There may have been grains of truth to her story, but it doesn't take away from the fact that Bette was a supreme talent who worked her ass off her entire life for everything she had. No book can diminish that.
@@rebeccarpwebb4132 and people have an equal right to say how they feel and think about the expression of said feelings. You feeling envy, malicious? I’m feeling bupkus about your damned envy and malice. Ingrate. That’s what I “feel” about the whole kerfuffle. Davis could have aborted or given her up for adoption. Some did and do. How you feeling about that⁉️🤨
Ironically, Bette backed up much of what BD said about Bette, particularly regarding the marriage to Gary Merrill, whom BD raked over the coals in her book@@scriptedbeauty1.
Why do people go back and forth with "who is the best Joan or Bette". They were both stunningly beautiful, incredibly talented ladies, actresses. So what if they didn't personally care for one another. Who cares if each one one have pushed the other off of a cliff? I adore them both. So very glad to have their movies and interviews to watch. Truly they are both wonderful, true Hollywood Legends. I do think that was mean of B. D. to write that book about Bette
Many people gave negative judgment on this book without even reading it. It is not at all shocking and quite funny at times. B.D Hyman made it very clear that her mother was not abusive, but could be difficult and demanding at times. Anyone surprised by this ?
My grandmother was exactly like this. She was tough as hell and could be mean too, but if u are one that she loves, and someone hurts them, even he’ll couldn’t have kept her from avenging u. Her love was more powerful than anything else.
YES YAWLS YO: I can completely comprehend and artfully apprehend and honestly understand: Why Betty Davis +Joan Crawford and other wise women, "don't have a very high opinion of most men".(His hideous hostile human hate history) And this sickness syndrome, ran and runs inside my own biological family females and my mother and grandmother and so said sisters. It seem as if and as though, their brothers who are men, can't tell them anything that they don't wantonly wish to hear. In fact, they have a low opinion about most men, inclusively, their use to be boyfriends and husbands and them as wives. This is a 'Generational Curse'; passed on down to descendants, who would have been actual ascendants!!
B.D. was in it for the money. After MOMMIE DEAREST came out and was a runaway best seller, she jumped on the bandwagon. I love Bette Davis, even today (2019) and I love and I watch her movies.
I love Betty Davis, My favorite actress from the old era. I wasn't born until the 60's. I have always enjoyed black and white movies verses what they have today. Dam good movies.
Money or not, it doesn't negate the fact that some people who knew Davis have confirmed that she was an awful person. Even her aide in the final years of her life had an extraordinarily difficult time with Bette, whom Bette, in the aide's own words, had contemplated firing.
@@travelseatsyellowlab There's a good interview with Bette Davis and Mike Walace where they both share their opinions. th-cam.com/video/g857qqY0D90/w-d-xo.html
@@travelseatsyellowlab Exactly! These people like to equate the art of the artist with the value of the person that artist was. She was an amazing actress no doubt about that. However as a person, she had flaws just like everyone else. There's no need to justify those flaws.
Having listened to one of her teaching videos, Hyman now says that she wrote 'My Mother's Keeper' so that Bette would feel ''outrage'' and she would ''go away'', so it wasn't because she wanted to ''get through to her'' at all like she initially claimed. In her second book ('Narrow is the Way'), she claims her brother didn't try to talk her out of the first one, but that is completely contradicted by what he has said in documentaries. The ending of the second book is very telling, she recalls the time she and her husband were watching Bette on a talk show. She spoke about how hurt she had been by her daughter's betrayal, and then the cover of 'My Mother's Keeper' flashed on screen. Her words, "It was only two weeks before I was due to start my paperback tour and mother had unwittingly engineered a free plug of the book. Jeremy and I laughed so hard that I don't know whether there was any more to the interview." What a really childish and spiteful thing to do to the person who, by her own admission had given her all her love and devotion, no child abuse, and something she fails to mention either on television or in print, an absolute fortune over the years. I feel so sorry for Bette! It really is terrible what Hyman has said about Bette on her religious shows (which she only got because she is the daughter of Bette of course). I would put a question forward to B.D., what sort of Christian keeps up such a long vendetta against her mother? She just wants people's money (now she can't leech off mum) with her religious CDs and books to help pay her grocery bills which, let's be honest, judging by the size of her must be enormous.
@@haylotroutman7826 Thank you -- I do try! lol. Just listen to the ingrate's testimony on TH-cam: ''A Long Day's Journey into Shite' - this no-name harridan isn't just the one sandwich short, the whole flamin' picnics gone haywire! Bitter old fruit loop!
She admitted that she and her husband laughed at Bette talking about the book. Soooo...instead of listening to her mother's words on the book, the first thing that popped into her mind was that it was giving the book free publicity.
@@PungiFungi Yep! $$$$ -- The Hymans desperately needed money and sold out Bette to get it (thinking she was going to die). The pair of them disgust me.
Bette supported her daughter and her son-in-law for years, this is the gratitude she shows. Bette fought for and earned everything she got. BD didn't and it shows.
It's all about the money. How much can I get. Unsuccessful daughter, son-in-law. Drinkers, bums. Or worse. Just continues on. She said BD was wonderful mother. Wow
Ingratitude is a terrible. We may not like or agree with many things in the way we were raised. Most don't. Most of us dont write nasty, vindictive books trashing our family after they are dead, when they cant defend or explain themselves. My parents were raised during the great depression, they had what l thought were odd and crazy priorities, to me. Then as an adult l read about how bad depression was, then l understood why my parents and especially my grandparents had the values, priorities that they did. Maturely and information help to clarify why they were, the way they were. Bette Davis daughter just couldn't careless, even as a much older woman...
I grew up with an emotionally abusive mother. From my own therapy and reading they exist on a spectrum. Some are out-right pure monsters (Joan Crawford) and some are a decades wrong water-torture of constant easily dismissed put-downs (Bette Davis). If you ever think that the type of parent they describe doesn't exist... well they do.
@@Mr17051963 Hi, thankyou ! I have not seen the brother, but it must have been painful for BD to realise that her Mom had rejected her husband and known that her Mom’s love was conditional and she a possession. Narcissists are extremely difficult and cause horrible emotional damage especially to those close to them.
4 years later Bette was dead… I have had a twisted relationship with my Mother as well, but I know that it would cripple her morale, her self esteem, and her self worth as a human and as a mother in any respect to say things like this on TV never mind an entire book. I feel so bad for Bette.
***** You didn't actually watch the interview, did you? Her daughter acknowledged she had a great childhood. It was when she was an adult and married that her mother treated her like a piece of shit.
All I know is, I loved this video and found it fascinating. Doesn't change my mind one iota about Bette. A truly amazing and beyond extraordinary actress. And I think her daughter looks just like her!
She certainly changed her tune about here mother after this interview. She tells about how her Mother was a demon straight from hell. I'm surprised at how positive she is in this interview.
@@gianluca3344 Bette never spoke to B.D again after she wrote the book, and neither did her brother. I doubt Bette would have left her anything anyway considering she was a spoiled, ungrateful brat that had delusions of grandeur and thought the world owed her something, but that book sealed her fate.
When Mommie Dearest, the tell-all about Joan Crawford's supposed abuse by her daughter Christina, Bette Davis was disgusted at Christina saying how awful it was that her daughter would write such disrespectful awful things about her mother, Joan, who did not deserve such things said about her. This was saying a lot, since Bette and Joan were not known for being boon companions. However, Miss Davis went on to say how glad she was her own daughter would never write such a thing about her. It was horribly ironic, and quite sad how daughter betrayed mother.
I used to date B.D. and Bette was so warm a person (to me) that I called her my 2nd mom. This was during the time she did Pocketful of Miracles and Baby Jane. B.D. was the apple of Bette's eyes. B.D. always came 1st. I had continued my friendship with Bette long after my dating her daughter. Many people here have the wrong impression of Bette, that's for sure.
Cedarsedge ...... No one outside a household knows what goes on behind closed doors, take my word on that, I know from experience, our neighbors and even family always thought my parents and grandmother were great people, no they weren't.
I don't understand why a lot of people are speaking on behalf of Bette's "good character" and how "happy a childhood the ungrateful B.D. had," when they only know what tabloids and interviews revealed. You can't know what a person experienced behind closed doors, and I think it's very well possible that B.D.'s memories might be valid. With that being said, I do think it to be considerably harsh to publish such a revealing book and interview while your elderly mother is still alive to witness it all. I find that sort of bitterness and retaliatory behavior a bit revealing about B.D.'s character, too... Had she published it after her mother's death, it would've seemed more like she wanted to heal and reach out to other abuse victims as a means to not feel alone. But, since her mother was still alive during it all, it just seems like she wanted to stick it to her in the worst way she knew how. B.D. should hope her children don't treat her similarly in her old age.
I read her book. Even if everything B.D. wrote is true, all it shows is that Bette Davis was a difficult woman. She in no way deserved to be held up to the world's judgment, especially since Davis seemed to be in as much pain as she was causing. To make a money grab when your mother is ill with cancer and post-stroke is horrible.
@@relaxedyou4059 it's not shameful, it's just her story and her only way of forcing her mother to listen to her. Bette is the true cause of her own dirty laundry being aired in public, because she was too bull headed to even listen to her own daughter's complaints. And BD had some quite legitimate complaints to say the least. LoL. So is that truly unconditional love on Bette's part? Doesn't sound much like any kinda healthy love, more like possession and ownership. And for those who say that BD simply wrote a book of lies to make money and trash her mother, I say that if BD was capable of doing such an evil thing, she would have unhesitatingly made up some child abuse stories as well. That would be even more shocking and grab more attention for the book. But she didn't, she kept her integrity and gave her mother pretty much glowing reviews on her upbringing. No money-motivated person, bent on destroying someone's reputation with lies, would have resisted telling lies about her upbringing, especially after seeing how successful Christina Crawford's book became. Christina's book was a true story also. A hugely successful best seller and the reviews of Mommy Dearest is where the term TELL-ALL originated. But Bette did this to herself. Her refusal to listen to her daughter and stop trying to make her life a living hell truly backfired when the exasperated but clever BD came up with an idea to trump her mother's narcissism. Simply put, Bette got what she indirectly asked for. And the book didn't ruin her reputation. It actually made me feel sad for Bette that her narcissism caused her to feel so hurt and unloved by her daughter's independence. She was and is still my most favorite actress of all time. The book didn't make me feel any anger at Bette's behavior. I only felt exasperated by it. Now when I read Christina's book I despised Joan. And when I read the book by former Supremes singer Mary Wilson, I lost all respect for Diana Ross. But I lost NONE of my respect for Bette Davis after reading BD's book, cuz it just didn't paint Bette in a despicable sort of light. Not at all
@@mrs.847 I mean, the circunstance does matter though, because when what happened in the relationship is abuse, then the child owes nor¿thing to that parent (like the Christina Crawford case). I havent read this book nore im very aware of the particular incidents in their relationship, but if it was just a complicated relationship and no abuse was taking place (no abuse of any kind, not only physical) then she probably shouldn´t publish it knowing that it will damage her mother for no reason (this assuming her mother really did nothing that could be considered abuse).
+Daniel Bowman I can't remember the oriental designer (Vera Wang?) who was popular for such 1980's bold silk prints, but we really thought we looked great in her clothes. Her designs were certainly not appropriate for fatties, such as Hyman, which made one look even fatter.
Perfect example! I knew in the 80s how dopey those jackets were. :) I dressed in a timeless way in the 80s and ever since, thanks to my Mom, who told me to never spend $ on trendy junk but to wear classic, well-made clothes. I still have a lot of it, and no shoulder pads! :) I might have been the only girl in school whose bangs didn't' stick straight up in the air... never understood the whole "Mall Bangs" thing.
My relationship with my mother was FAR from perfect, but I think there should be a level of respect when it comes to sharing this sort of information with the world. It is almost like she was making a mockery of her mother and it just seems so disrespectful. And then to add insult to injury, she was making money off of it as well. Bah.
YES YAWLS YO: I can completely comprehend and artfully apprehend and honestly understand: Why Betty Davis +Joan Crawford and other wise women, "don't have a very high opinion of most men".(His hideous hostile human hate history) And this sickness syndrome, ran and runs inside my own biological family females and my mother and grandmother and so said sisters. It seem as if and as though, their brothers who are men, can't tell them anything that they don't wantonly wish to hear. In fact, they have a low opinion about most men, inclusively, their use to be boyfriends and husbands and them as wives. This is a 'Generational Curse'; passed on down to descendants, who would have been actual ascendants!!
Sadly, alcoholism deteriorates relationships and Bette Davis exemplifies the symptoms. Hollywood requires narcissism for stars to compete and win. It's good to forefront these issues.
It seems surprising to me that this girl would write such a book knowing full well that she had her mother's love and devotion. That alone tells me that she had no real grounds to publish this type of media on her own mother. Sorry B,D. But I must support your mother on this!
The fact that Bette Davis disinherited her tells me that she maybe didn't love her daughter very much. One doesn't do that to one's child just because of a book.
This is sickening. A gossip fest about Ms. Davis when she was in her mid 70’s, elderly & suffering physically. This is pathetic. A slap in the face to her hard working Mother.
That's how YOU see it. But that's not the way it actually is. Bette was still playing the victim up until her last day. Then Bette published her own book complaining of how ugly it was for BD to write that book. "I can't believe that all this time she hated me". I wonder if Ms Davis ever stopped for a second and took responsibility for even one single incident that BD wrote about in that book. If she's as bad BD describes her, the answer is no she did not.
Loved Bette Davis as an actress, but I’m sure living with a high profile actress/actor couldn’t be easy as I’m sure they live their life as if they are the only one that’s important comes with the territory, but B D has her mothers backbone and stood up for herself which I applaud her the only way for her to survive.
BD wrote in the book that she had a wonderful childhood. It wasn't until BD grew up and decided to do what grown-ups do (leave home, get married, kids etc) that Bette started making her life a living hell.
To paraphrase Billie Holiday when her ex McCay visited her almost on her death bed and prayed over her as Billie pretended to be unconscious - "If that M.F... has found Jesus, I'm rethinking my position."
BD has just never had that truth quality that made this book worth reading. Not that her e experiences were real, but that she did it because Crawford's daughter did it so she felt she wanted to write as well.
I don't think anyone is in the position to judge B.D. Hyman. I don't think being analytical about ones parents is dishonoring them, nor do I feel anything Mrs. Hyman has said tarnishes her mothers reputation in anyway. I believe it did hurt Bette Davis to share. A lot of people are like this. When a daughter or sibling gets married, you kind of lose them to their spouse and to someone like Bette Davis, this could have been extremely hard to accept.
I read the book years ago and just ... yuck! I wasn't even a Bette Davis fan, so I had no preconceived notions going in. BD is just ungrateful, makes mountains out of molehills, and guess what? A lot of people had it way, way worse. No clue how she goes from saying her childhood was great to "What torture!". I just wish I knew how to get rid of the book w/o adding to a landfill. Maybe it needs a cremation, haha.
Mother had no heart, thats kinda the point. Nothing to sell but insight into a personality disorder - she has done a favor for many. LOL you can always tell a narc when they get angry at the telling of the truth Eureka!!!! Good for BD, I actually prefer Christina's story, Crawford was evil.
Oppressed Nolonger I agree. A lot of people invalidate BD's feelings and stories; same thing they did to Christina Crawford. I think that people who have never been abused have a really hard time believing abuse victims. They have a tendency to side with the abuser. The thing they don't realize is that most abusive people are covert and they only show the crazy and evil side of themselves to the people they're abusing. They portray themselves completely opposite in the outside world. The community they live in thinks they're wonderful. This is maddening when you're the victim.
Betty gave her so much love as a child, i can see that Betty was an eccentric and dramatic and i am sure there could be some truth in what she is saying but some things you just keep to yourself, no one is perfect in life and i can see why Betty was hurt with her daughter.
She couldn't keep it to herself. This was the only way BD could make her stubborn mother stop and see what kind of a person her insecurities had turned her into and how maniacally-possessive and jealous she had become with her.
What was so bad about the book? Hyman wrote that she always felt loved as a child and that her mother never abused her. So what's the problem? What was the worst thing she wrote about Bette in the book?
I don't understand why write this book and then say in this interview that his mother didn't abuse her, maybe her mother behaved strange and wasn't the best person but why not keep it as private information and specially if it huet her mother. Seems petty or just to make some money. I couldn't do something like this to my parents even if they made big mistakes or didn't always treat me well. I haven't read the book though, maybe she had reasons but just from this interview I don't get it. .
Key word: Story. She said she wrote a story and stories are fictional. She wanted to hurt her mother and make money from being her daughter. An extremely unchristian thing to do.
I remember reading "Mommie Dearest" and thinking that Christina Crawford had been brutalized. And I remember reading "My Mother's Keeper" and thinking that B.D. Hyman was a melodramatic spoiled brat whose mother perhaps gave in to her every whim. Even here she has such a dramatic flare. Joan Crawford made people eat at her house with white gloves? Joan made comments to B.D. not to go near her daughters with Bette standing right there? Lies and embellishments.
B.D. and her mother never spoke again after this book. Was it really worth it? B.D. admittedly had a decent childhood where she wasn't abused and felt loved by her mother. Does her mom owe her more than that? My mom moved out when I was 9, yet I would still NEVER publicly humiliate her with an interview like this, much less a tell all book, no matter how much money was on the table. I was raised that you keep family business to yourself and you stick up for eachother. This is just sad.
If the book admitted that Hyman had a decent childhood and felt loved by her mother, then why would Bette be angry about the book. I just wonder if Bette even read the book.
agreed, too many people obsess about an actor as a fan, and think that everything wonderful they've projected onto that celebrity has to be real, they are unable to separate their fan relationship, with a daughter's relationship with her mother. A LOT of celebrities are nice to their fans, but how they treat family, is entirely different.
No parent is perfect and (unfortunately) children don’t come with instructions. Betty Davis was a very strong personality that had to come through in raising her children.
I’m just astounded that B.D Hyman, a self proclaimed Christian refuses to do the truly Christian act of forgiving her Mother. My parents at one time in my life were terribly abusive but being the Christian that I actually am I’ve forgiven them both and now couldn’t be closer to them. People make mistakes.. To err is human, to forgive divine. No matter what her Mom may or may have not done to her, she still gave her life.
B. D. met Jeremy Hyman (b 1933 London), the British nephew of Seven Arts Productions owner Eliot Hyman, on a blind date for the film's showing at the Cannes Film Festival, in 1963, and the couple wed when B. D. was age 16 and Jeremy was age 29. Her mother Bette Davis gave her consent and publicly supported their marriage. The couple remain wed after 50-plus years[1] and have two sons, Ashley and Justin.[2
I tend to take these, "my mom was possessed by the devil", books from celebrity's kids with a HUGE gra in of salt. I mean this woman's own brother said a lot of what she wrote was questionable at best, and that he believed that the only reason that she wrote it was because her mother was horribly sick at the time and she thought she'd be dead by the time it was published.
so3ducme777 the irony is she became the demon she is after turning "born again" - it's not that since writing the book she became born again, but the book itself was the result of her supposedly "finding god"
I love Bette but ppl can't just dismiss what B.D Hyman went through. No-one has a right to put B.D down for writing this book just because Bette was a brilliant actress but that doesn't mean she wasn't a horrible person. Ppl always remember the terrible things in life more then the good especially if you have to put up with the outbursts and verbal abuse 24/7. So don't be horrible to B.D because she told her story. Famous ppl are great outside with the public etc but behind closed doors only the families know what really happens and the public don't, i believe B.D and i think its her way of therapy for herself
I think what I find fascinatingly odd is that sure, she knew her mother better than we do, but she's also saying she loved her mother and had a happy childhood - whatever, whoever's mistaken isn't the point for me... surely she would know how upsetting her mother would have found this book? I mean books take a long time to write, you have to arrange publishing and distribution, this wasn't a small accidental slip and it certainly wasn't a personal affair to help her mother understand her better. It was a big long deliberate chain of events that ended exactly as badly as anyone could have predicted.
I knew Bette. She LOVED BD. Bette was rough, forced to be tough, betrayed by men, used by the studios without the pay she deserved, and just wasn't a good mother. Bette didn't know how to be a mother. But she LOVED BD. She LOVED BD!!!! This isn't Mommy Dearest. BD didn't write a book like that. Bette was used and betrayed by men so she suspected that in marriage and business, they used all women. Plus, hey, Bette drank. I say, she DRANK. She often lost track of what she was doing and what she had said. BD really is a honest, learned bible teacher.
I don't know why people are so abusive to the daughter, we don't know her or Bette - we only know the characters that Bette played, there is no need to get defensive on Bette's part. The daughter is only sharing HER experience as the child of an actress - particularly the adult relationship. She is entitled too to her experiences, they are valid to her. She's actually endeared Bette by sharing her faults, parents are not perfect people even if they're movie stars. You don't need to feel offended or angry, just listen to someone else's experience of their mother and appreciate that account. My own mother is a wonderful person loved by many and was exceptionally talented engineer especially given the male dominated time period at the time - but her relationship with us her children was poor, she wasn't a good parent of children - but no one aside from my sister and I could know this as our father was often absent too. If we were to make that public, everyone would call us ungrateful or crazy because there we were, a picture perfect family wanting for nothing. Often very successful career people are assumed to be all rounders and great parents which can be a harmful assumption because of their public persona. I appreciate these anecdotes, she said nothing nasty, they were actually very endearing. It is pity that the mother and daughter never made up at the end. The adopted son and her assistant however benefitted greatly from this relationship breakdown.
The big difference between Christina Crawford and BD is that Christina tried to understand her mother’s actions, even including good times with the bad in her book. BD wrote hers to be cruel! Bette gave that woman everything, even a role in Baby Jane. She hated her mother cause she was a great talent and she wasn’t. Plus Bette probably told her the truth about her not being cut out to be an actress and it pissed her off
BD had no choice. She wanted her mother to finally listen to how she behaved. The book forced her to listen. She knew she would hurt her gargantuan ego. True Bette had recent medical issues but this is a situation between a mother and a daughter and BD simply couldn't let her go to her grave without saying the truth.
Furthermore, BD gave Bette GLOWING reviews on her upbringing (in the book and in interview after interview). If she was a liar, she would have also said she had a traumatic childhood as well. Use it for more than just a hat-rack will you.
BD was Bette’s great love but she struggles for her own identity between her Mother and husband. Bette said herself that Jeremy Hyman changed BD. She said he was an opportunist who enjoyed Bette giving them money and buying them houses until their business went under. According to their business partners, he encouraged BD to write the book in a last effort to bleed the turnip dry and cut ties with her mother. They sold the farm Bette bought them, moved to the Bahamas and never spoke to her again, owing their former business partners money. Bette had a stroke immediately following g her double mastectomy and BD was begged by Bette’s assistant and attorney to not publish but the deal was done. She released it on Mother’s Day. She sadly convinced herself that her lies were true rather than eat crow…and his behind Christianity to make herself a victim searching for identity and peace. A really tragic life. Even Gary Merrill wrote in Bette’s defense that his step daughter BD had not followed the commandment on which she believes: honor your father and mother.
Wow, she looks just like her mother. These so-called Hollywood starlets were a trip when it came to their mothering skills. But when you see how much the men made back in the day compared to the women. It was extremely hard for women actresses. They were used and abused. But, I believe her.
I wonder if now as a woman in her late sixties she regrets writing the book in her mothers final years. I would feel guilt big time knowing I broke my mothers heart in her final years on earth.
Thank you B.D. for sharing with us who your mother is as a person. She made her very real to me. I admire Bette and her talent, who she was as a professional and now I admire her as a person and a mother.
All of All parents are saints not all parents are saints not all parents are good parents they do the best they can with what I’ve got but not all of them are a good parents
She admits she was loved and well provided for. The bumps and bruises of upbringing were no greater than anyone else and she was not an abused or neglected child so why expose the personality and character flaws of a well known and respected personality is confusing.
as bette said this book was the biggest heartbreak of her life. im glad she was disinherited. what a horrible thing to do to a mother who loved u and gave u everything
She left out the part where BD was just 16 when she married Hyman, the creepy super christian, age 29. What parent in their right mind would have been okay with that? I would be livid.
Watching these videos of celebrities kids tell him about their parents reminds me of this refrigerator magnet I once saw with Lucille Ball and Vivian Vance as Lucy Ricardo and Ethel mertz smiling at each other. It read, you will always be my friend... YOU KNOW TOO MUCH.
I find it very unfair when people write biographies or autobiographies and criticise people who are no longer alive to defend themselves. For a start, they can make things up or exaggerate a story; also, memory is very unreliable, even if the writer believes they are recalling things correctly, and on top of all that - personality determines perception, as in how a timid child might perceive a dominant parent to be a terrifying tyrant, whereas a feisty child might see a dominant parent as merely a pain in the neck. It is well documented that Bette Davis was an amazingly strong woman who had a fantastic career and a life that had lows as well as highs that she bravely overcame. Her daughter should have remained a nonentity and kept the stories about her mother to herself.
The man-hating seems to have originated from her childhood. Bette Davis was most fond of her mother and sister. They referred to themselves as the 3 Musketeers, and she has stated herself in an interview with Barbra Walters that she was very glad when her father left the family. She seems to have had such unhappiness with men over her life because she never addressed that hurt and emotional baggage she acquired in childhood. I see this all the time with women and men who have been abused or neglected, either in their teenage years or childhood. They will continue to attract, and be attracted to broken people who are just as emotionally immature as they are... Then they end up addicted to one thing or another (sex, H, C, meth, alcohol, videogames, pills, food, etc.) and chronically unhappy. They go around thinking people are just going to lie to them, cheat them, and they're not worthy of joy or love. Because the cycle will continue to repeat unless you rewire your subconscious mind. I really hope this helped somebody.
Terrible. Poor Bette. I've been watching some footage of BD especially her teachings as a preacher in modern day...she's a complete and utter knob. A fabricator. She needs help! Head case
I read the book and I think it is very well written. It is a testimony of domestic violence, neglectful motherhood, and narcissistic parenting, themes that, almost 40 years ago, were considered taboo and not at all discussed. In the name of Bette Davis' talent (which was real), and public image (which was abrasive), BD Hyman was unjustly insulted during all this time, and treated as an ungrateful daughter when she was a victim during all her childhood, and teenage years. She was also accused of causing a stroke in her mother. She was only trying to be heard, by a person who was not able to do it and to evolve. She even risked being disinherited (which end up happening) to gain her freedom. I admire her courage.
Yo are crazy and I think you a bad son or a bad daughter yourself to approve of this evil and almost demonic bitch who should never ever been born at all
BD , you say you did this book in an attempt to "Reach" your Mother, as you had no other way. You also say she showed you alot Love as a Child, and you never had to fight to get that from her. I too had a Maternal person born in 1908, as was Bette Davis, maybe she was a controlling personality, maybe so, maybe she was demanding, maybe so and is it possible the world she survived in made her this way? The fact that she busted her ass and worked so hard all those years to provide such a childhood for you makes me wonder why you cannot forgive her for being less than perfect? Youve only accomplished character assassination on her. Maybe you didnt like the person she was and you wanted to reach her fan base, but we are never going to care to learn she was only human and less than perfect, youre not either no one is BD. I see her in you and really wish you could appreciate that fire and brilliance bestowed upon you at birth!
It doesn't matter how hard she worked or the fact that she was a good mother in BD's childhood, that gives her no right to turn around and try to make her miserable by showing hatred towards the people in BD's adult life.
'My Mother's Keeper' was pure trash, it was a cash-grab perpetrated by her deceased husband Jeremy Hyman, who wacked out a sequel two years later, detailing the Hyman's religious conversion and badmouthing Bette (who had finically supported this pair for two decades) at every opportunity. Ask anyone in Bette's camp, mother and daughter were very close, and 'My Mother's Keeper' totally came out the blue for everyone who knew them, hurting B.D.'s brother Michael who broke off all contact with B.D. after it's publication. When Bette had her mastectomy and stroke, B.D. visited her once in hospital, and was told by the doctors that she probably only had a few weeks left to live, she never visited again. The Hymans started work on 'My Mother's Keeper', hoping it would bring in as much money as 'Mommie Dearest' had for Christina Crawford. But-- Bette survived and, to her credit, she carried on working despite ill health and the heartache caused by this storybook, where many of the allegations have been overwhelming denounced as false by those who were there. The Hymans later lied that Michael hadn't tried to talk his sister out of writing the book, he did, but was told she'd already accepted the $100,000 advance money (the Hymans needed money because Jeremy was in trouble with his trucking business again. Bette had bailed them out in 1983 but he was a terrible businessman and their fortunes didn't improve long) and had to go forward with it. The Hymans then tried to cash-in on God and set up a ministry, charging people for their self-published books and audio cassettes, whilst still hanging onto Bette's name (B.D.'s insane comments about seeing her transform into a demonic figure!). Those people always had their hands out -- 'My Mother's Keeper'? irony B.D. Hyman... 'Bette's Leeches' more like. Jeremy was a waster, B.D. is now a sick woman -- was it worth it?
I had the urge to leave a similar comment. Very much suspect the husband had the ambitious hand in the matter. Convenient for him there is no atoning for his part in this. As the daughter of a famous public figure, I can see the need to step out from BD’s shadow. It is really unfortunate when she did, a guy almost twice her age led her in such a nasty direction.
I do not believe that Barbara Davis is fabricating most of these scenarios. What made me believe it is when she detailed how harsh and cruel Bette Davis was to her sister, Bobby. When Bobby died in 1979, her daughter, Fay, had made arrangements for her final disposition and Bette threw her weight around and got her way by taking over everything like a big bully. People are only defending Davis because she was such a star in her time, and think these people can do no wrong.
Whoever said this was madeup I believe that Bette Davis was actually not a pleasant person to be around. She believed she had to be tough and gritty in order to climb up her career. For all we know she could have had that lesson learned the hard way and maybe she tried to influence this on her daughter Barbara
Yours is a typical prejudice about women.. that they must be "pleasant to be around" or else something is wrong with them. Nobody says a male star is unpleasant to be around; men have the entitlement of having quirky or sharp personalities, but a woman is expected, unfairly, to be all sweetness.
Anthony Lopez The fact of the matter is that she had to be tough and gritty to climb the ladder in Hollywood. Hollywood for women has always been about how beautiful they are, and she had a very tough time getting parts when she first came to Hollywood because she was told she didn't have the looks of a movie star. She fought against this and got the parts that she deserved because of her acting ability. Good for her.
I'm glad this book failed to tarnish Ms. Davis's legacy to anywhere near the degree of Mommie Dearest. B.D didn't exist because her mother's career badly needed the boost maternity with the right
There may have been grains of truth to her story, but it doesn't take away from the fact that Bette was a supreme talent who worked her ass off her entire life for everything she had. No book can diminish that.
Its her daughters point of view not a biography of betty . ppl have a right to say. How they feel
Bravo
3 other children are fine with, Mom! Just like Crawford’s kid - ENVY!!
@@rebeccarpwebb4132 and people have an equal right to say how they feel and think about the expression of said feelings. You feeling envy, malicious? I’m feeling bupkus about your damned envy and malice. Ingrate. That’s what I “feel” about the whole kerfuffle. Davis could have aborted or given her up for adoption. Some did and do. How you feeling about that⁉️🤨
@@jeanettesdaughter i said its not a biography ... I didnt squeeze ur head . wtf lol
She talks like the stars of that era. Her accent, her descriptors, and the way she says “mother.”
It’s sad because all Bette Davis interviews, when she speaks about her children, she seems very happy, living and proud ....
Bette had a great sense of humour too!
Bette was after all an "actress."
Ironically, Bette backed up much of what BD said about Bette, particularly regarding the marriage to Gary Merrill, whom BD raked over the coals in her book@@scriptedbeauty1.
Why do people go back and forth with "who is the best Joan or Bette". They were both stunningly beautiful, incredibly talented ladies, actresses. So what if they didn't personally care for one another. Who cares if each one one have pushed the other off of a cliff? I adore them both. So very glad to have their movies and interviews to watch. Truly they are both wonderful, true Hollywood Legends.
I do think that was mean of B. D. to write that book about Bette
Many people gave negative judgment on this book without even reading it. It is not at all shocking and quite funny at times. B.D Hyman made it very clear that her mother was not abusive, but could be difficult and demanding at times. Anyone surprised by this ?
The crime was the very personal hurt to her mom. And she struct publicly.
Betty never spoke nasty about her daughter publicly
My grandmother was exactly like this. She was tough as hell and could be mean too, but if u are one that she loves, and someone hurts them, even he’ll couldn’t have kept her from avenging u. Her love was more powerful than anything else.
With help from a Mother comes a possessiveness.That implies control & literally strangles any real closeness.
Am I the only one who gets a Wynonna Judd vibe from her? :)
haha! That was my initial thought. I had to double check that I didn't click on the wrong video.
the giant head
Fully agree. My first thought
YES YAWLS YO: I can completely comprehend and artfully apprehend and honestly understand: Why Betty Davis +Joan Crawford and other wise women, "don't have a very high opinion of most men".(His hideous hostile human hate history) And this sickness syndrome, ran and runs inside my own biological family females and my mother and grandmother and so said sisters. It seem as if and as though, their brothers who are men, can't tell them anything that they don't wantonly wish to hear. In fact, they have a low opinion about most men, inclusively, their use to be boyfriends and husbands and them as wives. This is a 'Generational Curse'; passed on down to descendants, who would have been actual ascendants!!
I get a Rosie O'Donnell impersonating Winona vibe.
B.D. was in it for the money. After MOMMIE DEAREST came out and was a runaway best seller, she jumped on the bandwagon. I love Bette Davis, even today (2019) and I love and I watch her movies.
I love Betty Davis, My favorite actress from the old era. I wasn't born until the 60's. I have always enjoyed black and white movies verses what they have today. Dam good movies.
Same with Maria Riva, Marlene Dietrich’s daughter.
Don’t believe everything you hear.
Money or not, it doesn't negate the fact that some people who knew Davis have confirmed that she was an awful person. Even her aide in the final years of her life had an extraordinarily difficult time with Bette, whom Bette, in the aide's own words, had contemplated firing.
@@travelseatsyellowlab There's a good interview with Bette Davis and Mike Walace where they both share their opinions.
th-cam.com/video/g857qqY0D90/w-d-xo.html
@@travelseatsyellowlab Exactly! These people like to equate the art of the artist with the value of the person that artist was. She was an amazing actress no doubt about that. However as a person, she had flaws just like everyone else. There's no need to justify those flaws.
Having listened to one of her teaching videos, Hyman now says that she wrote 'My Mother's Keeper' so that Bette would feel ''outrage'' and she would ''go away'', so it wasn't because she wanted to ''get through to her'' at all like she initially claimed. In her second book ('Narrow is the Way'), she claims her brother didn't try to talk her out of the first one, but that is completely contradicted by what he has said in documentaries. The ending of the second book is very telling, she recalls the time she and her husband were watching Bette on a talk show. She spoke about how hurt she had been by her daughter's betrayal, and then the cover of 'My Mother's Keeper' flashed on screen. Her words, "It was only two weeks before I was due to start my paperback tour and mother had unwittingly engineered a free plug of the book. Jeremy and I laughed so hard that I don't know whether there was any more to the interview." What a really childish and spiteful thing to do to the person who, by her own admission had given her all her love and devotion, no child abuse, and something she fails to mention either on television or in print, an absolute fortune over the years. I feel so sorry for Bette! It really is terrible what Hyman has said about Bette on her religious shows (which she only got because she is the daughter of Bette of course). I would put a question forward to B.D., what sort of Christian keeps up such a long vendetta against her mother? She just wants people's money (now she can't leech off mum) with her religious CDs and books to help pay her grocery bills which, let's be honest, judging by the size of her must be enormous.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Your comment absolutely made my evening LOL @ TV Bytes , Especially the last part! 😂
@@haylotroutman7826 Thank you -- I do try! lol. Just listen to the ingrate's testimony on TH-cam: ''A Long Day's Journey into Shite' - this no-name harridan isn't just the one sandwich short, the whole flamin' picnics gone haywire! Bitter old fruit loop!
She admitted that she and her husband laughed at Bette talking about the book. Soooo...instead of listening to her mother's words on the book, the first thing that popped into her mind was that it was giving the book free publicity.
@@PungiFungi Yep! $$$$ -- The Hymans desperately needed money and sold out Bette to get it (thinking she was going to die). The pair of them disgust me.
Bette was delusional
I hope someone writes a tell-all book about Bette's daughter one day and exposes the culty ministry she runs.
What cult ministry
@@MJ-qt1ml I guess we will have to check that out in Wikipedia
You mean Christianity? B.D. Hyman is a good and faithful servant of God.
This woman is 🥜
If what you believe what you say, why haven't you written and published the book?
Bette supported her daughter and her son-in-law for years, this is the gratitude she shows. Bette fought for and earned everything she got. BD didn't and it shows.
I agree! Bette worked hard. BD didn't earn GD thing!
True, B. D. was a bum end of story.
What did she do? She's complimentary of her mother in the interview.
It's all about the money. How much can I get. Unsuccessful daughter, son-in-law. Drinkers, bums. Or worse. Just continues on. She said BD was wonderful mother. Wow
Ingratitude is a terrible.
We may not like or agree with many things in the way we were raised. Most don't. Most of us dont write nasty, vindictive books trashing our family after they are dead, when they cant defend or explain themselves.
My parents were raised during the great depression, they had what l thought were odd and crazy priorities, to me. Then as an adult l read about how bad depression was, then l understood why my parents and especially my grandparents had the values, priorities that they did. Maturely and information help to clarify why they were, the way they were.
Bette Davis daughter just couldn't careless, even as a much older woman...
I grew up with an emotionally abusive mother. From my own therapy and reading they exist on a spectrum. Some are out-right pure monsters (Joan Crawford) and some are a decades wrong water-torture of constant easily dismissed put-downs (Bette Davis). If you ever think that the type of parent they describe doesn't exist... well they do.
Very true
What about the kids that are unadulterated monsters? Let’s tell the whole story, shall we?
@@georgegallucci1845 how do you think they got that way????
@@RockyMtnBaby From being spoiled rotten!!!
Everything for the spotlight! Bette Davis died very sad and heart broked with this book. Never spoke with her daughter again ‘till the end.
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How do you know?
@@carolbell8008 Her son told that in some interviews. He never spoke again to her sister, too.
@@Mr17051963 Hi, thankyou ! I have not seen the brother, but it must have been painful for BD to realise that her Mom had rejected her husband and known that her Mom’s love was conditional and she a possession. Narcissists are extremely difficult and cause horrible emotional damage especially to those close to them.
@@carolbell8008 I completely agree.
I would pick Betty Davis over Joan crawford
Bette
I would pick Joan over Bette anytime Joan is more down to earth
Bette daughter looks just like u
I would choose Joan.
My money is on bette
Man she sounds like Bette! Her voice inflections and the way she words things, just like her.
How strange!
In my opinion Bette Davis was an is the greatest actress of all time!
Faye Chaffin Meh.
Perhaps for a short period of time, but not of all time.
Agree
Nah dumb bitch
@@ianwilliamson2980 really wow
4 years later Bette was dead… I have had a twisted relationship with my Mother as well, but I know that it would cripple her morale, her self esteem, and her self worth as a human and as a mother in any respect to say things like this on TV never mind an entire book.
I feel so bad for Bette.
Maybe she shouldn't have been such a bitch to her daughter.
***** Very well put. Cheers. :)
***** You didn't actually watch the interview, did you? Her daughter acknowledged she had a great childhood. It was when she was an adult and married that her mother treated her like a piece of shit.
Well then that makes her even more lame because as you said, she's an Adult. Move on and why blame your mother if you are now an adult?
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All I know is, I loved this video and found it fascinating. Doesn't change my mind one iota about Bette. A truly amazing and beyond extraordinary actress. And I think her daughter looks just like her!
Have you seen young Bette? She was a doll...Her daughter has a few similarities but she trulie does not look like Bette
Her daughter was adopted just like Joan Crawford’s daughter
@@sheluvssmokedupeyes1 She was Bette's natural daughter. Bette's husband officially adopted her when married to Bette.
@@natashalena7571I disagree they do truly look alike. You can see it in the eyes
@@sheluvssmokedupeyes1wrong
She certainly changed her tune about here mother after this interview. She tells about how her Mother was a demon straight from hell. I'm surprised at how positive she is in this interview.
The mother didn’t leave her money?
@@gianluca3344 Bette never spoke to B.D again after she wrote the book, and neither did her brother. I doubt Bette would have left her anything anyway considering she was a spoiled, ungrateful brat that had delusions of grandeur and thought the world owed her something, but that book sealed her fate.
@@sanaminatozaki2140 did you not hear how Bette Davis drove her crazy. Bette was insane and impossible
Yeah and this woman calls herself a preacher, what a joke
When you are out of the abuse you see it crystal clear, it can take years to process.
When Mommie Dearest, the tell-all about Joan Crawford's supposed abuse by her daughter Christina, Bette Davis was disgusted at Christina saying how awful it was that her daughter would write such disrespectful awful things about her mother, Joan, who did not deserve such things said about her. This was saying a lot, since Bette and Joan were not known for being boon companions. However, Miss Davis went on to say how glad she was her own daughter would never write such a thing about her. It was horribly ironic, and quite sad how daughter betrayed mother.
We do not really know and will never know what happened between them. It is better not to judge.
I used to date B.D. and Bette was so warm a person (to me) that I called her my 2nd mom. This was during the time she did Pocketful of Miracles and Baby Jane.
B.D. was the apple of Bette's eyes.
B.D. always came 1st.
I had continued my friendship with Bette long after my dating her daughter.
Many people here have the wrong impression of Bette, that's for sure.
Which is really sad..usually spoiled brats are ungrateful
Yeah sure you did.
Cedarsedge ...... No one outside a household knows what goes on behind closed doors, take my word on that, I know from experience, our neighbors and even family always thought my parents and grandmother were great people, no they weren't.
K- Droj
Well said.
luv2travel2000 ....... Thank you
I still love to watch Betty Davis films she was one of the greats .
I don't understand why a lot of people are speaking on behalf of Bette's "good character" and how "happy a childhood the ungrateful B.D. had," when they only know what tabloids and interviews revealed. You can't know what a person experienced behind closed doors, and I think it's very well possible that B.D.'s memories might be valid. With that being said, I do think it to be considerably harsh to publish such a revealing book and interview while your elderly mother is still alive to witness it all. I find that sort of bitterness and retaliatory behavior a bit revealing about B.D.'s character, too...
Had she published it after her mother's death, it would've seemed more like she wanted to heal and reach out to other abuse victims as a means to not feel alone. But, since her mother was still alive during it all, it just seems like she wanted to stick it to her in the worst way she knew how.
B.D. should hope her children don't treat her similarly in her old age.
Yes!!
I agree 💯
She says good things about her mom too not just bad so why y’all don’t believe her is beyond me
What was the worst thing that Hyman wrote about Bette in her book?
@@Jack-ke5uv😅😅😅😅
I read her book. Even if everything B.D. wrote is true, all it shows is that Bette Davis was a difficult woman. She in no way deserved to be held up to the world's judgment, especially since Davis seemed to be in as much pain as she was causing. To make a money grab when your mother is ill with cancer and post-stroke is horrible.
very true
She openly states she had a very happy childhood. Shameful
@@relaxedyou4059 it's not shameful, it's just her story and her only way of forcing her mother to listen to her. Bette is the true cause of her own dirty laundry being aired in public, because she was too bull headed to even listen to her own daughter's complaints. And BD had some quite legitimate complaints to say the least. LoL. So is that truly unconditional love on Bette's part? Doesn't sound much like any kinda healthy love, more like possession and ownership. And for those who say that BD simply wrote a book of lies to make money and trash her mother, I say that if BD was capable of doing such an evil thing, she would have unhesitatingly made up some child abuse stories as well. That would be even more shocking and grab more attention for the book. But she didn't, she kept her integrity and gave her mother pretty much glowing reviews on her upbringing. No money-motivated person, bent on destroying someone's reputation with lies, would have resisted telling lies about her upbringing, especially after seeing how successful Christina Crawford's book became. Christina's book was a true story also. A hugely successful best seller and the reviews of Mommy Dearest is where the term TELL-ALL originated. But Bette did this to herself. Her refusal to listen to her daughter and stop trying to make her life a living hell truly backfired when the exasperated but clever BD came up with an idea to trump her mother's narcissism. Simply put, Bette got what she indirectly asked for. And the book didn't ruin her reputation. It actually made me feel sad for Bette that her narcissism caused her to feel so hurt and unloved by her daughter's independence. She was and is still my most favorite actress of all time. The book didn't make me feel any anger at Bette's behavior. I only felt exasperated by it. Now when I read Christina's book I despised Joan. And when I read the book by former Supremes singer Mary Wilson, I lost all respect for Diana Ross. But I lost NONE of my respect for Bette Davis after reading BD's book, cuz it just didn't paint Bette in a despicable sort of light. Not at all
I agree and that's why I gave the video a thumbs down. It's shameful for a daughter to turn on her mother no matter what the circumstance!
@@mrs.847 I mean, the circunstance does matter though, because when what happened in the relationship is abuse, then the child owes nor¿thing to that parent (like the Christina Crawford case). I havent read this book nore im very aware of the particular incidents in their relationship, but if it was just a complicated relationship and no abuse was taking place (no abuse of any kind, not only physical) then she probably shouldn´t publish it knowing that it will damage her mother for no reason (this assuming her mother really did nothing that could be considered abuse).
GIRL. WHAT ARE YOU WEARING?
Lol , funny
+Daniel Bowman I can't remember the oriental designer (Vera Wang?) who was popular for such 1980's bold silk prints, but we really thought we looked great in her clothes. Her designs were certainly not appropriate for fatties, such as Hyman, which made one look even fatter.
give her a break it was the 80s EVERYONE dressed badly
excuse me! I had a black leather Members Only jacket!
Perfect example! I knew in the 80s how dopey those jackets were. :)
I dressed in a timeless way in the 80s and ever since, thanks to my Mom, who told me to never spend $ on trendy junk but to wear classic, well-made clothes. I still have a lot of it, and no shoulder pads! :) I might have been the only girl in school whose bangs didn't' stick straight up in the air... never understood the whole "Mall Bangs" thing.
My relationship with my mother was FAR from perfect, but I think there should be a level of respect when it comes to sharing this sort of information with the world. It is almost like she was making a mockery of her mother and it just seems so disrespectful. And then to add insult to injury, she was making money off of it as well. Bah.
YES YAWLS YO: I can completely comprehend and artfully apprehend and honestly understand: Why Betty Davis +Joan Crawford and other wise women, "don't have a very high opinion of most men".(His hideous hostile human hate history) And this sickness syndrome, ran and runs inside my own biological family females and my mother and grandmother and so said sisters. It seem as if and as though, their brothers who are men, can't tell them anything that they don't wantonly wish to hear. In fact, they have a low opinion about most men, inclusively, their use to be boyfriends and husbands and them as wives. This is a 'Generational Curse'; passed on down to descendants, who would have been actual ascendants!!
she looks so much like her mum ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
In drag😢
She needs to write a book about her hairdresser.....now that's abuse!
Yes, these old bags with long hair everywhere. Look like old hags.
😀🤣😂
Lol 😂😂😂
It was the 80’s
Her hair looks fine to me.
Sadly, alcoholism deteriorates relationships and Bette Davis exemplifies the symptoms. Hollywood requires narcissism for stars to compete and win. It's good to forefront these issues.
It seems surprising to me that this girl would write such a book knowing full well that she had her mother's love and devotion. That alone tells me that she had no real grounds to publish this type of media on her own mother. Sorry B,D. But I must support your mother on this!
The fact that Bette Davis disinherited her tells me that she maybe didn't love her daughter very much.
One doesn't do that to one's child just because of a book.
@Madeline Tramantano It doesn't make it true if you shout it many times. Don't be a trump honey :)
Her mother had a distorted view of love and devotion and tried to destroy BD's family-life because of it.
Her book went nowhere.
@@kasperjoonatan6014 absolutely they would!.
This is sickening. A gossip fest about Ms. Davis when she was in her mid 70’s, elderly & suffering physically. This is pathetic. A slap in the face to her hard working Mother.
Gossip? More like personal testimony.
Suffering from chain smoking
All the pig wanted was money
Didn't read the book but her daughter hasn't run down her mother at all except to say she didn't like men.
That's how YOU see it. But that's not the way it actually is. Bette was still playing the victim up until her last day. Then Bette published her own book complaining of how ugly it was for BD to write that book. "I can't believe that all this time she hated me". I wonder if Ms Davis ever stopped for a second and took responsibility for even one single incident that BD wrote about in that book. If she's as bad BD describes her, the answer is no she did not.
I saw Bette and heard Bette in B.D.'s laughter. Beautiful!
Loved Bette Davis as an actress, but I’m sure living with a high profile actress/actor couldn’t be easy as I’m sure they live their life as if they are the only one that’s important comes with the territory, but B D has her mothers backbone and stood up for herself which I applaud her the only way for her to survive.
"...There was no child abuse." - B.D. Hyman 🤔
I believe her. She sounded very sincere
@@niccolea2086 ...I believe that there was no child abuse.
These children sometimes are neglected because of the hectic schedules of the movie stars.
BD wrote in the book that she had a wonderful childhood. It wasn't until BD grew up and decided to do what grown-ups do (leave home, get married, kids etc) that Bette started making her life a living hell.
Bette Davis is one of those famous celebrities that could Never be recreated Ever
Recreated, seriously
To paraphrase Billie Holiday when her ex McCay visited her almost on her death bed and prayed over her as Billie pretended to be unconscious - "If that M.F... has found Jesus, I'm rethinking my position."
BD has just never had that truth quality that made this book worth reading. Not that her e experiences were real, but that she did it because Crawford's daughter did it so she felt she wanted to write as well.
bd wanted to use bette name to make money without her iconic mother name noone be talking about her fucked up book her daughter ugly
Youre delusional
I don't think anyone is in the position to judge B.D. Hyman. I don't think being analytical about ones parents is dishonoring them, nor do I feel anything Mrs. Hyman has said tarnishes her mothers reputation in anyway. I believe it did hurt Bette Davis to share. A lot of people are like this. When a daughter or sibling gets married, you kind of lose them to their spouse and to someone like Bette Davis, this could have been extremely hard to accept.
Horrible book ,she gutted her mother. Read the book as you hear she had it all. Sold her mother's heart for copy.
I read the book years ago and just ... yuck! I wasn't even a Bette Davis fan, so I had no preconceived notions going in. BD is just ungrateful, makes mountains out of molehills, and guess what? A lot of people had it way, way worse. No clue how she goes from saying her childhood was great to "What torture!". I just wish I knew how to get rid of the book w/o adding to a landfill. Maybe it needs a cremation, haha.
Donielle Stenson woman
Donielle Stenson
Mother had no heart, thats kinda the point. Nothing to sell but insight into a personality disorder - she has done a favor for many. LOL you can always tell a narc when they get angry at the telling of the truth Eureka!!!! Good for BD, I actually prefer Christina's story, Crawford was evil.
Oppressed Nolonger I agree. A lot of people invalidate BD's feelings and stories; same thing they did to Christina Crawford. I think that people who have never been abused have a really hard time believing abuse victims. They have a tendency to side with the abuser. The thing they don't realize is that most abusive people are covert and they only show the crazy and evil side of themselves to the people they're abusing. They portray themselves completely opposite in the outside world. The community they live in thinks they're wonderful. This is maddening when you're the victim.
Yes, the thing is, if we want people to say nice things about us we need to treat them well.
Really? Treat them well and they will hate you for it.
@Jack-ke5uv I don't surround myself with people who are inherently evil
Nice bit of preservation by you. Thanks for posting: fascinating, yet sad interview
Betty gave her so much love as a child, i can see that Betty was an eccentric and dramatic and i am sure there could be some truth in what she is saying but some things you just keep to yourself, no one is perfect in life and i can see why Betty was hurt with her daughter.
LOL,
LOL
@A A calm down take a chill pill and don't act like a bitch over nothing
She couldn't keep it to herself. This was the only way BD could make her stubborn mother stop and see what kind of a person her insecurities had turned her into and how maniacally-possessive and jealous she had become with her.
What was so bad about the book? Hyman wrote that she always felt loved as a child and that her mother never abused her. So what's the problem? What was the worst thing she wrote about Bette in the book?
I think BD has taken one too many Bitter Pills!!😂😂😂😂
I don't understand why write this book and then say in this interview that his mother didn't abuse her, maybe her mother behaved strange and wasn't the best person but why not keep it as private information and specially if it huet her mother. Seems petty or just to make some money. I couldn't do something like this to my parents even if they made big mistakes or didn't always treat me well. I haven't read the book though, maybe she had reasons but just from this interview I don't get it. .
And some pizzas.
@@toreckman8899 😂😂😂
Yes her mother drove her to take a handful of them every day
Key word: Story. She said she wrote a story and stories are fictional. She wanted to hurt her mother and make money from being her daughter. An extremely unchristian thing to do.
B. D. Hyman reminds me of Rosie O'Donnel in a blonde wig.......
Miss Piggy on an "off day"
Has she heard of hair conditioner
@chester rockwell The Real Housewives of Branson
So true 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Except Rosie is an incredibly successful human being. :)
I remember reading "Mommie Dearest" and thinking that Christina Crawford had been brutalized. And I remember reading "My Mother's Keeper" and thinking that B.D. Hyman was a melodramatic spoiled brat whose mother perhaps gave in to her every whim. Even here she has such a dramatic flare. Joan Crawford made people eat at her house with white gloves? Joan made comments to B.D. not to go near her daughters with Bette standing right there? Lies and embellishments.
B.D. and her mother never spoke again after this book. Was it really worth it?
B.D. admittedly had a decent childhood where she wasn't abused and felt loved by her mother. Does her mom owe her more than that? My mom moved out when I was 9, yet I would still NEVER publicly humiliate her with an interview like this, much less a tell all book, no matter how much money was on the table. I was raised that you keep family business to yourself and you stick up for eachother. This is just sad.
If the book admitted that Hyman had a decent childhood and felt loved by her mother, then why would Bette be angry about the book. I just wonder if Bette even read the book.
All these other people's comments act like they knew Betty personally
agreed, too many people obsess about an actor as a fan, and think that everything wonderful they've projected onto that celebrity has to be real, they are unable to separate their fan relationship, with a daughter's relationship with her mother.
A LOT of celebrities are nice to their fans, but how they treat family, is entirely different.
Bette, not Betty.
we did lol
what a dump
And NOW who is projecting. People make observations just like you just did. Must be just okay with you doing it. 🤔
@@carolparsons-pearle8696 you make no sense
No parent is perfect and (unfortunately) children don’t come with instructions. Betty Davis was a very strong personality that had to come through in raising her children.
When you live with the person that's when you really know them!
Bette didn't speak to her again after this...wonder why
I’m just astounded that B.D Hyman, a self proclaimed Christian refuses to do the truly Christian act of forgiving her Mother. My parents at one time in my life were terribly abusive but being the Christian that I actually am I’ve forgiven them both and now couldn’t be closer to them. People make mistakes.. To err is human, to forgive divine. No matter what her Mom may or may have not done to her, she still gave her life.
Most self proclaimed “Christians” are that in name only. They rarely practice what they preach.
Forgiveness is one thing. We never forget nor should we or the cycle never breaks.
B. D. met Jeremy Hyman (b 1933 London), the British nephew of Seven Arts Productions owner Eliot Hyman, on a blind date for the film's showing at the Cannes Film Festival, in 1963, and the couple wed when B. D. was age 16 and Jeremy was age 29. Her mother Bette Davis gave her consent and publicly supported their marriage. The couple remain wed after 50-plus years[1] and have two sons, Ashley and Justin.[2
I read in the magazines recently, that Better Davis wasn't doing any actual parenting and even let her daughter get married at 16 to a 29 year old.
True but BD had a long happy marriage and 2 children with her talented husband until his death
The 80's may have the best music era. But I can't say the same thing when it comes to hair.
the 80's??? you can't possibly be serious - I guess you are a kid and didn't experience the Sixties and Seventies
She had a happy childhood......what more did she WANT!!! You fool, B.D.
Loxi Bell and was she adopted?
No she was Bette Davis's only natural child.
She wanted a chauffer, lots of money, a maid, a fancy car, trips to Europe, hmm what else? Geeze. Oh, yeah. FAME.
She has a story to tell. Let her tell it.
Feels so disrespectful towards her mother if she had a happy childhood, why hurt your elderly mother and put out private family stuff in public.
I tend to take these, "my mom was possessed by the devil", books from celebrity's kids with a HUGE gra in of salt. I mean this woman's own brother said a lot of what she wrote was questionable at best, and that he believed that the only reason that she wrote it was because her mother was horribly sick at the time and she thought she'd be dead by the time it was published.
thats so messed up...smh.....man........
I know..smh. she seems better now....like she follows GOD now & all.......I am sure Bette has forgiven her by now in heart.......
so3ducme777 the irony is she became the demon she is after turning "born again" - it's not that since writing the book she became born again, but the book itself was the result of her supposedly "finding god"
I love Bette but ppl can't just dismiss what B.D Hyman went through. No-one has a right to put B.D down for writing this book just because Bette was a brilliant actress but that doesn't mean she wasn't a horrible person. Ppl always remember the terrible things in life more then the good especially if you have to put up with the outbursts and verbal abuse 24/7. So don't be horrible to B.D because she told her story. Famous ppl are great outside with the public etc but behind closed doors only the families know what really happens and the public don't, i believe B.D and i think its her way of therapy for herself
I think what I find fascinatingly odd is that sure, she knew her mother better than we do, but she's also saying she loved her mother and had a happy childhood - whatever, whoever's mistaken isn't the point for me... surely she would know how upsetting her mother would have found this book? I mean books take a long time to write, you have to arrange publishing and distribution, this wasn't a small accidental slip and it certainly wasn't a personal affair to help her mother understand her better. It was a big long deliberate chain of events that ended exactly as badly as anyone could have predicted.
What Bette Davis Daughter is describing is a Narcissist. The interviewer is trying to take sides and I am glad that BD Hyman stood her ground
She looks like her Mom
I knew Bette. She LOVED BD. Bette was rough, forced to be tough, betrayed by men, used by the studios without the pay she deserved, and just wasn't a good mother. Bette didn't know how to be a mother. But she LOVED BD. She LOVED BD!!!! This isn't Mommy Dearest. BD didn't write a book like that.
Bette was used and betrayed by men so she suspected that in marriage and business, they used all women. Plus, hey, Bette drank. I say, she DRANK. She often lost track of what she was doing and what she had said.
BD really is a honest, learned bible teacher.
Don Diego Vega I think you're right. It's time we the public just let celebrities live out their HUMAN LIVES with all it's ups&downs we ALL have!
I don't know why people are so abusive to the daughter, we don't know her or Bette - we only know the characters that Bette played, there is no need to get defensive on Bette's part. The daughter is only sharing HER experience as the child of an actress - particularly the adult relationship. She is entitled too to her experiences, they are valid to her. She's actually endeared Bette by sharing her faults, parents are not perfect people even if they're movie stars. You don't need to feel offended or angry, just listen to someone else's experience of their mother and appreciate that account. My own mother is a wonderful person loved by many and was exceptionally talented engineer especially given the male dominated time period at the time - but her relationship with us her children was poor, she wasn't a good parent of children - but no one aside from my sister and I could know this as our father was often absent too. If we were to make that public, everyone would call us ungrateful or crazy because there we were, a picture perfect family wanting for nothing. Often very successful career people are assumed to be all rounders and great parents which can be a harmful assumption because of their public persona. I appreciate these anecdotes, she said nothing nasty, they were actually very endearing. It is pity that the mother and daughter never made up at the end. The adopted son and her assistant however benefitted greatly from this relationship breakdown.
The big difference between Christina Crawford and BD is that Christina tried to understand her mother’s actions, even including good times with the bad in her book. BD wrote hers to be cruel! Bette gave that woman everything, even a role in Baby Jane. She hated her mother cause she was a great talent and she wasn’t. Plus Bette probably told her the truth about her not being cut out to be an actress and it pissed her off
Well said!
BD had no choice. She wanted her mother to finally listen to how she behaved. The book forced her to listen. She knew she would hurt her gargantuan ego. True Bette had recent medical issues but this is a situation between a mother and a daughter and BD simply couldn't let her go to her grave without saying the truth.
Furthermore, BD gave Bette GLOWING reviews on her upbringing (in the book and in interview after interview). If she was a liar, she would have also said she had a traumatic childhood as well. Use it for more than just a hat-rack will you.
Her hair is a mullet that never ends
Summer of Kitty Love give her a break. It’s the 80s. Many people had those kinds of crazy hairstyles from perms to mullets
klassicalmuzik 6
The woman presenter in yellow has a hedgehog sat on her head.
This was 1985!
Very sad her mum must have been devastated by this book.
OK Everyone sing now, to the tune: "She's Got Bette Davis' Eyes"
!......anonymousmom
lol!
Your singing alone
She does
😂🤣😂😂
Lmao I use to love that song , I was about 7yrs old
BD was Bette’s great love but she struggles for her own identity between her Mother and husband. Bette said herself that Jeremy Hyman changed BD. She said he was an opportunist who enjoyed Bette giving them money and buying them houses until their business went under. According to their business partners, he encouraged BD to write the book in a last effort to bleed the turnip dry and cut ties with her mother. They sold the farm Bette bought them, moved to the Bahamas and never spoke to her again, owing their former business partners money. Bette had a stroke immediately following g her double mastectomy and BD was begged by Bette’s assistant and attorney to not publish but the deal was done. She released it on Mother’s
Day. She sadly convinced herself that her lies were true rather than eat crow…and his behind Christianity to make herself a victim searching for identity and peace. A really tragic life. Even Gary Merrill wrote in Bette’s defense that his step daughter BD had not followed the commandment on which she believes: honor your father and mother.
Wow, she looks just like her mother. These so-called Hollywood starlets were a trip when it came to their mothering skills. But when you see how much the men made back in the day compared to the women. It was extremely hard for women actresses. They were used and abused. But, I believe her.
I wonder if now as a woman in her late sixties she regrets writing the book in her mothers final years. I would feel guilt big time knowing I broke my mothers heart in her final years on earth.
Bette heart broken? 🤣 that’s hilarious.
Davis was still alive at this point (1985)
Which makes Barbara that much more believable.
Bette was a tough & outspoken woman & her daughter takes after her. Read this book a long time ago & enjoyed it.
Thank you B.D. for sharing with us who your mother is as a person. She made her very real to me. I admire Bette and her talent, who she was as a professional and now I admire her as a person and a mother.
It was a hit job. But sure, believe that nonsense.
@@thomasalbus2656 She's telling the truth
@@punkanellylovejoy702 And you know this how?
@@tl1110 You DON'T know this? Oh well. Not much I can tell you then.
@@punkanellylovejoy702 And liking your own comments doesn't validate your opinion.
I don’t have the best relationship with my daughter, but I sure as hell wouldn’t write a book about it - lol
My mother taught me right from wrong.
She's always RIGHT and everybody else is always WRONG!
Wow, sounds like my mom, sure that they are not friends🤣
Damn, how can you do your mom like that? That is messed up.
Yea, that's messed up.
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All of All parents are saints not all parents are saints not all parents are good parents they do the best they can with what I’ve got but not all of them are a good parents
She admits she was loved and well provided for. The bumps and bruises of upbringing were no greater than anyone else and she was not an abused or neglected child so why expose the personality and character flaws of a well known and respected personality is confusing.
She was a televangelist a few years ago.She reminded me of people I read about in the Bible,the Pharisees.
I think she was just pointing out the quirkiness of their relationship. She said she was loved by her Mom.
It wasn't an abusive relationship. She didn't get any money.
And you live with baby Betty Davis all your lifeWho knows a person more than their child why would you judge someone this is crazy
B.D. made money from the books sales of her book.
I think she wrote the book because she needed money & people have always said that BD never really liked her mom. Sad
as bette said this book was the biggest heartbreak of her life. im glad she was disinherited. what a horrible thing to do to a mother who loved u and gave u everything
She left out the part where BD was just 16 when she married Hyman, the creepy super christian, age 29. What parent in their right mind would have been okay with that? I would be livid.
Watching these videos of celebrities kids tell him about their parents reminds me of this refrigerator magnet I once saw with Lucille Ball and Vivian Vance as Lucy Ricardo and Ethel mertz smiling at each other. It read, you will always be my friend... YOU KNOW TOO MUCH.
She might be has not Bette Davis voice, but i absolute can see her entuasiastic when she talking like her mom...!
She always fails to mention that her mother supported her and her lazy husband.
The moment BD said "there was no abuse" I knew it was game over for her because you cant contradict yourself like that.
I find it very unfair when people write biographies or autobiographies and criticise people who are no longer alive to defend themselves. For a start, they can make things up or exaggerate a story; also, memory is very unreliable, even if the writer believes they are recalling things correctly, and on top of all that - personality determines perception, as in how a timid child might perceive a dominant parent to be a terrifying tyrant, whereas a feisty child might see a dominant parent as merely a pain in the neck. It is well documented that Bette Davis was an amazingly strong woman who had a fantastic career and a life that had lows as well as highs that she bravely overcame. Her daughter should have remained a nonentity and kept the stories about her mother to herself.
Bette Davis was still alive. She passed away four years later.
With help from a mother comes possessiveness. That type of control over any assistance strangles the relationship.
The man-hating seems to have originated from her childhood. Bette Davis was most fond of her mother and sister.
They referred to themselves as the 3 Musketeers, and she has stated herself in an interview with Barbra Walters that she was very glad when her father left the family.
She seems to have had such unhappiness with men over her life because she never addressed that hurt and emotional baggage she acquired in childhood.
I see this all the time with women and men who have been abused or neglected, either in their teenage years or childhood.
They will continue to attract, and be attracted to broken people who are just as emotionally immature as they are...
Then they end up addicted to one thing or another (sex, H, C, meth, alcohol, videogames, pills, food, etc.) and chronically unhappy.
They go around thinking people are just going to lie to them, cheat them, and they're not worthy of joy or love.
Because the cycle will continue to repeat unless you rewire your subconscious mind.
I really hope this helped somebody.
Terrible. Poor Bette. I've been watching some footage of BD especially her teachings as a preacher in modern day...she's a complete and utter knob. A fabricator. She needs help! Head case
I'll take the knob over you, Mr Headcase.
She's obviously nutter you only have to look at her clothes and hair.
MrYogipee Who are you talking too?... Obviously you have a lot of nerve, don’t you???
MrYogipee ???
David Allen I don’t understand what he’s on about! 😂
I read the book and I think it is very well written.
It is a testimony of domestic violence, neglectful motherhood, and narcissistic parenting, themes that, almost 40 years ago, were considered taboo and not at all discussed.
In the name of Bette Davis' talent (which was real), and public image (which was abrasive), BD Hyman was unjustly insulted during all this time, and treated as an ungrateful daughter when she was a victim during all her childhood, and teenage years.
She was also accused of causing a stroke in her mother.
She was only trying to be heard, by a person who was not able to do it and to evolve.
She even risked being disinherited (which end up happening) to gain her freedom.
I admire her courage.
B.D. runs a cult now. Bitch is crazy and money hungry
Yo are crazy and I think you a bad son or a bad daughter yourself to approve of this evil and almost demonic bitch who should never ever been born at all
She’s not a victim-she’s just another Hollywood kid’s “victimhood” story because it’s popular to be.
BD , you say you did this book in an attempt to "Reach" your Mother, as you had no other way. You also say she showed you alot Love as a Child, and you never had to fight to get that from her.
I too had a Maternal person born in 1908, as was Bette Davis, maybe she was a controlling personality, maybe so, maybe she was demanding, maybe so and is it possible the world she survived in made her this way?
The fact that she busted her ass and worked so hard all those years to provide such a childhood for you makes me wonder why you cannot forgive her for being less than perfect?
Youve only accomplished character assassination on her. Maybe you didnt like the person she was and you wanted to reach her fan base, but we are never going to care to learn she was only human and less than perfect, youre not either no one is BD. I see her in you and really wish you could appreciate that fire and brilliance bestowed upon you at birth!
Beautifully said. 💜
It doesn't matter how hard she worked or the fact that she was a good mother in BD's childhood, that gives her no right to turn around and try to make her miserable by showing hatred towards the people in BD's adult life.
Just because Bette was a great actor but that doesn’t change whatever relationship B.D. Hyman had with her mother
'My Mother's Keeper' was pure trash, it was a cash-grab perpetrated by her deceased husband Jeremy Hyman, who wacked out a sequel two years later, detailing the Hyman's religious conversion and badmouthing Bette (who had finically supported this pair for two decades) at every opportunity. Ask anyone in Bette's camp, mother and daughter were very close, and 'My Mother's Keeper' totally came out the blue for everyone who knew them, hurting B.D.'s brother Michael who broke off all contact with B.D. after it's publication. When Bette had her mastectomy and stroke, B.D. visited her once in hospital, and was told by the doctors that she probably only had a few weeks left to live, she never visited again. The Hymans started work on 'My Mother's Keeper', hoping it would bring in as much money as 'Mommie Dearest' had for Christina Crawford. But-- Bette survived and, to her credit, she carried on working despite ill health and the heartache caused by this storybook, where many of the allegations have been overwhelming denounced as false by those who were there. The Hymans later lied that Michael hadn't tried to talk his sister out of writing the book, he did, but was told she'd already accepted the $100,000 advance money (the Hymans needed money because Jeremy was in trouble with his trucking business again. Bette had bailed them out in 1983 but he was a terrible businessman and their fortunes didn't improve long) and had to go forward with it. The Hymans then tried to cash-in on God and set up a ministry, charging people for their self-published books and audio cassettes, whilst still hanging onto Bette's name (B.D.'s insane comments about seeing her transform into a demonic figure!). Those people always had their hands out -- 'My Mother's Keeper'? irony B.D. Hyman... 'Bette's Leeches' more like. Jeremy was a waster, B.D. is now a sick woman -- was it worth it?
I had the urge to leave a similar comment.
Very much suspect the husband had the ambitious hand in the matter. Convenient for him there is no atoning for his part in this.
As the daughter of a famous public figure, I can see the need to step out from BD’s shadow. It is really unfortunate when she did, a guy almost twice her age led her in such a nasty direction.
@@prettybuff75 Very true! He let her take a wrap and kept well out of it pubically -- the coward!
I do not believe that Barbara Davis is fabricating most of these scenarios. What made me believe it is when she detailed how harsh and cruel Bette Davis was to her sister, Bobby. When Bobby died in 1979, her daughter, Fay, had made arrangements for her final disposition and Bette threw her weight around and got her way by taking over everything like a big bully. People are only defending Davis because she was such a star in her time, and think these people can do no wrong.
Whoever said this was madeup I believe that Bette Davis was actually not a pleasant person to be around. She believed she had to be tough and gritty in order to climb up her career. For all we know she could have had that lesson learned the hard way and maybe she tried to influence this on her daughter Barbara
Yours is a typical prejudice about women.. that they must be "pleasant to be around" or else something is wrong with them. Nobody says a male star is unpleasant to be around; men have the entitlement of having quirky or sharp personalities, but a woman is expected, unfairly, to be all sweetness.
Did I say anything about women? No I didn't so let's just cut through the feminism crap cake and let's just be pleasant for Christmas
Anthony Lopez Why reserve your "pleasantness" -- a matter of opinion -- just for Christmas? Does this mean you can act like an ass the other 364 days?
Lol exactly
Anthony Lopez The fact of the matter is that she had to be tough and gritty to climb the ladder in Hollywood. Hollywood for women has always been about how beautiful they are, and she had a very tough time getting parts when she first came to Hollywood because she was told she didn't have the looks of a movie star. She fought against this and got the parts that she deserved because of her acting ability. Good for her.
She betrayed her mother! She could at least Waited until she passed her mother did not deserve that!
I'm glad this book failed to tarnish Ms. Davis's legacy to anywhere near the degree of Mommie Dearest. B.D didn't exist because her mother's career badly needed the boost maternity with the right
Is the audiobook available on TH-cam? Christina Crawford has her mommy dearest in audiobook on TH-cam..