The points you made are kinda valid but I believe many of these points really represent the men from poorer backgrounds who got rich and are orthodoxic . I'm an Indian guy but I never understood most of these points not because I'm close minded or something, but have never experience any , such as being unhygienic , passing derogatory comments towards women in public or with friends , having dual personalities, treating women as maids , not doing anything by myself and all the points you made. Maybe it was my parents who always taught me good values and skills or having a friend group not like the one you mentioned or just that both my parents are educated . Like I still remember my father teaching me colorology to dress and smell well or my mom teaching me to be clean and cook and similar things which help me not become the men u mentioned . I truely believe it really depends on how you were raised and the people you befriend like heck , as because me and my friends were raised in such households that whenever we see comics and youtuber telling these stuff (which are true) always made us wondered "is this how indian men really are?!" It further reduced my belief of "Proud to be INDIANS" as I discovered more of the things Indians do. Which is why I wish I was a guy of different country as it pains me to be associated with people exhibiting such shitty characteristics. Nice video btw made me a bit more aware on what not to become.
Indian mentality: Bargains to the last breath at a poor guy's vegetable stall/road side hawkers🥺 Afraids to bargain at a high-fi mall, happily accepts the price to show off his image in public 😎
Yeah buy rs 100 Banana and go to ZARA and tell I will pay half and bargain and you will be the first Indian ALpha pro-Chad Leader of leaders MR Vinay the Highest of the Highest and the best Indian men to be born and should be seen as an example. Love you bro
This is so to the point. I really saw this on my eyes and put this on paper as the author did is amazing. As he is very critical and draw just the reality.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
I use be married to Indian man , he blamed my mother for our marriage not working, but all she did was remind me I am Australian and I should be treated with respect and not a door mat . My ex husband use to order me around like a slave, do this do that. When I showed self respect for myself he left me for another woman. So didn't really love me anyways and treats the Indian woman he got the same he just think woman only good for cooking and cleaning 🧹🧼
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
What can you do? Have you got any skills part from cooking and cleaning? Or you just do Netflix and chill while your experience husband went on his job to earn and if he says you to not be lazy then you blame him for ordering you?
Most of Indian men are brought up like that .Two of my cousins married to American and one is married to Iris. First my family was against this 3 marriages but they turned out to be better than Indian husbands of my other cousins who think woman only good for cooking and cleaning .2 of my cousin is working their husbands share house chores. The cousin who is married to Iris is not working I am surprised when i saw him helping my cousin sister after coming back from work .Every night they do dishes together. Weekend he fixes breakfast for her.
Indian men are never wrong in particularly Indian engineer males …they can’t handle been told of mistakes it’s mentally challenging there place causing them to not learn anything or question other possibilities it’s a real concern on there listening abilities as well.
Ofcourse, I'm an Indian guy American citizen but with a lot of PROUD MALE EGO . I don't listen to parents either, I'll protect my parents no matter what but what makes me happy is my choice. Also i don't wanna marry either oops lmao .
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
I have been married for 6 years to an Indian man, possibly because he was born in Canada a few of the points do not apply to him, however many do. The main struggle I have had is the marrying his family part; I was not aware of this and he was not forthright about how codependent he lives with his parents. This one point alone has been incredibly challenging for me as I came from a very different upbringing and find this fact to cause daily discomfort for me. His parents are nice people but its like they are the main focus of everything, they are basically sewn to him and expect the same from me. His sisters do not have the same burden of this crushing weight, but we (as a couple) do and as the years pass it only seems to get worse. That being said I love my husband dearly and he is so fantastic in many ways, its hard to admit that some of these points are true but I am grateful for the truth as I thought I was going crazy in this marriage due to this extreme relationship he has with his parents and family. I know I am not of this culture but I have been exposed to it and truly appreciate someone speaking the hard truth as I feel this is so rare. But without awareness, there is no potential to learn and grow, I hope your message is heard.
In West cheating in marriage is pretty common because there is no supervision of elderly people in house and to support your kids when you are working in corporate
Do not feel you’re alone as many Indian women living in India or abroad goes through this suffering or confusion. Women tend to believe, lack of sincerity on their part but by time they realised the truth of family/parents sewn with their husband. It’s all about the way society and family raised a man to serve his parents and family only. Where a woman who married to him, becomes and remained his second priority. Few men can come out from this mentality or evolved out of it.
Most Indian men are momma’s boys. My boyfriend’s mother started poisoning his mind against me from now on even before we are married and he is so blind he listens to her 😅. The families are so intrusive especially their mothers
The problem with every wife is she want her husband parents relatives and friends either to die or magically disappear but she don't want same for her parents to be honest any woman in any part of world is should not marry if they don't like family structure, relationship are hard work not a fast food that you can eat and move on.
Actually girls mothers are intrusive before marriage, They tell really good things about their daughter but reality is far different, Todays girls are no less than just hookup materials.
My mom would be shocked hear that. In fact, she would be curious what she did wrong. Assuming your fiancé are also a momma’s boy, can you share his mom’s number, I’ll pass it on to my mom?
It is very individual. But I think to over come the mentioned cultural barrier is not for everyone. Indian male are grow up to be dominant in family and not equal as in Europe.
@@ivai5587 Everyone is individual regardless of their culture and background. People have obstacles to overcome whatever their background. There are many many successful Indian mixed marriages.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
@@ivai5587 i think people here have a generalization problem, pointing out mistakes in others while not looking at themselves I learned a lot from this video but some comments are real bullshit
I am a new subriber, female from germany, i had a relationship long time ago with an indian man, now i see many things clearly. I appreciate yout honesty.
I’ve spent 7 years loving an Indian man in NZ only for him to go home and get married. If i knew that was the outcome i would have stayed clear and saved myself from wasted heart ache
But his lack of commitment to you would have shown. Maybe you ignored the red flags. But it is unethical of him to behave that way towards you. Hope you have moved on. No point thinking about a spineless man. Waste of time and effort.
I met an Indian guy months ago and he is very sweet, smart,handsome, educated... He is almost perfect. Also he looks his self perfect too. One thing I notice he don't like talking about his mom and marriage. Then, its start for me to doubt and did more research about Indian culture and behaviour. Lots of comments are all same. After that I learned to pull back by talking to him and it saves my time.
Everything you said is on points!!! Geez! I was married to one. His family dictates his head. His hygiene is atrocious until I had to teach him how. His intimacy skills was terrible. Rough. And he is so arrogant! He got his citizenship and he divorced me. Good!
My Indian friend, he smells good and he dresses nice. I could probably count on one hand the times I’ve heard him cuss. Actually It’s me who, in the beginning, would cuss. I love his lightheartedness and ability to make me laugh when I’m down
All, India is impossible to stereotype because of the fact that india is the most populous country in the world. So use this video to spot red flags rather than following this video blindly. Indian men are hard working, responsible and trustworthy also
Totally agree with you,indians outside behave more like locals and look down other indians,never have an Indian boss to work under.They are very jealous
That's a lie. I know Indians and i know Pakistanis. You are probably Indian yourself . Unfortunately for you they will never have the same reputation that you Indians have
I am an Indian... Me And my wife love stray dogs And hate our society. Hope One Day we will move to jungle And live beautiful life. Luckly we both are clutureless.
I am an oriental America dating a Punjabi. Omg. You are 99% correct. I was so confused by his actions! But you’ve really cleared things up for me. This guy is hygienic. But you’re right about everything else.
Wow, how interesting. In my country there is a saying in Spanish; “El Casado, Casa Quiere.” Which basically means that once you get married you have to leave your childhood home, and you have to live alone with your partner (or you get judged by the community), and you are expected (if you are a man) to provide only for your partner and not your family members.
Almost exactly same saying in Portuguese: "quem casa, quer casa". The culture difference is that is common for Brazilians once they get married to either move very closely to their parents/in-laws or build their home in the property of their parents/in-laws. I'm talking about people in their 40s with good jobs asking their mommys and daddys to live in their home with their spouse. So, I'm glad you guys are much more independent.
I don't agree with the God thing, most indian men will never stop the girl from praying or following her own beliefs, that's one of the thing i liked about me being an indian hindu, of course exceptions are there as loy said.
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Married to an Indian. Fortunately he is not that stingy. He can be sometimes but not that bad. Also took a bit of training….he used to get upset at my grocery bill and it drove me nuts bcs stuff is expensive, but he is better about that now. Now, my biggest issues - ) In-laws….he is an only son so where do his parents live? With us. This is my biggest issue by far bcs I hate living with my parent-in-laws. My husband only can say to me ‘What can I do? Let them live on the streets?’ But this damages my mental well being bcs I now resent my in-laws for this and I resent my husband for this and more so, I have to live like this until someone dies. My husband use to tell me to have patience. This is what patience got me….nothing but depression. I hate my home. I hate cooking in my home and I hate cleaning my home. I hate waking up in my home. So, yes…by far my biggest issue bcs it directly correlates to my happiness. - ) another issue….they are extra close to their family. In some ways this is good but it gets irritating at times. How long they talk on the phone and frequent phone calls at that. It can annoying sometimes. Sometimes he talks to one of his siblings multiple times a day every single day and that sibling happens to live a 2 minute walk away, so it is as if they never talk and never see each other - ) they have trouble saying ‘no’ to their family - ) extra sensitive in regards to their family….if you hurt them intentionally or not, big problem. If they do it to you, there is some excuse given to justify it -) men don’t cook….this one drives me insane. My husband will not cook but will complain about food and won’t even get himself ice cream…he asks me to get it. If I am sick, it makes no difference. I either have to cook or explicitly ask him to buy outside food. He NEVER makes me food. 1 hour after finding out my brother died, “Can you make me something for breakfast?’ Meanwhile, all the other husbands out there were making their wife breakfast. (This happened about a decade ago but it bothered me a lot so I never forget it….sorry to say). And it bothered me when he tries to teach our kids that cooking is a woman’s job (though felt nice when our son then asked why there were mostly men cooking in the restaurant we ate at). My husband use to cook once in a blue moon when first married, but then the in-laws moved in and shoved him out of the kitchen so that is also another reason why I hate living with in-laws. I would ask them also not to serve him food but they would serve him food so…..no helpful husband in the kitchen. Even if he wants his water bottle filled, he asks the kids to do it even if it is midnight on a school night. - ) lastly…..there is no loving nature of them. They drink at showing love, no attention (unless to complain or ask for something), and no affection. Coincidentally women usually need all those things so now you have a very unhappy unsatisfied wife. Husband wants a submissive wife but he gives nothing in return. Pay the bills and job is done for the day. Diaper changes? Late night feedings? Always the mom. - ) they care too much what others think of them. I never went to India but in beginning of marriage we had plans to (then he lost his job so for financial reasons it never happened), but he asked me to lie to people if they asked what my parents did for a living. I should also lie about my siblings or keep quiet about them bcs 2 of my brothers had children out of wedlock and one of my brothers lives with a woman he had kids with but never married
Why it damages your mental health?? Just respect them and be good with them trust me they will love u back. If they are toxic then leave everybody. But trust me if u give them the love and respect if something happens to you trust me they will be always be with you. My grandmother aslo never liked my mom In starting but now I think my grandmother and grandfather show that parents love. They even avoid frequently comming home cuz they think that will put extra burden on her.
This is not at all acceptable. I am Indian myself, but I have to tell you, you are being taken for granted and mistreated. I would highly suggest you to get of that marriage
To be honest, most of this isn't restricted to Indian men. Sooo many men in America are this way. I think it's a matter of being traditional vs progressive. Also how secure they are, as you said. I think someone who truly understands Hinduism would be humble, and I think the guy I'm dating gets that. But it's true, you don't know how someone is when they're not around you.
I recently was talking with a guy from Ahmedabad, he was straight up at the beginning we could never marry because of culture and traditions.I had no issues with that but if i mentioned a male he gets jealous so badly and gives me the silent treatment and we're not in a relationship. I live in the Caribbean
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
I feel like even for some of the ones abroad and educated, bad habits, the ones that you described, can still be present and ongoing. My conclusions after practical experience. I thank you so much for all the signs and explanations, they really helped me alot!!🙏🙏☀️
Wow the video was almost correct I think many of the things I've found in myself although i am not a full grown man yet but still i can see some of these things. But I will surely work on them. Thanks for the video
The most important thing that makes a mirage work is. TO MARRY YOUR OWN KIND YOUR OWN CULTURE OTHERWISE ITS A MIRAGE THAT HAS 90% failure rate. simple. Staying with your kind is not racism at all.
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
💯 on everything.... Fellow indian here.... As with most everything there might percentage variation but all of what u said is the gospel of truth, by and large whether anyone agrees with or not..
He’s spitting most facts mostly. This maybe the mentality for almost 50% of us Indians. Remember we do not have much record of how we were before the Brits came and altered most of our way of life. They surely created insecurity within us successfully.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
@@sirishadevi7441Trust me. Men will not pursue you if that doesn't exist. The fundamental rules of life are that a man pursues a woman. Women don't pursue men. The other things in a marriage are tolerated because of the sex.
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
Wow! Wow! Wow!..... This video was an education and totally divorced from my understanding of Indian culture, especially as it relates to men. I appreciate your courageous honesty!!!
Im here to Support you ! What a message moment of Truth what ever you said is very much true whether people will accept this much criticism or not.. Sorry my Indian Brothers and Men of all walk do not feel bad he is not talking about those gentlemen who belongs to good decent family..I'm from Northeast India I know how it looks like about Indian Society and culture..oops there is many more to speak which Loy didnt mention.
@@tindany3168 it depends, you still don't know his family background and how they will treat you.Tell him to visit you in your country, make sure to use contraceptives or safe sex, if you two get more intimate because you're still not sure about anything. If your guts are saying something is wrong, listen to it Don't do it unless you're sure and observe people. That's all I can say , since I don't know much about your situation
@@tindany3168 I'm not assuming that you will But it's human nature itself, hence I said it We never know what will happen, so it's better to be prepared for the unknown
Hmmm, what is the definition of foreign girls? White girls? Rich girls? Highly educated girls from first world? East Asian girls? If so, they should not marry an average Indian! I agree with Loy! They really can't adjust. But yes, it's also true I have 4 aunts who got married Indian men and still, at least according to them and their relatives, they are happily married. They themselves were poor, they got married in a poor family. Their husbands were too busy earning money! They really didn't have time to practice those absurd rituals and orthodox thought. But thanks to Loy, being a young girl, I am afraid to marry now!
Highest success rates and richest immigrants with lowest divorce ratre with best parenting and loyal people no cheating in marriage are our culture surely we are indian
OMG i have barely seen any Indian girl commenting on his previous video of why you shouldn't marry a Indian girl and 13 reasons, But look at comments here the guys justifying themselves saying all are not same and blah blah while on other video they were laughing and agreeing all the points LOL. So basically here is one of the reasons you can see yourselves how hypocrite and superior and egoistic they are !! as in the video..
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Basically i agree with you but all man are exactly same they only want one thing from woman which is the mentality the feminism taught you your father married your mother because he wanted sex you are just the byproduct of lust nothing more and your daughter or son will also become a by product of lust basically you and your whole family tree is just born out of lust and not love while other people are product of love because they don't think in the way you think
😢 we indian men treated like dogs by our own family,society if we are not sucessful in jobs indian men are beaten by sticks by teachers ,father if we are not good in study 😢😢😢😢😢 indian men life is curse😢😢😢
🆒 post! 👏🏼 Accurate on most counts from my experiences since 1997. Working with Indians in my software development career and traveling longterm to India as a tourist since 2017, north and south. Staying with families, homestays and Airbnb family-owned apartments mostly. Hotels too, but that’s a whole other topic. Just saying my experiences are far and wide and I agree with most of what you are saying. (I have stories! And they are all long!) 😅 I find that most Indians take a lot of showers. Other hygiene issues are there like unkempt nails, nasty feet, stained teeth and unwashed clothing. I’ve not had the terrible smells and I’ve been on many 2-3 tier second-class trains, plus loads of wild, primitive bus rides. Maybe my sinus issues are there. 😅 I’m curious why you did not mention Sikhs and Buddhists Indians? Dowry is a challenge right along with the caste system. But all else you mentioned is so so true! I wish I had seen your video before I got engaged into a Sikh family for 5 yrs, then properly frauded, money and belongings stolen by my ex-fiance’ in UP. We are currently in court. He’s been to prison. Too much to explain here. -> Another reason not to marry an Indian boy. They either want your money, s3x, your country’s passport and citizenship or to use you as a trophy. Not all of course, but a very high percentage.
I am only 25% Indian but I am Hindu and my mother is not religious but she taught me never eat red meat, try to ge vegetarian if I can, we believe in reincarnation and those things… so Idk how I can marry anyone who is not Indian because I take being Hindu very serious and want to raise my future kids as Hindu as well. ❤
😂im 100% Indian (Hindi) born in South Africa , raised by a glorious woman who taught me exactly the same as your mum except that she believed in the merits of the person i married but she did also believe that a Hindi girl would be easier in many aspects longterm. Off course i married a wonderful highly educated Telegu girl whom my mum and entire family simply adored - we are now divorced, simply because I was the problem reaffirming the Telegu community’s belief that “ one should never marry a non Telegu” So…..,I was in some ways an example of whom Loy is correctly referring to.
I dated two Indian men both from Kerala. You’re so right about everything you said. They’re hideous very suspicious they living a double life. both are LDR relationships. 1st guy from a well off family and the second guy from middle class family. Both are hideous both are egoistic and emotionally unavailable. The first guy emotionally abused me, second guy tried to scam me. I was single for 8 yrs before I dated again and I thought I have so much wisdom when it comes to dating and stuff. But I was still fooled by those guys. Thankfully never ended up marrying either of them. Side noted I didn’t dated them on the same time there’s no overlap. Here in Philippines it’s becoming a trend dating foreigners specifically Indians because we are getting tired of dating men from our culture because they’re so westernized that’s why we thought it’s a good idea to date Indians because we thought they’re very conservative and respectful but yeah we’re so wrong about it
Before I forgot both are sweet talkers, both are Christian which I easily fell for because I’m Christian as well. What’s sad about it is they used God’s word and stuff to lure women.
I am American and I practice Hinduism. My husband is American and he doesnt practice any religion. He enjoys going to Hindu temple with me. We go once or twice a month because the temple is quite far from our home. Because he works full time and I dont work outside the home, I do most of the housework, cooking and cleaning. He wants to help me but I dont want him to. We go food shopping together. Im vegetarian but I cook some meat for him. I have the most beautiful altar. The Hindu temple we go to is located in an area where there are many Indian shops and restaurants. He has bought me all my favorite dieties-- Ganesa, Radha, Krisna, Hanuman, Shirdi Sai Baba, Lakshmi, Shiva. While he is working, I do sadhana, mantra, meditation and we have friends in our building that I visit. We've been together 8 years and we're very happy.
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
I just met an Indian men 😂, he sent a message that seemed very convincing that we would get serious. I was suspicious from the start and knew that he was lying, because It doesn't make sense that we've only known each other for 2 days and he's immediately that confident 😂 . I followed his game and agreed to everything he said so he thought I was fascinated. Until finally he suddenly said he wanted to borrowed me money. I already knew he would be like this because he always talked about salary, he knew I was working. I immediately said that I couldn't help and give money, because money is sensitive. Do you know what he's going to do after this? He blocked me😂 I really laughed out loud and felt victorious. He thought I was a stupid woman who just wanted to be fooled. Even though no, I really know this type of man. Very rude indeed At least I had the message 'good things will produce good things Be an intelligent woman Before it, I learned and knew about Indian men with this video😂
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
You forgot to mention the type that migrate to a different country and begin to think they're superior to their Indian counterparts. For instance, the guy in the video who finds it necessary to emphasise that he is nothing like other Indians. Wouldn't blame you, as this phenomenon is something very common amongst many immigrants, Indian or otherwise.
Hey Lou, Dwayne from Australia. Right on man! I'm researching an already booked trip to India for a month and in my research I can see many of these traits in my dealings with Indian men. Hopefully the what appears meek and suppressed women are better. I watch and enjoy all your videos 👍.
Just ensure you have someone trust worthy so that you are not taking for a ride especially beware of scammers who seek out foreigners to cheat them by any means possible. Be safe. LM
All good points thank u. I only dealt with the Indian dispora online and you’re right on the money. A lot of them do act like that. And people from other cultures online notice it too about Indian men especially being so thirsty after women it be so annoying. I’m glad u brought up one point in ur reasons and I can’t remember what it was but thanx for that. Great video.
Yes, I have received so thirsty creepy lusty messages even from LinkedIn. Forget about Facebook, Instagram. Then, I directly ask him are you a sex addict/ porn addict?? Seems fair enough 😂😂
I’m not Indian but I come from a country who enjoys bargaining as a hobby . I think Indians who do that come from humble beginnings and the world does not have anything to do with ! Get real: if something costs $10 then pay $10 . There is a cost to everything and being cheap sometimes tarnishes the culture when they live abroad .If they are so attached to the family then they shouldn’t have left India . They leave India but India hasn’t left them
Does the Indian culture not teach basic personal hygiene like use of deodorant and clean themselves? We are in 2024 now and even the poor groups have access to internet and learn these things.
All points are absolute truth about Indian man sadly. You’ve shown a big mirror to Indian men but few going to accept as they’ve very fragile ego! I think, it’s generated from many centuries of outside invasions and colonial effects! Somewhat a tribal mentality prevalent in Arabia, Afghanistan with women and in society. Man enjoys privilege and feels entitled provided to them by family and society. Overall India women suffered a lot socially in the marriage, which i’ve realised after many years now! Liked the way you’ve explained with absolute clarity!
Wicked tats 👌👌👌 haven't associated with indians much but have seen what your saying in these short 5 years of getting to know them...and since being shown this about them - I have begun staying away from them,, but love the music 👍
You had me at point "3", my friend. I can not stand a stingy man. Besides, I am a Latina woman and have low tolerance for disrespect. You would definitely hear plates and crap breaking around the house if my husband and/or family tries to treat me like a servant 😂😂😂😂😂
They know everything because they dont have much to do other than their job. They come home to a mother or a wife who has prepared the food and done all household duties. So they spend all their time reading news paper, internet, TV etc
I like Indian boys, but I won’t never marry a Indian boy. They are have very strong family connect. I m unable to handing with his sisters brother’s mother father.😅. Too much for me.
@@speedythings7396 what you said is the Indian perspective. Some indians spend hours talking with their family every single day. Westerners are a bit more individualistic and find this to be awkward.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
I am an Australian. My mother's friend is fully Indian and she agreed with what you have said the caste system was always a big problem and dowry as well. But I showed this video to one of my Indian friend, and he got too depressed. He took it so seriously that he just cried and said that why he didn't die before he was born which is very ridiculous just for a video. As a friend, what should I say to him?
Mr. Loy I can tell you that the stingy part comes because of upbringing. We are never taught to Buy books and invest in other areas of life. That is why we are really stingy in some areas. Even my own relatives.
Your first one is likely most applicable to majority of desi men. Now that is my opinion but that is likely the number 1 and kudos Loy for hitting the very most common aspect. I don’t subscribe to that aspect but from friends family and colleagues I can see this as very apparent
The self esteem issues is prevalent in India and in other Asian countries/societies as well. Thanks again mostly to the Brits. We Indians are generally too nice but at the same time the duality of human nature is very much evident within us at all times.
Some people can NEVER be wrong however for the same lot ;others are ALWAYS wrong... feeding their egos continuosly and making it bigger to only give bigger fodder.... its their lifestyle, its all they want to do
After marriage U have to take care about your in laws till your death your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s. Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture. Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Not to say every Indian is like this but I’ve met a few Indian men with most of these qualities. It’s very typical and deep rooted in their culture. I was friends with an Indian man and his wife. I noticed this man’s behavior issues in the beginning but decided to let it go and hoped he will improve. He got worse. Even though he’s married, he used to pay attention to me a lot which made me uncomfortable. And he started behaving in a controlling way with me even though I’m not from his family. I was their friend. It was worse that his wife supported this behavior. I felt like they did not care about my feelings and started treating me like an object instead of a friend, so I distanced myself from them. Because of that, the man blocked me from Facebook and both have animosity towards me.
Bro, our dating market abroad is already fucked up, I don’t know why you making these videos lol. It’s not like we are killing it and you are awakening people lol
As an indian man i really want to viral this video coz what i really hates is that a man's arrogant attitude, sexual looks and very hateful speech towards an another woman especially when he is alone with boys. This video is 100% true for 90% of the men but remaining 10% of men's character like god's character. The world is nothing compare to these 10% greats. Thank god I'm not one of those men who mentioned in this video. But that bargain issue is only true when we try to buy a thing which is not fit for the actual prize of the product coz Indian local markets intentionally add extra money to the products😂
I live independently and I don't have any connections with my family cause of many reason , for me they just don't exist . I noticed that my friends has different values than me , like they are too much devoted in religion , while I'm secular . Yeah my friends always try to teach me about things while I don't even ask for it .
I am an Indian. From a minority community. Well educated, well earning (30 percent tax bracket) But not the right caste for majority of Indian men. I am also an atheist. So not marriage material. Not that I wish to get married to any of them but finding someone who matches my wavelength is a very slim possibility. The personal hygiene part is truly disgusting and true. I cannot get over it either.
I have an Indian boyfriend and we havent met yet we just have videocalls but the longer days pass i fell more inlove with him...and i hope he is not like what its says here from this blog.
@rowenagermo8385 - Given what you have stated, my gut feeling & experience says, it is headed that way. I don't wish you bad but remember me when and if it does happen. :P
Please before marriage make sure he is a good guy. I was in long distance for more than 2 years, married in between and struggled to get him to my country and now he has been here for more than a month, I want him to go back. He treats me like I'm supposed to do everything, even I'm working full time and I come home form work super exhausted and he expects me to make food when he has been home all day (as he doesn't have a job yet), even one day I came home from work earlier because I wasn't well and instead of taking care of me he asked to make him tea and lunch, I was in complete shock 😲 and I'm deeply hurt because I can't believe anyone in world who truly loves someone can really act like this. I'm not saying to run, just please read all the signs before committing and don't get to my point because, now I don't know how to get out, he doesn't have money and I don't have money for his return ticket and I don't know what to do 😢 good luck to you
Soo true. I am in Nigeria and met an Indian man online. I told him i do not want to meet in his house and he started insulting me soo badly. It was actually funny how emotional and petty he got. I laughed at his foolishness and blocked him. I have heard the stereotype but it was soo sad to experience same.
I met one online from Gujarat. After 1 months of talking stage l decided not to continue and blocked him everywhere. The way he brags have got me eeeeeeeeeeeeeeew and goosebumps. The most horrible part is I was being stalked for almost 4 years by a hundred accounts he created.
The points you made are kinda valid but I believe many of these points really represent the men from poorer backgrounds who got rich and are orthodoxic . I'm an Indian guy but I never understood most of these points not because I'm close minded or something, but have never experience any , such as being unhygienic , passing derogatory comments towards women in public or with friends , having dual personalities, treating women as maids , not doing anything by myself and all the points you made.
Maybe it was my parents who always taught me good values and skills or having a friend group not like the one you mentioned or just that both my parents are educated .
Like I still remember my father teaching me colorology to dress and smell well or my mom teaching me to be clean and cook and similar things which help me not become the men u mentioned . I truely believe it really depends on how you were raised and the people you befriend like heck , as because me and my friends were raised in such households that whenever we see comics and youtuber telling these stuff (which are true) always made us wondered "is this how indian men really are?!"
It further reduced my belief of "Proud to be INDIANS" as I discovered more of the things Indians do.
Which is why I wish I was a guy of different country as it pains me to be associated with people exhibiting such shitty characteristics.
Nice video btw made me a bit more aware on what not to become.
Indian mentality:
Bargains to the last breath at a poor guy's vegetable stall/road side hawkers🥺
Afraids to bargain at a high-fi mall, happily accepts the price to show off his image in public
😎
Yeah buy rs 100 Banana and go to ZARA and tell I will pay half and bargain and you will be the first Indian ALpha pro-Chad Leader of leaders MR Vinay the Highest of the Highest and the best Indian men to be born and should be seen as an example. Love you bro
This is so to the point. I really saw this on my eyes and put this on paper as the author did is amazing. As he is very critical and draw just the reality.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
badly agree with u
You are talking about yourself. I usually leave more than the ask.
I use be married to Indian man , he blamed my mother for our marriage not working, but all she did was remind me I am Australian and I should be treated with respect and not a door mat . My ex husband use to order me around like a slave, do this do that. When I showed self respect for myself he left me for another woman. So didn't really love me anyways and treats the Indian woman he got the same he just think woman only good for cooking and cleaning 🧹🧼
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Well that's what the traditional role of woman he did the best thing in his life that left you I want to meet that great man.
What can you do? Have you got any skills part from cooking and cleaning?
Or you just do Netflix and chill while your experience husband went on his job to earn and if he says you to not be lazy then you blame him for ordering you?
Most of Indian men are brought up like that .Two of my cousins married to American and one is married to Iris. First my family was against this 3 marriages but they turned out to be better than Indian husbands of my other cousins who think woman only good for cooking and cleaning .2 of my cousin is working their husbands share house chores. The cousin who is married to Iris is not working I am surprised when i saw him helping my cousin sister after coming back from work .Every night they do dishes together. Weekend he fixes breakfast for her.
@@sram5308Geez thanks to your family for stealing our men. Now we are stuck with yours.😵💫
Indian men are never wrong in particularly Indian engineer males …they can’t handle been told of mistakes it’s mentally challenging there place causing them to not learn anything or question other possibilities it’s a real concern on there listening abilities as well.
Agree😂
@@KristnaSaikiaBillFortuneEagle hope the younger males learn.
Ofcourse, I'm an Indian guy American citizen but with a lot of PROUD MALE EGO .
I don't listen to parents either, I'll protect my parents no matter what but what makes me happy is my choice.
Also i don't wanna marry either oops lmao .
I agree
Family has strong influence.
So many problems come because of all gossip and idiocracy.
Thank you. I was surprised how sweetly the guy talked, I met him on a language app, then I watched your video and became more cautious
Mr Loy , you speak bitter truth, which no Indian can accept , but in truth Indians are too self righteous . Happy that you have courage to speak
neither anyone will be class a jackass
Yes absolutely well stated 👏
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
You are the perfect one then with all heavenly perfection
@Utkarsh elaborate
I have been married for 6 years to an Indian man, possibly because he was born in Canada a few of the points do not apply to him, however many do. The main struggle I have had is the marrying his family part; I was not aware of this and he was not forthright about how codependent he lives with his parents. This one point alone has been incredibly challenging for me as I came from a very different upbringing and find this fact to cause daily discomfort for me. His parents are nice people but its like they are the main focus of everything, they are basically sewn to him and expect the same from me. His sisters do not have the same burden of this crushing weight, but we (as a couple) do and as the years pass it only seems to get worse. That being said I love my husband dearly and he is so fantastic in many ways, its hard to admit that some of these points are true but I am grateful for the truth as I thought I was going crazy in this marriage due to this extreme relationship he has with his parents and family. I know I am not of this culture but I have been exposed to it and truly appreciate someone speaking the hard truth as I feel this is so rare. But without awareness, there is no potential to learn and grow, I hope your message is heard.
Dont worry you will be fine. 😊
In West cheating in marriage is pretty common because there is no supervision of elderly people in house and to support your kids when you are working in corporate
Do not feel you’re alone as many Indian women living in India or abroad goes through this suffering or confusion. Women tend to believe, lack of sincerity on their part but by time they realised the truth of family/parents sewn with their husband. It’s all about the way society and family raised a man to serve his parents and family only. Where a woman who married to him, becomes and remained his second priority. Few men can come out from this mentality or evolved out of it.
You love the part that indian men provide a lot . But you hate the part that they love mom's lmao .
Again I'm just a poisonous person .
Most Indian men are momma’s boys. My boyfriend’s mother started poisoning his mind against me from now on even before we are married and he is so blind he listens to her 😅. The families are so intrusive especially their mothers
Is so true àm going through the same here and can't let him go love in my eyes 😮😮😮
The problem with every wife is she want her husband parents relatives and friends either to die or magically disappear but she don't want same for her parents to be honest any woman in any part of world is should not marry if they don't like family structure, relationship are hard work not a fast food that you can eat and move on.
Actually girls mothers are intrusive before marriage, They tell really good things about their daughter but reality is far different, Todays girls are no less than just hookup materials.
And you will be too.. just hold on
My mom would be shocked hear that. In fact, she would be curious what she did wrong. Assuming your fiancé are also a momma’s boy, can you share his mom’s number, I’ll pass it on to my mom?
I'm white British and I married an Indian man. We've been married for 33 years.
It is very individual. But I think to over come the mentioned cultural barrier is not for everyone. Indian male are grow up to be dominant in family and not equal as in Europe.
@@ivai5587 Everyone is individual regardless of their culture and background. People have obstacles to overcome whatever their background. There are many many successful Indian mixed marriages.
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
True most of the indian man never cheat they take marriage as responsibility not like a joke
@@ivai5587 i think people here have a generalization problem, pointing out mistakes in others while not looking at themselves
I learned a lot from this video but some comments are real bullshit
I am a new subriber, female from germany, i had a relationship long time ago with an indian man, now i see many things clearly.
I appreciate yout honesty.
I’ve spent 7 years loving an Indian man in NZ only for him to go home and get married. If i knew that was the outcome i would have stayed clear and saved myself from wasted heart ache
But his lack of commitment to you would have shown. Maybe you ignored the red flags. But it is unethical of him to behave that way towards you. Hope you have moved on. No point thinking about a spineless man. Waste of time and effort.
I met an Indian guy months ago and he is very sweet, smart,handsome, educated... He is almost perfect. Also he looks his self perfect too. One thing I notice he don't like talking about his mom and marriage. Then, its start for me to doubt and did more research about Indian culture and behaviour. Lots of comments are all same. After that I learned to pull back by talking to him and it saves my time.
@@rosefabian-v8x indian men are angel on earth but are having hard life
Same boat!!! Once he got his US Citizenship, omggg!
Everything you said is on points!!! Geez! I was married to one. His family dictates his head. His hygiene is atrocious until I had to teach him how. His intimacy skills was terrible. Rough. And he is so arrogant! He got his citizenship and he divorced me. Good!
My Indian friend, he smells good and he dresses nice.
I could probably count on one hand the times I’ve heard him cuss. Actually It’s me who, in the beginning, would cuss.
I love his lightheartedness and ability to make me laugh when I’m down
Im so glad you spoke on this
All, India is impossible to stereotype because of the fact that india is the most populous country in the world. So use this video to spot red flags rather than following this video blindly. Indian men are hard working, responsible and trustworthy also
For the most yes.
Totally agree with you,indians outside behave more like locals and look down other indians,never have an Indian boss to work under.They are very jealous
Indian bosses give PTSD
As a Pakistani I can tell you, The same is true for Pakistani guys!
That's a lie. I know Indians and i know Pakistanis. You are probably Indian yourself . Unfortunately for you they will never have the same reputation that you Indians have
Yeah, all our South Asian men, indian subcontinent men are same.
At least Pakistani men are clean cut 😉, hygienic, and good in bed. Indian men on the other hand 🤣🤣🤣
Not all are same. @@RupsD319
We just have a different religion and country. Were all indo aryans
I am an Indian... Me And my wife love stray dogs And hate our society. Hope One Day we will move to jungle And live beautiful life. Luckly we both are clutureless.
I'm Ethiopian & culturless as well hope i will find a cultureless husband 😂😂
You are a bast...
I hope you both give birth to cultureless stray dogs in jungle.
Same here animals r better than society 😂
Indiana you are too resist
I am an oriental America dating a Punjabi. Omg. You are 99% correct. I was so confused by his actions! But you’ve really cleared things up for me. This guy is hygienic. But you’re right about everything else.
Same here I like a indian Punjabi guy in Los Angeles , I am indian in la. I face same issue.
@@KristnaSaikiaBillFortuneEagletotally a huge ego and are way too proud to admit to any faults of theirs.
Punjabi's are hygienic because they're ethnically Pakistani
@@jesssandhu9432 pakistan was born in 1947
@@amviratkohli Punjabi's are ethnically Pakistani. Adding on the year made no sene
Wow, how interesting. In my country there is a saying in Spanish;
“El Casado, Casa Quiere.”
Which basically means that once you get married you have to leave your childhood home, and you have to live alone with your partner (or you get judged by the community), and you are expected (if you are a man) to provide only for your partner and not your family members.
It is 5000 years old, from Torah and from Bible ;)
Asi es
@@art_video_design 5000 years old ? Bible ?
Almost exactly same saying in Portuguese: "quem casa, quer casa". The culture difference is that is common for Brazilians once they get married to either move very closely to their parents/in-laws or build their home in the property of their parents/in-laws. I'm talking about people in their 40s with good jobs asking their mommys and daddys to live in their home with their spouse. So, I'm glad you guys are much more independent.
I don't agree with the God thing, most indian men will never stop the girl from praying or following her own beliefs, that's one of the thing i liked about me being an indian hindu, of course exceptions are there as loy said.
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
I love Hinduism.
Your content saved my time by talking an Indian man.
YOU MISSED THIS MOST ARE ILLITERATE AT COOKING & UNWILLINGNESS TO CLEANING THE HOUSE OR DOING DISHES
Those bloody goats of India.
Married to an Indian. Fortunately he is not that stingy. He can be sometimes but not that bad. Also took a bit of training….he used to get upset at my grocery bill and it drove me nuts bcs stuff is expensive, but he is better about that now.
Now, my biggest issues
- ) In-laws….he is an only son so where do his parents live? With us. This is my biggest issue by far bcs I hate living with my parent-in-laws. My husband only can say to me ‘What can I do? Let them live on the streets?’ But this damages my mental well being bcs I now resent my in-laws for this and I resent my husband for this and more so, I have to live like this until someone dies. My husband use to tell me to have patience. This is what patience got me….nothing but depression. I hate my home. I hate cooking in my home and I hate cleaning my home. I hate waking up in my home. So, yes…by far my biggest issue bcs it directly correlates to my happiness.
- ) another issue….they are extra close to their family. In some ways this is good but it gets irritating at times. How long they talk on the phone and frequent phone calls at that. It can annoying sometimes. Sometimes he talks to one of his siblings multiple times a day every single day and that sibling happens to live a 2 minute walk away, so it is as if they never talk and never see each other
- ) they have trouble saying ‘no’ to their family
- ) extra sensitive in regards to their family….if you hurt them intentionally or not, big problem. If they do it to you, there is some excuse given to justify it
-) men don’t cook….this one drives me insane. My husband will not cook but will complain about food and won’t even get himself ice cream…he asks me to get it. If I am sick, it makes no difference. I either have to cook or explicitly ask him to buy outside food. He NEVER makes me food. 1 hour after finding out my brother died, “Can you make me something for breakfast?’ Meanwhile, all the other husbands out there were making their wife breakfast. (This happened about a decade ago but it bothered me a lot so I never forget it….sorry to say). And it bothered me when he tries to teach our kids that cooking is a woman’s job (though felt nice when our son then asked why there were mostly men cooking in the restaurant we ate at). My husband use to cook once in a blue moon when first married, but then the in-laws moved in and shoved him out of the kitchen so that is also another reason why I hate living with in-laws. I would ask them also not to serve him food but they would serve him food so…..no helpful husband in the kitchen. Even if he wants his water bottle filled, he asks the kids to do it even if it is midnight on a school night.
- ) lastly…..there is no loving nature of them. They drink at showing love, no attention (unless to complain or ask for something), and no affection. Coincidentally women usually need all those things so now you have a very unhappy unsatisfied wife. Husband wants a submissive wife but he gives nothing in return. Pay the bills and job is done for the day. Diaper changes? Late night feedings? Always the mom.
- ) they care too much what others think of them. I never went to India but in beginning of marriage we had plans to (then he lost his job so for financial reasons it never happened), but he asked me to lie to people if they asked what my parents did for a living. I should also lie about my siblings or keep quiet about them bcs 2 of my brothers had children out of wedlock and one of my brothers lives with a woman he had kids with but never married
Why it damages your mental health?? Just respect them and be good with them trust me they will love u back. If they are toxic then leave everybody. But trust me if u give them the love and respect if something happens to you trust me they will be always be with you. My grandmother aslo never liked my mom In starting but now I think my grandmother and grandfather show that parents love. They even avoid frequently comming home cuz they think that will put extra burden on her.
I highly recommend recommend you to take divorce.
@@RUPESH_GOSAVI_1 this is a indian-westerner marriage bhai.
Divorce n wat if not a lot money t give her. So she stay n complain@@ImperialCoquest
This is not at all acceptable. I am Indian myself, but I have to tell you, you are being taken for granted and mistreated. I would highly suggest you to get of that marriage
To be honest, most of this isn't restricted to Indian men. Sooo many men in America are this way. I think it's a matter of being traditional vs progressive. Also how secure they are, as you said. I think someone who truly understands Hinduism would be humble, and I think the guy I'm dating gets that. But it's true, you don't know how someone is when they're not around you.
I respect the culture and religion. But there’s no way I’m giving up my Catholic faith 100%. I don’t expect my partner to become Catholic 100% for me.
I recently was talking with a guy from Ahmedabad, he was straight up at the beginning we could never marry because of culture and traditions.I had no issues with that but if i mentioned a male he gets jealous so badly and gives me the silent treatment and we're not in a relationship. I live in the Caribbean
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Isn't ur man getting jealous. A. Good. Thing?
@@ankitmishra2404to a certain point but after that it's toxic
I feel like even for some of the ones abroad and educated, bad habits, the ones that you described, can still be present and ongoing. My conclusions after practical experience. I thank you so much for all the signs and explanations, they really helped me alot!!🙏🙏☀️
Wow the video was almost correct I think many of the things I've found in myself although i am not a full grown man yet but still i can see some of these things.
But I will surely work on them.
Thanks for the video
Your an absolute treasure!! Wise beyond years!! I enjoy your vids.. stay true to who you are!
In my country i work around some of those guys and what you said about the entitlement is so true
The most important thing that makes a mirage work is. TO MARRY YOUR OWN KIND YOUR OWN CULTURE OTHERWISE ITS A MIRAGE THAT HAS 90% failure rate. simple. Staying with your kind is not racism at all.
Unfortunately, you are 100% correct!
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Evolve from the ignorance... Asato ma sadgamaya... Very good video brother... As an 23 yrs old(UP.) indian I'll working on all the points you mention🙏
💯 on everything.... Fellow indian here.... As with most everything there might percentage variation but all of what u said is the gospel of truth, by and large whether anyone agrees with or not..
He’s spitting most facts mostly. This maybe the mentality for almost 50% of us Indians. Remember we do not have much record of how we were before the Brits came and altered most of our way of life. They surely created insecurity within us successfully.
Thank you man for defending the true! Probably, you've saved a lot of my times and energy ! You confirmed my intuition! Thanks ❤🎉
Well actually there are many people who would enlighten you why you should not marry any country men
that's nice❤
I think that in broder perspective the self-esteem alone covers 3 to 4 points! Thanks Loy 😊
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
My recent admission in DU told me a lot about our society. Only a few places are the ones where trustworthy people live.
😂😂 no one should be openly perverted, social media has made us think these things are acceptable. They are not, im so glad you spoke on this.
When you're getting married for having sex only... End result has to be fatal...
Lol
Yup. Learn to see beyond the p**sy.
That is the reason most people get married. Otherwise there would be no marriages. No incentive for a man to pursue a woman
@@keyurpatel1982u man there is much more than that in marriage
@@sirishadevi7441Trust me. Men will not pursue you if that doesn't exist. The fundamental rules of life are that a man pursues a woman. Women don't pursue men. The other things in a marriage are tolerated because of the sex.
I work for two indian men. They are the sweetest men I know. Provided they have been in this country for 30 years.
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
which country?
They behave at work.
Lot of true beaviours you explained.. And last two were real and most funny..😄😍
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
Wow! Wow! Wow!..... This video was an education and totally divorced from my understanding of Indian culture, especially as it relates to men. I appreciate your courageous honesty!!!
I have boyfriend indian now,when i saw your videos im think twice now if i continue
Hahaha. Discuss with him. Its true. If you r lucky u r exceptional
Unfortunately, you are 100% correct. The bitter truth.
Im here to Support you ! What a message moment of Truth what ever you said is very much true whether people will accept this much criticism or not.. Sorry my Indian Brothers and Men of all walk do not feel bad he is not talking about those gentlemen who belongs to good decent family..I'm from Northeast India I know how it looks like about Indian Society and culture..oops
there is many more to speak which Loy didnt mention.
@@tindany3168 is he willing to introduce you to his family?
For how long you have been with him?
@@tindany3168 it depends, you still don't know his family background and how they will treat you.Tell him to visit you in your country, make sure to use contraceptives or safe sex, if you two get more intimate because you're still not sure about anything.
If your guts are saying something is wrong, listen to it
Don't do it unless you're sure and observe people. That's all I can say , since I don't know much about your situation
@@tindany3168 I'm not assuming that you will
But it's human nature itself, hence I said it
We never know what will happen, so it's better to be prepared for the unknown
Hmmm, what is the definition of foreign girls? White girls? Rich girls? Highly educated girls from first world? East Asian girls? If so, they should not marry an average Indian! I agree with Loy! They really can't adjust. But yes, it's also true I have 4 aunts who got married Indian men and still, at least according to them and their relatives, they are happily married. They themselves were poor, they got married in a poor family. Their husbands were too busy earning money! They really didn't have time to practice those absurd rituals and orthodox thought.
But thanks to Loy, being a young girl, I am afraid to marry now!
Totally is..so agree with Loy.. like they dont know what is prioritize means
Pretty flower must be shy 😊
Highest success rates and richest immigrants with lowest divorce ratre with best parenting and loyal people no cheating in marriage are our culture surely we are indian
Jab shadi apni marzi se nhi hui toh divorce apni marzi se kese lenge 😂😂@@roshinitoenlightenment
OMG i have barely seen any Indian girl commenting on his previous video of why you shouldn't marry a Indian girl and 13 reasons, But look at comments here the guys justifying themselves saying all are not same and blah blah while on other video they were laughing and agreeing all the points LOL. So basically here is one of the reasons you can see yourselves how hypocrite and superior and egoistic they are !! as in the video..
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Yeah
we are sorry...
Basically i agree with you but all man are exactly same they only want one thing from woman which is the mentality the feminism taught you your father married your mother because he wanted sex you are just the byproduct of lust nothing more and your daughter or son will also become a by product of lust basically you and your whole family tree is just born out of lust and not love while other people are product of love because they don't think in the way you think
😢 we indian men treated like dogs by our own family,society if we are not sucessful in jobs indian men are beaten by sticks by teachers ,father if we are not good in study 😢😢😢😢😢 indian men life is curse😢😢😢
🆒 post! 👏🏼 Accurate on most counts from my experiences since 1997. Working with Indians in my software development career and traveling longterm to India as a tourist since 2017, north and south. Staying with families, homestays and Airbnb family-owned apartments mostly. Hotels too, but that’s a whole other topic. Just saying my experiences are far and wide and I agree with most of what you are saying. (I have stories! And they are all long!) 😅
I find that most Indians take a lot of showers. Other hygiene issues are there like unkempt nails, nasty feet, stained teeth and unwashed clothing. I’ve not had the terrible smells and I’ve been on many 2-3 tier second-class trains, plus loads of wild, primitive bus rides. Maybe my sinus issues are there. 😅
I’m curious why you did not mention Sikhs and Buddhists Indians? Dowry is a challenge right along with the caste system. But all else you mentioned is so so true!
I wish I had seen your video before I got engaged into a Sikh family for 5 yrs, then properly frauded, money and belongings stolen by my ex-fiance’ in UP. We are currently in court. He’s been to prison. Too much to explain here.
-> Another reason not to marry an Indian boy. They either want your money, s3x, your country’s passport and citizenship or to use you as a trophy. Not all of course, but a very high percentage.
I am only 25% Indian but I am Hindu and my mother is not religious but she taught me never eat red meat, try to ge vegetarian if I can, we believe in reincarnation and those things… so Idk how I can marry anyone who is not Indian because I take being Hindu very serious and want to raise my future kids as Hindu as well. ❤
😂im 100% Indian (Hindi) born in South Africa , raised by a glorious woman who taught me exactly the same as your mum except that she believed in the merits of the person i married but she did also believe that a Hindi girl would be easier in many aspects longterm. Off course i married a wonderful highly educated Telegu girl whom my mum and entire family simply adored - we are now divorced, simply because I was the problem reaffirming the Telegu community’s belief that “ one should never marry a non Telegu”
So…..,I was in some ways an example of whom Loy is correctly referring to.
@@Jonuskas "there must be good men" what bout the males in your family? And as if indian females are any good
Hinduism always on top
Fake ass comment 😆
The know if all mentality true
I dated two Indian men both from Kerala. You’re so right about everything you said. They’re hideous very suspicious they living a double life. both are LDR relationships. 1st guy from a well off family and the second guy from middle class family. Both are hideous both are egoistic and emotionally unavailable. The first guy emotionally abused me, second guy tried to scam me. I was single for 8 yrs before I dated again and I thought I have so much wisdom when it comes to dating and stuff. But I was still fooled by those guys. Thankfully never ended up marrying either of them. Side noted I didn’t dated them on the same time there’s no overlap. Here in Philippines it’s becoming a trend dating foreigners specifically Indians because we are getting tired of dating men from our culture because they’re so westernized that’s why we thought it’s a good idea to date Indians because we thought they’re very conservative and respectful but yeah we’re so wrong about it
Before I forgot both are sweet talkers, both are Christian which I easily fell for because I’m Christian as well. What’s sad about it is they used God’s word and stuff to lure women.
I am American and I practice Hinduism. My husband is American and he doesnt practice any religion. He enjoys going to Hindu temple with me. We go once or twice a month because the temple is quite far from our home.
Because he works full time and I dont work outside the home, I do most of the housework, cooking and cleaning. He wants to help me but I dont want him to. We go food shopping together.
Im vegetarian but I cook some meat for him.
I have the most beautiful altar. The Hindu temple we go to is located in an area where there are many Indian shops and restaurants. He has bought me all my favorite dieties--
Ganesa, Radha, Krisna, Hanuman, Shirdi Sai Baba, Lakshmi, Shiva.
While he is working, I do sadhana, mantra, meditation and we have friends in our building that I visit.
We've been together 8 years and we're very happy.
Im about to get married to one i just rethinked it..thankyou for this ↑
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
I just met an Indian men 😂, he sent a message that seemed very convincing that we would get serious. I was suspicious from the start and knew that he was lying, because It doesn't make sense that we've only known each other for 2 days and he's immediately that confident 😂
. I followed his game and agreed to everything he said so he thought I was fascinated. Until finally he suddenly said he wanted to borrowed me money. I already knew he would be like this because he always talked about salary, he knew I was working. I immediately said that I couldn't help and give money, because money is sensitive. Do you know what he's going to do after this? He blocked me😂 I really laughed out loud and felt victorious. He thought I was a stupid woman who just wanted to be fooled. Even though no, I really know this type of man. Very rude indeed At least I had the message 'good things will produce good things Be an intelligent woman
Before it, I learned and knew about Indian men with this video😂
I don't live with my in-laws They only come for vacations and I'm very happy but you're right I've seen other couples🇮🇳
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
You forgot to mention the type that migrate to a different country and begin to think they're superior to their Indian counterparts. For instance, the guy in the video who finds it necessary to emphasise that he is nothing like other Indians. Wouldn't blame you, as this phenomenon is something very common amongst many immigrants, Indian or otherwise.
Thanks for this. I need this right now😢
You must be from heaven lovely girl 😊
Philippines Indonesia Thailand Mexico ?
Love & kindest of regards from Europe
Hey Lou, Dwayne from Australia. Right on man! I'm researching an already booked trip to India for a month and in my research I can see many of these traits in my dealings with Indian men. Hopefully the what appears meek and suppressed women are better. I watch and enjoy all your videos 👍.
Sorry ..... Loy not Lou ... Ooops
Just ensure you have someone trust worthy so that you are not taking for a ride especially beware of scammers who seek out foreigners to cheat them by any means possible. Be safe. LM
All good points thank u. I only dealt with the Indian dispora online and you’re right on the money. A lot of them do act like that. And people from other cultures online notice it too about Indian men especially being so thirsty after women it be so annoying. I’m glad u brought up one point in ur reasons and I can’t remember what it was but thanx for that. Great video.
Yes, I have received so thirsty creepy lusty messages even from LinkedIn. Forget about Facebook, Instagram.
Then, I directly ask him are you a sex addict/ porn addict?? Seems fair enough 😂😂
0:21 😂😂😂 bruh the passport took me out. You are funny, your experience is valid.
I’m not Indian but I come from a country who enjoys bargaining as a hobby . I think Indians who do that come from humble beginnings and the world does not have anything to do with ! Get real: if something costs $10 then pay $10 . There is a cost to everything and being cheap sometimes tarnishes the culture when they live abroad .If they are so attached to the family then they shouldn’t have left India . They leave India but India hasn’t left them
Very detailed analysis excellent
Does the Indian culture not teach basic personal hygiene like use of deodorant and clean themselves? We are in 2024 now and even the poor groups have access to internet and learn these things.
All points are absolute truth about Indian man sadly.
You’ve shown a big mirror to Indian men but few going to accept as they’ve very fragile ego!
I think, it’s generated from many centuries of outside invasions and colonial effects! Somewhat a tribal mentality prevalent in Arabia, Afghanistan with women and in society. Man enjoys privilege and feels entitled provided to them by family and society. Overall India women suffered a lot socially in the marriage, which i’ve realised after many years now!
Liked the way you’ve explained with absolute clarity!
Thank you for sharing this useful information with us
Wicked tats 👌👌👌 haven't associated with indians much but have seen what your saying in these short 5 years of getting to know them...and since being shown this about them - I have begun staying away from them,, but love the music 👍
You had me at point "3", my friend. I can not stand a stingy man. Besides, I am a Latina woman and have low tolerance for disrespect. You would definitely hear plates and crap breaking around the house if my husband and/or family tries to treat me like a servant 😂😂😂😂😂
Loved the video and your views, they were 100% accurate.
Thanks for your honest opinion 😊
Good observation, good explanation, well delivered ,
They know everything because they dont have much to do other than their job. They come home to a mother or a wife who has prepared the food and done all household duties. So they spend all their time reading news paper, internet, TV etc
Highest success rate
and richest immigrants with lowest divorce rate in the world so why not these values should implement to every countries
@@roshinitoenlightenment are you an Indian women?
Too much truth was spoken in this video. Damn!!
I am an Indian man but 100% agree with you.
Oh really ?
I like Indian boys, but I won’t never marry a Indian boy. They are have very strong family connect. I m unable to handing with his sisters brother’s mother father.😅. Too much for me.
Imagine a strong family connection being the reason to not marry. This is a narcissistic trait.
You will pass away in nursing home, old , frail, lonely and abused by nursing home staff. This is how most Western people die these days.
@@speedythings7396 what you said is the Indian perspective. Some indians spend hours talking with their family every single day. Westerners are a bit more individualistic and find this to be awkward.
@@speedythings7396narcissist wo nhi tu he 😂
Jisse apni problem problem nhi lagti
you nailed it LOY...
This moron Loy have zero knowledge of our Indian culture. You can not be just Indian because your ancestors are belong to India. Our beautiful of Indian culture is called in Tamil Orutthanukku orutthi which means one husband one wife, You can not be like prostitutes whom ever you like you can sleep with them. This is beauty of our Indian culture.
I am an Australian. My mother's friend is fully Indian and she agreed with what you have said the caste system was always a big problem and dowry as well. But I showed this video to one of my Indian friend, and he got too depressed. He took it so seriously that he just cried and said that why he didn't die before he was born which is very ridiculous just for a video. As a friend, what should I say to him?
In that case it is better they marry within their own culture and religion.
Dowry system is so bad especially in North Indian Part.
I don't know if it is in South India.
Yes in Maharashtra it's rampant
Horrible, even educated people involves into such a sh*tty cultural system in India
In Andra Pradesh/Telangana dowry is very common
It's somewhat common in the South. But far less than the North.
Not in uttarakhand duhh
Mr. Loy I can tell you that the stingy part comes because of upbringing.
We are never taught to Buy books and invest in other areas of life.
That is why we are really stingy in some areas.
Even my own relatives.
So Indian so stingy person even a women asking very simple thing so very cheap
Bengalis invest in books and hold the largest bookfair in Asia.
Your first one is likely most applicable to majority of desi men. Now that is my opinion but that is likely the number 1 and kudos Loy for hitting the very most common aspect. I don’t subscribe to that aspect but from friends family and colleagues I can see this as very apparent
Wow loy our opinion matches so much how i perceive and think about Indian mens and indian society
The self esteem issues is prevalent in India and in other Asian countries/societies as well. Thanks again mostly to the Brits. We Indians are generally too nice but at the same time the duality of human nature is very much evident within us at all times.
Some people can NEVER be wrong however for the same lot ;others are ALWAYS wrong... feeding their egos continuosly and making it bigger to only give bigger fodder.... its their lifestyle, its all they want to do
After marriage
U have to take care about your in laws till your death
your condition would become similar to indian aunties in mid 30s looking like 50s.
Adding it to, u can't take care of your parents, it's against their culture. And they can't go even with 10% of your culture.
Plus indian men ego is unbelievable. He won't even do little thing to help u at house chores as they feel less as man even if touched to boil milk for your kids.
Not to say every Indian is like this but I’ve met a few Indian men with most of these qualities. It’s very typical and deep rooted in their culture. I was friends with an Indian man and his wife. I noticed this man’s behavior issues in the beginning but decided to let it go and hoped he will improve. He got worse. Even though he’s married, he used to pay attention to me a lot which made me uncomfortable. And he started behaving in a controlling way with me even though I’m not from his family. I was their friend. It was worse that his wife supported this behavior. I felt like they did not care about my feelings and started treating me like an object instead of a friend, so I distanced myself from them. Because of that, the man blocked me from Facebook and both have animosity towards me.
I am India women and this is true with this.
Bro, our dating market abroad is already fucked up, I don’t know why you making these videos lol. It’s not like we are killing it and you are awakening people lol
Married men live longer than single men. But married men are a lot more willing to die.
-Johnny Carson
I want to remain unmarried my whole life so does that mean I won't live long🤣🤣
There is no proof to support your statement apart from biased propaganda.....Marriage is an outdated concept
Singles' community 🔥
I always ask people which part they are from in conversation.
To understand their mentality.
I always avoid Few parts if India.
Lol.. i tried to relate with the things you said. Some are true but some are your own family experiences.. time has changed a lot.
I am indian male, and I married, and it turned out to be disastrous. So not marrying is better for Indian males too.
why ? what did you do?
As an indian man i really want to viral this video coz what i really hates is that a man's arrogant attitude, sexual looks and very hateful speech towards an another woman especially when he is alone with boys. This video is 100% true for 90% of the men but remaining 10% of men's character like god's character. The world is nothing compare to these 10% greats. Thank god I'm not one of those men who mentioned in this video. But that bargain issue is only true when we try to buy a thing which is not fit for the actual prize of the product coz Indian local markets intentionally add extra money to the products😂
Man this makes me remember the movie "the great Indian kitchen". The movie was so unsettling
I live independently and I don't have any connections with my family cause of many reason , for me they just don't exist . I noticed that my friends has different values than me , like they are too much devoted in religion , while I'm secular . Yeah my friends always try to teach me about things while I don't even ask for it .
Thank you your advice ❤ very much appreciate
I am an Indian. From a minority community. Well educated, well earning (30 percent tax bracket) But not the right caste for majority of Indian men. I am also an atheist. So not marriage material. Not that I wish to get married to any of them but finding someone who matches my wavelength is a very slim possibility. The personal hygiene part is truly disgusting and true. I cannot get over it either.
I have an Indian boyfriend and we havent met yet we just have videocalls but the longer days pass i fell more inlove with him...and i hope he is not like what its says here from this blog.
@rowenagermo8385 - Given what you have stated, my gut feeling & experience says, it is headed that way. I don't wish you bad but remember me when and if it does happen. :P
Please before marriage make sure he is a good guy. I was in long distance for more than 2 years, married in between and struggled to get him to my country and now he has been here for more than a month, I want him to go back. He treats me like I'm supposed to do everything, even I'm working full time and I come home form work super exhausted and he expects me to make food when he has been home all day (as he doesn't have a job yet), even one day I came home from work earlier because I wasn't well and instead of taking care of me he asked to make him tea and lunch, I was in complete shock 😲 and I'm deeply hurt because I can't believe anyone in world who truly loves someone can really act like this. I'm not saying to run, just please read all the signs before committing and don't get to my point because, now I don't know how to get out, he doesn't have money and I don't have money for his return ticket and I don't know what to do 😢 good luck to you
What'd ya think about him? Is he really into you?
U r one of that man that talk lot rather coming to point..
Soo true. I am in Nigeria and met an Indian man online. I told him i do not want to meet in his house and he started insulting me soo badly. It was actually funny how emotional and petty he got. I laughed at his foolishness and blocked him. I have heard the stereotype but it was soo sad to experience same.
I met one online from Gujarat. After 1 months of talking stage l decided not to continue and blocked him everywhere. The way he brags have got me eeeeeeeeeeeeeeew and goosebumps. The most horrible part is I was being stalked for almost 4 years by a hundred accounts he created.
Oh gujrati men are worst I am gujrati too