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Im a janitor living paycheck i lost my good job because car trouble i got called a loser by my mom yesterday shit crazy

What you said in the last minute is kinda motivational :) you're doing good Adam !

What a difference in spirit, in work situation, you gone through since the first video I saw. I haven’t followed all videos, but just thought ”I wonder how it went for Adam” so I checked in today. You really making good progress 😊. Now Im out to cut brush, on my own land… moved from appartment to house 😊

😄 Looking sharp! 🎉 My motto been: ”Reach for the moon, get half ways” ….. I think its funny, cause its nothing there. I asked for 1/3 more money or so on any job switch. Sometimes I gotten it, sometimes not. Also gone down in pay to get the work I wanted. Need a work you like. Goodluck and go get it!! 🍀

Never had good memory. Haven’t had bad either. But Im horrible at faces and names, including actors names. Trying to remember names on movies and songs is very hard. I got some sort of dyslexia, never remember a phone number. Solution: I write stuff down, and put odd stuff at odd places. Washer is running right now, my outdoors shooes stands on the washer… else I forget to empty it later. Learn what you bad at, then learn to work around it. Also lean into your strenghts. Dont be afraid to learn stuff… I bought a old tractor 🚜 🤣.. so time to learn how to fix hydraulic leaks 😂

Bro I feel the same way! If I watch the team I like they lose if I don’t watch the game they always win or when my brother was going to help me get a 6 figure job and then they let him go so I wasn’t able to catch that break, it’s beyond frustrating!!!! I so effing sick of it!!!

Looking good!

The thing is, what if you did catch yourself in a moment of arrogance? I think the sky would probably not fall in. In short I suspect your too hard on yourself. If it did happen you could analyse how you felt in your journal. Sharp suit by the way 😊

Looking pretty fly for a white guy adam. Hope your doing well.

around 40k+ i reckon is fair for managerial Adam, Hope you get it and keep moving on up dude! You deserve it, time to get that figure and move out to your own place etc. This is your time!!!!!

Adam is entering his new character arc 😎

Looking sharp mate

Looking dapper mate 👌

thanks for another one adam I relate a lot to valuing yourself (or maybe lack thereof) in terms of skills; in my case, i've always been interested in music. my dad was in a band, i grew up with it around the house, took music at towards the end of high school, as a result I planned to follow a career related to it, either with performing, or production/engineering etc. Cause of that, it's always been something that's felt relatively easy to pick up compared to other subjects i always had trouble with, be it maths or science. ironically, this has always made me feel kind of empty towards it since it didn't feel like i really worked hard and 'earned' it through graft or sheer effort and practice, it just kinda fell into my lap in a way. i've always had that slightly guilty/imposter feeling when i think about my friends who make music with me, and how much more effort they seem put in to learning their instrument and whatnot, since they started a lot later than when i did. it always feels horrible to try and value yourself objectively, when (in kind of a predestination way) it feels like the whole thing was laid out for you in the first place.

I like the suit.

Congrats, man. It sounds like your efforts at work have started to pay off.

Not allowing oneself, keeping oneself down and not allowing is a restraint opposed by the ego self. The ego self will attach to anything to gain attention. It comes down to how the individual brain has been wired up from previous thought and response pattern and relies on those to react to future intentions. So if there is a heavy connection pattern in the brain of past experience of self doubt, not good enough, negative responses from others, it automatically responds in that way as thats what it knows. Utilizing recognition to these patterns helps the ability to not become those thoughts and dispelling the ego self. Hope that makes sense Adam Love the new look and wish you well as always.

Hi Adam. Most 'value' is not confirmed by credentials. It is being reliable, effortful, motivated, calm, even handed, and having self-reflexion, purpose and direction. All these qualities are rare. And you have them in spades. So keep going. You have come so far even just this last year, and that is due to your value.

You are shaping right before your eyes. Keep an eye on the big picture. Even the most successful people of society have these thoughts, thinking that they are not good enough, not quite up to par. Indulge in this opportunity now Adam because it'll fade and you'll be on the hunt for that next shiny thing. You'll run into that same question more than likely your whole life about self-worth and confidence. All that matters is that you take action. It will not be brought to you. Maybe shoot for education next to put next to this experience you are getting 🤔 good luck on the evolution 🙂

Looking really well mate - one thing I will say is when they've asked you to give a number they're not asking you to value yourself as a person, it's simply to ask you how much you think you need to be compensated for your labour. Your value as a person isn't tied down to the job you do or how useful you are.

I'm 26 year old total failure who dropped out of uni, never worked a real job, never been on a date, no real friends... I am beyond depressed and fighting with severe anxiety. I'm so scared with my future. All I can see is dark sides of the life. Comparing myself with old friends and others crashing my soul, like, everyone got their shit together so effortlessly. Don't know how the heck I'm gonna blend in this world. I feel so behind in life.

You’re looking fantastic, Ad!

And by the way, you are looking great in that suit. :-)

Thanks a lot Adam. I can completely relate to what you are saying. You are right, a single task can be learned easily, but the sum of what you bring to the table is the special thing. You did it completely right in regards to the money you asked for. Growing step by step and be fair is always the right thing. Congratulations to how you developed in the last year! :-) If you stay grounded and grow step by step you will have an amazing future.

fix it. go find someone who knows. doesn't matter how you feel about your skills or value. go find someone who can give you numbers and facts about your industry.

Congrats dude, money isn't everything but doubling up will be a nice treat in life that I'm sure you deserve and appreciate. As for whether it was too low try to figure that out over the year and ask for what you want in a year. Spend the year working towards that being a fair deal, taking on responsibility where you can etc.

Firstly: looking sharp there, Adam! Secondly, I understand 100% exactly what you mean about self worth and putting limits on yourself. This is something that I have struggled with all my life as well (and I have a MEng degree with First Class Honours, so the grass isn't greener with a degree!). It's like a glass ceiling that you put there yourself, beyond which you would be 'undeserving' so you never dare to set your sights there. Sometimes I look at the people in society that we commonly think of as 'successful' and I wonder what their opinion is of themself, because clearly they must have a huge sense of self worth to have attained that success. Some people must just be wired differently I guess. I do wonder if they are genuinely any happier than the likes of you or I, though. Take care bud!

I can relate to that feeling of being behind in life. If I was at a wedding, I'm sure I would fixate on the fact that I'm 35 and I've never been in a relationship. At the same time, I don't think I'd be jealous of the wedding itself, more so of not having had a deep connection with somebody. In my opinion, weddings are a waste of money really.

sometimes the employers dont necessarily judge you by your skill. sometimes things like discpline, loyalty, ambition, interest to learn, and just personality in general, make you valuable ally. i remember a while ago when everyone else was having a break, you went on with the work. things like that.

God bless you

All I can say is WOW!!! You have pretty much described my life. Without giving the whole story, Covid-19 pretty much set my life so far back too. While I’m still struggling as a result of the Pandemic, in ways I won’t mention here, it has enabled me to find some solace in my faith. It’s work in progress of course, some days tougher than others, but I keep believing that if I don’t give up, God will bring me a miracle one of these days. Jeremiah 29:11, Philippians 4:13, Matthew 19:26, & Proverbs 3:5-6, although confronting at times, gives me hope, that things will change. Blessings to you Bro. 🙏✝️

I can totally relate to what you’ve said. I feel like this too at 41. I struggle like you at school but always tried my best to work hard and get on with things. I spent years trying to figure out my career path and found it. But 2 years ago the work was drying up and had clients drop out on me. Plus I couldn’t get a relationship and have intimacy issues which didn’t help. I’m currently in a job that I don’t enjoy and it’s a long drive to get to. I feel trapped and wasting my life away. All I’ve ever wanted was to do a job I enjoyed that paid decently. Be married and have children, but I’m still living my parents and feel incredibly stuck. I feel incredible misunderstood and doesn’t help that I’m neurodivergent too. So I feel your pain and can see how it’s hurting you. I think this new way of living is not what we signed up for as the 80’s and 90’s is so different to today’s standard. We were taught to work harder not smarter. I hope we all find our way out and be happy 💔

You are such a wise kind man. My life has been crazy too. Hang in there.

Same Situation, I’m Trying To Sue The County Right Now .

This should reach more people. Sent you a mail regarding this.

Man i appreciate you sharing this brother. You've literally outlined my life and how i've felt forever. I've lived my whole life for others (parent and social pressures) and never for myself and now i'm a broken 34 year old man just trying to find something worth to live for. Losing sight of what was important and instead pelasing others for entertainment and parental approval. I've always been lost. No sense of direction. Doing things for others or what others think. Never for myself and now im considering quiting my job and taking my bike and riding around south east asia and setting up base there. As a diaspora kid, raised by an illiterate single mum (1 of 6 kids) on government benefits and vouchers, I've been under pressure to do well and do what my parents say. Now i'm in a career i hate, achieved none of my dreams or goals, have no relationship and have struggled for maintain a long term relationship, gained back 20kgs in last 12 months after losing 35kgs and feel empty inside. On top of this, im coming to terms with things that happened in my childhood (molested, sexually assaulted as an adults, saw mum try to kill herself at 13, dad abandoned us at 2). I'm just trying to feel something and connect the dots as to how i've gotten here. I've always dreamt of making it financially but I'm no where that goal. Not for fancy things but to get financial freedom and be able to take care of mum. The people around me come from wealth, comfort, stability, while i just feel like i can't catch a break. If it's not my own sh.t i'm dealing with, i'm also dealing with siblings and they're all f.cked up as well. I'm tired. Pleasing others at my own sacrifice. Being seen just as a clown and an idiot for simply dreaming big but also knowing that im not good enough to make it out. Being a doormat. I went to uni for mum. Got into a career for her. All I have now is this mind-numbing corporate b.s job, a mother who is financially dependent on me and all i want is to be left alone and move to Asia and gtfo of Australia.

Adam you’re doing so great! You’ve come a long way! Remember when you didn’t know when your luck would change?! Look at you now! I don’t know you personally, but please know I’m immensely happy for you 🙂

So great to see you Adam! You seem like you're doing a lot better. Keep going. 🎉

...September... I think for a lot of people...!

haven't had a car since 05 to avoid the stress and headaches of owning one, 😮‍💨😤blessing in that is that it forces me to stay active😁 and i notice i don't get sick & break down as often as those who drive all the time. quit the gym back in 05, when i realized it would be cheaper & easier to slowly build up what i need to workout at home,🤔 and that the time it takes to get to the gym, i could've finished or almost finished the workout, and in today's world with people going to the gym recording themselves just to find a reason to complain about something,🙄 i'm glad i stopped, who wants to be around that kind of energy when they trying to better themselves. last thing is when i'm at home i could easily meal prep before or after the workout, 👍

I just saw a a video you posted about you're life and that you feel stuck, man that hit me right in the heart, I'm 25 and I've been depressed for 8 years, its a feeling only those who experience know, I feel you man showing you all the love from israel

That’s strange I had a dream of you posting a video today and it happened lol Anyway Great video Adam and I’ve been doing the same thing to with narrowing focus with my new Zen Life approach “Do Less Fully” I don’t try to fit lots in one day now and fully attend to what I do without the worry of time being the enemy and it has made me more engaged and happy for doing it. The other is I don’t every multitask anymore like eating while watching tv, etc That also has made me fully experience the action I take in any given moment. It’s about become a flow of experience and by that I mean don’t allow emotions, positive or negative to build and dictate your experience for the entire day and allow it to arise and naturally pass so you can focus on the next feeling, action, response fully Glad to see you back Adam! Also I agree with limited and creating self discipline is important for purpose I have now adopted a 1 thing once a day rule on me which allows me to fully experience it without being attached to it. For example games I only play a game once that day now and even if I feel the want or urge to play it later in the day after I stop my ego from allowing that attachment relying on it for satisfaction or happiness for the day. Attachments are the main tools for self suffering.

i definetly have wondered "where's Adam" haha. great stuff, one thing i would add about not focusing on the goals but in the journey mentality, if you dont focus too much on your goal and focus on the journey, something funny happens, your goal itself starts to shape and is more dynamic to what you're doing in the moment.

I like the idea of putting in the graft when the weather in general is good and the light outside dims later. It is like having an energy back up generator in the Autumn and Winter months when the morale may not be so high and the seasonal chill sets in. I hope your knee gets better soon. 👍

Bonne continuation dans votre vie, je trouve que vous avez pris confiance en vous depuis ce nouveau travail, courage pour la saison de l'automne 🍁🍂

how the business going? was failing last time i heard?

First post? HA! Sweet. Good to see you back, Adam. Your videos help more people than you know. 👍

where ya been man?

i feel that way sometimes to at 34, but it's only cause you get in the comparison trap, plenty of people have a better job/living situation than me and a family now and that gets me down cause i want what they have, but i wasen't born till my dad was 50, my brother is 37 and still not married, i'm sure if i were to look the other way i'd fine many in positions that are worse off than me, but cause i fixate on those who are doing my better for whatever reason that's when the spiralling starts and ultimately it does me no favours, what bothers me more is honestly how quickly i got here, i know time goes by quickly as an adult but sometimes it doesn't hit you until you think "wow, 34 already? how?"

Some of the best moments of your entire life, haven’t even happened yet. 36 is young