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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ส.ค. 2024
- Are you in love? Or are you just friends? Sometimes, the lines between love and friendship can get blurry sometimes, and adding romantic feelings to the mix can make things even more complicated.
So, if you need some help figuring out where to draw the line in the sand between love and friendship, here are a few clear signs that tell you things between you and your friend are starting to become much more romantic than platonic.
Need more confirmation? Check out our video on the signs you're more than just friends: • 10 Signs You're More T...
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Hannah Roldan
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Guerrero, L. K., & Mongeau, P. A. (2008). On becoming “more than friends”: The transition from friendship to romantic relationship. Handbook of relationship initiation, 175-194.
Messman, S. J., Canary, D. J., & Hause, K. S. (2000). Motives to remain platonic, equity, and the use of maintenance strategies in opposite-sex friendships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 17(1), 67-94.
Parks, M. R., & Floyd, K. (1996). Meanings for closeness and intimacy in friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 13(1), 85-107.
Egland, K. L., Spitzberg, B. H., & Zormeier, M. M. (1996). Flirtation and conversational competence in cross‐sex platonic and romantic relationships. Communication Reports, 9(2), 105-117.
Hendrick, S. S., & Hendrick, C. (1993). Lovers as friends. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 10(3), 459-466.
Have you ever love your best friend? Also Merry Christmas!
no i dont have friends lmfao
Hey! I've always loved y'all's vids,and they helped me a LOT but I have a request for the next vid, can y'all make one wich subject's is about a homosexual relationship? Like maybe how to confess or just some emotional support for ppl who don't have supportive surroundings, that'll really make my day, thanks for y'all's amazing content! 💜
Merry Christmas!! This channel helped me through this pandemic but yes.. I loved my bff but the problem is that he already have a lover🥲 But brrr I can say that he doesn't want her, HEHEHEHHE (ik this is cringe but HAHAHA just wanna share it:>)
merry Christmas!!
Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 ❤ ♥
Historians: It's just an extremely close friendship.
"Buddies"
Disney right there 100%
Oh my god, they were roommates
Might be writing an autobiography lol
Its just really REALLY close
I'm just in love with the thought of being in love
ikr. Same.
Same
It's a waste of time and in the end will hurt either you or the other party through the passing of either
Love can also hurt you. It can feel good and when it doesn’t go as planned it’s the worst pain imaginable.
No, you guys want love. You just dont want all the things that come with it. Its alright to have your fun and explore the waters. But one day y'all will wish for something more and deeper. That is when you really desire for something real.
I came here knowing I have all 8 of these signs, yet also knowing it's something that's one-sided only, and cannot be something beyond a friendship.
It was an equally beautiful and painful video to watch, but to anyone out there going through this same type of thing, rest assured you're not alone on this feeling...
Thanks my G, I feel you❤❤
+ the distance, I can never be sure
I feel you ack-
I'm glad I'm not the only one :')
I can see the signs in my friend.. what should i do now
This can definitely happen, but it's also possible to let go of the romantic feelings and move on from your crush while still being friends. It's very hard to do though. This happened with a boy I met a few years ago. I think there was "something there" between us, but he didn't want to act on it. So after a while, I moved on, and met my current boyfriend and fell in love. I'm still friends with the first boy, but now I don't have any romantic feeling for him. I just accepted that we are friends, and that we are probably better off that way. Yes, sometimes I do wonder what it would have been like if we were more than friends, but it's *not* something I focus on or day dream about. I just see him as a friend now.
good on you 💖
This is exactly what I need to do. I missed my shot with a good friend of mine. Whenever I see her, I just feel different. But I know the person in front of me is just that: a person. But then I do a total 180 and see them in a different light. It’s weird. And yet I know that it’s better for me to cut my losses and move on, it’s just been difficult.
I am currently working on letting go of romantic feelings for my best friend rn. Thanks for sharing your post, it’s encouraging for others going through this
I have a friend that me like, but me no think she like me 😢. I see her, I get nervous, sometimes she stares at me (not cold, but not warm either, it's hard to explain, ig like a really nice and warm version of a "what a he doing here" stare), it's hard for me to tell. As a TV show once said, the [other gender] species is hard to understand (that was from Stranger Things btw). I barely talk to her irl, but we talk a lot on IG, she gave me many mixed signs (obvious signs of, I like you, or stay away from me, we're just friends). Also I had a dream about her 2 days ago and now I'm really concerned for my well-being, she makes me want to see tomorrow, when I can glance at her during math class 😁 or any other places in my school. I like her so much but I don't think she likes me back (considering she doesn't care much for relationships as she has never been in one (or so she says), but I'm hoping to change that).
In summary, idk if girl likes me or not, getting mixed signals and she gives me courage. What do I do?
Sorry it was long, I was pouring out my feelings 😁
I rather not. Even though she said "we can still be friends", I already know what that means: I'm the safe guy or the ego boost
**For anyone who's in a rush or doesn't want to watch the whole video**
1. 0:44 - You daydream about them
2. 1:11 - You get jealous of their partners
3. 2:09 - You can't wait to see them
4. 2:38 - You want to be more intimate with them
5. 3:11 - You're overly affectionate
6. 3:39 - You talk about them constantly
7. 4:10 - You're not interested in anyone else
8. 4:36 - It's never enough
They you
Welp .-. Looks like i'm all of these XD
I live for these types of comments, seriously thank you for being you
You're an angel omg thank youuuu💗
Yeah I got most of them, especially the first one, third one and maybe the sixth one.
You will all find the love one, yes you, but remember in order to be loved you must love and respect yourself, the person you attract is a reflection of the love you feel for yourself.
Maybe that's why she didn't date me?
Well, I do like myself, but I doubt that somebody would love me who is good at being sadistic and extremely envious especialy on the internet
So it isn't possible for me to find a partner
Nobody likes [The great evil] these days
I'm keep trying to be unacceptable and extreme, because this world sucks
God damn it, who would even care?
Nobody, I guess :)
That's simply not true. You may be your perfect self and have bad luck.
Self respect is not love but having honour and that is art forgotten today
This sounds a lot like that "you get what you send to the universe" pseudo-science mumbo jumbo.
just remember unrequited love exists. it’s the worst feeling in the world but it will pass. had a FAT crush on my best friend for over a year but she didn’t feel that way back and we are still good friends. you can make it through. now i’m dating someone never thought it would happen.
I don't know how you guys can still be friends with someone who has rejected you. Don't you have any pride ?
@@wenoswatchlepignoufetanche1773 do you have any VALUE in friendships? Like wow. I can’t imagine dumping a friend that I care deeply for just because they didn’t like me back in a romantic way. That’s not their fault. Rejecting someone romantically isn’t the same as rejecting them platonically
I have a crush on my 25 year old teacher, I’m 18
@@saranatari3427 I see a matured person here.
@@saranatari3427Ehm, it still hurts you know?
Some people may be able to move on, others don't, and it's perfectly fine to leave a good friendship if you want something more.
And I think women have a much easier time to move on as you have options for other relationships, much more than other men.
Then, they reject you, and you spend months thinking about them, while suffering. I hate being in love.
I am experiencing that right now. It sucks cuz she randomly stopped all form of contact. I never thought she would do this to me :(
Months? Try years ☹️
Lol yeah ❤
Real
True...💔
1. you daydream about them 0:44
2. you get jealous of their partners 1:11
3. you can't wait to see them 2:09
4. you want to be more intimate with them 2:38
5. you're overly affectionate 3:11
6. you talk about them constantly 3:39
7. you're not interested in anyone else 4:10
8. it's never enough 4:36
I hope I could help!
Thx :)
I'm lost!🦁🦁🦁🤷♀️
20 hours ago???
Thanks timetraveler
thx
The sweetest love is the friendship kind in my opinion
I have a permanant table at the Friendzone. I will pull up an extra chair.
Oh man I can agree
Thanks
@@fxDELTAx if she friendzones you then just leave her lol. Or push it more and show her that you want her. Friendship does not mean friendzone. You can be friends with your lover. Its honestly more fun that way.
Exactly and the one that started as friendship
But the worst part is falling in love with them knowing they don't feel the same
ahhhh
DUDE... Okay let me tell you my story, 4 years ago i fell in love with a girl but i didn't had the courage to talk to her untill 2 years ago. Over the past 2 years we have become best friends, but i always thought she didn't love me the way i did. But recently she said that she worries too much about me, cares a little too much and thats why she thinks that she likes me too... Im not sure whats gonna happen now but all im saying is, never lose hope, and dont assume anything before you even try. Cheers!
@@satyadev.suvesh omg update??
@@carolyn9034 well, were both in 10th grade which is like an important grade in our country... So me and her have both decided to wait till 10th grade ends, but yea it is confirmed now, she actually said "im sure i like you" soo now waiting 2 months till the grade ends is no biggie:)
@@satyadev.suvesh awww glad to hear something is working out for someone 💕
8 out of 8 and about the affectionate part- I've tried to hide my feelings in the past from my crush so he won't reject me and that meant not touching him at all because my love would have become quite obvious. Now, he has rejected me twice and I have such a hard time moving on. This video is slightly bittersweet but also a reminder that I SHOULD move on. I cannot keep standing in the same place while waiting for him to change his mind and decide to love me. It is a painful experience but one I have decided I cannot keep ignoring. So, wish me luck in learning how to only love him as a friend. Just the thought is painful...
I understand you so much. My crush has also rejected me twice and now we don't meet at all, because of him moving places. I have had a crush on him for 5 years and I don't even know if I love him, because I just can't seem to get over him.
I feel you
Mm I don't really have any kind of experience but honestly if someone doesn't care about you then just leave him as a boy I can tell because many of friends are similar to one's who you are talking about because those kind only care for themselves
I relate to this by a lot, i have spent 3 months trying to move on from my crush and finally did, after crying almost every night trying to forget the feelings and the good memories she built inside me, although i still wish she accepted me back then and i still really wish that she changes her mind some day, we are still friends but we barely talk because our interests are different.
Asif Achi said it very well. And I would ask if maybe the pain itself will show you what to do, rather than the thought *you should*? The video is not about convincing ourselves to love a crush as a friend but about realizing we are in love with a friend, and it looks mutual in the animation. If we are rejected, we have feelings about that. We may also feel bad if they don't care how we feel -- if they only care for themselves. We can honor our feelings; there is no obligation to stay. We can move on to look for mutual love. We can take some time for ourselves until we know how we feel and what we need. ❤️
Ah yes, I once knew what friendships were like. Little did I know it was the first step towards love. Now I have neither. Merry Christmas.
oh no :( i hope you find someone special, who won't leave you
This hits hard
The risk of trying to change friendship into love relationship is losing the friendship. I know that very well...
@@garimeragonols I confessed to a friend over the summer and she said this to me. She's afraid of losing that friendship (I wasn't friendzoned though, since she said "It's not about you, but rather I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment and I'm very grateful we are still friends despite the pandemic separating us" and my other friends told me that I still have chances) and I fully respect her boundaries.
I dunno, perhaps she's trying to test me to ensure I'm not one of those "how dare you reject me when I was so nice to you!?" kind of guy. Because those are the types of people you AVOID like the plague.
@@SoldierOfFate While I don't know your entire situation, it seems to me like this girl is being genuine. And whether or not you decide to take the relationship a step further, it sounds like you have a good friend there
*TIME STAMPS HERE* so you do not have to scroll
1. You daydream about them 0:44
2. You get jealous of their partners 1:11
3. You can't wait to see them 2:09
4. You want to be more intimate with them 2:38
5. You're overly affectionate 3:11
6. You talk about them constantly 3:39
7. You're not interested in anyone else 4:10
8. It's never enough 4:36
Thanks to the original poster. Dat Boi
Too late
@@Anubonek Sometimes the others get lost in comments.
@Lonely Gorilla [2] *right
@Lonely Gorilla [2] So whattt?they commented this to help others smhhh
@@stvrrlight7 its literally ctrl c + ctrl v
Peice of advice for those watching: in middle or high school, a close friendship is much more valuable than romance, especially since at that age the romance is half baked
(Coming from a high schooler)
Yeah I completely agree, right now I have feelings for my closest friend but honestly I feel like I don’t need a romantic relationship any time soon, whilst I do have those desires the logic isn’t there. I’d rather wait til college or university age and if we are still friends and I still have those desires, I’d pursue it then, when it is more likely to somewhere . Right now I’m more than happy with our platonic companionship and I will just see where it goes from there when I feel ready to pursue something (Coming from another high schooler)
I’ve always kind of doubt whether or not i actually like my crush, or I’m just telling myself that. But after relating to every sign, I’m sure of my feeling, and have a clear head. Thanks!
this is too relatable :'(
If you have to ask then, you probably don’t truly love them, it might just be a little crush or attraction. You should know without a single doubt you love them.
Don't laugh but when I look into her eyes it's like I can see her soul and just like her, It's beautiful
That actually sound really sweet dude, I hope she likes you back
We won't laugh man, we won't. Hope you both will be happy
Did u got together?
there's nothing funny about that. i'v had that happen to me a few times. felt like he was reading my thoughts. i felt so exposed. (i have a good feeling he likes me. we're currently friends :) )
Most of those signs are what made me realise I was falling for my current boyfriend... And the Stardew Valley reference was the icing on the cake since we literally got married in this game for fun.
That is so cuteeee
only dubs
Wow..I wish even I can find true love one day♥️
I married him , in stardew valley, animal crossing, SL, but he now treats me like a guy friend after 5 yrs.
I need mine to get Stardew Valley omg
I didn’t know my friend had a boyfriend until one day they just mentioned it casually in a conversation like it was the most obvious thing in the world, and while I had previously known that I only had a chance, it really did hurt even though I wasn’t directly rejected or anything. I feel like I met most of the things on this list and while it may have just been liking them a lot, I feel like it could have grown into something much deeper. I truly am happy for her and her boyfriend as they are both my friends and I have always been glad that they are happy together and would never interfere with their relationship, but for a few days I was just left thinking about it, and not blaming anyone because I know everyone was right there, but being confused on as to what to do next. I feel like I have gotten better now, and I am still friends with the people, but it does sometimes feel weird when I talk to her by myself.
That normally occurs when you are not direct with your feelings and intentions at all. I know it hurts but you will feel better if you cut that friendship
I wouldn't cut ties with them as was suggested.. It sounds like you're well on your way to processing your feelings. From what you have written, you sound like a very well adjusted person who is capable of thinking things through. It will get easier with time. Wish you luck.
@@Owlsworthy thank you, I still plan on keeping in contact but it still feels weird sometimes when I’m just with her
Have you told her
Same, it sucks knowing you could be with them but alas, stay strong...
It's so comforting to know that a lot of people in the comments section are also going through similar situations on this matter 😊 merry xmas btw, have a good one :)
friends to lovers is sweet, but when it doesn't work out, you lose the friendship too.
It scares me to death
I mean, not necessarily no. I know it depends on person to person, but I'm still best friends with her despite confessing and being rejected
Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. - Charlie Brown
I have struck a 7/8 and can tell that my friend has being doing pretty the same as me, and we both know about that.
The thing is that she's kinda traumatized of being in a romantic relationship with a "best friend", because her last relationship was with a guy she thought was perfect for but put her in the emocional gutter, let's say.
I really like her and am not interested in anybody else, and she seems to like me as well, she's in a trip rn and bought 2 pink quartzes, one for each one of us, I caught myself smiling at the cellphone, I hate when that happens.
I'm about to send her "Never gonna give you up~Rick Astley" to her with the translation so that she can get what I feel. Regards from Brazil to y'all
Update, 4 months later: it all went down the drain, in a friendly way, but it wasn't working anymore. I griefed a while but I'm doing good now, so good that I met someone who is far more understanding and loving than my friend was, I'm truly in love now.
That's actually quite genius, in case for example one dindn't like it or you feel you made a mistake, you could always say they got rickrolled.
You can just try to convince you aren't like her last. If shes scared about that then be patient and stick by her side. Don't get friendzoned but don't try to push it too hard either. She obviously likes you, shes just isn't ready.
best way to rickroll
@@michaelkochalka3251 lmao imagine
@@Darkstormsun9865 I've waiting for some time, actually, but it feels like it's gonna get set in motion soon (I hope
I just wanna know… how do y'all's newest videos literally correspond to my life at the given time every single time I see them in my feed?
Yeah they seem almost... *Psych*ic
Same here like wtf
It's a sign lol
I need a video on how to tell a love avoidant loves you because they fear intimacy and won’t directly do the obvious things like touch and flirt or give compliments. Thanks!
Me too!!! Psych2Go needs to make this! ✨❤️
Yessss I wanna know about avoidant too
that was done already
Remember, love yourself before loving somebody else. ❤️ & you're worth it !
This may have made me realize I like a friend in a more intimate way. I’ve always thought I felt no romantic attraction, but that applied to boys, not the girls I liked in the past(I thought my past crushes were all fake and made up, however, the female ones were real).
It’s interesting, and I’m unsure what to do with the information, but it’s nice to notice the feelings. They may pass anyway, like they did with my last crush, but they may not and that’s ok to.
Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
Thanks
aww thats so sweet you too!
Thanks, now I am crying...
Or the person reading this doesn't care what others think due to the lack of the ability to and doesn't care about success, instead caring about survival
Wow Nat, thank you, youre awesome too. And the one whos reading that right know: youre awesome too;)
I'm probably bisexual AND inlove with my bestfriend. Oh my god
go for it
Theres no probably, if you're attracted to the feminine genre and the masculine as well than you're bisexual
@Lonely Gorilla [2] Yeah against mine too. I can't touch men that way but if you like it, you like it... There's no way around it
Around 2 years ago me and my friend confessed to each other in love.
It was soo surreal and weird, cuz we both considered ourselves straight before this moment.
So basically... the moment of simultaneous confession was also the moment of realization of our bisexuality for both of us.
We call our relations - "friendship with some added bonuses" and i don't wish for anything more, really.
One thing for sure: Bisexuality is great and bisexual people usually are the coolest individuals you can meet.
P.S. Im russian and im not an active supporter of LGBTQ+ community.
Thanks for such a deep list of signs. I also think that love it's not only passion or sex. Love is wider and includes all types of friendship, all kinds of intimacy, mutual respect etc.
💞 As we see there is platonic relationship. Platonic love refers to a love that is about sharing friendship or focusing on the higher selves that can be obtained in a relationship that is sex-free. When you are in a platonic relationship, you may feel that it is a much larger investment than any other relationship before. This can be intimidating to anyone who believes they may be in a platonic relationship.
Platonic and romantic relationships can coexist peacefully if you manage these carefully and with great consideration.
I’ve been friends with my s/o and I would always talk about her constantly. Only then she confessed to me three months ago. I realized almost all of this applies beforehand and still does-
Awwww so cute. I would honestly think I died and went to heaven if someone i liked confessed to me.
@@Darkstormsun9865 awwhe ! Well I hope you’ll find them someday ! (๑´`๑)
I wish you two a happy life! Don't take this for granted and keep working/maintaining this! :)
I love how this woman's voice sounds
Lately I've been feeling so attached and affectionate towards my bestfriend, it sucks since I know he doesn't feel the same and I am overly emotional about everything. If he sits with my sister, I get jealous, if he doesn't text back immediately I get sad.
It is not as easy as it looks like, friendship turned into love when you both know you can't be together...
I honestly feel so sad lately, so angry and I wish all these feelings can go and we can go back being careless friends and soulmates.
My very first love started from friendship too, we just immediately clicked and I honestly have no idea how and where it came from. Then slowly it went from "No way I don't like him" to "Maybe he'd be nice to date" to "I am in love help-" kinda thing. He was literally all over my mind and it made me feel so giddy and happy just to think of him and I. Ik for a fact that the feeling is mutual, but sadly we cannot be together due to certain disagreements. We never confessed and we're still friends but there is this heavy tension between us every time we interact. Currently in the process of trying to get over him and putting the effort on myself
I met my best friend (girl) a few months ago and we have never talked before so i thought it will be kind a weird but it was the complete opposite. In the first moment there was a big connection. We both felt it. It was like magic. After some fun trips with my bike i soon started to develop deeper feelings for her. (Like everything that was mentioned in the video) i couldn't tell her because i didn't want to ruin our friendship so i waited until the right moment...
I told her everything about my feelings but she didnt feel the same way but we stayed close friends until the day i invited her to a party and she got to know my other best friend (boy) better.
Now we barely have contact and she is 24/7 at my friends house and even slept there a couple of times (like today on Christmas :c) She refused that they have something romantic but i cant believe that... I get extremely jealous even now when i think about it. What's that kind of a friend who know that you have feelings for her and still meet her everytime. I told her that its really hurting me to see her with someone else because of our special emotional connection but it seems like she didnt care at all. She broke my heart not only in a romantic way but also the friendship.
People seems to change quickly these days and some friends are just rats. I dont know why im writing this but who ever read my little text have a great new year. Christmas this year sucks 🥲
Sry for my bad English btw :)
To start, your English is better than the majority of people out there. Secondly...I know the rats part all too well.
I had to cut ties with a very close friend earlier this month when I learned he was a dishonest, deceitful, and downright insane person (he supports the idea of murdering police and military servicemembers in their homes while doing unspeakable things to their loved ones) that was talking behind my back while twisting stories to suit his agenda. But I knew what was going to come when he can't even look in my direction or put his phone down when I am talking to him in a 1on1 conversational environment.
Cutting him out of my life wasn't easy, but it had to be done. Other people have told me he has shown hints of jealousy because it became apparent I was more likeable as a person compared to him.
@@SoldierOfFate thank you for your words 🙏 i hope i'll get through this. Its just hurting...
She doesn't deserve you....so don't waste ur Christmas on someone who didn't deserve u......stay strong 💪💪
@@druthibhargav910 thx mate 🙏
@@dhs-clan545 happy to help 😁......hope ur doing well
It's so hard when you and her complete eachother so much. I'm head over heels for her and since she's in a relationship (a toxic one) I don't confess my feelings because I'd rather be friends than confessing and getting separated. But I she's the one for me. I haven't felt this about any other human being during my almost 25 years on this planet. It's just heartbreaking tbh.
Thank you!! This video could not have come at a better time for me!
Same only to realize that it checked every boxes for the person I had in mind! Except I don’t feel butterflies when I see them because I’m very comfortable around that person!❤️Merry Christmas!
Close conscious friendships can have alot of love..... especially if youve done alot of work on yourself and you are able to express that love. But when does it cross over into romantic from platonic.......is the question. Theres always love. Its just the type of love and the intensity. 🥰
This is really what i needed. Me and my (girl) best friend were discussing about this just a while ago, that maybe our bond is something more than friendship since we care so much about each other. As for me, i had liked her ever since we became friends, but now i think she also likes me back, or at least she thinks so.
Thats why im going to send this vid to her rn, thanks ! :)
My partner and her friend 💔
If you are watching this video you know you are not just friends
idk if its a coincidence or something but Im literally in need of all these latest vids you guys are uploading like yk the perfect timing this is it lol
Is there a way you guys could do "it's not love but friendship" feel like that would help me and alot of people.
Thank you and merry Christmas
It's already somewhere on the channel
it’s been a long 5 months but I’ve done it! (mostly) I have moved on from unrequited feelings and kEpt the friendship!
Well done, wish you luck in your next endeavors ;3
can we get this vice versa? as in signs a friend is actually in love you? great video as always!
God, this actually helps me alot-
I'm on the aromantic spectrum, and though I know the conditions it takes for me to catch feelings, they've- so far- always manifested differently for each person. This actually helped me find the base line(things I've felt each time, despite the bigger differences which are why I have a hard time telling it's a crush). And it's honestly helping so much having that knowledge now, seeing as I've been really confused about my feelings for a friend for quite a while now.
Thank you for the help.
Im also on the aromatic spectrum and my friend recently is having trouble with a potential crush. They don’t know whether they like them platonically or romantically and it made me realise that I don’t actually know the difference either. I wanna red and help them but this is making me believe perhaps maybe I’ve felt romantic attraction too and just thought this is how besties are meant to be. This doesn’t make me think of anyone in particular but it would be useful for me to know if the situation ever arises.
as a demiromantic i think ive also developed feelings for a friend, which i've never even considered at first. it sucks asf cuz I'm also asexual and they're not, so it would be unfair to force my feelings and orientation on them
I came here because I wondered what people would do differently as friends vs lovers because I can’t imagine being in love with some one I wasn’t already friends with, or in love with platonically before. While following along, I definitely am sure that my feelings with all of my close friends aren’t romantic but deep platonic love. I am grateful for everyone I have in my life but I am also , especially after watching this video, looking forward to having such a special relationship with someone in the future.
I'm gonna say something out of this topic...
Your voice is so satisfying, that I love to listen to it!!
Getting married with your best friend is great, and more if he's the love of your life too... ❤️❤️
Everything you just said is exactly what is happening to me right now but I'm not giving up though I'm trying my best to go slowly you know I don't know exactly everything I'm not the smartest I might be saying this wrong but I don't know but this actually is 100% amazing I love this channel
Oh, she figured it out. Please do remember that I care about you.
My partner started out as a very good friend. He was in process of breaking up with someone for the second time when we met, but we clicked so profoundly and became good friends--mostly online. Several years later, I invited him to a company karaoke night that he accepted, and clicked perfectly again. At that time he was breaking up with the same lady for the third time, so our friendship had its limits, but we've been getting closer every day since. After 6 months I realized that I was basically living at his place, so we talked about it and became officially a couple, and 5 years later are still deepening our connection every day.
My crush who is my friend just texted me right now 😊
Cute! Good luck
such a good luck=(
Same
"Better to have an enemy than a fake lover."
I acted on my feelings with my best friend. He's been my boyfriend now of almost 11 months. He'll be flying here for the week soon 🥰 He's my darling
These videos always pop up when I need them the most, thank you.
Glad you like them! Do any of these points apply to you?
U guys seriously deserve so many more subs! Y’all are so smart to figure this stuff out! This has really helped me throughout life. Have the best, safest christmas ever!
not me doubting my love for my boyfriend ✋😔
😅
Screaminggg
Her voice is so soothing i'd love to hear a podcast of some sort
so i used to do LITERALLY ALL OF THESE with my best friend (a guy) but i absolutely never wanted to admit it even to myself because i didnt want to ruin our friendship but after 6-7 months of us being best friends, we ended up dating. its been two months so far and ive literally never been happier. ik it sounds naive and childish to some ppl, but i wanna be with him for the rest of my life like both of us are planning on getting married someday and spending the rest of our lives together. 🥰
When it's Love for you but Friendship for them . aww
I've been in love with my close friend. i wouldn't say she was my best friend. I wanted things to move further but didn't force the issue, because she was dealing with a lot of stuff. it took me long time to get over. But the only thing that was missing was the spark of attraction, because she wanted someone more assertive and confident who would make the move, and I had missed my chance because I was getting over someone else at that time too.
One of my big regrets, but our lives have turned very different directions since then.
I've experienced this, there's this one girl in the top/elite section that I don't usually hang out with. We've met in a chess tournament. At first, we don't really talk much after the event (the event is held every year so we only meet once a year) but 2 years pass by, we slowly got to know each other and we even hang outside the event! During that time, I had a boyfriend but we broke up and decided to just become friends when I was on my last year of high school. This is where it got interesting, 5 months have passed after the breakup and I finally got the guts to confess to her (I was already developing feelings for my chess friend in the past few years and my ex bf saw past through me as always and said to me that I should give it a go and he'll be supporting me from the sidelines) so after finally confessing my feelings for her, she also admitted that she also feels the same. Boy oh boy, I felt I was on cloud 9 but it was short live since there was a catch. She told me that she was delighted to know that I like her but sadly, we can't be together since there is also a person who likes her and is suicidal. She was told that by the suicidal person that she is his lifeline. The only thing that makes him happy and preventing him from taking his own life. After hearing the story, I have no choice but to give up and let her go even though she also finds it painful that we can't be together but we can't risk a person's life over our own selfishness. So my chess friend and the suicidal person are together until now. In short, I experienced all the stuff that were describe in this vid but in the end we just become close friend. Pain.
I ASKED MY CRUSH OUT AND SHE SAID YES AND THAT SHE WAS WAITING FOR ME TO ASK
trust is a dangerous game
One of my friends is 100% into me but I'm aro ace (he knows), except I still really like receiving physical affection like snuggles and caresses so I gladly accept the attention.
Came here to double check that it's still not romantic on my part and it definitely isn't. I guess my feelings and behaviors are a reflection of what I would like some of my platonic relationships to be like, but don't often get to express because of society's perception that that level of physical closeness between adults has to be romantic
Very confusing times
Thanks for reading if you made it this far
You what? Poor guy, hope he find someone that actually matters
fr ppl say stuff like "just friends" and all that bc they think love is always romantic
@@Kamykc312they matter. I've had many aro ace friends. I took one of them to prom with me because I knew they would love a reason to wear a pretty dress.
You can still engage in emotionally connecting behaviors two people consent to with the disclaimer that it isn't going to go any further.
I've had crushes on people before and they rejected me, but I still played games with them, I still listened about their problems, I've still given hugs. The fact that they didn't retract from me when I was honest is a sign that they trust me. That is a huge compliment in my eyes. They don't think I'm entitled to their body, and they don't think I'm the kind of person to act entitled to their body.
The point here is two people who are friends are engaging in things they both consent to do. I hope the guy moves on from those feelings, but I don't know if treating him like he's untrustworthy and retracting would help. These are real people you know. And an aro ace person, by stating they are aro ace, literally can't lead people on. "I will never feel any sort of romance for anyone ever," is pretty hard to misunderstand.
There are also types of relationships called a squishes and meshes,
Fluently Aspec’s video “Analyzing feelings and behaviors associated with a crush” talks about crushes vs squishes and what squishes are, it’s a really great video and I highly recommend it!
And about meshes: m.th-cam.com/video/TSb929FSOhw/w-d-xo.html
Idk why but whenever I have a crush on someone I watch these vids and see if anything applies to our friendship lol
Me and my friend finish each other's sentences, say the exact same thing, and often hold hands, but we remain friends because we understand that it wouldn't work out between us
I think I would want to try to focus on my education and such before I focus on a relationship. Although I can’t help but be attracted to some people!
What would you advise for someone who thinks they might be attracted to someone, and knows that someone is attracted to them, but doesn't think they're capable of handling a romantic relationship?
I'm in the same situation
I’d say figure out why you feel you aren’t ready for a relationship. Make a specific list and see if the things on the list just come down to fear, or if there are real things that you still need to work through before a relationship. Once you do that write down the reasons you’d want a relationship with that specific person, and see if it’s worth taking that leap. I personally didn’t feel fully ready for a relationship, but I’m so glad I decided to move past that fear. Just figuring out the reasons behind your feelings can be very helpful. Hope everything goes well!
Accept that attraction is a normal feeling and is not the only criterion for a potential life-partner. In all parts of life, everyone will feel attraction to other people. We can find others attractive, even when we're in a loving, romantic, and commited relationship with an attractive partner. (Healthy couples acknowledge this). That's because there are so many different traits that make up a healthy & romantic relationship. Attraction is just one small piece of it, but does not stand alone in warranting a relationship. For your situation, it's totally cool to acknowledge your attraction for eachother and admire and flirt - at least until the other necessary traits develop. If done with mutual respect and with clear boundaries, flirting can be sustained and not hurt anyone's feelings. If and when it comes to a need for a decision, i.e all the necessary pieces arrive, have open conversation.
Thanks to the both of you for your advice :)
same here. i opened up about it with them just one week ago. he’s attracted to me too but he is not ready and not even god knows when he will be. his ex was a mad manipulative abuser and he’s got big ass trauma for it.
it’s complicated bc he gets high paranoia for the slightest stuff, he’s mad scared of losing me, it’s been 9 months of us hanging out everyday. but he said that the first step into a relationship would also be the first into loosing each other.
so A, i don’t think anymore this is the right timeline, one of the many realities where we’re allowed to be lovers.
but i swear on my life you will never ever lose me. your value as a friend is huge, i refuse to not be happy with that only bc “i want more xdxd”
sorry guys for the oversharing but i just needed to do that
I hope to find a love like this. Friends first then love.
same i have my fingers completely crossed
Same.
Thank you, Psych2Go, for still giving me hope.
Psych2Go. Your voice (or at least the voice we hear in the videos) is very soothing. Not only does this info help or just scratches my curiosity itch, but it just feels good to the ears as you teach, so thank you!
these kinds of friendships dont feel good. The other person likely will want to stay friends and it makes things really complicated. Also just because everything you want is in the other person doesn't mean the other person will feel the same way. What will you do when he/she is interested in someone else? Worse he or she will tell you about them since you are pretty close. I've never experienced it before but all this stuff sounds like a disaster in the making. Assuming it is not reciprocated and assuming you guys arent waiting too long. Point is, if he/she is reciprocating, then don't wait. But if its not reciprocated, then what I wrote above probably applies to you
I think a lot of folks on r/Sapphoandherfriend need too see this.
Also, Great video! Keep up the good work! Subbed
I think its a weird balance. Love comes out of building a friendship. I have men that are JUST my friends. I love them as they are..but I wouldnt touch them with a 5 foot pole(in a sexual manner or think of them in THAT way.) Opening your heart to someone emotionally and physically IS love. Feeling jealous is also love,but how 1 manages the jealousy is important. You always want the best for them and it can turn creepy/controlling fast.
Let's draw that line and I'm gonna cross it !! I love you 💯🙈❤💋
I want to go through all these steps, Covid made me realize that I want someone to share everything with 🥺😭
I confessed to my best friend over 2 years ago, it'll be 2 years since we've spoken to each other this January.
Sucks to say but they werent really your friend then. It confuses how some people wouldn't date their best friend. Like if you like someone enough to trust your life to them why not make them your life.
If I ever have friends again I'll be able to try this.
Alot of people often think me and my best friends are dating, specifically me dating friend one or me dating friend two. Heck, someone even thought the three of us were in a poly relationship. I mean... We hug a lot... And hold hands a lot... And I feel light when I see them after a while of not seeing them... Wait.....
Thank you very much for reminding me the true feelings of love. It's easy to mix liking someone with loving them and vice versa. I've only fallen in love once and this was all exactly how I felt. I'm excited to get deeper into psychology to understand more about the concept of love
This is all well and good, but without a way to read people's minds there's no way on knowing that someone else thinks about you in that way. Are there any signs that one can be falling in love with you, rather than just recognizing that you're in love with them?
nah cmon this video really comes up when I'm in the middle of my feelings being unclear about my friend rn.
I have no friends. There is no friendship nor love. It makes life incredibly easy to have nobody else in it. I should have socially isolated myself many years before I did. It is such a liberating life!
i cuddle with my bestfriend a lot. i feel safe in her arms, and she feels the same too. but im not particularly territorial to her bc i respect the boundaries she had set. we're both ambitious btw, can't really focus on dating or similar like that. in the end of the day, she'd ask me for a sleepover and we're in each other's arms. i love her with my whole heart, and i think it's still platonic.
When i feel bad and lonely, i always think abt the person i like, and having a future with them! I make pretty unrealistic ideas in my mind, but the thing is that Psych2go tells me that everything is working haha (the person i like is one of my friends lol)
I relate to all 8 of these.
:(
Kinda me too, but I don't want to stop being just friend to my best friend anyway lul... Not now at least
@@philrei2797 same
I think I've recently started getting feelings for this guy whom i met on social media around 3-4 months ago and since then we're in touch regularly. But i ALSO think that he just sees me as his good friend. The thing is he lives in a whole different continent, so we've never seen each other, idk how he looks like and vice-versa (We both couldn't care any less bout this thing btw). We talked over call once tho LOL. He tells me about almost everything when we talk, like how his day went, what did he do thru the whole day and we both know about each other's personal lives and issues more than anyone else. We both stay awake late at night cuz of the time difference just so that we can talk. And he also says I'm special to him. As I'm struggling with my mental health rn, he says that we'll work on it together. He's really caring and supportive. He says its gon be a journey and we're in this together no matter what happens. Butttt one day he also said that “The efforts of making you feel loved can't come from me, I can just help you but you need to realise it yrself".
So did he just friendzone me??? I'm really confused. I don't have the guts to ask him this myself cuz i think I'll ruin our friendship.
Friendship can't be defined by any boundaries...
Some Friends are more than Love❤️
Exactly, I see I'm not alone
Yes they are. but it wouldn't hurt to actually be in love though.
I had this, but he still rejects me for reasons he isnt ready. Now we're emotionally far from each other. It makes me sad.
Ahhh sry but I can relate to him, I can kinda relate to all 8 these things, but we are still just bestfriends anyway and I don't even think I need something more
Sadly matching feelings isn't all that matters, beign in the right moment is also important.
I experienced most of this a few weeks ago, on vacations with an old friend from highschool. I was wondering a few weeks before I came to her house if I was or not feeling something "more" towards her, yet I felt it was a little bit immoral or dishonnest for acting like that towards her, and I worked on suppressing these feelings in order not to parasite thegood time we had together. But after a few days with her, I had the "thunderstrike" in my heart and mind like a revelation, and I knew it was love. For the next two weeks, we had long conversations, with confidences, or plans for me to come to live in her area, activities, work together, how we imagined our friendship and vacations together in near future, and had a lot of little attentions, surprises, and demonstrations of kindness such as emotionnal support, advices, long hugs and little kisses almost all the time, that gave me the impression something was really building up. The day I went home, we have had a final conversation, and what is still making me think is the fact that, about the things we did, and the emotions we had, she didn't gave me a clear answer such as yes or no, but more something that sound like a "not yet" or "I'm not ready now but offer me a little more time". Nowadays, we both agreed to give each other a little time without talking to "clear" our feelings and make up our minds before talking seriously about it. So, who knows......?
The character designs in this one are so cuuute! Lovely videos as always
Me and my bestfriend: *friends, with BENEFITS* ✨
Yo this fits me so much, sad that she doesn't feel the same though
This past August, I met a girl who showed all 8 signs listed in the video. It was only natural that I reciprocated these feelings. Only to find out she was only using me to make her ex boyfriend jealous. It crushed me both psychologically and emotionally because she would've been my first girlfriend (I'm 25). Now I don't really want to date anyone. I have no desire to. Not now at least.
Definitely applies to me. I have a friend that I’m falling for, but I’m a lot older than her. Because we’re friends she talks to me about her dates. It’s hard listening to that. But I never confronted her with my feelings. I think she’d be shocked or even betrayed and I don’t want to lose her as a friend. Also, I think I know her answer, she’s not interested in me that way. If she was, then why would she talk to me about her dates, and who she likes or doesn’t like? So I’d rather just let it go. At least I’m walking away from this with some more insight: if someone I like from the start or simply attracted to, and she wants to hang out, I’m going to ask: you mean a date? If she says no, then I’ll have to say that I find them attractive and that I’ve been through this before, and don’t want to do so again. Maybe we can come to an agreement. We can make it a sort of date, if there are any fireworks, great. If we don’t then we can remain friends. If I still feel something but she doesn’t, then it should be goodbye.
I had a huge crush on my best friends a few months ago. It lasted like.. 6 months..? Well we’re not friends anymore, but I watch this to see if there actually was something. I knew for sure they liked me back then, but I was so scared. especially since their parents were homophobic. (We’re two girls) I even stopped her for admitting her feelings once. I know that what they were doing to do. But ✨anxiety✨