Queer Eye's Bobby Berk on a shocking message he received from a pastor
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- 15 years after the original series debuted, Netflix’s update of Queer Eye, has taken reality TV by storm again, with a brand-new “Fab Five” and an all-new setting: Atlanta, Georgia.
To help celebrate Pride join Bobby Berk (interior design), Karamo Brown (culture), Tan France (fashion), Antoni Porowski (food and wine) and Jonathan Van Ness (grooming) with them & Teen Vogue’s Phillip Picardi for an inside look at a smart, funny, surprisingly moving second season that finds the cast forging relationships with people from a wide array of backgrounds and beliefs. From social commentary to the best recipe for farm-to-table guacamole, Queer Eye simply has it all.
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Bobby is the biggest underdog of the crew. He gets the least attention but has such a big heart and makes the biggest impact
Alicia Croft agree! And as he revealed, his work for an episode starts way before it’s filmed! He has one of the biggest works on the show!
Such a class act. Consummate professional and lovely guy.
Ugh he's my fave !!
He is my favorite ♡
He's literally the nicest guy ever. He's way too underrated.
“Don’t do it for the church. Don’t do it for Tamie. Do it for all the little Bobby’s in those churches.”
Y’all my heart is breaking 😭😭
Damn,deep breath
😭😭😭
Just Abide yes, absolutely.
the voice cracks throughout the entire entire video is so surreal he is being so real and vunerable
You can see Antoni subtly comforting Bobby throughout this which is so sweet I love how much they all care for one another
Oh my gosh, that is so cute! I just noticed. You can also see in some other interview that Antoni offers his hand to JVN (Antoni deals with social anxiety) and he takes it and it's the greatest, most heartwarming thing.
“Bitch don’t lie to me”
I love bobby!
And I’m so glad he is sharing his story :)
Okay but why did they totally disregard Bobby’s trauma of the church and spring this episode on him when they knew he felt this way?
mm1996 I do wonder if they felt that he and Joel (Tammy's son) could have a great connection and that could balance out his trauma? I know I have many places associated with my trauma, and like Bobby I refuse to go anywhere near them.. But let's be real, big corporations probably don't grasp what places related to trauma can do to a person.
@@arooo666 No one was keeping that in mind, they were too busy finding a replacement. Not a priority.
The show was created to build bridges and heal a seriously partisan hurting country. If Americans with really different lifestyles and values cannot meet and connect and learn and grow from their encounters with each other the American social experiment fails. It gets stuck and stays stuck. The world can't afford for that to happen, frankly. I don't like the heresies taught in many churches, but people have to come to their own understandings and in their own time. And churches also teach many wonderful truths and feed the hungry and rally when there is a crisis. I adore Bobby, and what he did on that episode is part of the reason. The producers cast him for his unique voice and his specific background. He was cast because of his specific wounds and not just for his incredible style and design talent. He was cast to reach hearts only he could touch. So, if he decided he couldn't step into that vision of course they would have to find someone else because that show is on a rescue mission of sorts, always. The minds behind it get that the suicide hotlines are lighting up with real calls. I think they pressed him hard with those numbers in mind, not simply ratings.
Brittany Y Joel isn’t Tammye’s son? He’s the neighbor who nominated her. Myles is her son.
I thought about that too. But I also thought about all the uncomfortable things I’ve been through that changed me for the better, experiences that weren’t as bad as I thought they were gonna be. I’m not gonna say “oh I’m sure the network looked into it” because that’s so naive but also sometimes this happens and I think more good came out of it than anyone anticipated. Not to say that everyone should go jumping into their discomfort.
the part where it was like "do it for all the little bobbys, all the little karamos, the little antonis, the little johnathans sitting in those churches" part honestly kinda made me start crying
"I will never again preach in my church that being gay is wrong"
I'M NOT CRYING YOU'RE CRYING
lol jonathan looked so offended at people laughing at springfield missori being called a "big city"
the way he stood up for him was so precious
Yeah, I think Jonathan was protectively validating Bobby's move to a big city as a 15 year old. That's what so beautiful about Jonathan; he would leap in and validate anyone's story and personal battles in a heartbeat. A beautiful brave Lion in heels.
Bobby thank you for being so open about your painful and traumatic experience. You are amazing. You are light and love. I’m so thankful you were brave enough to be you and replace hate with love. Also, the fab 5 is the best show ever!!!!!
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On the episode "Home Coming" he talks about this. I am 41 years old gay man with a big religious background just like Bobby Berk. I thought I would never relate to any of these people, because there was not a single person in this world that understood what I went through and how my heart was (is) when it relates to religion and faith. I was raised in church, I thought Sunday school, youth ministries, was the lead singer and base player of the worship team, I was the right hand of the pastor, until that day, I came out. I just couldn't, i just couldn't! I started crying because there, in that episode I saw a reflection of me. There was someone like me that felt that the "church" ripped my life away when I came out. That even though I still believed in a Loving God, there was a big part of who I was that was taken away from me, and now I had to focus on other things because if I did not, Life was not worth living. Today I'm so thankful for my support group of close friends and my fiance. They have helped me stay alive and see the beauty in the middle of it all. Thank you Bobby! you have no idea what your story has done to me. I hope and still pray that your story helps more youth and people like us to find a place of Hope and Love.
Jerry Arias where you from? Ethnicity? Why or how do you still hold on to religion? I admire that and I admire you for it
Thanks for sharing, Jerry! I hope so too 💙
Jerry Arias Send you some love 👋🌿
I was born in the U.S. but my parents are from Costa Rica, so that makes me Hispanic.
After my experiences with religion, I had to let it go, but I identify myself now as a person of faith. I still believe there is a greater one than myself because I am strong in many things but weak in others, and that I alone in this world I could never survive with out having faith in God. I loved being brought up in church, not for the religious aspect but being able to see lives changed for the good and help saving lives from destructive habits. I still can do that by counseling gay youth, giving hugs, listening to people that struggle in life and acceptance, making people laugh and smile.
Pushing aside the Religious aspect I think I have done more for myself and others by accepting that I am Gay man that loves in return, also God loves me because I was made at his image and likeness, and that life did not end after being kicked out of a religious building. I am happy now but I will keep perusing happiness till the day I close my eyes forever.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you! You are so loved by God and you were made fearfully and wonderfully by him. He knows you and has an amazing purpose for your life. You are loved ❤️
Tan sitting in that position is a mood
When he said "do it for all the little bobby's in those churches" I literally burst into tears 😭
♥️ Bobby. Having to deal with religious homophobia right now and it's so heartbreaking, but seeing him thriving and living his truth gives me strength.
Hang in there, it really does get better 🌹
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I know it’s probably hard to realise because of your situation, but God loves and that will never change no matter what people say. You were made for a beautiful purpose and God knows what you’re going through. He loves you more than you could ever imagine, hang in there ❤️
Hang in there. There's many of us religious folks who also believe that religious homophobia is wrong, and in our small ways have stood up for our LGBTQ community. You are not alone even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you'll meet people who will prove it otherwise.
I just want to hug him
Izzy M Me too!!!!
Me three, Bobby deserves a big hug for sharing his story ❤
Honestly I'm pissed that the show made Bobby still go in there
Bobby's story will always hurt; it's my story as well. But it's SO important that he keeps telling his story, so all the little Bobbys, Tans, Antonis, Karamos & especially Jonathans that come through in the future have some inspiration to help them make it through to their own safe, happy place.
I think it was good for him. He slayed that evil dragon!
@@lynnwins7284 exactly, demons are meant to be faced and slayed.
Forcing someone into a confrontation therapy as their boss KNOWING it’s a hard no for them is never ever a good idea. So what if he hadn’t had the strength or stability in that moment to “slay that dragon”? Wtf. You can’t trigger people and expect them to magically get over it. It’s not fear of heights
He did. He went through with it. He was not forced. He can't talk about his past without crying. Facing it was best and if he couldn't have handled it, he wouldn't have.
bobby honestly is my favorite. the talent, the joy that comes from him, his kindness toward all, his story of perseverance and hope. ICON LIVING
Eloquent , courageous and poignant, gosh dang Bobby you’re strong. I don’t think many people could cope with that kind of trauma and come out with such high hopes in humanity. Ignorance and bigotry are so dangerous to the minds of young people .
This is my story. I literally just cried like a baby 😭 😭 😭
There wasn’t a day between 9-14 that I wouldn’t pray and ask God to take me.
I couldn’t bare the shame I brought to my family, my church and my God.
I am thankful I now know I am so Loved 😊
It's funny, the people preaching this seem to forget God doesn't make mistakes. You are exactly who you are supposed to be. Mind body soul, every hair on your head, you are who you are because someone else on this earth desperately needs you to be you.
I thought he was such a quiet, background type of character until this episode. You really cane through hunny!!!
if thats what you think then you werent paying attention. Bobby is just a present as the others.
I'm just really amazed that Bobby had to overcome so much to be where he is right now. Not only was he rejected by his community, he left home at 15, was basically homeless, and had to support himself. So many things could have gone terribly wrong given the circumstances. I don't know how he was able to find the strength to survive when he had no one to turn to. But now he's found success and even able to influence others positively. Just amazing.
You were almost smothered in ignorance and hate, but look at you now, being yourself and living your life! Good for you Bobby!! There is love everywhere.
The way he was emotional, vulnerable but also strong throughout the telling of the story is incredible.
You can hear the hurt in how his voice shakes ! Bobby, you're so brave and we love you ! ❤
The tide is turning. So slowly. Too slowly. But it is turning. Thank you to those in the LGBTQ community who have been gracious and persistent enough with us in the church to not give up hope that change would happen. I’m so glad now to say that I am a member of an LGBTQ-affirming church which is active in my community and that I am seeing and hearing change happening, but I still have so much regret for the years of silence and confusion in my own life when I didn’t speak out. Things like this show and this episode in particular ARE changing hearts and minds and that change can’t come soon enough. Thank you to those who are brave enough to speak out and share their stories like Bobby did.
I’m really looking forward to the day where the church fully accepts the LGBTQ+ community and becomes the loving center of people that Christians are called to be. I want to help the change towards a more accepting church because that’s what’s truly reflective of the Bible; to love others.
He’s so strong & it was incredibly brave of him to speak so openly about something that’s obviously really difficult for him.
I can’t imagine the amount of bravery you got to have to survive something like this.
I remember when I first saw this episode. I married into a family of pastors but have had gay friends for as long as I can remember. I’m a believer, but I also believe in equal rights for all people, which the church likes to skirt around as much as they can or just straight up bash.
This episode touched me so much. Especially when Jonathan said something to the effect of “I don’t feel unaccepted by God, I feel unaccepted by the church.” I rly felt that as I’ve had that perspective as well. I sent this episode to my in-laws and they were overwhelmed by it. My mother in law even wanted to play the clip at her church.
The bottom line is, changing peoples views isn’t easy and it takes time, but episodes like this are so eye opening to people.
Thank you Bobby and the rest of the fab 5 for entering into an uncomfortable situation for the greater good of all people. This is how progress is made and lessons are learned by individuals that don’t really understand and are therefor afraid. So proud!
he is actually my favorite and yes that suite is DAMN flawless, he looks SHARP. My heart breaks for the agony he endured. Thank you Bobby for being you and for
teaching me about love and acceptance
I am only an hour from where Bobby grew up and much hasn't changed sadly
Chloe Donovan How sad!
Same tbh it’s rlly hard to be gay in this community
Bobby has always been my favorite and that episode broke my heart.
It's already hard to be vulnerable, Jonathan is such an angel the way he brings light to people sharing their darkness. They all balance eachother so well and GOD LOVES THEM ALL.
I love bobby and I hate how underrated he is. I think he has the most interesting background and growing up story out of the guys. And his segment at the end of each episode is the best bit and by far what I look forward to most. I wish people appreciated him more.
OMG tears dude! Seriously,
If even one person is touched and changed towards tolerance, this entire show is worth it.
LOVE IT!!!
I am BAWLING. Thank you so much, Bobby, for speaking so openly and vulnerably about your past, your history, and your present. Your resilience will not go unknown, and it will never be forgotten. You are loved, appreciated, and respected by many
I am Mormon & this episode opened my eyes & heart to not only loving but accepting every person for who they are and that they are perfect just the way they are. No judgement. Just love. You guys rock.
Now that I watched this video, I’m leaving my church that promotes “love the sinners, hate the sin”. I serve as an assistant at the kids ministry, and I can’t teach that to the kids. I am a Christian who cares about human rights. If your religious faith has to put somebody’s human rights in danger, that’s wrong. I’m very sure God loves EVERYONE UNCONDITIONALLY. I don’t understand why conservative churches can’t see that.
There's a lot of progressive places now. If you haven't found a new place yet, your local PFLAG can point you to a loving place for everybody....
Homophobia is the reason I left the catholic church and found a faith more in line with my beliefs. For so long I wished my religion would see the world my way and focus on love and peace. I never realized I could leave and seek a faith that already saw it my way. My first Quaker meeting felt like I was exactly where I belonged! Love > Hate
I have not been to their meetings but in a place that doesn't have a lot of support/community I feel it would be a SAFE place like for people that know religious traumas. (Like most of humans....)
That did not go the way I expected. We still have Quakers? That’s awesome.
It’s one of the reasons I have vastly different feelings towards being religious and being deeply invested in organized religion. Devotion to what you understand God to be is one thing. But... people are people and people are very corruptible, easily led astray. One person in a position of authority can cause so much damage. And while at some points, calling out others of the same faith for veering off the path and hurting other people used to be done often, now it’s considered being a trouble maker. It’s better to just be silent and let them assume agreement. I’ve met many people of various faiths who were kind and generous. But the majority of the people I met in church and especially those who had power, there was a lot higher tendency to be much more hardline and... evangelical.
Even though I’m a person of faith myself, it’s a little terrifying to me, how much power various institutions have. I feel like as long as there’s a lot of concentrated power and influence, it’s going to be very hard for religious institutions to listen to their better angels, and in the meantime damage is done that can’t just be erased or swept under the carpet.
I still hope one day I can find a group of people to discuss my faith with, learn with, pray with, but of the places I’ve looked, it’s never worked out.
@@SunflowerSpotlight A big YES to everything you said. I'm not at all religious myself so I can only talk about what I see from the outside, but I always found it terrifying how much power people gave the church, because Religion -> God, Church -> Human Beings. It's indeed scary that religious people never question those in power (or don't dare to), because it opens doors for people who just join churches to gain higher positions in order to spread their bigotry/hate or gain access to money, power or people.
I always thought that's what religion was supposed to be about. Love, peace, and helping those who are in need. I went to a Catholic kindergarten, and quickly saw that people weren't about the ideological, moral side of religion, but about finding a book of rules to follow without regard for context. I have not touched religion since, because if people want to be good and do good that's enough, and should be enough for any reasonable God worthy of worship.
Fab 5 and Mama Tammye are literally saving lives♥️
Bobby is my favorite and his story is heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing this personal message.
Bobby if you need a Mom, you call me
He is so brave to get up there and be so vulnerable and tell his story. We love you so much bobby, thank you for giving hope to so many and spreading your experience and love to others ❤️❤️❤️❤️
*wipes tears* Bobby, I and I'm sure many, many others, are so proud of you and thankful that you stepped up to your fears and told your story. You are making waves baby! xo
Bobbi, I just want to send my love to you. You are so strong it is beyond belief what you had to go through. You are accepted, loved, appreciated, and inspiring to so many people! We love you!!!
God I just want to give Bobby a hug. He is such a sweet person and didn't deserve this.❤❤
But you can agree: it made him stronger. Not saying that it's good that it happened, but we can learn from what are our worst moments.
I just want to hug him and he his friend till end.
Sendy love to you, Bobby. And every one suffering in such a way. God is love, NOT hate. I am so so sorry.
Bobby is definitely my favorite of the Queer Eye crew!!!
Dealing with this right now. Bobby gives me hope.
You are loved and there is hope!
I can never keep my emotions in check when I watch these guys. Whether it’s a super happy moment, super sad memories, excitement, or hilarity, I will cry 1000% of the time. I tend to be a very negative person, but it’s impossible to feel like crap when you’re watching the Fab 5
What a brave and beautiful man.
This is heartbraking to listen to😥 how he keeps talking even if his voice is breaking. An amazing man
I cry every time Bobby talks about his experience with religion because it mirrors my own and I feel so deeply for him. The message from the pastor fills me with hope that there are more religious people like them out there.
Great guy. How eloquently put. So nicely supported by his friends. I'm lucky to have my very own crew to push me along when I break down.
The way these men support eachother is so beautiful.
Im about to go deliver a lecture. This video was suggested to me. I knew I would cry. I watched anyway bc Bobby is my babe, and now I don't know how to put myself back together to go work hahaha HALP
Watching Episode 1 of Season 5 after this is amazing.
I love you, Bobby. Your strength is incredible. You're eloquent, hardworking, intelligent and fierce. I'm thrilled that you're a part of this Fab Five. 💛
Yo this made me cry no joke like I can DEFINITELY relate to this as a bisexual trans man who grew up in a Mormon household.
Caidin Knight hey man, as a fellow bi trans guy this also got to me, even though I grew up in Eastern Europe's Eastern Orthodox Russian church
as a Bi Mormon, it means so much to me seeing Bobby on that specific episode talking about his experience, I can’t come out to my family, the internet and with my close friends are the only places i can be completely open, and its good i have that, and its easy tuning out the hate of the church, but when that hate is coming from your own family because of that, it is so hard. and it just means a lot for me to see someone like Bobby talk about it. thankyou so much.
Bi Mormon here too, you aren't alone ❤️
I’m a straight Mormon here. Just know you have support in the church from the right people. Many of my friends are LGBTQ+ because they are just good people who I want to be around. I hope you find a good tribe of people who can support you and allow you to be honest with yourself. Love and internet hugs!
I can relate so much with Bobby, I lived the same story... Stay strong out there, you all are beautiful and matter.
Bobby serving us realness right here 😍😍😍😍😍
This speaks to me on such a personal level, I also grew up Christian-catholic and at 24 years old I still haven't come out to my parents and everyday is such a struggle because there is no doubt in my mind that they would turn me away if they knew.
Bobby, I am an old Gramma, have seen a lot of life, have met several gay people. Never have I had such an awakening as I got from following the Fab Five. To hear of the pain of growing up gay is enough to make me cry. I am a retired R.N., and I know we are who we are....no big choices here. Just wanted to touch base with you, and say that I really love you guys. You're the best thing since sliced bread!! The whole world is lucky to see you love you, and learn many good lessons of life from you. Lotza luv...G.
What a strong soul he has. We love you Bobby!
bobby has been through so damn much and he's so so strong and well spoken
Thank you Bobby for being so vulnerable and courageous for showing your side of religion and your coming out story!! 🏳️🌈❤️
UGH i love this, it’s such a powerful message and we really don’t hear enough from bobby, loved hearing this so so much♥️♥️
Oh Bobby, how you are so loved. Thank you for sharing and inspiring me. I wish you the best always.
He's such a strong person 💙 a true inspiration
holy shit, wow. Powerful. Bobby is so underappreciated, he's amazing
So happy you all bravely came out and are living your truth!
He's so pure I love him !!
High key crying. Thank you Bobby. We love and appreciate you so much.
This was powerful! I know if was hard for Bobby to talk about this and I commend him for it and I'm so glad he touched some people's lives. Bravo to him he deserved that standing ovation
I love Bobby so much 💗 he's so brave and honest and kind.
My heart is exploding with respect & love for Bobby❤️👍👏 wish I could be all their moms!!
Bobby, I'm so glad you decided to be true to who you are. You're truly a gift to this world.
I love these guys so much like it honestly hurts. Like whenever I see Bobby get emotional I just want to hug him so badly. Watching him with Jess in season three just fucking broke my heart.
This is so real and well said. Bobby you are helping so many people just being you. Amazing
Love you Bobby for speaking your truth. Role models like you save lives. 💜
That was so powerful". Thank you Bobby for this amazing story. What a man
I freaking adore Bobby. He’s so brave and just a wonderful person
I watch this video at least once a day. Almost the story of my life.
Bobby is wonderful!
I had so many goosebumps here, phew. Thanks Bobby for sharing your story!
Well now I'm crying.
I, and we, love you Bobby
Angel, you’re energy is so heavy with the past, no more past, I enjoy seeing you 💕 in the moment.
Very brave. I had no idea how difficult that episode was for you. It's amazing the great things we can accomplish when we face our deepest fears. Xo Bobby
Tears are running down my face
Oh Bobby, you are a gem. How does it feel to make the world a better place?
Bobby is amazing. I got chills. 💙💙💙
Love you Bobby! Big, bold, creative, beautiful young man. I admire your courage. Never underestimate your power and knowledge.
I love Bobby! I completely understand and I know excatly what he dealt with it!! he is my hero! I lived in Springfield MO and I know exactly what he is talking about. He is absolutlely correct and I admire him so much!
I grew up in a religious community that prides itself on being one of the reddest parts of California. One of the biggest churches in the country is there. I did not grow up Christian but I knew so many people who not only grew up Christian but very strictly religious. A lot of lgbt youth I knew couldn’t come out because of the backlash like bobby received. It’s so bad. I was lucky my parents and siblings were supportive, but my mom grew up on a farm in a small town in Arizona in a religious home. Most of her family still doesn’t know about me because of this.
I know so many Bobby’s. I know so many people who felt like the Church turned on them. My best friend in high school was told “don’t ever come here again” from his church.
I am not religious but I understand that fear. I know that pain. I’m sorry Bobby went through this but the fact that he’s here, queer, and happy and married proves that he is stronger and bigger than all the small-minded people he grew up with will ever be.
5:04 Immediately after I realized I had a crush on a girl for the first time, which was also my freshman year of high school, my life became exactly what he's describing. I became depressed and suicidal. I'm much better now, but my mother still swears by the way that she raised me, even though she knows she was the first person to teach me to hate myself.
This was so touching I love Bobby sm
All the love and happiness in the world to Bobby ❤️💗❤️
We don't need relgion. We need selflove, respect and care for all human beeings.
Hans Franz Well spoken!!
Religion only separates and demonizes if people do not obey their rules. It is the worst thing to ever be created and to be a truly successful society it is about time religion just disappears.
that was the message of Jesus. his message has since been twisted into this unrecognizable church of judgement and hate. Im not even "religious" just able to see.
Maven Nicole well his message was also really “I’m God’s son believe in him or go to hell” so idk honestly
@@mavennicole5936 Hell as a concept of eternal punishment for minor transgressions didn't exist in the bible until Jesus' so-called message of love was introduced.
The church isn't hateful because it misinterprets the texts, the church is hateful because it BELIEVES in them.
Thank you Bobby for sharing this you amazing and gorgeous and strong human being!!
Bobby - I had a friend who went through what you did and sadly, life was too painful for him. I truly believe that God would never judge you. He would be so proud of you.