Why I'm Quitting Nursing | Michael & Matt
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ส.ค. 2024
- I’m quitting nursing. 😞
It’s a really difficult decision, but something had to change.
I’m quitting because over the last several years, I’ve run our online business/blog and it’s become our main source of income. I THOUGHT I could do both-I BELIEVED I could run the business and be a full-time nurse, but if the last few months have proved anything, it’s that I CANNOT physically, mentally, emotionally pour into multiple careers simultaneously while living a happy & fulfilling life.
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It’s been an extremely strenuous time for Michael and my relationship, because as I’ve spent less time at home and more time at the hospital-he’s had to fill in the gaps… 😮💨 and it’s spread us way too thin. We’ve been pulled in so many directions simultaneously that there’s just not enough to truly be there for each other.
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I started working more hours a week than ever at a time when Michael’s job change was supposed to make things easier for both of us to get things done. Our goal this year was balance and it felt like this was putting that in jeopardy. It is a losing battle, and I haven’t had the time or energy to do what I love most-which is create.
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While we both enjoy the challenges and rewards of healthcare, we do make an income in content creation and have saved much of that to be able to pursue growing our family 👶🏻 and as much as we want to say we can do it all, we can’t. I was led to choose: continue creating or give up the business and dive all into nursing.
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I don’t regret my education or becoming a nurse. I want it to be a part of my future, but I know now what that position might need to look like to be manageable. For now, I’m taking a leap & for the first time in a long time feeling hopeful for what the future holds. 🌈
As always, thank you for supporting and quite literally experiencing life alongside us.
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I'm proud of you doing what is right! I quit my my job as an RN last two years ago after almost 15 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness, but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!
I don't really like my job but I love what it provides for me and my family. This pandemic has people rethinking working
If I may ask what do you do now and how did you plan yourself before quitting?
@@maxdmitry1912 right now I run my own business and While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 3k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
Wow impressive you're making quite a fortune speaking of investing I have heard many people talk about it but I don't really know how to start, can you explain?
@@maxdmitry1912 there's a lot of investing options real estate, cr ypto, ETFS, stocks but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one that's exactly what I did
Follow your heart honey
You have to do what is best for you Matthew. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says, your choices & decisions are yours and you do not need to justify the reasons behind them.
If quitting nursing is what needs to happen, for you to do what makes you happy & provides for your futures, then that’s what matters.
Your passion for travel, photography & content creating has always been a major part of your life, so focusing on that will undoubtedly be good for you, Michael & your future family.
Try not to let any negative views of others get to you. You’ve a strong support base, who would only want the best for you, in whatever endeavours you undertake.
Keep producing the content you do, representation matters, and I can’t think of anyone better to put that message out there, in vlogs, blogs & online content!
Sapna has said everything I was wanting to say, and said it perfectly. Only you and Michael know what’s best for you, and it’s nobody’s business to judge.
Where I live, many nurses have to work 12 hour shifts, and that would leave little time or energy to do anything other than work when you have a scheduled shift. Even on an 8 hour shift, the rotating shifts can be a killer for any free time.
Hi Matthew, I missed your videos a lot, for a few months, I'm glad you are back. Love you so much. You are THE BEST!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
So happy you are doing what’s right for you guys. I’ve watched you since your coming out can’t wait to watch you guys grow your family.
Making these decisions are so difficult in life, but you and Michael need to do what fits for ur lives. I never thought I would be on disability at my age and not working and doing the things I had planned. Life has different directions for each of us!
So much here. Matt, you’ve come a long way and continue to have an amazing heart and capacity to connect.
We need more videos! Hopefully many to come now. Good luck with your decisions. We’ll be here to support your guy’s journey either way. Much love.
Congratulations on having the courage to make the positive changes you need to make in your life. I am sure it wasn't easy, but having watched you struggle the past few months, I am very happy you did so.
Good for you both for going with your instinct . Feel proud of yourselves for doing what's right for you. You are also being good role models. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Good for you to make the difficult decision! I'm so glad there are things you find joy in doing, and they financially help you both.
A relative of mine also started working as a nurse at the beginning of the pandemic, and recently on Facebook I see she switched careers. Whatever the reason, I hope she's happy.
I’m really happy for you, I could feel your stress through the video. Onward and upward!
I think it’s pretty brave what you are doing. It takes a lot of courage to step out of what is comfortable and go after your dreams! 💙💙💙
In a broad sense, you are very much helping probably thousands of others thru your posts, your insightful comments and certainly the normalcyl of your relationship with Michael. Do what you love and what your family needs to be successful. Welcome back to You Tube! 🥰🥰🥰
I am so proud of both of you!
So excited to watch you both grow a family together.
Thank you for expressing your feelings around these subjects. You guys are brave to take these steps and to tell your story. Wishing you the best sweetie!!
Congratulations on knowing yourself enough to make a decision that benefits your family. I appreciate you sharing this difficult decision, but also look forward to seeing you lean into your strengths. All the best to you and Michael.
I am so happy for you. Love seeing what you have become and can’t wait now to see what you turn into now. I love the idea that anyone can make money on here and follow what they love. One day I hope to be there
You both are amazing, so lucky to know you both and how good your hearts are! You are very lucky to be able to do what you love! Don't ever feel bad about it!! Your kids will be so blessed to have you 2 as parents!! love you boys
You have had so much on your mind! I overthink and find big decisions overwhelming, so it’s strange to see from the other side the impact this has had on you. I hope you give yourself a lot of grace. You are not responsible for solving the world’s problems. It’s okay and healthy to make decisions that are best for you and your family. I’m glad you have another source of income that you enjoy to pursue. As someone who appreciates your content, I’m glad you have a passion for sharing your life. I find it inspiring and uplifting. Sending you and Michael love as you take the next steps for your family. 💗
Dude....I don't know you personally, but what I have seen here is that you love Michael, you have been successful at something you love, and you have made a decision that works for you. You are a light. Don't allow anyone put that out. Be Authentic and be you. The decisions you make are a path to something I know you and Michael have been planning for. You've got this. That's it. Be you, because at some point, when you hold that little one in your arms for the first time, you will understand that life is so big and blessings are all around you. I encourage you to keep moving forward in what works for you and Michael. Blessings to both of you!
Great post, well said. Love you two!❤️❤️
Matthew, thanks so much for sharing this! We don’t get enough of these stories in our country. All we hear are these extremely linear life progression: go to college, get married, get a career, advance linearly in that career, get a house, have a family, etc. Anytime we deviate from that path, there are a lot of feelings that are invoked that can be really unsettling. The fact is although the traditional path maybe right for many people it’s not right for everyone.
On a personal note: I had a similar situation happen after completing a master’s degree and starting to teach high school. What I found was that the extremely long hours (I usually worked from 5 AM to 11 PM) and stress of dealing with parents, out-of-control students, and dubious school administrators for only around 30k was simply not worth it or healthy. It felt awful to quit. I went into quite a depression for awhile. Now a few years out, I know I made the best decision for me.
I’m glad you are making the best decision for you and your family! 💛🍀
I appreciate your honesty, and the fact that you're aware of the deeper issues too! My husband and I talk about starting a family, but as a nurse and a person working in beverage distribution we really cannot financially afford any options at this point. It's really frustrating. Hoping things change for the better. Good luck to you, and never give up an opportunity to follow what makes you happy, lord knows I would leave the bedside if I could, as soon as possible I'll be gone unless major change happens. 💖
I am so happy for you. I know that you guys are going to make it
You have made a major impact and continue to do so! Cheers!
Wishing you all the very best. You need to be happy and when you both become dad’s you want to share your happiness with you child. Prayers and blessings.
I've been on holiday so two days late to this, I have loved watching you two since you first met Michael, pleased you are doing what is best for you, life is way too short, I'm over the moon you are starting the process to becoming parents and can't wait to see mini Matt or Michael x
Thanks for being so honest!
Bravo to you for recognizing and moving forward in your truth and pursuing joy!
You have to do what is best for you and Michael. You can also go back to some other type of nursing using your education later in life. All the best for you and Michael. ❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing! Do what is best for you and your family. If you determine it is best for you, your family, and your future than no need to feel ashamed.
You do what is best for you and what you have learnt through your nursing training will carry you through with whatever you want to do in your life.
From one creator to another - I applaud and support you guys! It’s super hard to do two things at once.
Hope your feeling better now and you got to do what's best for you and your family good luck lol you both xx
I absolutely love you and Michael. Your videos always bring me such happiness. I am so sorry that you are having so much anxiety over how your life should progress, due to opinions of others. The choices that Michael and you make are for you two only. Do what makes you happy and those of us that love you will be happy. I am so excited to see your families future unfold. I know that you both will be amazing fathers, as you are both amazing men. ❤❤❤❤
It's brave of you to do what is best for you and I hope that it'll work out for the better of you. I agree that we should not judge on one's decisions and choices (only guide them if needed) since only you get to choose your own path in life.
I feel this. So proud of you for doing what’s right for you.
Btw, we’re on our surrogacy journey too and it’s HARD. And a rollercoaster. You’re doing the right thing and your kids someday will appreciate that their dads followed their dreams and didn’t follow anyone else’s path 👏🏻
Brave and big discussion. Proud of you xx
Do you, boo! We'll all still be here to support you, always!
Matthew u have made the best decision what's important is michael, future plans and your happiness sending u so much ❤️
Good for you ,don't let anyone tell any different it is your life and I know you will always make the right choice,my best to you.👍👍❤️❤️❤️
Do what is best for you Matthew 💜💜💜💜💜 We will understand it and support all what you decide to do 💜💜💜💜💜 We love you cutie ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Props to you for being so vulnerable and open about your struggle. Healthcare professions are a full time commitment for sure. Your viewers would rather see you happy rather than being frustrated and burnt out. It will only allow you to be a better content creator
Hi Matthew this was very emotional to watch this is your decision along with Michael so you both take care with lots of love to you both
Please rest up and do what's best for you! Your feelings are valid, your concerns are valid, you're valid!!!! Live your life man. Thanks for sharing ❤
Michael,
You and Matthew don’t owe anyone an explanation. You are following your heart, you’re young and you make a difference by being visible!! Sending extra love, support, and encouragement!!!❤️😊❤️
You just what you need to do! As long as you're happy!!💙💙
hello am new to this channel , ill be watching every week ! you dont have to be a shame for making decision best for YOUR life . only you know best :)
Best Matt in the world! I have never come across such an honest talk! I understand you and I think you need to follow your intuition and disregard the strange comments from the outside world. People who loves you would never judge you.
Dear Matthew, you are thoughtful, wise, and don't need to worry about what others think. Awesome that you are caring for yourself and for the kids when they will come! Meanwhile, you have learned valuable medical knowledge you may use sometime in the future. Love to you and Michael!
Good for you! I think you needed this video and I hope you breathed a sigh of relief after words. All that external judgment does not matter one bit… the only peoples opinion you need to worry about it your own and your husbands! Sounds like Micheal is very supportive and if you truly love the life and things you explore on TH-cam then go for it! Life’s to short to not be doing what you love. Maybe you just didn’t love Nursing, that’s fine! Take what you learned and educate with your platform!
Good luck! You guys are going to make wonderful fathers!
Good for you! Most of us do not have your courage! And I love how you are still your awesome animated self. We have 1 life and most of us have wasted it settling for security (which is fleeting) which is not the same as happiness.
Education of any kind is never a waste of time my lovely. You have to do what is right for you and no one has the right to make you feel guilty, so don't let them! 💙🤗
You have to do what is best for you and your relationship. Hugs
I am sorry to hear this. I respect your decision. Wish it was not so. It is increasingly difficult to find people to care for other people and you and Michael had the natural knack for it. All the time you put into it. I wish you the best thou. Wish we could still meet. Been following you since you were just starting college and the backwards duck t-shirt. I miss the chances or Vidcon. I often wonder who you still hang out with. I miss Calum and Roly.
You need to be you! You need to live your life for you, your husband and your upcoming family. I am happy that you have been able to make a nice career on Social Media and I Thank you for Sharing what you feel is appropriate!
I hope all your choices make you happy! :-)
You do you… you know what you need for you! Not someone else. You know what you need to do to keep your relationship in a healthy place. So do it. I absolutely love how you’re so frank with things. Always put yourself and your family first, if there are others who can’t seem to be understanding, then maybe they’re not as supportive and caring as you’d hope. Especially with the list of things you’ve quoted people saying. But just as there are those who don’t seem to be supportive, you have a huge following of those who are. You have a positive energy with your husband. We need that. If you get paid while sharing it … awesome! Do it.
Matthew… you should never feel shame for what you do. After all of the years I've watched you, I want you to do what is best for you and Michael to create. You are such a compassionate and generous man who exudes love in all you do. No regrets for your choices!
Sounds like the best decision for you and Michael! There's a million things you can do with an RN in the future if you want to go that route again at some point!
You are smart and brave. I stayed in a medical technology position for 15 years and had no way of getting those years back. I wish I would have done what you did today good for you
Just keep doing You Dude!
You are the one who knows what's best for you. Sometimes we internalized a lot of judgements and they spring up in moments like this one. Remember to provide yourself with the love, understanding and support you need in making this choice, and let go of those judgemental thoughts.
When things get so stressful it is time to step away ❤
I never thought you would like nursing but that is just my opinion....I am glad you will do something that will make you happy and be able to support your family. Yippie glad you are coming back...and hell yeah you deserve to have a child exactly as you choose. 😘
I’m happy you’re doing what’s right for you! Is Michael still a dentist? I wish he was my dentist! I donate to the anesthesiologist Foundation since It was hard for me to go to college to be a anesthesiologist after I graduated high school in 08 because of my cerebral palsy! I love y’all much
You're smart. You've examined all your options and chosen what you and your husband believe is best for you. Don't listen to people who don't really know you, everyone thinks they know best. Follow your heart.
be happy 😊
best wishes, miss talking to you.
No guilt or shame...be happy in whatever you choose to do. Put nursing on the shelf for now...maybe at some point you can come back to it when the time is right. You are both inspiration to young lgbtq people in this difficult world. Keep doing you and let the happiness flow!
@michael and Matt
Matt, follow your heart and you’ll never go wrong; will you make mistakes…..maybe, probably, yes; but you won’t “go wrong” and those “mistakes” will be life lessons to learn from and grow.
So, breathe, and know it totally sucks, but you and Michael will be ok, and things will “turn out” for the better b/c you followed your heart (or gut, but that sounds icky, lol) & Michael is a wonderful husband who will support your decision.
So, long as both of you follow your hearts and communicate w/ one another and never go to bed upset, life will work itself out; even w/ all it’s challenges.
Love you both ✌🏻
I hope this decision works out! the only reason i would keep it (or at least, part-time, Nursing) would be the benefits of having a hospital as an employee. My friend only kept his job at the hospital because going somewhere else would be expensive. However, I hope you find a way to do it and I know you will do wonders for your family. :)
You found your bliss, so that is what you're meant to do. Screw the haters!!! You have a wanted, marketable skill that you can always come back to if things change, so that wasn't time wasted. My first partner got a degree for teaching, and HATED it...so he went back and became an accountant... he's worked for the federal government for decades now very happily.
things change all the time and you started with nursing before the pandemic. everything has changed over the last few years and your social media empire has grown and for a great cause as print media was just totally lacking and there was nothing else out there. I've been subscribed to your channel from back in the days when you were still in Omaha. I too am in the middle of some large changes which will see me moving later next year to capitalize on my real estate which more than doubled in value unexpectedly last year. Also, part time nursing is always available if you feel the need. Its your call, not ours. Take care to the both of you.
Do what's best for y'all..Don't worry about what people think...They are stupid!..Do the best for your future family!..Love y'all!...🍼🍼🍼🍼
If this is what makes you happy, then this is what you must do. This will help you. This will help Michael. This will help your future family. Go for it.
I'm excited for you and your family!! Love you Michael and Matt!
Do you! No one knows what you have been going through but you and your husband. No guilt should be put on you because you can create social media content and make a living doing it. Love watching you all’s surrogacy journey.
You and ur husband do what makes y’all happy. It’s ur life and ur future and ur family.
it is scary but this decision will give your life meaning because you are living your life now to the fullest of your hearts desire tempered by logic
Love you...
In the UK once trained, as you are, here you can opt to go On Bank, basically you are like a sub - filling gaps, it pays well and you chose which shifts you want to take. That would then also keep yur hand in, should things change in the future, and you need a 2nd income. Does the US have Bank in medical industry.?
Something maybe to consider before your qualifications expire from none use.
Loved your We're having a baby video, kudos. You'll both be great dads
We don't have an official system like this but there are many staffing agencies and hospitals will hire per diem which is usually like 1 shift per month. I agree, keep your skill set up just in case the future changes. Nursing is always going to be in demand and there are plenty of job opportunities even outside of the bedside.
I just quit my nursing job and I think it will be my last. I hate nursing. I hate the pay and feeling like it is never enough. I just don’t know what else to do…😢
Feeling guilty about having the opportunity/option to quit your job means you are a wonderful person who knows that not everyone have that option, but don’t feel guilty about it. What matters is that you are happy where you are at with what you are doing. I wish I could quit my job and do what I love, but it’s not the easy. You found what you love and on top of that you make money doing it! Enjoy it my love!! Xoxo
Wishing you peace of mind that you made the right decision… and I cross fingers for you to have a beautiful family!, and that we can see lots of fun video’s about being daddy’s … So my wish is a little bit selfish 😂… believe in yourself!!!🥰👍🏻💪🏻
Same I just had my first term of nursing and now I’m on medication for anxiety and have depersonalization and Derealization
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Ok. 😊 Your life ,your way
No worries 👍😁
Matthew ❤️
Do not feel ashamed. The simple act of FEELING better about leaving nursing is merely the answer to what is best for YOUR LIFE. I know exactly what you mean. Do what gives you peace.
Lovely
You don't have to feel bad about having options. So many of us in healthcare who worked through the pandemic are looking for other options now because we are emotionally and physically done. Your LGBT content probably saved my life two years ago because it gave me the courage to find myself. You don't need a nursing job to make a difference. You've been doing that for a long time.
I have to admit I stopped following your channel because the content stopped being the quality content that you are capable of producing. I hope you’re at peace with your decision to concentrate on the career that will allow you to look after your family and is a career that you really enjoy. It never easy to make these life altering decisions but kudos to you for sharing the honest rationale behind your decisions on social media. I look forward to following your channel again.
Other people's opinions don't matter. They aren't standing in your shoes, and they don't really know you. You do what's best for you--no guilt--be your best self. Good luck on the IVF.
You guys do you
I’m a new nurse also started school during the pandemic which was hard! Still as a single parent, I graduated from nur school with honors and zero student loans. Had to homeschool my kid half of that time due to covid closing schools. And all that sacrifice just to regret becoming a nurse now. There are days I feel so grateful for having the opportunity to make a difference in peoples lives but more often than not, I feel like the amount of sacrifice and endurance of bullshit for the pay we get… not sure it’s worth it. Working my ass off for this degree and license to now go home crying after every shift… not sure if it’s worth it.
Surrogacy is expensive, but it's a one-time cost for a lifetime of happiness. Keep doing the social media stuff if you can make more money and you don't have to make apologies for it. My cousin went to radiology tech school. Graduated. Started working in a hospital. Hated it. Went back to his love which is working in the food and beverage industry and hasn't looked back.
Sing your truth all over us. We love it...