I want give her a big hug cause i have a similar history with relationships. It also derailed me. My friends are like just get over it. Those friends are all happily married.. Had few relationships prior.. So they didnt quite get it...but listening to this is healing for me.
Love this! I believe her too! She’s so authentic, articulate, willing to be vulnerable…I see great things unfolding in her life from this moment on. I’m 82 and can say for sure that her life is just beginning…remember the saying ‘life begins at 40’…it’s true in my experience. I’m cheering you on, Ricky, as you go forth and step into your greatness. I agree with Mel…we need your strength and abilities in this world! ❤️
This was one of the BEST podcast episodes I’ve EVER watched. It has definitely given me a few Aha moments along with Ricki. Thank you so much, Mel for all that you do to help others. And Ricki, thank you for being so brave to come on and share your story like that. I’m so grateful to have listened to this podcast episode with two BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING women. I’m going to apply this to my OWN life. ❤
This is insane! I've been feeling so down lately and couldn't do anything for several days and each day was worse the previous one, simply because nothing was getting better but worse. I felt so overwhelmed and hoples not being able to even start. 2 hours ago I decided to go for a long walk with my dog far away in the fields and woods and felt the need to listen to any of your podcasts because I know I will feel better and the minute I open TH-cam this video pops up. I don't know how it's possible but I'm really grateful for this. I've listened the intire video and cried everything I had in my body, so happy to be all alone with the nature and the sound of wind meeting with the trees leaves. I also want to write a letter and make a promise but to myself. I genuinely love you and I mean it. ❤
Aww, Ricky is SO ADORABLE, she looks like she could be sister of Karine Jean-Pierre. This seemed like a therapy session to me, and it was fascinating. To see the light come out of her eyes when she remembered the gym locker moment...omg EVERYTHING shifted visibly in her. For the first time we saw her beautiful smile. Honestly Mel, I appreciated her honest feedback so much. That she was real enough to push back and say, "No, that sounds like BS," was key, because many of us (especially pleasers) might claim they 'get' what the coach is saying, just to make the coach feel better. And wow, when you heard her voice on the follow up call, I mean, you could hear the smile and feel the sun energy just pouring through her. There is something about Ricky, her depth of feeling, her realness, her willingness to be vulnerable and her God-given special energy, that makes me feel like this session will have legs, and Ricky will go on to inspire and benefit the world. Love it.
This is making me cry right now. I am turning 40 in a few weeks, I'm a single mom, my son and I live with my parents, and I feel like no matter what I do to try to get ahead in life, I'm always knocked down on my bottom. And it's so disheartening. I left a job in healthcare after 12 years of being told I'm only good enough for long term care work, and no one would ever place me in an office, and I'm glad I left because I now work in my towns school district, but it's not enough. I want to be able to afford a house, raise my son without any sort of heresay, and as far as relationships, I'm done with even trying. I can't be a good girlfriend or wife until I fix myself, but as long as I am living with my folks (and don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for them), I'm never going to be able to achieve that goal
Everything can turn around for you! Take it one day at a time. Apply for a different job, if the one you're in is not enough. Look into first time homebuyer programs. Write your dreams down on paper and place it where you can see it everyday and take steps to work towards it. I'll send up a prayer for you!
Consider what it will be like for one parent to pass. How will that change ur life? Be prepared for the next turn on the rollercoaster of life. Appreciate them and love them now. No one knows how long we've got- any of us. Cling to faith. God is showing you grace right now. Stop wanting and start appreciating your health, people around you and all you have. That is life changing.
Kendra, I can relate. I am 40+, a single parent to a now adult child and I live with my parents. I was widowed at 27 and had to restart life with very little. It has been ROUGH! I can't afford a house, I can't afford an apartment, and I work a full-time job + a part-time one. I finished my BA, but never finished my MA, which has always made me feel like a loser. I feel like I have never reached my potential and I don't quite know how to get there. But you know what? It's going to happen for me and you because we are here recognizing what needs to change within ourselves to make things happen. I wish you the VERY BEST
@C Z Is it possible to drop the part-time job so you can get your MA? There are Grant Programs you can apply for to help with College. You Got This, Go For It!!!
Kendra Morin, You van do this! Take one day at a time. Ask your parrnts tovhelp babysit for your son while you go on Job Interviews. Get a better job, with more income. Save for a home/condo of your own while youre saving on rent living with your folks. Join groups that interest you and Network in the fields of interest. You never know where a connection will lead... Opportunities will come aling that you never even thought of! You could even be an apartment manager and live rent free with income! Lift your eyes up and be grateful, which leads to being hopeful! 🎉
As soon as Ricki revealed her dad died at the intersection between the "before" (better) and "after" (worse) phases in her life, my tears started flowing. I feel incredibly stuck in life and nothing has felt quite the same since my dad died. Hearing Ricki speak about her own "stuckness" has helped me give myself compassion and feel less alone. Mel's words have given me hope for the future.
You are brave and courageous to share your feelings on a public forum. I thank you because I’m going to be 50 this month and I’ve been feeling stuck for years and feel similar ti how you feel. I cried listening to this. I hope and pray things get better for you. You seem like a great person. 😊thank you and thank you Mel. 💕
I’m in my 60’s and just now beginning to understand in a more meaningful way the impact of past life events upon my life. If you think I’ve been hiding under a rock, well, that may be true. Another reason may just be that putting one foot in front of the other is all we know how to do. Hindsight is so important if done with love, and I believe that change and happiness is possible at any age. Thanks for being there, Mel!
@LucySky223 Same here. I'm 64 and realizing it can take a long time to to understand the places I feel stuck and why, and how they relate to events from many years ago. You are right. We don't always acknowledge these things because we are too busy just doing what we need to do or what we think we are supposed to do, especially if you're that "rock" type of person like the woman in the video.
I’m speechless. The universe is answering my prayer I have goosebumps. I might leave a comment again later after I finish watching this video. just taking in this marvelous experience and listening to this conversation
Thank you so much Mel for Ricky.💛 I have been meditating and praying for guidance and help. Not only am I a 44 year old black woman who has gained a lot of weight and lost her father about 12 years ago and ended a 10 year relationship in the mist of my father dying which maybe I've never dealt with for the sake of not wanting to feel. I went from being extremely focused after the break up, working hard, walking daily and over shopping as a pain silencer to not even wanting to get out of the bed recently, most days and do anything now. I've never not known what I wanted to do but...here I am. I hated the job I recently was laid off from. The look on Ricky's face is so genuine. Trying to process what you're saying as if she was a baby learning how to walk again. This episode was definitely for me. As well as so many of us here. I want to say thank you so much Mel and I love you. 💛 I so needed this boost. I have been so idle and stuck. Thank you so much Ricky. 💛 I hope you are continuing on your journey back to a happy and healthy place. 🙏🏾
Not even 10 minutes in and she just described my life. Now 1/2 way in and there is no doubt I was brought here. She is telling my story, I relate to Mel so much. I have felt such defeat. I’m doing my best to stay positive after getting myself in a real scary place about 6- 7 months ago. Thank you Mel for being open and honest.
Wow Mel! Timing right on for this. Thank you...I believe I can now "make a plan" to recover from the death of my beautiful son. My only child and my only family. Thank you for your wisdom and healing words.❤
Mel, this is the best episode, EVER!!! I can identify with everything you discussed with Rickie. I have been living in survival mode after multiple traumas and loses in my life. I turn 50 in September and I have been feeling like I have lived the unfulfilled and wasted life. I am trying, with your help, to apply any clarity I have gained to pivot and rebuild the ruins of my life. Thank you for all the compassionate insight you share with me and all of your other podcast audience.
I love the bluntness mel displays, "rocks don't feel love". It's so brave Rickie is facing her truth, of she can let herself feel and actually go through the griefing of her father and now the "old her" she will feel a whole lot different, then slowly work on each category she listed she wasn't happy with. The letting go of the old self is really hard and painful process but much needed. Since our older version no longer serves our current life we need to let them go. We appreciate them for serving us in the past but now we need to open space for another version of oursleves❤ rooting for you Rickie 🙌🏻
Thank you Ricki for having the guts to say what so many of us would not have the ability to say. I hope you find or are able to create all the good things in life that you deserve. I've got to tell you this, I believe by you doing this you opened the eyes of many people, including myself. Thank you
I lost my dad in 2009 to lung cancer. He raised me himself. I was so lost for a long time. My dad was my best friend, confidante and spiritual teacher. I have been fighting a long battle with weight gain, ptsd, self destruction. My dad taught me better than this and I know how to fix my life. My daughter's father kept saying I needed him. That I didn't know what I was doing. He made me so mental that I had been put on medication. This lasted almost 14 years. The pandemic actually saved my life. I used my first stimulus check to get divorced from my daughter's father. It was so liberating. Yet for some unknown reason at the time I kept running back to him. I get the feeling that I felt I deserved to be abused. Not sure why. I'm in therapy and getting better at treating myself with respect and love. Bless you Mel I appreciate what you are doing for everyone. Much love and respect, ScorpionMaiden 💕💜👑💜💕
Wow. This opened my eyes!! Same grieving big losses in my life ..since 2007. Awoke from it in 2018 by a huge medical emergency..got in grwat shape physically in 2019-2020. Then derailed twice by the big C.... Now getting back on track for my life..but hit with my best emotional support friend moving away just cause they want to experience new places...brought it all back. So now i need to really do the hard work to take my life back.
Big hugs to Ricki! I feel her pain so much. Just the thought of writing this letter and reading it at my dad's grave already makes me a snotty, blubbering mess.
I'm feeling very BLAH this morning and I came on to YT to probably listen to true crime to feel SOMETHING/ANYTHING and then I saw this... 1 minute in and I've already been given something brilliant, "maybe you're working on the wrong problem" BOOM. Mind blown. Thank you so much. Now to settle in and listen.
Mel you are a genius You break it down so easily make everything make sense Half way through I’m saying Mel tell her to write a letter because I did this for similar reasons it really does help with grief Thank you for all your wise words and all your help xx
Im 41yrs old, and for the last year or so I'm feeling such a strong pull for change, I have worked on a few areas in my life and things have changed for the better but not enough, I'd like to evolve mostly in my career but also I'm super inspired by meditation and learning and diving deeper into me... I have such a thirst for it all but do not know where to start and more importantly, I don't know if steps I'm taking are going to be the right ones
I highly recommend Carol Tuttle’s energy profiling work and her book ‘it’s just my nature’ it’s been life changing for me. You can search her work on TH-cam. 💖
Start with Sahaj Yoga, their meditation technique will connect you with the Divine and things shall working itself out. Atleast give it a try, I have recently started it after going through a lot and I can say my life's changing for the better because I am practicing it.
I am Rikki. Every word. Every response to Mel. Everything. While I didn’t have a death that I was grieving but rather a person who experienced adverse childhood experiences; drug addicted mom, father in jail my entire life, foster care, etc….I resonated with every single word she articulated in this interview. Thank you for sharing! I felt like I was being healed through this interview ❤
So brilliant, Mel! I had to pause the video after you said, "You think the best of your life is behind you!" OMG. Life changing for me. I have been in that state of mind for the last three years as I slog through (at 58) my mid-life transformation! I've gained weight, I cut my hair (and don't feel like myself), I don't engage with the world but only with the TV, I'm single and have given up on dating, and now I KNOW WHY!!!! I am SO grateful to both of you for sharing so honestly, with such vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you!
@Nicolette Vajtay I hear you!! I don't know about you but I could definitely use a group of us gals connecting online, just good to know we're not alone huh?
I just want to say thank you I rescue some points of this conversation. I am 48 seven years of age I have a lot of good job I say I’m passionate about this and me I don’t feel it I’m still working on my personal girl, so identify with Ricky about what she say. Thank you so much for these videos and the content and God bless.
Thank you, Mel. You were talking to me in this is episode! Thank you for genuinely caring. I have a similar story... I was stuck... Have been for 10 years after my divorce, but there is hope! I believe it with all my being now. I will mark this day in my calendar and a year from now ... Wow!!! I am excited about a year from now. THANK YOU!
I am in tears. This resonates with me so much. I was hospitalized in my early 30’s and then diagnosed with an autoimmune issue. I’m in a toxic job, not where I thought I’d be, feeling like I squandered my 30’s... Mel just hit the nail on the head. Thank you for the insight and amazing podcast.
I lost my grandma in 2020 and my dad in 2021 at 36&37. At first I wasn’t motivated to do anything but I decided to make them proud in 2022 I graduated with my Adult High School Diploma and now a year later I’m going back to college to get my Associates then B.A. I want to make them proud but I also now realize it’s my time to make my life mine. For a long time I was stuck in my job too.
Thank you Ricky for sharing and being so courageous 💖 You are me! And Mel, your wisdom and wise compassion filled my heart. With Infinite Love and Gratitude I thank you 💖
I have listened to many talks from Mel.....this literally had me crying at my kitchen table...and I dont cry very much...my dads death was the most tragic event...have I been grieving silent for so long I stopped believing i can be truly happy? This....just hit me square in the heart....so many thoughts....Mel you spoke to me through this talk with Ricci like I've never really felt....I am so happy for her and I hope she rocks it losing a dad ...man...it sucked, still does. But gosh this talk just opened my mind and heart to start trying again... thank you Mel...❤
I love how her voice changed on the second clip. You can really hear the joy and relief and optimism! I also feel stuck in my midlife and this is very motivational and inspiring for me to dig deeper.
I'm 49 Ricki, let's do this together ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story with all of us, I resonate with you and I am so proud of you stepping out of your comfort zone by doing this interview and helping others by doing so, we can do this! ❤❤❤
Omg, Mel I love you. Ricky thank you so much. I had no idea how much I needed this. I cried like a baby as I related so much with this. I too lost my dad and feel very much like this in my life. Wow ladies I'm going to write my letter and go talk to my dad. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️
Ricky, Thank you for being so authentic, sweet & genuine during this interview...your feedback to Mel's questions helped me so profoundly. This has been one of the most productive therapy sessions that I have ever participated in, even though it was just by watching it through a podcast. My heart has hope that I will also heal and have a breakthrough thanks RICKY and Mel.
There is so much value in everything Mel does, and this is incredible insight and wisdom on how to move forward!! I also recognize that there is some abandonment trauma as well as loyalty at the level of codependency… from personal experience, addressing those things as well will revolutionize your healing journey🤍
The better times are in the future. This is my take from this video. I used to think a lot about my pass victories that I forgot to keep dreaming. Thank you Mel. God bless even more.
What a beautiful, precious soul Ricki is. I see her making big strides and creating the life she deserves!! ❤ Mel Robbins, you are the best! Thank you for sharing your gift with the world.
Mel Robbins I absolutely value you and am so grateful I discovered you 💜 I can relate to this woman to a degree. Everything she's currently going through/feeling, I am too! I also feel that my 20s were my best years. I also, at 27-28 had a nasty divorce and experienced great loss of family members. I've been in abusive relationships since. I became heavily addicted to drugs, but by the grace of God overcame that addiction. I am 41, a single mother of a 5 y/o & 19 y/o daughters who live in NC with me. I just moved from FL, my home state, last summer, away from everything and everyone I know. I have no friends here, no family (besides my girls) and a job working from home that is stressful. I am in therapy, am on medication, have been diagnosed with several different diagnoses since moving to NC, am overweight and overwhelmed. I truly believe with all my heart & soul that the ONLY thing that gets me started every morning is watching your podcasts! I LOVE LOVE LOVE your content and I think you're such an amazing woman. I hope that this comment isn't gone unread, and from what I believe of you, it won't! If you have anything for me, or if you want to talk with me, I would forever be a changed woman! My name is Christina, and I genuinely can't find anyone else in this world, other than yourself, that I believe can help me get out of my own way! Please help Mel 🙏
I don't think Mel has time to answer everyone, so I guess I'll do the job for her. I don't know what caught my attention about your comment, or who/what inspired me to read it and answer it. This comment is from 5 months ago, and I hope you are doing well today, Christina. I went through tough times in my life as well, so I sympathize with you. Mel has been a remarkable person of influence in my life too. It's hard work. You go through ups and downs, but don't give up. I wasn't addicted to drugs. I was addicted to food and a sense of being comfortable, not taking risks. Mel always says : "No one is coming for you, no one..." I took that reality really hard, and it is true. No one came for me and I took responsibility for my actions and mistakes. I took my power back and I'm working on standing up back again on my own. It was very scary and it is still today. I took one step of the time. That's all we can do. And stay close to your beliefs, your values and your dreams. I wish all the best for you.
Wow!!! This changed my life realized things wrote letters in my head as you talked I applied it to my life I am caring for myself feeling love for myself Can’t wait till next week!!!
This episode came at the perfect time for me. Thank you Mel and thank you for the vulnerability and courage of your guest. I am going to be 45 in about 10 days. I get so down on myself, because I struggle to make lasting change. I'll start something and then quit, or make excuses as to why it's not for me. Over the years the shame of not being able to stick to a plan has really taken over, and I, like your guest adopt the attitude of "Well, that's just what I do." Start something and then stop. I joke sometimes about it and pretend that it's okay in order to justify my lack of discipline.- I just like to try a bunch of different things! I'm adventurous and curious! And that's a good thing! But deep down the shame and embarrasment has been growing. So on Monday I said to myself that's it - I'm going to do something about this, and I committed to the 75 Hard challenge. Monday night I was terrified of this committment and sobbing because the voices in my hear were telling me "Sounds good Karen, but you can't do this - you never follow through". Anyways, I woke up this morning and there was your podcast. Amazing timing, and I am truly motivated and excited to take on this challenge and create a lasting change in my life. Thank you - Thank you!!
@Karen Michaelsen You know, you may have undiagnosed ADHD and /or be a multi-passionate person (I am interested in so many things) I've been reading a lot & watching videos about high achieving women not finishing things, etc., and how women have very different presentations with ADHD than "boys" and so most of the time it's not caught til' mid-life when women legit think they must have early Alzheimer's because their brains start behaving differently. I think I am & it wasn't really until mid-life that it started to become glaringly obvious & with more & more stress with unhealthy aging parents & my own chronic health issues; even if women don't have ADHD midlife with hormones shifting in the brain is no joke! Sometimes lack of follow-through is legit from something other than being bored, afraid or losing interest. I have major self-discipline & have finished three degrees over the years but then there are other times when I just can't do the things I want to do or start something & don't finish it. I think this is SO common & not talked about enough., thank you for this comment :) Happy Birthday!! :)
I’m 64 now and had started to make some changes in my life/beliefs after taking a solo trip to Costa Rica and getting divorced in the last few years. I basically had to just push myself through the fears to get myself to do this. I now find that making that big shift was a catalyst to feeling better about myself. I still deal with some of my stinkin thinkin from time to time but I feel better equipped to handle those thoughts/feelings.
Like Always, You are awesome Mel Robbins., I am 23, Recently got laid off on April 30, 2023. I really felt like I am stuck with this situation forever, After seeing this and taking notes. I feel like I can do more. After those activities of yours, I figured out my own whys. Once again thanks Mel. We love you. 💌
Wow...and i almost didn't listen to this podcast today...I am trying to heal through the help of your viewers and YOU Mel. I feel like I am this girl,, But times 10. I lost my father 22 years ago,,, My job, My husband, Then I lost my mother a few years later, I lost my paralyzed sister i few years ago, And a few months ago I lost her husband my brother-in-law. I am so traumatized I'm having difficulty even making a comment. I have also gained 35 pounds, Make bad choices in relationships so I just quit that, , Trying to keep my dreams alive but I feel completely drained. I'm really happy that you helped Ricki... I'm hoping I can get a little bit out of this Podcast, Because I am feeling more than stuck. I love the way you teach and make sense of things Mel. Would love a session with you sometime.... Thank you for all you do... You're amazing❤
36:20 I think this lady is so brave cos to open up to those deep feelings hidden deep and dark inside is the most difficult thing to do….. but you can’t heal till you go there - she needs to cry cos she’s still holding back 😢
This was so powerful and an eye opener. A few revelations came to light in my own life. And this left me hopeful and excited about the possibilities of what life would be like looking back 10 years from today. Thank you, Mel.
Thank you for the wonderful show about decision making and signs! (season 1, show 3) I just saw it on Swedish television and it was a God send show for me. I cannot make even small decisions. You made it so clear to me! Thank you very much. Still have trouble making the BIG decisions...., but now being able to make small decisions is worth everything! Thank you!
I have had the same mind set after my mother passed,and married a very mean man, felt I've been in love survival mode for 10 years. And I really have not really came to grip with the two losses. I'm now working on my inner child. Like Mel said I have too pull up the root cause of my unhappiness and love blocking😢❤. Thanks Mel I love you.
@Esterene Forrest For me it was my brother's death, I thought he was my soulmate & that my brother had sent him to me, in fact, when we had this "woo woo" thing happen I think my brother was trying to tell me to get the you know what outta there!
THANK YOU to.this amazing woman for being open and willing to share her process experiences and life. Incredible session Mel. Metaphor is probably the strongest of all the languages!!!
This interview with Rikki, was such an emotional eye-opening experience. Gave insight of how to see and understand other possible mental blocks that can truly be broken down, or as you say, " chip away ", and peel back layers that were not yet recognized. Nikki is so precious, and I'm grateful for your voice, Mel 🙏💗 Love you too 👍💗
Ricki, thank you so much for being so honest and vulnerable. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you how beautiful you are. You have touched me very deeply and held up a mirror so I could see where I too am stuck. So much abundance and love headed your way.
I follow Mel on social media but this is the first Mel YT video I've watched and Wow, the timing of this! You are just amazing with your insight. I'm ready to take notes, do the work and start kicking ass. Much love ❤️
Both of you, Mel and Ricky, were so awesome in this conversation! Mel, you are insightful, wise, blunt yet kind, and I love your authenticity. Ricky, you have such a radiant soul and were really courageous and honest with your feelings. It was an honor to be able to listen to you both and apply the messages to my own life and circumstances. Thank you!! ❤
The amount of love and honesty on this podcast gives me hope for a better world! This one is close to the heart. I lost my mom at the age of 20 after a 4 year battle with cancer. After listening to this episode it really let me take a look on how i view myself in every aspect of my life. Always knowing today can be the day to start a new mind shift can do for my head and heart
Thank youuuuu Ricky for your honesty,I too lost my dad when I was 28 and it was excruciating...part of me died with him. So many bad decisions afterwards and for the life of me never made that connection so vividly. The how I take care of everyone and everything...the gaining weight,the colon cancer, moving to Europe for my husband, the divorce and the list goes on ... Mel I so wish I could chat with you too but listening to this conversation came pretty close. I'm going to listen again and write a letter to my dad and I'm going to go to his resting place and read it to him. I am hopeful.❤ Thank youuuuu both.
A BRAVE and honest lady!! The willingness to tell her story and be vulnerable is inspiring! The world is so focused on success, that it’s not always easy to admit difficulties because of unnecessary shame we can feel. I feel for her and I can relate to this woman, although I lost my mother and had previous struggles before that, and after, such as a man breaking into my home.😢 Yes, I feel like I was in freeze mode and internalised my pain. Sometimes, fawn mode. I developed a great sense of humour and ability to make myself and others happy - those who I feel deserve it and appreciate it. Ricki, I hope it’s ok to give unsolicited advice from myself, but you NEED to cry! Look at photos, they will trigger you, but release the pain you need! I hope you do well in life in your future, as well as anyone else who may be reading this comment.
Thank you so much for your words. They mean so much. I have cried over losing him, so much you would think I didn't have tears left. It was the connecting the dots to me being stuck and his passing that caught me off guard.
This lady, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in this conversation. This was so courageous of you and so helpful to me. I wish her all the best moving forward. Take heart, be strong, you know what to do sweet lady!
Dearest Rickie, I've only just heard the first 1/3 of this chat of yours with Mel and I will be listening to the rest as soon as I write to you. Rickie I so hear and feel your journey, the aspects of overwhelm. I also know your bravery and willingness to. I believe that you are a radiant, soulful, intelligent being with depth and yes much joy and wonder ahead. I'd like you to know that I've had tremendous losses, break ups, heartbreak that piled up at a time, also shaking my confidence along with aspects of my vision, creativity, intuitive sensibilities that had been so vibrant, my perspective and joy became blurred at times, etc. (Enough about me, I'm sorry), but I do believe that the different experiences of loss, the journeys and aspects of grief along the way, the depths can have a ripple effect that can surely alter aspects of life as we knew it. My experience with "a long chapter" of my heavy losses, also blessed me with profound lessons, insights, perspectives that as my heart began to understand, reflect, soften again, heal more and allow me to fall in love with myself, giving credit to myself for the rough chapter, the lessons learned and value and recognize a beautiful, strong Spirit that I am. The ripple effects can come and go, yet they can be some of our most profound "teachers" as we can choose when ready to move forward with vibrancy as we come to a "new chapter" with our personal, depth and boundless creativity and yes joy too. Rickie may you step into your sweet self and your "now" chapter, knowing that you surely can. Please know that other older woman, such as myself walk with the great depths of loss and change and see the strength and beauty in it and certainly in you. Please allow yourself the many joys and wonders on your path ahead, be gentle with yourself and may you stand tall in your beauty along the way..... Gratitude to both you and Mel, your sharing and teaching that too ripples out........
This interview was amazing because ALL if it was me, except it was my mother dying of cancer that froze me for the same number of years. The self criticism, the not letting love in, ALL me too!
Wow. Wow. Wow. Mel, you just changed that girls life forever. I would love to have that kind of insightful conversation with someone that hits the root cause of all my shit. So many aha moments for her. Nailed it. Wow.
Hi Mel. Ooo my this has uncovered so much. Surviving coping strategies since i was a child never let me truely feel all the sorrow beneath the fighting. I have never grieved the loss of my mum and never realised this. This episode not only left this all come up but also all the grief since i was a kid everytime i lost my mum. There was a time she was asked were she would like to be buried. I was just 6 living in a new country on a new continent and no i was there for me. So i went into survival mode ever sinds. Years of theraphy and you led me to the source of this intense sorrow and grief i have been carring so long into death of my both parents. Thank you🙏🏽
Beautiful, Needed this. Mel is an Angel, saving and helping lives. All of this advice is amazing and Listen to some DEEP house with vocals. Nadia Ali? dance even if it is in front of your mirror !!!!! always found healing in music and dancing...
I grew up with addiction & experienced abandonment & neglect & also lost my mom on my 21fst birthday from AIDS also a few relationships with no closure ‼️
Thank you Mel and Ricky. My dad passed 3 years ago and I’m with the exact same feeling of stuckness. I used to thrive in my life in my twenties as well but I have been lost this last 3 years not knowing what is it, I changed my job, the city where I live and had many therapy sessions but nothing seemed to work. I’m hopeful this is the answer. Thank you!
The title "Feeling Stuck Right Now? Stop Looking In The Wrong Place" from The Mel Robbins Podcast immediately captured my attention. It hints at the idea that we may be seeking solutions or answers in the wrong places, contributing to our feeling of being stuck. In this podcast episode, I expect Mel Robbins to offer valuable insights on redirecting our focus and finding the right path forward. Her no-nonsense approach to personal growth and empowerment makes her podcast a reliable source of motivation and practical advice. Makes her a trusted source of inspiration for personal growth and transformation. Thank you, Mel Robbins, for addressing such a crucial topic and providing valuable insights into stopping hesitation and embracing life-changing decisions. Your guidance is sure to help countless individuals break free from self-doubt and hesitation, paving the way for a more fulfilling and empowered life.
So i listen to so many podcast its almost ridiculous! I oddly post a message on a support group. Stating i feel stuck and saw this , today. So im listening, to this today. I want to not just listen but use and move past and through this. Free of this stinking thinking. I started using 5,4,3,2,1. Crazy it helps. I use to go to another support group . Told to look at myself in mirror. Couldnt do it. Years ago. Working on that high five! So i totally know its working. Ty love you
At 62, I feel like my best years are behind me. It is very hard to believe that the best years are ahead of me. I get what this lovely woman is saying. On the other hand, at 62, how many years do I really have? The end becomes closer. Mel, so many things you said in the episode hit home. Kudos to Ricki. You have helped a lot of people by your bravery and genuiness.
Thank you so much for this - the one thing that really meant a lot to me is if you tell yourself the same story - nothing will change in your life. I'm going to change the story I tell myself!
I’m 72 just left a 24 yr marriage to a narc/addict. Thx for this bc I married him at 44. I could be this young lady . Lost my whole family & held on to someone I never should have. These deep dives are wonderful, I want to be fearless. He made me feel worthless. Mel your are SO right. I’m grateful everyday for my health & the ability to explore & move upward. I had a real fear of abandonment. Move forward your young & have so much to offer. Go girl & so will I
This brave lady deserves a big thank you for putting herself out there for this interview
I want give her a big hug cause i have a similar history with relationships. It also derailed me. My friends are like just get over it. Those friends are all happily married.. Had few relationships prior.. So they didnt quite get it...but listening to this is healing for me.
Love this! I believe her too! She’s so authentic, articulate, willing to be vulnerable…I see great things unfolding in her life from this moment on. I’m 82 and can say for sure that her life is just beginning…remember the saying ‘life begins at 40’…it’s true in my experience. I’m cheering you on, Ricky, as you go forth and step into your greatness. I agree with Mel…we need your strength and abilities in this world! ❤️
Thanks, Ricky, for the lesson and unselfishness. With Respect, Pam, also, Tx Mel
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Yes, I agree ❤
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This was one of the BEST podcast episodes I’ve EVER watched. It has definitely given me a few Aha moments along with Ricki. Thank you so much, Mel for all that you do to help others. And Ricki, thank you for being so brave to come on and share your story like that. I’m so grateful to have listened to this podcast episode with two BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING women. I’m going to apply this to my OWN life. ❤
This is insane! I've been feeling so down lately and couldn't do anything for several days and each day was worse the previous one, simply because nothing was getting better but worse. I felt so overwhelmed and hoples not being able to even start. 2 hours ago I decided to go for a long walk with my dog far away in the fields and woods and felt the need to listen to any of your podcasts because I know I will feel better and the minute I open TH-cam this video pops up. I don't know how it's possible but I'm really grateful for this. I've listened the intire video and cried everything I had in my body, so happy to be all alone with the nature and the sound of wind meeting with the trees leaves. I also want to write a letter and make a promise but to myself. I genuinely love you and I mean it. ❤
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Thanks for this beautiful discussion on healing and moving forward 💖 ❤❤
Several days? Try several months...
@@aleksik4028 This is your story and this is mine
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Mel’s advice always hits home but this hit home in a different way
I connect with this whole heartedly. My brother died when I was 24 and then my grandpa died, who was like a father to me, and I just stopped living.
Aww, Ricky is SO ADORABLE, she looks like she could be sister of Karine Jean-Pierre. This seemed like a therapy session to me, and it was fascinating. To see the light come out of her eyes when she remembered the gym locker moment...omg EVERYTHING shifted visibly in her. For the first time we saw her beautiful smile. Honestly Mel, I appreciated her honest feedback so much. That she was real enough to push back and say, "No, that sounds like BS," was key, because many of us (especially pleasers) might claim they 'get' what the coach is saying, just to make the coach feel better. And wow, when you heard her voice on the follow up call, I mean, you could hear the smile and feel the sun energy just pouring through her. There is something about Ricky, her depth of feeling, her realness, her willingness to be vulnerable and her God-given special energy, that makes me feel like this session will have legs, and Ricky will go on to inspire and benefit the world. Love it.
This is making me cry right now. I am turning 40 in a few weeks, I'm a single mom, my son and I live with my parents, and I feel like no matter what I do to try to get ahead in life, I'm always knocked down on my bottom. And it's so disheartening. I left a job in healthcare after 12 years of being told I'm only good enough for long term care work, and no one would ever place me in an office, and I'm glad I left because I now work in my towns school district, but it's not enough. I want to be able to afford a house, raise my son without any sort of heresay, and as far as relationships, I'm done with even trying. I can't be a good girlfriend or wife until I fix myself, but as long as I am living with my folks (and don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for them), I'm never going to be able to achieve that goal
Everything can turn around for you! Take it one day at a time. Apply for a different job, if the one you're in is not enough. Look into first time homebuyer programs. Write your dreams down on paper and place it where you can see it everyday and take steps to work towards it. I'll send up a prayer for you!
Consider what it will be like for one parent to pass. How will that change ur life? Be prepared for the next turn on the rollercoaster of life. Appreciate them and love them now. No one knows how long we've got- any of us. Cling to faith. God is showing you grace right now. Stop wanting and start appreciating your health, people around you and all you have. That is life changing.
Kendra, I can relate. I am 40+, a single parent to a now adult child and I live with my parents. I was widowed at 27 and had to restart life with very little. It has been ROUGH! I can't afford a house, I can't afford an apartment, and I work a full-time job + a part-time one. I finished my BA, but never finished my MA, which has always made me feel like a loser. I feel like I have never reached my potential and I don't quite know how to get there. But you know what? It's going to happen for me and you because we are here recognizing what needs to change within ourselves to make things happen. I wish you the VERY BEST
@C Z Is it possible to drop the part-time job so you can get your MA? There are Grant Programs you can apply for to help with College.
You Got This, Go For It!!!
Kendra Morin, You van do this! Take one day at a time. Ask your parrnts tovhelp babysit for your son while you go on Job Interviews. Get a better job, with more income. Save for a home/condo of your own while youre saving on rent living with your folks. Join groups that interest you and Network in the fields of interest. You never know where a connection will lead... Opportunities will come aling that you never even thought of! You could even be an apartment manager and live rent free with income! Lift your eyes up and be grateful, which leads to being hopeful! 🎉
As soon as Ricki revealed her dad died at the intersection between the "before" (better) and "after" (worse) phases in her life, my tears started flowing. I feel incredibly stuck in life and nothing has felt quite the same since my dad died. Hearing Ricki speak about her own "stuckness" has helped me give myself compassion and feel less alone. Mel's words have given me hope for the future.
You are brave and courageous to share your feelings on a public forum. I thank you because I’m going to be 50 this month and I’ve been feeling stuck for years and feel similar ti how you feel. I cried listening to this. I hope and pray things get better for you. You seem like a great person. 😊thank you and thank you Mel. 💕
I'm almost 62 and have felt this possibly my whole life. Thank you ladies. ❤
I’m in my 60’s and just now beginning to understand in a more meaningful way the impact of past life events upon my life. If you think I’ve been hiding under a rock, well, that may be true. Another reason may just be that putting one foot in front of the other is all we know how to do. Hindsight is so important if done with love, and I believe that change and happiness is possible at any age. Thanks for being there, Mel!
@LucySky223 Same here. I'm 64 and realizing it can take a long time to to understand the places I feel stuck and why, and how they relate to events from many years ago. You are right. We don't always acknowledge these things because we are too busy just doing what we need to do or what we think we are supposed to do, especially if you're that "rock" type of person like the woman in the video.
I’m speechless. The universe is answering my prayer I have goosebumps. I might leave a comment again later after I finish watching this video. just taking in this marvelous experience and listening to this conversation
Thank you so much Mel for Ricky.💛 I have been meditating and praying for guidance and help. Not only am I a 44 year old black woman who has gained a lot of weight and lost her father about 12 years ago and ended a 10 year relationship in the mist of my father dying which maybe I've never dealt with for the sake of not wanting to feel. I went from being extremely focused after the break up, working hard, walking daily and over shopping as a pain silencer to not even wanting to get out of the bed recently, most days and do anything now. I've never not known what I wanted to do but...here I am. I hated the job I recently was laid off from. The look on Ricky's face is so genuine. Trying to process what you're saying as if she was a baby learning how to walk again. This episode was definitely for me. As well as so many of us here. I want to say thank you so much Mel and I love you. 💛 I so needed this boost. I have been so idle and stuck. Thank you so much Ricky. 💛 I hope you are continuing on your journey back to a happy and healthy place. 🙏🏾
Thank you for your honesty
Not even 10 minutes in and she just described my life.
Now 1/2 way in and there is no doubt I was brought here. She is telling my story, I relate to Mel so much. I have felt such defeat.
I’m doing my best to stay positive after getting myself in a real scary place about 6- 7 months ago.
Thank you Mel for being open and honest.
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Wow Mel! Timing right on for this. Thank you...I believe I can now "make a plan" to recover from the death of my beautiful son. My only child and my only family. Thank you for your wisdom and healing words.❤
I am so deeply sorry
Mel, this is the best episode, EVER!!! I can identify with everything you discussed with Rickie. I have been living in survival mode after multiple traumas and loses in my life. I turn 50 in September and I have been feeling like I have lived the unfulfilled and wasted life. I am trying, with your help, to apply any clarity I have gained to pivot and rebuild the ruins of my life. Thank you for all the compassionate insight you share with me and all of your other podcast audience.
I love the bluntness mel displays, "rocks don't feel love". It's so brave Rickie is facing her truth, of she can let herself feel and actually go through the griefing of her father and now the "old her" she will feel a whole lot different, then slowly work on each category she listed she wasn't happy with. The letting go of the old self is really hard and painful process but much needed. Since our older version no longer serves our current life we need to let them go. We appreciate them for serving us in the past but now we need to open space for another version of oursleves❤ rooting for you Rickie 🙌🏻
Mel at her best! ❤ Thank you to the generous guest for being so open. All the best going forward!!!
Thank you Ricki for having the guts to say what so many of us would not have the ability to say. I hope you find or are able to create all the good things in life that you deserve. I've got to tell you this, I believe by you doing this you opened the eyes of many people, including myself. Thank you
This woman is such a sweetheart I hope she is happy now or happier in her life
Very sweet of her for going through this with us😊😊😊
Mel is such an amazing coach,the reflecting back just shows how deep of a listener she is. Switching between coach and mentor ❤
I lost my dad in 2009 to lung cancer. He raised me himself. I was so lost for a long time. My dad was my best friend, confidante and spiritual teacher. I have been fighting a long battle with weight gain, ptsd, self destruction.
My dad taught me better than this and I know how to fix my life.
My daughter's father kept saying I needed him. That I didn't know what I was doing. He made me so mental that I had been put on medication. This lasted almost 14 years.
The pandemic actually saved my life. I used my first stimulus check to get divorced from my daughter's father. It was so liberating. Yet for some unknown reason at the time I kept running back to him.
I get the feeling that I felt I deserved to be abused. Not sure why. I'm in therapy and getting better at treating myself with respect and love. Bless you Mel I appreciate what you are doing for everyone.
Much love and respect,
ScorpionMaiden 💕💜👑💜💕
Wow. This opened my eyes!! Same grieving big losses in my life ..since 2007. Awoke from it in 2018 by a huge medical emergency..got in grwat shape physically in 2019-2020. Then derailed twice by the big C.... Now getting back on track for my life..but hit with my best emotional support friend moving away just cause they want to experience new places...brought it all back. So now i need to really do the hard work to take my life back.
This is such a true and honest podcase, I am sure all listeners are listening in pin drop silence!
Big hugs to Ricki! I feel her pain so much. Just the thought of writing this letter and reading it at my dad's grave already makes me a snotty, blubbering mess.
I'm feeling very BLAH this morning and I came on to YT to probably listen to true crime to feel SOMETHING/ANYTHING and then I saw this... 1 minute in and I've already been given something brilliant, "maybe you're working on the wrong problem" BOOM. Mind blown. Thank you so much. Now to settle in and listen.
Mel you are a genius
You break it down so easily make everything make sense
Half way through I’m saying Mel tell her to write a letter because
I did this for similar reasons it really does help with grief
Thank you for all your wise words and all your help xx
Im 41yrs old, and for the last year or so I'm feeling such a strong pull for change, I have worked on a few areas in my life and things have changed for the better but not enough, I'd like to evolve mostly in my career but also I'm super inspired by meditation and learning and diving deeper into me... I have such a thirst for it all but do not know where to start and more importantly, I don't know if steps I'm taking are going to be the right ones
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I highly recommend Carol Tuttle’s energy profiling work and her book ‘it’s just my nature’ it’s been life changing for me. You can search her work on TH-cam. 💖
Start with Sahaj Yoga, their meditation technique will connect you with the Divine and things shall working itself out. Atleast give it a try, I have recently started it after going through a lot and I can say my life's changing for the better because I am practicing it.
@katiegreenwood8738 thank u so much
@@aditikatkar2532 thank u😊
Love this format of live counselling! So helpful to see.
It's coaching not counseling!!
we need more of these👍🏽
I am Rikki. Every word. Every response to Mel. Everything. While I didn’t have a death that I was grieving but rather a person who experienced adverse childhood experiences; drug addicted mom, father in jail my entire life, foster care, etc….I resonated with every single word she articulated in this interview. Thank you for sharing! I felt like I was being healed through this interview ❤
Ricki is so beautiful and vulnerable. Thank you so much for being so brave and sharing your story ❤
I had a loving kind Dad and I know he’s in Heaven but I still cry . I know he wants me to be happy. It’s ok to cry.
So brilliant, Mel! I had to pause the video after you said, "You think the best of your life is behind you!" OMG. Life changing for me. I have been in that state of mind for the last three years as I slog through (at 58) my mid-life transformation! I've gained weight, I cut my hair (and don't feel like myself), I don't engage with the world but only with the TV, I'm single and have given up on dating, and now I KNOW WHY!!!! I am SO grateful to both of you for sharing so honestly, with such vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you!
@Nicolette Vajtay I hear you!! I don't know about you but I could definitely use a group of us gals connecting online, just good to know we're not alone huh?
@@michellecd4722 Yes, it makes me feel a little less crazy!
I just want to say thank you I rescue some points of this conversation. I am 48 seven years of age I have a lot of good job I say I’m passionate about this and me I don’t feel it I’m still working on my personal girl, so identify with Ricky about what she say. Thank you so much for these videos and the content and God bless.
Thank you, Mel. You were talking to me in this is episode! Thank you for genuinely caring. I have a similar story... I was stuck... Have been for 10 years after my divorce, but there is hope! I believe it with all my being now. I will mark this day in my calendar and a year from now ... Wow!!! I am excited about a year from now. THANK YOU!
I am in tears. This resonates with me so much. I was hospitalized in my early 30’s and then diagnosed with an autoimmune issue. I’m in a toxic job, not where I thought I’d be, feeling like I squandered my 30’s... Mel just hit the nail on the head. Thank you for the insight and amazing podcast.
I lost my grandma in 2020 and my dad in 2021 at 36&37. At first I wasn’t motivated to do anything but I decided to make them proud in 2022 I graduated with my Adult High School Diploma and now a year later I’m going back to college to get my Associates then B.A. I want to make them proud but I also now realize it’s my time to make my life mine. For a long time I was stuck in my job too.
HOLY SHIT MEL! This episode is probably the best one yet. Absolutely hit home and was so emotional to hear and understand. Thank you so much!
Thank you Ricky for sharing and being so courageous 💖 You are me! And Mel, your wisdom and wise compassion filled my heart. With Infinite Love and Gratitude I thank you 💖
I have listened to many talks from Mel.....this literally had me crying at my kitchen table...and I dont cry very much...my dads death was the most tragic event...have I been grieving silent for so long I stopped believing i can be truly happy? This....just hit me square in the heart....so many thoughts....Mel you spoke to me through this talk with Ricci like I've never really felt....I am so happy for her and I hope she rocks it losing a dad ...man...it sucked, still does. But gosh this talk just opened my mind and heart to start trying again... thank you Mel...❤
I have listen to Mel Robbed for a long term me. But this one hit hard. It’s like I had a free therapy session.
I love how her voice changed on the second clip. You can really hear the joy and relief and optimism! I also feel stuck in my midlife and this is very motivational and inspiring for me to dig deeper.
I'm 49 Ricki, let's do this together ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story with all of us, I resonate with you and I am so proud of you stepping out of your comfort zone by doing this interview and helping others by doing so, we can do this! ❤❤❤
Omg, Mel I love you. Ricky thank you so much. I had no idea how much I needed this. I cried like a baby as I related so much with this. I too lost my dad and feel very much like this in my life. Wow ladies I'm going to write my letter and go talk to my dad. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️
Thank you for this ❤ to this sweet woman who showed herself, thank you. To Mel for cutting through it all and connecting the dots, thank you.
Thank you Mel! Somedays I listen to you ALL DAY. You are a lifesaver ❤❤❤
Ricky, Thank you for being so authentic, sweet & genuine during this interview...your feedback to Mel's questions helped me so profoundly. This has been one of the most productive therapy sessions that I have ever participated in, even though it was just by watching it through a podcast. My heart has hope that I will also heal and have a breakthrough thanks RICKY and Mel.
There is so much value in everything Mel does, and this is incredible insight and wisdom on how to move forward!! I also recognize that there is some abandonment trauma as well as loyalty at the level of codependency… from personal experience, addressing those things as well will revolutionize your healing journey🤍
The better times are in the future. This is my take from this video. I used to think a lot about my pass victories that I forgot to keep dreaming. Thank you Mel. God bless even more.
What a beautiful, precious soul Ricki is. I see her making big strides and creating the life she deserves!! ❤ Mel Robbins, you are the best! Thank you for sharing your gift with the world.
Mel Robbins I absolutely value you and am so grateful I discovered you 💜 I can relate to this woman to a degree. Everything she's currently going through/feeling, I am too! I also feel that my 20s were my best years. I also, at 27-28 had a nasty divorce and experienced great loss of family members. I've been in abusive relationships since. I became heavily addicted to drugs, but by the grace of God overcame that addiction. I am 41, a single mother of a 5 y/o & 19 y/o daughters who live in NC with me. I just moved from FL, my home state, last summer, away from everything and everyone I know. I have no friends here, no family (besides my girls) and a job working from home that is stressful. I am in therapy, am on medication, have been diagnosed with several different diagnoses since moving to NC, am overweight and overwhelmed. I truly believe with all my heart & soul that the ONLY thing that gets me started every morning is watching your podcasts! I LOVE LOVE LOVE your content and I think you're such an amazing woman. I hope that this comment isn't gone unread, and from what I believe of you, it won't! If you have anything for me, or if you want to talk with me, I would forever be a changed woman! My name is Christina, and I genuinely can't find anyone else in this world, other than yourself, that I believe can help me get out of my own way! Please help Mel 🙏
I don't think Mel has time to answer everyone, so I guess I'll do the job for her. I don't know what caught my attention about your comment, or who/what inspired me to read it and answer it. This comment is from 5 months ago, and I hope you are doing well today, Christina. I went through tough times in my life as well, so I sympathize with you. Mel has been a remarkable person of influence in my life too. It's hard work. You go through ups and downs, but don't give up. I wasn't addicted to drugs. I was addicted to food and a sense of being comfortable, not taking risks. Mel always says : "No one is coming for you, no one..." I took that reality really hard, and it is true. No one came for me and I took responsibility for my actions and mistakes. I took my power back and I'm working on standing up back again on my own. It was very scary and it is still today. I took one step of the time. That's all we can do. And stay close to your beliefs, your values and your dreams. I wish all the best for you.
Wow!!! This changed my life realized things wrote letters in my head as you talked I applied it to my life I am caring for myself feeling love for myself
Can’t wait till next week!!!
This episode came at the perfect time for me. Thank you Mel and thank you for the vulnerability and courage of your guest. I am going to be 45 in about 10 days. I get so down on myself, because I struggle to make lasting change. I'll start something and then quit, or make excuses as to why it's not for me. Over the years the shame of not being able to stick to a plan has really taken over, and I, like your guest adopt the attitude of "Well, that's just what I do." Start something and then stop. I joke sometimes about it and pretend that it's okay in order to justify my lack of discipline.- I just like to try a bunch of different things! I'm adventurous and curious! And that's a good thing! But deep down the shame and embarrasment has been growing. So on Monday I said to myself that's it - I'm going to do something about this, and I committed to the 75 Hard challenge. Monday night I was terrified of this committment and sobbing because the voices in my hear were telling me "Sounds good Karen, but you can't do this - you never follow through". Anyways, I woke up this morning and there was your podcast. Amazing timing, and I am truly motivated and excited to take on this challenge and create a lasting change in my life. Thank you - Thank you!!
@Karen Michaelsen You know, you may have undiagnosed ADHD and /or be a multi-passionate person (I am interested in so many things) I've been reading a lot & watching videos about high achieving women not finishing things, etc., and how women have very different presentations with ADHD than "boys" and so most of the time it's not caught til' mid-life when women legit think they must have early Alzheimer's because their brains start behaving differently. I think I am & it wasn't really until mid-life that it started to become glaringly obvious & with more & more stress with unhealthy aging parents & my own chronic health issues; even if women don't have ADHD midlife with hormones shifting in the brain is no joke! Sometimes lack of follow-through is legit from something other than being bored, afraid or losing interest. I have major self-discipline & have finished three degrees over the years but then there are other times when I just can't do the things I want to do or start something & don't finish it. I think this is SO common & not talked about enough., thank you for this comment :) Happy Birthday!! :)
I’m 64 now and had started to make some changes in my life/beliefs after taking a solo trip to Costa Rica and getting divorced in the last few years. I basically had to just push myself through the fears to get myself to do this. I now find that making that big shift was a catalyst to feeling better about myself. I still deal with some of my stinkin thinkin from time to time but I feel better equipped to handle those thoughts/feelings.
Like Always, You are awesome Mel Robbins.,
I am 23, Recently got laid off on April 30, 2023. I really felt like I am stuck with this situation forever, After seeing this and taking notes. I feel like I can do more. After those activities of yours, I figured out my own whys. Once again thanks Mel. We love you. 💌
Wow...and i almost didn't listen to this podcast today...I am trying to heal through the help of your viewers and YOU Mel.
I feel like I am this girl,, But times 10.
I lost my father 22 years ago,,, My job, My husband, Then I lost my mother a few years later, I lost my paralyzed sister i few years ago, And a few months ago I lost her husband my brother-in-law. I am so traumatized I'm having difficulty even making a comment.
I have also gained 35 pounds, Make bad choices in relationships so I just quit that, , Trying to keep my dreams alive but I feel completely drained.
I'm really happy that you helped Ricki... I'm hoping I can get a little bit out of this Podcast, Because I am feeling more than stuck.
I love the way you teach and make sense of things Mel.
Would love a session with you sometime....
Thank you for all you do... You're amazing❤
36:20 I think this lady is so brave cos to open up to those deep feelings hidden deep and dark inside is the most difficult thing to do….. but you can’t heal till you go there - she needs to cry cos she’s still holding back 😢
This was so powerful and an eye opener. A few revelations came to light in my own life. And this left me hopeful and excited about the possibilities of what life would be like looking back 10 years from today. Thank you, Mel.
Thank you for the wonderful show about decision making and signs! (season 1, show 3) I just saw it on Swedish television and it was a God send show for me. I cannot make even small decisions. You made it so clear to me! Thank you very much. Still have trouble making the BIG decisions...., but now being able to make small decisions is worth everything! Thank you!
I have had the same mind set after my mother passed,and married a very mean man, felt I've been in love survival mode for 10 years. And I really have not really came to grip with the two losses. I'm now working on my inner child. Like Mel said I have too pull up the root cause of my unhappiness and love blocking😢❤. Thanks Mel I love you.
@Esterene Forrest For me it was my brother's death, I thought he was my soulmate & that my brother had sent him to me, in fact, when we had this "woo woo" thing happen I think my brother was trying to tell me to get the you know what outta there!
THANK YOU to.this amazing woman for being open and willing to share her process experiences and life. Incredible session Mel. Metaphor is probably the strongest of all the languages!!!
Thanks!
This interview with Rikki, was such an emotional eye-opening experience. Gave insight of how to see and understand other possible mental blocks that can truly be broken down, or as you say, " chip away ", and peel back layers that were not yet recognized. Nikki is so precious, and
I'm grateful for your voice, Mel 🙏💗
Love you too 👍💗
Ricki, thank you so much for being so honest and vulnerable. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you how beautiful you are. You have touched me very deeply and held up a mirror so I could see where I too am stuck. So much abundance and love headed your way.
I follow Mel on social media but this is the first Mel YT video I've watched and Wow, the timing of this! You are just amazing with your insight. I'm ready to take notes, do the work and start kicking ass. Much love ❤️
Both of you, Mel and Ricky, were so awesome in this conversation! Mel, you are insightful, wise, blunt yet kind, and I love your authenticity. Ricky, you have such a radiant soul and were really courageous and honest with your feelings. It was an honor to be able to listen to you both and apply the messages to my own life and circumstances. Thank you!! ❤
The amount of love and honesty on this podcast gives me hope for a better world! This one is close to the heart. I lost my mom at the age of 20 after a 4 year battle with cancer. After listening to this episode it really let me take a look on how i view myself in every aspect of my life. Always knowing today can be the day to start a new mind shift can do for my head and heart
Thank youuuuu Ricky for your honesty,I too lost my dad when I was 28 and it was excruciating...part of me died with him. So many bad decisions afterwards and for the life of me never made that connection so vividly.
The how I take care of everyone and everything...the gaining weight,the colon cancer, moving to Europe for my husband, the divorce and the list goes on ... Mel I so wish I could chat with you too but listening to this conversation came pretty close. I'm going to listen again and write a letter to my dad and I'm going to go to his resting place and read it to him. I am hopeful.❤ Thank youuuuu both.
A BRAVE and honest lady!! The willingness to tell her story and be vulnerable is inspiring! The world is so focused on success, that it’s not always easy to admit difficulties because of unnecessary shame we can feel. I feel for her and I can relate to this woman, although I lost my mother and had previous struggles before that, and after, such as a man breaking into my home.😢 Yes, I feel like I was in freeze mode and internalised my pain. Sometimes, fawn mode. I developed a great sense of humour and ability to make myself and others happy - those who I feel deserve it and appreciate it. Ricki, I hope it’s ok to give unsolicited advice from myself, but you NEED to cry! Look at photos, they will trigger you, but release the pain you need! I hope you do well in life in your future, as well as anyone else who may be reading this comment.
Thank you so much for your words. They mean so much. I have cried over losing him, so much you would think I didn't have tears left. It was the connecting the dots to me being stuck and his passing that caught me off guard.
Dearest Mel, God bless you and your loved ones abundantly.
This lady, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in this conversation. This was so courageous of you and so helpful to me. I wish her all the best moving forward. Take heart, be strong, you know what to do sweet lady!
You are helping all of us Mel. Your compassion and sincerity heals us all. Thank you.
I see a lot of myself in you. Thank you for posting this. You’ve certainly inspired me. ❤❤❤
You keep reminding me that the best is coming! Thank you!
Dearest Rickie,
I've only just heard the first 1/3 of this chat of yours with Mel and I will be listening to the rest as soon as I write to you.
Rickie I so hear and feel your journey, the aspects of overwhelm. I also know your bravery and willingness to. I believe that you are a radiant, soulful, intelligent being with depth and yes much joy and wonder ahead. I'd like you to know that I've had tremendous losses, break ups, heartbreak that piled up at a time, also shaking my confidence along with aspects of my vision, creativity, intuitive sensibilities that had been so vibrant, my perspective and joy became blurred at times, etc. (Enough about me, I'm sorry), but I do believe that the different experiences of loss, the journeys and aspects of grief along the way, the depths can have a ripple effect that can surely alter aspects of life as we knew it. My experience with "a long chapter" of my heavy losses, also blessed me with profound lessons, insights, perspectives that as my heart began to understand, reflect, soften again, heal more and allow me to fall in love with myself, giving credit to myself for the rough chapter, the lessons learned and value and recognize a beautiful, strong Spirit that I am. The ripple effects can come and go, yet they can be some of our most profound "teachers" as we can choose when ready to move forward with vibrancy as we come to a "new chapter" with our personal, depth and boundless creativity and yes joy too.
Rickie may you step into your sweet self and your "now" chapter, knowing that you surely can. Please know that other older woman, such as myself walk with the great depths of loss and change and see the strength and beauty in it and certainly in you. Please allow yourself the many joys and wonders on your path ahead, be gentle with yourself and may you stand tall in your beauty along the way.....
Gratitude to both you and Mel, your sharing and teaching that too ripples out........
This interview was amazing because ALL if it was me, except it was my mother dying of cancer that froze me for the same number of years. The self criticism, the not letting love in, ALL me too!
It was amazing to watch this interaction and how you worked with her to get to the root cause. There is hope for all of us.❤
Mel, you helped her. Fantastic 😊
Wow. Wow. Wow. Mel, you just changed that girls life forever. I would love to have that kind of insightful conversation with someone that hits the root cause of all my shit. So many aha moments for her. Nailed it. Wow.
Listened to this on Spotify and came here to say that this was such an amazing and thought provoking talk.
My heart goes out to her! I feel everything she is going through. My heart and prayers go out to this beautiful women! God Bless you Mel
Hi Mel. Ooo my this has uncovered so much. Surviving coping strategies since i was a child never let me truely feel all the sorrow beneath the fighting. I have never grieved the loss of my mum and never realised this. This episode not only left this all come up but also all the grief since i was a kid everytime i lost my mum. There was a time she was asked were she would like to be buried. I was just 6 living in a new country on a new continent and no i was there for me. So i went into survival mode ever sinds. Years of theraphy and you led me to the source of this intense sorrow and grief i have been carring so long into death of my both parents. Thank you🙏🏽
Bless her I'm listening to this, just want to give her a hug, and it's so many of us... just stuck.... defensive just trying to survive....
Beautiful, Needed this. Mel is an Angel, saving and helping lives. All of this advice is amazing and Listen to some DEEP house with vocals. Nadia Ali? dance even if it is in front of your mirror !!!!! always found healing in music and dancing...
Wow. Amazing. So many things resonated with me, too. Thank you, Ricki and Mel!
This is one of the most powerful podcasts from you Mel. Thank you very much. I hope the lady was able to move forward and get the happiness back❤
I grew up with addiction & experienced abandonment & neglect & also lost my mom on my 21fst birthday from AIDS also a few relationships with no closure ‼️
Thank you Mel and Ricky. My dad passed 3 years ago and I’m with the exact same feeling of stuckness. I used to thrive in my life in my twenties as well but I have been lost this last 3 years not knowing what is it, I changed my job, the city where I live and had many therapy sessions but nothing seemed to work. I’m hopeful this is the answer. Thank you!
I'm so proud of her. ❤
Thank you for all the love and care you share ❤
So relatable. Rooting for you, Ricki!
Thank you, Ricki, for sharing because it’s mine, too. Imagine I’m 56 and in the same boat! I have faith in you AND me. Lots of love.
I neded hear this today. I also appreciate Rikki honesty. Wish the best for her!
The title "Feeling Stuck Right Now? Stop Looking In The Wrong Place" from The Mel Robbins Podcast immediately captured my attention. It hints at the idea that we may be seeking solutions or answers in the wrong places, contributing to our feeling of being stuck. In this podcast episode, I expect Mel Robbins to offer valuable insights on redirecting our focus and finding the right path forward. Her no-nonsense approach to personal growth and empowerment makes her podcast a reliable source of motivation and practical advice. Makes her a trusted source of inspiration for personal growth and transformation. Thank you, Mel Robbins, for addressing such a crucial topic and providing valuable insights into stopping hesitation and embracing life-changing decisions. Your guidance is sure to help countless individuals break free from self-doubt and hesitation, paving the way for a more fulfilling and empowered life.
Remarkably substantive podcast for me! I see self examination and steps I can take to move forward. Thank you Mel!🙏🏽💕
So i listen to so many podcast its almost ridiculous! I oddly post a message on a support group. Stating i feel stuck and saw this , today. So im listening, to this today. I want to not just listen but use and move past and through this. Free of this stinking thinking. I started using 5,4,3,2,1. Crazy it helps. I use to go to another support group . Told to look at myself in mirror. Couldnt do it. Years ago. Working on that high five! So i totally know its working. Ty love you
At 62, I feel like my best years are behind me. It is very hard to believe that the best years are ahead of me. I get what this lovely woman is saying. On the other hand, at 62, how many years do I really have? The end becomes closer. Mel, so many things you said in the episode hit home. Kudos to Ricki. You have helped a lot of people by your bravery and genuiness.
I understand
Yay, loved hearing that life in her voice - you can hear the hope. Well done, Mel. You asked her all the right questions!
I agree. Hope is a seductive thing. I think it's gotta be? 💜✌️✨
Thank you so much for this - the one thing that really meant a lot to me is if you tell yourself the same story - nothing will change in your life. I'm going to change the story I tell myself!
This is exactly what my therapy sessions sound like 🫶🏼 almost like a recording hahah thanks Mel!
Praying for you Sis Yah got you stay encouraged and peace be with you
I’m 72 just left a 24 yr marriage to a narc/addict. Thx for this bc I married him at 44.
I could be this young lady . Lost my whole family & held on to someone I never should have.
These deep dives are wonderful, I want to be fearless. He made me feel worthless.
Mel your are SO right.
I’m grateful everyday for my health &
the ability to explore & move upward.
I had a real fear of abandonment.
Move forward your young & have so much to offer. Go girl & so will I