Where are the links that you consistently say throughout the interview that you'll "try" to put in? I'm not going to assume the worst but why say you would put it in if you were not going to? Is it a business thing?
31:04 focus on your breathing to make u being more resilient 34:04 your mind have to be trained to stop thinking because your mind is always busy u just don’t notice it
This works when the actual brain is healthy. Yet many people have inflamed brain, malnourished brain, dispositions to depression, border line of some kind of mental health, which causes over thinking, over reactivity and on top that trauma. Sometimes when we cope and cope we might be tired so my suggestion is change your diet, have structured sleep schedule, exercise so the brain plays a role in emotional intelligence and helps out the process. Also deal with your trauma, avoid toxic relationship, read and be educated. Emotional intelligence is harder to master compare to other skills.
Amazing interview. First time I see a host capable of asking questions properly to Daniel Goleman. Thanks for keeping it real and sharing the knowledge to both of you !
Liked the manner in which you conducted the interview. You asked good question and were calm and collected. Well done Jacob, thanks to Mr. Goleman for his insight and enlightment.
I've watched Dr. Goleman's interview with podcasters and right now watching this episode. I admire Jacob's level of engagement, active listening (understanding not replying), patience & openness (the things where he wants to improve) in the entire discussion. These things actually make difference. Well done, Jacob. And as always Dr. Goleman is gold standard, quite & calm like a placid lake.
4 ways to manage your emotions 1. 4-second box hold 4 seconds inhale 4 seconds hold then 4 seconds exhale reapet 6-8 times. 2. name your emotion, 3. Mediation focus on a singular thing and 4. belief is important so when you are in a rut remember your cookie jars/ recall the positive part because oftentimes you are more critical.
This is an impactful article. A similar book I read turned my world upside down. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Quieting the Mind for 15 minutes first thing in the morning is a good way of Meditating. Esther Hicks explains this technique in her Abraham Hicks TH-cam videos.
I have a coworker who is good at what he does, but he is the biggest narcissist. He is highly manipulative and condescending. He seems to lack real empathy. It is such an emotional challenge to work with him. If it wasn't such a good paying, stable job I would have quit long ago. On days he is not working I feel so much more at ease.
😢 The worrisome part, is the eerie feelig... if it was there from the start, handle that person with care. He actually might be something a lot higher than a narcissist. And do dispense this talks like they're candy, because part of the reason in many companies still let narcissist/ psychopathic people rise to the top, it's because we let them. I am not saying anyone showing those traits, shouldn't be a leader, I am saying the rest has to be so knowledgeable about this, they do not let them do harm.
Teach people how to treat you. He has the right to be who he is without pretending and you have the right to put him in the line that says "you stop hear" without saying any word, quietly so. Your silence will be too loud for everyone to hear the pulse of your heart. He is flushing away your peace and joy. Put a NO, NO sign on your face. Enough is enough. Pain just wrote for you. You're hurting and you will hurt others unconsciously.
I have the same situation sitting in front of me. No hi, no good morning, but I don't need it anymore. I equally own the office, so I don't need to get upset and demotivate myself.
I’ve read “The New Leaders” myself and gifted a friend as well. Nowadays it’s my guide before starting a new role as a leader. Thank you Daniel Goleman, you and your friends are so precious 🫶🙋🏻♀️🍀 Thank you Jacob 🫶 Great job ✌️😊🙋🏻♀️
Wow!!! This was an eye opener, I once worked in a place where people resign or are sacked at the slightest of anything!!😢 and when you make suggestions on how things should be done, you are been shut up😢😢,it was a trying moment for me. I love the part where Prof. Daniel said, '' dont tell your boss,you dont have emotional intelligence !!😮'' rather reach out to them through someone they respect,or you can do so if you are skilled and not in an acussatory way ❤. I love this. Thank you Mr Jacob for putting all of this together. From Nigeria
We live in a highly competitive world, envy is a motivating factor, I.e. - - on the job, who has a bigger house, car, etc.,for the attention of the boss, in social settings, clothes you wear, social connections you have - how does emotional intelligence help in all the above situations?
We live in a highly competitive world, envy is a motivating factor, I.e. - - on the job, who has a bigger house, car, etc.,for the attention of the boss, in social settings, clothes you wear, social connections you have - how does emotional intelligence help in all the above situations?
Daniel Goleman is simply exceptional. The father of EI is the epitome of EI. Read the book in late 90’s. It really stuck. Highly recommend the book, “Leading with Emotional Intelligence.” Great text too.
Very interesting. Here there is discussion on meditation. “Aana paana sathi” which is meditating focusing on your breathing. Which many Buddhist monks do.
1. Breathing exercise : inhale 4 sec. Hold 4 sec. Exhale 4 sec. 2. Mention ur emotion, acknowledge it to urself 3. Meditate 4. Don't believe everything u think (replace negative self talk with positive.)
I often mirror the behavior of my manager and coworkers, which isn't always a good thing because I have worked in environments where certain people can behave badly, and others, like myself, must calmly tolerate their misconduct and not react in the same way. Unfortunately, I've had my share of horrible bosses. Dan Golen's book, Emotional Intelligence, helped me to realize this sad truth years ago. However, I also realize there are certain ways that I could react that might stop their bad behavior in its tracks. A good man is hard to find? A good boss is equally hard to find. Thanks, Mr. Golen for your helpful advice!
I stumbled upon this today. So intersting. Jacob, kudos to you, I can sense you are nervous sometimes , DG is so larger than life with his knowledge, but you are so courageous, u keep going and keep the engagement up ❤
It's really interesting to see the whole behavior science behind emotional intelligence and the do's and dont's of handling emotions at work. I often wonder how much and what kind of emotions to reveal because you want to be honest with your colleagues given that the work environment is welcoming. The professor's breakdown on the 3 types of empathy was really eye opening as well!
Emotional intelligence is applied very well by people who wants to get ahead in compamies. Couple this with their sefish streak and they will come across as nasty. I have seen this behaviour depending on who they talk to. Higher up then them - two faced and always accommodating. Lower than them - condescending and relentless in their approach. It is the state of many companies which only cares about money. That's why I personally enjoy working for smaller companies.
Hey Daniel, I'm new to your subscription. I can see you have made a lot of videos; very impressed by the high quality. Could you please point me to the ones that may help us to manage the emotions during a change cycle in the change management? Many thanks. Best regards, Aria
Sounds just like the expectations of what men and women expect in relationships these days. I'm starting to notice there's a lot of people in this world that just are evil as f***! Others just need some healing and don't know what they do others have just been hurt so they're going through that painful ending, survival mode, kind of a ebitter b**** phase, a f****** emotional rollercoaster! More times than not people don't know how to identify the emotions they are feeling. Which can have a detrimental effect on relationships and heights negative emotions. So most are alone not dating or traumatized but automatically expected to have it all together, emotionally intelligent, street smart, be a mind reader that auto knows what the other is going through without communication.
•mange inner life first ,then lead the other. •i care about you. •naming the emotions.( Iamm happy ,iam sad, angry... • what I feel will move to the other so don't fake it. • i am doing what is the most important for a long term _ self management. Solutions: 1) breath 2) name the emotions
A leader should be honest. Because many of us also pick up on bodylanguage. You may put a fake smile on your face...,but your bodylanguage usually will tell the truth. Or maybe that is just how I read people. Dont lie. Cause I will know.🙂
The pinging thoughts are great. If you listen, you will see that it is reminding you of things you need to do, unresolved fears, things that bother you because our inner self is the best tool for sharing with us what our issues are. So we can use it as such.Yaayyyy... US: "What's wrong with me?" YOURSELF: "Chilllld let me tell you." Lol😅. I have found that writing the thoughts down allow me to get them out of my mind WITHOUT dismissing them. I tell myself that this is important I will come back to it when I have time to deal with it. Then I set a time to do so.That way my inner self is not worried about forgetting or it not be handled thus, causing anxiety. Now with thoughts released, charted and anxiety at bay, the mind becomes clear, peaceful and quiet. -Hope this helps...The Bible gave me this skill and it really has worked. I used to worry like crazy but now not at all. People say they think I smile when I sleep lol 😅! I do have joy and in the midst of weird, abnormal time, I have a true peace. The world can literally be falling and of course there is initial surprise but ultimately, I find peace and am able to maintain in it as I rest in clear thought with answers. "They that keep their minds stayed on Christ will find themselves in perfect peace", is a quote from the Bible. I honestly have found this to be true. Love you guys thanks for sharing and showing us how to handle our thoughts and feelings about them😅
At the end. Goldman made a mistake; he said name if podcast wrong. it isn’t SINGULAR but PLURAL.HE SAID: first person SINGULAR emotional intelligence and beyond THE RIGHT PODCAST IS first person PLURAL emotional intelligence and beyond
Hello! Jacob is there any way to ask Daniel or someone on his team about the study on the global manufacturer about engineers, i would like to usa that information on a paper but i need the full reference please!!!🙏🙏🙌
I could rip this video to audio in 2 seconds. I have TB's of data, cause i download what i want, when i want, and don't ask people how, i find out how, and then do it, its called personal agency. Protip on laptop or PC: Jdownloader2 is all u need. Batch rip any video, audio too. Android, i wouldnt know cause its an inferior OS, only good for small things
Where does codependency fit into emotional intelligence? I feel it is not my job to try to decifer someone's emotional state and definitely NOT my job to manage someone else's emotions.
No it is your job, as someone who chooses to remain living within a society. That's a choice. You could go out and live off the land alone in a hole in the forest. If you choose to continue living in a society, then understanding the basic emotional states of the people you literally surrounded by for forty plus hours a week, and on TOP of that choose to be in a leadership position, it is literally your duty to do so.
Why should I have to controle my emotions when some asshole hurts me? I have to suppress my emotions for them? I just walk away. I was born with emotions and some were just not so screw them.
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Where are the links that you consistently say throughout the interview that you'll "try" to put in? I'm not going to assume the worst but why say you would put it in if you were not going to? Is it a business thing?
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31:04 focus on your breathing to make u being more resilient
34:04 your mind have to be trained to stop thinking because your mind is always busy u just don’t notice it
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This works when the actual brain is healthy. Yet many people have inflamed brain, malnourished brain, dispositions to depression, border line of some kind of mental health, which causes over thinking, over reactivity and on top that trauma.
Sometimes when we cope and cope we might be tired so my suggestion is change your diet, have structured sleep schedule, exercise so the brain plays a role in emotional intelligence and helps out the process. Also deal with your trauma, avoid toxic relationship, read and be educated. Emotional intelligence is harder to master compare to other skills.
Absolutely true
It's really enlightening and encouraging. I m retired, and I wish I had this video 4 years back. It would have changed my career.
Amazing interview. First time I see a host capable of asking questions properly to Daniel Goleman. Thanks for keeping it real and sharing the knowledge to both of you !
Thanks for the kind words!
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Liked the manner in which you conducted the interview. You asked good question and were calm and collected. Well done Jacob, thanks to Mr. Goleman for his insight and enlightment.
Thank you
I've watched Dr. Goleman's interview with podcasters and right now watching this episode. I admire Jacob's level of engagement, active listening (understanding not replying), patience & openness (the things where he wants to improve) in the entire discussion. These things actually make difference. Well done, Jacob. And as always Dr. Goleman is gold standard, quite & calm like a placid lake.
Thanks!
Yeas I notice the same thing ❤
4 ways to manage your emotions 1. 4-second box hold 4 seconds inhale 4 seconds hold then 4 seconds exhale reapet 6-8 times. 2. name your emotion, 3. Mediation focus on a singular thing and 4. belief is important so when you are in a rut remember your cookie jars/ recall the positive part because oftentimes you are more critical.
Managing emotions from the best guest speaker and psychologist of our century. Thank you, Jacob.
my pleasure!
This is an impactful article. A similar book I read turned my world upside down. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Quieting the Mind for 15 minutes first thing in the morning is a good way of Meditating.
Esther Hicks explains this technique in her Abraham Hicks TH-cam videos.
Totally agree
I have a coworker who is good at what he does, but he is the biggest narcissist. He is highly manipulative and condescending. He seems to lack real empathy. It is such an emotional challenge to work with him. If it wasn't such a good paying, stable job I would have quit long ago. On days he is not working I feel so much more at ease.
So sorry to hear that. Sadly it’s common
😢 The worrisome part, is the eerie feelig... if it was there from the start, handle that person with care. He actually might be something a lot higher than a narcissist.
And do dispense this talks like they're candy, because part of the reason in many companies still let narcissist/ psychopathic people rise to the top, it's because we let them. I am not saying anyone showing those traits, shouldn't be a leader, I am saying the rest has to be so knowledgeable about this, they do not let them do harm.
😮😮
Teach people how to treat you. He has the right to be who he is without pretending and you have the right to put him in the line that says "you stop hear" without saying any word, quietly so. Your silence will be too loud for everyone to hear the pulse of your heart. He is flushing away your peace and joy. Put a NO, NO sign on your face. Enough is enough. Pain just wrote for you. You're hurting and you will hurt others unconsciously.
I have the same situation sitting in front of me. No hi, no good morning, but I don't need it anymore. I equally own the office, so I don't need to get upset and demotivate myself.
Types of empathy really an eye opener 🙏
I’ve read “The New Leaders” myself and gifted a friend as well. Nowadays it’s my guide before starting a new role as a leader. Thank you Daniel Goleman, you and your friends are so precious 🫶🙋🏻♀️🍀
Thank you Jacob 🫶 Great job ✌️😊🙋🏻♀️
Amazing interview.
Gracias por esta brillante entrega.
Un éxcelente entrevistador. qué supo sacar lo mejor de D.G.
Wow!!! This was an eye opener, I once worked in a place where people resign or are sacked at the slightest of anything!!😢 and when you make suggestions on how things should be done, you are been shut up😢😢,it was a trying moment for me. I love the part where Prof. Daniel said, '' dont tell your boss,you dont have emotional intelligence !!😮'' rather reach out to them through someone they respect,or you can do so if you are skilled and not in an acussatory way ❤. I love this. Thank you Mr Jacob for putting all of this together. From Nigeria
How can you remain positive regardless what happens??
We live in a highly competitive world, envy is a motivating factor, I.e. -
- on the job, who has a bigger house, car, etc.,for the attention of the boss, in social settings, clothes you wear, social connections you have - how does emotional intelligence help in all the above situations?
We live in a highly competitive world, envy is a motivating factor, I.e. -
- on the job, who has a bigger house, car, etc.,for the attention of the boss, in social settings, clothes you wear, social connections you have - how does emotional intelligence help in all the above situations?
Great interview, thanks. I am about to delivery a workshop on this topic, this really helps.
Awesome, good luck!
Always admired him and specially his book, Emotional Intelligence.
Daniel Goleman is simply exceptional. The father of EI is the epitome of EI.
Read the book in late 90’s. It really stuck.
Highly recommend the book, “Leading with Emotional Intelligence.” Great text too.
Yes he is!
The highest form of intelligence. When events don't go your way. Reason and think in a rational way.
Very interesting. Here there is discussion on meditation. “Aana paana sathi” which is meditating focusing on your breathing. Which many Buddhist monks do.
Coaching competence and skill set - making others more successful at what they do.
1. Breathing exercise : inhale 4 sec. Hold 4 sec. Exhale 4 sec.
2. Mention ur emotion, acknowledge it to urself
3. Meditate
4. Don't believe everything u think (replace negative self talk with positive.)
Tell that to the people in the g he tt0
What an amazing human being!
I often mirror the behavior of my manager and coworkers, which isn't always a good thing because I have worked in environments where certain people can behave badly, and others, like myself, must calmly tolerate their misconduct and not react in the same way. Unfortunately, I've had my share of horrible bosses. Dan Golen's book, Emotional Intelligence, helped me to realize this sad truth years ago. However, I also realize there are certain ways that I could react that might stop their bad behavior in its tracks. A good man is hard to find? A good boss is equally hard to find. Thanks, Mr. Golen for your helpful advice!
Lots of people fall into that trap, so glad you found the podcast and Dan's work helpful!
I stumbled upon this today. So intersting. Jacob, kudos to you, I can sense you are nervous sometimes , DG is so larger than life with his knowledge, but you are so courageous, u keep going and keep the engagement up ❤
Glad you enjoyed the interview.
Really employed this piece. This is my third time watching it. Power!
Such a good episode. Great sensible questions asked. Please bring him back.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it. Exciting new guest are coming... Stay tuned!
Thank you Daniel and Jacob
My pleasure!
My pleasure!
It's really interesting to see the whole behavior science behind emotional intelligence and the do's and dont's of handling emotions at work. I often wonder how much and what kind of emotions to reveal because you want to be honest with your colleagues given that the work environment is welcoming. The professor's breakdown on the 3 types of empathy was really eye opening as well!
How about legal system is used
Proven concepts very well expressed in simple language. Nicely done, thanks.
Thanks!
What an amazing and informative piece! Thank you so much! You have a new follower! ❤
Thanks for subscribing!
Great interview, love the techniques for emotional control regulation and the meditation techniques for newcomers, appreciate you, thank you!
I believe in breathing technique , it helps me with my anxiety
same!
A fruitful conversation that was! It’s unfortunate I can only like this video once 😊
Glad you enjoyed it!
Highly educative, and recommended
Really, I enjoy watching this one, it is very useful as the father described properly regarding EI.
This is GOLD!!!
thanks!
Have been waiting for this! Superb learning!
Hope you enjoyed it!
Con mucho respeto en español . Es positivo las conferencias de Inteligencia Emocional
Outstanding interview. Thank you.
thanks!
Emotional intelligence is applied very well by people who wants to get ahead in compamies. Couple this with their sefish streak and they will come across as nasty. I have seen this behaviour depending on who they talk to. Higher up then them - two faced and always accommodating. Lower than them - condescending and relentless in their approach. It is the state of many companies which only cares about money. That's why I personally enjoy working for smaller companies.
WOAAH !! You threw some really good questions
Sometimes ego presents its self as a easy way out, and will put up blocks and barriers to resistance of change
Absolutely
My ego is t2000
Thank you for this wonderful video
Hey Daniel, I'm new to your subscription. I can see you have made a lot of videos; very impressed by the high quality. Could you please point me to the ones that may help us to manage the emotions during a change cycle in the change management? Many thanks. Best regards, Aria
Some very important messages here. Thank you.
You're very welcome
Sounds just like the expectations of what men and women expect in relationships these days. I'm starting to notice there's a lot of people in this world that just are evil as f***! Others just need some healing and don't know what they do others have just been hurt so they're going through that painful ending, survival mode, kind of a ebitter b**** phase, a f****** emotional rollercoaster! More times than not people don't know how to identify the emotions they are feeling. Which can have a detrimental effect on relationships and heights negative emotions. So most are alone not dating or traumatized but automatically expected to have it all together, emotionally intelligent, street smart, be a mind reader that auto knows what the other is going through without communication.
New here glad I came across your channel and this video.
Thank you!
Powerful talk.
Thank you!
Thanks. Fun and practical. ❤❤❤
Glad you liked
Excellent lesson on EQ, thank you for such great insights
Thanks
Many thanks. Extremely helpful. 😍
my pleasure!
totally agree it is in your blood
Expert, amazing information. Thanks 🙏
Thank you for stopping by:)
Very instructive❤ I will get a copy of your book
Please do!
This video is very informative and interesting!
Superb questions asked.
thank you!
I would love to talk with Dr. Goleman. I have 60 years of toxic, narcissistic and abuse casebook experiences and stories to share.
•mange inner life first ,then lead the other.
•i care about you.
•naming the emotions.( Iamm happy ,iam sad, angry...
• what I feel will move to the other so don't fake it.
• i am doing what is the most important for a long term _ self management.
Solutions:
1) breath
2) name the emotions
Great explanation of IQ☯️EQ!
A leader should be honest.
Because many of us also pick up on bodylanguage.
You may put a fake smile on your face...,but your bodylanguage usually will tell the truth.
Or maybe that is just how I read people.
Dont lie. Cause I will know.🙂
tHIS IS POWERFUL. would love to connect.
Great interview !!
wonderful listening
20:38 summed it up well
The pinging thoughts are great. If you listen, you will see that it is reminding you of things you need to do, unresolved fears, things that bother you because our inner self is the best tool for sharing with us what our issues are. So we can use it as such.Yaayyyy... US: "What's wrong with me?" YOURSELF:
"Chilllld let me tell you." Lol😅. I have found that writing the thoughts down allow me to get them out of my mind WITHOUT dismissing them. I tell myself that this is important I will come back to it when I have time to deal with it. Then I set a time to do so.That way my inner self is not worried about forgetting or it not be handled thus, causing anxiety. Now with thoughts released, charted and anxiety at bay, the mind becomes clear, peaceful and quiet. -Hope this helps...The Bible gave me this skill and it really has worked. I used to worry like crazy but now not at all. People say they think I smile when I sleep lol 😅! I do have joy and in the midst of weird, abnormal time, I have a true peace. The world can literally be falling and of course there is initial surprise but ultimately, I find peace and am able to maintain in it as I rest in clear thought with answers. "They that keep their minds stayed on Christ will find themselves in perfect peace", is a quote from the Bible. I honestly have found this to be true. Love you guys thanks for sharing and showing us how to handle our thoughts and feelings about them😅
Great podcast 🎉
Very Ethical Intuitive/Intentional Management
Thank you
That's why the queen and royal family never share emotion.
Our presidents however play on ours.
At the end. Goldman made a mistake; he said name if podcast wrong. it isn’t SINGULAR but PLURAL.HE SAID: first person SINGULAR emotional intelligence and beyond THE RIGHT PODCAST IS first person PLURAL emotional intelligence and beyond
Thanks so much !!
I think Daniel goleman sir is saying about pranayam
Excellent information
Glad it was helpful!
Hello! Jacob is there any way to ask Daniel or someone on his team about the study on the global manufacturer about engineers, i would like to usa that information on a paper but i need the full reference please!!!🙏🙏🙌
Sadly it’s not something I can help with. Try his website
Devastating memories of treatment at MRH.
loved this video..💕
Excellent🎉🎉🎉
INTERESETING
Thanks!
My pleasure!!
Leader that have high EQ, Marcus Aurelius for sure.
Legend!
donde escuentro los videos traducidos al español? gracias
I like your book: emotional Intelligence and fokus, father. 😂
Please correct the subtitle from ' resident 'leader to 'resonant' leader (47 min)
Brian control power se brain torcher kiya ja raha hai pls help me kolhapur maharastra India
50:25 Isn’t the Podcast named First Person Plural ?
Where do I download mp3 version of this for to go listening?
I could rip this video to audio in 2 seconds. I have TB's of data, cause i download what i want, when i want, and don't ask people how, i find out how, and then do it, its called personal agency.
Protip on laptop or PC: Jdownloader2 is all u need. Batch rip any video, audio too. Android, i wouldnt know cause its an inferior OS, only good for small things
Where does codependency fit into emotional intelligence? I feel it is not my job to try to decifer someone's emotional state and definitely NOT my job to manage someone else's emotions.
No it is your job, as someone who chooses to remain living within a society. That's a choice. You could go out and live off the land alone in a hole in the forest.
If you choose to continue living in a society, then understanding the basic emotional states of the people you literally surrounded by for forty plus hours a week, and on TOP of that choose to be in a leadership position, it is literally your duty to do so.
That sounds like a CPU bottleneck issue
Where are all the links?
26:50 - Emotional management
Hooo I like this
Question to help: How could people with HIGH IQ and have low EQ manage the balance between the two? What are the best methods to increase EQ?
seretonin
What does an emotional intelligent girlfriend look like? Boyfriend? Parent?
Managing Emotions in the S /@ ve economy
Why should I have to controle my emotions when some asshole hurts me? I have to suppress my emotions for them? I just walk away. I was born with emotions and some were just not so screw them.
Same exact continie
How could happen high IQ and low in performances
So you can’t get mad 😡 at stupid people? Or when you get attacked personally you have to smile 😊. I think the intelligence is not breaking there face