S2. I wanna know how OP’s parents introduced the adoption situation to him. I’m not giving an excuse for his behavior, but sometimes parents make moves and don’t explain to their child. For someone to go from being an only child to having to share parents is definitely gonna create a negative reaction. Did his parents unconsciously favor the cousin because of his situation? Did OP have to make sacrifices to appease his cousin? At the end of the day he should just leave the man alone bc he’s traumatized him enough. I do feel it’s wayyy more to the story.
Story 2: Here’s what OP needs to do, LEAVE HIS ADOPTIVE BROTHER ALONE. He apologized and made his peace, his adoptive brother made his, and that’s it. If OP isn’t forgiven, fine. Let him live with the crappy things that he did, but at least he tried to make amends. If he does involve the parents or try to pressure his adoptive brother into forgiving him, then he is no batter than the many horrible narcissistic people in these sort of stories that are abusive yet then demand forgiveness just because they “apologized”. If you demand forgiveness, you definitely don’t deserve it, nor are you truly “sorry”.
Story 2: I am cautiously optimistic on OPs sincerity. I get the vibe that he wants to sort things out, but has no damn clue what to do and the hurt rins too deep.
Story 1 this op dad is a damn doormat and really doesn't care about op. And why do people think that being and saying they're sorry they have a right to reconcile and being part of the life of the people whose life they destroyed? Classic selfish behavior
@@RepellentJeff religion is not a drug, despair is. Cluts use this to manipulate people Religion is the idea of enforcing your morals over pride and taking the "zaza". This is regardless of any major religion
story 3: it seems like every former gf didn't approach op and ask. every ex parroted moms words and didn't come up with their own conclusions on their own life experiences with the op they knew. every exgf was gullible, naive, and kinda shallow in their relationship. granted some were probably young at the time, but as time passes on and op and (hopefully) his former gf(s) we're getting older, the same immature ability to form a deep meaningful and mature relationship. i have mixed feelinn but this mom does need to go pound sand
FORCING reconciliation on his child makes me hate the father even more than I hate the mother at this point. When someone has been horribly abused, in this story almost fatally you can never FORCE reconciliation on them and to try to do so is a form of abuse in itself meaning he has now to varying degrees been abused by BOTH parents.
Story 2/Title Story: OP is incredibly selfish. He was more concerned with how he felt than how his brother felt. The whole "repair/build a relationship" thing was to make OP feel good, not to help brother and the family.
Sound more like both because OP did asked if brother/cousin if he wanted him to stop. Saying sorry means nothing if you don't acknowledge what you are saying to sorry for. If anything OP should have asked if they can go to family therapy.
Any god that shines hate and fear into men is not worthy of worship. People of faith are supposed to be kind and nonjudgemental of others, both of which the dad no longer is. That's the problem with most religions, even the good ones! Fearmongering, if you don't believe in me, you are damned! I don't believe god is this petty.
Story 2, your goal was to apologize and say sorry let him know it was your fault and you wronged him; Also you should've told him what the discussion was about before forcing him into an uncomfortable situation he had no mental prep for. You instead didn't tell him what the topic was, and tried to rip the bandaid on a healing wound. You also dumped how bad you feel about it on him which is not info you need to give him.
You can contact your local child protective services and get a case against her even at your age which would borrow her from ever seeing you and if your father tries to force you he can lose custody of you and you'll have to pay child support to the system.
Story 3 " I can't think of a single rational woman who wouldn't listen to that." Excuse me. Some Women are actually loyal and honest and understand that many parents are absolutely fucked in the head. Who could just believe that with no evidence or personal experience. If some of these creatures start to hate you, because your family is shit talking you behind your back, instead of telling what they are saying about you, that is disgusting betrayal. He even took her back wtf. She will stab him in the back at the next opportunity. What happens when the next guy tells her how shitty her boyfriend is and that she deservers better?
S2. I wanna know how OP’s parents introduced the adoption situation to him. I’m not giving an excuse for his behavior, but sometimes parents make moves and don’t explain to their child. For someone to go from being an only child to having to share parents is definitely gonna create a negative reaction. Did his parents unconsciously favor the cousin because of his situation? Did OP have to make sacrifices to appease his cousin? At the end of the day he should just leave the man alone bc he’s traumatized him enough. I do feel it’s wayyy more to the story.
Story 2: Here’s what OP needs to do, LEAVE HIS ADOPTIVE BROTHER ALONE. He apologized and made his peace, his adoptive brother made his, and that’s it. If OP isn’t forgiven, fine. Let him live with the crappy things that he did, but at least he tried to make amends. If he does involve the parents or try to pressure his adoptive brother into forgiving him, then he is no batter than the many horrible narcissistic people in these sort of stories that are abusive yet then demand forgiveness just because they “apologized”. If you demand forgiveness, you definitely don’t deserve it, nor are you truly “sorry”.
Yeah, he should not even mention it with the parents. The brother will keep contacting him if it is what him want.
Story 2: I am cautiously optimistic on OPs sincerity. I get the vibe that he wants to sort things out, but has no damn clue what to do and the hurt rins too deep.
Story 1 this op dad is a damn doormat and really doesn't care about op. And why do people think that being and saying they're sorry they have a right to reconcile and being part of the life of the people whose life they destroyed? Classic selfish behavior
Story 1: Sounds like dad is an addict who swapped alcohol for a far more dangerous drug….
Def not drugs, instead he's gone nuts
@@VR00100 I was implying religion was the new drug.
@@RepellentJeff religion is not a drug, despair is. Cluts use this to manipulate people
Religion is the idea of enforcing your morals over pride and taking the "zaza". This is regardless of any major religion
If you listened to the story then you'd realize that he's still drinking despite being "religious".
I hate that mother from the 1st story.
@@brainbomb. Classic narcissist
Story 3:
The World's Smallest Violins 👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻 for _"parents"_ !!!
I posted above that there should be a way to sue them for slander or libel.
story 3: it seems like every former gf didn't approach op and ask. every ex parroted moms words and didn't come up with their own conclusions on their own life experiences with the op they knew. every exgf was gullible, naive, and kinda shallow in their relationship.
granted some were probably young at the time, but as time passes on and op and (hopefully) his former gf(s) we're getting older, the same immature ability to form a deep meaningful and mature relationship.
i have mixed feelinn but this mom does need to go pound sand
FORCING reconciliation on his child makes me hate the father even more than I hate the mother at this point. When someone has been horribly abused, in this story almost fatally you can never FORCE reconciliation on them and to try to do so is a form of abuse in itself meaning he has now to varying degrees been abused by BOTH parents.
Story 2/Title Story: OP is incredibly selfish. He was more concerned with how he felt than how his brother felt. The whole "repair/build a relationship" thing was to make OP feel good, not to help brother and the family.
Sound more like both because OP did asked if brother/cousin if he wanted him to stop. Saying sorry means nothing if you don't acknowledge what you are saying to sorry for. If anything OP should have asked if they can go to family therapy.
Agreed.
At some point the need for salvation becomes a desperate attempt to grab at anything hoping its their hail mary
Dude,dude, dude... All you did was reopen old wounds.🤦🏻♀️
Any god that shines hate and fear into men is not worthy of worship. People of faith are supposed to be kind and nonjudgemental of others, both of which the dad no longer is. That's the problem with most religions, even the good ones! Fearmongering, if you don't believe in me, you are damned! I don't believe god is this petty.
Completely. Hatred and fear is not the way of faith.
You're definitely right. The gods aren't the issues, its the people writing their own ways to force people to follow their own ideals.
Story 2, your goal was to apologize and say sorry let him know it was your fault and you wronged him; Also you should've told him what the discussion was about before forcing him into an uncomfortable situation he had no mental prep for. You instead didn't tell him what the topic was, and tried to rip the bandaid on a healing wound. You also dumped how bad you feel about it on him which is not info you need to give him.
You can contact your local child protective services and get a case against her even at your age which would borrow her from ever seeing you and if your father tries to force you he can lose custody of you and you'll have to pay child support to the system.
Yta, leave him alone
The axe forgets but the forrest remembers
Story 1. Best thing you could do for your grandparents is be sure they are vaccinated and self isolate with them.
Story 3 " I can't think of a single rational woman who wouldn't listen to that."
Excuse me. Some Women are actually loyal and honest and understand that many parents are absolutely fucked in the head. Who could just believe that with no evidence or personal experience. If some of these creatures start to hate you, because your family is shit talking you behind your back, instead of telling what they are saying about you, that is disgusting betrayal.
He even took her back wtf. She will stab him in the back at the next opportunity. What happens when the next guy tells her how shitty her boyfriend is and that she deservers better?
Story 3: Can a person sue over ruining relationships with lies like this? slander or something?
yeah, but proving it is hard.
S1. It really seems like religion attracts the mentally disturbed like a moth to a flame.
Op and his dad in the first story are doormats for not just cutting that woman off there life
Dad, not really just someone who believes people can better themselves.
OP was 16 (a literal child) when this post started, and did try to cut the "mother" out of her life when she got old enough. The dad was the doormat.
That last one was crazy!!!!@@@
Be up front with her, tell her the truth. You don't want to see her again
i’m sorry selling him to a what 😃
Whoosh! That last one was crazy
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