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5 Signs of Narcissistic Texting
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5 signs of narcissistic texting
Are you dealing with a potential narcissist and want to know what some narcissistic texting signs are? Narcissists use text messaging in the same way they use everything else. The potential narcissist in your life might be texting you all day, sending random text messages, ignoring your text messages or all of the above. Watch this video to find out the texting habits and styles of narcissists so that you can learn how to ignore them or deal with them when they come.
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Smh
Your a narcissist protecting your shame is easy to see.
It is actually rare that a psychologist will clinically diagnose someone a narcissist. The word narcissist is thrown around alot and abused if you ask me when almost everyone exhibits some traits that cause them to be labeled a narcissist when maybe they are just arrogant, mean, jealous, or a jerk.
SMH!!!!
@@sonnyh9774 q
Anyone who declares their love for you when you hardly know them raises red flags for me.
My ex said I love you shortly after we dated and I remember asking him why does he love me or what does he love about me. I thought it was unusual since we havent known each other for long. I really wish I left after seeing that red flag.
Yes this!!
You guys are HELLA FUNNY. Ijs declaring love for someone u barely know IS NOT STRANGE its called love at first sight you idiot
@@deborahwiser6516 The so-called love at first sight is just strong attraction. True love takes time to build.
@@deborahwiser6516 so mean of you to call someone an idiot, you probably are an old outdated narc, or probably dated a narc and still is stuck on stupid !!!! BITTER BETTY 😊😊
I found mirroring them makes them go away. When they brag, one up them. When they disappear, go no contact. When they go on their classic rants, act uninterested. Mine said we were “not compatible” after a few months of me mirroring him.
The biggest flags are confusion, putting others down, trying to make you jealous or withholding affection. Everything is on their time and they need complete control at all times. I have met so many men like this, it is sick. If you play back you’ll be labelled a bitch and difficult. I believe they are looking for fans, not partners.
You're 💯 correct with everything you said , I went no contact for three weeks , he couldn't stand it., it's about always them baiting you to see if the door is still open for them to play their next game.
Yes exactly! Basically they don’t want a real friend they want someone to kiss their butt and make them feel better about their miserable selves so they can keep up their imagined view of themselves and when you don’t they get angry because someone else saw the truth that they are one miserable individual
@@joshleonaherndon6199 They want groupies and followers. Not anything deep, meaningful or realistic. If you say anything disparaging about them, no matter how truthful, they are on the hunt for a more agreeable yes-man.
That's brilliant, never heard someone put it that way. Excellent!
Lol. I dated someone who talked about other women all the time. Instead of saying anything about it, I would just talk about another dude or an ex. He never caught on. He just thought I had some kind of problem with wanting every dude on the planet. 😐
They definitely don’t text all about themselves. They’ll ask very personal questions to find the hot button topics to trigger you later.
Yes was thinking about this lol
Malignant ones will defo want to get to know your triggers and cash them in at their convenience.
@Watercolor Lyric: in my case with a female narc texting was all done in short sentences.
If I came to a point of confusion, feeling mockery from her side she would go on into: "hey, I'm just joking" and mostly talking of her swell-good times she had in her life (travellings aboard to Italy with her ex-boyfriend, being an actress in a theater, playing handball for the school team, etc...), even adding how she was up for a EU project for an animal shelter and because of Covid-19 it all got cancelled!
Through messages she presented herself all almighty and how everyone else around her (including her ex-boss, her ex-boyfriends, mum, dad and brother) are chicken-shit compared to her!
When we would meet she would continue with such attitude and elaborate even more with her own words... all while looking for my reactions to it (screaming that I provide humble kindness and understanding to it) so she could rub it immediately to my face and abuse me verbally (and by our last meeting even physically)!
She would even ask me insane questions like: "can you avoid of cumming by thinking of a cuckroach if I told you that during our intercourse"? Intercourse never happened and such quizzy questions were there just to startle up her imagination, giving only promises of "commitment" and leaving everything of our relationship to imagination!
She sold me an ilussion and she was exactly that (talking ofcourse of her good side that never existed all while the bad side is the only side of her)!
Everything (as I learned the hard way) was just a lie with her (the only thing I believe about her is that she was once an actress during high-school at a theater-most likely she learned her craft there)! Her "victimization" came of just as an cheap excuse to torment me and abuse me hardcore and put me down to the dirt, lacking humanity and moving forward with an attitude of a godess!
Agreed. Thats how mine kept me from leaving. Pure fear.
Yes, indeed. So despicable creatures.
Recently I was hit on by a narcissist big time. When I shared I was a Christian he told me God sent him to me. It was like he honestly thought he was saving me. No thanks, I’m already saved.
lol...I know that's right!!!
Amen to that!!! Perfect response!!
OMG. The guy I dated stated the exact same thing. He said God sent him to teach me a lesson.
I have told a narcissistic which God knowing it wasn't my Creator.
Perhaps God did send him your way. You don't specify if he was a believer but I am sure you took the opportunity to witness and lead him to Christ if he was not.
The only time they ask about you... Is when they want to know where you are, and who you're with.
Usually due to their anxiety about you getting close to someone else.
Going through each of the comments has blown away the living Hell out of me.. dead on point for each and every one.. it just amazes me how similar they ALL are!! 🤦♀️
What you doing where are you
only thing he ever ask me.
Smh
That's just jealousy. Not all people like that are narcissistic.
@@heathercarr7376 so did I Heather.... Until she hacked my Facebook... And then had more fuel to call me a liar and blame everything on me x
I just got out of an ordeal with a Narc. I dont even want to date anymore
I don't blame you for feeling that way.
But please don't forget not all men are Narcs.
@@missta1820 Thank You 😊
5 months after leaving a narc illusionship rollercoaster ride...I’m feeling more stable slowly, but I’m in your boat...scared to death of starting to trust a new person again. I used to be a compulsive dater. Not any more. Hang out by myself a lot at home. I used to hate being by myself. Now it feels safest.. Lot more healing to do before I can think about that again..
@@mindylehrman6471 Yess and i truly have to learn alot about myself and why i draw these types into my life. Its like they sniff me out. Gotta build my self esteem up too
Totally agree, most stressful year and a half I’ve ever been in my 53 years of life
The coverts are sooo much trickier...they are PR experts and can seem like such good people..
@@christianpulisic7784 bet u say that to all the girls! Hehe..
@@christianpulisic7784 a hippie from Australia. 🐭
@@christianpulisic7784 no, sorry, I find this sort of communication highly suspiscious. I hope you grow a soul and stop preying on hard working women who DO NOT DESERVE YOUR EVIL.
Yep. It’s like they know all the traits of narcissism and hide them .
This is true. They do nothing publicly to be exposed. No paper trail. Just make you look like the crazy one.
Not gonna lie I thought it was olivia from law and order at a distance 😂
Right she is beautiful
Same😂🤣
Lol, me too
Bahahaha Mariska Hargitay lol
Absolutely
He will text me when he wants something and will not answer my questions. He ignores anything I say and will repeat over and over what he wants..
Yes they selectively answer your questions..slobs
Even me he don't reply but he do what I want but never reply .what's this?
Its always about sex, they send that to everyone, they kept naked foto's form their girl Friends and show it to you , they do trioos ... everything without bounderies or commitment
@@brigittevannuffel3653 yea .
@@brigittevannuffel3653 Exactly he would always asked me for pictures and then he would never respond to anything else
Honestly I am only attracting narcissistic people while dating and I am empath, so I honestly I don’t know how to stop attracting them!
Because empaths are attractive, you know-having a soul and all.... even, especially to vampires.
Don’t share your best qualities with just about anyone . Be careful when people complain and your first reaction is that you want to help - don’t voice it . Things like that . There are videos here on TH-cam that will help you . Much love to you , stay safe ❤️
Gladys Serrano,You don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Start putting your hopes and dreams and wishes first, before theirs. Don’t change yourself for someone. That will make them go away.
get some counseling to learn about your weaknesses to shore up those triggers
If you call them out on something they text that’s really messed up and they can’t weasel their way out they’ll always say: “well I was just joking” “I was just just playing around “
Or they play victim lol
Absolutely!!
WTF, it's like they ALL read the same "rule book" or learned the same strategies on how to manipulate 🤦♀️
"Only stirrin mate, just stirrin ya hahaha hahaha"
ALWAYS! Such a quick and sure sign is the repeated “I’m just kidding” over and over about things that they obviously were NOT kidding about but feel stupid because you called them out.
I have found one of the best things you can do is remain SILENT. Don't show ANY emotion. If you rise to a emotional level they will calmly tell you..."you are CRAZY". My Narc would rile me up to the point of almost insanity and then look at me and smile and say..."my God you need help"!! AHHHHHH
Exactly point on
Omg the same I was told I need a room of psychiatrists
Mine would say, okay okay we don't have to talk about it before you go bipolar. You're looking at them like, you really are crazy!
Me too! He is the only one capable of doing this to me too
Yea and then when i actually called a therapist and set an apoointment they was like why are you doing that. Bc they know when you talk to a professional your are not the crazy one. Exactly to the t
My stbx narc calls and the conversation goes:
Me: Hello
Him: he tells me all about his day on and on and on until hes finished talking about himself.
Him: Gotta go talk later.
Me: BYE!
ALWAYS ABOUT HIM!!
So true!
So many friends do this!
You posting sounds Soooo familar. I get many messages of her day, troubles , potential suitors
Yet when I respond,,,, nothing response for days.
Serena Fulton,you don't deserve to be with a narcissist!
Exactly what my ex narc did on the phone and he still hoovers and lies in texts telling me he's changed and loves me. There is no accountability whatsoever. No adult conversation. No effort to make things right. If I answer his text back, he's gone again. It's completely sick and he's 50 years old now with 3 short term marriages under his belt. He asks all women to marry him within 3 months with a cheap ring in the beginning to future fake and then dumps them.
"I cant believe i met someone like you."
LOL!! More like.. "I'm so glad I got rid of that B*tch" is the reality.
@@patr70 omg it's exhausting 😩
And in discard " I wish I never met you"
😑Then drop you in a sec.
@@nataliebrowne7801 we should be the ones saying that...
My narcissist did all that but also asked me my fears and my dreams. Then used them against me to keep me scared to leave.
My experience also, it’s soul destroying
This exactly
I honestly believe just about every person in my life....family, relationships, is a narcissist.
The thing is we all have narcissistic tendencies in us just bc we are humans but it’s the degree of narcissism that lets you know if they are a full on narc.
😳yikes thats a magnet of trouble run
Me too! Hell isn’t it ??? Empaths attract them like flies!! I married one, came from a family of them, my children are both narcs then my granddaughters are too!! Me me me me me!!!! That’s all I hear from them! When I have a problem they run, ghost me, don’t support me, too busy or my favorite I forgot sorry!! Too old and sick to leave now but gonna start caring for me only and watch them go berserk!! Lol living in a clown world of abuse!! Of course I’m the devil because they don’t understand why I can’t do something for them considering it’s so easy for me and they find it so demeaning to do what I can do so I’m not being a good person if I don’t do what they want????????? Lol
@@kattbeaches6249 That’s heartbreaking! I’m so sorry! Self-care is super important in this situation and so is very strong boundaries. Don’t let them exploit you! I grew sick and tired of constantly giving even though I’m a very kind and generous person, but it’s awful when people just want to take and never give. Zero support when you need it yet they expect you to be always there for them in every way. I’m dedicating 2021 to a fresh start, now I have just about gotten over years of covert narcissistic abuse. Lots of love and take care! xx
@Sandielou69 you are not the only one! Both my parents and my sister are!! Many family members including my maternal grandmother!!! I had to cut off my entire family as my parents are the pillars in each of their respective families!!! Honey it's horrible!!! And my ex husband! I was groomed to attract these sharks!! Past 2 years I've been healing
Mindfulness
Meditation
Music therapy!!! You will realize how many female artists speak on narcissist lovers!!!
Learning to mother myself
Cut off toxic friends as well
Changed jobs!!! No longer resonated diagnosing children with mental illnesses, whos parents are to blame for!!
I now love myself and have a relationship with God. I trust my intuition!! And take time to reflect before I act.
Sending you lots of love!!!!! We need you!! You will be healed, strong and will be able to cut their supply. They will be isolated, forced to recover! As we had to recover from having loose boundaries. But away from us!!!
All of what you mentioned are exactly what lower and mid-grade level narcissists do.
There are 'higher' level narcissists, who actually spend a great deal of time asking you questions so they can mirror you and use the information to their benefit, at a later time. In fact, these narcissists come off as being very empathetic because they are so curious about your day and whom you've talked to and why you feel the way you do about a subject.
They are very hard to spot, it takes a lot of time and watching their patterns.
H.G. Tudor is a self -exclaim higher narcissist. It did help me understand the levels of narcissism and to identify and leave my 'higher' narcissist.
These types do not get angry (or you do not see their anger) and are not usually possessive. They do have power and/or money and are very smooth and also can be philanthropist. They're usually well liked with a large group of friends/flying monkeys. It can take years to spot one, if you haven't already been entangled with one.
Have you experienced this type of narcissist?
I have, these types understand human psychology and use that to their advantage. That way it becomes difficult to spot them.
Yes they think their a genius.
The only way these types can get in is to latch onto holes in your boundary. Really low level attachment trauma content (wounds). As hard as it is to believe, narcissists cannot and do not ever drive these relationships.
The projecting “empath” repeats their unresolved early attachment relationships with caregivers in order to finally find out the emotional truth of self and individuate from family of origin.
They are attracted to people who have “seen it before” and are in utter denial about that fact. Worse yet, if the target blames the narcissist, that’s a really good source of dopamine (supply).
@@WDBDWK Agree.
This type of narcissist are very secretive, thinker, Calm, and liar.
I totally don’t even need to watch this to already know what texting a narcissist is like. My ex was a textbook narcissist and Those days were so painful for me.
I totally feel you on the “textbook” narcissist. My ex literally had every trait and did every example you could possibly hear about what a narc do or can do. It’s almost like my ex went to school to study narcissism. Not to help people but to become one. I’m glad those painful days are behind you. They can really screw up ones faith in humanity.
OMG....spot on!!! I never got the love bombing, but endured 6 years of projection, alcoholism, dysfunction and toxicity. I am in the NO CONTACT zone and he continues to blow my phone up with threats. NO CONTACT BUDDY....There is a reason you have no friends....
And they constantly are telling you you how bad they have it, and tell you that you need help for yourself.
Some of the narcissistic abusers in my life would communicate with me STRICTLY via text, & refuse to CALL me, but calls everyone else. At the same time, draining my phone battery quickly.
Yes these blobs think they're too superior to you to call you or answer your calls. They want to communicate on their terms only and don't care if youd like to talk on the phone they will purposely never return your calls to make you feel worthless but that's Projection they are the worthless ones. Fuck those slobs I've blocked them all, block delete BYE forever narcoslob!!
@@narcpoacher7708 Yep. I'm weeding out all the Narcissistic Abusers in my life. They no longer have rulership over me.
Yep I was the one doing the phone calls. I wondered if what'sapp shuts down what will happened to the relationship. But I ended it blocked and deleted contacts
Yes my ex narc did that. All conversation via text. I didn’t understand that
@@jozzz222 Makes us feel lower than human.
I just stopped caring after 3 years. Now he thinks he is hoovering me but I really do not care. I’m actually just ready for him to disappear again
❤️
imagine that free life without being that text addict to anyone.. omg.. when dealing with narcissists u are always filled with that unknown fear...
Hey sameeeee!!!
Yess they want you to text them all day it’s draining
SMH. he sent me so many random pics of himself smiling or happy....ish. they were kinda creepy
Bunnyfufu Lee,you don't deserve to be with a narcissist !
I had one that I was taking to thru text and phone (never met in person at this point) and he was calling and texting 24 times a day (I counted). Then texting me his baby pictures 😂. I told him it's not gonna work out.
that's super creepy. its kinda strange how they need constant contact. and draining.
Yessss! He sent so many pics of himself. Crazy
Omg, yes! I sometimes received just selfies - no text accompanying it. He would just lay it there and waiting, fishing for my compliments. So draining. And of course he would send those same selfies to other girls at the same time, waiting to feed on their compliments.
I'm surprised they don't realize that it's such a turn off and that it's draining.
The love bombing in my case were cute emoji's and more emoji's and of course future faking and verifiable lies and gaslighting and we had just started! I cut off the contact. I don't need more narcs in my life I''m done with those people!
My experience is that they will text 5 long wall texts over a 30 minute time span and not even care if I’m not responding 🤦♂️
I think it was Sam Vaknin who originally said why it was that they do this. They are interacting with a snapshot that they projected out. You don’t need to be there. The questions becomes why would we be able to “dance” with that vibe and dynamic? It doesn’t work without the dopamine supplier.
Talking to themselves in text...
They also, love the sound of their own voice
This is so so not cool I'm pissed off because mine lives in the lot next door to where I stay and I got to sneak out of my house and s*** and I've known her for 20 years!! Well we've been on the actual knowing part of her for I've been with her 2 years as an actual relationship more than friendship. They're not romantic at all and I can't stand that because they want you to be and they do one thing nice for you oh my God you better praise them. How am I going to leave my house y'all and my daughter and her daughter are sisters basically but her daughter is identical to her and my daughter and her got into a blowout the other day and I told my daughter she's going to be grounded for her for a while because I got to protect her and then I got pulled back into the trap to protect my daughter by talking to 😡😡😨
I do this I thought I just always had a mouth full. I guess im a narc? Im a heyoka its hard discerning sometimes. I been in narc relationship i think its me being a dreamy pisces and then i be scared im a little too compassionate so i pull back I ghost ppl but not to be mean to protect my peace
@@khadijahislambey2476
it’s not the ‘once in a while’ overtexting ~ it’s the every day and constant wall texting that makes it abusive. Narcs weaponize their cell phones and social media to abuse and exploit their victims.
The entitlement. The #1 sign. Hidden between the lines in text messages. You will feel it in your gut: you want to defend or explain yourself. Big red flag. 🚩 Keep up the good work, Rebecca. How aware are you (being an attorney who reads loads of paperwork) of the entitlement of a narcissist?
The first flag for me is confusion. Just when you think things are going well, they act like they don’t know you. I had one come back after three weeks telling me he could see himself having kids with me. When I went back to him, he said he didn’t actually mean it. I was confused needless to say.
This is sooo true. Feeling the need to justify your worth😱
The best thing to do to get rid of a narcissist on the phone is ask them to listen to a very long fart.
😁😁😁 I needed that
Whenever I started talking to him he started sleeping😴 and just switched off the leave you talking to yourself🤦🤦🤦
@@hansenlove7438 He would sleep on me too. He would sleep even when we were trying to resolve a conflict 🤦🏾♀️and would apologize the following day. I got tired of it and I would 'sleep' too to leave him hanging. I later on went no contact due to him being an international fisi and I couldn't take the lies anymore.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Actually my narcissist would say his fart is better!!! 👍🏻👍🏻😉💋
I didnt get any pictures from a narc. Interesting the narc asked me for pictures all the time to assess my looks and if i am actually looking good in that moment. The narc bragged alot about himself, his accomplishments, and talked poorly of people in text message. It is a yucky feeling texting with a narc.
Most likely the grandiose type, those are quite superficial and shallow, very much appearance based, they like to be surrounded by good looking people, they actually have the guts to call other people ugly, or looser.
@@mikefozzer6415 trust me coverts are as superficial
The narc: "If you don't send me any pictures I'll get them from other women and it's your fault and I don't want to hear ..ish about it.
Yep, truth.
Same here. The narc would ask me pictures everyday but he won't send a selfie. He also asked me naked pics and I never sent one because that's just odd. I feel like he would do something bad about it, the feeling is scary lol
My narc ex, would constantly send me unsolicited pics of themselves and would absolutely put others down. Called people losers and actually said that her OWN cousin who was dealing with her dying mother "fat and ugly" . It is UNREAL.
The passive aggressive bully in our family-such a BULLY! If you call him out he Cries and says “shut up my dog died!”
That what they do
wow
😅😆😂
That's wild 👀
I was horrified when I opened my eyes. I walked and walked faster with no contact. AFTER 10 years she still contacts me . Never responded to keep myself safe. I'm autistic and was extremely abused by her. I'm happy after 23 year of marriage
And anything you tell them they have to one up on you, and everything they have gone thru and tell lies one after another
That’s so hilarious that you said they send you pics of themselves, unasked for. The biggest malignant narcissist I ever use to send pic after pic of themselves. The funny thing was he would send old pics or recycled pics and you could TELL!!! 😂 After I broke up with him I spoke to a few of his old gfs and we all got the same pic!!! He was obsessed with himself. Poor girl that’s with him has to be miserable. 🤣😂🤣
So true. A girl I dated, used to send me snaps of herself all the time lol. Man was I fooled. She got me good. Lucky I figured out her games early, and ran!!
Omg I was wondering why he kept sending me the same picture 😂 but demanded I sent him updated ones wtf!!
Sounds like my ex too
I had one who kept sending his baby pics😂. And then his 1st Communion pics😂 And on and on. All day long. 24 texts a day I counted. (And I hadn't even met him at that point, we talked thru a dating app). I told him this isn't gonna work out🤣
@@goodmorningsundaymorning4533 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Your a very smart & observant woman. Hate to ever tangle with you? Lol. Thank you for your advice on narcissists. Seems like more narcissists around now than the 80's & 90's.
The single parent epidemic is breeding narcissists - especially sons raised without fathers. Mama's boys are notorious narcs.
Ha the internet has become the narcissists worst nightmare, 🔥them. 👍
I took the lovebombing and relished the weekend ghosting for 8 weeks and I didn't ever initiate communication and when I was done with being pestered I ignored him and he went into meltdown ....job done! Toxic he asked me if I'm looking for someone new and I said ' yes someone who has time for me '.....the future faking ends with me in the first lie....don't get hoovered people your already clean.
I like this
I got the selfie text a lot. Always knew deep down, he was trying to show a deceptive true self
Mine used to send an almost daily pic and sometimes provocative ones at night
And his cat too
I liked it. I used to save them, etc
Then that became weaponized. Now I get pictures when he’s luring me back in or pleased w me, etc.
Pics are now a manipulative tool
I get that a lot too.
Never realized how dark and evil his eyes had become after the break up.
My narc won't stop texting me so to get some peace I open youtube and this is first in my feed!
They always want to align themselves to you so that they gain control. If you say you love picnics, they'll bombard you with picnics until you hate them. My mother is this way...I've stopped giving her any ideas because she steals them then pretends it's hers.
I'm glad to see someone mentioning their mother. Mine is the same way
They text, you answer, and they don't answer for 5 HOURS!!!!!..... then text back the same thing...... That's a BIG RED FLAG!! My friend also was SO happy to go do something the next day, but in the morning, she didn't feel like going. That happened so much I got sick of it.
WOW ! I also get text responses with hours delay. Thanks for the warning.
Two days and then a response as if nothing had happened. Utterly bizarre...
@lindyLooo99 really!? can't some just be bad at texting? or be in the middle of something? I mean texting back after 2 days is much I'll be like forget that and that would be a warning to me but not texting after a few hours I can understand...
He did this ALL the time
This makes me laugh. I often don't respond to people for a day or so. What's the hurry? I keep my notifications off. Stop being addicted to your phone.
Everything you said here is the truth. That initial love bombing is insane when you are aware. Almost like sale advertisements. It's too much. That's usually when I make my exit if a guy exhibits it.
When trying to talk with him about important and difficult issues between us he would repeat: "Let me call you. I want to SPEAK with you." He could get very aggressive about it: "I DON'T want to have this conversation via text messages." I didn't want to talk with him because he would've just raged at me, lied straightforwardly, twisted the conversation, and put all the blame on me. He couldn't do that via text messages since it would have left a permanent mark. He could've been held accountable. He couldn't let that happen. He was so calculative! It scared me. He could also behave like he hadn't done anything wrong. He wouldn't deny or admit anything. He just totally ignored what I was texting and/or what had happened. And there was a lot of things that had happened.. Scary. Even after the relationship was over he would send me messages like everything was fine. I didn't answer them - of course.
It is scary. That's why I broke things off after 3 months with one final text yesterday. Haven't heard a peep. Thank goodness
Omg.... I net realized this but my ex narc would call me so I can explain what I had explained perfectly well in a text message. Just so I can say it in more words to do exactly like you said. Knowing I wouldn't be as confident over the phone because he would push back on everything I said.
Typical narc insanity.
My ex used to do the same thing because he knew it would drive me nuts. Completely disregard what was said, change the subject and act like nothing happened. 🙄 Even after I broke up with him, he ignored that too and constantly asked if he could come over and make dinner together or ask if we could have sex…something he stopped doing prior just to get under my skin and make me feel unwanted. I would always remind him that he was off topic and he would get so defensive or just silent so I could look crazy for bringing up the topic at hand!
They think they're so clever and hip with these lines that you've heard 300 times before.
Another texting behaviour of a narcissist is sexting. Within days of striking up a conversation with a narcissist they start to turn the convo sexual. They ask for and send inappropriate photos of themselves, and want you to partake in a sexual conversation. My ex narc also sent random selfies of himself often ! I found it very creepy.
Yess
They also guilt trip you about not being sexual enough when YOU BARELY KNOW THEM. I had a guy do this to me and call it a "huge red flag" when I shut everything down. Not gonna work, hunnie.
Yup, it's a game to them
Mine did that within 15 minutes!😉
Yes!!!!!!! I was a nurse during the Covid pandemic and worked seven days a week 16 hour days. We were in different states at the time because of his work . When I got home in the middle of the night, he wanted me to call him to stay on the phone with him for the rest of the night and I said that was fine, but he constantly pressured me to have phone sex even though I had just worked 16 hrs most weeks I averaged 110 hours per week
I wanted to sleep to get back to my shift in just a few hours
He got so pi$$ed when I fell asleep or just said no I’m tired Did not care about me at all
I’m long gone for that trash!
I’ve had a lot of “friends” who behave this way too.
With one of them, I was her “go to” person. Sometimes ghosted for 6 mths or more. She would call me and talk and talk about her current crisis. I would give her about an hour, and try to help her by being supportive... then we would begin to talk about me. In about 5 minutes, suddenly something came up, and she had to go!
Well, I’ve went no contact or grey rock with these ppl... And I’m much more contented, not feeling that I need to shoulder the burdens of these ppl that have absolutely no regard, concern, or interest in what is going on in my life...
Thank you for being a positive force in the world, and educating/empowering others. God bless you. ☺️
Boy that sure sounds familiar
@@shelleywhite5229 wow, why does this resonate with me
Four years, back n forth. I couldn't figure out what was wrong. I mean I knew it was something. Thank you for this video. He have done all things you talked about. I get it now.
Mine was two years and then embarrassing moments on Facebook was enough for me. I left her behind for good!
lena malmberg,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Don't text men in general...unless for practical reasons... He can speak can't he.
Ooooo I like this! I will copy xxxx
It’s 2021, no one speaks on the phone anymore unfortunately 🤷🏼♀️
So true! And agree 💯. I hate texting and refuse to do it. Especially with a man I just met.
Agreed. I despise texting. It’s so impersonal.
No he can't speak when he is cheating on his Wife. (another red flag)
SMH 🤦♀️
In the beginning, there was love bombing and selfies through FB and email. 10 years later, he either ignores, changes subjects or randomly texts.
L Eggleston, you don't deserve to be with a narcissist!
Same!!!
This says to me what I already knew. I cut him off and blocked him but he will come back.
I’m dealing with this now. This experience is the most painful thing I have been through in my entire life. He just can ignore and ghost and I can repeatedly message him asking him what’s wrong? is he ok? I even go as far to say if you don’t wish to have me in your life then just say that and I will not bother u again and he says nothing and I know he sees them. It’s so painful I can’t even think straight.
That's what I said too. If it's over, just tell me. We're both adults. I said it several times. I told him to please not disappear without letting me know. . But noooo. He sends texts about working lot and missing me. Then he disappears for weeks. In one case, 4 months. He's been working at a bar since November. If the situation were reversed and I missed somebody, I would invite them to the bar, and then to breakfast at
Denny's or wherever after closing. I don't go to the bar because I would feel like a stalker or something. And I dont want to 'prove' that I'm some possessive weirdo who shows up at work.
You guys that is exactly what I experience at the moment. We met online, we speak only there and every time I ask for his phone number he find a reason not to give it, even though I gave him mine. I know he's single because we're friends on fb so I don't understand... I will write to him and he takes forever to answer, I told him if he wants a future like he sais I been a phone number I mean I feel as if It's something wrong with me.. What should I do? I need advice..
@Ruqayya Zaheer I can perfectly understand you! I was in a long distance relationship with a narcissist for 3 years and 2 months and we broke up a month ago ... Looking back, I was so stupid of ignoring so many red flags ... I wish I would have finished everything when I had so many occasions to do it, but the mixed feelings they give you and their love bombing when they feel you are about to give up at them (but they don't want that yet at that moment) made me to keep trying giving chances and work to solve issues with the hope that we will end up together and close the distance ...It took me long to realize I was the only one wanting to make it work, but I am glad that finally I had the courage to give him an ultimatimum and tell him either he gives time and commitment or we go each our own way...his reply after 5 days I have written this was a call in which he told me that since I feel uncomfortable in this relationship it's better apart ... and like this 3 years and 2 months of memories, of meeting each other several times and creating memories, were all erased ...
I’m so sorry. My ex stonewalled me and it was so painful, but we were married and he did it in the same room as me, like I wasn’t there and if I did the whole what’s wrong etc, I was completely ignored until he felt he punished me enough. I would cry and he would say stop your crying. It was years ago but I still feel the pain.
@@clauale8352 you’re not stupid, I was with mine for over 20 years, and I get it, things get better then they go to shit, we tried therapy but he wasn’t really doing it, it was hell , be gentle with yourself
You nailed it. Went through every text you mentioned. Lol. A COVERT ONE. Never again. .. run and stay away.. never look back.. good video, Hope's this helps others.
Im at the very end of a 5yr relationship with a classic narcissist! I had no idea what I was dealing with. I have suffered all the pain and confusion with this man. He made my life hell but you are helping cope in dealing with this person. I have suffered all the side effects of being with this man. Sadness, isolation, heartbroken, etc...
Text notifications...one after another and another another and another RANTING
Omg..SMH!!! I have someone I know just like this! Hence why I've chosen to stay away after many years of gaslighting!!!
Maiya, you got a lovely smile
Yes , they never start a conversation with how are you or how was your day ,it is straight into all about them and their day, you are just someone that is listening ,lol , the picture thing ,tons of pics of themselves , right in the middle if a conversation a pic will appear, and in this case the most ugliest pics you ever seen😂 everything she said is spot on ,
Yeah, it is quite funny how much they like to use photos to "prove" that what they are saying is true. All these elucubrations only serve to reveal that they themselves don't believe the sh!t that they make up. ^__^
@@nachannachle2706 I use to have a lad telling me this nice house he had.
Sending all these pics etc
But never seen his face in the pictures and never seen him behind a wheel of a car.
Also he kept sending me voice messages of music saying he's the DJ or having house party. Yet it's either him in a bar drinking or having his Spotify on.
He sent me a picture one time saying this is the house party .
Fee months later I saw the exact same picture on some website to do with Manchester nightlife .
He set up a new Facebook then unblocked me to which I started speaking again and one month in he said he got s girlfriend.
But he was posing as his girlfriend me thinking I was speaking to her .
Just fucked in the head .
I still love him but we haven't spoken for good 1 month now. Plus he isn't on the Grindr app anymore which is strange as he is a sex addict and has a park right next door to his real address what is big for cruising area .
So he must have someone new who thinks he has a big house when he doesn't .
Could pay a private investigator to find out his life but I'm debating whether to do it or not
By the end of the week he'd send a minimum of 10 selfies.... lol. You are the only TH-camr to call this out😃😃 Within 2 weeks he wanted to lock me down, the love bombing was so over the top! 90 day he went silent over a dinner tab he thought I should've paid. So I took it a step further and went supernova no contact, blocked him and moved on. These soulless creatures are a hot mess!
The one thing that sets them off BIG TIME is when you tell them they have a big EGO!!! Boy oh boy do they SNAP!! They go on a tangent texting you lengthy dialogue of how dare you call them out!! This is known as an adult tantrum coming from their insecurities of inner child wounds.
Smh! been through all of this word for word! Wasted 8 years of my life! 💔
Lessons learned. Not an entire waste. God bless your future.
I wasted 20 years
W ow thanks for info
I wasted three years of mine. I couldn't imagine going through and dealing with that trauma for8 years. Imma pray for you and you pray for me!
Me to wasted 6 years and over 2 long years to recover still in the process of trying to find my old self before I met him!!!
I still have some of those over the top text messages telling me how beautiful I was and that he had waited for me for 40 years and I was the love of his life. It was so early on I was very surprised by his declarations. Oh, and the pictures! I remember how shocked I was when I received his half naked pictures when I barely knew him. He did have an amazing body, but I’m not into taking selfies or into people who do that regardless of their looks.
Oh, and the days of silent treatment every time I dared to question his behaviour. It was horrific! Never experienced anything like it! I knew nothing about covert narcs then, but after years of self education I now can spot the red flags very quickly.
Thank you for spreading the awareness about these awful creatures!
He said the same exact things to me...same with the pictures...and they hate if you question their behavior...they all follow the same script...
@@laurynnicole1682 Yes, They are all made in the same factory. Horrific! It feels like we all dated the same guy! I cringe when I think that he had said the same things to every woman in his life and I was not special to him at all and he will continue to play the same sick games with his next victims.
@@katalinmcewan I feel the same exact way...makes me sick to my stomach
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Iv often found myself repeating myself in text messages like they never read a previous message like explaining I’m too busy to talk right now cos I’m working and Iv told them my work schedule. Means nothing to them
Exactly!
That is VERY common! I have dealt with covert & overt.....very similar yet different. It's so scary! They are so sick! A very twisted mind!
Same!
Yeah. They don't care they just want to extract love from you. They don't care about you.
They dont respect your time or being at work! Been thru it in past. Curently this meeting, etc. It overkill. I text bk nicely that Im busy but he keeps. Sad how ppl are. Even if he's succesful...it creeps me out.
This just answered all my questions and suspicious. I was hoping I was wrong but this makes a lot of since. SMH Thank you for these videos.
Unfortunately, once you start suspecting that they have NPD, they normally do. 😬 Always listen to your gut instincts! Don’t hang onto hope, they will never change! xx
Tabitha Rossman,you don't deserve to be with a narcissist!
Tabitha Rossman,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Wow! What a very concise summary of narcissist behaviour in this age of technology. I had a girlfriend who was constantly sending pictures of herself. She was cute but good grief. It was a red flag and finally broke it off. Good decision.
SMH. Knowing what I will and won’t put up with makes things a lot easier. There’s a lot of pathological ppl out there or have the traits. I make sure I’m taken care of first. I don’t believe everything i hear. I don’t give full access. Honor thyself and those that honor me will remain.
SMH = shaking my head
Thank me later
Sometimes they ask about you to fake they care and hook you into believing that and that they are a thoughtful person, part of their con job. Even kind acts can be to throw you off and confuse you. Then your thinking oh they are not that bad or have redeemable qualities that a person with rose colored glasses will connect too. That was me and I waisted so much time, energy and money on someone who would never change unless it was for the worst.
My soon to be ex had been seeing other women, I was able to read all the text messages between the different women & him. What stood out clear as day was the fact he never NEVER asked about them, how their day was or gave any compliments. It was all about him🙄 I already feel bad for his next supply. But at least I’m free of it🤣
Good on you
The comments are as substantial as this great video.
He was calling too frequently. 10 to 17 calls texts a day back and forth. I had to start deliberately ignoring my phone so I can do something besides return or answer calls. Many of his texts would be pics and requesting pics from me. I felt like he was trying to decide if my looks are adequate for him. I sent him a pic of me looking as bad as I could get it, greasy face, bad lighting, ect. then stopped sending pics. I limit my calls to him to about 3 a day and I don't really understand why he calls. He usually doesn't have anything new to share and is not interested in talking about the things I'm interested in.
He never seems to be listening to me. It is confusing - all the calls vs not wanting to listen. I want to be nice, yet I can feel my energy being drained by this. I don't want to be mean and say don't call. But i do want to.
Ms. Zung, You are the WOMAN! Thank you for clearing up the mental clutter (trauma). From trauma to transformation. Blessings
Good night! This happened with a manager in my previous work environment. She was a very strong-willed woman and did not care about getting to know her own staff. It made working there a nightmare!
One of the few strange things I heard from a former narc in my life was, "I always hear you talking about others, but never about yourself." Hmmm....why must I keep on talking about myself? I am not in love with myself.
SMH....Listen and take this to heart. It is spot on information. Textbook true in my experience. After being married to my wonderful late husband for 28 years, I entered the dating world at 55 years. I knew nothing of narcissistic behavior. I spent a year and half experiencing these texts and related dating behavior before I broke away. Your message is spot on. If I had only known.
SMH = shaking my head
Thank me later
SMH..... I got caught up in all of this mess from the narcissist. Unfortunately before I even knew what was a narcissist. Wish I knew about all this before I got involved with the narc.
SMH = shaking my head
Thank me later
He's all about himself, never ask about my day.
Mine would text "I hope your day is going beautifully" when he texted at ll. But it was more like an advertising email from some company than a sincere wish. And then "Feel free to reach out whenever you like" like a text from customer service. Lol I say that because he wouldn't answer my "outreaches" until weeks later. What's the point.
Was pulled in by mine asking every day “how my day was.” Took me too long to realize he could have cared less. ❤️
Coming out of a physically abusive relationship, venerable. Didn’t want anything to do with him, seven times “no” not interested, like we use to say in the seventies, stood them up. He never ever ask about me. He actually believed and said he was saving me, my savior, the best thing that happen to me. Wouldn’t leave me alone. Now, 40 years later he knows I knew he had a bet with his friends he could get with me yet he’s telling his daughter I played hard to get, just to pull him in. ??? God if only I’d have gone with my intuition and it was all about him and how great he was and every girl wanted him. Always bragging.
This is a good reminder for us nice ppl to insist on mutual reciprocal relationships in all areas rather onesided ones ie don't be the listener/rescuer/carer, demand the same in return
I’ve learned so much from you and I really appreciate you putting this very valuable information out here!!!
Beverly Rembold,Hope you are not with a narcissist!
@@lioydwilliams1850 not anymore!! I was married to one for 13 years and have a 10yo son with him but in April 1st the divorce will be final!!!
@@beverlyrembold8516 you deserve better my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?
@@lioydwilliams1850 thank you for saying that. Yes I’m in the states as well
@@beverlyrembold8516 Wow!,are you on hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk?
This might apply to grandiose narcissists, but it's only one angle how they might interact.
She wasn't grandiose, but the roller coaster between, "I love you soooo much" and, "you're sooooo needy", was insane (no pun intended). She finally said that she wanted no contact and after a half of a year of this, I was finally broken down so far, that I happily said yes. I was waiting all of this time to get back to the good times, never realizing that was NOT ever going to happen. Four days after saying that I was too needy and she didn't want me in her life any more, she texts me. I really wanted to text her back, but no, you don't get the chance to keep destroying me. I'm one week in now of not texting her. It still hurts, but I know this is the right thing. I'm sure there will be more texts on the way because she wouldn't want to think that she is losing control of me... although she already has.
Block her on your phone..... easy peasy!!
@@cindyschultz6620 Nope don’t block ignore, if you block that only gives them a bigger kick and sense of power if you mute them everywhere they will lose their minds
Make her see what she’s lost and even if it gets to a point of you really wanting to give her another chance don’t let her win you over too easily
A lot of people say they don’t go back to the Narc but they are very good at exploiting you
Block and move on bro. These players deserve no time. Thats both for men and women.
I block immediately. Saves you from her breaking into your good time with a bs text.
First 3 mins of the video I was thinking I was a narcissist 🤣🙄
Rebecca is so on pointe. Beware the texing and gifs. These losers are fishing for multiple women, pretending that your the only one. I've seen women to it to men too. Pay attention to your intuition. If that man or woman seems too good to be true, they are👺
I don't necessarily agree with you. I treated my ex wife like a queen and when she said this is to good to be true, I knew I made mistake. When she said that, she was always told it is best to marry someone who loves you more than you live them I knew I had a problem. Being married to her cost me alot, but being free of her was priceless.
@@gregorywynn3244 I'm sorry for your experience. Maybe she was insecure to make tose statements. I hope you find an equal companion that matches your good nature.
@@gregorywynn3244 I don't know you, so I am not going to disagree with you. Relationships take work. I hope you meet someone who is mutually appreciative.
Texting literally caused every problem in our relationship every single one of them
You're an answer to prayer. The love of my life is a narcissist. I can't let go.
Keep doing your due diligence and rely on your support system....you will get through this!! Hugs
mine too and i have to leave...i am crushed...
Then keep learning from Rebecca. She has taught me to set boundaries and put my foot down. She's also taught me how to beat them at their own game. Maybe I incorporated my own ability to consistently call him on his shit with Love and Kindness. 😕🤔
If you love them, don't give up, but don't trust them completely, either!!😘👍
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Lisa - The relationship is fake if he is a narcissist. A narcissist doesn’t love anyone. He doesn’t love you. He only pretends so he could take advantage of you. Therefore, he is not the love of your life. Get out now.
Yep.
Always taking pictures of herself..
And posts pics of here and new boyfriends on Facebook..
She's a bartender ofcourse and always meeting new people!
2 months no contact for now..
Wish me luck..
Like your videos!
This narcissist stuff is getting tiring now I used to watch these Type of videos when I was heart broken. I strongly agree that this is a huge grey area. I believe very few people are truly narcissist. We are just surrounded by some very broken people that’s been past down in these generations. I can look at my mother or friend and say they are “narcissistic” based on all these TH-cam videos I’ve seen and even my ex but to be honest it’s just not the truth. people only do what they know and were taught. And so many people are running around saying they attract narcissist and all these narcissistic people in their life couldn’t that be considered them playing the victim too and being a covert narcissist? A lot of us just need therapy and heal from our childhood traumas and become more self aware which takes time and effort. But please stop labeling everyone a narcissist. Some people have borderline personality disorder some people have undiagnosed autism or serious health issues going on. Anyway everyone thinks all types of narcissists are in love with themselves when most narcissists truly don’t love themselves inside. even the grandiose ones they are extremely broken. We need to look at people with more love instead of judgement. Yes get out and protect yourself if you are in danger or someone is just toxic and doesn’t want to grow. But people should take responsibility of the role that they played entertaining these “narcissists people” another thing narcissist don’t do take responsibility. When you look at your actions you justify them or have a reason but when you look at someone else it’s just they are soulless and a narcissist. See this cycle ?
Some of this is so obvious it can get to be too much on the easy to spot just move on side -but some people are in extremely dangerous relationships or about to be and need to know the signs Which I think the scariest people are usually MUCH more subtle than in this particular video alot of times they are so skilled at playing loving gentle kind patient and generous to "get someone" looking back i think the first sign with this type person is a gut feeling of too good to be true 🤔 when you give your trust and love to them completely then the real them really begins moments of coldness pushing of your moral boundaries control of situations or events cutdowns outright or subtle where your going wait was that just a cut-down about what I shared about myself and you start to see the manipulation realizing maybe all the interest in you has been for thier use The "getting you" can be the selfishness so it wasn't recognized You experience moments where your thinking wait what just happened or very intense ,verbal ,or violent outbursts unfitting to the situations this leaves you in a place of needing some understanding cause your brain and heart doesn't compute what the heck happened how someone can build you up then drop kick you cause your heart wants to believe the good is real and the ugly is just "bad moments " The scariest ones are good at what they do and can break even the tuffest they like that obviously ANOTHER video .
Well said
I agree, totally. If you look hard enough, you will find narcisstic traits in all of us. NPD is something else entirely and pretty rare. I am not keen on labelling - a bad boyfriend does not necessarily equate to narcisst!
I think most people have narcissistic traits but it is more rare to have a narcissistic disorder. Dr Ramani explains it best. I believe that i have narcissistic traits, i just conditioned myself to not act on them bc it can hurt peoples feelings. Self control is important, and if someone can not do that and just uses people and dont feel regret or feel guilty after are just bad people, they can improve but its not profitible for them so they choose to be assholes to get by. Fuck them
Absolutely ❤️
the lies are constant!! I've learned that they hate when you laugh when they lie...and to see you doing great!
SMH...BRAGGING HE SENDS PICS OF CASH...LOL
Absolutely! My ex narcissist was constantly texting or calling me, asking me where I was or what I was doing. Or he would constantly text or call me to tell me about the things he was doing, or to ask me something insignificant. It's the power and control dynamic. Nowadays, I cut people who act like this off immediately.
My new red flag:
"Hey, can I take you to dinner tonight at this nice restaurant."
Their answer: "I'm eating with friends."
Dealbreaker, friends!
and how is it they all have the same identifiable predictable traits all over the world? how do they know instinctively what to do in a sophisticated script since birth? why do their targeted Empath victims have no conception of what's actually going on and need years of training to counteract the evils these hobgoblins perform automatically?
Just my question as well
@@blessingchipidza7141 Yep, sooner or later one starts to figure it all out....
@@Imnotyourdoormat you're right, just sad that it takes time before the victim realizes what they're dealing with
@@blessingchipidza7141 Yep, it is sad, but we can't do anything about that now can we...these days Empaths just need to get back to what we can do.
charlotte quillien . It's because it's a spiritual battle. Narcisstic ppl are demonically possessed.
In this video you have hit key points in my on and off 8 year relationship. With someone that thinks spending all day doing things is about 20 minutes. If we get into an argument she changes the subject to something about her looks example: eyebrows eyes lashes hair makeup or I’m getting fat. I myself am programmed and driven to help and love making people happy. You even hit on that. I love her so much but I hate the lies and her never showing me value. Yes she promised me the world in changes and I got zero of what she said but when when we got back together I made up my mind months before this is whom I want and that’s it.
I had a relationship with a female covert narcissist. Which started by text. The 5 signs you mention are spot on. The false promises or future faking ( I haven't heard this term before but it sums it up perfectly) all turned out to be fake. Looking back there were some clear red flags which I should have picked up on, but everything seems amazingly perfect. But the other thing she did, which you didn't mention, was ask strategic questions about me, so that she could see what made me tick, what pushed my buttons emotionally and what interested me. All part of the mirroring and getting me emotionally dependent. Of course some of what she learnt was then used to attack me during the devaluation stage. I had never come across a narcissist before, and the experience will never leave me for as long as I live.
Yup he's doing that now after back and forth conversation he went silent all of a sudden.Haven't heard anything in over 2 months now.Automatic dealbreaker for me narcissist or not smh!!!
this was spot on!!!! Omg the accuracy is insane
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He always said "I want to love you" any time I tried to leave. He always used that to try to guilt me into staying.
No they all don't talk about themselves. Mine appeared shy and quiet.
That’s because they are working on what you’re all about so they can use it later on to manipulate and control you. They need that info to know your weaknesses and triggers.
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Yup - a Covert undercover secret Narc agent
You are with a covert. They don’t share anything about their past and if they do, it’s just mirroring what you shared with them, to make you think you have so much in common but it’s lies. They do say some unusual things out of the blue. You won’t understand what they were saying until you go no contact. Then you will remember something they said and understand.
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Great 👍 online name 🤣
You’re on point 💥🎯
Coverts seem disconnected from self absent of identity
@@basic55 exactly!!
My ex narcissist whom I have a kid with does few of these. She always has a crisis or drama, & plays games using the kid, tries to tell me how I don't care, games with my kid's visitation, plays games to get more money than the child support I pay, games so people see me in a certain light, games to pretend she's in control, games because she's jealous I'm happy & moving on, games & more games for no reason. I save these texts. It tells a lot. She's tried to jump from her current relationship, back into my place a couple times. Nope. She's sloppy & doesn't let the bed get cold. No thanks.
This video literally saved me. I’ll forever be grateful to you.
Thank you!!!! ❤️
This is why I went no contact.Giving him all the respect he deserves.NONE 😌
I got out of something very chaotic recently. I think she was a narcissist and honestly, I regret leaving sometimes but looking at it, I think it was better.
Smh. Holy shit that last one hit hard. He always sent soooo many selfies and never asked for pics of me lol
SMH!!! I have really learned alot from watching your videos!!! Almost everything that you have touched on, I have been through with the guy I just left from being with a little over a year!!! So THANKFUL I got away from him, but was advised that he probably will return back at some point...I am praying that this does not happen!!! I have had enough from this guy to last a lifetime...
I’ve had to deal with lots of narcissists including an ex partner, several friends, a sister in law, my Mother, Father and a sibling. I have developed a fine tuned Narcissist Radar and if I even sniff a narcissist these days I don’t hesitate to completely walk away.