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Mark Rosenfeld yes actually. I have a question for you though. I think I might be a rebound but I’m not sure. We’ve only been talking for two weeks or a week and a half but he’s already shown three out of ten of these signs. Should I be worried?
So when he made an entire ALBUM of us in Facebok after dating for a month, I did find it a little too fast... thought that he could be already in love with me though. Since we've been friends for years, it never crossed my mind that he would just treat me as a rebound... Poor naive me hahah I went through almost every sign you mentioned in both videos with him! His ex got jealous of us and came back for him... and then he confessed me he still had feelings for her and even thought on getting back with her (I'm pretty sure they're together already). He even wanted us to continue being friends!! Wtf?
Wish I had seen this earlier. I’m still angry. I met and dated a guy for 3 months. He chased me so hard, texting me all the time and wanting to hang out every day! I thought he was smitten, regardless I was being cautious and taking it slowly, I reigned it in a lot and kept it very casual for the first 6 weeks or so. I knew he’d broken up with his ex a few months ago from when we met and he seemed ok about. And then after spending quite a bit of time together I started to develop feelings for him he pulled away and when I probed, he said he’s not over his ex. He wanted to keep seeing me but as a friend. Fucking immature assholes... I’m so sick of emotionally stupid men.
Ahh that sucks Eboli - it does happen sometimes. That overly zealous chasing can actually be a big warning sign and one of the reasons why it's so important to be on your own timeline. Sounds like you did that. Atleast you didn't spend too long with him xx
completely agree....I mean this when i say it..every single thing you said was spot on..i mean WOW!!!Every single thing you said happened..word for word...!!!!
Same here. We dated for 8months giving him ample time for him to change his mind of getting back to his ex gf. But he promised me he would never go back to her because of their toxic relationship. Toxic in a sense that they always fight and argue because she's a party girl, whenever he's away for work/school she's with other random guys and got back to him. She did it over and over again which made him gave up to her. So, we continued our healthy relationship (official) for 1 year and 1 month. He promised me everything that he will love me forever, that he will never hurt me, that he will marry me I am perfect for him, that I am an opposite of his ex, that I am a wife material which is a fact, etc. He even introduced me to his family and they like me so much to be his gf. And there it goes. just 3 weeks ago, he broke up with me and went back to his ex. Not just that he wanted to go back to her but she wanted also to take him back. And I am here right now feeling hurt, disrespected, embarrassed, etc.
I just recently went through this . I had a feeling I was a rebound and I ended things after a couple of months . 3 days after we broke up he went back to his ex wife . I waited 4 years after divorce to date he waited a month . From now on if a guy hasn’t been divorced at least 1 year or single for 6 months to a year I won’t be dating him .
Great video! You're right on the "Mark" with these 5 signs lol! (Pun intended.) I've gone through this recently and found out he was talking with the ex. I said hasta la vista. I'm nobody's second choice!
Truly love your videos! I saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them. When he broke up with me... He told me he thought I could make him happy... in other words... he thought I could help him get over his ex. Ugh
So when he made an entire ALBUM of us in Facebok after dating for a month, I did find it a little too fast... thought that he could be already in love with me though. Since we've been friends for years, it never crossed my mind that he would just treat me as a rebound... Poor naive me hahah I went through almost every sign you mentioned in both videos with him! His ex got jealous of us and came back for him... and then he confessed me he still had feelings for her and even thought on getting back with her (I'm pretty sure they're together already). He even wanted us to continue being friends!! Wtf?
My ex did that Facebook official thing when he rebounded. We had been over for like 2 weeks when suddenly he's "in a relationship" according to social media and he's showing her off like crazy and trying to make sure I see how he has a new girl now and how he's "so happy" (which he definitely wasn't). I could easily see trough this act of his and knew it was all just for show and none of it was real, but still it hurt like hell. I felt bad for the other girl too, I don't know if she knew he was still going after me at the same time. I hate when people use other people for their own selfish needs and play with someone else's feelings.
That's really fucked. Eugh. Shows the kind of man he was. Poor girl. Though perhaps she should have known better too. Hopefully they both learned from it... sounds like you were definitely the strongest person in this situation allinonet
Not waiting for him to commit as a potential boyfriend. I have been very deeply into self development and the pace is actually very fast. I know I am getting closer and closer to finding the right guy. Change takes time. It is a very hard work. Self esteem first. Thanks for the experience. Thanks for the lesson 🙏🏻
hi mark, i agree with you. my ex is having a fling right away after 8 days of our breakup. he was like telling the girl he would fly to poland to come see her. i think he was recreating our love story as he flew accross the country ( im from the ph) to see me and invested so much. i was shocked he is willing to fly to poland when he dont know about this fling of his. he only knew her for 2 weeks and he is like rushing already to go fly and see her. it took us 5 months before even doing that. i had a gut feeling it was a rebound. you dont heal in 8 days.
Very bad. Haha and he keeps blocking and unblocking me on whatsapp. He actually messaged me last january 23 but he deleted it and i never got them as i have uninstalled it. When i did reinstall it wont encrypt anymore as he deleted the message already. I asked him but he denied about it . Why is he doing this?
Because he's rebounding like no man has ever rebounded. Understand your breakup sent him into a tailspin and it's something he needs to work through. It's not your job to help him at all with that btw - that will only make it worse for him and leave him more reliant on you. Ge's on his own now, and it's something he needs to work through for himself. You might just get some of the crazy side effects hurled your way as he goes :)
Oh god, i dont like the sound of that. Lmao. He wanted that breakup more than me. Maybe he did not know it would hurt him that bad? Oh well. I think he is in denial up to this day. Ill just leave him alone with his rebound girl. Thank you for answering me Mark. I JUST SUBSCRIBED to your channel. Youre gorgeous by the way ;)
Thanks Marnelli. Breakups often hurt men a HELL of a lot more than they think. Ahaha, it's ok, you're not obligated to reply. You can always be very respectful and send a nice text ending with "Btw, this is the last time you'll be hearing from me for a while. All the best", then start 30-90 days no contact from there.
3 years separated, no dating, he always txt me try to have the most time together, my self 4 month single after 22 years, stars to see each other I think he's my rebound, Treat me totally different for my ex Different cultures my is the classic Hispanic, my date old school Italian Please a lot, and I follow your videos Mark😊 and advice, he's still asking me what happen in the sexy dream 😂😜
These man is hard to find bc if they feel break down so much that passes the memories with the ex on her then he really put his heart in the passed relationship very strong. if I feel n see these few sign Ill move on after talking to him. Hope, if that day comes I can still be friends with him than a replacement. Thanks for sharing Mark!
My pleasure Tina. It's definitely tough for both men and women after a breakup, but men especially seem to struggle with the lack of companionship which can lead to this rebounding behaviour.
if one day i met a man is rebounding, ill introduce about u to help him get out. i dont mind meaning one, i mind peopke not happy on something should of left them longtime ago.
When he left me without a reason, I was heartbroken. It's been 6 weeks ago. I did pretty fine, (I watched your break-up video's), and knowing I did all the best I could do and he will def. regret it one day leaving a high value women. But yesterday I realized I may be his rebound. I feel soooo stupid. And It's like the hartbreak is at the beginning just even harder. I feel so used and like he will never regret the pain he put me trough. How can I deal with this.
Pretty sure I'm a rebound and this confirms it,but it's gone far too far for me to walk away. I can't say no to this man. Smh. Didn't date anyone for over 4 yrs after my hubby passed,and I finally let guard down to be the rebound:(
Hi,Mark,I wish I saw this video when it was realised... I managed to develop feelings to someone who nearly ticks it all in your list. All started amazingly,was a great connection and chemistry, common hobbies and interests.. then I found out he had intimate time with his ex (I haven't had yet-I wanted to build-up an emotional bond first- it was 6 weeks and he was actually really pushing it ), and then I just told him he should make decision because i'm not going to be his second best. Then he got back to her, saying he might be doing wrong decision, but that's how he feels. One month later, he gets back at me,asking how i'm doing and asking to return something that belong to him. I just blocked him completely. He managed to get through to me through my mother. I met him,i gave his belonging back to him and he wanted to talk. he was saying how badly this girl treats him,how physically and emotionally abusive she is, how unhappy he is,how in 3 years relationship he was never good enough to her and was never able to open. and obviously how much better I treated him and how he made wrong decision. then I asked if he's still with her.he didn't deny-but he said shes slapping his face in front of other people and she was nearly to go back home with another guy, goes away on holiday and doesn't even contact him-for me it doesn't look like she cares about him no more). He said needs to sort his life out and needs someone to tell him its messed up. He wants me to unblock him on all social media and keep in touch with him. he says he wants to come fresh and clean and start again. He tried to kiss me as well,but I resisted. now hes silent for 3 days since we met. What does that mean?I don't want to be his rebound, i don't want him to run to me only when hes having issues with his ex. I genuinely have deep feelings for him,I feel like he could be the one (since it's 2nd time in my whole life I actually have feelings for someone) and I just don't know how to act. Should I stay quiet and wait until he contacts me? Should I just drop a casual line?or ask how he is feeling?since he's been soo blue.
Hey Bamboochacha - unfortunately there's a bit too much going on here at this point for me to wrap my head around and give you decent advice. If you would like to book in to chat about this more you can email mark@makehimyours.com.au and organise a time for a skype (Just FYI there is a cost to doing this). Mark
Aha yup I definitely was a rebound. First relationship in 21 years...and I end up rebounded. He dumped me a month ago and I found out yesterday he was talking to his ex again. Just wanted to make sure and didn't want to feel like I was rebound and watched both of these videos. Every one of these signs...I wish I watched this beforehand.
Hey Mark, thanks for the video. I just met a great guy but he mentioned he just got out of a 7 year relationship earlier this year (which is less than 2 months ago). He's already told me he's not looking for a serious relationship and that he still thinks about his ex a lot but knows she's not the ONE for him. We have a lot of chemistry, but I know that what I'm looking for is a serious relationship. How can I see him casually without being used as a comforting feminine presence or developing more serious feelings for him? I'd like to give it a chance to see if it could go somewhere, but at the same time don't want to get my heart broken if he's never going to want to commit to a serious relationship.
Very smart and very wise kbulleman4 - thanks for writing in. I'd be open and honest with him about it, and when he says he's 'not looking for a serious relationship' say that you think that's very fair, given his situation, and agree that's a good idea for him. Mention that you're happy to keep seeing him and enjoy his company enormously, but that you're also going to look after yourself and make sure you don't see each other toooo often so you can both have healthy space and you don't develop too many feelings. I'd be prioritising other things and not seeing him more than 1-2x a week, MAX. Also keep going on dates with other men to keep your perspective fresh. I explain that a bit in this video: th-cam.com/video/_ePn-s5PrmE/w-d-xo.html If he's openly admitting to thinking of his ex and is fresh out of a 7 year, that very honest of him (awesome) but also puts him in a major major potential for rebound, especially if his breakup came suddenly or was her doing.
I haven't observed any of these 10 signs that you talked about in your 2 videos. But I still have a gut feeling that he is hung up on his ex if he brings her up in random conversations out of nowhere. "She also said this." "She also used to have the same condition." "She also had this same physical feature as you do" etc. And when I hinted this thing to him that he still might be stuck up in his past, then he becomes defensive within seconds that this is not the case. He doesn't miss the person but the feelings of being in love in general. Now I don't know what does all this means. Help me out please!
Are you sure he doesn't show any of them? For mine there's 2-3 of them there, and the fact he gets defensive on mention of her would be another. How long ago did they break up? Are you his official girlfriend? How did his breakup happen? I'd be quite concerned Simran xx
Mark Rosenfeld No, he doesn't get defensive about her and neither does he complain about her at all. Rather he gets defensive when I tell him that he is still hung up on her and then he tries to prove me wrong. He feels that it was an experience that he will cherish forever but he doesn't want the person back. But I don't get the part when he brings her up in the most random parts of our conversation and sometimes compare me with her casually to show the similarities or the differences. And no, I am not his girlfriend but we both really like each other and we are still building upon it to see where it goes. But I get scared of being a rebound since I have been one in the past and that experience was terrible for me.
Yeh there's a few factors at play here we'd need to discuss Simran. It'd be great to talk to you in more detail about this over Skype and help you out personally :) mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that (FYI there is a charge for that).
Beware of guys who compare you to their exes. The guy I was dating for 5 months did this to me, he would come up with suggestions how I should change my appearance, gain a weight etc. He was emotionally distant as well, I knew it, my gut was telling me he was shady, then I confronted him and he confirmed. Hes back with her, trying to reconnect
I was just seeing but I just realized I'm a rebounder, I go from relationship to relationship, I don't bring up my ex but I always think they are the one
Hi Mark. I am currently 6 months out of a 13 year relationship. I am newly seeing a guy I've known for many years. He has just ended his 4 year relationship 1 month ago. Our friendship has recently become intimate now that we are both finally available at the same time. His actions ooze that he is smitten with me and has confessed his growing feelings and bond with me. I told him before we got intimate that I was not interested in a rebound or FWB situation. He told me he views me so much more but that he wants to take things slow. I appreciate that...but here's where it gets confusing to me: He has been posting all kinds of love quotes and poems ECT on social media since we've been seeing eachother. His brother found this odd coming from a single man and asked if he was in love again? My companions response was hell no....Im staying single, my heart is elsewhere....definately not in love. So do I listen to his social media response or the polar opposite physical and verbal responses I'm getting from him? How to proceed??
I've been a rebound twice last year for two different guys who were both "in the process of a divorce". These were the only two guys i actually liked from all of the others i had met and so I tried building relationships with them (there was two months gap between) which ended because they both never wanted to commit. I went through a lot of pain, which I'm not even over till now. And about a month ago I meet another guy I finally like, who, guess what, is "in a process of a divorce". Mark, why is this happening to me? Why do I keep attracting these situations? I am definitely not going for this third guy i just met, but i want to deal with this scenario once and for all. I would really really appreciate your advice. And thank you for your amazing videos.
Idkkk I met my boyfriend 1 month after he broke up with his ex.. we didn't date until 1 year later but we acted so close and it was obvious we liked each other.. I felt like a rebound but it's been 1 and half year now since we are oficialy dating.. BUT IDK it took him like a year to get over her or that's what I think.. sometimes I still wonder
Hi, Mark! Love your videos, you must be my favourite relationship coach (and I've been through a lot of them here on youtube), you always manage to make me feel better and I love to hear you talk. I wanted to ask your opinion: My 1 year relationship ex broke up with me almost a month ago and when he did it, he said he was good on his own, feeling better, that he was very sorry, that he wanted to stay friends and that he wanted to set up a date so we could meet up and exchange our belongings (that we left at each other's places). In the first days he showed to be available to talk friendly, but after that, and until now, he never contacted me and when we talk he's distant (sinse the break up I never talked about the relationship nor of any kind of "heavy" subjects, and only contacted him twice). For some reason he's been avoiding contacting me for the exchange of our belongings (to which he agreed to do, because he was away on vacation and was supposed to warn me when he got back) while I know he's back in town for at least two weeks (didn't say a word) and he's frequentely hanging out with a (now close) female friend of his (since the first day we broke up even though they didn't hangout often when we were together) and in the last few days they seem to be more friendly than before (something they choose not to hide on instagram - that's how I know all this). So, what really bugs me it's not the fact that he can be in (or beeing heading to) a relationship with this friend, it's why he doesn't give my stuff back when he initially was the one to show interest in doing so? In the videos he seems happy and while breaking up he said he didn't want to lose my friendship because I'm "super inteligent and interesting", so why do you think he's avoiding me and dellaying a meeting that eventually has to happen and that supposedly both of us would want to get it over with? I'm sorry if it's too long! Keep up the good work, I'll be seeing you :) PS: Maybe this information is relevant I was his first long term relationship and altough we had some fights (mostly due to insecurities of mine), we had awesome chemestry, passion a huge bunch of things in common and the break up was messy, he told me that he didn't feel the same way about me for a while, he was hoping it was just a phase but with his anxiety problems (that got more serious in the last week of the relationship) he thought it was better to break up than to drag it further. It was a surprise for me, I cried a lot, asked questions, but accepted it, he cried a lot (never had seen him cry before) in a hysterical way, he even had and anxiety attack on the spot and past out for a few seconds. He seemed so confused that I suggested a break instead. He seemed relieved and accepted it and even told me that he hoped that it would help him regain his feelings. Two weeks later he broke up with me (again) via text message, and told me the things I said in the beggining and in a brief text I accepted it, again, didn't question it, told him I was feeling better too and thanked him.
I swear my ex did all these he told me straight up he's always in relationships and it did turn my stomach a little bit but I'm like that doesn't mean anything
Hi Mark I love your videos, they are all accurate! I decided to be in a rebound relationship because the guy used to look for me a long time before he properly break up, I did it just to see what could happened. We both agreed on let it flow, had sex, spend new years eve together and planned a few trips together as well, I started getting excited and suddenly he was not sure of being able to travel with me (work stuff) and Also happened he didn't text me for a couple of days before the dates we planned, (I always needed to confirm) so I started to get upset about it and I let him know it wont work like that, I'm not sure i did right, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years and it seems I always make a mistake, did I act wrong?
Hey Mark, I just watched you video and I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I recently met a man who broke up with his wife of 10 years, 5 months ago. Then he asked me out and we have enjoyed each others company. He seems really honest about what led him to break up with her, his own faults in past relationships, etc.. he does complain about her a bit at times; and I think he still holds strong feelings for her, even if he said that we would never go back to her. The last thing I want to be is on the rebound, because he seems like an honest guy and we get along great. Should we stay just friends? Or just take things really slow instead?
Hi, Mark! I've been dating a guy for 3 months, and recently I realized he was stuck in his previous relationship (they broke up 2 months before we meet), and probably was rebounding. We were spending great times together, but when I opened to him I wanted a real relationship, he backed. So, I decided to get out of his life due to make him think about what he wants. But I`m not sure if I did the right thing. Should I have waited more to see how things go? Or should I keep the distance from now on? It's been 4 days I stopped answering his messages (not comfortable at all with that).
Thanks for messaging Grazi - definitely sounds like you did the right thing :) What did he do that led you to believe he was still stuck in his previous relationship?
Thanks for answering! Well, he always talked about his previous relationship (wich was long, with lots of investiments) with anger and bitterness, like it was still fresh in his mind, not like something what was already gone and healed. And when I told him my suspicions, he just agreed. He feels panic in being alone, the reason for always being in some kind of relationship. That`s why I think I was a rebound, mostly. We are apart now for my suggestion, but I'm not sure what to do now, because I like him, and would like to come back.
Jesus - you definitely x 100 did the right thing!!! He's in no mental state to be in a relationship right now. Honesty - it would be painful and totally unsatisfying for you. Give him 3-6 months before you consider him again (men get out of these emotions veeeeery slowly). If he's being insistent right now, let him know that once the drama has died down, even in a couple of weeks, you'd consider being friends, but that you want him to take a lot of time for himself before you'd consider moving forward with him again. That's my thoughts - anything else is going to be very painful and difficult for you, and ultimately end badly.
Also be aware he may not want to do that (be on his own fully). Men in this situation running from emotions tend to jump from rebound to rebound because of that deep desire for companionship now they don't have a girlfriend... so just a heads up that could happen. Don't be shocked if he slingshots to another girl in a month. While it will hurt, remember that if he does that it's extremely unlikely to be a 'real' relationship, and one he'll almost certainly bounce out of, the way he did with you, in a couple of months time. I hope it doesn't happen, just giving you the heads up that if you're strong in this situation, it might xx
Please help, I need advice. So I recently met this guy and we hung out while he had a girlfriend, and we both had feelings for each other (although he never cheated). After a few weeks, he broke up with her and a few weeks after their break up we hooked up, and now idk what we are. He says he doesn't want a relationship yet because he's been in one for like three years, and he wants some time to himself, but if he could be in one, it would be with me. He still hangs out with his ex all the time as friends, even though he dumped her. When they hang out he ignores my texts. Does this make me a rebound? We always hang out, get food, fuck and do things that people in relationships do but I'm scared he would get back with her if he could. I also feel like I'm not as good at things as she was. Advice?!?!
Eeeesh Brooklyn. This doesn't read well. It's not stinging of *classic* rebound because he's not technically away from her/missing her companionship (which is usually the driving force behind a rebound) BUT he is still spending time with her and, by the sounds of it there is no way at all he's likely committing to you anytime soon (it would be totally unhealthy if he did with her still around this soon). Really, it's too soon for him to be rebounding because he hasn't even been out of his relationship emotionally TOO miss her (they're still hanging out, and have been since they broke up, right?). That fallout (where he emotionally misses her companionship) is still to come. Sounds like he wanted out of his relationship because he was bored etc... (classic guy probably younger I'm guessing and starting to get scared of full on commitment?), wanted you, sort of got you, now doesn't want to let go of the emotionally hard part of the breakup (disconnecting with his GF of 3 years emotionally) and has got himself stuck in the middle leaving you hanging. Particularly if he hasn't gone NC with his GF for a good 60 days minimum, I wouldn't advise putting your heart into this one.
He himself said he won't go back to her even if she came back so what does that mean?? Can somebody explain me??? And he still has group photo with his friends in which there is his ex so what should i do about this i am confused??
Hey! Thank you for this amazing video. I have one quick question for you - My ex (he msgd me just few days back that he wants to end our relationship.) He still can't get over his ex (2 years back his ex had dumped him for someone else and his ex is now happy with that other person. My boyfriend and his ex were in a serious relationship for 4-5 years). My ex had proposed me after three months of his break up. Initially everything was great but then he started saying that he cannot love anyone else or marry anyone else. When he was drunk or most of the times when we were on the verge of breaking up he used to say that he loves me but his mind does not let him accept it. He used to say that he cannot see me with anyone but just few days back he said that he still loves his ex and that he does not love me and that we don't have a future together. Yesterday night he uploaded a picture on Instagram which said "You can't fall out of real love. Even if you're not with them anymore, the love stays." Clearly he meant it for the love he has for his ex. But I feel he loves me. I'm sure of it. But I don't know what will make him move on from his ex and make him realize that he loves me and wants me. I hope I wasn't his rebound. Two days back I spoke to him. I have started 30 day no contact period after that. I'll just wish him on his birthday on 24th of this month. Only if I knew what could I do to make him realize his love for me and not for his ex.
Hey M P. I'll just put it to you straight. This guy is SO hung up on his ex. He needs a lot longer than 30 days NC to be a reasonable option for you. You're best off getting away and saving your heart. x
Dear Mark Rosenfeld, the * devorced * man does show ME off on social- media. I NOTICE he is using me as a way to get back on the WOMAN who *** WAS *** his wife. IF she wants him back in her life, he would definitely leave me for her. Now that I KNOW I am his REBOUND woman, I AM OUT of HIS life wishing him happyness, wealth and Health.
Well, generally speaking (on average) the emotional fallout will be bigger for him than for her, though that's not always the case. How far out are we talking? They'll both likely need time before starting something new.
What about if he speaks about her all the time in a positive light? And would it still be a rebound if it’s been a year since they were last in contact?
I just found out my ex was couple with his colleagues now for Two month, we're already break up for 5 month, but my ex is together with his colleagues when we was breaking up three months, my ex was hiding his new girlfriend to me, I'm just found out currently, but he never have been stop texting me even he got girlfriend when i'm Don 't know his girlfriend existed, and he still come to see me even he had girlfriend , they are staying in same place, studying same uni before ,studying same course, and working a same job ,same team now and same background , they will see each other everyday, I'm in long distance with him now, but my ex still texting me regularly, I'm just scared they got a lot of same topic that i didn't have it will increase their love feeling become a true relationship and my ex seems think she is a good personality girl and more suit him than me , what should i do now , am i hopeless ,and he will come to my place attend my convo next week, what should i do .
My ex an i broke up after a 3 year relationship. We are currently going trough a no contact period. He got in a relationship less than a month after we broke and she is nothing like me or nothing like his type. The only thing is that he is not telling her that it's over between us ( I know this because we have a mutual friend). I want to know if he is still holding on to the idea of us getting back together or he is avoiding talking about me because he doesn't want to ruin what they have?
Sucks to hear Ming. This is dodgy from him on so many levels. Poor girl. The honest answer Ming is it doesn't matter. More likely, he's running from the fact he deep down knows he's probably rebounding and doesn't want to scare off his new companion and be left alone again, but again, it doesn't matter. This is your time to focus on yourself. He has to go through his silly rebound and they'll almost certainly break up in the next 6 months, at which time his true intentions will become clear. What he's doing can't be your focus right now. Build you, get in a great headspace, and if he does come back, you'll be able to see everything in the right way to make the best decision from the best place.
Can it still be a rebound if it’s been a year later but he kept contact w his ex randomly throughout the year of them being over and in the first couple months of the new girl and him dating?
That was the old me, hopping from one disaster to the next with more cloudy emotions, another habit I've kicked to the curb. I feel I'm finally understanding myself better with each passing day.
i asked my ex boyfriend his 29 and he has a female friend 19 i wanna believe its only friend but i have a feeling he likes this female fren more than friend me n him is 6 yrs togther in relationship i asked him if he likes more dan a friend i dnt know he said i dnt get it
Bcoz he ask me to wait for him n he kinda joke oh well see if it didnt work ill go back to u wthek is that i love him but i dont know whats the truth n lies
This sounds exactly like who I'm dating! 😮 He downplays everything and is so selfish! Most importantly, I've always felt secondary to his ex wife and he doesn't want me to meet his kid! Not even going to mention how sketchy he is on social media.I should have aborted months ago!
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Mark Rosenfeld yes actually. I have a question for you though. I think I might be a rebound but I’m not sure. We’ve only been talking for two weeks or a week and a half but he’s already shown three out of ten of these signs. Should I be worried?
So when he made an entire ALBUM of us in Facebok after dating for a month, I did find it a little too fast... thought that he could be already in love with me though. Since we've been friends for years, it never crossed my mind that he would just treat me as a rebound... Poor naive me hahah I went through almost every sign you mentioned in both videos with him! His ex got jealous of us and came back for him... and then he confessed me he still had feelings for her and even thought on getting back with her (I'm pretty sure they're together already). He even wanted us to continue being friends!! Wtf?
Wish I had seen this earlier. I’m still angry. I met and dated a guy for 3 months. He chased me so hard, texting me all the time and wanting to hang out every day! I thought he was smitten, regardless I was being cautious and taking it slowly, I reigned it in a lot and kept it very casual for the first 6 weeks or so. I knew he’d broken up with his ex a few months ago from when we met and he seemed ok about. And then after spending quite a bit of time together I started to develop feelings for him he pulled away and when I probed, he said he’s not over his ex. He wanted to keep seeing me but as a friend. Fucking immature assholes... I’m so sick of emotionally stupid men.
Ahh that sucks Eboli - it does happen sometimes. That overly zealous chasing can actually be a big warning sign and one of the reasons why it's so important to be on your own timeline. Sounds like you did that. Atleast you didn't spend too long with him xx
@@Markrosenfeld Yes, I spent more than a year with mine and I accepted that I will never be enough. It is sad.
Damn, were same in the situation rn... FRIENDS????? wtf
So true , I totally second you.
Amen sista!🙌
Story of my 2017. All these signs are spot on. I broke it off last week. He can have his cheating ex back.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet faith. Sorry to hear but I think it worked out for the best
completely agree....I mean this when i say it..every single thing you said was spot on..i mean WOW!!!Every single thing you said happened..word for word...!!!!
faith umukoro You are not alone. Sorry but wish for you to find better!
Same here. We dated for 8months giving him ample time for him to change his mind of getting back to his ex gf. But he promised me he would never go back to her because of their toxic relationship. Toxic in a sense that they always fight and argue because she's a party girl, whenever he's away for work/school she's with other random guys and got back to him. She did it over and over again which made him gave up to her. So, we continued our healthy relationship (official) for 1 year and 1 month. He promised me everything that he will love me forever, that he will never hurt me, that he will marry me I am perfect for him, that I am an opposite of his ex, that I am a wife material which is a fact, etc. He even introduced me to his family and they like me so much to be his gf. And there it goes. just 3 weeks ago, he broke up with me and went back to his ex. Not just that he wanted to go back to her but she wanted also to take him back. And I am here right now feeling hurt, disrespected, embarrassed, etc.
myla saldasal wow spert about that
Wow this definitely hit home. I always wondered why he continuously say he wants a relationship yet he's so distance.
Really glad you got something out of it Lece Island - thanks for watching and I hope it helps you
OOOOOHHHHHH after watching these 10 signs, I'm the rebound. Great. With the exception of him showing me off on fb
That sucks Sabrena. Still... atleast you know now and can move on
Ditto. :( I didn't date 4 yrs after my hubby died. Finally fall for someone and I'm a rebound,this is going to sting when it goes down
@@Love_life_always here too.
I just recently went through this . I had a feeling I was a rebound and I ended things after a couple of months . 3 days after we broke up he went back to his ex wife . I waited 4 years after divorce to date he waited a month . From now on if a guy hasn’t been divorced at least 1 year or single for 6 months to a year I won’t be dating him .
Yeh Jennifer - super powerful lesson. Glad you got away from your toxic situation x
Great video! You're right on the "Mark" with these 5 signs lol! (Pun intended.) I've gone through this recently and found out he was talking with the ex. I said hasta la vista. I'm nobody's second choice!
Hahaha - thanks Rovan!
Oh really? So sorry to hear. Glad you got away from it though :) Absolutely - 100% agree.
Truly love your videos! I saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them. When he broke up with me...
He told me he thought I could make him happy... in other words... he thought I could help him get over his ex. Ugh
Thanks Dom - glad you enjoy my content! Mark xx
So when he made an entire ALBUM of us in Facebok after dating for a month, I did find it a little too fast... thought that he could be already in love with me though. Since we've been friends for years, it never crossed my mind that he would just treat me as a rebound... Poor naive me hahah I went through almost every sign you mentioned in both videos with him! His ex got jealous of us and came back for him... and then he confessed me he still had feelings for her and even thought on getting back with her (I'm pretty sure they're together already). He even wanted us to continue being friends!! Wtf?
I was a rebound for sure. Take it as a lesson. 7 months on still kinda hurts but the feelings are fading.
So sorry to hear that, K W. Give yourself enough time to heal. Take care of yourself. x
I guess I was a rebound even though he cried when I left him
That last point scared the hell out of me 😭
My ex did that Facebook official thing when he rebounded. We had been over for like 2 weeks when suddenly he's "in a relationship" according to social media and he's showing her off like crazy and trying to make sure I see how he has a new girl now and how he's "so happy" (which he definitely wasn't). I could easily see trough this act of his and knew it was all just for show and none of it was real, but still it hurt like hell. I felt bad for the other girl too, I don't know if she knew he was still going after me at the same time. I hate when people use other people for their own selfish needs and play with someone else's feelings.
That's really fucked. Eugh. Shows the kind of man he was. Poor girl. Though perhaps she should have known better too. Hopefully they both learned from it... sounds like you were definitely the strongest person in this situation allinonet
Did they end up breaking up?
Yup #1 is what has me seeking out these videos. He complains about her to me all the time even after I said I didn’t want to talk about her.
Not waiting for him to commit as a potential boyfriend. I have been very deeply into self development and the pace is actually very fast. I know I am getting closer and closer to finding the right guy.
Change takes time. It is a very hard work. Self esteem first. Thanks for the experience. Thanks for the lesson 🙏🏻
hi mark,
i agree with you. my ex is having a fling right away after 8 days of our breakup. he was like telling the girl he would fly to poland to come see her. i think he was recreating our love story as he flew accross the country ( im from the ph) to see me and invested so much. i was shocked he is willing to fly to poland when he dont know about this fling of his. he only knew her for 2 weeks and he is like rushing already to go fly and see her. it took us 5 months before even doing that. i had a gut feeling it was a rebound. you dont heal in 8 days.
Hey Marnelli - thanks for writing in. That's about as classic as I've ever heard. Wow. Gee men are bad at breakups.
Very bad. Haha and he keeps blocking and unblocking me on whatsapp. He actually messaged me last january 23 but he deleted it and i never got them as i have uninstalled it. When i did reinstall it wont encrypt anymore as he deleted the message already. I asked him but he denied about it . Why is he doing this?
Because he's rebounding like no man has ever rebounded. Understand your breakup sent him into a tailspin and it's something he needs to work through. It's not your job to help him at all with that btw - that will only make it worse for him and leave him more reliant on you. Ge's on his own now, and it's something he needs to work through for himself. You might just get some of the crazy side effects hurled your way as he goes :)
Oh god, i dont like the sound of that. Lmao. He wanted that breakup more than me. Maybe he did not know it would hurt him that bad? Oh well. I think he is in denial up to this day. Ill just leave him alone with his rebound girl. Thank you for answering me Mark. I JUST SUBSCRIBED to your channel.
Youre gorgeous by the way ;)
Thanks Marnelli.
Breakups often hurt men a HELL of a lot more than they think. Ahaha, it's ok, you're not obligated to reply. You can always be very respectful and send a nice text ending with "Btw, this is the last time you'll be hearing from me for a while. All the best", then start 30-90 days no contact from there.
Omg. Lots of the signs you said are happening.... Looks like I'm really just his rebound :(
Sucks Vin... better to know now though xx
THIS IS SO FECKING HELPFUL.
Really glad you enjoyed Rebecca!
3 years separated, no dating, he always txt me try to have the most time together, my self 4 month single after 22 years, stars to see each other I think he's my rebound,
Treat me totally different for my ex
Different cultures my is the classic Hispanic, my date old school Italian
Please a lot, and I follow your videos Mark😊 and advice, he's still asking me what happen in the sexy dream 😂😜
These man is hard to find bc if they feel break down so much that passes the memories with the ex on her then he really put his heart in the passed relationship very strong. if I feel n see these few sign Ill move on after talking to him. Hope, if that day comes I can still be friends with him than a replacement. Thanks for sharing Mark!
My pleasure Tina. It's definitely tough for both men and women after a breakup, but men especially seem to struggle with the lack of companionship which can lead to this rebounding behaviour.
if one day i met a man is rebounding, ill introduce about u to help him get out. i dont mind meaning one, i mind peopke not happy on something should of left them longtime ago.
Every word true. I changed my number and so glad I did.
Good stuff Lady - thanks for watching and commenting on my video x
When he left me without a reason, I was heartbroken. It's been 6 weeks ago. I did pretty fine, (I watched your break-up video's), and knowing I did all the best I could do and he will def. regret it one day leaving a high value women. But yesterday I realized I may be his rebound. I feel soooo stupid. And It's like the hartbreak is at the beginning just even harder. I feel so used and like he will never regret the pain he put me trough. How can I deal with this.
Pretty sure I'm a rebound and this confirms it,but it's gone far too far for me to walk away. I can't say no to this man. Smh. Didn't date anyone for over 4 yrs after my hubby passed,and I finally let guard down to be the rebound:(
Hi,Mark,I wish I saw this video when it was realised... I managed to develop feelings to someone who nearly ticks it all in your list. All started amazingly,was a great connection and chemistry, common hobbies and interests.. then I found out he had intimate time with his ex (I haven't had yet-I wanted to build-up an emotional bond first- it was 6 weeks and he was actually really pushing it ), and then I just told him he should make decision because i'm not going to be his second best. Then he got back to her, saying he might be doing wrong decision, but that's how he feels. One month later, he gets back at me,asking how i'm doing and asking to return something that belong to him. I just blocked him completely. He managed to get through to me through my mother. I met him,i gave his belonging back to him and he wanted to talk. he was saying how badly this girl treats him,how physically and emotionally abusive she is, how unhappy he is,how in 3 years relationship he was never good enough to her and was never able to open. and obviously how much better I treated him and how he made wrong decision. then I asked if he's still with her.he didn't deny-but he said shes slapping his face in front of other people and she was nearly to go back home with another guy, goes away on holiday and doesn't even contact him-for me it doesn't look like she cares about him no more). He said needs to sort his life out and needs someone to tell him its messed up. He wants me to unblock him on all social media and keep in touch with him. he says he wants to come fresh and clean and start again. He tried to kiss me as well,but I resisted. now hes silent for 3 days since we met. What does that mean?I don't want to be his rebound, i don't want him to run to me only when hes having issues with his ex. I genuinely have deep feelings for him,I feel like he could be the one (since it's 2nd time in my whole life I actually have feelings for someone) and I just don't know how to act. Should I stay quiet and wait until he contacts me? Should I just drop a casual line?or ask how he is feeling?since he's been soo blue.
Hey Bamboochacha - unfortunately there's a bit too much going on here at this point for me to wrap my head around and give you decent advice.
If you would like to book in to chat about this more you can email mark@makehimyours.com.au and organise a time for a skype (Just FYI there is a cost to doing this).
Mark
I would have needed this video SO bad a year and a half ago ^^' but it's good to know !
Better late than never Isabelle - we've all got lessons to learn and it sounds like you've now definitely learned yours :)
Yep - the hard way but I've definitely learnt haha. Lots of support all the way over from France xx
I realy feel your words.. kind of Alarm ..waking me up from nightmares... AMAZING...
Thanks are just not enough
Thanks so much for watching and commenting Suzan - really glad you enjoyed
Mark Rosenfeld 💖
In fact..... Thank you👈 and only you👈
Thank you so much for the signs 😀😀😀
Aha yup I definitely was a rebound. First relationship in 21 years...and I end up rebounded. He dumped me a month ago and I found out yesterday he was talking to his ex again. Just wanted to make sure and didn't want to feel like I was rebound and watched both of these videos. Every one of these signs...I wish I watched this beforehand.
Awesome advice....cheers ears!
Thanks R BP!
Hey Mark, thanks for the video. I just met a great guy but he mentioned he just got out of a 7 year relationship earlier this year (which is less than 2 months ago). He's already told me he's not looking for a serious relationship and that he still thinks about his ex a lot but knows she's not the ONE for him. We have a lot of chemistry, but I know that what I'm looking for is a serious relationship. How can I see him casually without being used as a comforting feminine presence or developing more serious feelings for him? I'd like to give it a chance to see if it could go somewhere, but at the same time don't want to get my heart broken if he's never going to want to commit to a serious relationship.
Very smart and very wise kbulleman4 - thanks for writing in.
I'd be open and honest with him about it, and when he says he's 'not looking for a serious relationship' say that you think that's very fair, given his situation, and agree that's a good idea for him. Mention that you're happy to keep seeing him and enjoy his company enormously, but that you're also going to look after yourself and make sure you don't see each other toooo often so you can both have healthy space and you don't develop too many feelings.
I'd be prioritising other things and not seeing him more than 1-2x a week, MAX. Also keep going on dates with other men to keep your perspective fresh. I explain that a bit in this video: th-cam.com/video/_ePn-s5PrmE/w-d-xo.html
If he's openly admitting to thinking of his ex and is fresh out of a 7 year, that very honest of him (awesome) but also puts him in a major major potential for rebound, especially if his breakup came suddenly or was her doing.
Hi Mark, i have watch both videos and all are spot on! Wish i knew about it earlier. Thanks anyway!
Heyyyy Mark I really love all your videos . It’ll be cool if you make a video about red flags in relationships too :)
Thanks for watching Phoenix Liu. That sounds great! thanks for your thoughts xx
Thank you this makes sense!
Omg.. those are all.aboit him, after 3 months I found out I was just a rebound to him. It hurt me so bad.
That's super shit Flindo :( I'm so sorry to hear. Atleast hopefully the video gave you some clarity xx
where was this video a year ago ?! :( A great topic Mark !!!
Thanks so much maka
great advice!
Thanks PrincessV
What if he has pictures of her in his phone?
Thank you Yahuah Baruk you in abundance!
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I haven't observed any of these 10 signs that you talked about in your 2 videos. But I still have a gut feeling that he is hung up on his ex if he brings her up in random conversations out of nowhere. "She also said this." "She also used to have the same condition." "She also had this same physical feature as you do" etc. And when I hinted this thing to him that he still might be stuck up in his past, then he becomes defensive within seconds that this is not the case. He doesn't miss the person but the feelings of being in love in general. Now I don't know what does all this means. Help me out please!
Are you sure he doesn't show any of them? For mine there's 2-3 of them there, and the fact he gets defensive on mention of her would be another.
How long ago did they break up? Are you his official girlfriend? How did his breakup happen? I'd be quite concerned Simran xx
Mark Rosenfeld No, he doesn't get defensive about her and neither does he complain about her at all. Rather he gets defensive when I tell him that he is still hung up on her and then he tries to prove me wrong. He feels that it was an experience that he will cherish forever but he doesn't want the person back. But I don't get the part when he brings her up in the most random parts of our conversation and sometimes compare me with her casually to show the similarities or the differences.
And no, I am not his girlfriend but we both really like each other and we are still building upon it to see where it goes. But I get scared of being a rebound since I have been one in the past and that experience was terrible for me.
Yeh there's a few factors at play here we'd need to discuss Simran. It'd be great to talk to you in more detail about this over Skype and help you out personally :) mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that (FYI there is a charge for that).
Beware of guys who compare you to their exes. The guy I was dating for 5 months did this to me, he would come up with suggestions how I should change my appearance, gain a weight etc. He was emotionally distant as well, I knew it, my gut was telling me he was shady, then I confronted him and he confirmed. Hes back with her, trying to reconnect
I was just seeing but I just realized I'm a rebounder, I go from relationship to relationship, I don't bring up my ex but I always think they are the one
Really good awareness Madison - thanks for commenting. Maybe be good to spend some time on your own and get out of your comfort zone a little?
Hi Mark. I am currently 6 months out of a 13 year relationship. I am newly seeing a guy I've known for many years. He has just ended his 4 year relationship 1 month ago. Our friendship has recently become intimate now that we are both finally available at the same time. His actions ooze that he is smitten with me and has confessed his growing feelings and bond with me. I told him before we got intimate that I was not interested in a rebound or FWB situation. He told me he views me so much more but that he wants to take things slow.
I appreciate that...but here's where it gets confusing to me: He has been posting all kinds of love quotes and poems ECT on social media since we've been seeing eachother. His brother found this odd coming from a single man and asked if he was in love again? My companions response was hell no....Im staying single, my heart is elsewhere....definately not in love.
So do I listen to his social media response or the polar opposite physical and verbal responses I'm getting from him? How to proceed??
I've been a rebound twice last year for two different guys who were both "in the process of a divorce". These were the only two guys i actually liked from all of the others i had met and so I tried building relationships with them (there was two months gap between) which ended because they both never wanted to commit. I went through a lot of pain, which I'm not even over till now. And about a month ago I meet another guy I finally like, who, guess what, is "in a process of a divorce". Mark, why is this happening to me? Why do I keep attracting these situations? I am definitely not going for this third guy i just met, but i want to deal with this scenario once and for all. I would really really appreciate your advice. And thank you for your amazing videos.
Ekaterina STOP dating these guys!! See this video here: th-cam.com/video/reZHfwATRRU/w-d-xo.html
Thank you Mark. I definitely want to avoid all of such men from now on...
Wow 3th time? I hope you get well
Update.....
I'm making sure I'm not rebounding my friend, by going slow as possible at the same time forgave my ex and we speak very minimal to the ex.
Thank you mark . I love your videos ❤
Thanks Chiller
Mark Rosenfeld 😊😊
When you realize you are a rebound 😢😭
sorry to hear that. but I do hope everything will turn out well on you xx
@@Markrosenfeld thank you so much❤...Greetings from Germany ✌
when u just realize... damnit!!! I should not get attached too much on him...
Update.....@@thevoiceofyourconscienceor9014
when i’m the rebound 🥺
Really sorry to hear what has happened bella rigdon- that must have been super tough for you. Make sure you take care of yourself xx
Mark Rosenfeld thank u❤️
@@bellarigdonUpdate.....mmm
Idkkk I met my boyfriend 1 month after he broke up with his ex.. we didn't date until 1 year later but we acted so close and it was obvious we liked each other.. I felt like a rebound but it's been 1 and half year now since we are oficialy dating.. BUT IDK it took him like a year to get over her or that's what I think.. sometimes I still wonder
Very handsome man!
cruel but true
Hi, Mark! Love your videos, you must be my favourite relationship coach (and I've been through a lot of them here on youtube), you always manage to make me feel better and I love to hear you talk.
I wanted to ask your opinion: My 1 year relationship ex broke up with me almost a month ago and when he did it, he said he was good on his own, feeling better, that he was very sorry, that he wanted to stay friends and that he wanted to set up a date so we could meet up and exchange our belongings (that we left at each other's places). In the first days he showed to be available to talk friendly, but after that, and until now, he never contacted me and when we talk he's distant (sinse the break up I never talked about the relationship nor of any kind of "heavy" subjects, and only contacted him twice). For some reason he's been avoiding contacting me for the exchange of our belongings (to which he agreed to do, because he was away on vacation and was supposed to warn me when he got back) while I know he's back in town for at least two weeks (didn't say a word) and he's frequentely hanging out with a (now close) female friend of his (since the first day we broke up even though they didn't hangout often when we were together) and in the last few days they seem to be more friendly than before (something they choose not to hide on instagram - that's how I know all this).
So, what really bugs me it's not the fact that he can be in (or beeing heading to) a relationship with this friend, it's why he doesn't give my stuff back when he initially was the one to show interest in doing so? In the videos he seems happy and while breaking up he said he didn't want to lose my friendship because I'm "super inteligent and interesting", so why do you think he's avoiding me and dellaying a meeting that eventually has to happen and that supposedly both of us would want to get it over with?
I'm sorry if it's too long!
Keep up the good work, I'll be seeing you :)
PS: Maybe this information is relevant
I was his first long term relationship and altough we had some fights (mostly due to insecurities of mine), we had awesome chemestry, passion a huge bunch of things in common and the break up was messy, he told me that he didn't feel the same way about me for a while, he was hoping it was just a phase but with his anxiety problems (that got more serious in the last week of the relationship) he thought it was better to break up than to drag it further. It was a surprise for me, I cried a lot, asked questions, but accepted it, he cried a lot (never had seen him cry before) in a hysterical way, he even had and anxiety attack on the spot and past out for a few seconds. He seemed so confused that I suggested a break instead. He seemed relieved and accepted it and even told me that he hoped that it would help him regain his feelings. Two weeks later he broke up with me (again) via text message, and told me the things I said in the beggining and in a brief text I accepted it, again, didn't question it, told him I was feeling better too and thanked him.
Hi Mark
I recently realized I was a rebound to a guy I stupidly fell in love with and he left me heart broken and bitter how do I move on from that?
Hey Beverly - have you watched this video?
th-cam.com/video/tUTnRlP02dA/w-d-xo.html
I swear my ex did all these he told me straight up he's always in relationships and it did turn my stomach a little bit but I'm like that doesn't mean anything
Hi Mark I love your videos, they are all accurate! I decided to be in a rebound relationship because the guy used to look for me a long time before he properly break up, I did it just to see what could happened. We both agreed on let it flow, had sex, spend new years eve together and planned a few trips together as well, I started getting excited and suddenly he was not sure of being able to travel with me (work stuff) and Also happened he didn't text me for a couple of days before the dates we planned, (I always needed to confirm) so I started to get upset about it and I let him know it wont work like that, I'm not sure i did right, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years and it seems I always make a mistake, did I act wrong?
Debo, without talking to you 1-1 via a discovery call it's hard for me to say for sure, but it doesn't SOUND like what you sent was inappropriate.
Mark Rosenfeld thanks so much for your response!!
Hey Mark, I just watched you video and I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I recently met a man who broke up with his wife of 10 years, 5 months ago. Then he asked me out and we have enjoyed each others company. He seems really honest about what led him to break up with her, his own faults in past relationships, etc.. he does complain about her a bit at times; and I think he still holds strong feelings for her, even if he said that we would never go back to her. The last thing I want to be is on the rebound, because he seems like an honest guy and we get along great. Should we stay just friends? Or just take things really slow instead?
Tara is he seperated or divorced? Divorcing?? Is he taking action? This is all quite important.
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Well he calls her his wife, but it was more like a live-in long-term girlfriend type situation.
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Hi, Mark! I've been dating a guy for 3 months, and recently I realized he was stuck in his previous relationship (they broke up 2 months before we meet), and probably was rebounding. We were spending great times together, but when I opened to him I wanted a real relationship, he backed. So, I decided to get out of his life due to make him think about what he wants. But I`m not sure if I did the right thing. Should I have waited more to see how things go? Or should I keep the distance from now on? It's been 4 days I stopped answering his messages (not comfortable at all with that).
Thanks for messaging Grazi - definitely sounds like you did the right thing :)
What did he do that led you to believe he was still stuck in his previous relationship?
Thanks for answering!
Well, he always talked about his previous relationship (wich was long, with lots of investiments) with anger and bitterness, like it was still fresh in his mind, not like something what was already gone and healed. And when I told him my suspicions, he just agreed. He feels panic in being alone, the reason for always being in some kind of relationship. That`s why I think I was a rebound, mostly.
We are apart now for my suggestion, but I'm not sure what to do now, because I like him, and would like to come back.
Jesus - you definitely x 100 did the right thing!!!
He's in no mental state to be in a relationship right now. Honesty - it would be painful and totally unsatisfying for you. Give him 3-6 months before you consider him again (men get out of these emotions veeeeery slowly). If he's being insistent right now, let him know that once the drama has died down, even in a couple of weeks, you'd consider being friends, but that you want him to take a lot of time for himself before you'd consider moving forward with him again.
That's my thoughts - anything else is going to be very painful and difficult for you, and ultimately end badly.
Thanks, Mark! This really helped me.
Also be aware he may not want to do that (be on his own fully). Men in this situation running from emotions tend to jump from rebound to rebound because of that deep desire for companionship now they don't have a girlfriend... so just a heads up that could happen. Don't be shocked if he slingshots to another girl in a month. While it will hurt, remember that if he does that it's extremely unlikely to be a 'real' relationship, and one he'll almost certainly bounce out of, the way he did with you, in a couple of months time.
I hope it doesn't happen, just giving you the heads up that if you're strong in this situation, it might xx
Hi Mark, what if he does not post any pictures of the rebound?
I can see him complaining about me all the time lmao this is my ex 100%
Aha Susan - Guess the girl who's with him has some lessons to learn? Anonymously send her this vid ;)
hahahah you are too good ;) I think deep down any woman can tell when a man looks into her eyes and sees someone else. I'll wait :)
*for a better option or his ex
What about a guy who tells me about his ex... Like we drove past her work and he pointed it out to me but I never asked him anything about her
thank you
My ex has moved in with his new 'girlfriend' after only a month! Could this just be a rebound or is it over for good?
Please help, I need advice. So I recently met this guy and we hung out while he had a girlfriend, and we both had feelings for each other (although he never cheated). After a few weeks, he broke up with her and a few weeks after their break up we hooked up, and now idk what we are. He says he doesn't want a relationship yet because he's been in one for like three years, and he wants some time to himself, but if he could be in one, it would be with me. He still hangs out with his ex all the time as friends, even though he dumped her. When they hang out he ignores my texts. Does this make me a rebound? We always hang out, get food, fuck and do things that people in relationships do but I'm scared he would get back with her if he could. I also feel like I'm not as good at things as she was. Advice?!?!
Eeeesh Brooklyn. This doesn't read well. It's not stinging of *classic* rebound because he's not technically away from her/missing her companionship (which is usually the driving force behind a rebound) BUT he is still spending time with her and, by the sounds of it there is no way at all he's likely committing to you anytime soon (it would be totally unhealthy if he did with her still around this soon).
Really, it's too soon for him to be rebounding because he hasn't even been out of his relationship emotionally TOO miss her (they're still hanging out, and have been since they broke up, right?).
That fallout (where he emotionally misses her companionship) is still to come.
Sounds like he wanted out of his relationship because he was bored etc... (classic guy probably younger I'm guessing and starting to get scared of full on commitment?), wanted you, sort of got you, now doesn't want to let go of the emotionally hard part of the breakup (disconnecting with his GF of 3 years emotionally) and has got himself stuck in the middle leaving you hanging.
Particularly if he hasn't gone NC with his GF for a good 60 days minimum, I wouldn't advise putting your heart into this one.
He himself said he won't go back to her even if she came back so what does that mean?? Can somebody explain me??? And he still has group photo with his friends in which there is his ex so what should i do about this i am confused??
Hey! Thank you for this amazing video. I have one quick question for you - My ex (he msgd me just few days back that he wants to end our relationship.) He still can't get over his ex (2 years back his ex had dumped him for someone else and his ex is now happy with that other person. My boyfriend and his ex were in a serious relationship for 4-5 years). My ex had proposed me after three months of his break up. Initially everything was great but then he started saying that he cannot love anyone else or marry anyone else. When he was drunk or most of the times when we were on the verge of breaking up he used to say that he loves me but his mind does not let him accept it. He used to say that he cannot see me with anyone but just few days back he said that he still loves his ex and that he does not love me and that we don't have a future together. Yesterday night he uploaded a picture on Instagram which said "You can't fall out of real love. Even if you're not with them anymore, the love stays." Clearly he meant it for the love he has for his ex. But I feel he loves me. I'm sure of it. But I don't know what will make him move on from his ex and make him realize that he loves me and wants me. I hope I wasn't his rebound. Two days back I spoke to him. I have started 30 day no contact period after that. I'll just wish him on his birthday on 24th of this month. Only if I knew what could I do to make him realize his love for me and not for his ex.
Hey M P. I'll just put it to you straight. This guy is SO hung up on his ex. He needs a lot longer than 30 days NC to be a reasonable option for you. You're best off getting away and saving your heart. x
But I do love him. Can there be anything that I can do to make things right?
Replace "*but* I love him" with "*even though* I love him".
Self-respect has to always trump feelings x
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what if she's coming out of a relationship & he's coming out of a marriage?
Well, generally speaking (on average) the emotional fallout will be bigger for him than for her, though that's not always the case.
How far out are we talking? They'll both likely need time before starting something new.
What about if he speaks about her all the time in a positive light? And would it still be a rebound if it’s been a year since they were last in contact?
Means he is still thinking about her
what if i also just got out of a divorce too do these rules still apply?
so true..
Hi Mark ,is there and email address i can inbox for a one on one discussion ?
Sure Ashley. mark@makehimyours.com.au Just be aware for complex queries I usually recommend a Skype booking.
How many of these signs is when you should leave?
Is there a way I can talk to you about something importang about my relationship?
Hey Alex! mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to get in touch. x
I just found out my ex was couple with his colleagues now for Two month, we're already break up for 5 month, but my ex is together with his colleagues when we was breaking up three months, my ex was hiding his new girlfriend to me, I'm just found out currently, but he never have been stop texting me even he got girlfriend when i'm Don 't know his girlfriend existed, and he still come to see me even he had girlfriend , they are staying in same place, studying same uni before ,studying same course, and working a same job ,same team now and same background , they will see each other everyday, I'm in long distance with him now, but my ex still texting me regularly, I'm just scared they got a lot of same topic that i didn't have it will increase their love feeling become a true relationship and my ex seems think she is a good personality girl and more suit him than me , what should i do now , am i hopeless ,and he will come to my place attend my convo next week, what should i do .
fuck why can't i just find a good guy
My ex an i broke up after a 3 year relationship. We are currently going trough a no contact period. He got in a relationship less than a month after we broke and she is nothing like me or nothing like his type. The only thing is that he is not telling her that it's over between us ( I know this because we have a mutual friend). I want to know if he is still holding on to the idea of us getting back together or he is avoiding talking about me because he doesn't want to ruin what they have?
Sucks to hear Ming. This is dodgy from him on so many levels. Poor girl.
The honest answer Ming is it doesn't matter. More likely, he's running from the fact he deep down knows he's probably rebounding and doesn't want to scare off his new companion and be left alone again, but again, it doesn't matter. This is your time to focus on yourself. He has to go through his silly rebound and they'll almost certainly break up in the next 6 months, at which time his true intentions will become clear. What he's doing can't be your focus right now. Build you, get in a great headspace, and if he does come back, you'll be able to see everything in the right way to make the best decision from the best place.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much.
Can it still be a rebound if it’s been a year later but he kept contact w his ex randomly throughout the year of them being over and in the first couple months of the new girl and him dating?
Update.....
That was the old me, hopping from one disaster to the next with more cloudy emotions, another habit I've kicked to the curb.
I feel I'm finally understanding myself better with each passing day.
i asked my ex boyfriend his 29 and he has a female friend 19 i wanna believe its only friend but i have a feeling he likes this female fren more than friend me n him is 6 yrs togther in relationship i asked him if he likes more dan a friend i dnt know he said i dnt get it
Hey Carolyn. Why are you asking your ex boyfriend about his feelings towards other women? That's really his perogative and his business.
Bcoz he ask me to wait for him n he kinda joke oh well see if it didnt work ill go back to u wthek is that i love him but i dont know whats the truth n lies
The truth lies in his actions Carolyn. Don't even be an option or let a man put you 'on hold' - you're worth so much more than that!
This sounds exactly like who I'm dating! 😮 He downplays everything and is so selfish! Most importantly, I've always felt secondary to his ex wife and he doesn't want me to meet his kid! Not even going to mention how sketchy he is on social media.I should have aborted months ago!
smh, Waow
Bad news Jhesselyn?
Danggggggg. Lol
Hahahah bad news The Gift of Gabby??