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- A bride-to-be takes on her future mother-in-law in an ugly feud that has torn a family apart; Dr. Phil tries to cut through the drama and broker some peace for the family. (From Dr. Phil Season 6)
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I don’t feel bad for any of them, except for the wedding planner🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂 you’re on spot
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Thank you! Everyone’s getting on the mom (who sucks too obviously) but they ALL suck. So immature and prideful, all of them
😂😂😂
I’ve worked with weddings for decades, the ridiculous stuff I’ve seen could fill a book. It’s supposed to be the happiest time, yet some people act like it’s war.😂
If my SON and future daughter-in-law did not want me at their wedding, I would never push my way in. I have more personal pride than that.
Easier said than done.
I feel like if my child and their spouse didn't want me at their wedding I'd take a step back and try to figure out why, what I've done to cause them to feel that way towards me. I have a high drama, victim playing, delusional(literally) mother in and law and she refuses to understand not everything is about her not does is need to be and she refuses to take a step back and accept that SHE is the problem and SHE is the reason the relationship between myself, my husband and ALL her other kids and their spouses has broken down. She's not only came after me and my husband she's also tried causing problems with her other 2 sons and their spouses. Because of that her youngest son and his wife no longer speak to her at all and threatened to call the cops of her if she ever comes back around them. It's BAD the things she does and says but to hear her talk about it it's ALWAYS someone else that's caused the problem or are in the wrong she refuses to take accountability for the role she has played and the problems she's caused herself and all of us. It's weird tho because she doesn't act the same way towards her daughter and her spouse, it's literally just her 3 boys and their spouses that she inserts herself and causes problems and has issues with.
@@tabbithasalisbury1855 if that ever happen, you should also ask yourself why and what have you done that is so bad that they would even consider that.
Ok ur a boomer and don’t get it
@@jennifersantos7307 I am not a boomer. Sometimes it is better to let something go for a time and wait rather than continue to fight.
Why would you want to start a life out like this? RUN
That’s right.
Been there before.And
I ran, I ran so far away... had to get away
There are already children from what I gathered.
Yikes, this is horrid and so far from love
Sorry I’ve been married for 33 years and for half of those years his mom never liked me. Raised to respect my elders I kept my mouth shut and my husband did agree with me always but I never ever kept his mom from him and have always made sure he or our kids and I visited her and made her part of our family.
Just because you're a doormat doesn't mean everyone else is.
@@autumnsummers6599she’s not a doormat. She is respectful of her elders. This comment shows our generational differences. I am assuming you are young.
Same here.
Mother's should ask themselves..what type of mother In law did I have?
DO I want to be the same or better?
Exactly!
Yes
That's his I decided what type of mother I wanted to be. I live with my mom, but I wanted to do better. If you know better, you do better. If the woman isn't right you have to let your adult son figure that out on his own. I understand as moms we don't want to see our children hurt, but they have to go through life live it, and learn it. They only learn so much from our teachings, most everyone wants to experience and figure life out for themselves.
Good thing for her to think about, but also, The DIL is disgusting and I completely believe the mom that that will eventually be directed at the husband, and she should think when I have children how would I like to be treated this way.
So should the DIL. She is going to regret this. The marriage will fail. Wait and see.
imagine being deployed and coming home to this BS
I can't agree with your statement more
Well said. You're deployed to a war zone and come home to another one. Both ladies need to look at what really matters in life. Innocent people are losing their lives to war, living from hand to mouth.
Imagine being a son that needs to grow some balls.
@@gigiis526yes he has he stood up to his bully mother. Good for him.
Elope.and move away from her.
Everyone sucks here but one thing that stood out to me is that posting a blog online and then accusing someone of snooping when they read it is straight up daft AF.
It's nuts
esp after sending them the link
The son should sort this mess. He is the only one who can cool the fire by defining what he expects from mother and from wife to be
She’s yelling over people, thrusting her finger at anyone who disagrees and aggressively leaning towards people spitting hate and she wants people to sympathise with her?
They mirror each other.
Which one are you speaking about Emma?
@@nichmon3221 the mother of course. She’s the one almost throwing herself off the couch towards the girl in her anger.
The fiancé can sit there calmly. She’s got her future husband on her side. The mother is losing this battle and has lost contact with her son. Due to those circumstances she’s more likely to get worked up.
I really think we don’t know enough of how this all started to make a judgement. I do think the mother “looks” worse here, but we really don’t know the history.
Also just the daughter in law making rules that her fiancé mother can’t come to the wedding is ridiculous and controlling. I would never have done that to my husband.
@Jennifer-fk8kb I totally agree with you and tell you more, I would never would come between mum and son. With experience on this I must to say that its so wrong the way she speaks about mother in law. At the end of the day it's your fiancé mother. If you don't wanna deal with her let the son do it. One thing I learn never come between siblings or mothers. That's not your battle
You are in his life to support
Oh, I recognize this mother, this was the mother I grew up with, and when my brother married his third wife, a Russian lady who is very nice my mother reacted, just like this one. She created all kinds of conflict and drama directed at my brothers new wife because my mother was very jealous and wanted all the attention of my brother who was her favorite child. This is narcissism and it’s ugly.
Exactly and I felt a bit bad for the daughter-in-law because everything was skewed against her. Even her son himself said that his Mom acts like a jealous ex girlfriend. That speaks volumes! And that seemed to be brushed over which kind of boggles my mind! Every time the daughter-in-law and even the daughter in laws mother got any chance to speak there She goes standing up mean and hateful interrupting them cutting them off and yelling. And got the whole narrative skewed against them. Yeah that lady is a classic narcissist I definitely see things for what they truly are. There is no way in God's green earth that your own son will agree for you to not be in the wedding and a daughter-in-law for you not to be in the wedding for absolutely no reason! And she thought that if she could be loud talk the most, and try to have the narrative skewed against her as much as possible notice how there's mainly hurtful quotes from the daughter in law two words to the mother-in-law which I guarantee you they are responses and barely anything the other way around, and try to get the audience and the narrative on her side. Got the daughter-in-law looking crazy and looking like the bad guy while she plays the victim. Got even Dr Phil and the audience falling for it! Classic narcissism!
it is also called emotional incest. i found a lot of comfort from researching up on it.
How can a professional not call out the MIL narcisistic manipulations?!
@@Princess-us5soThere's a reason why.
@@user-uq1yo9qu9tYes, spot on!!
I don’t care if my partner’s mother rides a broom, out of respect for my husband, I wouldn’t speak to her that way. In the long run that’s his mother and putting him in the middle is hurtful.
100% agree with you
Yep! No way.
Whenever mom in law is asked if she said something she dances around the question and says I didn’t say that I said this.
Your children are not and should never be your best friend!! Get your own life because your children have friends of their own. When your own son says you act like a “possessive ex - girlfriend”you know you have problems.
I'm best friends with my adult kid's 🥰 we all still have or best friends 💞 we are a close family 🙏
Enmeshment
I 150% agree! A wise person told me when our sons were young that they will have lots of friends but only one set of parents. Both of our sons are married with children and I hope that their wives are their best friends.
YOU ARE SO RIGHT
You can have more than one best friend. I’m best friends with my kid nursing nothing wrong with that. That being said I’m not possessive over his time or jealous of anything. I just love my firstborn son and we have a great relationship.
That soon to be MIL needs therapy to deal with her jealousy and separation anxiety. She is causing irreparable damage to her relationship with her son and doing what she fears most, pushing him away. This is not healthy for any of the people involved.
This will always be his mother. And the mother in law will always be part of him. His fiance is trying to push mom out. You do not push the mother out. One day it will be your undoing one day when karma gets you. It will come to a bad point and one day it will break the marriage.
Both need therapy, the fiance just found her security with this guy, and she wants all the attention. Both of them are wrong, both of them disrespected each other, both of them need to mature
Very well said. The mother is possessive and irrational. She needs to learn how to let go and welcome whoever her son chooses to love. Shes obsessionally interfering in her sons life. She needs to learn that he will always choose his woman over her. Which is the right thing for him to do going forward into his adult new life.
I watch these stories and i think im so lucky that i adore my in-laws all of them are so kind and exceptional people. Im going to go now to call my MIL and tell her how much i love her
I’m married to an orphan. So happy.
Me too!! My late mother-in-law treated me more like her daughter than her daughter-in-law and I don’t think I ever told her enough times how much she meant to me. I miss her and our children miss her.
My mother in law and I are good friends. I’m so thankful.
Son’s best friend stepping down as the best man in the wedding speaks volumes about the future daughter in-law.
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Exactly! If you read the people commenting negatively about the Mom, they're almost ALL starting off by saying "My Mother-in -Law is the same...."
Well this isn't YOUR Mother in-Law
@thegreatgatsby9127 which ones? Please point out which comments? 99% are talking about the mom being narcissistic but I have seen maybe one that shares a similar story!!!
Also, I'd like to know more of why the best friend isn't going... sounds more like he saw the girl first and is mad over it more then anything ...
See, it can be spun anyway one wants to see it play out!
When she is out of the picture, he will fall face first. Let him go. He is marrying a evil woman. He will get his. Real soon!
No the SON himself said that his Mom acts like an ex girlfriend! That speaks even more volumes! The best friend is just going along with a narrative.
If you know you are not welcome..... don't go!
unfortunately some people just... feel they're allowed to , anyway
I would just not go. I grew up with family fights. It's not worth it.
Unless your like my landlord, who is a narcesist. He invited himself to his nephews wedding. Even though nobody in the family wants him there (or at any family events)
Why is the son covered
It’s is weird that none of his family is allowed to
The bride to be reminds of an adult Cindy Brady .... or maybe (more accurately) Nellie Olson 🤣🤣🤣
"Marcia Marcia Marcia". Sorry, I couldn't help myself 😊
Yes!!!! Nellie Olsen lol the attitude to boot! 😂
I bet you were a bully or bullied at school?
Her lil girl hair do say's it all! He's got money! She's never going to leave! I wouldn't deal with it!
Lol definitely 😅😅
Omg, she created a blog to bash her mother in law. Thats nasty and vendictive. If the best man won't back the couple, something is wrong
I agree. She is childish.
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Exactly!!!! That’s extremely concerning.
If she respected her son and didn't medal in his business than none of this would have happened. Moms need to stop trying to control their ADULT children.
no, she had the blog before dating, but she did write about her mil
The bride needs to grow up. Rolling her eyes is like she is in high school.
Amen. She is a little control freak
This is not the first time I've seen a jealous bride wanting her man to love only her. He needs to tell her to get real or hit the road.
His Mother and Fiancee' clashing because they're both nasty, controlling B-----S!
I am not sure whether I can deal with a daughter in law like this
Look at the way the mother-in-law acts. Yelling, interrupting, leaning forward and pointing her finger. How are you supposed to communicate with that?
If he just came home from deployment he could have some PTSD. The girl is probably not aware (or cares) how that could affect them own.
That's the thing, you can't
If that’s how she’s behaving on a national/international TV show I can only imagine what a manipulative psychopath she is like in private! She seems to have successfully turned all of his family against him which goes against everything a mother SHOULD stand for. She just seems to want control everything and cause issues.
Ashley; And the bride does the same thing. The issue is, they are both the same! The bride is always looking for something to 'offend' her. MIL is bombastic.
He is marrying his mother. Two peas in a pod.
I don't see anyone in this situation stepping up and being an adult. Very sad that they can't get past their own egos.
Exactly
100%
I agree 100%. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy and take the high road??
Uninvited to my step daughter’s wedding 20yrs ago. It hurt, however today is truly good. That marriage didn’t survive.
Our daughter and family did.
lol you’re glad her marriage didn’t work out? Toxic ew
You are glad the marriage did not work out? Out of the mouth the heart speaks.
Karma…
The rude interruptions are so rude and annoying. The mother in law NEEDS to have the last say! So toxic and possessive.
Behind an intolerable mother-in-law is a cowardly son.
Every. Single. Time.
Correct! This groom needs to stand up and tell BOTH of them to take a seat and grow up
No truer words have been spoken.
Yes you’re right🧐
The fiancé is going to win this battle with your son. Mom, let your son grow up and give them your blessing.
No she won’t.
@@KM77413 she would the mother would lose
@@neetatulsie6137 not eventually no she would not lose. This girl is purposefully alienating his whole family. He will eventually realize that and leave her.
23:14 I don’t know what manipulation technique this is, but my ex used to do this to me all the time. Screamed at me to “stop interrupting” him when I never did, and then waiting, literally pausing after the accusation to goad you into replying so they can scream at you for interrupting again
Projection. The non-apology of the MIL "Sorry you feel that way" is also a sign of narcissism.
If I was his mother I'd be like C-ya. They would never hear from me again.
I have a son, and if he ends up with someone I don’t like, I will let him know once, in private. After that I will be cordial.
That's a good way to handle it. Takes a huge amount of grace, maturity, love, and respect for your son. No reason to lose the relationship with your son and possible future grandchildren over it. Some people would rather be right than to take that approach.
Why do you need to tell him? Will it change anything other than he will stop sharing about his lady with you and then both start distancing from you because people in love talk to each other 💯
You'd do better to keep your mouth shut. Telling a loved one once, of disapproval, has the same effect as saying it a 1000 times. Why would you unload on a son who loves you, in such a burdensome way?
@@Kasasi0322that’s not always true. When my family told me their thoughts about a man I was going to marry I listened. I stepped back and took stock, guess what…. They were right. They saved me from a world of hurt. If they would have been quiet and “stayed out of my business” my life would have been terrible. My family didn’t get in their emotions, feelings they stated facts and I’m forever thankful
@@nifty1940as long as the family has valid facts and not just feelings. My family talked with me, I took a step back and finally saw the light. I’m thankful my family talked with me.
I’m just not falling for the mom’s drama. I have a narcissistic mom that plays the martyr very very well. I see that in this lady.
I’m not saying the blonde girl is a perfect angel. I don’t know the dynamics of the family other than the show. But the mom is definitely a red flag from what I’m seeing (between the lines).
Exactly! I felt that Dr. Phil gave this narcissistic mom way too much credit.
GO TO LAS VEGAS AND GET MARRIED
Agreed
My mother is also narcissistic
Wrong . As the mother of a son, she has every right to feel the way she does. Blondie needs to shut up and grow up. And he needs to grow a pair.
I had a mother in law who hated me for the first 4 years. But she was always sweet to me. We were both cordial to each other and then one day after 4 years, she called me to confess that she didn't like me at first but she had grown to love me. And I always had so much respect for that....even after the divorce 😂🤣😂🤣
I never in my life thought I would say something like this, but I agree with his mother:
The mother of the son, her only child, is fighting with his future wife. This is a no, no. Even though the mother doesn’t like the future wife, she needs to keep her thoughts to herself. She should not react to anything the girl says or writes. Never! This marriage is probably not going to last very long anyway. Keep your thoughts to yourself, Mom. You want to be able to see your grandchildren someday, don’t you?!
@grannyjoan3055, no, the marriage won't last long, and all mom has to be is patient....hopefully he will not have kids with this one, she is just cold, and her eyes are empty.
@@jonniegraham499finally someone who see it to I agree with u and just cuz a child's grown, doesn't mean a mother stops caring , as long as they have reasonable worries and there not just pulling thing out of thin air and being dramatic to cause chaos, then a mother should be able to be honest when they see there son or daughter about to make a lifelong commitment to someone they think is a not good person. It's not being over involved it's a mother trying to protect there child, no matter there age.
Mom is trying to save her son, as a mother I can relate. We don't want our children to hurt, but life is going to hurt sometimes. Hopefully, he doesn't lose too much life and too much he has worked hard for. We can't save our children their whole lives. They have to have life lessons.
@@Lave_cake nope. He is grown and does not want relationship advice from mom. It's tough, but she should keep her mouth shut. And, the wife needs to grow up. She also needs to stop being abusive to his mom. Not ok.
I originally didn't like my son in law but it was my daughter's choice. I ended up living with them for 2 years. I now absolutely adore him. He is so good to my daughter and he has always treated me with care and respect. I can't imagine life without him. She made an excellent choice and I gratefully admitted that I was wrong. It is the couple's choice, not the parents'. Get over it, Mom!
Dr. Phil i cant tell if you were just having a lazy day or you take the wrong persons side. Its so toxic to tell someone to just put up with that womans behavior because shes gonna die one day um newsflash we are all going to die one day and i would rather live my life in peace from toxics
Yes! I was actually shocked. Maybe it’s the way it was edited? I cannot see how he could give that advice or speak to that young woman like that!
Have you lost your mother yet? Dr. Phil was trying to get them to think about reducing regrets now. After the mother dies, the son will definitely have regrets. I don't like the bride to be. I don't think she will ever think she had a role in this bad relationship.
This is a clearly really old episode lol
That part!!
I hate when people use that as an excuse for someone to mend fences they didn’t break. Everyone knows they’re going to die one day. If they don’t feel the need to atone for their mistakes then we can both die about speaking to each other. I’m completely fine with that. My mom is constantly telling me to reach out to my father because he’s elderly. He is but he was the one who stopped speaking to me because he was wrong and didn’t want to apologize. He knew how old he was when he decided to be estranged.
That Mom is a narcissist. She’s not the victim. Her family is wrong for defending her and the audience is insane for cheering her on which only fuels her.
Dr Phil was definitely not a fan of the mil though. Neither was I. She's controlling, self centred and simply revelling in her victimhood.
Exactly. Listening within the first few minutes that is what I thought
I think the DIL is a narcissist too, hence the extreme level of fighting. People who have a narcissistic parent are 9 times out of 10 more likely to get involved with one as adults.
She probably went to the same school as Khalood (monster-in-law).
The girl is the narcissist, look at her expression. Once she wins, she will be so pleased. She will turn on him, and he will wake up, hopefully not too late.
Dear Jay. RUN! FAST!
I believe the gentleman soon to be married. He has a mind of his own and is determined to guide his own future
he likes boobi
Agreed!
If I had a partner with a mother like that I’d have second thoughts myself!
Exactly
This future mother-in-law is like my mother who plays two parts, the angry, accusing drama queen and the victim. It’s all an act and manipulation. This woman is going to cause them trouble for years to come because she thrives on that.
Lamo okay grandma.
Exactly what I was just thinking...
Right- I would tell him he can keep all these people. Michelle wants to marry the person she loves and his family is crazy.
This guy will regret for treating his mother like that and allow this girl to speak to his mother like the way she did.Once his mother is gone they will not be able to fix this and what’s goes around comes around, so they will experience that with their child. Extend family is very important but they are too ignorant to realize that yet😓
I just want my son to be happy.
His wife is one of many reasons to be happy, so I thank her.❤❤❤
I know this is an old episode but I wonder if this couple is still even together...
I wonder if she still has her MySpace 😂
My guess is the bride found a new fool & left her husband behind. I’m sorry but the Bride seems very cruel underneath it all
@@1927suI’m guessing you’ve never been bullied by a MIL
@@1927su She seems nice. The mother in law is trash
@@bradcarpenter1881lol😂
This audience definitely doesn't see what's wrong with that mother in law
I felt the same way. It felt like the audience took her sob-story and sided with her, but it's clear the mom is way worse than she lets on. But I think that's true for both sides.
I would have liked Dr. Phil to put more pressure on the husband though. He's stepped aside, but this is HIS mess. He needs to set better boundaries with soon-to-be wife AND mom both. He's just letting them all fight it out.
And the people in the comments are totally overlooking how disgusting it is for a person to banish their partners mother from being part of their lives AND saying their future children won’t know her. That’s beyond cruel. She loves the control and she’s dead wrong.
@@agentfyre obviously you don’t know much about narcissism. This man was raised by a narcissistic mother which predisposes him to marry a narcissistic partner…he doesn’t know what to do, but hopefully Dr. Phil gets him to the right kind of help…he is the victim here, but he is also the only person who can get him out of this mess (with proper counselling).
The bride is also a problem. It's not just the mom. The bride is trying to isolate the groom from the rest of the family. And it worked.
If the bride loved her groom, she would find a way to include the MIL even if she was a crazy woman. Son could man up to his bride and to his mom.
You didn’t watch the video did you?
THE GROOM DOESN’T WANT HER THERE EITHER!!
“My mom acts like we were best friends. That’s not true. I absolutely support Michelle, we decided this together. Nobody forced me to do anything.” HIS WORDS. Quotes from him!!
Sorry, but Mama’s a monster
I married a man that was the eldest son of a woman who was very young when she had him and was a single mother of three boys. She was a difficult woman at times and very condescending to me at times, but at other times she was so very generous and I could tell that most of her comments were because she loved her son. We ended up having a fantastic relationship because we both understood that we both had flaws and we worked our problems out. My husband tried to stay neutral and see both sides. My mother in law died in November, and I miss her. She loved her sons and her grandchildren and that was all I had to remember as a daughter in law to have a great relationship with her till the end.
What a beautiful and mature person you were to have been so young. I'm guessing you had a wonderful mother. I'm quite positive that you are as mature and gracious today as you were when you were a young lady. Loved your response. It spoke to my heart.
The key: We realized we both had flaws. Then, forgiveness and work on things.
See now that how it should be. Wonderful.
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This is absolutely ridiculous. That mom is CRAZY and CONTROLLING. How is Dr. Phil letting her off the hook and fussing at the bride to be?
No, the soon to be wife is controlling.
Bruh, right? Dr. Phil is so wrong sometimes. Too old school in certain aspects…
You only gotta look at the girls face to see who's at fault
@@varonicadiaz6517 Old people have alot more life experience thus wisdom . You are all wet behind the ears youngun.
Because he's an ageist old fart
DR.Phil - I think you didn't pick up on what was really going on here. Michelle is in the driver's seat and her mommy is sitting shotgun. She has absolutely no intention of fixing this situation because it's what she wants. Her mom goes along with it because she's still in the circle. This dynamic is going on all the time and I'm pretty shocked you totally let her get away with it. The family members who have bailed from this unhappy wedding are the only ones who assessed the situation and the "mean girl" bride's intentions correctly--Push the guy's mom out of the picture. The mother in law is in over her head and really doesn't have a clue. She only knows she's in the worst pain of her life, and it's just getting started. Never never name call or send unhinged emails because THAT becomes the issue and their total justification for further mistreatment of the mother in law. The son is a loser who is blinded by the trophy wife. He's changed mom and he ain't coming back. Spend his inheritance, get into therapy and try not to let it ruin the rest of your life.
Your son is not the guy you thought you knew and adored all those years. Karma and regret are MAYBE gonna haunt him after you're gone but even THAT isn't a sure thing. Your boy is GONE.
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@@michelerigley9286 interesting Michael ✅. She ain't no trophy though - but the guy has zero spine and zero loyalty to his mother -;
I absolutely disagree. And I think you need to rewatch this whole thing and look closer.
@@gazXspaceI thought the son himself separated from his Mom
Why do people so readily believe that men are mere puppets on a string that evil women control? Why does everyone act like the son has no say? He said himself that he and his mother never had a good relationship growing up. He said himself that she crossed boundaries on more than one occasion. The daughter in law shouldn't use that kind of language. You can be hurt by people and put up a boundary but remain cordial in your exchanges or if you have to vent, call your bestie for a few minutes and vent. The edit did not show the mother-in-laws nasty emails but Dr Phil said he has like 80 pages of it. I think they are both wrong. The mother for her immature handling of literally everything. The daughter in law for her immature handling too. I think the bride is right to cut her out of the wedding because who wants someone who hates them at their wedding? Cutting out of her life, maybe not so much...the son has a choice though. He can call his mom without the daughter in law getting involved.
Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. This makes my job, as a mother in law, easy. I know now how not to act.
Did anyone see how the mother was asking, almost demanding, a ring from her son for herself also after she suggested an engagement ring for his fiancé? That is so weird! Did other commenters not see her crazy eyes? She is supposed to be the more mature party here as an older woman who should have gained wisdom in life. How are people defending her behavior? Imagine trying to raise children with a mother in law always trying to overstep and make demands like that? Of course they have to establish boundaries. The couple are immature too but at least they are young.
Kind of incestuous isn't it? My ex-husband and his mom had that kind of disgusting relationship.
I thought the mother demanding a ring too was creepy, narcissistic, greedy, and completely out of line
Kind of incestuous, some boy mom's are like that and it's weird. Son's are not property, her son decides who he wants to marry not his mom.
@@phyllischaffin4052that's so messed up and it's disgusting
Just think of the uproar their would be in a father had this sort of relationship with their daughter. I’ve always found these incestuous “boy mom” relationships to be so messed up and wrong and just down right creepy. These woman need serious help you should never treat your son like a partner or lover!
The mother keeps interrupting, getting loud, and acting like a victim. Can’t stand her! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
She talks down alot to her future daughter inlaw to put her in her place.
True maybe shes sick jealouse and love him in sick way
@@mildredwebster2822 she insults her every time she speaks. She’s horrible.
Did you not notice that the DIL is doing way way too much too.
Why is the DIL texting MIL when she has not contacted in 4 months.
I recognize the narcissistic tendencies in that mother, aunt and brother in law. The couple needs to move far away from his side
That girl is the problem & he will regret marrying her.
She has successfully isolated him from his relatives & support.
The mother is being protective, but going about it the wrong way.
Also it speaks volumes that the best man has backed out -
Well said !
anger at this level needs to be removed from each of them. Stay far from each other
They’re both nuts. Mom and fiancé are both a mess
Absolutely no one is making this situation better, it’s pathetic and sad.
Neither party is acting appropriate. The wife is a spoiled brat
There’s nothing wrong with the bride
The creepy little smug smile on Michelle's face when Dr Phil mentions the day his mother drops dead is everything you need to know about her. She would be happy for that woman to die and for him to live his life without his mother. She IS jealous and nasty, and the innocent act she's putting on isn't fooling Dr Phil either. She's all about herself and doesn't care about what her fiance loses.
Yeeeup!!
Exactly💯
She is master manipulator. Anyone can see that. She shows know emotion because to her, it is all about winning.
Agree. Michelle is trouble and this is just the beginning.
My thoughts exactly
i’ve been in the brides shoes. i had the same mother in law. cops involved. stalking. dss. it was a lot. that was 24 years ago. we just buried her a year ago, and i love her like a second mother. it took time. it took lots of hard talks but we both loved my husband enough to not put him in the middle. i would give anything to say i love you to her one more time.
That was a nice comment Denz ❤️
Why wouldn't you put the husband in the middle she's his mother? I would expect my man to back me when it came to his mother. More power to you I guess. Whatever.
Clearly another mother who can’t accept and deal with the son finding a woman to have a family with.
And a bride who acts familiar enough the son is comfortable with it... wonder why with a mother like that...
Not one like that! It's easy for someone to judge her when they have never been disrespected that way. This woman is hurting! At least that's what I see.
@@TeresaMorrison-mi2yq No one is saying she isn't hurting! But we have enough experience to see the underlying causes and not just "woman scorned".
All that son needs to do is give his Mom a big hug every time he sees her. Tell her how much he loves her, & that she just needs to give them space to grow. Tell Mom not to say anything hurtful or demeaning to his fiancée ever. Tell her this gently, but firmly. Tell her she’ll always have a place in his heart, & he’ll always appreciate & love her for everything she did for him. Then he needs to tell his fiancé not to ever say anything bad about his Mom. And to never disrespect her. Tell blondie to help him ease his Mom’s anxiety & to not exacerbate the situation in any way. Kindness from both sides is needed. Apologies & forgiveness should happen too. Then start anew & move forward. Everyone stayin in their lane.
This is the best post I've seen in this long list of posts. You are right. That would fix it. Maybe...if the DIL wants it fixed.
Well that was succinct! Dr Phil should have said that!
She refuses to listen to what her son is saying and accept that he needs autonomy from her.
Even The Best Man sees this bride is mean, emotional and very, very immature
"this is the FIRST SCENE I've ever made w/you guys,&&,boy,I'm gonna give it all I've got!!!!!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That speaks volumes about the moms personality.
I think she meant to say this is the first scene I’ve made TODAY 😂
The daughter in law is not perfect but the mom is definitely not the victim she clearly one of those woman who makes there son their emotional husband. The mom story doesn’t hold water people don’t get uninvited from a wedding because of 1 fight and melt down fights don’t happen for no reason they happen when someone gets fed up with biting their tongue. The daughter in law offered the mother in law an olive branch by saying you can come if you admit you said things that were wrong and stop blaming me for racking your relationship with your son. She refused to do it because she didn’t think the son would tell her not to come and she was wrong,
Bet he's no longer married to Nellie Olson.😆
I feel like the bride is in the wrong and the son is weak.He shouldn't allow anyone to treat his mother like that.
Just a side note to yiur comment. I spent 25 years being told i needed to respect my mother in law. If she got rude, i was to let it go. And i did. But the more i kept quiet, She knew he had told me to. So she only got more rude and demeaning with her comments. After a few years, it felt like i was walking in there, covering my head, for her to take swings at me, while i couldnt fight back.
This is not something you just need to tell yout wife to be nice. He needs to tell mom too and stick to it with both. It took a mental toll on me to deal with it all. It got to a point i wanted nothing to do with her at all.
What is that old saying? A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life.
I've never heard of that one.
“A man should leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
My grandmother always said that. I wish I'd had a daughter. I had three sons and was happy with them. I'd have had another but my marriage was bad. I do have one wonderful DIL. She is kind and has always involved me in her family's lives. She asked me to babysit sometimes, and I always did it if I could. The other DIL has two daughters, age 10 and 6 and has never let anyone babysit them. I don't even see them. I'm over being sad about that. I am concerned that my son is being emotionally abused by her. Once there are children...
Both my parents died. This is so stupid and a waste of time. Life is not for this.
I don't agree with Dr. Phil about the 'cost' of cutting contact. My husband's mother was a very judgemental, vicious person, accusing me of being the devil and corrupting her son. After a while I cut contact with her and never regretted it. I didn't need that sort of nastiness in my life.
I completely agree
Yes, you understand my friend.
It's different when it's your own loving mother and dealing with a weird mother in law
Some peoples lives are like this every day.
Dr. Phil has become the Jerry Springer of psychiatry.
When the best man and guests are refusing to show up should be a sign for the groom this marriage isn't going to last love to have a follow up Dr Phil
Odds are the marriage is over and all these people are living unhappy lives. They all love the chaos
I’ve tried to find an update and can’t..
Thats it if it even took place...😅😅😅😅
I bet they don't talk to her and are happy
Yeah that’s the sad part about the mom’s behavior. If her son’s relationship ends, things can’t go back to being wonderful because the mom ruined her relationship with her son by being so hurtful and immature. He still wouldn’t want anything to do with her.
Both of these ladies are WRONG. There is nothing that can justify speaking to the mother of your future husband/the future wife of your son this way. NOTHING. Period. They are both putting him in a terrible position. If you don't like your mother in law/daughter in law, then avoid her when possible and be civil otherwise. Grow up!
Agree!!! The groom needs to stand up and tell them BOTH to seat down and learn manners or he will walk from both.
Personally wouldn’t tolerate anyone, even my mother-in-law, treating me so badly. I wouldn’t be rude, but I would break all contact
@krisg71
Agreed! However, the son is saying bride to be is justified so the problem doesn’t just lay with the ladies. Heck the whole family is involved.
I didn't especially like my Mother in law, but I would never have treated her like this. I kept my mouth shut and tried to get along, for my family's sake. She actually turned out to be a good Grandma to my kids.
I am a mom of a son. If he said I couldnt be at the wedding I would be devistated. I believe the soon to be wife has manipulated this whole thing like a jelous girlfriend and needs to remerber that she is the mom. This is going to be a horrable marrage if this is how it starts.
It doesn't matter that she's his mom. Like at all. So you know how many people go no contact work their drama filled, narcissistic mothers?
Millions
Being a mom isn't an automatic for anything. She needs to behave accordingly.
If I were the MIL, I would back off and let that marriage implode on it's own. Her son is a wuss!
I bet that marriage is already over!
I totally agree. The bride is a bit much. If I were the mom I would walk away. I’m kind of siding with the mom - only because the bride will never accept this mom - she will hold the grand children over the moms head for everything.
This marriage is doomed! The bride is petty to! Putting a witch on her page. Why can’t her mil look at her page? What maturity!!! She will be a horrible wife and mother!
@@kimberlymordal7215 the bride reminds me of the nasty blonde on rhe Waltons! LOL
Oh look all the middle aged women don’t like the young bride. She isn’t innocent in this at all but that MIL is a narcissist. If anyone should be mature here it should be the mom, she’s older. That bride is clearly young. Once again I’m not saying her actions are right but that mom is a total nut. Boy moms, ESPECIALLY ones with only one child tend to have weird relationships with their sons, and lean on them way too much as an “emotional husband” type of deal.
That mother needs to back off. She is the most rude individual. When he marries her she will come before you. Read the Bible lady.. 🙏
I agree, but also remember Ephesians 6:2
@kathrynbrown6955 True but God says once a man marries he will *leave* his father and mother and cling to his wife and the 2 will become 1 flesh. Matthew 19: 5-6. This mother is very controlling and clearly has issues letting go. He's marrying his wife not his mom. Can't be both. People love to abuse Ephesians 6: 2 constantly as a resort to justify parents bad actions towards their children. No.
@@laurencastillo9741 i agree. The wife should always be the husbands number one priority. As a mother in law myself, i fully agree with that. She should always come first. Howevrr, as a daughter in law, i have also always remembered that we have a duty if care to our oarents and in law parents. I helped to physically care for my mother in law before she passed away. We had fall-outs, but talked through ussues, both of us seeing the importance of the other one in our husband/sons life. Same with my daughter in law now. But life is never that black and white for many, is it?
@@laurencastillo9741 both my husband and my son would be man enough to give both his mother and his wife a very stern talking to about their behaviour and attitude towards each other. One woman birthed him, one woman was the one he chose to spend the rest of his life with. Bith women should learn to remember that, and resoect it, if they truly love their son/husband.
@kathrynbrown6955 YES but that's not the situation here. There should be respect on both sides. It should be equal. The mother in law has no business in their life. There should be BOUNDARIES. She should give her opinion but even then it isn't needed. If I was this girl I would have left ages ago.
Mother will be always be a mother we have only one in this earth. just respect each other 💕
I’m definitely Team Mom. Her son is a coward. He should have stopped the fiance from talking to his mom like that loooong ago. No one disrespects my parents.
They both need to grow up.
The mother-in- law has met her match. She's terrible...& so is the daughter-in-law, but that mother-in-law is the worst!!!
" For this cause shall a man leave his mother & father & cleave unto his wife" Genesis 2:24❤
Yep. He's marrying his mother
But he must not lose respect for his mother.period
This girl ..what example is she going to be to her kids
They need to ask forgiveness
The mother in law looks like Robin William's first costume option in Mrs. Doubtfire when they're trying to come up with a disguise 🤣
I'm on the mom side sorry. If I was the mom leave him, if he choose his wife over his mom good luck don't run back to your mom ever again.
A seven page email!! The DIL to be doesn’t sound amazing but the seven page email!!? Chill lady. 😅
The Bride-to-be reminds me of the nasty, spoiled girl on " Little House on the Prairie" 🐩 She was a blue-eyed blonde , also
I was trying to think of who she reminded me of. It's Nelly Olson.
Ok boomer.
Why is it only older women who had a problem with the young bride lol. I’m not saying she doesn’t have fault, she totally does. But MIL is has total narcissistic behavior to a T.
Nellie-and I tell you I was thinking the same thing
lol yup she is Nellie Olson
This makes me so sad. My mom is my best friend. My fiancé died last year and he and her also grew to be best friends. I loved being together with all of my family. I would do anything in the world to have him back and make our family complete again. I wished people would realize the preciousness of family and the joy and gift it is. People need to quit being so nasty and be appreciative of what they have. Tomorrow is never promised.
If she not respect your mama let her go!
Respect is earned. She won’t even let the bride finish a sentence.
@@nikkilove4584exactly! You can try and try to be respectful to people and they just don’t return it. Sometimes you have to put your foot down
You tend to marry a person that's just like your parent. And these two are just ALIKE.
I've always heard that, but I hope that isn't true.
They addressed that on a Phil Donahue show many, many years ago. The guest said people often marry someone like their parent in an unconscious effort to recreate a problem relationship that they are now going to "fix".
😄😄 💯
This mom is vile and enmeshed . Phil get off your high horse and put mom in her place. She thinks she is marrying her son.
Mom you have to EARN bride's respect. Mom you do not own your son!!
That's the one thing I hate about dr Phil, he acts like toxic, narcissistic parents don't exist, and most daughter in laws do not hate their mother in laws by default, same with kids, they don't just hate their parents for no reason. Could the daughter and law and son have responded better? Absolutely, but they are responding to the way the mother is, it doesn't exist in a vacuum, and what it really comes down to is mother's like this struggle with new boundaries and healthy boundaries, they look at the relationship changing as it being less loving, but when the mom said he has enough love for both of us, that's not totally true, and they are totally different types of love. He's gonna see his wife every single day, he's gonna have kids with her, he is supposed to forsake everyone for her, and the mom takes that as "well j guess he just doesn't love me anymore." she wants to compete with the daughter in law because she doesn't like the change that happens when a man marries a women, there's less room for anyone in his life, you can't just show up unannounced, you can't have the same freedom you once had, because he has another person to consider and they have a life completely separate from you and the rest of the world, and for a mom that's emotionally enmeshed with her son, that feels like "he doesn't love me anymore."
@@Suane333the bride needs to gain moms respect.
Shame on the son. Respect the woman who raised him.
could not agree more , well said
It doesn’t matter that someone raised you. If they’re a narcissistic a-hole, you need to avoid them until they change. Bride to be is immature as well and not perfect either. But MIL is WACK
How long is she going to control the son. Let him go to be happy. If the marriage does not survive that’s went he apologises comes.
The crowd is stupid. Clapping for the family... when clearly we can tell they are the problem. Theyre yelling constantly yelling and over talking.
Maybe they're all thoroughly sick of things and are emotional about it?
Couldn’t agree more. They were all clapping at the most bizarre times!
Mom oozes hate and fear based off her weird attachment to your grown son. I wouldn’t want her at my wedding even as a flower delivery driver!
Why is the future wife even involved in this? THE SON needs to deal with his mother. He needs to decide which side he's on, or fix it so there aren't 'sides'. If it was me, I'd move far a way. and not leave a forwarding address.
What you all aren’t taking into consideration is that this mother has only one child and has had his best interests in mind all his life! I agree, it’s time for her to back off from his life and let him make his mistakes be HIS mistakes and not about her. Moms should be there to pick up the pieces of a son’s life, not cut off from him and be unable to share in his happiness or sadness!
@@Georgiaonmymind862
Only child or not, she DOES need to back off.
If she's so sure he's making a mistake, she can go to his next Wedding!
@@Georgiaonmymind862 “moms should be there to pick of the pieces of their sons life”??? Uh, no..our job is to teach them how to pick up their own pieces, not clean up after them into their adulthood 🤦♀️
@@audreym3777 You’re right.
Dr phil sometimes the women whip their men to hate their moms. I do not see how you never see thru the girlfriend or fiancé.
Interesting how so many here are against the mom. But just imagine you have a child you raised with all your love and then comes a stranger who is able to alianate him from you that he doesn't even talk to you for months!! Mom have said things in anger and frustration she shouldn't have, ok, but any parent would feel the same way. And that girl is so disrespectful! Even if she was all the way right, still, it is his mom!
Hear the aunt what she says! The son has changed after meeting that girl!
So I totally do not believe and don't see that she is a narcissist!
I think he was marrying a woman just like his mother setting everyone up for never ending drama. Most of the in-law shows involve a weak man who can't stand up to his mother but this guy didn't come across that way so he's probably feeding off of them fighting over him.
You're the mother in law I avoid 😂😂😂😂
@@JoebamaForJail you don't say
My daughter in law won’t be attending her son’s wedding and it is sad. My grandson is marrying a lovely young lady, and I adore her. I believe one day they will regret not settling their differences. Just sad to see fighting!
The bible says husband will cleave to his wife. If mother cant respect sons partner. Then adios Madre!
The Bible says THREE times in scripture: A man shall leave his mother & a woman leave her home & the two shall cleve to one another! ( Genesis, Gospels, & in Epistles!)
I agree with you. But...Remember Ephesians 6:2. Both these women need to re look at themselves and their attitude and conduct in this. And the son needs to grow up. He's the worst of the lot in this situation!
So this was over 10 years ago. Any updates?
Old people, get a life after your children grow up.
Hahaha. So the mother of an only child shouldn't attend her child's wedding?
So just give your all into bringing your children to adulthood and then fade away. Is that what you're saying?? "Old people," serve no further purpose. WOW. 😒
@@Listening4Gabriel you really twisted that one. That isn’t at all what was said. Get a grip. The mother in law needs a life and to stay out of her son’s business. She’s overly invested. She needs a life outside of her son’s life. It’s called emotional incest or Enmeshment and it’s not healthy.
@@hiddenhand6973 you cannot be overly invested in your child. We are put on earth to raise and guide them throughout life.
It’s a harsh way to put it but the main point is correct! If your entire personality is your kid(s), you will be incredibly lost when they get married. You have to have more to live for or you will resent the person who married your kid and basically took away your life. I’ve seen it with my own mom.
ELOPE !!!! Just E L O P E !!!!! For the love of God .. ELOPE !!!!
I don't understand my daughter-in-law, she has her own family issues, but I'm willing to love her as much as I'm allowed. She and my son have been married for 12 yrs now and they seem to love each other very much and make each other very happy. That's what a mother should want.
I would not marry if my fiancée’s entire family refuses to attend.
I have an extreme ex mother in law whom wrecked my marriage caused my ex husband to leave me homeless with no clothes no nothing and take our kids out from under me ... he's now remarried , he's witnessed his mother treat his new wife the same way she treated me and well luckily he apologized for the trauma and pain he caused me and for not defending our marriage or me. I said I'll forgive you, but only of you love your new wife enough to not let your mom ruin your marriage the way she did ours and if she doesn't want your mom around you LISTEN to her because your mother is overly toxic and abusive and has and unhealthy attachment to my kids and her son. She gets mad if I see my kids on the holidays and if they aren't with her I get punished in some way shape or form needless to say I haven't had a holiday with my kids in 7 years cause he won't make his mommy understand that I'm their mother and she is not she is the grandmother she doesn't get dibs on my kids before I do when it comes to making memories.
I don’t understand why you became the victim here left you nothing no husband no kids no everything what did you do so wrong that you got punished like that ? Usually in divorce settlement you have the kids and house how did you end up nothing ? Something is not right here
Maybe you’re at the wrong side of the tracks why did they win over this divorce ? I’m just trying to wrap my brains how this happened to you
But I apologize it’s not my intention to intrude
@@user-tv7un4bt9etrue how did she end up with nothing?
I hope you are okay now. You probably need to fight for your kids. No one should be able to just take your kids like that. Not even visitation rights? And how did you wind up with nothing?
I'm sorry for what you went through. My MIL was the same with her three sons. She caused my sister in law to be homeless so she could have her grand daughter to herself. She spent more than 10 years on the street, became an addict after having a nervous breakdown & committed suicide. She just never got over losing her daughter. My MIL contributed to the breakdown of another son's marriage. My husband & I walked away. She died 20 years later alone. I hope you can get this woman's influence away from your children before she turns them against you. That's your right
What gif you do that you lost everything you might have gone a terrible thing to leave you homeless and only your clothes you’re the mother of his children we can only hear your side
The court won’t allow any of this if you’re good mom and wife
The Mother is the only one raising her voice. She’s a drama queen.
From a mother point of view The sun don't have no say so so therefore I give him 6 months after they're married and he be calling his mother because you have one mother 💔