Doctor Reacts to Ted Lasso | Ted's Breakthough in Therapy
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I LOVE Ted Lasso. This Doctor Reacts video is watching more clips from season 2. The whole season is so positive towards mental health, particularly towards anxiety and panic attacks and I found it so powerful, so I'm looking forward to watching it with you and disentangling fact from fiction.
This is the last one of clips from season two and the video covers anxiety disorders, panic, therapy, how therapy should end properly and compassionately, trauma and more.
Let me know what you think!
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Love Dr. Sharon’s last line, “That bitch stole my move” as a reference to Robin Williams’ therapist character in Good Will Hunting.
I think Nate is saying some things he wants to say to his father. Also, things he doesn't realize, like when he mention being hurt that Ted doesn't even care enough to have the photo he gave him of the two of them up in his office. He doesn't know that it's actually displayed in Ted's home, which shows how personal it is to Ted.
The scene from S2 that always, always gets me, is the incident with Jamie's dad. How after Jamie hits him, and Coach takes him out like yesterday's trash, Roy comes to him to hug him, and Jamie's very first reaction is to flinch (just like he did in S1 when Dani tried to high five him). And then Roy hugs him and no one says anything and it is such a beautiful insight into Jamie. And such a meaningful step in the relationship between Roy and Jamie. And, on a side note, such a beautiful piece of acting form Phil Dunster, who deserves ALL the awards. I love their relationship progress in S3.
Jason said in an interview that the part where Teds dad read the book and then explained it to him was a true story.
Nate as a character is far more interesting and complex than I gave him credit for, on my first time watching. First time I saw his angry rant to Ted about him abandoning him I thought "Is this little shit for real?"
But on my second watching of the series, I kept a closer eye on Nate, and I really understand why he feels so alone and undervalued. All the little accidental jabs at his worth and impact as a man. All the times in S2 where he's reduced to just a static side-character after his explosive growth upwards in the first season under Ted's tutelage made him feel like he could take on the world. The fact that none of his former mentors seem interested in him individually, only as part of the coaching group. He's the friend who walks behind the others, when there is only room for 3 on the sidewalk. Did you know that the Episode 10 scene in season 2 is the first scene that's just between him and Ted in the entire season? Nate WAS abandoned.
However,
His self-depricating and self-centered mind just isn't capable of accepting the fact that it's not malevolence that kept Ted from supporting him all season, but the fact that Ted, whom Nate saw as an almost perfect person, is a very troubled man himself, trapped in his own mind. He wasn't in a position of mental surplus, ready to stand by Nate, like he was in the first season 1. Nate saw it as personal, but it never was.
Nate is in the wrong, but he's far more sympathetic than I gave him credit for. He's a truly sad character. Wonderfully written and wonderfully acted.
And I am always a sucker for properly done Anakin Skywalker stories.
Spot on. And I would add 2 things:
- I don't think the perceived "abandonment" is only due to Ted dealing with his own issues and not having as much room for Nate as a result. I believe it's a part of it, but I think that after Ted helped Nate find some confidence and start coming into his own, he sort of stepped down - he trusted Nate, he saw that he was capable enough and didn't need him to hold his hand anymore. He gave him the initial boost and support he needed and then left him with the trust that he will continue to develop on his own. But of course, given Nate's past experiences and his fragile ego and sense of self-worth, he read that a lot differently... I feel like he's kind of expecting the worst possible motives from Ted.
- Nate is also projecting here. I think he's saying to Ted what he really should be saying to his dad but he isn't ready to face that yet. He's very much influenced by the way his father made him feel and he sees Ted as a sort of surrogate father figure, so it's no wonder that these feelings get all jumbled up for him.
I think that scene when Ted reads the letter... the acting is just phenomenal. Brilliant. We don't know what was in there but we get so many feelings just by seeing is face
Sir Alex was an interesting example because he was actually incredibly mindful of mental health when it came to players. His man management and ability to adapt his approach to the personalities of different players was one of his biggest strengths. He definitely came from the 'hard as nails' background and had a temper but he was always progressive in his approach. He was a surprisingly innovative and mindful manager of not just his squad but everyone at Carrington. It's how he engendered so much loyalty from his staff. I think when most people picture him its screaming on the sidelines but his one-on-one approach with the people around him shouldn't be underestimated. He's never someone you could easily pigeon hole. Hard as nails, Glaswegian shop floor steward footballer turned manager - and yet for all the stereotype that sentence affords, one of his closest friends was a drag queen!
Wow. 9:30 "We are more likely to remember factual events that are in keeping with that emotion, if we predominantly labeled something as negative we're more than likely to remember all the negative aspects of it when we know actually nearly everything in life is full of shades of gray even if the negatives really did outweigh the positives."
My dad died back in February (of alzheimers) and like just yesterday I was suddenly wondering what kind of good memories I do have from him, as the bad ones are the strongest and I've probably been thinking more of those for a long time, I could only come up with a couple vague ones and I wondered why. Because I'm pretty sure I should have more good moments than just those.
I've already grieved the loss of him and the relationship that never was; mostly during my teenager years and I've since he died mostly come to a sort of peace with that. But I've never really thought of it like you said, that I'm more likely to remember all the bad memories from our relationship because of my overall negative feeling of it. That's why all the good memories are weaker and harder to remember. It just feels like that explains some of it. Really interesting!
Such an interesting video! I love Ted Lasso, but as someone who has had mental health problems there were also some really useful insights here. The comment about providing safety/containment without problem solving is very interesting, I've often noticed that when someone opens up about their problems, people sometimes react by immediately suggesting lots of possible solutions which isn't always helpful.
I originally thought that people being scandalized by a coach having panic attacks was jarringly unrealistic. Thank you for saying that the show is right on target. I hope that the writers can hear your praise. I can't wait to hear your take on Season 3. I hope to hear a little about Jane Payne, even though she is a minor character. She gets a lot of hate from viewers, and I'd like a compassionate look at what's going in with her.
As soon as Dr. Sharon said she hated tea, Ted was like "I'll tell you everything". He kept trying to connect with her and it was her loathing of tea that made the connection.
Great video, as always! Loved hearing you talk about the ending of a therapy relationship, and would be interested in hearing you talk about it more - when it is time (either as a therapist or patient) to end it and how to go start that transition.
So there’s an important little detail (which I’m surprised that the series never paid off) about that last scene with Nate.
Nate complains that Ted doesn’t have the picture that he gave him up in his office, and that’s obviously a huge deal for him. But when Ted has his panic attack before the funeral, you see the picture - it’s in Ted’s room on his dresser, with the pictures of his family.
Watching your reaction to ted lasso, at times was difficult, because it articulated a lot of things I felt while watching the series. I however, feel much more at peace on the whole, having done so. Thank you Doctor Elliot
The weirdest panic attack I ever had: I wasn't actually having.
I _dreampt_ I was having a panic attack. Very real, felt just like other panic attacks I had; the moment I woke up it was all gone, faster than throwing a switch. Took longer to recover from the whiplash.
Same here.
My mom quit in my early 20s. She was very troubled. She talked openly and frequently about her desire from the time I was 7. Maybe earlier but that’s my earliest memory of the issue. She asked me within the prior year, for the first time, “Was I a bad parent?” I said “Yes, but I can’t be the one to help you with that.”
Thanks for doing the Ted Lasso breakdowns. This show means a lot to me and (I imagine) many others. It’s refreshing to hear thoughtful insights from someone with expertise instead of the generic pop culture commentary so many other TH-cam channels thrive on - which isn’t to demean anybody else’s work, but I think the themes of Lasso merit what you bring to the table.
Please keep it up!
Picking a single scene that stuck with me is difficult, as there were so many powerful moments.
But if I had to pick one, it would be at Rebecca's Dad's funeral; where she's trying to give the eulogy and unable to go on, then she starts singing Rick Astley's song (discussed earlier in the show) but even then falters; and despite all the hurt Ted's been feeling up until that moment, he shows that he's one of the most caring, loving, and loyal friends anyone could ever hope for by joining in and getting the whole procession to join in with him.
If everyone had a friend like Ted, the world would be a much kinder place.
15:35 It really boggles my mind that most people completely disregard how Nate feels only because he hurt Ted. That comparison is a good angle.
My issue with Nate is not that he hurt Ted. My issue is the absurd narrative Nate builds around him. Ted didn't "abandon" (15:07) Nate. Nate is still a coach on Ted's team! They work together frequently. That is completely different from Ted's dad's suicide. It's true that Ted was not paying as much attention to Nate as he was in S1, but that's because Ted had other things to deal with and because Nate was already in a much better position in S2 _thanks to Ted._ Nate says he tried "to make you like me again. But the more I did, the less you cared". The idea that Ted didn't like him or didn't care was all in Nate's head to begin with. Ted was just busy.
I think Nate is an interesting character, and well-written, but I don't _like_ him at this point and I don't think his monologue here in any way justifies his decisions.
@@theadamabrams Nor did Ted's father "quit on his family", he was just ill. That's why it's a good angle, because the aggrieved person isn't considering what the other one is going through.
@@douglas2938 Did Ted's dad have a specific illness? Of course being suicidal is being ill in a sense, but I still say comparing Ted's relationship with his dad to Nate's relationship with Ted is unfair. Nate could have talked to Ted explicitly earlier in the season (instead of unloading all of this in 2x11 after he's clearly already decided it's too late). Ted's dad killed himself when Ted was 16, so there was/is no way for Ted to tell him what he thinks anymore.
@@theadamabrams I think there's another dimension that a lot of people ignore when looking at Nate's blowup: the influence of Rupert. Rupert begins talking to Nate in Episode 10, and he clearly already has plans to buy West Ham to get back at Rebecca (and also maybe Ted). Taking Nate is part of those plans, and as we see from Season 3, Rupert is incredibly convincing. The narrative Nate spews out here may all have been Rupert whispering words in his ear, though the insecurities that fuel them are all Nate's and have been building up all season. Note that it isn't until after Rupert starts talking to Nate that Nate starts to question Ted's authority.
@@theadamabrams Coulda, shoulda, woulda... There's always a better approach to any action within a show because the story needs conflict. The point is that both Nate and Ted still feel that way towards people who had other (more serious even) stuff on their plate.
yay more ted lasso !! i'm not sure if you've seen s3 already, but if not i'm sure you'll find tons to talk about regarding boundaries in therapy. i'm looking forward to hearing your commentary :)
I've enjoyed all of the Ted Lasso videos A LOT! Hopefully you'll do at least one more that looks into season 3 when all the episodes are out.
Thank you so much for covering this great show
Found my new favourite Dr reacts channel!
Finding this delightfully uplifting & informative as a Dr who is not a Psychiatrist but sees a lot of mental health 🥰
OMG, this is such a great channel! I really love all the good I get from it. And I've never even watched the show Dr. Carthy is talking about.
Wow, this series looks amazing and I gotta watch this noe
Wish I could watch Ted Lasso, but not sure I want to shell out for Apple TV. Would love to see you do My Mad Fat Diary!
"I just want to give him a hug"
I will give you one!
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Quick comment to say love your channel, and for the algorithm.
Try watching Nile Wilson's videos about his battles with addiction and mental health after injuries forced him to retire from Olympic level Gymnastics. The culture of normalised abuse that is part of the sport at all levels and different nations.
Thank you!!!
This makes me want to start watching this show. Would love to see your take on "that" episode of Succession, if you watch that.
I would love to see a reaction to Colin's storyline from season 3.
Please do S4E03 of Succession, it's about a marriage.
Yesssss please!
I never got a letter when my therapy ended 😢
S3 has a LOT more you'll want to comment on.
What did you say when Ted was talking about the book report and we couldn't hear you?
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The just be a prick line, stop pretending you're something that you're not
I feel a strong anger towards Nate that feel like a kick in the balls
I know my comment has nothing to do with this video. But u are a psychiatrist and maybe u can help me. How do i know for sure im transgender and not just living in my head. Watching videos of trans men going through their transition made my jaw drop! I couldn't believe it! Growing up i thought the closest to being a man was being a woman with short hair and thts about it. I never wated to go through female puberty and become a woman, but i went with it, cuz thts what society expected of me. I never became very feminine, but i did okay. I didn't really care to be honest, i just accepted it and moved on... As a kid growing up i was a boy all the way. I even had my own perception of being a boy in my head... But watching these videos of trans men, i cant describe it... It was amazing... And i want to transition too, but im afraid, becuz theres no going back. Plz can u help me better understand this and how i can be 100% sure i know where i stand with my sexuality? Ive always wanted masculine features, like a beard and my interests aren't actually very feminine... Plz help me out i would appreciate it so much
First things first: TH-cam comments probably won't get you on the path you need, for that you need experts in real life. These days you can even find those that are sensitive towards specific situations (which can be hard if you live in a backwater country like the UK, for example).
Secondly: Cis people generally do not have these thoughts and if they do, it's only in a fleeting way. Does that mean you can be sure? No. But it makes it very likely. Either way, on your path to transitioning you will be met with all kinds of question to check whether you're really, really sure - so you will (for better or for worse) have a long time before any irreversible changes will happen.
Thirdly: There are non-commital ways to test things out. You can find a community, check out trans-focused subreddits. It can be little things like being adressed with the pronouns you prefer. From experiencing trans people around me, even that can say so much. How does it feel if I call you a man, perhaps you even have a name already bouncing around your head you'd like to be called. If it feels right and good to be adressed this way, that also says so much.
Fourthly: Due to all the hurdles there are, only about 2% of people who transition regret it afterwards. That's far far less than with any other surgery. Meanwhile those 98% will lead much better lives than they would otherwise. Some will still struggle with all the arsehole transphobes that would deny them their rights, but even so, there's a lot of happiness to be found when you get to be who you are.
Ultimately, the best way to start on your path to figuring things out depends a lot on the country you live in, so it's hard to provide concrete information on where to go. It's definitely a daunting journey (figuring out who you are always is), but every journey needs a first step.
@@DrZaius3141 wow thank u so much for the advice! Yes, i do have a name. 1 i choose back when i was 9. Sean... I live in south africa. Ppl here are quite accepting. Im going to see my psychiatrist during this week. But he isnt like a therapist. Im gonna hear what he thinks. Im not really someone who into the whole pronouns thing like for example he/they or pronouns tht dont really fit. All id want is him/he.
This is very scary and exciting at the same time! But i need to go through the right procedures just to be 100% sure! I saw videos of transition for the 1st time in 2015 and... I cant believe it... My childhood image of what i could have looked like as a man and something tht was depressing to think about, knowing i would never look like tht, is actually possible! I can have a beard, become masculine... I wish i describe how in shock i was and how i watched their videos for hours! I still struggle to believe what i see (i know these guys are real) but just how i grew up coming to terms with what i became.
My fears are also, what if i dont make the cut? Ive programmed myself to fit this narrative im living right now, can i break free from tht?
A lot of ppl say, tht there aren't so many trans ppl out there and this is just some trend... But i disagree... Sometimes u can see them without them having gone through any therapy or treatment...
Is there a genetic component to this? Becuz im 85% sure i have a family member who might also be trans... She will never admit it, but we grew up together and i still see in her what i saw in myself back then.
@@duplooy6704 Well, Sean, even if your psychiatrist is out of their depth on the topic, most psychs will have a large network of contacts to refer you to someone who has the experience and expertise in a certain field. Either way you should be safe to talk to them about it and see where you go from there.
From what I understand, FTM is a lot "easier" with regards to bodily changes. Beard, muscles and voice all change pretty well with HRT. On top of that, women are much more scrutinized for their looks, so the struggle to "pass" (I hate that word) is much more taxing for MTF.
The entire "trend" debate is stupid. It's just that we're finally able to identify it and have solid ways for a transition. It's not that there are now more trans people than before, just more who came out of the closet.
@@DrZaius3141 thank for ur advice and support. I hope he'll help me find the right qualified ppl.
The whole "pass" thing is stupid. Trans women do have it hard and yes this trend tht u should live up to expectations are stupid... I only learned as an adult how to do the whole make up thing. The art of hair is still a mystery to me! Sometimes i can get it right-ish, most of the time not. Lol. Thank u again for helping me out with advice and actually responding to my comments! I feel so alone when it comes to this...
They say being transgender is a mental illness. I saw it in the DSM 5 as well. Is it really a mental illness?
@@duplooy6704 I mentioned looking for communities (like on Reddit, Tumblr, and so on) which should do wonders against feeling alone. With our current knowledge we expect about 100 million people on Earth to be trans, so you're definitely far from being alone.
The way I remember the framing in the DSM-5 is that it's about the dysphoria. Being trans isn't a disorder, but not being able to transition and having to live a life that doesn't fit isn't healthy, and thus a disorder. Even so, myopia is an illness - but once you get your treatment (usually glasses), you have no issues anymore. And it would take an absolute moron to think that people who do need classes are in any way less worthy humans, just like it would take an absolute moron to think that people who are trans are in any way less worthy humans. So whether something is seen as an illness or not seems irrelevant to me. But I wager that the inclusion in the DSM is so that it allows therapists to help in that regard, so it needs to be listed.
It's sad that a fictional show gets more attention for mental health in sports than real life cases like Simone Biles and Ricky Williams and Michael Phelps, etc.
If there's someone that proved you can win Drag Race without being pretty is... Bianca Del Rio
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