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Mastering Your Emotions: Dispel These 10 Myths About Emotions
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The overall goal of emotion regulation is to reduce emotional suffering. It’s not to get rid of emotions. Some people will always be more emotional than others. In a previous video I talked about the biology of emotions. In this video, I’m talking about 10 common myths about emotions that can fill you head and make it hard for you to regulate your emotions.
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Firstly - Hallelujah
Secondly - content & information like this can really shift paradigms across cultures and generations if it gets to the right platform. This is an understanding that definitely needs to be out there ❤
Thanks so much and you’re right about the message going to the right places. TH-cam is a great platform for that. My hope is that people spread the word so more people can discover the information 😊
0:26 - Myth 01: Emotions are irrational
0:51 - Myth 02: Positive emotions are better than negative emotions
1:33 - Myth 03: Emotions are controllable
2:41 - Myth 04: Expressing emotions is weakness
3:02 - Myth 05: Emotional people are unstable
3:29 - Myth 06: Negative emotions result from a bad attitude
4:19 - Myth 07: Only some people are emotional
4:43 - Myth 08: Emotions should be solved or fixed
5:07 - Myth 09: Emotional health means always being happy
5:32 - Myth 10: Emotions are permanent states
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Thanks for doing this 😊
This confirms my belief that feeling negative emotions is not unhealthy. I've learned that allowing myself to feel, not suppressing them only serves to help with me becoming a more emotionally intelligent person.
In DBT emotions are neutral.
I'll explain the pros of "negative emotions"
Sadness allows you to be more empathetic and understanding.
Envy motivates you to achieve something you dont have.
Anger allows you to realize your boundaries and self resepct have been crossed.
Fear allows you to be alert and escape danger if needed.
I was raised that all emotional displays are bad and result in beatings. Thus, all emotions must be suppressed.
I can't tell you how many times I heard, "Wipe that look off your face or I'll wipe it off for you." And "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about."
Don’t start! That is standard script where i grew up (in the south). You really brought back son memories with that. It’s really a shame when you think about it.
Love your content always, you have created a great space for people to safely learn and grow and that can't be understated :)
I’m so glad to hear this. Mission accomplished 😊
@@DrTraceyMarksdr please make contents about intelligence and critical thinking too that would be appreciated 👏👏🌹
Number 6: thank you for making it clear that it's not my attitude what's causing my negative emotions. This perception has always made me feel guilty.
Whoever made the thumbnail is a genius, pulled me right in!
Thank you! 😀
Anger.... I was beaten bloody for getting angry as a kid, and learned early on to supress it, stuff it.
In my youth I found myself in juvenile court for destroying property. I remember like it was yesterday how gratifying it was wrecking that stuff, smashing, tossing, seeing it turned into garbage. I realize now that I was releasing anger, frustration.
I was constantly shamed and ridiculed, all through my youth by family, teachers, administrators... because I tested highly intelligent, yet did poorly in school (distractive ADHD).
Somehow, after becoming an adult, others seemed to be able to read me, and figured out how to manipulate me with shame and ridicule... it was relentless until just recently. I unconsciously tolerated it until recently.
I'm 73. My elder sister just passed. Her executors were given information on me by her. I do not know these people other than spending an hour or so with them in the past.
When I worked at my sister's estate, helping clearing it out, one executor told the other how lazy I was working with them.
I don't ever remember slacking.... I did work my butt off... but I obviously did not meet expectations.
I got a text from the executor not present, filled with language reminiscent from my childhood. It was filled with the identical words used to shame me as a child. Rage ensued.
I've never been this angry, ever. Yet, the supression mechanism kicked in. This anger was so intense, the only way I could handle it was to get drunk, night after night for weeks.
I am remarkably healthy for my age. All this booze was detrimental, messing with my already sketchy sleep. Now, when I go to bed after not drinking, I sleep even worse.
Yesterday, I talked to an old friend who fancies herself a peacemaker. I expressed my anger, my childhood, the shaming and ridicule. When I expressed anger, she shamed me, right then and there, and told me I need to control it....
Once home I was back in a rage. I didn't drink... but I was up late, and woke at dawn, giving me about 3 hours of sleep. I am compromised today from deprivation.
Thanks for lettiing me vent.... I'm seeing a rather ineffective counselor in a couple days... at least I'll get to talk about it.
@Thomas, I hope the person you speak to is very helpful for you. Peace and blessings to you.
omg...this thumbnail...your hair...dr. marks, you are the bomb ❤
Thank you!! ❤️
I have bipolar disorder which complicates things even further. I can be depressed for no reason and then extremely joyful when in reality nothing in my life has charged. I used to be guided by emotions but after living with this for so long I know not to always place much importance on them at all.
I am trying to teach my toddler this . I grew up in a poor emotional environment, more like everyone was numb. My husband is a very popular physician at our local hospital and people ask me “ do you want your son to be a doctor “ I always say “ I want him to be emotionally competent first “ 😂. He is 3 years old. I wish we had a Dr. Tracy for toddlers 😊
THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!! I can't explain it right now BUT Yes! You gave the answer! My goodness! It's like I can breath now! Thank you Dr. Marks!!!
Oh you’re so welcome. I love eureka moments like that! 😊
Loved the thumb nail
Love the new intro! Your video editors are doing a wonderful job and helping you shine!!! You also seem much more comfortable with your video and speaking presence after all these years providing educational content for us!!
Tye greatest psychiatrist here.
The problem is her services are too expensive for someone living in a third world country.
Everybody deserves to be mentally well
Thank you Dr Tracey , for the great content you uploaded in debunking these myths, it's really time someone did.
Thank you for helping me begin to understand how feelings are so hard for me, from my profoundly fucked up childhood. I'm tired of just being a broken person. We really need more psychs like you explaining these things in so much depth because most therapists don't know what to do with 'so profoundly neglected/abused you're like a dobby-has-a-sock person'. I'm there. I don't wanna be anymore
I just came to say, your work is amazing, and your graphics team is on fire! if they ask for a raise, say yes! and if you ar doing your own graphics (and ideas behind the graphics) .. give yourself a high five. thank you for you.
Thanks so much RubenDari. Interesting timing, they just recently got a raise. And you’re right they deserve every bit of it. They are amazing editors. I don’t have to guide them at all. They take my video and create all of that graphics and effects.
#6 This is a perfect reminder for managing my catastrophizing. I'm surprised at how wrong my assumptions are many of the time.
Gotta be honest, clicked just for the thumbnail. That thing is a work of art.
I just got comepletely cussed out by the first line!!! "The goal of emotional regulation is to decrease emotional suffering, not to get rid of emotions..." welp...
Cussed out 😂
I’m glad it helped you see a different view though 👍🏽
Thank you for all your work, ma'am.
thanks Dr Tracey, been watching your content for a while, always find them useful - this one in particular has lifted a whole layer of stress off me - things I thought I knew (do know) - just reassuring to hear them from a mental health professional. *thank you* for all you do. ❤
Very useful info. I was taught that expressions of negative emotions are often something to be embarrassed of. No good role models have I ever seen expressing or venting anger.
I dislike being the target of dissociative rage too, merely because I happen to be happy, not freaking out or a convenient target to sabotage or sucker punch.
Something missing,Its not Dr Tracy Marks.
Its should be DR Tracy HIGH Marks!!!
10 out of 10!!
This beautiful lady lets one know,its normal to be YOU with all your feelings ups and downs you experience.
Its all part of our life story.
Not to stress about these Myths just to acknowledge them,look for value in them.
And then enjoy,we all only so many hours on this beautiful planet earth.
10 out of 10 DR Tracy.
Thank you for showings us,if we do cross the lines a bit in our lifes colouring book,it not the end of the world.
Its part of us,there is always more pages to colour,and sonetimes paging through the book those small mistakes can bring a smile,or let you wonder why was I so harsh on myself!
We are Thousands of people on this page gratefull for your teachings.
You are AWESOME
THAT THUMBNAIL IS QUITE A LOOK FOR YOU! 🤣😁
Great tips. The person dancing around the plant was hilarious.
Absolutely love this video! Any kind of emotion that we experience as humans allow us to get an intake of our surroundings and how we may feel about what we interact with.
Dr. Marks, I love your videos!
Keep doing them! 👍💚😀
Thank you and I will 👍🏽
I am so grateful I found your channel! As a man in his mid-forties, who was too proud to seek the help he needed for “taboo” issues and had no choice after a manic episode 18 months ago…… Your videos are very informative and have been great at helping me identify issues that I have a hard time putting into words and describing to my doctor. The world could use more people like you! 🙏🏻 I look forward to exploring more of your videos, and new ones to come. I wish everyone all the best on their journeys to feeling and staying better. Peace and love!
Thank you for addressing these emotion myths. Your content is always helpful.
Sorry ..I just have to say... that thumbnail with your HAIR EXPANDING INTO THE UNIVERSE with those cozy tucked in baubles...SIMPLY ICONIC... I would love that pose framed / poster size /36" square min.... SO-O-O EXCITING...SIMPLY BRILLIANT. 🙋🌹GA USA 👍🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Beautiful
After being gaslit by a friend for nearly a year thank you for this video!
Wow! This is a gold mine! Thank You for bringing awareness to this unconscious process!
This video editing is sweeeet, totally kept my attention on the main concepts
I Love the thumbnail 😍😍😍. Great editing and writing too. Thanks Dr Marks.
dude!!!!! I had a big ass behemoth comment talking how I think about emotions being a primitive way of solving problems, going from some Dr Barkleys ideas, and some other ideas , some personal context (my adhd, obessive personality and some schizoid traits) a final joke and I turn the damn ipad and all is lost!!! damn!!!!
Well, something saved you of that long boring comment , I have to let go and focus on what is left that is to thank you very much for your vids, Imma use them to help my nieces and little demon nephew that are enjoying some adhd syntoms (and we know how little ol' emotions work in those)
anyways,
many thanks, YOU ARE AWESOME!!!
Dr. Marks, you are such a brilliant and kind bad*ss!! Blessings, love, and light to you, your audience, and your loved ones! Thank you for all you do!
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I love these videos about emotions! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! 🙏❤️❤️❤️
I am looking forward to watching the next episode 🥰 Would be very interesting to know how to help someone to work on the emotion of resentment, when it’s not just anger, but hate without reasoning.
You’re so welcome and thanks for the suggestion.I’ve screenshot your question to save for later 👍🏽
@@DrTraceyMarks thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
This video is breathtakingly helpful. I always think that I am a freak because I am a mix of complicated emotions. It is like a combination of volcanoes, flood & eruption, also sunshine & springlike inside me. Thankfully, I found this video and everything is above awesome. I cannot say how much I want to thank you. You are a savior, Dr. Marks🌷
P/s: Your voice is so smooth and your pronunciation is so good. The videos are always well edited so it is really easy to follow and take notes. Super decent works, dear Dr 🌷
this was very much needed!!!
God, I love Dr. Marks.
Your videos are THE BEST. Ty ❤️
Love your content Dr. Marks! And this has to be one of my favorite thumbnails on your channel!
you’re my favourite psychology content creator !!! so informative
Very good video. I think I have believed on some of this myths. Please explain more on emotions!
Can I just say I’m LIVING for this thumbnail 👌🏽
You are a treasure!!! My mindfulness consists of me watching your videos 😊 sooooo good ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Dr. Tracey
Waiting for the next video I'm sure it'll really help me in some ways.
Hello. To be honest, I don't know who I can turn to. Maybe you can tell me something.
I am 19 years old. Two months ago I was prescribed carbomazepine and sonopax (anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts). The dosage was low. These medications were helping me. But then a traumatic event occurred and the medications became less effective. The doctor decided to prescribe clofranil 25 mg 3 times a day. On the second day of taking it, after sleeping: I got out of bed and just fell over, because I couldn't feel my legs, I had a burning sensation in my head, a terribly fast heartbeat and sweating. My mother and I called the attending physician and she cancelled all the medications. The first three days the condition was just awful, it was like everything was changing in my head. My blood pressure was jumping from 85 over 50 to 150 over 100. Now it's been 14 days since I've taken anything. The burning has gone, but what remains is a strange condition: impaired tactile sensations, sleep disturbance, a strange feeling in my head, a feeling of weakness in my limbs and their remoteness (as if I do not feel them periodically or feel them remotely), drowsiness, etc. Before taking clofranil my condition was very good: I went to the gym, studied, did voluntary work.
I can't understand what could have happened in my head that now I have this condition. And I don't know if it will go away or not. Can you please tell me what it could be? Is there any way to fix what has been disturbed in my head?
I scrolled past this video three times not knowing who this was until I came to your page, looking for Wednesday’s upload 🙈🙊 very cool‼️
Your videos and content have really helped me and I’m sure many others. Thank you!
I ❤ the new style of your videos
Thanks for this video! I wish more ppl understood that all feeling are trying to tell us something that going on internally. I’m loving your new video editing!
Thank you. I'm interested in what are appropriate ways to express anger.
I really love the content Dr.Tracey Marks.
I personally wish the videos arent so heavily edited with sound effects, background animations and showing people.
It starts to take away from the material.
Again thank you.
Dr Marks, I like the content of your videos as always, but I must express some concern over the number of special effects in the new ones. I think that all the pings and plinks and sparkles distract more than they help - at least in my case.
Such great video. Very informative and educational. Thank you!
DAMN that thumbnail is beautiful.
Thank you so much! 🙏🏽
Definitely beautiful.
Marvelous! another excelent video.
This is fantastic info!
Great information. TY!
I have bipolar 1 and I'm still working on it!!! 😼
how are you working on it? Aren't you taking your lithium?
Thank you!
Great video! I love the thumbnail too by the way ❤
Very informative and helpful video. Thank you!
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Warm regards, Drit!
That photo of you for the video is so gorgeous!
This was an excellent video that gives me another way to consider my emotions. I was thinking that I wish my psychiatrist nurse practitioner was half as helpful as this video!!
Thank you Dr. Tracey... you are so beautiful!
Omg the most affirming video ever!
The home page image for the Marks Psychiatry site should be the thumbnail for this video. Excellent!
Thank you! Your educational videos are awesome and so very helpful. God bless you, Dr. Marks
Thanks!
Thank you! Beautiful, artistic thumbnail, by the way!!!
Thank you so much and wow gorgeous thumbnail! xo
All people have emotions.... Emotions and behavior are 2 different things. How emotional problems come to be - one factor can be having narcissistic and/or narrowminded superficial people influence you - they minimize the emotions of others, pathologize them, etc., these people shame others for having emotions.
Another great and informative video
Also the transitions and visuals are AWESOME, clean and engaging like your video presence
OMG the Jester thumbnail is ahhhmmmaaazzing
This is great information and looking forward to the next video.
Could you make a video on: "How to cope with emotions"? Thank you
❤ ❤ excellent as usual
Awesome work
I agree
Thank you both! 😊❤️
Your voice is so calming. Thank you so much for the wonderful information.
Thank you very much for this series on emotions :) it’s very helpful. However, could the edditing be lighter in future posts ? There are so many different sounds, musics, things popping here and there all the time, tbh it makes it unpleasant to watch.
Amazing thumbnail! And great vid as always ^_^
Thanks for all the videos and gotta say, rad hairstyle in the intro 😂
Impermanence, the fact that emotions are not permanent is a good way to contemplate upon
I love the photo of your crazy hair!
Thank you! I want to do my hair like this now 😀
I have such a hard time with emotions. Every time I feel something other than anger or simple/basic happiness I get uncomfortable and kinda brush it off. I have wanted to go see and talk to someone but at the same time I always say it and don't really feel like going to someone to talk about my feelings... 🤷🏾... one day 😔one day
I like your hair in the thumbnail.❤
Last night I lost my mind over stupid fireworks. I was not master of my emotions. 😅
Me too, but I acknowledge it and accepted that all those illegal fireworks were the result of selfish people who didn’t have the ability to grow mentally and emotionally . I was very upset too .
I don't know why people complain about their emotions becoming dampened down by antidepressants. I have enough emotions already, I welcome them getting dampened down. Not crying is a good thing.
Thumbnail looks like a fire album cover art🔥💖
I have been watching your videos and I am lost when it comes to getting my 15 year old son who suffers from depression and anxiety he also shows some signs of maybe being on the spectrum but everywhere I have reached out to wants like 6,000 for testing alone so I was hoping maybe you could point me in right direction
First great great great thumbnail!!!!!
Second I always love your content (that should be first:)
0:26 1. Emotions are irrational.
0:51 2. Positive emotions are better than negative emotions.
1:33 3. Emotions are controllable at will.
2:41 4. Expressing emotions is weakness.
3:02 5. Emotional people are unstable.
3:28 6. Negative emotions result from a bad attitude.
4:19 7. Only some people are emotional.
4:43 8. Emotions should be solved or fixed.
5:07 9. Emotional health means always being happy.
5:32 10. Emotions are permanent states.
the guy with pillow was fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Maybe I can express a valid point about having weak emotional content by using a variation of your example of "car approaching" , by stating simply , as a longtime long-term bicycle and motorcycle rider , i submit the common understanding that experienced riders share , is , simply that , as cyclists , we are invisible , period . "Loud pipes save lives" may be true , sometimes , but in the modern insulated automobile , an emergency siren is often missed and unheard , so what chance does a bicyclist have or a quiet or quick motorcycle ? We are invisible and need to be responsible for STAYING out of the way , period . No time to think , no time to react , because we get dead . No time for emotional values because two vehicles at thirty or thirty five mph connect to add up to seventy mph impact for cycling enthusiast injury .
Reasoning out why someone didn't see me is useless , just like in real life , when I'm not in traffic , reasoning out why I'm not emotionally connected is a waist of time . Civilized behavior went away when the insurance company extortion industry brain washed US to accept helmets and seatbelts and told US we can be saved , from ourselves , by paying extortion insurance monthly and wearing a helmet and seatbelt . Angry fearful doubt and or blind rage sometimes happens , but , I'm invisible to the world and have been "all day" , because I'm not gonna tune in to the emotional focus of the teachers pets and class clowns paradigm that has invaded our world and that demands ego and emotional content . Have an invisible nice day . And don't take my bs too serious . Heh heh heh
At 4:15 a point is made which distinguishes emotions from feelings, a self apparent truth to some, probably women, but one I found hard to learn!