When I was 8 yo, my mum was pregnant. I hated the question, if I want a sister or a brother, as if I had a saying in that... I wanted a bigger brother (obviously not possible) or a little sister (in fact, what I really wanted, was a dog, not a sibling at all). And I got.... a little brother... He's the best sibling I could imagine and I love him (and his wife and daughter) dearly.
Home births are rare in Germany. But you can go to the hospital. Then the midwife will do the preparation and aftercare. She can answer all questions and also has a lot of good advice. In the countryside it also happens that 112 (European emergency call for ambulance and fire engine) has to be called if a birth is unexpectedly premature. We also have an ambulance specially equipped to carry out births. Most of the time, the child is healthy before the hospital is reached. But a scheduled birth is certainly more pleasant than having to do it suddenly. A ready-packed bag is definitely a good idea when things have to go fast.
I'm so happy for you guys another girl is wonderful. I'm sure Willa will be thrilled once she gets to hold her little sister. I'm also glad that you are rethinking the home birth idea. You and baby will be in the best hands in a Hospital or Birthing Centre. Looking forward to seeing how the rest of the pregnancy goes and can't wait to welcome the baby. xxxx
Congratulations on such happy news!! As an American married to a German, I've had three births here in Germany and feel like I understand the system really well now. If you have any questions, please let me know!! :)
Phew! I'm actually really happy that you have decided to not give birth living on the countryside. So much can happen to you and the little one during birth and it's such a relieve to know that you can get help asap if needed. Btw, from my experience if something looks like you'll need to go to the hospital rather than the birthcenter (since not all of them have doctors available), they'll drive you there instead.. Congrats on the little baby girl! :)
I have four kids (girl, boy, twin girls) and during my second pregnancy we considered a birth center but because those have no doctors, they aren't allowed to give any medicine. I ended up having a strep B infection (that's one of the things they check during those check ups with a smear test) and needed antibiotics during the birth - so hospital it was. I was supposed to deliver the twins naturally but one of them went into stress during contractions (heartbeat went down constantly) and to be sure we all came out of that alive I needed a C-section. Just wanted to leave a comment to show that even if you're super healthy and have a perfect pregnancy, complications come up and you need a hospital. Luckily birth centers usually have an ambulance waiting outside (I hope it's like that everywhere) just in case something goes wrong. So that might be a good alternative to a home birth. Wishing you all the best ❤️
Aw, such a sweet video. A friend of mine gave birth at a birth center and she absolutly loved it. You are young and healthy and allready had a birth without any complications. So chances are good that you get a clearance for a home birth or a birth center
I attended the birth of my Goddaughter in Keilheim, Bavaria at a birth center. It was a terrific experience! (She is now 21!). God bless all four of you and my heartfelt wishes for your continued joy! Jerri
I never would risk the Life/Health of the new Baby/Mother outside of a Hospital!! We have 2 child’s and we had complications they you can’t see before!! Home Birth is more a Romantic Aspect from the Mother for me! GL 👍
Risa, you'll be just fine here, do not worry. Sure, things are different to home, but you just have to trust we also know what we are doing when it comes to pregnancy. 🙂
This is so exciting! We love hearing about all your updates, especially as another couple from the US living in Germany and might be having children here in the future!
Nice that you now have certainty and know what it will be, it is important that the baby is healthy and that everything is fine with mom and baby, no matter what it ends up like, girl or boy. So congratulations on the daughter, of course, but now Tanner is clearly outnumbered. So cute to see you all so happy, i wish you all the best.
Congrats again! Wonderful news! So glad you're feeling good. I loved being pregnant a long time ago so I get your excitement. YES we can see the bump!! You are too adorable! Enjoy this time and I know Willa will LOVE a little baby sister!❤👶
Yes u still got time to think about it. The hospital really is not a bad option here But if u want to go to the birth center thats also a good option I just think givibg birth at home in march in the southern germsn country side u hsve a high risk being on your own there
I always mention you on the you tube channel "Flying the Nest" because you guys would be so great in a collaboration. Also they are also expecting baby no 2. Lovely vlog🤗
Aww Rebecca that means so much! It would be a dream to meet up with them and do a collab! We saw the news too and thought that was so exciting for them 😊
Excellent news and congratulations 🎉I’m so glad that you found a midwife and she helps guiding you through these birthing options. Maybe baby girl no 2 will be more of an active rockstar than your sweet and rather calm daughter 😊 all remains to be seen, take good care of yourselves and enjoy your time with „bump“
Homebirth is safe, when mother and baby are completely healthy and there are no complications in the pregnancy. Your midwife is well trained and will organize a transfer to a hospital when she sees something is going to get pathologically. You will choose the right thing for your family ♥️
So glad that you found a midwife and feel better informed now. You baby bump is super cute! One thing I just don't get is the over-excitement about the gender of a child ... Why is this so important? I mean, it's super interesting and it is the one thing about the baby you can find out before birth (you won't find out much about their character or their interests by doing an ultrasound, will you?), but I see so many over-the-top gender reveal videos lately and it seems to be such a huge thing in the US. I think it's also getting bigger here in Germany. Would you mind talking about the reasons behind that or even about the differences between the US and Europe in handling this topic? For me, it's just something you find out sooner or later, and of course it will make a difference in your family dynamics, but personally, it doesn't matter that much to me. I mean, why does a baby need gender appropriate clothing or have their room painted and decorated in a gender appropriate color? It kind of makes me sad to see people push those children into a mold from the very first day. I prefer not to care too much about gender and rather encourage children to be just the person the are meant to be. In my opinion, a lot of gender dysphoria problems might be created by this rigidity in handling role models, and it could probably be helpful if we didn't designate everything (like colors or clothes or toys or professions) to a certain gender. Of course you might have another opinion about that, which is totally legit. Doing stuff gender-appropriately seems to be a very American thing, and of course people are entitled to do that. I just wish I could understand it better.
Aww thanks so much! And good question! We agree with you that we don’t need to push “gender appropriate” things onto kids. I think most of the excitement for Americans (& maybe others) comes from just knowing the difference it will make in family dynamics. At least that’s the case for us. You are right so many of our American friends have thrown the most lavish gender reveal announcement parties! It’s mind blowing to us how big they are 😂. What you see in the his videos is a very mellow way of finding out the sex of the baby compared haha! So not sure if we really answered your question because we don’t exactly agree with how big of a deal it is for some families, but we do think for most it’s just the excitement of knowing.
@@OurStorytoTell Oh thank you so much for your long answer! Yeah, I totally get that it's exciting (and it is!!). And I didn't mean to criticize or anything, I just feel that Americans and Germans are a bit different in that respect. Have fun enjoying the journey and thank you for taking us along!
@@OurStorytoTell The midwifes in Germany are very well educated on all aspect of delivery. So rest assured that they will do their best to make it as comfortable for you and safe ! IF for some odd reason, you need to go to the hospital, the ambulance will get you there in a short time. So you are doing good and you can relax. Thank you for sharing your journey and all will go just fine !!!!
I really appreciate you guys letting us be a part of your journey. We have 3 kids and we're done but I'd be lying if I said that I don't miss all the excitement of expecting a baby. So it's fun to experience it a little through you. My wife was considering a home birth for our second and third child but ultimately we're glad that we went to the hospital. There were always some complications with the births and being at the hospital mitigated them somewhat. But I'm sure that you will make the right decision. All the best for you.
Thanks so much for watching & your comment! It is a really exciting time. How fun you got to go through it three times! :) and thanks for your insight!
Assuming Willa was not born in Germany (isn't she 2 and you've been there less than 2 years?) it will be interesting to see what your pregnancy/pre-birth/birth/post-birth experience will be like this time around. I may be prejudiced but, by all accounts, a birth is a profit opportunity in 'Murica while the opposite is generally true in Europe. I am certainly going to follow your experiences through this. I am Icelandic, my firstborn is now approaching 50 and my newest granddaughter is 2 months old, an adorable milk-to-shite converter, soon to become an even more adorable sentient being. Watching their personalities form is a miracle, only to be replaced by the classic "how fast time flies, they grew up while we were looking the other way". Mark my words: These are precious years in your life. Enjoy them to the hilt!
Wonderful.....and as always ' healthy '. Soooooo happy for you. Willa may need more time to process...hahaha! I had three girls...then my boy! Now, what does that tell you?! Love you all and God Bless!!!!
You are a really cute family, I wish you the best, it will all be good. Enjoy the time of pregnancy and be relaxed, I would give you the advice to go for the birth in a specialized hospital, your midwife can be there and help you with all the support of that hospital.
Hi. I'm so happy everythink turned out good about the midwife. Everything will ne fine and safe at the end. Just trust. Willa seemed to be a bit diasappointed not to get a little brother 😀. All the best to you.
It is paragraph 15 of the Gendiagnosegesetz. I ran into this myself when they needed to wait a whole week until telling me the gender results, although they already had it.
@@lyndaf.6329 then you got lucky, its not allowed before the 13 week, because you can get an abortion until 12 weeks. They want stop People to get a abortion because they dont like the sex. Because there are People that are crazy like that.
I was born on our kitchen table. 1964 in Germany. Our village doctor pulled me out and slapped my ass. He told me. Not every time I saw him, but the last time in my late twenties. You’ll be fine. You have your own story, so will your daughter. All birth stories are good stories. Unavoidable. 😊
@@chrstiania agreed. But I know from experience (peripheral) that even the most horrible birth stories are about hope. Maybe only a faint hope for a distant future. But birth is about birth. Hard to beat.
In my experience, the first child is usually the quieter one from the start. Perhaps nature will spare inexperienced parents a bit. When my wife and I were expecting our children, we decided not to know what gender it would be. That made it more exciting. 😉 Hospital births are safer when unexpected complications arise. My wive had no choice because of medical issues they had to do a planned C-Section on both children.
If the the first is quieter… then we are in for it with our second 😅. I’m sure they’ll have so much fun and make lots of noise just as kids should! Waiting to find the gender would be a fun surprise, but we definitely wanted to know for ours. How fun you did it for your kids! Glad to hear that the deliveries of your kids went well, even though they may not have went as you had planned.
@@OurStorytoTell We knew that c-section was necessary for all the children because my wife had a myoma surgery years earlier. The risk of rupture of the uterus in a natural birth would have been too high. We were happy that both pregnancies went without complications. Nevertheless, I was allowed to be present at both births, only the surgical area was covered with a cloth to prevent the husband from causing a medical emergency during deliveriy. 😉
Keeps him on his toes! Good! Now they need a cat, a dog, a sheep, a goat, a chicken and a running duck eating all the snails around the house. All female of course. THEN he is outnumbered. 🎉
It’s funny, our first one, around Willa‘s age, is a girl, and after the first ultrasound of our second baby, the doctor said she could not tell for sure, but it looked like a boy, and we were prepared for this, and the high resolution ultrasound then made quite sure it is instead a girl. Got a genetic blood analysis (not really needed) as well proving that it it really is a girl, and in July, we got our second daughter. All the best!
My sister and her husband have two girls as well and neither my sister nor my BIL would have preferred it any other way! :) They have about 50/50 chance of playing or fighting together, so I cross fingers that you get a better rate than that lol Congrats to all three of you!
congratulations to you. Love to see you so happy. I really hope that you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy :) Just a liiiiiitle side note: Gender is not equal to sex. But don't mind me. Babies are exciting. If there wasn't the part fo beeng pregnant (I dind't enjoy it that much) I would have a dozen. I think genetics are incredible interessting. I have two kids and the similarities and differences are astounding from mixing up the same stuff basically. :)
Hallo, seid euch nicht so sicher :-D meine Ex- Freundin und ich haben einen wundervollen Sohn (geb. 2018). Aber diesen haben wir erst bei der Geburt bekommen. Es wurde immer ein Mädchen diagnostiziert , bis zuletzt. Für uns war alles auf ein Mädchen eingestellt, Kinderzimmer, Klamotten alles. Nach der Geburt fragte die Hebamme wie das Kind heißen soll, und es war Sophie, die Hebamme schaute nur und meinte, das ist keine Sophie! und jetzt haben wir unseren Sohn Leon. Trotz bester Technik sind Überraschungen nicht ausgeschlossen. Alles Gute Euch!
I think it is easier to have two girls instead of a girl and a boy because they mostly have the same interests and like to play together. I have also two girls and that is fantastic. Viele liebe Grüße
Don't have a home birth. With us it is usual to have a birth in a hospital. In a hospital you will have a midwife, of course. I think you can even bring your midwife with you, you might ask her. If ever you had covid, knowingly or not, there might be really awful complications: my neighbour who gave birth last year after covid, she had awful bleeding, at home she might have died. And the doctors and midwifes and nurses told her, that this happens quite often since covid started. Thanks to the hospital, mother and child are fine, just had to stay some days longer. So please, go to a hospital. We have really nice hospitals to give birth at. Just ask the other mothers and visit the hospitals to find the nicest one. You will be astonished how many ways there are to give birth. Don't forget: it is all free, paid by insurance, your husband will be allowed to stay with you (mine even was allowed at the emergency c-section), your baby will be in your room, your husband might sleep in the same room as you, if you want to, for a small fee. If you prefer, you can also leave as soon as you feel like leaving, but you might also enjoy not to be confronted with your dirty dishes two hours after birth. And - if there is any complication, what so ever, you will have a doctor look after you and the baby. Maybe I might sound a bit timid, but in my first two births, the heart beats of my baby went down and I was really happy to have an instant c-section via pda. So I am really glad I chose the hospital. All my boys are fine, no damage inspite of the low heartbeats, because we were able to react within minutes. Birth in a hospital to me means: all is fine, and you don't have to bother about risks, because to every situation there is a solution.
Your problems finding a doctor and midwife in your area is sadly one of the "dark sides" of German healthcare - while I would still rate it much higher than most other countries (and definitely higher than the US, sorry 😁) we will run into a lot of problems in the near future. There are little to no benefits for doctors and midwives to work in these small towns, the pay is too low (for the amount of work, we are sometimes talking 70-80 hours a week) and our lives have become too city centric. There is no decent public transport, stores outside of your small bank and maybe a REWE all stop business there, etc. As a med student I would not move to a small town in the middle of nowhere if I can have better (or at least not worse) conditions with better payment in a hospital/bigger doctors office in the city.
Totally see your point with that! It’s hard because where we live there aren’t many ‘great’ options close by even if we lived another place. We’re making it work though :)
This is so funny because even though it's been almost 40 years ago we just knew that our second one was a boy My pregnancy was different everything was different. We had sonograms back then but they were not as accurate and you only had one once early on. We didn't have one at 20 weeks it was mainly just to make sure the baby was developing normally but not so much about determining the sex of the baby so going into delivery we just were certain it was a boy and we also had had a girl first tSo I'm not going to lie ....my husband really really wanted a boy and.. .. surprise! We had girl and she's been nothing but a joy her entire life . Se was such a good baby-- the first baby was really difficult and the second girl was just perfect. So congratulations --I love following your story and here's for a healthy rest of your pregnancy for you and baby and an easy delivery Love ....from Texas
Aww thanks so much for the comment and love!! Too funny when you are SURE it is either a boy or girl and then ends up being the other 😂 Our experienced are similar! Love that you guys have enjoyed your girls though! We can’t wait to see ours together. 💗💗 Hugs!
Our girls are our everything💜💜 Shhhh, it is a secret....dint tell my husband but I wanted another girl. God answered my prayer. I had to wait for a grandson. He blessed me with one, too! 💜💜💜
Just don't have a home birth. Any complications, and then what? Stuck out there miles from anywhere. Hospital birth is the only sensible decision. Any complications, and you have a whole medical team right there instantly, with all the diagnostic equipment if needed.
@@open_book1237 It's common sense to choose the safest form of birth available, and that is in a hospital surrounded by doctors and all possible facilities.
Great to hear you doing good 🥰. Poor Tanner two girls close in time for puberty . Boys are...well you simply let them out of the door and ignore the rest. But girls...girls you cant ignore. They bring "THINGS" home 😵💫. Sometimes but only sometimes these things may remaind you of boys/grown up beings but sometimes words cant even descripe what "IT" is that they bring home 😉😄.
Great news. It will be another princess. Well, I am sure at least Willa will accept too and also will take care of her sister. Female fights will come up later but the main point is, that the baby and the mom will be healthy. I know from other families that the second girl mostly behave much more like a boy than a girl. You will find out. Tanner, as you dont drink alc anyway, you dont need someone at older age to join you going into a pub. Be happy, you will be rich as you will have so many girls around you and at older age they will serve you as a King. Of course more duty for you to keep the foxes, the wolfes away which will be around your house when your both girls will come to an age in which boys are no longer dumb. Risa, its so nice to see you so happy. Crossing my fingers for all of you.
Well maybe its still a boy just not the sex lolz although I dont hopebthis being trans is hard. See my mother was told its gonna be a boy and ....well they where half right Although i could cry thinking to much about it *sight* Fingers crossed that everywmthing will match up with the kid
SPOILER ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do not read, if you want to be surprised! If your belly will be pointed and kind of slim, it's a boy, if it is round and huge, it's a girl. ;-)
I can hardly understand that one obsessively wants another daughter, even though one already has one. But it is even worse when a man (Tanner) does not want a son with whom he can later share his hobbies. As a man, I can't understand that at all. Anyway, congratulations.
What a weird comment. Girls are more than able to share hobbies with their dads. Many girls are in football teams here for example. When I was young I was the one who helped my Dad with DIY jobs, my brother had no interest at all. Heaven help the females in your house, no doubt their place is in the kitchen.
Funnily enough, the sperm of the man (father) decides what gender the child has and some men also think practically (baby and toddler clothes do not have to be bought completely new, the first years could both share a room etc.) Oh yes and at least here in Germany, girls are slightly underrepresented here statistically per year of birth.
Obsessively is a bit strong-worded. We would have both been just as excited for a son, but we both love our little Willa. I love my relationship with my daughter and how many hobbies and interests we have in common (football, running, music), so I don’t see that being a problem later in life. It’s all good that you have a different perspective :) Thanks! We are excited!
@@lyndaf.6329 oh someone feels attacked. Sons tend to have more in common with their father than they do with their mother. By the way, many more boys, men, play or are interested in football than vice versa. Your family is an exception. We have to stick to reality.🙏
@@manub.3847 I just got the feeling that Tanner actually wanted a son but he wasn't specific about it. She expressed her wish and he said only now you have your wish you wanted two girls. More boys are being born all over the world, but there is a clear surplus of women all over the world.
Maybe contact "passport two", "Antinette Emily" or "life in germany" here on youtube for an private exchange or even a video coop. They all have a newborn child. And you can get US, Kiwi and Canadian oppinions.... Still remembered "Black Forest Family"
Congrats on another girl🧑🦲🤰😊 Hospitals have open evenings for you to look around the birth ward...you should definitely go and look so you get a feeling for if you like it or not.
When I was 8 yo, my mum was pregnant. I hated the question, if I want a sister or a brother, as if I had a saying in that... I wanted a bigger brother (obviously not possible) or a little sister (in fact, what I really wanted, was a dog, not a sibling at all). And I got.... a little brother...
He's the best sibling I could imagine and I love him (and his wife and daughter) dearly.
Willa's face when you told her cracks me up. She's like "Sister? That wasn't the deal!" LOL
Yes, for the first time Willa is looking at both parents like they cheated her out of a baby brother. But she'll come around in time.
I know, right?! 😂 she has definitely came around now and loves talking about her baby sister in mommy’s belly 💛
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Home births are rare in Germany. But you can go to the hospital. Then the midwife will do the preparation and aftercare. She can answer all questions and also has a lot of good advice.
In the countryside it also happens that 112 (European emergency call for ambulance and fire engine)
has to be called if a birth is unexpectedly premature.
We also have an ambulance specially equipped to carry out births.
Most of the time, the child is healthy before the hospital is reached.
But a scheduled birth is certainly more pleasant than having to do it suddenly.
A ready-packed bag is definitely a good idea when things have to go fast.
Thanks for sharing! It’s a great idea to have a bag packed and ready! We will have to get on that soon. Thanks for the reminder 😊
I know if the baby is only half as adorable as Willa is, there will be a cuteness overload in your family.
We can't wait to find out!! :)
I'm so happy for you guys another girl is wonderful. I'm sure Willa will be thrilled once she gets to hold her little sister. I'm also glad that you are rethinking the home birth idea. You and baby will be in the best hands in a Hospital or Birthing Centre. Looking forward to seeing how the rest of the pregnancy goes and can't wait to welcome the baby. xxxx
Thanks for the sweet comment Lynda! We are excited to see Willa be a big sister 💛
Congratulations on such happy news!! As an American married to a German, I've had three births here in Germany and feel like I understand the system really well now. If you have any questions, please let me know!! :)
Thank you so much! So cool you live here! 😊
Juhu!🎉 A sister for Willa! 👱♀️👱♀️ Wonderful news! 💗
Birthing centre or hospital are the safest options for sure.
Phew! I'm actually really happy that you have decided to not give birth living on the countryside. So much can happen to you and the little one during birth and it's such a relieve to know that you can get help asap if needed. Btw, from my experience if something looks like you'll need to go to the hospital rather than the birthcenter (since not all of them have doctors available), they'll drive you there instead..
Congrats on the little baby girl! :)
I have four kids (girl, boy, twin girls) and during my second pregnancy we considered a birth center but because those have no doctors, they aren't allowed to give any medicine. I ended up having a strep B infection (that's one of the things they check during those check ups with a smear test) and needed antibiotics during the birth - so hospital it was.
I was supposed to deliver the twins naturally but one of them went into stress during contractions (heartbeat went down constantly) and to be sure we all came out of that alive I needed a C-section.
Just wanted to leave a comment to show that even if you're super healthy and have a perfect pregnancy, complications come up and you need a hospital. Luckily birth centers usually have an ambulance waiting outside (I hope it's like that everywhere) just in case something goes wrong. So that might be a good alternative to a home birth.
Wishing you all the best ❤️
Aw, such a sweet video. A friend of mine gave birth at a birth center and she absolutly loved it. You are young and healthy and allready had a birth without any complications. So chances are good that you get a clearance for a home birth or a birth center
Thanks for watching!! Really appreciate it!
Having had no complications the first time round is no indication whatsoever, what will happen the second time.
I attended the birth of my Goddaughter in Keilheim, Bavaria at a birth center. It was a terrific experience! (She is now 21!). God bless all four of you and my heartfelt wishes for your continued joy! Jerri
Congratulations a little sister for Willa so Happy for 3 of you 😍
Have a Good weekend 🥰
der berechnende blickt vor dem kleinen engel is einfach zu gut xD
"is das jetz gut oder eher schlecht ne schwester zu haben"^^
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I never would risk the Life/Health of the new Baby/Mother outside of a Hospital!!
We have 2 child’s and we had complications they you can’t see before!!
Home Birth is more a Romantic Aspect from the Mother for me! GL 👍
Risa, you'll be just fine here, do not worry. Sure, things are different to home, but you just have to trust we also know what we are doing when it comes to pregnancy.
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You'll figure it out at some point. I am so happy for you guys! 🤩
Thanks so much! We feel the same. 😊
This is so exciting! We love hearing about all your updates, especially as another couple from the US living in Germany and might be having children here in the future!
That will be so exciting for you guys!! :) We wish the best for you!!
Nice that you now have certainty and know what it will be, it is important that the baby is healthy and that everything is fine with mom and baby, no matter what it ends up like, girl or boy. So congratulations on the daughter, of course, but now Tanner is clearly outnumbered.
So cute to see you all so happy, i wish you all the best.
Thanks so much Robert! Yes her definitely is 😊
It´s so wonderful to see that things are working out for you and that maybe the stress about all things birth is hopefully lessening. Very exciting!
Thanks Arnika! The stress is lower now, yes. Still figuring smaller details out, but we are getting closer.
Congrats again! Wonderful news! So glad you're feeling good. I loved being pregnant a long time ago so I get your excitement. YES we can see the bump!! You are too adorable! Enjoy this time and I know Willa will LOVE a little baby sister!❤👶
You’re so sweet Erika! Thanks for the comment! 💗
Hahaha willa's reaction was priceless. Congrats again on your baby girl.
Hahah I know! She is too funny! Thank you!
Yes u still got time to think about it.
The hospital really is not a bad option here
But if u want to go to the birth center thats also a good option
I just think givibg birth at home in march in the southern germsn country side u hsve a high risk being on your own there
I always mention you on the you tube channel "Flying the Nest" because you guys would be so great in a collaboration. Also they are also expecting baby no 2.
Lovely vlog🤗
Aww Rebecca that means so much! It would be a dream to meet up with them and do a collab! We saw the news too and thought that was so exciting for them 😊
Excellent news and congratulations 🎉I’m so glad that you found a midwife and she helps guiding you through these birthing options. Maybe baby girl no 2 will be more of an active rockstar than your sweet and rather calm daughter 😊 all remains to be seen, take good care of yourselves and enjoy your time with „bump“
Thanks Charlie! We are so glad to have found one and, yes, we are enjoying the bump 💛
Homebirth is safe, when mother and baby are completely healthy and there are no complications in the pregnancy. Your midwife is well trained and will organize a transfer to a hospital when she sees something is going to get pathologically. You will choose the right thing for your family ♥️
Soooo nice your family is growing. Alle the best to you 4. I love your Vlogs!
Thanks so much Verena! It means a lot to us that you watch them :)
I would choose a home birth or a birth center my secound time around. 😊especialy when you and the baby are healthy
We love the idea of them! 😊
So glad that you found a midwife and feel better informed now. You baby bump is super cute!
One thing I just don't get is the over-excitement about the gender of a child ... Why is this so important? I mean, it's super interesting and it is the one thing about the baby you can find out before birth (you won't find out much about their character or their interests by doing an ultrasound, will you?), but I see so many over-the-top gender reveal videos lately and it seems to be such a huge thing in the US. I think it's also getting bigger here in Germany. Would you mind talking about the reasons behind that or even about the differences between the US and Europe in handling this topic? For me, it's just something you find out sooner or later, and of course it will make a difference in your family dynamics, but personally, it doesn't matter that much to me. I mean, why does a baby need gender appropriate clothing or have their room painted and decorated in a gender appropriate color? It kind of makes me sad to see people push those children into a mold from the very first day. I prefer not to care too much about gender and rather encourage children to be just the person the are meant to be. In my opinion, a lot of gender dysphoria problems might be created by this rigidity in handling role models, and it could probably be helpful if we didn't designate everything (like colors or clothes or toys or professions) to a certain gender. Of course you might have another opinion about that, which is totally legit. Doing stuff gender-appropriately seems to be a very American thing, and of course people are entitled to do that. I just wish I could understand it better.
Aww thanks so much! And good question! We agree with you that we don’t need to push “gender appropriate” things onto kids. I think most of the excitement for Americans (& maybe others) comes from just knowing the difference it will make in family dynamics. At least that’s the case for us.
You are right so many of our American friends have thrown the most lavish gender reveal announcement parties! It’s mind blowing to us how big they are 😂. What you see in the his videos is a very mellow way of finding out the sex of the baby compared haha! So not sure if we really answered your question because we don’t exactly agree with how big of a deal it is for some families, but we do think for most it’s just the excitement of knowing.
@@OurStorytoTell Oh thank you so much for your long answer! Yeah, I totally get that it's exciting (and it is!!). And I didn't mean to criticize or anything, I just feel that Americans and Germans are a bit different in that respect. Have fun enjoying the journey and thank you for taking us along!
How far is the birth center from the Hospital. You will work it out and I am glad you finally have a midwife.
Still about 30-40 minutes away! But thank you! Same here :)
@@OurStorytoTell The midwifes in Germany are very well educated on all aspect of delivery. So rest assured that they will do their best to make it as comfortable for you and safe ! IF for some odd reason, you need to go to the hospital, the ambulance will get you there in a short time. So you are doing good and you can relax. Thank you for sharing your journey and all will go just fine !!!!
I really appreciate you guys letting us be a part of your journey. We have 3 kids and we're done but I'd be lying if I said that I don't miss all the excitement of expecting a baby. So it's fun to experience it a little through you. My wife was considering a home birth for our second and third child but ultimately we're glad that we went to the hospital. There were always some complications with the births and being at the hospital mitigated them somewhat. But I'm sure that you will make the right decision. All the best for you.
Thanks so much for watching & your comment! It is a really exciting time. How fun you got to go through it three times! :) and thanks for your insight!
Super exciting 🎉 thanks for the update.
Thanks for watching you two! 💗 Your support always means so much!
Assuming Willa was not born in Germany (isn't she 2 and you've been there less than 2 years?) it will be interesting to see what your pregnancy/pre-birth/birth/post-birth experience will be like this time around.
I may be prejudiced but, by all accounts, a birth is a profit opportunity in 'Murica while the opposite is generally true in Europe. I am certainly going to follow your experiences through this. I am Icelandic, my firstborn is now approaching 50 and my newest granddaughter is 2 months old, an adorable milk-to-shite converter, soon to become an even more adorable sentient being. Watching their personalities form is a miracle, only to be replaced by the classic "how fast time flies, they grew up while we were looking the other way".
Mark my words: These are precious years in your life. Enjoy them to the hilt!
Wonderful.....and as always ' healthy '. Soooooo happy for you. Willa may need more time to process...hahaha! I had three girls...then my boy! Now, what does that tell you?! Love you all and God Bless!!!!
Thanks Margitta 💛
You are a really cute family, I wish you the best, it will all be good. Enjoy the time of pregnancy and be relaxed, I would give you the advice to go for the birth in a specialized hospital, your midwife can be there and help you with all the support of that hospital.
Thanks so much 😊
Congrats on the girl. Girls are awesome. Also, it helps since you still have all girly things, save a lot of money.
Thank you! That is very true-we are happy about both :)
Hi. I'm so happy everythink turned out good about the midwife. Everything will ne fine and safe at the end. Just trust. Willa seemed to be a bit diasappointed not to get a little brother 😀. All the best to you.
Thanks Conny :). She was initially a bit surprised cause she would always say it was a boy, but now she loves the idea of a baby sister 💛
Dream team. I‘m envious. Two princesses and a queen - what can a man want more?
Hi you 3 Nice to see that everthing is fine and best wishes to the baby GIRL sorry Willa not a brother😇😇😇👨👩👧👧
Congratulations 🎉
Thank you 💗
In Germany there is actually a Law so that Doctors are not allowed to tell you the gender of the baby until week 13
Never heard of that, my doctor here in Germany told me the sex of my baby at around week 12, but that was 26 years ago so maybe things have changed.
It is paragraph 15 of the Gendiagnosegesetz. I ran into this myself when they needed to wait a whole week until telling me the gender results, although they already had it.
@@lyndaf.6329 then you got lucky, its not allowed before the 13 week, because you can get an abortion until 12 weeks. They want stop People to get a abortion because they dont like the sex. Because there are People that are crazy like that.
@@pinkhope84 this was 26 years ago , abortions were illegal in Germany at that time. I understand the logic that it has now changed.
@@lyndaf.6329 i was pregnant 4 years ago and thats what my obgyn told me
wow 👍 so excited for coming baby 🚼 tc.
Thank you! We are excited!
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I was born on our kitchen table. 1964 in Germany. Our village doctor pulled me out and slapped my ass. He told me. Not every time I saw him, but the last time in my late twenties.
You’ll be fine. You have your own story, so will your daughter. All birth stories are good stories. Unavoidable. 😊
Hahah this is the best story!! Thanks for the smiles to start out our day!
not sure about the last sentence. a lot of people die or almost die during childbirth.
@@chrstiania agreed. But I know from experience (peripheral) that even the most horrible birth stories are about hope. Maybe only a faint hope for a distant future. But birth is about birth. Hard to beat.
In my experience, the first child is usually the quieter one from the start. Perhaps nature will spare inexperienced parents a bit.
When my wife and I were expecting our children, we decided not to know what gender it would be. That made it more exciting. 😉
Hospital births are safer when unexpected complications arise. My wive had no choice because of medical issues they had to do a planned C-Section on both children.
If the the first is quieter… then we are in for it with our second 😅. I’m sure they’ll have so much fun and make lots of noise just as kids should!
Waiting to find the gender would be a fun surprise, but we definitely wanted to know for ours. How fun you did it for your kids!
Glad to hear that the deliveries of your kids went well, even though they may not have went as you had planned.
@@OurStorytoTell We knew that c-section was necessary for all the children because my wife had a myoma surgery years earlier. The risk of rupture of the uterus in a natural birth would have been too high. We were happy that both pregnancies went without complications.
Nevertheless, I was allowed to be present at both births, only the surgical area was covered with a cloth to prevent the husband from causing a medical emergency during deliveriy. 😉
A Belated Congratulations to You! :)
Thank you! 💗
Poor Tanner already outnumbered and now they will be even more in charge! 😄
😂
Keeps him on his toes! Good! Now they need a cat, a dog, a sheep, a goat, a chicken and a running duck eating all the snails around the house. All female of course. THEN he is outnumbered. 🎉
It’s funny, our first one, around Willa‘s age, is a girl, and after the first ultrasound of our second baby, the doctor said she could not tell for sure, but it looked like a boy, and we were prepared for this, and the high resolution ultrasound then made quite sure it is instead a girl. Got a genetic blood analysis (not really needed) as well proving that it it really is a girl, and in July, we got our second daughter. All the best!
Aww so fun! Crazy the similarities! Congrats to you guys and thank you 😊
Beautiful sharing 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
My sister and her husband have two girls as well and neither my sister nor my BIL would have preferred it any other way! :) They have about 50/50 chance of playing or fighting together, so I cross fingers that you get a better rate than that lol Congrats to all three of you!
Haha yes we are definitely expecting fighting, but also hoping they’re the best of sisters! 😊☺️
Willa will be a great big sister.
We agree!
I'm very happy for you 😀 All the best for you☀️
Thanks Klaus!
congratulations to you. Love to see you so happy. I really hope that you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy :) Just a liiiiiitle side note: Gender is not equal to sex. But don't mind me. Babies are exciting. If there wasn't the part fo beeng pregnant (I dind't enjoy it that much) I would have a dozen. I think genetics are incredible interessting. I have two kids and the similarities and differences are astounding from mixing up the same stuff basically. :)
Thank you so much for that reminder! Soo true! 💗 And a dozen would be a lot, but they really are so dang adorable!!
Hallo, seid euch nicht so sicher :-D meine Ex- Freundin und ich haben einen wundervollen Sohn (geb. 2018). Aber diesen haben wir erst bei der Geburt bekommen. Es wurde immer ein Mädchen diagnostiziert , bis zuletzt. Für uns war alles auf ein Mädchen eingestellt, Kinderzimmer, Klamotten alles. Nach der Geburt fragte die Hebamme wie das Kind heißen soll, und es war Sophie, die Hebamme schaute nur und meinte, das ist keine Sophie! und jetzt haben wir unseren Sohn Leon. Trotz bester Technik sind Überraschungen nicht ausgeschlossen. Alles Gute Euch!
I think it is easier to have two girls instead of a girl and a boy because they mostly have the same interests and like to play together. I have also two girls and that is fantastic.
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Hi Mario! Fun to hear you have to girls and know what it is like! We are really excited about it. 😊
Best Wishes to you!!
Thank you so much Michael! :)
Don't have a home birth. With us it is usual to have a birth in a hospital. In a hospital you will have a midwife, of course. I think you can even bring your midwife with you, you might ask her.
If ever you had covid, knowingly or not, there might be really awful complications: my neighbour who gave birth last year after covid, she had awful bleeding, at home she might have died. And the doctors and midwifes and nurses told her, that this happens quite often since covid started. Thanks to the hospital, mother and child are fine, just had to stay some days longer. So please, go to a hospital. We have really nice hospitals to give birth at. Just ask the other mothers and visit the hospitals to find the nicest one. You will be astonished how many ways there are to give birth. Don't forget: it is all free, paid by insurance, your husband will be allowed to stay with you (mine even was allowed at the emergency c-section), your baby will be in your room, your husband might sleep in the same room as you, if you want to, for a small fee. If you prefer, you can also leave as soon as you feel like leaving, but you might also enjoy not to be confronted with your dirty dishes two hours after birth. And - if there is any complication, what so ever, you will have a doctor look after you and the baby. Maybe I might sound a bit timid, but in my first two births, the heart beats of my baby went down and I was really happy to have an instant c-section via pda. So I am really glad I chose the hospital. All my boys are fine, no damage inspite of the low heartbeats, because we were able to react within minutes. Birth in a hospital to me means: all is fine, and you don't have to bother about risks, because to every situation there is a solution.
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Your problems finding a doctor and midwife in your area is sadly one of the "dark sides" of German healthcare - while I would still rate it much higher than most other countries (and definitely higher than the US, sorry 😁) we will run into a lot of problems in the near future. There are little to no benefits for doctors and midwives to work in these small towns, the pay is too low (for the amount of work, we are sometimes talking 70-80 hours a week) and our lives have become too city centric. There is no decent public transport, stores outside of your small bank and maybe a REWE all stop business there, etc.
As a med student I would not move to a small town in the middle of nowhere if I can have better (or at least not worse) conditions with better payment in a hospital/bigger doctors office in the city.
Totally see your point with that! It’s hard because where we live there aren’t many ‘great’ options close by even if we lived another place. We’re making it work though :)
This is so funny because even though it's been almost 40 years ago we just knew that our second one was a boy
My pregnancy was different everything was different. We had sonograms back then but they were not as accurate and you only had one once early on. We didn't have one at 20 weeks it was mainly just to make sure the baby was developing normally but not so much about determining the sex of the baby so going into delivery we just were certain it was a boy and we also had had a girl first
tSo I'm not going to lie ....my husband really really wanted a boy and..
.. surprise! We had girl and she's been nothing but a joy her entire life .
Se was such a good baby-- the first baby was really difficult and the second girl was just perfect. So congratulations --I love following your story and here's for a healthy rest of your pregnancy for you and baby and an easy delivery
Love ....from Texas
Aww thanks so much for the comment and love!! Too funny when you are SURE it is either a boy or girl and then ends up being the other 😂 Our experienced are similar! Love that you guys have enjoyed your girls though! We can’t wait to see ours together. 💗💗 Hugs!
Our girls are our everything💜💜 Shhhh, it is a secret....dint tell my husband but I wanted another girl. God answered my prayer. I had
to wait for a grandson. He blessed me with one, too! 💜💜💜
1. Home births seem like a 19th century concept for me.
2. Why reveal the gender before a child is born? Wait until it’s born - and hopefully healthy.
We see your viewpoints, but feel differently & that’s okay! :) Hope you have a great week!
Just don't have a home birth. Any complications, and then what? Stuck out there miles from anywhere. Hospital birth is the only sensible decision. Any complications, and you have a whole medical team right there instantly, with all the diagnostic equipment if needed.
Are u pregnant? Will u give birth? I guess no. So dont give any unnecessary advise that is extremly unsensetive.
Such an American response…
@@open_book1237 It's common sense to choose the safest form of birth available, and that is in a hospital surrounded by doctors and all possible facilities.
@@SuperLittleTyke No its not “common sense“. Its not your decision and its not even your right to raise your voice in that regard. None whatsoever.
@@wolfgangpreier9160 I am not making decisions. I am merely voicing my opinion.
I vote for 70% boy 40% girl
Be sure to eat enough currywurst. It's good for the baby. :)
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And later, drink Malzbier! It's good for lactation.
Willa thinks, "Oh no, I'll have to share my clothes and dolls." Tanner thinks, "That's two weddings I'll have to pay for."
Haha probably at some point they’ve thought that 😂
Great to hear you doing good 🥰. Poor Tanner two girls close in time for puberty . Boys are...well you simply let them out of the door and ignore the rest. But girls...girls you cant ignore. They bring "THINGS" home 😵💫. Sometimes but only sometimes these things may remaind you of boys/grown up beings but sometimes words cant even descripe what "IT" is that they bring home 😉😄.
You’re American, right? Parenting concepts, especially the role of father and daughter seem to be very different on the other side on the pont…
wtf?
Willas Face lol. Whhaaaaattt a gril??? i thought its a girl))
Hahaha she totally was surprised! Fun you thought girl from the beginning!
Great news. It will be another princess. Well, I am sure at least Willa will accept too and also will take care of her sister. Female fights will come up later but the main point is, that the baby and the mom will be healthy. I know from other families that the second girl mostly behave much more like a boy than a girl. You will find out. Tanner, as you dont drink alc anyway, you dont need someone at older age to join you going into a pub. Be happy, you will be rich as you will have so many girls around you and at older age they will serve you as a King. Of course more duty for you to keep the foxes, the wolfes away which will be around your house when your both girls will come to an age in which boys are no longer dumb. Risa, its so nice to see you so happy. Crossing my fingers for all of you.
Well maybe its still a boy just not the sex lolz although I dont hopebthis being trans is hard.
See my mother was told its gonna be a boy and ....well they where half right
Although i could cry thinking to much about it *sight*
Fingers crossed that everywmthing will match up with the kid
Hi!! Thanks for your comment! We hope you feel nothing but love for who you are! We will love our little baby no matter what that is for sure!
Who cares?
SPOILER ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do not read, if you want to be surprised!
If your belly will be pointed and kind of slim, it's a boy, if it is round and huge, it's a girl. ;-)
hahah I guess I (Risa) will just be a plump preggo lady! hahah
I can hardly understand that one obsessively wants another daughter, even though one already has one. But it is even worse when a man (Tanner) does not want a son with whom he can later share his hobbies. As a man, I can't understand that at all. Anyway, congratulations.
What a weird comment. Girls are more than able to share hobbies with their dads. Many girls are in football teams here for example. When I was young I was the one who helped my Dad with DIY jobs, my brother had no interest at all. Heaven help the females in your house, no doubt their place is in the kitchen.
Funnily enough, the sperm of the man (father) decides what gender the child has and some men also think practically (baby and toddler clothes do not have to be bought completely new, the first years could both share a room etc.) Oh yes and at least here in Germany, girls are slightly underrepresented here statistically per year of birth.
Obsessively is a bit strong-worded. We would have both been just as excited for a son, but we both love our little Willa. I love my relationship with my daughter and how many hobbies and interests we have in common (football, running, music), so I don’t see that being a problem later in life.
It’s all good that you have a different perspective :)
Thanks! We are excited!
@@lyndaf.6329 oh someone feels attacked. Sons tend to have more in common with their father than they do with their mother. By the way, many more boys, men, play or are interested in football than vice versa. Your family is an exception. We have to stick to reality.🙏
@@manub.3847 I just got the feeling that Tanner actually wanted a son but he wasn't specific about it. She expressed her wish and he said only now you have your wish you wanted two girls. More boys are being born all over the world, but there is a clear surplus of women all over the world.
Maybe contact "passport two", "Antinette Emily" or "life in germany" here on youtube for an private exchange or even a video coop. They all have a newborn child. And you can get US, Kiwi and Canadian oppinions....
Still remembered "Black Forest Family"
Congrats on another girl🧑🦲🤰😊
Hospitals have open evenings for you to look around the birth ward...you should definitely go and look so you get a feeling for if you like it or not.
Thank you! Yes we have been meaning to do that! 😊
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