If my mom didn't call me my phone wouldn't ring. No DMs, no woman ever complimenting me. No place to hangout. No friends to workout with. Nothing..male loneliness is on a whole nother level. If your not attractive enough,tall enough, rich enough... Well your invisible. online dating crushing, to see that not one woman even liked your picture. This is how many men feel. I workout, go outside, read, pray and this feeling stalks me. I went to the store and the clerk reminded me they had my favorite drink in stock, she was actually nice to me. Just her brief moment of kindness made me feel better wow somebody sees me...
These are facts. I am not the best looking woman in the world, late 30s, but one day I was feeling bored and lonely and decided I wanted a date that night. I made a bumble account, put on a few cute outfits, snapped some selfies and within a few hours I had like 8 guys who wanted to take me out to dinner that night.
@AliSand I’m in my early 30’s no kids but I live with my family and it seems to be a problem. I feel kinda shamed for it. Or the guy will always ask what neighborhood I live in and if it’s more than a 20 minute commute they literally say no thanks. And this is in NYC! But I think it’s because there are SO many options out there the guys can be very picky. They can choose a girl that lives 5 minutes away and has her own place. Much easier to hookup this way
@@TravelBug189 I grew up very sheltered and lived with my parents. I also live in a very expensive State, so many people live at home or have roommates. With that being said, some men are looking for a woman that will move him into her home. Also whenever a woman lives with her family that includes her Father or a Father figure, men know it will be harder to use and manipulate that woman. So unfortunately some men will purposely seek single women that does not have a Father like figure in her life.
He is speaking statistical facts. As a woman. I have emotional support from good friends and family. Woman seek therapy and more often men don’t. Y’all better listen to him.
@@christianhenry4173 therapy is treatment and YOU have to do the actual work on yourself. Therapy can only take you as far as YOU are willing to go in healing yourself.
@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 no. Therapy can not help against demons. You have to seek Jesus for that. Treating spirits is a bad idea. I've seen demons possess people it's real
The average man gets nothing close to what the average woman gets in terms of online responses but he can still get someone offline. It's a matter of him accepting what he can get.
@@natashadickson4819 thats not true. Shows how out of touch with reality women like you are. There are literally thousands of guys who are invisible. Not even a single woman wants them since standards are sky high these days. Even being nice and sincere is wrong these days.
I really hate admitting this… but I’m financially stable, own my house, and go on many trips, but being lonely all the time makes none of this worth it. I hope god blesses me with my person someday. Humans aren’t meant to be alone.
@@GasakaMalaika it’s impossible to meet potential partners these days. I gave up dating apps years ago (I’m sure I don’t have to explain why), bars and clubs are not the ideal place nor do I frequent these locations, and when I do find a potential girl, she wants to make unrealistic demand that she did not impose on her previous Chads and Tyron’s.. I used to joke about being single forever, but it’s not looking like a joke anymore lol
@@GetMedoed Truely said I have started believing that dating apps are a scam, Have been on dating apps but it's full on in serious men, disrespectful, asking for nudes and that makes it disgusting for me, I end up loosing it there and then. So no worries let's just be patient out real partners will locate us when the time is right.LOL
People need a real connection with someone, not just some temporary attention...that they will probably regret later. You can be around a crowd of people and still feel lonely if you don't feel seen and heard.
The thing is, women make connections with the opposite sex better than men, women can live of off temporary attention from men (non sexual) because they have other real life, solidified connections.
Nah I rather be alone I never was good being around other people. But if someone gets hurt I'll help him or her but hanging out no sir I'm the kind that do thing's alone. Does it hurt being alone perhaps would it feel better to have someone there to talk to maybe? But at the end that's who I I'm.
@@Lee0297556 Then that immediately invalidates his statement. He claims that single men are lonelier than single women, but that is clearly not the case. He’s wrong. Women and men have it equally hard when it comes to being single and trying to find a partner
@@PlutoGotRangzPeace, freedom, and power over yourself. If you take it upon yourself to be happy by yourself, you gain full control over your life and resources. We are the ones giving meaning to our own lives, and we have the power to determine what it is that will fulfill us. In accepting to be on your own, your goals that would fulfill you would be dependent on yourself only, and so you have full control. If you make your happiness dependent on another person though, you are at their mercy
That’s the reality. That’s why these men alwz try to threatened women by saying that we will be the lonely catwomen in our 40s when in reality single catwomen r not at all lonely
Single man : Can spend time with parents and take care of them in their old age, help others, can do volunteer in community, interact with more people, travel world, have time pray, meditate, yoga, hiking, enjoying coffee at corner bakery, play any sport, explore different foods and cultures, stay connected with friends and siblings, follow passion, free to do anything, have time to work inner spiritual awakening, be grateful and remind everyday is bless to be alive, no arguments and drama, less pressure and responsibility, can love to themselves and to the world, change job or move wherever they want, they can take care their body, mind and stay fit, single is in peace, we came alone and we will die alone, within this body and mind, we are single. Society and our unconscious mind trained us not to see how beautiful life itself is, when we are alone. There so many things we can do when we’re single. Dont listen to outside noise and get distract. Work on yourself and make yourself wiser, better and happier than yesterday. Life itself is reason enough to be happy. If you live joyfully, everyday is holiday, whatever you do, do it with mindfully and joyfully. We are blessed to be alive right now, and that is the most important for you.
You've never seen a butt-ugly married dude? Isn't "she married down" one of the most overused jokes in the world? Join something, go make friends with people - make sure there's some girls in the friends mix. All of my married friends ended up with one of their friends. Because she knows them and LIKES who they are as people.
The sad thing is if all the good single men started trying again, all the women who want a good men would still reject probably 7 out of 10 of them for superficial reasons
Men: We're seen as batteries. Once we run out of power/energy, people will throw us away. We mean nothing to the people in our lives, other than what they can get from us and our hard work.
I’m a woman and there is a single guy who is and has been attracted to me for some time( 3 years). I’ve invite him out. He’s always busy. I call him. He never answers. I text him. He never responds. He won’t even sleep with me. But he gets extremely jealous if I talk about hanging with other guys. I don’t know what his issue is and I don’t care. There are other options, and if he’s to scared or whatever to make a move. I’m moving on to someone who will. Some of these guys are single because they let their hang ups hold them back. Women have hang ups too, but we are still open to dating someone we vibe with.
And how is this about male loneliness? Did he say to you like "oh I'm so lonely, I don't have attention from you..." and so on? I agree with you that it sucks if you don't have attention to him. But you know a lot of guys can't even start relationship, because girls are not showing any interest
Are you sure that you have self assesed the situation correctly. Woman always think they are higher than they are because they get attention and men not
"We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off" - Fightclub
Sometimes, a single mother could be a result of a being a widow ... A man won't know unless he's mature enough to understand her situation. In that case, she's not single by choice - but by circumstance. Each should be honest about what they need from the other and stick to their standards.
She will certainly be able to find a man to give her attention.. and her ideal man won’t be a man that can’t get a woman to say “hello” to him love him. A widowed woman is the only reasonable single mother.. she didn’t wreck her home. All was well until the man passed. So this doesn’t serve as a good parallel scenario to the clip
It's honestly hard alot of times to distinguish between a mother whose husband died and a single mother because the widows peers and family have convinced her that those two are the same thing. Therefore the widow ends up telling men they're a single mother without first clarifying that she's widowed, which drives good men away
@@Daniel-fh3tl How would that drive men away. Whether she's windowed or not...she still has a kid. Either you can deal with it or not. It is what it is
This is facts! I’m a lesbian y’all and the amount of men who try it is ridiculous to me. They literally tell me “I know you’re gay but I can love you better “ etc .. I feel sorry for them sometimes because I don’t even look that feminine and it makes me think wow these femme chicks out here really don’t want y’all
@@amazinggrace313 - No, he's not. He is hitting on femininity. Someone with a vagina and ovaries who can actually give birth, is female. For him, that is a valid option at reproduction. It has a low chance of success because you are gay, but it is also low risk. So he shoots his shot and move on.
I don't have stats but I've seen a lot where it does come down to accountability. More women than men are going to therapy, are healing, are working on themselves to become better....now it's men's turn. I've heard more often than not that men do recognize their downfalls, their dysfunction, but they have that "that's who I am, it is what it is" mindset and use it as an excuse to hurt not only others but themselves as well. Growth and change is hard, the hardest thing I've ever had to do and it's a lonely journey, but worth it in the end. Recognize what role you play in any relationship and take time for yourself to heal and reflect and grow
Oh hell nooooo lol all the ladies I’ve seen in therapy are fuck boys minus the pee pee and the manliness. They never change. They just cry and manipulate and read horoscopes
@kieranmooney3453 that's my point, nowadays it's not a stigma the way it was before. Women are conditioned to get married, have kids, stay home, and now society is redefining typical gender norms. Break that old cycle and now more people are going to therapy, women are getting married later, if at all. Staying in old societal norms is what caused the issue of so many unhealthy relationships to begin with.
@@kieranmooney3453 As a man, this is exactly the case. But as a man who wears his emotions on his sleeve around women, women don't like it when men delve into their emotions all the time. They want men to be rational and decisive. They only think they want men who behave like them. In reality, they want Chad to show them emotional support once in awhile. They don't want your average Joe, emotional or not... And I hope you women out there do realize that men don't have to go through months of therapy to be worthy of you. I hate that crap. I had an ex in China who told me I needed to take herbal medicine for my health and see the therapist she was talking to or we would break up. She was a horrible person, even around her own mother and sister, but she gaslighted me into thinking something was wrong with me and I needed to change myself.
Absolutely true! Me I feel like no woman interested on me then I focused more only on my self then I learned a lot in life, I became more educated and my mind learn fast how things work and I became financial stable and focus to help my father, my sister and my brothers!
I'm not even a mother, but the audacity of this comment. I know YOU have been ran through for sure. A woman creates life. You suppress life with your vile vitriol
I met a 70 year old white man at the dog park who had just moved to the city. He said that as soon as he got a dog and started getting out of the house he instantly met people. He is now in a relationship after being in a new city for 5 months. You have to try.
In all my years I have legit only meet one single dad … so they might put it on paper for there taxes but there are so fewww dads who actually have there kids . Usually it’s grandma who has the child while the dad is gone and kidless
I feel that some men choose to be single because they prefer the freedom and ability to focus on important things to them!!!! I also believe that not all men are fated to find true love and settled down
Bs , I realize how much men truly want female companionship. They just aren’t attractive enough or good enough earners or even good people . Men are biologically wired to want women in a very strong animalistic way.
Men know how to smash a lot of women but most don’t know how to create intimacy with one woman. *That* is where the loneliness kicks in, not being single in itself.
Women know how to smash a lot of men but most don't know how to create intimacy with one man. Actually, scratch that. Most women only "date up" and since most men who are at the top or even slightly above average(in all spheres like income, looks, status etc) get multiple dates and enjoy the fruits of their hard work(most of the time) or the fruits of luck, and cannot commit to multiple women by very definition(even if they wanted to), the rest of the men who for various reasons couldn't achieve the success of the men above, will stay single because the top are getting the majority of the women. Most women want the illusion of a relationship they don't want to build it from scratch even if there is a chance with an average guy. Because building is hard, and women don't want to take part in the heavy lifting.
@@gamesandthoughts2388 women don’t build relationships with average men? 🥴 We say yes so often to men our lives our literally threatened when we reject a man’s advances and men are quick to brag about that when they’re gloating about not being born a woman. For me it’s simple: make sure the one ball with is the one you can bawl with; I’m sick of the, “no one was there for me when I got nut cancer,” posts on SM.
@@Rieka.Chanel I'm not black neither do I live in America. I do often listen to Stephan but this statement is trash. Because a man says he doesn't have children doesn't mean he's telling the truth. A lot of men deny having children when they actually do. Stephan should know that. Too many Nick Canons and women who encourage his nonsense. Women need to wake up and realise the minds of most men these days.
It’s statistically proven that the minority of men impregnate the majority of women throughout history which is due to many factors. 40% of men have reproduced historically 80% of women have reproduced historically The number has gotten a lot closer to each other but women still are reproducing with the minority of men. That’s why you are able to find more black men who are single and childless than to find black women who are the same
Best thing I could tell young men out there is this. Make some male friends. Thats it. Join a billiards club, go to a cigar lounge, go to a sports bar, try to hang out with that dude from work. Im telling you, thats the first step.
That’s why women need to take control of their lives and bodies and get on contraception. I was a teen mom. I wanted more than one child but that would be irresponsible to do. I get so much crap from single women with multiple children. I tell them that’d be most unfair for the children and irresponsible. Children are a choice and the fathers are left with their freedom; women are left raising their children.
How does this clip have anything to do with women getting on contraception. He's literally talking about MEN being lonely. He's not talking about children although he reference it at the beginning. And I think his point there was that most women have kids so even if they are single (not married) they are not lonely because they have a family. Men who are single usually don't have kids or don't claim their kids. So they are alone and lonely.
Well someone had to get her pregnant. Doubt it was another woman. I could go get attention, but that's not the attention I want. I see so many women looking for a good man. And I see men all bitter because someone hurt them. No woman wants a men who is going to say "she's only looking for a meal ticket" or "I don't want an independent woman." Maybe you dont see what I see on social media.
Let me translate what you're saying: "As a woman, I want only the best. Plenty of women are looking for the best (rich and handsome). I don't care if men feel used and less than human because my gender only sees them as resources. I will never admit that my gender also produces absolutely shitty women and goldigging princesses because we are allergic to accountability. I am blaming the men for not being better instead and being bitter. Step up and stand aside! Cos we are qweens!"
@muhammadhuzaifahmohamedsal2697 way to put words in my mouth. I don't need you to ASSUME what I'm saying. I speak pretty straight forward and completely. I don't have time or patience for petty crap like this. You bitter child. Such a turn off.
Its true, I was 35 when I finally decided I wanted to get married and try having some children so I hit the online dating apps and found my husband within 8 months. By the time I was 38 I had two children. I also KNEW it was going to happen. Getting a husband and family life was as easy as ordering a takeout.
I'm a 34 year old man, I decides I wanted a serious commitment and tried the dating apps, not one woman like my profile unless i liked theirs first, sure I got a few matches, talked, but they'd always disappear on me. I'll admit it, I break down into tears at night and think of how my mother probably won't ever get to see me have kids of my own. And fucking kills me inside.
@@juleswinnfield9097 seriously, try out co-parenting or semen donation, lots of (lesbian)couples and singles are looking for donors or co-parents. If kids are your ultimate goal, there are numerous ways to achieve that, no need to just give up.
Dude, I survived being in a Hit & Run Car Accident, 6-month Coma . . . . . . . AND since They didn't Catch that other Driver . . . . . I Lost EveryThing !!!!! Even My 3-year GF, at that Time . . . . . had STOPped TALKing to Me But I that just gives Me more Time to Read & Study 🙏The❤️Bible🙏
The thing about this argument is that it shows he really doesn't understand women, and is only thinking of his perspective. For women, it's not easy to find someone who wants to be a partner, only to find a man to get physical with. But just getting physical with a man doesn't make women feel less lonely, it can actually feed the loneliness in some. So a man can't find the physical attention he needs to thrive, a woman can't find the emotional attention she needs to thrive. Sounds like they are both lonely and that it doesn't need to be a ridiculous contest to the bottom.
@Christopher Orrante If men are actually lonely, maybe they just need to get out and meet people. Go shopping and you'll be surrounded by people. Get on a team sport and you will be surrounded by people. Oh, what's that? Men would still be lonely because their sexual needs aren't being fulfilled? That's just your feelings, sweety. See how feelings matter? If needs aren't being met, they aren't being met. It doesn't matter if you don't understand it, it's still a thing. Women don't always understand why men so desperately need sex for happiness...but it's still a critical need in most men's minds, isn't it?
@@DL-ce4vy lol I feel you but men can’t even get physical with woman. It’s easier for y’all to get that. It’s not the best, but at least y’all can find a sex partner 😂😂😂😂
@Kenneth Faried Sure, but finding a sex partner doesn't ease the loneliness. The problem with these videos, regardless or which gender is targeted is it uses the logic of one to evaluate the logic of the other. A man saying "women can't be lonely, they can always find someone to sleep with" is using the same logic as a woman saying "I'm a high value woman, I have an education and a great job".
@@DL-ce4vy of course finding a sex partner isn’t everything. All I’m saying is women complaining about getting crumbs as in “ sex, and men can’t even get the crumbs lol 😂 that’s all I’m saying. There’s levels to it.
Don’t assume that single men are lonely. Some are , some aren’t. I realized the need for some self improvement and embarked on that journey a few years back. One of the many items I’ve discarded is loneliness.
Most men get neither laid nor committed relationships despite trying to “better themselves.” Be grateful you have the human touch and validation given to you on the silver platter.
A female can get attention, compliments, and hell even hugs with little effort. A man can go YEARS without a compliment, a pat on the shoulder, a hug. You have no clue what loneliness is.
Some men are noncommittal by choice like my ex who cheated and got his side hoe pregnant. Men make babies but choose to be single and they still have several babie mothers this can go both ways.
@@bunchielove6893 yeah, the average man doesn't have 'side hoes' or even a girlfriend to begin with. Blaming all men because the only ones you're willling to date are assholes is nuts
The loneliest person is the person that no one cares to understand. Tell me, who gives a fuck about men? Men aren't understood, they are valued for what they offer. Truly alone in spirit. We have to ve okay with being alone. We can never know the feeling of love the way we feel it for women and children. Men don't get that luxury. Maybe there's a Angel out there to break me from my cynicism but I doubt it.
@@bunchielove6893 You're delusional if you think men are severely damaged and need fixing. Men are simply tired of women of low value's games that they have given up and choose to remain single. Unfortunately, young men who don't know about their games need to be hurt multiple times to learn this.
@@neoloanderson6676 Thats why nice guys finish last. The bad boy top 5% of men get the womens most fertile years. While the good men can have the leftovers and pick up the pieces and be a step-dad. Theres a reason convicted criminals have more children than non-convicted.
True. Part of the reason bad lonely men try to use scare tactics against single women into dating them. More Men need women for happiness than there are women who need men for happiness. I say this as woman who knows she does need her man in her life for happiness.
Well said. Saw videos of reactions of girls who "transitioned" (became a guy). They all were crying like crazy saying "nobody told me how alone/lonely being a man/guy is". They wished to be a girl again and get that "easy attention" he AND those girls were saying.
It’s true! I went for my monthly grocery shopping & was complimented by a few people, It felt weird & awkward but it also felt good to know I’m desirable! I feel for the extroverts, they must feel so lonely being alone. YT is the only socialising I get, it’s my version of “touch grass”!
As a single man without kids, I can say that this is true. Many BM don't have kids. We are not the ones who create single parent households. Don't believe the lies that say otherwise.
Loneliness is a choice. We women put in a lot of effort to make and keep our relationships with friends and family. Men seem to approach women as conquests, not as people. Men approach other men as enemies or to impress each other. Men often don't stay connected to family members, to the point they avoid family, even avoiding their own partner and the partners family. If you are lonely, you need to build relationships with other humans and not just a romantic one. Women will avoid men that have no friends or family because we don't want to be the only person in a mans life, which often translates to being personal therapist, and only source of interaction. You can't expect one person to be the only person in your life.
Stop the cap and you just admitted that you keep lonely men lonely on purpose what logic is that most adults don't hang out with friends every day they have families, your just a narcissist.
@@ktv9247 boy logic. 'I haven't left the basement in three months but its so random strangers fault that I am not willing to meet people and make friends!' Did you know that not everyone you meet will be your new instant bff? Ive had to meet hundreds of people to have a handful of close friends. Do the work or stop whining.
@wolfdogg9938 whining about what because it could get violent no one is a basement hermit your a narcissist and a lame instead of offering friendship you victim blame
What men have is personality. If he has a crappy personality and no self confidence(cause even jerks can get girlfriends as long as they are confident), they are going to be alone.
Most of the time its not confidence...but ego. Yall be thinking they are confident, when it just be All ego. While a guy can approach you a lil nervous...but could be extremely confident. Its a reason hes nervous...but nothing to do with his inner confidence ma. FR. IJS
Oh yeah, and when you woo that girl she will then after some time like "I know it is [generic reason of break up that can be not even real], so it is your fault and I can't be with you, you know". [immediately leaves to another man] +1 to that giant pool of just break ups in general, not even talking about divorces (there are stats about it with pretty sad numbers) which are even occur less often as I think
I believe this is 110% accurate due to the level of hatred and resentment men tend to have towards single women -- especially those of who have opted out of motherhood. They know that women are pretty much their only vessel for companionship and depend on women (way more than we do on them) to carry their emotional loads. So when women opt out of taking on these roles they get upset. But they only have themselves to blame for this. Self-work and actually being someone who is desirable to keep around is generally required if you want a girlfriend and/or wife.
Single women are also statistically less lonely because we're socialized for relationships. Our friendships tend to be more robust and meaningful, and they meet many of the needs for social depth.
I'm a man and I like being single. I am not lonely. I don't know what you are talking about. My married acquaintances are harried and tired, I'm very glad not to be in their position.
This is extremely true.. bro I'm only 19 and most the time I'm hella lonely, dont have friends irl who I can go and see or hang out with.. I only have my brothers and, well, they be mostly in their rooms playing xbox or some shit whilst I feel uninterested in most the things I'm supposed to like doing.. never been in a relationship, no girls message me, my notifications for example will only be related to whatever apps I have installed and the most messages I get are my twin sending me memes and I'm not even able to laugh at them sometimes coz I hate life so much.. the only woman who cares about my existence or where I go is my mother.. thats it. I could literally leave the house to go for a lonely ass walk by myself in the countryside and the only person who asks if I'm okay or if I'll be safe is her. No women want me even when I workout as much as I do, even when I take care of myself in all my spare time, even when I'm supposed to be "attractive" to some women that I've spoken to on dating apps before, I'm tall as well so anyone who says that height and attractiveness are what get you women.. it fucking doesn't. Most the time I feel like no woman even desires a person like me coz there's better guys, more attractive guys, guys who have their life together already, guys who can drive, guys who make lots of money, guys who ACTUALLY have friends.. the list goes on. I basically just wake up and do the same shit every god damn day and hope that something maybe comes up like going to the gym when my mum is off work or her shifts finished early.. or maybe for once if my bros actually wanna watch a movie or go for a night walk but other than that, I'm a loser living in the middle of nowhere with a boot load of anxiety about moving my life forward with no real support group to help me make the first step and I feel like everythings a pointless joke
I became completely detached from finding women in these streets. It’s just not worth it at the moment. Everyone’s being not only selfish, but too selfish.
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People GENERALLY feel sympathy and empathy towards lonely women. Yet they will fully blame men for their loneliness, telling them to fix it themselves.
It’s statistically proven that the minority of men impregnate the majority of women throughout history which is due to many factors. 40% of men have reproduced historically 80% of women have reproduced historically The number has gotten a lot closer to each other but women still are reproducing with the minority of men. That’s why you are able to find more black men who are single and childless than to find black women who are the same
The numbers aren't skewed. 54% of men are single and childless. 33% of men are married, leaving 13% of men. 25% of women are married. So 13% of men (you could add some married men and get it to 15%) are responsible for the 70% of children born out of wedlock.
NY'r here 👋🏾 I'm fast approaching 45. Single, no kids and never married. I live alone as well. A big reason for this is because Online dating is a nightmare. I can understand younger adults being single and alone, but when you are in your 40's and 50's, single with no kids and never married, you may not realize it, but you're starting to look crazy and embarrassing. Men and women alike.
WOOOWWW Brotha Stephan I NEVER heard of or knew about this DAMN EVERYTHING You said was ON POINT THANKS for ALL of your Wisdom LUV and Appreciate You ❤🥰👏🏾
It's not about growing a backbone. This generation has become VERY superficial standards so regular men are constantly being overlooked. A study showed that on dating sites women respond to men 4% of the time while men respond to women around 18% of the time. Average men are an afterthought nowadays.
@MCH Most quality people aren't even on dating apps because they loathe the experiences they provide. Looks only get either gender so far. I've tried to talk to average men and men I consider incredibly handsome alike and its like the initiative is gone. I know men have complained about women being lazy in dating as well when it comes to apps. Unless something is done to change the dating culture that exists today, I suspect more and more people will find peace in their singleness preferred over substandard relationships.
Even she started laughing and saying no action jackson so there is your proof it's so true even some mothers try to take your kids from u when that's all u have
That's why I find it hard to believe that when a woman says she's been single for long, hasn't had sex or prefers to stay single it's because she's cherry picking. If she wanted the D she would get it immediately from any guy she wants because she's got options. Us guys don't even have options 😂
@@motherhoodsbeauty9279yes. That's why prostitutes have been existing from before the beginning of sedentary societies. That's also why war is so prevalent throughout history. You need to dispose that surplus of lonely and dangerous men. Scary stuff, and can be used as a misogynistic argument, but sometimes reality doesn't give a shit about our feelings.
The sad part is people believe things they see on social media without researching actual statistics. 😢 Single men and woman go outside and go for what you want😊
Women are also just better at being alone in general. We aren’t so desperate for sex either, like a lot of men are. Women can be abstinent for years happily working on her career while men are celibate because they can’t get any
It’s pretty nice. The worst thing a woman can do is have kids with the wrong man. Y’all see how men talk about single mothers. We are escaping a nightmare by being single with no kids
I dont what anyone says, my truth is romance is a big fat joke because folks treat it that way for decades. Honesty, consideration, loyalty, faithfulness doesnt matter to most girls i tried to get to know because all they do is lie to me, reject me, ignore me and ghost me. Big money and good looks matter to them, i seen it all and i believe it. Im the only loser in my family whose never been in a relationship, but they are or used to be. Despite me working for over 4 and a half years, that never enough to show girls that i never cared about their money. I never cared about their looks, unlike the guys they choose over me.
@@kennethfaried341 a man can so , get a lot of attention . After he build his self up , and establish his status . That is just the way of life a man has to gain status , to gain a woman's attention . Why because that shows he has ambition
@@Greatsouthernbelle of course. Most Men can get attention only when they put in the work forreal which takes time. Just saying a beautiful or even an average looking woman with a body can get more attention without becoming successful because men are less selective.
"A man can be happy in a studio with a TV, couch and some noodles. A woman can find a way to be miserable in a mansion." Men are not lonely and dont need constant stimulation like women.
Men who are semi-good looking and have money are never single. They can be short, fat, old and bald but the money makes up for everything. And forget about the men that are good looking and rich. They have a different girl every night
@@rebeccabillingslea Yes, that’s why I said “single”, not “lonely” for that reason. They might have a bunch of girls around and still be lonely, it’s true. But the average man is single, alone and lonely.
With all due respect, any person can make the choice to not be lonely by giving themselves out there and socializing with neighbors and family and friends and getting involved in activities that take your mind off being lonely such as gardening or riding your bicycle little hiking and swimming or doing other outside activities to prevent loneliness. I feel that it's a choice of a person wanting to wallow in the fact that they're lonely and doesn't have the capability to get out there and do things and be active so that they're not lonely
Yes, men just expect women to fall on their peen just because they exist. They don’t do anything to fix their shortcomings and just stay in their parents basement being resentful. You rarely see this problem with single women.
@@kezmenflowers8691 Then why are you speaking as in multiple comments that the everyday man (yourself) isn’t able to do these things when you aren’t in the same boat? What are stopping these men? Since as you know so much about them?.
Also men by default are hardwired to look for many women to sleep with, they are literally looked at the top if they have more experience with women. Literally just look it up.
Dont Atlanta have much more women than men?? And regardless, the good men are a little more choosy when it comes to their mate...thats why we're more single. We dont holla at women all day every day. So maybe for a guy like me, it may be a little easier than say a big city like NYC where im at...where most ppl are not truly single, cause they got a lingering someone...same as other big cities like LA and stuff. But i Always felt that my ideal partner may live somewhere down south. Idk. 🤔
I wish all the men in their 20’s who are going through this mental and physical isolation would stick it out into their 30’s. If you do this, you will unlock a new vigor in life, I PROMISE you! There will still be problems, but the smoothness and finesse in which you tackle those problems will radiate an attractive energy about you. Trust me. Hang in there 💪 30’s are where you’ll get your second wind.
This comment section is adorable, ladies acknowledging the reality and men being vulnerable. Wish more people behaved with such kindness in real world.
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If my mom didn't call me my phone wouldn't ring. No DMs, no woman ever complimenting me. No place to hangout. No friends to workout with. Nothing..male loneliness is on a whole nother level. If your not attractive enough,tall enough, rich enough... Well your invisible. online dating crushing, to see that not one woman even liked your picture. This is how many men feel. I workout, go outside, read, pray and this feeling stalks me. I went to the store and the clerk reminded me they had my favorite drink in stock, she was actually nice to me. Just her brief moment of kindness made me feel better wow somebody sees me...
@xyzyyyy night try
But instead of waiting for a woman to make a move why don’t men like you approach real women. Maybe men are also looking for stereotypes
I'm really sorry your experiencing this ❤
@@fedjynaaltine8492what stereotypes?
@@clarkkent2005 perfect body perfect face fair skin etc
These are facts. I am not the best looking woman in the world, late 30s, but one day I was feeling bored and lonely and decided I wanted a date that night. I made a bumble account, put on a few cute outfits, snapped some selfies and within a few hours I had like 8 guys who wanted to take me out to dinner that night.
@AliSand I’m in my early 30’s no kids but I live with my family and it seems to be a problem. I feel kinda shamed for it. Or the guy will always ask what neighborhood I live in and if it’s more than a 20 minute commute they literally say no thanks. And this is in NYC! But I think it’s because there are SO many options out there the guys can be very picky. They can choose a girl that lives 5 minutes away and has her own place. Much easier to hookup this way
Lol. Yeah, i feel u. Mann
@@TravelBug189 No, those guys are just losers. We know how it is in this city mami. You good.
@Marcelina Single men who look at single mommas are doing so because they are considered a guaranteed lay.
@@TravelBug189 I grew up very sheltered and lived with my parents. I also live in a very expensive State, so many people live at home or have roommates. With that being said, some men are looking for a woman that will move him into her home. Also whenever a woman lives with her family that includes her Father or a Father figure, men know it will be harder to use and manipulate that woman. So unfortunately some men will purposely seek single women that does not have a Father like figure in her life.
I am 29 and he’s so fucken right a 22 year old man jumped off of my apartment building yesterday to his death. And yes, he was lonely, just as I am.
Smh everyone has choices
@@joeroot9142 that they do
Gotta work on yourself buddy and socialize
Why weren’t you friends? If you knew you were both lonely?
Do the same as him bub
He is speaking statistical facts. As a woman. I have emotional support from good friends and family. Woman seek therapy and more often men don’t. Y’all better listen to him.
That is absolutely true. As man if I one day ended my life, I promise you not one single person would even care.
Yeah men need to seek therapy, and do self care, self work!
Therapy only takes you so far. You still have to live reality.
@@christianhenry4173 therapy is treatment and YOU have to do the actual work on yourself.
Therapy can only take you as far as YOU are willing to go in healing yourself.
@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 no. Therapy can not help against demons. You have to seek Jesus for that. Treating spirits is a bad idea. I've seen demons possess people it's real
The average woman has her DMs flooded with men ready to give time, attention, dates, etc. The average MAN is nothing close to this.
Is that why men hate women, but still want to date them?
The average man gets nothing close to what the average woman gets in terms of online responses but he can still get someone offline. It's a matter of him accepting what he can get.
@@natashadickson4819yes but still it’d take awhile for him to find someone is the whole point my g. It would take the chick no time at all
@@natashadickson4819 thats not true. Shows how out of touch with reality women like you are. There are literally thousands of guys who are invisible. Not even a single woman wants them since standards are sky high these days. Even being nice and sincere is wrong these days.
Y'alls problem is you keep looking for women on SM. Go outside and talk to people. Golly. Just looking for excuses and it's tiring.
I really hate admitting this… but I’m financially stable, own my house, and go on many trips, but being lonely all the time makes none of this worth it. I hope god blesses me with my person someday. Humans aren’t meant to be alone.
Am single and seriously ready to settle.Tired of being alone
@@GasakaMalaika it’s impossible to meet potential partners these days. I gave up dating apps years ago (I’m sure I don’t have to explain why), bars and clubs are not the ideal place nor do I frequent these locations, and when I do find a potential girl, she wants to make unrealistic demand that she did not impose on her previous Chads and Tyron’s.. I used to joke about being single forever, but it’s not looking like a joke anymore lol
@@GetMedoed Truely said I have started believing that dating apps are a scam, Have been on dating apps but it's full on in serious men, disrespectful, asking for nudes and that makes it disgusting for me, I end up loosing it there and then. So no worries let's just be patient out real partners will locate us when the time is right.LOL
People need a real connection with someone, not just some temporary attention...that they will probably regret later. You can be around a crowd of people and still feel lonely if you don't feel seen and heard.
Well put 🙌🏾
The thing is, women make connections with the opposite sex better than men, women can live of off temporary attention from men (non sexual) because they have other real life, solidified connections.
Nah I rather be alone I never was good being around other people. But if someone gets hurt I'll help him or her but hanging out no sir I'm the kind that do thing's alone. Does it hurt being alone perhaps would it feel better to have someone there to talk to maybe? But at the end that's who I I'm.
Social media fucked everything up.
She can't even fathom what he's saying 😂
Because what he’s saying isn’t true
@@MJ4lifecalifornia it might not be for you but on average it's very true
@@Lee0297556 Then that immediately invalidates his statement. He claims that single men are lonelier than single women, but that is clearly not the case. He’s wrong. Women and men have it equally hard when it comes to being single and trying to find a partner
@@MJ4lifecaliforniayou have zero idea what reality is
@@MJ4lifecaliforniawith all do respect, you’re completely delusional
Staying single is the best decision in life.
Why so
No bro i don't think that is true
@@nandakumaralucky8799 after a divorce when the woman steals half of your stuff LEGALLY, come back
@@PlutoGotRangzPeace, freedom, and power over yourself. If you take it upon yourself to be happy by yourself, you gain full control over your life and resources. We are the ones giving meaning to our own lives, and we have the power to determine what it is that will fulfill us. In accepting to be on your own, your goals that would fulfill you would be dependent on yourself only, and so you have full control. If you make your happiness dependent on another person though, you are at their mercy
The average everyday to day guy is not being shown no love or being respected. Men are in fact a lot more lonely now than before.
Yup yout right 👍🏿
You aren’t owed anything
@@ccleavemebe4790 neither are you
@@ccleavemebe4790facts
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That’s the reality. That’s why these men alwz try to threatened women by saying that we will be the lonely catwomen in our 40s when in reality single catwomen r not at all lonely
Facts. That's threatening women with a good time. Women are actively opting out of relationships.
Sound like cat lady😂😂😂😂
The WALL is undefeated
Po baby, stay strong, like you been doing, you got this...😂😂😂😂
@@dmillionaire7 yes i am a cat lady with 2 cute dogs and a loving, caring man who earn her own money
@@rakhikar8416these Men? I never in my life made fun of a woman or anybody for having cats and loving them. Hell I have a cat 😊
Facts!
It’s sad because I’m a single dude in my late 20’s. He’s speaking facts.
In your 20s should be focusing on grinding anyways be strong brother
I’m still glad to be a man even tho the struggles, because being a dude is cool
I’m 19
@@Joe-fj6dj I really started grinding recently
But I still need to learn a lot
Single man :
Can spend time with parents and take care of them in their old age, help others, can do volunteer in community, interact with more people, travel world, have time pray, meditate, yoga, hiking, enjoying coffee at corner bakery, play any sport, explore different foods and cultures, stay connected with friends and siblings, follow passion, free to do anything, have time to work inner spiritual awakening, be grateful and remind everyday is bless to be alive, no arguments and drama, less pressure and responsibility, can love to themselves and to the world, change job or move wherever they want, they can take care their body, mind and stay fit, single is in peace, we came alone and we will die alone, within this body and mind, we are single. Society and our unconscious mind trained us not to see how beautiful life itself is, when we are alone. There so many things we can do when we’re single. Dont listen to outside noise and get distract. Work on yourself and make yourself wiser, better and happier than yesterday. Life itself is reason enough to be happy. If you live joyfully, everyday is holiday, whatever you do, do it with mindfully and joyfully. We are blessed to be alive right now, and that is the most important for you.
Man I really wish I had your mindset coz very rarely do I actually feel that way
I agree, but even with that loneliness still creeps around the corner
I'll be 36 this year and I've never been in a relationship because of looks i just give up period
Dont give up you never know.
You've never seen a butt-ugly married dude? Isn't "she married down" one of the most overused jokes in the world?
Join something, go make friends with people - make sure there's some girls in the friends mix. All of my married friends ended up with one of their friends. Because she knows them and LIKES who they are as people.
Dam sorry bud really I am
Same, just turned 36. Virgin, no relationship experience, no real friends.
I want to give up on life.
It's not your looks
The sad thing is if all the good single men started trying again, all the women who want a good men would still reject probably 7 out of 10 of them for superficial reasons
Men: We're seen as batteries. Once we run out of power/energy, people will throw us away. We mean nothing to the people in our lives, other than what they can get from us and our hard work.
True woman say stay commited to the relationship but then they leave you without loyalty
And men see everyone else as a hole to fill. Men, women, children. No one escapes your evil desires.
I’m a woman and there is a single guy who is and has been attracted to me for some time( 3 years). I’ve invite him out. He’s always busy. I call him. He never answers. I text him. He never responds. He won’t even sleep with me. But he gets extremely jealous if I talk about hanging with other guys. I don’t know what his issue is and I don’t care. There are other options, and if he’s to scared or whatever to make a move. I’m moving on to someone who will. Some of these guys are single because they let their hang ups hold them back. Women have hang ups too, but we are still open to dating someone we vibe with.
Your right in all honesty 😂
And how is this about male loneliness?
Did he say to you like "oh I'm so lonely, I don't have attention from you..." and so on?
I agree with you that it sucks if you don't have attention to him. But you know a lot of guys can't even start relationship, because girls are not showing any interest
@@mysentl24ep54But sometimes they do and they don't respond, maybe they're scared, but a woman can't do anything about that.
Are you sure that you have self assesed the situation correctly.
Woman always think they are higher than they are because they get attention and men not
Stop wasting your youth and precious energy on this dude. He's taken up far too much of your time already.
"We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off"
- Fightclub
Chase Your PURPOSE , Don’t Chase No Woman 💪🏾💵 Get To it
Sometimes, a single mother could be a result of a being a widow ... A man won't know unless he's mature enough to understand her situation. In that case, she's not single by choice - but by circumstance. Each should be honest about what they need from the other and stick to their standards.
She will certainly be able to find a man to give her attention.. and her ideal man won’t be a man that can’t get a woman to say “hello” to him love him.
A widowed woman is the only reasonable single mother.. she didn’t wreck her home. All was well until the man passed.
So this doesn’t serve as a good parallel scenario to the clip
I think we know that already ma
It's honestly hard alot of times to distinguish between a mother whose husband died and a single mother because the widows peers and family have convinced her that those two are the same thing. Therefore the widow ends up telling men they're a single mother without first clarifying that she's widowed, which drives good men away
@@Daniel-fh3tl How would that drive men away. Whether she's windowed or not...she still has a kid. Either you can deal with it or not. It is what it is
@@Daniel-fh3tl that is definitely understandable
Women don't know and don't care about what men go through.
This is facts! I’m a lesbian y’all and the amount of men who try it is ridiculous to me. They literally tell me “I know you’re gay but I can love you better “ etc .. I feel sorry for them sometimes because I don’t even look that feminine and it makes me think wow these femme chicks out here really don’t want y’all
If a guy shots his shot with a butch lesbian, then he is not gonna be lonely because he shoots his shot with all the women.
@@darriuscole8544 wrong. That’s desperate bs . You’re hitting on masculinity lol
@@amazinggrace313 - No, he's not. He is hitting on femininity. Someone with a vagina and ovaries who can actually give birth, is female. For him, that is a valid option at reproduction. It has a low chance of success because you are gay, but it is also low risk. So he shoots his shot and move on.
lol, these fools are just looking at you as an obstacle to conquer and probably aren’t even capable of live. 🤣🤣🤣
They don't want us. Your right.
I don't have stats but I've seen a lot where it does come down to accountability. More women than men are going to therapy, are healing, are working on themselves to become better....now it's men's turn. I've heard more often than not that men do recognize their downfalls, their dysfunction, but they have that "that's who I am, it is what it is" mindset and use it as an excuse to hurt not only others but themselves as well. Growth and change is hard, the hardest thing I've ever had to do and it's a lonely journey, but worth it in the end. Recognize what role you play in any relationship and take time for yourself to heal and reflect and grow
Oh hell nooooo lol all the ladies I’ve seen in therapy are fuck boys minus the pee pee and the manliness. They never change. They just cry and manipulate and read horoscopes
@kieranmooney3453 that's my point, nowadays it's not a stigma the way it was before. Women are conditioned to get married, have kids, stay home, and now society is redefining typical gender norms. Break that old cycle and now more people are going to therapy, women are getting married later, if at all. Staying in old societal norms is what caused the issue of so many unhealthy relationships to begin with.
From my personal experience women are less likely to take accountability and move on to another man easier
@@TheColtonStreeter I like to call them the Taylor Swifts of our time
Now watch all the Swifties come at me....
@@kieranmooney3453 As a man, this is exactly the case. But as a man who wears his emotions on his sleeve around women, women don't like it when men delve into their emotions all the time. They want men to be rational and decisive. They only think they want men who behave like them. In reality, they want Chad to show them emotional support once in awhile. They don't want your average Joe, emotional or not...
And I hope you women out there do realize that men don't have to go through months of therapy to be worthy of you. I hate that crap. I had an ex in China who told me I needed to take herbal medicine for my health and see the therapist she was talking to or we would break up. She was a horrible person, even around her own mother and sister, but she gaslighted me into thinking something was wrong with me and I needed to change myself.
Absolutely true! Me I feel like no woman interested on me then I focused more only on my self then I learned a lot in life, I became more educated and my mind learn fast how things work and I became financial stable and focus to help my father, my sister and my brothers!
The reason women find this hard to believe is because women always see men with women or women after him vs a woman. If she is alone you SEE it.
wtf can't even decipher what you're trying to say here. please go back to school.
Stay strong brothers. DO NOT settle for a ran through single mother.
Much respect!
This advice is what keeps men single. And I don’t have kids, just being real.
I'm not even a mother, but the audacity of this comment. I know YOU have been ran through for sure. A woman creates life. You suppress life with your vile vitriol
@@AstroBaby91 The life you single mothers create primarily perpetuates other single mothers and criminal men. Destruction of society basically.
Indeed Please stay away....
I met a 70 year old white man at the dog park who had just moved to the city. He said that as soon as he got a dog and started getting out of the house he instantly met people. He is now in a relationship after being in a new city for 5 months. You have to try.
Good luck trying then people treat you inhumane for 20 years since being a toddler.
In all my years I have legit only meet one single dad … so they might put it on paper for there taxes but there are so fewww dads who actually have there kids . Usually it’s grandma who has the child while the dad is gone and kidless
63% of men are single, while only 34% of women are single.
Which means women are side hoes to a minority of men.
“Even a good dad is just an ok mom”-Michelle Wolf
Most mothers are trash
True. They put off the responsibility of being a real father.
So you chose pookie and Ray Ray for a so called father. Right pure BS. Every man I know is in his child's life
I feel that some men choose to be single because they prefer the freedom and ability to focus on important things to them!!!! I also believe that not all men are fated to find true love and settled down
Bs , I realize how much men truly want female companionship. They just aren’t attractive enough or good enough earners or even good people . Men are biologically wired to want women in a very strong animalistic way.
Men know how to smash a lot of women but most don’t know how to create intimacy with one woman.
*That* is where the loneliness kicks in, not being single in itself.
Women know how to smash a lot of men but most don't know how to create intimacy with one man.
Actually, scratch that. Most women only "date up" and since most men who are at the top or even slightly above average(in all spheres like income, looks, status etc) get multiple dates and enjoy the fruits of their hard work(most of the time) or the fruits of luck, and cannot commit to multiple women by very definition(even if they wanted to), the rest of the men who for various reasons couldn't achieve the success of the men above, will stay single because the top are getting the majority of the women.
Most women want the illusion of a relationship they don't want to build it from scratch even if there is a chance with an average guy. Because building is hard, and women don't want to take part in the heavy lifting.
@@gamesandthoughts2388 women don’t build relationships with average men? 🥴
We say yes so often to men our lives our literally threatened when we reject a man’s advances and men are quick to brag about that when they’re gloating about not being born a woman.
For me it’s simple: make sure the one ball with is the one you can bawl with; I’m sick of the, “no one was there for me when I got nut cancer,” posts on SM.
Most men don't smash. Inexperienced men are an ever growing share of the male population. Explain that.
The chads and tyrones are indulging in that behavior at high clip but majority is dating "PALMela."
Most men don’t even get laid let alone fall in love and get serious relationships. Keep that in mind
So if there are more single women with children who's doing the impregnation ?
The same men getting multiple women pregnant unfortunately
@@Rieka.Chanel I'm not black neither do I live in America. I do often listen to Stephan but this statement is trash. Because a man says he doesn't have children doesn't mean he's telling the truth. A lot of men deny having children when they actually do. Stephan should know that.
Too many Nick Canons and women who encourage his nonsense.
Women need to wake up and realise the minds of most men these days.
Men constantly move around making babies with many women!
@@Rieka.Chanel Exactly
@@eac-guy7272 Huh??
I am going to need to see some stats on this one. Where the documents that prove this Stephan?
I co-sign. Its true...for most Good Men though. Not the players.
It’s statistically proven that the minority of men impregnate the majority of women throughout history which is due to many factors.
40% of men have reproduced historically
80% of women have reproduced historically
The number has gotten a lot closer to each other but women still are reproducing with the minority of men.
That’s why you are able to find more black men who are single and childless than to find black women who are the same
@@jayc5756people who say how “good” they are usually turn out to be pos.
This is why I gave up on women. You learn to avoid them as time goes on.
Loser😂
Exactly
i want to date a girl but i’ve lost trust in them cuz they all leave me after a negligible amount of time
@@kflats😂😂😂😂😂
Best thing I could tell young men out there is this. Make some male friends. Thats it. Join a billiards club, go to a cigar lounge, go to a sports bar, try to hang out with that dude from work. Im telling you, thats the first step.
Yep. I never had a date or gf ever in my life. I'm in my 30s. I pretty much gave up looking for a life partner. I don't fit women standards.
It's better that youre at peace than with bad company. Hope a good woman crosses your path really soon!
yepp and for some the loneliness will drive them insane which means more public tragedies will keep happening
Married women are the loneliest along with single men.
Married single mothers. It’s a real thing.
Yup, married single mother syndrome
Wrong
Not even close
Nope. The saying is true. Women FEEL lonely, feelings, men are ACTUALLY lonely. Big difference.
If a girl thinks she’s ugly, no way is she going to make a move. Shell just stay single.. 😢
That’s why women need to take control of their lives and bodies and get on contraception.
I was a teen mom. I wanted more than one child but that would be irresponsible to do.
I get so much crap from single women with multiple children.
I tell them that’d be most unfair for the children and irresponsible. Children are a choice and the fathers are left with their freedom; women are left raising their children.
Me too, I would’ve had 10children if the circumstances were set up right, but oh well.
How does this clip have anything to do with women getting on contraception. He's literally talking about MEN being lonely. He's not talking about children although he reference it at the beginning. And I think his point there was that most women have kids so even if they are single (not married) they are not lonely because they have a family. Men who are single usually don't have kids or don't claim their kids. So they are alone and lonely.
Well someone had to get her pregnant. Doubt it was another woman. I could go get attention, but that's not the attention I want. I see so many women looking for a good man. And I see men all bitter because someone hurt them. No woman wants a men who is going to say "she's only looking for a meal ticket" or "I don't want an independent woman." Maybe you dont see what I see on social media.
And I doubt your doubts because one man can impregnate multiple women
Top 20% of men for the 80% of women.
Not unless they are all dating the same men lol
Let me translate what you're saying:
"As a woman, I want only the best. Plenty of women are looking for the best (rich and handsome). I don't care if men feel used and less than human because my gender only sees them as resources. I will never admit that my gender also produces absolutely shitty women and goldigging princesses because we are allergic to accountability. I am blaming the men for not being better instead and being bitter. Step up and stand aside! Cos we are qweens!"
@muhammadhuzaifahmohamedsal2697 way to put words in my mouth. I don't need you to ASSUME what I'm saying. I speak pretty straight forward and completely. I don't have time or patience for petty crap like this. You bitter child. Such a turn off.
Also, single women understand how to build relationships that aren’t entrenched in transactional exchanges
I think women in general
Wow. What a bunch of bullshit.
That’s true about a man being lonely 😞
Its true, I was 35 when I finally decided I wanted to get married and try having some children so I hit the online dating apps and found my husband within 8 months. By the time I was 38 I had two children. I also KNEW it was going to happen. Getting a husband and family life was as easy as ordering a takeout.
I'm a 34 year old man, I decides I wanted a serious commitment and tried the dating apps, not one woman like my profile unless i liked theirs first, sure I got a few matches, talked, but they'd always disappear on me.
I'll admit it, I break down into tears at night and think of how my mother probably won't ever get to see me have kids of my own.
And fucking kills me inside.
@@juleswinnfield9097 aww I'm sorry about that
@Myview246 not your fault, just the way it is, I guess.
@@juleswinnfield9097 seriously, try out co-parenting or semen donation, lots of (lesbian)couples and singles are looking for donors or co-parents. If kids are your ultimate goal, there are numerous ways to achieve that, no need to just give up.
Dude,
I survived being in a Hit & Run Car Accident, 6-month Coma . . . . . . .
AND since They didn't Catch that other Driver . . . . . I Lost EveryThing !!!!!
Even My 3-year GF, at that Time . . . . .
had STOPped TALKing to Me
But I that just gives Me more Time to Read & Study 🙏The❤️Bible🙏
I'm sorry to hear that but Yes Heavenly Father will renew our spirits, hope, faith
Solitude is prison for the man who hates himself
Facts 💯
The thing about this argument is that it shows he really doesn't understand women, and is only thinking of his perspective. For women, it's not easy to find someone who wants to be a partner, only to find a man to get physical with. But just getting physical with a man doesn't make women feel less lonely, it can actually feed the loneliness in some. So a man can't find the physical attention he needs to thrive, a woman can't find the emotional attention she needs to thrive. Sounds like they are both lonely and that it doesn't need to be a ridiculous contest to the bottom.
Men are actually lonely, women feel lonely
@Christopher Orrante If men are actually lonely, maybe they just need to get out and meet people. Go shopping and you'll be surrounded by people. Get on a team sport and you will be surrounded by people. Oh, what's that? Men would still be lonely because their sexual needs aren't being fulfilled? That's just your feelings, sweety. See how feelings matter? If needs aren't being met, they aren't being met. It doesn't matter if you don't understand it, it's still a thing. Women don't always understand why men so desperately need sex for happiness...but it's still a critical need in most men's minds, isn't it?
@@DL-ce4vy lol I feel you but men can’t even get physical with woman. It’s easier for y’all to get that. It’s not the best, but at least y’all can find a sex partner 😂😂😂😂
@Kenneth Faried Sure, but finding a sex partner doesn't ease the loneliness. The problem with these videos, regardless or which gender is targeted is it uses the logic of one to evaluate the logic of the other. A man saying "women can't be lonely, they can always find someone to sleep with" is using the same logic as a woman saying "I'm a high value woman, I have an education and a great job".
@@DL-ce4vy of course finding a sex partner isn’t everything. All I’m saying is women complaining about getting crumbs as in “ sex, and men can’t even get the crumbs lol 😂 that’s all I’m saying. There’s levels to it.
Bet the woman on there just enjoys hearing how men are suffering, what a rude woman trying to talk him down. How rude.
Don’t assume that single men are lonely. Some are , some aren’t. I realized the need for some self improvement and embarked on that journey a few years back. One of the many items I’ve discarded is loneliness.
Nice try
Sure lol
I’m definitely lonely but I’d rather be lonely than stuck in a relationship where I’m trapped and gaslit constantly.
You're lonely too. It's a cope
@@coreyarueckeryou'd bite my hand If I offered you a nice woman
Getting male attention does not make a woman less lonely . Being able to easily find a man to sleep with doesn’t make a woman less lonely.
YES. Getting laid ≠ cured loneliness
As a woman. I agree
Most men get neither laid nor committed relationships despite trying to “better themselves.” Be grateful you have the human touch and validation given to you on the silver platter.
A female can get attention, compliments, and hell even hugs with little effort. A man can go YEARS without a compliment, a pat on the shoulder, a hug. You have no clue what loneliness is.
At least she's being acknowledged
Some men are noncommittal by choice like my ex who cheated and got his side hoe pregnant. Men make babies but choose to be single and they still have several babie mothers this can go both ways.
😂😂😂😂
Exactly. They want us to feel sorry for these lonely men. A lot of them could be married if they decided to.
@@bunchielove6893NEVER. If you open your eyes, they deserve everything they get. This society was made for males by males and they still complain.
@@bunchielove6893 yeah, the average man doesn't have 'side hoes' or even a girlfriend to begin with. Blaming all men because the only ones you're willling to date are assholes is nuts
Yall don’t understand at all. You just compared a lonely guy who gets none to a guy whose got two women at once
Attention from men- one thing- a healthy relationship btw a man& me and mutually attracted to- where are they 😉
Exactly 😂.
You can always cosplay
The loneliest person is the person that no one cares to understand. Tell me, who gives a fuck about men? Men aren't understood, they are valued for what they offer. Truly alone in spirit. We have to ve okay with being alone. We can never know the feeling of love the way we feel it for women and children. Men don't get that luxury. Maybe there's a Angel out there to break me from my cynicism but I doubt it.
Yes there is. That angel is called a therapist. Women keep saying it, but it falls on deaf ears.
@@elyse443 they don't want help. They want you to just accept them being severely damaged.
Therapy doesn’t help at all
@@elyse443 Why do women think men need a therapist before a relationship? This is bizarre thinking and the two things have nothing in common.
@@bunchielove6893 You're delusional if you think men are severely damaged and need fixing. Men are simply tired of women of low value's games that they have given up and choose to remain single. Unfortunately, young men who don't know about their games need to be hurt multiple times to learn this.
85%of women are sleeping with 25% of Men leaving the rest of us Lonely af
SAD
Who fault is that.
@@joeroot9142 Yeah just grow taller and be a millionaire
Sex does not equate to not being lonely, you lot are confused!
@@neoloanderson6676 Thats why nice guys finish last.
The bad boy top 5% of men get the womens most fertile years.
While the good men can have the leftovers and pick up the pieces and be a step-dad.
Theres a reason convicted criminals have more children than non-convicted.
True. Part of the reason bad lonely men try to use scare tactics against single women into dating them. More Men need women for happiness than there are women who need men for happiness. I say this as woman who knows she does need her man in her life for happiness.
This shorts made my day 😍.
I'M HERE. THANK YOU.
Well said. Saw videos of reactions of girls who "transitioned" (became a guy). They all were crying like crazy saying "nobody told me how alone/lonely being a man/guy is". They wished to be a girl again and get that "easy attention" he AND those girls were saying.
It’s true! I went for my monthly grocery shopping & was complimented by a few people,
It felt weird & awkward but it also felt good to know I’m desirable!
I feel for the extroverts, they must feel so lonely being alone.
YT is the only socialising I get, it’s my version of “touch grass”!
As a single man without kids, I can say that this is true. Many BM don't have kids. We are not the ones who create single parent households. Don't believe the lies that say otherwise.
When she said in what universe that kinda pissed me off a little 🙃
Me 2
Lifelong single and nearly 40. Fully embraced the single lifestyle with age. Being an introvert and outsider helps too, as does being aromantic! 💚
Loneliness is a choice. We women put in a lot of effort to make and keep our relationships with friends and family. Men seem to approach women as conquests, not as people. Men approach other men as enemies or to impress each other. Men often don't stay connected to family members, to the point they avoid family, even avoiding their own partner and the partners family. If you are lonely, you need to build relationships with other humans and not just a romantic one. Women will avoid men that have no friends or family because we don't want to be the only person in a mans life, which often translates to being personal therapist, and only source of interaction. You can't expect one person to be the only person in your life.
Stop the cap and you just admitted that you keep lonely men lonely on purpose what logic is that most adults don't hang out with friends every day they have families, your just a narcissist.
@@ktv9247 boy logic. 'I haven't left the basement in three months but its so random strangers fault that I am not willing to meet people and make friends!'
Did you know that not everyone you meet will be your new instant bff? Ive had to meet hundreds of people to have a handful of close friends. Do the work or stop whining.
@wolfdogg9938 whining about what because it could get violent no one is a basement hermit your a narcissist and a lame instead of offering friendship you victim blame
@@wolfdogg9938Yeah another internet incel spewing bad logic and hating on men behind a fake profile. Pathetic. What a pos
@@ktv9247 you modern males are so whinny. My god, it’s like taking candy from a child. So gross.
I’m 39 and no kids and 😞.. gaved my best youthful days to the wrong person. As a result “No kids”
As a guy. Good stay like you are forever 😂
What men have is personality. If he has a crappy personality and no self confidence(cause even jerks can get girlfriends as long as they are confident), they are going to be alone.
Most of the time its not confidence...but ego. Yall be thinking they are confident, when it just be All ego.
While a guy can approach you a lil nervous...but could be extremely confident. Its a reason hes nervous...but nothing to do with his inner confidence ma. FR. IJS
Oh yeah, and when you woo that girl she will then after some time like "I know it is [generic reason of break up that can be not even real], so it is your fault and I can't be with you, you know". [immediately leaves to another man]
+1 to that giant pool of just break ups in general, not even talking about divorces (there are stats about it with pretty sad numbers) which are even occur less often as I think
He spits some universal facts
Get your passport men. That’s it
Yep
I believe this is 110% accurate due to the level of hatred and resentment men tend to have towards single women -- especially those of who have opted out of motherhood. They know that women are pretty much their only vessel for companionship and depend on women (way more than we do on them) to carry their emotional loads. So when women opt out of taking on these roles they get upset. But they only have themselves to blame for this. Self-work and actually being someone who is desirable to keep around is generally required if you want a girlfriend and/or wife.
If theres a single mother there is a single father. He just dgf about the kids and is MIA
Single women are also statistically less lonely because we're socialized for relationships. Our friendships tend to be more robust and meaningful, and they meet many of the needs for social depth.
Anyone listening to this know that God love you bro and we also have to change our way of thinking and change our lives.
But why do men need someone?
Because give men a purpose to live for
I'm a man and I like being single. I am not lonely. I don't know what you are talking about. My married acquaintances are harried and tired, I'm very glad not to be in their position.
You are the select few
She’s too old to not know this.
This is extremely true.. bro I'm only 19 and most the time I'm hella lonely, dont have friends irl who I can go and see or hang out with.. I only have my brothers and, well, they be mostly in their rooms playing xbox or some shit whilst I feel uninterested in most the things I'm supposed to like doing.. never been in a relationship, no girls message me, my notifications for example will only be related to whatever apps I have installed and the most messages I get are my twin sending me memes and I'm not even able to laugh at them sometimes coz I hate life so much.. the only woman who cares about my existence or where I go is my mother.. thats it. I could literally leave the house to go for a lonely ass walk by myself in the countryside and the only person who asks if I'm okay or if I'll be safe is her. No women want me even when I workout as much as I do, even when I take care of myself in all my spare time, even when I'm supposed to be "attractive" to some women that I've spoken to on dating apps before, I'm tall as well so anyone who says that height and attractiveness are what get you women.. it fucking doesn't. Most the time I feel like no woman even desires a person like me coz there's better guys, more attractive guys, guys who have their life together already, guys who can drive, guys who make lots of money, guys who ACTUALLY have friends.. the list goes on. I basically just wake up and do the same shit every god damn day and hope that something maybe comes up like going to the gym when my mum is off work or her shifts finished early.. or maybe for once if my bros actually wanna watch a movie or go for a night walk but other than that, I'm a loser living in the middle of nowhere with a boot load of anxiety about moving my life forward with no real support group to help me make the first step and I feel like everythings a pointless joke
I became completely detached from finding women in these streets. It’s just not worth it at the moment. Everyone’s being not only selfish, but too selfish.
You did the right thing. Stop looking for a bunch of ferals. Hopefully youll meet someone who's emotionally healthy and mature
Find a man. Since you think those aren’t selfish.
This man is telling me facts
his 💰 🤑 can help him, alot of these men get good women ,then cheat, and end up lonely, cause they won't let him come back
U r rite my brother. Weather u really know What u r saying or not, or u did ur homework or not, u r wise enough I don't know but u look wise enough, but what I want to say is what u have said here is completely right..👍🏻🌹
People GENERALLY feel sympathy and empathy towards lonely women. Yet they will fully blame men for their loneliness, telling them to fix it themselves.
No they don't. They don't give a s--t about them either. Where's your evidence?
This is so true. I can relate to this
It’s always amazing that women are surprised by this
Maybe because a lot of men act like they only care about being physical. Stop lying about the amount of women you sleep with.
Yh only the top 20% of men are visible to them that’s why they think all men are like that
Because men say get a cat to women while they should be the one getting the cat.
Does it not take 2 people to make a baby? How could the statistics be so skewed?
It’s statistically proven that the minority of men impregnate the majority of women throughout history which is due to many factors.
40% of men have reproduced historically
80% of women have reproduced historically
The number has gotten a lot closer to each other but women still are reproducing with the minority of men.
That’s why you are able to find more black men who are single and childless than to find black women who are the same
the subject is loneliness. Pay attention.
Because it's not true. Men walk away from kids and can say that they don't have children. These men also end up being lonely.
@@anticssmantics8446 actually he is right. You should pay attention.
The numbers aren't skewed. 54% of men are single and childless. 33% of men are married, leaving 13% of men. 25% of women are married. So 13% of men (you could add some married men and get it to 15%) are responsible for the 70% of children born out of wedlock.
NY'r here 👋🏾 I'm fast approaching 45. Single, no kids and never married. I live alone as well. A big reason for this is because Online dating is a nightmare.
I can understand younger adults being single and alone, but when you are in your 40's and 50's, single with no kids and never married, you may not realize it, but you're starting to look crazy and embarrassing. Men and women alike.
I never come across so many crybaby men in my life what’s wrong with these men they need to grow a backbone
Tru
WOOOWWW Brotha Stephan I NEVER heard of or knew about this DAMN EVERYTHING You said was ON POINT THANKS for ALL of your Wisdom LUV and Appreciate You ❤🥰👏🏾
It's not about growing a backbone. This generation has become VERY superficial standards so regular men are constantly being overlooked. A study showed that on dating sites women respond to men 4% of the time while men respond to women around 18% of the time. Average men are an afterthought nowadays.
@MCH Most quality people aren't even on dating apps because they loathe the experiences they provide.
Looks only get either gender so far. I've tried to talk to average men and men I consider incredibly handsome alike and its like the initiative is gone.
I know men have complained about women being lazy in dating as well when it comes to apps.
Unless something is done to change the dating culture that exists today, I suspect more and more people will find peace in their singleness preferred over substandard relationships.
For real. They forget THEY are the ones who have testosterone and refuse to use it. SMH.
Even she started laughing and saying no action jackson so there is your proof it's so true even some mothers try to take your kids from u when that's all u have
That's why I find it hard to believe that when a woman says she's been single for long, hasn't had sex or prefers to stay single it's because she's cherry picking. If she wanted the D she would get it immediately from any guy she wants because she's got options. Us guys don't even have options 😂
That’s why you men go after prostitute?
Men are primarily seeking sex, not relationships. Anyone can have sex if they’re desperate or willing to debase themselves enough🙃
Sex is not the same as a compatible relationship!
@@motherhoodsbeauty9279yes. That's why prostitutes have been existing from before the beginning of sedentary societies.
That's also why war is so prevalent throughout history. You need to dispose that surplus of lonely and dangerous men. Scary stuff, and can be used as a misogynistic argument, but sometimes reality doesn't give a shit about our feelings.
More and more people would rather be alone and happy, than be with the wrong person and unhappy.
It's pretty simple
The sad part is people believe things they see on social media without researching actual statistics. 😢 Single men and woman go outside and go for what you want😊
Women are also just better at being alone in general. We aren’t so desperate for sex either, like a lot of men are. Women can be abstinent for years happily working on her career while men are celibate because they can’t get any
Oh shut up. You are definitely not better at being alone
You have it backwards so bad it hurts
Working on your career and not playing the feminine role to be a mother and start a family but working on your career to be lonely with no kids
It’s pretty nice. The worst thing a woman can do is have kids with the wrong man. Y’all see how men talk about single mothers.
We are escaping a nightmare by being single with no kids
Facts why That’s there woman and men in this world
I dont what anyone says, my truth is romance is a big fat joke because folks treat it that way for decades. Honesty, consideration, loyalty, faithfulness doesnt matter to most girls i tried to get to know because all they do is lie to me, reject me, ignore me and ghost me. Big money and good looks matter to them, i seen it all and i believe it. Im the only loser in my family whose never been in a relationship, but they are or used to be. Despite me working for over 4 and a half years, that never enough to show girls that i never cared about their money. I never cared about their looks, unlike the guys they choose over me.
Women stay dimishing our struggles while living on the cusion we built for them
But she can get attention. Attention and a relationship is totally different
Both are intertwined
Men can’t even get attention lol
@@kennethfaried341 a man can so , get a lot of attention . After he build his self up , and establish his status . That is just the way of life a man has to gain status , to gain a woman's attention . Why because that shows he has ambition
@@Greatsouthernbelle of course. Most Men can get attention only when they put in the work forreal which takes time. Just saying a beautiful or even an average looking woman with a body can get more attention without becoming successful because men are less selective.
@@kennethfaried341Average still takes work!
"A man can be happy in a studio with a TV, couch and some noodles. A woman can find a way to be miserable in a mansion."
Men are not lonely and dont need constant stimulation like women.
Men who are semi-good looking and have money are never single. They can be short, fat, old and bald but the money makes up for everything. And forget about the men that are good looking and rich. They have a different girl every night
That doesn't mean you're not lonely. You can be with someone and still be lonely
So if you dont know they have money...does that still apply?
@@rebeccabillingslea True
@@rebeccabillingslea Yes, that’s why I said “single”, not “lonely” for that reason. They might have a bunch of girls around and still be lonely, it’s true. But the average man is single, alone and lonely.
FACTS!!! 100% THIS IS DEFINITELY THE TRUTH. Stay strong my brothers.
With all due respect, any person can make the choice to not be lonely by giving themselves out there and socializing with neighbors and family and friends and getting involved in activities that take your mind off being lonely such as gardening or riding your bicycle little hiking and swimming or doing other outside activities to prevent loneliness. I feel that it's a choice of a person wanting to wallow in the fact that they're lonely and doesn't have the capability to get out there and do things and be active so that they're not lonely
Yes, men just expect women to fall on their peen just because they exist. They don’t do anything to fix their shortcomings and just stay in their parents basement being resentful. You rarely see this problem with single women.
Definitely not. It's not that easy for the everyday to day average man.
@@kezmenflowers8691 what’s stopping you from getting involved in a simple hobby with other people? 💀
@@solaris5922 I do those things
@@kezmenflowers8691 Then why are you speaking as in multiple comments that the everyday man (yourself) isn’t able to do these things when you aren’t in the same boat? What are stopping these men? Since as you know so much about them?.
Preach it baby🔥🔥🔥🔥
Well why can’t these men be faithful then?? The math ain’t mathing!
The women aren't any more faithful, so your dichotomy is false.
Lmao women cheat all the time why can’t women be faithful y’all cheat like a MF ngl.😅
Also men by default are hardwired to look for many women to sleep with, they are literally looked at the top if they have more experience with women. Literally just look it up.
Because women want 1000 options and if they had then where is committed
Most men are very faithful. You just pick minority that are not since you like chad Tyrone
I live in Atlanta and I don't find this to be true.
Right!!!they hv 3 or more on a regular 🙄
Dont Atlanta have much more women than men??
And regardless, the good men are a little more choosy when it comes to their mate...thats why we're more single. We dont holla at women all day every day.
So maybe for a guy like me, it may be a little easier than say a big city like NYC where im at...where most ppl are not truly single, cause they got a lingering someone...same as other big cities like LA and stuff. But i Always felt that my ideal partner may live somewhere down south. Idk. 🤔
Only Tyrones or Pookie and Ray Ray can score in Atlanta.
@@camillethomas174 hes refering to the guys yall don't want ( regular/good guys)
I wish all the men in their 20’s who are going through this mental and physical isolation would stick it out into their 30’s. If you do this, you will unlock a new vigor in life, I PROMISE you! There will still be problems, but the smoothness and finesse in which you tackle those problems will radiate an attractive energy about you. Trust me. Hang in there 💪 30’s are where you’ll get your second wind.
Right on
im 28y its bullsheet
This comment section is adorable, ladies acknowledging the reality and men being vulnerable. Wish more people behaved with such kindness in real world.
Thats unfortunate for the lonely men out there...