Depends. She might not be able to communicate in an adult , emotionally stable way. Either way , she might not be a viable option to continue with , interested or not.
@@guntertorfs6486 Well said. Even if she is interested on some level, I've chased after emotionally unavailable people enough times that I'd much rather be with someone who wants to be with me.
Summary/ Overview: 1:04 Shes available and follows thru 2:06 Seeks clarity around relationship status 3:36 She wants to go on more dates 4:30 The date is extended 5:55 Responds positively to your flirting 7:35 She tells you directly
What Ms. Ryan is saying could be true but there is a red herring somewhere. #2 Seeks clarity.... but not being transparent --> What is that suppose to mean, my interpretation, have my cake and eat it too. #3 wants to go on more dates, of course, who would decline a free fine dinner and drinks, chance to doll up. No cynicism here and no pun intended. #4 date is extended, yeah why not, I have no friends, let me get some night cap for a good nite sleep, let me laugh at his jokes while looking at wall clock to see when is closing time. #5 responds positively to flirting, of course that's how traps work. Hunter Jim Corbet who shot and killed 20,000 tigers in India during slavery, used to lure tigers with goat or blue bull, as tiger approached the prey cautiously and pounce, he will shoot the tiger. Men should read the book, "how to destroy men by Angel Confidential" don't know the real name of this woman.
@@JohnM... It happens so much, It happened to me, I just put $20 bill on table for my drink and just walked out. Look on her face was worth it. I watched similar videos on tik tock where men just walked away the moment woman said, We can be friends.
Number one is such an important clue. Back when I was single (nearly 25 years ago!) I dated several women who would sometimes cancel dates for very minor reasons, or even not show up at all. When this happened I immediately stopped pursuing them. One first date was different. We had agreed to meet at a theater to watch a play, but as the starting time neared she didn’t show up. On to the next one, I thought, but before I left in disappointment one of her friends walked in and said my date was working late and couldn’t make it (this was before everybody had cell phones). On the way home I called her from a pay phone, she was apologetic, and we agreed to meet another time. We have now been together 24 years. Had she not sent her friend, however, I would have written her off as another flake.
#1 isn’t necessarily true, if not backed up by other points. She might say yes to a date because she’s as bored as hell - with her life…or her boyfriend…
And that's unfortunate, God forbid I ask a girl on lunch or coffee date that I've been talking to a while getting along and met through friends and have aligning values (happen to me twice one ghosted me and the other one never pulled through)
@@rxklastz1770It's true. But it is a risk for them too. Everyone in this romance challenge faces rejection, ghosting. Part of the game. You'll be much less disappointed if you don't expect any of them to work out, you won't be vested in the 'yes'. But if you chose not to engage them at all, your disappointment creator will be starring at you in the mirror, every time you look. God will not forbid it, he directs you to do it. Expect the NO's. Be ready for the yes. What if the woman of your dreams was only 8 rejections away? Ask her on that lunch/coffee date. It is a bit of a lottery ticket, but nobody wins without playing. Bonne Chance.
Yep. Girls have interest spread in abundance, they have plan B's, C's, D-F. Gotta make her want it, not feel like she can have you whenever, separate yourself from every other guy.
Far too often, that's the case. The majority of the time, that's the case. Actually, pretty much almost all the time that's the case. Let's face it. Just assume every time that's the case.
It's how you approach her interest. It's yours to lose not something you own. Many girls are interested in guys and they never know, you'd be surprised how widespread girls interest can be. They just build up interest slower and have an abundance of guys they could talk to. If you show a lot of interest too soon they will lose it all together. It sucks that it's that way, but you have to be mysterious and keep them wanting you as long as possible, until they feel that they earned your interest. On the flip side, guys show a lot of interest off the bat and typically in only a few girls, once a girl knows you're interested, they just sit back and stop trying as much. They have to feel like they could lose you to really want to be with you. Again, I know, stupid, but women are from a different planet.
@@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 You can get out of the friend zone possibly, grow as a person and be confident, if you talk 1 on 1 just banter with her, the second she shows any interest or looks at you the right way, stop giving her as much attention. She'll flip like a switch. Give her an ounce of attention each time you see her then go back to normal, she might start liking you again. Then ask her on a walk and just have a good convo. Don't ask for anything
I've had other women tell me that a woman is flirting with me, I never recognized it. How about just being upfront, direct and honest? What's wrong with that? Some of us aren't good at the physiological circus games.
@@daviddriscoll330Ya well, why should the man be the only one to risk rejection. We don't like it any more than women do. I respect people more, male or female, who are upfront with their intentions. Games only bring confusion and become a waste of time.
Yep! She hit the spot on the opening sign......Her availability. Doesn't that apply to guys, too? Would you be available to a woman you've got no interest in? Her availability speaks volumes. If she's not available to you, then she's not "available."
Yes. I don't entertain guys that are "busy" or tell me to be "patient". Don't start talking to a woman if you are busy and value your "alone time". That's basically saying "leave me alone".
I disagree with Courtney when she says at 2:56: “I only see you as a friend.” Guys: if she offers you her friendship; take it! Friendship is a stepping stone and a building block to romance. Do not minimize friendship. Once you’re friends, it’s a very small step indeed to say; Let’s be lovers too! You cannot have a profound love story with a woman unless and until you are also best friends. For Lord’s sake: If she offers you her friendship, then take it!
I had a date recently. We went for a drink, she had wine I was driving so no alkohol for me. We switched venues, talked a lot, laughed, she was bumping into me while walking, we flirted constantly. I drove her home and at the end she gave ma a long hug and asked me to contact her when I got home. I was 100% sure she was interested. The day after she took ages to respond with one word and the day after the same thing. I've let it go angry with myself for misreading the situation. You never can be sure.
I had a girl ask me for a study date twice and stood me up twice. A week after the semester she hit me up and we started chatting about a bunch of stuff. I was finally like ok "can I take you out or not?" She gets really excited and tells me I'm handsome and stuff. The date never happened, followed up with her and didn't hear back. I still have no idea what the point was of any of that
Unfortunately, it seems that self-respect was sorely lacking on your end. If she didn't have a good, verifiable reason for flaking on you the first time, you shouldn't have given her a second chance. She was playing games with you because she sensed that she could get away with extracting value out of your attention while you don't get any value out of her romantically. This is actually the beauty of this day and age: we get to see female nature for what it really is. Once you see it, you have to either adapt or "die". I hope you can improve on boundary-setting with people in general and self-love to have that strong foundation for earning respect from others.
@mannyobi6171 I don't think being like "sure let me know" is an indication of a lack of self respect. I barely cared the first time. I appreciate you taking the time to type your thoughts but I have never had any real issue attracting women.
Did you actually have little concern after the first time when trying to set up the second time? If so, how come? Your expectations weren't satisfied, and your time may or may not have been wasted. Also, what I meant to address wasn't attracting women but retaining women instead. This one case you presented could've been one of the woman you asked to study with actually being attracted to you at the beginning or feigning attraction to extract value from your attention. I'm not saying that you have a problem attracting women, but I'm presenting nuance to consider in the future.
Just watch out for the women that are interested in you, as in some cases they are more interested in You Taking Care of Them than actually being interested in You.
The key point of all this is active communication. If good communication is flowing naturally then it's a real good sign and builds a good relationship.
your videos and advice have helped me a lot, not because it's brought me any success, but because it has helped me avoid unhealthy behaviors and approaches towards the young women I used to talk to. It actually helped me change the type of women I approach. Still havent had much success, but it's easier to avoid those unhealthy paths.
So I’ve been dating a woman for about a month now. On the 2nd date, I attempted to get a kiss and was rejected. She said i like you but I’m trying to figure myself out (not sure what that means but I know she’s had some bad relationships in the past). I thought that might be the end of it but, she’s gone out on two dates with me since without any availability issues and has even hinted at things she would like to do on future dates. She always responds to texts in a reasonable amount of time and has even been the first to text on a few occasions. Her texts are usually fairly long and personal, as well. She has also paid, or offered to pay, for some or all of the date each time we’ve gone out, so I know she’s not in it for a free meal. What should I make of this?
@@SteelTownParanormal Best way to attract women is to just do you. Focus on self love and self development. In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality. The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women. Good luck.
Important Thing: 1:00 First Thing ÷ She Makes Her Available And She Follows Through; 2:13 Second Thing ÷ Seeks Clarity Around Relationship Status; 3:33 Third Thing ÷ She Wants To Go On More Dates; 4:27 Fourth Thing ÷ The Date Is Extended; 5:51 Fifth Thing ÷ Responding Positively To Your Flirting; 7:31 Sixth Thing ÷ She Tells You Directly, and 8:31 to summarize all the told here. I can add Seventh Thing ÷ Being Honest When Communicating With You (but being cautious to see what you want to hear vs. what is really honest thinking. Of course this can be another topic that we can discuss about it as well). People are different, and I can't deny that Courtney. Important thing is who we are in heart and head (like you have mentioned in some of your videos) (to be good person I mean). And that goes for either men, and women. I can add that if the woman is interested, she will even ask sometimes some things about your hobby or your work, or your project that you're doing currently (for example). Happy Easter Courtney, and happy Easter to you as well, dear people. Wish you all the joy, health and happiness.
1&3 she did, but everything else felt like it was up to me. Turned a simple yes/no into a 2 year talking-stage only situationship where I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong. Ended with her seeing someone else and saying she never thought about me that way, and “didn’t know” how I felt. That was 5 years ago and coincided with the pandemic so I haven’t found someone new. If she won’t discuss things or initiate with you, ask her to. And if she still won’t, leave. Don’t hang around hoping it’s just a timing thing and that she’ll come around. You won’t recover.
In chronological order, she accepted without hesitation: 1st date, 2nd date, going out one time with our friends in common, 3rd date, but she flaked and rescheduled every time 1h prior. So the day of the 3rd date I told her I wouldn't accept that anymore and I stopped responding after her useless "I wish you a good evening" (wtf does that even mean?). Time waster. She never tried to text me again since it happened in January. I'm still mad because of the prep work: go wash the car, hours to get ready, the reservations I had to cancel... Too bad because she was cute and she seemed serious. She also went to church on sundays
Karma will bite her sorry, disingenuous ass and I hope she feels it as much as you had. Everything is always funny until she's on the receiving end of things. But it's okay. Take it from a 50 something guy who's seen it all.....One day she WILL get hers. 😉✌️
Next time, don't even say you won't accept that, just let her figure it out. She doesn't deserve answers from you. Be mysterious, make her wonder if you like her. You might of shown too much interest too soon and she put you on the backburner.
@@iamapat That's not how things went. It was quite the opposite. I WAS being mysterious and I didn't write much in chat. She was the one with all the kissy faces and "honey" and using other nicknames for me. I was trying to warm her up and save most of it for the interactions during our dates. I was standing my ground. On the second date, I invited her home "to meet my cat" after a nice walk and drinks outside near my place. We drank tea with honey, she sat next to me on the couch, trying to read a book in french, with me correcting her accent, and at one point she put her head on my shoulder, legs on the couch and kept reading. I felt she wanted to be kissed, but I didn't feel ready for it because I barely knew her. Plus there were things she revealed to me that day that I didn't really like, felt like a buch of turn offs: 1) at the park she was like "awww look at that cute kid" (and I hate kids, but I dindn't show her) 2) she said she might be away for 5 months for work 3) she said that I needed to believe in jesus christ (that's really a bit too much for me). So that's why I didn't kiss her. But now all my friends are crucifying me saying that I should have done it, and my closest female friend says that maybe SHE got turned off because of it, and that's why she flaked even on the following date. So the last time I saw her, it was that night at my apartment. I was hoping that she would get the message that I didn't kiss her because "maybe" I was a serious guy and wanted to take things slow? Where is it written that I should be forced to kiss someone on the second date?
dude...don't put your date on pedestal. That place is reserved for you and yourself only. If my memory serves me right something like this happened to some guy who sued her and won judgement against her.
@@pharkle35 She's nowhere near the pedestal. I just don't understand her flaking behavior despite repeatedly showing me she was interested and even wanted me to kiss her. Every single time I showed patience, and the last time I put myself in front of everything since I have a dignity.
Off-topic: What about if you are the one that cancels a date? It happened to me a week ago, it was going to be our third date and our plan was spending the night at my place. The issue was that I got really sick that same day so I called her for the first time to explain the situation and cancel the date. A couple of days later I got well and I contacted her to rearrange the date offering a specific day but she answered "I'll let you know tomorrow" but she didn't. At the moment I'm waiting until she reaches out to me to plan something else. 🤷
we all habe out traumas, she might reacted not on you cancelling but on her own thoughts. i would follow up to confirm ur interest, 3 days is enough to wait
Before the advent of social media, some 25 years ago, I used to meet women who were friendly and pleasant to talk to. I can't say the same thing in the last 10 years.
The problem I make sometimes is that I pull the trigger too early to ask a girl out on a date. Sometimes I wait too long. But then again....when is the "perfect time"? It might not exist.
I’m in a tricky situation where she said she isnt really ready for a relationship (she just got out of a bad one) and she said some things like she doesn’t see me romantically but really thinks we would be good together and said the feelings could grow but wants to be friends So we are friends that text late every night hang out together often she has been initiating a lot of these hang outs. We are basically still doing everything that we were when it was a date we are going to go ice skating and exchange Christmas gifts
Okay a girl I’ve been seeing (4 dates now) has done almost all of these things, so I’m pretty confident she’s interested, yet she’s given no clear signs (to me anyway) of wanting to do anything physical-and I don’t mean THAT. We have great convos, laugh and banter, align on many things personally/spiritually, and yet she’s never shown signs of wanting to kiss or move closer to me in proximity. I’ve been on dates with girls before and they playfully smack my arm or put themselves in situations to be closer to me to initiate physical contact. She could just be shy but not having any physical contact besides a hug is a turn off for me and leaves me unsure of where she’s at. Am I crazy for thinking some physical contact is important?? Dating should not be this complicated.
Four dates is a lot for nothing physical, meaning a kiss or hand holding. Save the bedroom fun for later, much later. On the next date, test the water; hold her hand when you're walking somewhere, see what happens. If that's accepted, later on, move in for a kiss. If she likes you, she''ll kiss back, if she's not, she'll pull away.
I don't know if you tried this yet, so my comment may be moot. Observe whether she wants to be around you when doing things which cost money like dinner, drinks, events, or activities you must purchase a ticket to attend. If so, you are her ATM friend and not a romantic interest. You will be in the friendzone as long as the free stuff keeps coming. Asking to go to a free event or activity may get you an answer if she refuses.
You have been friend zoned, you just are not seeing it. My take all her friends are in relationship, she needs a friend to blow some steam, make her feel better about herself, have someone to share jokes and banter with. She has refined her game, like a predator that plays with its prey. Sorry for being harsh and bearer of bad news, on the bright side, she has very high IQ and very composed and level headed.😐😐😐
@@pace1195 Exactly. Easy way to find out is just do activities that cost nothing, like going on walks or watching a movie at home. See how long she sticks around. Too many guys throw money and lifestyle at the date and shovel it at them. Basically paying her to stick around. See how fast she stops coming around if you stop the money train.
you know what you should do. Just verbally ask her, "what are your thoughts on kissing?". Like, not you necessarily, just her thoughts in general about the idea of two people being intimate, and watch how she reacts. If she seems interested/open, then jokingly be like "sounds like something cool to try" (or something like that, idk). Again, watch her reaction. Now the ball is in her court . Don't force the issue anymore, it is now on her mind. She'll bring it up again when she's ready. The point is, you've thrown this idea into her mind in the most passive/safe way possible by jokingly introducing it into conversation with low pressure on her. So now she sits with the idea.
hi Courtney!! can we also talk about how a woman can be interested but she will play games and to just leave her alone if she does that. Because she is looking for a reaction, but she also needs to learn the hard way regardless if she’s an adult or a teenager. Women need to learn that guys don’t want a girl that messes around in relationships.
Same goes for men. As soon as a guy starts playing games or giving mixed signals I walk away. This isn't a behavior exclusive to women and both men and women should learn it is not acceptable.
@@marisolascencio937 I mean, of course this goes for men too. I never said that men don’t do the same, I just think that when we’re holding women accountable, there shouldn’t be people that say oh men do it too because it’s not about men honestly, but I do agree that if a woman or a man does that then you should leave.
I've been watching your channel after my last relationship ended, about 2,5 years ago and finally started to go out there again Just wanted to know some advice here. I've been seeing this girl, 3rd and 4th date, we extended from just a quick afternoon snack to dinner, and the last one we sat near her house till 2 a.m., speaking in the car about everything. Always thought all was going very well, but all of a sudden, went for almost a full week without saying a word and now takes half a day to respond. I'm a bit lost, dont know what happened. Thanks
Forget about her for at least a couple of weeks if not a month. If she contacts you, great! If she doesn't, move on because she ghosted you and doesn't really like you for some reason. You will probably never learn what that reason is either. That's the frustrating part of dating and communication from women.
@iamme25yago While I would normally agree with you, she did agree to multiple dates. There still may be a very slim chance she likes OP enough for a relationship. I personally would be very cautious moving forward if she does reach out in the next few weeks. Any other serious red flags is an automatic ending.
The list was actually spot on. The story is long in the telling about why I would say so, though in essentials all these elements are true. There is a certain steady patience required to leave room for a woman to consider and act. Discernment is awkward in such situations - and a odd sense that a man’s role is actually to create a structure while a woman considers his merits. Self control and self containment seem ever more important particularly to avoid hurt feelings
Guys, for the love of God, watch Coach Greg Adam's _Marriage Wheel_ videos. You have to learn the hard truth: Women's interest can and will change in heartbeat, and when it does she'll have full custody of your kids, she'll own everything, and you'll be living in a box as you slave for the rest of your live supporting her lifestyle. Don't be a fool.
A man must first determine what he's actually looking for. These signs are typically present for a long term relationship. She's not going to come out and say she's interested. It takes away her power during her "S" testing period. Being able to determine this comes from on the date training. As far as flirting goes. I recommend not getting physical or sexual till your in the 10 date range or beyond. This is her number one indicator for your intentions. If you let her take the initial lead with the physical stuff you can avoid any misunderstandings and possible legal actions. Don't start the dating process by showing up big with the expenditures. This doesn't allow you any room later. Her expectations will only get higher. As you go. Require equal effort in all cases. Find a woman that compliments your life and is not your whole entire life. Don't collect red flags.
if a man does not lavish a girl with signs of attentions, beautiful places and other things showing he is invested emotionally, financially and time wise, she will think he is not into her and just playing. so high chance she will discard him
You are so incredibly intelligent, what you said is so true. There are signs, realize that. Everyone has their own agenda. Being a real person is better. Just be yourself, if they are not in to you. It's not the end of the world. If they don't like you for who you are. It's useless, Love is flawed. The one person that matters is you. Falling in love, is a very hard thing now. Don't knock yourself down. It's not you, it's the way this world has changed. We all want the best in life and Love. There is too many Standards. People are so misled. You have to be a Top tier human. Love does not exist. It's about being complacent. I Hope you all have a great night. Hope you find Love. Take care of yourself and each other.
I know a woman likes me when the things I do and say have a big impact on her. Sometimes, the signs are subtle - women often hide attraction as part of the game - but the signs are there.
These are about right, especially the "follow-through" although not totally foolproof. i've had women show up to dates and then tell me they only see me as a friend.
I had a great first date with my wife. Our second date i invited her to the beach and we had another great date. I found out several months later she really doesn't love the beach at all but went because she was interested in me and figured if she canceled or didn't go, it might hurt her chances to see where the relationship would go.
Bigggest indicatikn by miles is that she is happy to be physically close to you. If youre somewhere and shes within a foot of you and stays there or gets closer tben shes into you.
Hi Courtney, I liked your explanation and as a bisexual woman I think I tend to do what you mentioned here with men, whereas I'll often act differently with women. I think it can be playful between girls too but in a different way. My dual orientation isn't quite noticeable I would say, as I look very feminine and will typically wear skirt suit, hosiery and heels because of my job. So sometimes, when I make a move on another woman, she might initially be surprised and especially if she has no previous experience in that domain. She might wonder if she's reading the situation correctly, which can make the flirtation more gratifying as it gets more mischievous. I just wanted to tell you that and I'm aware it isn't really what your channel is about, but since I've been enjoying your content as well as your personal style for quite some time now, I thought this specific video would be ideal to send you these words. Because in case the kind of situation I described above hasn't yet happened to you, rest assured it eventually will. Hope you'll enjoy it ;)
Here is one of my experiences. What if she gives you all these signs and six months into your relationship. She tells you that she had sex with someone else while on vacation when you two were in your first month of dating? That sure can confuse and hurt a fella.
@@XFS540… quit being so sensitive. I’m an agnostic and couldn’t care less about easter, but what do you care if someone wishes someone else happy easter? Do you need them to privately whisper it so as not to offend you? Kind of a bitch move.
I hate being on a date when you know things are not working out in the first ten minutes or so and you would like the date to end. That is why meeting for drinks or coffee is much better than a dinner. I am in my mid 60’s now and getting back into the dating scene. I will not do dinner ever again on the first date. I knew on a dinner date she had no interest and she goes on to order the most expensive meal on the menu. I just wanted to just say please excuse me I have to go to the restroom and then I would not return but I did not do that. I just learned a valuable lesson that night. Dating when you are over 60 is not very easy. Many ladies are set in their own ways and they have no interest in learning or trying new things in life. I also have noticed some ladies did not look like their photos posted on their profile. They were older photos like 20 years ago.
@@eddiewillers1When you play negative tapes in your head like that, it doesn't matter what women think. Your problem is what YOU are thinking. Change your mindset to positive affirmations. Your mind is responsible equally for your success as your defeat. Stop defeating yourself before you've even engaged. You only need one. She is out there. Tell yourself you can find her, then do it. Expect it to be difficult, just like everything else worth having.
@@eddiewillers1I'm almost 10 older than you. It is an individual choice. I could decide to show the hand to them, they can be difficult, time and money consuming but they can be pretty damn awesome to. I enjoy them. I don't have to own them. But I want them in my life.
But number 1 doesn't mean that she's interested, just that she's a good friend. I have a friend who is a woman online and she always does this. 2 yeah I would say that's a sign she's interested. The "what are we" question from someone who you're not into is heartbreaking because you don't want to hurt them but know you're about to. 3 this is when you have dated so if you've been on a date that's not generally when we're confused. 4 again back to number 3. You're on a date. So it's pretty clear that she's interested. If they've agreed to a date, we're not wondering. 5 this can be a bad sign though if she's fawning evidently. Some women give a seemingly positive response because of various reasons, so it's still not clear. 6. This is really the only way we know. If a woman tells us that they are interested, then we know. If they try to hint, then we're going to interpret it the way we want to interpret it. Our own feelings come into play, and we jump to conclusions much of the time until we train ourselves not to because of awkward exchanges and mess ups on our part. Then we just always find an excuse unless they say it directly. We aren't stupid or anything. We're not emotionally immature. We just get so many conflicting and contradictory signals from women, eventually we just take the mindset that you all hate us or are just being friendly and not actually interested in that way because it's safer. Fewer stepped on toes and bad experiences just sorta ignoring signals and not letting our own hopeful bias create another unfortunate misunderstanding. We don't want to make you ladies uncomfortable or anything, but since women can't be clear, we just drop out to save us both a lot of hassle.
if u r interested, be consistent in inviting her on dates. for us it s the only sign that you are interested indeed and not bla bla. if she accepts, means she is intetested. if she does not - means not
I've had an experience before where the words typically matched up with the actions but at times, the actions said "im interested" whereas the words were, "i'm not sure if I'm interested" which is really odd to me.
My best friend is a woman, and at first I thought she was into me 🤣 she basically did all these things that were not date related. Then I finally realized that the guy that was always hanging out with us as well was her husband lol I’m great friends with him as well. So men, unless you’re dating the woman, don’t assume lol I was never interested in her, I found her attractive because she is but I was never interested in her, (we know each other through jiu jitsu and she refers to herself as my jiu jitsu mama, basically she’s a fun aunt) , but she’s just super flirty, touchy, always wanting to talk or hangout. But that’s just her personality. So she can be doing almost everything in this video and simply just wanting a friend.
Funny thing. When I hung out with this one girl I had feelings for one on one, she would smile and, not necessarily be flirtatious, but show maybe a sign or two. However, when it was me, her, and other people or a group of people, she would do everything she could to distance the two of us. It was the weirdest thing I have ever experienced. I haven't spoken to her in almost 3 years. She told me she didn't have feelings for me, but everything she was doing when it was just her and I indicated that she did.
She could have a little bit, some of the time and maybe not other times. Could be that for one reason or another she didn't think you were good enough to be with to be seen together with publicly. Or she hadn't made up her mind about you yet and didn't wanna be public with it. Or she was stuck on someone else and didn't want to be seen with you and would ruin her chances. Specifics don't matter. If they don't reciprocate or give the energy and attention you need for the relationship to progress, don't waste your time. Don't chase women. If you're looking up to a woman, she's looking down on you.
@@Theviewerdude Oh chasing is the last thing I do. Hence why I haven't spoken to her in 3 years. I don't think she was stuck on anyone else, because we were out in public, just her and I, on at least 3 different occasions, maybe more. It was just when we were in a group which was very strange.
Best way to attract women is to just do you. Focus on self love and self development. In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality. The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women. Good luck.
@@master-of-mind5881 Wise words indeed. I believe I am a spiritual person overall. I just need to get deeper to that core and then focus on my outer world and manifest what, and who, I truly believe is right for me.
the best sign is when you use your brain. who's more happy on this date? a match is made when both of you are happy to be together. when you're not into it, you want to get out of there but she doesn't get the clue. likewise, when she's not into you...
Yeah Totally! 😁😁. Especially few men like me who don't have access to cell phone after you go to work till you get out. It stays in the car that is parked mile away. 🙃🙃🙃 By the time you get to check your messages your phone has blown up with 10 messages, 4-5 phone calls and the final phone call and message saying, you haven't responded to my messages and phone calls all day long, I don't think it will work out. My response, "Another one bites the dust, Move On" 😇😇😇
you need toake her aware about these, not typical restrictions, about ur mobile phone. other wise she simply will think that you are cheating on ur wife
Wow I totally needed a video to tell me if a girl tells me she likes me it means she likes me! Thanks so much for clearing that up for my Courtney! What would we do without you!
Here's how to weed them out. Have a major event in your life and see if she sticks around. My example, diagnosed w/ cancer over Christmas '23, woman I was seeing heard this news and gone. Just ghosted. I understand it's a lot to deal with but couldn't even get the courtesy of a conversation about it.
None of those 6 things matter to a guy. A guy would know if she’s interested in you if she put that energy into you. If she is dying for you if she craves you a guy would know. It’s all about energy and connection
I connected eyes with a girl who works at In n Out as soon as I walked into the place and I knew right then something was up. The next time I appear she was cooking hamburgers and I am calmly waiting for my order. This guy shouted my request and I waited a bit until no one was around to help me and the same girl in an instant came and asked me if I needed help. I told her the number 24, she leaned over a little to look for the number and said yes. I waited 5 more seconds and then she quickly grabbed something from a lower shelf right in front of me and gave me a smile so heartwarming it was hard to ignore. Is that a good sign or nothing else than just being part of her job ?
You need to figure that one out. i would go there making 5 small orders, one after another and see if she comes around. if she comes, tell her you're not even hungry, you just like her smile, her reaction will tell you more 😉
@@niknikelik2033 thank you so much!! I’ll try since I got my heart broken really bad in front of my face! Not easy for me to keep a conversation going and a lot of nervousness on my part.
*#1. dating availability* (open agenda for planning) _if she does wanna date you then she does wanna date you_ counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time *#2. status curiosity* _if she doesn't like you then she won't talk to you or ask you whether you like her or not_ counter argument: if she thinks her 'social signals' are indicative enough then she will deem your lack of social signals a turn-down and won't ask anything, soooooooo be creepily obsessive bc that's the only social signal the average guy is capable off! LADIES: THIS is why guys become creeps, because girls verbally communicate too little!! *#3. dating eagerness* _if she doesn't wanna date you then she doesn't wanna date you_ counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time *#4. dating availability* (open agenda for extending) _see #1 and #3_ counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time *#5. flirting response* _if she accepts your attempts to flirt with her then that may be because she could like you ..._ counterargument: ... or maybe she just sees a chance to exploit you *#6. status clarity* *_this is the o.n.l.y secure and correct way_*
I went on a date several days ago; it went really well, and all 6 of those things happened ... good news is I'm probably going to fall for her too ... there's hope boys, there's hope lol.
I am really bad at reading signs. Once a girl acutally screamed "My heart is set on you" and I still was not sure if she meant it.... She did I later found out.
Yes I had the same problem. One evening after having a good afternoon out she suddenly went ballistic slapped me round the face screaming " l love you I love you " stormed out and I never saw her again 🤔
The key one is availability. Women will always be available for the guys shes interested in because we assume that someone else will come along if she doesn't act now. Guys think like this too. We always act quick when it comes to dating/relationships.
I was talking to a speech & language therapist once and felt myself getting excited as if she was flirting with me. It was only later I realised she’d been closely watching my mouth as I was speaking, a habit that’s part of her job. 😅
Don't forget guys! Even if you see all of these signs, it does not mean that she will stay. It depends on when the signs start and how much time is in between. When all of this happens between one and two months. If it goes really, really fast, she is most likely a love bomber and has some sort of insecure attachment style. Then be ready for a fun ride and then a world of hurt. There is nothing you can do to fix it. It will be over, for some stupid reason, practically over night. Then it is either over forever or worse and on-off thing. You don't want the on-off thing. It is a waste of time, if she is not in therapy. My source? Experience! Had my fair share of Stuka Love Bombers. They dive loud and fast into a relationship and leave you in ashes.
Thanks for this Courtney. This week my divorce, after being together for 17 years, should be 100% finalised, I need a few 'modern tips' for when I get back in the game. Happy Easter, Charlie.
i would suggest 1st to hire a,psychologist, to understand more things about urself and what you learned and what you want in future. do not jump to new relationships before you "clean" that part with yourself and meanwhile, gym, skincare, hobbies
Lemme be honest, the only way your gonna know is if you ask her. I know it's scary but you gotta do it. Rejection is far better than regret, remember that people.
Rejection is actually _really_ bad…if you live in a tribe of 50-100 people. As our ancestors did, probably for about the last 10 million years or so - sometime between the split from the orangutan line (12m years ago, orangutans are mostly solitary) and the gorilla line (7m years ago,, gorillas live in troops (AKA tribes), as do chimps, bonobos and, until very recently, that other African Great Ape, us). But guess what? We don’t live in tribes anymore! So if a woman rejects us, _we never have to see her again._ Embrace this fact, my brothers. Your approach anxiety is deeply ingrained, perfectly logical…but completely unnecessary in the modern world.
Basically, the best way to play it is, assume every woman is not interested, works out the best. If she likes you, you get a nice surprise when she asks you out.
Courtney great advice but I think most guys like myself want to know the signs a random girl likes you if you pass on the street or see for a fleeting few seconds in a coffee ☕️ shop, gym or shopping mall???
I have had women approached me in public and start a conversation with me. Then I had to close the deal. Men usually close the deal when a woman approaches him.
well, women r looking for a reliable partner in life who have proper career to ensure income, healthy life style, so they can be with us all life, menthally healthy, ideally worked with psychologist, clear goals in life (same as ours), sex chemistry and respect
I need some help with understanding if a girl likes me. I suggested to a girl if we could go on a walk instead of the usual coffee date, she did not have time that day but the next week she came with an idea to go on a walk with her dog. I only realized it a day later that she got back on my idea. That could mean she's interested but I'm not sure on it. She did give some signs, lip bite / licking them and I'm not sure about the F me eyes. She's more of a Tomboy and reserved, rarely talks with others and socialy awkward but with me she talks a lot and laughs too. She doesn't seem like a girl to initiate physical touch but when I act on it she gladly gives me her hand. We do have prolonged eye contact. Once we were out with her brother to do something she acted a bit different, I asked if she'd like to give me her hand but she acted more reserved than when we are alone. She gave me that side glance at the begin and I think she played a bit clumsy trying to make me laugh.
A long time ago I went a date, and the girl wanted to extend it, but just as a "friend," so I refused. It would have been a waste of time. Learn to say "no."
These signs are a good indicator, but if you get these positive signs, make sure subtle touching by you starts right away. Dancing is the easiest most innocent way. That's why I learned a square dance when I was a teenager and I've made my living being a square dance caller for over 50 years now. When you square dance, you have something in common and it makes it much easier to try and escalate the personal interaction.
Yes! Availability and her response after the first date are key! Most importantly, do not move too fast! I can't tell you how many female friends tell me this about other guys they went on a date with. It can be a deal breaker. If the first date was good, give it some time to breath for the next, but also don't wait too long. Use that time to simply communicate so you can understand each other's wants and needs more.
I think life is complicated as you get older both of your interest and lifestyles either don't work or clash after many dates you find out she wasn't what you thought she was and vise versa ! Time is a great disinfectant, take your time and it all will be revealed! 😊
We have approached each other a lot, but there are times where she would come to my table a lot. I’m a junior in College and have never been in a relationship.(She is probably being nice.😂)
Sometimes a girls heart is interested and will give all of these signs but her defense mechanisms aren’t and after getting a taste of intimacy will 180 to protect herself. It can be very painful if you’ve made yourself vulnerable. I’m sure some guys do that too, it’s the whole fearful avoidant attachment style thing. Sometimes people will even gaslight you about saying they didn’t show any of those signs and that nothings different. Just putting that out there for anyone who hasn’t experienced it, be slightly on guard after things escalate the first time, some people seem genuinely perfect in the beginning but don’t draw that conclusion until you’ve had time for their defense mechanisms to take over and push you away after they get a taste of your heart.
When I figure out she's not interested, I say in a nice way well it looks like we're not going to be a good fit for each other, thanks for the date and say goodnight. Then I disappear into obscurity. Its important to have an exit plan and know how to be a gentlemen about it. Also remember a study says women find 80% of men unattracted. The odds were against you from the start.
I realize that an isolated sign cannot be trusted, but, frankly, what I have learned through the years and through folks like Courtney is that physical signs and situational signs (that the woman may not even realizing she is doing) are better signs of the true situation than what a woman says because normally you cannot trust what a woman says about a relationship and what she says changes too often ( I'm not dissing here, I'm just stating facts.) Follow what she does (especially those things that she does unconsciously), because frankly, women don't even understand women. Also, if a guy has to ask a woman how she feels then or declare his affection in order to clarify the relationship, then he just put himself into the friendzone. A guy can be put into the friendzone but should assume he is not in the friendzone until a woman declares it, and, even then, it does not necessarily mean she has friendzoned the guy... It depends on the how the guy responds, unless there was ZERO attraction to start with.
It gets confusing when the person is an old friend. I mean, the person talks to you everyday, she accepts your invitation to go out, she invites to you to spend time with her at her place... But she's your friend. To know if she's really interested is something, you would need to be more assertive, but then you risk your friendship. It's an impossible situation.
I appreciate the content Courtney. The first time I went to this store, I was drawned to her, when checking out. I followed-up by calling the store later in the day & told them, [Customer Service] how Polite & Couteous she was. The second time I visited the store, [ She was very polite & courteous] to myself. . She asked what me my name, followed by a handshake, [soft & warm by her], & a fist bump. As I was leaving the store she said, You know where to find me. I also complimented her for her long beautiful hair.Seems positive.What do you think?
Hey Courtney... I give. I tried to resist your advice/logic as a younger introvert. I'm m a 53 year old male but you're wise beyond your year's like most introverts..haha. Also learning thet your spouse is a watch guy! I watched his channel for the 1st time! You're both great and as a fellow introvert I love your commentary.
Girl at the library kept going up and down the staircase where i was talking on the phone just so she could see me, or so i could see her, so we could interact i guess. I wasn't sure then, but i am now: #7 she goes out of her way to be where u are We ended up dating for 3 years
I knew this girl is interested in me all along, she would dead stare at me for prolong period. Then one day she came up to make some kind of excuse to talk to me for an hour. Then we continued to talk, one day I asked her to go on a date. She replied she would love too but she’s too busy, about a month or two past. I told her this is my last day here, then came my birthday. She messaged me saying “Happy Birthday 🥳 I hope you have a good day! 🎉🎈” and then she asked me to go out with her for some drinks at a bar on the weekend. Im shocked and then I asked her what are we doing and she’s just said I’m okay with anything. Then I asked her what time she said about 8-8:30pm and she said can’t wait to go on a date with me.
I've learned lately that if you're not sure whether she's interested, she's not interested.
Depends. She might not be able to communicate in an adult , emotionally stable way. Either way , she might not be a viable option to continue with , interested or not.
@@guntertorfs6486 Well said. Even if she is interested on some level, I've chased after emotionally unavailable people enough times that I'd much rather be with someone who wants to be with me.
@@joshliam1967 Struggled with the same problem. Many good guys do. You're not alone in it.
What if I'm r*tarded
Totally agreed. Move on. Usually you get a better catch!
Summary/ Overview:
1:04 Shes available and follows thru
2:06 Seeks clarity around relationship status
3:36 She wants to go on more dates
4:30 The date is extended
5:55 Responds positively to your flirting
7:35 She tells you directly
What Ms. Ryan is saying could be true but there is a red herring somewhere. #2 Seeks clarity.... but not being transparent --> What is that suppose to mean, my interpretation, have my cake and eat it too. #3 wants to go on more dates, of course, who would decline a free fine dinner and drinks, chance to doll up. No cynicism here and no pun intended. #4 date is extended, yeah why not, I have no friends, let me get some night cap for a good nite sleep, let me laugh at his jokes while looking at wall clock to see when is closing time. #5 responds positively to flirting, of course that's how traps work. Hunter Jim Corbet who shot and killed 20,000 tigers in India during slavery, used to lure tigers with goat or blue bull, as tiger approached the prey cautiously and pounce, he will shoot the tiger. Men should read the book, "how to destroy men by Angel Confidential" don't know the real name of this woman.
Yeah, tells you directly: ‘I really like you…as a friend’ 🤬😡
@@JohnM... It happens so much, It happened to me, I just put $20 bill on table for my drink and just walked out. Look on her face was worth it. I watched similar videos on tik tock where men just walked away the moment woman said, We can be friends.
@@pharkle35you sound angry and bitter
@@gocardinals8887nah
Number one is such an important clue. Back when I was single (nearly 25 years ago!) I dated several women who would sometimes cancel dates for very minor reasons, or even not show up at all. When this happened I immediately stopped pursuing them. One first date was different. We had agreed to meet at a theater to watch a play, but as the starting time neared she didn’t show up. On to the next one, I thought, but before I left in disappointment one of her friends walked in and said my date was working late and couldn’t make it (this was before everybody had cell phones). On the way home I called her from a pay phone, she was apologetic, and we agreed to meet another time. We have now been together 24 years. Had she not sent her friend, however, I would have written her off as another flake.
Thanks for the Vital story ! Shouldn't give up too easy guys.
That was incredibly thoughtful of her to send her friend. Also, her friend must be a great person as well.
That is definitely a sign she was interested. Sounds like you found a good one!
#1 isn’t necessarily true, if not backed up by other points. She might say yes to a date because she’s as bored as hell - with her life…or her boyfriend…
cute! Awesome story.
Even if she is interested you better play your cards right. The interest can evaporate in an instant.
So can yours.
And that's unfortunate, God forbid I ask a girl on lunch or coffee date that I've been talking to a while getting along and met through friends and have aligning values (happen to me twice one ghosted me and the other one never pulled through)
@@rxklastz1770It's true. But it is a risk for them too. Everyone in this romance challenge faces rejection, ghosting. Part of the game.
You'll be much less disappointed if you don't expect any of them to work out, you won't be vested in the 'yes'.
But if you chose not to engage them at all, your disappointment creator will be starring at you in the mirror, every time you look.
God will not forbid it, he directs you to do it.
Expect the NO's. Be ready for the yes.
What if the woman of your dreams was only 8 rejections away?
Ask her on that lunch/coffee date. It is a bit of a lottery ticket, but nobody wins without playing. Bonne Chance.
Yep. Girls have interest spread in abundance, they have plan B's, C's, D-F. Gotta make her want it, not feel like she can have you whenever, separate yourself from every other guy.
@@rxklastz1770try Dr. Robert Glover’s book No More Mr. Nice Guy. It might help a bit.
She ain’t interested
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Or she wants your money
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“Sprinkle Sprinkle”
Far too often, that's the case. The majority of the time, that's the case. Actually, pretty much almost all the time that's the case. Let's face it. Just assume every time that's the case.
I think it's worth pointing out that even if a woman does the 6 things listed, that does not necessarily mean that she is interested.
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It's how you approach her interest. It's yours to lose not something you own. Many girls are interested in guys and they never know, you'd be surprised how widespread girls interest can be. They just build up interest slower and have an abundance of guys they could talk to. If you show a lot of interest too soon they will lose it all together. It sucks that it's that way, but you have to be mysterious and keep them wanting you as long as possible, until they feel that they earned your interest. On the flip side, guys show a lot of interest off the bat and typically in only a few girls, once a girl knows you're interested, they just sit back and stop trying as much. They have to feel like they could lose you to really want to be with you. Again, I know, stupid, but women are from a different planet.
@@iamapatthat’s so true. It happened to me 😅I showed a lot of interest and she ended up friend zoning me. So we are just friends now.
@@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 You can get out of the friend zone possibly, grow as a person and be confident, if you talk 1 on 1 just banter with her, the second she shows any interest or looks at you the right way, stop giving her as much attention. She'll flip like a switch. Give her an ounce of attention each time you see her then go back to normal, she might start liking you again. Then ask her on a walk and just have a good convo. Don't ask for anything
@@iamapat Ok we will see how it goes. I will try it but I am not expecting much tbh.
I've had other women tell me that a woman is flirting with me, I never recognized it. How about just being upfront, direct and honest? What's wrong with that? Some of us aren't good at the physiological circus games.
You’re wanting them to behave as men.
that would require they risk something, which ain't gonna happen. "A real man XXXXXXX" (fill in the blank with something that covers her insecurities)
Women telling men what it means to be a man should be illegal. It's like hiring the Fox to keep the Chickens safe.@@daviddriscoll330
@@daviddriscoll330Ya well, why should the man be the only one to risk rejection. We don't like it any more than women do. I respect people more, male or female, who are upfront with their intentions. Games only bring confusion and become a waste of time.
women can't risk things 😆
Yep! She hit the spot on the opening sign......Her availability. Doesn't that apply to guys, too? Would you be available to a woman you've got no interest in? Her availability speaks volumes. If she's not available to you, then she's not "available."
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Amen
Excellent comment.
Yes. I don't entertain guys that are "busy" or tell me to be "patient". Don't start talking to a woman if you are busy and value your "alone time". That's basically saying "leave me alone".
@@CourtneyRyan Do these things all apply for casual action as well as relationships?
I disagree with Courtney when she says at 2:56: “I only see you as a friend.” Guys: if she offers you her friendship; take it! Friendship is a stepping stone and a building block to romance. Do not minimize friendship. Once you’re friends, it’s a very small step indeed to say; Let’s be lovers too! You cannot have a profound love story with a woman unless and until you are also best friends. For Lord’s sake: If she offers you her friendship, then take it!
Friendship is friendzone is deathzone
I had a date recently. We went for a drink, she had wine I was driving so no alkohol for me. We switched venues, talked a lot, laughed, she was bumping into me while walking, we flirted constantly. I drove her home and at the end she gave ma a long hug and asked me to contact her when I got home. I was 100% sure she was interested. The day after she took ages to respond with one word and the day after the same thing. I've let it go angry with myself for misreading the situation. You never can be sure.
Not sure You was misreading, most would have assumed the same as You did based on here actions. Strange lady.....
@@joeordinary209 Thanks for the kind words
as a woman I have to say it does sound like she was interested..weird.
@@miaqueen9578 Maybe she wanted to have sex only and as I communicated I need to head home, she was disappointed. Who knows.
She was just mature and polite. Not interested indeed.
I had a girl ask me for a study date twice and stood me up twice. A week after the semester she hit me up and we started chatting about a bunch of stuff. I was finally like ok "can I take you out or not?" She gets really excited and tells me I'm handsome and stuff. The date never happened, followed up with her and didn't hear back. I still have no idea what the point was of any of that
Same thing happened to me. Like whaaat? 🫠
If she’s interested she will make ever effort to be with you.
Unfortunately, it seems that self-respect was sorely lacking on your end. If she didn't have a good, verifiable reason for flaking on you the first time, you shouldn't have given her a second chance. She was playing games with you because she sensed that she could get away with extracting value out of your attention while you don't get any value out of her romantically.
This is actually the beauty of this day and age: we get to see female nature for what it really is. Once you see it, you have to either adapt or "die". I hope you can improve on boundary-setting with people in general and self-love to have that strong foundation for earning respect from others.
@mannyobi6171 I don't think being like "sure let me know" is an indication of a lack of self respect. I barely cared the first time. I appreciate you taking the time to type your thoughts but I have never had any real issue attracting women.
Did you actually have little concern after the first time when trying to set up the second time? If so, how come? Your expectations weren't satisfied, and your time may or may not have been wasted.
Also, what I meant to address wasn't attracting women but retaining women instead. This one case you presented could've been one of the woman you asked to study with actually being attracted to you at the beginning or feigning attraction to extract value from your attention. I'm not saying that you have a problem attracting women, but I'm presenting nuance to consider in the future.
Just watch out for the women that are interested in you, as in some cases they are more interested in You Taking Care of Them than actually being interested in You.
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The key point of all this is active communication. If good communication is flowing naturally then it's a real good sign and builds a good relationship.
your videos and advice have helped me a lot, not because it's brought me any success, but because it has helped me avoid unhealthy behaviors and approaches towards the young women I used to talk to. It actually helped me change the type of women I approach. Still havent had much success, but it's easier to avoid those unhealthy paths.
🤍 I’m so glad!
@@CourtneyRyan Great stuff. Nice to hear it from a woman rather than a man.
@@CourtneyRyan How can I know the difference between her wanting me, and wanting me to spend a fortune on her?
So I’ve been dating a woman for about a month now. On the 2nd date, I attempted to get a kiss and was rejected. She said i like you but I’m trying to figure myself out (not sure what that means but I know she’s had some bad relationships in the past). I thought that might be the end of it but, she’s gone out on two dates with me since without any availability issues and has even hinted at things she would like to do on future dates. She always responds to texts in a reasonable amount of time and has even been the first to text on a few occasions. Her texts are usually fairly long and personal, as well. She has also paid, or offered to pay, for some or all of the date each time we’ve gone out, so I know she’s not in it for a free meal. What should I make of this?
@@SteelTownParanormal Best way to attract women is to just do you.
Focus on self love and self development.
In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality.
The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women.
Good luck.
Important Thing: 1:00 First Thing ÷ She Makes Her Available And She Follows Through; 2:13 Second Thing ÷ Seeks Clarity Around Relationship Status; 3:33 Third Thing ÷ She Wants To Go On More Dates; 4:27 Fourth Thing ÷ The Date Is Extended; 5:51 Fifth Thing ÷ Responding Positively To Your Flirting; 7:31 Sixth Thing ÷ She Tells You Directly, and 8:31 to summarize all the told here.
I can add Seventh Thing ÷ Being Honest When Communicating With You (but being cautious to see what you want to hear vs. what is really honest thinking. Of course this can be another topic that we can discuss about it as well).
People are different, and I can't deny that Courtney. Important thing is who we are in heart and head (like you have mentioned in some of your videos) (to be good person I mean). And that goes for either men, and women.
I can add that if the woman is interested, she will even ask sometimes some things about your hobby or your work, or your project that you're doing currently (for example).
Happy Easter Courtney, and happy Easter to you as well, dear people. Wish you all the joy, health and happiness.
@iamme25yago Okay, thank you for your advice.
1&3 she did, but everything else felt like it was up to me. Turned a simple yes/no into a 2 year talking-stage only situationship where I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong. Ended with her seeing someone else and saying she never thought about me that way, and “didn’t know” how I felt. That was 5 years ago and coincided with the pandemic so I haven’t found someone new.
If she won’t discuss things or initiate with you, ask her to. And if she still won’t, leave. Don’t hang around hoping it’s just a timing thing and that she’ll come around. You won’t recover.
In chronological order, she accepted without hesitation: 1st date, 2nd date, going out one time with our friends in common, 3rd date, but she flaked and rescheduled every time 1h prior. So the day of the 3rd date I told her I wouldn't accept that anymore and I stopped responding after her useless "I wish you a good evening" (wtf does that even mean?). Time waster. She never tried to text me again since it happened in January. I'm still mad because of the prep work: go wash the car, hours to get ready, the reservations I had to cancel...
Too bad because she was cute and she seemed serious. She also went to church on sundays
Karma will bite her sorry, disingenuous ass and I hope she feels it as much as you had. Everything is always funny until she's on the receiving end of things. But it's okay. Take it from a 50 something guy who's seen it all.....One day she WILL get hers. 😉✌️
Next time, don't even say you won't accept that, just let her figure it out. She doesn't deserve answers from you. Be mysterious, make her wonder if you like her. You might of shown too much interest too soon and she put you on the backburner.
@@iamapat That's not how things went. It was quite the opposite. I WAS being mysterious and I didn't write much in chat. She was the one with all the kissy faces and "honey" and using other nicknames for me. I was trying to warm her up and save most of it for the interactions during our dates. I was standing my ground. On the second date, I invited her home "to meet my cat" after a nice walk and drinks outside near my place. We drank tea with honey, she sat next to me on the couch, trying to read a book in french, with me correcting her accent, and at one point she put her head on my shoulder, legs on the couch and kept reading. I felt she wanted to be kissed, but I didn't feel ready for it because I barely knew her. Plus there were things she revealed to me that day that I didn't really like, felt like a buch of turn offs: 1) at the park she was like "awww look at that cute kid" (and I hate kids, but I dindn't show her) 2) she said she might be away for 5 months for work 3) she said that I needed to believe in jesus christ (that's really a bit too much for me). So that's why I didn't kiss her. But now all my friends are crucifying me saying that I should have done it, and my closest female friend says that maybe SHE got turned off because of it, and that's why she flaked even on the following date. So the last time I saw her, it was that night at my apartment.
I was hoping that she would get the message that I didn't kiss her because "maybe" I was a serious guy and wanted to take things slow? Where is it written that I should be forced to kiss someone on the second date?
dude...don't put your date on pedestal. That place is reserved for you and yourself only. If my memory serves me right something like this happened to some guy who sued her and won judgement against her.
@@pharkle35 She's nowhere near the pedestal. I just don't understand her flaking behavior despite repeatedly showing me she was interested and even wanted me to kiss her. Every single time I showed patience, and the last time I put myself in front of everything since I have a dignity.
You can tell if a woman likes you by her feet. If her feet are behind her ears, she likes you.
Not always… don’t ask how i know
Stop doing ludes
Lol
*It's all about those little indicators that can easily go unnoticed, like how she leans in closer or plays with her hair when talking to you.*
Off-topic: What about if you are the one that cancels a date? It happened to me a week ago, it was going to be our third date and our plan was spending the night at my place. The issue was that I got really sick that same day so I called her for the first time to explain the situation and cancel the date. A couple of days later I got well and I contacted her to rearrange the date offering a specific day but she answered "I'll let you know tomorrow" but she didn't. At the moment I'm waiting until she reaches out to me to plan something else. 🤷
we all habe out traumas, she might reacted not on you cancelling but on her own thoughts.
i would follow up to confirm ur interest, 3 days is enough to wait
Before the advent of social media, some 25 years ago, I used to meet women who were friendly and pleasant to talk to. I can't say the same thing in the last 10 years.
well, maybe start hitting the gym ;)
and use skincare
Yep sadly the world has changed.
You need counseling
The problem I make sometimes is that I pull the trigger too early to ask a girl out on a date. Sometimes I wait too long. But then again....when is the "perfect time"? It might not exist.
I don’t think there is a perfect time as we’re all different! It really depends on your dynamic with that other person
I’m in a tricky situation where she said she isnt really ready for a relationship (she just got out of a bad one) and she said some things like she doesn’t see me romantically but really thinks we would be good together and said the feelings could grow but wants to be friends
So we are friends that text late every night hang out together often she has been initiating a lot of these hang outs. We are basically still doing everything that we were when it was a date we are going to go ice skating and exchange Christmas gifts
Okay a girl I’ve been seeing (4 dates now) has done almost all of these things, so I’m pretty confident she’s interested, yet she’s given no clear signs (to me anyway) of wanting to do anything physical-and I don’t mean THAT. We have great convos, laugh and banter, align on many things personally/spiritually, and yet she’s never shown signs of wanting to kiss or move closer to me in proximity. I’ve been on dates with girls before and they playfully smack my arm or put themselves in situations to be closer to me to initiate physical contact. She could just be shy but not having any physical contact besides a hug is a turn off for me and leaves me unsure of where she’s at.
Am I crazy for thinking some physical contact is important?? Dating should not be this complicated.
Four dates is a lot for nothing physical, meaning a kiss or hand holding. Save the bedroom fun for later, much later.
On the next date, test the water; hold her hand when you're walking somewhere, see what happens. If that's accepted, later on, move in for a kiss. If she likes you, she''ll kiss back, if she's not, she'll pull away.
I don't know if you tried this yet, so my comment may be moot. Observe whether she wants to be around you when doing things which cost money like dinner, drinks, events, or activities you must purchase a ticket to attend. If so, you are her ATM friend and not a romantic interest. You will be in the friendzone as long as the free stuff keeps coming. Asking to go to a free event or activity may get you an answer if she refuses.
You have been friend zoned, you just are not seeing it. My take all her friends are in relationship, she needs a friend to blow some steam, make her feel better about herself, have someone to share jokes and banter with. She has refined her game, like a predator that plays with its prey. Sorry for being harsh and bearer of bad news, on the bright side, she has very high IQ and very composed and level headed.😐😐😐
@@pace1195 Exactly. Easy way to find out is just do activities that cost nothing, like going on walks or watching a movie at home. See how long she sticks around. Too many guys throw money and lifestyle at the date and shovel it at them. Basically paying her to stick around. See how fast she stops coming around if you stop the money train.
you know what you should do.
Just verbally ask her, "what are your thoughts on kissing?". Like, not you necessarily, just her thoughts in general about the idea of two people being intimate, and watch how she reacts. If she seems interested/open, then jokingly be like "sounds like something cool to try" (or something like that, idk). Again, watch her reaction.
Now the ball is in her court . Don't force the issue anymore, it is now on her mind. She'll bring it up again when she's ready.
The point is, you've thrown this idea into her mind in the most passive/safe way possible by jokingly introducing it into conversation with low pressure on her. So now she sits with the idea.
hi Courtney!! can we also talk about how a woman can be interested but she will play games and to just leave her alone if she does that. Because she is looking for a reaction, but she also needs to learn the hard way regardless if she’s an adult or a teenager. Women need to learn that guys don’t want a girl that messes around in relationships.
Same goes for men. As soon as a guy starts playing games or giving mixed signals I walk away. This isn't a behavior exclusive to women and both men and women should learn it is not acceptable.
Sweetie, were talking about women. Stop with that deflection nonsense
@@marisolascencio937 I mean, of course this goes for men too. I never said that men don’t do the same, I just think that when we’re holding women accountable, there shouldn’t be people that say oh men do it too because it’s not about men honestly, but I do agree that if a woman or a man does that then you should leave.
I've been watching your channel after my last relationship ended, about 2,5 years ago and finally started to go out there again
Just wanted to know some advice here. I've been seeing this girl, 3rd and 4th date, we extended from just a quick afternoon snack to dinner, and the last one we sat near her house till 2 a.m., speaking in the car about everything. Always thought all was going very well, but all of a sudden, went for almost a full week without saying a word and now takes half a day to respond. I'm a bit lost, dont know what happened. Thanks
Forget about her for at least a couple of weeks if not a month. If she contacts you, great! If she doesn't, move on because she ghosted you and doesn't really like you for some reason. You will probably never learn what that reason is either. That's the frustrating part of dating and communication from women.
@iamme25yago While I would normally agree with you, she did agree to multiple dates. There still may be a very slim chance she likes OP enough for a relationship.
I personally would be very cautious moving forward if she does reach out in the next few weeks.
Any other serious red flags is an automatic ending.
@pace1195 thanks for the reply!
She did reach out and we'll be going out again but I'll be more attentive to the way things will go this time
@@joaoaguiar6995 Good. 🙂👍
well, thingsught happen in her life: work, studies, health etc
i would simply discuss this with her
The list was actually spot on. The story is long in the telling about why I would say so, though in essentials all these elements are true. There is a certain steady patience required to leave room for a woman to consider and act. Discernment is awkward in such situations - and a odd sense that a man’s role is actually to create a structure while a woman considers his merits. Self control and self containment seem ever more important particularly to avoid hurt feelings
Lol..WTF is WRONG with you?
U have the most attractive voice. I can honestly listen to u talk all day long. ❤
The girl I've been seeing are on the same page with wanting something serious. We're just building on it bit by bit
Guys, for the love of God, watch Coach Greg Adam's _Marriage Wheel_ videos. You have to learn the hard truth: Women's interest can and will change in heartbeat, and when it does she'll have full custody of your kids, she'll own everything, and you'll be living in a box as you slave for the rest of your live supporting her lifestyle. Don't be a fool.
A man must first determine what he's actually looking for. These signs are typically present for a long term relationship. She's not going to come out and say she's interested. It takes away her power during her "S" testing period. Being able to determine this comes from on the date training. As far as flirting goes. I recommend not getting physical or sexual till your in the 10 date range or beyond. This is her number one indicator for your intentions. If you let her take the initial lead with the physical stuff you can avoid any misunderstandings and possible legal actions. Don't start the dating process by showing up big with the expenditures. This doesn't allow you any room later. Her expectations will only get higher. As you go. Require equal effort in all cases. Find a woman that compliments your life and is not your whole entire life. Don't collect red flags.
if a man does not lavish a girl with signs of attentions, beautiful places and other things showing he is invested emotionally, financially and time wise, she will think he is not into her and just playing. so high chance she will discard him
You are so incredibly intelligent, what you said is so true. There are signs, realize that. Everyone has their own agenda. Being a real person is better. Just be yourself, if they are not in to you. It's not the end of the world. If they don't like you for who you are. It's useless, Love is flawed. The one person that matters is you. Falling in love, is a very hard thing now. Don't knock yourself down. It's not you, it's the way this world has changed. We all want the best in life and Love. There is too many Standards. People are so misled. You have to be a Top tier human. Love does not exist. It's about being complacent. I Hope you all have a great night. Hope you find Love. Take care of yourself and each other.
I know a woman likes me when the things I do and say have a big impact on her. Sometimes, the signs are subtle - women often hide attraction as part of the game - but the signs are there.
When asking about defining the relationship, I usually get the, "I don't want to put a label on it." Basically, she's keeping her options open.
These are about right, especially the "follow-through" although not totally foolproof. i've had women show up to dates and then tell me they only see me as a friend.
I had a great first date with my wife. Our second date i invited her to the beach and we had another great date. I found out several months later she really doesn't love the beach at all but went because she was interested in me and figured if she canceled or didn't go, it might hurt her chances to see where the relationship would go.
Bigggest indicatikn by miles is that she is happy to be physically close to you. If youre somewhere and shes within a foot of you and stays there or gets closer tben shes into you.
After all those 6 things...
Is She into you?
A.Yes
B. No
C. Can't tell
It's always C!
Hi Courtney, I liked your explanation and as a bisexual woman I think I tend to do what you mentioned here with men, whereas I'll often act differently with women. I think it can be playful between girls too but in a different way. My dual orientation isn't quite noticeable I would say, as I look very feminine and will typically wear skirt suit, hosiery and heels because of my job. So sometimes, when I make a move on another woman, she might initially be surprised and especially if she has no previous experience in that domain. She might wonder if she's reading the situation correctly, which can make the flirtation more gratifying as it gets more mischievous.
I just wanted to tell you that and I'm aware it isn't really what your channel is about, but since I've been enjoying your content as well as your personal style for quite some time now, I thought this specific video would be ideal to send you these words. Because in case the kind of situation I described above hasn't yet happened to you, rest assured it eventually will. Hope you'll enjoy it ;)
Here is one of my experiences. What if she gives you all these signs and six months into your relationship. She tells you that she had sex with someone else while on vacation when you two were in your first month of dating? That sure can confuse and hurt a fella.
I'm currently in the process of trying to find my own apartment. That process is painfully like dating.
Good luck!
Except the average apartment has had less people in it.
If you’re in New York with no job it’s a no go
Happy Easter Sunday, Courtney and Fellow Viewers!
You too my friend!
Yeah, because everyone celebrates Easter, right?! 😂
@@XFS540… quit being so sensitive. I’m an agnostic and couldn’t care less about easter, but what do you care if someone wishes someone else happy easter? Do you need them to privately whisper it so as not to offend you? Kind of a bitch move.
@@XFS540 christians do yes
@@paul-wg4ts So all of Courtney's viewers are of the Christian faith?
I hate being on a date when you know things are not working out in the first ten minutes or so and you would like the date to end. That is why meeting for drinks or coffee is much better than a dinner. I am in my mid 60’s now and getting back into the dating scene. I will not do dinner ever again on the first date. I knew on a dinner date she had no interest and she goes on to order the most expensive meal on the menu. I just wanted to just say please excuse me I have to go to the restroom and then I would not return but I did not do that. I just learned a valuable lesson that night. Dating when you are over 60 is not very easy. Many ladies are set in their own ways and they have no interest in learning or trying new things in life. I also have noticed some ladies did not look like their photos posted on their profile. They were older photos like 20 years ago.
For the 80% of men who are invisible to most wimmin, dating is hard at any age.
Exactly!
@@eddiewillers1When you play negative tapes in your head like that, it doesn't matter what women think. Your problem is what YOU are thinking. Change your mindset to positive affirmations. Your mind is responsible equally for your success as your defeat. Stop defeating yourself before you've even engaged. You only need one. She is out there. Tell yourself you can find her, then do it. Expect it to be difficult, just like everything else worth having.
@@x-man5056 No thanks - I'm done with them. Staring down the barrel of 60, it's hard to see what the value-add proposition would be.
@@eddiewillers1I'm almost 10 older than you. It is an individual choice. I could decide to show the hand to them, they can be difficult, time and money consuming but they can be pretty damn awesome to. I enjoy them. I don't have to own them. But I want them in my life.
But number 1 doesn't mean that she's interested, just that she's a good friend. I have a friend who is a woman online and she always does this.
2 yeah I would say that's a sign she's interested. The "what are we" question from someone who you're not into is heartbreaking because you don't want to hurt them but know you're about to.
3 this is when you have dated so if you've been on a date that's not generally when we're confused.
4 again back to number 3. You're on a date. So it's pretty clear that she's interested. If they've agreed to a date, we're not wondering.
5 this can be a bad sign though if she's fawning evidently. Some women give a seemingly positive response because of various reasons, so it's still not clear.
6. This is really the only way we know. If a woman tells us that they are interested, then we know. If they try to hint, then we're going to interpret it the way we want to interpret it. Our own feelings come into play, and we jump to conclusions much of the time until we train ourselves not to because of awkward exchanges and mess ups on our part. Then we just always find an excuse unless they say it directly.
We aren't stupid or anything. We're not emotionally immature. We just get so many conflicting and contradictory signals from women, eventually we just take the mindset that you all hate us or are just being friendly and not actually interested in that way because it's safer. Fewer stepped on toes and bad experiences just sorta ignoring signals and not letting our own hopeful bias create another unfortunate misunderstanding. We don't want to make you ladies uncomfortable or anything, but since women can't be clear, we just drop out to save us both a lot of hassle.
if u r interested, be consistent in inviting her on dates.
for us it s the only sign that you are interested indeed and not bla bla.
if she accepts, means she is intetested.
if she does not - means not
@@Sky10811 pretty much yeah. We only have one play.
PUA and "Game" guys make something so simple complex or an unnecessary science. She'll literally tell you with her actions plain and simple
Honestly
Congratulations and welcome to the club 5:25.
I first saw your videos 2 or 3 yrs ago and you said partner then. 🎉
I've had an experience before where the words typically matched up with the actions but at times, the actions said "im interested" whereas the words were, "i'm not sure if I'm interested" which is really odd to me.
My best friend is a woman, and at first I thought she was into me 🤣 she basically did all these things that were not date related. Then I finally realized that the guy that was always hanging out with us as well was her husband lol I’m great friends with him as well. So men, unless you’re dating the woman, don’t assume lol I was never interested in her, I found her attractive because she is but I was never interested in her, (we know each other through jiu jitsu and she refers to herself as my jiu jitsu mama, basically she’s a fun aunt) , but she’s just super flirty, touchy, always wanting to talk or hangout. But that’s just her personality. So she can be doing almost everything in this video and simply just wanting a friend.
🌹Ryan 🌹
" HAPPY EASTER " to you & your family . 🙏🏼🌹💝
You too 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan Ryan ! Tks for your response . 🙏🏼🌺
Funny thing. When I hung out with this one girl I had feelings for one on one, she would smile and, not necessarily be flirtatious, but show maybe a sign or two. However, when it was me, her, and other people or a group of people, she would do everything she could to distance the two of us. It was the weirdest thing I have ever experienced. I haven't spoken to her in almost 3 years. She told me she didn't have feelings for me, but everything she was doing when it was just her and I indicated that she did.
She could have a little bit, some of the time and maybe not other times. Could be that for one reason or another she didn't think you were good enough to be with to be seen together with publicly. Or she hadn't made up her mind about you yet and didn't wanna be public with it. Or she was stuck on someone else and didn't want to be seen with you and would ruin her chances.
Specifics don't matter. If they don't reciprocate or give the energy and attention you need for the relationship to progress, don't waste your time.
Don't chase women. If you're looking up to a woman, she's looking down on you.
@@Theviewerdude Oh chasing is the last thing I do. Hence why I haven't spoken to her in 3 years. I don't think she was stuck on anyone else, because we were out in public, just her and I, on at least 3 different occasions, maybe more. It was just when we were in a group which was very strange.
Best way to attract women is to just do you.
Focus on self love and self development.
In fact focus on your spirituality. Women are emotional creatures, as a man you need to tap into your own sense of spirituality. Discover your purpose in this life, get to the core of who you truly are, this will enable you to manifest your desires more easily because you are tapping into the cosmic or divine nature of the universe. Women are in tune with this all the time hence Mother Nature, motherly love, empathy, affection, etc. Once you prioritise yourself, you will begin to notice a change in your reality.
The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Remember women always put themselves first, men must adopt a similar mindset. I’m not saying be antisocial or impersonal or misogynistic, no just don’t bother indulging or pursing these silly little Sexualistic constructs that society puts us in. All this information and emphasis on dating, relationships, sex it’s all nonsense and too distracting. Cut out all that noise just focus on you and see how the results unfold. You have to connect with your core, your soul if you are to succeed with anything in life. What man can believe and conceive, he can achieve. Remember men are natural born leaders. Boys chase women but a man ATTRACTS women.
Good luck.
@@master-of-mind5881 Wise words indeed. I believe I am a spiritual person overall. I just need to get deeper to that core and then focus on my outer world and manifest what, and who, I truly believe is right for me.
the best sign is when you use your brain. who's more happy on this date? a match is made when both of you are happy to be together. when you're not into it, you want to get out of there but she doesn't get the clue. likewise, when she's not into you...
Sorry to hear about your grandma ❤
Yeah Totally! 😁😁. Especially few men like me who don't have access to cell phone after you go to work till you get out. It stays in the car that is parked mile away. 🙃🙃🙃 By the time you get to check your messages your phone has blown up with 10 messages, 4-5 phone calls and the final phone call and message saying, you haven't responded to my messages and phone calls all day long, I don't think it will work out. My response, "Another one bites the dust, Move On" 😇😇😇
Lol a few men? Are you really that insecure?
you need toake her aware about these, not typical restrictions, about ur mobile phone.
other wise she simply will think that you are cheating on ur wife
@@Sky10811 I am single, no wife issue here. When it comes between women and duty, I will always take the latter.
Wow I totally needed a video to tell me if a girl tells me she likes me it means she likes me! Thanks so much for clearing that up for my Courtney! What would we do without you!
thanks for telling at the end that women mostly tend to communicate indirectly😆 or better to say maybe they can't operate overtly 😆
Here's how to weed them out. Have a major event in your life and see if she sticks around. My example, diagnosed w/ cancer over Christmas '23, woman I was seeing heard this news and gone. Just ghosted. I understand it's a lot to deal with but couldn't even get the courtesy of a conversation about it.
None of those 6 things matter to a guy. A guy would know if she’s interested in you if she put that energy into you. If she is dying for you if she craves you a guy would know. It’s all about energy and connection
Start a YT channel.
I connected eyes with a girl who works at In n Out as soon as I walked into the place and I knew right then something was up. The next time I appear she was cooking hamburgers and I am calmly waiting for my order. This guy shouted my request and I waited a bit until no one was around to help me and the same girl in an instant came and asked me if I needed help. I told her the number 24, she leaned over a little to look for the number and said yes. I waited 5 more seconds and then she quickly grabbed something from a lower shelf right in front of me and gave me a smile so heartwarming it was hard to ignore. Is that a good sign or nothing else than just being part of her job ?
You need to figure that one out. i would go there making 5 small orders, one after another and see if she comes around. if she comes, tell her you're not even hungry, you just like her smile, her reaction will tell you more 😉
@@niknikelik2033 thank you so much!! I’ll try since I got my heart broken really bad in front of my face! Not easy for me to keep a conversation going and a lot of nervousness on my part.
*#1. dating availability* (open agenda for planning)
_if she does wanna date you then she does wanna date you_
counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time
*#2. status curiosity*
_if she doesn't like you then she won't talk to you or ask you whether you like her or not_
counter argument: if she thinks her 'social signals' are indicative enough then she will deem your lack of social signals a turn-down and won't ask anything, soooooooo be creepily obsessive bc that's the only social signal the average guy is capable off! LADIES: THIS is why guys become creeps, because girls verbally communicate too little!!
*#3. dating eagerness*
_if she doesn't wanna date you then she doesn't wanna date you_
counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time
*#4. dating availability* (open agenda for extending)
_see #1 and #3_
counter argument: if she's a busy woman then she just doesn't always have time
*#5. flirting response*
_if she accepts your attempts to flirt with her then that may be because she could like you ..._
counterargument: ... or maybe she just sees a chance to exploit you
*#6. status clarity*
*_this is the o.n.l.y secure and correct way_*
I went on a date several days ago; it went really well, and all 6 of those things happened ... good news is I'm probably going to fall for her too ... there's hope boys, there's hope lol.
Good luck
I am really bad at reading signs. Once a girl acutally screamed "My heart is set on you" and I still was not sure if she meant it.... She did I later found out.
Yes I had the same problem. One evening after having a good afternoon out she suddenly went ballistic slapped me round the face screaming " l love you I love you " stormed out and I never saw her again 🤔
If she's not interested, learn to quit while you're ahead.
So true you hit the nail on the head
@@johnmooney4983You made it rhyme, you got me dead.
The key one is availability. Women will always be available for the guys shes interested in because we assume that someone else will come along if she doesn't act now. Guys think like this too. We always act quick when it comes to dating/relationships.
I was talking to a speech & language therapist once and felt myself getting excited as if she was flirting with me. It was only later I realised she’d been closely watching my mouth as I was speaking, a habit that’s part of her job. 😅
Don't forget guys! Even if you see all of these signs, it does not mean that she will stay. It depends on when the signs start and how much time is in between. When all of this happens between one and two months. If it goes really, really fast, she is most likely a love bomber and has some sort of insecure attachment style. Then be ready for a fun ride and then a world of hurt. There is nothing you can do to fix it. It will be over, for some stupid reason, practically over night. Then it is either over forever or worse and on-off thing. You don't want the on-off thing. It is a waste of time, if she is not in therapy. My source? Experience! Had my fair share of Stuka Love Bombers. They dive loud and fast into a relationship and leave you in ashes.
Thanks for this Courtney. This week my divorce, after being together for 17 years, should be 100% finalised, I need a few 'modern tips' for when I get back in the game.
Happy Easter,
Charlie.
Ouch. I would be afraid that if a woman is interested in me, 17 years later she won't be. Sorry about the divorce.
i would suggest 1st to hire a,psychologist, to understand more things about urself and what you learned and what you want in future.
do not jump to new relationships before you "clean" that part with yourself
and meanwhile, gym, skincare, hobbies
I made plans with myself and followed through, I am interested in being left alone! Enough craziness nowadays!
Lemme be honest, the only way your gonna know is if you ask her. I know it's scary but you gotta do it. Rejection is far better than regret, remember that people.
Rejection is actually _really_ bad…if you live in a tribe of 50-100 people. As our ancestors did, probably for about the last 10 million years or so - sometime between the split from the orangutan line (12m years ago, orangutans are mostly solitary) and the gorilla line (7m years ago,, gorillas live in troops (AKA tribes), as do chimps, bonobos and, until very recently, that other African Great Ape, us).
But guess what? We don’t live in tribes anymore! So if a woman rejects us, _we never have to see her again._
Embrace this fact, my brothers. Your approach anxiety is deeply ingrained, perfectly logical…but completely unnecessary in the modern world.
Basically, the best way to play it is, assume every woman is not interested, works out the best. If she likes you, you get a nice surprise when she asks you out.
Courtney great advice but I think most guys like myself want to know the signs a random girl likes you if you pass on the street or see for a fleeting few seconds in a coffee ☕️ shop, gym or shopping mall???
Easy... she's NOT interested.
Never tell your interested.. Always act out of abundance.. You must/should have multiple options regarding women.. Trust me it works..
I have had women approached me in public and start a conversation with me. Then I had to close the deal. Men usually close the deal when a woman approaches him.
Watching your videos from 2020 .I listen to all your advice but I can't understand women ,I am still single.
well, women r looking for a reliable partner in life who have proper career to ensure income, healthy life style, so they can be with us all life, menthally healthy, ideally worked with psychologist, clear goals in life (same as ours), sex chemistry and respect
Woman need to be more direct if she likes him. just like men are direct about in what he likes her.
Happy easter courtney. He is risen
You too my friend!
I need some help with understanding if a girl likes me.
I suggested to a girl if we could go on a walk instead of the usual coffee date, she did not have time that day but the next week she came with an idea to go on a walk with her dog.
I only realized it a day later that she got back on my idea. That could mean she's interested but I'm not sure on it. She did give some signs, lip bite / licking them and I'm not sure about the F me eyes. She's more of a Tomboy and reserved, rarely talks with others and socialy awkward but with me she talks a lot and laughs too. She doesn't seem like a girl to initiate physical touch but when I act on it she gladly gives me her hand. We do have prolonged eye contact.
Once we were out with her brother to do something she acted a bit different, I asked if she'd like to give me her hand but she acted more reserved than when we are alone. She gave me that side glance at the begin and I think she played a bit clumsy trying to make me laugh.
She's not interested. Just walk away, or date her dog if you like her dog.
A long time ago I went a date, and the girl wanted to extend it, but just as a "friend," so I refused. It would have been a waste of time. Learn to say "no."
not everyone wants to get physical too quickly
These signs are a good indicator, but if you get these positive signs, make sure subtle touching by you starts right away. Dancing is the easiest most innocent way. That's why I learned a square dance when I was a teenager and I've made my living being a square dance caller for over 50 years now. When you square dance, you have something in common and it makes it much easier to try and escalate the personal interaction.
Yes! Availability and her response after the first date are key! Most importantly, do not move too fast! I can't tell you how many female friends tell me this about other guys they went on a date with. It can be a deal breaker. If the first date was good, give it some time to breath for the next, but also don't wait too long. Use that time to simply communicate so you can understand each other's wants and needs more.
That's a rule for the beta men. For the Chads they will move faster than a bullet train.
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🥹 thanks Joseph!!
I think life is complicated as you get older both of your interest and lifestyles either don't work or clash after many dates you find out she wasn't what you thought she was and vise versa !
Time is a great disinfectant, take your time and it all will be revealed! 😊
We have approached each other a lot, but there are times where she would come to my table a lot. I’m a junior in College and have never been in a relationship.(She is probably being nice.😂)
I dont see the link to the flirting video🤔
Sometimes a girls heart is interested and will give all of these signs but her defense mechanisms aren’t and after getting a taste of intimacy will 180 to protect herself. It can be very painful if you’ve made yourself vulnerable. I’m sure some guys do that too, it’s the whole fearful avoidant attachment style thing. Sometimes people will even gaslight you about saying they didn’t show any of those signs and that nothings different. Just putting that out there for anyone who hasn’t experienced it, be slightly on guard after things escalate the first time, some people seem genuinely perfect in the beginning but don’t draw that conclusion until you’ve had time for their defense mechanisms to take over and push you away after they get a taste of your heart.
This is so sad 😞
When I figure out she's not interested, I say in a nice way well it looks like we're not going to be a good fit for each other, thanks for the date and say goodnight. Then I disappear into obscurity. Its important to have an exit plan and know how to be a gentlemen about it. Also remember a study says women find 80% of men unattracted. The odds were against you from the start.
Everybody needs a Courtney. No one needs toxic people in their life. be like Courtney, be a good influence.
Long live Courtney ❤
I realize that an isolated sign cannot be trusted, but, frankly, what I have learned through the years and through folks like Courtney is that physical signs and situational signs (that the woman may not even realizing she is doing) are better signs of the true situation than what a woman says because normally you cannot trust what a woman says about a relationship and what she says changes too often ( I'm not dissing here, I'm just stating facts.) Follow what she does (especially those things that she does unconsciously), because frankly, women don't even understand women.
Also, if a guy has to ask a woman how she feels then or declare his affection in order to clarify the relationship, then he just put himself into the friendzone. A guy can be put into the friendzone but should assume he is not in the friendzone until a woman declares it, and, even then, it does not necessarily mean she has friendzoned the guy... It depends on the how the guy responds, unless there was ZERO attraction to start with.
It gets confusing when the person is an old friend. I mean, the person talks to you everyday, she accepts your invitation to go out, she invites to you to spend time with her at her place... But she's your friend. To know if she's really interested is something, you would need to be more assertive, but then you risk your friendship. It's an impossible situation.
that s ok, simply ask her directly
What if you ask directly and she says "you are pressuring me"?
"She tells you directly"
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It's always a list of things. That's why most men don't care anymore.
I appreciate the content Courtney. The first time I went to this store, I was drawned to her, when checking out. I followed-up by calling the store later in the day & told them, [Customer Service] how Polite & Couteous she was. The second time I visited the store, [ She was very polite & courteous] to myself. . She asked what me my name, followed by a handshake, [soft & warm by her], & a fist bump. As I was leaving the store she said, You know where to find me. I also complimented her for her long beautiful hair.Seems positive.What do you think?
Clarity and communicating signs of interest is utmost important I just wish more people did it
Hey Courtney... I give. I tried to resist your advice/logic as a younger introvert. I'm m a 53 year old male but you're wise beyond your year's like most introverts..haha. Also learning thet your spouse is a watch guy! I watched his channel for the 1st time! You're both great and as a fellow introvert I love your commentary.
If she’s interested, you’ll know. If she’s not you’ll either be confused or know.
Girl at the library kept going up and down the staircase where i was talking on the phone just so she could see me, or so i could see her, so we could interact i guess.
I wasn't sure then, but i am now:
#7 she goes out of her way to be where u are
We ended up dating for 3 years
I'm a woman but number 1 isn't always true. I do because I'm not a horrible person😂😂
I knew this girl is interested in me all along, she would dead stare at me for prolong period. Then one day she came up to make some kind of excuse to talk to me for an hour. Then we continued to talk, one day I asked her to go on a date. She replied she would love too but she’s too busy, about a month or two past. I told her this is my last day here, then came my birthday. She messaged me saying “Happy Birthday 🥳 I hope you have a good day! 🎉🎈” and then she asked me to go out with her for some drinks at a bar on the weekend. Im shocked and then I asked her what are we doing and she’s just said I’m okay with anything. Then I asked her what time she said about 8-8:30pm and she said can’t wait to go on a date with me.
If she is interested she will 100% make herself available to you
The time stamps are everything in videos