HEALING through Decluttering! | Taking my House Back One Garbage Bag at a Time |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2024
- Join me as I DECLUTTER my DEPRESSION house one garbage bag at a time It is so overwhelming to manage so much stuff. While struggling with depression, anxiety, and ADHD it can be too much to think about decluttering everything all at once. So this is how I am deciding to get ahead of everything.
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When I was 16 years old I had to throw away a whole closet full of my baby clothes and shoes that my mother kept (for me to charish one day). I'm very happy I did that. Most of that clothes were very old some were moldy and discolored and shoes were falling apart. I wish she would have just donated those items when they were in good condition so other children would have had a chance to enjoy them too. But at that point no one could've used 16 year old shoes. And all that stuff was taking up a whole hallway closet in a very small apartment, while I didn't have enough space for my actual clothes. So I think that clothes and shoes should not be kept as sentimental items, because your children probably wouldn't want to keep them. I think a few drawings and few favorite toys are the best kids keepsakes. But in my opinion the best things that bring back memories are the pictures, and you can always take pictures of sentimental items and then donate the item itself, that way you can have space and keep the memories at the same time :)
Very wise and well said! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I found some shoes of my own that had been stored for a few years and the soles and heels just disintegrated.(One happened while I was wearing them,very embarrassing,made a trail of big “crumbs” inside my church. Someone stopped me from walking any further and had to get a vacuum while I went home to get another pair!)😬🫢
I feel the same. My mom kept "baby boxes" for each of us kids, which ended up being keepsakes from our whole childhoods. I kept some of the funniest writing assignments and things like that, but the baby shoes, baby clothes, favorite baby toy---I had no memory/no attachment to those things. They are sentimental to the parent, not the child.
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Sweet girl, I didn’t see anything resembling a train wreck here. It’s normal to be sentimental, and crying is healing. Nothing dysfunctional about that! You putting yourself out there and being vulnerable is going to help someone else who might be going through something similar. I don’t have kids, yet I still felt that punch in the stomach for you when you realized what was in the tote! I’ve had the same reaction to discovering things that belonged to deceased friends/family members/pets. We are human, and tears are proof of how much we love someone who has either grown up or passed on. You obviously love your child immensely! ❤
I was shocked at how much you donated! Go you!!! When my kids were young I spent a lot of time living in hospital (recovering from injuries from a car accident). I missed out on So Much with them. I was watching one of your videos yesterday and you mentioned that you’ve forgotten a lot of that time period when your son was young because of the trauma you were going through. You’re not alone. It requires a lot of processing, grieving, and healing. The tears are healthy and needed. My kids are 14 and 12 now and doing the self work is so worth it, you have your whole future to be present with your son and enjoy each new stage with him. ❤ Clearing the clutter helps so much with this!!
I was also shocked 🤣
Trauma can take so much from us, but doing the work matters. You are doing an amazing job, and those kiddos are so lucky to have you ❤️
Girl, of course you should declutter with your emotions. Decluttering is like peeling layers of an onion, each time you revisit these kids clothes you’ll be able to declutter more. You’re doing a great and brave job tackling this!
Great job! Those were your most sentimental items, and you tackled that big project.
Thank you!! Afterwards, i felt sooo relieved. ❤️
Past Libby did an amazing job!!❤ loved the host too!;)
Well thank you 🤣❤️
You did an amazing job! I'm so very impressed with your efforts
You keep saying it's only a tote - but you let us know that you lost your partner before your child was born and have residual regret/guilt from feeling you were numb during the first four years of your child's life. That box is full of grief and hurt - love and hope - high expectations and disappointment - along with the hardest job on earth - being a new mum (I do hope and pray you had family to fall back on during that time) and you're saying all that is just a tote - or just clothes. There's so much emotional weight contained in that one little box - and so you can imagine how impressed I am at the strength you showed by just going through it - setting rules - allowing grace to keep what you needed - passing along to help another family - I think that was an incredible effort - the emotional equivalent of climbing a mountain 😊
You're not alone. I didn't think I'd be able to have a child, and now my baby is 7. I SOB when I try to deal with letting go of her baby items. Or even think about how quickly she's growing up. I would've put the lid back on that sucker and stuck it in the closet again, so you did better than me! We've got this. I'll be praying for you (and me😅)🩷
You are doing AMAZING !!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Sometimes we all need a good cry just to get through it.
❤️ thank you so much! Crying was definitely needed here
It’s so great that you’re building your decluttering muscles! Going forward,if you just donate your son’s clothes as soon as he outgrows them,it will never be this big,emotional upheaval again.(Bonus,some other little boy will get the benefit immediately while they’re still in good shape.)🙌🏻
Found your channel yesterday and I've been watching all night and morning lol. Just love ya
Awe youre too kind!! ❤️
You did SO good!
Imagine how much lighter the loads will be when you move to your new home.
The past is important but so is the future.
As is, the here and now.
It feels nice to free up space
and it moves energy that has become stagnant.
Best to you on your journey, Libby.
I love your positive attitude and your sensitivities.
Your heart is filled with love so it's wrapped up in all kinds of memories and emotions.
It's a daunting task and why we tend to not want to dive in.
But you are doing it!
Thank you! At this point im hoping to have like 2 boxes to move 🤣
I appreciate your kind words ❤️
Great comment. ❤Good job Libby!❤
I personally kept a couple “special” outfits for each of our boys. They are now 37 and 41. They didn’t want the items for their children, so I just kept the outfits packed away. Fortunately I have pictures of the boys in each of those outfits, so you made me see that it is now time to let go. Thank you.
I think you look super cute in the flannel! Not at all like a lumberjack 😂and you did fantastic processing all those emotions while letting go of so much. I’m getting a ride to the thrift shop on Wednesday to drop off more of our donate items. 🎉
🤣 well thank you!
Great job!! So proud of you for taking them to the thrift store! ❤️
U are so funny... past Libby and present Libby 😂🎉❤ enjoyed this video throughly friend ❤
Im so happy you enjoyed it! 🤣
I understand what you are going through, it's good that you are grieving and processing your emotions it's part of healing. I'm sorry you and many other people have to go through what you went, are and will go through until completely healed. Yes, one day you will look back and feel no grief, no pain, nothing about the past. Just joy of the present because you have a beautiful, wonderful son. Supporting mom and family good and bad with it. When I was your age, I had 4 kids, parents that I had to look after, a job and a ministry in church. Too busy to process my feelings, too busy to deal with my emotions, guess what? I went into survival mode and lived a life thst wasn't real. I wasn't living. I wasn't being myself. Long story short, I messed up my relationships with my children. They are all adults and living their lives on survival mode as well. The worse thing of it all is that I watch them or hear them tell me what they are going through and there is nothing I can do for them except love them and give them my support. Not enough, because I missed my chance. Thank God you have only one child to dedicate your life to. In the future, you may want more children, but they will be your son's offspring or if you decide to adopt. Thst would be your choice down the road after your son gets older and on his own. In the meantime, process all the emotions possible and heal. Give your son the best of you can give and be happy with him.
You did so well with that tote!
Thank youu!
You did better then I did. I am decluttering my items and most treasured memories as it piles up so much that well...I need to make space. I am starting with the easier stuff but working to the hardest part. I don't get why I humanize (is that a word?) my belongings. I am proud of your progress. While I am listening to you I am cleaning a section out as well. The emotional area's I can't touch them yet. Especially from my childhood.
You go girl!
Thank you!!
We are all so proud of you Libby!
Thank you! 😢❤️
You are doing an amazing job! I became an extreme minimalist years ago. I went way too far where my home was empty. I get extreme anxiety from clutter and stuff. But i am working on myself so i can be more moderate. We all have our issues we continuously have to deal with every day. But you are amazing❤
The idea of a completely clutter free home sounds amazing, but i understand why it would be too extreme. I agree with going the moderate route! You are ALSO doing amazing! ❤️
You did amazing! I honestly was expecting you to donate 3 shirts and that would have been absolutely understandable. Good job!
Fantastic job feeling your emotions, crying, and then passing along so many clothes to another family!
Love you Libby, your videos always brighten up my days and inspire me to declutter more
Thank you so much!! ❤️
"How long the days felt; how short the years really were" - Love this!! I was a single mom from when my son was 22 months until he was 9yrs old. The responsibilities made the days seemed so very long yet I turned around and my little boy was now closer to being a teen than a toddler. It is OK to be sentimental - never feel bad about that. Sometimes it helps with processing things changing so fast on us. You are doing a great job :)
You did a great job. Remember it’s ok to only get rid of things you feel good about decluttering. It’s ok to wait until it feels right. 👍👍
Great job!! I’m a mom of 3 so I understand how emotional it can be as our kids grow. I have their baby pictures up on my mantel because I like to see them every day. My kids are in their 20s. Sending you a big hug. 😊🐦
Awe that is sooo sweet! I love that ❤️
I’m proud of you!
Yes, I want to applaud past Libby because she did really great.
But also our host, future Libby, who found a creative way to take us along during the process.
Your videos make me happy every time, because I see a young woman who is going forward in her life, even when it's not easy.
Wow well done. Amazing!!
Oh, Libby! You did so great! Good for you for letting go even though it was painful. By the time you move you're going to be so damn happy not to be dragging all the excess with you. You'll be able to start again fresh. I'm so happy for you.
Great job Libby 💜 I cry when I declutter my kids baby clothes and I keep some special ones in my sentimental box. You should be proud of yourself 💜 keep going.
You have done such an amazing job decluttering your son’s clothes. I had a breakdown when I went throw my kids sentimental clothing items that I had kept last year when our oldest son (23 now) announced than him and his fiancé were having a baby. Also, don’t feel selfish for not having anymore kids, you need to do what is right for you in this time of our life! You can give everything you are able to your son and not feel like you have to split your time like I did when my 3 kids were younger. I’m enjoying your channel, and on your last video, the one before this, you said something that resonated with me and actually sort of rocked my world!
You’re an inspiration 😊
Past Libby did amazing navigating a journey she did not expect to be taking that night. 💜 Please take care of yourself. Also a bit OT but something that helped me in my decluttering journey was a tip from Marie Kondo. (not the well known spark joy tip) but one of the best decluttering lessons I learned from her book was acknowledging the gratitude before letting an item go and acknowledging the purpose the item fulfilled in your life no matter how small or insignificant the items may seem to others.
You did so good! I am so proud of you
You did amazingly 👏
I decided when I was pregnant with my second that she would be my last. Going through her baby clothes to give to a friend, I cried many times. Revisited the clothes many times. Even when I had given my friend the clothes and saw her post pics of her little girl in the clothes I had given her, I cried. It's a really long and hard process trying to work through those emotions and well done to you for being able to do that and willing to do it in front of a camera for us all to view
Maybe you could find someone to make the kids clothes that really are special to you into a quilt or something.
I need to start asking around because i think itd be so cool!
@@SimplyLibbyt you might be able to find someone in a local facebook craft group...
Some get it made into a patchwork Teddy bear 🧸
First time here, glad I found you. 🤗 True confession... I saved many of my daughter's (32 year old) dresses to make a quilt. I'm on the other side of decluttering and am down to a few things. I decided about a month ago that I either had to make it or get rid of them. Because I have the mental space, I started. I'm almost done and it feels so good. She actually is really into having this labor of love someday. She did NOT want her baby teeth. 😊 I too had a lot of sadness getting rid of her things as I decluttered. I have to remind myself that we have a rich relationship now and that releasing the things of the past doesn't erase the reality of that beautiful time in my life. Oh, I am tearing up. Those feelings still need processing. Well, living without the stuff makes current life easier, and obviously, I have access to the feelings. Keep on decluttering! 🌻🍄
Oh man, we’ve all been there. Kids clothes are so emotionally charged for all the reasons you explained. Because they’re not that little anymore, because we may have decided not to have any more children and there may be grief attached to the loss of that life stage, our motherhood journey up until that point or other things that just well up with little people things. I know for me that part of my life was just really hard physically and emotionally. We’ll done on getting through it. You should be so proud of yourself.
Oh god, I'm watching you and also crying. You did fantastic, I'm so proud of you. I know how hard it is to declutter when you are emotionally invested in the clothes. Stay strong and know that you have a lot of support here from us xxxx
When I had to give away a bunch of newborn clothes for my younger daughter, on one hand, I was like 'get all this stuff out of my house, I have no closet space because I live in an old farmhouse and they didn't build enough closets' but on the other hand I was like 'SHE WAS SO TINY!!!! I WILL MISS SEEING HER WEAR THIS!!!! (before she upchucked or pooped on it lol)'. I get it. Keep a few of your favorites, and know that some little boys somewhere are going to have a lot of fun wearing them again!
I always had someone waiting in the wings to give needed clothing to....That made things SO much easier!
I get it, I tried to keep just the shirts that meant something to us. I plan to have a quilt made at some point. I too felt like if I could give it to another momma to use it was easier. Hang in there! You did so good!! 🎉
U are smashing it Libby! Inspiring me & others around the world 💜
What a fun video to watch, thanks, Libby! You inspired me so much with your wonderful videos: a lot of decluttering has going on in my house :).So liberating.I could finally tie the knot (as we say in the Netherlands, which has a completely different meaning in UK English (and maybe American English as well, I don't know), lol..)
Thank you!! Im so happy you are decluttering! 💃🥳
Thats awesome! So in America tie the knot means to get married. What does it mean in the Netherlands?
@@SimplyLibbyt Thank you! Oops, I used the phrase "to tie the knot" wrong..we use the phrase to cut the knot, it means finally making a hard decision. :) And my boyfriend and I were cutting a lot of knots, lol.There's going a lot to the thrift store tomorrow.I feel I can breathe again.Thanks, Libby! Your videos help a lot and they are so much fun. You did so extremely well with your little boys' clothes! Super well done
@@parinja Hi other Dutchie 👋
🫸🫷Good Job!😊
You did great! I know it can be hard letting go of your child’s clothes when they were little. 💕
I always look forward to your videos! You’re doing so well ❤️ lots of hugs from Houston, TX
Hugs! You did amazing for you not anyone else!!
This might sound harsh, but you forgot it because you don't need it. There's no point going through it, just donate the whole thing. Of course it's really hard and you are in a harsh place right now so forgive yourself for the tears, they are fine. But do get rid the clothes before you move into a smaller home.
I'm 60 and I'm selling mum's house because she lives with us now. The clearing of the house has wrung me dry and been very hard and stressful. She put that all on me by not wanting to ever throw anything away. 65 years of their lives and all the dead relatives things piled in too.
Last big push is the attic, that I can't get into because the access is too awkward. A removals man is going to go up and empty it out for me. I've seen photos. There's a big leather suitcase up there full of my baby clothes! I have to deal with that and a load of toys too!! Don't put this sort of thing on your child. It's the last thing parents see when they attach sentimental worth to "things" but it's really tough on the child in the future. So use that as your support. You are helping your future son.
But of course you did wonderfully well and got rid of loads of it. Well done. You must feel emotionally lighter by now. All told, you are doing amazingly well. That under stairs cupboard clearance was such an achievement.
You did really good you donated alot ,don,t be hard on yourself be proud ok
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It posted while I was trying to deleat a wrong letter! Anyway "A Hoarder's Heart" older videos especially show why she, Melanie had such an attachment to her boys baby and toddler clothes and saved everything. All their rooms and basement were stuffed full, but she is in the process of recovering now. You may find a kindred soul...
I have not seen that! I will have to watch it...because my parents' home(s) are exactly like that! I am sure i will be able to relate on so many levels. Thank you! ❤️
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Good job libby
I saved a bunch of my son's t-shirts to make a quilt for him.
There are places on Etsy that make teddy bears out of old kids clothes :-)
You did so much better than I thought you would!! Have you ever seen 'A Hoarder's hReart
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You must not hoard clothes to keep your memories. Memories are memories, and clothes that are not usable to you, are clutter that fill your house. The same for your storage unit. When you don't use any item for a year, means that isn't necessary to you, and it's very stupid to pay to store your clutter. You loose much money to rent the unit until you buy a new item that you need.
Why even bother to go through a tote full of stuff that you don’t even remember having ? If it’s been there for years you clearly haven’t missed it.
It's not that easy for everyone. If I were to do that, I would be haunted forever wondering what had been in there. It's easier and more healing for some of us to go piece by piece.