people before you tell them you have autism: "why are you so weird?" people after you tell them you have autism: "but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay. if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it. if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it it’s a spectrum, people. remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed. up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals. now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
we NEED a month! We only get one autism awareness day that school announcements don’t mention but instead turn into some fake read a book bullshit. No one even mentions the day at all and it’s on April 2.
Yeah not every autistic person fits the stereotype. I’m autistic and I’m super duper good at maths but I still can’t read analogue clocks aaaaaaa, I get 95% on my maths tests but I literally cannot with anything to do with time, schedules, timetables, plans, etc etc it kills me I get it wrong and mix things up. Some people are super rude and act like I’m doing it on purpose like no just because I’m good at one thing doesn’t mean I’m good at everything.
I mean it is a stereotype but it can be true to some degree, just work on it and you'll get there, it's what I did. I'm always called gifted but I dont feel so. I focused on the kind of important subjects like science and maths, because I hope to work in something in relation to space such as astronomy, astrophysics or aerospace engineering which I'm obviously gonna need the basis of subjects like science for. I just started working hard on the places where I went wrong and continued to listen closely and ask for any help any time I need, I suggest you do the same, as it can help get it in your head once you've seen it a few times. Atleast this helps for me, it depends really, but take my words into consideration, try em out, and let me know how you do. tldr; just put your head down and focus on where you go wrong and do your best to improve. I believe in you.
those who are not mathematical savants are emotional savants. the arts and languages are probably your strong areas. also - having someone explain math in a different manner helped me - but I didnt find the right teacher until my last math class in college after failing algebra 3 times.
@@ishaalimtiaz6715 I had so much trouble with the analog clocks. I can read them now but it took a long time. It was confusing for me because they call the pointers on the clock "hands" and there are no 'hands' on that thing!! if they had just called them 'pointers' all the time it would have been easier for me. if I had known I am autistic my life might have been better.
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird. Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains. Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else. It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't. (I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
I remember telling my mother a couple years ago - you know what autism is? She responded with something like "Oh yeah, the stupid people? I didn't register at that time, but thinking back, wth.
@PurePain_1 honestly I don't rlly blame her because a lot of peoples perceptions of autism is that its a learning disability and that everyone on the spectrum is "slow" when it's not the case, I don't have a learning disability and learning disabilities are comorbities of autism, not everyone on the spectrum has em, I used to think autism was "stupid people" too, hopefully perceptions will change as more people become diagnosed and health care improves!
@@PuffTastic Same until around 10?. I quickly learned that "autism is awesome". I always thought autism was just something that made you intellectually better, like the Hollywood movie portrayals.
many of the non-communicators actually can - they just prefer not to talk to idiots. we think on such a higher level often I dont know how to respond to them. so imagine how it is for someone who already has difficulty with literally everything.
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
This is a very accurate way of looking at things. Another aspect of this is the fact that, for some autistic people, it's practically impossible to force yourself to be interested in something. I think it's because we tend to engage much more intimately with our passions, while other people are okay with being "half-interested". I'm either 100% fascinated and enraptured by a topic, or completely ignoring it. There is no inbetween. I cannot be "half-interested" in something, and it sucks because so many social things require you to feign interest in stuff, which is just physically painful to do.
Ha, like how movie directors and writers are labelled "geniuses" for thinking of the most unholy premises on earth. I really like how well you wrote all that, really simple and concise, also perfectly shows the hypocrisy of some people.
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
whenever people are having a serious conversation about an adult topic or something, and they see that i’m here they immediately switch to a different language or tell me to leave because one, they think i don’t understand what they’re saying and two, they think i only know about cocomelon and nursery rhymes. it’s really annoying but i guess half of it is my fault because i would always hide what i know and pretend to not be self aware as some sort of defense mechanism…fuck everything…
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
@@ultimatey2656 and then create the biggest plot twist in history where i reveal to be a mastermind who knew everything all along……yes…perfect…the perfect revenge…… *this comment is a joke*
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
So true man. Throughout my teenagehood I was always pressured to "go out there and socialize!". I would, if their conversation were actually worth listening to. I'm not even saying that they have to be super serious all the time, I love memes and shitposts. But no one wants to listen to conversations about sex, drugs, and boring-ass drama all the time.
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
@@Moonshine449 yes, but the commenter's reaction is probably from ignorant people who have misconceptions of neurodivergency. if an open-minded friend who was always there for them said that, the commenter probably wouldn't have reacted with "damn"
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum. Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien. My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others. I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone. I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
From one autistic person to another, I hate how people percieve us as: " i am a 6 year-old white boy and i am gonna talk to you about dinosaurs- *Drops toothpicks* 5296."
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire." As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers." I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism. Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with). Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
@@SvengelskaBlondie I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅 Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all. Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism. " but I don't think that's due to the shows design." I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing. "Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left" There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
As an autistic 13 year old, it feels weird thinking about the fact that it highly possible that i STILL have ever felt real love. This video helped me know a LOT more about myself.
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else. You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever. good luck m8 First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22. People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.' Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism' This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse. For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will. However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can. I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project. This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues. Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal” I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@Ellies_edits I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
"as a high functioning autistic" from that little part of your sentence i can tell that you're not 'well functional' sorry buddy... but you're a loser 🤷♂ i hate when autistic people say their smart, im not autistic and im smarter than 99% of them.. i hate it
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance. And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
I'm not diagnosed, but very likely autistic (not the tiktok kind of "i think i'm autistic" by the way) and i feel i was the opposite. I've always been mentally and socially typical/ahead , but academically i've never been the top student. I cannot do maths to save my life for example
This is very true. I remember I would basically always be prepared for any class topic because there was a high change it was something I had already researched in my own time for fun. I was watching Matpat like 4 years before I actually had a physics class lol. However, for anything involving socialzing or emotional communication, I'm basically still a toddler. I cannot for the life of me grasp social interaction. It all seems illogical and unintuitive, and it sucks because no one else seems to question any of it. They just have whatever invisible social sixth sense that tells theme exactly what to do. I literally just learned less than a few weeks ago what being "friendzoned" actually means, that's how far behind I am.
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
I love my autistic friends. I love hearing about their special interests because hearing the same opinions from the same people gets boring. I love how they can be so invested in such simple joys in life. Even if its just video games as I see it as an art form. Since my autistic friends have a deep appreciation of art, I can only admire them for that.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
Autism is WAY to misunderstood as my personal experience so far is I’m smarter than most other people my age but I’m also really silly so it’s a double edged sword
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD. 3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
I recently discovered that i (most likely) also have ocd 💀 (i don't have an actual diagnose for it YET, but i'm %95 sure i have it. I'll get a real diagnose soon)
As someone with autism, this is so relatable. My mom treats me normal for pretty much everything, but when it comes to autism im a fucking loser who cant get his shit together. She tries to get me to do things like answer questions to earn money or stupid shit like that. And my dad wants me to be fucking Albert einstein but like 3x smarter, like im in 7th grade and he wants me to be learning CALCULUS. Considering i have autism, i think its a good idea to go through school for the social aspect, especially because i know i have social problems because i have a hard time making friends, like i only have friends because my second grade teacher sat me and my best friend together, if it weren't for that, i would have no friends, like im not just friends with one person, but i met all my friends through 1 friend. I hate being autistic and my parents are like "oh theres nothing to hate" yeah, youd be right, except you don't realize that if you werent babying me or saying i am like the smartest person in the universe than i wouldnt hate it, what my parents dont realize is THEY are the fucking problem, not me. I am honestly suprised that when i went to Disney for a school trip that they didn't chaperone because they were "worried about an autistic person alone" or some sort of bullshit like that, especially considering i went with one of my classes where i dont have any friends. Some of my teachers treat me like im fucking retarded, like my Spanish teacher, of course she kinda treats everyone like their second graders because she used to teach us in second grade (im in a dual language program) but still. And the grade administrators think im fucking retarded every year, like i see kids that are definitely some sort of special needs, and im retarded? Like im not trying to be rude to those kids but like clearly there are people with more problems than me, and im only in seventh grade so i can only imagine 8th through 12th and later down in life (im not going to college because imagine how much theyd baby me there, omg) maybe im overthinking that, as part of my autism i overthink things way too fucking much, like im thinking, "what if the people im talking shit about in this comment see it and know its me" even though i know damn well theyre not seeing this. Like i was really weird in elementary school from like 2nd and 3rd grade, like there are people who think im a weird person because of shit i did BEFORE COVID, like in 4th grade (2020-2021 school year) i honestly didnt give a shit about my grades and then 5th grade i was still a little like myself from 2nd to 3rd grade but that went away in that summer, and in 6th grade my personality had completely changed, kinda like the maturity thing this video talks about. I dont tell people i have autism, you know why? Because i dont care what others think of me, i genuinely dont. I also agree with you on the whole "i couldnt date any girls who aren't autistic" like granted, i havent dated anyone yet as i am in 7th grade and i think starting a romantic relationship in middle school is fucking absurd, but i feel like "normal" girls would think i was weird, but autistic ones i feel might relate to me, idk, maybe not but ill find out in high school or whenever i get in a relationship. Overall the video is really relatable on so many levels and i really am glad i finally had somewhere where i could actually share all this.
Also sorry for the long comment, I understand if you don't read it all, but if you did thank you for taking time to read it, as I typed that for a long time
As a person with an autistic brother I am really happy you made this, all my friends call eachother autistic and it’s just messed up.. so they think that autism is like a really bad disability, like they think you can’t walk or eat or do anything now I’m not saying this is bad cuz it could be that case 4 some people but jeez man that’s just messed up..
are you sure they're your friends? also although it's hard to understand autistic people being non-autistic that's just messed up and ignorant to believe that autism is super bad
@@lilydome my bad I meant “friends” you can call them that 😅 even tho they made fun of my laugh b4 but that is besides the point it and I do agree it is very messed up
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20. My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18. But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there. I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life. I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
Thank you for this video, this is one of the rare, times I've completely related to something online and had a negative feeling about a video in the internet. Just listening to someone speaking from the heart is very theraputic. Misconceptions on autism is a massive issue in society, I'm literally doing a speech on it tomorrow. I'm only 13 (almost 14) but I've felt like an alien my whole life and I have friends I've known for so many years but just don't feel connected to them. Honestly, I'm much closer to the stupid side of autism but I still absolutely hate when people call me stupid and can actually make cry and ruin my day which they don't seem to realise. I hope you know this but you're not alone haha
Hello! Did the speech go well? I am also planning on doing a speech about the subject, but most likely as a video instead of a full on speech at my school, because most likely no words will come out if I do it live XD... I am researching about other people's experiences and using my own experiences as a guide too. I feel like it is really important to tell the world about it, to make a positive change.
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
Honestly when describing autism to someone I should make an analogy using light. Light is a spectrum, yeah? is red and blue the same color? no? well of course it isn't! And it extends past the visible too, how many would get tripped up if I told them that microwaves, the internet, and light are all on the same spectrum. (at least, to my knowledge that's how that works?) Now I just have to find someone to explain it to! I'll go outside one day...
@@hx0d From a research standpoint, and for determining whether a child of two given parents is likely to inherit autism, they should be considered the same. From a support needs standpoint, they should be considered different, although even that can be overstated as the primary criterion that was used to distinguish the two is the presence or absence of language delay; That does have significant implications for support needs, but two people could have identical support needs profiles (sensory issues, executive function, meltdown susceptibility) *except* for language delay, and in that case their actual needs would be much the same, but one would have more trouble communicating those needs.
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much. Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
I cant imagine how bad the bullying must have been to give you trauma, but im glad to hear that you have friends that understand and value you. Thise people are the real ones you should never lose
I'm autistic and I agree with most of your points here, but I have only friends who aren't autistic. Even though it's a bit challenging I feel like I should learn to how to make friends with "normal" people
We have a fundamentally different way of viewing the world from the neurotypicals. I certainly wouldn't avoid making friends with your fellow autistics. That camaraderie can be important.
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
@@mothgirl326 i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
I, myself have ADHD (but it's not diagnosed, because I don't believe in therapy), and I have experienced similar life experiences as you. I don't usually listen to commentary videos, because I have a terrible attention span, but I listened to this entire video, and it's honestly great to hear that we have similar experiences. Keep it up
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
i'm sorry but autistic people are weird asf, once i had three autistic people in my class, let's just call them "liam, george and william" they always freaked out about random stuff and it triggered me so much bro, like could i just have some peice holy shit.. most people who have autism are so fucking annoying and i just hate to say it but your younger brother is probably (just guessing) insanely weird..
As a fellow autistic person, I relate to the emotional control issues while young so much. I was so easily triggered into rage as a child over small or inconsequential things. It might be due to also having ADHD but, I was angered so very easily it made me feel ashamed to think back to. I also relate to being more naive or immature compared to my peers at certain ages, like early to mid teenage years. I was thankfully not bullied too much as a kid, but goddamn learning how normie socializing works was such an immense challenge- I said so much stupid incomprehensible shit that I'm honestly surprised I even managed to make any friends. Or maybe I got lucky and was surrounded by many fellow potential neurodivergent people, I don't know. I didn't notice I was different from other people until my mid teenage years, perhaps that's what made me not hesitate in trying to make friends during my kid years. I'm still in school and people younger than me are using autistic as an insult all the time and it's probably due to that cursed TikTok app, which makes me so mad. To be honest, schools gotta start educating kids on neurodivergent conditions because as things are right now they'll grow up to become stupid adults that they will then carry over to their children. It's so frustrating. Thank you for this video, sorry for my rant at the end of this comment.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
I have a autistic friend and everyone in my geography class hates him they all don’t like him and I feel bad :( and as a Muslim he would ask some uncomfortable questions but I always told him it was my religion and that was that being a quiet kid I never told him stuff cause he would get sad easily he had a passion of geography and trains that no one had ever had and that gave him various exciting things to learn and I thought I just could share it!
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way. When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help. After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory. I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means. Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection. I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
Oh my god i cannot tell you the amount of times i havent laughed at an offensive joke and people just brushed me off saying i didnt get it because i was autistic. No, i understood you were making a joke. I just didnt think it was funny.
I think I’ve lived a very lucky life as an autistic woman with ADHD. I was diagnosed early and my parents didn’t try to hide it from me. They’ve worked hard with my psychiatrist to make sure I get the medication I need and work with my school so they could help me get the accommodations I need to get through school. My teachers have all been very understanding and supportive and have done everything they can to help me succeed. And that’s just with my autism, my parents and teachers are amazing and have raised me really well. When I was really young, I was taught to be myself and not care about what others think of me, I took those lessons to heart and have never tried masking because of it. If I was bullied, I either wasn’t aware or didn’t care. My autism is an important part of myself I’m not afraid to wear on my sleeves, if other people judge me for it, that’s their problem and they’re not worth my time. I also haven’t really faced much ableism. There is one time I remember, but it’s just an outlier in a general life of being accepted. I’m also an artist and a writer, and I attribute a large part of my talent to my autism and ADD. Because drawing is one of my special interests, I’m able to draw almost every day without getting burned out. A part of my ADD is hyperactivity in the mind, and I’d imagine I wouldn’t be as creative as I am if I wasn’t mentally hyperactive. And many (if not all) of my friends are neurodivergent like I am. Many of them are also artists like I am. My friends are the best friends I could ever ask for, and we’re all pretty close with each other. And online I’ve found many places to discuss my interests with other people. Imo, it’s kind of sad that a life where an autistic person is accepted, properly accommodated, and loved by friends and family is the life of the lucky few like me instead of the majority of autistic people.
I’m also autistic, but no one can really tell that I am autistic until I actually say it, and even then, everyone is pretty chill about it, which I find odd, but at least my entire school isn’t coming after me like it’s the purge or whatever😂. About a month ago, two weeks before the end of my 7th grade year, two girls were in the hallway and then when I passed by them to get to my class, I overheard them saying “Is he autistic?” I then proceeded to shout “I am autistic!”, which then sent the two girls into a frenzy/panic. It was pretty funny, and even if they said something negative about me, I was too far ahead and even then, I wouldn’t have cared at all. Everyone is very chill about my autism, they don’t tell me to do shady shit or whatnot, and they are willing to talk to me a lot. One other thing I will say is that, I couldn’t speak for a long time, it took me several years to finally speak. I’m glad I’m not one of those autistic people that can’t speak for their whole lives, because if I couldn’t, I wouldn’t be able to live. Oh, and about the “genius and dumbass” stereotypes, I would want to see this: for anyone that thinks of those two stereotypes, you’re a waste of air. I tired of seeing memes online about autistic people (more or less negative). People have been so brainwashed by online culture, they can’t think of anything except autistic people (disabled, I should add) moaning, unable to get a letter out. That’s all I have to say about being autistic.
41 here, diagnosed at 37. I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact. But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
Hey man I just found your channel and this video alone means so much, not just to me, but I think I can be speaking on the behalf of the whole autistic community, I’ve grown up with ADHD, autism, colorblindness, and anxiety and it’s always great to see people speaking out about this kind of stuff, i have it rough with autism as I have both the supergenious and the mentally behind kind, I also struggle to talk to people socially, so yeah just thanks so, so much for speaking out on this stuff, I can’t thank you enough. Much love :)
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
as an autistic person, this is 100% accurate people don't ever really tell i'm autistic but when i tell them, they start acting like i'm a different person. not necessarily that i'm dumber (which in some situations that is the case) but in the sense that they all of a sudden have to change their demeanor for them to understand me. people really underestimate how wide of a spectrum the autism spectrum is. i'm very high functioning to the point where when i mask my autism, you probably wouldn't even be able to tell unless you're autistic yourself or if you study it for your career. and then there are people that i used to go to school with where they couldn't even make decisions, eat, or walk on their own. i especially hate when allistic people use the r slur because even though that word was once a medical teem, it isn't anymore. it has gotten to the point where i see it being thrown out just about every day. and then they go about saying "but it's not a slut" when a slur is an insult targeted towards certain demographics. since the r slur stems from neurodiversity in and of itself, using it as a replacement for the words "dumb" or "stupid" makes it a slur. also, what you said at 3:43 hit very close to home. when people actually take the time to listen to me talk about my autism, they'll say "what's it like" when i don't have a fair answer, which is exactly what you said. and then they say that i'm faking it. like..? sometimes i wish that i wasn't autistic because it makes me feel like an outcast, i've learned to more or less embrace it and just accept that that is who i am no matter what. it can be a struggle sometimes though because nobody in my family is autistic so i can't really compare my experiences with anyone that close. but yea, just my story. i know i kinda skimmed away from the focal point a bit, but i still feel like it's all important. thank you for this video
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
I totally appreciate your view on this. Im also autistic(not officially diagnosed but its highly likely i have so many symptoms) ive been told im weird my whole life and have learned to mask to "fit in" and it never zeemed to work. My bf is doing my best and i love him so much for trying to be more understanding than those around me. Also at the end of the video i relate SO HARD because i always forget something important and remember it after. Immediately got a new sub and thankyou for sharing your views with everyone i love finding neurodivergent folks that i can relate with as it makes me feel like im welcomed. Ik im just rambling at this point but in other words, thankyou for sharing
As an autistic person this is a very nice video! I also agree with the fact that autism doesnt really get well represented other than its two extremes. Personally im a lot more open to saying im autistic, its makes for a funny moment and (imo) may even help spread that message that autism has nuance! I can relate to that maturity part and being bullied in elementary school! (I will say that the bullied part and therapy likely made me a lot more moral of a person though. Especially since around 2nd grade apparently I was seen as kind of a bully/jerk which i didnt know until a half year or so of bullying) but yeah. Extra note: Its best to wait until youve been friends for a while before you tell them, has a both funnier and stronger effect of saying "hey youve been with me for months now and you didnt even notice. Maybe that means something. "
I really relate to you man I did had the same experiences as you but with some minor differences like my mom was always with me Im sure you had it harder then me and im happy to you you found someone as same as you and i hope you get better
I feel the same way as you. I am also autistic, and I always got bullied my whole life through elementary school and 6th grade. I always felt like I was such an outcast and a different being, and I had a friend who took advantege of me. I feel so much better now that their are people like you who have the same thing as me and understand. It's so annoying that some people in this world just don't respect us and think we are stupid. Thank you for the nice video! I'm thankful that I'm not the only one! 😊💗
Fully agree, relate a lot to this. One of my biggest struggles growing up personally was emotional regulation, which I'm still working on but have gotten a lot better with. My emotions have always felt really big and overwhelming. Generally though I've stopped seeing my autism as a bad thing. In fact, I LIKE being autistic. I like how my brain works, my world makes sense to *me.* And like you I normally only vibe with other neurodivergent folks. Most of if not all my friends are, and I haven't even gone out of my way to find those people. We're like fucking magnets. Being weird isn't bad, it's good. I love being weird and I love weird people. Being "normal" is boring as hell? And it's GOOD that we have people who think in different ways. If we all thought and worked the same there'd be no contrast and no growth. I definitely have challenges that "normal" people don't, a lot of which are caused by a society that doesn't cater to how we function because we're in the minority. It can be really rough sometimes, it's not just positive. But I wouldn't be who I am if I wasn't autistic, and frankly I like who I am, and I love my friends. If other people write us off based on us being autistic, that's their loss. Great video dude, thank you for sharing your perspective 👍
The magnet part is very true, it’s almost like an autism detector. I met some friends last year and we just clicked, got along like I never thought friends could. It turns out they both have ASD
I will spit only facts here, most of what you said is relatable. The only few things I found different is that I had too much young love and I pulled all the girls, I don’t have a girlfriend (They’re looking for me, but I ain’t looking for them.), and that I was always advanced with methematics…mathematics. Most of the other things you said I can highly relate to. Like how I was very immature when I was younger and now seem to have matured from about an 8th grade level to a 10th/11th grade level throughout 9th grade, while the others fell behind in immaturity. Those other fucking freshmen think they’ve got all the power and can do whatever they want? I’ve had to befriend my enemies just to help my mental health. They don’t give a shit. Pride kids also get defensive when I get made fun of for having autism, but like “You choose to be gay! I can’t choose to not have Autism.” (No offense intended to the Pride community, though I know there’s that one Karen like “That’s offensive to our gay rights.”) Another thing is that I find it hard to describe Autism. Like you said, there’s only one of two variables in my metaphor: Autistic or not Autistic. You can’t put the two labels together, neither can you compare them both when you’ve only worn one, but can’t get it off because that’s how you were born. Sorry for my long rant. I just saw an opportunity to let it go. Cringe, but I literally can’t hold it back anymore.
Uhm... most pride kids are on your side. Most of them, the actual pride kids, are Autistic themselves. and nobody chooses to be gay, sexual orientation is entirely genetic, just like autism, so yeah that's not good on your part.
I think here… we're ignoring the overlap of autism & orientation/gender identity. These flags, labels, the community itself. Very much built upon many autistic people trying to understand what they were feeling. I really don't think what we are is a choice either since these labels, "gay, bi, straight, etc." don't seem to be real. A lot of this homophobia, I think it's more modern. Without "gay", "straight", people just were as they are. I can choose to dedicate my life to loving men, to being there when they are afraid or heartbroken, lonely. I think that's an inherit ability in most males. So this "pride", I'm thinking we should separate identity politics from biology, anthropology for a minute. If we hadn't evolved it out thousands of years ago, there must be a reason. We must see past politics & view others with compassion, the ability to learn. Segregation by arbitrary semantics may slow down progress, as we see with autistic folk being made fun of. I think it's better off this way to see someone for the person they are. Sorry for the long reply, I just saw the opportunity, I'm not sure if it matters what I say, I'm not okay. But to forget about the dirty looks, I think I'm okay now. And if you're listening I'm telling the truth when I say there is hope & I believe in you, I mean it.
In a way I had the opposite experience to you. I started out a very mature child. As I got older, the distance between me and my peers widened in terms of capabilities, emotional control, and perceived maturity.
Halfway through the video here but I wanted to comment, I completely relate with the age and mental age scenario, when I was younger I too was very far behind my actual age, but as my teenage years went on I eventually caught up and surpassed maturity around my age group, this video is really relatable and it's nice to hear I'm not the only one in the world going through such things in life, other parts of the video I relate too as well, but that main one hit like a truck.
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
man spitting facts (I need to prepare for the day my classmates find out I am autistic so...) I am basically not very socially capable and I used to have anger issues, but I'm faster at some things regarding intelligence than some people
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.
Autism is fake lil bro
ur getting the pin of shame
am i fake
Ur dum :)
@@jms2lmao
So is your brain
people before you tell them you have autism:
"why are you so weird?"
people after you tell them you have autism:
"but your so normal why are you so normal" (or they just infantilize you)
how to cure autism: stop being weird. self control exists. no longer any reason for anyone to label you as autistic. no longer autistic. autism is a label.
okay.
if somebody acts like a regular person, treat them like it.
if somebody kinda is on the weird side of it just adjust for it
it’s a spectrum, people.
remember that.
Yeah and sometimes you dont even have to tell them. Ive always struggled to make friends and talk to people face to face. Being in public is very stressful. To help regulate myself to no panic I fidget with stuff. One time I asked someone around or likely my age what time something ended and as soon as they saw my fidgeting their entire demeanor changed and they acted like I was a little child who needed to call their mommy!
@@anaverageanimator9296stupid millennials.
@@anaverageanimator9296just stupid millennials and older gen z being idiots thinking all people with autism are the same infant baby they’re made out to be.
The maturity part I agree with a lot. At this point I've just noticed how many people around me are now just incapable of having an argument or discussion without immediately heading to insults
It's odd actually, I never use insults if I somehow ever get into an argument, I'm not even belittling someone either which is something I haven't even noticed consciously.
Oh wait oh shi-
Same
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Ughhh you're right!! But that's only true about me! Because I'm better than everyone bla bla bla or whatever else you expected me to say.
@@CelticVampireQueen it is true though, most people do quickly devolve to insults when argueing.
i’m an autistic woman and i feel like my maturity experience is reversed.
up until i was around 13, i was told i was “very mature for my age,” had a very inquisitive and open mind and interests that were seen as more befit for older individuals.
now, though, im often called immature or childish because of my interests and the way that i act. it’s frustrating.
For me, I got the same story but I feel as if the childish part of me is the regret I have for maturing WAY too early.
Same
Yeah I tried to act mature when I was immature at 11-13, starting acting more immature at 14-15 then became a burnt out husk, I’m now 20 and I feel like I’m missing a certain drive even though I work out and stay fit enough, my focus on work has completely degraded and pales in comparison to what I did when I was 16/18
we NEED a month! We only get one autism awareness day that school announcements don’t mention but instead turn into some fake read a book bullshit. No one even mentions the day at all and it’s on April 2.
oh my god same and people treat me like im a dumb kid and im not im literally 16 and it annoys me so bad
dawg as someone w autism i hate the fucking supergenius stereotype i literally cannot do math
Yeah not every autistic person fits the stereotype. I’m autistic and I’m super duper good at maths but I still can’t read analogue clocks aaaaaaa, I get 95% on my maths tests but I literally cannot with anything to do with time, schedules, timetables, plans, etc etc it kills me I get it wrong and mix things up. Some people are super rude and act like I’m doing it on purpose like no just because I’m good at one thing doesn’t mean I’m good at everything.
I mean it is a stereotype but it can be true to some degree, just work on it and you'll get there, it's what I did. I'm always called gifted but I dont feel so. I focused on the kind of important subjects like science and maths, because I hope to work in something in relation to space such as astronomy, astrophysics or aerospace engineering which I'm obviously gonna need the basis of subjects like science for. I just started working hard on the places where I went wrong and continued to listen closely and ask for any help any time I need, I suggest you do the same, as it can help get it in your head once you've seen it a few times. Atleast this helps for me, it depends really, but take my words into consideration, try em out, and let me know how you do.
tldr; just put your head down and focus on where you go wrong and do your best to improve. I believe in you.
As a fellow autistic person I love this comment
those who are not mathematical savants are emotional savants. the arts and languages are probably your strong areas. also - having someone explain math in a different manner helped me - but I didnt find the right teacher until my last math class in college after failing algebra 3 times.
@@ishaalimtiaz6715 I had so much trouble with the analog clocks. I can read them now but it took a long time. It was confusing for me because they call the pointers on the clock "hands" and there are no 'hands' on that thing!! if they had just called them 'pointers' all the time it would have been easier for me. if I had known I am autistic my life might have been better.
Autism is insanely misunderstood, lol
I remember telling my cousin about having autism, and he suddenly started looking down on me like I was a four year old child. It's honestly insane how mispresented autism is
im getting tested soon and im scared of this happening to me, it doesnt help that my mom started telling everyone 😭
If you have autism you are either a genius or completely unable to help yourself there is NO INBETWEEN. STOP LIVING A NOTMAL LIFE DESPITE YOUR AUTISM
thats why i learned to not stand out and try avoid people getting too close to me, well that has the downside of becoming lonely but it is what it is.
People usually see me as quirky or just different at first but once I become friends with them and trust them I'll eventually say I have autism. I do not tell strangers or people I'm not close with that I have autism for this reason.
@@chost-059you shouldn't be closed off to people. That only makes things worse. You shouldn't be afraid to let people get close to you, but instead only trust them once they are close. I know "just be friends with them it's fine" is pretty bad advice for someone with autism, but you shouldn't be walled off or too insulated. My advice is when you meet new people, see if they're interested in talking to you despite your differences, instead of trying to suppress your differences to be friends with them. All of my close friends were people who accepted me despite me being different, and all the people from high school who I don't talk to anymore are the people who didn't really get it or thought I was weird.
Here's a little personal anecdote that might help you start. Personally I like to talk to people who are also different in some way because they're more likely to be accepting of someone else who's different. For example, of all the people from high school that I still talk to, about half of them are queer. On the other hand, the people from high school who I never want to talk to again all feel like carbon copies of each other and are not interesting to talk to.
The degree to which people infantilize anyone with autism is genuinely wild
Personally, I blame Twitter for how it reduced to word "autism" to literally anything silly or childish
@@KiiBonYeah
*someone falls over*
Twitter: Uhohh hes ausocstic?!.,,.,,,
Some people treat me like a regular person, some people infantilize me. It sucks.
@@KiiBon it's been happening for years way before twitter started acting like it was childish. It's largely due to the stereotype that's commonly portrayed in media that all autistic people are 5 year old boys who love trains.
Until recently practically no shows (and even now it's very few) had an autistic character that was an adult (and acted like one) and especially had an autistic character that was a girl. Autism moms and companies like autism speaks defiantly don't help. I think blaming twitter just takes away from the actual problem, and shifts the blame to someone else.
It especially doesn't help that some of those people on twitter are autistic and just are more silly/childish than others, autism is a spectrum, there will be those kinds of people and that's okay, but blaming them for years of discrimination and false representation in media isn't.
(I know about the stupid 'is it acoustic' people, i don't mean them, their the worst, it's not entirely their fault but they sure aren't helping, feel free to blame those losers as much as you want, they deserve it.)
The "lets bully him because its funny how he flips out" literally just described my entire school experience until high school
No but this EXACT THING happened to me, I was like ostracized by my entire class (I am not exaggerating, those people were brutal) and I had no fking clue why, no one even tried liking me besides this one girl who was also autistic (but she eventually stopped talking to me after her friends convinced her to do so), and this went on from 3rd to 9th grade, everytime someone new entered that classroom I imidiatly tried befriending them, (only worked 2 times and both were when I started masking) only in 9th grade I come to find out why they didn't like me, and they said it was "because I was weird"
THIS DUDE IS SPECIAL 😂😂😂
im in high school and my friends are doing this every day its so annoying and they just cover it up as a joke
fr I was bullied in 8th grade for stammering like, so lame. The last time ppl tried to bully me were freaking freshmen (They're rising juniors now lol, but this was during my junior year)
OH MY GOD this happened to me all the time in school and I seemingly just completely blocked out those memories until now.
I'm autistic, I'd feel insanely insulted if someone told my boyfriend he's taking advantage of me, a LOT of us can consent, the only autistic people who cannot consent are those who cannot communicate in any form
I remember telling my mother a couple years ago - you know what autism is? She responded with something like "Oh yeah, the stupid people? I didn't register at that time, but thinking back, wth.
@PurePain_1 honestly I don't rlly blame her because a lot of peoples perceptions of autism is that its a learning disability and that everyone on the spectrum is "slow" when it's not the case, I don't have a learning disability and learning disabilities are comorbities of autism, not everyone on the spectrum has em, I used to think autism was "stupid people" too, hopefully perceptions will change as more people become diagnosed and health care improves!
@@PuffTastic Same until around 10?. I quickly learned that "autism is awesome". I always thought autism was just something that made you intellectually better, like the Hollywood movie portrayals.
they think of low functioning individuals.
many of the non-communicators actually can - they just prefer not to talk to idiots. we think on such a higher level often I dont know how to respond to them. so imagine how it is for someone who already has difficulty with literally everything.
As an autistic person, I think it's super important for these types of videos to exist. The more we talk about our own experiences, the more we'll (hopefully) become less stigmatized.
It's basically gen alpha slang now, like ppl will say "stop acting autistic lil bro"
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@@HoggySklump grammer / spelling moment
Yeah agreed
@@HoggySklump or guitarted
as someone that has autism im very good at hiding it and everyone has no clue unless i tell them but i feel like its looked down on for no reason like it makes you less of a person for some reason when people do find out or know that you have it. I also experience the same thing with being much more mature and stable out if most people my age. also bonding very well and feeling a connection with only people that have it and not really feeling a way towards people that dont
the gir profile pic is the autism giveaway. fellow autistic people can sniff it out from a mile away
Are you a girl? Cuz unlike guys, girls often hide their autism.
people insist on being compelled to use the most dominant label to define the outer casing of a person. it drives me crazy. in every situation. oh it's so and so's bf. or Jims brother. then you are that thing forever. imagine one time you had a haircut then here comes the x y z dude years later. or the whatever guy. so annoying
I think my comment got deleted for asking genuine question. Not very cool. Though I kinda undersand the reasoning.
@@pavelmatusu4457 YT hides comments by some weird algorithm. Just try to rephrase it if it got flagged.
It took me a little while to realize that intelligence is relative, that someone with autism who has a monotropic focus on a single thing is seen as intelligent if their focus is deemed practical where someone with a focus on something deemed impractical is seen as weird. I eventually derived an entire theory of ethics from that thought, how I could have the same brain but focus on something people wanted and be evaluated as genius or focus on something incomprehensible and be evaluated as an idiot. Someone with the same brain, a brain capable of crafting The Magna Carta, can dedicate all of that potential to drawing Sonic The Hedgehog foot fetish content all seemingly by random chance. Thus, what is good is what is practical.
Yes, practical in relation to a society that is inherently impractical, & unsustainable, because what ever is considered "practical" in today's society is whatever can contribute to profit for people that don't have your best interest on mind, evidence by the society they made that is based purely on profit, & is fundamentally anti-human to it's core, like the Roman empire they try to imitate.
this is personally why i see the measure of smn's iq have little meaning, in reality everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and that iq is simply not a reliable measure for smn's performance or capability in a certain field
This is a very accurate way of looking at things. Another aspect of this is the fact that, for some autistic people, it's practically impossible to force yourself to be interested in something. I think it's because we tend to engage much more intimately with our passions, while other people are okay with being "half-interested".
I'm either 100% fascinated and enraptured by a topic, or completely ignoring it. There is no inbetween. I cannot be "half-interested" in something, and it sucks because so many social things require you to feign interest in stuff, which is just physically painful to do.
@@Skyymon iq was made by racists so they can justify taking the land of natives at the pretense that they are "unintelligent"
Ha, like how movie directors and writers are labelled "geniuses" for thinking of the most unholy premises on earth. I really like how well you wrote all that, really simple and concise, also perfectly shows the hypocrisy of some people.
As an autistic person. I was recently diagnosed, nothing has changed it just feels like people treat me like a baby because I have autism. When I tell people I have autism they start to treat me like shit and leave me out of stuff. I’m not a child anymore, I have had autism all of my life do not treat me any differently
i fw the viper pic bro
@@QuartzQuadrantdid you not read what he just said? Bro did NOT pay attention.
"do not treat me any differently" 🤓
if people treat you badly when you dont mean harm. dont feel bad about yourself. feel bad about them. Bcs they are doing something wrong not you
I've ran into the issue of, whenever someone knows I have autism, people automatically feeling sorry for me or changing their tune to patronize me. It used to be insulting.
whenever people are having a serious conversation about an adult topic or something, and they see that i’m here they immediately switch to a different language or tell me to leave because one, they think i don’t understand what they’re saying and two, they think i only know about cocomelon and nursery rhymes. it’s really annoying but i guess half of it is my fault because i would always hide what i know and pretend to not be self aware as some sort of defense mechanism…fuck everything…
@@M_3TA let your enemies think your an idiot.
I used to feel the same way
i HATE people patronising me. i found a good way to get them to stop is to patronise them back, be very obvious about it, they usually shut up out of embarassment.
@@ultimatey2656 and then create the biggest plot twist in history where i reveal to be a mastermind who knew everything all along……yes…perfect…the perfect revenge……
*this comment is a joke*
Yes I can relate to this feeling and it very may screw us up or anxious about topics commonly known and talked by the public. many don't believe we have experienced things or know about things that are alot more serious.
2:10 I FEEL THAT SO MUCH. my step siblings always take advantage of my autism by twisting my words or just telling me im autistic as an insult.
my word, the same was happening to me during the last few years (I had a Minecraft server with a lot of people playing being on my school and they couldn't stop twisting everything I said)
Whenever they ask for help from you in the future just refuse it and when they ask why, remind them of everything they said to you
@@whitedragonzerureusu4480 GREAT IDEA THX !!
Mmmmm honestly if i were you i would just target what my step siblings feel the most insecure about.
@@CreestofOfficial react normally to it and they have no reason to continue
i really love being able to hear someone talk about this
fr tho
Teens are so immature you should probably just ignore them. Its so annoying going to school and just hearing the N and R slurs every second.
Mad true
Fr its actually impossible to find a friend who doesn't do that especially in middle school 😓
Yeah man finally somebody understands,they things its literally cool to do this things just to "show off" in school because thats how sadly society is ,if not they consider you to be a weird kids when you dont want to follow the stupid trend they like,like for example there are kids that call others poor because others dont want to/cant have an iphone or want/cant get some "jordans". Specially in this generation as a person from this generation @@M0urfeen
Ok
So true man. Throughout my teenagehood I was always pressured to "go out there and socialize!". I would, if their conversation were actually worth listening to. I'm not even saying that they have to be super serious all the time, I love memes and shitposts. But no one wants to listen to conversations about sex, drugs, and boring-ass drama all the time.
getting infantilised while autistic is the most annoying thing ever, people switch up so fast, even when i assume they dont mean to they start talking more gently to me. when i was 16, i went to a pottery class with my parents, and they decided to tell the teacher that i was autistic. and he literally spoke to me like i was 5!! i felt like i was going insane. i just think differently im not a baby
why do parents do that to their autistic offspring!?!? 😂😭😭
its honestly really fookin' humiliating.
@@gamerstreater9314 i dont know, one time me and my dad were at an event together and every single time he introduced me to someone he felt like it was necessary to add the fact that im autistic
My parents had to tell the airport receptionists that I was autistic so we could skip the cue, but in honest regards they are telling the profession about your needs just Incase you don't 'struggle'
Just gonna mention this because u said this in the video. Autism itself is NOT a learning disabillity. Learning disabilities are more common in autistic people, but not all have them. Like im diagnosed with autism, but i dont have any learning disabilities. The only thing about me that possibly effects my learning abillity is probably my other diagnosis, aka ADHD. And i don't mean affect my learning as in like, my brain takes longer to learn, more that i get distracted all the time (which is annoying).
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Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I'm autistic and I've always done great in school, got put in the gifted program, etc. Definitely isn't a learning disability.
Yeah, ive always done super well in school, often getting A's in all my classes, however, I take more time learning to walk, talk, and write. But where i really lack, and still lack, is socially. I saw someone once say that people without autism tend to focus more on being social earlier in life then focus on learning, and autistic people to be the opposite. While I dont believe this to be entirely correct I think there could be some truth to it
this! learning disabilities are comorbidities of autism, I'm currently in college (UK) and I'm working at a B A A, I had no learning difficulties as a child OTHER than reading which I couldn't read until age 7 mysteriously other than that NOTHING. My vocabulary was also exceedingly advanced for my age and people wouldn't stop bugging me about that until I was around 14 and people sort of caught up to me
@@anaverageanimator9296Possibly. I’m undiagnosed but I have a strong feeling I’m on the spectrum somewhere. I was very intelligent in school, and have always been fascinated by how motors and machines work. Like down to the T. I work in a factory now and find myself mocking the Mechanical noises of machines over and over again. I hold imaginary conversations with myself with different people who don’t even exist. If I’m doing a task and trying to hold a conversation, I start to lose focus of said task and start doing random things (picking up random items and setting them in even more random spots). I go on tangents (like this) with sometimes no main point. I often switch topics a lot too..
so true. if any other teenager gets angry, stays up late, etc and the school knows it its normal. if an autistic teenager like me does, the school will intervene in our family business to "protect me" by forcing my mum to go to a "class".
no bcz for me when ppl find out i’m autistic they always just say “oh, that explains a lot” like damn
I mean yeah, it probably does. My friends said the same thing but it’s because of the way I socialize. They never got why until I was diagnosed
@@Moonshine449first legit in this comment section
@@Moonshine449 yes, but the commenter's reaction is probably from ignorant people who have misconceptions of neurodivergency. if an open-minded friend who was always there for them said that, the commenter probably wouldn't have reacted with "damn"
Personally, i think one of the biggest problems is, that most people dont know Autism is a spectrum.
Most Neurotypicals either think you're dumb or hyper intelligent, nothing inbetween. When I have to tell them that it's not like that, they look at me like I'm an Alien.
My experience is actually pretty similar to yours, I just didn't know until I was 17 and I still have a lot of trouble with emotional control and socializing. I have the same best friend since 15 years, I literally don't know how to make new ones, also being selectively mute (which isn't actually as common in autism) making me look weird and stupid for others.
I'm not an expert, because as you said, I don't know how it is NOT to have it, but its good to know you're not alone.
I just wish "normal people" would look into it a bit more
Neurotypicals think that it's a spectrum of 'less autistic' to 'more autistic' and that's the most that they know about a spectrum. They need to understand that it's a qualitative spectrum and not a quantitative spectrum.
@@ponfi0275 makes sense, couldn't have said it better
I'd say the real dumb ones are those trying to generalize autistic people like that and put them in boxes and try to dictate to their faces who they are. They refuse to let autistic people be.
I don’t fully understand autism and probably never will as I’m not autistic myself (I seriously hate putting a label on it because it makes you sound like an alien) but I’ve personally never had a problem talking to anyone autistic. There actually fun to be around and I sometimes pick up on there traits and it makes me curious. I can talk to them like any other person tbh.
@@Mojikaji We need more people like you
One reason I think we get the "genius or idiot" treatment is that we tend to be at least somewhat smarter than average, but to have communication issues (ranging from physical problems speaking to tending to organize our thoughts, and thus our words, in a different way). If you can't communicate, your IQ as perceived by others drops dramatically.
100% true. not trying to sound like the joker here, but society tends to think lesser of people, things, and even concepts they can’t understand and are therefore unable to put in a box. this is why some people still think animals can’t be intelligent as well, even though science has consistently proven otherwise. i wonder if this is a reason why me and many other autistic people have found so much comfort and relatability with animals? idk, might sound crazy but your comment just got me thinking lol.
That actually sounds spot on. I think we autistic ought to have the ability to call people 'Ableist' to get them to back off with their bigotry.
@@getSkrunkyeah mate society is very stereotypical nowadays and they always judge by impressions,if that person has problems expressing them selves they are bad at communication therefore dumb,nah it doesn't work like that we have to look more deep into things because autistic people can be way more than what we think of them at just seeing them once
The amount of people who would get the thought in their mind that an Autistic person is dumb is really absurd
I have 132 IQ officially but 60 IQ in the eyes of people.
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From one autistic person to another, I hate how people percieve us as: " i am a 6 year-old white boy and i am gonna talk to you about dinosaurs- *Drops toothpicks* 5296."
it's like having dementia, people make jokes about it.
when the fuck did i write this?
What
ahhh irony
@@nope55666 LMAO
@@nope55666 lol
If someone pulls the 'counts stuff thrown on the floor' thing smirk like they lost their mind and say "I'm autistic not a damn vampire."
As "According to European lore, vampires suffer from arithmomania, the uncontrollable urge to count or calculate numbers."
I'm 46 and only recently did a test that shows I have a good chance of being autistic. what a time man
Also, while good math skills often do come with autism, "good math skills" and "instantly count objects in a random jumble" are not the same thing. I sorta have good math skills (unlike my dad who definitely has good math skills), though a lot if it seems to be my verbal and spatial skills carrying my math skills. I definitely cannot count random jumbles of things on sight.
I might be a vampire
Wait is this why the Count from Sesame Street teaches kids math
Now THATS funny
Heard a myth where vampires are required to count any pile of rice they pass by
Things like Big Bang Theory don't really do much to help, that show is pretty much just what executives at some Hollywood studio thought autism might be. There's maybe less than 1% of people that are like Sheldon. Here in Sweden, someone made a really weird but similarly "I have no idea what it's like to be autistic" movie called "in space there are no feelings" or I rymden finns inga känslor in Swedish. I remember my younger sister watching it and just flat out saying "this has nothing to do with autism". She compared the character in the show to me and nothing of the things I show where anywhere similar or related to said character and their autism.
Feels like typical Hollywood sh!1, they can't be bothered to do even the most barebone research possible (funny that the rain man thing gets used as an example, that's an extreme outlier that so rare, it barely even exists to begin with).
Edit: I like to joke by saying that autism is like "running a different operating software", normies use Windows while I'm stuck on Linux.
No-one associated with The Big Bang Theory has said Sheldon is autistic. Obviously he exhibits many neurological abnormalities, but if there was more to it than creating an obnoxious character they've certainly done a good job at keeping it under wraps.
@@Mrvideosandgames yes, cause people are totally gonna just sit there and wait for a confirmation. They aren't gonna jump to conclusions like normies usually do, Tbh the entire show is very obnoxious, it's sort of "someone says nerdy thing, other person say different nerdy thing, now laugh you peasants"
@@SvengelskaBlondie
I mean, I think you're a little strong in your conviction😅
Sure there are people who watched the big bang theory and used it to strengthen their misconceptions, but I don't think that's due to the shows design. In the interviews with actors and creators that I've seen I found them rather open and friendly about it all.
Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left 😋
@@boomknuffelaar Its not that I am strong in my convictions, it's just that I know people are too lazy to actually check things up. Hence why I used Big Bang theory as an example. Tbh, I couldn't care less about the show, the show is just an example of how little people know about autism.
" but I don't think that's due to the shows design."
I agree with you on this one, I doubt very much it was made to be to be some kind of autism focus/awareness thing.
"Admittedly I don't enjoy the show much either, you might enjoy the youtube video where they removed the laughing track. There's not much left"
There's something really funny about that, ive seen a few such video's. Whatever "comedy" that's left falls flatter than the antagonist in Who framed rodger rabbit after he got run over by the steam roller.
It’s ok, Linux is superior. Sincerely, a windows user.
As an autistic 13 year old, it feels weird thinking about the fact that it highly possible that i STILL have ever felt real love. This video helped me know a LOT more about myself.
I once told someone that I had autism and the response that I always hate happened they said that "You're to smart for autism" so he was basically saying that autistic people were dumb made me even more insecure about it so now I don't tell anyone
honestly the best you can do is educate them, and if they don't want to learn then that's their loss
well I did move schools so I don't really see them that often anymore
@@TrumpetGuy26normie
@@94709 edgy kiddo
@@94709 tf
oh my god yes, I feel like people always immediately think of super high-end autism.
"high end autism" who autism out here runnin on an rtx 4080 😭
@@dooblom you just made my say that was hilarious af
@@zentheprotogen8450 lmao nice
my autism designer yo
I am most likely Austistic, but I'm never sure, because I'm constantly bombarded with people who say I need to "change" or "just accept society and earn money." I rarely even accept it because a lot of people tend to say insults and things like, "You're f**king Autistic" like it's a bad thing. So, I've just always been on edge for being a castaway who doesn't really understand why most people can't have a conversation with me, or is it me them? I'm basically a dropout and homeless because I could never do anything without asking "why?" I just found this video and I quite like the voice you give. I hope I can eventually get rid of my anxiety, depression, fear, and guilt.
Also, my sybling has Autism, and most like does my father.. My father is quite an intelligent man, only he and I don't get along very well, because I fear we're both emotionally damning to each other.
I could say I'm rather quite disabled... or do I just a very archaic way of seeing the world?
I see the world in a similar way. Hang in there it will get better❤
@@Chester_Kitten You need to "change" because you're a homeless dropout castaway. You currently take more from the world than you give it. If it's asking "why?" that's stopping you from working, stop asking why. If it's something else, stop that instead. At the end of the day it's a problem with you and accepting that will get you a lot further than blaming it on someone/something else.
You can't change what other people do, you can only change yourself and if you think labelling your self with mental illnesses will excuse the need for self improvement u gonna stay like this forever.
good luck m8
First step hate yourself that brings you down. Second step destroy that which you hate. Third find yourself that brings you up. Work on that shit till get gud. legit anything u enjoy look for a job in it. shits always less like work when there's a community around it.
WOMP WOMPPPP
I ABSOLUTELY don't understand people who insult people with autism, like people with autism is just people that are different
Because people are part of, & brought up into a society that brainwashes, conditions, or gaslights them into thinking that different is bad uncritically, while also promoting blind obedience to their absolute detriment, that's why.
Because they suck.
it’s natural to ostracize and dislike those that are different from your group. the quicker you understand that the less you will blame normies
because they werent loved. they only insult those people because they got more attention then they ever got. its their way of coping
it's easier to pick on someone that's different because they stand out bullies would pick on someone but there's a reason why they don't pick on someone their own size (someone that's similar to most of the people around them) but we are *different, not less*
as a non-autistic person, this is just goddamn sad
I'm autistic too, a late diagnosis at 22.
People don't understand that a Savant is an incredibly rare version of autism (the kind of autism that can recognize and continue patterns instantly), and that autism is a massive spectrum. That's why the DSM-5 calls it the 'Autism Spectrum Disorder.'
Most cases of autism are ASD-1, which used to be called Asperger's, but is now called 'high-functioning autism'
This just means that a person has autism, but can be independent. This type of autism can be both a blessing and a curse.
For myself, I was one of the rare lucky ones that wasn't bullied, but that was because I masked the hell out of everything. I have always been self-contained, isolative, all due to abuse from my parents. This means I don't like being around people or sharing my things with people. I still love people, I love sharing my thoughts and ideas, but if I can avoid it, I will.
However, my autism makes me an incredibly smart person. I have a poor sense of humor, because I take things too seriously, but that seriousness makes me incredibly adept at thinking things through; coming up with problems and then solutions to those problems, and understanding things deeper than most people can.
I work INCREDIBLY on my own, but get overwhelmed frequently and can't work with others on the same project.
This is all to say, that autism isn't the same as you'd see in media. Autism can be masked, or the person's symptoms might not manifest as noticeable behavioral issues.
Autism is a spectrum and can be very volatile, but also very reclusive. Treat individuals as individuals, and get to know them and their unique quirks; it could end up making them an even better friend than most people.
Honestly, my autism is sounds very similar to this!
I got asperger's, and didn't know it was a outdated name. Never knew it was called "high-functioning autism" so thanks for that ig. I can confirm that having that is both a curse and a blessing, might be the reason i've done well on tiktok, millions of views on there
(not professional at health) but here’s my experience as a child being autistic
I have autism I was diagnosed at young age. I had no learning disability (except speech) but I was in special needs etc and I’m not really dumb I get pretty well grades, the only thing is that I preform on a lower level than my twin who also has autism as well and same effects. Before I told people I had it I got called weird etc and then after they were shocked saying stuff like “you don’t act like it ” “oh really” “you seem so normal”
I am also bullied a lot for being weird and embarrassing myself.
@@Ellies_edits I feel you brother, I’m also high functioning autism. The moment they know you are on the spectrum, they see you as an outcast. I even got called a loser for fucking up a saw machine by some kiwi classmate back in high school. We can’t say anything back for 2 reasons. 1 is because we need time to think of an answer so we walk away for a bit and number 2 is because “OH THE AUTISTIC KID SPOKE GUYS” yep, that shit happened to me. And rumours would start spreading about me. These things drive us insane. Life is better once you graduate out of school.
Keep making videos brother, you’re funny and talented. I love these low effort but highly insightful videos. I love watching em while I play Minecraft
Funny? He'll nah. Maybe a little charismatic
Lmao I accidentally misread this as “Stop making videos brother.”
as someone with autism its great to see someone actually try to show people what autism truely is
as a high functioning autistic I really enjoy seeing others perspectives
"as a high functioning autistic" from that little part of your sentence i can tell that you're not 'well functional' sorry buddy... but you're a loser 🤷♂
i hate when autistic people say their smart, im not autistic and im smarter than 99% of them.. i hate it
A very common thing that I experience is being misunderstood, followed by punishment, that is then followed by ignorance.
And it's the most heartbreaking and frustrating thing you can experience as an autistic person.
Yeahh 😰 its like, “i did something wrong, but what???”
i’ve experienced that too many times now
Bro I thought that was just a me thing 😭😭
@@redalertsheep2939 fr man
Happened to me all the time. Still, at work dealing with customers that chimp out over non-existent things.
I do not like the term mental age ngl, I think that phrasing kinda missrepresents what was going on.
i strongly agree. now days ill just say "i take a long time to learn somethings" much easier then explaining that some parts of my brain age slowly. also for most everyone with a developmental disorder at lease one or two parts of the brain can start to develop faster then avenge.
I get what he's trying to say but it's always more nuanced then "mental age" makes it out to be. For example, in 7th grade, I socially acted like I was in 5th grade but was more organized and productive then some of my college friends are even today because of my obsession with planning everything and routine. I was also about as academically smart as everyone else my age and that has remained relatively constant, especially after elementary school.
ur mentally stupid. cope.
My brother has the non verbal kind of autism and I don’t know any other way to describe it other than using mental age
He’s 9 right now but I’d say he’s mentally 3 years old
What else are you supposed to say instead of mental age?
@@healthy10972 Well, there's all the stuff "normal" 3 year olds do and grow out of, that are unrelated to language. Most likely, your brother is already more advanced in several of these aspects, just not the verbal side. So maybe you could say something more like "at the level of most 3 year olds in terms of using language" but probably not with other things.
As an autistic person my experience of sharing my disability is just awful. At first there’s the negative and sad emotion displayed by the second party, then they like others say, treat me like a damn toddler. Now that’s not the worse I’ve seen, it’s gotten to a point where hundreds of people I know want me to get hurt or even die due to how miss represented autism is and their complete lack of understanding. I just wish they could understand.
Damn, I didn't really consider that autistic people share the experience of "coming out" as autistic
im autistic and i havent told my friends, i feel like they are gonna look down on me
It's a calculated risk every god damn time.
@@metalgear6531 as a bisexual guy, I can relate xd
in terms of mental maturity I've found that personally I feel like there are multiple types of maturity, and that I became advanced in some aspects much faster than my peers did and then for other things much slower.
I'm not diagnosed, but very likely autistic (not the tiktok kind of "i think i'm autistic" by the way) and i feel i was the opposite. I've always been mentally and socially typical/ahead , but academically i've never been the top student. I cannot do maths to save my life for example
This is very true. I remember I would basically always be prepared for any class topic because there was a high change it was something I had already researched in my own time for fun. I was watching Matpat like 4 years before I actually had a physics class lol.
However, for anything involving socialzing or emotional communication, I'm basically still a toddler. I cannot for the life of me grasp social interaction. It all seems illogical and unintuitive, and it sucks because no one else seems to question any of it. They just have whatever invisible social sixth sense that tells theme exactly what to do.
I literally just learned less than a few weeks ago what being "friendzoned" actually means, that's how far behind I am.
I am also autistic. I am now 24, I got diagnosed when I was 20. My whole life I felt sort of different but my parents never understood me. I went to so many people (proffesionals) and some said I was, some said I wasnt. The problem my parents thought that people who are autistic are retarded and I am clearly not. So it was a pretty wild ride with therapists and people because my parents didnt agree and we just stopped going. I was like 14 so I couldnt really go on my own. Anyways my parents also had problems (different problems) but it was just a struggle. Anways I get that with not telling people bacause some people I have known my whole life and when I was 20 and I told them they just acted different to me. Its can be a struggle. I have also met so many new people who are autistic and everyone is different. There are like a million different variants it seems and everyone has their own struggles. My parents do understand me a lot better since a couple of years but it took some time. It also helps since I moved out and lived on my own when I was 19 and I got my diagnosis at 20 so that also kind of helps... I could of gotten the diagnosis when I was 13 if my parents wherent stupid and removed the steriotype autism they had. I kind of understand why they had that idea because when I grew up there was this kid in the street who was like mental, demon, evil autistic just being a retarded asshole and they based their vision of autism on that...
I actually recently got diagnosed as autistic and I was 19 aswell and even though I objectively see why I have it it just seems normal to me
@@JonkerHoodMoments ouihuihuihui
damn getting treated differently over something you cant control must suck
I love my autistic friends. I love hearing about their special interests because hearing the same opinions from the same people gets boring. I love how they can be so invested in such simple joys in life. Even if its just video games as I see it as an art form. Since my autistic friends have a deep appreciation of art, I can only admire them for that.
I never realised how much of a stigma there is around autism until watching this video. I don't feel comfortable posting anything about myself here on the internet but I can definitely relate to some things you have experienced. It just saddens me that people look down on people with autism. It is a spectrum and not everyone with autism has the same kinda stuff if that makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through this you've earned a new subscriber.
yeah, theres a lot of stigma around us
Haha u said sigma
@@Azuritenzhe said stigma bro. You got brainrot.
@@Azuritenz s t i g m a
@@TheAutisticFrogmaking autism your whole personality is crazy ngl 😭😭😭 "TheAutisticFrog"
I get what you mean with people having insane expectations. I remember seeing someone put it like "they want you to either be Sheldon Cooper or a tall toddler". I'm autistic too, but I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18 because my mum thought all autistic people are screaming morons who don't emotionally mature past the age of 5. What's weird is that I really think she's autistic, but she doesn't realise it because she thinks her experiences are normal. Like those people who say "everyone's a little autistic"
As someone who is autistic it’s basically the a equivalent to a regular person stoned as hell on pot except it lasts forever.
I mean, kinda, to put it blatant. It can differ alot though.
I like your profile pic lol
Autism is WAY to misunderstood as my personal experience so far is I’m smarter than most other people my age but I’m also really silly so it’s a double edged sword
Thumbnail: autism isn't what you think
Me, autistic: "Hmm"
that’s exactly what I did :D
same i feel you
I think that jms was trying to attract the attention of those who AREN’T autistic.
i'm not autistic, so i don't know what it's like, but i know what it's like to be neurodivergent. i'm neurodivergent in a different way, i have ADHD.
3:40 is so accurate. i didn't realise most things i've done that were actually ADHD behaviors. turns out, it wasn't a "normal people" thing to have 56879368 chrome tabs open at once lol. it's kinda like how a color blind person don't realise that they're color blind since they don't know how other people see.
Insane analogy. Heh. Its the opposite for me. I get stressed and cant concentrate while knowing I have more that 3 tabs or a single window that I don't need open. Even a single unnecessary task in the system tray. Which is funny because in almost every other aspect of life I'm not organised at all. It's just the fact that I'm aware of that unorganised-ness and am constantly thinking about it that likely causes it.
i always have a bunch of chrome tabs open lol
i try to keep my tabs at the point before they start shrinking at most
Damn, I thought multitasking between 2-3 games, a youtube video and Discord was normal 😔
I recently discovered that i (most likely) also have ocd 💀 (i don't have an actual diagnose for it YET, but i'm %95 sure i have it. I'll get a real diagnose soon)
As someone with autism, this is so relatable. My mom treats me normal for pretty much everything, but when it comes to autism im a fucking loser who cant get his shit together. She tries to get me to do things like answer questions to earn money or stupid shit like that. And my dad wants me to be fucking Albert einstein but like 3x smarter, like im in 7th grade and he wants me to be learning CALCULUS. Considering i have autism, i think its a good idea to go through school for the social aspect, especially because i know i have social problems because i have a hard time making friends, like i only have friends because my second grade teacher sat me and my best friend together, if it weren't for that, i would have no friends, like im not just friends with one person, but i met all my friends through 1 friend. I hate being autistic and my parents are like "oh theres nothing to hate" yeah, youd be right, except you don't realize that if you werent babying me or saying i am like the smartest person in the universe than i wouldnt hate it, what my parents dont realize is THEY are the fucking problem, not me. I am honestly suprised that when i went to Disney for a school trip that they didn't chaperone because they were "worried about an autistic person alone" or some sort of bullshit like that, especially considering i went with one of my classes where i dont have any friends. Some of my teachers treat me like im fucking retarded, like my Spanish teacher, of course she kinda treats everyone like their second graders because she used to teach us in second grade (im in a dual language program) but still. And the grade administrators think im fucking retarded every year, like i see kids that are definitely some sort of special needs, and im retarded? Like im not trying to be rude to those kids but like clearly there are people with more problems than me, and im only in seventh grade so i can only imagine 8th through 12th and later down in life (im not going to college because imagine how much theyd baby me there, omg) maybe im overthinking that, as part of my autism i overthink things way too fucking much, like im thinking, "what if the people im talking shit about in this comment see it and know its me" even though i know damn well theyre not seeing this. Like i was really weird in elementary school from like 2nd and 3rd grade, like there are people who think im a weird person because of shit i did BEFORE COVID, like in 4th grade (2020-2021 school year) i honestly didnt give a shit about my grades and then 5th grade i was still a little like myself from 2nd to 3rd grade but that went away in that summer, and in 6th grade my personality had completely changed, kinda like the maturity thing this video talks about. I dont tell people i have autism, you know why? Because i dont care what others think of me, i genuinely dont. I also agree with you on the whole "i couldnt date any girls who aren't autistic" like granted, i havent dated anyone yet as i am in 7th grade and i think starting a romantic relationship in middle school is fucking absurd, but i feel like "normal" girls would think i was weird, but autistic ones i feel might relate to me, idk, maybe not but ill find out in high school or whenever i get in a relationship. Overall the video is really relatable on so many levels and i really am glad i finally had somewhere where i could actually share all this.
Also sorry for the long comment, I understand if you don't read it all, but if you did thank you for taking time to read it, as I typed that for a long time
@@DylanTheHaunter I did :D
As a person with an autistic brother I am really happy you made this, all my friends call eachother autistic and it’s just messed up.. so they think that autism is like a really bad disability, like they think you can’t walk or eat or do anything now I’m not saying this is bad cuz it could be that case 4 some people but jeez man that’s just messed up..
are you sure they're your friends? also although it's hard to understand autistic people being non-autistic that's just messed up and ignorant to believe that autism is super bad
@@lilydome my bad I meant “friends” you can call them that 😅 even tho they made fun of my laugh b4 but that is besides the point it and I do agree it is very messed up
I am autistic. That's the only reason why my parents don't let me control my own life. I'm 19 years old and will soon be 20.
My parents forced me to go to a college for electrical engineering for two years. According to the law, I didn't have to, because I was already 18.
But my parents had beaten me, kicked me and whipped me with a belt to make me go there.
I had called the police many times... but they wouldn't help me. They told me that I had no right to decide about my own life.
I still live with my parents. It is awful. I just want to rule my own life. I want freedom.
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you can find your own freedom and gain that independence from your abusive house hold. I'm actually in a similar situation, as I am currently 19 going on 20 this year but I still am treated like a small child, it's difficult and having every aspect of your life controlled by your family is dehumanizing, it can make you feel worthless and hopeless, but although I do not know you i hope you can live your life the way you want to! :)
God damn, that sounds horrible, do you have other relatives like you're grandparents to go to for support? I feel so sorry for you, I hope you're situation gets better. Good luck
hope you find a way out of this .we are rooting for you
oml...
No way... I pray that you get out of that terrible situation
the mental maturity is smth nobody talks about with autism, thank you for talking about it. i feel seen
Thank you for this video, this is one of the rare, times I've completely related to something online and had a negative feeling about a video in the internet. Just listening to someone speaking from the heart is very theraputic.
Misconceptions on autism is a massive issue in society, I'm literally doing a speech on it tomorrow.
I'm only 13 (almost 14) but I've felt like an alien my whole life and I have friends I've known for so many years but just don't feel connected to them.
Honestly, I'm much closer to the stupid side of autism but I still absolutely hate when people call me stupid and can actually make cry and ruin my day which they don't seem to realise.
I hope you know this but you're not alone haha
Hello! Did the speech go well? I am also planning on doing a speech about the subject, but most likely as a video instead of a full on speech at my school, because most likely no words will come out if I do it live XD... I am researching about other people's experiences and using my own experiences as a guide too. I feel like it is really important to tell the world about it, to make a positive change.
@@ryantronian8322 yeah it went well, thanks! Hehe yeah it’s good to raise awareness so try to if you can :)
I just came across this video and it hits close to home. As an autistic guy I can fully empathise and understand not only how it feels to be stereotyped and misunderstood by ignorant people, but I can also relate to how you talked about feeling alienated and disconnected from everybody else. People’s words can eat me alive sometimes and it hurts, thank you for making this and even though I’m a couple weeks late, I’m super glad I found this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone. Keep spreading the word 🙏🙌
I had an experience that really changed my option on autism recently when I was just hanging out with some friends and found out two of them were autistic and it was just a reminder that people are literally just people and the fact that someone has autism shouldn't affect anything in relationships
Hearing that I have Autism, my diagnosis came at around age 5, someone at our church started asking questions about me to my parents even though I was standing right there and answering. Hearing your side, it makes me question even more why we're all grouped together with only "Autism" to describe all of us, which seems equivalent to specifying "Rainbow" as a favorite color.
We all share the same patterns of characteristics even if we share few exact characteristics on first glance, and we tend to be fairly good at recognizing one another even with differences in presentation.
Honestly when describing autism to someone I should make an analogy using light.
Light is a spectrum, yeah? is red and blue the same color? no? well of course it isn't!
And it extends past the visible too, how many would get tripped up if I told them that microwaves, the internet, and light are all on the same spectrum. (at least, to my knowledge that's how that works?)
Now I just have to find someone to explain it to! I'll go outside one day...
That's why I hate the grouping of Autism into "ASD". Aspergers and Autism should be two different terms.
@@hx0d From a research standpoint, and for determining whether a child of two given parents is likely to inherit autism, they should be considered the same. From a support needs standpoint, they should be considered different, although even that can be overstated as the primary criterion that was used to distinguish the two is the presence or absence of language delay; That does have significant implications for support needs, but two people could have identical support needs profiles (sensory issues, executive function, meltdown susceptibility) *except* for language delay, and in that case their actual needs would be much the same, but one would have more trouble communicating those needs.
I can relate to everything you’ve said. I was quite mistreated, and misunderstood, by my peers, up until I was around 15. The bullying I have received was so severe, that to this day, age 18, I still have trauma from it, and was actually diagnosed with PTSD. Not even my school could guarantee my safety. It’s a side which I rarely open up about since it is often too much.
Thankfully now, I’ve found some friends who, not only treat me right, but also understand me. One of my traits which my friends love is my brutal honesty, i’m not exactly sure what it is, perhaps it is that the words that I’m saying means something? Like it holds an extreme amount of weight? Whatever it is, I’m just happy that they treat me well.
I cant imagine how bad the bullying must have been to give you trauma, but im glad to hear that you have friends that understand and value you. Thise people are the real ones you should never lose
I'm autistic and I agree with most of your points here, but I have only friends who aren't autistic. Even though it's a bit challenging I feel like I should learn to how to make friends with "normal" people
We have a fundamentally different way of viewing the world from the neurotypicals. I certainly wouldn't avoid making friends with your fellow autistics. That camaraderie can be important.
"I stopped telling people I have autism" as he places the 3 pickaxes and shovels neatly into their own collums. Jokes aside thank you for talking about this, it's always nice to have another resource to educate people and hopefully have them change how they treat others
Wait, non-autistic people don't do that?
@@mothgirl326 i have to imagine this isn't just an autism thing, it's rationally more organised
i couldnt say myself as im an autistic person who does that but itd be really weird if allistic people didn't do this
@@mothgirl326 no this was just a joke haha. While some types of autism do push towards more clean organization, it's not at all autism specific.
@@Lord_Drakostar alltistic is crazy
@@RV2O allistic is a word
Autism is exactly what I think it’s like; a condition I have.
I did not expect to hear this from rick astley
I, myself have ADHD (but it's not diagnosed, because I don't believe in therapy), and I have experienced similar life experiences as you. I don't usually listen to commentary videos, because I have a terrible attention span, but I listened to this entire video, and it's honestly great to hear that we have similar experiences. Keep it up
My friend has an autistic non-verbal brother. Before watching the video I thought that was pretty much autism. Now I feel so bad.
My cousin is autistic. Although not severely, he does have issues with socializing at times. BUT HE IS MY LITTLE MAN, AND HE IS AMAZING! And one thing that just ticks me off so much is how people treat him. In school, he was bullied so much. Him saying things like people putting fists at him and such, thinking he’s “weird”. What is it with people? Why is it so hard to treat others kindly? What have they gone through to make them like this?
Aw. I could feel the emotion in that 'HE IS MY LITTLE MAN.'
i'm sorry but autistic people are weird asf, once i had three autistic people in my class, let's just call them "liam, george and william" they always freaked out about random stuff and it triggered me so much bro, like could i just have some peice holy shit.. most people who have autism are so fucking annoying and i just hate to say it but your younger brother is probably (just guessing) insanely weird..
meant to say "peace" not "piece" LOOOL
turns out the thumbnail is wrong
autism is exactly what I thought it was
because I have it
This is funny because at first I didn't think about it. But then I did and it was true
Me
As a fellow autistic person, I relate to the emotional control issues while young so much. I was so easily triggered into rage as a child over small or inconsequential things. It might be due to also having ADHD but, I was angered so very easily it made me feel ashamed to think back to. I also relate to being more naive or immature compared to my peers at certain ages, like early to mid teenage years. I was thankfully not bullied too much as a kid, but goddamn learning how normie socializing works was such an immense challenge- I said so much stupid incomprehensible shit that I'm honestly surprised I even managed to make any friends. Or maybe I got lucky and was surrounded by many fellow potential neurodivergent people, I don't know. I didn't notice I was different from other people until my mid teenage years, perhaps that's what made me not hesitate in trying to make friends during my kid years. I'm still in school and people younger than me are using autistic as an insult all the time and it's probably due to that cursed TikTok app, which makes me so mad. To be honest, schools gotta start educating kids on neurodivergent conditions because as things are right now they'll grow up to become stupid adults that they will then carry over to their children. It's so frustrating. Thank you for this video, sorry for my rant at the end of this comment.
As an autistic person, I just gotta say this video touched me on a very deep and personal level, while I’ve never exactly been bullied (either that or it’s been passive aggressive in a way where I didn’t pick up on it) I do struggle with people. It’s as though they don’t take me seriously, or think of me as an idiot. I’ve never been good at making friends, and as a kid (for reference I’m 17yo now) I’ve had many adults be very short with me, and now I find even basic social interactions scary. Thank you for making this video.
as an autistic person, I’m giving this video a 8/10
just has some missing stuff that’d be important
Care to elaborate? Seems like it'd be pretty helpful to mention what is missing.
@@dwarian5252 i think it’d be better to mention that autism is different for everyone and there’s a reason it is said to be a spectrum, other than that its 10/10
@@dwarian5252 was a little confused when it was only mentioned as learning disorder, he is definitely right it has caused me not to understand some concepts but those are also social ones, where ive watched how people have interacted to see how "normal people do it so well" and essentially autism, it's very broad and everyone will experience it differently
but there's no absolutely hate to this guy, this is his experience with it and what he says is right
@@marce420.7 ye
kept nodding my head like this guys spitting fax
I have a autistic friend and everyone in my geography class hates him they all don’t like him and I feel bad :( and as a Muslim he would ask some uncomfortable questions but I always told him it was my religion and that was that being a quiet kid I never told him stuff cause he would get sad easily he had a passion of geography and trains that no one had ever had and that gave him various exciting things to learn and I thought I just could share it!
im autistic and my pet recently died, i feel younger and unsafe. i dont want to be alone, i dont want to do things by myself, i dont want to handle my own house when i have one. i want to stay with my parents/friends/brothers. I feel afraid that something will happen to me.
I actually shared the "alien" feeling you had, but in a different way.
When I was young I always knew I was different but I just couldn't understand why, emotionally unstable, unable to understand things others could, sometimes do things others didn't understand. The list can go on, but it clawed at me, "Why am I so different? Why am I so slow?". The public humiliation and bullying from teachers and other kids didn't help.
After I got out of school (dropped out at 11th grade because I couldn't take it anymore and almost had a mental break) I practically cut off all ties I had. After a year or so of reflection and at age 19 I realized I had autism. After realizing it, it genuinely felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders. Years of torment and not knowing why I was different felt like a memory.
I don't tell people I am autistic because I know they will get the wrong impression and I really hope more people find out what being autistic actually means.
Even now my current friend group is mostly comprised of autistic type people, mostly because we get along and or share a connection.
I fully believe that autism is a spectrum, it's not black and white. I am on there somewhere, I might not have the greatest control of my emotions and I will always feel different, but I at least now know why I am different and I am happy where I sit. :3
This is literally so true
Oh my god i cannot tell you the amount of times i havent laughed at an offensive joke and people just brushed me off saying i didnt get it because i was autistic. No, i understood you were making a joke. I just didnt think it was funny.
shame on you@@Gray_mk
@@XianPsgwhatd they say
@@Geotrax2 i honestly forgot😕 sorry😅
@@Geotrax2 he was saying something like what you would see in an instagram reel comment section
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I think I’ve lived a very lucky life as an autistic woman with ADHD.
I was diagnosed early and my parents didn’t try to hide it from me. They’ve worked hard with my psychiatrist to make sure I get the medication I need and work with my school so they could help me get the accommodations I need to get through school. My teachers have all been very understanding and supportive and have done everything they can to help me succeed. And that’s just with my autism, my parents and teachers are amazing and have raised me really well.
When I was really young, I was taught to be myself and not care about what others think of me, I took those lessons to heart and have never tried masking because of it. If I was bullied, I either wasn’t aware or didn’t care. My autism is an important part of myself I’m not afraid to wear on my sleeves, if other people judge me for it, that’s their problem and they’re not worth my time.
I also haven’t really faced much ableism. There is one time I remember, but it’s just an outlier in a general life of being accepted.
I’m also an artist and a writer, and I attribute a large part of my talent to my autism and ADD. Because drawing is one of my special interests, I’m able to draw almost every day without getting burned out. A part of my ADD is hyperactivity in the mind, and I’d imagine I wouldn’t be as creative as I am if I wasn’t mentally hyperactive.
And many (if not all) of my friends are neurodivergent like I am. Many of them are also artists like I am. My friends are the best friends I could ever ask for, and we’re all pretty close with each other. And online I’ve found many places to discuss my interests with other people.
Imo, it’s kind of sad that a life where an autistic person is accepted, properly accommodated, and loved by friends and family is the life of the lucky few like me instead of the majority of autistic people.
I’m also autistic, but no one can really tell that I am autistic until I actually say it, and even then, everyone is pretty chill about it, which I find odd, but at least my entire school isn’t coming after me like it’s the purge or whatever😂. About a month ago, two weeks before the end of my 7th grade year, two girls were in the hallway and then when I passed by them to get to my class, I overheard them saying “Is he autistic?” I then proceeded to shout “I am autistic!”, which then sent the two girls into a frenzy/panic. It was pretty funny, and even if they said something negative about me, I was too far ahead and even then, I wouldn’t have cared at all. Everyone is very chill about my autism, they don’t tell me to do shady shit or whatnot, and they are willing to talk to me a lot. One other thing I will say is that, I couldn’t speak for a long time, it took me several years to finally speak. I’m glad I’m not one of those autistic people that can’t speak for their whole lives, because if I couldn’t, I wouldn’t be able to live. Oh, and about the “genius and dumbass” stereotypes, I would want to see this: for anyone that thinks of those two stereotypes, you’re a waste of air. I tired of seeing memes online about autistic people (more or less negative). People have been so brainwashed by online culture, they can’t think of anything except autistic people (disabled, I should add) moaning, unable to get a letter out. That’s all I have to say about being autistic.
41 here, diagnosed at 37.
I actually tell many people, as my "problems" are fairly minor, and the explanation helps with the potentially weird facial expressions, or overly pedantic responses, or perceived poor eye contact.
But however you handle it, is the correct way for YOU to handle it. Don't let anyone tell you different!
a lot of people don't understand that different isn't necessarily better or worse, it's just different
Hey man I just found your channel and this video alone means so much, not just to me, but I think I can be speaking on the behalf of the whole autistic community, I’ve grown up with ADHD, autism, colorblindness, and anxiety and it’s always great to see people speaking out about this kind of stuff, i have it rough with autism as I have both the supergenious and the mentally behind kind, I also struggle to talk to people socially, so yeah just thanks so, so much for speaking out on this stuff, I can’t thank you enough. Much love :)
Autism and ADHD is fake lil bro. Sorry for breaking the bad news for you.
Seeing that you had three ladders and dug down only three blocks was SOOO satisfying
As an autistic person who has not felt love yet, you have just given me some (potentially false - i hope not) hope
I believe in you to find someone!! I (I'M PRETTY SURE I DO :'3) have autism and I have a girlfriend, I think everyone can have a significant other if they're ready for a relationship, it takes alot of time usually, but I'm sure that if you're a great person and you just be yourself you'll find someone amazing! :D
Its possible (from an autist)
incredibly helpful video and relatable thank you
also lmao the point where you noticed where you died was like 3 blocks away from air was the biggest bruh moment
ik lol that made me laugh a lil when it happened
as an autistic person, this is 100% accurate
people don't ever really tell i'm autistic but when i tell them, they start acting like i'm a different person. not necessarily that i'm dumber (which in some situations that is the case) but in the sense that they all of a sudden have to change their demeanor for them to understand me. people really underestimate how wide of a spectrum the autism spectrum is. i'm very high functioning to the point where when i mask my autism, you probably wouldn't even be able to tell unless you're autistic yourself or if you study it for your career. and then there are people that i used to go to school with where they couldn't even make decisions, eat, or walk on their own. i especially hate when allistic people use the r slur because even though that word was once a medical teem, it isn't anymore. it has gotten to the point where i see it being thrown out just about every day. and then they go about saying "but it's not a slut" when a slur is an insult targeted towards certain demographics. since the r slur stems from neurodiversity in and of itself, using it as a replacement for the words "dumb" or "stupid" makes it a slur. also, what you said at 3:43 hit very close to home. when people actually take the time to listen to me talk about my autism, they'll say "what's it like" when i don't have a fair answer, which is exactly what you said. and then they say that i'm faking it. like..? sometimes i wish that i wasn't autistic because it makes me feel like an outcast, i've learned to more or less embrace it and just accept that that is who i am no matter what. it can be a struggle sometimes though because nobody in my family is autistic so i can't really compare my experiences with anyone that close.
but yea, just my story. i know i kinda skimmed away from the focal point a bit, but i still feel like it's all important. thank you for this video
More people need to talk about this. The stigma around it grows, as kids start saying “you’re autistic” to everyone, and it becomes really offensive because as someone with it, it’s not at all like what people say.
I totally appreciate your view on this. Im also autistic(not officially diagnosed but its highly likely i have so many symptoms) ive been told im weird my whole life and have learned to mask to "fit in" and it never zeemed to work. My bf is doing my best and i love him so much for trying to be more understanding than those around me. Also at the end of the video i relate SO HARD because i always forget something important and remember it after. Immediately got a new sub and thankyou for sharing your views with everyone i love finding neurodivergent folks that i can relate with as it makes me feel like im welcomed. Ik im just rambling at this point but in other words, thankyou for sharing
As an autistic person this is a very nice video! I also agree with the fact that autism doesnt really get well represented other than its two extremes. Personally im a lot more open to saying im autistic, its makes for a funny moment and (imo) may even help spread that message that autism has nuance! I can relate to that maturity part and being bullied in elementary school! (I will say that the bullied part and therapy likely made me a lot more moral of a person though. Especially since around 2nd grade apparently I was seen as kind of a bully/jerk which i didnt know until a half year or so of bullying) but yeah.
Extra note: Its best to wait until youve been friends for a while before you tell them, has a both funnier and stronger effect of saying "hey youve been with me for months now and you didnt even notice. Maybe that means something. "
I really relate to you man
I did had the same experiences as you but with some minor differences like my mom was always with me
Im sure you had it harder then me and im happy to you you found someone as same as you and i hope you get better
I feel the same way as you. I am also autistic, and I always got bullied my whole life through elementary school and 6th grade. I always felt like I was such an outcast and a different being, and I had a friend who took advantege of me. I feel so much better now that their are people like you who have the same thing as me and understand. It's so annoying that some people in this world just don't respect us and think we are stupid. Thank you for the nice video! I'm thankful that I'm not the only one! 😊💗
your a great guy man
keep the youtube grind up man
you are a really good storyteller!
Fully agree, relate a lot to this. One of my biggest struggles growing up personally was emotional regulation, which I'm still working on but have gotten a lot better with. My emotions have always felt really big and overwhelming.
Generally though I've stopped seeing my autism as a bad thing. In fact, I LIKE being autistic. I like how my brain works, my world makes sense to *me.* And like you I normally only vibe with other neurodivergent folks. Most of if not all my friends are, and I haven't even gone out of my way to find those people. We're like fucking magnets.
Being weird isn't bad, it's good. I love being weird and I love weird people. Being "normal" is boring as hell? And it's GOOD that we have people who think in different ways. If we all thought and worked the same there'd be no contrast and no growth.
I definitely have challenges that "normal" people don't, a lot of which are caused by a society that doesn't cater to how we function because we're in the minority. It can be really rough sometimes, it's not just positive. But I wouldn't be who I am if I wasn't autistic, and frankly I like who I am, and I love my friends. If other people write us off based on us being autistic, that's their loss.
Great video dude, thank you for sharing your perspective 👍
The magnet part is very true, it’s almost like an autism detector. I met some friends last year and we just clicked, got along like I never thought friends could. It turns out they both have ASD
I will spit only facts here, most of what you said is relatable. The only few things I found different is that I had too much young love and I pulled all the girls, I don’t have a girlfriend (They’re looking for me, but I ain’t looking for them.), and that I was always advanced with methematics…mathematics.
Most of the other things you said I can highly relate to. Like how I was very immature when I was younger and now seem to have matured from about an 8th grade level to a 10th/11th grade level throughout 9th grade, while the others fell behind in immaturity.
Those other fucking freshmen think they’ve got all the power and can do whatever they want? I’ve had to befriend my enemies just to help my mental health. They don’t give a shit. Pride kids also get defensive when I get made fun of for having autism, but like “You choose to be gay! I can’t choose to not have Autism.” (No offense intended to the Pride community, though I know there’s that one Karen like “That’s offensive to our gay rights.”)
Another thing is that I find it hard to describe Autism. Like you said, there’s only one of two variables in my metaphor: Autistic or not Autistic. You can’t put the two labels together, neither can you compare them both when you’ve only worn one, but can’t get it off because that’s how you were born.
Sorry for my long rant. I just saw an opportunity to let it go. Cringe, but I literally can’t hold it back anymore.
Pretty cool that you acknowledge how cringe this comment at the end. Actually makes It less cringe.
Uhm... most pride kids are on your side. Most of them, the actual pride kids, are Autistic themselves. and nobody chooses to be gay, sexual orientation is entirely genetic, just like autism, so yeah that's not good on your part.
I think here… we're ignoring the overlap of autism & orientation/gender identity. These flags, labels, the community itself. Very much built upon many autistic people trying to understand what they were feeling. I really don't think what we are is a choice either since these labels, "gay, bi, straight, etc." don't seem to be real. A lot of this homophobia, I think it's more modern. Without "gay", "straight", people just were as they are. I can choose to dedicate my life to loving men, to being there when they are afraid or heartbroken, lonely. I think that's an inherit ability in most males. So this "pride", I'm thinking we should separate identity politics from biology, anthropology for a minute. If we hadn't evolved it out thousands of years ago, there must be a reason. We must see past politics & view others with compassion, the ability to learn. Segregation by arbitrary semantics may slow down progress, as we see with autistic folk being made fun of. I think it's better off this way to see someone for the person they are.
Sorry for the long reply, I just saw the opportunity, I'm not sure if it matters what I say, I'm not okay. But to forget about the dirty looks, I think I'm okay now. And if you're listening I'm telling the truth when I say there is hope & I believe in you, I mean it.
As an autistic person myself, I completely agree with all the points in this video. It's sad how badly autism is mis-respresented.
i needed to send this to my friend. he has always misunderstood this condition. thanks
I'm autistic, diagnosed level 2, and I must say, I enjoy watching you play minecraft :)
In a way I had the opposite experience to you. I started out a very mature child. As I got older, the distance between me and my peers widened in terms of capabilities, emotional control, and perceived maturity.
Halfway through the video here but I wanted to comment, I completely relate with the age and mental age scenario, when I was younger I too was very far behind my actual age, but as my teenage years went on I eventually caught up and surpassed maturity around my age group, this video is really relatable and it's nice to hear I'm not the only one in the world going through such things in life, other parts of the video I relate too as well, but that main one hit like a truck.
It's weird. I work in software-- a field one might, for good or ill, stereotype autistic people as being common in. Even here, it's bizarre to see what my coworkers think of autistic people; they see it as a sort of extreme handicap that a manager should notify them of ahead of time so that accommodations can be made. Very bizarre.
man spitting facts (I need to prepare for the day my classmates find out I am autistic so...) I am basically not very socially capable and I used to have anger issues, but I'm faster at some things regarding intelligence than some people
I feel the same way whenever I tell people I have autism. People often are like "Oh, YoU dOnT hAvE aUtIsM, yOu DoNt AcT ReTaRdEd!" It's so annoying, and it's part of the reason I have little friends.