The best parenting I received was my fosters, grandma, great grandma, and my aunt. I am living proof that biological parents aren't automatically the best thing for a child. It's sad to see so many comments who clearly only care about their own morals and values to the detriment of others. The reality is that the nuclear family model is just another way to discriminate against the poor, other cultures, and women. And who freaking cares if the speaker is polyam?? Look it up. Be curious. Not everyone is like you and that's okay.
... but from what I've consistently found, it doesn't matter if that stability is mom and dad, widow, widower, divorced, grandparents, uncles or aunts this is the best for children and their stability in life. we don't create but we coexist with the situations and try to develop ourselves and treat our flaws instead of forcing other people to like us... Nature itself gives good example of relationships between sky and earth. give me a flower from the sky which grew up thanks to the rain of earth... thank you so much
Society has given too much focus on romantic and body-based relationships, often neglecting other important connections in life. It is time we live a more meaningful, holistic life.
@@MrTHEMONEEMAKER as to education, economics, internal peace, innovation, global influence, ingenuity, integrity, accountability. The USA can’t give care to all while killing each other over TikTok videos during school hours that nobody owns up-to and just points fingers because they only think about Trump and Biden. Is that a good enough answer for you?
@@sheilag2231 Oh I whole heartedly agree that the corruption in the country has broken down many aspects of it though your list doesnt have anything to do with the video title just wondered what they meant
@@MrTHEMONEEMAKER does any TH-cam comment have anything to do with the video? Come on man (btw my catch phrase before some guy said it). We all just here to vent and look smart in front of anonymous names. Vote moneemaker for city council to get rid of corruption!
Making changes isn't a problem, it can be very good even, it only depends on what or how it's done. The "Nuclear Family" idea isn't something recent. For thousands of years most of the world was just the man works protects provide for the family, the woman was there to marry, have children, take care of the children and home because the world didn't have so many Rights or many peaceful moments as today compared to so many wars and death of the past. To make sure humanity survived, they needed to have a lot of children, many died but a minimum would survive. The World and technology of today isn't the same of the past. In any case yes, there should be changes and more help to other couples and single people.
Here we go again. Be and do whatever you want. Don’t push it on me or disrespect my own choices and views. Do not harm others, adults or children, in your quest for “justice”.
I don't like the idea that you have to make Aunt Bea your polyamorous fling legally to put her on your health insurance though. I would like to have Aunt Bea on my health insurance, maybe, because she IS FAMILY, but only my husband/ children inherit my estate, and so on.
Wasn't expecting the LGBT+ aspect, but the visibility is appreciated. It was heartbreaking to here that your close-minded family members stopped speaking to you. I hope that they are born as homosexual or transgender in their second life so that their ugly close-mindedness may be cured. LGBT+ people face far too much hate and bigotry, it's disgusting. And a lot of this hate comes from religious folk who are suppose to be the best of us and yet are typically the first ones to kick their own children to the curb simply for being who we are. It's despicable.
If her talk is truly supported by research and data, then it seems like a viable way to have a family, but I still think that monogamy and the nuclear family are the most typical and most successful family structures.
Tbh there's a lot of TedTalks nowadays that are just screaming everything is bad, but there was a lot of sense found here. My own parents actually married because it was a legal pain to get him to be recognised as the father of their first child and others l know married because of finacial benefits, though they would probably have stayed together either way. Personally I don't see much in marriage other than financial benifits too
I agree with Republican Rand Paul on this subject; that the government doesn’t belong in the marriage business. I mention Rand Paul’s stance because for him and I this subject is really about a smaller less controlling government. It’s not about the nanny government granting rights based on special interests or privilege but instead about the government not having the power to do so. I offer that this issue wouldn’t exist if the government was never given this power and stripping the government of this power rather than asking for it’s permission is the righteous course.
Where is the best place to draw the line for breaking quarantine rules? Quarantines are effective, but not if you let anyone who claims to be family break it.
Nuclear families are new?! That is the most insane thing I’ve heard in a while. Of course children do best with their mother & father-you know, the people who created them. Kids do NOT need to be dragged into your polyamorous deathstyle. This woman is a train wreck.
I don't agree that poly or queer families are a "deathstyle" that needs to be kept away from children lest they be scarred (or that a child's ideal parents must be "the people who made them"), but you don't hear me rudely dismissing you as a "train wreck" or your ideas as "the most insane thing I've heard in a while". So why are you doing that to the speaker here?
Its hard to start a family when the system is highly against men especially when there are kids involved see many good people get screwed over so i made it so i cant have children to protect pension and 401k. Kids are gross anyways. Good talk we need people to learn more companion trust and love before we choose to start a family, it got real old attracting women with out fathers or mothers now im with woman who had both parents in their life and what a difference 100%
I didn't hear any part of her talk where she said that nuclear families weren't important. The crux of her talk is that non-nuclear families are just as important. Also, I'd like to hear why you think nuclear families are important (and possibly why non-nuclear families aren't as important) instead of just complaining about what somebody else said.
@@legoat8646 I wasn't talking to you, and even if I were, "ur[sic] everywhere take a break" doesn't answer my question or interact with any of the points I made. (Also, I'm not "everywhere", so what's your point?)
The heterosexual two parent married family model has proven a cornerstone of civilization across the world since the beginning of time. Except for a few miniscule cultures. Society is better when children are brought up in those stable settings. That is why it is incentivised.
@@frankzappa9148 Your source: "Trust me lol" You hear some variant of "But who will think of the children!" every time there's a societal change like this, and yet the next generation more often than not turns out alright. It's become a cliché at this point, the boy who cried wolf. I highly doubt that accepting LGBT families and non-monogamous families is threatening our world like this guy is implying, I don't believe that "A man and a woman and their 2.5 kids in a suburban house with a white picket fence" is the only way (or even the best way) to grow families or communities, at this point I legitimately believe most of the people saying it is are trying to push an agenda and don't actually give a damn about the children or anyone other than themselves. It's disappointing that you couldn't consider that perspective.
@@liammurray2318 they’ll turn out okay? Lol this is the first generation where a shocking amount of them seem to think they’re not the gender they were born as. That’s utter insanity.
Well you're starting to get there, but why in the world does it have to be a family of humans? I know lots of single people who take care of many animals. They meet the definition for the love and care that takes place in families, and they are happy families. What about Us?
I think they award married parents-men and women, because it is what has kept the world glued together. Men and women are yin and Yang, they need each other. It encourages reproduction, healthier home environments and instills security in children who need that more than ever today. I’m not bigoted, I’m a realest. I’m going to speak the truth even if it’s hard to hear. That’s what I did to overcome my trauma, I no longer live within unrealistic views.
I don't agree that "men and women are yin and yang" or that families need to be structured that way in order to be healthy. And I don't see why that makes me any less of a realist or you any more of a bigot. Your comment just comes across as antiquated bioëssentialism.
@@HealthySelfHealthyWorldLLC the kind of glue that should be unstuck. I thought it would be obvious from my comment that I was insinuating that traditional families with a mother/father present and both parenting in a healthy manner have better outcomes statistically.
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The best parenting I received was my fosters, grandma, great grandma, and my aunt. I am living proof that biological parents aren't automatically the best thing for a child. It's sad to see so many comments who clearly only care about their own morals and values to the detriment of others. The reality is that the nuclear family model is just another way to discriminate against the poor, other cultures, and women. And who freaking cares if the speaker is polyam?? Look it up. Be curious. Not everyone is like you and that's okay.
... but from what I've consistently found, it doesn't matter if that stability is mom and dad, widow, widower, divorced, grandparents, uncles or aunts this is the best for children and their stability in life. we don't create but we coexist with the situations and try to develop ourselves and treat our flaws instead of forcing other people to like us... Nature itself gives good example of relationships between sky and earth.
give me a flower from the sky which grew up thanks to the rain of earth...
thank you so much
Society is BEST when children grow up with adults (and ideally community) that love them and are dedicated to good parenting.
give all families security and stability!
No more evictions from primary residences!!!!
yep... make everyone quit renting their property out to deadbeats.
@@gunzmith29r housing is a human right!
Society has given too much focus on romantic and body-based relationships, often neglecting other important connections in life. It is time we live a more meaningful, holistic life.
yes laws should be changed to support diff families
Why does the government need to regulate anything family or housing related outside of the obvious things like abuse?
the ys govwernmet under the communist democrat kkk racist party biden regime are child abusers.
As someone that does not live in the U.S i feel that it is falling behind so much compard to the rest of the western world
As to what?
@@MrTHEMONEEMAKER as to education, economics, internal peace, innovation, global influence, ingenuity, integrity, accountability. The USA can’t give care to all while killing each other over TikTok videos during school hours that nobody owns up-to and just points fingers because they only think about Trump and Biden. Is that a good enough answer for you?
@@sheilag2231 Oh I whole heartedly agree that the corruption in the country has broken down many aspects of it though your list doesnt have anything to do with the video title just wondered what they meant
@@MrTHEMONEEMAKER does any TH-cam comment have anything to do with the video? Come on man (btw my catch phrase before some guy said it). We all just here to vent and look smart in front of anonymous names.
Vote moneemaker for city council to get rid of corruption!
This resonates with me so much!
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Making changes isn't a problem, it can be very good even, it only depends on what or how it's done. The "Nuclear Family" idea isn't something recent. For thousands of years most of the world was just the man works protects provide for the family, the woman was there to marry, have children, take care of the children and home because the world didn't have so many Rights or many peaceful moments as today compared to so many wars and death of the past. To make sure humanity survived, they needed to have a lot of children, many died but a minimum would survive. The World and technology of today isn't the same of the past. In any case yes, there should be changes and more help to other couples and single people.
I can't hit the thumbs up more than once, Im afraid.
IKR?
Fantastic! I deeply appreciate this timely and deeply needed talk. Thank you Ms.Adams for your work.
If corporations have individual rights, then families - however constructed - should too!
And it would seem that the US Supreme Court agrees already too!
Brilliant talk ...
TED standards gave just inched up a notch.
Thanks 🙏👍
Here we go again.
Be and do whatever you want.
Don’t push it on me or disrespect my own choices and views.
Do not harm others, adults or children, in your quest for “justice”.
I don't like the idea that you have to make Aunt Bea your polyamorous fling legally to put her on your health insurance though. I would like to have Aunt Bea on my health insurance, maybe, because she IS FAMILY, but only my husband/ children inherit my estate, and so on.
TED✓
Yes, why??
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Thank you.
Wasn't expecting the LGBT+ aspect, but the visibility is appreciated. It was heartbreaking to here that your close-minded family members stopped speaking to you. I hope that they are born as homosexual or transgender in their second life so that their ugly close-mindedness may be cured. LGBT+ people face far too much hate and bigotry, it's disgusting. And a lot of this hate comes from religious folk who are suppose to be the best of us and yet are typically the first ones to kick their own children to the curb simply for being who we are. It's despicable.
How are you born transgender
I wonder how someone can be born as a transgender. It sound really funny and interesting. Can you explain it?
Yes, the laws encourage family.
If her talk is truly supported by research and data, then it seems like a viable way to have a family, but I still think that monogamy and the nuclear family are the most typical and most successful family structures.
Typical, yes. But defiantly not the most successful.
As a single lady with no kids, I want my own rights too for health insurance :(
Finally! I am single and this is accurate also a co-parent !!!
Tbh there's a lot of TedTalks nowadays that are just screaming everything is bad, but there was a lot of sense found here. My own parents actually married because it was a legal pain to get him to be recognised as the father of their first child and others l know married because of finacial benefits, though they would probably have stayed together either way. Personally I don't see much in marriage other than financial benifits too
I agree with Republican Rand Paul on this subject; that the government doesn’t belong in the marriage business. I mention Rand Paul’s stance because for him and I this subject is really about a smaller less controlling government. It’s not about the nanny government granting rights based on special interests or privilege but instead about the government not having the power to do so. I offer that this issue wouldn’t exist if the government was never given this power and stripping the government of this power rather than asking for it’s permission is the righteous course.
Mentions Rand Paul?? cAnCElLed!! (Sarcasm)
Where is the best place to draw the line for breaking quarantine rules? Quarantines are effective, but not if you let anyone who claims to be family break it.
I've wanted to here something like this for a long time
And, inheritance.
If you're pushing for polygamy here you just lost all the moderate democrats, and they will vote against you along with the entire right.
♥️
Nuclear families are new?!
That is the most insane thing I’ve heard in a while. Of course children do best with their mother & father-you know, the people who created them. Kids do NOT need to be dragged into your polyamorous deathstyle.
This woman is a train wreck.
I don't agree that poly or queer families are a "deathstyle" that needs to be kept away from children lest they be scarred (or that a child's ideal parents must be "the people who made them"), but you don't hear me rudely dismissing you as a "train wreck" or your ideas as "the most insane thing I've heard in a while". So why are you doing that to the speaker here?
What happens when one of their parents dies?
Yes, they started in the industrial revolution
Huh? Polyamory has been around since the beginning of time. Do some research. You are actually mentally challenged.
the "nuclear" family SHOULD be the norm though...
Why?
The divorce rates and amount of broken homes disagree…
Its hard to start a family when the system is highly against men especially when there are kids involved see many good people get screwed over so i made it so i cant have children to protect pension and 401k. Kids are gross anyways. Good talk we need people to learn more companion trust and love before we choose to start a family, it got real old attracting women with out fathers or mothers now im with woman who had both parents in their life and what a difference 100%
This is an example of being way to progressive this lady just said the "spectrum of families" the nuclear family is so important for so many reasons
I didn't hear any part of her talk where she said that nuclear families weren't important. The crux of her talk is that non-nuclear families are just as important.
Also, I'd like to hear why you think nuclear families are important (and possibly why non-nuclear families aren't as important) instead of just complaining about what somebody else said.
@@liammurray2318 ur everywhere take a break
@@legoat8646 I wasn't talking to you, and even if I were, "ur[sic] everywhere take a break" doesn't answer my question or interact with any of the points I made. (Also, I'm not "everywhere", so what's your point?)
@@liammurray2318 sad life you got bro lmao. you are not making any change sitting in your room all day replying to comments. get a job
I don’t think that we need to take away rights of straight marriages to get our own.
Where did she say that we need to?
The heterosexual two parent married family model has proven a cornerstone of civilization across the world since the beginning of time. Except for a few miniscule cultures.
Society is better when children are brought up in those stable settings. That is why it is incentivised.
I'm gonna need a credible citation for that one.
@@liammurray2318 how is this even something you need to have proven to you though? lol
@@frankzappa9148 Your source: "Trust me lol"
You hear some variant of "But who will think of the children!" every time there's a societal change like this, and yet the next generation more often than not turns out alright. It's become a cliché at this point, the boy who cried wolf. I highly doubt that accepting LGBT families and non-monogamous families is threatening our world like this guy is implying, I don't believe that "A man and a woman and their 2.5 kids in a suburban house with a white picket fence" is the only way (or even the best way) to grow families or communities, at this point I legitimately believe most of the people saying it is are trying to push an agenda and don't actually give a damn about the children or anyone other than themselves.
It's disappointing that you couldn't consider that perspective.
@@liammurray2318 you asked for a credible citation. I gave you one. Cry if you want.
@@liammurray2318 they’ll turn out okay? Lol this is the first generation where a shocking amount of them seem to think they’re not the gender they were born as. That’s utter insanity.
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What a surprise. Dislikes are disabled.
Good
Well you're starting to get there, but why in the world does it have to be a family of humans? I know lots of single people who take care of many animals. They meet the definition for the love and care that takes place in families, and they are happy families. What about Us?
No we stay within the nuclear family.
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I think they award married parents-men and women, because it is what has kept the world glued together. Men and women are yin and Yang, they need each other. It encourages reproduction, healthier home environments and instills security in children who need that more than ever today.
I’m not bigoted, I’m a realest. I’m going to speak the truth even if it’s hard to hear. That’s what I did to overcome my trauma, I no longer live within unrealistic views.
I don't agree that "men and women are yin and yang" or that families need to be structured that way in order to be healthy. And I don't see why that makes me any less of a realist or you any more of a bigot. Your comment just comes across as antiquated bioëssentialism.
What kind of a glue are unhealthy men and women in relationships that are filled with abuse and disrespect?
@@liammurray2318 families don’t *need to be but the healthiest outcome is a mother and father playing their roles as parents and partners.
@@HealthySelfHealthyWorldLLC the kind of glue that should be unstuck. I thought it would be obvious from my comment that I was insinuating that traditional families with a mother/father present and both parenting in a healthy manner have better outcomes statistically.
So then you saying that men have still have the right to live
Uh, no one ever said otherwise. Yall just love to play the victim, don't you.
@@theresapaine7224 I'm a guy, and I'm really sick of the kinds of bullshit straw man fallacies that guys like him do.
*Please support Ukraine now 🇺🇦🙏*
Nope they can fight their own battles.
No lmaooo yall are some racists
She’s an utter lunatic.
How?
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Undermining the nuclear family is undermining society.
I'm gonna need a citation for this one.
Or transforming it so it can grow and evolve.
Good, we should change this society that we have. Yall r so close minded, its insane.
No thanks 👎
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