@@janegreen191 I'm sorry you're in such a bad state. I know it's unbearable. I'm trying to focus on me and occupying myself with tasks so I'm not sobbing all the time. Feel hugged
Wow, I wish I had seen this two days ago!! Worked as a nurse on Christmas day, my bf and I broke up a year ago exactly today and I miss his family, I have boundaries up with own family and don't see them, and I live alone. Despite having great friends, they were all busy with their own relatives, and I was feeling so empty... but was grateful for the joy my patients brought me. Intention for this coming year... to truly reach for the life I want and make good on old dreams, such as wanting to live in the countryside and own my own land. I also dream about marriage and family, so I will put my heart back out there again. Thanks Matthew! ❤️
I am in my 30s, and this Christmas lived alone has a value of a profound moment of reflection on my life. I stopped talking to my parents over a year ago; they turned their backs on me at the most difficult time of my life when I suffered from mild depression following the end of a relationship with my ex. They told me 'you're not going to send us down with you,' and from there I decided to go on alone. I don't need fake love. I live far from my country in a city I hate deeply, small, sad, empty but which I am fortunately about to leave in the next year. And I am happy. My friends are all far away, I know many people love me and I don't feel so lonely, it just seems like there is a party outside that I have no right to go to. Next year is going to be the best year of my life, I'm still in top form, full of mental, physical, spiritual strength and not even hell has managed to make me lose the will to love this life.
That is beautiful!! You're gonna make it!! I'm 35 and also stopped talking to my parents five years ago for a similar reason (I was going through a health crisis and was told similar things). It still hurts to have lost my parents while they are still alive... this definitely was not the way it was meant to be! But we are strong and not alone....there are soooo many people in similar boats. (And my bf and I also broke up a year ago today.) Our lives are going to be even more beautiful bc we are only allowing people in it who speak to us kindly and with love. Shine on ❤
I lost both my parents and the one thing I’ve always wanted is family. I still don’t have it but I don’t let it get me down. My next door neighbors invited me over and I felt hope knowing that in some way, THAT is family…people who genuinely care even if they have zero blood ties to you !
Absolutely true! You can’t choose family but you can choose your friends and sometimes, like in my case, my neighbor (who I call Grandpa Dave) is more important to me than some members of my family. ❤️
I’m sending you lots of joy, love, and happiness now, in 2024, and in the many years to come! I went through a breakup this year too. Do all you can to take care of yourself.
I’m sending you little boosts of positivity, healing, clarity of thoughts, beams of joy lacing through your day, evening and seasons to come and lots and LOTS of L❤️VE…💫✨🌟
So sorry to hear! My partner broke up with me 3 months ago next Monday. I'm home alone with the cats, as he is spending Christmas with a new girl. Which sucks for me. BUT. It's been 3 months, and it gets so much better! I hope you have family around you and that they hold you and support you. ❤ Take the time you need.
@@goldenphoenix628 it can looks like that,I completely feel you, but the only thing that keeps us alive is hope!hope that things will get better with time. If you need to talk, I am here
I am home alone this Christmas away from my family. I didn't get any days off work... My dad has cancer so I am very sad and anxious. My best friend came over for dinner tonight and some other friends invited me to spend Christmas with them as well. Reading all the comments here kind of helps knowing that I am not alone and that there are so many people going through a hard time.
My intention for next year is be emotionally stable, and focus on being stronger and do things that give me joy…this are complicated Xmas,far away from home,my sister doesn’t talk to me,I am feeling lonely and with no hope…let’s ask the 2024 to be kind with us..if you reading this,you are not alone, things will go better,but nothing will change if you don’t take the decision to make things change. Sending much love ❤
This is my first Christmas alone (after a divorce in a foreign country, my family is far away at a country, that suffers war today). I never thought I could feel so lonely.. Thank you for this video❤
4 months ago I lost the love of my life. 5 days ago I lost my grandfather, whom I loved with all my heart and who was very close to me throughout my life. The only person close to me in my life right now is my mom. It's a tough Christmas this year, but I will get stronger after this.
💕💕💕 I have my mom left too which is very sweet, however that is a lot of loss for you in one year... Sending love & blessings your way as you go through this special season.
Mu husband left me about an hour ago. I knew he was going to but on Christmas Eve???? Hearing your words is like a lighthouse beacon shining in a terrible storm . Thank you for all that your do and all that you give.
Last Christmas my boyfriend broke with me. But after the holidays were over he came back . And this year before October 30th he ghosted me after 2 years of being together. He decided to leave me in this way. I feel bad and I feel sad. Over it . But I think God has something better in store for me. I.m accepting this loss for the better . Instead of for worst., one day at a time . ❤🎉i.m great full for my life and my family. ❤🎉😊
@@elizabethsanchez145We all make mistakes, I ignored red flags or gave the benefit of the doubt to a narcissist who cheated on me last year and trampled on my trust and empathy for others. Well when I got to know it I left but I still felt stupid too and bitter. My friends didn't understand my pain and also left. I have always been there for everyone but they are not always there for you. I hope you have great people around you that care for you. I wish I had. Everyone feels distant and fake.
This has been a really hard year. Had a really tough break up. Christmas is my grandma’s birthday. She raised me and she passed 2 years ago. I don’t see my family, so I really enjoyed being part of a family in that relationship. This is my 3rd Christmas without my gram. I always get a birthday cake and drinks to celebrate my grandma’s memory, because she hated that she shared her day with a holiday. And even if I spend it alone, I’m doing it out of peace and still doing something out of honor that makes me happy. So especially if you don’t have a traditional family, I see you ❤️Merry Christmas & happy holidays.
Aww!❤ she must’ve been a wonderful human being. Probably made you smile a lot and shared a lot of fun together. Wish you the best for next year when we come back stronger! 💪
We're in the same boat, maybe not in the same cabin....but definitely on the same boat. There's nothing I can say that's good enough equal what your gram gave you or how you're grieving your relationship, but eventhough I'm a stranger I see you right back and if you ever need someone to listen ypu can reach out
@@libritarian Very sweet thank you ❤️ same to you! Sometimes it’s better to choose peace over some family relations, and that’s okay. And even better, making your own traditions.
@@Pktommy1 To be honest I wouldn't even know how to reach out on TH-cam now that I think of it, I probably should have done the mental math on that before I commented 😅
Thank you so much Matthew. It does seem as though everyone has families and plans. It is a very lonely time. Tomorrow I'm visiting Dad at his frail care home, then coming home to my furbabies. Mom passed in 2019 and my ex left just before Christmas last year so it has been hard to find the magic on my own. But 2024 will be different, I will be the author of my own life. ❤
Thank you for this video. I am a solo mom, I feel often lonely, but I do my best everyday to bring joy to my son and to take care of him. Even in the hard times, we can find some magic. For me, this magic is my son’s smile, my lovely cat, and my mom. This year I would like to let go of the past and the negative thoughts, and just do my best to be happy, to take care of my little family, and bring joy to the other beings around me. If you feel alone, remember you’re not, take care of you. better days are coming for you. I wish you the best ⭐️
I just joined the 'dumped at Christmas club'. I sort of knew that it was coming, but I am still finding it hard to process Thank you Matthew. It's good to know that I am not alone.
I am so touched by this message from you, Mathew. While I am alone on this Christmas Week, it is the first time in my life that I entered the holiday season feeling centered and whole. I found some calmness in little ways of celebrating small things while on my own. I think I finally found a way to happiness within myself rather than looking for someone to generate that in me. I share your act of generosity of words in creating this collective for vulnerable souls at this time of the year. Much love to you all. ❤
Thank you for this, Matthew. This is the first Christmas without my best friend of 17 years who lost her battle with breast cancer last February. She was a part of my family’s Christmas celebrations for 16 years. She was a strong and amazing person who played a big part in me transitioning from a quiet and introverted person to someone who is more open and expressive to family, friends and even strangers. If it wasn’t for her influence, I probably wouldn’t have done the retreat back in October. I’m glad I didn’t back out because it was another step towards a more fulfilling life. I knew this holiday would be difficult, but I’m doing much better than expected. I’m looking forward to a fabulous New Year. I’m creating my own magic and my own energy that I want to share with people in my life who may need it as much or even more than I do. Happy Holidays! 💜
This means so much. So many of us are alone at Christmas and everywhere we look it feels like everyone else is having an amazing time, but that's just not true. It's really just another day, but the impact is great on us. To everyone in the comments, we're not alone, we have each other. Merry Christmas.
I’m here in Uk , single and far away from my family, u can’t imagine how I feel right now, but u r true we are not alone many ppl having same scenario 🥺
Normally I'm here for the dating advice, but this year my grandpa passed away a few days before Christmas. It broke my heart, but it's been helping me to connect with friends who also lost loved ones this year. And I'm thankful for all the memories of him. My heart and prayers go out to all those experiencing similar pain right now. ❤ 🙏🏼
My intention for the new year is to create a healthier life for myself. Not only physically through a better diet and sport, but also mentally by being kind to myself and following my values.
2 months ago i just experienced my first romantic heartbreak. And now im experiencing Christmas missing him. But i know that I cant cry about him all the time, atleast in Christmas, I want to be happy. So ill choose to be happy.
Hi I’m 79 , and had my heart broken many times , but we can’t give someone else the power over whether we are happy or not , have a cry , scream , and mourn them , then ,pick up your life and move on , xxxxx
Matthew, i want to thank you for YOUR magic. Thank you for this thoughtful and meaningful message.. It really touched me. Merry Christmas dear Matthew. God Bless you and your family.
Thank you Matthew. My boyfriend chose to break up with me Oct 25 so this makes exactly 2 months. We were together for a full year. He’s an avoidant so I get his fears but he KNEW how hard holidays already were for me. This has been my personal hell… I don’t know where we are going but this season is always one I’ve dreaded yearly. I really appreciate you putting this out there instead of the usual videos about happy stuff some of us have never ever had and just sweeping us under the rug until the 26th. Thank you so much for your work ❤
First here. And, yes, I for damn sure am having a complicated Christmas dealing with the loss of my ex wife who cheated and abandoned our marriage for her AP. Lord knows.
My boyfriend broke up with me about 19 days ago. I write these words with a heavy heart, surrounded by a sadness that seems to have no end. My chest is increasingly empty, and my smile has been replaced by tears of pain that are now the reflection of a shattered heart. Thank you so much Matthew for your ability to understand those who are suffering and show through this beautiful message that there is hope.❤
Beautifully said. Very powerful. An old guy who was sitting out when I went for my evening walk, asked me if I got any presents. No I answered, how about you? No I didn't get any gifts. II stayed to say the season is about the Prince of Peace, not so much about gifts, so just enjoy today like any day, let go of those thoughts and feel peacceful. We all can be there for others, even an old fella sitting alone on a seat outside.
I’m not good in English but I’ll try my best. I’m just 23, and 6 months ago my girlfriend broke up with me after 6 years relationship. I know that we are still young but I really thought that she was the one and I already think that. So I want to improve my mental health, I want to feel joy again even alone. I want to hear better the other friends or strangers and try to help them as much as I could. I want to be less rude with my feelings and accept the life… and say it is what it is, but also try my best to improve my life. I also will be more open even in my private stuffs, and not be again a pleaser or avoid all conflicts. I’ll think positive again with or without my love. I need to become a better version of myself in order to fulfill my happiness in life. Best wishes for the year to all! And as MH said, me and you aren’t alone, so we must use our sadness to help others… with the golden rule: Treat other as we’d wish to be treated ourselves.
I used to LOVE Christmas. Now, I just want this season to be over, which itself makes me sad. Also, my ex-husband proposed on Christmas Day on 2011, and it just reminds me of what didn't last and how much of a fool I was and how much time I've wasted (and now how much harder it is/has been for me to get even close to another relationship despite so much work I've done and how much I've tried). The magic I'm working on today/this Christmas break is with my writing projects I haven't had time to work on in a while.
Thank you, Matthew. That video really shows that you are a kind, compassionate and empathetic person (and not just a random "youtube coach" wanting to make money of women in despair; like a lot of "online gurus" might be). The way you describe how so many of us can be feeling, and also how to deal with it is beautiful. It almost brought me to tears. I have notoriously complicated holidays. Just from old baggage, my own expectations etc. I am surrounded by family I love, yet I still feel like stuck, sad and hopeless. This is really what I needed to hear! Heart goes out to everyone struggling.
Thank you for this, so much. This year has been the hardest year of my life. To top it off, in a very short period of time, I witnessed someone pass away, and also ended my two year relationship with my ex. It feels like too much to bear, so I’m definitely feeling it this year. Trying to focus on what I do have in this moment: my health. My family. My core needs are met, and it’s helping me stay grounded. I hope and intend to bring more hope, happiness and peace in 2024.
Ive been working for Crisis homeless shelter these past 2 days...today i cant be there as there are no trains...i sit here crying, humbled by the testimonies shared to me these past days from people that have so little..zero point...but who have so much beauty..thank you to those souls...that have touched my heart and made me feel so humble..tomorrow i will be back...but today i honour you all❤
Complicated is a good word. I tried to focus today and some organizing of my house. Threw a lot of things away. Made some yummy food and enjoying some peace and quiet. It’s a very busy time of year at work and I’m going to appreciate the quiet and a reprieve.
Three days ago I had the worst, painful christmas after a really bad break up. He left me hanging on that pain on Christmas Eve while he happily went to a party…I couldn’t even have dinner with my family, it was awful. Looking back, nothing is more valuable than having the people that love me around me, while the ones that walk away will not be missed very soon. Took me forever, but finally got to that place in which I can appreciate the holidays with its ups and downs and still feel blessed. Strength to everyone out there having a tough time, you will get through this❤❤❤
Beautiful words and drawings 💜 I cried this Christmas, feeling lonely after the loss of my dog and a break up. My intention for the year is to focus on my nursing degree (and love it!) I wish everyone success with their intentions 🙏🏽
Thank you so much Matthew for sharing this, it really helped me. I have been a single divorced mom for 8 years and a caregiver for my mom who has dementia it has been the hardest Christmas ever. I quit my job to be a full-time caregiver and financially I am worried but I want to care for my mom as long as I can. My daughter is 12 years old now we spend quality time together watching Chrismas movies and making cookies it is the simple things in life that matter and enjoying every moment you have with the people you love.
One intention I have for next year is to begin to establish myself. I just graduated from uni and things have been so chaotic and crazy (in a mostly good way) but I feel ready to begin to create a foundation for myself. Thank you for this video. Again and again I feel so lucky to the MH Team in my life. I’ve followed you for many years now and your messages always leave me with such peace. Wishing you all a Merry Christmas
Life is what you make it. Whether happy or not, you can make things happen the way you want it to be. Serendipity it is! It is the gift of making fortunate discoveries by accident. You can control what and how you want your life to become. Not only during Christmas, it is an everyday thing. I try to be selfless and make others happy and that matters most in life now and in times ahead of us. Think about others rather than yourself!
Thank you. This is my 5th year of spending holidays alone after my divorce. I have a deep loneliness that never goes away, but it’s impossible to ignore during the holidays. I dread when people ask about my plans . 🦗🦗🦗 After, they ask about what I did. 🦗🦗🦗🦗 Then I listen as they recount every detail of their amazing family vacation or those special moments with the people who love them. This year I told myself if I was alone again- I would go volunteer somewhere. But, I got the flu or something that hit me hard ( teacher) so I have been having a pity party ( minus the party). I hope I’m not alone again next year but your words meant a lot to me.
It makes me so sad to hear that, and I hope you have loved ones around as it can be so hard to go through a break up and especially at this time of year. The new year can be such a good time to look forward and put energy into being the person you want to be. I hope you can do that with time. Big hugs 🤍
Thank you for this video!! I’m currently in this new chapter of my life. I husband passed away 6 months ago after being together for 13 years. I never thought at the age of 39 I would be a widow. I am in this lonely place with this uncertainty and I’m trying to see the light with my dog zoë. I find this video and it’s given me courage. Thank you again!!!
Thank you, Matthew. This Christmas feels very tough emotionally for me. I feel very lonely, far away from my family, heartbroken, burnt out and in a new place. I am grateful for this beautiful community of people here who left their comments. This is so precious. For a lot of us here Christmas feels different this year...
And I also want to say I really appreciate your thoughtfulness in sending this video. My Christmases have not been much fun since my last partner & I split 13 years ago & my daughter left 6 months later. I've never repartnered. Watching your videos is the closest I've ever come to even thinking about it. The guy who's coming to lunch tomorrow would be a contender - intelligent, thoughtful, sensitive - but he's a bit of a heavy drinker, like my last partner. ... So I am really thankful for all the videos you put out for free. Makes me feel a tiny bit better to know that relationships, somehow, sometime, somewhere might be possible, even if not in my world.
That’s kind of like what I resolved to do with my holiday too, be an author of magic. Beautiful way of putting it. Something that I find helps with this is welcoming the holiday spirit. You can make cookies, or attend an ice skating show or a holiday play of the Christmas Carol. Even if life gives you lemons, I find that these little activities tend to cheer me up. Or if you can, go to Knotts, they’re so festive ❤
🙏 beautiful words. Single mumma, not my Christmas with my little one, on my own, skint but grateful for other things like a warm home and peace of mind. This festive time becoming the author of my life and working out actionable steps to make 2024 my year. After watching this also thinking stop watching the hallmark movies- find something else 😂 Sending love to everyone 🫶
Matthew, thank you for this video. This year, I'm feeling more alone than ever. I took a job in November to teach English in Costa Rica, and even though the experience of moving to another country and helping improve people's lives by teaching them English has been incredibly fulfilling and rewarding, I'm also missing all my family and friends back home right now. I haven't actually spent Christmas or New Year's with them for three years, now (moved to another state two and a half years ago), so I feel deeply for everyone experiencing that loneliness, that longing, that desire for connection and companionship that always comes on more strongly this time of year. This video really hit home, and it was a reminder that I really needed. That I'm not alone in feeling this way. That there are so many other people out there feeling the exact same way. Who are feeling isolated and disconnected, even if their lives are fulfilling overall. Thank you for this.
"Life is the way it is" 💌 "I get to decide to be the author of magic" 💌 "authors decide to create magic where they are" 💌 Thank you for the beautiful Christmas letter, Matthew. Cheers to finding our modest ways of injecting magic each day! My one intention for 2024: bring my quirky personality to each interaction. I like to keep this part of myself hidden. I don't want to do that anymore.
What an honest felt, straight on spot warm and loving message Matthew (AND team) It came a few days too late for me to get it through my brains that it's OK to be Home Alone, but the overwhelming feeling is now fading. You have such a gift for us all. You are an Angel in human form. So glad to be channeled to you! LOTS OF ❤ from Italy
Thank you for that heartfelt message. It really hits this year. My intention in 2024 is to continue on my growth journey and to have empathy in the moment for where I am without losing footing because of the enormity of what has happened or where I feel I have fallen short the last few years. I want to take every day anew at the pace that resonates for who I am now, while still applying what I have learned to moving myself forward even if that's 1% better every week at this point. Beyond that, I can find joy in those moments I carve out each day to be my best self when it comes to engaging with others. My mom and dad may not be here anymore, but the lessons I learned through them are and I want to make sure I am actively participating in the world in case my presence for even a moment can help, encourage, sooth, support or light a fire for someone else. If we could top that off with bouts of laughter, well then that would be a great New Year.
Thank you! To everyone like me who may be having a complicated Christmas, wherever you are, whatever may have happened, it is great and comforting to know that you are there! Thank you! Love and peace! ❤
Thank you, Matthew & Team. My intention for today, single and working today and tomorrow, is to write a Holiday Mystery Story to be the start of a small library of sel-authored works.
Thank you so much. 😢 i'm feeling so sad right now because i have lost the love of my life. And today is a real hard day... I miss him so much.... Merry christmas everyone. ❤
My boyfriend broke up with me this past July, right after I underwent a very long and traumatic dental procedure. While I was not dumped during Christmas, he asked me to be his girlfriend around this time of the year last year, so this holiday season has been hard because everything reminds me of how happy I was last year. The relationship was six months, but it was very special to me because he was one of the first guys I felt complete trust in in a very long time. I trusted him with my life and my heart and it got broken. I’ve definitely been in depression mode and my anxiety has been off the roof. Sending a big virtual hug to anyone having a difficult time. There’s only a few days left in 2023, so here’s to 2024 bringing more healing and happiness ❤
In the last 6 months, I got my hart broken, my dog died and a month ago also my grandpa. So this chirstmas hit me pretty hard. So, thank you for your thoughts ❤
I have Lost my job due to reduction in force and have decided not to wait till the new year with intentions. Realized that my corporate ex workplace was making me chronically tired (because I am not tired now :D) and severely disrupted life style that I actually prefer naturally. Previously I was running in circles for 7years without time for much and now that I have time and energy I am able to learn so many new things. It is absolutely incredible. This Christmas is basically a cliche family movie for me :D I have realized how great it feels to just have time you can spend with family, friends, self development and pampering your partner (whom I´ve met at summer festival which I hesitated to attend for so long even though I wanted to go very much for a while. This year I have finally managed to overcome uncertainity and it was absolute success as an event for me but I could also not imagine man that would feel like a better fit). I have never felt so right and appreciated but obviously a question of "what will I actually DO" remains my main focus for the new year. I do want to work for something meaningful but this time ideally with keeping my needs better in mind. Best of luck to all of us :)
This year, I lost my mom and I lost a dear person to my heart. I feel lonely and passing in a complicated time of the year. I wish I can overcome these difficult and sad moments of my life. I hope I can start a fresh happy new year 2024 on my own and from inner side. ❤
I wanted to say- i spent many lonely Christmases when in a relationship. Looking back, i don’t know why i stayed so long. I really don’t. It’s easy to think “if only i had someone.” But it can be even more devastating to feel alone when you’re supposedly in a relationship. I actually found profoundly more happiness when it was over. I baked for friends and family. I made plans to do things i always wanted to do that that dragged down. This life is so short and the world is so big, with so much to enjoy. We put so much value on what one person thinks or feels about us- when there is a man who would gladly not complain and love to see us happy. The time alone is to enjoy being you. The time you find love will come. There are billions of people sharing the world we live in. Someone out there is hoping to find you, too. And when he does, he will you love being you.
🎄Merry Christmas to everyone especially those who are struggling and even suffering. May the joy and goodness of the season bring even a little lightness to your suffering. 🎄🎅 even for a small moment. May it be a salve with warm memories for those who lost (by death) someone they love. May it keep their love close to their heart at this time to strengthen them. May it also be a salve for those who lost (also by death or separation) someone who harmed them, so that the promise of goodness in humanity bring peace and freedom from the torment, agony and excruciating pains and damage of abuse inflicted by others, and that the goodness be like a light shining distant but true that you can try to hold on to now. You mightn’t feel it right now, but healthy people hold that promise for you until you can find it for yourself in time. And may it be a salve for those who feel like no one loves them. Remember you are worthy of love and because the people who were supposed to give it early on did not do it, you still deserve it. May the strong ones hold for you until you can find, the love you still need to find and feel for yourself. May that hurt, let down child in you be comforted that the joy and goodness of Christmas represent a promise of what can be with healing. Strength to all. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays 🎄
Omg my first Xmas without my ex . I really needed to see this . I spent Xmas with a lump in my throat , crying at times . Wishing things were nicer and different and better for me . But it was what it was . I can only keep surging towards 2024. Working hard for change that will pull me out of this darkness . Matthew you always have the right words . Thanks for helping me get through . The darkest Xmas in my lifetime . 😩😔😔
Thank you Matthew. You helped me a lot throughout the year, I always look on the bright side of life, circumstances and people, but this year it was particularly hard. Yet I did it anyways, and the great communities like yours brought light into my darkest hours. 2024 is going to be an awesome year, the past months showed me this too. Can’t wait for my future, what will next year bring. 😊
Dear Matthew, today I had a very hard day and your video is perfect gift for me, something I really needed ❤❤❤. Thank you so much for it and for everything that you do ❤. I trust you more than anybody else. My intention for new year is to love myself first and think more about my needs. I see that when I care about the others they rarely appreciate it. I love your words about ,,my light, energy and magic'' ❤
Thanks for the video! Intention next year is to work on improving my self esteem and to do the best I can for an Iron Man competition I have coming up in July of next year! It has been a struggling training for it in a lot of ways but has helped me as well start to learn how to be more mindful of my time and what I say yes and no to. Wishing everyone happy holidays and a fantastic New Year!
Thank you so much for this inspiring video Matthew. I thank God that I found you (I want to say 10/12 yrs ago) mainly looking for how to get the guy. As a senior (long time widowed) female I’m struggling with loneliness this Christmas. I mean like really struggling. So today the day after Christmas I came across your email with this video. And realized I did a lot of your suggestions yesterday. I forced myself to reach out to three friends who lost loved ones recently and it took my mind off of me for a while. Thank you for these words I know it will help many of us. I met you at one of your events at Hunter college in NYC eons ago. Congratulations on your marriage. 🎉
Thank you Matthew, it's my second Christmas and New Years without her ( breakup). It does get a little easier with time and I have come a long way....but I still carry the wound....be kind to yourself is all the advise that I can offer.
Me and my long term bf broke up before Holidays and this is the first time in my life that I am alone on New Year's Eve as all my family members have their own plans. I am already dreading the emptyness the day will bring. It is so true that Holidays just magnify whatever you are going through. I am allowing myself to feel all my emotions and feel sad, heavy and heartbroken. Hopefully new year will bring new breathing and a bit more light to my life. If you're reading this and you're going through sth similar just know your'e not alone 💖 And even though it is so hard to imagine seeing light at the end of the tunnel I am sure I will, eventually
Thank you Matthe!! More than words can express!! Mine's complicated... But you're correct, we Always have a choice in life, no matter what day or the circumstances... I choose to be a CREATOR OF MAGIC FOR MYSELF AND OTHERS ALWAYS!!! You are so appreciated and I love your amazing intelligent thoughtful and very helpful videos!! Can't wait to get your book!! Happy holidays and All days to Everyone!! Always!! 🙏💖✌
Thank you for this Matthew. I know that things will get better but I lost my wife this summer, after 10 years of severe illness and after 30 years together. 3 month later I lost a very close friend. Shortly after that I surprisingly manage to fall in love. Both of us really liked each other but after a long talk about our relationship she had to take the decision that we had to stay as friends. This was a week before Christmas. This is circumstances in our separate earlier lives that is causing this and my brain understands why this is the right decision for both of us but I am completely heartbroken and lonely and cannot sleep.
Thank you for this video, Matthew. Today, Christmas Eve, is the second anniversary of my grandmother’s funeral. The photos appeared in the memories photo feed on my mobile phone and I’m researching how to turn that off now. Last year, I missed it because I was phone free for the day. My intention for next year is spend more time working out. When work gets busy, my workouts fall off my schedule. In 2024, my plan is to do something every day, even when I don’t think that I have time. Something is better than nothing. It is really a struggle to set the re-start on exercise after a long period of inactivity.
thank you so much matthew!! this year it's ok for me celebrating x-mas "only with me". but the last years were painful. and it's great that there is someone - you - who ist thinking about us!! merry christmas from austria to all of us 💝
Thank You. It’s been a tough year and the first Christmas I’ve actively dreaded this year. You’ve helped a small way to making me accept that that’s ok.
I m so happy that i have my loved one with me ❤, i meet him 5 months ago and i m so grateful to have him , ❤he is everything for me ❤and I m grateful to have my cat 🐈⬛ which I love ❤️ and care for ❤❤, I had a tough year.. but this two keep me strong 💪 ❤❤ Merry Christmas and happy new year for everyone ❤
This is a beautifully sweet video thank you Matthew (and team!). My intention for 2024 is to put in effort to meet more people locally as now I work from home (and live alone) I need to build a new network. So I have signed up for Rock Choir and also applying for a volunteer position aimed at helping and caring for people. I can’t wait! Love to you all 🤍✨
My wife of 31 years wants a divorce and is planning a new life already with her boyfriend. She told me a few months ago and reiterated this choice a few days before Christmas. On Christmas eve I had to pop into a local town late in the afternoon. There was a buzz of excitement and people wandering around together. I realise that I have spent so much focus on just my family these many years, that I have mo real friends. No other groups of people I socialise with. In other words I am now very lonely. I cried driving home, realising just how quickly my life had changed. Somehow I have to start again. I do have time left and I will create a new future, even though I am very sad right now. It doesn't feel fair, but who said life was fair...
This comment really touched me. I’m sorry you’re going through this. My dad is a social person but has not really maintained friendships beyond his (happy) marriage to my mom, but she has cognitive decline and his need for social connection beyond her is becoming more obvious. I wish he’d been fostering acquaintances and friendships for years, but hoping he can still put focus toward that now. I think there’s actually research that married couples (straight ones anyway) tend to lose close relationships and friendships outside of their marriage. Anecdotally I see this a lot in middle aged and older men. If that’s the position you’re in now, you’re definitely not alone. Meetups, social hobbies, becoming a regular at a cafe could all help. Hope you don’t mind my two cents. I’m sorry you’re having such an abrupt change of life and hope that with time, you find yourself with a wealth of connection and loving support around you.
I'm in solitude this Christmas and heartbroken. My heart goes out for everyone that struggles right now
💕💕💕 My heart goes out to you as well, and glad you are a part of this special community.
@@robinpfister9514 Awwww that's so lovely. Thank you so much!
@@janegreen191 I'm sorry you're in such a bad state. I know it's unbearable. I'm trying to focus on me and occupying myself with tasks so I'm not sobbing all the time. Feel hugged
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I needed this, I too have been in solitude, but I made the best of it.
Wow, I wish I had seen this two days ago!! Worked as a nurse on Christmas day, my bf and I broke up a year ago exactly today and I miss his family, I have boundaries up with own family and don't see them, and I live alone. Despite having great friends, they were all busy with their own relatives, and I was feeling so empty... but was grateful for the joy my patients brought me.
Intention for this coming year... to truly reach for the life I want and make good on old dreams, such as wanting to live in the countryside and own my own land. I also dream about marriage and family, so I will put my heart back out there again.
Thanks Matthew! ❤️
Saying the holidays are a “magnifier” for whatever you have going on in your life is spot on.
I am in my 30s, and this Christmas lived alone has a value of a profound moment of reflection on my life.
I stopped talking to my parents over a year ago; they turned their backs on me at the most difficult time of my life when I suffered from mild depression following the end of a relationship with my ex. They told me 'you're not going to send us down with you,' and from there I decided to go on alone. I don't need fake love.
I live far from my country in a city I hate deeply, small, sad, empty but which I am fortunately about to leave in the next year. And I am happy.
My friends are all far away, I know many people love me and I don't feel so lonely, it just seems like there is a party outside that I have no right to go to.
Next year is going to be the best year of my life, I'm still in top form, full of mental, physical, spiritual strength and not even hell has managed to make me lose the will to love this life.
That is beautiful!! You're gonna make it!! I'm 35 and also stopped talking to my parents five years ago for a similar reason (I was going through a health crisis and was told similar things). It still hurts to have lost my parents while they are still alive... this definitely was not the way it was meant to be! But we are strong and not alone....there are soooo many people in similar boats. (And my bf and I also broke up a year ago today.) Our lives are going to be even more beautiful bc we are only allowing people in it who speak to us kindly and with love. Shine on ❤
@@talesfromtheroad9530 grazie bella ❤
I’ll
I lost both my parents and the one thing I’ve always wanted is family. I still don’t have it but I don’t let it get me down. My next door neighbors invited me over and I felt hope knowing that in some way, THAT is family…people who genuinely care even if they have zero blood ties to you !
Sending so much love your way xxxxx
Sending love
Absolutely true! You can’t choose family but you can choose your friends and sometimes, like in my case, my neighbor (who I call Grandpa Dave) is more important to me than some members of my family. ❤️
Thank you, Matthew. My boyfriend just broke up with me on Christmas Eve. I really appreciate this video more than I can say.
I’m sending you lots of joy, love, and happiness now, in 2024, and in the many years to come! I went through a breakup this year too. Do all you can to take care of yourself.
@@avie3937 Thank you so much for your kind words. May your generosity of spirit return to you tenfold 💕
I’m sending you little boosts of positivity, healing, clarity of thoughts, beams of joy lacing through your day, evening and seasons to come and lots and LOTS of L❤️VE…💫✨🌟
So sorry to hear!
My partner broke up with me 3 months ago next Monday. I'm home alone with the cats, as he is spending Christmas with a new girl.
Which sucks for me. BUT. It's been 3 months, and it gets so much better! I hope you have family around you and that they hold you and support you. ❤ Take the time you need.
Sending you good vibes
Going through this too
To everyone watching this video,it’s just a bad moment,not a bad life…things will pass and get better…sending love and virtual hugs ❤
Well stated! I love that idea: bad moment NOT a bad life.
no its a crappy life
@@goldenphoenix628 it can looks like that,I completely feel you, but the only thing that keeps us alive is hope!hope that things will get better with time. If you need to talk, I am here
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@@sofiafernandez8274it doesn't look like it, it is like that
I am home alone this Christmas away from my family. I didn't get any days off work... My dad has cancer so I am very sad and anxious. My best friend came over for dinner tonight and some other friends invited me to spend Christmas with them as well. Reading all the comments here kind of helps knowing that I am not alone and that there are so many people going through a hard time.
My intention is to feel more comfortable in my skin, be unapologetic and stop feeling inadequate.
My intention for next year is be emotionally stable, and focus on being stronger and do things that give me joy…this are complicated Xmas,far away from home,my sister doesn’t talk to me,I am feeling lonely and with no hope…let’s ask the 2024 to be kind with us..if you reading this,you are not alone, things will go better,but nothing will change if you don’t take the decision to make things change. Sending much love ❤
Sending you love ❤️
This is my first Christmas alone (after a divorce in a foreign country, my family is far away at a country, that suffers war today). I never thought I could feel so lonely..
Thank you for this video❤
Hugs, and prayers of protection over your family ❤
@@talesfromtheroad9530 Thank you ❤️
🫂 wishing you lighter days ahead.. they will come ❤
@@cheekytitaable ❤️🫂
To not seek magic, but to create it. How simply put, yet such a powerful thought.
It's not worth it, I was like that and everyone just destroys it until it's gone. Nothing left
4 months ago I lost the love of my life. 5 days ago I lost my grandfather, whom I loved with all my heart and who was very close to me throughout my life. The only person close to me in my life right now is my mom. It's a tough Christmas this year, but I will get stronger after this.
💕💕💕 I have my mom left too which is very sweet, however that is a lot of loss for you in one year... Sending love & blessings your way as you go through this special season.
we don't get stronger, we get more broken until we are gone. best for you still
Sending hugs
Mu husband left me about an hour ago. I knew he was going to but on Christmas Eve???? Hearing your words is like a lighthouse beacon shining in a terrible storm . Thank you for all that your do and all that you give.
So sorry you’re going through this heartbreak! You will get through it and be stronger on the other side in time. Hugs to you.
Last Christmas my boyfriend broke with me. But after the holidays were over he came back . And this year before October 30th he ghosted me after 2 years of being together. He decided to leave me in this way. I feel bad and I feel sad. Over it . But I think God has something better in store for me. I.m accepting this loss for the better . Instead of for worst., one day at a time . ❤🎉i.m great full for my life and my family. ❤🎉😊
Merry Christmas Mathew.
You shouldn't let someone back into your life who treated you so poorly. I hope you will meet better people and have more boundaries 🎉
@goldenphoenix628 I agree it was the worst mistake I ever decided to do. But rest assured I won't do that again.
@@elizabethsanchez145We all make mistakes, I ignored red flags or gave the benefit of the doubt to a narcissist who cheated on me last year and trampled on my trust and empathy for others. Well when I got to know it I left but I still felt stupid too and bitter. My friends didn't understand my pain and also left. I have always been there for everyone but they are not always there for you. I hope you have great people around you that care for you. I wish I had. Everyone feels distant and fake.
This is a very valuable sentiment. I try to remember that Christmas is a feeling and not an event. Cheers to all❤
This has been a really hard year. Had a really tough break up. Christmas is my grandma’s birthday. She raised me and she passed 2 years ago. I don’t see my family, so I really enjoyed being part of a family in that relationship. This is my 3rd Christmas without my gram. I always get a birthday cake and drinks to celebrate my grandma’s memory, because she hated that she shared her day with a holiday. And even if I spend it alone, I’m doing it out of peace and still doing something out of honor that makes me happy. So especially if you don’t have a traditional family, I see you ❤️Merry Christmas & happy holidays.
Aww!❤ she must’ve been a wonderful human being. Probably made you smile a lot and shared a lot of fun together. Wish you the best for next year when we come back stronger! 💪
We're in the same boat, maybe not in the same cabin....but definitely on the same boat. There's nothing I can say that's good enough equal what your gram gave you or how you're grieving your relationship, but eventhough I'm a stranger I see you right back and if you ever need someone to listen ypu can reach out
@@benkesallai She really was! She was most of the family I ever had and certainly the only adult looking out for me. ❤️ Same to you!
@@libritarian Very sweet thank you ❤️ same to you! Sometimes it’s better to choose peace over some family relations, and that’s okay. And even better, making your own traditions.
@@Pktommy1 To be honest I wouldn't even know how to reach out on TH-cam now that I think of it, I probably should have done the mental math on that before I commented 😅
Thank you so much Matthew. It does seem as though everyone has families and plans. It is a very lonely time. Tomorrow I'm visiting Dad at his frail care home, then coming home to my furbabies. Mom passed in 2019 and my ex left just before Christmas last year so it has been hard to find the magic on my own. But 2024 will be different, I will be the author of my own life. ❤
Thank you for this video. I am a solo mom, I feel often lonely, but I do my best everyday to bring joy to my son and to take care of him. Even in the hard times, we can find some magic. For me, this magic is my son’s smile, my lovely cat, and my mom. This year I would like to let go of the past and the negative thoughts, and just do my best to be happy, to take care of my little family, and bring joy to the other beings around me. If you feel alone, remember you’re not, take care of you. better days are coming for you. I wish you the best ⭐️
I just joined the 'dumped at Christmas club'.
I sort of knew that it was coming, but I am still finding it hard to process
Thank you Matthew. It's good to know that I am not alone.
I'm sorry you entered the club
Thank you @carnigoth for your concern.
It isn't a great feeling, but I know that I will move on from it.
I am so touched by this message from you, Mathew. While I am alone on this Christmas Week, it is the first time in my life that I entered the holiday season feeling centered and whole. I found some calmness in little ways of celebrating small things while on my own. I think I finally found a way to happiness within myself rather than looking for someone to generate that in me. I share your act of generosity of words in creating this collective for vulnerable souls at this time of the year. Much love to you all. ❤
I intend to stop allowing emotionally unavailable and non committal men into my life to harm, damage and disappoint me. This year I find TRUE love.
If you’re reading this, I want you to know that you’re loved and appreciated for the light you bring into this world🩷
Thank you for this, Matthew. This is the first Christmas without my best friend of 17 years who lost her battle with breast cancer last February. She was a part of my family’s Christmas celebrations for 16 years. She was a strong and amazing person who played a big part in me transitioning from a quiet and introverted person to someone who is more open and expressive to family, friends and even strangers. If it wasn’t for her influence, I probably wouldn’t have done the retreat back in October. I’m glad I didn’t back out because it was another step towards a more fulfilling life. I knew this holiday would be difficult, but I’m doing much better than expected. I’m looking forward to a fabulous New Year. I’m creating my own magic and my own energy that I want to share with people in my life who may need it as much or even more than I do. Happy Holidays! 💜
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What a wonderful friend to have known 🫶🏻 You are doing so well, she would be proud of you for sure. Much love 🤍✨
This means so much. So many of us are alone at Christmas and everywhere we look it feels like everyone else is having an amazing time, but that's just not true. It's really just another day, but the impact is great on us. To everyone in the comments, we're not alone, we have each other. Merry Christmas.
I’m here in Uk , single and far away from my family, u can’t imagine how I feel right now, but u r true we are not alone many ppl having same scenario 🥺
At least there is still family to miss , could you speak or video with them ? Make plans to visit ?
Marry Christmas and lots of love, joy and health :)
Same here,divorced and living in Luxembourg,can’t go home cz of work,my sister doesn’t speak to me and I feel lonely…better things will come!
I'm from the UK but now I'm stuck abroad and I don't know when I'll be back...I feel so alone
sending you comfort in your loneliness, lots of us can relate, take care of yourself @@John-fs1pg
Normally I'm here for the dating advice, but this year my grandpa passed away a few days before Christmas. It broke my heart, but it's been helping me to connect with friends who also lost loved ones this year. And I'm thankful for all the memories of him. My heart and prayers go out to all those experiencing similar pain right now. ❤ 🙏🏼
My intention for the new year is to create a healthier life for myself. Not only physically through a better diet and sport, but also mentally by being kind to myself and following my values.
2 months ago i just experienced my first romantic heartbreak. And now im experiencing Christmas missing him. But i know that I cant cry about him all the time, atleast in Christmas, I want to be happy. So ill choose to be happy.
Hi I’m 79 , and had my heart broken many times , but we can’t give someone else the power over whether we are happy or not , have a cry , scream , and mourn them , then ,pick up your life and move on , xxxxx
Matthew, i want to thank you for YOUR magic. Thank you for this thoughtful and meaningful message.. It really touched me.
Merry Christmas dear Matthew. God Bless you and your family.
Thank you Matthew. My boyfriend chose to break up with me Oct 25 so this makes exactly 2 months. We were together for a full year. He’s an avoidant so I get his fears but he KNEW how hard holidays already were for me. This has been my personal hell… I don’t know where we are going but this season is always one I’ve dreaded yearly. I really appreciate you putting this out there instead of the usual videos about happy stuff some of us have never ever had and just sweeping us under the rug until the 26th. Thank you so much for your work ❤
First here. And, yes, I for damn sure am having a complicated Christmas dealing with the loss of my ex wife who cheated and abandoned our marriage for her AP. Lord knows.
I’m sorry , you didn’t deserve that
My boyfriend broke up with me about 19 days ago. I write these words with a heavy heart, surrounded by a sadness that seems to have no end. My chest is increasingly empty, and my smile has been replaced by tears of pain that are now the reflection of a shattered heart.
Thank you so much Matthew for your ability to understand those who are suffering and show through this beautiful message that there is hope.❤
Hello can we become friends of long distance relationship
Awww, Matthew has such a big heart and a clear understanding of life. This is so appreciated ❤️💚 Thank-you Matthew and team!
Beautifully said. Very powerful. An old guy who was sitting out when I went for my evening walk, asked me if I got any presents. No I answered, how about you? No I didn't get any gifts. II stayed to say the season is about the Prince of Peace, not so much about gifts, so just enjoy today like any day, let go of those thoughts and feel peacceful. We all can be there for others, even an old fella sitting alone on a seat outside.
I've been crying all evening, and then this popped up to remind me that I need to struggle on a bit longer
Hugs ❤
I’m not good in English but I’ll try my best. I’m just 23, and 6 months ago my girlfriend broke up with me after 6 years relationship. I know that we are still young but I really thought that she was the one and I already think that. So I want to improve my mental health, I want to feel joy again even alone. I want to hear better the other friends or strangers and try to help them as much as I could. I want to be less rude with my feelings and accept the life… and say it is what it is, but also try my best to improve my life. I also will be more open even in my private stuffs, and not be again a pleaser or avoid all conflicts.
I’ll think positive again with or without my love. I need to become a better version of myself in order to fulfill my happiness in life.
Best wishes for the year to all! And as MH said, me and you aren’t alone, so we must use our sadness to help others… with the golden rule:
Treat other as we’d wish to be treated ourselves.
I used to LOVE Christmas. Now, I just want this season to be over, which itself makes me sad.
Also, my ex-husband proposed on Christmas Day on 2011, and it just reminds me of what didn't last and how much of a fool I was and how much time I've wasted (and now how much harder it is/has been for me to get even close to another relationship despite so much work I've done and how much I've tried). The magic I'm working on today/this Christmas break is with my writing projects I haven't had time to work on in a while.
Thank you, Matthew. That video really shows that you are a kind, compassionate and empathetic person (and not just a random "youtube coach" wanting to make money of women in despair; like a lot of "online gurus" might be). The way you describe how so many of us can be feeling, and also how to deal with it is beautiful. It almost brought me to tears. I have notoriously complicated holidays. Just from old baggage, my own expectations etc. I am surrounded by family I love, yet I still feel like stuck, sad and hopeless.
This is really what I needed to hear! Heart goes out to everyone struggling.
Thank you for this, so much. This year has been the hardest year of my life. To top it off, in a very short period of time, I witnessed someone pass away, and also ended my two year relationship with my ex. It feels like too much to bear, so I’m definitely feeling it this year. Trying to focus on what I do have in this moment: my health. My family. My core needs are met, and it’s helping me stay grounded. I hope and intend to bring more hope, happiness and peace in 2024.
Ive been working for Crisis homeless shelter these past 2 days...today i cant be there as there are no trains...i sit here crying, humbled by the testimonies shared to me these past days from people that have so little..zero point...but who have so much beauty..thank you to those souls...that have touched my heart and made me feel so humble..tomorrow i will be back...but today i honour you all❤
Complicated is a good word. I tried to focus today and some organizing of my house. Threw a lot of things away. Made some yummy food and enjoying some peace and quiet. It’s a very busy time of year at work and I’m going to appreciate the quiet and a reprieve.
Three days ago I had the worst, painful christmas after a really bad break up. He left me hanging on that pain on Christmas Eve while he happily went to a party…I couldn’t even have dinner with my family, it was awful. Looking back, nothing is more valuable than having the people that love me around me, while the ones that walk away will not be missed very soon. Took me forever, but finally got to that place in which I can appreciate the holidays with its ups and downs and still feel blessed. Strength to everyone out there having a tough time, you will get through this❤❤❤
Beautiful words and drawings 💜 I cried this Christmas, feeling lonely after the loss of my dog and a break up.
My intention for the year is to focus on my nursing degree (and love it!) I wish everyone success with their intentions 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this beautiful message... it means so much to so many of us❤
Thank you so much Matthew for sharing this, it really helped me. I have been a single divorced mom for 8 years and a caregiver for my mom who has dementia it has been the hardest Christmas ever. I quit my job to be a full-time caregiver and financially I am worried but I want to care for my mom as long as I can. My daughter is 12 years old now we spend quality time together watching Chrismas movies and making cookies it is the simple things in life that matter and enjoying every moment you have with the people you love.
Thank you for this! It’s been a tough year…I will try to make my own magic over the holidays and keep the magic going into 2024 ❤️
One intention I have for next year is to begin to establish myself. I just graduated from uni and things have been so chaotic and crazy (in a mostly good way) but I feel ready to begin to create a foundation for myself.
Thank you for this video. Again and again I feel so lucky to the MH Team in my life. I’ve followed you for many years now and your messages always leave me with such peace. Wishing you all a Merry Christmas
Blessings on your journey as you grow your foundation! May it be strong and authentic and nourish your soul ❤
Life is what you make it. Whether happy or not, you can make things happen the way you want it to be. Serendipity it is! It is the gift of making fortunate discoveries by accident. You can control what and how you want your life to become. Not only during Christmas, it is an everyday thing. I try to be selfless and make others happy and that matters most in life now and in times ahead of us. Think about others rather than yourself!
A much needed video ❤❤ thank you Mathew ! Merry Christmas to every lovely human reading this ✨️
Thank you.
This is my 5th year of spending holidays alone after my divorce. I have a deep loneliness that never goes away, but it’s impossible to ignore during the holidays.
I dread when people ask about my plans .
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After, they ask about what I did.
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Then I listen as they recount every detail of their amazing family vacation or those special moments with the people who love them.
This year I told myself if I was alone again- I would go volunteer somewhere. But, I got the flu or something that hit me hard ( teacher) so I have been having a pity party ( minus the party).
I hope I’m not alone again next year but your words meant a lot to me.
Never cried on the 24th in my life. But girlfriend broke up with me after 11.5 years last Sunday.
It makes me so sad to hear that, and I hope you have loved ones around as it can be so hard to go through a break up and especially at this time of year. The new year can be such a good time to look forward and put energy into being the person you want to be. I hope you can do that with time. Big hugs 🤍
Thank you for this video!! I’m currently in this new chapter of my life. I husband passed away 6 months ago after being together for 13 years. I never thought at the age of 39 I would be a widow. I am in this lonely place with this uncertainty and I’m trying to see the light with my dog zoë. I find this video and it’s given me courage. Thank you again!!!
Thank you, Matthew. This Christmas feels very tough emotionally for me. I feel very lonely, far away from my family, heartbroken, burnt out and in a new place. I am grateful for this beautiful community of people here who left their comments. This is so precious. For a lot of us here Christmas feels different this year...
And I also want to say I really appreciate your thoughtfulness in sending this video. My Christmases have not been much fun since my last partner & I split 13 years ago & my daughter left 6 months later. I've never repartnered. Watching your videos is the closest I've ever come to even thinking about it. The guy who's coming to lunch tomorrow would be a contender - intelligent, thoughtful, sensitive - but he's a bit of a heavy drinker, like my last partner. ... So I am really thankful for all the videos you put out for free. Makes me feel a tiny bit better to know that relationships, somehow, sometime, somewhere might be possible, even if not in my world.
That’s kind of like what I resolved to do with my holiday too, be an author of magic. Beautiful way of putting it. Something that I find helps with this is welcoming the holiday spirit. You can make cookies, or attend an ice skating show or a holiday play of the Christmas Carol. Even if life gives you lemons, I find that these little activities tend to cheer me up. Or if you can, go to Knotts, they’re so festive ❤
🙏 beautiful words. Single mumma, not my Christmas with my little one, on my own, skint but grateful for other things like a warm home and peace of mind. This festive time becoming the author of my life and working out actionable steps to make 2024 my year. After watching this also thinking stop watching the hallmark movies- find something else 😂 Sending love to everyone 🫶
Yeah we gotta stop watching them 😂 Hugs!!
You have an incredible ability to speak such truth which offers others the ability to heal themselves.
Matthew, thank you for this video.
This year, I'm feeling more alone than ever. I took a job in November to teach English in Costa Rica, and even though the experience of moving to another country and helping improve people's lives by teaching them English has been incredibly fulfilling and rewarding, I'm also missing all my family and friends back home right now. I haven't actually spent Christmas or New Year's with them for three years, now (moved to another state two and a half years ago), so I feel deeply for everyone experiencing that loneliness, that longing, that desire for connection and companionship that always comes on more strongly this time of year.
This video really hit home, and it was a reminder that I really needed. That I'm not alone in feeling this way. That there are so many other people out there feeling the exact same way. Who are feeling isolated and disconnected, even if their lives are fulfilling overall.
Thank you for this.
"Life is the way it is" 💌
"I get to decide to be the author of magic" 💌
"authors decide to create magic where they are" 💌
Thank you for the beautiful Christmas letter, Matthew. Cheers to finding our modest ways of injecting magic each day!
My one intention for 2024: bring my quirky personality to each interaction. I like to keep this part of myself hidden. I don't want to do that anymore.
Love this intention 🎉
What an honest felt, straight on spot warm and loving message Matthew (AND team)
It came a few days too late for me to get it through my brains that it's OK to be Home Alone, but the overwhelming feeling is now fading. You have such a gift for us all. You are an Angel in human form. So glad to be channeled to you! LOTS OF ❤ from Italy
Thank you for that heartfelt message. It really hits this year. My intention in 2024 is to continue on my growth journey and to have empathy in the moment for where I am without losing footing because of the enormity of what has happened or where I feel I have fallen short the last few years. I want to take every day anew at the pace that resonates for who I am now, while still applying what I have learned to moving myself forward even if that's 1% better every week at this point. Beyond that, I can find joy in those moments I carve out each day to be my best self when it comes to engaging with others. My mom and dad may not be here anymore, but the lessons I learned through them are and I want to make sure I am actively participating in the world in case my presence for even a moment can help, encourage, sooth, support or light a fire for someone else. If we could top that off with bouts of laughter, well then that would be a great New Year.
Thank you! To everyone like me who may be having a complicated Christmas, wherever you are, whatever may have happened, it is great and comforting to know that you are there! Thank you! Love and peace! ❤
Mathew you are such a wise soul.. a light, a reality check, an acceptance encourager. I follow you and as a licensed therapist I appreciate you. ❤️
Thank you, Matthew & Team. My intention for today, single and working today and tomorrow, is to write a Holiday Mystery Story to be the start of a small library of sel-authored works.
Thank you so much. 😢 i'm feeling so sad right now because i have lost the love of my life. And today is a real hard day... I miss him so much.... Merry christmas everyone. ❤
My boyfriend broke up with me this past July, right after I underwent a very long and traumatic dental procedure. While I was not dumped during Christmas, he asked me to be his girlfriend around this time of the year last year, so this holiday season has been hard because everything reminds me of how happy I was last year. The relationship was six months, but it was very special to me because he was one of the first guys I felt complete trust in in a very long time. I trusted him with my life and my heart and it got broken. I’ve definitely been in depression mode and my anxiety has been off the roof. Sending a big virtual hug to anyone having a difficult time. There’s only a few days left in 2023, so here’s to 2024 bringing more healing and happiness ❤
In the last 6 months, I got my hart broken, my dog died and a month ago also my grandpa. So this chirstmas hit me pretty hard. So, thank you for your thoughts ❤
My intention for next year is to fully step into my new life instead of remaining on the threshold and being afraid of going towards my true self
I have Lost my job due to reduction in force and have decided not to wait till the new year with intentions. Realized that my corporate ex workplace was making me chronically tired (because I am not tired now :D) and severely disrupted life style that I actually prefer naturally.
Previously I was running in circles for 7years without time for much and now that I have time and energy I am able to learn so many new things. It is absolutely incredible.
This Christmas is basically a cliche family movie for me :D I have realized how great it feels to just have time you can spend with family, friends, self development and pampering your partner (whom I´ve met at summer festival which I hesitated to attend for so long even though I wanted to go very much for a while. This year I have finally managed to overcome uncertainity and it was absolute success as an event for me but I could also not imagine man that would feel like a better fit).
I have never felt so right and appreciated but obviously a question of "what will I actually DO" remains my main focus for the new year. I do want to work for something meaningful but this time ideally with keeping my needs better in mind.
Best of luck to all of us :)
This year, I lost my mom and I lost a dear person to my heart. I feel lonely and passing in a complicated time of the year. I wish I can overcome these difficult and sad moments of my life. I hope I can start a fresh happy new year 2024 on my own and from inner side. ❤
I wanted to say- i spent many lonely Christmases when in a relationship. Looking back, i don’t know why i stayed so long. I really don’t. It’s easy to think “if only i had someone.” But it can be even more devastating to feel alone when you’re supposedly in a relationship. I actually found profoundly more happiness when it was over. I baked for friends and family. I made plans to do things i always wanted to do that that dragged down. This life is so short and the world is so big, with so much to enjoy. We put so much value on what one person thinks or feels about us- when there is a man who would gladly not complain and love to see us happy. The time alone is to enjoy being you. The time you find love will come. There are billions of people sharing the world we live in. Someone out there is hoping to find you, too. And when he does, he will you love being you.
🎄Merry Christmas to everyone especially those who are struggling and even suffering.
May the joy and goodness of the season bring even a little lightness to your suffering. 🎄🎅 even for a small moment. May it be a salve with warm memories for those who lost (by death) someone they love. May it keep their love close to their heart at this time to strengthen them.
May it also be a salve for those who lost (also by death or separation) someone who harmed them, so that the promise of goodness in humanity bring peace and freedom from the torment, agony and excruciating pains and damage of abuse inflicted by others, and that the goodness be like a light shining distant but true that you can try to hold on to now. You mightn’t feel it right now, but healthy people hold that promise for you until you can find it for yourself in time.
And may it be a salve for those who feel like no one loves them. Remember you are worthy of love and because the people who were supposed to give it early on did not do it, you still deserve it. May the strong ones hold for you until you can find, the love you still need to find and feel for yourself. May that hurt, let down child in you be comforted that the joy and goodness of Christmas represent a promise of what can be with healing.
Strength to all.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays 🎄
Omg my first Xmas without my ex . I really needed to see this . I spent Xmas with a lump in my throat , crying at times . Wishing things were nicer and different and better for me . But it was what it was . I can only keep surging towards 2024. Working hard for change that will pull me out of this darkness . Matthew you always have the right words . Thanks for helping me get through . The darkest Xmas in my lifetime . 😩😔😔
Thank you Matthew. You helped me a lot throughout the year, I always look on the bright side of life, circumstances and people, but this year it was particularly hard. Yet I did it anyways, and the great communities like yours brought light into my darkest hours. 2024 is going to be an awesome year, the past months showed me this too. Can’t wait for my future, what will next year bring. 😊
Matthew thank you for this wonderful holiday message!! Your community loves you for this reason🫶🏽
Dear Matthew, today I had a very hard day and your video is perfect gift for me, something I really needed ❤❤❤. Thank you so much for it and for everything that you do ❤. I trust you more than anybody else. My intention for new year is to love myself first and think more about my needs. I see that when I care about the others they rarely appreciate it. I love your words about ,,my light, energy and magic'' ❤
Thanks for the video! Intention next year is to work on improving my self esteem and to do the best I can for an Iron Man competition I have coming up in July of next year! It has been a struggling training for it in a lot of ways but has helped me as well start to learn how to be more mindful of my time and what I say yes and no to. Wishing everyone happy holidays and a fantastic New Year!
Thank you so much for this inspiring video Matthew. I thank God that I found you (I want to say 10/12 yrs ago) mainly looking for how to get the guy. As a senior (long time widowed) female I’m struggling with loneliness this Christmas. I mean like really struggling. So today the day after Christmas I came across your email with this video. And realized I did a lot of your suggestions yesterday. I forced myself to reach out to three friends who lost loved ones recently and it took my mind off of me for a while. Thank you for these words I know it will help many of us. I met you at one of your events at Hunter college in NYC eons ago. Congratulations on your marriage. 🎉
Thank you Matthew, it's my second Christmas and New Years without her ( breakup). It does get a little easier with time and I have come a long way....but I still carry the wound....be kind to yourself is all the advise that I can offer.
Me and my long term bf broke up before Holidays and this is the first time in my life that I am alone on New Year's Eve as all my family members have their own plans. I am already dreading the emptyness the day will bring. It is so true that Holidays just magnify whatever you are going through. I am allowing myself to feel all my emotions and feel sad, heavy and heartbroken. Hopefully new year will bring new breathing and a bit more light to my life. If you're reading this and you're going through sth similar just know your'e not alone 💖 And even though it is so hard to imagine seeing light at the end of the tunnel I am sure I will, eventually
Thank you Matthe!! More than words can express!! Mine's complicated... But you're correct, we Always have a choice in life, no matter what day or the circumstances... I choose to be a CREATOR OF MAGIC FOR MYSELF AND OTHERS ALWAYS!!! You are so appreciated and I love your amazing intelligent thoughtful and very helpful videos!! Can't wait to get your book!! Happy holidays and All days to Everyone!! Always!! 🙏💖✌
Awwww thank you for that magically beautiful, heartfelt message!!!! lots of Love & Light to you and to all the sisters & brother in hearts-
Thank you for this Matthew.
I know that things will get better but I lost my wife this summer, after 10 years of severe illness and after 30 years together. 3 month later I lost a very close friend. Shortly after that I surprisingly manage to fall in love. Both of us really liked each other but after a long talk about our relationship she had to take the decision that we had to stay as friends. This was a week before Christmas.
This is circumstances in our separate earlier lives that is causing this and my brain understands why this is the right decision for both of us but I am completely heartbroken and lonely and cannot sleep.
What a lovely message to hear during this time. Definitely needed it. Thank you. Merry Christmas. 🎄
Good thing everyone in this video is young, slim, and beautiful. Definitely helps
Thank you for this video, Matthew. Today, Christmas Eve, is the second anniversary of my grandmother’s funeral. The photos appeared in the memories photo feed on my mobile phone and I’m researching how to turn that off now. Last year, I missed it because I was phone free for the day. My intention for next year is spend more time working out. When work gets busy, my workouts fall off my schedule. In 2024, my plan is to do something every day, even when I don’t think that I have time. Something is better than nothing. It is really a struggle to set the re-start on exercise after a long period of inactivity.
Huge thanks for your kind words Matthew, this really resonates in my heart ♥️♥️♥️
I am here, she died, we were married 33 years, now I am looking for a way forward, thank you
thank you so much matthew!! this year it's ok for me celebrating x-mas "only with me". but the last years were painful. and it's great that there is someone - you - who ist thinking about us!! merry christmas from austria to all of us 💝
My intention for next year is to create deep connections with people. Thank you
Thank you Mathew Hussey. You're a light and inspiration!
My intension 2024: help my inner child to heal ❤ happy holidays. We are together and you all are in my heart. I want the best for you. Thank you ❤
If any of you are in the uk, we could do a meet up in the new year. Empaths unite and spread the love with each other. 😊
Yes a couple have passed away an Christmas is never been the same with out them 😢😢😢
Thank You. It’s been a tough year and the first Christmas I’ve actively dreaded this year. You’ve helped a small way to making me accept that that’s ok.
I m so happy that i have my loved one with me ❤, i meet him 5 months ago and i m so grateful to have him , ❤he is everything for me ❤and I m grateful to have my cat 🐈⬛ which I love ❤️ and care for ❤❤, I had a tough year.. but this two keep me strong 💪 ❤❤ Merry Christmas and happy new year for everyone ❤
This is a beautifully sweet video thank you Matthew (and team!). My intention for 2024 is to put in effort to meet more people locally as now I work from home (and live alone) I need to build a new network. So I have signed up for Rock Choir and also applying for a volunteer position aimed at helping and caring for people. I can’t wait! Love to you all 🤍✨
My wife of 31 years wants a divorce and is planning a new life already with her boyfriend.
She told me a few months ago and reiterated this choice a few days before Christmas.
On Christmas eve I had to pop into a local town late in the afternoon.
There was a buzz of excitement and people wandering around together.
I realise that I have spent so much focus on just my family these many years, that I have mo real friends. No other groups of people I socialise with. In other words I am now very lonely.
I cried driving home, realising just how quickly my life had changed.
Somehow I have to start again. I do have time left and I will create a new future, even though I am very sad right now.
It doesn't feel fair, but who said life was fair...
This comment really touched me. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
My dad is a social person but has not really maintained friendships beyond his (happy) marriage to my mom, but she has cognitive decline and his need for social connection beyond her is becoming more obvious. I wish he’d been fostering acquaintances and friendships for years, but hoping he can still put focus toward that now.
I think there’s actually research that married couples (straight ones anyway) tend to lose close relationships and friendships outside of their marriage. Anecdotally I see this a lot in middle aged and older men.
If that’s the position you’re in now, you’re definitely not alone. Meetups, social hobbies, becoming a regular at a cafe could all help.
Hope you don’t mind my two cents. I’m sorry you’re having such an abrupt change of life and hope that with time, you find yourself with a wealth of connection and loving support around you.
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You did a really great job, thanks a lot for sharing!
I wish you a happy Christmas holiday and a great coming year! 👍🎅🙌❤🎁🎄🎉