Sooo Leo basically cheated with extra steps. Whether emotional and then eventually physcially , OP didnt deserve that and hope things worl out between her and Mark :>
It's funny when these "I want an open marriage" people ask for such because they are motivated by their fragile ego and then they find out they actually married up and it's their spouse that married down, lol.
I feel like the trope of: Person thinks they will have a problem with their partner has sex with other people. End up having a much bigger problem when they have sex with other people. As having sex with other people triggers an instinct to move on from the previous partners. Removing biological sexual desire for the old partner. is more much more common.
It’s sad - women see each other at the core as competition. Not sure if it is insidiously cultural or pure instinct, but at some point, if you are female, you will look at every other female you meet in your life as competition at some point.
As someone who’s currently in a long lasting and healthy open relationship it always pains me to hear these stories.. so many people getting into a complicated dynamic for all of the wrong reasons when they aren’t ready for it. If the relationship takes pressure to open, or if you’re only interested because you were already emotionally cheating and want a “pass”, then it *should never be opened* . that type of relationship relies ENTIRELY on trust and comfort with your partner + a very strong bond pre-existing between you.. clearly the people in these sorta stories pressuring their partners to open up do not fully grasp that :(
Nice to see the input of someone in this kind of relationship! I usually just see people saying that open relationships can't last. I've been in some myself. It was more being in love with more than one person. It didn't always worked but for other reasons than jealousy.
'He really thought nothing would come of it' I still can't wrap my head how OP can't be more resentful towards him. (I get that it's hard to hate, hate is a strong emotion) But not even SOME anger? After he basically said 'you won't cheat on me cause you hate yourself'? Disgusting.
He thought he had higher “street value” than she did. I read this often online, he wants to open the marriage so he can screw around but doesn’t expect her to.
Girl, let's be fr. He didn't want an open marriage. He wanted your permission to cheat and when it backfired he became unhappy. It's not something you did. It's just consequences of his own actions.
Ok, I remember first hearing this, I was hoping for the best for Mark and it sounds like that's where things are heading! And did she say the dog's name is Iroh? 😂
If you have an open marriage/relationship, you should learn about each other's partners. As true love couples should learn about important things in each other's lives in general. Also, true love is built with *true* sexual desire (not the same as biological hypnosis). So trying to not catch feelings with the other partners is silly. They just need to be a less of a priority than your main partner. ============================ Also, 💯% OP's feelings disappeared due to the instinct to drop insincere love upon an old partner having sex with other people. Not OP's partner having sex.
OP is one of those too good for this world unicorn women that men write about in YA novels. I bet Mark noticed and is playing the long game, dude is 38 years old and if he is as mature as his age this is a no brainer. Leo should just take the L and move on, he forgot about how access to bedroom activities is easy for women and most women tend to attach men they frequently have s with.
“Open marriage or divorce” the marriage was already over
Sooo Leo basically cheated with extra steps. Whether emotional and then eventually physcially , OP didnt deserve that and hope things worl out between her and Mark :>
Bro was committed
It’s the pestering to make her agree
It's funny when these "I want an open marriage" people ask for such because they are motivated by their fragile ego and then they find out they actually married up and it's their spouse that married down, lol.
🎯💯💯💯💯
I feel like the trope of:
Person thinks they will have a problem with their partner has sex with other people.
End up having a much bigger problem when they have sex with other people.
As having sex with other people triggers an instinct to move on from the previous partners. Removing biological sexual desire for the old partner.
is more much more common.
If he loved her, he wouldn't have given her that awful ultimatum.
I heard someone describe stuff like this as "You can have your cake, but don't complain when you get cavities in your teeth."
OoOoOoh that's a good one!!!
The one who wants the open relationship is always the one who wants to close it when things don’t go their way.
Of course her mom blames her. It's a cannon event at this point the way mothers hate their daughters.
I know right 😔😔😔
It’s sad - women see each other at the core as competition. Not sure if it is insidiously cultural or pure instinct, but at some point, if you are female, you will look at every other female you meet in your life as competition at some point.
watch him be weirdly offended by op moving on quicker than him
As someone who’s currently in a long lasting and healthy open relationship it always pains me to hear these stories.. so many people getting into a complicated dynamic for all of the wrong reasons when they aren’t ready for it. If the relationship takes pressure to open, or if you’re only interested because you were already emotionally cheating and want a “pass”, then it *should never be opened* . that type of relationship relies ENTIRELY on trust and comfort with your partner + a very strong bond pre-existing between you.. clearly the people in these sorta stories pressuring their partners to open up do not fully grasp that :(
Nice to see the input of someone in this kind of relationship! I usually just see people saying that open relationships can't last.
I've been in some myself. It was more being in love with more than one person. It didn't always worked but for other reasons than jealousy.
"Everyone wants [my husband] to be the villain, but he is not clever enough for that"
bro was not roasted but burnt to a crisp
'He really thought nothing would come of it'
I still can't wrap my head how OP can't be more resentful towards him. (I get that it's hard to hate, hate is a strong emotion) But not even SOME anger? After he basically said 'you won't cheat on me cause you hate yourself'? Disgusting.
I love that she named her dog Iroh.
That and the title? No wonder OP got action.
Glad op is doing better. She deserved better
He thought he had higher “street value” than she did. I read this often online, he wants to open the marriage so he can screw around but doesn’t expect her to.
Girl, let's be fr. He didn't want an open marriage. He wanted your permission to cheat and when it backfired he became unhappy. It's not something you did. It's just consequences of his own actions.
Leo doing some chaotic Leo behaviour
Wiat but her dogs name is Iroh 😭🫶🏼 that’s so adorable I hope all is well with her
A dog named “Iroh”. Let’s hope he doesn’t get into any tea
Iroh would be happy she is finding herself again from avatar
Ok, I remember first hearing this, I was hoping for the best for Mark and it sounds like that's where things are heading! And did she say the dog's name is Iroh? 😂
The husband actually threatened/blackmailed his wife into giving him permission to cheat. She is much better off without him.
I knew something was wrong with the mother when OP told that her mother blamed her for the divorce 😐
redditors are so good at making people feel bad for making natural decisions humans make when they love someone or are scared of something
Iroh is a cool dog name woah
If you have an open marriage/relationship, you should learn about each other's partners. As true love couples should learn about important things in each other's lives in general.
Also, true love is built with *true* sexual desire (not the same as biological hypnosis). So trying to not catch feelings with the other partners is silly. They just need to be a less of a priority than your main partner.
============================
Also, 💯% OP's feelings disappeared due to the instinct to drop insincere love upon an old partner having sex with other people.
Not OP's partner having sex.
That's quite the interesting thumbnail, ScalingStories 👀👀😂
The good ending is she named the dog iroh 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 Anyone would be lucky to have op
Gurl you re not at fault
Many such cases
I wonder if Iroh is inspired from Avatar the last air bender?
OP is one of those too good for this world unicorn women that men write about in YA novels. I bet Mark noticed and is playing the long game, dude is 38 years old and if he is as mature as his age this is a no brainer. Leo should just take the L and move on, he forgot about how access to bedroom activities is easy for women and most women tend to attach men they frequently have s with.
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