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AMA: Why Do Cults (And Controlling Men In General) Hate Red Lipstick?
Appearance control is a real thing, in and out of cults (but especially in cults).
Someone asked about why red lipstick is a target, great question. Here's my answer.
Can you relate?
About Me:
I'm Daniella Mestyanek Young, scholar of cults, extreme groups, and extremely bad leadership. These days, I'm also known as the Knitting Cult Lady. I grew up in the Children of God cult (also known as the Family International), and served 2 tours of duty in the cult of the US army. I noticed that those two organizations had a lot in common and have been studying them and what we can learn about other cults-- and how to protect ourselves from coercive control and abusive situations.
You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. bit.ly/SignedUncultured
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AMA: What Inspired Me To Deconstruct from White Supremacy?
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Someone wanted to know about what made me personally start this journey of deconstructing from White Supremacy. Here's a little story time about that. #YTSupremacy #internalizedracism #structuralracism #institutionalracism
About Blonde and White Supremacy
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My own journey with unpacking this YT supremacy stuff #knittingcultlady #ytsupremacy #deconstruction #blonde #blondehair About Me: I'm Daniella Mestyanek Young, scholar of cults, extreme groups, and extremely bad leadership. These days, I'm also known as the Knitting Cult Lady. I grew up in the Children of God cult (also known as the Family International), and served 2 tours of duty in the cult...
Weekly Cult Situation Report 12/20/24
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Today's topics: The Gisèle Pelicot case, Harvard's Racism plus some info on testing validity, Culty Knitting Patterns and Culting of America Update About Me: I'm Daniella Mestyanek Young, scholar of cults, extreme groups, and extremely bad leadership. These days, I'm also known as the Knitting Cult Lady. I grew up in the Children of God cult (also known as the Family International), and served ...
Episode 21 | Spiritual Abuse and Single Family Cults
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In this episode, Dr. Jamie Marich discusses her experiences with spiritual abuse and the dynamics of cults, emphasizing the importance of understanding these issues in therapy. She shares her personal journey of growing up in a high-demand religious environment, the impact of family dynamics, and her path to recovery from addiction. The conversation highlights the significance of storytelling a...
AMA: Can I Clarify "The Sacred Assumption?" Yes!
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My list of qualities that make up the definition of a #cult includes number 2, the "worldview shift that brings you under the sacred assumption." People get tripped up thinking that all cults are religious/religions. This is not true, there are all kinds of cults: #NXIVM, #YogaCults, so many others, anything in the #personaltransformation or #personaldevelopment space. So let me tell you about ...
AMA: On The Pentagon "Clearing" My Book//"Clearing" vs/ "Approving"
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Mission-Based Jobs: Culty or Nah?
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Mission-Based Jobs: Culty or Nah?
AMA: Comment about Jehovah's Witnesses Group of 12
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AMA: Comment about Jehovah's Witnesses Group of 12
AMA: Why Do I Knit While I'm Talking To You?
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Weekly Cult Situation Report 11/13/24
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Wicked takes on Wicked
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Episode 20 | Recovering from Purity Culture
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Episode 20 | Recovering from Purity Culture
AMA: Did You Know as a Child Growing Up on a Cult Compound that You Were Different?
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The lost cult babies
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AMA: How Do You Distinguish Between The Secrecy of Cults and Secrecy for National Security?
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Black Privilege
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AMA Question: Was I really Married to Reddit's Famous NEBOR?
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AMA: Is There a Best Time To Rescue Loved Ones From Cults?
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Can You Be A Self-Help Addict? YES, and Here's Why.
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You All Ask Me A Lot About MLMs, and Since I'm Writing That Chapter, Sometimes I Say "Wait!"
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Episode 19: Leaving Hasidic Judaism
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How Did I Get Into Harvard after a Cult Non-Education//About My Education Journey
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Have I seen Nick Crowley's CoG Puppet Show Doc? I'm Actually IN IT.
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  • @NatalieM123
    @NatalieM123 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Please, more videos on beauty! also, just curious, what are you knitting?

  • @SuzanneSwint
    @SuzanneSwint 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    9 to 5 has aged pretty well

  • @DesertViking7
    @DesertViking7 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Red lipstick and rouge give the appearance of sexual arousal. Sexuality gives women power. That’s why those who wish to control women hate makeup in general and red lipstick in particular!

  • @cheryal2809
    @cheryal2809 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I don't understand why some men don't seem to like their daughters very much. My Dad, an Army pilot, ALWAYS warned me about "those hairy-legged boys."

  • @donahastie1530
    @donahastie1530 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Needle clicking during video is annoying

  • @royceroyce7715
    @royceroyce7715 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I always love a good shoutout for white woman whisperer ❤

  • @BeachPeach2010
    @BeachPeach2010 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I think the red lipstick hate is because the red emphasizes your mouth, and they don't think anything valid should come from a womans mouth.

  • @kaylalafountain3015
    @kaylalafountain3015 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    So they hate is what we should inspired to be. Fun😊

  • @starmelodyelizabethb7380
    @starmelodyelizabethb7380 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I'm glad that I don't pay attention to jerks like that

  • @Strange_Nothings
    @Strange_Nothings 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I've been seeing a lot of pictures and people talking about how fat women are unattractive and how you have to lose weight to get a man, and I've never had trouble with men nor liking my curves and shape of my body. And they say "it's your health it's your health, we're worried about your health!" But that's bullshit too because it's not about health because they specifically target women and not men because fat men are allowed to exist in peace in our culture without repercussions with leniency.

    • @sarahblack9333
      @sarahblack9333 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      And a lot of the ways they encourage women to lose weight are wildly unhealthy, too! They'll swear up and down that they're "just worried about their health! Honest!" And then proceed to encourage the person to absolutely destroy their body in the pursuit of thinness. It's disgusting

  • @CherilynHolter-wz9hb
    @CherilynHolter-wz9hb 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Keep knitting. Speaking the truth, making me smile, n deconstructing while you create. Creator is sending the very best Warriors.

  • @tinkergnomad
    @tinkergnomad 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    It's giving, "I can give my car, computer, power tools, and other things gendered pronouns (especially when they're not doing what I want, so it's okay to call it 'a bitch,') but not actual people." It also occurs to me the term "ladies/lady," used to bother me because I was taught there's a behavioral code of sorts attached to that title. "A lady," behaves a certain way. "A lady," is classy. It's a way of excluding, and gendering at the same time, and for me it's always carried a connotation of "you're not quite good enough." I think "guys," is also a way of demoting women to "not ladies." I also find it interesting that when a group of guys are called "ladies," it's meant as an insult almost exclusively. We're supposed to be okay with being called "guys," but they're insulted (or take it as an insulting "joke,") when they're called "ladies?" Yeah, not okay!

  • @heathermccall8015
    @heathermccall8015 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I would suggest that wearing makeup is the control. Not wearing makeup shows you don't gaf.

  • @heathermccall8015
    @heathermccall8015 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Until women are equal, there will never be an end to misogyny.

  • @SuzanneSwint
    @SuzanneSwint 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Interesting. Thank you for your work.Shameful admission: I went blond after reading that blonds make more money.

  • @tinkergnomad
    @tinkergnomad 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I have short hair and tattoos! Clearly I need to start wearing red lipstick!

  • @beckylindley2263
    @beckylindley2263 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    👏👏👏 best comeback ever! 🤣😂🤣

  • @samiraByTreeF2L
    @samiraByTreeF2L 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Just discover your channel! Great❤!! Happy Christmas❤!!

  • @judithsanders9801
    @judithsanders9801 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Kind of weird since all their moms wore it up until the 1960s.

  • @Jessica_Lynn_1111
    @Jessica_Lynn_1111 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    👄🙏💜✨️👄

  • @suzannaflores1164
    @suzannaflores1164 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Ooooh good come back!

  • @thomascromwell6840
    @thomascromwell6840 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    You seem cool but could you wear a microphone or speak a little louder. I have to slide my volume all the way up on my earphones and it still isn't clear. Sorry to be the one to bring it up. So, we don't like women who wear make up and red lipstick because in doing that women are taking control of how they look. I grew up in a very conservative home and the women in my family have never worn any makeup. They even look down on women who do. I'm guessing this is also a kind of misogyny at work.

  • @EdWatch-yx7hy
    @EdWatch-yx7hy 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Is that why asian women try to appear as childlike as possible? Seriously asking. The whole adult children thing is mad weird

  • @ElmoBiotech
    @ElmoBiotech 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Appearance control is not frivolous. Thank you!❤

  • @Arkylie
    @Arkylie 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Aaand then there's the people who have the idea that women HAVE to wear makeup, HAVE to shave their legs (and pits). Have to "put on their face" before they leave the house. I'm so glad I never fell into that makeup chore; the only time I wear makeup is on Halloween, and maybe once in a blue moon I'll wear a (likely purple) lipstick. Also, my mom was always telling me that dyeing your hair was weird/wrong, which I only broke free of once I realized that Mom was always dyeing her hair -- she just dyed it to match "acceptable" normal haircolor and disguise her grey. Now I dye my hair, but I also don't care about maintenance of the dye, so the roots showing doesn't bother me, nor does the fact that the dye isn't uniform. My mom keeps mentioning any time my tummy shows (if my shirt's too short or rode up a bit), and my dad once said that men don't want women with hairy legs. I love them both and have a close relationship with my mom, but they definitely have their antiquated viewpoints.

  • @grumpy_gremlin
    @grumpy_gremlin 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The sad thing is the middle section of her comment is correct. She just hasn't realised that it is ALL women, and historically, and repeatedly, the hierarchy has been: 1) white men 2/3) white women & black and brown men in a battle to get recognition from white men 4) black and brown women being forgotten and pushed down by white women & men of colour othering them to try and get ahead

  • @tuathadanu
    @tuathadanu 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Simple and profound, thankyou 🙏

  • @leonhayes188
    @leonhayes188 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Because they don't know how to pick the right shade for their skin tone.

  • @raydgreenwald7788
    @raydgreenwald7788 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Unrelated, but I love the sound of the clacking needles!

  • @katiefountain2407
    @katiefountain2407 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This would explain the stick thin, fake blonde look all the girls wanted a couple decades ago.. I honestly thought it looked sterile and lifeless.. P.S. not to mention the poor girls who had big body types. They would literally be actively starving themselves while still getting socially shamed 😢.

  • @NuitAsdf
    @NuitAsdf 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    There is a reason why one of the things toxic male partners do against their girlfriends/wives is to control what they wear and make a huge fuss about it.

  • @nothingruler14All
    @nothingruler14All 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    There's one tweak on the "cults not liking short hair on women" phenomenon. In the U.S., if you're a woman it's "required" when your hair turns gray to cut it shorter, at least to a bob. And to have an unattractive hairstyle. I love it when women with long hair don't change a thing once it turns gray. Why should we be embarrassed that we're getting older? We're just really coming into our power.

    • @kikidevine694
      @kikidevine694 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I'm in the UK and I get this from my parents. Eff it I love my old lady grey locks.

    • @gaelle4328
      @gaelle4328 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      So I have had very short hair or even shaved many years, now I’m getting older and wearing longer hair and a bright lip, wear red handbags and boots… these boots are made for walking!

  • @sarahthesarah2850
    @sarahthesarah2850 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My Mom would call her make up " war paint" and pray over it and bless it when she put it on. She told me thar women fight a secret war that takes place out in the open. Every time she had to stand her ground ir deflect someone trying to control or shame her, if my sisters and I were present she would give us a wise glance. She said that we need to remember that God gave each of us the responsibility and power for ourselves when we are adults. I miss her.

    • @andreavantzet1962
      @andreavantzet1962 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Oh that is such a warrior thing to do! I might start blessing my makeup too! (At the ripe old age of 60)

    • @gaelle4328
      @gaelle4328 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      My mom called it war paint as well in Sweden 🇸🇪 think they were on to something!

    • @sarahthesarah2850
      @sarahthesarah2850 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      My Granny would bless her soaps, lotions, powders and such as well. She said that touch helped us be in the moment. Touch helps to heal and incorporate ourselves. To return back to who we are as we are now. She also said that to clean, care, consider, center and cultivate were all ways we shared our blessings and blessed what is a blessing to us. We can see what we care most deeply about by how much time and self we share with them. When we bless what blesses us it creates a circular blessing. It shows our young, especially our daughters how to value themselves, what blesses them and the relationships cultivated by those shared blessings. We each have something to share. Something that is a blessing of our experience as a human being. I am very content and appreciative to be able to share these things with y'all. I also appreciate hearing your experiences and feelings as well.

  • @domeatown
    @domeatown 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I hate red lipstick because it looks silly and gets on everything. But I'd nevee tell anyone to their face. That is where cult thinking and my thinking part ways, probably lmao

  • @urzmontst.george6314
    @urzmontst.george6314 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    How can you hate Red lipstick? Also, you look quite nice in uniform.

  • @Shanimal24
    @Shanimal24 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Liberals are absolutely insane, red lipstick?? Where do you clowns get this BS?? Hell,you morons don't even know what a real woman is! 🤦

  • @michaeltotman1411
    @michaeltotman1411 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    it attracts to much Male attention to you!

  • @cherylbowen4229
    @cherylbowen4229 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Loved this video :) I have found appearance control to be so true, I’ve experienced men do like for adult women to look like little girls. Creepy.

  • @ibrocpcanman5342
    @ibrocpcanman5342 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Fascinating topic, again! I believe that WS is closely connected to the teachings of Christianity. Would you agree or not? Meaning that, logically and historically, Christianity is an African religion! It started in Africa, but you wouldn't know it by a European Jesus being jammed down the world throat by society! Anyway, you are doing a great job! Thanks to the algorithm gods again! 😂🙏

  • @jamiecartright
    @jamiecartright 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much for this.

  • @fadedcelestial2022
    @fadedcelestial2022 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I know past the ugliness of the past, another factor you miss is your natural and inherency to masculinity or its energy within all its context. You were a mighty battle angel, pure and simple, but still id let you kick my ass...

  • @ATChick
    @ATChick 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    No wonder mormonism loves blindness so much.😮

  • @WizardKitty723
    @WizardKitty723 วันที่ผ่านมา

    💋

  • @LilMissCuddles
    @LilMissCuddles วันที่ผ่านมา

    In private, would some controlling men in the bedroom like red lipstick on mistresses? I believe it's normally thought of as sexy. I'm not sure if for them it's a "never" thing, or purely a "control" thing, whether intentional or not.

  • @honeybeeart9382
    @honeybeeart9382 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When you say "Eastern European," surely you know that Slavs, which are a large part of Eastern Europe, weren't considered white people (many are VERY white physically, so don't ask me the stupid logic) and that "Aryan Beauty" is more to do with Anglo-Saxon looks. The features you described are actually Anglo-Saxon looks. That said, Eastern Europeans definitely are close behind and drowning in white supremacy, but there are many of us from that part of the world that are mixed with different cultures/races and races that do not fit the Aryan standard of beauty and we are a large part of the Eastern European population so to say it's an "Eastern European beauty standard" is a bit misleading. And not to mention, at one point the white supremacists didn't even consider the whitey whitest of the Slavs, white. It's the Germanic people they felt were superior.

  • @mylifewithmarmalade4624
    @mylifewithmarmalade4624 วันที่ผ่านมา

    👏🏻 Rights are not like pie. More for someone else does not mean less for you. We need all hands on deck if we’re going to change the status quo and stop existing in a world designed by and for middle aged white cis men.

  • @Rillestri
    @Rillestri วันที่ผ่านมา

    This also explains the hatred of graying hair and wrinkles!

    • @nothingruler14All
      @nothingruler14All 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      It's so great to see a woman who isn't embarrassed about having gray hair, and lets it grow.

  • @mylifewithmarmalade4624
    @mylifewithmarmalade4624 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Well, and bright colors in general. Bold lipstick, bright clothing, unusual hair colors are all ways to stand out, make a statement, be an individual. To do so requires the belief that you are worthy of being an individual and making your own choices. We can’t have women who know their worth and want to stand up and say something. The whole system would fall apart and we can’t have that.

    • @tinkergnomad
      @tinkergnomad 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      We can have that, and we should.

    • @mylifewithmarmalade4624
      @mylifewithmarmalade4624 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @ I fully agree. But that would be the worst nightmare of most cult leaders.

  • @justincampbell3891
    @justincampbell3891 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I would like to think I'm not particularly obsessed with controlling other people's lives. And, barring several what I think would be very fun and liberating acts of God (reason and accountability being MAJOR drags) But just from a pragmatic standpoint, as a dishwasher for a living: The stuff is kind of a pain to get out. I have to both hand-wash and machine-wash our coffee mugs. I've been told that a lot of that comes down to make, model, and price point. But I don't know anything about that.

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Oh, yeah. I hate it too. I think as two Joe schmo's, we are allowed to have our opinions. I have never tried to control anyone's manner of dress.

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Provided we stay in our lane, we are allowed to hate anything we want. So long as it isnt the same reason cults hate it. I feel that intent is probably critical here.

  • @ingridc0ld
    @ingridc0ld วันที่ผ่านมา

    This makes me feel gross about the praise I got as a child when I had blonde hair.