We prepared a husband and wife who died within days of each other and they had matching wicker coffins. I do believe that some people (and animals) die of a broken heart
Hi Mandy, yes we do believe that too. You will find the longer your in the industry you will see many more couple come through together or days apart it's more common than people think. Take care lovely 💚💚
@mindyg943: I know I’d die of a broken heart if my mom passed. We’re very close and a lady I knew passed away when her mom passed away. So I already bought my plot and head marker. My beloved dad has gone to be with the Lord and 8 months later im still a mess💔
- I'm stunned, a little uncomfortable, and amazed you can take the person home for a couple days! Trying to imagine being able to do that with my mom... Would've given me time to fully understand, as her sudden and traumatic loss left me in a PTSD state of "what happened, where did she go?" Here in America I think if you died at home you can stay there for a bit, do a home viewing, but i have no idea if someone can be TAKEN home. - in America it's widely mistakenly believed that you HAVE TO be embalmed. I'm glad people like Caitlin Doughty/Ask a Mortician are spreading the word that that's not true. It can be a beautiful thing in helping people accept the loss and say goodbye if a funeral has to be delayed, but I wish there could be a way where the chemicals weren't so hazardous to both the embalmer and the ground.
A Teenager from a different state died in our intensive care unit. The family wrapped him in a blanket and took him back home to his home state. To Which I say good for them.
My beloved Mum passed away on 28 November 2022 after a long battle against cancer. I had a beautiful ring made from gold with an inner band filled with coloured crushed opals, resin and some of her ashes ~ I chose purple for the opals and you can clearly see the ashes in the resin. I truly love it and plan to have a necklace & pendent made the same 💜
My granpa we had his body in South italy in house for 3 days his eyes was clouding over white I did try to close them he passed away in sleep in am I was rat shooting nearby farm got call to return to grans house hes gone so I had to tidy house and prep body fit for people to pay respects I had to bd very strong to do it j use reverse psychology turn a negative into a positive that helps me . As for burials in a wood casket your buried for 10 years then your dug up bones cleaned go in steel box and into a wall if casket was metal lined it's 20 years that's how South italy do it no cremation as we live in country love your content 👍🇬🇧🐾🦊💀
Dad died at home in New Zealand and they took him to the mortuary, did a “light embalming”, he back home again and hung out in his coffin in the living room before his funeral a few days later. Highly recommend
I feel a lot of acceptance must come from being so involved and to spend valuable time with your person at home. May be less traumatic for family and loved ones. I quite like the idea of my family sitting having a cuppa and a good ole natter while I lie stately in repose. @EXAnderson - I admire your attitude and honesty. My condolences for your Dad 🪽🪽
My friend owner a body shop and when he died , he was taken to the cemetery on a rollback . Another was taken on an 18 wheeler , yes , he owned a trucking company. I actually met the 18 wheeler ; I didn't even pull over because I didn't realize it was a funeral profession until I was almost at the hospital of the line . Those last few vehicles are just people who unfortunately got behind it. I love the idea of being put out in the woods .❤ Good video .
Writing from Southeast Tennessee USA. My husband and I have arranged for our bodies to be donated to medical research. We have chosen a very reputable non-profit organization that works with major medical schools. Remains usually after one year are cremated and either returned to the family or the facility has an interment area. Every year there is a gathering for the families to honor their loved one. We both believe in the US each state has it's laws and the funeral home industry has a strong political lobby to make laws. Amazing in 2023 the industry requires you to spend $10,000 to $15,000++ to place a body in the ground to decay. Make it simple. Allow your body to be used for training and research. In closing.........love you both in what you are doing. The way you present is so easy to understand. LOL I've even ordered on of your tee shirts...
Oh wow that's so very generous of you and your husband 💗 to give to others, so very special ❤️ yes it's very similar here in the University, cover the Cremation cost and have memorials every year. Oh my goodness how much 😲 that's so expensive and I think most people have to be embalmed in the USA that's another costly add on that's not needed with most bodies. 90% of my preparation are not embalmed. Wow hoo t-shirt 👕 yeah. We do hope the merch is good as we have had to source it out to an company as we could not keep up. We would love a photo to share on our Instagram if you are willing when your t-shirt arrived 😀 but no problem if you don't. Our email is areyoudyingtoknow@gmail.com Thank you so much for your kind words and support 🙏 have a wonderful weekend 💚💚
My sister and I flew our Mother's ashes(she was buckled in the seat next to us) from Connecticut to Seattle where we're from .Took her up to Mt Ranier with my Dad and brother.Found beautiful spot and threw her ashes down the mountain.Then we did the same for our Dad a few years later even though they had been divorced for 50 years , we got them back together❤ Were a cheeky bunch.
What a beautiful story 💞 thank you for sharing 🙏 love how cheeky you all were 😚 Mt Rainier is absolutely beautiful. Tracy here I have visited there many years ago loved the place. Take good care 💚💚
It's lovely how you give everyone this info . a very interesting vlog as always.. . most families are probably unaware about the choices they have.. and most funeral business's wouldn't promote that either! It's normally have this ,do that, buy this etc...
Just a word of praise: I only found your channel recently and have been watching and commenting. (I've been told that comments count with the algorithm.) Some of them were older, but you responded! Many thanks!
Here in the US. I believe you have to be embalmed if taken home . I know you dont have to be embalmed but you cannot have a public viewing. But they do allow a short family viewing. I can remember when I was growing up they would take people home for visitation. I mean for a 3 day and night too lol. Now in most cases there is a 2 hour visitation before the funeral and that is it. Times and people have changed so much over the past few years. I remember when there was always at least a 2 night visitation even at the funeral home. Ive said if I pass away in the morning have me in the ground before the sunsets the same day if possible. And on that note have a wonderful weekend beautiful ladies.
Hi there from over the ditch! Ive recently found your channel and found it interesting so I subscribed. 😁 Im a Māori girl, so Ive only ever known how we hold a tangi (funeral) as thats all I've ever been too. every tangi ive been too have either been held at home, where the body has been held for three maybe four days, then moved by the funeral directors or if it is at a Marae, the females carry the casket to the door then hand over to the males who then carry the tupapaku (deceased) to the car then we head to the burial site with everybody else following behind. Ive never not been to a funeral where the body hasnt been at home or with the family before burial. So its interesting to find out all this stuff. Love the videos ladies! Big love from NZ. ❤
Hi Dee Dee, welcome to the channel 😁. It's always very interesting to hear of other cultures and traditions and sounds such a beautiful way to celebrate a loved ones life 💞 Thank you so much for sharing, take good care over in beautiful New Zealand 💚💚
In the USA, viewings are usually public, not just for family. It’s still very common to have a viewing either the night before the funeral, or a couple of hours before the funeral starts. Friends, family, neighbors, and coworkers arrive at the funeral home for the open casket viewing. While embalming is not required by law, most funeral homes will not allow a public viewing unless the family agrees to embalming.
It’s sad here in the US there are no laws that say you have to be embalmed in most cases, but the funeral industry doesn’t inform the family. Here in my state we finally have one natural burial area. Sometimes they will even say you have to be embalmed before cremation. Luckily there is a big movement for the less chemicals the better. The first dead body I ever saw was my great grandfather who was laid in the drawing room until it was time for the burial. We normalized him being there. We did learn to be afraid of the dead guy in the other room. I wish there was more of that personal care and less chemicals these days. I’m glad you have that more available there.
I don’t like the idea of being embalmed when my time comes, but I also want a viewing. I know that for me, it’s an important part of the grieving and acceptance process. I want others to have that opportunity if they choose. I’m in the US. We normally have a funeral within a week. So you’re saying the body is ok for viewing without embalming in that time, as long as my local laws allow it? And what does an unembalmed body look like compared to an embalmed one? I’ve never seen one that wasn’t embalmed. Great video!
I’m in the USA and I don’t think I have ever been to a funeral or viewing where there was no embalming. I’m not saying I’m in favor one way or another, it’s just different! Thank you for sharing!
In the US each state has really different laws. For example, Louisiana allows 30 HOURS after death the body MUST be either embalmed or refrigerated. Hot plate? Cold plate? Both are unknown here, just say catering at a funeral home. We cremate: with no carcinogenic, toxic embalming fluid, going into the air or soil.
Very good video good to see you all again I live in Kentucky in the US and for her usually if someone died like today the funeral would take place 2 or 3 days later and to have a public viewing the funeral home requires that you have to be embalmed for a viewing because the funeral home says that they have to be so that they can control what happens after death because it would look bad on them if the mouth came open during service for example..
Hi thank you for sharing ☺️ But you don't need to be embalmed to keep the mouth closed. I don't embalm all my deceased mostly a natural preparation, during the preparation the mouth is suture closed so it won't open. Take care 😊💚
I resin craft work and am able to put ashes into pendants, keychain, bowls, ornaments and this is more common in the USA, but it is possible here as well.
I read somewhere that in Scandinavia they freeze dry you and then shake you about to turn you into coffee type granules, they then spread you on agricultural land to nourish the earth. Don't know if they still do it?
Question: Yesterday I attended the funeral of a dear lady who fought cancer for 3 years. I expected to see her very thin, gaunt, etc but I wasn’t expecting to see this very fair skinned lady with what looked like a spray on tan. Can you think of a reason why her body was prepared this way? Also, when I walked into the church the casket was open. Before the service started, they closed it and opened it once more as we were exiting the church so people could say their last goodbyes. Why do you think they would have closed it then opened it again? Thank you both for this channel. I’ve learned so much.
Hi, so very sorry of your loss 😔 cancer is an awful thing. Not sure why they made her skin darker than normal, most likely though it would look better 🤔 I think having the coffin closed during the service is possible to not district anyone during the service. Thank you for your question take care 💚💚
Look up Tokut Subo syndrome, called broken heart syndrome. Where the surviving spouse/animal, dies of a broken heart missin their partner/ human. Another thing could be: first dies cremated, 2nd passes, holding the urn in the casket.
In the Jewish faith, there is no embalming. The casket has to be made from unfinished wood and pegged together. Basically there should be nothing to impede the return of the body to the earth. Also, the funeral should take place within 24-36 hours, unless the death occurs just before the Sabbath. There is no viewing. The person should be remembered as they were when they were alive. We do sit "shiva" for a week after the death. This is when friends and family come by to sit with the mourners. (I don't want to say survivors.) They bring food and pray with the family and share special memories. The community comes together for the family. It really is a blessing. My husband died very suddenly. I don't think I would have gotten through if i had had to wait days for a service. I was in shock for weeks. My friends helped me get through it.
What things in a funeral home/mortuary/crematorium aspect have you done to accommodate someone's religion? Like has anyone told you "a female/male must be the one to work on the body" or anything extreme.
Hi, yes we have had requested for only a male or female to care for the body. If this happens we will certainly accommodate. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Now in the states, there is an increasing interest to have your cremated remains sprinkled in a forest. The forest is controlled in that there are pathways and square plots, and what you do is just sprinkle the cremains in that general area and somewhere along the path there is a metal sign that says the names and dates of the people that have been sprinkled there so if you want to kind of visit the loved one yeah you know exactly where to go so there’s no burial it’s just sprinkling and a lot of people are liking that because it’s right back into the Earth in the forest is lovely. It’s very lost a lovely.
I had a good laugh at your intro. It reminded me when I came to AU for the first time. I was introduced to some locals, who were kin to know me. I remember someone asking me : did you came here to-day? but with such a strong accent I understood, did you come here to die 😂😂😂 no!! I said, I’m here on holiday!! 😂😂😂😂😂 love Australia ❤❤
My mom recently passed and we purchased her coffin on line and had it shipped to the funeral home. Saved us a lot of money. Plus it was a beautiful coffin. ❤
I don’t want to be embalmed when I die, I live in New Zealand, do you know if it’s compulsory? I know there might be differences between NZ and ausy. By the way I watch your videos all the time I find it so interesting. I respect you Tracey for all the amazing things you do and the strength you must have to do your job
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚 I think you can request no embalming theses day. You make sure your family know what your wishes are. But let's hope that's not for many years yet. Take care 😊💚
My dad passed in March of this year in New Jersey and we didn’t embalm him but we also did closed casket. however, it was 6 days from the day he died to the day of the wake and the funeral director let us know that under no circumstances would it be possible for us to open the casket, for any reason. I didn’t ask but I’m assuming he was kept in cold storage all those days in between death and service but still, I guess once he was out of storage and in the casket that he would be changing pretty quickly.
Okay…I just spread a friend’s cremains this afternoon and I am watching this in the wee morning hours and at 12:50 (on the video time), over my shoulder I hear my name whispered…”Danny”. What the?!?!? Well, I had the presence of mind to back the video up a few seconds and there it was, on the video. Probably your air conditioner kicking on and the mic picked it up! I almost believed in ghosts for a moment! 😂
🎉my mum died in 2015, from Alzheimer, but for some reason didn't have her funeral for 13 days as the viewing she wasn't set her hands were up above her tummy her fingers were spread apart she also had a dent in her nose, her head wasn't flat it was up as if she was trying to sit up can embalming cause this we couldn't get any answer from the funeral home into why.
We are both very sorry you lost your mum 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 It's sounds to me like a lack of attention to detail. Not positioning her head and hands correctly, sometimes the pillow can be to thick and needs adjusting. As for the dint in the nose I can't say for sure. Sorry I can not be more helpful. Take good care 💚💚
Do you know why in New Zealand it’s so common for people to be embalmed? Interesting about the different ways you can use ashes. My mum and my nana have my grandad in a ring and it’s really special. I feel him when my nana gives me a hug and pats me on the back. It’s quite powerful.
Hi Harry, I think it's because most families take their loved ones home for a few days. I have heard it's changing a bit and you can request not to be embalmed. That so special you feel your grandad around 💚💚
I actually have familial ties to the Funeral industry through my Father and Grandfather who were professional grave diggers with Shovels, Picks, Pry Bars, and Wheelbarrows. Due to the cemeteries in our area, stand sized excavators are prohibited from use, because of the potential damage to the monuments , and the 19th century design of the cemeteries in the area. Officially, they would have been known as Sextons.
i wanted to be "shown'' at home on my couch (sitting, with sunglasses on....the eyes can be weird) but the funeral home said no that i couldn't do that.....i still think i can!!! but they just are out for their money!
Hmm...I know you're not working in a crematorium, but I wonder if you may have a clue on this. Or perhaps if you do another video with a cremator in the future, could you ask them? So I'm an archaeologist, I once worked in a field right next to a crematorium. Although they have huge filters, you could still smell a lot. And there were...how can I put it...different distinct flavours each time they were using the oven. 🙈I was wondering whether it was due to the materials of the coffin, or the state of the body (state of decay, embalmed or not etc), or whether some had been on strong medication. I must admit that I was not really feeling like eating my sandwiches at lunchtime, luckily I was only there for a couple of days.
Tracy sounds like a Newcastle/geordie to me??? I am English!!! I made my own scatter tube, just put nice paper around a pringles tube!! I'm going in the stream, where I live!!! Who knows where I'll end up!!!😂😂😂Xxx
My only local "natural burial" cemetery only permits wicker caskets (no wood coffins), plants and other grave markers of any kind are not permitted, and visitors are not allowed at grave sites, just on the gravel trails. All those regulations for 2x the price of other cemeteries. No thanks.
Buying a coffin online sounds good. Funeral homes charge so much. They're not regulated. We all know that now. They won't give u the less expensive option 1st it's straight to top shelf.
I clean my local church and that's one thing that I have noticed that the time between a person dying and the funeral is getting longer. When my mum died she was buried 10 days after she had died (October 2011) and now its 3/4+ weeks I'm not sure if its a Shropshire (England) thing or if its just naturally getting longer
Hi, yes in the UK it is becoming longer for a funeral to take place. I think it's down to the vast population of such a small island lots of people and probably not enough funeral companies to cope with it, that's just my opinion. Take care 💚
What about the gas build up usually during embalming you use a trocar to aspirate above the naval, and into the cavity and sinceit would not be embalming wouldn’t the gases gurgling, sounds, etc. would you seal the mouth, nose, ears and eyes,? etc. etc.
In the old days in the US and they had home funerals the body would be draped in what they call a Mourning Vail. Some of them are real elaborate and have embroidery on them with the name or a poem.
There are policies and procedures to try to keep people from scattering ashes at Disney World. Apparently it's very common, and there's a code word announcement for it.
Hi, embalm slows down and changes the process of decomposition. When embalmed the body it is dried out there for the body will decompose slowly into a more powder state over time without the awful smell of an un-embalmed body that will liquify and produce the gasses that you can smell. This is the reason the body needs to be embalmed in an above ground vault, so you won't smell the decomposition and liquid won't flow out of the vault. Thank you for your question take care 😊❤️
Are there any rules in Australia. The funeral industry is full of unscrupulous operators. It's good that you ladies are telling us our rights. Bcos we are led to believe the funeral directors are following protocol, when in fact its not the case. The dishonesty is in the omission of info.
Hi, unfortunately the Australian funeral industry is unregulated and there is no licensing system for funeral directors and/or embalmers. So anyone can open a funeral home making for some unscrupulous operations unfortunately 😞 Here in Australia we are fighting to have it regulated. We do have to follow our local government laws and regulations. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Yr talking about minimal involvement with funeral homes. Does that only apply to those whos family organise the arrangements or can u set up your own funeral to be mostly DYI?
Anyone here in Australia can care for their own loved one and organised the funeral. You don't need to have a funeral home care for your loved ones, we are merely the caretakers ❤️
Very informative today. I'm being buried however I do like the idea of ashes being pressed into a vinyl record....the track listing would be the hardest to choose however ashes to ashes by David Bowie would be mandatory 😅 luv ya work T n T ❤❤
My MIL died in Texas but wanted to be buried next to her husband in California. She was embalmed and flown to CA. They packed her casket with many cold packs surrounding her. She arrived cool as a cucumber in good shape.
why did you say we cna't wash the body? when my step son died, and then suprinsly when my dog died and i unethanised and buried him at home, i alwsy said i'd prepare and bury my daughter if she passed young/before me. however, dressing her after she's been wash is almost pointless to me if i wasn't the one who washed and prepared her
www.everdear.com.au/?gclid=CjwKCAjw67ajBhAVEiwA2g_jEFwC4rbiuoZvvuKHYpcZM9QOaMk3SKxIpUoAnQxKWk4kD85sjRXqYBoCwuwQAvD_BwE I have attached the link above tells you how ashes are used in diamonds. Yip it's a thing, we know diamonds take million of years to make natural. Thanks for your question take care 💚
Hi, if a person has left their body to science we only hold them for a day or 2 without touching them. This is because the University has to do some paperwork on checks to see it the body is ok to take for research. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Would it affect the gas build up if the deceased had been without food for a day or so? I know with cancer patients they usually lose their appetite before death and alzheimer too, because they actually forget how to eat.
Hi, not to sure but gas build up is the body naturally breaking down and a lot of factors take place for this to happen. So times vary from deceased all the time. Thank you for your question take care 💚💚
Hi, the funeral home delivers the deseased person in the coffin/casket to the family home, then we pick them up a day or two later to take them to the funeral services. Thanks for you question take care 😊💚
Hi Tracy, the funeral home delivers the body home in a coffin or casket. Then after the stay at home the funeral home will pick up the coffin/casket to them go onto the funeral service 💚💚
Hi, I never heard of it been done in a funeral home so not sure sorry. Think it's very specific and specialised skill to have. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
I really want to visit Australia 🇦🇺 and get to know some fine friends whom I haven't had the pleasure of meeting yet! After my health is stabilized and I have begun to pursue my career goals, I plan on visiting Australia for the very first time. In fact, this will be my first time traveling outside of the continental United States 🇺🇸 🇺🇲 Of America 🇺🇸 🇺🇲, which for the record will alw😢be my Homeland, despite the politicians and politics. My Ancestry is actually Western European/British Isles, so I 🤷 will connecting with my sweet, interesting people of my Ancestry. I would appreciate any advice on places to visit and things to experience, especially ✨️ off of the beaten path places and people who make your country interesting 😊 😉 😀 and unique 😀 ❤😊😅. I would definitely enjoy meeting up with you ladies for a cup of coffee ☕️ or tea 🍵 😊 😉 😀 😘 ❤🎉 I think that the three or more of us could have a great conversation about everything 😊 😀 😉 😄 ❤🎉
Traveling the world will be a wonderful thing to do. So many places to see and do can begin to write it all down 😊 thank you for your kind words you just never know who you will meet on your travels 💚💚
I don't think i can see any of the way your country does there funerals and do you have to have at vault when a person is buried and the only type of cardboard boxes are uae is when a person is cremated
No not everyone, if someone fails to be accepted to the body donor program, a funeral home chosen by the family of the deceased will care for them until a funeral has been arranged. 💚
We prepared a husband and wife who died within days of each other and they had matching wicker coffins. I do believe that some people (and animals) die of a broken heart
Hi Mandy, yes we do believe that too. You will find the longer your in the industry you will see many more couple come through together or days apart it's more common than people think. Take care lovely 💚💚
@mindyg943: I know I’d die of a broken heart if my mom passed. We’re very close and a lady I knew passed away when her mom passed away. So I already bought my plot and head marker. My beloved dad has gone to be with the Lord and 8 months later im still a mess💔
Yes, it is called Takotsubo cardiomyopathy. Basically the pumping function is significantly reduced because of some sort of stressor.
- I'm stunned, a little uncomfortable, and amazed you can take the person home for a couple days! Trying to imagine being able to do that with my mom... Would've given me time to fully understand, as her sudden and traumatic loss left me in a PTSD state of "what happened, where did she go?" Here in America I think if you died at home you can stay there for a bit, do a home viewing, but i have no idea if someone can be TAKEN home.
- in America it's widely mistakenly believed that you HAVE TO be embalmed. I'm glad people like Caitlin Doughty/Ask a Mortician are spreading the word that that's not true. It can be a beautiful thing in helping people accept the loss and say goodbye if a funeral has to be delayed, but I wish there could be a way where the chemicals weren't so hazardous to both the embalmer and the ground.
Thank you for sharing 🙏 hope you are doing ok. It's always so hard when we lose someone so suddenly especially your mum 😔 big hugs and take care 💚💚
A Teenager from a different state died in our intensive care unit. The family wrapped him in a blanket and took him back home to his home state. To Which I say good for them.
My beloved Mum passed away on 28 November 2022 after a long battle against cancer. I had a beautiful ring made from gold with an inner band filled with coloured crushed opals, resin and some of her ashes ~ I chose purple for the opals and you can clearly see the ashes in the resin. I truly love it and plan to have a necklace & pendent made the same 💜
Oh wow thank you for sharing 🙏 that's so very special 💜💜
Im so sorry for your loss. That is so beautiful! I wish my mom was ok w that. She flat said no before she passed.
My granpa we had his body in South italy in house for 3 days his eyes was clouding over white I did try to close them he passed away in sleep in am I was rat shooting nearby farm got call to return to grans house hes gone so I had to tidy house and prep body fit for people to pay respects I had to bd very strong to do it j use reverse psychology turn a negative into a positive that helps me . As for burials in a wood casket your buried for 10 years then your dug up bones cleaned go in steel box and into a wall if casket was metal lined it's 20 years that's how South italy do it no cremation as we live in country love your content 👍🇬🇧🐾🦊💀
Very interesting to learn how you do things - thanks!⭐
That would have been stressful and difficult for you 😔💜
Dad died at home in New Zealand and they took him to the mortuary, did a “light embalming”, he back home again and hung out in his coffin in the living room before his funeral a few days later. Highly recommend
Also was able to do Mums make up which was lovely.
That's a beautiful thing, to be involved like that 💖
I feel a lot of acceptance must come from being so involved and to spend valuable time with your person at home. May be less traumatic for family and loved ones. I quite like the idea of my family sitting having a cuppa and a good ole natter while I lie stately in repose. @EXAnderson - I admire your attitude and honesty. My condolences for your Dad 🪽🪽
My friend owner a body shop and when he died , he was taken to the cemetery on a rollback . Another was taken on an 18 wheeler , yes , he owned a trucking company. I actually met the 18 wheeler ; I didn't even pull over because I didn't realize it was a funeral profession until I was almost at the hospital of the line . Those last few vehicles are just people who unfortunately got behind it. I love the idea of being put out in the woods .❤
Good video .
Hi Francis 👋 hope you are well. Thank you so much for sharing your story 💚💚
I love listening to you two talk death and funerals. Between you, Keri and Caitlin, I was prepared when it was my turn to arrange
Thank you Steve 😊💚😬
Writing from Southeast Tennessee USA. My husband and I have arranged for our bodies to be donated to medical research. We have chosen a very reputable non-profit organization that works with major medical schools. Remains usually after one year are cremated and either returned to the family or the facility has an interment area. Every year there is a gathering for the families to honor their loved one. We both believe in the US each state has it's laws and the funeral home industry has a strong political lobby to make laws. Amazing in 2023 the industry requires you to spend $10,000 to $15,000++ to place a body in the ground to decay. Make it simple. Allow your body to be used for training and research. In closing.........love you both in what you are doing. The way you present is so easy to understand. LOL I've even ordered on of your tee shirts...
Oh wow that's so very generous of you and your husband 💗 to give to others, so very special ❤️ yes it's very similar here in the University, cover the Cremation cost and have memorials every year. Oh my goodness how much 😲 that's so expensive and I think most people have to be embalmed in the USA that's another costly add on that's not needed with most bodies. 90% of my preparation are not embalmed.
Wow hoo t-shirt 👕 yeah. We do hope the merch is good as we have had to source it out to an company as we could not keep up. We would love a photo to share on our Instagram if you are willing when your t-shirt arrived 😀 but no problem if you don't. Our email is areyoudyingtoknow@gmail.com
Thank you so much for your kind words and support 🙏 have a wonderful weekend 💚💚
My sister and I flew our Mother's ashes(she was buckled in the seat next to us) from Connecticut to Seattle where we're from .Took her up to Mt Ranier with my Dad and brother.Found beautiful spot and threw her ashes down the mountain.Then we did the same for our Dad a few years later even though they had been divorced for 50 years , we got them back together❤ Were a cheeky bunch.
What a beautiful story 💞 thank you for sharing 🙏 love how cheeky you all were 😚 Mt Rainier is absolutely beautiful. Tracy here I have visited there many years ago loved the place.
Take good care 💚💚
The top of Mt.Rainer is a popular release stop of ashes. I want to be cremated and my ash scattered at Mt.St.Helens.
It's lovely how you give everyone this info .
a very interesting vlog as always..
. most families are probably unaware about the choices they have.. and most funeral business's wouldn't promote that either! It's normally have this ,do that, buy this etc...
Thank you Amanda, 😘💚💚
Just a word of praise: I only found your channel recently and have been watching and commenting. (I've been told that comments count with the algorithm.) Some of them were older, but you responded! Many thanks!
Aww thanks Elizabeth, that's lovely of you to consider us and the algorithm 💚 we are happy you found us!
Tracy seems to be so sweet, and I must say say she Is beautiful! Thank you for sharing and educating all of us!
Awww that's so very kind of you to say thank you 🥰❤️❤️
You guys are great. The videos show how much dignity you give the deceased. Good on you. And I learned something new today.
Thanks for such positive feedback 💙
Hi Tracey and Trish!So Glad you shared this video!Love from me in South Africa🌻💟🌻
Thank you have a fantastic weekend out in beautiful South Africa 💚💚
Here in the US. I believe you have to be embalmed if taken home . I know you dont have to be embalmed but you cannot have a public viewing. But they do allow a short family viewing. I can remember when I was growing up they would take people home for visitation. I mean for a 3 day and night too lol. Now in most cases there is a 2 hour visitation before the funeral and that is it. Times and people have changed so much over the past few years. I remember when there was always at least a 2 night visitation even at the funeral home. Ive said if I pass away in the morning have me in the ground before the sunsets the same day if possible. And on that note have a wonderful weekend beautiful ladies.
Thank you for sharing George ☺️ lots of stuff has changed in and around the industry. You have a great week 😁 take care 💚💚
Hi there from over the ditch! Ive recently found your channel and found it interesting so I subscribed. 😁 Im a Māori girl, so Ive only ever known how we hold a tangi (funeral) as thats all I've ever been too. every tangi ive been too have either been held at home, where the body has been held for three maybe four days, then moved by the funeral directors or if it is at a Marae, the females carry the casket to the door then hand over to the males who then carry the tupapaku (deceased) to the car then we head to the burial site with everybody else following behind. Ive never not been to a funeral where the body hasnt been at home or with the family before burial. So its interesting to find out all this stuff.
Love the videos ladies!
Big love from NZ. ❤
Hi Dee Dee, welcome to the channel 😁. It's always very interesting to hear of other cultures and traditions and sounds such a beautiful way to celebrate a loved ones life 💞
Thank you so much for sharing, take good care over in beautiful New Zealand 💚💚
Love how Maoris have their funerals. So spiritual & natural.
In the USA, viewings are usually public, not just for family. It’s still very common to have a viewing either the night before the funeral, or a couple of hours before the funeral starts. Friends, family, neighbors, and coworkers arrive at the funeral home for the open casket viewing. While embalming is not required by law, most funeral homes will not allow a public viewing unless the family agrees to embalming.
Hi, Lee that you for sharing. Take care 💚
It’s sad here in the US there are no laws that say you have to be embalmed in most cases, but the funeral industry doesn’t inform the family. Here in my state we finally have one natural burial area. Sometimes they will even say you have to be embalmed before cremation. Luckily there is a big movement for the less chemicals the better. The first dead body I ever saw was my great grandfather who was laid in the drawing room until it was time for the burial. We normalized him being there. We did learn to be afraid of the dead guy in the other room. I wish there was more of that personal care and less chemicals these days. I’m glad you have that more available there.
Thanks Groovy for sharing that with us - I think the options are slowly opening up around the world but its a slow process xx
I only came across your channel yesterday and I’m obsessed thank you for making these ❤
Hi, welcome to the channel 😁
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I don’t like the idea of being embalmed when my time comes, but I also want a viewing. I know that for me, it’s an important part of the grieving and acceptance process. I want others to have that opportunity if they choose.
I’m in the US. We normally have a funeral within a week. So you’re saying the body is ok for viewing without embalming in that time, as long as my local laws allow it? And what does an unembalmed body look like compared to an embalmed one? I’ve never seen one that wasn’t embalmed.
Great video!
We might do a vid on this. Good Q. Xx
I’m in the USA and I don’t think I have ever been to a funeral or viewing where there was no embalming. I’m not saying I’m in favor one way or another, it’s just different! Thank you for sharing!
Hi, yes we don't do a lot of Embalming here in Queensland Australia, really no need. Thank you for your comments take care ❤️❤️
In the US each state has really different laws. For example, Louisiana allows 30 HOURS after death the body MUST be either embalmed or refrigerated. Hot plate? Cold plate? Both are unknown here, just say catering at a funeral home. We cremate: with no carcinogenic, toxic embalming fluid, going into the air or soil.
Hi, thank you for sharing, take care 💚
very interesting! I never heard of a cold plate that is used for the deceased...thanks for the educational video once again ladies!
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it's always nice to know what going to happen to your loved one also a piece of .mind
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Very good video good to see you all again I live in Kentucky in the US and for her usually if someone died like today the funeral would take place 2 or 3 days later and to have a public viewing the funeral home requires that you have to be embalmed for a viewing because the funeral home says that they have to be so that they can control what happens after death because it would look bad on them if the mouth came open during service for example..
Hi thank you for sharing ☺️
But you don't need to be embalmed to keep the mouth closed. I don't embalm all my deceased mostly a natural preparation, during the preparation the mouth is suture closed so it won't open.
Take care 😊💚
I resin craft work and am able to put ashes into pendants, keychain, bowls, ornaments and this is more common in the USA, but it is possible here as well.
Yes it is ❤️
I read somewhere that in Scandinavia they freeze dry you and then shake you about to turn you into coffee type granules, they then spread you on agricultural land to nourish the earth. Don't know if they still do it?
Oh wow never heard of that. Thank you for sharing 💚💚
Question: Yesterday I attended the funeral of a dear lady who fought cancer for 3 years. I expected to see her very thin, gaunt, etc but I wasn’t expecting to see this very fair skinned lady with what looked like a spray on tan. Can you think of a reason why her body was prepared this way? Also, when I walked into the church the casket was open. Before the service started, they closed it and opened it once more as we were exiting the church so people could say their last goodbyes. Why do you think they would have closed it then opened it again? Thank you both for this channel. I’ve learned so much.
Hi, so very sorry of your loss 😔 cancer is an awful thing. Not sure why they made her skin darker than normal, most likely though it would look better 🤔
I think having the coffin closed during the service is possible to not district anyone during the service. Thank you for your question take care 💚💚
Look up Tokut Subo syndrome, called broken heart syndrome. Where the surviving spouse/animal, dies of a broken heart missin their partner/ human.
Another thing could be: first dies cremated, 2nd passes, holding the urn in the casket.
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In the Jewish faith, there is no embalming. The casket has to be made from unfinished wood and pegged together. Basically there should be nothing to impede the return of the body to the earth. Also, the funeral should take place within 24-36 hours, unless the death occurs just before the Sabbath. There is no viewing. The person should be remembered as they were when they were alive. We do sit "shiva" for a week after the death. This is when friends and family come by to sit with the mourners. (I don't want to say survivors.) They bring food and pray with the family and share special memories. The community comes together for the family. It really is a blessing. My husband died very suddenly. I don't think I would have gotten through if i had had to wait days for a service. I was in shock for weeks. My friends helped me get through it.
Thank you for sharing! Very interesting. We are so sorry you lost your husband under such circumstances. Sending love xx
What things in a funeral home/mortuary/crematorium aspect have you done to accommodate someone's religion? Like has anyone told you "a female/male must be the one to work on the body" or anything extreme.
Hi, yes we have had requested for only a male or female to care for the body. If this happens we will certainly accommodate. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Now in the states, there is an increasing interest to have your cremated remains sprinkled in a forest. The forest is controlled in that there are pathways and square plots, and what you do is just sprinkle the cremains in that general area and somewhere along the path there is a metal sign that says the names and dates of the people that have been sprinkled there so if you want to kind of visit the loved one yeah you know exactly where to go so there’s no burial it’s just sprinkling and a lot of people are liking that because it’s right back into the Earth in the forest is lovely. It’s very lost a lovely.
Sounds like a very peaceful place to visit 🤗 thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
I had a good laugh at your intro. It reminded me when I came to AU for the first time. I was introduced to some locals, who were kin to know me. I remember someone asking me : did you came here to-day? but with such a strong accent I understood, did you come here to die 😂😂😂 no!! I said, I’m here on holiday!! 😂😂😂😂😂 love Australia ❤❤
🤣🤣🙃 thank you for sharing. We love Australia too 🦘💚💚
My mom recently passed and we purchased her coffin on line and had it shipped to the funeral home. Saved us a lot of money. Plus it was a beautiful coffin. ❤
Hi, lots of people do that theses days. Costco is a good place to buy them also. Thank you for sharing ☺️❤️❤️
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I don’t want to be embalmed when I die, I live in New Zealand, do you know if it’s compulsory? I know there might be differences between NZ and ausy. By the way I watch your videos all the time I find it so interesting. I respect you Tracey for all the amazing things you do and the strength you must have to do your job
Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💚
I think you can request no embalming theses day. You make sure your family know what your wishes are. But let's hope that's not for many years yet. Take care 😊💚
My dad passed in March of this year in New Jersey and we didn’t embalm him but we also did closed casket. however, it was 6 days from the day he died to the day of the wake and the funeral director let us know that under no circumstances would it be possible for us to open the casket, for any reason. I didn’t ask but I’m assuming he was kept in cold storage all those days in between death and service but still, I guess once he was out of storage and in the casket that he would be changing pretty quickly.
Oh no we are so very sorry to hear you recently lost your dad 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Hope you and your family are doing well 🙏💚💚
Okay…I just spread a friend’s cremains this afternoon and I am watching this in the wee morning hours and at 12:50 (on the video time), over my shoulder I hear my name whispered…”Danny”. What the?!?!?
Well, I had the presence of mind to back the video up a few seconds and there it was, on the video. Probably your air conditioner kicking on and the mic picked it up!
I almost believed in ghosts for a moment! 😂
👻👻 sorry to give you a scare. And sorry also for your loss 💕
THANKS YOU GOODNESS 🌟🌟 DAPHNE COTTON ALWAYS 💜
You are so welcome! ❤️❤️
🎉my mum died in 2015, from Alzheimer, but for some reason didn't have her funeral for 13 days as the viewing she wasn't set her hands were up above her tummy her fingers were spread apart she also had a dent in her nose, her head wasn't flat it was up as if she was trying to sit up can embalming cause this we couldn't get any answer from the funeral home into why.
We are both very sorry you lost your mum 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
It's sounds to me like a lack of attention to detail. Not positioning her head and hands correctly, sometimes the pillow can be to thick and needs adjusting. As for the dint in the nose I can't say for sure. Sorry I can not be more helpful. Take good care 💚💚
Do you know why in New Zealand it’s so common for people to be embalmed? Interesting about the different ways you can use ashes. My mum and my nana have my grandad in a ring and it’s really special. I feel him when my nana gives me a hug and pats me on the back. It’s quite powerful.
Hi Harry, I think it's because most families take their loved ones home for a few days. I have heard it's changing a bit and you can request not to be embalmed. That so special you feel your grandad around 💚💚
I actually have familial ties to the Funeral industry through my Father and Grandfather who were professional grave diggers with Shovels, Picks, Pry Bars, and Wheelbarrows. Due to the cemeteries in our area, stand sized excavators are prohibited from use, because of the potential damage to the monuments , and the 19th century design of the cemeteries in the area. Officially, they would have been known as Sextons.
Hi thank for sharing 😊 yes that's right the good old sextons 💚
Cardboard box, heard called an air tray, to cover the casket when it is flown home- repatriated.
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I don’t want to do anything with any of my relatives.i think it’s wonderful for those who do it for the relatives.i think I would be traumatized.
Everyone is different ❤️❤️
Nicely explained true facts, well done 👏
Thank you so much 😊💚
i wanted to be "shown'' at home on my couch (sitting, with sunglasses on....the eyes can be weird) but the funeral home said no that i couldn't do that.....i still think i can!!! but they just are out for their money!
You should definitely look into all that seriously and lock in your wishes 🙏💚
Loving the information as well as your hair etc 💕
Thank you so much 💚💚
Hmm...I know you're not working in a crematorium, but I wonder if you may have a clue on this. Or perhaps if you do another video with a cremator in the future, could you ask them?
So I'm an archaeologist, I once worked in a field right next to a crematorium. Although they have huge filters, you could still smell a lot. And there were...how can I put it...different distinct flavours each time they were using the oven. 🙈I was wondering whether it was due to the materials of the coffin, or the state of the body (state of decay, embalmed or not etc), or whether some had been on strong medication.
I must admit that I was not really feeling like eating my sandwiches at lunchtime, luckily I was only there for a couple of days.
Thanks. We will find out for you, and do a video, but we haven't had this experience.💜
Awesome info as usual you ladies never dissapoint❤
Thank you so much Natalie 💚💚
Tracy sounds like a Newcastle/geordie to me??? I am English!!! I made my own scatter tube, just put nice paper around a pringles tube!! I'm going in the stream, where I live!!! Who knows where I'll end up!!!😂😂😂Xxx
🤣🤣 dissolved very quickly at the bottom of the stream if it's from a Pringles box, but like your idea 💡
Yes I am from Stanley Co Durham 😊🩵
My only local "natural burial" cemetery only permits wicker caskets (no wood coffins), plants and other grave markers of any kind are not permitted, and visitors are not allowed at grave sites, just on the gravel trails. All those regulations for 2x the price of other cemeteries. No thanks.
Thanks for sharing
Buying a coffin online sounds good. Funeral homes charge so much. They're not regulated. We all know that now. They won't give u the less expensive option 1st it's straight to top shelf.
I clean my local church and that's one thing that I have noticed that the time between a person dying and the funeral is getting longer. When my mum died she was buried 10 days after she had died (October 2011) and now its 3/4+ weeks I'm not sure if its a Shropshire (England) thing or if its just naturally getting longer
Hi, yes in the UK it is becoming longer for a funeral to take place. I think it's down to the vast population of such a small island lots of people and probably not enough funeral companies to cope with it, that's just my opinion. Take care 💚
What about the gas build up usually during embalming you use a trocar to aspirate above the naval, and into the cavity and sinceit would not be embalming wouldn’t the gases gurgling, sounds, etc. would you seal the mouth, nose, ears and eyes,? etc. etc.
Hi, we have many videos on theses subject, check them out 👍😊
I'm surprised you can take them home this is something I will look into when the time comes.
In the old days in the US and they had home funerals the body would be draped in what they call a Mourning Vail. Some of them are real elaborate and have embroidery on them with the name or a poem.
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Cool info, tysm ladies ❤
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Great info guys , thank you ❤❤❤
Thanks Andy 😘💚💚
Hi ladies good to see you both again .
Thank you 😊💚
Love your videos but this one was just AMAZING
Thank you so much 🙏💚💚
There are policies and procedures to try to keep people from scattering ashes at Disney World. Apparently it's very common, and there's a code word announcement for it.
Yes, the behind the scenes Disneyland facts are really interesting - thanks for sharing ♥️
So a home wake is unusual in Oz? As opposed to Ireland for example?
It's not the norm, no, unless the family are from the island nations or NZ and then it's a common cultural practice.🙂
Why is embalming needed for above ground? No proper ventilation? It slows it down, but we will rot.
Hi, embalm slows down and changes the process of decomposition. When embalmed the body it is dried out there for the body will decompose slowly into a more powder state over time without the awful smell of an un-embalmed body that will liquify and produce the gasses that you can smell. This is the reason the body needs to be embalmed in an above ground vault, so you won't smell the decomposition and liquid won't flow out of the vault. Thank you for your question take care 😊❤️
I have had the ashes of my dogs Rosie and Sparkie put in a glass rainbow bridge. When the sun shines on it, the prisms are beautiful x 🌈
How beautiful 😍💚💚
Awwww so sad but nice to know. Hi girls:)
Love your channel ♥♥
Thank you so much Donna 💚💚
Are there any rules in Australia. The funeral industry is full of unscrupulous operators. It's good that you ladies are telling us our rights. Bcos we are led to believe the funeral directors are following protocol, when in fact its not the case. The dishonesty is in the omission of info.
Hi, unfortunately the Australian funeral industry is unregulated and there is no licensing system for funeral directors and/or embalmers. So anyone can open a funeral home making for some unscrupulous operations unfortunately 😞
Here in Australia we are fighting to have it regulated. We do have to follow our local government laws and regulations. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Loving it as always you guys! ❤
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Really interesting,
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My mum had a horse and carriage was beautiful
That's so special 🤗❤️❤️
Love you guys 😊 Watch from Scotland 🏴
Could you please lower the camera view a bit so you're not looking up 😊
Hi out in beautiful Scotland 💚
See what we can do 😉
Yr talking about minimal involvement with funeral homes. Does that only apply to those whos family organise the arrangements or can u set up your own funeral to be mostly DYI?
Anyone here in Australia can care for their own loved one and organised the funeral. You don't need to have a funeral home care for your loved ones, we are merely the caretakers ❤️
Very informative today. I'm being buried however I do like the idea of ashes being pressed into a vinyl record....the track listing would be the hardest to choose however ashes to ashes by David Bowie would be mandatory 😅 luv ya work T n T ❤❤
😂😂 thank you for making us laugh, we love that 💚💚
A lot of my family have been dying recently. Looks like I might be the last one standing. That’s a bit weird.
Oooh no sorry to hear that 😔
Take good care 💚
In the us you have to be embalmed if your gonna have a viewing and it's not common to have funerals at home to me that spooky
Thanks for sharing Thai, take care 💚
My MIL died in Texas but wanted to be buried next to her husband in California. She was embalmed and flown to CA. They packed her casket with many cold packs surrounding her. She arrived cool as a cucumber in good shape.
Thank you for sharing take care ❤️
why did you say we cna't wash the body? when my step son died, and then suprinsly when my dog died and i unethanised and buried him at home, i alwsy said i'd prepare and bury my daughter if she passed young/before me. however, dressing her after she's been wash is almost pointless to me if i wasn't the one who washed and prepared her
Never said you can not wash the body ?
I wish Canada would have the same attitudes as you guys, in Australia
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Very interesting, thank you
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How can you make a diamond from cremated remains? Is it a real diamond or something that looks like one?
www.everdear.com.au/?gclid=CjwKCAjw67ajBhAVEiwA2g_jEFwC4rbiuoZvvuKHYpcZM9QOaMk3SKxIpUoAnQxKWk4kD85sjRXqYBoCwuwQAvD_BwE
I have attached the link above tells you how ashes are used in diamonds. Yip it's a thing, we know diamonds take million of years to make natural.
Thanks for your question take care 💚
The things you learn
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Me Da's friends dressed him and put him in his coffin, they talked to him and apologized when they had to step over him.
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Thanks guys.
Just wondering what if the deceased has said they want to be left to science? ❤
Hi, if a person has left their body to science we only hold them for a day or 2 without touching them. This is because the University has to do some paperwork on checks to see it the body is ok to take for research. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
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Would it affect the gas build up if the deceased had been without food for a day or so? I know with cancer patients they usually lose their appetite before death and alzheimer too, because they actually forget how to eat.
Hi, not to sure but gas build up is the body naturally breaking down and a lot of factors take place for this to happen. So times vary from deceased all the time. Thank you for your question take care 💚💚
In Holland, embalming is forbidden!
Wow that's fascinating, never knew that. Thank you for sharing 💚💚
Hi! I was curious if you've ever assisted or otherwise been involved with law enforcement?
Hi, no I haven't. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Funerals are for the living. Not the deceased.
So the family can celebrate the life of that person 🙏💚
Corrugated is not cardboard.
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Curious… You say in your country the family can take the body home. How do they get the body to their home?
Hi, the funeral home delivers the deseased person in the coffin/casket to the family home, then we pick them up a day or two later to take them to the funeral services. Thanks for you question take care 😊💚
Who brings the body home ? Funeral company ? Casketed or in a bed ?
Hi Tracy, the funeral home delivers the body home in a coffin or casket. Then after the stay at home the funeral home will pick up the coffin/casket to them go onto the funeral service 💚💚
People hear my Boston accent and ask if I am from Australia 😂
Really that's so funny, maybe you listen to us to much 🤣🤣💚💚
Good evening ladies, , I've recently seen a program about plastination ., can a body be plastinated for burial instead of embalming..
Hi, I never heard of it been done in a funeral home so not sure sorry. Think it's very specific and specialised skill to have. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
No embalming if cremating?
The two things arent mutually exclusive, no. You can embalm if the service cant be held for a while or the body is travelling overseas then cremate
Yay Brizzy I’m from Narangba
Woo hoo 🙌 not far from us at all 💚💚
What if they wanted to be fed to wild crocs
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Who transports the deceased home ?
We do the funeral home 💚
I really want to visit Australia 🇦🇺 and get to know some fine friends whom I haven't had the pleasure of meeting yet! After my health is stabilized and I have begun to pursue my career goals, I plan on visiting Australia for the very first time. In fact, this will be my first time traveling outside of the continental United States 🇺🇸 🇺🇲 Of America 🇺🇸 🇺🇲, which for the record will alw😢be my Homeland, despite the politicians and politics. My Ancestry is actually Western European/British Isles, so I 🤷 will connecting with my sweet, interesting people of my Ancestry. I would appreciate any advice on places to visit and things to experience, especially ✨️ off of the beaten path places and people who make your country interesting 😊 😉 😀 and unique 😀 ❤😊😅. I would definitely enjoy meeting up with you ladies for a cup of coffee ☕️ or tea 🍵 😊 😉 😀 😘 ❤🎉 I think that the three or more of us could have a great conversation about everything 😊 😀 😉 😄 ❤🎉
Traveling the world will be a wonderful thing to do. So many places to see and do can begin to write it all down 😊 thank you for your kind words you just never know who you will meet on your travels 💚💚
I don't think i can see any of the way your country does there funerals and do you have to have at vault when a person is buried and the only type of cardboard boxes are uae is when a person is cremated
Most burials are under ground. Very different in other countries.
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Is every body donated to science accepted as a cadava?
No not everyone, if someone fails to be accepted to the body donor program, a funeral home chosen by the family of the deceased will care for them until a funeral has been arranged. 💚
Bury in backyard?
Will have to check that one out 🤔 xx
That could be tricky, due to restrictive caveats on the title deeds for the property or land.
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@@Areyoudyingtoknow 🤣🤣 I loved that!
@@Areyoudyingtoknow my cousins are from Darlington so I get it lol!
Glad you understand 😉 I am dyslexic as well as I can't pronounce properly too 🤦♀️ 🥴🙃💚