Exercise: Ask yourself these questions and answer them truthfully. 1. Am I willing to face the truth about the situation? 2. Am I willing to let this person go? 3. Can I allow myself to feel the pain of losing this person?
I can say that I’ve personally dealt with this in my life, dwelling on old memories and “what I could’ve done differently” and creating fake scenarios of confident actions with said person in my head. It’s so good to hear your insight on the subject thank you!
Is it limerence if the person shown genuine interest in me, but I was too shy to respond? It was a genuine opportunity rather than an unrealistic fantasy. It turned into a fantasy once the opportunity passed.
It also helps that you put your energy and creativity on something that has momentum in your life. Like improving yourself. Doing the thing that you like and getting generally better at your skills
I have this for s famous person, since I noticed him about 6 weeks ago, I don’t know how long it will last, it feels like it may last a while. I’m not fed up of it yet. It will run its course and fizzle out. Some last years, others just weeks, this one is the most intense enjoyable one I have had in many years.
I get limerence toward people who've hurt me really badly. I've had limerence towards bullies in school and abusive ex's. It's painful and shameful. It's also really confusing I just want to heal and take my power back. It really brings up so much shame
I know what you mean, I’ve struggled with that as well. The more I allowed myself to feel the pain of it, no matter how bad, is when I started to heal from it. I am confident you will overcome this, awareness really is the first step.
Limerence explains Dr. Joe Beam very well of Marriage Helper. There are stages of Limerence. It is basically an addiction of a person for a period of time.
Definitely resonate with this message...i had experienced this a-lot more often when i was younger and even several times as ive got older, but not as much though since ive worked through my own childhood traumas...its great that you are bringing up topics that not many people are that aware off, this may well help a-lot of people who are going through this, but too ashamed to admit it due to some shame and fear of being ridiculed..as always keep up the great content.🙌🙌
Thanks for the video, it has helped me alot to put a name on what I was experiencing, as well as the source(s) that help spawn this state of mind. Although I've been deeply in love with this woman and I had reciprocity, she wasn't available... Probably my low self-esteem allowed me to tolerate being the second choice and usually, this type of love triangles end up with many people suffering and one being left on the side of the road, which was me in this case. I've also had my part of responsibility in the situation ending this way and I can only be grateful for the story I lived and the lessons learned 🙏🏻
Love this! Definitely been there. Louise her name was. One of my biggest life learning lessons. Be grateful for what you will learn if you are in this situation Your friend Paul from the Uk 🇬🇧
when i clicked on this video and watched the first few seconds i was sure that by your description i wasnt a limerent person like i thought first but then thank god i stayed and watched your video to the end and i have to admit that also for me every single point you have mentioned applies. we broke up about two moths ago but i still find myself fantasizing about what could have been if so and so. our future. but there is no us anymore. and at first i was fine with that but now just to cope with the pain fantasizing ans ruminating about him mede me feel better. but now i know continuing this pattern will get me nowhere and i have to face the reality. thank you for your advise and great explanation on this topic! wish you all the best for your channel too!
Exercise:
Ask yourself these questions and answer them truthfully.
1. Am I willing to face the truth about the situation?
2. Am I willing to let this person go?
3. Can I allow myself to feel the pain of losing this person?
I can say that I’ve personally dealt with this in my life, dwelling on old memories and “what I could’ve done differently” and creating fake scenarios of confident actions with said person in my head. It’s so good to hear your insight on the subject thank you!
We have all been there brother 🙂
Is it limerence if the person shown genuine interest in me, but I was too shy to respond? It was a genuine opportunity rather than an unrealistic fantasy. It turned into a fantasy once the opportunity passed.
It also helps that you put your energy and creativity on something that has momentum in your life. Like improving yourself. Doing the thing that you like and getting generally better at your skills
Yes, that’s an important one
5:51 true brother
I have this for s famous person, since I noticed him about 6 weeks ago, I don’t know how long it will last, it feels like it may last a while. I’m not fed up of it yet. It will run its course and fizzle out. Some last years, others just weeks, this one is the most intense enjoyable one I have had in many years.
I get limerence toward people who've hurt me really badly. I've had limerence towards bullies in school and abusive ex's. It's painful and shameful. It's also really confusing I just want to heal and take my power back. It really brings up so much shame
I know what you mean, I’ve struggled with that as well. The more I allowed myself to feel the pain of it, no matter how bad, is when I started to heal from it. I am confident you will overcome this, awareness really is the first step.
Limerence explains Dr. Joe Beam very well of Marriage Helper. There are stages of Limerence. It is basically an addiction of a person for a period of time.
I’m going thru this right now 😢
good video, hate the unnecessary background music.
Thank you ❤️
Definitely resonate with this message...i had experienced this a-lot more often when i was younger and even several times as ive got older, but not as much though since ive worked through my own childhood traumas...its great that you are bringing up topics that not many people are that aware off, this may well help a-lot of people who are going through this, but too ashamed to admit it due to some shame and fear of being ridiculed..as always keep up the great content.🙌🙌
Thanks for sharing brother and thank you for watching!
Thanks for the video, it has helped me alot to put a name on what I was experiencing, as well as the source(s) that help spawn this state of mind. Although I've been deeply in love with this woman and I had reciprocity, she wasn't available... Probably my low self-esteem allowed me to tolerate being the second choice and usually, this type of love triangles end up with many people suffering and one being left on the side of the road, which was me in this case. I've also had my part of responsibility in the situation ending this way and I can only be grateful for the story I lived and the lessons learned 🙏🏻
We all have to go through it at some point :)
Love this! Definitely been there. Louise her name was. One of my biggest life learning lessons. Be grateful for what you will learn if you are in this situation
Your friend Paul from the Uk 🇬🇧
Hello mate 😃
Thank you for your helpful insight on limerence. My mind is calm from this.
Great video as always. Keep up the great work of covering things that can really help people cope with their problems...
Thanks for joining me Phil 🙌🏼
Thankyou for this video
I had this ruin a important relationship in my life once upon a time I learned from this video kinda crazy
Great video Evan, that brings a lot of clarity for me.
Yes but how do we know the healthy way to feel when 2 ppl like each other.
5:25-5:30: lol very good looking dude gets rejected by a dudette who looks like a "5" NOT very realistic situation in the real WORLD 😅😅
Lol standards today are crazy my friend, I am never surprised
Good 👍.
Yeah I believe if I had somebody else I wouldn't be limerent about my ex. It's not love, it's a mirage
Exactly. Sometimes when we meet someone new it can cause the limerence to run out.
when i clicked on this video and watched the first few seconds i was sure that by your description i wasnt a limerent person like i thought first but then thank god i stayed and watched your video to the end and i have to admit that also for me every single point you have mentioned applies. we broke up about two moths ago but i still find myself fantasizing about what could have been if so and so. our future. but there is no us anymore. and at first i was fine with that but now just to cope with the pain fantasizing ans ruminating about him mede me feel better. but now i know continuing this pattern will get me nowhere and i have to face the reality. thank you for your advise and great explanation on this topic! wish you all the best for your channel too!
Yes, the sooner you can break the pattern, the better! Thanks for watching.
Omg I’m delulu …….🥲 this video made me realise so much