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Would be interesting, if your story would been told directly. This way, it remains a kind of puzzle, one must quess all the time Some of your other videos were helpful, many thanks!

I see alot of women in the comments I'm here too guys 20 years 7 children later may God forgive us for what we did 😢

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It hurts so much, she cheated one me twice now , we been 16 years together . I don't know what to do. 😢😢

Right off rhe bat i call bullshit on your milestones. Typical female logic.

I think 7 signs are a stretch before you find out your partner is unfaithful to you , these signs doesn't guarantee you will get the about their secret affairs , and the signs might be from change of routine but if you have a strong urge that your partner is cheating there are best ways to get the truth like i did by getting access to their phone to which will give you all the truth you need to act on

My wife cheated on me years ago, and she had my mind so twisted around I didn't know up from down. So I just buried everything and went numb. After years of building my self-confidence and learning about relationships, I know now I should've left immediately. I don't think she's cheating now, but I also didn't think she was cheating then until I caught her. Would it be wrong to leave now after all these years of letting it go? Because it's still causing me hurt, anxiety, and depression.

Your explaong a woman

Thank you for your thoughts and perspectives within your videos. Over the past 4 months I learned that my wife fell in love with one of her co-workers where she was working and began an affair with him. Long story short, she moved out and moved in with him. It has been so hard to come to terms with what has happened and that this has happened in my life. One sad or funny part of the story is that I learned who this guy is, including his name and a general description of who this individual is. And needless to say he is everything that I am not including having a drug addiction.

I have been divorced since 2018 and it still hurts around this time. I see happy couples and children and think that could have been us.

It may be awhile before I will be happy that he is happy. I’m working on it but it it actually better when I don’t think about him.

I love the way you explain everything. With knowledge the situation can be less traumatic. Hope can pull everyone forward, hope that it will get better., that the pain will lessen.

Its so hard to thing that he wants devorce

I also love how you said there are no magic words or actions to make you feel complete because your right, no matter what he does or says or how perfect he acts now, it can never take away the pain

I have the strange urge to dye my hair and paint my face.

Interesting, it took me about 3 months to pass the 2nd milestone, the first took a little longer if don't include my parents. Mom and dad were supportive and it helped a lot. But there were still things I couldn't share with them. Ultimately, that person to help me with the first milestone showed up about 3 years later. Hang in there people, I understand your pain. Live the best life you can.

After 25 years of being in a relationship (3 kids), I finally just went with my gut. Started to feel the betrayal. In a way I wish I would’ve just kept a blind eye. But I’m glad I didn’t. Now I can try my hardest to make ends meet and see myself in a better place. He knows I have NOBODY!!! It will always be my fault for everything. I just can please use positive energy and positive prayer. I don’t want my kids having to endure the same trauma. I have done everything I can to protect them from any negative thoughts of their father. He can inform them of the truth about why we are no longer together.

Great video content and very insightful as well as helpful. You are a very kind person and prove this through your ability to be vulnerable on this platform. Thank you for your information and advice. It truly helps. Cheers!

Thank you(angel knowledge)

Not all betrayal is created equal. I think sometimes acceptance might be the closest thing to forgiving

I think she’s a terrible liar, I think Ive been too scared to look

I am going through this right now, I was with him for 8 years and we just finally got married two months ago. Until one day he got a new employee for his store and it was a girl he started crushing on in front of me. They started texting a lot off work hours and I confronted him about it, he gaslight me and lied to me nonstop. The fights continued because he wasn’t fixing the issue, then one day he completely crashed my car and I was devastated so we fought some more. I wanted the fighting to stop about this girl and so I tried to be kind and go back to how we were but he was cold to me. He dropped me off at my parents house saying he needed space, promising me that we will stay true to each other and come back to each other. That night he went to her house and while I was visiting my grandparents house for a week he was with her basically dating and sleeping with each other also unprotected even though he knew this woman slept around with random men and his other coworkers. I thought we were going to work things out and had no clue what happened, he came back to me saying he never did anything and that he was faithful. He lied to me constantly for two weeks and it wasn’t till he got an std and we were sitting in the doctor’s office that he finally said he slept with her. I left him but now I am homeless, no car, no job and $480 left in my name because I was going to college full time as a Science major and I just finished school for the spring quarter. Im trying to stay strong and get back on my feet but it’s really hard when he left me with nothing. But I refuse to go back to someone who I loved so deeply that’s capable of doing that to me. I just can’t do it. He blames me for the affair, saying he was not actually interested in her till I put it in his head that he was, that I made him feel so bad to the point that he slept with her. But yeah here I am now broken with nothing but the std he has given me and couch hopping, from friends and family. I can’t figure out how to get back on my feet with out transportation to school or work. I can’t look at myself in the mirror now because I lost so much weight and feel so sick. But Im fighting and will continue to fight. What hurts most that despite what he has done to me I still love him and stayed true to him. I can’t go back

14:46 "Moral superiority" My ex cheated, and dumped me. In fact she dumped an estate after her grandmother on her mother too. She destroyed her relations to both me and her mother by dumping every obligation and fleeing in to the arms of another man at her new work. Yet she blames her mother for being evil, leading to a complete breakdown in communication between them. I'm not sure what she told about me to her new spouse, but I noticed he had misrepresented perceptions, the first time we talked. One day, in fact on my birthday, she and her new spouse showed up unexpectedly and where to remove her belongings from her mothers apartment and to store them temporarily in our apartment. It should take less than an hour, yet she kept me waiting for more than four hours, waiting for them to come back since we had other errands to handle after that. But it was my birthday, I had other plans and she knew that. The explanation was, they when out for dinner, they forgot there was other things to attend to and they did not know I was waiting for them to come back. It made me disappointed and I felt their disrespect. I made a clear point, not to play with my time like that. And the response from her new spouse was, I shouldn't treat her badly like I did. There we have two perfect examples of a moral superiority, but they are turned against you. I asked her if she felt the same, but she did not, but meant her new spouse never meant that. Still she say she want to keep me as a friend and still want to keep contact after moving to her new spouse. Her new spouse made it clear to me, and even in front of her that we are not suppose to keep contact after they moved together. I've been reminding her about this, but she notoriously denies that he meant that. I see her new spouses behavior and clear signals and are reminded of an abusive husband to a common friend of ours. He treated everyone around our friend in condescending ways, then escalated by turning in to mental and physical threats to isolate her from us. Lucky her that he got caught for domestic violence and they are now divorced. I don't want to experience that again. She still deny her spouses intentions and implies that it will be my decision if the contact between us are lost. So in her mind she seems trying to convince her self that a lost contact are to be my decision. All consequences are to be blamed on all others, her mother, me, and even her colleges at work are to be blamed for a wide various reasons. I know she had some pride when I met her, but this is not the person I fell in love with and lived together with for 16 years. I'm truly worried that their relation may turn abusive when he get tired of her. After all, he was also cheating on his wife since 28 years, this was just the last one to make his wife to throw him out of their house, I've learned recently. She changed so much just the last months. Her grandmother passed away 99 years old, she needed to take some responsibility for the estate together with her mother, she made a great step in her career with a new office, where she met her new spouse, a successful team leader and highly regarded consultant. A life crisis and a perfect storm, so can I really blame her? I'm afraid she will not be able to back out of this new relation, he is her boss and it will be negative consequenses for her career. Her contract ends indefinitely after a year, then what? I believe she's still in a phase of euphoria and that she will wake up when the reality strikes. I'm worried that she might try to come back when I rebuilt my self, my life and possibly moved on. I'm afraid I'm may be too weak to close the door on her. In my mind, I try to convince my self she would be too proud to come back, that she never would admit such failure. She will sort out her choice of career. I'm working on that, but the fear of her being beaten is still there. We will not be the same persons after this. I will probably suspect her every move, and she may have wounds to heal, I'm afraid I can't be that support she needs.

It’s a failure , there is many degrees of failure…..

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash

Despite 18 years of marriage, my wife and I faced issues, but I believed divorce wasn't the answer. With help from a spiritual adviser, we're now working through challenges and strengthening our relationship.

I can't believe it, I feel like I froze at the moment I can't win, but I wish that person will be happy with what they're choosing

Were they real or were they not?? Exactly that Some questions will go unanswered I bet 😅.

I’m living a horrible nightmare because I didn’t cheat! My life has become unbearable! Suicidal at moments! No where to run! I’m so tired of defending myself over something that never happened! Drive down the road and think of a 100 ways to end all of this! No way to prove my innocence! These videos cause more damage than good! So I wonder how many of your spouses are innocent and are living a nightmare as well ?!? How many of you have become so abusive they rather commit suicide than live another day ?!?

Our divorce is just about finalized in court. The 'process' of failure, separation, depression and deep heart felt sorrow has taken a couple years. There's no cheating, no abuse, no nothing that would really explain the failure of a 33 year marriage. My wife wanted a completely different marriage than I wanted. She wanted me to accept adult kids not just living under our roof for an extended time, but that I should put up with their disrespect and failure to do their part. Anything I said against them or about them was feeding the failure. My wife's inability to be affectionate and her pulling away on count of my disapproval of the adult children's behavior and disrespect just had no solutions. I was called an abusive dad for spanking them when they were little. I was called passive aggressive for complaining about anything I didn't like. I was forced to shut up and have no opinions and be 110% P.C. or face the wrath! I don't mourn the loss of the marriage, I mourn the loss of the woman I love for over three decades. Adult children brainwashed her with their ideology, gaslighted me for almost 5 years of B.S. Destroyed a beautiful relationship that produced 6 children! There is no moving on, milestone, or anything. I'm destroyed and at age 53, how in god's name will I ever get back happiness without love in my life??? I truly am hoping god show's some grace and takes me away from this pain. It's the worse feeling you can ever imagine!

I dont want to hurt him i just reslly want it to go away but it will never go away now

What if what they did just is too much? I mean it changed our lives so much forever. He now has a new baby ....I just can't find my way thru this. What if it's just too much

We are seperated right now my wife cheated and I'm not ok 😢😢

I can so relate, as I am still experiencing some of the effects more than twenty years later.

16 years we been together, she cheated on me 10 years ago and I suspect again recently. It kills, hurts , I feel useless. I don't understand and so many lies I've caught over the last few weeks. She still wont admit it but I know she did

Thank you Lisa I really needed this ❤❤❤

My ex girlfriend cheated on my multiple times with multiple different guys I found out that she was cheating on me from the day we made started talking she then started dating one of the guy she cheated on me with she then cheated on him with me so I stopped talking to her I later found out that she's been cheating on him with other guys, she's that bad that she went to his birthday on the Thursday and met up with a different guy the next day.. she blamed everything on me made it seem like I was the problem but I was never the problem and I finally realize that I was never the problem, she recently tried to talk to me again but I said sorry we should just stay as strangers lol

What a great video!

I hate 304s with a passion. Why can't people stay single and do whatever they want without hurting anyone?

When I heard it could take double or triple the time to recover I’m like “nahhh”. Here I am 4 years later, having a much better feeling and outlook towards women. I use to really dislike or shall I say hate women because of one girl. I didn’t want to talk, look or be around them at all. Didn’t believe a word that came out of their mouths or their actions. I’m more trusting, but still have my guard up. I want to go on dates and spend time with women again. I’m still afraid of rejection from new people so I haven’t really put myself out there. A lot of people talk about not trusting their judgment with people and I totally get that. Even though I’ve ever only been in 2 relationships they both didn’t end well. Girls I’ve liked either didn’t like me back or life got in the way and we never met. So I just say screw it, a woman who is interested in me will have to come up to me. One day I’ll get back out there and start shooting my shot again. Thank you for your words of wisdom they are helping me see the situation, life, and what I’m going through in a new perspective. Also myself.

I’m hurting bad right now can barely stay alive, I’ll explain.. 12 year relationship, just had to be displaced from my home with my spouse for the 20+ time. I fell for her right away and it’s because I seen her soul through all of her extreme mental health and addiction/alcohol issues, I stayed. In short she became very angry and immature with relationships, especially me. I fought for her life many times because of her suicide attempts, did my best in general. Well a couple years ago her son Colton decided enough was enough for him with home life let alone life these days anyways and ended his life at 20 yo. Her and I ended up getting married after that because I was just committed to her. Colton dying hurt her worse and the same actions came back, and I just left her and my pets behind and had to get a no contact order in place for now, granted she broke up with me again and she made false threats so of course I had to leave again. It is horrible being away from my dogs and I’m worried about housing them with me not her. They are my world, but I can’t worry about her trying to end her life again, and me not being able to be at that house in which her mother owns and has a lot of the same abusive issues my wife does. So I’m hoping she doesn’t take her life and with a court hearing next week on this OFP order, the courts will finally forcing Nicole to seek treatment services in both departments. It’s so much despair and trauma I’ve been through caring for her and our pets, and not worry in times like these. But I’m either ready to walk away from her for good and hopefully be able to secure our pets with our own home before anything bad could or does happen. So I’m living on faith and hope. And I do hope Nicole is saved in this lifetime and gets help asap now. I’m praying the courts help her to clear her mind and soul so to speak. Since threats were made and documented. I’ve always been made to feel like the bad man with her and her mom, and it’s horrible, because I’m the one who has suffered the most for 12 years, and failed relationships prior due to immature females. I have hope my life will finish playing out how I deserve, which is good, and I do hope there’s still hope for me and my wife to keep our vows. I can’t focused or remember much because of the distraught nature I’ve been in once again, but feel here is just as good as anywhere to get this out, even though it’s not completely related. Nicole and her mom are the worst case scenarios i could’ve ever imagined, but I’m keeping hope as my faith is strong. That people can change, and anything good is possible. FYI I am suffering mental health more than ever because of this again. Anyways thanks for listening to, truly, Jesse Great video thank you

I'm so sad.

I’m sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing

Thank you Lisa i really needed this

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Thanks for this video and hello from bonnie Scotland x

You said "They destroyed everything and then they just get to walk away". My EX-wife cheated and did NOT help me. It's like a hit and run driver. They don't intentionally hit you but they ARE responsible. THEN, they just leave you there, sometimes almost helpless, to then just let YOU deal with it.

Omg. Thanks Lisa for echoing my thoughts! 😢 After watching hundreds of videos, consulting many psychologists and what not, finally I found someone talking absolute reality and practical ways. I typically don't comment on videos but couldn't stop myself this time to express my thoughts. 12:08 is something I realised yesterday after a long time of enduring pain. Need to heal now badly, gonna follow your tangible steps. Hope it would work for me.

I wish I found your channel much earlier. Your words and advice are profound.

My ex just has sex with the first dude she finds. Classy. By the way this video is pure bullshit