I am 46, and I've been medicated for depression for about 10 years. When things started getting worse for me, I had just been diagnosed with a neuromuscular disease. My husband bought me a bird feeder, because he kept seeing me stare out the window. After that, he got me a bird bath and hummingbird feeder. I was starting to tell him all about the birds, and I even got a book about birds - so I could learn about them. My husband was so happy with my progression, he built a coop and got me chickens! We lived in "town" (population 750), so he built the chickens a series of tunnels in 3' and 4' sections that we were constantly moving. Soon, we had people stopping and watching our chickens - school busses, people eating lunch in their cars. Not only were they helping me, they were making others happy too! I just needed something to focus on, and that shifted everything for me.
I was sitting at my desk feeling depressed and anxious, and saw this video. I played it while I got up and swept a couple rooms. It was really nice to clean while 'hanging out with you,' I feel less alone, like there's a person here supporting me while I do something not very fun. What you're doing here on TH-cam is awesome, and I can't thank you enough for your dope non-judgmental attitude.
Awee bless you, I'm same , I put his cleaning videos on an it is like having a friend with you an it realy helps me feel more brighter .Hope you are ok an good today ❤
Good morning all. I appreciate this video so much. I’m 65 and have struggled with anxiety and depression since I was a teenager. Back in those days when my mom took me to a doctor they called me “high strung”. I went on medication in my forties and it helps tremendously but I do still struggle now and then and still carry the label “high strung “. Thank you for helping me feel more “normal “. Sorry for the ramble❤
I'm 65 too and when I was 20 I went to the doctor about my depression... He asked if I was married and I said I was engaged. He told me to get married and have a baby as soon as possible, because by working my natural instincts were being crushed and making me depressed. 🤣Ah, the good old days. Glad we are being helped properly now.
I understand this too. It’s taken me to reach my 6 th decade to understand the interplay between emotions, thoughts and depression. Thank goodness for medication too.
@lauriepicerno : if you’d been a boy, I bet they wouldn’t have called you “high strung” … and @UnrulyHousewife : a variation on the theme! It is scary (and horribly sad) that it was so recent that people were forced to behave in such a strict either/or, boy/girl, fit-into-the-box way… I know I’m not saying this well, but I hope anyone reading this understands. I’m trying to say that double standards suck, and I’m sorry that you both were basically ignored because you were young women. I hope that you each found or are finding, ways to love yourselves.
I had my 17 year old twin boys watch the portion of this video where you're discussing your mental health. They're both on the spectrum and struggle with panic disorder, depression, anxiety, and adhd. Your perspection and lived experience is beneficial to others who also struggle with those diagnosis. Thank you, sir, for sharing. I appreciate you!
My son was diagnosed with anxiety & ADHD when he was nearly 30. People thought he was a slacker. Even after he was diagnosed they still thought he was a slacker because they didn’t understand it. So thanks for your helping people understand. You are a great teacher.
I was diagnosed with adult ADHD when I was 50 - I am 59 now. It was a constant battle trying to explain this diagnosis to family and friends because, just like your son, they have their own ideas about me and don't really care to understand. I don't even try anymore but on the up side it has changed my life in terms of my own understanding and self-growth so I'm fine and I hope you're son is doing well too.
I was diagnosed with clinical depression. You have expressed the answer to reducing depression and anxiety so concisely and accurately that I am literally picking my jaw up off of the floor. I have gone through the exact same steps you have experienced. From trying to "find myself" to getting a routine or a schedule and a purpose. My Mom was a reading specialist in Los Angeles county. Both my parents were educators. They believed in schedules or "habits". My dad noticed I was aimlessly floating around. He said "honey , just get up everyday. Get ready for the day like you had the most important thing in the world to do. I'm not saying thos is the answer. It's just that your day will be so much better than if you had just layed in bed all day. " I'm on a low dose antidepressant. It works. But what really works is exactly what you said. Have a purpose and a goal and a routine.. I am SO happy I found your channel. Sorry this is such a long ramble, but you have helped me more than you know. Cuz now I'm goin' out and drop kick myself through the goal post of life and get busy. Because this past 2 years of sitting and laying around doesn't feel normal to me.
I have been severely anxious my entire life. I am 65 years old, and I struggle everyday. I am just too stubborn to give up. Better times are coming for us all.
I wish I had known this info. before I lost my son to depression and suicide 24yrs ago. Ignorance of mental illness is devastating. He tried using alcohol, as you said. There was a huge pile of plastic soda bottles accumulated in a corner of the yard. He was to take them to recycle...put it off for months and we didn't understand why. You don't know what an absolute blessing you are by educating your viewers. The cleanups are great, but your Purpose is greater! Thank you❣🙏
Good morning Sir. What you were saying is very true. I have suffered severe Loss in my Life. Gone through Deep Depression, Felt absolutely Useless, Not wanted, Suicidal, Angxiety and Panick Attacks, Been into Hospital because i thought that i was having a Heart Attack. It was just Fear and Over Whelmness of the Outside World. I went and saw my Doctor, and talked to me about my Deep Depression. He said, that i had not gone through the Greiving process yet, of me Losing my Mother and Eldest Brother. Long time Unemployed, No weekly Income coming in. Trying to stay in Control and keep busy if i can. Your Motivational and Inspirational video's have been Helping me realise i am not the only Sufferer of Human Being Condition. My Friend, Thank you very much for telling us viewers your background and story. I totally agree with You and i Understand were you are coming from. You are doing very Well. Look after yourself and Keep Positive Mental Attitude. You can do anything you want to in Your Life. You are very Special in this World. Kindest and Warmest Regards to You my Friend. JONATHAN MARK BOWLES/ 53 years young/ Single/Own House and Car. Very Independent. 😃😃😃😃👍👍👍💪💪💪
My favorite way to fight my depression is dance. Am I good at dancing? No. Do I care? HELL NO! I move for ME. It makes ME happy and that is all that’s required!
Ok, Friend…I love everything about your channel…the cleaning, the transformations, the motivation, the way you share so much information, the humor tempered with productivity, your calm voice, sharing Filth with us…(and I can’t remember your daughter’s name), and I can’t wait to see what your name will be at the beginning of every video…and did I mention your humor??? You’re ding dang hilarious! I find myself quoting you…and I love it! You add calmness and laughter to my day!!! Thanks for this channel…one of my favorites! Thanks to you my husband and I got a 40 yard rollaway dumpster and purged from our attic to our basement…we had quite the accumulation of unnecessary items…retired teachers with things we no longer needed…what a great weight off our shoulders. Thanks, Bud!
Thank you Mr. Shoes-pants-shirt for inventing the concept of clothing!!! You have saved millions of eyes from either being 'popped out' or being 'seared out'. Not only I, but in fact the entire world thanks you from the bottom of their eyes...😮😂
A big thing that has helped me with depression is forcing myself to think more positively. Every time I thought a negative though I would write it down and then write down a positive one to combat it. Eventually I didn’t have to write it anymore and noticed it and corrected myself right away. Speaking more positively to myself has helped a ton!
I can sometimes be bad for thinking negatively but at one point I noticed I would use / think the word "worry" a lot...I mean 100's of times a day. Positive (oh I don't need to worry about that now) to negative (I need to worry about this) or procrastinating (I can worry about that later). So, I said I was taking that word right out of my vocabulary. I was using it so much it weighed on me. It took a bit but really helped.
One way I combat my paralysing depression and anxiety is to ask "What would I do if I loved myself?". So say if I had to decide whether to sit around in my PJs all day, or go and have a shower, I would ask myself that question and most likely have the shower. The same might apply to doing the dishes, or going for a walk. The wording is great, because it doesn't even pressure me into saying that I actually DO love myself (which just feels weird and fake). For me it really helps. Love the video, but I must admit that watching you try to snap up that polystyrene and fit it into the box was triggering to the max... So suck it son. 😂
I teared up hearing your description of the management of depression and anxiety when one has a purpose. So beautifully put. I can relate. For a long time, I thought I had to find the perfect purpose in life, but now I realize dedicating myself to something that has purpose works. It doesn’t have to be the perfect dream job. Helping others gives me purpose. Making art gives me purpose. When the two overlap, my feelings of depression and anxiety are so much more manageable. Also, I so appreciate your sense of humor.
I'm retired from nursing. My job was my goal everyday. I've been goal deprived since retirement. I've had no direction, and have lost desire to do anything. Sometimes I manage to accomplish things that make me feel better, but the effect is short-lived. You and others here in the comments have piqued my psyche. I will do my best to set a daily goal even if it's some menial task. Thank you so much for your caring. Guess I'll get busy now and spin kick my laundry out the door😅😂😅!
@lia-liz2012 indeed we do have some common points. I was only in nursing for about 10 years. It was enough really even though I miss it at times. Take care and spin kick that bag into oblivion!!!
I'm an almost retired nurse. Thank you for sharing. I think as a nurse we have taken care of so many others that we often neglect ourselves. Have fun with your laundry, and I'll go do mine also.😂
Yes you are an excellent cleaner. What sets you apart is your honesty, forthrightness, acceptance, commitment and compassion. Blessings to you and yours. 🇬🇧
I'm 28, a mom, and currently figuring out I might be autistic (with the help of my therapists) while in outpatient treatment for depression and social media addiction. Thank you for being so open about this; it helps people -- like me -- feel seen and not so alone.
I’m 23 and I know that’s not old but for a diagnosis like autism, it’s harder than if you were a child. I recently came to realize I’m most likely autistic and I cannot begin to explain how freeing and helpful it feels to just know that there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m perfectly normal, I just also happen to be autistic. Finding these videos has helped me immensely in feeling like I’m not alone. MMC’s personality and cleaning style is so parallel to mine that it helps to calm me and I just have to thank you for that. I know I’m rambling now but all this to say, if you’re an autistic adult, you’re seen, you’re valid, you’re loved, and you’re NOT alone ❤
I'm 47 and also grew up in Ohio and have probably 90% overlap of the "brain chaos" and struggles you spoke about. There's really no way I can thank you enough for talking about this. Medication and coping help tremendously to keep the noice down, but coping requires practice and habit, which can be very hard for many of us. That waking with a purpose is critical to remembering to practice your habits. I'm not there yet, but I'm much closer to being at peace and I really appreciate the reinforcement. Especially if it means I don't have to Breakdance Battle you.
I have been under depression since I am 10. A thing that help a lot, is a little game where everyone have to found, each day, a single one positive thing that happened to us. A laugh, an accomplishement, something that made us proud…
The more of your videos I watch and really listen to you, the more I realize I have depression and have since I was about six years old. It’s all starting to make sense. I don’t like being on those meds as my doctor did that after my mother died when I was thirty. It was horrible! I am now seventy and always been a procrastinator. After watching this video I went and threw out (recycled) a heavy big box of junk mail that was blocking my front door. Now I don’t have to move it every time I need to leave the house! Big step for me. Thank you honey! 😊
I love your channel. I am a single mom caring for my autistic son, homeschooling full time, without friends or family around to help out. I myself struggle with a bit of mental health mucky-muck and have found that cleaning and rearranging has helped with my own anxiety… it has also allowed for a more peaceful space for my son and I to thrive. I adore your videos, your personality is endearing. Best to you and your family.
You’re describing my life. Single mom of ASD ADHD GAD teen who I homeschool. Living 5 provinces away from Family. Have my own mental health & physical health challenges. Hugs to you. You’re doing great as a mom.
I'm 56 next month...I've been suffering depression since I was 6 years old. It hurts my heart to remember little 6yo me wishing I'd never been born. No child that young should feel that. Anyway the very smallest thing I do when I'm 'going through it' is tell myself OUT LOUD "this is not permanent, this will pass, just hang on" and in a couple hours it does pass. I'm aware that this won't help anyone else probably but who knows. And a new way I've found to help my depression and now my fun new anxiety is watching the videos on this channel. Your voice is soothing, the sort of repetitive nature of cleaning is calming, and it seriously gives me the energy to get up and clean my place up. The change in my every day life since finding this channel is amazing! Please keep going with these videos, they are truly life savers!
Tuning in from Adelaide, South Australia 🦘 where it's 1am Saturday morning. I've suffered the biggest betrayal I could ever imagined early today & have spent the rest of the day hiding in my shell planning my end. I need to get myself out of debt, do my Will & pay/plan my funeral because I just can't take it anymore. I'm watching & listening to this sobbing as I can so relate to this mental chaos, I do needed to hear this right now. I'm 53 & was focusing on the very next chapter in my life until today. Now I'm lost, broken & unsure how to be in this world anymore. Tomorrow I will reach out. Thank you for this, it's like God sent you ❤🙏
I also feel for you. It’s so hard sometimes but walking outside usually helps me. I used to go down the hill and walk around and around the perimeter of a small church parking lot, crying of course. It was something to do and outside to help with grounding as well as exercise. Wow- I didn’t even think that thru until now and it was years ago. Just try to remember that eventually it will not feel this terrible. I still can cry with the least thought but it’s manageable now on meds of course!
Good morning!! How awesome that you let us know your journey…we all fight a battle…and you can’t eat an elephant all in one bite- it has to be broken down into manageable pieces….divide and conquer. I love that your purpose is to help others too…and so grateful for your channel. 🥰
You described my life exactly! In my family you weren’t spiritual enough or full of sin. I was 35 when I went to counseling, it was helpful. At 50, I got some medication that helped physical symptoms of anxiety. I’m much less reactive, as you explained. Good for you on your journey! I’m 69 now, and quilting and sewing is my peaceful place. I started sewing at 9, and still at it. I love your videos, they are peaceful for me, and I love your goofy humor!
I’m sorry you were made to feel like you were full of sin or weren’t spiritual enough. That’s not what Jesus would want. I’m glad you’ve found ways to cope with your anxieties, and I do hope you have a loving relationship with Him, the way he’d want.
I find it funny that those who treat depression/anxiety, etc as a spiritual problem don’t see other conditions as spiritual. Need glasses? Need insulin? Intolerant to gluten? Just pray more!!!🙄
I'm trying to clear a space so that I can start sewing again. It's a slow process with my body issues. Growing up, I was the shy one who had a hard time speaking up. My mom was unkind and did none of the household chores, that's what my sister and I were for. As I was the eldest, I was responsible for both of our chores. I'm now 64 and hate the process of cleaning, but I'm not wealthy enough to hire out. I do what I can do with a body that hurts daily so that only my closest couple of friends can come by once in a while. I don't feel sorry for myself as I still have life, and God is by my side. My dad told me once when I had a tizzy fit saying something wasn't fair. He said, "I've told you a lot of things about life that it's fair isn't one of them. " I remember that when I start thinking something isn't fair. I began noticeably struggling with depression and anxiety after menopause. My grandmother had the same issue. It's hormonal, but I'm treated with a depression medication. It mostly helps unless I get behind in my chores. That's when I have trouble kickstarting myself. Thanks for this video, as now I feel like getting off my butt!
I’m 67 and grew up with Toxic Jesus too. It never ceases to amaze me how some interpret Jesus’ teachings into a big ball of meanness, hate, and destruction. It’s almost like they didn’t actually read what Jesus said about love or they decided it’s Opposites Day when interpreting the Bible. It sounds like you’ve found a peaceful place with your sewing. I love sewing too and hope to get back into it one day when time allows.
I really appreciate your plain talk on your medical conditions. I too have struggled with similar maladies. I love your videos, and have learned new tricks. You are so smart, and it is so good to be able to talk about some things in the open. God Bless.😊
Depression and anxiety has taken so much away from my life. I thought that was just the way it was if you’re alive. It’s only now at 25 that I started truly believing that my life can be something more . That’s how I ended up watching vids like these. I found that organizing, cleaning up, becoming more mindful, patient and motivated from doing these things help me me see the pathways to my ideal life more clearly. This new upload really speaks to me.
I'm with you too, though it's taken me til 53 yo to get to this point of realization, - my best to you, so glad you're on the road of discovery at 25, be well and take care
Yo también tengo ansiedad y depresión. Vivo en la ciudad de México. Es muy difícil entenderse a a uno mismo, conocerse y aceptarse. Solo quiero hacer saber a quien vea este comentario que no está solo, habemos muchas personas así. Gracias por tus videos.
I have a tip I discovered recently. Mental health days for me look vastly different depending on whether it's anxiety or depression that has me overwhelmed. Anxiety self care day = a brain dump of to-dos, organized into manageable, timed chunks, and checking as many things off as humanly possible. Maybe with some treats or rewards along the way. Depression self care day = shower, sunshine, exercise, relaxation, a short nap.
Another soul with the same issues. It interfers with my sleep, I can't shut down my mind, and small things get to me. I'm in the process of reducing my "hoard" and letting my brain rest. Thank you for your reminders that I'm not alone. 😊
Thank you for this video! I spent Wednesday afternoon cleaning my bedroom. It was messy, not dirty per say. I just kept walking past laundry baskets filled with clean, folded laundry...crap on my nightstand...unmade bed, etc. I'm 60 and divorced, full time caregiver of my 31 year old autistic son, and I knew that my mounting mess of a room was a sign of depression that I was trying to ignore. I can't tell you how good it felt to just dig in and clean that bedroom! Next up: my closet! time to part with some old clothes. I'm thinking about going back on medication for the depression, and sleep doesn't come easily to me. Thank you for talking about this. Growing up there was definitely a stigma to seeking therapy, and "Have a drink" was the answer to everything, the only coping mechanism demonstrated to me and my siblings. You can imagine how that worked out. The sunny morning has turned cloudy; maybe today is the day I clean my closet. Enjoy your BBQ this weekend and thank you again!
For us caregivers, we find ourselves taking better care of others than ourselves. Have grace with yourself, you're doing great, just doing something is awesome, then it's contagious and we want to do more... keep up that motivation, but remember to take breaks, don't burn yourself out
Your videos have helped me realise I have some hoarding tendencies and that awareness has helped me slowly, oh so slowly, get rid of items that need to go. I put you on in the background while I'm doing chores or tidying and it's really nice, your smooth voice and compassion are wonderful motivators. Thank you so much, you have literally helped me change my life and stay much tidier and cleaner. I'm sure my roommate would thank you as well.
I was diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety and panic, but also dealt with depression for years. It was a long road, with lots of therapy and medication, but there was an "aha" moment when I had to go to a cardiologist to have my heart tested after getting chest pains during panic attacks. The tech who tested my heart said she used to be like me but hadn't had a panic attack in 10 years. I asked her what made them stop? She said, "I got a divorce." I didn't want to leave my husband but what I learned from that was I needed to make some radical changes - things like selling our house, moving to another town, medical/lifestyle changes, husband got diagnosed/treated for ADHD. I stopped trying to "cure" or get rid of the depression, but instead focused on things that brought joy, safety and stability to my life. It's like being in a deep, dark well, and the only way out is to fill it with things that help me climb out.
I have NO idea when and why TH-cam recommend your channel BUT I’m so very thankful it did ! I’m not a hoarder Per se however I have a difficult time purging and donating stuff as I tend to become emotionally attached. I need to tell my overwhelming stuff to “ Suck it” As it’s spin kicks into the waste bucket! Love from up north 🇨🇦
Thank you for this. I've been battling depression and anxiety for what I know now is my entire life. I was diagnosed with bipolar 1, BPD, depression and anxiety in March of this year and it's opened my eyes. I've started a small cleaning company and growing it has been a huge challenge. But these posts have encouraged me to keep working on it, and even start my own TH-cam channel as a way to finally find some sort of hobby that is productive and eases my disorders. I have a loooooong way to go, meds are working but needs some adjustments. I don't have much help but that'll come again with time and effort. As for today, clean my room which I've been putting off for weeks .. that, and maybe take a shower. 😅 You're an inspiration, thank you.
Thank you for your honesty and openness. My husband and his 3 brothers all struggle with depression in different ways. One smokes pot constantly, one is cold and removed from people, and one is angry and controlling. My husband would go through periods of time where he wouldn’t say a word. I might add that their Dad committed suicide when he was 39. My husband has really worked on his depression and now he takes Sam-E and uses light therapy. It has kept him free from depression for a few years now. We talk about it to anyone who wants to know about his struggles because we want to share what works and what doesn’t for him. I love your channel. You are so genuine and funny! Keep up the good work!
Thanks for sharing this video - it's great advice. I use my dining room table similarly to the way you use your garage. I call it the "Island of Deferred Decision Making". If there are stacks of things on the table - from laundry that hasn't been put away to important paperwork I haven't dealt with - I know I'm tangling with too much white noise or anxiety in my brain to move forward. If the table is clear, I'm engaging in a good baseline of self-care and making progress. Today, the only things on my dining room table are a runner and four placemats. Three cheers for you and your clean garage!
Your narration, Mr. ShoesPantsShirt, about yourself and your motivation is uplifting. You base your observations of life on logic, lived experiences and compassion. Thank you! You are Spin-Kick, Breakdance Yoda from St. Louis, son. Keep up the good work helping others and accept that you have many subscribers who value and appreciate life's little truths that you reveal. Much love and many blessings sent your way.
This one really touched my heart. Thank you for sharing all that you did. What your videos are doing is so, so much more than watching a guy clean. They are therapy for some of us who struggle too emotionally. At least at times. So I truly thank you for what you're doing that's helping me and I am betting lots of other people too. And not just with cleaning issues. With some life issues ❤🙏
Thank you for your story. My grandson is autistic and your words have really touched me. I will be more understanding with my grandson. The very best to you and your family. ❤❤❤❤❤
Such a heartwarming video. Yes life can become overwhelming but I agree that the state of your house / a room can be the mirror of the state of your mind. We have to kind to ourselves and listen to what both our minds and bodies are telling us. It’s not easy. Also 1000% agree about the meds. I have depression and have needed meds for past 20 odd years (not continuously). It can take weeks for meds to kick in and can take weeks / months to find the right dosage. Keep talking to your doctor and don’t just think “oh they aren’t working” or “I don’t want to bother the doctor again”. Keep at it. The meds I used to take stopped working for me so had to try a new one so just because a Med used to work for you, it might not when you next need it. Everyone - have a lovely week ahead and be kind to both yourself and others xxx
Something I want to mention in general, because I think that's very important: People with mental issues belong to the strongest people I know. You not only have to deal with daily life, but also to cope with your illness every day. Wow, what an achievement! Think about, how much strength you have, to go on, and be very, very proud of yourself!
Nice to meet you, Garage Brain! Your voice overs are almost as calming as the cleanup. Thank you for repping the neuro divergent community. I appreciate you.
I'm in my 60's, xmas, alone, it's a mess here. Was totally bummed out. I can't believe I just watched a grown man clean his garage for 25mins. And feel soooooo much better! Nuts. Really appreciate this! Your presentation style is unique, love those pauses without talking, gave me time to think about what you just said, just watching you do your thing. So simple. And effective. Thank you.
Thank you so much Cap'n. I believe about 90% of your followers have something in common with you. I'm almost 70 & it actually started when I was a teenager, but magnified when I was 19, 6 months pregnant & lost my husband. Meaning death & not just leaving. I think I could have handled that. To top all that off, all of my immediate family has passed, including another husband & my son when he was 45. I only take one day at a time. Thanks for speaking out & sharing. ... Glenda
I take anxiety and depression meds for 20 years now. I’m 76. I only wish that I was diagnosed earlier and wonder how different my life choices might have been. I was afraid to assert myself, make changes, I lived in the status quo, and just reacted to what needed to be done, but never making any progress in my life. My life is so much better now. I also see a psychologist, I am at peace with myself, happy and creative as an artist. I see others who suffer from the same symptoms that I did, and wish I could help them. Even in this day and age, mental health is a reality not a flaw. Not everyone sees it that way. I will often say to someone, if you had appendicitis, wouldn’t you go to a doctor?, why, when you are suffering psychologically, would you not also get help?….. the fear and stigma still exists. Thank you for this information, hopefully it will help someone. You are an awesome role model, your voice overs are inspiring.
The important piece for me in dealing with depression was learning how to advocate for myself, set boundaries ask for what I need. Choosing not to deal with people that dismiss your concerns/needs whenever possible.
I grew up in the fifties in an abusive household. I was called 'too sensitive', high strung, stupid amongst other things by those who were supposed to love and protect you. I was allowed no or very few [one at a time friends ].... too long to go into details. Anyway, I ended up getting my Rn degree in my mid thirties and found that helping others lifted a lot of depression and anxiety from me bc I was focused on others rather than myself. I began experiencing anxiety between 5-6 yrs old and as a young adult, began having 'free- floating' ie; no immediate cause or event - panic attacks. I still occasionally get chest pains which had started about the age of 12 only to go to the ER and be told nothing is wrong w my heart. Absolutely love your channel and soothing voice. I sometimes still get overwhelmed and am unable to move or do much for a day or so and then it passes. Thank you again, you are helping a lot of people.
17:05 THIS is the absolute perfect description of how my grandson, who’s 10 years old, is living his life. He immerses himself in video games. I’m going to send this video to his momma. Hopefully your journey will open her mind to the deeper aspect of how his mind works. Right now, he is on Adderall for his autism, which really helps his focus in school. You rock sir!! Thanks for being you. ❤❤LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!!
I hear this. As an autistic and adhd person one of the foundations that would have helped me is validation that how I feel is valid and a parent offering a listening ear instead of telling me I wasn’t experiencing what I was experiencing. That includes being constantly burnt out from public school. I needed less social interaction and more time alone, which it sounds like he’s trying to do already. Then the next step is teaching coping mechanisms and working with him through the frustrations and stress that comes with living as a neurodivergent person in a neurotypical world. That is a LOT of work for the parent but it will be so helpful for him later.
Honestly thank you for speaking so openly about your mental health, I'm only 27 but it constantly feels like my mental illness has backed me into where I'm going to do nothing with my life so it's really encouraging to see you and the other people in the chat who are doing well later in their lives. Thanks again Midwest-magic-cleaning-John
I am 68 and have been on meds for depression since I was a teen, due to genetics, and a very very bad childhood. Then I got married and had 4 kids and my life was a whirlwind. Now with all the kids grown up, I have realized that becoming more minimal in my home has been a tremendous help to relieve depression and anxiety. Everything in my home was a "to do" list. Too many decorations even made me feel anxious. So I am getting rid of tons of stuff. The more I get rid of the better I feel. I have less work to do now, and can work on my hobbies more. It is working for me. When my rooms are spacious and clutter free, I feel free.
Had a big panic attack this morning, seemingly "out of nowhere" but, I know better. This video was a very important reminder for me and I bet many others. Thank you for sharing your journey, Mack. You ROCK!
Thank you so much for telling your personal story. Unknowingly I did exactly the same thing. While I always tried to find out about myself (diagnosed with ADHD, autism and episodes of depression), I only got deeper into anxiety and more procrastinations. One thing I learned is not to procrastinate. I write down everything what I need or want to to, even it's very little. When the list (on my mobile), got step by step less, I feel so good. It's still a way of control but it definitely helped me often out of beeing stuck and feeling depressed. I also learned to accept myself how I am and beeing focused on my good things and not about what I didn't do or which goals I didn't reach.
I have OCD, ADD, anxiety and depression. I get caught in the horrible cycle of I need to clean this but then I get overwhelmed and then anxiety hits ugh … your videos help me immensely… now when I think I’m overwhelmed… I just spin kick that back to where it came from ! I’ve learned to take breaks and to do one thing at a time … I am focusing more to one thing but piles are my friends. I found that if I make piles in a messy room and work on the piles 1 at a time it helps. No running into the laundry for every piece of laundry … I make the pile and do it in one shot so I go in there and start something else… Thank you for all you do… I’m going to become a member soon.
My son was diagnosed at 10 with Tourette’s, Asperger’s, OCD and Generalised Anxiety Disorder . I knew he was different from the age of 3. But once we finally got the diagnosis we could then start doing research and finding the right mix of medications and psychological treatments that were the right fit for him. I must say the anxiety is the worst to have and deal with. He’s now 24 and we still have to help him with his meltdowns from sensory overloads and anxiety over things he can’t control. But he’s now off his medication and doing quite well considering. We just talk about everything that’s making him worry and that gets him by until the next time. So thanks again for speaking about your experience as that will give some people their own aha moment. ❤ from Hervey Bay Australia 🇦🇺
There was an exercises I read once, I think it was in the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels, that involved cleaning a room very slowly, in order to be mindful of the space in my life and decluttering mess. I found it to be super relaxing. I felt amazing after throwing so much out and then wiping everything clean and organizing stuff.
I’ve been in therapy for almost five years (one year of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, four years of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and these are the phrases that I’ve learned make the most impact on my anxiety, PTSD, and depression: 1) “You are not in trouble.” There is no jail time, no moral failure, no punishment for not understanding how to do something and needing to ask. There is no need for the adrenaline flooding your veins. No one is going to hurt you for being new or inexperienced at something, or for going somewhere new. 2) “You can complain the whole time, but you have to do the task.” Things can’t go straight from horrible to good with depression, you have to get to a neutral point first. That can mean verbalizing that it’s bad right now. But you also need to Do The Thing alongside the complaining to get that compass needle moving towards neutral. This worked great for me in combination with a timer to see how long The Task ACTUALLY took me. 3) Not a phrase to say, but the removal of a phrase from my therapist’s appointment notes- when she stopped adding “patient confirmed they can stay safe until our next visit” because she no longer had to ask. She knew I could. ❤️ 4) “The solution to the anxiety is doing the thing causing the anxiety.” Calling RiteAid to transfer my prescription to them from Walgreens. Walking to a new library. Using public transport. Sitting in public without my back to a wall. The reinforcement of neutral and positive outcomes eventually made my anxiety come down to a level where I can critically use the coping skills I learned in four years of DBT. Also, as you said in your video- I am on medications that assist this. I am on 10mg of Atomoxitime (ADHD medication), 60mg of buspar (anti-anxiety), 100mg of lamotrigine (I’m using it for depression, it’s used for a few others things that don’t apply to me), and hormonal birth control. These medications have made a HUGE difference in my life. If anyone reading this has the privilege to tolerate and access psychiatric care, I highly recommend it. It can level the playing field. Make sure to be patient with yourself when trying to find the right medication for you- it took five years to find the right ones for me. Lexapro, zoloft, trazadone, litium, and prozac were all my previous efforts. ❤️ but most of all, do it for yourself. Effort is the greatest act of love you can provide for you.
Here's my 2 cents re depression and anxiety (I deal with both). Don't be afraid to see a psychiatrist, and don't be afraid of meds. Meds may help you enough to get through the issues you need to face. They don't have to be forever and they're not a cop out.
A good trick for me to handle depression is to make a list every day to tackle when I get home. It can be the simplest thing like putting clean dishes away, but it motivates me once I'm off work to accomplish things rather than just crawl into bed. Not only that, but crossing things off the list really boosts my mood.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are absolutely right about having a goal and purpose driven life. I wasted years fighting anxiety and panic attacks. You literally may have touched on what my problem may be, that makes me continue my battle today at 58 years old. I am fine at home, where I can control my environment. It is when I am out in public and have no control over my environment that I have full blown panic attacks. Any thoughts on that would be greatly appreciated.
My husband retired, thought I would lose my mind, gained 100#s. Years later he had 3 kinds of cancer and died. Don't judge me...now I had a purpose! Just get up and DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING! I made lists on sticky notes with all kinds of things to do by the appropriate amt. of required time: While waiting on a cup of coffee: fold load of clothes, or empty dishwasher, or mop kitchen. Waiting on washer: clean bedroom, weed flowers in front, do some food prep or baking and clean up, waiting on dryer: clean my nasty stove top, clean big bathroom..........you get the picture. Soon it was like a game of beat the clock! It was fun! Wow, look what got accomplished and I lost that 100#s! Tip: Every week vow to go thru house and toss out 1 kitchen garbage bag full of stuff you don't need. Soon your basement, garage and whole house will look like a possessed, OCD Mrs. Clean with a slant toward the minimalistic lives there. Get a dog, walk your best buddy a couple miles/hour day. My church family calls me a firecracker, more energy than most half my age. I'm joyful, 1st in line to help anyone, take no medication for anything and am halfway thru my 70s. So just GET UP DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING! God bless all of you my friends!
I’m not depressed and I don’t have autism but I do have an adult daughter with autism. She was officially diagnosed at 17, even though we suspect it a bit younger. Listening to you talk about your healing journey helps me understand her situation better, and to help empathize with her problems. She’s 25 now, living independently and it really helps me be kinder to her the more I learn about other adults living with Autism. She’s an amazing person and we’re so proud of all she does, and I’m glad to be on the side lines as her cheerleader. Keep talking about this! I know it’s got to be helping others too!
Hi Sr, as a student that suffers from anxiety quite often, and a tend to procrastinate important things because of that, i really appreciate this type of videos.
Being recently diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder myself by the VA at the ripe young age of 45, I can relate with the anxiety of dealing with people. I'm not Spectrum, but I do live in 'My own little world' still slowly trying to recognize why my brain goes down the paths it does, and try and find the triggers. Cleaning is my therapy, but it only goes so far with me. I want to do things, but feel like I am being held back from doing them. I get my wanderlust, I feel I want to change my perspectives under my own control. But till I get the go ahead to do so, I am in a bit of a holding pattern, and that's super frustrating. I'll eventually have to go see a specialist, or at least therapy, but for now playing video games with those friends that tolerate me and my mood swings has been my standard schedule.
@dragoness_gaming766 regarding the VA: if at first you don’t get a therapist you “click” with, don’t give up! I had one of the best therapists ever through VA, but it took many tries before I found her. The VA is very “outcome focused” in that they will try to “fix” you quickly (the first guy I talked to told me at our first session that I had a finite number of visits, so I needed to figure out what I wanted to get out of therapy!). Good luck!
@@Jenny-uv4dl Our world might not be fuzzy and warm (well, this time of year in Texas, everything is warm.. especially the tap water) But I offer any warm hugs you would wish. It may not fix things, but they help 🤗
I have had depression since age 19, but I got into a really bad one a few years ago and couldn’t find a good therapist. My cure (along with the meds I was taking) was walking every day. I started with just around the block but increased it. Give it a try if you haven’t yet. It works. ❤ good luck!
@@lillianbarker4292 I have acquired a bicycle before the summer set in this year, once evening temps start to drop into the 80's, I will consider hopping back on and getting my legs to work again.
I had my ADHD diagnosis at 37. Struggled my whole life thinking I was a useless person. Family and friends, then my husband thought I was lazy but I never gave up. I knew there was something going on with my brain. So I spin kicked everyone and went to get my diagnostic. Made therapy and now I'm helping others like me. It makes my life better😊 Love from South America 🇺🇾
What an awesome video! As someone working in the psychology field for 17+ years, trust me when I say this video is needed and helpful beyond measure. Kudos to you for figuring out what works for you and for paying it forward to help countless others. On another note, I’m a new subscriber who finds a lot of motivation to go through my clutter while I watch your videos - so thank you for that! Wishing you all the best.
Holy cow, when you said that you thought it was normal to be depressed and anxious, it hit me. I used to feel that way too. I finally got on meds when someone told me screaming and scratching your face was not a normal thing. It was a long journey, and yes, I went through a ton of meds too. Thank you so much.
I have always been tagged “ a wiggle worm”, can’t you sit still?” No I can’t. I have found knitting or crocheting for charity has helped, yet I have so many things I must to do for others, like my mother in assisted living. SCREAM!!!! It’s been quite helpful to listen to you Thanks for sharing your journey. 💙
@@DVD927 I don’t know about that! I’m not a fighter and I don’t like confrontation. I’ve completed my mom work for today. I’m so pleased. NOT!! I also make tote bags out of feed sacks for our local food bank. Anything to get recognition, I guess. 💙
A few episodes back John had said to look at the area your cleaning in small sections. That's what I do now. It has helped me to not feel overwhelmed or anxious. Also, don't watch the clock. If you have a day that you dedicate to cleaning then stop watching the clock. Take little breaks, I'll sit down for maybe 15 to 20 minutes. Sometimes I read, listen to music, play a game, or even eat a snack. These are easy little changes that will help.
I was 41 when I finally got properly diagnosed with OCD. Before, I thought I was going crazy to the point that I stopped driving and going out at all. I couldn’t even interact with people on any level. It made me deeply depressed. Medication, therapy and kindness to myself changed my mindset and help me through the tough days. Thank you for sharing and talking about mental illness.
HOLY CRAP! Your story is MY story!!! I do NOT take any pharma, rather I was using THC components to help me at night before bed, but lost a job because it showed on a test, so now I'm trying to live without anything besides my figures and my faith. I have 3 sons that are also ASD in varying degrees and the genetic trace goes right back to me... great. Thank you for this video, I really feel like less of an anomaly for being diagnosed at such a late age. My tipping point was because I had been misdiagnosed as epileptic and drugged through my early teens till I said to hell with it. Turns out I was having pseudo-seizures to which my middle son has inherited. One day at a time, right?
my granddaughter is 14 and she was listening, I didn't know she was, but she said that's exactly how i feel so this was very useful info to have thanks for sharing
Merci de parler aussi justement de ces symptômes d’anxiété et dépression. C’est toujours un sujet délicat et mal compris. Et quand s’ajoutent d’autres paramètres médicaux, il est compréhensible que ce soit lourd à porter pour la personne et son entourage. Merci, tu es absolument une personne fantastique 👍🏻, bienveillante et ouverte ! 💪🏻😊💕 À bientôt ! 🌸🌸🌸
Mack, i too have depression and anxiety. I have ptsd and a slew of other health issues. I turned to alcohol, then was dx with borderline personality disorder. After researching autism over the last year im 99.999% sure im autistic level 1. Ive stopped drinking but i still have trouble living. I whole heartedly understood this video. I love you sharing your story. Youve also inspired me to clean and ive been more active in cleaning this last 2 weeks since finding your channel than the last 2 years together. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Depression and anxiety have always been a part of my life. Since my father and his family all seem to struggle with it, I refer to it as a birthday present from dad! I'm about to be 69, and it's refreshing to listen to your story and effort to take away the stigma! Thank you. My "brain candy" is zoloft, with an occasional xanax. And as you said, staying engaged with something. Grandkids,crafts, friends, camping, etc. Thank you for being you. Love your spin-kicks and crushing brute powers😂😂
Hi there, it was such a strange and awesome thing to hear that someone feels and thinks exactly the same way I do. I am 38 now. I have a chronic anxiety disorder since I was a child, with huge socialization problems relevant to Asperger syndrome, and those expectedly caused a recurrent depression since I was about 15. I had a lot of escapistic behaviours, including PC games, books and even booze lately. And eventually (quite recently though) I've found out the same principle of the impact of having a purpose as you have. The problem here is I can't find a meaningful purpose. Instrumental purposes (projects like making a renovation, or moving to a new house) only help for a while, as they have a measurable finish. When I'm done, soon I feel as purposeless as before, I feel my life is pointless and depression hits back. And as a depressive master of failure, I feel I will inevitably fail at any long-term meaningful work. By the way, I also found out that my anxiety and socialization problems were likely caused by an attachment disorder thanks to my parents' own mental problems and behaviour. Trying to heal that trauma also helps to deal with myself. If you still haven't, try to make a research in that direction.
Man! Thanks for sharing. I was very recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 47! Unfortunately I have dealt with this by retreating, I haven't even told my family. I feel embarrassed. Like you I believe that I can help people through cleaning and organization and this will help me feel useful and give me purpose. It's something that I'm damn good at. Thanks for sharing it makes me feel like less of a weirdo 😅
Thank you for opening up and disclosing your own struggles with mental health disorders. I think you're amazing and I love watching your videos. You inspire and motivate me and others, also dealing with our cluttered minds and mess.
Thank you! This video is going to be one that I come back to over and over again. Even though I know some of it, (the one about depression being something you manage, not cure, is a big one that a lot of people don't understand.) I haven't thought of it in exactly those terms. Everyone needs to hear what they know over and over to remind themselves and give you mental muscle memory. At 48, I'm still forgetting things i learned at 28.😅 You deserve every one of your subscribers and you deserve that gold plaque. 💜
Thank you for the reminder of how powerful the feeling of purpose is! I generally find your channel both insightful and entertaining, but I did not expect to stick a cleaning video into the "personal development" playlist. You make the world a better place both by your work for your clients and by your empathic narrating and humor.
Believe it or not he edits his videos to 0.25x speed so we can keep up with his unbelievable speed and superhuman abilities
I knew it!!!
If you ever get tired of this work; you might consider voice overs...it works for Sam Shepherd...
The super speed and spin kicks keep me watching....not all heroes wear capes
I always set the speed at 1.5
If I could learn his super speed cleaning abilities, I think I could really profit from it. :)
I am 46, and I've been medicated for depression for about 10 years. When things started getting worse for me, I had just been diagnosed with a neuromuscular disease. My husband bought me a bird feeder, because he kept seeing me stare out the window. After that, he got me a bird bath and hummingbird feeder. I was starting to tell him all about the birds, and I even got a book about birds - so I could learn about them. My husband was so happy with my progression, he built a coop and got me chickens! We lived in "town" (population 750), so he built the chickens a series of tunnels in 3' and 4' sections that we were constantly moving. Soon, we had people stopping and watching our chickens - school busses, people eating lunch in their cars. Not only were they helping me, they were making others happy too! I just needed something to focus on, and that shifted everything for me.
Give your husband an extra kiss and hug for caring and actually doing something to help you. Added benefit of the chickens, you get fresh eggs....
Wow! He is a keeper!
So very happy for you. I'm so glad you saw it and learned. You're amazing. ❤❤❤
That's such a wonderful idea! I'm so glad you're in a better place now with your chickens :) and your great support system
Wow!!! You're AWESOME!!! You also have a Great cheer leading squad!!! Woohoo❤❤
I was sitting at my desk feeling depressed and anxious, and saw this video. I played it while I got up and swept a couple rooms. It was really nice to clean while 'hanging out with you,' I feel less alone, like there's a person here supporting me while I do something not very fun. What you're doing here on TH-cam is awesome, and I can't thank you enough for your dope non-judgmental attitude.
When i cant find the motivation to clean the home i watch one of his video and everytime i feel this deep need to start cleaning
yes!
Your sense of humor probably helps a lot too!
Awee bless you, I'm same , I put his cleaning videos on an it is like having a friend with you an it realy helps me feel more brighter .Hope you are ok an good today ❤
Never underestimate the power of parasocial relationships! It's like having a friend "on demand" when you need a boost 😊
“Take a break, but not an all day break.” True words of wisdom. ❤
Your kindness and non-judgmental attitude towards depression and anxiety are appreciated more than you might know.
I agree ❤
“I’m rooting for you, and so are they.” And so am I. Wishing everyone more peaceful times.
Good morning all. I appreciate this video so much. I’m 65 and have struggled with anxiety and depression since I was a teenager. Back in those days when my mom took me to a doctor they called me “high strung”. I went on medication in my forties and it helps tremendously but I do still struggle now and then and still carry the label “high strung “. Thank you for helping me feel more “normal “. Sorry for the ramble❤
I'm 65 too and when I was 20 I went to the doctor about my depression... He asked if I was married and I said I was engaged. He told me to get married and have a baby as soon as possible, because by working my natural instincts were being crushed and making me depressed. 🤣Ah, the good old days. Glad we are being helped properly now.
@@UnrulyHousewife yes! I’m glad mental health is treated as a health issue and not considered a moral weakness🤗 Take care
I understand this too. It’s taken me to reach my 6 th decade to understand the interplay between emotions, thoughts and depression. Thank goodness for medication too.
I like that you admit your struggles. I’m terrified by the holier than thou clean freaks. I’ve always felt lacking
@lauriepicerno : if you’d been a boy, I bet they wouldn’t have called you “high strung” … and @UnrulyHousewife : a variation on the theme! It is scary (and horribly sad) that it was so recent that people were forced to behave in such a strict either/or, boy/girl, fit-into-the-box way… I know I’m not saying this well, but I hope anyone reading this understands. I’m trying to say that double standards suck, and I’m sorry that you both were basically ignored because you were young women. I hope that you each found or are finding, ways to love yourselves.
I had my 17 year old twin boys watch the portion of this video where you're discussing your mental health. They're both on the spectrum and struggle with panic disorder, depression, anxiety, and adhd. Your perspection and lived experience is beneficial to others who also struggle with those diagnosis. Thank you, sir, for sharing. I appreciate you!
Honestly didn't realize wisdom could be delivered via spin kick. WELL DAMN DONE.
Hey! I'm Jason Gray,..Thanks for the support, recognition and love towards me and my career🎶& I am captivated❤️
My son was diagnosed with anxiety & ADHD when he was nearly 30. People thought he was a slacker. Even after he was diagnosed they still thought he was a slacker because they didn’t understand it. So thanks for your helping people understand. You are a great teacher.
I was diagnosed with adult ADHD when I was 50 - I am 59 now. It was a constant battle trying to explain this diagnosis to family and friends because, just like your son, they have their own ideas about me and don't really care to understand. I don't even try anymore but on the up side it has changed my life in terms of my own understanding and self-growth so I'm fine and I hope you're son is doing well too.
I was diagnosed with clinical depression. You have expressed the answer to reducing depression and anxiety so concisely and accurately that I am literally picking my jaw up off of the floor.
I have gone through the exact same steps you have experienced. From trying to
"find myself" to getting a routine or a schedule and a purpose. My Mom was a reading specialist in Los Angeles county. Both my parents were educators. They believed in schedules or "habits". My dad noticed I was aimlessly floating around. He said "honey , just get up everyday. Get ready for the day like you had the most important thing in the world to do. I'm not saying thos is the answer. It's just that your day will be so much better than if you had just layed in bed all day. "
I'm on a low dose antidepressant. It works. But what really works is exactly what you said. Have a purpose and a goal and a routine..
I am SO happy I found your channel. Sorry this is such a long ramble, but you have helped me more than you know.
Cuz now I'm goin' out and drop kick myself through the goal post of life and get busy. Because this past 2 years of sitting and laying around doesn't feel normal to me.
I have been severely anxious my entire life. I am 65 years old, and I struggle everyday. I am just too stubborn to give up. Better times are coming for us all.
I wish I had known this info. before I lost my son to depression and suicide 24yrs ago. Ignorance of mental illness is devastating. He tried using alcohol, as you said. There was a huge pile of plastic soda bottles accumulated in a corner of the yard. He was to take them to recycle...put it off for months and we didn't understand why. You don't know what an absolute blessing you are by educating your viewers. The cleanups are great, but your Purpose is greater! Thank you❣🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I have a daughter who also suffers from depression and my heart goes out to you for your loss.
@@marije8562 Thank you, I appreciate your kindness.
@@christinecornezcolmenero9356 Thank you for your kindness. I pray your daughter is doing well and has help and understanding.
Good morning Sir. What you were saying is very true. I have suffered severe Loss in my Life. Gone through Deep Depression, Felt absolutely Useless, Not wanted, Suicidal, Angxiety and Panick Attacks, Been into Hospital because i thought that i was having a Heart Attack. It was just Fear and Over Whelmness of the Outside World. I went and saw my Doctor, and talked to me about my Deep Depression. He said, that i had not gone through the Greiving process yet, of me Losing my Mother and Eldest Brother. Long time Unemployed, No weekly Income coming in. Trying to stay in Control and keep busy if i can. Your Motivational and Inspirational video's have been Helping me realise i am not the only Sufferer of Human Being Condition. My Friend, Thank you very much for telling us viewers your background and story. I totally agree with You and i Understand were you are coming from. You are doing very Well. Look after yourself and Keep Positive Mental Attitude. You can do anything you want to in Your Life. You are very Special in this World. Kindest and Warmest Regards to You my Friend. JONATHAN MARK BOWLES/ 53 years young/ Single/Own House and Car. Very Independent. 😃😃😃😃👍👍👍💪💪💪
My favorite way to fight my depression is dance. Am I good at dancing? No. Do I care? HELL NO! I move for ME. It makes ME happy and that is all that’s required!
Mine too ☺️
Ok, Friend…I love everything about your channel…the cleaning, the transformations, the motivation, the way you share so much information, the humor tempered with productivity, your calm voice, sharing Filth with us…(and I can’t remember your daughter’s name), and I can’t wait to see what your name will be at the beginning of every video…and did I mention your humor??? You’re ding dang hilarious! I find myself quoting you…and I love it! You add calmness and laughter to my day!!! Thanks for this channel…one of my favorites! Thanks to you my husband and I got a 40 yard rollaway dumpster and purged from our attic to our basement…we had quite the accumulation of unnecessary items…retired teachers with things we no longer needed…what a great weight off our shoulders. Thanks, Bud!
Thank you Mr. Shoes-pants-shirt for inventing the concept of clothing!!! You have saved millions of eyes from either being 'popped out' or being 'seared out'. Not only I, but in fact the entire world thanks you from the bottom of their eyes...😮😂
A big thing that has helped me with depression is forcing myself to think more positively. Every time I thought a negative though I would write it down and then write down a positive one to combat it. Eventually I didn’t have to write it anymore and noticed it and corrected myself right away. Speaking more positively to myself has helped a ton!
I can sometimes be bad for thinking negatively but at one point I noticed I would use / think the word "worry" a lot...I mean 100's of times a day. Positive (oh I don't need to worry about that now) to negative (I need to worry about this) or procrastinating (I can worry about that later). So, I said I was taking that word right out of my vocabulary. I was using it so much it weighed on me. It took a bit but really helped.
@@tracypetry2887 yes that’s awesome!
One way I combat my paralysing depression and anxiety is to ask "What would I do if I loved myself?". So say if I had to decide whether to sit around in my PJs all day, or go and have a shower, I would ask myself that question and most likely have the shower. The same might apply to doing the dishes, or going for a walk. The wording is great, because it doesn't even pressure me into saying that I actually DO love myself (which just feels weird and fake). For me it really helps.
Love the video, but I must admit that watching you try to snap up that polystyrene and fit it into the box was triggering to the max... So suck it son. 😂
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thank you for these words! also totally triggering, I fast forwarded lol
I teared up hearing your description of the management of depression and anxiety when one has a purpose. So beautifully put. I can relate.
For a long time, I thought I had to find the perfect purpose in life, but now I realize dedicating myself to something that has purpose works. It doesn’t have to be the perfect dream job. Helping others gives me purpose. Making art gives me purpose. When the two overlap, my feelings of depression and anxiety are so much more manageable.
Also, I so appreciate your sense of humor.
I'm retired from nursing. My job was my goal everyday. I've been goal deprived since retirement. I've had no direction, and have lost desire to do anything. Sometimes I manage to accomplish things that make me feel better, but the effect is short-lived. You and others here in the comments have piqued my psyche. I will do my best to set a daily goal even if it's some menial task. Thank you so much for your caring. Guess I'll get busy now and spin kick my laundry out the door😅😂😅!
Omgosh...read my "narrative " on here!! We have alot in common!!!
@lia-liz2012 indeed we do have some common points. I was only in nursing for about 10 years. It was enough really even though I miss it at times. Take care and spin kick that bag into oblivion!!!
I'm an almost retired nurse.
Thank you for sharing.
I think as a nurse we have taken care of so many others that we often neglect ourselves.
Have fun with your laundry, and I'll go do mine also.😂
@@annie-k5213 be good to yourself and make sure that laundry knows who's boss!!! 😅🤣😅
Start a passion new job or career on your terms. Could be part time not for money for fun
Yes you are an excellent cleaner. What sets you apart is your honesty, forthrightness, acceptance, commitment and compassion. Blessings to you and yours. 🇬🇧
I'm 28, a mom, and currently figuring out I might be autistic (with the help of my therapists) while in outpatient treatment for depression and social media addiction. Thank you for being so open about this; it helps people -- like me -- feel seen and not so alone.
You're not alone. People with depression and anxiety don't always feel safe talking about it.
I’m 23 and I know that’s not old but for a diagnosis like autism, it’s harder than if you were a child. I recently came to realize I’m most likely autistic and I cannot begin to explain how freeing and helpful it feels to just know that there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m perfectly normal, I just also happen to be autistic. Finding these videos has helped me immensely in feeling like I’m not alone. MMC’s personality and cleaning style is so parallel to mine that it helps to calm me and I just have to thank you for that. I know I’m rambling now but all this to say, if you’re an autistic adult, you’re seen, you’re valid, you’re loved, and you’re NOT alone ❤
I'm 47 and also grew up in Ohio and have probably 90% overlap of the "brain chaos" and struggles you spoke about. There's really no way I can thank you enough for talking about this. Medication and coping help tremendously to keep the noice down, but coping requires practice and habit, which can be very hard for many of us. That waking with a purpose is critical to remembering to practice your habits. I'm not there yet, but I'm much closer to being at peace and I really appreciate the reinforcement. Especially if it means I don't have to Breakdance Battle you.
Same 😂
Thank you! ❤️❤️👊
My thoughts exactly! ❤
Amen!
Where in oHIo??
I have been under depression since I am 10. A thing that help a lot, is a little game where everyone have to found, each day, a single one positive thing that happened to us. A laugh, an accomplishement, something that made us proud…
Man, I'm just listening to this after having a crapastic morning. This was the reset I needed. Thank you!
The more of your videos I watch and really listen to you, the more I realize I have depression and have since I was about six years old. It’s all starting to make sense. I don’t like being on those meds as my doctor did that after my mother died when I was thirty. It was horrible! I am now seventy and always been a procrastinator.
After watching this video I went and threw out (recycled) a heavy big box of junk mail that was blocking my front door. Now I don’t have to move it every time I need to leave the house! Big step for me. Thank you honey! 😊
I love your channel. I am a single mom caring for my autistic son, homeschooling full time, without friends or family around to help out. I myself struggle with a bit of mental health mucky-muck and have found that cleaning and rearranging has helped with my own anxiety… it has also allowed for a more peaceful space for my son and I to thrive. I adore your videos, your personality is endearing. Best to you and your family.
You’re describing my life. Single mom of ASD ADHD GAD teen who I homeschool. Living 5 provinces away from Family. Have my own mental health & physical health challenges. Hugs to you. You’re doing great as a mom.
You two have inspired me to find a way to volunteer to help single parents in my city. ❤
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I'm 56 next month...I've been suffering depression since I was 6 years old. It hurts my heart to remember little 6yo me wishing I'd never been born. No child that young should feel that. Anyway the very smallest thing I do when I'm 'going through it' is tell myself OUT LOUD "this is not permanent, this will pass, just hang on" and in a couple hours it does pass. I'm aware that this won't help anyone else probably but who knows. And a new way I've found to help my depression and now my fun new anxiety is watching the videos on this channel. Your voice is soothing, the sort of repetitive nature of cleaning is calming, and it seriously gives me the energy to get up and clean my place up. The change in my every day life since finding this channel is amazing! Please keep going with these videos, they are truly life savers!
Tuning in from Adelaide, South Australia 🦘 where it's 1am Saturday morning. I've suffered the biggest betrayal I could ever imagined early today & have spent the rest of the day hiding in my shell planning my end. I need to get myself out of debt, do my Will & pay/plan my funeral because I just can't take it anymore. I'm watching & listening to this sobbing as I can so relate to this mental chaos, I do needed to hear this right now. I'm 53 & was focusing on the very next chapter in my life until today. Now I'm lost, broken & unsure how to be in this world anymore. Tomorrow I will reach out. Thank you for this, it's like God sent you ❤🙏
Just know I am praying for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this tough time. But you matter. 😊
I also feel for you. It’s so hard sometimes but walking outside usually helps me. I used to go down the hill and walk around and around the perimeter of a small church parking lot, crying of course. It was something to do and outside to help with grounding as well as exercise. Wow- I didn’t even think that thru until now and it was years ago. Just try to remember that eventually it will not feel this terrible. I still can cry with the least thought but it’s manageable now on meds of course!
Good morning!! How awesome that you let us know your journey…we all fight a battle…and you can’t eat an elephant all in one bite- it has to be broken down into manageable pieces….divide and conquer. I love that your purpose is to help others too…and so grateful for your channel. 🥰
I’m autistic and I love your channel and I love that you’re talking about this. I struggle with anxiety and depression too
You described my life exactly! In my family you weren’t spiritual enough or full of sin. I was 35 when I went to counseling, it was helpful. At 50, I got some medication that helped physical symptoms of anxiety. I’m much less reactive, as you explained. Good for you on your journey! I’m 69 now, and quilting and sewing is my peaceful place. I started sewing at 9, and still at it. I love your videos, they are peaceful for me, and I love your goofy humor!
I’m sorry you were made to feel like you were full of sin or weren’t spiritual enough. That’s not what Jesus would want. I’m glad you’ve found ways to cope with your anxieties, and I do hope you have a loving relationship with Him, the way he’d want.
While I was growing up we were told that if we had mental health issues, we were out of fellowship with God. As a result, we never got help.
I find it funny that those who treat depression/anxiety, etc as a spiritual problem don’t see other conditions as spiritual. Need glasses? Need insulin? Intolerant to gluten? Just pray more!!!🙄
I'm trying to clear a space so that I can start sewing again. It's a slow process with my body issues. Growing up, I was the shy one who had a hard time speaking up. My mom was unkind and did none of the household chores, that's what my sister and I were for. As I was the eldest, I was responsible for both of our chores. I'm now 64 and hate the process of cleaning, but I'm not wealthy enough to hire out. I do what I can do with a body that hurts daily so that only my closest couple of friends can come by once in a while. I don't feel sorry for myself as I still have life, and God is by my side. My dad told me once when I had a tizzy fit saying something wasn't fair. He said, "I've told you a lot of things about life that it's fair isn't one of them. " I remember that when I start thinking something isn't fair. I began noticeably struggling with depression and anxiety after menopause. My grandmother had the same issue. It's hormonal, but I'm treated with a depression medication. It mostly helps unless I get behind in my chores. That's when I have trouble kickstarting myself. Thanks for this video, as now I feel like getting off my butt!
I’m 67 and grew up with Toxic Jesus too. It never ceases to amaze me how some interpret Jesus’ teachings into a big ball of meanness, hate, and destruction. It’s almost like they didn’t actually read what Jesus said about love or they decided it’s Opposites Day when interpreting the Bible. It sounds like you’ve found a peaceful place with your sewing. I love sewing too and hope to get back into it one day when time allows.
This video is full of great "Life" advice for everyone, not only those suffering from depression, etc. THANKS!!!!
Dude, I am in tears this is so relatable. Thank you for all you do and all you share.
Same, I didn't expect to be served feelings this morning! Oof! 💜
I really appreciate your plain talk on your medical conditions. I too have struggled with similar maladies. I love your videos, and have learned new tricks. You are so smart, and it is so good to be able to talk about some things in the open. God Bless.😊
Depression and anxiety has taken so much away from my life. I thought that was just the way it was if you’re alive. It’s only now at 25 that I started truly believing that my life can be something more . That’s how I ended up watching vids like these. I found that organizing, cleaning up, becoming more mindful, patient and motivated from doing these things help me me see the pathways to my ideal life more clearly. This new upload really speaks to me.
I'm with you too, though it's taken me til 53 yo to get to this point of realization, - my best to you, so glad you're on the road of discovery at 25, be well and take care
Yo también tengo ansiedad y depresión. Vivo en la ciudad de México. Es muy difícil entenderse a a uno mismo, conocerse y aceptarse. Solo quiero hacer saber a quien vea este comentario que no está solo, habemos muchas personas así. Gracias por tus videos.
Espero que seas capaz de encontrar la paz.
Tu no estás solo. Hay gente en todas partes que lucha con estes cosas. Espero que tu sientas mejor.
I have a tip I discovered recently. Mental health days for me look vastly different depending on whether it's anxiety or depression that has me overwhelmed.
Anxiety self care day = a brain dump of to-dos, organized into manageable, timed chunks, and checking as many things off as humanly possible. Maybe with some treats or rewards along the way.
Depression self care day = shower, sunshine, exercise, relaxation, a short nap.
TY for sharing 💓
I suffer with anxiety and accomplishing something everyday certainly helps.
Another soul with the same issues. It interfers with my sleep, I can't shut down my mind, and small things get to me. I'm in the process of reducing my "hoard" and letting my brain rest. Thank you for your reminders that I'm not alone. 😊
Hey! I'm Jason Gray,..Thanks for the support, recognition and love towards me and my career🎶& I am captivated❤️
Thank you for this video! I spent Wednesday afternoon cleaning my bedroom. It was messy, not dirty per say. I just kept walking past laundry baskets filled with clean, folded laundry...crap on my nightstand...unmade bed, etc. I'm 60 and divorced, full time caregiver of my 31 year old autistic son, and I knew that my mounting mess of a room was a sign of depression that I was trying to ignore. I can't tell you how good it felt to just dig in and clean that bedroom! Next up: my closet! time to part with some old clothes. I'm thinking about going back on medication for the depression, and sleep doesn't come easily to me. Thank you for talking about this. Growing up there was definitely a stigma to seeking therapy, and "Have a drink" was the answer to everything, the only coping mechanism demonstrated to me and my siblings. You can imagine how that worked out. The sunny morning has turned cloudy; maybe today is the day I clean my closet. Enjoy your BBQ this weekend and thank you again!
For us caregivers, we find ourselves taking better care of others than ourselves. Have grace with yourself, you're doing great, just doing something is awesome, then it's contagious and we want to do more... keep up that motivation, but remember to take breaks, don't burn yourself out
Your videos have helped me realise I have some hoarding tendencies and that awareness has helped me slowly, oh so slowly, get rid of items that need to go. I put you on in the background while I'm doing chores or tidying and it's really nice, your smooth voice and compassion are wonderful motivators. Thank you so much, you have literally helped me change my life and stay much tidier and cleaner. I'm sure my roommate would thank you as well.
I was diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety and panic, but also dealt with depression for years. It was a long road, with lots of therapy and medication, but there was an "aha" moment when I had to go to a cardiologist to have my heart tested after getting chest pains during panic attacks. The tech who tested my heart said she used to be like me but hadn't had a panic attack in 10 years. I asked her what made them stop? She said, "I got a divorce." I didn't want to leave my husband but what I learned from that was I needed to make some radical changes - things like selling our house, moving to another town, medical/lifestyle changes, husband got diagnosed/treated for ADHD. I stopped trying to "cure" or get rid of the depression, but instead focused on things that brought joy, safety and stability to my life. It's like being in a deep, dark well, and the only way out is to fill it with things that help me climb out.
TY for the advice about being proactive instead of inactive
Watching your videos saves me going to a therapist. Calming, honest and true.
I have NO idea when and why TH-cam recommend your channel
BUT I’m so very thankful it did !
I’m not a hoarder Per se however I have a difficult time purging and donating stuff as I tend to become emotionally attached.
I need to tell my overwhelming stuff to
“ Suck it”
As it’s spin kicks into the waste bucket!
Love from up north 🇨🇦
Thank you for this. I've been battling depression and anxiety for what I know now is my entire life. I was diagnosed with bipolar 1, BPD, depression and anxiety in March of this year and it's opened my eyes. I've started a small cleaning company and growing it has been a huge challenge. But these posts have encouraged me to keep working on it, and even start my own TH-cam channel as a way to finally find some sort of hobby that is productive and eases my disorders. I have a loooooong way to go, meds are working but needs some adjustments. I don't have much help but that'll come again with time and effort. As for today, clean my room which I've been putting off for weeks .. that, and maybe take a shower. 😅
You're an inspiration, thank you.
I also have bipolar disorder and add. Procrastination and just feeling stuck is a huge issue for me.
Love that you share your story and what you did you “fix” yourself. You spin kicked this video out of park 😂
Thank you for your honesty and openness. My husband and his 3 brothers all struggle with depression in different ways. One smokes pot constantly, one is cold and removed from people, and one is angry and controlling. My husband would go through periods of time where he wouldn’t say a word. I might add that their Dad committed suicide when he was 39. My husband has really worked on his depression and now he takes Sam-E and uses light therapy. It has kept him free from depression for a few years now. We talk about it to anyone who wants to know about his struggles because we want to share what works and what doesn’t for him. I love your channel. You are so genuine and funny! Keep up the good work!
Serving others is a way I have dealt with my depression over the years. This is a wonderful video! Thank you for making it.❤
I sent this video to my son so my grandson could view it. Logan has Asbergers and struggles with depression too. Thank you for opening up to others.
Thanks for sharing this video - it's great advice. I use my dining room table similarly to the way you use your garage. I call it the "Island of Deferred Decision Making". If there are stacks of things on the table - from laundry that hasn't been put away to important paperwork I haven't dealt with - I know I'm tangling with too much white noise or anxiety in my brain to move forward. If the table is clear, I'm engaging in a good baseline of self-care and making progress. Today, the only things on my dining room table are a runner and four placemats. Three cheers for you and your clean garage!
Your narration, Mr. ShoesPantsShirt, about yourself and your motivation is uplifting. You base your observations of life on logic, lived experiences and compassion. Thank you! You are Spin-Kick, Breakdance Yoda from St. Louis, son. Keep up the good work helping others and accept that you have many subscribers who value and appreciate life's little truths that you reveal. Much love and many blessings sent your way.
This one really touched my heart. Thank you for sharing all that you did. What your videos are doing is so, so much more than watching a guy clean. They are therapy for some of us who struggle too emotionally. At least at times. So I truly thank you for what you're doing that's helping me and I am betting lots of other people too. And not just with cleaning issues. With some life issues ❤🙏
Thank you for your story. My grandson is autistic and your words have really touched me. I will be more understanding with my grandson. The very best to you and your family. ❤❤❤❤❤
Such a heartwarming video. Yes life can become overwhelming but I agree that the state of your house / a room can be the mirror of the state of your mind.
We have to kind to ourselves and listen to what both our minds and bodies are telling us. It’s not easy.
Also 1000% agree about the meds. I have depression and have needed meds for past 20 odd years (not continuously). It can take weeks for meds to kick in and can take weeks / months to find the right dosage. Keep talking to your doctor and don’t just think “oh they aren’t working” or “I don’t want to bother the doctor again”. Keep at it. The meds I used to take stopped working for me so had to try a new one so just because a Med used to work for you, it might not when you next need it.
Everyone - have a lovely week ahead and be kind to both yourself and others xxx
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Something I want to mention in general, because I think that's very important:
People with mental issues belong to the strongest people I know.
You not only have to deal with daily life, but also to cope with your illness every day. Wow, what an achievement!
Think about, how much strength you have, to go on, and be very, very proud of yourself!
Thanks🌟
Nice to meet you, Garage Brain! Your voice overs are almost as calming as the cleanup. Thank you for repping the neuro divergent community. I appreciate you.
@@bumble4342I totally agree...put me to sleep one night so I had to rewatch that end part 😂
I'm in my 60's, xmas, alone, it's a mess here. Was totally bummed out. I can't believe I just watched a grown man clean his garage for 25mins. And feel soooooo much better! Nuts. Really appreciate this! Your presentation style is unique, love those pauses without talking, gave me time to think about what you just said, just watching you do your thing. So simple. And effective. Thank you.
Thank you so much Cap'n. I believe about 90% of your followers have something in common with you. I'm almost 70 & it actually started when I was a teenager, but magnified when I was 19, 6 months pregnant & lost my husband. Meaning death & not just leaving. I think I could have handled that. To top all that off, all of my immediate family has passed, including another husband & my son when he was 45. I only take one day at a time. Thanks for speaking out & sharing. ... Glenda
@Glenda:
Dear Glenda, I send you all the love I have❤️🙋🏼♀️🇩🇪
You are a strong woman👍!
Dear Glenda, I'm sorry and my thoughts are with you!
What a life you've experienced .
A hug & good thoughts are sent your way. Your not alone Glenda
I can’t imagine so much heartbreak. I hope you find love and joy as you bravely go forward ❤.
I take anxiety and depression meds for 20 years now. I’m 76. I only wish that I was diagnosed earlier and wonder how different my life choices might have been. I was afraid to assert myself, make changes, I lived in the status quo, and just reacted to what needed to be done, but never making any progress in my life. My life is so much better now. I also see a psychologist, I am at peace with myself, happy and creative as an artist. I see others who suffer from the same symptoms that I did, and wish I could help them. Even in this day and age, mental health is a reality not a flaw. Not everyone sees it that way. I will often say to someone, if you had appendicitis, wouldn’t you go to a doctor?, why, when you are suffering psychologically, would you not also get help?….. the fear and stigma still exists. Thank you for this information, hopefully it will help someone. You are an awesome role model, your voice overs are inspiring.
The important piece for me in dealing with depression was learning how to advocate for myself, set boundaries ask for what I need. Choosing not to deal with people that dismiss your concerns/needs whenever possible.
I grew up in the fifties in an abusive household. I was called 'too sensitive', high strung, stupid amongst other things by those who were supposed to love and protect you. I was allowed no or very few [one at a time friends ].... too long to go into details. Anyway, I ended up getting my Rn degree in my mid thirties and found that helping others lifted a lot of depression and anxiety from me bc I was focused on others rather than myself. I began experiencing anxiety between 5-6 yrs old and as a young adult, began having 'free- floating' ie; no immediate cause or event - panic attacks. I still occasionally get chest pains which had started about the age of 12 only to go to the ER and be told nothing is wrong w my heart. Absolutely love your channel and soothing voice. I sometimes still get overwhelmed and am unable to move or do much for a day or so and then it passes. Thank you again, you are helping a lot of people.
17:05 THIS is the absolute perfect description of how my grandson, who’s 10 years old, is living his life. He immerses himself in video games. I’m going to send this video to his momma. Hopefully your journey will open her mind to the deeper aspect of how his mind works. Right now, he is on Adderall for his autism, which really helps his focus in school. You rock sir!! Thanks for being you. ❤❤LOVE YOUR CHANNEL!!
I have no words…thank you. ♥️🐾👍🏻
I hear this. As an autistic and adhd person one of the foundations that would have helped me is validation that how I feel is valid and a parent offering a listening ear instead of telling me I wasn’t experiencing what I was experiencing. That includes being constantly burnt out from public school. I needed less social interaction and more time alone, which it sounds like he’s trying to do already. Then the next step is teaching coping mechanisms and working with him through the frustrations and stress that comes with living as a neurodivergent person in a neurotypical world. That is a LOT of work for the parent but it will be so helpful for him later.
Your videos make me feel calm. I enjoyed hearing your story and I love the sound of your voice. Thank you for your service.
Honestly thank you for speaking so openly about your mental health, I'm only 27 but it constantly feels like my mental illness has backed me into where I'm going to do nothing with my life so it's really encouraging to see you and the other people in the chat who are doing well later in their lives. Thanks again Midwest-magic-cleaning-John
I am 68 and have been on meds for depression since I was a teen, due to genetics, and a very very bad childhood. Then I got married and had 4 kids and my life was a whirlwind. Now with all the kids grown up, I have realized that becoming more minimal in my home has been a tremendous help to relieve depression and anxiety. Everything in my home was a "to do" list. Too many decorations even made me feel anxious. So I am getting rid of tons of stuff. The more I get rid of the better I feel. I have less work to do now, and can work on my hobbies more. It is working for me. When my rooms are spacious and clutter free, I feel free.
Thank you for helping all of us fellow anxiety sufferers feel less alone. There is hope, there is help!
Had a big panic attack this morning, seemingly "out of nowhere" but, I know better. This video was a very important reminder for me and I bet many others. Thank you for sharing your journey, Mack. You ROCK!
I cannot love this video enough. I wish more people could hear what you have to say!!❤
Hey! I'm Jason Gray,..Thanks for the support, recognition and love towards me and my career🎶& I am captivated❤️
Thank you so much for telling your personal story. Unknowingly I did exactly the same thing. While I always tried to find out about myself (diagnosed with ADHD, autism and episodes of depression), I only got deeper into anxiety and more procrastinations. One thing I learned is not to procrastinate. I write down everything what I need or want to to, even it's very little. When the list (on my mobile), got step by step less, I feel so good. It's still a way of control but it definitely helped me often out of beeing stuck and feeling depressed. I also learned to accept myself how I am and beeing focused on my good things and not about what I didn't do or which goals I didn't reach.
I have OCD, ADD, anxiety and depression. I get caught in the horrible cycle of I need to clean this but then I get overwhelmed and then anxiety hits ugh … your videos help me immensely… now when I think I’m overwhelmed… I just spin kick that back to where it came from ! I’ve learned to take breaks and to do one thing at a time … I am focusing more to one thing but piles are my friends. I found that if I make piles in a messy room and work on the piles 1 at a time it helps. No running into the laundry for every piece of laundry … I make the pile and do it in one shot so I go in there and start something else…
Thank you for all you do… I’m going to become a member soon.
My son was diagnosed at 10 with Tourette’s, Asperger’s, OCD and Generalised Anxiety Disorder . I knew he was different from the age of 3. But once we finally got the diagnosis we could then start doing research and finding the right mix of medications and psychological treatments that were the right fit for him. I must say the anxiety is the worst to have and deal with. He’s now 24 and we still have to help him with his meltdowns from sensory overloads and anxiety over things he can’t control. But he’s now off his medication and doing quite well considering. We just talk about everything that’s making him worry and that gets him by until the next time. So thanks again for speaking about your experience as that will give some people their own aha moment. ❤ from Hervey Bay Australia 🇦🇺
There was an exercises I read once, I think it was in the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels, that involved cleaning a room very slowly, in order to be mindful of the space in my life and decluttering mess. I found it to be super relaxing. I felt amazing after throwing so much out and then wiping everything clean and organizing stuff.
I’ve been in therapy for almost five years (one year of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, four years of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and these are the phrases that I’ve learned make the most impact on my anxiety, PTSD, and depression:
1) “You are not in trouble.” There is no jail time, no moral failure, no punishment for not understanding how to do something and needing to ask. There is no need for the adrenaline flooding your veins. No one is going to hurt you for being new or inexperienced at something, or for going somewhere new.
2) “You can complain the whole time, but you have to do the task.” Things can’t go straight from horrible to good with depression, you have to get to a neutral point first. That can mean verbalizing that it’s bad right now. But you also need to Do The Thing alongside the complaining to get that compass needle moving towards neutral. This worked great for me in combination with a timer to see how long The Task ACTUALLY took me.
3) Not a phrase to say, but the removal of a phrase from my therapist’s appointment notes- when she stopped adding “patient confirmed they can stay safe until our next visit” because she no longer had to ask. She knew I could. ❤️
4) “The solution to the anxiety is doing the thing causing the anxiety.” Calling RiteAid to transfer my prescription to them from Walgreens. Walking to a new library. Using public transport. Sitting in public without my back to a wall. The reinforcement of neutral and positive outcomes eventually made my anxiety come down to a level where I can critically use the coping skills I learned in four years of DBT.
Also, as you said in your video- I am on medications that assist this. I am on 10mg of Atomoxitime (ADHD medication), 60mg of buspar (anti-anxiety), 100mg of lamotrigine (I’m using it for depression, it’s used for a few others things that don’t apply to me), and hormonal birth control. These medications have made a HUGE difference in my life.
If anyone reading this has the privilege to tolerate and access psychiatric care, I highly recommend it. It can level the playing field.
Make sure to be patient with yourself when trying to find the right medication for you- it took five years to find the right ones for me. Lexapro, zoloft, trazadone, litium, and prozac were all my previous efforts. ❤️ but most of all, do it for yourself. Effort is the greatest act of love you can provide for you.
Here's my 2 cents re depression and anxiety (I deal with both). Don't be afraid to see a psychiatrist, and don't be afraid of meds. Meds may help you enough to get through the issues you need to face. They don't have to be forever and they're not a cop out.
A good trick for me to handle depression is to make a list every day to tackle when I get home. It can be the simplest thing like putting clean dishes away, but it motivates me once I'm off work to accomplish things rather than just crawl into bed. Not only that, but crossing things off the list really boosts my mood.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are absolutely right about having a goal and purpose driven life. I wasted years fighting anxiety and panic attacks. You literally may have touched on what my problem may be, that makes me continue my battle today at 58 years old. I am fine at home, where I can control my environment. It is when I am out in public and have no control over my environment that I have full blown panic attacks. Any thoughts on that would be greatly appreciated.
My husband retired, thought I would lose my mind, gained 100#s. Years later he had 3 kinds of cancer and died. Don't judge me...now I had a purpose! Just get up and DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING! I made lists on sticky notes with all kinds of things to do by the appropriate amt. of required time: While waiting on a cup of coffee: fold load of clothes, or empty dishwasher, or mop kitchen. Waiting on washer: clean bedroom, weed flowers in front, do some food prep or baking and clean up, waiting on dryer: clean my nasty stove top, clean big bathroom..........you get the picture. Soon it was like a game of beat the clock! It was fun! Wow, look what got accomplished and I lost that 100#s! Tip: Every week vow to go thru house and toss out 1 kitchen garbage bag full of stuff you don't need. Soon your basement, garage and whole house will look like a possessed, OCD Mrs. Clean with a slant toward the minimalistic lives there. Get a dog, walk your best buddy a couple miles/hour day. My church family calls me a firecracker, more energy than most half my age. I'm joyful, 1st in line to help anyone, take no medication for anything and am halfway thru my 70s. So just GET UP DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING! God bless all of you my friends!
I’m not depressed and I don’t have autism but I do have an adult daughter with autism. She was officially diagnosed at 17, even though we suspect it a bit younger. Listening to you talk about your healing journey helps me understand her situation better, and to help empathize with her problems. She’s 25 now, living independently and it really helps me be kinder to her the more I learn about other adults living with Autism. She’s an amazing person and we’re so proud of all she does, and I’m glad to be on the side lines as her cheerleader. Keep talking about this! I know it’s got to be helping others too!
Thank you for being open to learning in order to be good to your daughter. A lot of us don't have parents who would do at least that.
Hi Sr, as a student that suffers from anxiety quite often, and a tend to procrastinate important things because of that, i really appreciate this type of videos.
Being recently diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder myself by the VA at the ripe young age of 45, I can relate with the anxiety of dealing with people. I'm not Spectrum, but I do live in 'My own little world' still slowly trying to recognize why my brain goes down the paths it does, and try and find the triggers. Cleaning is my therapy, but it only goes so far with me. I want to do things, but feel like I am being held back from doing them. I get my wanderlust, I feel I want to change my perspectives under my own control. But till I get the go ahead to do so, I am in a bit of a holding pattern, and that's super frustrating.
I'll eventually have to go see a specialist, or at least therapy, but for now playing video games with those friends that tolerate me and my mood swings has been my standard schedule.
@dragoness_gaming766 regarding the VA: if at first you don’t get a therapist you “click” with, don’t give up! I had one of the best therapists ever through VA, but it took many tries before I found her. The VA is very “outcome focused” in that they will try to “fix” you quickly (the first guy I talked to told me at our first session that I had a finite number of visits, so I needed to figure out what I wanted to get out of therapy!). Good luck!
@@Jenny-uv4dl Our world might not be fuzzy and warm (well, this time of year in Texas, everything is warm.. especially the tap water) But I offer any warm hugs you would wish. It may not fix things, but they help 🤗
I have had depression since age 19, but I got into a really bad one a few years ago and couldn’t find a good therapist. My cure (along with the meds I was taking) was walking every day. I started with just around the block but increased it. Give it a try if you haven’t yet. It works. ❤ good luck!
@@lillianbarker4292 I have acquired a bicycle before the summer set in this year, once evening temps start to drop into the 80's, I will consider hopping back on and getting my legs to work again.
I had my ADHD diagnosis at 37. Struggled my whole life thinking I was a useless person. Family and friends, then my husband thought I was lazy but I never gave up. I knew there was something going on with my brain. So I spin kicked everyone and went to get my diagnostic. Made therapy and now I'm helping others like me. It makes my life better😊
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Love to see a post from you. You are sunshine to many people.🌻 Good work as always!!!!
What an awesome video! As someone working in the psychology field for 17+ years, trust me when I say this video is needed and helpful beyond measure. Kudos to you for figuring out what works for you and for paying it forward to help countless others.
On another note, I’m a new subscriber who finds a lot of motivation to go through my clutter while I watch your videos - so thank you for that! Wishing you all the best.
Holy cow, when you said that you thought it was normal to be depressed and anxious, it hit me.
I used to feel that way too. I finally got on meds when someone told me screaming and scratching your face was not a normal thing.
It was a long journey, and yes, I went through a ton of meds too.
Thank you so much.
I have always been tagged “ a wiggle worm”, can’t you sit still?” No I can’t. I have found knitting or crocheting for charity has helped, yet I have so many things I must to do for others, like my mother in assisted living. SCREAM!!!! It’s been quite helpful to listen to you Thanks for sharing your journey. 💙
But I bet genetically, you’re the one we’d all want in battle with us, because you probably have quick muscle reaction.
@@DVD927 I don’t know about that! I’m not a fighter and I don’t like confrontation. I’ve completed my mom work for today. I’m so pleased. NOT!! I also make tote bags out of feed sacks for our local food bank. Anything to get recognition, I guess. 💙
A few episodes back John had said to look at the area your cleaning in small sections. That's what I do now. It has helped me to not feel overwhelmed or anxious. Also, don't watch the clock. If you have a day that you dedicate to cleaning then stop watching the clock. Take little breaks, I'll sit down for maybe 15 to 20 minutes. Sometimes I read, listen to music, play a game, or even eat a snack. These are easy little changes that will help.
I was 41 when I finally got properly diagnosed with OCD. Before, I thought I was going crazy to the point that I stopped driving and going out at all. I couldn’t even interact with people on any level. It made me deeply depressed. Medication, therapy and kindness to myself changed my mindset and help me through the tough days. Thank you for sharing and talking about mental illness.
Hey! I'm Jason Gray,..Thanks for the support, recognition and love towards me and my career🎶& I am captivated❤️
HOLY CRAP! Your story is MY story!!! I do NOT take any pharma, rather I was using THC components to help me at night before bed, but lost a job because it showed on a test, so now I'm trying to live without anything besides my figures and my faith. I have 3 sons that are also ASD in varying degrees and the genetic trace goes right back to me... great.
Thank you for this video, I really feel like less of an anomaly for being diagnosed at such a late age. My tipping point was because I had been misdiagnosed as epileptic and drugged through my early teens till I said to hell with it. Turns out I was having pseudo-seizures to which my middle son has inherited. One day at a time, right?
my granddaughter is 14 and she was listening, I didn't know she was, but she said that's exactly how i feel so this was very useful info to have thanks for sharing
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Thank you...seriously...keep spin kicking these videos out for us. They are beyond helpful in so many ways 🥰
Merci de parler aussi justement de ces symptômes d’anxiété et dépression. C’est toujours un sujet délicat et mal compris. Et quand s’ajoutent d’autres paramètres médicaux, il est compréhensible que ce soit lourd à porter pour la personne et son entourage.
Merci, tu es absolument une personne fantastique 👍🏻, bienveillante et ouverte ! 💪🏻😊💕
À bientôt !
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Mack, i too have depression and anxiety. I have ptsd and a slew of other health issues. I turned to alcohol, then was dx with borderline personality disorder. After researching autism over the last year im 99.999% sure im autistic level 1. Ive stopped drinking but i still have trouble living. I whole heartedly understood this video. I love you sharing your story. Youve also inspired me to clean and ive been more active in cleaning this last 2 weeks since finding your channel than the last 2 years together.
Thank you for sharing. ❤
Depression and anxiety have always been a part of my life. Since my father and his family all seem to struggle with it, I refer to it as a birthday present from dad! I'm about to be 69, and it's refreshing to listen to your story and effort to take away the stigma! Thank you. My "brain candy" is zoloft, with an occasional xanax. And as you said, staying engaged with something. Grandkids,crafts, friends, camping, etc. Thank you for being you. Love your spin-kicks and crushing brute powers😂😂
Hey! I'm Jason Gray,..Thanks for the support, recognition and love towards me and my career🎶& I am captivated❤️
Hi there, it was such a strange and awesome thing to hear that someone feels and thinks exactly the same way I do. I am 38 now. I have a chronic anxiety disorder since I was a child, with huge socialization problems relevant to Asperger syndrome, and those expectedly caused a recurrent depression since I was about 15. I had a lot of escapistic behaviours, including PC games, books and even booze lately. And eventually (quite recently though) I've found out the same principle of the impact of having a purpose as you have. The problem here is I can't find a meaningful purpose. Instrumental purposes (projects like making a renovation, or moving to a new house) only help for a while, as they have a measurable finish. When I'm done, soon I feel as purposeless as before, I feel my life is pointless and depression hits back. And as a depressive master of failure, I feel I will inevitably fail at any long-term meaningful work.
By the way, I also found out that my anxiety and socialization problems were likely caused by an attachment disorder thanks to my parents' own mental problems and behaviour. Trying to heal that trauma also helps to deal with myself. If you still haven't, try to make a research in that direction.
Man! Thanks for sharing. I was very recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 47! Unfortunately I have dealt with this by retreating, I haven't even told my family. I feel embarrassed. Like you I believe that I can help people through cleaning and organization and this will help me feel useful and give me purpose. It's something that I'm damn good at. Thanks for sharing it makes me feel like less of a weirdo 😅
Thank you for opening up and disclosing your own struggles with mental health disorders. I think you're amazing and I love watching your videos. You inspire and motivate me and others, also dealing with our cluttered minds and mess.
When I was listening to you it was like you were describing my life. Thank you for be open to sharing your journey. ❤
Thank you! This video is going to be one that I come back to over and over again. Even though I know some of it, (the one about depression being something you manage, not cure, is a big one that a lot of people don't understand.) I haven't thought of it in exactly those terms. Everyone needs to hear what they know over and over to remind themselves and give you mental muscle memory. At 48, I'm still forgetting things i learned at 28.😅
You deserve every one of your subscribers and you deserve that gold plaque. 💜
Thank you for the reminder of how powerful the feeling of purpose is! I generally find your channel both insightful and entertaining, but I did not expect to stick a cleaning video into the "personal development" playlist. You make the world a better place both by your work for your clients and by your empathic narrating and humor.