The Collapse Of A Narcissist
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I left my husband after 14 years of marriage. I couldn't take it anymore.
totally
Their is no cure for narcissism. Run for your lives
Imagine that they are your sister. Imagine 50 years of dealing with a high level narc. 40 years of NC now. Imagine a 50 year smear campaign. Imagine suing your own mother to make her destitute. Imagine they are a patholigical liar. Imagine greed rules their life. Why does god allow them to ruin peoples lives?
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Like alcoholism or anything else. You cant change other people, just yourself. The thing that can change them is themselves and rock bottom.
I totally agree with you on that and I did run
"No don't need to run from where am at, God is on my side"! 🙏🙏🙏
The thing that gives me more fun it's seeing narcissists thinking they are playing with me and they are just playing their misery.
I figured out my sister in my thirties. Front that point on, when she treated me bad, I was able to stand up for myself. After thirty years, I became tired of playing with her, dealing with her games. I had to be on my guard all the time and stand up for myself constantly. Anyway, I went no contact two years ago and am happy to be free of her and the rest of my enabling siblings, who I cut off. It was hilarious, though, watching her jump through hops in an effort to control me.
yes ( and we can all #Stayhuman)
Yep
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
Definitely
I’ve won both my court cases because of your videos on my own! Thank you
Congrats Joshua 🎉 Maybe you have a future in Law. I fought a spurious law suit as a business "et al" by going to the local legal library & figuring out what forms to fill out, yada, yada. End of story, the lawyer backed out of his nuisance suit 1 hour before our court time. Pretty sure I can pull that off again & pay get some legal assistance on the side. Just a bit tired after 9 months of mediation. Oh Sweet Justice.🗽 Long may she prevail🙏🏻
Suzy Sherlock 9 months seems like too long
Congratulations I’m just beginning this process glad it all worked out for you man
Mine just started, glad to hear that you have overcome 👍
@@VinayTruth yea but I’m still dealing with it . It’s frustrating at the tail end tho
Their light from their eyes literally disappears, they turn black, there literally is nothing there, it's like they're gone, emancipated, you can see the illness and reality of it all.
It’s not illness it’s demonic spirits. Trust me my wife sees 666 everywhere. I show her the Bible and she grabs her head , gets migraines and dizzy for 30 mins . She told me she has dreams of demons pulling her from family , Evil exists
@@JesusSaves194 You bet it does! Scary
Omg YES the black soulless eyes of the predator. Terrifying to watch them just shift
This is sooooo true, always seen a darkness in his face
I witnessed that, I won't ever forget the blank stare, there was nothing there, cold black dark eyes at 1:00am in the morning.
Oh yes they collapse... but the conditions have to be right.
1. You were their main supply.
2. You discarded them.
3. You moved on or they think you have moved on and they know.
It happened to me. I was his main supply. I discarded him after months of a silent treatment from him. I told him I had started dating someone else during that time. The emotions/ temper tantrum was entertaining, scary and downright bizzare. In 5 years I had never seen him lose it like that. Oh well. Month 3 of no contact
@@deerogers7162 hell yea, you're waaay to damn pretty to be dealing with that childish CRAP! months of silent treatment!? That's an entire Golden period from a love bomb from them. 😂 Damn that.
I got mine fired from her job, but the conditions were already setup, she had done so many dirty, had a rep, and I had no idea there were people that already had eyes on her. In a way the eventually just crumble, jobs, relationships, homes, cars, they are just destructive and find new host to suck the life out of them. But they cannot see how they are a sinking ship and the last stage of their life will be terrible.
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
How do you know if your main supply?@@deerogers7162
never listen to a word that comes out of their mouth, they speak with their eyes. Always look them right in the face and look at their eyes and then you will see the truth that they never tell.
true
My ex doesn't realize his eyes, eyebrows, and fake laugh and cough is what always clued me in to his lies.🙄😑😶
Spot on’👏🏽
You’re right. I did this with an older female coworker who kept attacking me. I called a mtg on her and looked her dead in the eyes the entire time. He kept her head bent down as she lie the entire time. I called out her manipulation and walked away
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"ACTING" is the key word for all of this It's all an act!
Ronda M,You are beautiful 😍,Hope you are not with a narcissist……
8 and a half years of extremes with my husband. Everything was going pretty smooth, or so I thought until I reconciled with my mom and visited my parents for Christmas. Came home 2 days after Christmas all of the sudden he picked a fight (we haven't fought all year), told me that I was a joke and that I've never supported him...told me he wanted a divorce...I let him walk out. Now he's wondering why he's no longer on my car insurance, my car note, my bank account, and why can't he watch our son at my house. He doesn't seem to understand when it's the 3rd time he's left me, threatened divorce, and told me I never have supported him...I threw in the towel, I'm done, I'm out. I've weathered through lie after lie, a drug dealer's daughter he hooked up with, moved 7 times, lost a house, lost 2 cars, the last 3 years of him working 6 weeks then quit and sit on his ass for months of and on, he got a dwi, 6 months in prison. And I'm sure there's more, but that's off the top of my head. Now he's back at his mama's, driving her truck with a blow machine in it... he left me, I put him back where I found him! I'm soooooo done with this BS...I know I deserve a better life.
Jesus... H.. Christ. Huh!!?????
How the... Are u even SANE right now after going through that let alone typing all that out. Damn I feel for you. 😔
You actually deserve a purple heart for that damn war zone you went thriugh. U rescued his @ss outnof all of THAT!?? What the hell do in gotta do to get someone THAT dedicated 😂 not that I'd be going through that crap, but it's nice to know in fantasy land that IF it ever happened, I'd have someone who's got my back like THAT. 😂
Mame you deserve a seat right next to Jesus himself. You're definitely a patriot. 💪 ❤
Wow. You are a saint.
Lord yes, It was so insane she tried to kill me and I sent her to prison she says I did this to her.... I am deaf in my right ear now with a broken skull but I feel better than I have in 15 years.
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
Definitely
A true narc doesn't negotiate. Period.
I can remember the one I knew saying point blank, “I don’t negotiate.” ... !
Just like they fool they are fooled in suseptability.
@@goldilocks3593 he watched too much of 'The Apprentice'. 😉
@@brittanyrockefeller7686 they are manipulators with treachery on their side?
this is so true. my narc asked if I would negotiate out of court and 4 days later I have just realised I have wasted 4 days of him telling me everything that is wrong with me whilst I wasted my time trying to reason with him - AGAIN. I cannot believe that I fell for it once again. It's exhausting and I end up saying something (its always something) that offends him so deeply that he just can't let it go.
Totally! I am exposing him in court. He looks pathetic and nervous. The judge read my complaint and sympathized with me. I blocked his phone so he can't hoover. He looked truly terrified in court.
It's sad if it didn't hurt us so dam bad!
Fragile house of cards is a perfect analogy!
Hope you're doing fine! Stay strong out there!❤
Also they are always in a rush to start a relationship because they know soon they are found out and the new supplies leave
Totally!!! My wife was served with a restraining order for domestic violence and divorce papers. She violated the restraining order right away and was arrested and charged. She is having a meltdown and has giving me a lot of evidence that will help me. I wish I found your channel a few years ago. My life (and the life of my two teenage sons) is coming back to normal now that she is gone and cannot contact me.
Totally
I sent mine to prison after her rage almost killed me she is furious and I don't have to hear a single word from her!
@@theknifeman7097 good for you. I still look down on myself for letting it happen and not doing anything about it.
Whatever you do, keep that restraining order going.
Same situation for my wife, with a restraining order, minus the arrest for violation. Only because I never called the police. However, she's also an alcoholic, and although she denies drinking anymore & she's back to being the woman I met, she was arrested for drunk driving last month, on her way to pick up seven kids from a football game. She blew a .32 bac. But she doesn't drink anymore. I've moved out, as well as her three kids whom she says are her world. Yet she's still the same liar she's always been.
This is exactly what a family member has been doing for years. To the point of violence. It’s horrible!!!
Undo them....... get what you can then walk away and never look back.
Hope you're doing fine! Stay strong out there!❤
If you ever seen a narcissist get arrested, prosecuted, incarcerate, lose a high standard of living, as well as lose many expensive material things, then you've seen a narcissist hit rock bottom. To watch them go through all this is a freaky thing to witness. They fall harder than anyone. Personally I wouldn't want to witness anything like it again, for it is far too disturbing.
I would
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
How is it one day they're looking at you like they want you to leave, belittling you then the following morning they are being nice, wants to hold you 😳🤦♀️
They're diabolical. Want to leave (to get a rise out of you) & want to hold you (to get a rise out of you). Getting a rise from you IS FUEL.... their main supply!
How is it my ex-wife did everything she could to make my life a living hell and then when I want to leave she's a nicest person in the world to me it's an emotional roller coaster that leaves you exhausted and easier to manipulate get off the emotional roller coaster you won't feel so tired all the time you won't have trouble sleeping you won't feel claustrophobic you won't feel like you're walking on eggshells just walk away and don't look back and when you leave the narcissist is going to accuse you of everything and do everything they can to make you engage them
sure your not speaking about my narc? (:
bipolar
The devil is a liar
I pray for such a nice thing, that's these liars collapse
They do their best, to give us their wurst!
Absolutely!
They work so hard and give their all to be the worst no kidding 😂😂😂😂
BratWurst is what you get!
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What triggered the collapse of my narc friend was me talking about something I regretted and I had some tears and all I the sudden I began to see that SHE wasn't the center of attention and the bizzare shit happened from there. After a couple of weeks of bad behavior, I said goodbye, NO CONTACT..... and kept it that way. That is what made me see that not only was SHE a Covert Narc, my first husband was also. I got answers to questions I had waited 22 years for..... then the next 6 months people kept telling me they heard she was sick, all the time sick... I made no effort to reconnect. Then she started contacting my friends. I have continued to have no contact
Wholy cow!,,, same thing happened to me,,,I seen all the Red flags,,, but I’m a empath,, so my heart wanted to fix ,,,
Aloha & bravo. No contact is peace. Threw soon to be ex-husband of 3e yrs. Running around raging & predatory. Cluster B Free is how to live.
@@clusterbfreekarynsmith2190 I am a Cluster B... and shouldn't talk to you so I'm sorry. I'm diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and have noticed my occasional Vulnerable Narcissism and Factor 2/Secondary Psychopathy. I love my parents deeply though and take good care of my 14 cats who are very happy at least. But I just want to say that I'm really sorry for all the pain my Cluster has caused you.. it's hell to live in this diseased brain as well. My ex who is a Covert Narcissist seems to be someone I'll never get over, he keeps hoovering me every month but all his words and actions when we were together made me wish I was dead time and time again. I have been abandoned and ignored by him so many times now that I'm beginning to stop caring about abandonment altogether for the first time in life.. I guess he's slowly curing my Borderline insanity while simultaneously driving me insane.
@Lowie Patat My Covert Narc ex is a Scorpio.. despite his madness, and despite my own; I deeply appreciate all the things that he made me aware of about myself that I never noticed before. I am a Leo.. so he is Water and I am Fire, but I have to say that Scorpio is the most fascinating Starsign I've ever come across. Thank you for telling it to us like it is.
@@Valoelify 💗
I tried to tell my narc "operate from love and not from fear"
She never really got it...
It's easier to operate from fear. It takes a real comlete healthy person to operate from love.
They love you yelling them all that type of stuff. Because they know they still have you hooked...
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
@@RebeccaZungEsq I'm in a much better place. I've worked on myself as well and found out the roots of my problem with attracting narc's. Thank you
Oh my goodness my daughter is going threw this with her child’s father- totally on point / he is out of mind ! Thank u thank u thank u - please continue doing what you are doing this is so needed- my daughter is an empath and he has bullied her with custody of their daughter for years .. she is now standing up to him - passing this on ! ❤️
My daughter is going through the same thing. She was married to him for 13 yrs and divorced now for a year and her nightmare continues. They have a 5 yr old daughter and he still controls, manipulates, and mentally abuses my daughter and granddaughter. It is amazing how one narcissists affects an entire family. The tentacles of a narcissist is far reaching.
Okay, so its him and its also your daughter and next generation who require the advanced support for dealing with the narcissist from whom you ensue to protect.
Give 'him' some credo, learn how. Understand it could be the other way around...
The narcissist is generally a narcissist and the empath is generaly a well regulated person emotionally.
They always get haywire.
Wish you the best and keep searching for what you need in order to get the job done 🙏
With a bit more time and understanding you might be able to prevent him from repeating the similar show with a new victim, by allowing him a rightful interest to be with his own child as well your daughters.
I am like your daughter (same situation exactly) & i will be sharing with my mom. His behavior has had us puzzled! I hope your daughter’s situation has improved. This is certainly the worst experience I’ve been through
I’m going through this
I, too, am currently going through this situation. The only difference is the main reason why I'm going through this is because I had a stroke 3 years ago so now the father of my sons is trying to get full custody. But, Thank God, I am working and I just got my driver's license renewed so take that, narc! Haha 😎🙂😂
I am grateful to have found this channel. So, thanks so much! I am one of the few ones that escaped with life, early into a "relationship " with a narcisist. I was in a relationship with him but he was not really with me. He was out there looking for attention; emotionally absent and busy, looking sex (with whomever) and for his next victim and supply. We lived together for two months and in his first escapade, I gathered all of his thing, including groceries, packed them beautifully and told him to come pick them up. Lock changed, made him pay the month rent (a commitment is a commitment). No second chance, though. No talk, no opportunity for him to try to convince me to take him back. He came home at a time he knew I was gonna be there. He wanted for us to be friends and roomates. The Universe so orchestrated it that I was late that day and when I was getting home, saw his car and did a U turn; no break to try to get me back! Blocked him in every possible and thinkable way. No way back!!! There's NOTHING to talk about, fix or amend (not that I expected any of the above). No second chance. No more room for one more single lie. Him staying in this country depended 100% on me. Well, I guess he's not staying after all. He underestimated me! I gave him no chance to keep using me. I cut him cold turkey and uprooted him from my life. I have no regrets. I am grateful he came into my life so I could finally stop the pattern of attracting psichopaths. I love him but love myself MORE and I am my first choice. Please, DO NOT LET a narcisist take over your life. RECLAIM your life and ascend. It is the time to get in touch with whom you really are and learn to LOVE yourself first. The relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you'll ever have. Do Not compromise your wellbeing for someone that's only gonna USE and ABUSE you. Let's LOVINGLY cut this plage of abuse. WAKE UP. I told this narc; " I deserve better than this" and I meant it. If I did it, so CAN you. I am one of the few ones that made it on time and alive. So can you! Run and run fast, if you can. If not, design a plan. You won't regret it! I made a list of all the things he did to humilliate, undermine and belittle me. I read it every time I think I miss him. Addiction to pain is a terrible thing. Your thoughts cause reactions in your brain that causes reactions in your emotions and thus, in your body and you become addicted to that RUSH but you can stop it. I takes time, effort and a lot of energy but you are not obligated to suffer. I know it is easier said than done but it's doable. Trust me. I remind myself that I felt in love with the potential I thought he had. I remind myself I felt in love with the potential I thought the relationship had. I was not in a REAL relationship, though. He contributed NOTHING to my life; just the opportunity to FINALLY awake and continue with the journey of loving and accepting myself UNCONDITIONALLY. Peace.
My life is good at the moment surrounded by loving people. I had a narcissistic "friend" back in the day when I was a hooligan and it was horrible when I would second guess myself around the dude. Just love watching these videos because it's pretty fascinating that a lot of people have experienced the horrific nature of the narcissist and that it can actually be analyzed haha.
Edit: If I may be helpful, I would say that the best way to be happy is to cut off contact with the narcissist. Strive to live a good life without sin so that the narcissist won't have any ammo to use against you. If they tell lies about you anyway, they will be uncovered. :)
Peace, love. God bless you. The Lord is with you.
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
True they always seek to manipulate and cover up .
They leave a trail of forensic evidence when they do.
they will definitely manipulate and gaslight and rage at you when you call out things they’re hiding as if you’re delusional and have become so crazy you cant see how your delusional accusations have become abusive....and yet they hardly even try to cover their tracks or get rid of the very evidence that proves, beyond all doubt, they are in fact guilty of everything they’ve denied. I mean, they will cheat on you and be sneaky enough about it that you only have suspicions but no proof. Then they will ramp up the behavior to a point that you cant deny or ignore the fact that somethings going on and your suspicions are definitely justified. Its like they want you to confront them knowing you know but cant prove whatever they’re doing. When you do confronts them they do all the aforementioned things, in an obvious attempt to avoid any and all responsibility for themselves and their behavior. The display is so extreme, it’s quite possible you will doubt yourself and maybe even began to feel like you actually were being paranoid and suspicious to the point of near delusion. Then sometime shortly after this huge blowup, often right as you are starting to feel guilty for having confronted them..or even suspected them...they will get up and leave the room for some reason, leaving the cell phone theyve guarded with their life since they began cheating, on the counter knowing you noticed they left it there as they made a big deal about announcing that they were going to go take a nap, or had an upset stomach and would be in the bathroom for a while. If you are like me and would rather find out someone was or wasnt cheating on you than admit they are a narcissist who is using you for supply and entertainment...you pick up the phone, which has no pin or pattern lock or any security at all to prevent unauthorized access. When you swipe it open, it opens to their messaging app and the last conversation they’ve been having. one they were having the entire day sitting right next to you without being obvious. what you find is that they’ve been telling their secret lover how awful of person you are, making up out and out lies about abuse, sexual dysfunction, etc... possibly saying things like youre a drug addict or haven’t worked the entire relationship etc... These messages are mixed in with graphic descriptions of all the sexual things they would like to be doing with each other....if it weren’t so painful it would be funny as you know for a fact when she texted “im so wet im touching myself” she was actually watching the witcher on the couch with you in her frumpiest sweats and sweatshirt...half asleep lol. you scroll back to see how long ago it started and this is likely to be the most painful thing of all...it began long before you suspected anything and likely thought she was head over heels in love with you as you were with her. The first meeting likely took place when the two of you had occasion to be apart (in my case i was in the hospital being held overnight for observation after a car wreck, she left the hospital to get some things for home and was gone for a few hours. when she finally returned she was in tears and apologized for taking so long but that she couldn’t focus when she got home and had an emotional breakdown caused by the accident and her fear of losing me...nope she had been texting him the entire time i was in the hospital while out in the waiting room while the doctors were doing their thing. she left the hospital and went straight to his place where apparently they had the best sex of her life though i doubt that, i dont even know if she enjoys sex the way other people do) Anyways. you put the phone down, hurt and angry and in shock. you bring her phone to her and ask her if their is anything she wants to tell you. she begins right away with her you’re paranoid and crazy and have you been in my phone? you answer that you have and that you read enough of the messages between her and dude to know that she is cheating and that this affair was consumated the night you were in the hospital while she was supposedly at home crying her eyes out at the thought of losing you. she starts making fun of you and mocking you and then launches into a tirade about how pathetic you are and why would you think she would be that madly in love with a jealous suspicious paranoid creep who constantly accuses her of cheating and goes through her phone. then says youve crossed the line this time and that she doesn’t feel comfortable around you right now. either she leaves or tells you to leave, threatening to call the police if you refuse. this entire time no mention is made of the cheating other than your initial statement about having seen the messages. somehow she managed to turn the tables on you and transform what should have been getting found out and having to face the consequences of her lying and cheating into the final straw for her. the worst offense you have committed yet. the confrontation ends with you being the horrible abuser and her the victim who had tried for so long to make you happy only to end up being treated so horribly that she was now leaving or threatening to call the cops if you didnt.
you will never get an apology, an acknowledgment of the pain behavior like hers can cause and most of all you will never get anything remotely resembling an admission of what she has done. never. this will frustrate you more than all...but know that its on purpose and isn’t exactly all about hiding what she’s done. its about controlling you and seeing how far she can push things. you must realize that not admitting something she had gotten so careless about it was obvious, something she purposefully left undeniable proof of for you to find...is a tactic to keep you coming back, to keep you trying so hard to get an apology from her. this will give her all the fights she wants, all the opportunities to gaslight you and weave a fantasy about herself and the way you mistreat her...which you are more than willing to ignore in your pursuit for her apology. she will get all your professions of forgiveness, all the times you tell her you just want to know she doesn’t want to see you hurting. all of this is supply. she gets high off the fact that she can openly cheat on you, deny it happened in the face of definitive proof, tell you you are a horrible person who abuses her, slander you to everyone she talks to...and you refuse to leave her. you stay and basically beg her to love you and (in her mind) are so in love with her, you are willing to not only forgive all these things she does...you will ignore them.
this is why she left her phone for you to find the messages, why she stopped trying to be all that sneaky, this is why she refuses to even allow you to suggest she is guilty of what she did, let alone admit to it. she does these things because you let her and these are the things that have warped your mind into a state of being completely obsessed with her. the only thing you can do, ideally way before this, but definitely when you find yourself staring at a phone full of your worst nightmares and proof that everything she denied is true and then some...is to leave. cut off contact. block her on social media. quit hanging out with mutual friends that still hang out with her. do not confront her, just make your plan of escape and quickly execute it the minute she is gone long enough for you to leave without her knowing until you are gone. you will never get the apology and regret and ultimately the show of love and empathy you are looking for from her. she most likely never loved you...might now have even been all that attracted to you...she simply saw in you someone she could control and use for supply. this will hurt, but remember you aren’t losing a love...the person you thought you were dating never existed anywhere but inside of your head...exactly where she manifested that character. if you can accept this and understand it, then it will be easier to rebuild your life and your lost sense of self after you escape and cut off all contact. if you can do these things, you will heal and you really only have to watch out for one main thing...the day she gets ahold of you somehow and tries to reel you back in with more lovebombing. if this happens just hang up, shit the door in her face or keep on walking past her as if she isnt there.
thats it this is the only thing you can do to stop feeling all the horrible things you feel as a result of your relationship with her.
Seems like your writing about my husband. Thank you so much! After 45 years I realized I was married to a Narcissist, after reading Dr. Ramani Durvasula . After thinking about it forever, I have a call today from a therapist with experience in Narcs. I am terrified to face this music. I hope it's a sweet melody, this has been going on for 2 years. Since I realized he was a narc and started observing the behavior and calling him out. Of course that only brings terrible arguments. (sometimes I can't help myself). Thank you Rebecca I greatly appreciate your comments and topics! Su
Thank you for taking time to make these videos for us going through this crazy evilness they bring and we let into our lives. I'm grateful for people like you who care enough to help strangers who don't have a clue where to turn in this madness,especially for me and I'm sure there are many of us. May my God continue to bless you in all things in you and your loved ones lives. Thank you. You've helped me in so many ways.
Your books have made a very big difference to me. Thank you for improving the world with your work.
***“I'll do everything I can in my power to make the proper changes so you know that I want to be in this marriage”. *** Narc
Another good line; "Yeah, I messed up. I'll do whatever it takes, to appease the court" .... as apology for getting caught driving my kids to her meth deals.
Totally. I’ve witnessed a breakdown and it was messy, crazy wailing around young kids and then trying to lure after hours of not giving in. The irony is her actions and lies led to it
Rebecca, I just wanted to thank you for all your videos. They helped me a great deal. It helped me prepare and get ready for my judicial conciliation today. ! To all of you that read this, follow Rebecca’s information and follow because you will get the outcome you desire!! Stay the course! Also, documents, document, document!!! And stay calm!!!!
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
One person I knew (he has since passed on) I believe was a narcissist I said about him once, "He put so much energy into constantly looking over his shoulder, that he failed to look ahead." Do you think that is a good way of putting it?
wow so on point here
Could be paranoid?
Absolutely
TOTALLY 💯 Percent!! Your video is exactly what has happened to me in past two days with my brother in law.
Rebecca I heard words of wisdom that are going to help myself and my family. Thank you for sharing your thoughts/ experiences with people online. Narcissist are definitely soul suckers that want control and their ego upheld by their own supply. Understanding these people has helped me to deal with our Narcissist.
I have a neighbor just like the way you described,she actually turned the entire community against me.
How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - ICANSLAY.COM
I wish I had found you when I was going through my hellish divorce 20 years ago.
You have been such a great help in my life, thank u ♡
Ditto that!👍🏼💕🌸
My mother and my sister has both collapsed, and it happened between the age of forty and fifty.
They became these erratic assholes, that you basically couldn't deal with.
The similarities in development are quite fascinating..
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
So around the time they lost sexual currency.
TOTALLY!!!!!!!!!
I would also add, they are so arrogant,
some even believe they are our
Oracle of Delphi,
no matter how wrong they are!
My narc ex husband said no one will believe his cheating behaviours
Except the people he is cheating with cause you know he is bragging to them about how he's getting away with it.
I believe them. I'm on your side. ❤️
He might be covert with them and overt with you.
They are so arrogant and therefore underestimate everyone! Be assured anyone who knows you knows the TRUTH. Stay strong in your TRUTH. A lot of people already know they are a jerk/joke...
@@tinajones5548 I watched an episode caste last night (by Richard Grannon actually) that heavily regarded the significance of personal boundaries and how some people ineffectiveky maintain them by posing them as a front.
If the narc jerk or joke has no idea in essence of what they are on about themselves, their own views in regard of others are most likely deranged to seriously deranged. Meaning they might have to act like sociopaths or something else like having pathology in order to relate in lives with others on the simplest of meanings in principle however stuck they are there. Even they seem to get bungled up as reality and the sincerity in human relationships impede them.
They have a right to get arrogant then don't they (?), not saying that it is right that they should however choose, I would rather chose a punching bag before hanging up the gloves for good 🙏💪
I thought this was really comprehensive and right on. Thank you, Rebecca! You revealed the many facets/modes of narcissistic supply that narcissists live on. It's a very helpful reminder, since some people show more subtle manifestations, and don't display every one of these characteristics. But if you start to see the engulfing/ignoring cycle start or notice emotional vampires who get nasty when you won't be available to them, when an alarm goes off in my head. When they get mean if you retreat and aren't available to them (when you're low or need time for self-care) then you have to be alarmed careful. It's definitely a spectrum disorder, so some are more obvious cases than others. xo
Thank you forever. Every word. I was grade A supply till I was pushed too far. Almost lost everything and my life.. Still recovering. Won't be fooled again. Keep moving forward all my fellow victims. It's all you can do. Thank you for your insight and effort.
Now you know better. Keep movin'on up !
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
I found you about 3 months ago and these videos have mirrored almost exactly my struggle with my narcissist roommate. And tomorrow he is finally moving out with help from you. Thank you so much. I'm so relieved even though I don't know who will be my next roommate. But at this point any one will be better. And now I'm equipped. Thank you.
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
You are such an awesome wealth of information!! Thank you so much!!
I am thankful for your videos! You are helping our family deal w my narcissistic daughter,we are in a major crisis!
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
Thank you for this video! Again, it's on point & has really helped! Please keep making these! Best wishes! ❤
Ashley Beth Crawford,Hope you are not with a narcissist!
Aloha from Honolulu. Just woke up..binged on you yesterday. Threw Aged Covert Narc out /14/2020. Usually awake around 3am - hard to sleep around him. Life is good.
Who the son sets free is free indeed 🙏 you're a shinning light in this dark confused world ! 🥳❤️🙏
Rebecca, once again your words are helping to soothe my shattered soul! I have watched a kind deterioration take place with my narcissistic ex marital partner since the discard. She has moved at least eight times since she left. In each instance I know that she was seeking more and more supply for herself. It was crazy to watch but this is what she’s been doing and this is what she is. Someone told me that you can’t “run away from your self “.... I seriously doubt that all the new supply that she’s getting is sufficient or will EVER be sufficient. I will add that you are TOTALLY on the money.... thanks again. I love listening to you. ❤️
Rebecca Zung ❤️. Thank you....
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
How did you accurately name everything my soon to be narcissist ex husband displayed as he was becoming exposed. I literally got chills down my spine when you said that the fear in their eyes will be seen that definitely happened when I looked at him. Your videos have been helpful thank you for such amazing informative descriptions of how a narcissist behaves.
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
Thanks so much for your videos!! I got a narc out of my life 15 yrs ago. A very freeing thing! It took a toll emotionally, mentally & otherwise! Totally! A couple of months ago a long lost mutual “ friend” contacted me telling me wonderful stories of this person & so forth. Like I had misjudged the situation & needed to reconnect. Really?! I spoke the truth. Haven’t heard from either one of them since!! Cockroaches scatter when you turn on the light! 15 years later!!! Good God Man!! Thanks again for your videos! Totally!
You hit this in the head! 100 percent facts!! Amazing!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Rebecca you are an angel from heaven for your craft! Glory to God for you because you are helping me navigate a narcissistic relationship! I work in mental health field so that’s a plus in dealing with it but he is trying to take me down! He won’t let go! And of course I love him so it’s a challenge but I will slay this narc! And maintain my health!
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
I'm alone and it's hard but I'm free from the constant emotional abuse. My narcissist has already started hoovering me with text messages....SO PREDICTABLE!
I took Rebecca's advice by deleting the text just like I'd do with a Spam text.
Not looking back.
Totally. Thank you once again. I'm sure you've saved many lives.
Totally Rebecca I so appreciate these videos 💕🙌.. a Godsend !
You said it perfectly, but all I wanted to do was reassure him and love him til death do us part….except he doesn’t see his problems and issues, he thinks I’m crazy and he is fine. I have no words💔
Totally Great info! 👍🏽
Just got out of 1 🔥😈
saw you’re webinar &
Purchased your
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From 2010-2023, my narcissistic stepfather sexually abused me on many occasions. I was content to let the statute of limitations on my report run out in 2026, but then I found your content. I have hope that I can put him away and make it to where he can no longer bleed little girls dry, but I have no idea where to start.
Wow you share so much truth in your information, things that make sense
I love this woman I wish I could afford to have her private counsel often. Wonderful. Great info but also empowering. Best tip so far not to take any of this BS personally.
Hope you're doing fine! Stay strong out there!❤
TOTALLY, TOTALLY, TOTALLY !!! I've been surrounded most if my life by Narcissists. From childhood, I just didn't know until a few years ago.!
This very moment I'm in a house in Milton ,Delaware in a bathroom trying not 2 hear the dinner conversation ,that 4 some reason seems 2 be mostly concerning me.
The Narcissists in order. Or should
I say ,out of order ? : My make cousin, his abusive ,selfish ,non empathetic boyfriend. He could watch you dying n do nothing but drink his liquor n call you cruel names,etc... then ,my loving mother
Who devoted herself 2 caring 4 me as a single mom.But had obviously turned against me in adulthood when I didn't make it big in the entertainment industry a d has called my other relatives with lies/slander about me.saying ,that I was suicidal, delusional, etc... a d worse.
All of which are untrue.!!Does a caring mom do that 2 her only child ?? I don't think so !!! Then there's her 2and marriage partner, whose quite a bit younger then she,.that's cool; to each is own .
Who's got serious issues from childhood, the military in the marines
a d seems 2 think he's entitled to mess with others LIVES because the rules our country a idea by don't seem to apply 2 him.mist of which is
Some unbenonced to my mom. Then the lesser of them. That's 5 against 1.4 out of the are extremely
Dangerous! Mainly, the 3 males!
A d they know how to do stuff.
If you catch my drift .......
They have been quite indifferent
about me joining their dinner party. But if you know a fraction of what the 4 out of 5 have to me over the years,you'd ask me ; 'what the Hell are you doing in that house n how can you speak to them at all ??!!
Of necessity, I must behave like nothing's wrong cause in their
Warped thinking, they seem 2 believe their right n entitled 2 a abuse n mistreat me n whoever else they choose .heartbreaking 😪😒🤕🤧
I had a supervisor in the past who was giving me hell all the time - until I just got quiet day after day and would not respond to the attacks - then the person made a series of mistakes and became enraged because I could not be blamed for any of them, and they wound up being asked to resign or face termination proceedings - by that time the whole staff was making complaints about the person's activities, so on the last Friday that we saw that person alive, they left, and the next week they did not show up to work on Monday or Tuesday - we found out that they went home, took every tablet in a large bottle of extra strength tylenol and by the time someone got to them on Tuesday, the person was in liver failure and was rushed to the hospital, where they died from the suicide attempt. What you said was very accurate.
Thank you very much for this. Negotiations with a narcissist are extremely difficult and anything to learn more.
I love listening to your videos although we separated with a narcissistic but co parenting they are so stubborn but you really helped me thank you
Prepare to not let it happen again, share your insights with who might benefit.
My ex figured out that I wasn't coming around him anymore. He would call once a year to update our daughters Insurance information. He always made a point to tell me that we would still be together if I wasn't so crazy!!! I would be silent or just laugh! He was Jeckel and Hyde!!! I never knew what to expect, but I was the crazy one!
You are the best Rebecca!
My Narc just had his house of cards tumbled down today! I basically just called him out after his awful text and took him out of my phone and went completely NO CONTACT! I have known him off and on for 40 years. I’m an ultra Empath and completely educated about Narcissistic abuse! He can’t get to me ANYMORE! The song Beyoncé’s “The best thing I never had”! Is so appropriate! It’s thanks to people and videos like yours that helped save and educate me several years ago when my Narc whom I loved took a wrecking ball to my heart and life! Ty so much for the education I so desperately needed to understand these sick creatures and how to deal with them!
Thank you for your wisdom
They are full of shame already so if you call them out on cheating for instance it will trigger rage like you have never seen
I've been watching your videos and it is helping a friendship ! Your doing great work ! tyvm your work is appreciated 👍
This is helping me so much now I no I can move on I have learned so much thank God for his love for me i can now move on thank you so much
TOTALLY. Thanks for the book to read The 4th agreement. Down loaded audio book learning. Would be lost without your videos and others TH-cam can have good content.
My ex did all 3 things when I had him served with divorce papers: had a meltdown, began hovering, and started acting bizarrely.
Love your videos ! Got all my evidence prepared for my ex parte hearing I got two little girls 5 and 6 . Their with me 3 days a week and now they’re mom won’t let them talk to or see me for the last month
I appreciate the video - Narcissism is so destructive! I creatively portray narcissism in the last video on my channel w/ a funny skit also. I hope we inspire/inform people to avoid manifesting narcissism in their life! Just subscribed to your channel too - Keep up the meaningful content.
I discarded my narc ex as soon as I figured it out. I negotiated aggressively during the divorce. I got everything I wanted because I did not back down. I had an excellent lawyer who understands narcissists. I then exposed her big time. The collapse was unbelievable. She then moved 3000 miles away as fast as she could. I lost all of my “friends.” Good riddance. I live a wonderful life now and have real, authentic friends.
The female narcissist I spent 4 years with just recently put a pfa on me even though I never did anything to her
I filed a counter complaint and my case is 7 pages of verifiable documentation to refute her claim
She also engaged in a nasty smear campaign against a woman she was working for and the woman filed harrassment charges against the narcissist and won her case . The narcissist also has a court date for charges filed against her by a local corporation for slander and libel and the narc filed harrassment charges against me which were dropped because I never was even in the vicinity on the day in question
So yes I would say her world is collapsing. I've always believed that when you dance with the devil at some point you gotta pay the devil's band . She put me through absolute fucking hell and I suspect that I'm suffering from Cptsd and it's a struggle but I'm so glad that shes gone
We were granted 3 year co pfa no contact status
I accepted the conditions with my lawyers advice because I didnt want to see her face again in a courtroom
Hopefully the legal element will deter her from trying to contact me but I have my doubts . She was a horrible person who I fell in love with not knowing how evil she was
I did 4 years too when my divorce went threw about 2 weeks ago I feel like a weight was lifted of me. So I know it hard bro but keep the no contact up till your freedom.
@@demontroberts3695 thank you and I wish you happiness and health and prosperity
So glad you are O-U-T out of that!! I know for me, NEVER again.
@@ProfessorNorris1 it was a chaotic experience but yes I'm grateful that it ended
Didnt expect the judicial system to be involved but maybe that was gods will to get me out of it
@@lendrury2771 that was the way He rescued me too. It was completely a divine rescue because they are extremely devious and know how to work the system. It was miraculous for me. I was blessed to have a Jos judge that knew exactly how to handle our case; she was aware of his tricks and saw right through him and she knows the law and really blessed me and her judgement made it so that he could not come back into my life, even though he tried. Like I said, I am GLAD so GLAD you got OUT. I could read and feel the hell you had to go through with her.
It is an experience that you could not get anywhere else.
I am thankful to God for rescuing me and for the now new awareness and knowledge I have about myself and about those types of people. They are not anything you wish anybody ever has to deal with.
I believe there are probably more people who do not recover then that do, so count it ALL joy when you have been rescued and are coming out and back on with the life you were intended to have.👐🏾👐🏾👐🏾
Madam Rebecca,you have made complex maze of Narc mind simpler to understand for naive minds of ours,till now at receiving end.Thanks for your selfless service to traumatised ones.🙏
Very true, it's their eyes that tell you and sometimes when they are vulnerable. When my ex recently went into narc rage , she got angry with me and when she spoke in anger I saw in anger her real expressions and voice underneath the mask. Interesting what u see when paying attention
I absolutely like, and my narc husband's absolutely doing the very first one you mentioned, number one on your list, that's exactly what he's doing, that's amazing! Hopefully its soon to be ex-narc husband, but thanks once again Rebecca for your wonderful video!, And wish me luck!!!
I totally agree with you. I have a 1/2 sister who is a flaming narcissist. One of her acts is to paint herself as a hero while she takes care of our mother and her money, then she will morph into a vulnerable victim. She is so predictable as soon as mom dies she will make herself seem like a victim for taking care of moms money but will cry or justify her actions like spending moms estate away. Her tears and manipulation tactics do not work on me. When and after mother passes away I will ask the courts for an accounting of moms money. There is nothing that narcissist can do to stop it.
Hope you're doing fine! Stay strong out there!❤
They only regrets I have about the narc discarding me, is that it didnt happen much, much sooner.😂
TOTALLY !!!!!!😵:But what must I do after witnessing a collapse of the Narcissist?????? Once again, I find your work entertaining and informative. It's deeply appreciated. THANK YOU 😊💐
“TOTALLY” (ur SO right)
My problem is I can tell pretty easy when I am dealing with narcissistic troll and I can't help but want to poke the bear and driven them crazy. I know how maybe I should learn not to do that but I do get satisfaction from it even thought I know they will learn nothing from it...
Totally!!! But honestly this is hard for empaths, because it's in our nature to care, but it makes us susceptible to attacks by these "vampires" as well.
Sometimes they do not lose control but make you lose control. They stay so cool, acting as the most noble man on the planet, lying all in comfort. Those times I live a confusion like if I'm the narcissist.
I felt the same way
I was verbally attacked in the street on Monday. I listened then unloaded my truth: she’s a covert/vulnerable narcissist and has abused me for nearly a decade… radio silence ever since 👍
Funnily enough saw her dad this morning, he was happy and waved etc. go figure…
I reduced my #1 enemy to screaming and speaking gibberish. It was beautiful. After 5 years of hassling me I saw him crumble. Don’t be nice to these people. Be harder than any time in your life. Call them out and go face to face.
Be careful it almost killed me she is facing 20 years in prison. Careful Wich type of narc you call out face to face. She tried to cave my skull in smashed a pickle jar on the back of my head when I was walking down the hall.
Thanks Rebecca for your advice..
Fantastic again!
Totally 😊💕
Totally!
Totally!!! Your words are ringing true about the house of cards is all they think, act and behave on....
Tracy Gabriel,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
Totally! My husband of 32 years goes to alcohol. Long binges, mistakes, crying, begging. Hoovering now, knows I'm on my way out....fear, panic etc
Totally !
I'm talking with over , well all my life experiance.
Tracey Mabee,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
I feel like you described me in this video. This has been my life the last three years since I left my ex-husband of 21 years. Learning to live on my own and rebuilding myself, I've gone through therapy the last couple years. I dealt with a lot of grieving and have collapsed so many times and have cried and cried and dealt with anxiety and panic and intense heartache and confusion, and a sense of loss of myself. My ex was verbally mentally and emotionally abusive and had an affair for 5 years. So am I a narcissist? What you explained in this video now makes me think that I'm a narcissist.
Christa Clament Christa I feel so sorry for you after I read what about what you are going through. I just finished up my morning cry which has been going on for so long....😢 rebuilding my self-esteem has been the most difficult part. Therapy has helped somewhat but I know I need to do more to rebuild everything....Also, I have collapsed at different times. One time a neighbor called me and she asked me how I was doing and I told her I was crying. It was very weird but she told me that I’m “not supposed to cry”....Men are not supposed to cry? My neighbor is kind of a bully and pretty much has narcissistic tendencies so I shouldn’t be surprised by that! When I would cry and my ex marital partner narcissist knew she used it against me.... I’m certain of that. That’s messed up! It was as if she saw a vulnerability in me and deviously took advantage.... so, now I cry and grieve when ever I want to because no one is ever going to stop me from doing that again for the rest of my life! I am so sorry that you are going through this mess and all I can wish for you is the very best. I will say a prayer tonight for your healing. It is the 23rd Psalm. Bless your courage!
@@peterknyk1942 Thank you! And thank you for sharing that. God's blessings to you. I'm a Christian believer. I believe it's important for people to go through a grieving process and to take the time they need to do so. The grieving process is different for everyone and sometimes will take longer. People shouldn't ever feel guilty or be hard on themselves or force themselves to heal faster or grieve faster. That's what my therapist would remind me of. I met with my Christian therapist on a weekly basis for a year. It was the best ever. After a year, she felt that I was in a good healthy place and believed I could continue on without her therapy. I then sat through a 13 week Divorce Care class through my church, which helped immensely. And I'm signed up for another series of divorce care classes starting this weekend. I don't cry as often as I used to, but it was weekly and sometimes daily, for several years, even before I left my ex. I knew about the affair the last couple years of it and I fought for my marriage. He left her when he knew I was planning to leave. Three years now, and he hasn't gone back to her. He broke down when I left. He didn't want me to leave. Now he tells people that his wife left him, and told me that he's afraid to tell anyone why I left him. I appreciate very much for your response to my comment and sharing a bit of your story and your feelings. After listening to this recent video posted today, it really does describe what I've been feeling and going through. So I don't understand why it's being portrayed as a narcissist. If that's a narcissist, then I'm a narcissist. Perhaps my ex, who was controlling, manipulative, condescending, and hurtful is a narcissist, which is what I thought characterizes a narcissist. At least that's what I'm learning now that I've removed myself from my marriage relationship. I'm still trying to finalize our divorce. He blamed me for the problems in his life, but now he apologizes for treating me poorly. I lost trust in his words and sharing my heart with him. I hope Rebecca will be able to explain the difference in the collapse of a narcissist and the collapse of us who are victims of a narcissist.
Christa Clement Hi Christa. I sent you a very long response earlier but I put it in the wrong place so I’m going to delete what I said and resend to you what I was trying to say. Please let me know that you got this....I’m having trouble figuring this all out.
@@peterknyk1942 Hi! Just read this.
Christa Clament hi again! I will try to reword what I had sent to you earlier. I was in a hurry to go to a therapy session and probably did everything wrong. LOL! At least I won’t get scolded for doing something wrong this time!!!! (I’ve been scolded a lot by my marital partner!) I was telling you that I have gone through a lot of therapy concerning my marital situation. Unlike you, it didn’t help me a great deal. What I got from therapy was that I needed to do a lot of work on myself to get through this difficult situation in my life.I also mentioned to you what it was like for me seeking help in a spiritual way. I spoke to two different rabbis about my marriage. The responses couldn’t have been much more dialectical....The one rabbi that helped me the most was a male and he was very kind and empathetic and gentle with me. The other rabbi was female. When I tried to talk to her and explain what I was feeling and going through in this marriage she scolded me for not doing enough and offered no help....This was after I had told her I was having a very difficult time because my wife committed adultery and was unfaithful to me. The irony is that it almost seemed that this female rabbi was blaming me for that having happened. From what I understand that is exactly what narcissist do, I.e., blame everyone else....Needless to say I have never gone back to that synagogue nor will I ever.... I go to the other synagogue now. By the way, to you, tonight, I will wish you a happy new year because it is the Jewish New Year.... HAPPY NEW YEAR! continuing forward....now I have found out that my ex marital partner is a very important person at the synagogue as she has teamed up with her female rabbi friend and have a great thing going! I sound sarcastic and to tell you the truth I am! The whole point is that my ex marital partner is getting tons of supply from all the other narcissists at her synagogue. Honestly, I have never seen such a collection of self-absorbed and narcissistic people congregated in one place in my life. It’s really best that I no longer participate in the services there because in the old days they drove me nuts with their self absorbed behavior.... it helps me to understand more about narcissistic behavior and how they so need each other and how they literally cannot survive in a normal world....And it helps me to understand why my ex marital partner is there. When she finally left she told me that she was going to make a new family with the synagogue and several months later announced to me that the synagogue was now her new family!!!! That’s really pretty crazy! So, I have tried multiple ways of overcoming the ravages of being abused by another... some work and some don’t. The best type of work I’ve found is work of a spiritual nature.... and I think I have to stop for now because I’m really getting tired. I hope all of this makes sense to you and I want to thank you for everything that you have said to me. I hope we can talk more down the road!🕊🕊🕊🕊🙏🙏🙏🙏🌈
so true living with one , not easy but a silent suffering
TOTALLY. Awesome ..you are spot on.