He was very close to his adopted dad, Gary Merrill. If you can get a copy of the book, do so..."Me, Bette and Rita" by Gary. He was married to Bette during All About Eve for several years later. Merrill was a good guy.
I loved Bette Davis. Even so, I am sure she was hard to take. If BD objected to Bette's destructive behavior then why did she continue to have Bette in her life? Money. In spite of all Bette's flaws she remained financially generous to BD and Jeremy and kept them financially afloat for years. BD and Jeremy complained about Bette but continued to use her like an ATM. When Bette fell ill, BD and Jeremy found themselves in dire financial straits. They defaulted on their mortgage, left their creditors high and dry, and fled the United States. BD seldom mentions this. BD and Jeremy thought Bette would die and the book was a quick, large infusion of cash. The book "My Mother's Keeper" was more unintentionally humorous than shocking. All the readers just sighed and said, "Well, that's Bette Davis being Bette Davis". The book was a terrible thing to do to a mother who was battling cancer and a stroke at the same time. No matter how BD tries to justify it. The book was a low blow and done out of pure greed.
Not so. Some women use the role of motherhood to be successful at manipulating their children. No one knows what children go through when parents are adored by people on the outside.
I have such deep respect for Bette Davies, as an actress, mother and wonderful person she was. I’m estranged from my own daughter and I can empathise with the pain that she must have endured with her daughter writing a book about their relationship, whatever that may have been it was not for the world to see. ❤️❤️🙏
Kurabenoken Tenda IMO, Bette was a fabulous actress but, also, a malignant narcissist. She grievously wounded *many* people in her lifetime. Remember actors are, by profession, liars. They pretend to be people they are not for a living, and we never really know what they are like in their private lives.
jackybaby - I don't know about "DEEPLY FLAWED", but it was WRONG, plain and simple!!!! Bette did EVERYTHING for that UNGRATEFUL BRAT!!!! I guess the old saying is true -"Money Talks; BullS&#! Walks!"
Public ridicule? I don't know anyone who thinks less of Bette Davis because of a book her daughter wrote. Her daughter wrote a book..so what. Was the book entertaining? Maybe. But Bette Davis is still a legend and nobody even remembers who B.D. Hyman is except maybe she became some wacko Christian preacher.
Not just once with her book but again years later in her you-tube channel B.D Hymen, one hour's worth of saying Bette was a genuine witch and on and on...
To be fair to BD, she made it clear during interviews that it wasn't a 'Mommie Dearest'. She said that she wasn't beaten or starved ( i.e. as punishment for not eating a rare steak, like Christina Crawford ). I remember Bette's response to 'Mommie Dearest' and it was a little smug. I suspect BD thought to herself, "Not so fast there..." I love Bette Davis too. It's difficult _not_ to love Bette Davis - but if she hurt her daughter and saddled her with a few too many issues, then I don't blame BD for writing the book.
@@reesemorgan2259 ppl struggle with their own demons and when they grow up and have kids, they aren’t always perfect parents. I think Bette tried to do her best. She was a difficult person but she obviously loved her children. She admitted her mother was nothing like Crawford. So what was the point? It’s just my opinion but Bette was famous, her daughter wasn’t and she wrote the book & told the world their personal business. It was an act of betrayal and I hope it was worth it to her.
@@reesemorgan2259 At some point you are responsible for your own actions. She got marries at what, 17, how can she blame her mother for her life? She has no talent of her own and used her mother's fame and name to bleed money from. We all have imperfect parents.
I think the reason is what Bette said, she thought her mom was going to die and also, she had seen how successful "Mommy Dearest" by Christina Crawford was, so successful that it was made into a movie. Interesting that BD's book wasn't.
I read the book and her problem with her mother was that Bette Davis had classic narcissistic personality disorder exacerbated by alcoholism. B.D. was allowed to date older men at 13. That is child abuse. Bette stood bye and allowed the step father to abuse B.D. Throughout the book over and over B.D. is abused by her mother mentally and emotionally. There was no way to stop it other than writing the book. It is a well written, articulate and sometimes funny account of a relationship where one person is taking advantage over another using emotional espionage. Bette Davis raised a strong daughter and it backfired on her. Bette's sister wasn't so fortunate.
@@smackamoe What? On the one hand you list a bunch of terrible things Davis supposedly did or allowed to be done, including mental/emotional abuse. THEN you say "Davis raised a strong daughter and it backfired on her." WHAT? How does THAT math work?
@@jhb1493 sometimes what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and I think maybe that's what they were trying to say. The way she failed to raise made her daughter stronger but also bitter....which anyone would be in that situation. Bette Davis does seem like your classic narcissist.
She had to tell HER side of the story? Who asked her what her side was? No matter what, I could never betray my mom like that. Some things are best left to private therapy.
I think she did it to copy Christina Crawford’s “Mommie Dearest” but Joan Crawford was a LEGITIMATELY horrible extremely abusive parent. B.D Hyman is just entitled and privileged.
I have never seen Bette's daughter show any remorse about her actions or regret that she & her mother became estranged. It seems she has nothing for her mother but pure hatred.
She was like a lot of kids growing up in dysfunction and certain levels of abuse but I believe Bette really tried and she definitely loved her children. B.D is ungrateful and sees the cup half empty.
She is a no talent person ( Sounds very jealous of her Mother) if she felt so strong why didn't she refuse the inheritance????????????????????????????????
Barbara was written out of her mother's will as was Bette's other daughter. You might be thinking about Christina Crawford who contested her mother's will and was awarded a sum of money. Shirley MacLaine allegedly told her daughter that she won't be inheriting, and Sachi Parker wrote a book concerning her mother Shirley.
Ouch. Every family has dysfunction, and two wrongs don’t make a right. Therapy never came to mind for her? Publicly shaming and humiliating her mom makes this Christian woman more in need of insight than her mom ever needed. Doesn’t Jesus speak of forgiveness? I think He also warns of pointing out the speck in another’s eye when there’s a rock in your own. If my children did this to me I think I’d want to die.
I gotta say something here because I’ve seen a lot of these celebrities or famous people’s children bashing them real bad after the life of luxury they give them: I’ve noticed children that go through a real hardship childhood with their parents because of poverty they grow up to be the sweetest, most hardworking and respectful young people ever to their parents. It’s almost as if showing love with luxury is not satisfactory for the soul. It’s actually damaging.
Well...everyone still remembers Betty Davis.....but no one remembers ...what is her name?...gee..I can’t even remember ....you know....her daughter...what’s her name?...oh never mind, it doesn’t matter.
2:38 - 2:50: Look at the way she contradicts her self twice in the same statement: Sure I did it for the money, I didn't do it for the money. Most of the money, not most of the money will go to Christian works. A double double take back!! Makes you wonder if you can believe anything she says!
Agreed. BD's excuses and reasoning seemed highly un-credible to me. From the timing for publication (as this clip points out), BD wrote the book expecting it would come out in the aftermath of her mother's anticipated death. Now put that side by side with "writing this book is the only way I have of communicating with my mother, she won't listen" (paraphrasing). Ok? So you published a book to communicate with someone you had every reason to think would be DEAD when it came out? What? That seems TOTALLY credible, right?
Brooke Goslin She’s not; B.D. is, IMO, quite sane. Bette Davis was a wonderfully talented actress who accomplished much in her life, but she had many character flaws that she refused to address.
The Hymans lived near where my parents lived in Northeast Pennsylvania, Ashdown was bought by my friend's grandfather after the Hyman's ripped everyone off in Wyalusing Pennsylvania, leaving a trail of unpaid bills. In fact my friend's grandfather was a realtor who bought the farm and he and his wife had Bette over for dinner and she was quite charming. My friend from school actually was friends with Bette's grandson Ashley, hence Ashdown Farm. But I called B.D. Hyman to speak to her but got her voice mail for her so-called ministries wow...talk about phony- her accent now is not the well modulated voice heard here but an awful Texan drawl or a mash up of Southern twang. Needless to say she never called me back .....no wonder her TH-cam channel comments are disabled. 😂😂😂
@@oklahomorose yeah I agree on the "crazy like a fox" I had called her ministry out of curiosity and got her voicemail and I can tell you she had this fake, thick southern accent that she developed from the interviews I had seen of her...complete wqcko
BD looks as tough and strong willed as her mother so if the book was to shake her mother off and cut loose then she didn't need to write this book and live off the talk show spin offs for decades....she'd eventually have got the message to stay away. BD was only 17 when she married...very young indeed. Her mother wasn't ready to let go of the child she loved so dearly. The book has supported her ever since even weaving into her born again ministry about the good verses evil forces. She accused her mother of being a witch or into witchcraft thus stereotyping Bette as the bad guy when she was probably an overbearing, over loving, work obsessed but brilliant artist who had a problem with alcohol. She absolutely adored BD and gave her an interesting, well traveled childhood meeting lots of great people. BD clearly needed Bette's financial support but couldn't cope with the baggage...well , she found a way to achieve this BUT in truth, made a deal with the devil and broke her mothers heart.
I think part of it is there are people who say they saw Joan abuse Christina and do what she accused her of. BD, on the other hand, correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think I have seen anyone trustworthy back her up. There is a well-known saying along the lines of someone telling the truth can be asked 1000 times and on each occasion, the story is always the same while a liar changes the story every other time. Christina has stuck to the same story every single time while BD either adds or takes away things because she can't remember what her original story was.
There are legions of witnesses that backed up what Christina said including her brother. BDs brother and most people that knew them said it did happen. I'm wonder if she was jealous of her mother and wanted some fame for herself.
I read her book. My mother was the same. Classic narcissist personality disorder. Unless you've lived through it you wouldn't know. Dysfunctional people who are narcissists hide it well from outsiders. But when I read her book, I had flashbacks of my own experiences that were similar. My family didn't have the money to control like Bette Davis. B.D. is a brave woman. And she did love her mother. She just chose to protect herself and family.
It's jealousy. Bette was a beautiful Hollywood legend who loved her daughter & kept her wealthy & healthy, but her daughter messed her own life up & was willing to sell her mother down the river for a controversial book. History will only remember Bette the legend of stage & screen.
No, Bette hurt her own daughter. I suspect that one of her husbands sexually abused BD Bette allowed her own daughter to be married at 16. Bette went to hell BD was saved and lived a good life on her own
You suspect?? WOW!! That is really impressive. As far as BD getting married at 16…. Hasn’t she claimed that it’s a wonderful marriage? Wasn’t it her mothers “jealousy” over her “happy marriage” that caused the main rift between them? Why do you bring that up just before you claim that Bette went to Hell? Exactly how do you know this information? Are you God? Next time you speak with God, tell him you need a raise in pay because you’re doing his job. Shameful!
This is also what happens when you nonchalantly raise your children. You try to be “friends” with your kids and I think that is precisely what Bette did. Bette appeared very broad-minded and chill on a personal level-I mean able to “shoot the shit”, not haughty, not the stereotype of the imperious diva movie Queen. And with that I’m sure BD grew up fast because her mother set those loose boundaries and also spoiled her to an extent. Which is dangerous too because now you don’t know whether you’re a mother or a friend. And Bette probably tried to hard to be a friend. When it backfired she exercised control and tried to wear the mother hat again and be more authoritative etc. Crawford on the other hand was probably much more strict with Christina but that also backfired as she didn’t try to be a friend one second of one day. But she did with her ‘twins’ (who weren’t really twins) and they loved their mother.
Doesn’t the Bible say what measure you judge you will be judged? You have no clue what Miss Davis put her daughter through at all. BD had no choice. She was trying to get her mother to leave her alone stop cursing her family. Let me tell you Miss Davis is most likely in very hot place right now. She was a practicing witch by all accounts.
Mother/daughter relationships are always weird. Believe me when I say as a young woman I hated my mother. She knew it too. I got a way from her as soon as I was 21. When I got older I forgave her and loved her till she died.
So sad! We all have positive & negative experiences with our parents, we accept them (not meaning harsh abuse that’s totally different) because we love our parents.
I've always believed BD over exaggerated many aspects of her relationship with her mother, Bette. That being said, I can also see where Bette could've been exhausting to deal with but loved BD unconditionally. After all, she allowed her to marry at a significantly young age and financed her life even though she didn't approve. Bette created the monster that would eventually destroy her, and that's the real tragedy here.
Agreed. Davis had a lot of negatives - but the bigger you are, the bigger a shadow you cast. In her own private life people seemed to think the good in Davis outweighed the bad - by a lot. Many people who knew her closely went on the record after BD's book came out, and they clearly admired Davis. We'll never know for sure - but what we can know is, Davis gave millions of people pleasure, inspiration and an example of what a strong woman could do in what was still very much a mans world. BD wrote a highly questionable, self-serving "tell all" about a parent she thought was on the brink of dying. That says it all.
A child who could make a deal to publish an attack on their parent after death - and then have to move up publication when the parent survives. A child who has been caught out lying in that book in many ways. A child who profited from those lies, and then - SHOCK - goes on to preach "their own brand" of Christianity at everyone else. Why am I not surprised. I seem to remember something from the Bible about honouring our parents, not throwing them under the bus for cash and attention. Disgusting human being.
I think B.D. wrote the book and had it published so soon after Bette’s illness was for money and because she thought Bette was going to die soon. To say she wrote it when her mother appeared to be knocking on death’s door because it was the ONLY way to get through to her is idiotic. Now she has $ from that trash book instead of profiting from Bette Davis’ estate. Bette Davis has the lasting power though! And the last laugh.
B.D. had a strained relationship with Bette before she passed that's pretty evident. She probably couldnt wait to trash her and make money off her at the same time. Some children will never be grateful no matter how well they are brought up .Its called being self obsessed whiney adolescent
Bette was probably hell to contend with. Having decimated her own sister to a pathetic shell of a woman, then badgering her niece into allowing Bette to take control of burial arrangements tells the type of person Bette was.
@@travelseatsyellowlab BD lead her mother to believe their relationship was on the mend because they did things together .Then BD released the book when she thought her mother was going to die from her stroke. OPPOrtunistic backstabber
Was she jealous of mum. Mum gave her everything growing up. Bette loved fame and attention and that came first in her life. They both have simular strong personality and that will clash.
I seriously question whether B.D. Hyman actually understands the true meaning of forgiveness and repentance of one's sins. Also one does not wash your family's dirty clothes in public!
I only know of this story through 2 or 3 videos on TH-cam. I haven't read the book. From the videos I saw of BD explaining it she said that she felt this was the only way she could get through to her mother, which sounds feasible, after all Bette lived her life in the public eye so perhaps this would be an opportunity to get her attention - and who knows what other ways she might have tried privately? The only mention about it that I've heard from Bette is in this video here, where her only remarks seem very snarky, essentially saying "I've spent a lot of money on my child" - which is what most parents try to do and holy moly shouldn't begrudge if they're as wealthy as she was!
All you have to do is watch any of the intervews with BD Hyman here on TH-cam and that short clip on this one. What should have been the heartbreaker for Bette was to realize her daughter is a total nutcase as well as a surprisingly vicious and self-serving hypoctite.
Bette Davis was & always will be a legendary actress....A classy lady it's a shame her daughter felt the need to " air out dirty laundry" to make a buck! Her daughter showed her true colors in doing so....I remember reading it when it first came out & just not believing half of what was written.....Bette Davis summed it up best " she had been her daughter's keeper" for so long.....🙏💜
Indeed, and in her words: ''There is no doubt you have a great potential as a writer of fiction. You have always been a great storyteller.'' I read that book, and felt I was reading a novel with characters, the so-called ''Conversations'' were so contrived.
When you look at pictures at BD when she was young she looks lovely. As she has aged she looks positively evil. She wrote the book for money. As for Mommie Dearest I believe Christina as Joan Crawford was neurotic. Bette Davis truly loved her daughter and there is no comparison between Christina Crawford and BD.
BD is at best deeply misguided and cruel, at worst a horrendous person. Incredibly ironic she now runs a Christian missionary; if love, forgiveness, "turn the other cheek" & "honour your mother and father" are part of it's tenants, she is indeed the latter.
@@NinaSofia_ Agreed. When "Feud" came out & Bette & Joan were hot property again, BD claimed her mother practiced witch craft! Obviously BS & attention seeking.
I just looked at her Christian Ministry videos. All she does is bad mouth her mother. I didn't find anything Christian about it. I've read other people's comments that she's accused her mother in being involved in witchcraft. I didn't watch any of the videos to see that but wouldn't doubt it. BD seems like a nut.
@@merricat3025 Well said. Long history of children of celebrities being a wee bit odd. In our time, just check out "White Chocolate", the son of Tom Hanks. I don't think one goes to Beverly Hills High, and end up talking like that?! No judgement, for in the real world when a child arrives the attention goes to them. In the Celebrity World, the attention goes to the parent. Usually children try to differentiate from siblings, in celebrity world, its from parents. Carrie Fisher explains better.
Arikm7 well that’s the thing, Crawford’s legacy hasn’t been completely destroyed and she is still revered for her talent in acting and her beauty. I have a mother who is just as alcoholic and unstable as Joan Crawford and they seem to grow more similar by the day. As a result of such I have been abused on Dozens of occasions. Does it mean I hate my Mother? Of course not. Does it mean I hate Joan Crawford? of course not. But abusers should never be able to wash their hands of all the pain they caused regardless of what the situation is.
Haven't read the book and don't intend to. Bette Davis was a class act nothing less. She fought to establish herself and she succeeded. I'm thinking Davis' daughter was just terribly jealous of her mother. Perhaps she wanted to be an actress like her mother and didn't have the talent.
Her daughter is actually on you-tube, channel name "B.D Hymen" (only one period after the initial "B") and her videos "A Long Day's Journey Into Light-(BD Hyman's testimony)" which are 4 parts go on and on about how Bette Davis was a genuine practicing witch and how she would always have to have her way and tried to not only ruin her life but also her marriage and her son's life. Between all 4 videos it's around 2 hours.
(Betty Davis) Cut this Daughter out of her will She left her Entire Estate to her Adopted Son and Made Financial Provisions for her Younger Adopted Daughter as well being that this Daughter was Mentally Disabled and has always lived in a Group Home but Betty always looked Out for her and took Care of her until She Died So she may not have been a Perfect Mother but her Son has always Praised her as a Good Mother not Prefect but Good.
People that can't have children some times should count it as a blessing children can be ungrateful they hate their parents but welcome their inheritance I wouldn't leave her anything
That is a shame. I don't say this at the drop of a hat, but she reminds me of my own mother. She came from a privileged but very kind and generous family, and she took advantage of them by constantly asking them for money and never even trying to hold down a job or pay her own bills. You can bet she still never spoke nicely about them despite their doing all of this. Also, don't think I didn't clock the "antichrists are homosexuals" line in that book. Yep, definitely siding with Bette on this one.
BD Hyman comes across as someone holding on to a lot of anger and resentment towards her mother, Bette Davis. She also seems to be envious of Davis’ career and stardom. I wonder if she had aspirations of being an actress herself? I know she appeared in a very small part in a film (with her mother, though never in a scene together) called ‘Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?’. Her acting imo wasn’t particularly noteworthy, and (as far as I know) never acted in a film again. That might have put the kibosh on any aspirations of hers to follow in her mother’s footsteps. Her reasons for writing her book ‘My Mother’s Keeper’ (to “get through” to Davis) are questionable. She must have known the repercussions that would ensue after its publication; it would inevitably be a best-seller. It might well have been cathartic for her, but it was naturally devastating for her mother. This shows a lack of compassion and a moral compass when it comes to the feelings of others. I’m not saying Davis was the ideal mother, but I think there could have been a better way for BD Hyman to both heal her past and feel understood.
There’s nothing remotely Christian about writing a “ bad report “ we are not to even listen too, gossip is a sin and honor thy mother and father what is Christian about that ?!
I've always thought BD must really be a pos to do this to her mother at the end of her life. This was no effort to connect. This was defamation for a quick buck.
BD (like most "christians") often forget one line that I'll never forget from the bible: "let s/he who is free of sin cast the first stone." yeah.....they ALWAYS forget that line.....conveniently.
Another scorned daughter; who grew up with the best of everything! Knowing that Bette had to work to afford their lifestyle; means nothing to her daughter! Would she rather that her mother stay home all day and stare at her? 👀 Mothers aren't perfect and neither are we! (You would have thought that she got beat with wire hangers!) Ungrateful! 🤣🤣🤣
Bette davis was a great actress and to this day her movies are collected. I have every one. Rest in peace dear lady and know all who loved you and kept up with all your stories, interview, movies still love you and to hell with people who lie or make things up. As karma is right around the corner.
Susan Sarandon had a lot of connections to Bette Davis. Davis herself wanted her to play her in a biopic, she's recording this doc and then there's of course Feud
Bette got the last laugh. BD says her book was not about money but I guarantee she lost plenty of sleep over the fact that Bette's Oscar for "All About Eve" sold for 578,000.00 in 2001. Bette disinherited her and left her nothing in her will. Bette hit that ungrateful heifer where it hurt her the most - FINANCIALLY!
The truth hurts. I am very judgemental but am having trouble judging this person and how she handled affairs with her mother. Lots of stuff going on. Everybody gets to make their own decisions. A 4 minute clip isn't enuf for me to understand two complex people. Sad stuff.
George Mallory - Quite right. Nice to see a voice of reason in these comments. One point none of the other comments seem to acknowledge is that the daughter published her book while her mother was alive and able to respond to the daughter’s allegations to the extent she desired. (Admittedly, the timing could have been motivated by the daughter’s bank balance rather than having a backbone or a sincere desire to open new lines of communication after years of getting nowhere.)
Bette Davis was known for being a narcissistic moveistar monster, it's not that much of a stretch. Look at Judy Gardland, for all of her flaws, and public derision, every one of her children adored her and in the 40 years since her death have never said one bad word about her
Great to see Bettes son Michael sane and well adjusted, and offering some genuine insight.
He was the golden.
BD was jealous of her mother
He was very close to his adopted dad, Gary Merrill. If you can get a copy of the book, do so..."Me, Bette and Rita" by Gary. He was married to Bette during All About Eve for several years later. Merrill was a good guy.
I loved Bette Davis. Even so, I am sure she was hard to take. If BD objected to Bette's destructive behavior then why did she continue to have Bette in her life? Money. In spite of all Bette's flaws she remained financially generous to BD and Jeremy and kept them financially afloat for years. BD and Jeremy complained about Bette but continued to use her like an ATM. When Bette fell ill, BD and Jeremy found themselves in dire financial straits. They defaulted on their mortgage, left their creditors high and dry, and fled the United States. BD seldom mentions this. BD and Jeremy thought Bette would die and the book was a quick, large infusion of cash. The book "My Mother's Keeper" was more unintentionally humorous than shocking. All the readers just sighed and said, "Well, that's Bette Davis being Bette Davis". The book was a terrible thing to do to a mother who was battling cancer and a stroke at the same time. No matter how BD tries to justify it. The book was a low blow and done out of pure greed.
Unfortunately a lot of people that have parents that give them money tend to act like that. They’re spoiled I guess.
Very well-said and I agree with your comments
you cannot have it both ways
Yes you said it well. Always about money.
Not so. Some women use the role of motherhood to be successful at manipulating their children. No one knows what children go through when parents are adored by people on the outside.
Most of us have deeply flawed parents, as we, ourselves, are deeply flawed. All you can do is try your best.
Well-said! And B.D. tried her best (and succeeded!) in delivering a grievous wound to a wonderful and very human woman
I have such deep respect for Bette Davies, as an actress, mother and wonderful person she was. I’m estranged from my own daughter and I can empathise with the pain that she must have endured with her daughter writing a book about their relationship, whatever that may have been it was not for the world to see. ❤️❤️🙏
Kurabenoken Tenda
IMO, Bette was a fabulous actress but, also, a malignant narcissist. She grievously wounded *many* people in her lifetime. Remember actors are, by profession, liars. They pretend to be people they are not for a living, and we never really know what they are like in their private lives.
True!
jackybaby - I don't know about "DEEPLY FLAWED", but it was WRONG, plain and simple!!!! Bette did EVERYTHING for that UNGRATEFUL BRAT!!!! I guess the old saying is true -"Money Talks; BullS&#! Walks!"
It is one thing to have an opinion of your parent(s) but quite another to hold him/her up to public ridicule.
Public ridicule? I don't know anyone who thinks less of Bette Davis because of a book her daughter wrote. Her daughter wrote a book..so what. Was the book entertaining? Maybe. But Bette Davis is still a legend and nobody even remembers who B.D. Hyman is except maybe she became some wacko Christian preacher.
You reap what you sow. We reap what we sow. I reap what I sow. No exclusion here.🕊️🦋☮️🌐💚🙏☀️
Exactly
Not just once with her book but again years later in her you-tube channel B.D Hymen, one hour's worth of saying Bette was a genuine witch and on and on...
Amen!
I always wondered if this book was an imitation of Christina Crawford's Mommie Dearest.
Of course it was, but it was a pale imitation.
To be fair to BD, she made it clear during interviews that it wasn't a 'Mommie Dearest'. She said that she wasn't beaten or starved ( i.e. as punishment for not eating a rare steak, like Christina Crawford ). I remember Bette's response to 'Mommie Dearest' and it was a little smug. I suspect BD thought to herself, "Not so fast there..."
I love Bette Davis too. It's difficult _not_ to love Bette Davis - but if she hurt her daughter and saddled her with a few too many issues, then I don't blame BD for writing the book.
@@reesemorgan2259 ppl struggle with their own demons and when they grow up and have kids, they aren’t always perfect parents. I think Bette tried to do her best. She was a difficult person but she obviously loved her children.
She admitted her mother was nothing like Crawford. So what was the point?
It’s just my opinion but Bette was famous, her daughter wasn’t and she wrote the book & told the world their personal business. It was an act of betrayal and I hope it was worth it to her.
@@reesemorgan2259 At some point you are responsible for your own actions. She got marries at what, 17, how can she blame her mother for her life? She has no talent of her own and used her mother's fame and name to bleed money from. We all have imperfect parents.
I believe she saw $$$ signs
I read her book and I still don't understand what her beef with Bette was.
Teen age rebel and privileges
I think the reason is what Bette said, she thought her mom was going to die and also, she had seen how successful "Mommy Dearest" by Christina Crawford was, so successful that it was made into a movie. Interesting that BD's book wasn't.
I read the book and her problem with her mother was that Bette Davis had classic narcissistic personality disorder exacerbated by alcoholism. B.D. was allowed to date older men at 13. That is child abuse. Bette stood bye and allowed the step father to abuse B.D. Throughout the book over and over B.D. is abused by her mother mentally and emotionally. There was no way to stop it other than writing the book. It is a well written, articulate and sometimes funny account of a relationship where one person is taking advantage over another using emotional espionage. Bette Davis raised a strong daughter and it backfired on her. Bette's sister wasn't so fortunate.
@@smackamoe What? On the one hand you list a bunch of terrible things Davis supposedly did or allowed to be done, including mental/emotional abuse. THEN you say "Davis raised a strong daughter and it backfired on her." WHAT? How does THAT math work?
@@jhb1493 sometimes what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and I think maybe that's what they were trying to say. The way she failed to raise made her daughter stronger but also bitter....which anyone would be in that situation.
Bette Davis does seem like your classic narcissist.
She had to tell HER side of the story? Who asked her what her side was? No matter what, I could never betray my mom like that. Some things are best left to private therapy.
I think she did it to copy Christina Crawford’s “Mommie Dearest” but Joan Crawford was a LEGITIMATELY horrible extremely abusive parent. B.D Hyman is just entitled and privileged.
@@RaniTsunami “legitimately”, prove it, Delilah.
...and there was no story to tell her side of to begin with...
I have never seen Bette's daughter show any remorse about her actions or regret that she & her mother became estranged. It seems she has nothing for her mother but pure hatred.
Shame on this woman...sounds like she was jealous of her mother.
She was like a lot of kids growing up in dysfunction and certain levels of abuse but I believe Bette really tried and she definitely loved her children.
B.D is ungrateful and sees the cup half empty.
She is a no talent person ( Sounds very jealous of her Mother) if she felt so strong why didn't she refuse the inheritance????????????????????????????????
Barbara was written out of her mother's will as was Bette's other daughter. You might be thinking about Christina Crawford who contested her mother's will and was awarded a sum of money. Shirley MacLaine allegedly told her daughter that she won't be inheriting, and Sachi Parker wrote a book concerning her mother Shirley.
Ouch. Every family has dysfunction, and two wrongs don’t make a right. Therapy never came to mind for her? Publicly shaming and humiliating her mom makes this Christian woman more in need of insight than her mom ever needed.
Doesn’t Jesus speak of forgiveness? I think He also warns of pointing out the speck in another’s eye when there’s a rock in your own.
If my children did this to me I think I’d want to die.
And they call themself Christians
Nobody deserves yor LIFE
And of course...she did...sigh...
You are absolutely right!
I gotta say something here because I’ve seen a lot of these celebrities or famous people’s children bashing them real bad after the life of luxury they give them:
I’ve noticed children that go through a real hardship childhood with their parents because of poverty they grow up to be the sweetest, most hardworking and respectful young people ever to their parents.
It’s almost as if showing love with luxury is not satisfactory for the soul. It’s actually damaging.
I agree except for Joan Crawford's oldest daughter. Joan was a HORROR to her & her brother as children.
The problem with BD is Bette Davis gave BD everything but a good sould spanking !!!!
A good old-fashioned spanking was just what Ms. Hyman needed.
Spot on! So true
Well...everyone still remembers Betty Davis.....but no one remembers ...what is her name?...gee..I can’t even remember ....you know....her daughter...what’s her name?...oh never mind, it doesn’t matter.
BD Hyman Why she never had one!!!
2:38 - 2:50: Look at the way she contradicts her self twice in the same statement: Sure I did it for the money, I didn't do it for the money. Most of the money, not most of the money will go to Christian works. A double double take back!! Makes you wonder if you can believe anything she says!
Agreed. BD's excuses and reasoning seemed highly un-credible to me.
From the timing for publication (as this clip points out), BD wrote the book expecting it would come out in the aftermath of her mother's anticipated death. Now put that side by side with "writing this book is the only way I have of communicating with my mother, she won't listen" (paraphrasing).
Ok? So you published a book to communicate with someone you had every reason to think would be DEAD when it came out? What? That seems TOTALLY credible, right?
Christian?
B.D. Hyman sounds crazy !
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She’s not; B.D. is, IMO, quite sane. Bette Davis was a wonderfully talented actress who accomplished much in her life, but she had many character flaws that she refused to address.
You think? - “The Antichrist is a homosexual”
The Hymans lived near where my parents lived in Northeast Pennsylvania, Ashdown was bought by my friend's grandfather after the Hyman's ripped everyone off in Wyalusing Pennsylvania, leaving a trail of unpaid bills. In fact my friend's grandfather was a realtor who bought the farm and he and his wife had Bette over for dinner and she was quite charming. My friend from school actually was friends with Bette's grandson Ashley, hence Ashdown Farm. But I called B.D. Hyman to speak to her but got her voice mail for her so-called ministries wow...talk about phony- her accent now is not the well modulated voice heard here but an awful Texan drawl or a mash up of Southern twang. Needless to say she never called me back .....no wonder her TH-cam channel comments are disabled. 😂😂😂
BD is crazy like a fox. She wrote the book to cash in on being the child of a legend.
@@oklahomorose yeah I agree on the "crazy like a fox" I had called her ministry out of curiosity and got her voicemail and I can tell you she had this fake, thick southern accent that she developed from the interviews I had seen of her...complete wqcko
The pain she must have gone thru is so sad..may she rip.
Shakespeare said it better than anyone ‘How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it is to have a thankless child’ (King Lear Act 1)
She did it because she didn't think her mon would live to know
We dont know what goes on between closed doors. We dont really know what kind of mother betty davis was, or what kind of daughter bd was.
I don't have children. Sometimes it's makes me sad , but sometimes if I see such a kind of children I told my self: maybe you're so lucky.
BD looks as tough and strong willed as her mother so if the book was to shake her mother off and cut loose then she didn't need to write this book and live off the talk show spin offs for decades....she'd eventually have got the message to stay away. BD was only 17 when she married...very young indeed. Her mother wasn't ready to let go of the child she loved so dearly. The book has supported her ever since even weaving into her born again ministry about the good verses evil forces. She accused her mother of being a witch or into witchcraft thus stereotyping Bette as the bad guy when she was probably an overbearing, over loving, work obsessed but brilliant artist who had a problem with alcohol. She absolutely adored BD and gave her an interesting, well traveled childhood meeting lots of great people. BD clearly needed Bette's financial support but couldn't cope with the baggage...well , she found a way to achieve this BUT in truth, made a deal with the devil and broke her mothers heart.
She was still 16 when she married.
What a sad betrayal. I feel sorry for you, Ms. Hyman.
She’s a spoiled, ungrateful b
I am mildly amused by the fact that people's thoughts on Christina are split about 50-50 while literally no-fucking-body ever takes B.D. seriously. 😂
Period
I think part of it is there are people who say they saw Joan abuse Christina and do what she accused her of. BD, on the other hand, correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think I have seen anyone trustworthy back her up. There is a well-known saying along the lines of someone telling the truth can be asked 1000 times and on each occasion, the story is always the same while a liar changes the story every other time. Christina has stuck to the same story every single time while BD either adds or takes away things because she can't remember what her original story was.
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There are legions of witnesses that backed up what Christina said including her brother. BDs brother and most people that knew them said it did happen. I'm wonder if she was jealous of her mother and wanted some fame for herself.
I read her book. My mother was the same. Classic narcissist personality disorder. Unless you've lived through it you wouldn't know. Dysfunctional people who are narcissists hide it well from outsiders. But when I read her book, I had flashbacks of my own experiences that were similar. My family didn't have the money to control like Bette Davis. B.D. is a brave woman. And she did love her mother. She just chose to protect herself and family.
Don't spoil your children, don't use them as weapons, don't relay on children to look after you in old age.
It's jealousy. Bette was a beautiful Hollywood legend who loved her daughter & kept her wealthy & healthy, but her daughter messed her own life up & was willing to sell her mother down the river for a controversial book. History will only remember Bette the legend of stage & screen.
So heartbreaking, she hurt her mother so deeply.
No, Bette hurt her own daughter. I suspect that one of her husbands sexually abused BD
Bette allowed her own daughter to be married at 16. Bette went to hell BD was saved and lived a good life on her own
You suspect?? WOW!! That is really impressive. As far as BD getting married at 16…. Hasn’t she claimed that it’s a wonderful marriage? Wasn’t it her mothers “jealousy” over her “happy marriage” that caused the main rift between them? Why do you bring that up just before you claim that Bette went to Hell? Exactly how do you know this information? Are you God? Next time you speak with God, tell him you need a raise in pay because you’re doing his job. Shameful!
Her mother hurt her, deeply...
I could never do that to my mother. Shameful.
Did you read her book? It is not a trash novel. It is a true account of a narcissist forcing everyone around her to comply. B.D. broke free.
How is it shameful it’s b.d life
How very SPITEFUL. It must have been extremely heartbreaking for Miss Davis to discover how nasty her daughter really was.
BD said her mother and grandmother didnt get along, they fought all the time, trouble relationships runs in generations
She wrote herself out of bette's will...TIMING IS EVERYTHING..Bette had the last word on that😁😁
You need to read BD book Bette wanted BD all to herself not be happy and married
Not necessarily...
This is also what happens when you nonchalantly raise your children. You try to be “friends” with your kids and I think that is precisely what Bette did. Bette appeared very broad-minded and chill on a personal level-I mean able to “shoot the shit”, not haughty, not the stereotype of the imperious diva movie Queen. And with that I’m sure BD grew up fast because her mother set those loose boundaries and also spoiled her to an extent. Which is dangerous too because now you don’t know whether you’re a mother or a friend. And Bette probably tried to hard to be a friend. When it backfired she exercised control and tried to wear the mother hat again and be more authoritative etc. Crawford on the other hand was probably much more strict with Christina but that also backfired as she didn’t try to be a friend one second of one day. But she did with her ‘twins’ (who weren’t really twins) and they loved their mother.
Better live your life and have no ungrateful ones like this! Horrible and contemptible to disgrace your mother and YOURSELF!
What BD did to her mom is an abomination... I feel so bad Bette had to go through all of that
Doesn’t the Bible say what measure you judge you will be judged? You have no clue what Miss Davis put her daughter through at all. BD had no choice. She was trying to get her mother to leave her alone stop cursing her family. Let me tell you Miss Davis is most likely in very hot place right now. She was a practicing witch by all accounts.
Mother/daughter relationships are always weird. Believe me when I say as a young woman I hated my mother. She knew it too. I got a way from her as soon as I was 21. When I got older I forgave her and loved her till she died.
Honor thy mother, and judge not less you be judged.
So sad! We all have positive & negative experiences with our parents, we accept them (not meaning harsh abuse that’s totally different) because we love our parents.
BD was jealous, untalented, and desperate for attention
I’ll never understand people airing family dirty laundry for profit.
The daughter had no talent so she bashed her mother to make money
I've always believed BD over exaggerated many aspects of her relationship with her mother, Bette. That being said, I can also see where Bette could've been exhausting to deal with but loved BD unconditionally. After all, she allowed her to marry at a significantly young age and financed her life even though she didn't approve. Bette created the monster that would eventually destroy her, and that's the real tragedy here.
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It’s all about control, her mother was controlling and she is controlling....narcissistic people always have to have the last say!
Agreed. Davis had a lot of negatives - but the bigger you are, the bigger a shadow you cast. In her own private life people seemed to think the good in Davis outweighed the bad - by a lot. Many people who knew her closely went on the record after BD's book came out, and they clearly admired Davis.
We'll never know for sure - but what we can know is, Davis gave millions of people pleasure, inspiration and an example of what a strong woman could do in what was still very much a mans world. BD wrote a highly questionable, self-serving "tell all" about a parent she thought was on the brink of dying. That says it all.
Nasty Pasty.........don't air dirty laundry in public........
A child who could make a deal to publish an attack on their parent after death - and then have to move up publication when the parent survives. A child who has been caught out lying in that book in many ways. A child who profited from those lies, and then - SHOCK - goes on to preach "their own brand" of Christianity at everyone else. Why am I not surprised.
I seem to remember something from the Bible about honouring our parents, not throwing them under the bus for cash and attention. Disgusting human being.
How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child.
She’s just a spoiled rich girl. Jealous of her mother’s talent.
The fact that she would back out of it for money
I think B.D. wrote the book and had it published so soon after Bette’s illness was for money and because she thought Bette was going to die soon. To say she wrote it when her mother appeared to be knocking on death’s door because it was the ONLY way to get through to her is idiotic.
Now she has $ from that trash book instead of profiting from Bette Davis’ estate. Bette Davis has the lasting power though! And the last laugh.
B.D. had a strained relationship with Bette before she passed that's pretty evident. She probably couldnt wait to trash her and make money off her at the same time.
Some children will never be grateful no matter how well they are brought up .Its called being self obsessed whiney adolescent
Bette was probably hell to contend with. Having decimated her own sister to a pathetic shell of a woman, then badgering her niece into allowing Bette to take control of burial arrangements tells the type of person Bette was.
@@travelseatsyellowlab BD lead her mother to believe their relationship was on the mend because they did things together .Then BD released the book when she thought her mother was going to die from her stroke. OPPOrtunistic backstabber
She is soo evil. How could she do that!?
@Arikm7 so very very very true
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Was she jealous of mum. Mum gave her everything growing up. Bette loved fame and attention and that came first in her life. They both have simular strong personality and that will clash.
I seriously question whether B.D. Hyman actually understands the true meaning of forgiveness and repentance of one's sins. Also one does not wash your family's dirty clothes in public!
I only know of this story through 2 or 3 videos on TH-cam. I haven't read the book. From the videos I saw of BD explaining it she said that she felt this was the only way she could get through to her mother, which sounds feasible, after all Bette lived her life in the public eye so perhaps this would be an opportunity to get her attention - and who knows what other ways she might have tried privately?
The only mention about it that I've heard from Bette is in this video here, where her only remarks seem very snarky, essentially saying "I've spent a lot of money on my child" - which is what most parents try to do and holy moly shouldn't begrudge if they're as wealthy as she was!
All you have to do is watch any of the intervews with BD Hyman here on TH-cam and that short clip on this one. What should have been the heartbreaker for Bette was to realize her daughter is a total nutcase as well as a surprisingly vicious and self-serving hypoctite.
Bette Davis was & always will be a legendary actress....A classy lady it's a shame her daughter felt the need to " air out dirty laundry" to make a buck! Her daughter showed her true colors in doing so....I remember reading it when it first came out & just not believing half of what was written.....Bette Davis summed it up best " she had been her daughter's keeper" for so long.....🙏💜
Indeed, and in her words: ''There is no doubt you have a great potential as a writer of fiction. You have always been a great storyteller.'' I read that book, and felt I was reading a novel with characters, the so-called ''Conversations'' were so contrived.
When you look at pictures at BD when she was young she looks lovely. As she has aged she looks positively evil. She wrote the book for money. As for Mommie Dearest I believe Christina as Joan Crawford was neurotic. Bette Davis truly loved her daughter and there is no comparison between Christina Crawford and BD.
BD is at best deeply misguided and cruel, at worst a horrendous person. Incredibly ironic she now runs a Christian missionary; if love, forgiveness, "turn the other cheek" & "honour your mother and father" are part of it's tenants, she is indeed the latter.
Rob Jack Not very Christian of her to tear her mother to shreds in public and half of it is probably fabricated God help her
@@NinaSofia_ Agreed. When "Feud" came out & Bette & Joan were hot property again, BD claimed her mother practiced witch craft! Obviously BS & attention seeking.
I just looked at her Christian Ministry videos. All she does is bad mouth her mother. I didn't find anything Christian about it. I've read other people's comments that she's accused her mother in being involved in witchcraft. I didn't watch any of the videos to see that but wouldn't doubt it. BD seems like a nut.
@@merricat3025 Well said. Long history of children of celebrities being a wee bit odd. In our time, just check out "White Chocolate", the son of Tom Hanks. I don't think one goes to Beverly Hills High, and end up talking like that?! No judgement, for in the real world when a child arrives the attention goes to them. In the Celebrity World, the attention goes to the parent. Usually children try to differentiate from siblings, in celebrity world, its from parents. Carrie Fisher explains better.
It is so sad. . You only get one Mother and to betray her Mother like that was a horrible thing to do.
Her daughtet mixed her up with Joan Crawford,didnt she?
Christina is just as much as an opportunist as B. D..
K Y exactly! Both are ungrateful brats imo
Bette Davis didn’t deserve what she got from BD but Joan Crawford definitely did.
Arikm7 well that’s the thing, Crawford’s legacy hasn’t been completely destroyed and she is still revered for her talent in acting and her beauty. I have a mother who is just as alcoholic and unstable as Joan Crawford and they seem to grow more similar by the day. As a result of such I have been abused on Dozens of occasions. Does it mean I hate my Mother? Of course not. Does it mean I hate Joan Crawford? of course not. But abusers should never be able to wash their hands of all the pain they caused regardless of what the situation is.
Betty deserves more respect
Haven't read the book and don't intend to. Bette Davis was a class act nothing less. She fought to establish herself and she succeeded. I'm thinking Davis' daughter was just terribly jealous of her mother. Perhaps she wanted to be an actress like her mother and didn't have the talent.
Her daughter is actually on you-tube, channel name "B.D Hymen" (only one period after the initial "B") and her videos "A Long Day's Journey Into Light-(BD Hyman's testimony)" which are 4 parts go on and on about how Bette Davis was a genuine practicing witch and how she would always have to have her way and tried to not only ruin her life but also her marriage and her son's life. Between all 4 videos it's around 2 hours.
I gave up watching them. Their nuts
Greed was always her motive !
(Betty Davis) Cut this Daughter out of her will She left her Entire Estate to her Adopted Son and Made Financial Provisions for her Younger Adopted Daughter as well being that this Daughter was Mentally Disabled and has always lived in a Group Home but Betty always looked Out for her and took Care of her until She Died So she may not have been a Perfect Mother but her Son has always Praised her as a Good Mother not Prefect but Good.
People that can't have children some times should count it as a blessing children can be ungrateful they hate their parents but welcome their inheritance I wouldn't leave her anything
Is that Susan Sarandon narrating?
Yes
BDiaz later she would play her, wild
Mothers and daughters often clash. It hurts to know such a thing does exist.
That Elly Mae Clampett hairdo in 1985 was HORRIBLE 🤮
Christians forgive.
She's stated that she has.
Forgive for what?
What horrible thing did Bette did to her daughter?
That is a shame. I don't say this at the drop of a hat, but she reminds me of my own mother. She came from a privileged but very kind and generous family, and she took advantage of them by constantly asking them for money and never even trying to hold down a job or pay her own bills. You can bet she still never spoke nicely about them despite their doing all of this.
Also, don't think I didn't clock the "antichrists are homosexuals" line in that book. Yep, definitely siding with Bette on this one.
She runs a ministry? What a hypocrite. Her mother didn’t deserve to get thrown under the bus for a book deal.
BD Hyman comes across as someone holding on to a lot of anger and resentment towards her mother, Bette Davis. She also seems to be envious of Davis’ career and stardom. I wonder if she had aspirations of being an actress herself? I know she appeared in a very small part in a film (with her mother, though never in a scene together) called ‘Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?’. Her acting imo wasn’t particularly noteworthy, and (as far as I know) never acted in a film again. That might have put the kibosh on any aspirations of hers to follow in her mother’s footsteps. Her reasons for writing her book ‘My Mother’s Keeper’ (to “get through” to Davis) are questionable. She must have known the repercussions that would ensue after its publication; it would inevitably be a best-seller. It might well have been cathartic for her, but it was naturally devastating for her mother. This shows a lack of compassion and a moral compass when it comes to the feelings of others. I’m not saying Davis was the ideal mother, but I think there could have been a better way for BD Hyman to both heal her past and feel understood.
She had this crap published on Mother’s Day? What a louse
She is a sick individual.......Bette Davis we ❤you.
That's nasty for a daughter to do that she forgot about privacy terrible girl love Bette may she rest in peace 👼🏻
There’s nothing remotely Christian about writing a “ bad report “ we are not to even listen too, gossip is a sin and honor thy mother and father what is Christian about that ?!
Is this narrated by Susan Sarandon? What's it from?
I've always thought BD must really be a pos to do this to her mother at the end of her life. This was no effort to connect. This was defamation for a quick buck.
BD (like most "christians") often forget one line that I'll never forget from the bible: "let s/he who is free of sin cast the first stone." yeah.....they ALWAYS forget that line.....conveniently.
ALL PEOPLE ARE FLAWED.....NO ONE IS PERFECT BUT GOD ALMIGHTY....
Thats children's for u
Another scorned daughter; who grew up with the best of everything! Knowing that Bette had to work to afford their lifestyle; means nothing to her daughter! Would she rather that her mother stay home all day and stare at her?
👀 Mothers aren't perfect and neither are we! (You would have thought that she got beat with wire hangers!) Ungrateful! 🤣🤣🤣
B.D. was a spoiled brat who is now a crazy religious fanatic. Still married to the same guy, runs a religious youtube channel.
Bette davis was a great actress and to this day her movies are collected. I have every one. Rest in peace dear lady and know all who loved you and kept up with all your stories, interview, movies still love you and to hell with people who lie or make things up. As karma is right around the corner.
Susan Sarandon had a lot of connections to Bette Davis. Davis herself wanted her to play her in a biopic, she's recording this doc and then there's of course Feud
Ironic, Susan surandan narrates this then plays her mother in Feud
Shame on you B.D.
That P.S. was a beast! I loved that woman!
I understand how BD feels. I have a mother very similar to Bette. Unfortunately it took over 40 years for me to realize who my mother really is.
So do I.
Bette Davis gave BD clothes and jewelry and a nice house to live in. Bette work so she can give her kids the world and what BD did was just awful.
Bette got the last laugh. BD says her book was not about money but I guarantee she lost plenty of sleep over the fact that Bette's Oscar for "All About Eve" sold for 578,000.00 in 2001. Bette disinherited her and left her nothing in her will. Bette hit that ungrateful heifer where it hurt her the most - FINANCIALLY!
Is this narrated by Susan Sarandon?
I think Bette Davis loved B.D…..Her daughter always seemed horrible whenever I’ve seen her speak..
What's this from?
the fact BD Hyman seems to be some religious fanatic says it all for me...
Her name is B.D.? Just initials?
J. Skye Phoenix BD is short for Barbara Davis.
That's being a Christian? Not where I come from! You don't dishonor your mother like that!
I was in a tv movie with Bette Davis called Family Reunion. No speaking parts though
The truth hurts. I am very judgemental but am having trouble judging this person and how she handled affairs with her mother. Lots of stuff going on. Everybody gets to make their own decisions. A 4 minute clip isn't enuf for me to understand two complex people. Sad stuff.
George Mallory - Quite right. Nice to see a voice of reason in these comments. One point none of the other comments seem to acknowledge is that the daughter published her book while her mother was alive and able to respond to the daughter’s allegations to the extent she desired. (Admittedly, the timing could have been motivated by the daughter’s bank balance rather than having a backbone or a sincere desire to open new lines of communication after years of getting nowhere.)
I had no idea how lucrative those book deals were! $100,000 - money talks and it was the 1980's.
Bette Davis was known for being a narcissistic moveistar monster, it's not that much of a stretch. Look at Judy Gardland, for all of her flaws, and public derision, every one of her children adored her and in the 40 years since her death have never said one bad word about her
Family matters should stay that way.
I can tell I don't like her daughter.