I have learned that you should never depend on the woman emotionally, not even when you think "she's yours". Never offend her; react emotionally but stay centered. Do not ever ever argue. If she drop your date twice and she never mention date again, move on and don't hate her for that. Don't ever ask her to be your girlfriend, she will ask you if you know what your doing. DON'T ever be affraid to lose her. One of the Biggest mistake is starting strong and later on become WEAK AND NEEDY. You either are a real strong emotional Man or you're just faking it. Enjoy the good moments she gives you but be willing to understand when she wants space.
Nicely said. Literally my last relationship. I truly started off strong didnt really care too much. She asked to be more than fwbs... down the road fell in love and became week needy girly man. Lesson learned....I hope 🤣🤣🤣
6String Pete it’s not being her puppet, he is saying no matter what she does to not let it throw you off center. The problem is most guys be “themselves” and then get too emotional and needy and she loses attraction
It is really scary he understands so much about women. I've learned a lot about myself here. I used to love men that were needy and had too much time on their hands. Now...nope. I see it a totally different way and exit stage left when all this clingy stuff starts happening. I didn't notice I wasn't that into these guys even though I helped them out emotionally ALL THE TIME. I felt like I did something good for them. I used ro want to be a Psychiatrist..which was a huge magnet for these types. Now, I know I should not end up being a mans therapist! Huge relief. Sad part is, super stubborn men will see these videos and not take this shit seriously. I have noticed that men of my past, I really wasn't that into these guys like the females Coach mentions that chase. I get it now. Raised to believe that men chase...they do chase...but only in the beginning and from there a woman really should show that she naturally has a high interest in her male seducer. Otherwise the man is just wasting his time and money resources on someone that does not have a high attraction to him. The non interested, bored, insecure female gets sucked into a relationship that is mediocre and settles for less. If we think about the past there is always someone that we were head over heals about but blew it because we didn't understand the subtle balance of the level of attraction between two people. There are guys we just don't feel crazy about. When a woman has a high attraction to a man and he reciprocates, she is going to keep him. Bottom line. There is a book I will promote too on my facebook business page later about this. Anyhow, long message but hey, thanks for reading.
1:48 It’s an art, not a science. Practice makes perfect the art of seduction. 7:18 Sending too many unnecessary texts and not asking when you're free to get together. You want to make a date in as few steps as possible. It's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. *The less communication it takes for you to make a date, the more she's going to wonder about you. The more mysterious that you're going to appear to her. It all works to your benefit.* The reason you send several texts back and forth falling under the illusion of action is because you think, "I've got to do something. I've got to do a lot of things to get her to want me." Nature has already taken care of that. It's not a choice. She either likes you or she doesn't. 8:10 The more you talk, and the more texts you send back and forth, and the more emails and phone calls and the longer you talk on the phone, the higher the likelihood is that you're going to say something or you're going to text her something that's going to turn her off and she's going to back away and you're going to blow it. You've got to tighten your game up. 9:45 Saying one thing, and then doing something else. Your words and your actions are not congruent. It's a lack of confidence. Women that know what they're doing - especially the really beautiful ones are going to pick up on that. 97% of guys out there operate this way. They're needy, insecure, and you think you're being charming and chivalrous, but your texts are just oozing, "Please reject me. I don't think you're going to want to go out with me. I think it's just a matter of time before you blow me off." 11:09 You communicate a lot about your confidence and your personality just by what you say in your texts. Communicating a total lack of confidence will make her doubt you. 14:30 When/if she reaches out to you again, assume she wants to see you. "Hey it's great to hear from you. When are you free to get together?" That's all you gotta send. Don't send 3-4 cutesy little texts trying to be funny, thinking you've got to do something to make her like you. As soon as she reaches out, make a F'ing date. Don't overcomplicate things or make yourself weak and not look good. Women encounter guys like this constantly, especially if she's really beautiful (they get bombarded with this several times a week). 17:47 Being impatient when you don't get what you want is the worst F'ing thing you can do. That scares a woman, because when a guy gets impatient, those are the type of guys that rape women. If a woman hasn't been raped herself, she probably knows a girlfriend who has (it happens a lot). 21:35 Always go for the kiss. You just never know until you know. 23:00 Build the sexual tension like a *snowball.* 24:10 Women are like cats, they kinda come and go. *This is how they test your strength.* 25:30 "I can never get what I want" = SELF LIMITING BELIEF (drive that shit out of your mind!) 26:10 If you keep doing what you've always done, you're going to continue to get what you've always got. If you keep being impatient and focused on sex, this is what's always going to continue to happen. *You need to treat all women the same.* 33:50 A woman who's recently divorced = will be hot and cold emotionally. If she has a bad day in court, she might think, "F men, I don't want to do anything with men." She may start to feel fearful and bail out and walk away altogether. Just do nothing at that point. She may come back after a week, 3 weeks, or a month - you just never know. *Be infinitely patient. It's a game of tennis - you hit one ball over the net.* 35:00 Sometimes women ignore you on purpose. If she gets any hint that you're insecure or you're needy, she's going to test you on it. Especially the really beautiful ones. So if you're game ain't tight, and you can't hold out, you're going to F'ing blow it. Neediness = the illusion of action, trying to force you to do something and make something happen. Being out of a marriage means her emotions are going to be really raw. This is the double edge sword you deal with someone who's right out of a long-term relationship. They're going to need time to heal, be alone, and be by themselves. Blowing her phone up makes them feel like they're in a relationship now. That's what they're trying to avoid. They're trying to just hang out, and have fun, and keep it casual. 36:30 Do nothing - walk and never look back. If you ever hear from her again, just say, "Hey great to hear from you. I'd love to see you, when are you free to get together." And then make a date. 3H's = Have Fun, Hang Out, and Hook Up. Next time don't blow her phone up, and stop being focused on boyfriend and girlfriend and locking her down to a commitment. Otherwise you're going to communicate that you're needy when you're focused on the dating and relationship label. *REMEMBER, INFINITE PATIENCE.*
I've been pursuing this woman for a few weeks now and the bottom line is as soon as she feels comfortable with you she will open up. Before I went on vacation I told her about this restaurant I ate at before. She said oh I really want to go and try it. I told her ok when I get back from vacation which was 30 days. About a week after I got back I mentioned hey let me know when you are free to go out. She said I have been thinking about this the whole time you were gone. Later she asked me to go have a beer with her after work, of course I said sure. I have found that not over pursuing really works, being patient. She works with me and a few times she said I will have lunch with you then at least two occasions she bailed at the last minute and said oh I decided to go out with the girls. I said ok cool no big deal I didn't get butt hurt or mad. I think she was testing me to see how I would react whether I was needy or clingy. So play it cool eventually she will come to you if the time is right. Iv'e concluded that no matter how strong your game is or how talented or good looking you are it all boils down to is she comfortable with you.
Lunch with you ask you a few times what did you say after that corey say no lunch date lunch date equals to freindship Corey always says dinner but hey she's testing you lady's does that all the time read his book I do
Are you kidding me? You don’t have her at all lol and you had a lunch date after not seeing her for 30 days!? Lmao seriously and worst of all she bailed on you last minute. Even if that was a test, she disrespected you and wasted your time and now she has all the power if you decide to take her out again. Any woman that would bail on a date last minute is disrespecting you and walking all over you like a doormat. If a girl truly is interested in you she will ditch her mates just to be with you. You still have a lot to learn.
I don’t care if she’s “testing” you. These women have to be held accountable. You don’t get emotional. You just make sure she knows it’s not okay to bail on you last minute.
I appreciate that you highlight personal insecurities as what holds back success in relationships, and aren't simply giving the rules to some game. I find your advice logical and respectful - thank you for sharing.
It's pretty funny, I ran into Corey's videos like 2 years ago when I typed "How to get your ex-girlfriend back" on youtube, I was obviously pathetic and broken hearted and searched for an easy and fast way to get through it. In recent days i'm pretty damn good, yet sometimes before I call a girl and ask her out while we're dating - I give myself a good 20 mintues of watching Corey talks, although what he's saying isn't magic, it's just common sense about how to act around women, it simply gives me sometimes the slap that I need to get back on track and not acting like a fucking inbred noob. Ty and sorry for the long post.(jk i know u read it it was intresting)
Tony Petelycky I bought the book...I didn’t need to buy the book..Remember Coreys a master of persuasion, especially when it comes to marketing himself.
Herbie Shapiro well then. I’m not complaining about being persuaded into learning good information😂😂 Besides dude being able to get the full picture in depth is what will really give you skill
Brilliant, Coach! I recently went on a first date with a divorced woman, but didn't reveal how recently her divorce was - and I felt uncomfortable to ask, as I've never been married and just got out of a serious relationship a few months ago myself - so I just wanted to hang out and have a good time. Anyway, her vibe was almost exactly like you described. Very reserved, and hot & cold emotionally (sent a lot of mixed signals). Appreciate all that you do to help guys out who are in my situation. Your situational awareness and understanding are phenomenal.
Looking at her actions in that very moment tells you everything you need to know. I just recently happened to overtext and eventhough she was the one initiating 100% of the contact, within one day all the heart-emojis and the "my baby"-s vanished from her messages and they became very formal. I immediately started backing of, keeping it to 1-2 replies back and forth per day before "gotta run, busy day", and also leaving out the "babe" and whatnot. Two days later she was right back to sending me the lovey dovey stuff and telling me how much she was looking forward to seeing me. It's crazy how simple it is to get things back on track once you know how it works and pay attention to what is happening in the right now without wasting time thinking about what has been prior or what might or might not be in the future.
I’m young and I know you have to be a “wild card” and have great skill sets, in order to tap anything. With time and some fun it all works out everytime but there’s always the wild ones and weird ones. Got to know what ur working with at first type of person, “ideologies are everything” James Comey said during a senate hearing not sure u get it tho. The first date you have a rough idea, my two peace
I met a girl a couple months ago and fucked it up royally...the "ending" of that relationship let me to your material which jived with the input of my close female friends. I've read your book and the more I watch your videos I feel like this girl came into my life so I can "fuck up", find your material and learn a shitload of lessons. That same girl called me back a month after not contacting her and within that month I've hooked up with 3 beautiful women. Thank you thank you thank you for your advice and wisdom. About to start the second reading of your book and I have dates with 2 women this week from cold approach. In addition you've helped me simplify my dating life so I can focus on my life and let the women come. I even told one girl who was texting me that I don't like texting and "when are you free to get together?" I also listen to, read and watch material from other dating coaches yet dude, you cover aspects of dating that I really needed to hear. Inner and outer "game" to the max.
Im 24 about to be 25 in 2 months and havent had a serious relationship in 3.5 or a legitimate date in almost a year, it sucks but damn these vids help alot i go out everyday chatting up complete strangers, only thing i need to work on is being direct with women i find attractive. i suspect 2014 will be my year ha.
patience with ur progress, allow ur self to fuck up ok, see it that way so u can be less stressed when u approach or are in a date with a female, dont get to caught up with a girl kuz then u will crush on her and if shit dont happen then u will get hurt so, talk and practice go on dates, even if its with girls u dont like that much
Iloveufonzi ha thank bro! actually went out with a chick about 2 weeks ago and let just say i had to take her home the next morning. still though i need to get to the point where i have options. but yeah patience is key.
how i see it is, ill keep dating courting until i find someone who i like alot and feel a good connection with, and if shit fucks up then ill take it as a learning so i wont be to hard on myself, but at the same time will make progress :-)
I think patience leads to good results, either with relationships or any other activity that involves it. And yet, if you have patience, you will be rewarded.
The guy who kept pressuring for sex, is any woman's nightmare. No woman wants to feel like you're hanging out with them just for sex. Even during foreplay, it shouldn't feel rushed to get to sex.
Coach Corey, You have a lot of great advice. One ☝️ thing I wanted you to cover is the issue of HIV/AIDS. I hear you saying having sex is one of the goals of dating. How do guys protect themselves from a sexuality transmitted diseases? I can’t imagine sleeping with promiscuous woman. I would rather stay single and healthy forever than dating a woman that she sleeps with many guys.
Coach I just started to watch your videos and I love you. Its funny to watch and spot all the mistakes and know you have been like that, still are a lot of the time and know you have to learn a lot. :D Your understanding is just out of this world and you have instantly become one of my most respected mentors in life man.
Hahaha I remember when I was like that. What helped me a lot change this needy behaviour was meditation, then learn how to be more self conscious of my thoughts, the internal monologue that we all have days long. Like you often say, we are and we do what we believe/think we are. By being more aware of that help a lot. I like the way you break downs things (in a funny way) because there is always a psychological aspect to it. Maybe also some LOA aspect (the art of non action, allowing by letting go)
@@TheRohnjackson his confidence while typing dicepline so many fucking time is hilarious...i couldn't even spell hilarious without autocorrect who am i to judge here now
Me and my wife have been together for 9 years and have been married for 6 years. We met on plenty of fish lol I still can’t believe I found my life partner and it all worked out so perfectly
Hi Corey, chick here! Your videos haven't popped up in my algorithm. (Pre-pandemic and lots of gym time). Interested in reading your re-vamped book. I came across your material when I had been seeing a guy who was confident, interested, but then emotion wise insecure, indecisive. The pandemic hit and so unlike some of these guys that wrote you this episode, we enjoyed dating and adult time for about 3 years. We still catch up, etc. He told me he was seeing a "vanilla" hot blonde chick and he was trying to not mess with other girls for a while. But plot twist, the guy was confused that she straight out slapped him in the face. Besides him being hard to read 3 yrs ago, he did turn out to be more smooth like Obama. (Friend group nickname). He is never one to deserve a slap to the face! He was like, "yeah, red flag, I was just getting your take". Yacht guy in these emails, I would have left him in the dust before he earned a slap.
Is there an exception to only using texts to set up dates? I'd think if you had good momentum and fun while texting you'd want to continue that... But not for long.
My gf and I broke up and haven’t been talking at all other than some texts saying “how are you” just a max of 10 texts, other than that we haven’t texted, anyway her birthday is in 6 days should I text her happy birthday or should I keep the no contact rule, I don’t want her to see me as an careless asshole either. What do I do
No contact means no contact. Only when she reaches out, then tell her "when you are free, lets hang out. Let me know". Text only to set up dates. Dont use text to chit chat. In the meantime, work on yourself to become a better man.
It’s been a over a month since the break up and 4 weeks of NC, last time we talked was when I wished her a happy birthday (I know I was stupid and I regret it) she said she missed me and would want to meet up but isn’t ready yet, I got a new job, met great people and been on a few dates, going out this weekend with some girls, I miss her but I’m having fun without her. This is where I’m at now ...
hi Corey your the best, i hope your doing well, i am 21 from kuwait, awsome videos man, i am in a really complicated relationship that i do not understand. at first we couldn't keep off each other she calls all the time just wanting to talk and i let her, this went on for a month and then she backed away as you say. when she did i made the mistake of chasing her to the point that i told her how i feel. and she ignored me now for 2 days. i do not know what to do now i would love if you made a video telling me what to do. because i'm crazy about this girl. i will confess that i have never in my life felt this way. i love her.
Just keep it to yourself and keep dating her with these techniques while keeping your romantic/non-friend zone interest clear and one day soon it’ll be her idea to be exclusive.
do you have any information on Holiday Texts. I told a girl i didn't want to be freinds after a breakup then she texted me happy new year and i didn't know if i should respond or ignore it
Arvidje yeah, like Arvidje said - treat it as her reaching out to you - "hey great to hear from you, when r you free to get together?" (Corey would say :-)
lets take valentines day as an example and i get a txt from her saying"Happy Valentines Day" a very generic txt that is most likely just a mass text should i still respond or is that like me initiating contact
Okay thanks everybody i think i have come to the conclusion that the reason i was against texting back was fear of rejection when in reality why should i care whatever happens happens her lose
Super funny but now I’ve been saying to myself, what would “Coach Corey say?🤔” replace coach Corey when any other alphas your respect. Helps your mindset
Coach when are you going to release a video on how to date women during this Covid-19 pandemic BS? I’ve been using Hinge and have had a lot success with meeting very attractive women but now it’s come to a standstill. A lot of people are stressed the fuck out and a beautiful woman I’m talking to just went radio silent.
@@Eagles.Fan.Since.Super.Bowl.52 I don't care about what her opinion is, I get to decide what's best for me, not some woman. Love triangles are for attention whores and fools.
Robalo Boat You don’t know what the term dating means. Love triangles don’t exist in the dating world. Hopefully you don’t subscribe to this channel cause if you do you are clueless and need a ton of work. Now if your girlfriend sleeps with someone else. Of course NOPE the fuck outta there.
You should make a video on what to say when she does decide to see you after you stop talking to her for a bit. What should the conversation be like after she reaches out to you after some time.
16:10 “I want you to take your right hand, reach out, and choke yourself.” Corey, that was the perfect response to that guy pressuring that girl to have sex with him. You never EVER bring up something like that to a woman who’s not ready to do anything you want to do. That’s not cool.
Interesting how almost no one comments on your Facebook posts Corey but you get hundreds of thousands of views on TH-cam, and a lot of comments. What does that say about human behavior Corey?
My girl 13yr wants out. I love her want her back, I tried typical desperate shiz & I talkws to her about 13yr long memory using logic to reason to her to stay (lol). She doesn't budge even I printed her over 250 photos (families members too) of us to see since we first met, but she still cold and not much reaction at all. But she did sat there going through all the photos. I was trying to ask her to move out from the apartment that she pays the rent every month for us to live in, just WOW. The earliest she can move out now is 27 days.
She said my emotion is up and down, boy her emotion is calm. You'll see how I crack her before she leaves. I took that she still wants to move out as a sign that she doesn't love me anymore. In reality she still care for me, cook me foods, listen and try to make me feel better even keeps asking me if I will be ok if she goes. That just shows me that she still loves me her body language deceived her. Haha. good.
So I went out sit in the sun reading a self-help book for 1.5hrs, came back inside happy and told myself I love her unconditionally even if she decided she still wants to move out. I told her and she thanks me. Still living together we kind of agree to give each other space like not seeing each other naked when she feels uncomfortable. But I am the king of the castle, she pays for everything for me and she goes to work come home and cook. All I do work from home clean dishes and financial and other manly chores. I normally make her laugh all days for 13yrs and for last two weeks I've forgot about it. I reminded her how usually in the morning I went to wake her up with kissing, hugging, massaging, kissing her tits and grab her hairless (no shaved) private part making love to her. IT DOSN'T WORK. Then it came click into me. Why do I have to remind her about those memories, why don't I just create new one.
Then I just switch to being playful and she's start talking and don't mind me smacking her bums. I go commando around her (boy her eyes checking me out), and i said i'm not shy anymore. but i don't push it too far. She turn playful. Now i now that if I am making her laugh again and again while she still here, if she decides to move out she will miss that laughter, touch, listen to her without interruption. Like Coach Corey said, make her come to me by her choice.
@@user-mo4pi8ke6w she moved out, and texting me almost everyday but i ignore her. It's been a week of no contact, hopping to hear from her that she want me to take her out for a date.
Question if your a Mexican Man and in that culture you own the woman in a scenes or in religion. She has to be obedient almost in every aspects and some times their domestic violence involved if she does not obey. How does it work for different men or woman around the world?
Hey finally bought your book how to be 3% man. Tired of fucking around and ready to start fucking. This in combo with your videos will make me unstoppable. Also picked up the rational male. Would love to eventually get a phone session with you in the near future. Keep giving out this advice.
This girl and I have had very in depth conversations through text (before I watched Corey). I feel like it would be weird and maybe kinda like I'm shutting her down if she says hey and all I say is "hey when are you free to hang out?"
+billdsafdsad That's because you're probably already friend zoned! Make a date (be decisive) and get off the phone! Face to face is where the chemistry happens! ;)
You’re shutting her down because you’d rather hang out with her than text her all day? WTF? If she were to get offended, then she’s just using you to pass the time while she’s not screwing her lover and needs someone to text. Stupid beta.
Spending that much on dinners when you’re so insecure you can’t even love yourself? Save the money and take yourself on dates and learn how to live yourself and gain some self respect and security. There’s 4 billion woman on this planet not all will like you but the options are limitless. Who cares.
I have learned that you should never depend on the woman emotionally, not even when you think "she's yours". Never offend her; react emotionally but stay centered. Do not ever ever argue. If she drop your date twice and she never mention date again, move on and don't hate her for that. Don't ever ask her to be your girlfriend, she will ask you if you know what your doing. DON'T ever be affraid to lose her. One of the Biggest mistake is starting strong and later on become WEAK AND NEEDY. You either are a real strong emotional Man or you're just faking it. Enjoy the good moments she gives you but be willing to understand when she wants space.
Sounds about right
Nicely said. Literally my last relationship. I truly started off strong didnt really care too much. She asked to be more than fwbs... down the road fell in love and became week needy girly man. Lesson learned....I hope 🤣🤣🤣
This makes you her puppet. Doing everything to appease her only considering her and not yourself lol no thanks
6String Pete it’s not being her puppet, he is saying no matter what she does to not let it throw you off center. The problem is most guys be “themselves” and then get too emotional and needy and she loses attraction
@@brandonhunter3166 lol so you're not supposed to be yourself is what you're saying. That's being her puppet. No thanks!
You understand women so much it's scary. I'm learning about my own behavior as a woman when I listen to you. That's insane.
Have you read "Doc love"Corey that's his mentor
John, that's nice, but came 14 months later..."James Bond is dead for that long", she is thinking.lol
It is really scary he understands so much about women. I've learned a lot about myself here. I used to love men that were needy and had too much time on their hands. Now...nope. I see it a totally different way and exit stage left when all this clingy stuff starts happening. I didn't notice I wasn't that into these guys even though I helped them out emotionally ALL THE TIME. I felt like I did something good for them. I used ro want to be a Psychiatrist..which was a huge magnet for these types. Now, I know I should not end up being a mans therapist! Huge relief. Sad part is, super stubborn men will see these videos and not take this shit seriously. I have noticed that men of my past, I really wasn't that into these guys like the females Coach mentions that chase. I get it now. Raised to believe that men chase...they do chase...but only in the beginning and from there a woman really should show that she naturally has a high interest in her male seducer. Otherwise the man is just wasting his time and money resources on someone that does not have a high attraction to him. The non interested, bored, insecure female gets sucked into a relationship that is mediocre and settles for less. If we think about the past there is always someone that we were head over heals about but blew it because we didn't understand the subtle balance of the level of attraction between two people. There are guys we just don't feel crazy about. When a woman has a high attraction to a man and he reciprocates, she is going to keep him. Bottom line. There is a book I will promote too on my facebook business page later about this. Anyhow, long message but hey, thanks for reading.
Oh yeah eh
Oh whatever just date me lol
1:48 It’s an art, not a science. Practice makes perfect the art of seduction.
7:18 Sending too many unnecessary texts and not asking when you're free to get together. You want to make a date in as few steps as possible. It's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. *The less communication it takes for you to make a date, the more she's going to wonder about you. The more mysterious that you're going to appear to her. It all works to your benefit.* The reason you send several texts back and forth falling under the illusion of action is because you think, "I've got to do something. I've got to do a lot of things to get her to want me." Nature has already taken care of that. It's not a choice. She either likes you or she doesn't.
8:10 The more you talk, and the more texts you send back and forth, and the more emails and phone calls and the longer you talk on the phone, the higher the likelihood is that you're going to say something or you're going to text her something that's going to turn her off and she's going to back away and you're going to blow it. You've got to tighten your game up.
9:45 Saying one thing, and then doing something else. Your words and your actions are not congruent. It's a lack of confidence. Women that know what they're doing - especially the really beautiful ones are going to pick up on that. 97% of guys out there operate this way. They're needy, insecure, and you think you're being charming and chivalrous, but your texts are just oozing, "Please reject me. I don't think you're going to want to go out with me. I think it's just a matter of time before you blow me off."
11:09 You communicate a lot about your confidence and your personality just by what you say in your texts. Communicating a total lack of confidence will make her doubt you.
14:30 When/if she reaches out to you again, assume she wants to see you. "Hey it's great to hear from you. When are you free to get together?" That's all you gotta send. Don't send 3-4 cutesy little texts trying to be funny, thinking you've got to do something to make her like you. As soon as she reaches out, make a F'ing date. Don't overcomplicate things or make yourself weak and not look good. Women encounter guys like this constantly, especially if she's really beautiful (they get bombarded with this several times a week).
17:47 Being impatient when you don't get what you want is the worst F'ing thing you can do. That scares a woman, because when a guy gets impatient, those are the type of guys that rape women. If a woman hasn't been raped herself, she probably knows a girlfriend who has (it happens a lot).
21:35 Always go for the kiss. You just never know until you know.
23:00 Build the sexual tension like a *snowball.*
24:10 Women are like cats, they kinda come and go. *This is how they test your strength.*
25:30 "I can never get what I want" = SELF LIMITING BELIEF (drive that shit out of your mind!)
26:10 If you keep doing what you've always done, you're going to continue to get what you've always got. If you keep being impatient and focused on sex, this is what's always going to continue to happen. *You need to treat all women the same.*
33:50 A woman who's recently divorced = will be hot and cold emotionally. If she has a bad day in court, she might think, "F men, I don't want to do anything with men." She may start to feel fearful and bail out and walk away altogether. Just do nothing at that point. She may come back after a week, 3 weeks, or a month - you just never know. *Be infinitely patient. It's a game of tennis - you hit one ball over the net.*
35:00 Sometimes women ignore you on purpose. If she gets any hint that you're insecure or you're needy, she's going to test you on it. Especially the really beautiful ones. So if you're game ain't tight, and you can't hold out, you're going to F'ing blow it. Neediness = the illusion of action, trying to force you to do something and make something happen. Being out of a marriage means her emotions are going to be really raw. This is the double edge sword you deal with someone who's right out of a long-term relationship. They're going to need time to heal, be alone, and be by themselves. Blowing her phone up makes them feel like they're in a relationship now. That's what they're trying to avoid. They're trying to just hang out, and have fun, and keep it casual.
36:30 Do nothing - walk and never look back. If you ever hear from her again, just say, "Hey great to hear from you. I'd love to see you, when are you free to get together." And then make a date. 3H's = Have Fun, Hang Out, and Hook Up. Next time don't blow her phone up, and stop being focused on boyfriend and girlfriend and locking her down to a commitment. Otherwise you're going to communicate that you're needy when you're focused on the dating and relationship label. *REMEMBER, INFINITE PATIENCE.*
I've been pursuing this woman for a few weeks now and the bottom line is as soon as she feels comfortable with you she will open up. Before I went on vacation I told her about this restaurant I ate at before. She said oh I really want to go and try it. I told her ok when I get back from vacation which was 30 days. About a week after I got back I mentioned hey let me know when you are free to go out. She said I have been thinking about this the whole time you were gone. Later she asked me to go have a beer with her after work, of course I said sure. I have found that not over pursuing really works, being patient. She works with me and a few times she said I will have lunch with you then at least two occasions she bailed at the last minute and said oh I decided to go out with the girls. I said ok cool no big deal I didn't get butt hurt or mad. I think she was testing me to see how I would react whether I was needy or clingy. So play it cool eventually she will come to you if the time is right. Iv'e concluded that no matter how strong your game is or how talented or good looking you are it all boils down to is she comfortable with you.
Lunch with you ask you a few times what did you say after that corey say no lunch date lunch date equals to freindship Corey always says dinner but hey she's testing you lady's does that all the time read his book I do
You got her please don't fumble the ball
Are you kidding me? You don’t have her at all lol and you had a lunch date after not seeing her for 30 days!? Lmao seriously and worst of all she bailed on you last minute. Even if that was a test, she disrespected you and wasted your time and now she has all the power if you decide to take her out again.
Any woman that would bail on a date last minute is disrespecting you and walking all over you like a doormat. If a girl truly is interested in you she will ditch her mates just to be with you. You still have a lot to learn.
@@jomieorbino7679 bit late to the party but I'm sure this man had a stroke while writing that
I don’t care if she’s “testing” you. These women have to be held accountable. You don’t get emotional. You just make sure she knows it’s not okay to bail on you last minute.
I appreciate that you highlight personal insecurities as what holds back success in relationships, and aren't simply giving the rules to some game. I find your advice logical and respectful - thank you for sharing.
One of the things I love most about coach is that the message is just as pertinent today as it was years ago.
I love it, "hey, when are you free, lets get together..." Such simple and clear intent.
Bro you're an elite business man, and your research and advice is on point. Great job man. And thanks..
It's pretty funny, I ran into Corey's videos like 2 years ago when I typed "How to get your ex-girlfriend back" on youtube, I was obviously pathetic and broken hearted and searched for an easy and fast way to get through it.
In recent days i'm pretty damn good, yet sometimes before I call a girl and ask her out while we're dating - I give myself a good 20 mintues of watching Corey talks, although what he's saying isn't magic, it's just common sense about how to act around women, it simply gives me sometimes the slap that I need to get back on track and not acting like a fucking inbred noob.
Ty and sorry for the long post.(jk i know u read it it was intresting)
Lmao I read the whole thing bro (fist bump)
When are you gonna stop fucking around and buy the book
Tony Petelycky I bought the book...I didn’t need to buy the book..Remember Coreys a master of persuasion, especially when it comes to marketing himself.
Herbie Shapiro well then. I’m not complaining about being persuaded into learning good information😂😂 Besides dude being able to get the full picture in depth is what will really give you skill
Less effort creates more results, especially in the world of dating, always!
Corey,I know you have been told a gazillion times before, but "you are a fantastic coach indeed". Thanks a lot for your advice.
Said like a true coach, the phone is for setting dates "I don't know how many times I've got to say it." C'mon man!!
Brilliant, Coach! I recently went on a first date with a divorced woman, but didn't reveal how recently her divorce was - and I felt uncomfortable to ask, as I've never been married and just got out of a serious relationship a few months ago myself - so I just wanted to hang out and have a good time. Anyway, her vibe was almost exactly like you described. Very reserved, and hot & cold emotionally (sent a lot of mixed signals). Appreciate all that you do to help guys out who are in my situation. Your situational awareness and understanding are phenomenal.
Looking at her actions in that very moment tells you everything you need to know. I just recently happened to overtext and eventhough she was the one initiating 100% of the contact, within one day all the heart-emojis and the "my baby"-s vanished from her messages and they became very formal. I immediately started backing of, keeping it to 1-2 replies back and forth per day before "gotta run, busy day", and also leaving out the "babe" and whatnot. Two days later she was right back to sending me the lovey dovey stuff and telling me how much she was looking forward to seeing me. It's crazy how simple it is to get things back on track once you know how it works and pay attention to what is happening in the right now without wasting time thinking about what has been prior or what might or might not be in the future.
I can’t get a enough of these vids, some of these emails are dum funny. Then his response😂😂
I’m young and I know you have to be a “wild card” and have great skill sets, in order to tap anything. With time and some fun it all works out everytime but there’s always the wild ones and weird ones. Got to know what ur working with at first type of person, “ideologies are everything” James Comey said during a senate hearing not sure u get it tho. The first date you have a rough idea, my two peace
"If your game ain't tight and you can't hold-out..., you're going to BLOW IT! Classic!!
This guy saved me from so many breakups. Thankfully, I won’t have to learn this stuff on my own.
I met a girl a couple months ago and fucked it up royally...the "ending" of that relationship let me to your material which jived with the input of my close female friends. I've read your book and the more I watch your videos I feel like this girl came into my life so I can "fuck up", find your material and learn a shitload of lessons. That same girl called me back a month after not contacting her and within that month I've hooked up with 3 beautiful women. Thank you thank you thank you for your advice and wisdom. About to start the second reading of your book and I have dates with 2 women this week from cold approach. In addition you've helped me simplify my dating life so I can focus on my life and let the women come. I even told one girl who was texting me that I don't like texting and "when are you free to get together?" I also listen to, read and watch material from other dating coaches yet dude, you cover aspects of dating that I really needed to hear. Inner and outer "game" to the max.
Im 24 about to be 25 in 2 months and havent had a serious relationship in 3.5 or a legitimate date in almost a year, it sucks but damn these vids help alot i go out everyday chatting up complete strangers, only thing i need to work on is being direct with women i find attractive. i suspect 2014 will be my year ha.
Good luck
patience with ur progress, allow ur self to fuck up ok, see it that way so u can be less stressed when u approach or are in a date with a female, dont get to caught up with a girl kuz then u will crush on her and if shit dont happen then u will get hurt so, talk and practice go on dates, even if its with girls u dont like that much
Iloveufonzi ha thank bro! actually went out with a chick about 2 weeks ago and let just say i had to take her home the next morning. still though i need to get to the point where i have options. but yeah patience is key.
how i see it is, ill keep dating courting until i find someone who i like alot and feel a good connection with, and if shit fucks up then ill take it as a learning so i wont be to hard on myself, but at the same time will make progress :-)
What about 2021
Bought your book! Haven't even finished it one time through, and I have already revived an almost dead relationship. Thank you Corey.
I think patience leads to good results, either with relationships or any other activity that involves it. And yet, if you have patience, you will be rewarded.
The guy who kept pressuring for sex, is any woman's nightmare. No woman wants to feel like you're hanging out with them just for sex. Even during foreplay, it shouldn't feel rushed to get to sex.
I mean yes, but some of us have a Time span, and if you are not having sex pass the limit, we should respectfully walk away. That is my logic
Thanks Coach. The universe needed this. This s***t's so good I want to promote it with ads!
Coach Corey, You have a lot of great advice. One ☝️ thing I wanted you to cover is the issue of HIV/AIDS. I hear you saying having sex is one of the goals of dating. How do guys protect themselves from a sexuality transmitted diseases? I can’t imagine sleeping with promiscuous woman. I would rather stay single and healthy forever than dating a woman that she sleeps with many guys.
"Am I getting any or are we going to McDonalds"? lol
Coach I just started to watch your videos and I love you. Its funny to watch and spot all the mistakes and know you have been like that, still are a lot of the time and know you have to learn a lot. :D Your understanding is just out of this world and you have instantly become one of my most respected mentors in life man.
Hahaha I remember when I was like that. What helped me a lot change this needy behaviour was meditation, then learn how to be more self conscious of my thoughts, the internal monologue that we all have days long. Like you often say, we are and we do what we believe/think we are. By being more aware of that help a lot. I like the way you break downs things (in a funny way) because there is always a psychological aspect to it. Maybe also some LOA aspect (the art of non action, allowing by letting go)
you got to win her with Patience, dicepline, Patience, dicepline, Patience, dicepline
oskar ewfall true that mate, a woman with high self-esteem isn't going to commit fully at the drop of a hat.
Discipline*
@@TheRohnjackson his confidence while typing dicepline so many fucking time is hilarious...i couldn't even spell hilarious without autocorrect who am i to judge here now
so if she stops you you stop then wait for her to touch you? then what if she never does then until she says time to go.
then you accept the fact that shes not into you, focus on yourself and move on
infinite patience✨👌
BEST video of yours. By far! 💪😎🙏
man I wish I knew this stuff 5 months ago
Me and my wife have been together for 9 years and have been married for 6 years. We met on plenty of fish lol
I still can’t believe I found my life partner and it all worked out so perfectly
This is easily your funniest video
One of the more informative videos, thanks
Best video ever. Thanks for sharing it.
Best advice on the internet for men or boys
Good stuff Coach. Thank you for all that you do. 👍
Great video again Coach 💪🏼
Hi Corey, chick here! Your videos haven't popped up in my algorithm. (Pre-pandemic and lots of gym time). Interested in reading your re-vamped book. I came across your material when I had been seeing a guy who was confident, interested, but then emotion wise insecure, indecisive. The pandemic hit and so unlike some of these guys that wrote you this episode, we enjoyed dating and adult time for about 3 years.
We still catch up, etc. He told me he was seeing a "vanilla" hot blonde chick and he was trying to not mess with other girls for a while. But plot twist, the guy was confused that she straight out slapped him in the face. Besides him being hard to read 3 yrs ago, he did turn out to be more smooth like Obama. (Friend group nickname). He is never one to deserve a slap to the face! He was like, "yeah, red flag, I was just getting your take".
Yacht guy in these emails, I would have left him in the dust before he earned a slap.
Is there an exception to only using texts to set up dates? I'd think if you had good momentum and fun while texting you'd want to continue that... But not for long.
CCW ... So your saying u do put her on a pedestal or I don't.
Which james bond you talking about?
Dang Coach you went in on this one..lol.. straight truth
My gf and I broke up and haven’t been talking at all other than some texts saying “how are you” just a max of 10 texts, other than that we haven’t texted, anyway her birthday is in 6 days should I text her happy birthday or should I keep the no contact rule, I don’t want her to see me as an careless asshole either. What do I do
Naun Eduardo Gutierrez Jr. Don’t do it, you will regret it . Let her to come to you.
No contact means no contact. Only when she reaches out, then tell her "when you are free, lets hang out. Let me know". Text only to set up dates. Dont use text to chit chat. In the meantime, work on yourself to become a better man.
It’s been a over a month since the break up and 4 weeks of NC, last time we talked was when I wished her a happy birthday (I know I was stupid and I regret it) she said she missed me and would want to meet up but isn’t ready yet, I got a new job, met great people and been on a few dates, going out this weekend with some girls, I miss her but I’m having fun without her. This is where I’m at now ...
Coach is a Boss!!!
I've done the whole make out and petting and she stops. I've made the mistake of pulling her back towards me to start again.
I can't get what I want because it's hard to find what I want. And the ones that want me the most are married to or girlfriends of my friends.
Means you are an Alpha around guys but overpursue around girls
whats the second book called??
hi Corey your the best, i hope your doing well,
i am 21 from kuwait, awsome videos man, i am in a really complicated relationship that i do not understand.
at first we couldn't keep off each other she calls all the time just wanting to talk and i let her, this went on for a month and then she backed away as you say. when she did i made the mistake of chasing her to the point that i told her how i feel. and she ignored me now for 2 days. i do not know what to do now i would love if you made a video telling me what to do. because i'm crazy about this girl. i will confess that i have never in my life felt this way. i love her.
So if i want to be gf/bf with a girl am i not supposed to want that because those emotions will backfire? That part isnt really clear to me
Just keep it to yourself and keep dating her with these techniques while keeping your romantic/non-friend zone interest clear and one day soon it’ll be her idea to be exclusive.
total brutal honesty - fuck I like this guy
Corey be goin in !
do you have any information on Holiday Texts. I told a girl i didn't want to be freinds after a breakup then she texted me happy new year and i didn't know if i should respond or ignore it
Arvidje yeah, like Arvidje said - treat it as her reaching out to you - "hey great to hear from you, when r you free to get together?" (Corey would say :-)
lets take valentines day as an example and i get a txt from her saying"Happy Valentines Day" a very generic txt that is most likely just a mass text should i still respond or is that like me initiating contact
Okay thanks everybody i think i have come to the conclusion that the reason i was against texting back was fear of rejection when in reality why should i care whatever happens happens her lose
DUDE! your literally the best PUA ive come across! Amazing advice!
Super funny but now I’ve been saying to myself, what would “Coach Corey say?🤔” replace coach Corey when any other alphas your respect. Helps your mindset
How can I read along with the audio book on audible?!?
'Makes total sense to me Dude!!"
Coach when are you going to release a video on how to date women during this Covid-19 pandemic BS? I’ve been using Hinge and have had a lot success with meeting very attractive women but now it’s come to a standstill. A lot of people are stressed the fuck out and a beautiful woman I’m talking to just went radio silent.
after a girl ignores me should i ignore her during no contact until i feel like responding or when?
Steven Rangel once she answers back then yes no contact until then
Yeah no contact she knows what she's doing she's just testing you to see if your one of those needy guys
Be persistent nor intense. That's all ur job. Enjoy the communication!
If a girl dates another guy while we are dating, I AM GONE
Robalo Boat Dating is not exclusive if you don’t discuss and agree. You look weak in her eyes if you can’t handle that.
@@Eagles.Fan.Since.Super.Bowl.52 I don't care about what her opinion is, I get to decide what's best for me, not some woman. Love triangles are for attention whores and fools.
@@SD-pi9co atta boy!
You entitled to your own opinion.. Guess what? You probably won’t find out
Robalo Boat You don’t know what the term dating means. Love triangles don’t exist in the dating world. Hopefully you don’t subscribe to this channel cause if you do you are clueless and need a ton of work.
Now if your girlfriend sleeps with someone else. Of course NOPE the fuck outta there.
When a girl does all the weird texting stuff that guys do, I actually like it
4:40 is it really okay to make a date on the same day of your first date? I'm gonna have to read your book...
Someone give this guy a national show on HBO and a Maserati, dudes on point every fucking time
Thy first one was a stage 5 clinger that girls gone so fast I can still see the dust cloud from here
lol Corey is a O.G :)
You should make a video on what to say when she does decide to see you after you stop talking to her for a bit. What should the conversation be like after she reaches out to you after some time.
16:10 “I want you to take your right hand, reach out, and choke yourself.”
Corey, that was the perfect response to that guy pressuring that girl to have sex with him.
You never EVER bring up something like that to a woman who’s not ready to do anything you want to do. That’s not cool.
Interesting how almost no one comments on your Facebook posts Corey but you get hundreds of thousands of views on TH-cam, and a lot of comments. What does that say about human behavior Corey?
Ben Siegfried privacy
Love you man!
The Goat
My girl 13yr wants out. I love her want her back, I tried typical desperate shiz & I talkws to her about 13yr long memory using logic to reason to her to stay (lol). She doesn't budge even I printed her over 250 photos (families members too) of us to see since we first met, but she still cold and not much reaction at all. But she did sat there going through all the photos. I was trying to ask her to move out from the apartment that she pays the rent every month for us to live in, just WOW. The earliest she can move out now is 27 days.
She said my emotion is up and down, boy her emotion is calm. You'll see how I crack her before she leaves. I took that she still wants to move out as a sign that she doesn't love me anymore. In reality she still care for me, cook me foods, listen and try to make me feel better even keeps asking me if I will be ok if she goes. That just shows me that she still loves me her body language deceived her. Haha. good.
So I went out sit in the sun reading a self-help book for 1.5hrs, came back inside happy and told myself I love her unconditionally even if she decided she still wants to move out. I told her and she thanks me. Still living together we kind of agree to give each other space like not seeing each other naked when she feels uncomfortable. But I am the king of the castle, she pays for everything for me and she goes to work come home and cook. All I do work from home clean dishes and financial and other manly chores. I normally make her laugh all days for 13yrs and for last two weeks I've forgot about it. I reminded her how usually in the morning I went to wake her up with kissing, hugging, massaging, kissing her tits and grab her hairless (no shaved) private part making love to her. IT DOSN'T WORK. Then it came click into me. Why do I have to remind her about those memories, why don't I just create new one.
Then I just switch to being playful and she's start talking and don't mind me smacking her bums. I go commando around her (boy her eyes checking me out), and i said i'm not shy anymore. but i don't push it too far. She turn playful. Now i now that if I am making her laugh again and again while she still here, if she decides to move out she will miss that laughter, touch, listen to her without interruption. Like Coach Corey said, make her come to me by her choice.
Your life sounds sad
@@user-mo4pi8ke6w she moved out, and texting me almost everyday but i ignore her. It's been a week of no contact, hopping to hear from her that she want me to take her out for a date.
come on man ! I just love you coach corey
Question if your a Mexican Man and in that culture you own the woman in a scenes or in religion. She has to be obedient almost in every aspects and some times their domestic violence involved if she does not obey. How does it work for different men or woman around the world?
Hi Coach. I am writing to you with Polish, I sent you a mail, you can answer me if you agree to my terms. Urgent, Adam from Polish.
Adam Sokołowski
Bro coming off as needy chill
Hey finally bought your book how to be 3% man. Tired of fucking around and ready to start fucking. This in combo with your videos will make me unstoppable. Also picked up the rational male. Would love to eventually get a phone session with you in the near future. Keep giving out this advice.
Lmao Corey’s face @19:27
The key in the second email to me is he needs more life purpose maybe work out to let some of that sexual tension out .
Infinite patience
The savage truth from CCW.
Haha yeah I've NEVER got a date online , but I've gotten plenty in real life.
Fk working on a profile, I rather work on myself
This girl and I have had very in depth conversations through text (before I watched Corey). I feel like it would be weird and maybe kinda like I'm shutting her down if she says hey and all I say is "hey when are you free to hang out?"
+billdsafdsad That's because you're probably already friend zoned! Make a date (be decisive) and get off the phone! Face to face is where the chemistry happens! ;)
Amen!!
You’re shutting her down because you’d rather hang out with her than text her all day? WTF? If she were to get offended, then she’s just using you to pass the time while she’s not screwing her lover and needs someone to text. Stupid beta.
Spending that much on dinners when you’re so insecure you can’t even love yourself? Save the money and take yourself on dates and learn how to live yourself and gain some self respect and security. There’s 4 billion woman on this planet not all will like you but the options are limitless. Who cares.
The second email had me laughing
Awesome
only regret, Why didn't I look for your videos earlier.
Patient is attractive to women
fucking golden advice
on my 3rd read
This has me 😂😂😂😂😂
C'MON SON!
Women aren't afraid of you , you have to understand that you treat them like a bully who you wanna have sex with basically lol
This is all just a matter of common sense
A stripper was texting me.... replied sparingly now she wants me haha.
Haha good luck friend. I feel sad for you.
18:33 fr lmao
" might be able to get away with that with a 7 or 8 " ..... well fuck 😧🤣🤣🤣
I'm normally a fan..but he's blaming the guy for the woman being a POS! He's gotta stop making excuses for women.
He’s not, he’s telling the dude how it is. He’s not making any excuses for women, he’s trying to explain what the guy did wrong.
"phone sex" LMAO
Infinite patience = procrastinating
Im watching these saying the same thing dude come on.
I like watching these videos BEFORE I make any fuck ups. Lesson learned from past fuck ups..