home. Neigh or watched pit for each others kids homes yards etc. We had to be in when the street lights came on. Never told mom no or hold on or in a min, unless your were in the Bathroom . Yiu never got away with being a jerk. Your parents knew about it before you knew you were going to be a jerk or d9 something f stupid. Privacy was a dream. When vide9 games came out, I got a Hal hour in week nights and an hour on weekends unless it was raining put. Them we got some extra time as long as chore were done amd bedroom was clean. Never left a glob of toothpaste in the sink either. We had a pool until we moved to Missouri. That was my main thing to do inthe summer. Friends cam eiver to play to.. 9nce I hit my preteens I was nt in the house much. Well we wrent allowed ro just sit around either. Lol as 8 said kids need to be forced to go out side and play, ride bikes etc.bit sit in front of a screen from sun up to well when you get tired. Beimg active and healthy is a good thing. Our parents knew it. Hell if I was sick and it was 50 degrees out i was told to go outside. Unless there was a fever then I wasn't allowed out if my room. Well this was a lot. The point is kids don't do any thi f but complain and don't do anything. They have no fear of the parents, that I feel is the schools fault and dyfys/ cps. Teaching kids what they teach them, and getting smacked is abuse, beimg grounded for longer than a week is abuse and so on.
on the first story i'd have answered like so. "let me ask you, are you religious? if you are, then good. you have no grounds to talk to me about whatever invisible or silent entities i talk to either on my own time. go pound sand and leave me and my child alone."
Story 1- I have talked to my son since the day he was born. Story 2- dad is awesome Story 3- guy sounds like a crazy stalker & the lawyer that took his case is scum Story 4- the grandparents were entitled. OP did the right thing
oh that 2nd story is rare... i was bullied at school by 2 boy's that have been troubled (bad grades, as i started school at 6 and most others at 7 i was younger and the 2 boy's did repeat the 5th and 6th year so they are both at least 2 years older) My mom once called one of their moms and that mother did call my mom names and told her that her beloved boy would never bully another child....
First story: “but she can’t understand you so why are you talking to her like that?” So… so she can learn how to understand words… like… babies don’t come out with a brain capable of speaking but no muscle ability to do so, it’s actually the exact opposite. You literally HAVE to talk to a baby to get them to learn words.
It's recommended to speak to children like normal people. My sister asked we do that with my nephew. Of course we still use the baby tone. Try not to do it all the time and correct grammar. Absolutely no baby talk like, "dwoes baby want pwudding?" Instead. "Want a snack? Which one?" then we let him pick from options. I'm a weirdo and a few months in after he started sitting up my sister handed him to me and first thing I said was, "are you capable of cognitive speech yet?" In the most serious tone. 😂 He didn't react obviously but everyone else enjoyed it.
I used to wear a pin that said 3 out of my 4 little voices don't like you. I would have told the lady in the first story that my invisible friends REALLY don't like you, you should be careful
also a fun one stares, blankly, and if people ask 'Are you listening to me?' you reply 'i was actually watching my other 3 personalities play cards, I think one is cheating though'
In the first story op Should have turned the tables. She should have walked to the front of the store and asked for someone in charge. Then asked for security or the police. When the store workers ask her what's going on. She should then say that delusional woman keeps harassing me and my kid saying I am talking to invisible people.
The first story made me laugh. When both my kids were born I talked to them when they were babies. I have 2 cats now and I have fantastic conversations with them. I also talk to myself both in public and at home. 😂😂
Omg, i LOVE hearing moms talk to babies 🥰 I even have been known to stay in earshot just a few min longer, or i tell the baby to listen to her smart mama!
My youngest brother is on the spectrum, and his pediatrician instructed that the whole family, and anyone who comes in contact with him, speak to my brother like this. All of us spoke clearly and at a moderate speed around him to help adjust for his delayed speech development. This process works really well for small children and toddlers. And honestly the practice of doing this for my brother helped me with learning a foreign language.
Lol, I talk to my dog while shopping all the time and I don't even have the "learn to speak one day" excuse!😅 I just have a need to voice my thoughts to keep them in order. Tho the "soothing with the sound of my voice" thing definitely comes into play. I am the locus of her sanity- even tho it makes Me look insane.😅🤷♀️
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First story: child development experts suggest talking to your baby exactly like OP was.
Exactly, it’ll also help them gain confidence when they DO learn to/start to learn on how talk and then eventually talking like a little kid would once that happens.
No kidding, people learn their Native Language(s) by listening to their Parents, Relatives and their Friends speaking to each other...
@@HappilyHomicidalHooligan Agreed, it’s how they’ll also eventually get used to hearing their own voice.
Was gonna comment this exact thing
I can't do baby talk, except for a little bit when I feel like a smush cuddle. My son has a great vocabulary now and asks us all the time to explain new words and loves using them
The whole "We're the elders" thing was used by one of my aunts ALL the time - she's only 7 yrs older than me. But it backfired on her after I got married. She tried ordering my husband to make and serve her tea - in her house - because she's "the elder". He put his feet up and laughed "I'm 3 yrs OLDER than you. I'll take some cookies with that tea." My uncle choked on his coffee, even having it coming out of his nose, while Aunt sat there sputtering all red-faced. She seems to occasionally forget and will pull it again, but my husband is always willing to remind her that he's actually "the elder" and makes the same demand of her.
Serve it back, straight across the net. Your hubby is a keeper.
And the family was shocked that nobody stood up to them? Look around, OP's family! They are so entitled because everyone not only constantly babies them if they ever feel slighted, but turns actively hostile to whoever tells them they're being out of line, demanding that person baby them too "for the sake of peace in the family."
THEN they have the gall to come to OP and say they're glad someone finally put them in their place?!!!
Talking to children is how they learn how to talk. Wtf was that woman on?
I have three. I always talked to them.. even when they were in my womb.
My mom talked to me and my brother when we were babies, my SIL did the same to.
Same and my kids were early talkers - able to communicate in words before others of their age.
I always thought all parents talk to their babies. And sing to them. Every parent I've ever known makes up silly words to familiar songs and sings them to their babies... no matter how badly they sing, or songwrite.
@@Mitu918 the babies in the womb know your voice and hear the music etc. many times at births when the baby is upset, they tell the mother to talk to the baby and that comfort them
A random lady tells you shouldn't talk to someone who doesn't respond. So when you ignore her, she's becomes the crazy person talking to someone that won't respond. Checkmate, Karen
Ah yes the old reverse UNO card
ironic how she accused op of being crazy while was the one acting like she was one fry short of a happy meal. The store clerks probably have seen her do that so often now they just ignore her too
@@velvety2006"one fry short of a happy meal"- that's a keeper...😂 I'm German and I didn't hear that one before
I'm sure they love talking to their invisible friends God and Jesus.
Story 2 - I agree and it is so refreshing to hear a story where parent actually punish their kids when they do something wrong instead of using the ‘kids will be kids’ or ‘my child would never do that, you must be mistaken’ excuses. That always makes me angry
I think that these kids live life in an army barracks with their Sargent father & maybe that's why they picked on OP's brother😢! Kids abused at home usually find an outlet at school in a smaller kid that they can win the fight over😢!
@@marshawargo7238. Or they’re just little assholes trying to get away with power tripping egos.. of a child …. Going through a. Learning curve ….
Something tells me that dad used to be in the military
There're good parents and there're bad parents.
@@marshawargo7238the father being in the army doesn't always excuse the bad behaviour of a child, nor it means the child is abused
If I was OP, when the Grandparents said Op was being Disrespectful, I'd have simply asked them "You accuse ME of being Disrespectful yet YOU are complaining about the accommodations you're being given on an ALL EXPENSES PAID VACATION YOU ARE BEING GIFTED!!! How is THAT being Respectful? Just because you're older than I am doesn't mean you're automatically better than I am. If you want Respect, you need to EARN Respect and part of earning it is giving Respect to the people around you!"...
The grandparents were used to getting their way, which has warped their minds into believing “respect” means “groveling at their feet for their favor”. They’ve never had someone call them out on their BS. Glad OP stood up and literally sent those entitled jerks packing.
@@JustinMcBride21x I read this comment from another video that has the perfect quote, something like this: "If they are being an asshole as a senior. Then they must be one in their youth."
OP should have known better from their past behavior and culture and hedged this off earlier.
Story 3: Not only unable to handle rejection, but is VERY unstable. He threw a lawsuit to stalk OP (based on SassyReader86's comment) and threatened to shoot someone when he couldn't get near her, that is a bullet OP dodged by bailing
No that's not a bullet that she dodged, that's a rocket that she dodged. Not a nuke but like something from a rocket launcher.
An RPG-7, indeed
OP is freaking stupid. She is in her 20s and has not learned anything about online security!!!!
Guy's a total AH. Misrepresented himself. Any judge worthy of the title will toss such a lawsuit right out. 😮
She may still have to move somewhere else. He knows where she lives and unless he's in jail he may never stop trying, because his kind rarely do.
there was a t-shirt for that, it said; "You're just jealous cause the voices talk to me."
I once saw one saying: "Three of the four voices in my head tell me to not kill you!" 😅
Ever seen the lyrics on Seal's song "Crazy"? He nails the internal dialogue that must go on for some...
I had a t-shirt that said, "I do whatever my Rice Krispies tell me to do." Ah, memories.
Honestly I never expected Dad act that too. I was expecting him saying "Boys will be boys" or saying "F off they're just kids". Good job Dad.
Yeah. I'm impressed with that dad. Kudos to him.
Nannh, Marine dads don't play. When he said Marine vet I knew those kids were doomed🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
First story: there was this commercial circling (probably still is for all I know) that talked about how the first five years of life are crucial to the development of a baby's brain. That mom was doing the right thing for her daughter.
will confirm this works, my family is a bit diverse with my niece being exposed to English, Spanish, German, Welsh and Latin from infancy and as a result while she stumbles with some of the pronunciation (I maintain Cymraig is meant to be spoken with a literally forked tongue) she's at least able to follow conversations in any of the languages she grew up listening to.
Attending story hours at the public library helps children learn language early. Free entertainment is offered at must libraries.
People don't talk about this, but the first year is so crucial to developing the personality of a person, and there are so many minor things that can affect how person acts for the rest of their life that a parent could, or couldn't, do during that time.
I'd personally take a year off work and never leave the baby alone during that time if I could.
my mom read to us everyday from birth on till we could read on our own. even if it was only the newspaper. we all have great vocabularies.
@@margaretjohnson6259 I was read to a lot as a kid too. I'd actively take books to someone in my family, and demand they read to me
It's SUPER IMPORTANT to talk to babies like this. It improves their learning skills tremendously.
My mother went ape when she learned that my granddaughter was learning Makaton at nursery. Gestures for "Please", "Thank you", "Food", "Drink", "Toilet", "Bed/sleepy".
For some strange reason, she (and my wife!) were convinced that this would impair her speech?
After unsuccessfully trying to point out that baby couldn't speak anyway, but she was learning COMMUNICATION, myself and my daughter just ignored the pair of them.
Granddaughter is now 3, nearly 4, and the brightest amongst her peers, even though I say it myself. Granddaughter is also a very effective talker, communicating her needs very effectively even when she does not know the words she wants; and daughter and I carefully do not point this out to my mother and my wife.
Story 1 - I’ve seen parents talk to their babies all the time and don’t think anything of it, in fact I think it’s cute, also I talk to my animals all the time. No doubt that old bag Karen just wanted to be a nuisance.
and babies do answer, they gurgle, move, giggle, it may not be 'hey mom lets get that meat, it's on sale' but they do answer
It does wonders for their speech development
@@velvety2006 I look at it as a bonding moment between parent and child.
I do too! I know most every dog in my neighborhood. And many cats. Because of this I have rescued a handful of 'loose' pups to their home. 🤷♀️ Parents are happy! I was just thinking about keeping our neighborhood happy.
Next. Kudos to Dad enforcement of push ups! Huh Ahh!
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It's not just cute.It's necessary for the development of their language skills.
That is exactly how you should talk to a baby or toddler in a store. I do it with my grandsons. I had a gentleman come up to me and compliment me on doing that. He thought it was great.
Right my son can only talk a tiny bit but I carry on full conversations with him.
Yup. I talked to my son like that, too. It really helped with his vocabulary!
Story 1 - I've talked to my dog like this while walking him and I've had people yell at me for it too.
What gets me is how they all act like the most unhinged lunatic possible trying to convince me that I am the weird one.
Just say to them “well I’d rather talk to my dog then talk to some deranged lunatic at park who thinks it’s okay to shout at people minding their own business”
Me too, I talk to my granddog when I walk and watch her while my daughter works. People need to get a life.
There is no problem with talking to your pets. It is when you think they talk back (talking birds excluded) that there is trouble. Isn't that right, Miss fluffikins?
I have whole conversations with my cat, and she's a better conversationalist than most people.
Story 4 - I love that OP called their bluff and went ahead and cancelled their reservation.
I cannot believe that they were SO disrespectful to OP.. they may be elders but emotionally they are toddlers
@@Guitarbarella Exactly
Yep. That’s how it’s done. The whole elder crap is ancient history. You want respect you earn it like everyone else
@@cxmachu I’m older myself and if I saw that happening I would read those two oldies the riot act- what gets me is these are the same kind of oldies that moan about kids being brought up on screens and how it’s all going to be disaster in future but yet look at the rise of the Karens! These awful older people didn’t have tablets and smart phones and all crap on about how great it was in the day and how they got spanked as kids-yeah right-obviously it did nothing to make them better and less entitled than their grandkids! And yeah I can say that coz I’m old too!
Story 3 - That guy is clearly insane and dangerous.
Stay safe OP
First Story: She talks to her daughter? Sooo cute!!!!!! and Adorable!
Story 1: weird Karen assumes normal things aren't 🙄
It isn't normal. Kids don't learn to talk that way, you just need to download their language program and sing baby shark
Story 2 - I’ll be honest I was expecting the dad to be a jerk and go off on OP for accusing his son of egging her car but I’m glad that that wasn’t the case and that the dad punished his kid and the other boys too. We need more parents like that.
I CONSTANTLY spoke to my son when he was an infant. Full on conversations. As he began to speak, and asked questions, i wouldn't just answer him, but I would full on explain every detail I could. ("i.e. "mom how does a tree grow... how do lights work...") By the time he was only 3, he regularly used words such as tediously, incessantly, transitioning, automobile... (I am a writer and use a LOT of big words. And because I used them, HE DID TOO! lol
Free vacation to Bora Bora? I'd happily sleep in a tent on the beach!
That's actually not that terrible, it's amazing to listen to the surf as you fall asleep.
Provided you erect the tent above the high tide mark.
Story 5: Ah yes, nothing like trying to prematurely claim inheritance of the person she criticized for not wanting kids. Like, if OP wants the stuff given to charities instead of Step-SIL's family, that's her right.
Now the big question is, did sil actually have the brain cells to think of that herself, or did a friend point out that childfree people usually have more money to spare lol
@@velvety2006 I'm willing to bet on the latter.
I didn't "baby talk" to my kids, I talked to them the way OP was talking to her daughter. It helps them learn to speak earlier and more properly. Granted, now that they're older I occasionally wish they'd shush but still...
Oh I know the feeling 😂. Mine is now 40 with kids of his own and he did the same when speaking with his kids he recently asked me how to make them stop! I couldn't help but laugh like crazy.
@@bspoon5041 my mom always said "you spend so much time teaching them to walk and talk just to wish they'd sit down and shut up".
Wait till you figure out you also taught them to think for themselves.
@@Kayenne54 yeah...I'm well aware that my kids are headstrong and ask "why" about 100 times a day. Guess what I've always done...I answer their questions.
@@tanyapoe5490 Exactly. In your native tongue, correctly. Or help them research 🙂
Lady why is it any of your business if someone is talking to a baby? Like why does it bother you?
Story 2: he didn’t even have to see video evidence or anything. He knew his kids did it and made sure to punish them. It is sad to see more parents like this anymore.
I mean the eggs were still on the car...
Date Story: OP needs to CounterSue this Entitled Moron for her Legal Costs and $2,500.00 in Damages...
Then get a Restraining Order (No Contact, Stay Away From He Home/Work & Stay A Minimum Of 100 Yards Away From Her At All Times) against his person...
Hopefully, not only did he get Jail Time for waving the gun at the Guard when he refused to let him in OP's building, I hope he also gets a Court Ordered Mental Health Evaluation followed by the Psychiatric Help he so desperately needs...
Tbh, she could probably get more in damages considering shes now in therapy and will probably be in it for a while ("mental anguish") and also the need to find a new place to live where he doesn't know the address
You should be careful with that guy. His last name ends with vowel ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@gorilladisco9108 I'd more distrust people whose last names are common first names than people whose last names end with a vowel (super common in Japan).
No one is obligated to date you.
Dating services are a huge disaster
Story2: That was a good Dad! 😊
STORY 2
SO GLAD THE NEIGHBOR
WAS SO HELPFUL DEALING
WITH HOW HIS KIDS
BEHAVIOR TOWARDS
OP .
Story one.... Karen: "Why do you talk to her like that?"
Me: "None of YOUR effing business, B!" 😡
Story two.... Raw egg will damage car paint, don't ask how I know. 😮
Story three..... Hope that AH gets some jailtime. He is beyond toxic, he is a major crime waiting to happen. 😮
I'm an old man of 70 and I have NEVER talked baby talk to babies, always full words and sentences. Babies learn by imitation, so what are you teaching them?
story one, after old woman goes crazy: "Oh, are you okay, ma'am? Can you remember the phone number of your caretakers, so we can let them know to where you've wandered off...?"
It’s not the story he told the lawyer, but rather the $$$$$$ he paid upfront that convinced him to take the case.
Also, I totally agree that he sued for access to OP’s personal information, home address etc.
it shows me that he has done this before which is terrifying.
If he had gained access to OP’s apartment with his gun, what was he going to do?
If he has done this before, I sincerely hope that he hasn’t hurt anyone.
His last name ends with a vowel
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Story 1: Maybe OP should have said "Are you having a 'senior moment' right now? Do we need to get you some help back to the old folks home?" Then walk away :)
Story 3: OP should counter-sue for the costs of changing her number, having find a new place to live (including the current lease) plus therapy & lawyer fees.
Story 5: Even if OP were to leave it to SIL's kids she would probably put it in a trust that nobody but the kids could touch...like until they are 25 or something.
Story 3: OP, that guy is insane! Please avoid those crazy dating sites; they're not safe.
And that’s why I’ve sworn myself to never do any online dating sites, heck, online dating as a whole!!!
And people wonder why I insist that if my husband dies before I do, I will swear a vow of permanent celibacy and _never_ date again! “Dating pool,” my butt-these days it’s an alligator-infested septic lagoon, and it gets worse as you get older!
@@dragondancer1814 I'm dying pure celibate
never having a relationship cuz men these days b scaryyy 🙀 I don't think I can ever trust someone that deeply I'm prolly aroace
You can still meet nice people volunteering and at community events. You have fun and do something nice for your area so it's not a loss if you don't meet anyone at first. Those library based book clubs are good too. There's groups for all age adults and special groups that are strictly seniors, young adults, parents or whatever your demographic in bigger cities. If you can afford it, art/calligraphy/Taichi/cultural art classes can be a fun option. Plus it's usually daylight, everyone is sober and those are generally safer than meeting random folk online.
There's still lots of decent people around. The reddit fodder people are just the loudest.
34 year old man and I stay away because of crazies and I know it’s way worse for women too, at this point I’ll meet someone organically or never, I’m not going down the tinder route ever again it’s too much grief 😂
Love the outcome on the second story. Sounds like an awesome father that takes no sh*t from his kids. The third story the lady should have counter sued the guy for the harassment and the emotional distress he put her through.
Had a grocery Karen, who I've never seen before as far as I know spot me loading up a gallon of distilled water so she had to weigh in. She gave me a long monologue about how babies don't really need distilled water and I must be stupid for believing the crap I read on facebook. How dare I go all "woke" and yada-yada. I waited until she stopped and was standing there looking at me expectantly. I asked if she was finished and when she said she was I told her, "First, I don't have a facebook account and never have had one and even if I did, I sure as hell wouldn't be taking advice in parenting from there. Second, the water is for my cat because her drinking fountain recommends distilled water to prevent mineral build up. Third, I have neither children or grandchildren so please enjoy the rest of your afternoon". I don't know what she did after that because I turned away from her and went about my shopping. Some people need a life of their own so they can stop worrying about others' lives.
Talking to baby story: I wonder what invisible demons were whispering in her ears?
Egging car story: At least their father wasn't going to put up with his kids actively vandalizing other peoples property.
Fluff, many kids of service members/veterans of all services have been told to drop and give me X number of pushups for their "crimes".
Date story: That guy is nucking futs! And apparently dangerous as well. I'm glad you've locked down your social media and changed your phone number. But at this point a restraining order is definitely in order as well. Maybe even moving could be warranted if at all possible.
Honeymoon/family vacation story: Extremely well played, OP! They want to play insulted and we're gonna leave? Kindly help them leave. It's great no one was sad to see them go, either. This is definitely the way to continue to handle their entitlement. Keep it up, don't allow them to pull any more BS in the future.
Childfree vs inheritance story: Is SIL greedy much or what? She expects to be in control of anything OP would have left her kids, so I wonder how much would have been left for her kids had OP gone along with it? Yeah, any relationship going forward is going to be very strained.
I'm thinking the SIL is a gold gigger.
Story two: The dad in question is such an excellent parent! The push ups are a tactic I used myself when my kids misbehaved, and the instant consequences including redress of the injury teach the lesson indelibly. With all the stories of bad parenting we hear it is nice to know that there are still effective dads who know how to produce better adults.
Story 3: he probably is friends with lawyer. Because other than the obvious lie about how much he spent on the date, apparently, the letter was straightforward about why he was suing. And even then, that friend even owed him a huge favor, or is just as terrible as he is. Because why on earth would you risk your reputation on something so stupid. And like that comments, say it probably would jet to get her personal information, which would actually make it worse.
I imagine he might have claimed that she led him on by telling him various things in their on-line discussion prior to meeting in person (i.e. bringing up how she'd always wanted to go on a trip to South America, and then argue "Why would she even bring up stuff like that unless she was getting serious with me?"). Obviously he must have thought that she was going to be serious enough with him to have gone ahead and already ordered dinner for her before she even arrived.
Or even worse, his last name ends with vowel, and he's made ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Omg when she asked her if she was going to make it look like an accident I spat my morning coffee 😂😂😂
I hope it's not Victorian wanker coffee.
@@JamesDavy2009 of course it is !!! I am a fully fledged Victorian coffee snob. And well spotted!! I’m impressed AND!! I’m sitting here drinking a caramel latte. This Melbourne girl is proudly taking the L 😊 EDIT I am a self aware Victorian barista that actually drinks black coffee with coffee mate at home 😂
I'm glad that Dad punished his kids instead of saying to the teenager, Oh, it will wash off or my kids wouldn't do that.
Good on the dad in the second story for being a good dad and disciplining those brats. I thought it was going to be an entitled parent story too.
Story 3: poor girl having to deal with that nutcase 😢 it’s sad that there are people like that
“We’re leaving first thing in the morning!”. Reply: ok, go ahead.
Age discrimination? The incel led her on under false pretenses.
After the trauma of his father's death, AJ starts to date again ...
... hmmm ... can I sell that for a pilot?
The second story: Woe. A parent that actually parents their spoiled children and holds them accountable for their crap behavior? They exist? This is how ALL parents should respond to their children's utter lack of respect for boundaries and make them face the consequences of their actions.
Story #1: In fact, it's recommended that parents talk to their children in a normal way, not with affected baby talk. We always had normal conversations with our kids, even using "big words" to normalize complex conversation. I remember one parent at our preschool who always spoke to her child and the other children in cutesy baby-talk. It became such a habit that she (the parent) would accidentally lapse into it when talking to adults, either with the other parents or the teachers, and I can only imagine how it affected her daily life. But worse, her child ended up speaking this way as an affectation, and it wasn't cute as she grew older. Going to school eventually cured her of most of it, but my child, who shared a class with her often, always asked me why she spoke that way. Children learn by mimicking people around them. Everything. We only once had to learn the hard way to not swear in front of even a baby. 🤦🏻♀
Story #3: This kind of crap happens to far too many women (and some men, too, though the statistics are lower). Worse is having to pay for therapy for long periods of time, which is expensive but necessary, and the onus always falls on the victim. I'd like to see therapy costs be included as part of the damages, but knowing how the system works, the courts would require too much with respect to the medical privacy of the victim, and that will be going down another slippery slope. The fact that court systems are already weaponized against the victim in cases like this makes me wary that justice will be served. I know far too many people, family and friends, who were victims of people who weaponized the legal system to further attack victims. It's insane.
Story #4: Omg, I hate the weaponized filial piety. That's not what it should be about. I'm Asian, and from what I see of Asian culture, it's often the extreme in one direction or the other. The OP's story is the extreme in one direction. I've seen the other extreme where the grandparents and parents give up all for ungrateful, abusive children, and both cases weaponize family sacrifice of one form or another. I'm grateful for my family for not taking things to the extreme, even if we aren't really perfect (seriously, no one is), we are decent and normal.
2nd story: reminds me of a story I heard. OP was a bus driver that picked up poor kids and better off kids. one better off kids was a total brat, obnoxious, bully, etc. One day the kid used his infinite wisdom to light a fire while on the bus. luckily it was put out before anyone get hurt or any damage to the bus. The kid was banned from the bus for the rest of the year or something.
shortly after, OP arrives at the parking lot where his bus is to do his morning cleaning before picking up the kids and to his surprise who was there...the kid and his dad. The dad told OP "everyday for rest of school year, before school he is going to bring his son to the bus and he will be cleaning the bus. when it was time, he'd drive him to school"
father kept his word, son came everyday to clean the bus. OP said this actually worked as it taught the kid a lesson and became a better person as a result of it.
I also heard a story where a kid was a bully. his dad signed him up for everything including karate. kid used skills for pure evil especially picking on a disabled boy. one day the bully went for a punch and the kid did right thing and ducked. hurting (maybe breaking) bully's hand.
father found out and dropped his son out of all those fun stuff
About the second story, good on the dad for punishing the boys. When we were kids we had neighbors who thought their kids were angels. One day when my family was gone ALL day to an amusement park the neighbor kids were behind another neighbors garage and used stick to put tar all over the back of it, of course they blamed my brother and the guy came over to talk to my dad who told him that it was impossible because we left really early and came home really late. He suggested going back over and talking to them because they were the only other kids in the neighborhood. They tried to say well maybe he did it before you went to the amusement park, even the neighbor didn't believe them.
1) Speaking to children all the time about everything going on and around them is the most excellent way to teach language. That other person is ignorant and awful, too bad she never learned MYOB. OMG, what an entirely intrusive and wacko person. I think OP should have called for the manager and asked that something be done to remove the person who was harassing them.
2) Good for that dad for making his kids take responsibility for their bad behavior.
3) OP did the right thing to say she was not interested and excuse herself right away and go to the manager to be escorted to her car after the guy got hostile and aggressive. What an AH, trying to sue because she didn't stay for a date with a guy who lied about his age. Yikes, that guy was nuts, it's good he got arrested. So sorry this happened to OP.
4) How nice to plan and pay for this holiday for all the in laws. How absolutely disgusting to be so entitled as to demand more. If they are going to leave, all to the good ... sometimes the trash takes itself out, but since they didn't, I'm glad OP did not give into their entitled BS. Kudos for how this was handled.
5) Wow, so much entitlement OMG, how could someone be this crass. I'm glad OP responded the way they did, told her father about it, and got an apology from the brother who was not aware of this before.
Story 2: Good old military discipline is the best cure for brats poor behaviors and to prevent Karen's from forming.
"You have to stay because I already ordered your meal." Who told you to do that? Are you sure what you ordered for her was something she would even like? What if she had allergies or religious restrictions?
The psycho voice in his head told him to do that!
He wouldn’t care about any of that. It was all about him being in control.
It is wonderful reading about the responsible Dad teaching his kids how to be decent citizens.
Story 1: Karen really needs to mind her own business. She was a complete nutjob.
Story 2: Good on the dad who disciplined his boys. I wish more parents were like that.
Story 3: Kevin was a psycho. He lied about his age. OP should've blocked him as soon as she got home from the aborted date. This probably would've prevented the shitstorm that ensued. He only threatened OP with a lawsuit to find information about her so he could stalk her and do who-knows-what. It is lucky OP's apartment block had security. She could've ended up dead. I hope OP has put a restraining order on Kevin.
Story 4: OP's grandparents are ungrateful bastards who didn't appreciate the free holiday. OP and her hubby paid for all the accomodation so they should get the villa. Age be damned along with that "respect your elders" BS.
Story 5: OP was right to be suspicious. SIL really needs to mind her own business. They should've gone NC with her straight away.
The old lady in the first story is utter bonkers for what she said AND bothering someone who's going to make schnitzel and apple strudel
Story 4: I don't understand why ANYONE would take their whole family on their honeymoon. I love my family, but no one would be coming on MY honeymoon; that's just weird.
It's a pre-honeymoon. OP and groom still plan on a trip by themselves
Why? Watching in-laws vs in-laws in a glorious battle, of course. 😅
Story 3: The guy's lawyer should be disbarred. The initial charge of the suit is beyond stupid. Yes, age discrimination is a violation of civil rights... _IN EMPLOYMENT!!_ It isn't any sort of violation with regards to dating. Anyone can make distinctions and draw lines based on age in personal relationships. Actually taking on a lawsuit predicated on the "illegality of age discrimination" in DATING is delusional and needs to go back to law school.
Ordering stuff for someone else like dinner items, alcohol, or expensive trips to foreign countries, those were unwelcome unsolicited gifts. It's the heights of presumption to order for someone you've NEVER EVEN MET at a restaurant, and to SUE them for not sitting down and eating that meal? That is total clown shoes. And if your vehicle took $150 of gasoline for a round trip to a single restaurant, you should take it to your mechanic -- it's broken! My big Ford Econoline van, converted to a camper-ish wheelchair van with a hydraulic lift, has a 33-gallon gas tank. If I fill it full, it can take MONTHS to empty, given that I don't drive it much. Not the distance of a single date.
But the trip to Africa? That's just ridiculous insanity. The man needs to be committed to an institution for delusional behavior, and his lawyer should probably be in the next bed!
The car thing. Yeah i agree. Its an inconvenience but the inconvenience goes out the window cause its a win.
Last story: just because a couple chooses to be child free doesn’t mean that they’re entitled to their finances
Back in the 60s the neighborhood bully threw eggs through the window screens at my house, the whites and yolks went through the screens the shells stayed on the outside, my Mother had just cleaned, she went and told the bullie’s Mom what happened and the boy showed up with his Mom in tow to clean up the mess, we need more parents to do what these parents did.
Final Story - The SIL over stepped the line. She has absolutely NO right to tell OP how she should spend her money or what to do with it. What OP does with her money is up to her and her alone.
12:01 Just stay off the apps ladies. There’s nothing good there.
Story 2: he’s lucky he got the dad, the mom probably would have just gave some “boys will be boys line”
Story 2 - I was constantly expecting a Karen mother appearing while OP's car was being washed and accuse OP of abusing her little angels who have done nothing wrong their entire life. So I was pleasantly surprised when the story just suddelny ended
Story #1- I talk to my dog as if she can answer me back that even my mother checks on me and questions me with who I was talking? When I tell her and talking with my dog, she moves her head and calls me crazy.
I have done this (talking to my pets) for years and strangely, I don't need to train them, cause they learn when I talk to them.
I talk to my cat, and some of the most intelligent and interesting convos are between us lol
@@velvety2006 it is so strange how they learn
Story 2: I am thoroughly astonished, I was expecting the dad to deny or defend his gremlins actions, but I guess if the behavior went unpunished, he'd probably get taken to court for the incident, would probably taint his honorable discharge, I'm not fully sure but your status as an ex military stands out after you're discharged
Story 2 dad taught his kids a lesson, but the behavior may not stop. If dad is like that a lot, the kids are taking out their anger with dad on everyone else. Dad may order his children to apologize and also order the victim to accept the apology. Happened with a woman I know, her child, and bully's USMC dad.
#2 - Guessing dad of kids sees a person's car as sacrosanct and decided now was as good a time as any to really drive the point home; you don't mess with someone's vehicle! Good on him.
It's normal to talk to your baby. That dad was right to have his kids clean their mess. More parents need to realize that either you discipline their kids early on or it's the parents who will be responsible for the damages later. The op in the first date story could have countersued for fraud. He lied about his age. How gross to be that entitled on someone else's honeymoon. Wow. Good on op.
Story 1 talking to your child even when they cant talk yet in clear properly pronounced real works dramatically improves their speech development
Story 2 i have had success using windex on egged car paint
No kids, but plenty of my contemporaries have gone forth and multiplied. This is perfectly normal!! Also, being older doesn't mean you're right.
Sir Terry Pratchett said something about being older only meaning they've had more time to be stupid.
I have very long monologues with my dog. Used to have it with the cat too. Guess I must be crazy 😂
Send dad was a parent. He didn't make excuses he didn't argue he didn't gas light. He made Hisense take responsibility for their behavior.
Story 1 : To Karen, you don't have a cat do you ?
Story 2 : egg and such can leave nasty damages on cars..... Trust me the dad was mentaly calculating what their little prank could possibly cost them and panicking the hell out.
Story 3 : it's not delusional.... it's predatory.....And people say we don't need feminism anymore. Shout out to the manager and the bartender for protecting OP. Without them she WOULD have been a stat and a newspaper line....
Crazy how the grandparents fumbled a vacation they were fine with until they found out where OP was staying 💀
Story 1: Lady would have met the sailor in me.
S2: My parents had good friend and his sons egged the back door to our house. His dad made them come clean it. No idea why they egged it. S3: I would file a complaint with the bar on scummy attorney, hoping he'd be dis-barred.
S4: Respect is earned not given. Don't care how old you are. Glad she had a shiny spine.
Story 2, even though they've beeen hostile in the past, I woulda bought that dad beer.
This is what kids need. Old school punishments. My dad was a marine, he'll my whole family was in either the marines army or navy and my sister joined the air force. I myself did nit. I didn't want to have all the mental anguish they suffered through. The drinking etc. I was a spoiled child. How ever I did nit dare to hurt. Pick on bulky steal, or lie. I did. It get away with bad grade either. Any thing under a c was unexceptable. Idpf i got a d or lower holl he'll was brought down around me. It meant that I did nit study hard enough. Math was my worst subject and I Haye dishes. I will now at 53 avoid dishes at aĺ cost if I can. If there is more then a normal few dishes I become iver when ed and depressed. THE reason is whem I was 8 or 9. I was helping my mom. I didn't get 1 dish clean. I then had to by my dad's other was every dish in the house had to be rehashed even the holiday dishes. Thank go's I didn't have to do the pots or silver ware. I understand now why but at that young age I didn't. I still feel it was over the top. 1 hours I stood on a stool and washed all the dishes. I even dried them to a shine. I was so scared. It was in a school night too. I got to bed around 10 pm.needless to say I was super tired amd washed dishes to the point they shine. Now in current times this would be considered abuse. I don't I consider it iver the top but it abusive. It was explained to my why. Germs! Old food on a dish can get some one seriously sick and or kill some one. My parents were very aware of allergies to. They knew that even an allergy can put someone in the hospital. My home was always clean growing up. I stole a Winnie the pooh ring once. Omg. Let me explain, back in the day, around the register was items for free, little rings, lol pops snacks small toys. It was for kids when they behaved in the store, and of course marketing. Unfortunately things were changing. The Winnie the pooh ring was there, I never knew it was to be paid for. I thought it was there for little girls to take one. Never saw the sign. I tried to explain to. Boy did I get I to trouble, I was 5 yrs old. I got a spa king I will never forget and I was brought back to the store to apologize amd I was grounded. No tv. That meant no Saturday cartoons or after school cartoons. I wasn't even allowed to watch the news with my parents. If i came out of my bedroom to play with my dogs or match it cars they turned off they tv. Kids these days need this kind of discipline and punishments. I don't agree with some of the parenting when I grew up. How ever, it made gen z smarter, we were made to use our imagination, learned how to resolve conflicts among each other, family god and jobs we most important and don't waste food. There is a reason for every thing, from havimg a clean bedroom to studying hard and if you dint understand ask questions. Even if the question sounds dumb to one it's not dumb to another. Respect was earned how ever you had have common respect and CURTESY when out in public and at home. Neigh or watched pit for each others kids homes yards etc. We had to be in when the street lights came on. Never told mom no or hold on or in a min, unless your were in the Bathroom . Yiu never got away with being a jerk. Your parents knew about it before you knew you were going to be a jerk or d9 something f stupid. Privacy was a dream. When vide9 games came out, I got a Hal hour in week nights and an hour on weekends unless it was raining put. Them we got some extra time as long as chore were done amd bedroom was clean. Never left a glob of toothpaste in the sink either. We had a pool until we moved to Missouri. That was my main thing to do inthe summer. Friends cam eiver to play to.. 9nce I hit my preteens I was nt in the house much. Well we wrent allowed ro just sit around either. Lol as 8 said kids need to be forced to go out side and play, ride bikes etc.bit sit in front of a screen from sun up to well when you get tired. Beimg active and healthy is a good thing. Our parents knew it. Hell if I was sick and it was 50 degrees out i was told to go outside. Unless there was a fever then I wasn't allowed out if my room. Well this was a lot. The point is kids don't do any thi f but complain and don't do anything. They have no fear of the parents, that I feel is the schools fault and dyfys/ cps. Teaching kids what they teach them, and getting smacked is abuse, beimg grounded for longer than a week is abuse and so on.
on the first story i'd have answered like so. "let me ask you, are you religious? if you are, then good. you have no grounds to talk to me about whatever invisible or silent entities i talk to either on my own time. go pound sand and leave me and my child alone."
Story 5 - Holy hell! If I were OP's brother, I'd be seriously rethinking this marriage, wondering what kind of person did I marry?
Op had the audacity to speak to a baby in adult speak and not baby speak how dare her
Yeah the baby doesnt talk, and if she doesnt get talked to, she NEVER WILL
Story 1- I have talked to my son since the day he was born.
Story 2- dad is awesome
Story 3- guy sounds like a crazy stalker & the lawyer that took his case is scum
Story 4- the grandparents were entitled. OP did the right thing
oh that 2nd story is rare... i was bullied at school by 2 boy's that have been troubled (bad grades, as i started school at 6 and most others at 7 i was younger and the 2 boy's did repeat the 5th and 6th year so they are both at least 2 years older) My mom once called one of their moms and that mother did call my mom names and told her that her beloved boy would never bully another child....
First story: “but she can’t understand you so why are you talking to her like that?” So… so she can learn how to understand words… like… babies don’t come out with a brain capable of speaking but no muscle ability to do so, it’s actually the exact opposite. You literally HAVE to talk to a baby to get them to learn words.
It's recommended to speak to children like normal people. My sister asked we do that with my nephew. Of course we still use the baby tone. Try not to do it all the time and correct grammar. Absolutely no baby talk like, "dwoes baby want pwudding?" Instead. "Want a snack? Which one?" then we let him pick from options.
I'm a weirdo and a few months in after he started sitting up my sister handed him to me and first thing I said was, "are you capable of cognitive speech yet?" In the most serious tone. 😂
He didn't react obviously but everyone else enjoyed it.
Story 2: dad’s a marine. And you doubted him????
That’s parenting
I used to wear a pin that said 3 out of my 4 little voices don't like you. I would have told the lady in the first story that my invisible friends REALLY don't like you, you should be careful
also a fun one stares, blankly, and if people ask 'Are you listening to me?' you reply 'i was actually watching my other 3 personalities play cards, I think one is cheating though'
Geez, that man in the dating story was scary! Thank goodness OP got out while they could!
In the first story op Should have turned the tables. She should have walked to the front of the store and asked for someone in charge. Then asked for security or the police. When the store workers ask her what's going on. She should then say that delusional woman keeps harassing me and my kid saying I am talking to invisible people.
Story 5; I’ve heard this one before and still love OP “are you going to make it look like an accident?” 😅
The first story made me laugh. When both my kids were born I talked to them when they were babies. I have 2 cats now and I have fantastic conversations with them. I also talk to myself both in public and at home. 😂😂
Omg, i LOVE hearing moms talk to babies 🥰 I even have been known to stay in earshot just a few min longer, or i tell the baby to listen to her smart mama!
Karen’s first thought is she’s talking to ghosts, yeah, op is the weird one 😂
Karen is a crazy old cat lady. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Already scared to go out with schizophrenia, this did not help. Luckily, there are people like you guys out there that don’t think like that
My youngest brother is on the spectrum, and his pediatrician instructed that the whole family, and anyone who comes in contact with him, speak to my brother like this. All of us spoke clearly and at a moderate speed around him to help adjust for his delayed speech development. This process works really well for small children and toddlers. And honestly the practice of doing this for my brother helped me with learning a foreign language.
Lol, I talk to my dog while shopping all the time and I don't even have the "learn to speak one day" excuse!😅 I just have a need to voice my thoughts to keep them in order. Tho the "soothing with the sound of my voice" thing definitely comes into play. I am the locus of her sanity- even tho it makes Me look insane.😅🤷♀️
I have always talked to my son like he was a person from the day he was born.
Story 2: Awesome father for properly disciplining his sons, rather that blame the victim.
7:30 I KNOW THAT VOICE, my dad was in the Army, and then I joined the Army after high school. That voice can make a grown man cry!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂