Kambria Evans
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“Forgive & Forget” Doesn’t Work in Trauma Therapy [Dumb Things Therapists Say Series]
Forgiveness in therapy is a complex and often misunderstood concept. Many clients have been pressured to forgive their abusers or "just let it go," but this approach can be harmful and retraumatizing. True healing comes from understanding that what happened wasn't your fault, processing your emotions safely, and rebuilding trust in yourself.
I've seen how EMDR can help desensitize traumatic memories without forcing forgiveness. The body stores trauma, making it impossible to simply forget. Instead, we work to integrate experiences in a way that allows us to feel safe and empowered again.
This episode explores alternatives to the "forgive and forget" narrative that respect your healing journey. We'll discuss how to honor your anger as a protective force, forgive the parts of yourself that feel blame or shame, and reclaim your sense of safety and trust. Your only job in therapy is to reconnect with yourself and your inherent worth. And this message is for both individuals in therapy and their therapists.
Join me as we dive into this important topic and empower both therapists and clients to approach trauma healing with compassion, understanding and respect for each individual's process.
The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care.
Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:
Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook
We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.
Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle:
www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources
With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.
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  • @lucyginger1546
    @lucyginger1546 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Fast or slow BS with future template?

  • @Gabeloveyou
    @Gabeloveyou 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are gorgeous 😍.

  • @psiveronicabasso
    @psiveronicabasso 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What if the person struggles to connect with those feelings in the therapeutic setting, like: "I am not feeling this right now, now I am calm, I only feel that in that moment" How do you enhance that?

  • @Gabeloveyou
    @Gabeloveyou 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are gorgeous ❤.

  • @TrueSelf1111
    @TrueSelf1111 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I now know that is what I want for myself. Thank you for sharing so much for those of us who never want that PAIN again.

  • @jamiehammell1
    @jamiehammell1 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i am currently going through this sort of thing as well, not with a therapist though, but friends and family. they told me that i needed to forgive my mother after what she did, and proceed to work to get past this. i have moved past it in my own way, what she put me through for all those years are still a part of my past, but that is all it is. her abuse doesn't control me anymore, and i feel free. i am never going to forgive the person, she abused my sisters, my dad, and i for years (beatings, withholding food, and strangling), and when dad finally won custody of her two remaining children, one from a previous relationship (i am his only biological child), she decided that since she could no longer exert control over us, she decided to try to end my sister and i. even though my depression was caused by my dad's preventable death, they believe it is caused by my hatred of her. i am happy the way i am, reintroducing my abuser will not be a positive influence in the slightest, even if it's been 11 years since i stopped talking to her and visiting). even them talking about it is affecting me, as they will not take no for an answer. sorry for the rant, but this is a recent situation.

  • @Jawb9300
    @Jawb9300 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for this channel!

  • @MonacoBlast66
    @MonacoBlast66 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wait until you experience rage from a grown man that has suffered narcissistic abuse from a WOMAN

  • @TrueSelf1111
    @TrueSelf1111 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you. I was hurt & scared. Now I am safe. Rage came out.

  • @kanguruster
    @kanguruster 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    🎂🥳🎁 Here's to the most exciting 45th year!

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @jenguidebeck
    @jenguidebeck 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Like you, I am a Midwesterner but cannot find a good psychedelic program. Do you have any recommendations?

  • @TrueSelf1111
    @TrueSelf1111 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Sitting on couch with my coffee reading your materials. I am so glad to have this information to assist me direct my healing. I was a mess and I am committed to healing. I shared your website with my therapist & will use it. ❤ I can do this myself, walking, biking, listening. WOW

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This makes me so happy to hear. Thank you for sharing!

    • @TrueSelf1111
      @TrueSelf1111 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@KambriaEvansEMDR just shared with my therapist.

  • @angelag937
    @angelag937 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Happy birthday!! That you for your wonderful videos.

  • @TrueSelf1111
    @TrueSelf1111 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love this idea. Many things cause reactions. I was neg triggered today & made it. Printed your materials. Great resource. TY. I want to feel better faster.

  • @EMDR_Couple_Therapist
    @EMDR_Couple_Therapist 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love your thinking, and where It's going with brain-based therapies. Thank you for exploring how to deliver the best for out clients!

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are so welcome! Thank you for tuning in!!

  • @TrueSelf1111
    @TrueSelf1111 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am a client. You have opened doors & windows for me to investigate & participate in my journey. I found Havening very helpful. Thanks for your wisdom.

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @eyanone
    @eyanone 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have trauma could I have emdr online ?

    • @Buddhafullyogi
      @Buddhafullyogi 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes lots of us providers offer Telehealth emdr

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @alexozon3157
    @alexozon3157 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Absolutely love this question: 'who holds up your mirror?'

  • @ColleenCooper-gc3wi
    @ColleenCooper-gc3wi 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    As a menopausal woman there is definitely a belief system / loss etc going on as well as hormones. Definitely ripe for emdr

  • @Kittieburgard
    @Kittieburgard หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so glad I found your video! Just got EMDR trained and I am feeling everything you talked about. This has helped so much!

  • @ColleenCooper-gc3wi
    @ColleenCooper-gc3wi หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loving your approach to this work. Refreshing!In London and starting trauma work with vets so I've got my learning head on and will be checking out your website/ training. Thank you!!

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+supporting videos)! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @persevere6326
    @persevere6326 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think she is way more profound than most everyone in her field. I hope her words get out there

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! Watching and sharing helps. I appreciate you!

  • @persevere6326
    @persevere6326 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent video and assessment Should be shown to every graduating psych student

  • @RBM23
    @RBM23 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What is the cost for being a part of the EMDR Zero Disturbance consulting cohort?

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can find out more here. The next cohort starts soon! www.zerodisturbance.com/consultation-2022

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+supporting videos)! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @pollylarson8074
    @pollylarson8074 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi! I love your podcast and am a therapist who loves to use the resources you share. I wanted to ask you more about depression as a silly diagnosis. I am genuinely interested in whether you believe there is a biological component to depression that can sometimes require medicine. I agree that we are coded certain ways that impact us but would love to hear more about your thoughts on the genetic aspect of depression. I don't love labels by any means and don't want to use them unnecessarily and want to learn more about this reframe and perspective in conjunction with the biological component. What is the best way to learn more about this?

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for the question! I'm adding this to my list of possible future episodes!

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook (+supporting videos)! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @shellybates8725
    @shellybates8725 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Powerful insight! Fellow BSPer here 👋🏾! I love Brainspotting!

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for listening! I'm glad you found value in this!!

  • @samanthaquant7411
    @samanthaquant7411 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Soo.. like when my mom was hit by a falling tree when I was 14 and then my dad left me alone for hours every day to take care of my quadriplegic mother and 3 year old sister?

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is so traumatic. I am so very sorry. I hope you can find some support to help you through.

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you won't want to miss out on The Client Workbook! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @relaunchinglife
    @relaunchinglife หลายเดือนก่อน

    But how much of this would be “skipping” the process of grieving? I guess my concern is subconsciously ignoring my feelings & just pushing them down

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for bringing this up. Would you like me to consider this for future episodes to unpack?

  • @maureenleblanc8309
    @maureenleblanc8309 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very helpful! Just started listening and I’m new to EMDR therapy with my clients so this helps when I’m nervous to jump in 😃

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so glad you found me here! Thanks for listening!

  • @samantha-kemp-therapy
    @samantha-kemp-therapy หลายเดือนก่อน

    Agreed!

  • @jacqueeloerzel5580
    @jacqueeloerzel5580 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So glad you are back Kambria! Hope you are well. I have really missed your podcast and content! This podcast is very refreshing!

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep, we’re back! Thanks for being here!

  • @KambriaEvansEMDR
    @KambriaEvansEMDR 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook! www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

  • @aleciaforrester161
    @aleciaforrester161 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Truth 🎉

  • @mgo810
    @mgo810 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much. Your videos are so helpful! I feel pretty isolated as a therapist and under resourced in support around EMDR with my clients post basic training. These videos are gold!

    • @KambriaEvansEMDR
      @KambriaEvansEMDR หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're so welcome! Thanks for listening!

  • @meatmotorendurance
    @meatmotorendurance 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Super helpful video.

  • @mayraamato5177
    @mayraamato5177 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have extreme fatigue. No good sleep . Used to cry but not anymore. I have high functioning depression. I can perform at work but not outside in my personal life.

  • @bspi624
    @bspi624 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great discussion

  • @FeminineRose
    @FeminineRose 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤

  • @welcomebeautifulsouls
    @welcomebeautifulsouls 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yay

  • @DocBastrd24
    @DocBastrd24 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very helpful

  • @debbiemckenna5
    @debbiemckenna5 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have an appointment tomorrow to see an EMDR Therapist. I have CPSD. The appointment is on ZOOM! Can it still be effective?